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Did you ever notice that the people who DEMAND an exception to a rule are usually the reason the rule was made in the first place?
Bingo!
Absolutely!!
guestzillas 🙄
So true
Amen
If the bride and groom say the wedding is a CHILD FREE wedding, it’s going to be a CHILD FREE wedding. Whether you like it or not (and it’s not even the brother’s or anyone else’s wedding besides the bride and groom) follow the rules of the wedding. Plain and simple. Don’t like it? Then don’t come.
Plain and simple.
Yeah, the brother is being selfish and making this about themself. I get it, you want your kid there but trust me, kids don’t really have fun at weddings, especially when there aren’t any other kids around.
It’s their wedding, their special day. I could see it being a problem if she had said, “Don’t bring YOUR kid,” and had let others bring their children but she’s being very fair.
Sounds like they're raising another entitled brat
You'd think parents would be happy to leave their child home for a day and get sloshed
If I was the bride, I would just cut out the whole wedding portion and just elope or have a small destination wedding!
Re: The 'Rainbow child' story, that kid is going to grow up to be an absolute monster of entitlement and selfishness. The family are wrecking his future.
They indeed are. Yes, suffering multiple miscarriage while tryig to conceive is traumatic and no person who can give birth should have to suffer through them. But they are ruining this child's future by not teaching consequences to wrongs and treating them like the eternal golden child. They are going to regret this parenting choice when the want help from the kid when they're older, and the kid says "I don't need to help you. You taught me that! Now give me $$$ for my latest phone that I'll destroy shortly after getting."
Honestly, if the wedding is child free it’s probably because the adults want to do stuff that is just considered inappropriate for a child to see,This Paul dude doesn’t care about his son and only wants the attention at his own sister’s wedding. Unfortunately it looks like you’re right, as the saying goes, like father like son.
That kid is going to be featuring in "Entitled Children" RUclips videos in a few year's time, no joke. What horrific parenting
@@Yesmypfpismeirl No, that's not the reason. We didn't want kids at our wedding because they do what kids usually do on a playground - run, trip people and talk, laugh, cry or scream very loudly. That wasn't the atmosphere we wanted.
I was thinking about dudley Dursley :D
I didn’t know “rainbow babies” were a thing. I was just super grateful to have a healthy baby after my miscarriage. It never occurred to me that he had a life-long pass to demand special treatment, which is probably why he grew up to be a respectful, responsible adult.
The fact that that one lady's ex husband left her because she's infertile and her brother is holding that over her head is disgusting. Girl, cut them off
Move, block, ghost. My three favourite recommendations to "families" like these. Go "witness protection level" silent for the rest of their lives. No fakebook for starters lol.
That's toxic
I agree... This is why, I always say "Friends are the family you choose". I have a good family overall, but I prefer my Friends all the way (well, with some exceptions). But if my family threatens not to attend my wedding for those reasons I'll be like "Awesome, less money to be spend on feeding hypocrits and more for the honeymoon"
Yeah, with family like that, who needs enemies??!!
I've been left over a very similar situation and if someone DARED taunt me with it, they would end up at the bottom of the ocean lel
Okay let's also talk about how the brother and his wife struggled to have a baby and still use the brides infertility against her
Horrific thing to do. He obviously does not care about her at all.
Thank you! My thoughts exactly! 👏👏👏
Disgusting behavior…
Terrible
Absolutely vile and narcissistic behaviour.
I would like to stress that Paul and wife have a miracle baby and SHAMED the bride for being unable to have kids. Not only the audacity but also the empathy of this couple is unbelievable
[lack of] empathy - if this is true - because I don’t know; then… oof. That’s heavy and also *very* sad. Makes me wonder what’s going on with them/why they felt and also chose to behave this way. ♥️
Paul is a d***😒
The lesson here is.....don't be like Paul. Paul is a dbag
what empathy lol
They all would see me from fb. I feel this personally because I can't have kids and if it's my choice at MY wedding you're not about to bully me. You'll have some colorful words. The uncle too. The gall....
This actually happens to me. It was my cousin's wedding, and she asked me to help her, so I agreed. I designed her wedding invitation, I did their prenup photoshoot, and I provided for everything from her hair and make-up to her clothes. I became a singer at her reception; she also asked me to take photos and record video for documentation and I did everything for FREE. I was so stressed out that day. After a few days, she asked me for the photos, and I told her to come to my house and bring a flash drive because it was easier to transfer the photos directly from the laptop to a flash drive. By the way, I am from the Philippines, so the Internet connection here is very slow and unstable, and I am really busy and have to attend my class from 7 AM to 9:30 PM. She kept bugging me for the photos for days, and I said, "Please just go to my house so I can transfer the photos to your flash drive, and it will be easier." But she said that it was tiring to go out of her house. And then I found out that she was slandering me , and I was pissed, so I deleted all her photos.
It's still possible to bring back the "deleted" pictures (on pc and memory card) with the necessary software.
How did your cousin react?
Had this happen with a wedding shower
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I would have done the same. Seriously. Queen move and well applauded. Some people are terrible. You don't bite the hand that helps and she not only bit it, she took advantage of your kindness. Next time, tell her you want paid.
I'm sorry but if someone say "this wedding is child free", that wedding is child free. And that's it, there's no more questions or explanation about it
Harsh
I will say that all my aunts and uncles had child free weddings, and the only children were myself and my brother, and one other niece and nephew alongside us ONCE, but it’s because we were the ONLY children in the family at the time, and we were flower girl and ring bearer, but extended family could not bring children.
@@FreeJulianAssange23 yes but true you can't ask someone to make an exception to a child free wedding
@@FreeJulianAssange23 no
I agree. Can't a person plan their own wedding and have one day to honor their wishes. Leave the kid at home.
That brother who said his sister is jealous because she can’t have kids is heartless and if my brother ever said anything like that, I would cut him out of my life completely.
Especially after going through so many miscarriages you would think the brother would know better than to say that.
I would too, 100%
Brother should watch his step as Karma has already hit several times. Might come back around for this one too!
and he is saying that after experiencing miscarrige of his kid? at least he must know it hurt?
Ditto...but first I would've kicked him in the balls to discourage further reproduction...
That photographer one is actually worse than it sounds. She was a guest, chose her food already, and when she agreed to do photos the couple REMOVED her from the guest list, which included her food and seat. I would delete.
I heard about that on another youtube channel. Plus the groom told the bride that the photographer had camera problems.
Monsters! Who treats people this way?? 🤬
@@lifestories1947 woooow...like this guy gets shittier and shittier...lying to his new wife too.
I can accept what the "photographer" did. He couldn't have charged them more AFTER agreeing to a price. I, myself, would've have stopped shooting and go get me something when it was time to eat, then finish the shoot. I would've given them their photos AFTER I got paid. I would've have put No effort into trying to get the perfect shot, and no editing. He's not a professional and the couple knew that, so they would've had to take whatever he gave them... blurry faces, cut-off heads, that perfect picture of the guy no one knows who escorted that distant cousin, etc.
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I went to a child free wedding, but the bride arranged for a seperate party at a local childcare centre staffed by the childcare staff and the kids loved it they didn't have to dress up, no speeches and pizza party instead of "adult" food. Seriously getting my nephew to leave their party was difficult even though he was tired. Ages 0-13.
What a clever idea!
That's a great idea 👏!
This concept needs to spread!
Fabulous idea of the bride! Love that!!!
Ohmygosh that is such a good idea!!!!
Now THIS is a proper way of doing a Child-Free Wedding. They don't feel excluded, just the opposite. They get their own special party.
The rainbow child story is just so frustrating. Ok, we get it, you wanted this baby so much...but you have a ton of other events to celebrate him, why should anyone else change their events according to your child? That's insane and so sad that the family backed out due to this. I would never talk to them ever again.
Neither would I. Unless they apologize for being wrong and not being at my wedding. And live up to the apology as well. But the brother and his a-hole son - no, nay, never.
@@katemareni9959 Your account seems to be spammed
Yeah clearly that brother has been ruining her life for quite a long time. Always saying she was jealous, because he has a child?? Ugh
I've stopped talking to family members for much less. Sometimes people have to be stubborn for the right reasons.
Rainbow babies are just as loved, because we can’t love one of our babies more than the other can we? Then again I’ve never had one. Pulling that card when the kid is a toddler seems unreasonable to me especially cuz all the kid knows is that he gets special treatment. I was once the kid not invited to a family friend’s “child free” wedding, but a spoiled brat got to go and I knew about it. I was pretty sad cuz I felt it was unfair that a lot of other kids and even me (who the bride loved, also I was almost a teenager at that point) weren’t allowed to go but for some reason that little brat did go and a few others did go. I say the couple proceed with their plans of a childfree wedding. They get to decide who is invited after all, and if the family doesn’t respect their wishes, their presence will not be sorely missed lol
The fact that her brother said she was jealous bc she can’t have kids was horrible. I think her whole family not going bc of this situation is ridiculous.
It’s funny cause like…they were infertile too but just happened to get lucky. Not only is it a low blow but it’s a stupid ass insult. But I agree, it’s so ridiculous
Absolutely! Shows who big bro really is: a narcissist. I hope she can move on without her family because they clearly are toxic and not beneficial to her.
Personal opinion: anyone that makes their child's whole identity revolve around having deceased older siblings is probably the type to make everything about themself. I've never met anyone that's gone all in on 'rainbow baby' culture that had purely selfless intentions. It's certainly not for the benefit of the living child.
I feel like deleting the photos was the right move, because there was no chance of going back after that. The groom couldn't guilt trip them into handing them over and basically getting everything he wanted in the end. Now he gets nothing, which is what he deserves after what he pulled.
Both of my biological children are rainbow babies. They don't even know and it's not something I talk about unless it's pertinent to the conversation. I am focused on my living children and giving them the best childhood I can give them.
@@LoveJoyPeace4612 I'm sorry for your loss. My mother waited to tell my brother and me about her first child until we were old enough to understand it, but it's still a very personal topic for her. It's part of our family history, but it's not what defines our family. I think that's the way it should be.
I have never ONCE heard the term “rainbow baby” before. My mother has incompetent cervix and had a miscarriage and premature birth, losing both children before my brother and I (twins) were born. We’ve never been treated as special, not in this regard. My brother is special needs in a wheel chair and I have several mental health’s. We have been raised and never once did our parents try to make the world revolve around us. Not anything other than being the first grandchildren of this entire generation of our family. My parents simply love us for being their children, and not like some fucked up prize
I have a “rainbow baby” as well and that I didn’t even know that phrase pertained to what it does should tell you how much emphasis I put on it. It’s like saying “you’re lucky you’re here because if the other pregnancy/pregnancies would have worked you wouldn’t be”
It took 4 pregnancies with one of them being later in my term to get my youngest and I was blessed but that’s not his identity. Using your baby to get what you want is disgusting and hopefully he won’t grow up like those parents!!
I literally had my 16 month old child die of a horrific, always fatal illness (gm1 gangliosidosis infantile) and if I was blessed with a healthy child I would NEVER act that way. It’s attention seeking and a terrible burden on the living child who will have survivors guilt. I have seen it happen. It’s hard to have a miscarriage but to hang that on a child for life is bizarre. The rainbow thing is to call a attention to the stress of a pregnancy after a loss. That’s awesome. But once one is blessed with a child it’s time to move on and wait for the child be a lot older to find about the traumatic event. There are scores of books dealing with infant loss and sibling issues. My baby boy was born and lived becket the internet had pictures. The support available now is incredible. I hate it for the child that nobody wants to be around. And, the dig at the infertile couple was vile. I had 6 iVFs and my husband refused to adopt even though he said he has no problem with it so I feel OPs pain.
I'm a photographer and when I did my first wedding, I thought like "Okay, everybody is starting to eat, I'll take a break" but the lovely couple called me and offered me a seat in one of the tables to serve me food and water. That was so cute! Specially coming from strangers.
I can imagine that guy who was prohibited to seat and eat or drink, that's so terrible.
The fact that he called his sister jealouse because she cant have a baby makes him a terrible human.
Why are they insisting on it so much when they know if they were to be the only exception the bride will be seen as a hypocrite and rude?? The rule is for everyone.
Especially considering his wifes miscarriages. Like does he really not get the irony?
@@bigbearkat2010 honestly...... you think going through the same situation will make him be more sypathetic.
Here's what they're thinking:
1) They KNOW their son is a giant brat, so if they bring him to the wedding, they get to shove their spoiled child off on some poor grandparent/aunt/uncle and then get super drunk while their child causes chaos.
2) They just want rub their "miracle baby" in the bride's face just to prove some stupid point about how she's not a proper female because she's infertile.
Both possible reasons here just prove how awful these people are and that they should be cut off from events and interactions until they grow up!
they are too wrapped up in their needs to be concerned about that, though
No, even if your rainbow child is shooting rainbows out of his bottom, he still does not get to come!
That would be entertaining though 🤣
@@Newenmaya Those parents wouldn't bother cleaning up the butt-rainbows, though. 🌈
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Hahahahaha!!! Thank you for a great laugh!!! I can’t stop laughing and my son is looking at me like I’m crazy!! Lol
I love this comment❤️
I'm so sorry for the bride in the child free wedding post. I can't wrap my head around how cruel the brother was, saying something so hurtful regarding her fertility, when he was in the same situation. The entire family trying to force her to give in, ridiculous. It's her day, it's about her and her groom, nobody else gets a say in what goes. I hope she had her child free wedding and had an amazing time
Thankfully, she's marrying into a better family.
I don't blame the bride for wanting a child free wedding. You don't want a baby crying during the vows or even an older kid running around getting antsy. Total respect to the bride for sticking to her guns.
I have 3 nieces that I love but if I get married I don't want kids at my wedding, they run around and disrupt things.
My ingrate niece pulled this shit. She showed up at her sisters child free wedding with her two brats.
This is the only time I'm ok with the bride wanting a childfree wedding.. I'm Indian to we don't do 'childfree wedding ' n usually there is no rsvp either .. u invite one person it means the whole family is invited. It doesn't matter if u know a family member or not.making such demands would be considered disrespectful. Gifts r never expected, although people very close to the bride n groom usually gift gold jewelry /watches n clothes. People r fully decked out , some even wear their own wedding outfits but still can't outshine the bride or the groom . ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ .. all this wedding drama makes me laugh hard 😂😂😂... But it is very difficult to manage a Indian wedding , the guest list is usually 200 + n can easily go over 600. Unless both families choose to have a small private sort of wedding , which is the current trend here..
I feel so bad for the bride who has a family that cares so little about her that they’re willing to ruin her day over the attendance of a “rainbow baby”. Losing a baby is devastating, but the baby should not be treated like a god. As the bride pointed out with no other children there her nephew would be bored and the event certainly isn’t something he’d remember but the bride WILL remember how badly her family treated her.
Exactly! I get that it'd be super hard and once you do have a child you're just so happy BUT that does not mean you can let them grow up being coddled nonstop and have no consequences
"bride asks if she's wrong for not allowing a child to attend her child-free wedding"
NO. I didn't even need to hear the rest of the story. She's not wrong. If your wedding is child free, then that's that. 🤷🏼♀️ I feel bad for her that her family did that to her.
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We had no kids at our wedding. My husband's sister showed up with her two kids to the rehearsal dinner, and said they planned to bring them to the wedding because they didn't have a babysitter. My husband got them three names of sitters we knew of. End of story.
@@jtidema I didn't have kids at my wedding reception dinner. My church had a soundproof glass room and my sister's youngest son stayed in there during the ceremony with a sitter (and cried the entire time! But we couldn't hear him!). My flower girl and ring bearer were a litter older, so they were introduced at the wedding reception and danced for the bridal party dance. The sitter took all three to the hotel and that was that! No other children were invited. It was nice because we got pics with them all dressed up in the wedding party, and they got to feel special! But we had an adult party for the rest of the night and it worked out so nicely.
It's kind of iffy in some scenarios. Here it isn't, obviously. Neither side of the couple has kids. Great. But I've seen such questions raised where a bridezilla pushed for a childfree wedding when the partner had kids from a previous relation. A friend of mine (we were 17 at the time) wanted to go to her dad's wedding. She instead got to watch her younger sibblings of 11 and 8 as, per the words of the bride "we're not paying for a babysitter when you have a teenage daughter. She's old enough to watch them alone". The marriage lasted about 2 years.
@@k.v.7681 I'm not surprised about that. While just a glance into that woman's personality, it sure shows the _entitlement._
"Just leave me alone, it shouldn't be a big deal if I bring someone or not." BRAH! that's the point of her asking. she needs to know if she needs another plate of food and a seat. it doesn't even need to be a date, even a friend you decided to bring or anyone!
Yes really! She kinda needs to know how many seats to tell the caterer. It sounds like that bridesmaid is going thru some personal problems and just can't handle her friend's happiness. Also that bridesmaid has no idea how weddings work lol
Imagine she decides to bring someone in the end just to spite her. And that person is allergic to nuts. Ensue death at cake eating. "That's why it was important for me to know, Becky!" x)
@@k.v.7681😂😂☠️☠️ I shouldn't be laughing, but that's fucking hilarious.
That one had a few screws loose. How about, "OK, don't tell me and just share your plate and chair with your date. Hope he likes the same food."
@@k.v.7681 😂😂😂😂😂☠️
wedding photographer: I *personally* would have left, gotten something to eat, and not given them the photos until they paid me at least $500 and my food bill from dinner. that said.... deleting the photos was a power move and that photog deserves a fucking crown.
Deleting the photos mean he had enough of them given the argument
@@kp5496 i dont really feel bad for the couple because they were pure evil. the photographer was their friend who did the job at a cheap rate but I think it would be more good if he charged them as much as a professional would charge, in this way he would make a profit. it was not smart to delete
@@munmun07 yes, if it were me, I wouldn’t have deleted the pictures either. Seems like the person who was wronged took license to treat them wrongly too. Petty is okay, but two complete wrongs do not make a right, so I agree.
I think the photographer just called the friends bluff…the friend said if you wanna eat then just leave and we’re not gonna pay you…so the friend so ok…now there’s nothing to pay for cuz they’re gone…they even asked “are you sure?” before they deleted them…they said yea so the photog called their bluff…cuz I personally think the groom was bluffing…
@@OneCatShortOfCrazy YESSSS!! EXACTLY!!! 👏🏼
The rainbow baby one really got me, that one’s ridiculous. My second son is our rainbow baby. We lost his sister 24 weeks into the pregnancy and I delivered her twin brother at 39 weeks. One year later we found out we were having our rainbow and he was born on the anniversary of his sister’s death. So this is coming from a person who understands what having a rainbow baby is all about… but if I am invited to a child-free wedding my kids are just going to a sitter. 🤷🏻♀️ If the baby had been a newborn I would understand not wanting to leave them with somebody while spending the night out, but the child is four years old. The parents are probably insanely overprotective and spoil the hell out of that kid. This is your sister‘s wedding, this isn’t about you or your kid. Grow the f up.
I have a friend whose mother lost her twin during the pregnancy; does that make her half a rainbow? And so many women have miscarriages early on it seems odd to call the next live birth a miracle. I'm not deriding the pain of a miscarriage (my mother had one at 7 months and it took a number of years for her to get pregnant again), but it seems, for instance, if the OP had a baby after infertility issues, that's more of a miracle.
@@gaudior13 when losing one twin, the survivor is referred to as a sunrise, and the angel is a sunset. A baby born from a separate pregnancy after would be a rainbow.
Thank you for explaining, I never heathers terms before.
How to solve the "child free" wedding situation: book the wedding at an 18+ venue. Then you don't have to deal with the rule-breakers when they show up with the kid and won't be allowed in.
YOU'RE A GENIUS
And BOOZE!
Just lie about the venue not allowing children, that way people don’t be mad at u
@@nameless568 That's only displacing the issue. If people you're supposed to be close with can't fathom to leave their child with a babysitter for an afternoon and night, and feel the need to rub in the fact you're barren because of it, when the event in question is supposed to be a celebration of happiness and life in a new chapter of your story, then you might as well take the opportunity to reconsider that relationship instead of carrying it into that new happy chapter0
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That woman and her fiance should stick to their guns and not let the nephew come to their childfree wedding, period! It's *their* wedding!
And it sounds like it's long past time that Rainbow Child and Golden Parents got told "no".
especially as the child has never been taught to behave properly - and, by the sound of it, neither have the parents.
Honestly, i would've said "ok then, if you really want to bring him, that would be 2k" and then they would argue, and then i would say "but i have to pay for the videographer/photographer to edit him out of the photos, and for the nanny to look after your child and keep him alive - and to compensate the other parents who are able to comply a single simple rule we set to not bring their children" and they would shut up
I agree. I have a rainbow child as well, and as devastating as it was before with trying and not succeeding, I never felt that my son was entitled or that I was. This actually happened to me before, I was invited to a 'no children' party and guess what? I treated it as a mini vacation for this mama and my very amazing friend spent a weekend with my son while I went out and enjoyed myself. I get the privilege of finally having a child, but wow....thats just taking it way to far.
Personally, I'd elope at that point and let the guests know EXACTLY why.
As a parent who has a difficult time finding a sitter, I still agree that if you can't make it to a "child-free" wedding without your kid(s), just graciously decline and send a gift. It's their party. They can do what they want to.
I can totally see dad & grandma calling Harvard, to see why kid didn’t get in “But he’s a rainbow baby, he’s special! He HAS to go to Harvard, you need to make an exception!” 🤦♀️
@@Theconservativeindependent Whooosh! It's because that's the whole argument they have -- he's a rainbow baby, therefore he's special and deserving of being the exception everywhere.
@@Theconservativeindependent try paying attention to the video moron. That was the argument dad & grandma had, that the nephew should be an exception to OP’s child free wedding, because he’s a rainbow baby.
Omg the whole miracle baby thing is so bad. Like they're the only people to have miscarriages and a rainbow baby. I have one. I have friends with one. It's not a miracle. It's life. Can't help but wonder if they know the meaning of miracle. That kid is going to be a terror.
@@Theconservativeindependent Just because someone is a rainbow baby doesn’t give them the excuse to be an entitled little shit. Even if they’re special, they need to know there is no “elevator” to success. They have to take stairs instead.
Is it silly that my first thought was that a rainbow baby was one who identifies as gay?
** We offer same sex marriage ceremonies only.
Jackie needs to proofread her ads. That note sounds exactly what Mike was looking for
Right? I almost wonder if someone else designed her ad and did that on purpose so she'd get flooded with inquiries from same sex couples? 😂
That was a very unfortunate typo indeed. And I can totally see how he may have shared it to laugh at the typo and it ended with psycho brigaders out there review bombing the place. I hope they get the false reviews removed, since no one leaving the reviews were customers.
I saw that, too, and was thoroughly confused for a while. They are a same sex couple, sooooo what's the problem! lol One could say that disclosure would give them a legal right to use the venue! :D
Yeah I thought I was going crazy for a second and had to rewind about 5 times to make sure I was hearing/reading correctly 😆 proof-reading is very important 👍🏼
Jackie's too stupid. I hope she's out of business very soon.
As a parent, anytime I get a wedding invite, the first thing I ask is “are kids allowed”. And I always hope the answer is NO! For one, I’d like a little time away with other adults. For two, it’s less people I have to worry about being appropriately dressed and behaved. I don’t understand parents that insist on bringing kids to a wedding…. Enjoy the event kid free!
Those parents just want to see the kids in nice dresses for some photos and then get wasted while ignoring their child and let him do a mess around. Those are some narcisistic parents xD
kids are fine at weddings ... as long as they're tied up, gagged, n locked in the closet 😁
@@me2ontube my my my. Soo my thoughts😂😂😂😂
Last wedding I went to, my cousin and his wife didn't bring the kids. At some point of the wedding little girl comes in, blood on her face and hands and screaming like someone just got murdered. My cousin leans in and tells me "I'm so happy I don't have to deal with that tonight" it was hard not to laugh.
(little girl is fine btw, fell while playing and hurt her lip, got impressed by the blood)
I would love that as well, but it's usually not an option for our family. Kids are too young to stay home by themselves and there is no one who can watch them while we're gone. Almost all of the weddings we go to are 4 to 6 hour drive or more away. Usually requires an overnight stay.
My sister had her 50th at my cousin's house. The invitation said 'no kids.' I had an 18 month old. The party was 80 miles away and late in the day. I deleted the invitation and was a little sad that I couldn't go. I sent my sister an e-card on her bday but didn't call because it was a surprise party. I talked to my mom about a week later.
Mom: why didn't you come? Did hubby have to work?
Me: no. I can't leave (kid) with a babysitter and go somewhere 80 miles away.
Mom: you could have brought her...
Me: the invite said no kids..
Mom: well [kid] [kid] and [kid] was there. Why didn't you say something?
Me: because you raised me to accept the rules and not ask for special treatment... is what I wish I said. 'The invitation said no kids'
Mom: that didn't mean you. That was meant for other people. Sister really wanted to see [daughter]
Me: well no one told me
If your child was an exception, then your sister should not have sent an invitation to you that specified "no kids". She made the mistake, you acted right.
Bruh, how the hell were you supposed to know
I would be fuming. Her mistake, not yours. I would have done the same thing.
That is so frustrating to read!
Y tf do ppl expect others to be clairvoyant? 🙄🤦♀️
If people want you to know something, THEY NEED TO TELL YOU!!
Brother Paul: YOUR SISTER'S WEDDING ISN'T ABOUT YOU OR YOUR BRAT KID. Period.
I was just at a wedding and there were two kids under 5 and the were so ill behaved. Just leave the kids at home. They get so bored. The rule in my family is they have to be teenagers before they can go to a wedding.
Yeah, but he is a "Rainbow Baby."
@@balung 😁
Unpopular opinion: the previous miscarriages were not mistakes those babies just saw who they would have for parents and opted out.
@@meghanodonoghue9066 yooooo 😖😭🤦♀️ 🙃
For the "deleting wedding photos one"- I'd take that one to court. They wanted someone to work a full shift without food, water, or breaks on a really hot day. I feel like they're breaking some kind of law. While I also would have kept the photos hostage, I totally understand that photographer's reaction. But for real. Take it to court. I really think they were committing a crime here.
I used to be a photographer for events and I never had a customer refuse me food or water. As a matter fact I always went home with a plate of food and cake. I have had a couple not want to pay and I just kept the pictures and eventually they would pay in payments.
I read the updates on this story. The dog photographer was initially an invited guest to wedding but once she accepted the photographer job they took her off the wedding invite list as a guest and made her a wedding vendor. Plus she was friends with the bride not the groom then the groom lied about what happened. He told his wife that there was a camera malfunction before or during the honeymoon. Lol
@@eduardocruz4341 and an update update
the bride followed up about this to the dp (dog photographer), the dp ended up doing a reshoot with her, even though dp suggested them paying several bucks to get pics from the deleted sd card, but they refused to pay.
I feel disappointed though, like the dp is so weak willed and easily roped into bad situation where the dp is easily being manipulated and used
@@artaizen1613 Yeah, I saw that too but didn't want to add that since dp was still taken advantage by both groom and bride. I would have said either take the SD card so you can recover the photos or don't bother me anymore...lol. the bride is not a friend.
@@eduardocruz4341 still not a reason to deny her water or a break during down times. But it's funny how he covered his butt, lol.
I was an assistant to a photographer and I even got the food and drinks! If we had a couple who didn't want to pay we would sorta up prices due to it being after the shoot for the event. But yeah keeping the pics or deleting em is fair.
An undisciplined child at a wedding is chaos. But an undisciplined child at a child free wedding is a great way to ruin the event. Difficulty in conception is no excuse to be a terrible parent and expect others to enjoy your mess. Good gracious gravy..
IKR!???
Rainbow baby or not, get Junior a babysitter or stay home, but don't ruin a wedding because it's not about your child.
OMFG!! Just what I was thinking!
Yes! And it would be about the kid if he came!
I'd volunteer to watch the kid so I didn't have to go to a wedding.
Also all these adults are ruinung that kid´s life. He will be absolutely useless adult.
@@lesliek1808 The. Whole. Fucking. Time!!
My cousin had a child free wedding, so I couldn't come. It did hurt me, because we were very close and she was my favorite cousin. I was 12 at that time, not really a kid to be fair, but anyways there were no questions from me or my parents. Until later when I found out that there were a lot of kids from the groom's side. Even babies... And not because their parents brought them, but they all were invited.
I called her and said that she is not invited to my future wedding 😅 And that I won't talk to her ever again. She tried to call me, then tried to reach me through my mom, to say how much she loves me. But I believe she just didn't want to upset my mom who is her godmother and always gave her money when she asked for it and expensive gifts, used to take her to our family trips.
Our relationship was ruined forever. It's been more 15 years now. Of course I started to talk to her as the time passed, but I talk to her only when I really have to. On weddings or funerals.
And if I ever have a wedding she is still not invited.
That's so sad. I'm sorry that happened. It'd be one thing if guests brought kids when they were told not to, but they were INVITED!
Wow what a stupid grudge to hold
@Erin Jean If you don’t have anything nice to say, shut up.
Are you sure your parents didn't lie to you about the invitation? Like they just wanted to make it a date night for themselves.
You need to let it go it was a long time ago
I’m a wedding photographer, since that story came out about the Tog deleting the images, couples have been overly nice and encouraging me to eat and have water.
Good! That should be the norm!!
If I'm counting on you to make me look good on my big day then you're getting food, water and a comfortable place to rest your feet because I want you doing your best work! Have some appetizers, here's a flower to tuck behind your ear and let me know if you need anything. Enjoy your dinner and the cake. Just make me look thinner.
I haven't watched this but what's wrong with the photographer eating? I want everyone there to eat workers and guests alike
@@marthatassi293 I LOVE IT!
I was insistent on having a child-free wedding. Years previously I went to a wedding where the bride had to carry her crying toddler down the aisle while juggling her bouquet and her father's arm, so I knew that wasn't going to be for me. I even lost a "friend" over it as they said if they couldn't bring their 5 month old baby then they wouldn't come. The week before the wedding, my husband's family pressured him to allow his nieces and nephews to come to the wedding (over my objections). Then a family member brought their baby to the reception so "everyone could see him". That should have been a huge red flag on how the marriage was going to go. So I'm all for the couple standing their ground about the (probably bratty) nephew. People need to realize it's not their wedding.
I don’t understand why they don’t have their own party to show off the baby. It’s the couple’s day. If the couple doesn’t want to hear crying babies or they want the parents to be able to dance all night…. It’s their choice. The parents can get a sitter or stay home. Why make such a big fuss and make the rest of the family pick sides. It’s such a shame. Also that kid wouldn’t have much fun being the only little one. Imagine the destruction a spoiled brat could cause too. What’s crazy is when parents fight to have their kid attend a child free wedding/event, then their child misbehaves throughout the whole evening. Meanwhile the parents could careless as they let the kid run free. Like really? They’re not even concerned to watch him or her and correct the misbehavior after all the begging and pleading. Sheesh. Stick to your guns people kid your weddings child free if you want. Little Timmy will not behave like a silent angel no matter how much the parents swear.
Ps I totally love kids but it’s a bummer when people think they’re the exception to the rule.
bringing a newborn to a wedding thats supposed to be child free just so people can "see the baby" ummm why? nobody asked or wants that.....
Rainbow baby: it’s born. It’s celebration was four years ago. It’s not made of gold. No kids = no kids. Done and done. What you accept teaches people how to treat you.
Exactly!
Thank youuu
$250 for 10 hours of wedding photography is an insult. That couple was all the way wrong. And yeah I would have deleted them too.
Oh geez. Paul is raising a narcissistic sociopath!
He’s being told & treated like he is so special. A miracle.
Aren’t we all?
Judging by his dad's behavior I'd say the kids is learning from the best.
One might say God was trying to prevent one more sociopath in the world, but they insisted... 🙄
@@tatioliveira8598 that is very dark. you've got some seriously twisted mind. I like you.
yes we are when you consider the relatively small window of opportunity for conception, all babies are miracles
@@24get24give sure, but babies stop being babies and become children. Then they are not miracles anymore. Nor should they be treated as such.
Child free means NO children in attendance..period. Whether rainbow, purple, fuschia or turquoise. Not even if they're mauve! Why do people think THEIR child is more special than EVERYONE ELSE'S?! I'm sure their son isn't the only *rainbow* baby of everyone who was invited to that wedding. It's more common that many people realize. Miscarriage just isn't talked about as openly as it should be.
Stats used to be 1 in six pregnancies end in miscarriage in the U.S. One in four in Australia.
@@Kayenne54 it's 1 in 4 in America, as well. I've had six over my lifetime, unfortunately.
You are right
Purple…fuschia…turquoise or mauve…..lol…rotlf….love it!!
But seriously miscarriage is horribly painful and my heart goes out to anyone who’s experienced that.
Here is the thing about the child free wedding: her nephew is probably not the only "rainbow baby" amongst the guests' children. I'm willing to bet at least one of their other guests has a "rainbow baby" or some type of miracle child... should exceptions be made for all of them too? Not only that, but if the nephew is a spoiled child whose parents never impose any limitations, imagine the nightmare he would be at the wedding, especially as the only child in attendance. At the risk of sounding harsh, just because a baby was born after a miscarriage does not mean that baby is entitled to special treatment and / or privileges. If a bride and groom say the wedding is child free, then either leave your child with a sitter or simply don't go to the wedding. The child would probably be super bored at the wedding anyway, so it's not like they are missing out. So yeah, the bride and groom are NTA... the family is, big time! And if they care more about having the nephew attend than being there for the bride and groom, then honestly good riddance to them.
Honestly i don't understand people bringing kids to these events. Kods get bored easy, they run around and have the talent to dissolve in thin air right infront of you which prompts a full on research team to be made which takes away from the event. They scream when sth annoys them and you have to pay for a full meal for someone who only consumes dino nuggies.
I love children. I want to have children, but on my wedding day, the only "kids" allowed will be 14+. At that age they are already selfaware and can communicate what they need very well (there are some special cases such as brats) but otherwise fuck it.
Exactly!!!!!!! 🎯
My Italian head almost spun off my shoulders to hear that the photographer/friend wasn’t offered food and a drink at the wedding! What kind of shitty people are the bride and groom? I wouldn’t have deleted the photos but I would’ve left immediately and emailed them to say when they pay the regular fee for wedding photography, they can have their pictures.
For the story about the child free wedding and the brother with the spoiled brat narcissistic bully in waiting, my response would be to send out messages to everyone that has said we’re dropping out that the wedding is canceled they are not invited and please feel free to go to Paul’s house and visit with the baby for an hour or two.
🤣🤣🤣
More food and booze for the fun, considerate adults!
Love this idea!
That's what I would do! 🤣
That is even more horrible, considering that this bride said she had been divorced because she is unable to get kids herself. How awful it has to be, maybe she wanted kids too and now her spoiled nephew is treated like the king? Understandable that going through all this she wants a childfree wedding.
Okay, the “rainbow baby” is no longer a baby, he’s four. I’d get it if he was like, 6 months but turning the family on her over her own wedding preferences is beyond a horrible thing to do. That family needs a lesson in…family. Wow.
This was probably a toxic family anyway
Ya it sounds like OP needs to cut the family off. They seem toxic and terrible.
Even if the child was 6 mos old, I still feel that a child-free wedding means leave that baby at home.
@@zaihoward2777 I could have a fraction of a tenth of understanding if it was a recent birth. Doesn’t mean I condone the brothers behavior. That guy is still a douche canoe for wanting to be an exception to the rule. No kids is no kid agreed!
The "rainbow baby" story is just insane! First, yes, I understand how devastating the experience of repeated miscarriages can be, but what does that have to do with spoiling the child rotten and ultimately screwing them up for life? Do those parents really think they are treating the kid the right way? Second, there would have been no other kids at the wedding, so that one kid would have been bored to death and would have acted out, especially already spoilt as he was. Why would anyone want that? (I'm assuming the kid didn't have any health issues that would make it necessary to watch him constantly - in that case I'd understand, but even then I'd rather excuse myself from the wedding to stay home with my son, and nobody would have any business objecting).
Kid's gonna end up with a Varuca Salt type personality
My baby was born after multiple miscarriages. He is my wonderful precious miracle baby. To everyone else, he is... a baby. Noisy, smelly, kinda cute, a bit irritating, overall not an ideal wedding guest. AND THAT'S OKAY!
I had a bridezilla, most of her family talked trash about her.
The child is 4 years old, not 4 days old and being breastfed! A 4-year old is perfectly capable of being left with a babysitter.
Hope bride didn't cave. After all her AH family are saving her money. Just take them off guest list, sincerely thank them for RSVPing Not Attending, and move on. Make sure to have bouncers to stop them if they try to crash. If they post on any Social Media trying to shame you, just politely respond that you sent out invitations stipulating it was a child free wedding and since you wouldn't make an exception for nephew they declined to attend. Which was their choice, you can't force them get a sitter and attend against their wishes. The nephew or the wedding, this was their hill to die on, they made their choice and you respect their decision to forego your special once in a life time day. 🤔 Maybe ask all friends and family to not post any pictures of your wedding to Social media so that your parents and rest of family that backed out over this don't get to see any of them since they didn't attend.
Childless wedding means NO CHILDREN no matter how spoiled and entitled the child and parents are. Her family is in the wrong and this breaks my heart for her. Some venues have strict no children rules as well (I know I've worked at a few).. I am curious how things turned out
The whole thing with the miracle baby bothers me. All kids are gifts in general, but holding the fact that the baby is a 'rainbow baby' over the rest of the family is pretty dumb. I agree with the redditors.
"holding the fact over the rest of the family" exactly! It also just sounds disingenuous, like they really just don't want to have to pay for a babysitter and they're using that to guilt trip you
@@Zapporah85 I don't know what's worse, using to hold it over your family of why they should go to formal events no kid that age is interested in, or the fact hr gets what he wants and doesn't get disciplined, it's gonna set him up for a lot of heart break in the long run
i have a rainbow baby myself, and the only time it comes up is when i read something about rainbow babies.
@@Coops1985 it depends from person to person on how they parent and see their kids
I don't even understand why the fact that he's rainbow baby has to do with anything 😂 so he's going to be put on a pedestal his whole life??
as a makeup artist for 10 years who did A LOT of weddings....yes. 100% the OP had every right to delete those photo's. It was already discussed that this was a favor because the budget was tight, meaning they had already shopped around and knew the average cost of having a photographer there. Considering that, the grooms behavior was abusive and not at all how you treat a friend.
I have even seen some photographer contracts that state photographer and assistant (s) will be fed and have time to eat.
That's not even how you treat a vendor or a stranger! Grr! I'm angry on that photographer's behalf!
Yeah my dad did wedding and I help and they have to feed us it’s usually discussed and a lot of times expected to take care of them too but that grooms crazy
@@robertcohen1888 Yea this other girl, Jessica kobiessi ,she’s a pro photographer there’s much more to this thread and she talks abt it all, turns out the groom even lies to his new wife abt what happened to the pics! It’s messed up but u guys should watch the whole thing , def agree on deleting the photos , u also find out the bride didn’t even wanna pay to have the photos recovered soooo… that right there says a whoooooole lot!
@@Jen-cs3fu thank you for the update and the additional information. Yeah, the whole situation seemed very messed up I feel bad that they don't have the pictures of the wedding which is important. But play stupid games win stupid prizes I guess.
People treating people like garbage is my biggest pet peeve.
It's a good thing that SJW doesn't believe that. Otherwise obnoxious jerks wouldn't have a voice...
@@nicoladawson2861 Dude same ppl who work in customer service / retail are constantly treated like they’re stupid (I have a college degree in Math and i work at a bakery for extra cash, and I’m consistently talked to like I can’t even comprehend how to give change)
Captain Placard ……? Elaborate
Very well said!
My husband is listening to this while doing his own thing and he pipes in, "can we just never go to anyone's wedding?"
😃😄😅😆😀
: that story about the friend who deleted the photos. There is more to the story. She said in a follow up post that she had been invited and she had RSVPd! She had a table and was counted in the food count. They took her off the guest list AFTER she said she would be the photographer at their wedding for pennies… I would have deleted the photos! There is also more updates from the friend! And it gets even more frustrating!!
Oh wow. Where we can find this drama to read?
@@LX777 Welcome to the dark, dark road to Reddit stories. Where the traffic signs are all copy/pasted, and the streetlights are all clickbait.
Yeah. Making their friend work as a full out slave and denying them a break or food? That photographer was in the right.
@@Rwededyet take me. Or Just give me the link and I will go myself 🤣🤣🤣
@@LX777 Mark Narrations covers that post with the updates in one of his vids
The miracle child story is bull. She’s NTA. The family is.
Can you imagine the adult that child will grow in to? That family is doing a great injustice to their miracle child.
If it was a very well-behaved child, maybe I would consider an exception, but a little terror like that absolutely not. I do not like children, or more precisely I hate bad parents who allow their children to be absolute monsters. Well behaved children are hard to find sometimes, but those select few I'd be okay with.
Also, treating him like he's an angel king from on high is gonna mess that kid up. I pitty him.
That one made my blood boil. Her family are assholes.
@@carlam4986 when I heard the story, that was my thought as well. "That kid is going to be a demanding, unreasonable adult later".
@@carlam4986 We don’t have to imagine, he’ll grow up to be like his demanding, unreasonable and rude parents. What a miracle.
That guy ruining his sister’s wedding and the whole family ganging up on her is mind-boggling 🤦🏻♀️
Photographer here. I would have done the same. This is the problem with having a photog that is damn good and a friend that REALLY wants a free wedding shoot. I pretty much quit because after so many free weddings . . I was fed up. That said, I was fed at each wedding I photographed. One wedding, the very grateful mother of the groom chased me down 2 times to go and eat!
It is common practice as well as courtesy to feed your photographer! A wedding can take 8 - 12 hours of your time! 📷
I have never, ever EVER heard of a wedding where the guests are charged per slice of wedding cake!!!
At every wedding I have attended, they're giving chunks of the stuff away by the end of the evening!!
Me neither
I’m surprised they didn’t charge for the dinner as well
I go to a lot of Chinese weddings and every table even takes leftover homes, it's just how it is here in America Chinese weddings. Imagine having to pay for leftovers? LMFAO
@@PlatonicPurplePanda in my country, Indonesia (and I think some other Asian countries), it's common for a simple wedding to have at least 250 guests and no guest ever have to pay for the food, and it is always a buffet where everyone can have as many food as they want. For the rich people, it could have up to 5000+ guests, as it is viewed as a chance to show off to people how (financially) successful they are. I always find Charlotte's videos on these crazy weddings and bride/groomzillas hilarious 😂😂😂
@@jennb9814 I'm guessing they probably did but the person only ate one serving.....
I get that the child is special in the families eyes because of repeated miscarriages, but that doesn't give him special privileges in other people's lives. His parents are setting him up for huge disappointments in the future when he realizes the world won't think he's any more special than anyone else. Sounds like a toxic family that's raising a brat. Poor kid...it's not his fault, but he will get the repercussions of his upbringing. No kids means no kids!! Respect the wishes of the bride and groom.
Yeah, it's "special" monsters like these who end up on the news. Not in a good way either.
Hey!!! FYI Paul. Other families have had children after miscarriage. It might be treated as a miracle by close friends and family at first. If they continue after 4 years a) they’re kissing your butt for something you might be able to do for them, b) your narcissistic parents who have conveniently forgotten there’s another child (sister? You have a sister?). Yeah. I get it’s a big deal to you, but the rest of the world has moved on. Get a 🙄.
I would HOPE that ANY and ALL children they have will be special. Unfortunately, they're DELUSSIONAL about their child because of the miscarriages. Now they think he's some God like creature that everyone should deem the center of the world. Bullshit.
Brother Paul, his wife, and their rainbow baby staying away as well as the parents and uncles? Just made the wedding that much better.
Signed - a mom.
Agreed - my heart aches for this bride who has to learn this way that her family is toxic and does not really love her.
But, in the long run they have done her the favour of showing her who they really are so that she can, hopefully, move on to a better place in her life with her new husband (and I'm happy that he is supporting her in this decision).
My cousin had one of those "rainbow babies" and I am so glad that it's not a thing where we live. The kid gets treated like any other normal child and is not a spoiled brat you want nothing to do with, the way Paul's "Miracle" is going to be
My Rainbow baby is now 41. No special treatment, raised her the same as her siblings. A child doesn't need to be a Rainbow baby to turn out to be a brat nobody wants to be around. Case in point, my children's cousins. They were hell on wheels and not a "rainbow" among them.
The Rainbow Baby story, it's obvious why the kid is turning out to be a spoiled brat: it's because his father is the same way. Not only is the family rallying around the kid, but also the brother, it's obvious he's the Golden Child as he is acting like an entitled kid, whining about not getting his way. His son is considered special, which means so is he in the family's eyes, so he basks in the attention and soaks it up all he can. Even if the guests were fine with allowing the nephew to be the exception, I still wouldn't invite him, since that just gives into the brother's temper tantrum. It's sad to distance yourself from family, but honestly I think it's for the best in this case, they obviously don't care much for OP if they easily abandon her like this. Disgusting, you're better off OP.
Aside from poor behavior, just because your family is attending your social event does not mean that it is a child appropriate event. Recently attended a family (kids ok) wedding out of state and the rehearsal dinner was at a sports bar. Obviously there was alcohol and foul language that I preferred my kiddo not hearing. The (kid ok) reception also included a lot of alcohol and lots of speeches that included some inappropriate stories and foul language. Sometimes adult events are just that - for adults!
This rainbow kid will end up being a serial killer. It’s really scary to raise a kid as a miracle. Many parents have a hard time having a child but don’t act like their child can do no wrong.
Never could understand why you’d smash the wedding cake into your significant other’s face. The original custom was very sweet and kind. The bride and groom would feed each other a little piece of the cake as a promise to always care and feed each other for life through old age until they pass from this world. Now it’s a smash fest to grind the cake in their face for a cheap laugh on the attacked member. I kind of wish for the old days and customs where a wedding was taken seriously and joyously, not a chance to show up the other wedding partner. When did this tacky custom start?…
So dumb. I've not been to any wedding where it was done. Not cute imo
About the same time that divorce statistics started rising.
I told my partner that if they did the cake smash, I would walk out and have the marriage annulled.
Rachel White - I told my soon-to-be hubby the same exact thing. It is stupid, it is childish, it is wasteful and if I spend all that money on my hair and makeup I am not going to have it ruined by someone smashing a piece of cake into my face. I wish couples would grow up and stop doing this.
@@evagengler9666 the whole smashing like a full piece of cake into the face I totally agree is wasteful and I’d be ticked because of having spent so much time and money getting ready and even more mad if it got on the dress! But that said I have seen it done cute where they feed each other the bite and then just take a little frosting on the finger and put it on the other’s nose or something. When it’s small and not like aggressive/too much I think it can be cute but it depends on the couple for sure. In any case, idk who the heck would want to be fully like slapped with cake!
There's more to the photographer story. They went on their honeymoon, where the groom lied and told the bride there was an issue with OP's camera and the photos were deleted for this reason. Bride reached out to OP, who told the truth, and since they were friends before bride met her nasty little honeybun they worked out a small shoot in the future with money up front and not a peep of bs from bride or groom. OP offered to take the SD card somewhere for recovery, but bride declined. On a positive note, she booked two more unexpected sessions with the minister and dj from the wedding who saw the situation firsthand. 📸
If her groom would treat their friend like that she would just get a divorce. It's a huge red flag and what else is he lying about.
I was thinking the same thing when I saw the update. The way he acted and then lied to cover his tracks? Very concerning.
Not only that, but the photographer was originally invited as a GUEST to the wedding. She RSVP'd WITH a food choice!
Yeah friend or not you cant expect someone to go all day without a feeding them or letting them take a break or a drink!
Imagine how disrespectful a man like him will treat his wife!
In Lebanon we say “a conditional beggar”! The last one is gold.
In the U.K. we have an old saying of “beggars can’t be choosers” that has now morphed into “choosing beggars” in these situations. It’s funny how the concept permeates across languages and cultures (evidently it’s enough of a phenomenon to do so) ☺️
Yo someone with 8 years experience doesn’t need “exposure”. Not that that nonsense is acceptable at any experience level, but the lack of self awareness is baffling.
Application fee....LOL....
Baffling, but definitely not surprising considering the way people are now.
Exactly what I thought. That's insane.
I personally think that people are more and more entitled like this is because of people negotiating things less and less in person. Face to face communication teaches a lot about consequences of my own doings and decent treatment of others. Where are the times when I had to handle a problem with one person instead of trolling the world with it for a response in my favour?
That was my thoughts exactly...and I don't think any self-respecting person or photographer would do a lot of work for free
When my brother was married out-of-state, we were told there were to be no children at the wedding ceremony and to get a baby sitter for our almost one year old. Made us nervous as our son had just recovered from a throat issue where if he cried to hard then he could stop breathing. We used the suggested sitter by the bride's family and paid her to watch only our son. Lot's of responsibility for anyone. Our son was the first grandchild on the groom's side and he was very well behaved until we handed him over to the sitter. Eventually he chilled down as she was a good sitter and other guests were using sitters in the room. My wife and I settled down for the wedding when guess what? In comes every single child on the bride's side, five children under the age of six, dressed up for the wedding. Some were in the wedding and some were not. They ran around, eating fries, disrupting everything. Towards the end, my wife was flagged by the babysitter because our son was so upset. She took him into the ceremony where he sat quietly enjoying all the children running around. Paid the sitter double the rate and tried not to fume. My brother wasn't too thrilled by this either so we said nothing. However the groom was feeling better by the fact that only well behaved baby was his nephew.
It's either all kids allowed or no kids allowed and gloating that she's jealous because she can't have kids makes you the worst big brother EVER.
If I was struggling of having kids, I wouldn't say that to any one who doesn't have kids.
Even IF she was jealous, it's still her and her fiances right to make such a decision. Maybe bride and groom don't want to see kids on their special day. Maybe they don't want to be remembert that they won't have kids themselfes. How ugly of the brother to make such a big deal out of it.
Yes! And his sing-song tone, and open mockery, are signs of a horrible person
Also, worst parents EVER. Your daughter's first husband leaves her because she can't have kids, and now you're going to refuse to go to her wedding because she won't invite her brother's "special miracle baby"?
I just got married last week I fed every single vendor that worked at my wedding or provided a service this is totally unacceptable to treat people like servants my vendors were there for 8 hours feeding them a decent meal the least I could do and I gave them a very nice tip at the end
I've worked at a wedding before and I can honestly say it's hard and there's no way you shouldn't be offered food. The fact that he was willing to accept $250 is mind blowing.
Still badly handled by the photographer though. Save the pictures, add 100 bucks for food and water to the bill and don't give them their photos until after they've paid you.
How horrible that the whole family thinks, that a bride who cant get kids and already got divorced because of this must have her spoiled rainbow nephew there, so all this can be smashed in her face even on her own wedding.
That's absolutely shitty
I'd say its better for her to cut off that part of the family. They all sound entitled
@@ZaiKechi More than entitled, that sounds so mean and toxic, oooof...
She has a chance to get to know the new family now. She should just cut contact to those who want to bully her/them into being an exception. I guarantee 90% of the reason they went child free was due to that monster of a kid.
@@Neighbor-assistantYN agreed. And if she does foolishly agreed to allow the golden child, Paul, to get his way, this will set a fucked up precedence. Currently, the rotten crotch fruit is "king" only within OP's messed up family dynamic. However, if they allow the owner of the spoiled crotch goblin (paul) to make the rules in cross family dynamics, then OP can expect King Crotch Dropping to rule at Derek's family functions, events for OP's friends and work, etc.
Just say No to entitled Golden Children and their evil spawn.
Also, as a kid I went to at least half a dozen wedding ceremonies as a flower girl, because I was cute and well behaved enough and was older than most of the other children in my mom's circle, and I wasn't even invited to the party! And everyone was cool with it! Bride and groom paid for the dress and accoutrements, I got to wear hideous pouffy 80's tacky dresses and keep them for dress up, and that was that. My mom was very chill about it and picked me up after the ceremony, we went home to bed.
Also, women have been experiencing miscarriages and stillbirths since time immemorial, and as painful as that is, it's never been carte blanche for the surviving children to be little shits
I had a mom of the bride tell me they couldn't pay me my full rate for photographing the wedding. I told her and the bride either pay the agreed price or no photos (this was in the film days) they refused so to this day I still have the film, undeveloped, its been sitting on a shelf with my other old equipment for 20+ years.
That film is not going to last forever. If you want to spend any money on it have it developed and digitized. You never know they change their mind .
@@flitsertheo It's been 20+ years, if they change their mind now that's on them, they should deal with the consequences of their poor choices
@@NeonAGC If not for them I would take measures to preserve the pictures for myself anyway. I would hate to see my work go lost.
That's awesome. What jerks!
If the film is still good, put some of them in your portfolio or use on your website. You hold the copyright to them.
My husband and I eloped 33 years ago, and we didn't miss the drama of family members trying to take control and make it THEIR dream wedding.
My dad just offered me money to elope (in the future, I'm not engaged now) and I'm taking it. I hate drama. Good for y'all!
Same here :-) Just a few years ago. And we still haven't told anyone because we're not interested in their "Why"s and "You should have"s. Our decision, our money, our wedding, our day. End of story.
My husband and I got married 4 yrs ago with like 11 ppl counting us and the Chaplin only reason it was that many ppl was we had a friend who said they would take pictures on their phone and they brought their wife and 6 kids lol. No drama 15 mins and we were married I wouldn't change it.
We didnt even have an engagement. We just married. In street clothes. 2 family members were present. I never wanted wedding not even as a little girl. Such waste of money. If I would do it would be less than 20 people present. Only very close family and best friends
My parents did the same thing. Married in Vegas and 30+yrs together.
At my wedding, I made sure the catering company brought enough food for the photographer, the staff working and the caterers themselves.
Mid way through the reception, I did a quick tour around and made sure anyone working had gotten a chance at some food and drink.
Billnye69, that's because you were brought up proper!
Isn't that supposed to be the normal thing to do. I mean they're working human, not robots, people are not asking for a 3 course Michelin star meals. It's basic sustenance and normal courtesy.
You are a class-act that other brides and grooms should follow 😎
I had almost the exact same situation as the child-free wedding, except it was to do with my uncle and his new girlfriend. As hubby and I were paying for the wedding ourselves and were 20 years old we were keeping the guest list as minimal as we could. We were only inviting people that meant something to us and that we wanted to share in our special day. My uncle called and asked if he could bring his new girlfriend, I said I'd talk to hubby and get back to him. We both decided no considering we'd never met her and his ex-wife was going to be there (it was a messy divorce too). He chucked a hissy-fit and told his mum (my grandma) who then sent me an angry text. His parents also contacted the pastor who was marrying us to make us invite uncle's new girlfriend and my dad (different story but I don't talk to him) and the pastor said no. Skipping the ridiculous amount of drama the ensued after that (it's a long story) that whole side of the family didn't come, which not only made our wedding more enjoyable but also saved us over $2000.
I'm so sorry to hear of your family member's 2yr old temper tantrum. I know this is bold statement but you'll be happier in the end cutting toxic people out of your life, they showed you how loyal and supportive they will be, so you and the hubby are better off starting your new journey together, without them. Im not saying don't call/text on holidays and birthdays, just don't let them manipulate you. Congratulations btw and best wishes.
@@jenniferwilliams9548 thank you for that. I haven't spoken to any of them since before my wedding over 5 years ago, except for a couple years ago before my grandma passed away as they wanted me to introduce her to my baby. I stood my ground and said no and now I'm dead to them, which honestly sits well with me because now they won't contact me anymore and my babies won't have toxic people like them in their lives. Cutting them out is one of the best things I've ever done for myself.
@@mikaylamccay2219 your amazing and I'm glad you stood Ur ground
The person that deleted the photos at the wedding 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Respect goes both ways.
The same sex wedding one is just confusing. The venue said in the email “We only do same sex weddings” then turned around and said “No, we DON’T do that.” Make up your minds? Do they even understand what same sex means? It’s like they’re discriminating for the sake of discriminating.
I thought I was the only one that caught that.
I caught that too. Must have forgotten to type the word "don't " instead of only.
I think the first one was a mere freudian slip. Like, "i want same-sex, but my beliefs say otherwise" kinda thing
I thought the same and had to come to the comments to make sure I wasn't going crazy and wasn't the only one who thought that was very odd?!?!
@@sther9608 Most people won't even understand what you said. It would blow their mind.
Wedding childless story. I had a situation like this. I said "Your child is the reason for this decision." If they aren't going to pull any punches, I'm not.
My dad was a very successful commercial photographer. Any time a family member got married, they expected my dad to do the photography, and to do it for free. When my dad would explain his specialty was studio photography of inanimate objects (he specialized in photographing glass and chrome industrial furniture and lighting fixtures....he was known for being a master of studio lighting of surfaces which can be extremely difficult to shoot) and that a good, experienced wedding photographer was worth investing money in, if they wanted really good photos of the day, they'd take offense and think he was being mean or greedy. It was nuts, and so childish. People need to understand that 1) photography is work that people pay for and that 2) there are different types of photographers with different specialties. Not every photographer is a portrait or wedding photographer. You wouldn't hire a house painter to paint your car, right?
8:40 love how they act like Paul's wife is the only person to miscarry. How does Paul know other kids that won't be at the wedding aren't also rainbow babies? He doesn't he just thinks his apparently brat, of a child matters more...
I ran an executive protection crew for a wedding and reception that had real security concerns. The person in charge refused to provide food for the ten off duty officers for this 8+ hour event. I took orders and sent two of my agents to Mac Donald's. My plan was to feed my crew in four shifts, so we could provide adequate security and eat. The Person in charge of the wedding saw the food we bought and threw a fit. He told us we couldn't eat until the event was over (2 am). I apologized to the new bride and groom , gathered my crew and departed. Within 10 minutes, the groom called. He had fired the wedding organizer and begged my crew and I to return, including a $50 tip for each agent. A big fight broke out when a former spouse showed up and we earned our money.
You did a smart thing. I'm not involved with weddings but I've heard wedding catering is really expensive and I guess most people don’t get free food at their job, so that could make sense, but throwing a fit for *eating* in *shifts* so your work doesn’t suffer? This person actually expected you to work a full 8h without eating? Absolute insanity, has to be against some labor laws
*The story about the rainbow baby is sad to hear about. Do they think their child wont survive having a babysitter for the wedding? The parents had many miscarriages and their son is a miracle yes..but that has nothing to do with them following the same protocol as the other parents. Every other guests have to have a sitter for their children, these people with the rainbow child are no exception. I find it very rude and pompous for this family to make it about Paul and ruin the couple's wedding. How awful. Lastly, about the last story about people paying for applications to cater the wedding, get out of your dream world, wow lol*
The rainbow baby thing was unbelievable. I’m mad they made the bride look stupid for standing her ground when SEVERAL adults basically went on strike so a 4 year old could attend a wedding 😂
As a Brit, it was funny seeing someone hear and appreciate the term ‘mates rates’ for the first time
Having two boys, I’m ecstatic when I get an invite to a ‘child free’ event!!! Every child is special to their parents irrespective of whether a ‘rainbow baby’ or not. I would definitely not allow my nephew to attend if I’ve stipulated the wedding is ‘child free’. There is nothing wrong with that at all!
Regarding the child free wedding....less people = less expense....You'll still be married and have your wedding the rediculous family will be the ones missing out
You took the words out of my mouth.
I'm trying to wrap my head around why people seem to hate to have kids at a wedding. What happens when the couple have babies and for whatever reason need to bring the kids along to a wedding? Will they be frozen out just like the froze out their relatives and friends for the same reason?
They are ridiculous and she should get rid of them.
Her mom should be ashamed
@@brucheweinberger6863 not everyone likes kids. Not every couple want to have children. There are plenty of couples that don't ever want to have kids.
It’s wonderful when a “rainbow baby” comes along. However they’re about as rare as actual rainbows. Most families have at least one, so the deification and entitlement is mind blowing to me.
Exactly
Also it doesn't change the actual baby, like yaay! Woo! Etc
Now actually raise your kid
Couldn't agree more with both of you! I also have a "rainbow baby" I don't call her that and raise her just like I raised my other children.
I know this may sound heartless however, I really am completely sick and tired of people making such a huge deal out this kind of thing. Yes, miscarriage sucks and it can be devastating, but dragging it out for decades is also ridiculous. It seems like every other month is remembrance month...good gravy! That's the last thing I want to do is drag up that terrible event every single time I look at my child!
P.S. child free weddings--woohoo!!! 😉
Agreed. My wife had 4 miscarriages before we had our first. We were afraid that she’d never be able to carry to term. We now have three children. Are they all “rainbow babies”? Do people need to make special accommodations for us now? Plus, it sounds like that kid is going to grow up to be a nightmare because of his parents and grandparents.
I was unaware I was a rainbow baby I’m not even sure how it came up but my reaction was basically just “ok that’s cool” and giving my mom a hug because I hadn’t known that she had a miscarriage before having me. It just doesn’t matter the only part that does is that you should give them a hug because it means that they had a miscarriage and that had to be a horrible experience for them.
I have two rainbow babies of my own. The idea that the child should be treated differently for that reason is unhealthy for the child and will lead to an entitled attitude.
A child free wedding is just that child free. That family is very toxic and obviously care less about celebrating the bride and groom than enabling the toxic and entitled brother.
They should have the wedding they want and forget about the jerk family members.
I’m torn on the first one, Any business has the right to decline service, especially after covid and as many businesses refused to provide services to many people all based on what they “believed” right or wrong it was nice to see that everyone had the choice to provide or decline services as they felt worked best with them.
In this country (second in the world to allow same sex marriage) such a discrimination would be illegal and the venue would get sued.
@@flitsertheo …. You know that you can even get a Covid vaccine exemption based on religious beliefs. I get that people don’t quite understand this in the west but when peoples choices have to be respected based on religious beliefs….. it isn’t just referring to religions like Islam and Judaism… it’s means Christianity too😊.
@@mobolajifalaye4822 Vaccination wasn't mandatory here either, except for some professions (medical staff, ...). Though it meant that you could be denied access to places where only vaccinated people were allowed (eg large crowd events).
I’m having a child free wedding and I have had people try to convince me to let their kids be exceptions. NO. My wedding is open bar and most of my friends are in their 20s, that is not a good place for kids honestly
Hey charlotte!! So the photographer that’s a dog groomer I actually watched a professional photographer who does weddings rant about this same story and she found more info on it!! The person was originally a guest and had rsvp’d with a food order and originally had a spot and a plate, but when they agreed to shoot the wedding for their friend they wondered if they decided to remove them as a guest and put them under hired help. The whole situation was really just so screwed up and I feel for the person that did this out of the kindest of their heart.
I have never heard of a "Rainbow baby", but after hearing the story I think they'll have to rename him "Demon baby" pretty soon seeing as how the parents are raising(ruining) him. How sad. And for the whole family to take the wrong side like that too. Unbelievable. It's going to make a huge rift, and I'm sorry, but one kid (no matter how much effort it took to have him) isn't worth ruining relationships between the whole family (unless of course, they were all mistreating/abusing/etc the child, then yes, take them and run and don't look back). Those parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles should all be ashamed of themselves. I can't have children either, but if by some magical rainbow miracle I did have one, I wouldn't raise them to be a monster. So sad.
All the people in these stories are better off without the "friends" or "family" that are in the stories with them it seems. How can people treat each other so horribly? smh
Rainbow baby means they had him after a miscarriage. But yeah, if the people hosting the wedding, or any event says it's child free, don't bring your kids.
Karma is gonna bite Paul and his wife through tht baby badly.
@@hannahhester8376 Yeah, so? So all parents who have lost a child, does that mean ALL THEIR OTHER CHILDREN are now exceptions to every rule and can do whatever they want, go where ever they want? What about a parent who lost 9 of 10 children? Does their only living child now get to fly free, free tuition, cut in every single line to to the front, drop by a car dealership and just grab the keys to whatever vehicle they want? I mean, come on, it's a MIRACLE that child didn't pass away with the rest of the siblings.... YOU AREN'T ENTITILED JUST BECAUSE SOMETHING WAS DIFFICULT OR PAINFUL.
@@capnobvious2718 I think you took their comment wrong? They were just telling OP the definition of what a “rainbow baby” means. Then they agreed with the original comment?? Not sure where the confusion is.
@@capnobvious2718 they feel the same way you do sis . They were just explaining what a rainbow baby is
Social media is a cancer. She is entitled to her religious views, it's her business, you aren't entitled to her time or her business. She was incredibly polite and kind in her responses. The fact she was basically doxxed is gross.
My prayers are with the " rainbow baby" that family is failing him because their teaching him to be a narcissist. I would have gone on with my 'child free' wedding
Me too. If the bride changes the rules then once again Paul; wife and baby are being catered to. That's not how real life works. A narcissist in the making for sure!
It's horrible that her family treated her this way! She had the right to have a child-free wedding, and she told everyone ahead of time too. If I were her, I would have canceled the wedding and just eloped with the fiance.
@@CrustyUgg right in life not everyone is going to cater to your unreasonable needs/ demands
Considering the fact that the book with the photos from my Dad's wedding cost them £2000, $250 is nothing. You can't even save them a slice of cake and some water? TRRRRASH.
U.S. weddings are wierd. In Poland guests don't pay for anything. Food and drinks are for everyone including photographer, band, driver etc. without any limits.
We don't have bridesmaids. Everyone can dress the way they want. It's more loose and less stress.
And it may last up to 2 days.
Highly recommend.
Yeah same in italy, i mean people give money and presents when they go to a wedding but ffs never ask for It, geez some people don't have class at all lol
US weddings are weird because everyone in this country is obsessed with "keeping up with the Joneses" whether they can afford it or not.
yeah same in Russia, Turkey and any place but murica. everything is business in there
Same in Bulgaria. The USA is just so extra and the drama!!!
Same in Libya
Yes, it's her personal religious beliefs. That's like saying a Southern Baptist or Catholic Church is obligated to marry same sex couples when that's not what they believe in. There's plenty on non-denominational churches that are happy to do it. However, there are ppl out there who purposely approach businesses that have that clear statement.
Excatly ! Her business, her rules !
When sending out invitations for ANY event, invitees must follow the rules or decline, that’s on them. Go forward without guilt. Sounds like your better off without these people in your life anyway.
I've reached an age where I want to minimize the drama in my life. I can do without spoiled brats (parents and children) being at events I'm hosting.
As a florist, I get 100% paid 30 days before the ceremony.
I’m never going to chase someone around on the wedding day together check.
I also get pictures of the ladies holding their flowers so I have a record of how they looked when I delivered them and the time, location.
Men also.
Moms, dads, grandparents.
I cover my @$$.
No child is more important then another they are being awful the whole world doesn’t revolve around their child, he’s obviously going to grow up a brat if he doesn’t hear the word no !
Clearly the PARENT is a brat, and the fact that his child was a "miracle baby" has just emphasized that and given even more excuses to get whatever he, and his child, want in life.
I'm a "rainbow baby" since my mother had a miscarriage between my older brother an myself. I never new that I was special and the world is supposed be catering to me. Damn! I've wasted the last 62 years of my life not being a spoiled brat when I could have had anything I wanted just by whining about it. It's not fair! 😢 I want it all and I WANT IT NOW!!!
@@inkling457 awful people breed awful people it’s true give it a couple of years if not already they will be scared to say no xxx
I agree 100% just raise decent human beings and the word no isn’t a swear word and can be used as little or as often as needed xx
My eldest sister had a child free wedding and I had to leave my 3 kids home while we went 5hrs away and our son was only 2 and we'd never left him before. We had no issues about that and enjoyed the time to ourselves 😅. Paul is an AH