That first story is also really creepy. Family heirlooms can be sweet, but reusing and replicating the look of your first bride with your second bride? Creepy!
You'd think that if there was a divorce and you dislike each other so much, that you wouldn't try to replicate it exactly with all the jewelry and same dress. It's just unbearably creepy to me. Not even the asshole stuff- yes, yes, for sure. No one is going to argue that he's an asshole and that's the meat and bones of the story. But it comes with a layer of some sort of slime.
@@loosilu the bride either knew and was petty and wanted to replace her in every way or maybe he got his family to lie that the dress was his mom's and they were his family heirlooms. Though she'd be an idiot to fall for the dress lie, if it's a modern dress and the parents got married in the 80s lol
Adam blaming the colleague for ruining his wedding is like my ex blaming me for "putting him in prison" when he tried to strangle me lmao he absolutely refused to hear me when I said actions 👏🏼 have 👏🏼 consequences 👏🏼
“I’m here for the pettiness.” Not petty, we are talking about heirlooms. Mary could not have picked another time to reclaim her items. They could have been sold right after the wedding. She did the right thing. Also, if I were the new wife, I’d want to know I just married a thief. At the very least I’d lock up al my valuables.
OMG, just saw the first one. NTA, 1000%. That ex deserved exactly what he got. Like you said, there's a good chance he didn't tell his new wife the truth and lied that it was HIS family heirlooms. I don't know what country that was, but that was epic.
“Natural Consequences”; Get mad and throw the phone at the wall, next time you need to make a call you don’t have a phone. Regularly get in arguments with your neighbors, suddenly it feels like you live in isolation because no one wants to talk to you. Steal someone’s stuff and publicly advertise it at your wedding, get arrested at your own wedding. Common sense is shockingly uncommon…
I support both the coworker and Mary. They stole her (presumably valuable) stuff she was right to call the cops. Also what kind of PSYCHO steals his ex wife's wedding dress to put his new fiance in? Like just, why?!
The "2 years anniversary" girl sounds like an entitled brat to me. Really, girl, you need time to process that your friend will get married the same day you met your bf ? And that the bride "is doing that to her" ? Not everything is revolving around you sweetie...
Exactly. No first date date or day when they agreed being exclusive or got engaged. Day she met her bf. I do feel bad i don't remember such date with my husband so i could flip. We met with mutual friends when we were 16/18 and ended up together 8 yrs later. All OP needs to do it to say friendship ends here, you are uninvited
We were invited to a wedding but the message said 'we also request since it is strictly formal wear you do not bring crutches, walkers or wheel chairs in your outfit. Like I said it is a strictly formal setting and we don't want anyone sticking out that isn't me (the bride) or groom.' Thing is pur mom needs a wheelchair and we have severe hip and knee injuries so crutches are needed for us.. Needless to say we aren't attending 😆 Edit: her dad uses a walking stick too...
@@16poetisa truly later on the bride got mad we didn't show up and when a very close relative passed for me they refused to show up to support. But a week after everything showed up in a wheelchair saying if -mom's name- doesn't have to walk she doesn't
Sounds like she didnt want her parents there, so she made this rule to exclude them without explicitly pointing it out. I didnt want my dad at my wedding (hes about as fatherly as a sperm donor and we had been NC for close to 2 decades at that point), so i just never sent him an invite.
"*Unity Milk* is a Norwegian-American heartland tradition where milk from dairy cows from both farms are poured together into an heirloom jar. The bride and groom sip from the jar in turn to symbolize the joining of not only the bride and groom, their families, and also both of their farms." I think that's very sweet.
Actually, the side chick knew where the stuff came from. She told the cheater she liked the stuff when they were hanging at the couples home in their bed. She knew he stole them because she asked for the items.
That's what I think. How else would the magically go missing when ex-wife moved out? I doubt he would have decided to hold them from her just because. Side chick liked them so he kept them for her.
So someone's BM was upset because the bride chose the same date that she MET her boyfriend? So now you have to avoid any date that any of your wedding party met, got engaged or married their partners.
Great minds think alike. Jeeze, I mean how people share various events on the same day? I'll be damned if I'm going put my mind through all that stress....
Not to mention the other date available was the Brides brother's birthday! I mean... if this happened to me (as in I am the bridesmaid and even on my anniversary) I would be totally cool with it and be like "I get to see my friend get married, be her bridesmaid and get free cake on a day that is already special to me? Are you kidding me? This is making it one of the best days ever! I am so excited!"
Or birthdays, or the anniversary of their first date, or of the time they shared a stick of gum, or went to see their favorite movie, or adopted their puppy...
Just to repeat myself - get rid of her! She is a selfish Drama Queen! She is not the bride's friend at all, she's been trying from the start to make her feel uncomfortable + guilty, it's been over a week... - Just say, 'When you never called me, I saw I'd put you in a bad position, I felt awful about it so I got someone else who is really excited to do it". She is just flashing negative energy everywhere. Nobody needs that.
I can't believe it, but I finally disagree with your analysis on a story!!! The last story where the bridesmaid throws a fit because the bride scheduled the wedding on the "two year anniversary of when the bridesmaid MET her boyfriend". Sorry, you don't need time to "process" that, especially when you tell another bridesmaid "what [the bride] DID TO YOU". She did nothing "to you". She scheduled the wedding for a day that is LITERALLY just a day in everyone else's life, and bridesmaid goes all bridezilla over it. "It's MY DAY!" because she MET HER BF on that day. I've been married 25 years, I love my wife dearly. Neither she nor I give half a flying fig about what day we MET. I cannot even tell you what day it was (I do know her birthday, our anniversary and even the day I proposed). But bridesmaid is in the wrong, bride is just worried about her friend who flipped the hell out over nothing.
Yaeah, I agree. The date has nothing to do with her and her anniversary. The bride has to find a date that works for her, her husband and their families. There are more than enough people she has to take into consideration. Thinking of the date her bridesmaid met her partner was the last thing on the bride's list for sure... She could chose not to attend if her anniversary is so important, but there is no reason to become dramatic.
I know right? It's not even her husband but a boyfriend that she can break up with anytime! I can guarantee that the BF has no clue about the day they met either.
@@potocatepetl True that. And if the bridesmaid wants to celebrate her anniversary alone with her partner apart from the wedding, there's nothing wrong with postponing the dinner or whatever she's having by one day or two.
struggling to remember the date i first met my husband also. i think it was the end of august. maybe the 26th? that's our eldest son's birthday so that would be cool but it was in 2004 i am not sure.
I wanna talk about the fact that person that ended the friendship was mad about a childfree wedding when their children were adults but also who brings a dog to a wedding
Yeah I noticed that too. Like, if your grandkids can’t go then I guess your kids can’t unless they get a babysitter. But you yourself can absolutely go
Honestly on that first story I’m super happy how the cops handled it. You know she had to know that was stolen items from his wife that she was involved in the affair with him during their marriage. They both got what they deserved.
The new wife TOTALLY knew the dress and heirlooms were his ex's! You're telling me that she cheated with him and never saw a wedding picture? Ever? I don't GAF if he said it was his family's. Who would want to wear the same dress?! Plus, who would immediately get defensive instead of looking at the groom with WTF eyes? The chick absolutely knew.
That dog looks so proud of himself because not only did he wear white to the wedding, but he also managed to photobomb the bride and groom. Well done. Good boy!
When I hear about people’s reasons for being “devastated” and it being the end of the world for them when someone gets a tattoo or hair color or they painted their nails the wrong color … UGH! Can you imagine that being your biggest issue?! My father in law was fine a month ago then found out he has a very aggressive terminal brain cancer and hasn’t left the hospital since. The attempt to remove the tumor left him with a TBI and he hasn’t said more than a few words since. He is now being sent home on hospice and maybe has a few days left. THAT is something to be devastated about. People have actual, real life issues. How lucky they are for a tattoo to be what they’re crying over. 😣
That last pic with the dog was so dang cute!!! Biggest grin ever...He was happy!!! I would not mind seeing such a happy dog in my wedding pics. Just more joy and love
The wedding rules seemed fine to me. I think people got upset because of the "if you didn't get invited, you're not welcome bit", but fuck them. Weddings are expensive, and no one owes you a free party.
True, true, true. My older brother had his second wedding and I got to be a groomsman. I had to pay for my own stuff, and it was expensive. Luckily I'd saved up enough to be there. I didn't get to be in his first wedding because of his ex-wife, but I still don't have the specifics on that.
The wedding rules are all extremely reasonable. I'm thinking that the bridesmaids are all gay was more just to let people know so there aren't any issues not like an actual requirement. At least I hope because that's a weird one but to each their own. It's not like it's a rule that is harmful, mean, rude, etc to anyone. I actually really liked some of the rules. Like the encouragement to get drunk but a reminder not to drive and to treat the vendors as guests. My brother and sister in law don't make a ton of money but they're very good about saving money. They were able to pay for a nice wedding and reception but the seating was very limited (80 max). Both sides have very large families that live within a couple hours driving distance (100+ each) and they're close to the majority. You can image how hard it was to try and pick who could come. My cousin told her mom (who no one is close to for a ton of reasons I won't list) the wedding details. Her mom and husband then decide to show up not even dressed appropriately. Thankfully one couple had an emergency and they took their seats instead. All I know is that she was lucky that my sil decided to just let it go instead of having drama because I was about to flip my shit on them. Weddings are expensive and everything is planned out to the t. Extra seats are not a thing. Extra food is typically not a thing. It's also down right rude. I would say people need to be more respectful about this fact but obviously the people who just show up have no respect for anyone.
At my wedding, 20 years ago (and still married with 4 kids), everyone could come to the ceremony and the party, it's only for the food that we had a limit, because we are not rich and food can get expensive. But church and venue were the same price regardless of number of people. We had people come only to the ceremony and some who had to work and arrived only for the party after the supper. Supper was only for families and friends and close people from our churches, and even then we had over 100 people (it's what happens when you have large families).
"Actions have consequences. Say it with me" - the potato queen's edict . If there is only one piece of advice I have to take from Charlotte's videos , it is this . It actually reminds me of another quote by Brian Ruckley "choice is empty in the absence of consequence " .
I usually don't disagree with Charlotte, but that second last one? I totally disagree. The MOH made a big deal over the anniversary of her *meeting* her boyfriend, not being together, or her boyfriend's birthday, but the anniversary of when they met. The MOH blew things out of proportion, and not only that, but lied to other people and tried to make it a bigger deal. The bride said "the wedding can either be this day that has no significant meaning to me, or it could be on my brother's birthday, which would make him feel like he doesn't matter to me" so the bride chose the less significant day. The MOH said "that's the anniversary of when I met my boyfriend, how could you be so inconsiderate?!?!!!??? I need time away from you!!!!!11!!!!!" So, yeah. The MOH is in the wrong.
Also I wouldn't see a problem if you get married on someone else wedding anniversary or birthday. I can understand why you don't want to marry on a very close family members birthday though. There is 365 days a year which are shared by 7.9 billion people. Crossovers are inevitable.
Maybe the MOH is mad because she's hoping her boyfriend will propose on the anniversary of them meeting? Don't think the bride-to-be has done anything wrong though, she chose a date that she and her fiancé could do that didn't clash with any significant date in either of their families. Brother's birthday comes above MOH meeting her boyfriend IMO.
Agree. Meeting a boyfriend isn't as significant as a family members birthday. Also, the MOH tried using the "I'm disappointed in you" tactic to try and see if the bride will change the date. Bride did nothing wrong. And personally, if someone I thought a friend acted that way about my wedding date, I'd tell them that if it upset them so much that they could just not attend. That although to her (the MOH)meeting her bf is significant, that it did not hold more then her (dride) brothers bday. And that of the 2 dates she had to choose from she chose the one that fit best.
The wedding rules one where is says, "all bridesmaids are 🌈" might be a heads up for males guests who tend to hit on everything that moves. In other words, "Don't hit on my bridesmaids." We had two men like that at our wedding and we made sure to basically tell them to leave my bridesmaids alone.
For the second one, in a video she explained her rules. The whole "bridesmaids are all 🌈" thing is just that all the bridesmaids she picked just so happened to be part of the lgbtq+ community. So less of a rule than just a coincidence. The one about her mom having say over everything, her mom had thrown her parties in hee past so she knows that she has good taste and can handle everything so instead of being stressed on the wedding say shes pretty much letting her mom have control over decorations and such so she can just relax and get ready instead of worrying about every little detail. For the open bar, she wants people to take advantage of it since they are paying a lot for it. But then she also wants them to be responsible so she got permission from the venue for people to leave their cars there over night so no one drinks and drives. The way she worded some of the rules makes them seem weird without context but honestly all her rules are 100% understandable and not at all out there. They are all pretty tame in terms of weddings honestly.
The context actually does help. But honestly, I really don't understand why someone thought that list was taking "it to the next level". Nothing I read seemed malicious or entitled, just maybe not overly clear. Whoever took the screenshot and added the outer text was really reaching if they were intending it to be an example of a bridezilla.
Me neither. Some I actually found really sweet like that the vendors are gonna be treated like guests if they're taking a break. I think something like this should be obvious but knowing humans... Nah, better make it a rule everyone is made aware of.
@@demiguise6208 yeah she specifically said that if the staff is on a break they are aloud to eat and dance and even drink as long as they don't get drunk during their shift and that she didn't want to hear any of her guests saying anything to them or being rude about it. I seriously don't understand the type of brides/grooms that refuse to let the staff have any food breaks or anything. Like they are going to be there for HOURS and you won't let them eat anything or have breaks? Especially the ones where they wont even let them eat food that they bring 😫 pretty much all jobs are required to give lunch breaks, it should be no different for the staff at weddings 🙄
That's amazing and a cool way to "hide" a tattoo! I do understand though if the bride doesn't want anyone to stand out too much. I also don't think a tattoo is a big deal. I'm on the fence about it, lol.
Everyone: There is this awesome stuff that hides tattoos and imperfections, aka no need to ruin ANYONE'S wedding. :Joan Rivers Beauty-The Right to Bare Legs Corrective Cover Up Makeup.
The one about the bride possibly getting married on her friend's "anniversary" is not a bridezilla. She may have chosen between those two days for reasons that had nothing to do with the friend or her brother. Those may have been the only days the venue she wanted was available. Who knows? I think the friend needs to chill.
Yeah I agree, the girl needs to chillax. The friend isn’t entitled to a whole day just bc she met her bf that day. What would the friend be, a bridesmaidzilla?
I don't get why someone would be upset about a friend marrying on the day they met their so. Maybe I'm just not a romantic person but I wouldn't mind having dinner or whatever with my bf a day later to attend my friends wedding
@@juliarunn5009 Get rid of her now! That is NOT a friend. She is going to be a problem the whole time, it's always going to be about her. A "meeting" anniversary date is not a thing after the first year except to narcissists - is she seriously considering abandoning her 'friend' for something so stupid as a dinner out with the BF? ( plenty of romance and dinner at that wedding by the way...). It's been a week now with no answer. If she agrees now, her participation will be grudgingly at best. Dump her, dump her, dump her.
I completely agree. I’m sorry, but an anniversary is not a huge deal - and definitely not worth getting mad at your friend over. I personally think it would be fun to go with my boyfriend to a wedding on our anniversary. Free food and alcohol! Also, you don’t HAVE to celebrate the day of. We postponed our anniversary last year because it was a week day and we preferred to celebrate on the weekend. Amazingly, we’re still alive and in a relationship today!
13:42 C'mon she's a super sweet bride. She has given free leash on bridesmaid dresses, open bar, vendors to be treated as guests and I think she meant that bridesmaids have to be all acceptant of the PRIDE. She's going outta her way to be accommodating. And if you're not invited, it always means you're not welcome.
DEFINITELY NO KIDS @ wedding! I made the mistake of letting a few kids of my ex-hubby's family attend. They let their kids run wild during the whole event. I had a photographer for the main wedding photos. I also had disposable cameras on each table for guest to take pictures of their own experience. To catch moments the photographer might not see. However, the kids immediately grabbed ALL of 13 cameras. They proceeded to take pics of nothing, them pissing on everything, & other vulgar events. They ran around the dance floor so much that guests stopped dancing. They also trashed a lot of decor & food. I didn't realize what all they had done. Until I paid for photos. The cost of the cameras & the awful pic development was about $350. I was embarrassed when realized that the boys had gone all over my gorgeous venue to piss on stiff. I realized why the facility wanted us out so promptly. I was furious that his family let this happen. I had always treated them with kindness. I'd NEVER invite kids to a wedding again!
I'm so, so sorry you had to go through this. What I want to know is where the F*** were the parents. That's absolutely unacceptable and the least they could do to demonstrate a shred of decency is compensate you for the photos AT LEAST.
Ugh!!! Im so sorry for you Hon! I can't stand kids and the entitled pos parents that raise them to also be entitled pos! I agree, NO kids at a wedding!!! They ruin everything! It's a WEDDING not a child's bday
Soooo, I’m assuming the bridesmaids were already picked and gay before this was penned, and she’s just letting the fellas know that they aren’t gonna be down for hooking up in the broom closet, but it’s fun to imagine that NONE of them are gay, and she’s made a game out of picking her bridesmaids. Called “How far will my friends go to be in my wedding”
In a video she made explaining the list, it's not really even a rule. All the bridesmaids that she picked just so happened to all be apart of the lgbtq+ community so it was more or less a happy accident. Don't know why she added it to the rules though since it wasn't like a qualification to be chosen or something, its something she realized AFTER she picked them out.
@Neil What if all the gay bridesmaids hook up and mess up their hair and makeup?? 😂 I'm not sure what the rainbow symbol would mean exactly, I would consider it to mean anyone on the LGBTQIA spectrum. I'm one of those letters, and not a lesbian. I'm the least likely person to ever hook up with anyone!
I was the flower girl at my “big sister’s” wedding in 1958. I was 5, and Mary was 21. My mom made me a hand smocked blue dress (redhead alert, the bride and my Mom too) but I have a clear memory of the bride’s and bride’s maids dresses. They were styled similarly to the photo you presented, but no polkadots nor floppy hats. Signs of the times. I’m 68 and Mary is 84 now!
In regards to the “unity milk”. In case anyone had to google it like I did….it’s way weirder than we thought. "Unity milk is a beautiful practice with a lot of symbolism. The bride first sips the milk, kisses the groom, and the groom sucks the milk from the bride's mouth. This practice is analogous to breast feeding. It symbolizes the bride becoming the new maternal figure, meaning the groom can leave the old one behind."
OMG, I actually thought it was like the sharing of the cup of wine during a Catholic wedding, but for people who abstain from alcohol. I was thinking, "yeah, that's cool". Your explanation just made it horrifying.
How was she wrong when he straight up robbed his ex wife, and like other's said, he probably told his new wife a hot lie? She called the cops was the right thing! Those heirlooms we're rightfully hers, and his punk ass knew that, but giving it his new wife was straight up trifling!
I’m not vegan and have no intention of ever becoming one, but that “vegan option” at 8:15 is just insulting to people who are. At least give them a decently made, decently-sized salad option if the caterers don’t know how to make other vegan dishes! That plate wouldn’t even count as a decent appetizer, and I guarantee it’s just the kitchen scraps.
@@happychaosofthenorth (joking tone) shhhhhh we cant use vegan anymore as some rather vulgar personality people have smeared its good name. now we just go with meat challenged. but in all seriousness........ if they do a sign up for an amount of vegan meals before hand and prepare enough for a couple extra plates (god knows some dramatic asshat is gonna suddenly become vegan just to argue and cause drama) it isnt any more expensive than the more traditional meals cost and barely changes the wedding budget.............
They could also offer anything that is not a salad. I am a vegetarian and I never eat salad. 🤷🏻♀️ So many options possible for vegans. So much disrespect and ignorance at that wedding.
The second story (I think) is spot on. The requests are very reasonable and the one about treating the staff like guests when they go on break is great. Wish more people would follow that rule.
That last one....what a dog to crash the wedding photos! Lol so adorable! I would so want my dog to smile like that and my dog would look at me like I just smoked some wacky tabaccy!
First of all the friend seen her wedding pictures in the home. If they cheated then chances are the AP seen the pictures before the wedding when she was at the house and wanted the dress and the heirlooms. The mistress knew!!! I need an update on this story!!!
I'm believe the new wife knew about the stolen dress/heirlooms because she wasn't surprised, shocked or dumbfounded when the police asked her to take it off. Instead, she started to argue with them, refusing to take it off.
To be fair, she may have been arguing because she didn't believe it, because the husband had told her another BS story about them, and thought the ex was lying just to ruin her day. But then again, she did get married to the person she was cheating with, so clearly not a good person, so could have just as likely known... Either way the cheaters got their just karma, haha...
My ex-husband left a copy of my engagement ring and took it to give his new fiancé she was too bug for my dress but I knew they had pulled it out bc the box was open and seal broken. Called the cops but bc we were mad divorce and assets had not been assigned he didn't get jail time she refused to relinquish the ring so he had to reimburse me for the value of the ring
@Neil he is both but I'm convinced she saw the photos at his moms and he told her how my family got him an insane deal on a platinum diamond ring with sapphire accents and she wanted it
@Neil she tried to get my son from school unauthorized complained that I kept the last name and there should only be 1 mrs.xxxx. was pisses when we sold the house since neither of us could buy out the other and when I took back all the swanky stuff I had bought. He had been flexing like he had $$ when it was me. She put in his head to ask for spousal support. The judge awarded me primary custody child support and spousal support and a protective order against her for my son
@Neil she's a Karen for sure so spousal support normally wouldn't have been awarded to him as he didn't get possession of our son and had a job where as he had made me quit and we were living on my savings I was a stay at home mom so I had more asset but no income. Also. I caught them bare butt in the house in the bed I bought having sex
I mean, I guess you'd be surprised... The unwillingness to spend money on expensive dresses or jewels is strong in this day and age. On one hand, I can't say I blame them. On the other hand, it was stolen and I can't condone that. Get your own dress, I'm sure there are people selling them on facebook or cragislist if you're so desperate, lmao.
I'm having a hard time believing she didn't know the dress didn't belong to Mary. The jewelry, maybe he lied about that, but what story could he possibly give for conveniently having a entire wedding dress at his disposal?
@@6thgraderfriends Yeah, I feel that. What I think could happen and what I think happened are two different stories, and I definitely believe the new wife knew the stuff belonged to the ex-wife. There are some strange possibilities though.
I was actually surprised at your second- last ruling. I mean, someone having a wedding on the same date as a friend's anniversary with her boyfriend seems like no big deal to me. Is that just me? They could basically enjoy a free party on their anniversary, the bride could give them a cute shout-out in the speeches to acknowledge the shared special day. The friend being upset with it reminds me of a really manipulative friend I once had in high school who would freak at her friends and boyfriend not upholding the random days she decided were important (ex- threatening to break up with her boyfriend because he didn't get her a gift for their half year anniversary, when they had been together for three years and never celebrated it in the past). Those freak- outs were always secretly code for her being mad that we didn't let her control some unrelated part of our life, and she wanted to make us pay. Maybe context is important here...like maybe the friend already had other anniversary plans or just is one of those people for whom anniversaries are a big deal, or doesn't have that manipulative history. But it sounds like an emotionally manipulative friend to me, and I bet there's more to this story. I'm actually hoping the bride took the easy out from that friendship. (Edit- I had said last ruling, but meant second-last)
I agree and I also think it's interesting it was phrased as an anniversary of the "day they met" and not just their anniversary or the anniversary of the day they started dating or anything like that.
my question to this butt hurt friend: How old are you again? If you are anything but middle school aged, you are being ridiculous. It's the "anniversary" of the day you met your current boyfriend. Come on!! I also hope this bride took a perfect opportunity to say, peace out!
the first one turned around real quick... lol. Mary was a G for that! haha and the friend did exactly what she was supposed to do and tell Mary. GO MARY!
Funnily enough, I have a different feeling about the one with the bridesmaid's anniversary. I feel like the bridesmaid is a bit dramatic. Choosing a wedding date comes with a lot of considerations. Idk why is it a problem that it happens the same day as the bridesmaid's anniversary. Why is it an issue. She can celebrate with her bf before or later. And sulking during a week? Imo they're both immature
I interpreted “bridesmaids are all gay” because the bride doesn’t want any male guests to hit on her bridesmaids at her reception. Lesbians having to deal with turning down straight men is a common issue and can be stressful as it occasionally be a dangerous situation. Might be wrong, that was just my take.
While I was an assistant wedding planner years ago, the 4th of July wedding we were doing ended in a massive fight. The bride and baby mama were fist fighting in the bushes, the bridal party was all in smaller fights off to the side, it was insane. At that point, one of my co-workers came and got me and said "get in the car now, we are all leaving, this has gotten out of hand" and so we all loaded up and left. We had to go back later that night to finish cleaning up the venue but as a wedding vendor, if you feel unsafe, I would say you are absolutely allowed to leave.
So, I’ve decided to make it public that I would like to see a Charlotte and Kalmekris reaction colab. Is that weird? I don’t think so. I love them both. They both make my days better. And they both seem super duper fun! 😍
Regarding the next-to-last: At first I thought BF was objecting to OP having her wedding on the same date she had had hers, then I realized it was only the day BF and her fiancé MET. OP may be a little over-anxious, but I think BF is a slight A for over-possessiveness.
Maybe it's because I have been married for over a decade but I wouldn't be the slightest bit upset if my friend got married on my anniversary. There are only so many Saturdays in June.
@@top0o.628 well hubby and I celebrate the day we met, just as a silly excuse to have a night out. We don’t take it seriously, it’s just a fun “anniversary” that even our kids get behind.
I'm on the side with the bride for that one. I understand anniversary are really special to a lot of people but couldn't the friend just plan a special date to celebrate another day? There is a lot of planning and coordination with dates when it comes to weddings..
It's possible, but I also think her not knowing was possible too. We already know Adam was a cheater and a liar. Who says he didn't just tell her it was his mother's or grandmother's stuff?
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x yea but when the cops showed up she shouldn't have argued. that looks suspicious. she should have taken it off immediately, called the woman to apologize, and partied at her own reception as a single girl. I'd have let them drag him away not me too if I didn't know.
@@FeatherstoneApothecary I dunno. I mean, I definitely understand that she should have acknowledged something was wrong. But during weddings, I know some people can get bullheaded, so it's possible she wanted them to just leave until the wedding was over. Either way, I'm not condoning it. I just know how people get during important days of their lives.
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x yea true. it's just looking at it all she was selfish and if she still wanted to go through with it she actually could have. she could've changed and still had her day. what kind of person would go through with it knowing stuff was stolen? not a very high class one.
As to the wedding on the day someone met their boyfriend. I can honestly say I would never remember the date I met my husband if it wasn't on Halloween... I would never remember when we got engaged if it hadn't been on another holiday. I have huge trouble remembering our wedding day just because it is not tied to anything else so I would just be glad if someone else also got married then.
12:43 the OP is right. Her "friend " is mad because that's her anniversary with her boyfriend. So what? Why can't they share the date? It has nothing to do with the bridesmaid, she's wrong.
3:12 and I'm already seeing red. Leave it to Adam. Throws eve under the bus in Genesis(it's the womans fault , you made her!) and now he steals Mary's dress and heirlooms. I'd kick him out of the garden, to the curb, and never trust any man named Adam EVER again. At least the snake was making a decent offer.
re: The photographer at the fight wedding, dude, I'd have photo'd the hell out of that fight and charged them extra! Maybe given them a slideshow of the thing as a wedding gift. I dunno, but like, I'd have memorialized that for them. 😄😆😄
or as proof to give to the lawyers during the child custody fight and/or divorce. Maybe no divorce just an annulment since it appears the marriage will be over before the ink dries on the marriage license
for the first one i'd gone the extra mile and say "what's stopping you from stealing things at work? you already have a criminal record!" and ruined the guy's reputation at the office, just for having the audacity of blaming it on me...
Imaging stealing from your ex, inviting her friend to your new wedding where you fully deck out your new bride in your ex's stolen items, and thinking that would EVER go down quietly. The grooms an AH and apparently as sharp as an 8-ball.
Might wanna listen to that again lol.. The ex wife wasnt invited to the wedding.. Her old coworker went recognized the dress and sent the ex wife a picture lol.. I dont think the groom would be that stupid to invite her after stealing her heirlooms and giving it to his new bride.. Lol
@@bethlamb3286 but the post is correct. It says exactly what you are saying. "Stealing from ex then inviting her friend to the wedding". So they (and you) heard it correctly - the friend was invited not the ex-wife.
Makes it worse that the new wife was the side chick in the first marriage. Man married the one he cheated with. Side chick knew about the stolen items. She liked the dress and jewelry, she just didn’t care that it was stolen from the first wife and they were too cheap to buy new items/dress for their wedding. So no one was innocent except op and their friend, first wife. Wouldn't be surprised if op was the only one to notice and tell their friend. Didn't seem like anyone else noticed or cared to tell the ex.
My ex stole one of my diamond earrings given by my brother as a wedding gift, at that time he was having an affair. Now I am left with one earring. I don't even know what to do with it.
We have friends that got married on our 5 year wedding anniversary and yes we went to the wedding and we didn't care we thought it was cool to share an anniversary date with our friends who we love and never once did I ever think to get upset about it. I'm always so bewildered when people get mad about things like this, I don't understand lol.
My dad got so mad when I told him when we were getting married. It was the only day that matched up with the days my husband could get off work and the officiant had. He didn’t come to the wedding. He just died 3 weeks ago and our 21st wedding anniversary is coming up and it’s going to be a ball of emotions 😳
I wonder how many other days this bridesmaid would want ruled out because of her own life. Her birthday? A different anniversary? Her BF's birthday? Picking a wedding date is fricking hard and it sounds like the bride was between a rock and a hard place. Also I thought anniversaries were usually more of your first date. Not the day you met. How many people remember the exact date they met someone?
"The anniversary of the day she and her BF met." THE ANNIVERSARY. Of the DAY THEY MET. Madness. Bridesmaid needs to get over herself. Girl's not even engaged. "I need time to process." Puh-leeeeze!
I think the "bridesmaids are all 🌈" rule may have meant "men aren't allowed to hit on the bridesmaids because it'll make them uncomfortable", which is totally fair
@@VodkaMutini413 Really? The rainbow doesn't belong to LGBTQIA+ folks, however it has a strong association with the community, and has for many years:) Most times if you see a rainbow in someone's profile or someone representing themselves with a rainbow, chances are they're a part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Not a 100% rule, but its very common :) Hope this helps :)
@@VodkaMutini413 No worries. I wasn't trying to be snarky:) I was genuinely surprised bc its a generally a well known fact...for most folks anyway :) Take care
Always put a "behavior" clause in the contract. I learned this from an old timer years ago. "If any person at event engages in behavior that can be interpreted, by me, as criminal conduct nullifies contract. *All payments already transferred are forfeited." 🙂
Ohmaghad! It’s one freaking day! Guests know months in advance that weddings are child free. Get a damn sitter! So tired of selfish, entitled, parents who are so obsessed with their children that they can’t leave them for one second! Ugh. Also, that dude who stole his exes heirloom’s got what he deserved!
I agree with that actually. I am tattooed, as are both my daughters. My eldest daughter got married a couple of months ago, and all tattoos were on show, however, if a bride had a bridesmaid who didn't have tattoos previously, and didn't want a tattooed bridesmaid at her wedding, she definitely could have waited until AFTER the wedding!
If I had to choose between an anniversary with a boyfriend and a close friends wedding I wouldn't need time to process. I would easily choose the wedding its not that deep. Some people are so extra.
That first is definitely NTA! It's like you said; ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. If you don't wanna get arrested for theft on your wedding day? 1.(and most important one) DON'T STEAL; and 2. don't show what you stole off on another woman's body in front of all your friends, family, co-workers, and other guests at your wedding. Stealing her heirlooms alone makes him a d-bag; but this guy took it to a whole other level putting his d-baggery on full display and then boo-hooing/complaining about getting ANY backlash for it, legal OR otherwise.
The stolen dress and heirlooms story reminds me of what happened in high school. Some lady stole this lady’s everyday clothes from her gym locker when she was in gym class. Then the moron proceeded to wear everything she stole the next day and was caught minutes after entering the school.
I was trying to understand the friend's OTT reaction to the wedding falling on her 2 year anniversary, and the only thing I could come up with that was even *close* to making sense(!) was that maybe she was expecting her boyfriend to propose to her on that date or something, and feels the bride-to-be "should" have somehow known that, whether explicitly or just through inference (though my money would be on the latter!) - like, perhaps it was something that had happened in their family or friendship circle, or how it had always been this big romantic dream of hers, that she may or may not have actually confided? But whatever the exact reasoning behind her fit of pique, it's probably safe to say that it's the good ol' green-eyed monster behind it all - that she's jealous it's not *her* getting married, especially if the happy couple haven't been together for as long... what do you guys think?
My husband and I went to a wedding yesterday. We couldn't take our son even though there were other kids there. The other kids were the bride and grooms son and their nieces and nephews. Were we bothered we couldn't take our son? No. We had the same thing at our wedding - only kids were my son and my god children. Enjoy the day off! Or don't go! People overreact so much.
Why do people get so pissy over weddings. If it says child free and dog free, there is nothing wrong with that. Either get a babysitter or don't go, but don't get so nasty. I just don't understand it. It's about the bride and groom and that all, folks.
Thrilled that seventeen years ago, my husband and I got married at the courthouse, with our whole audience being full of folks just waiting for traffic court! It was lovely 🌹 AND stress-free!
And you probably gave the other folks a few moments of happiness before having to deal with traffic court! ❤️ P.S, we got married in our living room with a few friends and family members.
Charlotte will be a beautiful bride someday. I wish her lots of love and happiness. Thank you for this amazing channel that makes my day so much more funnier. ❤️
True! And her spouse will be a very lucky person to have her, even if she wasn't so beautiful on the outside...funny, smart, talented, adorable, sweet...and so much more!
I solved this problem by taking my wedding dress I'd saved for 28 years, and any wedding pictures without my family in them, piling it all on a tree stump in the back yard and burning it. Hurt like heck but put me on the road to getting over it all.
I think the "rule" that all bridesmaids are queer 🌈 means that there's no place for someone to try a "bridesmaid hook-up" if they're not queer as well. 😅 It's like a disclaimer that they will not be interested, even if they aren't in a relationship. 🙈
8:23 The one that says no kids at the wedding..... the friend/guest was not bringing "kids". Her children were 18 and 23. They are adults not kids. However, taking a DOG to the wedding is completely out of line so either way she's wrong for that alone!
It did mention grandkids, too. Still, I imagine that because of the party count, kids was meant to imply anyone that you have given birth to as well as underaged actual kids. I don't think it's that unreasonable, especially if it's something that was pre-established or established post-pandemic. If there's no space and she's being told before hand, then there's no space.
but the adult "kids" were also not invited. Guestiepoo was trying so hard to get her grown kids an invite by claiming them to be the underage "children" that were not invited. Strangely enough the bride probably would have had WAY fewer problems if allowing only people under 13 to the wedding and avoiding this woman and her tantrum. The kiddos would have been much better behaved even if they were running around, yelling and throwing cake than the adult throwing the tantrum
In my country kids/children-free weddings are pretty much the norm….the actual ceremony may have a child or two who bring the rings or shed flower on the floor in front of the bride, but besides them almost nobody will put a child through the (let’s be honest) gruesome _exercise of withstanding boredom_ known as wedding ceremony and meal. 😂🥰
I loved weddings as a child! And large family gatherings, funerals... And whatever other excuse there was to have a large delicious meal with several courses at a restaurant. 😅 But well, I was also abnormally patient as a child and capable of staying still and silent for a long time. A little bit of boredom for the promise of food? No problem.
@@indigoeye3874 Wedding meals in my country involve 4-5 courses - wedding cake not included - all served at the table and most of them made with ingredients childrens don’t like, eat or even know. Between that, the 1h+ long ceremony, the wedding church photos, the wait between each dish and the fact there aren’t many if any other kids to play with, children are bound to get bored no matter the food. That’s why it’s rare for kids to attend weddings which tend to end up being child-free - it’s never a deliberate choice of the bride or groom, though, just a sort of “common sense” people here in my country apply. xD
ok so if the fiancée didn't know they were stolen why did she argue with the cops? I would've taken the dress off immediately, called the ex to apologize, and then partied at the reception. single! something ain't right about the reaction.
Is it just me or did they ask her to take of her clothes in front of everyone? That would be so embarrassing. If she didn’t know she would be confused and questioning why they were asking her to remove her dress. 🤷🏻♀️
I don't know, if I was getting married and then suddenly the police showed up telling me to strip immediately because my groom stole all those things, I would probably be too confused and disbelieving to function.
@@indigoeye3874 oh I'd be upset for sure. but I'm not wasting money, wasting other people's time, and getting locked up for someon else's bullshit. if I ever get locked up it better mean my kids were in danger or it's not worth it. you know she was probably warned to keep her mouth shut or she was going to jail and she kept on going.
@@FeatherstoneApothecary based on what they were saying they asked her while they were at the alter. They may have asked her to this because they thought she could hide something in the bathroom. 🤷🏻♀️
My ex-fiance gave me his paternal grandmother’s wedding ring for our engagement. I absolutely loved it and wore it proudly. When our engagement ended, I returned the ring. I hope whomever wears it next, loves it as much as I did. I hope they don’t manipulate it nor change the diamond. It was small but fit the wide, gold band perfectly. I miss that ring. It was the only gold ring I had. For my upcoming birthday, I’m going to buy myself a simple gold cigar band ring, no diamond.
I got married this past summer and, due to COVID restrictions, we really had to do a complete 180 with our original plan and scale back our guestlist dramatically. This meant cutting a lot of people and making it a child free wedding. I honestly feel so lucky and grateful that everyone was so understanding and empathetic. That poor couple having to defend their choice. I'm sure it was already difficult enough to make that decision and having a friend make you feel even worse?! The bride is lucky to not have that person in her life anymore!
Thanks I don't know how my story got here but ya covid has mad so we had to change venues a few time now we finally got thing set how ever we can only have 48 people told in the chapel for the ceremony we even have a sitter how can wach the kid next door at the park for the ceremony and have a set of activities for them at the reception it just these where even kid really plus it would have been 8 extra people I really hate that this was the last straw that broke our friendship I really did think she was a good friend
Unity milk! When you do a round of musical cow milking (like musical chairs) and when the cows are milked dry, the bride and groom chug said milk and once done, they do the Macarena and yell "UNITY!" Note : I have no idea what "unity milk" is so dont take seriously 🤣
I googled "unity milk" in the hopes of finding out what it is, exactly. I found the bride's explanation, which didn't fully explain it, but she basically said it was like "unity sand," where the couple pours different colored sands into a jar together to symbolize their union. She and her groom had poured two different milks together... and drank it, I guess? I actually like your version better.
I laughed thinking unity milk is what you will have from now on if you both drink from the container. A unity of germs through marriage! And if it is like the unity sand......I could only think of my friend that did that and her divorce 3 years later....I think they should have to separate the colored sand bits to be able to divorce. Apparently they knew on their wedding day that they shouldn't have gotten married. What was the big unity if it wasn't so important?!?!
@@user-jy3zl2vp4b yoooo, for real? I think they should have to separate all the colored sand BEFORE getting married, that way you know its gonna take a minute to give them time to think it through cause so many people reeeeeeeally need to minute to realize "wait...this person sucks huge donkey balls..." and dip the hell out
I would not call it Petty at all for the friend to have send the photos to the first bride, it is called doing the right thing and standing up for your friend! I know that this is extremely rare these days because no one wants to “stick their neck out” and be the bad guy, but the larger picture has nothing to do with you. I wish more people would consider this concept.
The pics of the 60s/70s era bridal gown was hilarious reminded me of my dad and stepmom wedding..us four girls were dressed as brides maids lol. Thankfully she had some taste and we didn't end up with yellow polka dont's lol 😁😁🤣🤣
For our wedding, my husband and I washed each other's feet instead of a unity ceremony. It is a representation of how we choose to serve each other like how Jesus washed the disciples' feet. Kind of different, but as a wedding photographer, I've seen it done a few times. One time the couple had an antique pitcher & bowl- someone forgot to fill the pitcher, so they just went through the actions and laughed the whole time.
Okay, for the post at 12:48, let's not forget, it was the 2 year Anniversary for this woman with her BOYFRIEND... not husband. Seriously?! She needs an Anniversary for herself & her boyfriend? *SMH.*
I'm guessing that the "rule" that said bridesmaids are all lgbtq + is more for information so guys don't bug the hell out of them during the reception.
Absolutely love the editing on the first story! Miss Charlotte as Bonnie and in La Coeur de la Mer diamond is 😚🤌 (chef’s kiss). Well done Potato Court, well done!
11:43, I mean I am actually a MOH for my sister, and we are planning all of the wedding stuff. I mean I have waited almost a year and half to get a this tattoo I want.. I don't want to cause my sister any more stress, so I haven't even mentioned it to her, and decided to wait until the weekend after the wedding to go get it done. As the MOH, and as a sister in general, it's your job to help minimize the stress that your sister/bride is going through, not add too it. I mean there is always the option of covering it up with makeup but sometimes that doesn't work as well as you want it too. Plus knowing what your dress is, and knowing it may be something that stress out your bride, why not just wait. like yea it's your body and stuff, but like if you have waited so long why not wait a few more months just to make things simpler. I mean like it would be different if she was acting like that bc you already had tattoos, but throwing that on her ( on what sounds like last minutes) just isn't nice. I'm not saying she should have asked permission, but a heads up or at least a conversation about it, would have been the right thing here.
I'm right with you on discussing it with the bride first. I definitely understand if the bride doesn't want anyone else to stand out too much. If you're a considerate friend, it's worth discussing first.
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x Yea I am mean, I just remember how honored and loved I felt to be picked as the MOH. And I would hate for anything I do to cause my sister more stress ya know. Communitcation is the key to being considerate ya know.
theres no way the bride didnt know!! so adam just has a spare wedding dress and matching jewelry and the new bride goes "great, yeah i totally didnt feel like going wedding dress shopping?!" YEAH RIGHT!
I attended a wedding where a fight broke out, the cops came and we left. It was my sister-in-law's side of the family. I still remember it to this day. I was a kid when this happened.
Stolen dress, stolen heirlooms, stolen Husband. Was there anything that wasn't stolen at that wedding?
Right?
I'll go with "a romantic moment in the back of the police car."
The police officers lol
Sort of a stolen guest too, since OP was friends with Mary first
Best comment!
That first story is also really creepy. Family heirlooms can be sweet, but reusing and replicating the look of your first bride with your second bride? Creepy!
Yeah doesn't seem like he is over Mary. And also an A hole for sure
Yeah, there's something else going on there. What did he tell her about the dress? He just happened to have one lying around?
You'd think that if there was a divorce and you dislike each other so much, that you wouldn't try to replicate it exactly with all the jewelry and same dress. It's just unbearably creepy to me.
Not even the asshole stuff- yes, yes, for sure. No one is going to argue that he's an asshole and that's the meat and bones of the story. But it comes with a layer of some sort of slime.
@@loosilu the bride either knew and was petty and wanted to replace her in every way or maybe he got his family to lie that the dress was his mom's and they were his family heirlooms. Though she'd be an idiot to fall for the dress lie, if it's a modern dress and the parents got married in the 80s lol
@@jessbeingme8155 Yeah, if it was just the jewelry I could believe she didn't know. But the dress is another thing entirely.
Adam blaming the colleague for ruining his wedding is like my ex blaming me for "putting him in prison" when he tried to strangle me lmao he absolutely refused to hear me when I said actions 👏🏼 have 👏🏼 consequences 👏🏼
You did great, babe
Holy shit I'm sorry that happened to you must've been terrifying. Hope he gets his salad tossed EVERY. DAY.
Omg that must havw bwen so scary. Glad you’re safe now ❤
Those wedding rules at 5:37 are some of the kindest I've ever seen... why were people making a drama out of this?
“I’m here for the pettiness.” Not petty, we are talking about heirlooms. Mary could not have picked another time to reclaim her items. They could have been sold right after the wedding. She did the right thing.
Also, if I were the new wife, I’d want to know I just married a thief. At the very least I’d lock up al my valuables.
Exactly what I was thinking.
This wasn't petty. It was completely right.
It's not petty if it's justice.
I was thinking this exact same thing. It's not pettiness. It's the right thing to do.
I think if you’re the photographer and there’s a fight it’s your duty to take lots of pictures of the fight and include them in the wedding album 🤣
Certainly, you probably won't get another opportunity soon. Just be careful if they start pulling knives or guns.
Or to submit as evidence…. IMO
OMG, just saw the first one. NTA, 1000%. That ex deserved exactly what he got. Like you said, there's a good chance he didn't tell his new wife the truth and lied that it was HIS family heirlooms. I don't know what country that was, but that was epic.
“Natural Consequences”; Get mad and throw the phone at the wall, next time you need to make a call you don’t have a phone. Regularly get in arguments with your neighbors, suddenly it feels like you live in isolation because no one wants to talk to you. Steal someone’s stuff and publicly advertise it at your wedding, get arrested at your own wedding. Common sense is shockingly uncommon…
I want to say it's Ireland. And YES, quite epic.
Omg I agreee!!!! That’s soooo gross ! Good for her for standing up for herself how can u be so gross after CHEATING!
She was not a asshole for having her friends back!!!!!!
I support both the coworker and Mary. They stole her (presumably valuable) stuff she was right to call the cops. Also what kind of PSYCHO steals his ex wife's wedding dress to put his new fiance in? Like just, why?!
The "2 years anniversary" girl sounds like an entitled brat to me.
Really, girl, you need time to process that your friend will get married the same day you met your bf ?
And that the bride "is doing that to her" ?
Not everything is revolving around you sweetie...
I think she is jealous. The only thing she needs to process is, that her boyfriend didn't propose to her yet and likely never will.
@@reberi 😄😆😄 so true !!!
Yes! Thank you!
Definite ✨main character✨ vibes
Exactly. No first date date or day when they agreed being exclusive or got engaged. Day she met her bf.
I do feel bad i don't remember such date with my husband so i could flip.
We met with mutual friends when we were 16/18 and ended up together 8 yrs later.
All OP needs to do it to say friendship ends here, you are uninvited
We were invited to a wedding but the message said 'we also request since it is strictly formal wear you do not bring crutches, walkers or wheel chairs in your outfit. Like I said it is a strictly formal setting and we don't want anyone sticking out that isn't me (the bride) or groom.' Thing is pur mom needs a wheelchair and we have severe hip and knee injuries so crutches are needed for us.. Needless to say we aren't attending 😆
Edit: her dad uses a walking stick too...
Mobility aids are medical devices, not attire... ugh some people
@@16poetisa truly later on the bride got mad we didn't show up and when a very close relative passed for me they refused to show up to support. But a week after everything showed up in a wheelchair saying if -mom's name- doesn't have to walk she doesn't
Sounds like she didnt want her parents there, so she made this rule to exclude them without explicitly pointing it out. I didnt want my dad at my wedding (hes about as fatherly as a sperm donor and we had been NC for close to 2 decades at that point), so i just never sent him an invite.
"*Unity Milk* is a Norwegian-American heartland tradition where milk from dairy cows from both farms are poured together into an heirloom jar. The bride and groom sip from the jar in turn to symbolize the joining of not only the bride and groom, their families, and also both of their farms." I think that's very sweet.
Actually, the side chick knew where the stuff came from. She told the cheater she liked the stuff when they were hanging at the couples home in their bed. She knew he stole them because she asked for the items.
That's what I think. How else would the magically go missing when ex-wife moved out? I doubt he would have decided to hold them from her just because. Side chick liked them so he kept them for her.
That makes sense. People are presuming innocence, and rightly so, until they get confirmation.
So someone's BM was upset because the bride chose the same date that she MET her boyfriend? So now you have to avoid any date that any of your wedding party met, got engaged or married their partners.
Great minds think alike.
Jeeze, I mean how people share various events on the same day? I'll be damned if I'm going put my mind through all that stress....
Not to mention the other date available was the Brides brother's birthday! I mean... if this happened to me (as in I am the bridesmaid and even on my anniversary) I would be totally cool with it and be like "I get to see my friend get married, be her bridesmaid and get free cake on a day that is already special to me? Are you kidding me? This is making it one of the best days ever! I am so excited!"
Yep your better know less than 365 people or you are staying unmarried.
Or birthdays, or the anniversary of their first date, or of the time they shared a stick of gum, or went to see their favorite movie, or adopted their puppy...
Just to repeat myself - get rid of her! She is a selfish Drama Queen! She is not the bride's friend at all, she's been trying from the start to make her feel uncomfortable + guilty, it's been over a week... - Just say, 'When you never called me, I saw I'd put you in a bad position, I felt awful about it so I got someone else who is really excited to do it". She is just flashing negative energy everywhere. Nobody needs that.
I can't believe it, but I finally disagree with your analysis on a story!!! The last story where the bridesmaid throws a fit because the bride scheduled the wedding on the "two year anniversary of when the bridesmaid MET her boyfriend". Sorry, you don't need time to "process" that, especially when you tell another bridesmaid "what [the bride] DID TO YOU". She did nothing "to you". She scheduled the wedding for a day that is LITERALLY just a day in everyone else's life, and bridesmaid goes all bridezilla over it. "It's MY DAY!" because she MET HER BF on that day. I've been married 25 years, I love my wife dearly. Neither she nor I give half a flying fig about what day we MET. I cannot even tell you what day it was (I do know her birthday, our anniversary and even the day I proposed). But bridesmaid is in the wrong, bride is just worried about her friend who flipped the hell out over nothing.
Yaeah, I agree. The date has nothing to do with her and her anniversary. The bride has to find a date that works for her, her husband and their families. There are more than enough people she has to take into consideration. Thinking of the date her bridesmaid met her partner was the last thing on the bride's list for sure... She could chose not to attend if her anniversary is so important, but there is no reason to become dramatic.
I know right? It's not even her husband but a boyfriend that she can break up with anytime! I can guarantee that the BF has no clue about the day they met either.
@@potocatepetl True that. And if the bridesmaid wants to celebrate her anniversary alone with her partner apart from the wedding, there's nothing wrong with postponing the dinner or whatever she's having by one day or two.
struggling to remember the date i first met my husband also. i think it was the end of august. maybe the 26th? that's our eldest son's birthday so that would be cool but it was in 2004 i am not sure.
Agreed!
I wanna talk about the fact that person that ended the friendship was mad about a childfree wedding when their children were adults but also who brings a dog to a wedding
Yeah I noticed that too. Like, if your grandkids can’t go then I guess your kids can’t unless they get a babysitter. But you yourself can absolutely go
Well trained dogs usually behave better than a horde of kids. Mine would have gone from table to table begging with puppy eyes for food.
@@flitsertheo Oh agreed but lemme tell ya, I've seen so many untrained dogs that I just wouldn't have dogs at my wedding lol
Honestly on that first story I’m super happy how the cops handled it. You know she had to know that was stolen items from his wife that she was involved in the affair with him during their marriage. They both got what they deserved.
The new wife TOTALLY knew the dress and heirlooms were his ex's! You're telling me that she cheated with him and never saw a wedding picture? Ever? I don't GAF if he said it was his family's. Who would want to wear the same dress?! Plus, who would immediately get defensive instead of looking at the groom with WTF eyes? The chick absolutely knew.
my exact thoughts
Yup, di gyal did know.
Good point.
I think the post said the dress was an heirloom too or that’s just bad phrasing
I agree.
That dog looks so proud of himself because not only did he wear white to the wedding, but he also managed to photobomb the bride and groom. Well done. Good boy!
And he got away with it because how can you be mad at a dog that adorable? Its impossible!
The dog was my favourite, so cute! 😄
If I ever get married dogs will be allowed at the wedding but not children 👰🏼 🤵🏼🐶
The pupper at the end made it all worthwhile. Especially his super duper happy face! 🐶❤
@@katherineklevenow1808 that’s the kind of wedding I’d be excited to go to. 🥰
When I hear about people’s reasons for being “devastated” and it being the end of the world for them when someone gets a tattoo or hair color or they painted their nails the wrong color … UGH! Can you imagine that being your biggest issue?! My father in law was fine a month ago then found out he has a very aggressive terminal brain cancer and hasn’t left the hospital since. The attempt to remove the tumor left him with a TBI and he hasn’t said more than a few words since. He is now being sent home on hospice and maybe has a few days left. THAT is something to be devastated about. People have actual, real life issues. How lucky they are for a tattoo to be what they’re crying over. 😣
Tattoos can have make up applied over them. Models do that all the time.
That last pic with the dog was so dang cute!!! Biggest grin ever...He was happy!!! I would not mind seeing such a happy dog in my wedding pics. Just more joy and love
But some bridezillar willl yell to that dog
The wedding rules seemed fine to me. I think people got upset because of the "if you didn't get invited, you're not welcome bit", but fuck them. Weddings are expensive, and no one owes you a free party.
True, true, true. My older brother had his second wedding and I got to be a groomsman. I had to pay for my own stuff, and it was expensive. Luckily I'd saved up enough to be there. I didn't get to be in his first wedding because of his ex-wife, but I still don't have the specifics on that.
The wedding rules are all extremely reasonable. I'm thinking that the bridesmaids are all gay was more just to let people know so there aren't any issues not like an actual requirement. At least I hope because that's a weird one but to each their own. It's not like it's a rule that is harmful, mean, rude, etc to anyone. I actually really liked some of the rules. Like the encouragement to get drunk but a reminder not to drive and to treat the vendors as guests.
My brother and sister in law don't make a ton of money but they're very good about saving money. They were able to pay for a nice wedding and reception but the seating was very limited (80 max). Both sides have very large families that live within a couple hours driving distance (100+ each) and they're close to the majority. You can image how hard it was to try and pick who could come. My cousin told her mom (who no one is close to for a ton of reasons I won't list) the wedding details. Her mom and husband then decide to show up not even dressed appropriately. Thankfully one couple had an emergency and they took their seats instead. All I know is that she was lucky that my sil decided to just let it go instead of having drama because I was about to flip my shit on them. Weddings are expensive and everything is planned out to the t. Extra seats are not a thing. Extra food is typically not a thing. It's also down right rude. I would say people need to be more respectful about this fact but obviously the people who just show up have no respect for anyone.
I feel the same. Like if you’re not invited don’t come
At my wedding, 20 years ago (and still married with 4 kids), everyone could come to the ceremony and the party, it's only for the food that we had a limit, because we are not rich and food can get expensive. But church and venue were the same price regardless of number of people. We had people come only to the ceremony and some who had to work and arrived only for the party after the supper. Supper was only for families and friends and close people from our churches, and even then we had over 100 people (it's what happens when you have large families).
Is that a thing? Who goes to a wedding they weren't invited to?
"Actions have consequences. Say it with me" - the potato queen's edict . If there is only one piece of advice I have to take from Charlotte's videos , it is this . It actually reminds me of another quote by Brian Ruckley "choice is empty in the absence of consequence " .
I usually don't disagree with Charlotte, but that second last one? I totally disagree. The MOH made a big deal over the anniversary of her *meeting* her boyfriend, not being together, or her boyfriend's birthday, but the anniversary of when they met. The MOH blew things out of proportion, and not only that, but lied to other people and tried to make it a bigger deal. The bride said "the wedding can either be this day that has no significant meaning to me, or it could be on my brother's birthday, which would make him feel like he doesn't matter to me" so the bride chose the less significant day. The MOH said "that's the anniversary of when I met my boyfriend, how could you be so inconsiderate?!?!!!??? I need time away from you!!!!!11!!!!!"
So, yeah. The MOH is in the wrong.
Also I wouldn't see a problem if you get married on someone else wedding anniversary or birthday. I can understand why you don't want to marry on a very close family members birthday though. There is 365 days a year which are shared by 7.9 billion people. Crossovers are inevitable.
Right? All she got from it is that the bridesmaid needs time to adjust her plans, which wasn't relevant or similar at all😂
Maybe the MOH is mad because she's hoping her boyfriend will propose on the anniversary of them meeting?
Don't think the bride-to-be has done anything wrong though, she chose a date that she and her fiancé could do that didn't clash with any significant date in either of their families. Brother's birthday comes above MOH meeting her boyfriend IMO.
Same!! Came to the comments just to see if anyone felt the same way.
Agree. Meeting a boyfriend isn't as significant as a family members birthday. Also, the MOH tried using the "I'm disappointed in you" tactic to try and see if the bride will change the date. Bride did nothing wrong. And personally, if someone I thought a friend acted that way about my wedding date, I'd tell them that if it upset them so much that they could just not attend. That although to her (the MOH)meeting her bf is significant, that it did not hold more then her (dride) brothers bday. And that of the 2 dates she had to choose from she chose the one that fit best.
The wedding rules one where is says, "all bridesmaids are 🌈" might be a heads up for males guests who tend to hit on everything that moves. In other words, "Don't hit on my bridesmaids." We had two men like that at our wedding and we made sure to basically tell them to leave my bridesmaids alone.
That makes a lot of sense. Fair point
I'm so glad Mary had enough proof that those items were hers that she was able to get them back
For the second one, in a video she explained her rules. The whole "bridesmaids are all 🌈" thing is just that all the bridesmaids she picked just so happened to be part of the lgbtq+ community. So less of a rule than just a coincidence. The one about her mom having say over everything, her mom had thrown her parties in hee past so she knows that she has good taste and can handle everything so instead of being stressed on the wedding say shes pretty much letting her mom have control over decorations and such so she can just relax and get ready instead of worrying about every little detail. For the open bar, she wants people to take advantage of it since they are paying a lot for it. But then she also wants them to be responsible so she got permission from the venue for people to leave their cars there over night so no one drinks and drives. The way she worded some of the rules makes them seem weird without context but honestly all her rules are 100% understandable and not at all out there. They are all pretty tame in terms of weddings honestly.
That makes a lot of sense! I know the line between bridezilla rules and normal bride rules isn't very clear sometimes, especially without context.
The context actually does help. But honestly, I really don't understand why someone thought that list was taking "it to the next level". Nothing I read seemed malicious or entitled, just maybe not overly clear. Whoever took the screenshot and added the outer text was really reaching if they were intending it to be an example of a bridezilla.
I found nothing weird about that list
Me neither. Some I actually found really sweet like that the vendors are gonna be treated like guests if they're taking a break. I think something like this should be obvious but knowing humans... Nah, better make it a rule everyone is made aware of.
@@demiguise6208 yeah she specifically said that if the staff is on a break they are aloud to eat and dance and even drink as long as they don't get drunk during their shift and that she didn't want to hear any of her guests saying anything to them or being rude about it. I seriously don't understand the type of brides/grooms that refuse to let the staff have any food breaks or anything. Like they are going to be there for HOURS and you won't let them eat anything or have breaks? Especially the ones where they wont even let them eat food that they bring 😫 pretty much all jobs are required to give lunch breaks, it should be no different for the staff at weddings 🙄
When my friend got married,she covered her own tattoo with small crystals,it looked amazing and you could still see the pattern of the tattoo.
That's amazing and a cool way to "hide" a tattoo! I do understand though if the bride doesn't want anyone to stand out too much. I also don't think a tattoo is a big deal. I'm on the fence about it, lol.
Love that
Everyone: There is this awesome stuff that hides tattoos and imperfections, aka no need to ruin ANYONE'S wedding. :Joan Rivers Beauty-The Right to Bare Legs Corrective Cover Up Makeup.
@@user-jy3zl2vp4b, my first thought exactly.
It is a whole sleeve so I understand the freak out but she can either add long gloves or cover it with makeup.
The one about the bride possibly getting married on her friend's "anniversary" is not a bridezilla. She may have chosen between those two days for reasons that had nothing to do with the friend or her brother. Those may have been the only days the venue she wanted was available. Who knows? I think the friend needs to chill.
Or even two days where everyone she wanted could attend.
Yeah I agree, the girl needs to chillax. The friend isn’t entitled to a whole day just bc she met her bf that day. What would the friend be, a bridesmaidzilla?
I don't get why someone would be upset about a friend marrying on the day they met their so. Maybe I'm just not a romantic person but I wouldn't mind having dinner or whatever with my bf a day later to attend my friends wedding
@@juliarunn5009 Get rid of her now! That is NOT a friend. She is going to be a problem the whole time, it's always going to be about her. A "meeting" anniversary date is not a thing after the first year except to narcissists - is she seriously considering abandoning her 'friend' for something so stupid as a dinner out with the BF? ( plenty of romance and dinner at that wedding by the way...). It's been a week now with no answer. If she agrees now, her participation will be grudgingly at best. Dump her, dump her, dump her.
I completely agree. I’m sorry, but an anniversary is not a huge deal - and definitely not worth getting mad at your friend over. I personally think it would be fun to go with my boyfriend to a wedding on our anniversary. Free food and alcohol! Also, you don’t HAVE to celebrate the day of. We postponed our anniversary last year because it was a week day and we preferred to celebrate on the weekend. Amazingly, we’re still alive and in a relationship today!
13:42 C'mon she's a super sweet bride. She has given free leash on bridesmaid dresses, open bar, vendors to be treated as guests and I think she meant that bridesmaids have to be all acceptant of the PRIDE. She's going outta her way to be accommodating. And if you're not invited, it always means you're not welcome.
DEFINITELY NO KIDS @ wedding! I made the mistake of letting a few kids of my ex-hubby's family attend. They let their kids run wild during the whole event. I had a photographer for the main wedding photos. I also had disposable cameras on each table for guest to take pictures of their own experience. To catch moments the photographer might not see. However, the kids immediately grabbed ALL of 13 cameras. They proceeded to take pics of nothing, them pissing on everything, & other vulgar events. They ran around the dance floor so much that guests stopped dancing. They also trashed a lot of decor & food. I didn't realize what all they had done. Until I paid for photos. The cost of the cameras & the awful pic development was about $350. I was embarrassed when realized that the boys had gone all over my gorgeous venue to piss on stiff. I realized why the facility wanted us out so promptly. I was furious that his family let this happen. I had always treated them with kindness. I'd NEVER invite kids to a wedding again!
I'm so sorry that that happened to you
I'm so, so sorry you had to go through this. What I want to know is where the F*** were the parents. That's absolutely unacceptable and the least they could do to demonstrate a shred of decency is compensate you for the photos AT LEAST.
@@xchrysantha It's usually the parents who are to blame for the misbehaving kids.
Oh my god! They peed all over the venue and took pictures of it? What a horror show!
Ugh!!! Im so sorry for you Hon! I can't stand kids and the entitled pos parents that raise them to also be entitled pos! I agree, NO kids at a wedding!!! They ruin everything! It's a WEDDING not a child's bday
Shaming ridiculous brides, grooms and wedding guests with Charlotte is the perfect way to start off the weekend. 😍
Agreed 👍
High five ✋
I’m finishing the weekend this way, and it’s a pretty perfect way to finish the weekend, too!
I lost interest in weddings decades ago. Charlotte is making me both laugh and remember why.
Soooo, I’m assuming the bridesmaids were already picked and gay before this was penned, and she’s just letting the fellas know that they aren’t gonna be down for hooking up in the broom closet, but it’s fun to imagine that NONE of them are gay, and she’s made a game out of picking her bridesmaids. Called “How far will my friends go to be in my wedding”
That was my thought too, that she was just warning guys off from trying to hit on them to protect her friends from pointless harrassment
In a video she made explaining the list, it's not really even a rule. All the bridesmaids that she picked just so happened to all be apart of the lgbtq+ community so it was more or less a happy accident. Don't know why she added it to the rules though since it wasn't like a qualification to be chosen or something, its something she realized AFTER she picked them out.
Agreed. That's how I read it
@Neil What if all the gay bridesmaids hook up and mess up their hair and makeup?? 😂
I'm not sure what the rainbow symbol would mean exactly, I would consider it to mean anyone on the LGBTQIA spectrum. I'm one of those letters, and not a lesbian. I'm the least likely person to ever hook up with anyone!
They were all LGBTQIA already so she put it in as a joke
I was the flower girl at my “big sister’s” wedding in 1958. I was 5, and Mary was 21. My mom made me a hand smocked blue dress (redhead alert, the bride and my Mom too) but I have a clear memory of the bride’s and bride’s maids dresses. They were styled similarly to the photo you presented, but no polkadots nor floppy hats. Signs of the times. I’m 68 and Mary is 84 now!
I'm guessing that photo is from the early '70s, thus the floppy hats.
Yeah they had a 70s vibe to me, too.
@@jnln552 Thanks. My big sister turned 85 yesterday and still going strong!
That dogs smile!!! Everyday is that dogs day and I’m here for it ❤️
In regards to the “unity milk”. In case anyone had to google it like I did….it’s way weirder than we thought.
"Unity milk is a beautiful practice with a lot of symbolism. The bride first sips the milk, kisses the groom, and the groom sucks the milk from the bride's mouth. This practice is analogous to breast feeding. It symbolizes the bride becoming the new maternal figure, meaning the groom can leave the old one behind."
I'm so mad at you for making me read this what the HELL 🤣🤣🤣
@@alexiathirumalai hey, if I had to suffer with this knowledge, we ALL have to suffer. But we’re in the pits of hell together, right? 😂😂😂
I would appreciate if you would gauge my eyes out now. I no longer want to see😂
OMG, I actually thought it was like the sharing of the cup of wine during a Catholic wedding, but for people who abstain from alcohol. I was thinking, "yeah, that's cool". Your explanation just made it horrifying.
First thing out of my mouth after reading that: EWWWW!
How was she wrong when he straight up robbed his ex wife, and like other's said, he probably told his new wife a hot lie? She called the cops was the right thing! Those heirlooms we're rightfully hers, and his punk ass knew that, but giving it his new wife was straight up trifling!
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I’m not vegan and have no intention of ever becoming one, but that “vegan option” at 8:15 is just insulting to people who are. At least give them a decently made, decently-sized salad option if the caterers don’t know how to make other vegan dishes! That plate wouldn’t even count as a decent appetizer, and I guarantee it’s just the kitchen scraps.
It is insulting, and I'm not vegan either. I'm not sure why the word "vegan" was blurred out though, that's a little weird.
@@happychaosofthenorth (joking tone) shhhhhh we cant use vegan anymore as some rather vulgar personality people have smeared its good name. now we just go with meat challenged.
but in all seriousness........ if they do a sign up for an amount of vegan meals before hand and prepare enough for a couple extra plates (god knows some dramatic asshat is gonna suddenly become vegan just to argue and cause drama) it isnt any more expensive than the more traditional meals cost and barely changes the wedding budget.............
Right, like bruh.
@@happychaosofthenorth I would very much like to know the answer to that as well.
They could also offer anything that is not a salad. I am a vegetarian and I never eat salad. 🤷🏻♀️ So many options possible for vegans. So much disrespect and ignorance at that wedding.
The second story (I think) is spot on. The requests are very reasonable and the one about treating the staff like guests when they go on break is great. Wish more people would follow that rule.
That last one....what a dog to crash the wedding photos! Lol so adorable! I would so want my dog to smile like that and my dog would look at me like I just smoked some wacky tabaccy!
First of all the friend seen her wedding pictures in the home. If they cheated then chances are the AP seen the pictures before the wedding when she was at the house and wanted the dress and the heirlooms. The mistress knew!!! I need an update on this story!!!
I'm believe the new wife knew about the stolen dress/heirlooms because she wasn't surprised, shocked or dumbfounded when the police asked her to take it off. Instead, she started to argue with them, refusing to take it off.
To be fair, she may have been arguing because she didn't believe it, because the husband had told her another BS story about them, and thought the ex was lying just to ruin her day. But then again, she did get married to the person she was cheating with, so clearly not a good person, so could have just as likely known... Either way the cheaters got their just karma, haha...
My ex-husband left a copy of my engagement ring and took it to give his new fiancé she was too bug for my dress but I knew they had pulled it out bc the box was open and seal broken. Called the cops but bc we were mad divorce and assets had not been assigned he didn't get jail time she refused to relinquish the ring so he had to reimburse me for the value of the ring
@Neil he is both but I'm convinced she saw the photos at his moms and he told her how my family got him an insane deal on a platinum diamond ring with sapphire accents and she wanted it
@Neil she tried to get my son from school unauthorized complained that I kept the last name and there should only be 1 mrs.xxxx. was pisses when we sold the house since neither of us could buy out the other and when I took back all the swanky stuff I had bought. He had been flexing like he had $$ when it was me. She put in his head to ask for spousal support. The judge awarded me primary custody child support and spousal support and a protective order against her for my son
@Neil she's a Karen for sure so spousal support normally wouldn't have been awarded to him as he didn't get possession of our son and had a job where as he had made me quit and we were living on my savings I was a stay at home mom so I had more asset but no income. Also. I caught them bare butt in the house in the bed I bought having sex
Who would even want to get married in a stolen dress worn by your husband's ex...
I mean, I guess you'd be surprised... The unwillingness to spend money on expensive dresses or jewels is strong in this day and age. On one hand, I can't say I blame them. On the other hand, it was stolen and I can't condone that. Get your own dress, I'm sure there are people selling them on facebook or cragislist if you're so desperate, lmao.
I'm having a hard time believing she didn't know the dress didn't belong to Mary. The jewelry, maybe he lied about that, but what story could he possibly give for conveniently
having a entire wedding dress at his disposal?
@@SonjaElizabethTeal That's... Very true. You got me there.
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x Could say it was his grandma's or a distant cousin's or something maybe? Not condoning it. The whole situation is weird.
@@6thgraderfriends Yeah, I feel that. What I think could happen and what I think happened are two different stories, and I definitely believe the new wife knew the stuff belonged to the ex-wife. There are some strange possibilities though.
I was actually surprised at your second- last ruling. I mean, someone having a wedding on the same date as a friend's anniversary with her boyfriend seems like no big deal to me. Is that just me? They could basically enjoy a free party on their anniversary, the bride could give them a cute shout-out in the speeches to acknowledge the shared special day. The friend being upset with it reminds me of a really manipulative friend I once had in high school who would freak at her friends and boyfriend not upholding the random days she decided were important (ex- threatening to break up with her boyfriend because he didn't get her a gift for their half year anniversary, when they had been together for three years and never celebrated it in the past). Those freak- outs were always secretly code for her being mad that we didn't let her control some unrelated part of our life, and she wanted to make us pay. Maybe context is important here...like maybe the friend already had other anniversary plans or just is one of those people for whom anniversaries are a big deal, or doesn't have that manipulative history. But it sounds like an emotionally manipulative friend to me, and I bet there's more to this story. I'm actually hoping the bride took the easy out from that friendship.
(Edit- I had said last ruling, but meant second-last)
Agreed, and it does always seem to be about control.
I agree and I also think it's interesting it was phrased as an anniversary of the "day they met" and not just their anniversary or the anniversary of the day they started dating or anything like that.
it isnt her anniversary of the relationship. it's the anniversary of the day she met him.
my question to this butt hurt friend: How old are you again? If you are anything but middle school aged, you are being ridiculous. It's the "anniversary" of the day you met your current boyfriend. Come on!! I also hope this bride took a perfect opportunity to say, peace out!
Some people love to make things all about them. I think we have all had one of them in our lifes at some time.
0:21 HOLY SHIT CHARLOTTE’S FACE ON JUDGE JUDY LOOKS LIKE HILLARY CLINTON
Omg yes 😂
Absolutely LOVE that one of those brides’ rules was to treat the vendors as people. Absolutely AMAZING bride in my opinion❤
the first one turned around real quick... lol. Mary was a G for that! haha and the friend did exactly what she was supposed to do and tell Mary. GO MARY!
Funnily enough, I have a different feeling about the one with the bridesmaid's anniversary. I feel like the bridesmaid is a bit dramatic. Choosing a wedding date comes with a lot of considerations. Idk why is it a problem that it happens the same day as the bridesmaid's anniversary. Why is it an issue. She can celebrate with her bf before or later. And sulking during a week? Imo they're both immature
I interpreted “bridesmaids are all gay” because the bride doesn’t want any male guests to hit on her bridesmaids at her reception. Lesbians having to deal with turning down straight men is a common issue and can be stressful as it occasionally be a dangerous situation. Might be wrong, that was just my take.
That was exactly my take, too. And/or that, "This is an LGBTQ+ friendly event; if you're homophobic, don't come."
While I was an assistant wedding planner years ago, the 4th of July wedding we were doing ended in a massive fight. The bride and baby mama were fist fighting in the bushes, the bridal party was all in smaller fights off to the side, it was insane. At that point, one of my co-workers came and got me and said "get in the car now, we are all leaving, this has gotten out of hand" and so we all loaded up and left. We had to go back later that night to finish cleaning up the venue but as a wedding vendor, if you feel unsafe, I would say you are absolutely allowed to leave.
So, I’ve decided to make it public that I would like to see a Charlotte and Kalmekris reaction colab. Is that weird? I don’t think so. I love them both. They both make my days better. And they both seem super duper fun! 😍
Regarding the next-to-last: At first I thought BF was objecting to OP having her wedding on the same date she had had hers, then I realized it was only the day BF and her fiancé MET. OP may be a little over-anxious, but I think BF is a slight A for over-possessiveness.
Not even fiancé, boyfriend. Spoilt brat
Maybe it's because I have been married for over a decade but I wouldn't be the slightest bit upset if my friend got married on my anniversary. There are only so many Saturdays in June.
OP's friend in that case is sooooo entitled. Who tf cares about the day her and her boyfriend MET, it's not even a real anniversary
@@top0o.628 well hubby and I celebrate the day we met, just as a silly excuse to have a night out. We don’t take it seriously, it’s just a fun “anniversary” that even our kids get behind.
I'm on the side with the bride for that one. I understand anniversary are really special to a lot of people but couldn't the friend just plan a special date to celebrate another day? There is a lot of planning and coordination with dates when it comes to weddings..
1st story - Adam was marrying his MISTRESS! She HAD to know the dress and jewelry was the ex-wife's!
It's possible, but I also think her not knowing was possible too. We already know Adam was a cheater and a liar. Who says he didn't just tell her it was his mother's or grandmother's stuff?
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x yea but when the cops showed up she shouldn't have argued. that looks suspicious. she should have taken it off immediately, called the woman to apologize, and partied at her own reception as a single girl. I'd have let them drag him away not me too if I didn't know.
@@FeatherstoneApothecary I dunno. I mean, I definitely understand that she should have acknowledged something was wrong. But during weddings, I know some people can get bullheaded, so it's possible she wanted them to just leave until the wedding was over. Either way, I'm not condoning it. I just know how people get during important days of their lives.
Right?
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x yea true. it's just looking at it all she was selfish and if she still wanted to go through with it she actually could have. she could've changed and still had her day. what kind of person would go through with it knowing stuff was stolen? not a very high class one.
As to the wedding on the day someone met their boyfriend. I can honestly say I would never remember the date I met my husband if it wasn't on Halloween... I would never remember when we got engaged if it hadn't been on another holiday. I have huge trouble remembering our wedding day just because it is not tied to anything else so I would just be glad if someone else also got married then.
Honestly perfectly said, exactly how my brain works so I have to set tons of reminders on calendars or I’m not gonna remember.
12:43 the OP is right. Her "friend " is mad because that's her anniversary with her boyfriend. So what? Why can't they share the date? It has nothing to do with the bridesmaid, she's wrong.
3:12 and I'm already seeing red. Leave it to Adam. Throws eve under the bus in Genesis(it's the womans fault , you made her!) and now he steals Mary's dress and heirlooms. I'd kick him out of the garden, to the curb, and never trust any man named Adam EVER again. At least the snake was making a decent offer.
re: The photographer at the fight wedding, dude, I'd have photo'd the hell out of that fight and charged them extra! Maybe given them a slideshow of the thing as a wedding gift. I dunno, but like, I'd have memorialized that for them. 😄😆😄
or as proof to give to the lawyers during the child custody fight and/or divorce. Maybe no divorce just an annulment since it appears the marriage will be over before the ink dries on the marriage license
As long as there isn't shooting, this sounds like a good time! Get some good action shots!
for the first one i'd gone the extra mile and say "what's stopping you from stealing things at work? you already have a criminal record!" and ruined the guy's reputation at the office, just for having the audacity of blaming it on me...
Imaging stealing from your ex, inviting her friend to your new wedding where you fully deck out your new bride in your ex's stolen items, and thinking that would EVER go down quietly. The grooms an AH and apparently as sharp as an 8-ball.
Might wanna listen to that again lol.. The ex wife wasnt invited to the wedding.. Her old coworker went recognized the dress and sent the ex wife a picture lol.. I dont think the groom would be that stupid to invite her after stealing her heirlooms and giving it to his new bride.. Lol
@@bethlamb3286 but the post is correct. It says exactly what you are saying. "Stealing from ex then inviting her friend to the wedding". So they (and you) heard it correctly - the friend was invited not the ex-wife.
@@bethlamb3286 They didn't say he invited her you dingus. Read it again.
Makes it worse that the new wife was the side chick in the first marriage. Man married the one he cheated with. Side chick knew about the stolen items. She liked the dress and jewelry, she just didn’t care that it was stolen from the first wife and they were too cheap to buy new items/dress for their wedding. So no one was innocent except op and their friend, first wife. Wouldn't be surprised if op was the only one to notice and tell their friend. Didn't seem like anyone else noticed or cared to tell the ex.
My ex stole one of my diamond earrings given by my brother as a wedding gift, at that time he was having an affair. Now I am left with one earring. I don't even know what to do with it.
We have friends that got married on our 5 year wedding anniversary and yes we went to the wedding and we didn't care we thought it was cool to share an anniversary date with our friends who we love and never once did I ever think to get upset about it. I'm always so bewildered when people get mad about things like this, I don't understand lol.
Right? A wedding on my Anniversary would be cool. Unlike the two funerals months after the deaths that were held on my birthday.
@@charmzpix Damn that sucks, sorry about your birthday
right? confused that they called the bride a bridezilla. it was the day they met, not the day they got married so even less interesting...
My dad got so mad when I told him when we were getting married. It was the only day that matched up with the days my husband could get off work and the officiant had. He didn’t come to the wedding. He just died 3 weeks ago and our 21st wedding anniversary is coming up and it’s going to be a ball of emotions 😳
I wonder how many other days this bridesmaid would want ruled out because of her own life. Her birthday? A different anniversary? Her BF's birthday? Picking a wedding date is fricking hard and it sounds like the bride was between a rock and a hard place. Also I thought anniversaries were usually more of your first date. Not the day you met. How many people remember the exact date they met someone?
I absolutely LOVE the dog pic at the end, he SO gets a pass. If I was that bride, that’d be my main wedding photo.
"The anniversary of the day she and her BF met." THE ANNIVERSARY. Of the DAY THEY MET. Madness. Bridesmaid needs to get over herself. Girl's not even engaged. "I need time to process." Puh-leeeeze!
How big a deal is the “anniversary” of when two people met, compared to the day two people are being married? Is someone envious?
I think the "bridesmaids are all 🌈" rule may have meant "men aren't allowed to hit on the bridesmaids because it'll make them uncomfortable", which is totally fair
This is exactly what I was thinking. It's nice that she has their back.
I'm still really confused by the rainbow haha
@@VodkaMutini413 Really? The rainbow doesn't belong to LGBTQIA+ folks, however it has a strong association with the community, and has for many years:) Most times if you see a rainbow in someone's profile or someone representing themselves with a rainbow, chances are they're a part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Not a 100% rule, but its very common :) Hope this helps :)
@@lumsdelj Hey I'm sorry I thought it was supposed to mean something else. I understand now.
@@VodkaMutini413 No worries. I wasn't trying to be snarky:) I was genuinely surprised bc its a generally a well known fact...for most folks anyway :) Take care
Always put a "behavior" clause in the contract. I learned this from an old timer years ago.
"If any person at event engages in behavior that can be interpreted, by me, as criminal conduct nullifies contract.
*All payments already transferred are forfeited." 🙂
Ohmaghad! It’s one freaking day! Guests know months in advance that weddings are child free. Get a damn sitter! So tired of selfish, entitled, parents who are so obsessed with their children that they can’t leave them for one second! Ugh. Also, that dude who stole his exes heirloom’s got what he deserved!
Depending how close the wedding is when she got the arm tattoo, she could have waited.
I agree with that actually. I am tattooed, as are both my daughters. My eldest daughter got married a couple of months ago, and all tattoos were on show, however, if a bride had a bridesmaid who didn't have tattoos previously, and didn't want a tattooed bridesmaid at her wedding, she definitely could have waited until AFTER the wedding!
My cousin married at our10th wedding anniversary . It was a grand wedding and treat it as a private celebration. We even thank her in Fb .
If I had to choose between an anniversary with a boyfriend and a close friends wedding I wouldn't need time to process. I would easily choose the wedding its not that deep. Some people are so extra.
That first is definitely NTA! It's like you said; ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. If you don't wanna get arrested for theft on your wedding day? 1.(and most important one) DON'T STEAL; and 2. don't show what you stole off on another woman's body in front of all your friends, family, co-workers, and other guests at your wedding. Stealing her heirlooms alone makes him a d-bag; but this guy took it to a whole other level putting his d-baggery on full display and then boo-hooing/complaining about getting ANY backlash for it, legal OR otherwise.
7:00 You never read #12, and someone's fat head was in the way, for some reason.
That dog had to be the happiest one at the wedding (maybe even more than the bride and groom)
As a parent…. I enjoy childless weddings 😬
The stolen dress and heirlooms story reminds me of what happened in high school. Some lady stole this lady’s everyday clothes from her gym locker when she was in gym class. Then the moron proceeded to wear everything she stole the next day and was caught minutes after entering the school.
I was trying to understand the friend's OTT reaction to the wedding falling on her 2 year anniversary, and the only thing I could come up with that was even *close* to making sense(!) was that maybe she was expecting her boyfriend to propose to her on that date or something, and feels the bride-to-be "should" have somehow known that, whether explicitly or just through inference (though my money would be on the latter!) - like, perhaps it was something that had happened in their family or friendship circle, or how it had always been this big romantic dream of hers, that she may or may not have actually confided? But whatever the exact reasoning behind her fit of pique, it's probably safe to say that it's the good ol' green-eyed monster behind it all - that she's jealous it's not *her* getting married, especially if the happy couple haven't been together for as long... what do you guys think?
My husband and I went to a wedding yesterday. We couldn't take our son even though there were other kids there. The other kids were the bride and grooms son and their nieces and nephews. Were we bothered we couldn't take our son? No. We had the same thing at our wedding - only kids were my son and my god children. Enjoy the day off! Or don't go! People overreact so much.
Why do people get so pissy over weddings. If it says child free and dog free, there is nothing wrong with that. Either get a babysitter or don't go, but don't get so nasty. I just don't understand it. It's about the bride and groom and that all, folks.
Thrilled that seventeen years ago, my husband and I got married at the courthouse, with our whole audience being full of folks just waiting for traffic court! It was lovely 🌹 AND stress-free!
Isn't it koolbeanz?
I too got married at the courthouse, with two friends as witnesses and a courtroom full of happy strangers!
No muss, no fuss!
And you probably gave the other folks a few moments of happiness before having to deal with traffic court! ❤️
P.S, we got married in our living room with a few friends and family members.
Charlotte will be a beautiful bride someday. I wish her lots of love and happiness. Thank you for this amazing channel that makes my day so much more funnier. ❤️
💜🎯
True! And her spouse will be a very lucky person to have her, even if she wasn't so beautiful on the outside...funny, smart, talented, adorable, sweet...and so much more!
@Dina Silva true, and a beautifu,l fun wife to the lucky guy in her future!
I solved this problem by taking my wedding dress I'd saved for 28 years, and any wedding pictures without my family in them, piling it all on a tree stump in the back yard and burning it. Hurt like heck but put me on the road to getting over it all.
I shredded all of my wedding photos and threw away my wedding gown. It was cathartic for his cheating.
I think the "rule" that all bridesmaids are queer 🌈 means that there's no place for someone to try a "bridesmaid hook-up" if they're not queer as well. 😅 It's like a disclaimer that they will not be interested, even if they aren't in a relationship. 🙈
10:40 Here's one wedding I would never attend, because I can't stand "deeply religious" people, but I also can't stand drunks! 😆
8:23 The one that says no kids at the wedding..... the friend/guest was not bringing "kids". Her children were 18 and 23. They are adults not kids. However, taking a DOG to the wedding is completely out of line so either way she's wrong for that alone!
Can’t believe I had to scroll so far for this, 18 and 23 are not kids! I’m 21 and I’m literally a 2022 bride, am I a child bride than? 😂😂
@@opheliasgh0st congrats!🥳
I think she also said grand kids though
It did mention grandkids, too. Still, I imagine that because of the party count, kids was meant to imply anyone that you have given birth to as well as underaged actual kids. I don't think it's that unreasonable, especially if it's something that was pre-established or established post-pandemic. If there's no space and she's being told before hand, then there's no space.
but the adult "kids" were also not invited. Guestiepoo was trying so hard to get her grown kids an invite by claiming them to be the underage "children" that were not invited. Strangely enough the bride probably would have had WAY fewer problems if allowing only people under 13 to the wedding and avoiding this woman and her tantrum. The kiddos would have been much better behaved even if they were running around, yelling and throwing cake than the adult throwing the tantrum
In my country kids/children-free weddings are pretty much the norm….the actual ceremony may have a child or two who bring the rings or shed flower on the floor in front of the bride, but besides them almost nobody will put a child through the (let’s be honest) gruesome _exercise of withstanding boredom_ known as wedding ceremony and meal. 😂🥰
I loved weddings as a child! And large family gatherings, funerals... And whatever other excuse there was to have a large delicious meal with several courses at a restaurant. 😅
But well, I was also abnormally patient as a child and capable of staying still and silent for a long time. A little bit of boredom for the promise of food? No problem.
@@indigoeye3874 Wedding meals in my country involve 4-5 courses - wedding cake not included - all served at the table and most of them made with ingredients childrens don’t like, eat or even know. Between that, the 1h+ long ceremony, the wedding church photos, the wait between each dish and the fact there aren’t many if any other kids to play with, children are bound to get bored no matter the food. That’s why it’s rare for kids to attend weddings which tend to end up being child-free - it’s never a deliberate choice of the bride or groom, though, just a sort of “common sense” people here in my country apply. xD
ok so if the fiancée didn't know they were stolen why did she argue with the cops? I would've taken the dress off immediately, called the ex to apologize, and then partied at the reception. single! something ain't right about the reaction.
Is it just me or did they ask her to take of her clothes in front of everyone? That would be so embarrassing. If she didn’t know she would be confused and questioning why they were asking her to remove her dress. 🤷🏻♀️
I don't know, if I was getting married and then suddenly the police showed up telling me to strip immediately because my groom stole all those things, I would probably be too confused and disbelieving to function.
@@indigoeye3874 oh I'd be upset for sure. but I'm not wasting money, wasting other people's time, and getting locked up for someon else's bullshit. if I ever get locked up it better mean my kids were in danger or it's not worth it. you know she was probably warned to keep her mouth shut or she was going to jail and she kept on going.
@@Hermioneswish I highly doubt there was no restroom there.
@@FeatherstoneApothecary based on what they were saying they asked her while they were at the alter. They may have asked her to this because they thought she could hide something in the bathroom. 🤷🏻♀️
My ex-fiance gave me his paternal grandmother’s wedding ring for our engagement. I absolutely loved it and wore it proudly.
When our engagement ended, I returned the ring.
I hope whomever wears it next, loves it as much as I did.
I hope they don’t manipulate it nor change the diamond. It was small but fit the wide, gold band perfectly.
I miss that ring. It was the only gold ring I had.
For my upcoming birthday, I’m going to buy myself a simple gold cigar band ring, no diamond.
The pic at the end is just perfect! The smile, how in focus he is, perfection!
The ‘vegan option’ was literally just garnish with balsamic… kinda cracking up with that one.
Also the fact that the word Vegan was fuzzed out 😆
@@ShellStein93 i am still laughing. the poster‘s username is legendary. and should have been blurred instead of the other bad word xD
I got married this past summer and, due to COVID restrictions, we really had to do a complete 180 with our original plan and scale back our guestlist dramatically. This meant cutting a lot of people and making it a child free wedding. I honestly feel so lucky and grateful that everyone was so understanding and empathetic. That poor couple having to defend their choice. I'm sure it was already difficult enough to make that decision and having a friend make you feel even worse?! The bride is lucky to not have that person in her life anymore!
Thanks I don't know how my story got here but ya covid has mad so we had to change venues a few time now we finally got thing set how ever we can only have 48 people told in the chapel for the ceremony we even have a sitter how can wach the kid next door at the park for the ceremony and have a set of activities for them at the reception it just these where even kid really plus it would have been 8 extra people I really hate that this was the last straw that broke our friendship I really did think she was a good friend
Unity milk! When you do a round of musical cow milking (like musical chairs) and when the cows are milked dry, the bride and groom chug said milk and once done, they do the Macarena and yell "UNITY!"
Note : I have no idea what "unity milk" is so dont take seriously 🤣
I googled "unity milk" in the hopes of finding out what it is, exactly. I found the bride's explanation, which didn't fully explain it, but she basically said it was like "unity sand," where the couple pours different colored sands into a jar together to symbolize their union. She and her groom had poured two different milks together... and drank it, I guess?
I actually like your version better.
I laughed thinking unity milk is what you will have from now on if you both drink from the container. A unity of germs through marriage! And if it is like the unity sand......I could only think of my friend that did that and her divorce 3 years later....I think they should have to separate the colored sand bits to be able to divorce. Apparently they knew on their wedding day that they shouldn't have gotten married. What was the big unity if it wasn't so important?!?!
@@user-jy3zl2vp4b yoooo, for real? I think they should have to separate all the colored sand BEFORE getting married, that way you know its gonna take a minute to give them time to think it through cause so many people reeeeeeeally need to minute to realize "wait...this person sucks huge donkey balls..." and dip the hell out
Oh that last guest taking attention from the bride! How dare...
He's so precious! 🥰🥰🥰
I would not call it Petty at all for the friend to have send the photos to the first bride, it is called doing the right thing and standing up for your friend! I know that this is extremely rare these days because no one wants to “stick their neck out” and be the bad guy, but the larger picture has nothing to do with you. I wish more people would consider this concept.
The pics of the 60s/70s era bridal gown was hilarious reminded me of my dad and stepmom wedding..us four girls were dressed as brides maids lol. Thankfully she had some taste and we didn't end up with yellow polka dont's lol 😁😁🤣🤣
"Polka DONT'S" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
For our wedding, my husband and I washed each other's feet instead of a unity ceremony. It is a representation of how we choose to serve each other like how Jesus washed the disciples' feet. Kind of different, but as a wedding photographer, I've seen it done a few times.
One time the couple had an antique pitcher & bowl- someone forgot to fill the pitcher, so they just went through the actions and laughed the whole time.
I've been waiting so long for another wedding video! And here it is....FINALLY 😍
Okay, for the post at 12:48,
let's not forget,
it was the 2 year
Anniversary for this
woman with her BOYFRIEND...
not husband.
Seriously?!
She needs an Anniversary
for herself & her boyfriend?
*SMH.*
I'm guessing that the "rule" that said bridesmaids are all lgbtq + is more for information so guys don't bug the hell out of them during the reception.
Absolutely love the editing on the first story! Miss Charlotte as Bonnie and in La Coeur de la Mer diamond is 😚🤌 (chef’s kiss). Well done Potato Court, well done!
11:43, I mean I am actually a MOH for my sister, and we are planning all of the wedding stuff. I mean I have waited almost a year and half to get a this tattoo I want.. I don't want to cause my sister any more stress, so I haven't even mentioned it to her, and decided to wait until the weekend after the wedding to go get it done. As the MOH, and as a sister in general, it's your job to help minimize the stress that your sister/bride is going through, not add too it.
I mean there is always the option of covering it up with makeup but sometimes that doesn't work as well as you want it too. Plus knowing what your dress is, and knowing it may be something that stress out your bride, why not just wait. like yea it's your body and stuff, but like if you have waited so long why not wait a few more months just to make things simpler. I mean like it would be different if she was acting like that bc you already had tattoos, but throwing that on her ( on what sounds like last minutes) just isn't nice. I'm not saying she should have asked permission, but a heads up or at least a conversation about it, would have been the right thing here.
I'm right with you on discussing it with the bride first. I definitely understand if the bride doesn't want anyone else to stand out too much. If you're a considerate friend, it's worth discussing first.
@@x0uzumakinaruto0x Yea I am mean, I just remember how honored and loved I felt to be picked as the MOH. And I would hate for anything I do to cause my sister more stress ya know. Communitcation is the key to being considerate ya know.
theres no way the bride didnt know!! so adam just has a spare wedding dress and matching jewelry and the new bride goes "great, yeah i totally didnt feel like going wedding dress shopping?!" YEAH RIGHT!
10:00 I think they were Muslims cuz they can’t drink alcohol or something. Idk Islam is the only religion I know that can’t drink🤷🏼♀️
I attended a wedding where a fight broke out, the cops came and we left. It was my sister-in-law's side of the family. I still remember it to this day. I was a kid when this happened.