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Hey. I think we should ALL collectively applaud the last bridezilla who posted an AITA question on Reddit, *actually* read the responses to said question, AND then actively took part in bettering not just the situation but herself in the process. Don't think we've seen one of those AH yet. LoL. For real though.
I am genuinely happy with the bride in the last story for recognizing that she needs to strengthen her relationships with her future husband’s friends and spouses. So many women miss that part of getting married and focus solely on themselves, and I’m proud of the way she is apologizing and owning her mistake.
same! She's graciously learnt a big lesson that will be so beneficial for her marriage. Being able to admit when you're wrong, working to rectify and even improve relationships, and doing this not only for your spouse but for people who are important to them, is something that many never get - her marriage is, oddly, starting off stronger because of this.
I'm Kiowa native American. I've never cut my hair. It's against my beliefs. It's where my strength and beauty lies, I would be amazingly upset at this bride. The only time I've ever cut it was after my grandmother died. We only cut it when brought about by great grief. Edit: I'm super proud of this bride for taking necessary amendments to this poor girl. Good job.
Never cutting you hair sounds like a massive undertaking. When my hair get to my waist, it is so heavy and pulls on the crown of my head. How do you deal with yours, what style? I don't want to appropriate your culture, but it would be nice to know how to manage.
@@lisahuber9329 I would agree to pay the other half of what wouldn't be covered, absolutely. But sounds like she was wanting an updo and really long thick hair is not able to hold when it's so heavy. You have to do long braids and any curl has to be braided or twisted in when wet and left to dry. Which will take about a full day to 2 days. Especially if her hair is as long as mine. 4feet.
@@scc6454 no you're fine, I'm allowed to trim it and style it. But a massive chop would mean I'm decreasing my strength and beauty. So I have my hair styles in a side part, with my face framed and I have layers. I don't wash it every day, I actually grease and powder it, and wash it 2x a week. I'd be happy to answer any more questions. My hair isn't really thick though, as I'm also Irish. Lol!! So powder works for my hair. If yours is thick, I'd suggest skipping the powder.
@UCnYaWxdeJO5vY5y5gLrH9_Q lol oh, my granny always told me it was the Irish in me that made it thinner. Idk. Lmao!! Most of my cousins have bright red or dark brown hair and it's all so super thick. I'm the only strawberry blonde in the family. I always envied my cousins' hair. Long and thick and bright or dark. Now I love my hair as an adult, but I think it was just something my granny said to make me feel better maybe? Idk. It's not baby thin, but it's not thick either. I do thin it once in a while if it gets too heavy.
The thing that bothered me about the first bride wasn’t just that she kicked someone out. She took time and attention away from what is supposed to be a celebration for her AND her husband. The fact that she was so distracted over something so trivial is the ultimate insult. It just seemed like she is one of those people who want a wedding, not a marriage.
I mean, she told both her husband and the friend that she only wanted people they both knew well. When friends gf broke up with him, he contacted husband to ask if a stranger could come. Husband said yes and did not tell bride even tho he knew she would not be comfortable with that. To me, this was a “ you said no, I did it anyway, now you wouldn’t want to cause a scene, would you” situation. I think groom depended on the fact that op would’ve only confronted him afterwards. I think everyone sucks in this story, with the exception of friends date, cause that poor girl was probably unaware of the entire situation.
@@jjgandthatsenough nah the groom is allowed to have who he wants and if he doesn't care if his friend brings a random person that's on him. It's apparently only something she cares about. But like it was said in the video his date was already paid for and the point of bringing someone was so he wouldn't be alone. It seems like she controlled his guest list to meet her ideals. Just cause you don't know them well doesn't mean he doesnt. Considering it was his only childhood friend I think the bride should be more willing to compromise for one person. What did she think when she told his date to leave that he was gonna stay?? It's not like it was 12 ppl from his fraternity bringing random dates. She obviously doesn't care about her husband. And she's shady considering she couldn't even have that conversation herself she had to get someone else to kick em out. You should only be focused on the person you are marrying everyone else doesn't really matter and everything else doesn't matter. Is she really gonna think back and say it would have been beautiful if only that one girl didn't come nah. If it wasn't her it'd be something else. She's lucky they didn't make a scene cause that would have been instant karma. They could have actually ruined her wedding. But she probably just started the demise of her marriage. It says something when the groom feels he needs to hide things to keep the peace.
Yeah, you do everything you can to prepare and then just relax and let go as events take their course. As long as you're married and happy to be so at the end of the day, the wedding was a success. If you're really bothered by something like this, you can talk to the husband/friend later about it rather than humiliating the poor date, but if you're really marrying a good match for the right reasons, I doubt you'd even bother to care.
@@alexrusso6503 I never said he was not allowed to invite his friends. I said he sucks for not telling his wife that friend was taking someone else, knowing his wife made a big stink about inviting someone she considered “a stranger”. Husband knew she was not easy to talk around when the plus one was supposed to be friends gf. Bride is a huge idiot for kicking someone out who was not aware of the situation and probably thought the invite and plus one was enough to convince her she was not trespassing. Friend is an idiot for not informing that poor young woman what bride was like, or just contacting bride about the situation himself. If you have to sneak around your partner to get what you want, because they have a tendency to steamroll over your wants and needs, you probably shouldn’t be getting married.
If that’s what you want it to be, there ought to be a service, like a central casting, for the *perfect* bridal party! Instead of having your BFFs, your sister or cousin who were at your side through thick and thin, but face it, are too fat, thin, too pretty (can’t outshine me at MY WEDDING) you could hire people to stand in for the “perfect” wedding photos. Imagine, all brunettes, while the bride is the only blonde. No tats, no piercings, pregnant bellies, hair all the same length…. Years from now, instead of seeing the faces of people who loved you surrounding you, you have perfect strangers to show your children and grandchildren. (But they all looked just right!) 😉
when instagram explodes and people decide to start living the life in front of them rather than worrying about the ✨✨AESTHETIC ✨✨ the clout and the shares.
My wedding was a surprise wedding at a Saturday night service at a church group I go to, his parents were there, my parents were there, my favorite pastor married us, and it was right after our last mandatory marriage consoling. Were extremely happy, and we spent nothing on our wedding. It was perfect, and I love him.
Brides will probably have that realization once they stop being encouraged to dream of their perfect dream wedding day since early childhood like it's the only day that will ever matter. THEIR DAY to shine.
First bridezilla: “It’s my wedding and I didn’t want…” Perfect summary. The wedding is all about her wants and her wants only. Hubby was only there as necessary background scenery.
That’s literally all of them. Including the last one that decided to make small adjustments until it fit what other people wanted, because she wanted what others want. Sadly I think that’s what she cared about all along, what others wanted.
One of my husbands friends had just started going out with his now wife just before our wedding, he asked if he could bring her as it was also her birthday and he didn't want to miss our wedding or not see her on the day. We agreed, it wasn't a problem to have her there, even though it was the first time we had met her. We even gave her a card and birthday present!
The first time I met my now husband's brother and new wife was at their wedding. It was wonderful to see them so happy and loving. I haven't seen them like that since, but I try to encourage the boys to not fight, as I saw how loving his brother can be. He just hates to show it. Lol
A friend of mine invited a long time friend of hers to my wedding, my wedding was their 1st date, a year later we went to their wedding, that was 20 and 19 years ago.
I think the second bride needed to get that outside advice from Reddit because she was stuck in tunnel vision for her wedding. Every vendor was telling her it is HER day and bending over backwards for those wedding $$. So I am glad she worked it out, it shows all the people in the wedding party she is flexible when it comes down to important issues.
I think she probably also needed people to point out the significance of asking her to cut her hair against her culture. Depending on the culture, she might believe that's mutilating her body in defiance of God, she might feel that her heritage and her pride are represented by the hair... I feel like bride was just thinking like "It's hair, it'll grow back," and a bunch of people probably pointed out to her that it means much more than that to some people.
@@ellaphx It means much more than that to people who grow their hair that long out of preference. Adding in the cultural implication only multiplies the insult but it's an insult no matter what. By the time hair is 4ft or so it has been growing for ~8 years or more and the road to take care of it has come with many challenges. Cutting it back to waist length may still seem long to the bride, but it's half of her hair or more. It took me 5 years to get from waist length to knee length. It might be just hair to someone else, but it is my hair that I have cared for and grown for years. People are ridiculous about hair and weddings. It's a really common topic on hair forums because people get asked to dye or cut their hair way more often than I would have expected. A wedding should never require someone to drastically alter their appearance to suit the bride's personal taste.
@@ellaphx My thought too. I don't know if the bride grasped what was meant by Adie's culture at first. In her mind, cutting the hair to Addie's waist was still really long hair. I'm guessing it was a religious issue.
Story 1: the entire point of his plus one was so he could have someone there that HE knew since the only people he knew were the bride and groom and they'd be busy. This whole "only married couples unless we know them" rule is just dumb. Life HAPPENS.
As soon as I see the words "at my wedding"" instead of "our" wedding, you're a bridezilla. It makes me so annoyed when brides do this. Some of them act as if the groom's just another part of the decoration
@@katl6426 I don't know about the wording being an issue here... I recently had someone blow up on me, because I referred to my daughter as "my" daughter and not as "our" daughter, since I'm married and she's my husbands daughter, too... but I was really irritated since that person didn't even know my husband and we weren't talking about him, just about stuff that happened at the daughter's school. And I'm still irritated... I mean... her being my daughter doesn't make her less of his daughter and I've never seen anyone take offence when he talks about her as "my daughter" when I'm not around and not topic of the conversation - so when I'm the only one talking and my husband was absent, ofc I'd talk about "my wedding" even though it was also his. It doesn't make it less of his, just that the focus of the conversation isn't on him at that moment.
Not for memories purposes. He knew the boundaries to the wedding but didn’t ask the couple if the wedding crasher can come. She wasn’t the one invited it was his ex he could’ve all can he bring a family member in her place instead before making that decision
@@hopejohnson6347 exactly people want to word police stupidity. Like clearly the child have another parent. Shoot when I’m (playful) petty or just being playful with my ex I tell him get your kids and leave me alone or you have to do something about your kids (they came out looking like him and his side of the family, so that’s the running joke) I even told him I’m going to get a maternity test because he switched my baby I know it😅
Not to mention she has now completely ruined her husband’s friendship with this man. HE was being thoughtful in nit wanting his friend to be there alone, SHE was being controlling and disrespectful
Omg!!! I have second hand embarrassment over how petty and controlling the first bride was. I don’t think I knew half of the people at my wedding. So what!!!! As long as everyone was having a good time and behaving themselves, that’s all that matters.
What was she thinking friend would do? Just dump his friend at the hotel and party with the couple? To give this sort of ultimatum to friend is just mean girl behavior. I think she may have ruined hub's friendship with that action. But maybe she's secretly fine with that.
I get not wanting to share something so important with random people but the goal should be for a fun kickstart to married life and incorporating people from both parties is essential to that. Bride thought she was the only main character.
That last bride who wanted her bridesmaid to cut her hair, ended differently than I thought it was going to end. I’m glad it ended the way it did and I too, am very proud of OP for realizing she was going too far and apologized. Sometimes it takes an outside opinion for people to see the truth. I hope OP comes back with an update and picture of what styles they chose for the bridesmaids, how the wedding went and if she and Adie have a closer relationship/friendship. Oh, I also love the little bride outfit for the t-Rex 🦖 to whomever made it.
My guess is she got a lot of YTA messages to start with explainations. Then with update two she still got the YTA for deciding she wanted to apologize but kick woman out of bridal party or her fiancee told her how bad of an idea that would be.
I agree but I hope she works on her racism. She elevated a minor & relatively new element her own culture, that the bride gets to be selfish (an element with no spiritual value), and then devalued a very deep, sacred, spiritual tradition of another culture. That kind of mindset requires conscious work to change. To be honest, I’m so glad she did seem to realize her error, but the ask originally was disgusting. I am befuddled by someone growing old enough to get married but never encountering the idea of cultural rules around hair cutting. It’s not even a matter of diversity, there’s a lot of fundamentalist Christian women who rarely if ever cut their hair (hair doesn’t grow infinitely, most people just physically cannot produce knee length hair, that’s why you may not notice this practice). She seems to be open to learning, i kind of think it’s fake - she went really fast from being the a-hole to accepting criticism, despite clearly having an extremely gross worldview.
I knew the first woman was a bridezilla when she said her husband had to BEG her to let his only friend bring his gf of 3 years with him to the wedding. Then it got worse and worse 😂
Marriage is a partnership founded on TWO people. It takes love and compromise to make it successful. When only one half of a couple gets their way or unilaterally makes a decision without any consultation with the other half the ship is already headed for a reef. I have seen many marriages break apart in my time here in this world. Perhaps that is why many don't make it past the one-year point. Well, I have never had the pleasure of a young lady wanting to love me more than as a friend, but I am okay with that. Sometimes a rock stands alone.
And sometimes you find love in the most unexpected places. I was single for YEARS and then out of nowhere one of the ladies I knew and didn't like and her husband got divorced. A year later I was dating her husband and 2 years after that we were engaged. I'm fully into being alone and happy. Just because you're alone, doesn't mean you're lonely. But don't close your heart either, because I never would've imagined in a hundred lifetimes that I would have ever been this happy with someone. I really thought I was gonna grow old alone. Now I'm almost 40 and planning a wedding to my bestest friend. But I couldn't agree more. Most men won't tell you, but I have 9 brothers; men dream of their big day just as much as women do.
@@erikarussell1142 My heart is never closed. Love must be shared even if the one you are sharing it with detests you. The actions you do define your true character, and mark the type of person you truly are. Hope springs eternal. I am seasoned (age is a number) and I live, so as long as I am on this side of the dirt I will win someday. 😁
Wedding in 1991. I was surprised at the amount of people I did not know. Guess what .....it was his friends and family from faraway. He knew them so we good. He passed recently. Don't sweat the small stuff. The marriage is what is important not the party. Miss you Miles. Great guy.
Same! Out of the 125 at my wedding I knew about 40, rest were his very large family and his friends. I didn’t mind at all since it was a great day and to charlottes point, my husband’s wedding too. Brides out there…it’s not YOUR day, it’s OUR day.
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I don't understand the obsession some brides have of every bridesmaid looking identical. At my cousins wedding, his wife gave the bridesmaids a colour to stick to and let each of them pick their own dress. Everybody was happy and comfortable and looked gorgeous, and not one person cared that they weren't matching.
It would never occur to me to make my bridesmaids' hair all exactly the same. Maybe this is because I have thick, curly hair and understand that not every hair type works great in the same style. I could see weaving in some flowers or another adornment that ties the different styles together.
So I’m getting married next month and I want them all to look the same but that is because I have OCD I am obviously not going to freak out over different hair lengths but they will have the same style
I told all the gals in my wedding party to pick any solid, pastel colored dress that they already had. (Most of us didn't have a lot of money.) One did, and the rest chose to buy new dresses anyway. And I also asked that all married ladies wear some kind of head covering, as the wedding was at an Orthodox synagogue, and that was the custom there. I don't understand policing what others are wearing. I appreciate modesty, though. Are you covered from shoulder to knee? Yes? No peek-a-boobs? Okay!
As someone with long hair (not as long as Adie tho) I would be upset too if someone asked me to cut my hair for a wedding, it takes YEARS to grow out hair and I love my long hair, I had short hair before and I really hate it and feel best with long hair, why are people always so obsessed with controlling other peoples bodies? o.O at least she understood she was unreasonable and apologized and its nice that she wants to get to know Adie better.
That's what I was thinking! Even without the cultural significance, the idea of asking someone to discard YEARS of hair growth for the bride's preference is just crazy. Also, hiring a hair dresser who charges 200.00 for 20 minutes of work? That's crazy!
Also the whole "It's just one thing" the bride kept saying. Like yeah, maybe, but that "one thing" has lasting damage. As people said before, it take years to grow hair out!! I would be livid if someone asked me to do that. Also like, Bride knew how long Addi's hair was, if it was gonna be an issue, bring it up waaaaaaay at the start. Or already be trying to find alternatives.
With the first bride I'm like on the opposite end of the scale. Getting married in 23 and I've not met half my partner's family or his friends gf's but they're all coming to the wedding. Bit nervous but you know, doesn't bother me enough to make a deal about it. At the end of the day I'm marrying the love of my life and everything else is background
My thought is you want your guests comfortable too. If your friend/groom's friend doesn't really know anyone at the wedding, it's bad etiquette to not allow a "plus 1."
Nice to hear about a bride ( or a person in general) who is open to feedback about their behavior and willing to apologize, make amends, and negotiate a mutually acceptable plan with another person that is respectful of all involved.
I have hope for that last woman (and her marriage.) It takes a big person to admit to being wrong like that - and multiple times. She was definitely out of line, but being willing to communicate, evaluate your actions, apologize, and genuinely change will get you very far as a couple. 💗
On our wedding day, one guest was ill and unable to come - so we invited our photographer (who we didn't know socially) to stay and join in the meal; he stayed on hours after he was due to finish, took lots of extra pics for us, and had a great time with all our other guests. Bridezilla here could have made a new friend, instead of throwing the poor girl out!
Not everyone has that same mindset love. I wouldn’t want a stranger at my wedding either especially not some other chick that’s not the girlfriend I said could come. Also the photographer was your staff, not a complete stranger. Just my thoughts on the matter ❤️
@@chelsiemilstead7329good lord I feel bad for the person you're married to and if there is not a person you're married to then I'm not surprised. You're insufferable. Her husband had to beg to have his own childhood best friend allowed a plus one and she knew about his breakup, he still had the plus one paid for and they traveled across the country and you're still thinking the bride is in the right for kicking them out? Aren't there other things to enjoy /focus on on the happiest day of your life? It wasn't a stranger to her husband and it's his wedding too! He's allowed to invite people that he wants there without her dictating/being forced to beg like he was...I cannot even believe your comment 😂wtf 🤦not like it was a group of strangers, it was her husband's childhood best friends date that traveled across the country and their spots were paid for...one new face is worth destroying your relationship/honeymoon and her husband losing his oldest friend for her own petty selfish control issues? I had a few new faces at my wedding and I was too busy to give a F, focus on what actually matters, making you and your husband's day and making all invited guests happy including her husband's friend and date....so many brain cells lost by your comment 🤦
Why is SHE only able to dictate who can come? It's his freaking wedding too! He should be able to invite whomever he wants whether she knows them or not! Tf? I feel bad for whomever you married. @@chelsiemilstead7329
A wedding is just and event where 2 people get married, some at a courthouse, some in insanely extravagant affairs. I asked my mother to plan most of my wedding. Planning weddings are extremely stressful. Don't lose sight of what is important...the marriage.
exactly! When I planned my wedding, I was so relaxed because it was to be a celebration. A week before the wedding my bridesmaids dress fitting happened - and all of the dresses were one size too small. They came out of the change rooms one by one looking so distraught (the shop owners were too!), I actually laughed and said not to worry - if they couldn't get the dresses in the right sizes by the wedding, then we could look at the same dress in complementary colours, or different dresses in the same colour, or some other option. The shop owners were awesome and got the right dresses in. The wedding was beautiful - some unexpected incidents like my baby cousin humming twinkle, twinkle little star during the vows, and her older brother (five years old) standing facing the wall and looking up at a decoration there. But, those were some of the moments that made the wedding memorable.
Wow, for once a Bridezilla did the right thing! So proud of her and her attitude towards changing herself. Hopefully she will allow this to happen in other aspects of her life! 🙏🏻
The 2nd story I can understand. As a hair stylist, Standard updo can range round: $80 to $120. Updos for extra thick or extra long hair: $130-$140. Updos with intricate braiding or detail: $150-$160. So for thick past your knees hair that's about $230. However culture/Heritage is way more important and needs to be respected.
She also then brought them out both to lunch and then a dinner. The up-charge for hair was more about the look of it and the cost was an excuse. Granted, I agree that hair past the waist starts looking messy in most cases. I think she was hoping to cut to waist (still long) in order to give the hair shape again. However, as you said, if it's cultural, you need to just let it go.
"Wish you a very petty Christmas" 😂 - the ad was hilarious . The skit was great as was Maggie's gift . Also , in the spirit of Christmas, the second OP deserves to be commended for changing from Bridezilla to a understanding person . 🙂
For once it's so nice to see someone respond resonably to the internet calling her out! She stood up and not only solved the problem, but apologized and offered to take them out to dinner and get to know her better? Respect... Anyone can be wrong about something, but not everyone is willing to admit to their mistakes and take corrective action. Good for her and I hope she had a nice wedding :)
I heard of a wedding similar to the first bridezilla. Basically the bride had only people she met at her wedding. To each their own, but what if her fiancé had a relative or friend who didn't live nearby & she had never met that he wanted to invite? I think the guest list should be collaborative between both partners.
A guest list is definitely a collab between the both partners. We had a guest cap of 80 so we split it 40-40 and we spoke to each other about some guests who would be bringing partners (we couldn't afford everyone's plus one, but a few unmarrieds got one). I didn't make a decision without him and vice versa.
About 20 years ago I was in a friend's wedding and just a couple weeks before the ceremony I had an awful bleach fail. I broke off a crap ton of hair. All of the bridesmaids had long hair and were getting updos. I felt so bad but I went to her right away and I'm like if I have to get a wig I will. How do you want to do this? She was so understanding. She obviously felt bad for me cuz I lost half my hair and we did a trial run with the hair stylist to see if we could still do an updo and there was enough left to make it look really cute. You couldn't even tell him the pictures. I thank God I didn't have a bridezilla for a friend.
I actually think bride 2 really did need the feedback from Reddit and it goes to show how someone with maturity and self-awareness can learn from hearing outside opinions. A lot of these AITA posts get taken down by the OP the second they catch any heat but its nice to see someone willing to be wrong and make it up to their friends for once.
OMG. My daughter's wedding was last weekend. As she is adopted, and I encourage her to have relationships with her bio fam, there were several people there I didn't know. I could have cared less. All we wanted was a beautiful ceremony, a kick ass reception, and a wonderful dinner for all. And it happened!
Exactly. Maybe the guy should have asked the groom if the switch was okay, but it should have been cool. My attitude is if I already paid for the food, I don't care who sits in the seat. Bring them along!
whether or not you cared is irrelevant to someone elses wedding. its not your wedding so you dont have to know anyone but the bride/groom lol. weird place to insert yourself in attempt to get on a pedestal
I absolutely agree, that brides need to take into consideration their to-be-husband’s wants for their wedding as well. Within reason of course, there are also groomzillas out there who have ridiculous expectations or demands. There needs to be more of a balance between the couple (just to add I’d find it still acceptable if one of them didn’t have much of an opinion and gave less input because they trusted their partner’s choices).
I've cleared everything with my future husband. Right down to the flowers and the songs. He got a say in absolutely everything. Men don't tell you this, but they daydream about their big day just as much as women do.
@@fallingawayfromthenorm awe thank you so much!! It's in June next year. I get butterflies every time I think of marrying him. I'm so excited to spend the rest of my life with him. He is my bestest friend ever.
When one of my longest-time best friends (since birth, really) got married, her (now ex) husband, then fiancé, wasn’t entirely okay about having people he didn’t know attending. My friend told him, “I have known this person since they were born. We’ve helped each other through pet deaths, moving, birthdays, learning to ice skate, having a guest spot on a radio show, everything. She will be there! She’s my sister!” As an example of how close our families are… the youngest brother got a DUI shortly after turning 21. The text or call he feared the most: my sister! They were born just six days apart.
IT WAS HIS WEDDING TOO!!! I understand why he's upset because that's his ONE childhood friend. Now his friend isn't talking to him. She f*cked up. Also, she could have spoken to her husband privately afterwards
Yes she is definitely TA. It's not just her wedding. It was also her partners wedding and for him to BEG for his friend to get a plus one is pathetic. I'd be questioning my choice of partner at that point.
I would say she needed to talk to the husband before even saying anything to the girl tbh. And then she's need to ask herself if there's even a point in saying anything to the friend/girl.
@@GubbiGap she even did not deign to say anything herself, but sent her bridesmaid to do her dirty job! And her poor husband lost his only childhood friends! She's so egocentric and doesn't care about anything or anyone!
I'm guessing the last bridezilla was trying to get thick, knee length hair into a complicated updo, which is nuts. Glad reddit got her to see the light.
Yeah, there isn't much you can do with 4 feet of hair. There's really not. Using curling irons are our of the question too, the hair is too heavy to hold it.
That part confused me because she initially complained it didn't look as good as the other bridesmaids' hair because of all the complicated braiding. But like, what else do you do with 4-foot hair? It's too heavy for anything else. And if it was supposed to be a fancy updo, there are ways to modify that for longer hair. Not, it won't look the same, but what is this obsession with getting bridesmaids to all look the same?
Right?? It's basically going "I want to stamp all individuality out if my friends so I can have a picturesque wedding, don't ruin my 'vision'". So far in all my friends' weddings, bridesmaids were given a rough colour / style for the dress but had different dresses and those weddings were still lovely. It's important that people are respected and feel comfortable, not that they look the same
@@felinemoonchild I have roughly knee length hair. There are stunning braided updos that can be done with very long hair, but I often just put my hair in a single, loosened braid for formal events. Add some accessories and it does look nice. For my own wedding I plan to do a braid that incorporates little braids with vines braided in and pearls and flowers attached.
This time the outside opinions opened the eyes of the bride expecting hair to be cut; she was remarkable in how she actually listened, considered the other view and is going above and beyond to turn it into a watershed experience, considering her husband's values, too! Surprised me!! Rare!
When I got married there were people at my wedding that I did not know. They were friends of my husband and his family. It is just something that happens. I think the first bride was a bridezilla.
Story number one it meant so much to the groom to have his closest friend there and she couldn't even make sure that happened for him. Sounds like she didn't even want the friend there to begin with
@@m1ndymayhem My theory is that, the bride is very domineering in the relationship and the husband think that if he told about it earlier, the bride would automatically not give his childhood friend a plus one, thus the childhood friend would probably not come. So, the husband chose to not tell the bride, thinking that she would just go along with it.
I’m so glad the second bride learned from the criticism. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Everyone should be willing to do so. Credit where it’s due. She sounds like a good friend to have after all. 💜
In regards to the last story, we love growth 😊 Good on her for coming to terms with her demands and changing her view and approach I feel like a proud friend lol
I'm honestly impressed by the bride that was listening to the advice of not making her friend cut her hair. She's one of the few who at least accept they did something wrong and did something about it.
I totally support the last bride. Not for what she did, but for the way she took the critique online, made and effort to understand why she was at fault and tried to do something to mend things over. Not many people would be humble enough to do that. Not even the ones critizing her. Good for her!
That last bride took a journey but she got there in the end! It's nice to know that Bridezillas can learn & grow & realise that Bridezilla-ing is not the way to start a marriage.
That last one was a real roller coaster, but there was some real personal growth! It's unfortunate she didn't seem to have people in her life to call her out and set her straight, but you can always count on some unbiased honesty from strangers on the internet.
I’m really glad that the bride who wanted to cut the other person’s hair actually used this as a learning experience and made things right. Good for her.
Thank you Maggie! It’s perfect! Charlotte needed that for her collection. 🦖👰♀️ Too cute. 🤗 😂 Haha! The skits charlotte! Please don’t stop doing them. They are FUN.
That last one had me angry for a moment there. But by Edit 4, I was crying happy tears. I’m so glad they could work through it!! And honestly, hearing you say you were proud of them made me cry more. Lol!
Wow round of applause for the last bride! 🤗 Honestly really impressed she actually listened to people and actually think she really learned from it. Tbh I really don't think she would have understood why it was a big deal without outside opinions. I had a friend that would sometimes do things not meaning harm and honestly not realize what was wrong with it without a good explanation.
The first one is definately the AH. There were people at my wedding that I didn't know that my husband wanted invited. They were old friends in a different state that he kept in touch with, so I never had a chance to meet them. Maybe I am wierd, but I would never invite a single adult with out providing them a plus one. I would not want to go to a wedding by myself.
Right! Heck, I have family members I don't know because I haven't seen them since childhood, and I've never met their grown children. I also have family I would never invite to a wedding because they would get sloppy drunk and spout conspiracies and racist and LGBTQ+ hate.
Did your husband know those people well? Because in the story he knows his friend but doesn’t know his new +1. He decided to take a chance on a complete stranger without consult his bride-to-be before hand.
@@tommoore2012He literally had to beg his wife for the plus one with the childhood friend's ex, what makes you think he was stoked on bringing up the plus one change to a new woman to his wife? He okayed the new date and didn't tell his wife because IT'S HIS WEDDING TOO, why does only she have a say?! The plus one was paid for and swapped with a new ladyx big deal...The childhood friend was also a stranger she'd not met yet and expecting her husband to not allow his oldest ONLY childhood friend a date traveling across country just for your own petty controlling obsessions is absurd and divorce worthy. He didn't tell her the date changed because the plus one was already paid for and he knew she'd cancel it since he literally had to beg her the first time. Aren't there more important things to worry about than a single new face? How about be happy for your husband and be stoked to meet his oldest friend and date? Literally in a crowd full of loved ones and a single unfamiliar face was enough for her to throw her husbands feelings out the window and destroy their friendship, its his wedding too, he shouldn't have to beg her. Y'all in this comment section are twisted and just as nuts as the bride... 😬
Cutting my hair has always been a huge part of my identity because I really took pride in my long hair. Mine was as long as my waist and it's not uncommon in my Christian community to have your hair very long. I had to buzz it because of an illness and it was devastating. Honestly traumatic. Don't EVER force a girl to cut her hair if she doesn't want to
@@liberty2380 My dear, i think you mean "hysterically". Historically is the stuff with wars and artifacts and old culture and ancient times. History. Not quite the same :)
I LOVE a redemption story, where people realize they did wrong, learn from their mistakes, IMPROVE THEMSELVES, and move forward to a happier life and making the world a better place. HOORAY! Honestly, redemption arcs like this are why my mother so adores disaster movies. She says that disaster movies show the characters true natures - the ones you think are good people sometimes turn out to be GREAT people, and sometimes turn out to be garbage people. And sometimes, the people that everyone looks down on and THINKS are garbage people will turn out to be the true heroes. This is a true HUMAN story, about a person recognizing a flaw in themselves, fixing that flaw through honest and open communication, including being willing to accept criticism, and becoming an even better person. I am SO HAPPY! I take back what I said in my previous comment (clearly, I jumped the gun, posting before the edits) about you being too immature to marry. You ARE mature enough to marry. Yeah, you done goofed up about the hair, but you are mature enough to take criticism, correct course, and be a better person, because of it. I warrant that you will become excellent friends with Adie, in the future, as this episode, that was a stumbling block in your relationship, has become the building block, instead, as you worked together to overcome an obstacle. Now, you understand her better, AND you understand yourself better. Win-win! I second Charlotte. I, too, am proud of you, and not being facetious. I LOVE REDEMPTION STORIES! Thank you! This is the best possible note on which to end my day.
Regarding the husband's friend's date. she said she didn't want a stranger, i.e., the plus one at her wedding. The second plus one was a stranger to her, but the first plus one was a stranger, too.
Story 1: bride and groom agree to only married friends and friends where they know the SO well, (something I think is completely reasonable because if you are paying 200 a plate you have the right to only want people you actually know there) with the exception of groom's friend as while they don't know SO well they have meet her. Bf breaks up with gf DAYS before the wedding and hooks up with someone new in that time or just randomly invites someone. Knowing the rules and that he was given an exception by the skin of his teeth. He tells the groom who despite having come up with a compromise to something his so was uncomfortable with decides it is easier to "beg forgiveness than ask permission" which is a great start to a marriage. Bride notices a wedding crasher and finds out she was brought in by a guest. Bride tells bridesmaid to tell the crasher to leave but guest to stay. Guest leaves and despite being so important to groom is unnoticed. Groom throws a temper tantrum and "friend" gives silent treatment for not being allowed to bend his exception further. Bride seems pretty normal if not a bit anxious.
To me it sometimes seems as though people want mannequins at their wedding instead of actually wanting their friends and family as they are. I get that you want a theme, a certain style and for it to be unified, but things like hair, tattoos, weight or whatever it is, is what makes your loved ones who they are, individuals, and I would want my friends there as they are, because I care about them for who they are...
At my wedding nearly 50 years ago,my bridesmaids were my sister and two of my besties. Different heights, hair colors, etc. The important thing is that they were important to me and still in my life today.
Regarding the last one, yes, she was being a bridezilla and I'm also super proud that she was so open to the opinion of strangers and that she grew from the experience. However, even though the husband was going to be the best man, why does it necessarily have to mean that our beautiful Rapunzel had to be also added to the wedding? I have two couple friends, one of which was already married when the second pair was married, and both were part of the bridal party because all four people are dear friends. Also during that wedding, there was a groomsman whose wife was not in the bridal party because she wasn't close to the bride. But because she was the wife, she got to chill with us girls while her hubby was with the boys, and at the reception she got to sit with her hubby, so she didn't get left out.
Good for the hairstyle bride for owning up to her mistakes and amending them. Not a lot of people will do that. It's a good sign for her marriage's chance of succeeding.
This (bride being controlling and kicking out her husband’s friend because it’s “her” wedding) is what happens when the wedding becomes more about expensive fancy things, control, self-absorbed glamour, and money, rather than just having people you love (and their friends) there to share in and witness the love you have for each other.
I brought my childhood friend from kindergarten to my cousins wedding. Whom she knew also I double check with her (bride) she knew her. Being a huge wedding I needed my best friend there. Thankful my family was able to accommodate. Everyone is different
Story 1 absolutely wouldn't have gone through with the wedding as groom if my friend was forced out due to my fiance gone he helped me through more than most will know and that means more to me than an untrustworthy ex at that point.
I understood this to have taken place at the reception after the ceremony but yeah I would have it annulled based on the control and selfishness of the bride. How did he miss it up to this point tho?
@UCYwtrn7cH_9VjWE47L1Nvlw The husband didn't know that his new witch-of-a-wife kicked out his friend's date until the next day. We don't know if the husband was aware that his friend was bringing a different woman before the wedding. The friend likely asked him if it was okay, and not being a complete psycho, the husband told him "Yes" since it's his friend!
I don‘t really understand what the problem is. Maybe it is cultural thing? If something like that happened, I am pretty sure most couples would be just like „Eh whatever, let’s party“ or something like that.
But the problem is, she didn't want to look back at photos and see pictures of people that weren't going to be in her life permanently. She only made that exception because she thought that that couple was probably going to get married. When they didn't get married. She just had a stranger in her wedding photos. That's the one thing she did not want.
Glad the girl listened to Reddit. She seems to have learned a valuable lesson, showed humility, and genuine kindness reaching out to get to know them better. 💖🙏
There’s one detail that, if it was genuinely apart of the first story, I could see it switch from YTA to NTA. If you found out that the friend broke up with his girlfriend a few days prior because he was cheating, and the new plus one was his mistress. I could see how tolerating their presence could be perceived as tolerating their actions, and I could understand someone giving them the boot in those circumstances. But that’s not what happened here, so unless there’s any more pertinent info, the YTA seems fair.
I'm glad that last bride at least asked before the wedding. Most of these brides are hind sight only and after it causes problems in their relationship. At least this one had sense to apologize and work it out. Even if it took the entire internet.
I will never understand people who ask friends/family to be in their bridal party ONLY to have expectations to change their appearance, cut hair, etc. The friends in my bridal party were asked to be a part of our wedding because we love them..... as they are, unconditionally! It's their value as friends who stood the test of time! Nothing else mattered to us! Shame to those who place T&C on their friends after the fact!
pausing the video partway through once again because THAT SKETCH FOR THE PETTY MERCH WAS AMAZING i'm really enjoying seeing these comedy/cinema flexes, please keep them coming
I’m getting married in October and even though all my bridesmaids will be wearing matching dresses (except my MOH) I told them each to do their hair and makeup how ever they want to. I actually want them to all look different. These videos have kept me sane during the wedding planning!!
Apparently the last bride did need to go to the internet for advice so that she could get other viewpoints than her own. That's what showed her what she needed to do.
I'm glad that last bride saw some reason. I don't cut my hair for cultural/religious reasons as well, and far too many people get very upset about that for lesser reasons than a wedding "looking nice". I'll do backbends for people, but leave my hair out of it (and also please don't touch it!)
I think that Adie story was exceptional. She really needed the intervention that reddit had to give her but she did take the advice and (what's even harder) turned herself around, apologized and changed her bridezilla ways. That's honestly admirable and probably nothing reddit AITA sees too often?
I was watching this episode whilst washing up, near the end I started singing grace Kelly because Charlotte sounded like she saying a verse and then Ryan Reynolds and will Ferrell joined in. It made me jump and I bit my tongue 🤦🏼♀️ You win this round editors 😂
As someone who is both being married into a big family and comes from a big family, I have relatives I don't know but that will still be invited to my wedding. So did the first story op have a problem with her husband's distant relatives attending her wedding too? Tbf to op the friend should have mentioned the change up to the couple that way there wasn't a surprise. However I get the feeling op would have then canceled the friends invite which would have left her as the ahole once again so 🤷🏽♀️ all in all the bride is the ahole
Yes, I thought it was weird enough that she was insisting on knowing every guest's spouse/SO before inviting them. Unless you're having a VERY small wedding, I can't see why that matters? Bride/Groom usually only spend a few minutes with most guests at large weddings.
Maybe the friend did mention the change to the groom, his childhood friend, and the groom said it was fine, since he's not a psycho! Who knows? The friend's "date" may have been his sister, or a long time platonic friend and he needed them there for support because his heart was hurting, and weddings trigger the pain of losing a love relationship he had for 3 years. I feel bad for the groom. This hostile act of his bride is only the beginning of the selfish behavior he has just signed up for.
Here’s the difference. Her relatives that she doesn’t know have alibis in other relatives she does know that could speak on their behalf that they are safe guests to invite. His husband’s childhood friend brought someone who she had no idea could vouch if that someone was safe to bring. And to make it worse, both her husband and his friend intentionally omitted this from her because they knew she would have reservations about it. But they didn’t consider what she wanted because they decided it was less important than what her husband’s friend wanted. Maybe if they had spoken to her from the beginning and she got the chance to speak to the date it would have gone better.
@@LazyIRanch Her groom is a liar. Rather instead of talking to the one who’s opinion matters the most he just brushed it off and made the decision for both of them without consulting her about it first. People are saying OP is a control freak, her new groom is a dishonest shill.
@@tommoore2012 OR maybe the bride can stop being such a control freak and just enjoy her wedding...? You're acting like this guest was going to make an actual difference in the bride's life...or even the few hours during the reception. wtah? I don't blame the groom for being upset with her. Throwing out a guest under these circumstances absolutely ridiculous! It was CLEARLY about asserting her control and nothing else.
Charlotte, thank you for working so hard to bring us these videos!!!!! Also "Random people at my wedding". You AND your husband's wedding, the "random" person was HIS friend's friend, and they'd already RSVP'd. Geesh! Please stop asking people to completely change their appearance for a wedding. ESPECIALLY if doing so would be culturally insensitive. But it's good to see that this particular bride has learned from her mistake. Finally, LOVE the Bridezilla! 🤣❤️
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Hey. I think we should ALL collectively applaud the last bridezilla who posted an AITA question on Reddit, *actually* read the responses to said question, AND then actively took part in bettering not just the situation but herself in the process. Don't think we've seen one of those AH yet. LoL.
For real though.
I agree the realization and acceptance that you are in the wrong is an admirable quality
YES!!
So proud of her! She is not narrow minded as she clearly has been receptive to feedback from the start. That's not always easy. Kudos to her! ❤
I agree I think she was amazing to take criticism and constructively work on bettering all types of it’s situations
Yep, this is what pointing out AHs should be about. Finding ways to move forward and be better than yesterday.
I am genuinely happy with the bride in the last story for recognizing that she needs to strengthen her relationships with her future husband’s friends and spouses. So many women miss that part of getting married and focus solely on themselves, and I’m proud of the way she is apologizing and owning her mistake.
same! She's graciously learnt a big lesson that will be so beneficial for her marriage. Being able to admit when you're wrong, working to rectify and even improve relationships, and doing this not only for your spouse but for people who are important to them, is something that many never get - her marriage is, oddly, starting off stronger because of this.
I'm Kiowa native American. I've never cut my hair. It's against my beliefs. It's where my strength and beauty lies, I would be amazingly upset at this bride. The only time I've ever cut it was after my grandmother died. We only cut it when brought about by great grief.
Edit: I'm super proud of this bride for taking necessary amendments to this poor girl. Good job.
Just curious though, would you expect a bride to pay 200 pounds extra to get your hair done? Or would you offer to chip in?
Never cutting you hair sounds like a massive undertaking. When my hair get to my waist, it is so heavy and pulls on the crown of my head. How do you deal with yours, what style? I don't want to appropriate your culture, but it would be nice to know how to manage.
@@lisahuber9329 I would agree to pay the other half of what wouldn't be covered, absolutely. But sounds like she was wanting an updo and really long thick hair is not able to hold when it's so heavy. You have to do long braids and any curl has to be braided or twisted in when wet and left to dry. Which will take about a full day to 2 days. Especially if her hair is as long as mine. 4feet.
@@scc6454 no you're fine, I'm allowed to trim it and style it. But a massive chop would mean I'm decreasing my strength and beauty. So I have my hair styles in a side part, with my face framed and I have layers. I don't wash it every day, I actually grease and powder it, and wash it 2x a week. I'd be happy to answer any more questions. My hair isn't really thick though, as I'm also Irish. Lol!! So powder works for my hair. If yours is thick, I'd suggest skipping the powder.
@UCnYaWxdeJO5vY5y5gLrH9_Q lol oh, my granny always told me it was the Irish in me that made it thinner. Idk. Lmao!! Most of my cousins have bright red or dark brown hair and it's all so super thick. I'm the only strawberry blonde in the family. I always envied my cousins' hair. Long and thick and bright or dark. Now I love my hair as an adult, but I think it was just something my granny said to make me feel better maybe? Idk. It's not baby thin, but it's not thick either. I do thin it once in a while if it gets too heavy.
The thing that bothered me about the first bride wasn’t just that she kicked someone out. She took time and attention away from what is supposed to be a celebration for her AND her husband. The fact that she was so distracted over something so trivial is the ultimate insult. It just seemed like she is one of those people who want a wedding, not a marriage.
I mean, she told both her husband and the friend that she only wanted people they both knew well. When friends gf broke up with him, he contacted husband to ask if a stranger could come. Husband said yes and did not tell bride even tho he knew she would not be comfortable with that. To me, this was a “ you said no, I did it anyway, now you wouldn’t want to cause a scene, would you” situation. I think groom depended on the fact that op would’ve only confronted him afterwards. I think everyone sucks in this story, with the exception of friends date, cause that poor girl was probably unaware of the entire situation.
@@jjgandthatsenough nah the groom is allowed to have who he wants and if he doesn't care if his friend brings a random person that's on him. It's apparently only something she cares about. But like it was said in the video his date was already paid for and the point of bringing someone was so he wouldn't be alone. It seems like she controlled his guest list to meet her ideals. Just cause you don't know them well doesn't mean he doesnt. Considering it was his only childhood friend I think the bride should be more willing to compromise for one person. What did she think when she told his date to leave that he was gonna stay?? It's not like it was 12 ppl from his fraternity bringing random dates. She obviously doesn't care about her husband. And she's shady considering she couldn't even have that conversation herself she had to get someone else to kick em out. You should only be focused on the person you are marrying everyone else doesn't really matter and everything else doesn't matter. Is she really gonna think back and say it would have been beautiful if only that one girl didn't come nah. If it wasn't her it'd be something else. She's lucky they didn't make a scene cause that would have been instant karma. They could have actually ruined her wedding. But she probably just started the demise of her marriage. It says something when the groom feels he needs to hide things to keep the peace.
Yeah, you do everything you can to prepare and then just relax and let go as events take their course. As long as you're married and happy to be so at the end of the day, the wedding was a success.
If you're really bothered by something like this, you can talk to the husband/friend later about it rather than humiliating the poor date, but if you're really marrying a good match for the right reasons, I doubt you'd even bother to care.
@@alexrusso6503 I never said he was not allowed to invite his friends. I said he sucks for not telling his wife that friend was taking someone else, knowing his wife made a big stink about inviting someone she considered “a stranger”. Husband knew she was not easy to talk around when the plus one was supposed to be friends gf. Bride is a huge idiot for kicking someone out who was not aware of the situation and probably thought the invite and plus one was enough to convince her she was not trespassing. Friend is an idiot for not informing that poor young woman what bride was like, or just contacting bride about the situation himself. If you have to sneak around your partner to get what you want, because they have a tendency to steamroll over your wants and needs, you probably shouldn’t be getting married.
@@jjgandthatsenough I think he should have asked but didn't think about it and thought it would be ok since there qould be the same amount of people.
Charlotte, when will brides realize that a wedding is NOT supposed to be a choreographed Broadway production? 🥰
If that’s what you want it to be, there ought to be a service, like a central casting, for the *perfect* bridal party! Instead of having your BFFs, your sister or cousin who were at your side through thick and thin, but face it, are too fat, thin, too pretty (can’t outshine me at MY WEDDING) you could hire people to stand in for the “perfect” wedding photos. Imagine, all brunettes, while the bride is the only blonde. No tats, no piercings, pregnant bellies, hair all the same length…. Years from now, instead of seeing the faces of people who loved you surrounding you, you have perfect strangers
to show your children and grandchildren. (But they all looked just right!) 😉
when instagram explodes and people decide to start living the life in front of them rather than worrying about the ✨✨AESTHETIC ✨✨ the clout and the shares.
why? it's their wedding and they have total freedom..so why shouldn't they?🤷 and why should they listen to you? who are you to them?
My wedding was a surprise wedding at a Saturday night service at a church group I go to, his parents were there, my parents were there, my favorite pastor married us, and it was right after our last mandatory marriage consoling. Were extremely happy, and we spent nothing on our wedding. It was perfect, and I love him.
Brides will probably have that realization once they stop being encouraged to dream of their perfect dream wedding day since early childhood like it's the only day that will ever matter. THEIR DAY to shine.
First bridezilla: “It’s my wedding and I didn’t want…” Perfect summary. The wedding is all about her wants and her wants only. Hubby was only there as necessary background scenery.
That’s literally all of them. Including the last one that decided to make small adjustments until it fit what other people wanted, because she wanted what others want. Sadly I think that’s what she cared about all along, what others wanted.
I don’t give that marriage longer than a few years
One of my husbands friends had just started going out with his now wife just before our wedding, he asked if he could bring her as it was also her birthday and he didn't want to miss our wedding or not see her on the day. We agreed, it wasn't a problem to have her there, even though it was the first time we had met her. We even gave her a card and birthday present!
The first time I met my now husband's brother and new wife was at their wedding. It was wonderful to see them so happy and loving. I haven't seen them like that since, but I try to encourage the boys to not fight, as I saw how loving his brother can be. He just hates to show it. Lol
That’s a sweet gesture of you guys! Congratulations!
What a gem of a couple. Kudos for making her feel special on her birthday. Even though it was both of your day as well ✨🤍✨
And that, Wendy, is what people should do. My admiration for doing it the correct way.
A friend of mine invited a long time friend of hers to my wedding, my wedding was their 1st date, a year later we went to their wedding, that was 20 and 19 years ago.
I think the second bride needed to get that outside advice from Reddit because she was stuck in tunnel vision for her wedding. Every vendor was telling her it is HER day and bending over backwards for those wedding $$. So I am glad she worked it out, it shows all the people in the wedding party she is flexible when it comes down to important issues.
I think she probably also needed people to point out the significance of asking her to cut her hair against her culture. Depending on the culture, she might believe that's mutilating her body in defiance of God, she might feel that her heritage and her pride are represented by the hair... I feel like bride was just thinking like "It's hair, it'll grow back," and a bunch of people probably pointed out to her that it means much more than that to some people.
@@ellaphx It means much more than that to people who grow their hair that long out of preference. Adding in the cultural implication only multiplies the insult but it's an insult no matter what.
By the time hair is 4ft or so it has been growing for ~8 years or more and the road to take care of it has come with many challenges. Cutting it back to waist length may still seem long to the bride, but it's half of her hair or more. It took me 5 years to get from waist length to knee length. It might be just hair to someone else, but it is my hair that I have cared for and grown for years.
People are ridiculous about hair and weddings. It's a really common topic on hair forums because people get asked to dye or cut their hair way more often than I would have expected. A wedding should never require someone to drastically alter their appearance to suit the bride's personal taste.
I would never cut my hair for a Bride EVER EVER
@@ellaphx My thought too. I don't know if the bride grasped what was meant by Adie's culture at first. In her mind, cutting the hair to Addie's waist was still really long hair. I'm guessing it was a religious issue.
Story 1: the entire point of his plus one was so he could have someone there that HE knew since the only people he knew were the bride and groom and they'd be busy. This whole "only married couples unless we know them" rule is just dumb. Life HAPPENS.
As soon as I see the words "at my wedding"" instead of "our" wedding, you're a bridezilla. It makes me so annoyed when brides do this. Some of them act as if the groom's just another part of the decoration
@@katl6426 I don't know about the wording being an issue here... I recently had someone blow up on me, because I referred to my daughter as "my" daughter and not as "our" daughter, since I'm married and she's my husbands daughter, too... but I was really irritated since that person didn't even know my husband and we weren't talking about him, just about stuff that happened at the daughter's school. And I'm still irritated... I mean... her being my daughter doesn't make her less of his daughter and I've never seen anyone take offence when he talks about her as "my daughter" when I'm not around and not topic of the conversation - so when I'm the only one talking and my husband was absent, ofc I'd talk about "my wedding" even though it was also his. It doesn't make it less of his, just that the focus of the conversation isn't on him at that moment.
Not for memories purposes. He knew the boundaries to the wedding but didn’t ask the couple if the wedding crasher can come. She wasn’t the one invited it was his ex he could’ve all can he bring a family member in her place instead before making that decision
@@hopejohnson6347 exactly people want to word police stupidity. Like clearly the child have another parent. Shoot when I’m (playful) petty or just being playful with my ex I tell him get your kids and leave me alone or you have to do something about your kids (they came out looking like him and his side of the family, so that’s the running joke) I even told him I’m going to get a maternity test because he switched my baby I know it😅
Not to mention she has now completely ruined her husband’s friendship with this man. HE was being thoughtful in nit wanting his friend to be there alone, SHE was being controlling and disrespectful
Omg!!! I have second hand embarrassment over how petty and controlling the first bride was. I don’t think I knew half of the people at my wedding. So what!!!! As long as everyone was having a good time and behaving themselves, that’s all that matters.
What was she thinking friend would do? Just dump his friend at the hotel and party with the couple? To give this sort of ultimatum to friend is just mean girl behavior. I think she may have ruined hub's friendship with that action. But maybe she's secretly fine with that.
The meal had been paid for, the guy and his date had already arrived after a long distance travel - kick them out, seriously? Really rude.
I get not wanting to share something so important with random people but the goal should be for a fun kickstart to married life and incorporating people from both parties is essential to that. Bride thought she was the only main character.
That last bride who wanted her bridesmaid to cut her hair, ended differently than I thought it was going to end. I’m glad it ended the way it did and I too, am very proud of OP for realizing she was going too far and apologized. Sometimes it takes an outside opinion for people to see the truth. I hope OP comes back with an update and picture of what styles they chose for the bridesmaids, how the wedding went and if she and Adie have a closer relationship/friendship. Oh, I also love the little bride outfit for the t-Rex 🦖 to whomever made it.
My guess is she got a lot of YTA messages to start with explainations. Then with update two she still got the YTA for deciding she wanted to apologize but kick woman out of bridal party or her fiancee told her how bad of an idea that would be.
@@ashlynadventures912 obviously 😂
I agree but I hope she works on her racism. She elevated a minor & relatively new element her own culture, that the bride gets to be selfish (an element with no spiritual value), and then devalued a very deep, sacred, spiritual tradition of another culture. That kind of mindset requires conscious work to change. To be honest, I’m so glad she did seem to realize her error, but the ask originally was disgusting. I am befuddled by someone growing old enough to get married but never encountering the idea of cultural rules around hair cutting. It’s not even a matter of diversity, there’s a lot of fundamentalist Christian women who rarely if ever cut their hair (hair doesn’t grow infinitely, most people just physically cannot produce knee length hair, that’s why you may not notice this practice). She seems to be open to learning, i kind of think it’s fake - she went really fast from being the a-hole to accepting criticism, despite clearly having an extremely gross worldview.
I knew the first woman was a bridezilla when she said her husband had to BEG her to let his only friend bring his gf of 3 years with him to the wedding. Then it got worse and worse 😂
Marriage is a partnership founded on TWO people. It takes love and compromise to make it successful. When only one half of a couple gets their way or unilaterally makes a decision without any consultation with the other half the ship is already headed for a reef. I have seen many marriages break apart in my time here in this world. Perhaps that is why many don't make it past the one-year point. Well, I have never had the pleasure of a young lady wanting to love me more than as a friend, but I am okay with that. Sometimes a rock stands alone.
And sometimes you find love in the most unexpected places. I was single for YEARS and then out of nowhere one of the ladies I knew and didn't like and her husband got divorced. A year later I was dating her husband and 2 years after that we were engaged. I'm fully into being alone and happy. Just because you're alone, doesn't mean you're lonely. But don't close your heart either, because I never would've imagined in a hundred lifetimes that I would have ever been this happy with someone. I really thought I was gonna grow old alone. Now I'm almost 40 and planning a wedding to my bestest friend. But I couldn't agree more. Most men won't tell you, but I have 9 brothers; men dream of their big day just as much as women do.
Your breaking my heart Frank😢
@@noxlove2151 Don't worry friend. I may get knocked down, but I will not stay there.
@@erikarussell1142 My heart is never closed. Love must be shared even if the one you are sharing it with detests you. The actions you do define your true character, and mark the type of person you truly are. Hope springs eternal.
I am seasoned (age is a number) and I live, so as long as I am on this side of the dirt I will win someday. 😁
Poetic.
So nice to see the last bride accepting her mistakes and really doing something to fix it and make amends ❤️
That skit was so much better than all of the Hallmark holiday movies, let’s be real 😂
Agreed! Best advertising EVER!
It is definitely not better stop lying!
I agree, I totally loved that skit!! ^_^
@@georgiasam8045 who asked you?
Right? "💃🏾 Petty Little Bitch💃🏾😅
Wedding in 1991. I was surprised at the amount of people I did not know. Guess what .....it was his friends and family from faraway. He knew them so we good. He passed recently. Don't sweat the small stuff. The marriage is what is important not the party. Miss you Miles. Great guy.
Right. Your groom's feelings and guests matter too.
Same! Out of the 125 at my wedding I knew about 40, rest were his very large family and his friends. I didn’t mind at all since it was a great day and to charlottes point, my husband’s wedding too. Brides out there…it’s not YOUR day, it’s OUR day.
There once was a lady called Charlotte
Who dreamed of becoming a starlet
She worked hard for years, now her prayers have been heard
And soon her first show will pilot😄
I’m so happy for her! She really deserves this
Yaaayyyyy that was great!!! 👏👏👏
🤩😻🥰😍
Nah. The rules on limericks are clear. And unless you are Irish this is cultural appropriation
@@paulcrowley8587 wait, wat?
I don't understand the obsession some brides have of every bridesmaid looking identical. At my cousins wedding, his wife gave the bridesmaids a colour to stick to and let each of them pick their own dress. Everybody was happy and comfortable and looked gorgeous, and not one person cared that they weren't matching.
It would never occur to me to make my bridesmaids' hair all exactly the same. Maybe this is because I have thick, curly hair and understand that not every hair type works great in the same style. I could see weaving in some flowers or another adornment that ties the different styles together.
I don't like the implication that friends should become accessories for a wedding. That's what weirds me out about it.
So I’m getting married next month and I want them all to look the same but that is because I have OCD I am obviously not going to freak out over different hair lengths but they will have the same style
@Brooklyn Cozart congratulations and fingers crossed that your ocd gives you a break so you can enjoy your wedding to the fullest.
I told all the gals in my wedding party to pick any solid, pastel colored dress that they already had. (Most of us didn't have a lot of money.) One did, and the rest chose to buy new dresses anyway. And I also asked that all married ladies wear some kind of head covering, as the wedding was at an Orthodox synagogue, and that was the custom there.
I don't understand policing what others are wearing. I appreciate modesty, though. Are you covered from shoulder to knee? Yes? No peek-a-boobs? Okay!
As someone with long hair (not as long as Adie tho) I would be upset too if someone asked me to cut my hair for a wedding, it takes YEARS to grow out hair and I love my long hair, I had short hair before and I really hate it and feel best with long hair, why are people always so obsessed with controlling other peoples bodies? o.O at least she understood she was unreasonable and apologized and its nice that she wants to get to know Adie better.
That's what I was thinking! Even without the cultural significance, the idea of asking someone to discard YEARS of hair growth for the bride's preference is just crazy. Also, hiring a hair dresser who charges 200.00 for 20 minutes of work? That's crazy!
Also the whole "It's just one thing" the bride kept saying. Like yeah, maybe, but that "one thing" has lasting damage. As people said before, it take years to grow hair out!! I would be livid if someone asked me to do that. Also like, Bride knew how long Addi's hair was, if it was gonna be an issue, bring it up waaaaaaay at the start. Or already be trying to find alternatives.
Having my hair all chopped off by my mom from the small of my back to my EARS is still one of the most traumatizing events of my life.
This! I have long hair,to my butt,and I'd rather not go to the wedding ,and be a bridesmaid,then cut my frigging hair ! Wow..
With the first bride I'm like on the opposite end of the scale. Getting married in 23 and I've not met half my partner's family or his friends gf's but they're all coming to the wedding. Bit nervous but you know, doesn't bother me enough to make a deal about it. At the end of the day I'm marrying the love of my life and everything else is background
My thought is you want your guests comfortable too. If your friend/groom's friend doesn't really know anyone at the wedding, it's bad etiquette to not allow a "plus 1."
Charlotte as Santa saying "Petty little B!+ch" was something I didn't know I needed until now 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Omg yes 🤣 🤣 It will forever be engraved in my memory.
best merch bit ever
Yasss!
Nice to hear about a bride ( or a person in general) who is open to feedback about their behavior and willing to apologize, make amends, and negotiate a mutually acceptable plan with another person that is respectful of all involved.
I have hope for that last woman (and her marriage.) It takes a big person to admit to being wrong like that - and multiple times. She was definitely out of line, but being willing to communicate, evaluate your actions, apologize, and genuinely change will get you very far as a couple. 💗
On our wedding day, one guest was ill and unable to come - so we invited our photographer (who we didn't know socially) to stay and join in the meal; he stayed on hours after he was due to finish, took lots of extra pics for us, and had a great time with all our other guests. Bridezilla here could have made a new friend, instead of throwing the poor girl out!
Not everyone has that same mindset love. I wouldn’t want a stranger at my wedding either especially not some other chick that’s not the girlfriend I said could come. Also the photographer was your staff, not a complete stranger. Just my thoughts on the matter ❤️
@@chelsiemilstead7329good lord I feel bad for the person you're married to and if there is not a person you're married to then I'm not surprised. You're insufferable. Her husband had to beg to have his own childhood best friend allowed a plus one and she knew about his breakup, he still had the plus one paid for and they traveled across the country and you're still thinking the bride is in the right for kicking them out? Aren't there other things to enjoy /focus on on the happiest day of your life? It wasn't a stranger to her husband and it's his wedding too! He's allowed to invite people that he wants there without her dictating/being forced to beg like he was...I cannot even believe your comment 😂wtf 🤦not like it was a group of strangers, it was her husband's childhood best friends date that traveled across the country and their spots were paid for...one new face is worth destroying your relationship/honeymoon and her husband losing his oldest friend for her own petty selfish control issues? I had a few new faces at my wedding and I was too busy to give a F, focus on what actually matters, making you and your husband's day and making all invited guests happy including her husband's friend and date....so many brain cells lost by your comment 🤦
Why is SHE only able to dictate who can come? It's his freaking wedding too! He should be able to invite whomever he wants whether she knows them or not! Tf? I feel bad for whomever you married. @@chelsiemilstead7329
A wedding is just and event where 2 people get married, some at a courthouse, some in insanely extravagant affairs. I asked my mother to plan most of my wedding. Planning weddings are extremely stressful. Don't lose sight of what is important...the marriage.
My sister is planning mine. I'm so grateful for her. I could never.
exactly! When I planned my wedding, I was so relaxed because it was to be a celebration. A week before the wedding my bridesmaids dress fitting happened - and all of the dresses were one size too small. They came out of the change rooms one by one looking so distraught (the shop owners were too!), I actually laughed and said not to worry - if they couldn't get the dresses in the right sizes by the wedding, then we could look at the same dress in complementary colours, or different dresses in the same colour, or some other option. The shop owners were awesome and got the right dresses in. The wedding was beautiful - some unexpected incidents like my baby cousin humming twinkle, twinkle little star during the vows, and her older brother (five years old) standing facing the wall and looking up at a decoration there. But, those were some of the moments that made the wedding memorable.
@@erikarussell1142 I hope your wedding is an absolutely beautiful beginning to a strong and loving marriage 💗
@@katebet07 awe, thank you so much!!
@@erikarussell1142 you're welcome 😊
Wow, for once a Bridezilla did the right thing! So proud of her and her attitude towards changing herself. Hopefully she will allow this to happen in other aspects of her life! 🙏🏻
Right!! I hope they actually become friends and can laugh about this some day
honestly if I was the husband I'd see this as a good sign. She fucked up, realized that and amended the situation.
the last story is heartwarming as it turned around at the end. im glad she came to her senses
The 2nd story I can understand. As a hair stylist, Standard updo can range round: $80 to $120. Updos for extra thick or extra long hair: $130-$140. Updos with intricate braiding or detail: $150-$160. So for thick past your knees hair that's about $230. However culture/Heritage is way more important and needs to be respected.
She also then brought them out both to lunch and then a dinner. The up-charge for hair was more about the look of it and the cost was an excuse. Granted, I agree that hair past the waist starts looking messy in most cases. I think she was hoping to cut to waist (still long) in order to give the hair shape again. However, as you said, if it's cultural, you need to just let it go.
"Wish you a very petty Christmas" 😂 - the ad was hilarious . The skit was great as was Maggie's gift . Also , in the spirit of Christmas, the second OP deserves to be commended for changing from Bridezilla to a understanding person . 🙂
For once it's so nice to see someone respond resonably to the internet calling her out! She stood up and not only solved the problem, but apologized and offered to take them out to dinner and get to know her better? Respect... Anyone can be wrong about something, but not everyone is willing to admit to their mistakes and take corrective action. Good for her and I hope she had a nice wedding :)
I heard of a wedding similar to the first bridezilla. Basically the bride had only people she met at her wedding. To each their own, but what if her fiancé had a relative or friend who didn't live nearby & she had never met that he wanted to invite? I think the guest list should be collaborative between both partners.
A guest list is definitely a collab between the both partners. We had a guest cap of 80 so we split it 40-40 and we spoke to each other about some guests who would be bringing partners (we couldn't afford everyone's plus one, but a few unmarrieds got one). I didn't make a decision without him and vice versa.
About 20 years ago I was in a friend's wedding and just a couple weeks before the ceremony I had an awful bleach fail. I broke off a crap ton of hair. All of the bridesmaids had long hair and were getting updos. I felt so bad but I went to her right away and I'm like if I have to get a wig I will. How do you want to do this? She was so understanding. She obviously felt bad for me cuz I lost half my hair and we did a trial run with the hair stylist to see if we could still do an updo and there was enough left to make it look really cute. You couldn't even tell him the pictures. I thank God I didn't have a bridezilla for a friend.
I actually think bride 2 really did need the feedback from Reddit and it goes to show how someone with maturity and self-awareness can learn from hearing outside opinions. A lot of these AITA posts get taken down by the OP the second they catch any heat but its nice to see someone willing to be wrong and make it up to their friends for once.
I like the way the last story turned out. Everyone respecting each other.
"What did you get for secret Me?" was too funny! That skit made my day.
"Unless you're marrying a ghost or something" had me laughing hard for a longer time than may be considered normal!
OMG. My daughter's wedding was last weekend. As she is adopted, and I encourage her to have relationships with her bio fam, there were several people there I didn't know. I could have cared less. All we wanted was a beautiful ceremony, a kick ass reception, and a wonderful dinner for all. And it happened!
Exactly. Maybe the guy should have asked the groom if the switch was okay, but it should have been cool. My attitude is if I already paid for the food, I don't care who sits in the seat. Bring them along!
whether or not you cared is irrelevant to someone elses wedding. its not your wedding so you dont have to know anyone but the bride/groom lol. weird place to insert yourself in attempt to get on a pedestal
I absolutely agree, that brides need to take into consideration their to-be-husband’s wants for their wedding as well. Within reason of course, there are also groomzillas out there who have ridiculous expectations or demands. There needs to be more of a balance between the couple (just to add I’d find it still acceptable if one of them didn’t have much of an opinion and gave less input because they trusted their partner’s choices).
I've cleared everything with my future husband. Right down to the flowers and the songs. He got a say in absolutely everything. Men don't tell you this, but they daydream about their big day just as much as women do.
@@erikarussell1142 That’s super awesome, congrats and I hope your wedding is everything the two of your have dreamed of!
@@fallingawayfromthenorm awe thank you so much!! It's in June next year. I get butterflies every time I think of marrying him. I'm so excited to spend the rest of my life with him. He is my bestest friend ever.
When one of my longest-time best friends (since birth, really) got married, her (now ex) husband, then fiancé, wasn’t entirely okay about having people he didn’t know attending. My friend told him, “I have known this person since they were born. We’ve helped each other through pet deaths, moving, birthdays, learning to ice skate, having a guest spot on a radio show, everything. She will be there! She’s my sister!”
As an example of how close our families are… the youngest brother got a DUI shortly after turning 21. The text or call he feared the most: my sister! They were born just six days apart.
IT WAS HIS WEDDING TOO!!! I understand why he's upset because that's his ONE childhood friend. Now his friend isn't talking to him. She f*cked up. Also, she could have spoken to her husband privately afterwards
Absolutely! She could have ignored that person and talked to her husband about it LATER. The bride was entirely too caught up in having control.
Yes she is definitely TA. It's not just her wedding. It was also her partners wedding and for him to BEG for his friend to get a plus one is pathetic. I'd be questioning my choice of partner at that point.
I would say she needed to talk to the husband before even saying anything to the girl tbh. And then she's need to ask herself if there's even a point in saying anything to the friend/girl.
@@PyroWolfofEarth Yeah... I also wonder about her claim that she and the groom were both being very particular about guests. 😆
@@GubbiGap she even did not deign to say anything herself, but sent her bridesmaid to do her dirty job!
And her poor husband lost his only childhood friends! She's so egocentric and doesn't care about anything or anyone!
Hearing Santa say “you’re a petty little bitch” was the highlight of my day.
I'm guessing the last bridezilla was trying to get thick, knee length hair into a complicated updo, which is nuts.
Glad reddit got her to see the light.
Yeah, there isn't much you can do with 4 feet of hair. There's really not. Using curling irons are our of the question too, the hair is too heavy to hold it.
That part confused me because she initially complained it didn't look as good as the other bridesmaids' hair because of all the complicated braiding. But like, what else do you do with 4-foot hair? It's too heavy for anything else. And if it was supposed to be a fancy updo, there are ways to modify that for longer hair. Not, it won't look the same, but what is this obsession with getting bridesmaids to all look the same?
Right?? It's basically going "I want to stamp all individuality out if my friends so I can have a picturesque wedding, don't ruin my 'vision'". So far in all my friends' weddings, bridesmaids were given a rough colour / style for the dress but had different dresses and those weddings were still lovely. It's important that people are respected and feel comfortable, not that they look the same
@@felinemoonchild I have roughly knee length hair. There are stunning braided updos that can be done with very long hair, but I often just put my hair in a single, loosened braid for formal events. Add some accessories and it does look nice. For my own wedding I plan to do a braid that incorporates little braids with vines braided in and pearls and flowers attached.
This time the outside opinions opened the eyes of the bride expecting hair to be cut; she was remarkable in how she actually listened, considered the other view and is going above and beyond to turn it into a watershed experience, considering her husband's values, too! Surprised me!! Rare!
When I got married there were people at my wedding that I did not know. They were friends of my husband and his family. It is just something that happens. I think the first bride was a bridezilla.
Story number one it meant so much to the groom to have his closest friend there and she couldn't even make sure that happened for him. Sounds like she didn't even want the friend there to begin with
Why couldn't his amazing friend mention he was bringing someone else? Being sprung with that info last minute surely played a hand, here!
@@m1ndymayhem At no point in the story did she say the friend didn't tell the GROOM. SHE didn't know. And that is what was intolerable to her.
The guy from the first story that married OP should get an annulment immediately
@@m1ndymayhem My theory is that, the bride is very domineering in the relationship and the husband think that if he told about it earlier, the bride would automatically not give his childhood friend a plus one, thus the childhood friend would probably not come. So, the husband chose to not tell the bride, thinking that she would just go along with it.
@@m1ndymayhem literally❗❗
I’m so glad the second bride learned from the criticism. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Everyone should be willing to do so. Credit where it’s due. She sounds like a good friend to have after all. 💜
In regards to the last story, we love growth 😊
Good on her for coming to terms with her demands and changing her view and approach
I feel like a proud friend lol
She didn't just apologize, she had a whole outlook on life change. When have we ever had a bridezilla AITA actually end happily ever after? Amazing
Im also proud of that last bride for realizing how she was being and is working on getting to know the other people
Judge Charlotte is a great judge
She is firm but fair
I'm honestly impressed by the bride that was listening to the advice of not making her friend cut her hair. She's one of the few who at least accept they did something wrong and did something about it.
I totally support the last bride. Not for what she did, but for the way she took the critique online, made and effort to understand why she was at fault and tried to do something to mend things over. Not many people would be humble enough to do that. Not even the ones critizing her. Good for her!
That last bride took a journey but she got there in the end! It's nice to know that Bridezillas can learn & grow & realise that Bridezilla-ing is not the way to start a marriage.
That last one was a real roller coaster, but there was some real personal growth! It's unfortunate she didn't seem to have people in her life to call her out and set her straight, but you can always count on some unbiased honesty from strangers on the internet.
I’m really glad that the bride who wanted to cut the other person’s hair actually used this as a learning experience and made things right. Good for her.
Thank you Maggie! It’s perfect! Charlotte needed that for her collection. 🦖👰♀️ Too cute. 🤗 😂 Haha! The skits charlotte! Please don’t stop doing them. They are FUN.
LOVE the Santa and Rudolf bit!!!! The accents for both were AMAZING!!!!! LOL
That last one had me angry for a moment there. But by Edit 4, I was crying happy tears. I’m so glad they could work through it!! And honestly, hearing you say you were proud of them made me cry more. Lol!
Wow round of applause for the last bride! 🤗 Honestly really impressed she actually listened to people and actually think she really learned from it. Tbh I really don't think she would have understood why it was a big deal without outside opinions. I had a friend that would sometimes do things not meaning harm and honestly not realize what was wrong with it without a good explanation.
The first one is definately the AH. There were people at my wedding that I didn't know that my husband wanted invited. They were old friends in a different state that he kept in touch with, so I never had a chance to meet them. Maybe I am wierd, but I would never invite a single adult with out providing them a plus one. I would not want to go to a wedding by myself.
Right! Heck, I have family members I don't know because I haven't seen them since childhood, and I've never met their grown children. I also have family I would never invite to a wedding because they would get sloppy drunk and spout conspiracies and racist and LGBTQ+ hate.
Did your husband know those people well? Because in the story he knows his friend but doesn’t know his new +1. He decided to take a chance on a complete stranger without consult his bride-to-be before hand.
@@tommoore2012 if following wedding etiquette anyone 16 and older automatically gets a plus one.
@@___melanie Must be a cultural thing because I’ve literally never heard of that at any point.
@@tommoore2012He literally had to beg his wife for the plus one with the childhood friend's ex, what makes you think he was stoked on bringing up the plus one change to a new woman to his wife? He okayed the new date and didn't tell his wife because IT'S HIS WEDDING TOO, why does only she have a say?! The plus one was paid for and swapped with a new ladyx big deal...The childhood friend was also a stranger she'd not met yet and expecting her husband to not allow his oldest ONLY childhood friend a date traveling across country just for your own petty controlling obsessions is absurd and divorce worthy. He didn't tell her the date changed because the plus one was already paid for and he knew she'd cancel it since he literally had to beg her the first time. Aren't there more important things to worry about than a single new face? How about be happy for your husband and be stoked to meet his oldest friend and date? Literally in a crowd full of loved ones and a single unfamiliar face was enough for her to throw her husbands feelings out the window and destroy their friendship, its his wedding too, he shouldn't have to beg her. Y'all in this comment section are twisted and just as nuts as the bride... 😬
Cutting my hair has always been a huge part of my identity because I really took pride in my long hair. Mine was as long as my waist and it's not uncommon in my Christian community to have your hair very long. I had to buzz it because of an illness and it was devastating. Honestly traumatic. Don't EVER force a girl to cut her hair if she doesn't want to
Charlotte dressed as Santa made me laugh historically aspecialy when the reindeer came in
Ima petty little biiiiitch
I don't know how one laughs historically, but I'd like ro learn. 🤣
@@deconstructing7307 I found it to be especially hysterical. Lol.
@@deconstructing7307 I’ve done it sense I was little usually when something funny catches me off guard
@@liberty2380 My dear, i think you mean "hysterically". Historically is the stuff with wars and artifacts and old culture and ancient times. History.
Not quite the same :)
I LOVE a redemption story, where people realize they did wrong, learn from their mistakes, IMPROVE THEMSELVES, and move forward to a happier life and making the world a better place. HOORAY!
Honestly, redemption arcs like this are why my mother so adores disaster movies. She says that disaster movies show the characters true natures - the ones you think are good people sometimes turn out to be GREAT people, and sometimes turn out to be garbage people. And sometimes, the people that everyone looks down on and THINKS are garbage people will turn out to be the true heroes.
This is a true HUMAN story, about a person recognizing a flaw in themselves, fixing that flaw through honest and open communication, including being willing to accept criticism, and becoming an even better person. I am SO HAPPY!
I take back what I said in my previous comment (clearly, I jumped the gun, posting before the edits) about you being too immature to marry. You ARE mature enough to marry. Yeah, you done goofed up about the hair, but you are mature enough to take criticism, correct course, and be a better person, because of it. I warrant that you will become excellent friends with Adie, in the future, as this episode, that was a stumbling block in your relationship, has become the building block, instead, as you worked together to overcome an obstacle. Now, you understand her better, AND you understand yourself better. Win-win!
I second Charlotte. I, too, am proud of you, and not being facetious.
I LOVE REDEMPTION STORIES! Thank you! This is the best possible note on which to end my day.
Words to Live By "Do you want to be Right? Or do you want to be Happy?"
Lmao happy spouse happy house.
Regarding the husband's friend's date. she said she didn't want a stranger, i.e., the plus one at her wedding. The second plus one was a stranger to her, but the first plus one was a stranger, too.
Omg the Christmas part... Santa Charlotte😂❤️i Love it so much.
The best part of the Channel is her amazing sense of humour😂
Story 1: bride and groom agree to only married friends and friends where they know the SO well, (something I think is completely reasonable because if you are paying 200 a plate you have the right to only want people you actually know there) with the exception of groom's friend as while they don't know SO well they have meet her.
Bf breaks up with gf DAYS before the wedding and hooks up with someone new in that time or just randomly invites someone. Knowing the rules and that he was given an exception by the skin of his teeth.
He tells the groom who despite having come up with a compromise to something his so was uncomfortable with decides it is easier to "beg forgiveness than ask permission" which is a great start to a marriage.
Bride notices a wedding crasher and finds out she was brought in by a guest. Bride tells bridesmaid to tell the crasher to leave but guest to stay.
Guest leaves and despite being so important to groom is unnoticed.
Groom throws a temper tantrum and "friend" gives silent treatment for not being allowed to bend his exception further.
Bride seems pretty normal if not a bit anxious.
The past one was a nice change of pace. That bride really took her criticism good. Well done
Holy shizz, the petty merch ad was a treasure, I spit out my coffee laughing! Love u char & anonymous editor!
Also, please, give your editor a pay rise. He absolutely cracks me up every video 😭🤣🤣
To me it sometimes seems as though people want mannequins at their wedding instead of actually wanting their friends and family as they are. I get that you want a theme, a certain style and for it to be unified, but things like hair, tattoos, weight or whatever it is, is what makes your loved ones who they are, individuals, and I would want my friends there as they are, because I care about them for who they are...
At my wedding nearly 50 years ago,my bridesmaids were my sister and two of my besties. Different heights, hair colors, etc. The important thing is that they were important to me and still in my life today.
Regarding the last one, yes, she was being a bridezilla and I'm also super proud that she was so open to the opinion of strangers and that she grew from the experience.
However, even though the husband was going to be the best man, why does it necessarily have to mean that our beautiful Rapunzel had to be also added to the wedding?
I have two couple friends, one of which was already married when the second pair was married, and both were part of the bridal party because all four people are dear friends. Also during that wedding, there was a groomsman whose wife was not in the bridal party because she wasn't close to the bride. But because she was the wife, she got to chill with us girls while her hubby was with the boys, and at the reception she got to sit with her hubby, so she didn't get left out.
The bride is a C word . Just wow. Good luck to the groom. I can’t believe she actually spent any energy on this.
Aww, Charlotte dressed as Petty Santa & Petty Rudolph made my day.
Good for the hairstyle bride for owning up to her mistakes and amending them. Not a lot of people will do that. It's a good sign for her marriage's chance of succeeding.
Wow, the story with the long haired bridesmaid did not end how I thought it would. Nice to see something good happen for a change.
This (bride being controlling and kicking out her husband’s friend because it’s “her” wedding) is what happens when the wedding becomes more about expensive fancy things, control, self-absorbed glamour, and money, rather than just having people you love (and their friends) there to share in and witness the love you have for each other.
I brought my childhood friend from kindergarten to my cousins wedding. Whom she knew also I double check with her (bride) she knew her. Being a huge wedding I needed my best friend there. Thankful my family was able to accommodate. Everyone is different
ROUND OF APPLAUSE👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for the bride in the last story for actually changing and growing as a person. Absolutely LOVE to see it!! ❤
Story 1 absolutely wouldn't have gone through with the wedding as groom if my friend was forced out due to my fiance gone he helped me through more than most will know and that means more to me than an untrustworthy ex at that point.
I understood this to have taken place at the reception after the ceremony but yeah I would have it annulled based on the control and selfishness of the bride. How did he miss it up to this point tho?
@@davidguidry657 Rose tinted glasses is my best guess - sometimes it can be hard to see a loved one's mistakes especially when planning to marry them
@UCYwtrn7cH_9VjWE47L1Nvlw The husband didn't know that his new witch-of-a-wife kicked out his friend's date until the next day. We don't know if the husband was aware that his friend was bringing a different woman before the wedding. The friend likely asked him if it was okay, and not being a complete psycho, the husband told him "Yes" since it's his friend!
I don‘t really understand what the problem is. Maybe it is cultural thing? If something like that happened, I am pretty sure most couples would be just like „Eh whatever, let’s party“ or something like that.
But the problem is, she didn't want to look back at photos and see pictures of people that weren't going to be in her life permanently. She only made that exception because she thought that that couple was probably going to get married. When they didn't get married. She just had a stranger in her wedding photos. That's the one thing she did not want.
Glad the girl listened to Reddit. She seems to have learned a valuable lesson, showed humility, and genuine kindness reaching out to get to know them better. 💖🙏
Charlotte: "I love happy endings"
Me: "I love your editors"
That ad for your merch was brilliant! So funny!
There’s one detail that, if it was genuinely apart of the first story, I could see it switch from YTA to NTA. If you found out that the friend broke up with his girlfriend a few days prior because he was cheating, and the new plus one was his mistress.
I could see how tolerating their presence could be perceived as tolerating their actions, and I could understand someone giving them the boot in those circumstances. But that’s not what happened here, so unless there’s any more pertinent info, the YTA seems fair.
Her petty commercial 🤣 I loved
This video comes out the day before I get married. 😂 I love watching these types of video.
And Maggie, awesome job on the prop!! It's amazing!!!
Congratulations for tomorrow!
Congrats!!🎉
I hope you have a fantastic wedding!! Congrats in advance!
congrats!!
@@hejmonika1001 Thank you!
WOW!! The last one actually listened, learned and grew as a person! Did that just happen?
It’s a miracle - we gotta buy a lottery ticket today 😂
The first story: On Reddit she was voted as the Ahole.
I'm glad that last bride at least asked before the wedding. Most of these brides are hind sight only and after it causes problems in their relationship. At least this one had sense to apologize and work it out. Even if it took the entire internet.
I will never understand people who ask friends/family to be in their bridal party ONLY to have expectations to change their appearance, cut hair, etc.
The friends in my bridal party were asked to be a part of our wedding because we love them..... as they are, unconditionally! It's their value as friends who stood the test of time! Nothing else mattered to us!
Shame to those who place T&C on their friends after the fact!
pausing the video partway through once again because THAT SKETCH FOR THE PETTY MERCH WAS AMAZING
i'm really enjoying seeing these comedy/cinema flexes, please keep them coming
Charlotte is killing it with these skits 😂😂
I rarely watch through ad reads and stuff but I enjoyed this
I’m getting married in October and even though all my bridesmaids will be wearing matching dresses (except my MOH) I told them each to do their hair and makeup how ever they want to. I actually want them to all look different. These videos have kept me sane during the wedding planning!!
Apparently the last bride did need to go to the internet for advice so that she could get other viewpoints than her own. That's what showed her what she needed to do.
I'm glad that last bride saw some reason. I don't cut my hair for cultural/religious reasons as well, and far too many people get very upset about that for lesser reasons than a wedding "looking nice". I'll do backbends for people, but leave my hair out of it (and also please don't touch it!)
I think that Adie story was exceptional. She really needed the intervention that reddit had to give her but she did take the advice and (what's even harder) turned herself around, apologized and changed her bridezilla ways. That's honestly admirable and probably nothing reddit AITA sees too often?
I was watching this episode whilst washing up, near the end I started singing grace Kelly because Charlotte sounded like she saying a verse and then Ryan Reynolds and will Ferrell joined in. It made me jump and I bit my tongue 🤦🏼♀️ You win this round editors 😂
As someone who is both being married into a big family and comes from a big family, I have relatives I don't know but that will still be invited to my wedding. So did the first story op have a problem with her husband's distant relatives attending her wedding too?
Tbf to op the friend should have mentioned the change up to the couple that way there wasn't a surprise. However I get the feeling op would have then canceled the friends invite which would have left her as the ahole once again so 🤷🏽♀️ all in all the bride is the ahole
Yes, I thought it was weird enough that she was insisting on knowing every guest's spouse/SO before inviting them. Unless you're having a VERY small wedding, I can't see why that matters? Bride/Groom usually only spend a few minutes with most guests at large weddings.
Maybe the friend did mention the change to the groom, his childhood friend, and the groom said it was fine, since he's not a psycho!
Who knows? The friend's "date" may have been his sister, or a long time platonic friend and he needed them there for support because his heart was hurting, and weddings trigger the pain of losing a love relationship he had for 3 years.
I feel bad for the groom. This hostile act of his bride is only the beginning of the selfish behavior he has just signed up for.
Here’s the difference. Her relatives that she doesn’t know have alibis in other relatives she does know that could speak on their behalf that they are safe guests to invite. His husband’s childhood friend brought someone who she had no idea could vouch if that someone was safe to bring. And to make it worse, both her husband and his friend intentionally omitted this from her because they knew she would have reservations about it. But they didn’t consider what she wanted because they decided it was less important than what her husband’s friend wanted. Maybe if they had spoken to her from the beginning and she got the chance to speak to the date it would have gone better.
@@LazyIRanch Her groom is a liar. Rather instead of talking to the one who’s opinion matters the most he just brushed it off and made the decision for both of them without consulting her about it first. People are saying OP is a control freak, her new groom is a dishonest shill.
@@tommoore2012 OR maybe the bride can stop being such a control freak and just enjoy her wedding...? You're acting like this guest was going to make an actual difference in the bride's life...or even the few hours during the reception. wtah? I don't blame the groom for being upset with her. Throwing out a guest under these circumstances absolutely ridiculous! It was CLEARLY about asserting her control and nothing else.
Your editor is amazing! I love the clips and extra photos added in with your face on them. They make me laugh every time
Charlotte, thank you for working so hard to bring us these videos!!!!!
Also "Random people at my wedding". You AND your husband's wedding, the "random" person was HIS friend's friend, and they'd already RSVP'd. Geesh!
Please stop asking people to completely change their appearance for a wedding. ESPECIALLY if doing so would be culturally insensitive.
But it's good to see that this particular bride has learned from her mistake.
Finally, LOVE the Bridezilla! 🤣❤️