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Friend And Partner Poaching By A Narcissist

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  • Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2023
  • Did an ex or friend ever steal your friend group after a falling out? Did they try to get in between your relationships due to envy? Let’s talk about it. 🌈
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Комментарии • 41

  • @jeffreyhopkins7769
    @jeffreyhopkins7769 8 месяцев назад +14

    Wow, I've been through some of the same shit. Some people want what they don't have, they don't "really" want it, they just want what you have.

    • @Amazology
      @Amazology 8 месяцев назад +3

      Envy demands that you take the joy from the Other. It's not about the thing, person, object it's about ruining the enjoyment of the other afaik.

    • @tdesq.2463
      @tdesq.2463 24 дня назад

      Correct.

  • @rachelinthelionsden
    @rachelinthelionsden 25 дней назад +1

    Wow I love when people who are in the world of Narcisasism and BPD speak out and educate❤. So so good.
    This happened w a sibling of my husband. Like what?? L I t e r a l l y NO bro code. You’re trying to mate poach and then blame me? Oh noooo. I saw the flags partially because he did this in his past. But partially because I did my research and watched people such as yourself.
    Thank you.

  • @imm0rtalitypassi0n
    @imm0rtalitypassi0n 8 месяцев назад +5

    The backstabbing and poaching thing is so foreign to me. It's always been a hard rule of mine to never do that and never date or screw friends of exes even after break ups are healed. It's like a weird lasting loyalty I seem to stick myself with- even with awful exes. (I'm a straight woman, if that's relevant)

  • @HotTubOwnerHQ
    @HotTubOwnerHQ 8 месяцев назад +3

    If only I had discovered your channel years ago! I think how much more knowledgeable I would be, and how much heartache I could've saved myself. Thank you as always for putting yourself out there and making such amazing videos!

  • @khurramawan6338
    @khurramawan6338 8 месяцев назад +2

    It's amazing how you dissect the nuances of relationships.

  • @veebliss1266
    @veebliss1266 8 месяцев назад +2

    I also had this experience with men “friends” who would tell my future partner not to date me etc and talk bad about me to people who confided in them that they liked me or were interested and I never knew men gossip like that ! But would later reveal to them they envied our relationship 😂

  • @imm0rtalitypassi0n
    @imm0rtalitypassi0n 8 месяцев назад +6

    Word of caution: haha...be extra wary of falling for dudes in bands- specifically extreme metal bands. Learned that the hard way. 😅

    • @veebliss1266
      @veebliss1266 8 месяцев назад +1

      Me too!

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад +2

      3 out of 5 fellas in my long term relationships were in bands, at least for a short time. LOL And the most toxic one was the Artist.

    • @imm0rtalitypassi0n
      @imm0rtalitypassi0n 8 месяцев назад

      @thatcptsdguy6347 haha, hey i mean- they're also my friends. Not monsters, yet I did learn never to date them even though it's definitely never ALL people in one demographic. 😅 But you're in that "scene" so I don't even have to explain, haha. You know your peers well enough 🤣.

    • @imm0rtalitypassi0n
      @imm0rtalitypassi0n 8 месяцев назад

      @@cLuStErBMiLkShAkE haha, yes. I understand. ☺️

    • @imm0rtalitypassi0n
      @imm0rtalitypassi0n 8 месяцев назад

      a related analogy: Don't fall for some dude because you have your Pete Steele goggles on. Aka- you're lookin at some Type O Negative feigned persona 🙄, havin no clue about the Carnivore roots lurking behind the mask. 🤣 That man was the poster boy for untreated/undiagnosed NPD. (But now i'm gonna get pitchforked by his fans, lol)

  • @dogtrainingmexico
    @dogtrainingmexico 8 месяцев назад +2

    With my borderline ex I had a lot of this going on, he had a lot of trouble with boundaries. Sometimes I had to intervene... in a group excursion from the beach, a narcissist friend of mine told me she was going to ride back in the truck sitting next to my man... I said, "no you're not. You are going in the other vehicle." LOL. All in the past now, as I enjoy a different, more balanced relationship with my current partner...

  • @funkymonk542
    @funkymonk542 8 месяцев назад +3

    Yes Sara I agree, “ bro code “ is dead ❤

  • @smolangrymartian
    @smolangrymartian 8 месяцев назад +1

    Hoooooly shiettt i just remembered something i had forgotten!! My ex person (ill call A) and i had a mutual friend (B) who had a bf (C) me and A and B were friends until B hurt A big time and we all fell out, but until then A and C were all chummy chum chum! After the falling out A actually said to me she wanted to “steal him from her” huh… I can’t remember her exact words, it was either “he deserves better than her” or some other justification, it did not sit right with me at all. Few months later she threw me in the trash lmao. But damn i had completely forgotten about this!

  • @surfshack2
    @surfshack2 8 месяцев назад +5

    That’s what’s dangerous about dating hot chicks. There isn’t any guy who won’t white knight for her.
    Oh and watch what you’re saying on a text.

    • @imm0rtalitypassi0n
      @imm0rtalitypassi0n 8 месяцев назад

      Ha, I think white knighting can only work if that "hot chick" is being treated like shit and taken for granted by the guy who already has her and doesn't think relationships take lasting efforts by both people involved. (And she's a coward about breaking up before lining up a new mate) But I guess if that's a boyfriend's plan...then yeah- date an ugly, insecure chick who will not only put up with shit partnership, but who also thinks she doesn't have any other options. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Less white knighting to worry about.

  • @debralavorata546
    @debralavorata546 8 месяцев назад

    Once again a brilliant video.unfortunately I was a secret from his friends,family because his narcissist self told me he can't have friends their jealous of him But this video is so true of people and so called friends, people will show their true colors.Personaly I think friends and family should not even be introduced to ur person,it brings situations like this,thanks Sara,hi Mr.Chicken,the truest confidant,no poaching from him 💯🐓👍

  • @veebliss1266
    @veebliss1266 8 месяцев назад +1

    What’s the shirt say ? I like the colors ❤ I always had girl code for my friends but my own cousin and sister did it to me , they backstabbed me in a heartbeat . It’s so sad . I made girl friends
    Later down the road thinking they were older and going to be better but nope half of them talked about me after first hang out . Just sad! I’m alone and it’s better that way .

  • @Tbone_Crusader
    @Tbone_Crusader 8 месяцев назад +1

    Bro code shoud be valued..but people learn that shit later in life...there is zero Honour in pickup of friends ex...or to cheat with...zero honour

  • @Djgyiiwfio05
    @Djgyiiwfio05 8 месяцев назад +1

    The most disgusting type of trash who pretended to be quiet, demure and vulnerable but have so much opinion about you to the guys from cliques. If she is really that likeable and popular, I dont think she need to resort to tactics to gain attention and support.

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад +2

      It all comes down to her own sense of self worth. If she's masking, that is her false self created from childhood. There's nothing under the mask but a hollow shell. Everything she is is fake. Being popular is a 24/7 theater gig.

  • @anonymousghostcrab4606
    @anonymousghostcrab4606 Месяц назад +1

    Ya had an ex narc homie serial poacher of my exes link hard with my ex female ex narc who I if left due her ongoing vaginal infections and try to brag

  • @alessanrosantoro5538
    @alessanrosantoro5538 8 месяцев назад +1

    how to recognize a narcissistic partner at the first date?

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад +1

      ruclips.net/video/nsYm1-6Gz7A/видео.htmlsi=v8ZY3ElhTs-9dwlE

  • @Mizzfattcattyo
    @Mizzfattcattyo 8 месяцев назад

    Why would a narcissist tell you personaland damaging information about themselves after discard when you say you love and want a baby by them. Then a week later post new supply that's not their type because they know you looked up their FB.

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад +2

      Making you see him in a bad light after saying you want a baby with him is letting you know that he doesn't want to have a relationship with you. To push you away further is him posting a new relationship. Do not chase this man or bring a child into this world to be abandoned by him.

    • @Mizzfattcattyo
      @Mizzfattcattyo 8 месяцев назад

      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE I understand but if he was direct with things before why nor be direct now?

  • @Magnus_Kitty
    @Magnus_Kitty 8 месяцев назад +2

    Would someone who is narcissistic feel bad about the loss of a friendship after they groom/lead their friend on to think they want something more than friendship (when they really don't), and inevitably ruin the friendship?

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад

      If they groomed a "friend" under false pretenses, they don't care that the "friend" is gone.

    • @mathatikusprime6165
      @mathatikusprime6165 7 месяцев назад

      @@cLuStErBMiLkShAkEI stole a girlfriend from a coworker that didn’t like me and he was devastated, I just wanted to have sex with her and I did. He broke up with her, and he got another girlfriend. then months later I created a fake gf on Facebook and started talking to him to see if he would interact with her and he did to try to get back at me. Then I sent the convo to his new gf and I hooked up with her to teach him a lesson looool. He hates me. He lost like 30 pounds in a month. 2 gfs in a row.

  • @shoncaldwell4359
    @shoncaldwell4359 8 месяцев назад

    Real shiish😮

  • @andrewphillips969
    @andrewphillips969 8 месяцев назад

    @cLuSter B MiLkShakE I’ve heard you say that during a split the narcissist no longer remembers anything positive about you. Is that a permanent state? I have a narcissistic ex wife. I don’t want her back, I’ve moved on, but she doesn’t speak to me at all and we have 2 children. Is this likely to be the case years down the road, graduations and weddings of our children for instance. Is it your opinion that she’ll still be like that? We’ve been apart 3 years, fyi

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад

      I hope your children are old enough to have a relationship with you outside of her.
      I have never stayed in a split state but that doesn't mean I'm going to see you in a good light again. I just don't care about you (indifferent) and would be nice if I saw you on the street. But if you caused a massive betrayal, you're dead to me. I would look right through you if I saw you in public and embarrass you if you tried to talk to me.

  • @andrewphillips969
    @andrewphillips969 8 месяцев назад

    @cLuSter B MiLkShakE I’ve heard you say that during a split the narcissist no longer remembers anything positive about you. Is that a permanent state? I have a narcissistic ex wife. I don’t want her back, I’ve moved on, but she doesn’t speak to me at all and we have 2 children. Is this likely to be the case years down the road, graduations and weddings of our children for instance. Is it your opinion that she’ll still be like that? We’ve been apart 3 years, fyi

    • @FreeBrunoPowroznik
      @FreeBrunoPowroznik 8 месяцев назад +2

      Apparently, once they start devaluing or flip-flopping on their new partner, they often paint you white again. Hence a hoover attempt

    • @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE
      @cLuStErBMiLkShAkE  8 месяцев назад

      I have never stayed in a split state on anyone forever. But that doesn't mean I'm coming back. I just don't care anymore.