As someone who just spent Christmas alone after separating from a toxic family and then toxic friends, thank you for this. It was lonely, but better than being with bullies.
Think of it as a gift. Once you have excised the cancer from your life, you can start to live. Move abroad. Start a new life, and focus on yourself. Best wishes for 2020. p.s. I was in your position in 2015.
@@threethrushes I live somewhere I love already. And my life is better at any other time. It's just the whole Christmas season I find difficult, which I think is understandable. Sending you good wishes for the next year too!
I feel exactly the same. I found being alone today tough, but I am glad I am not surrounded by people who make me feel terrible. The few friends I have are incredible, and I am so grateful for them. Besides, a lot of people I spoke to about Christmas were quite envious of my day alone, sitting my my PJs, watching films and playing videogames. There are worst things.
I'm currently spending Christmas alone too. Unfortunately, I am separated from people that made me felt like I belong (ex's family). I know, they were never mine to begin with so I'm trying to be content with it.
Mine (after divorce) asked me why I wasn't treating myself with the same kindness and foregiveness I showed to others. 🤔 It was a life-altering question!
Whatever you're looking for is within yourself, not outside. Hope you realize that. Also, face loneliness. Fear of being alone can bring you suffering, so better face it and get rid of it.
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 It often starts with naming and addressing the issue (i.e. "I feel lonely."), then untangling why you have the issue (i.e. "I feel unwanted," or "I haven't socialized for a while). Once you whittle your "why" down to something you can do something about, you can start giving yourself the care you need. Or at least throw some ideas against the wall until something sticks; I dunno. Do want you think would work best for you, I guess.
@@savvivixen8490 Been working at socializing by going to night market by myself. I screw up a lots in socializing, I think it takes years for me to not even have a fear of going out. I'm just afraid I will gives up before I could progressed more.
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 That's amazing that you took such initiative on your own, despite your fears! Great job! You don't have to constantly force yourself to do that all the time, but working outside your comfort zone is healthy. You've already acknowledged that you made progress just by doing what you do. Progress isn't always a straight line, but a journey. Know that I am also rooting for you on your journey, and that failiure is just a gateway to getting better at being better!
I remember the last line of the movie 'Stand By Me'; 'You never have friends again like you had when you were 12'. It seems the older one gets the less trustworthy and relatable people are. Maybe we all just get too much baggage as the years go by. I now enjoy other people in small doses, and I keep in mind what a pain-in-the-ass other people can be when I start to feel lonely. Solitude does have many rewards.
Please a take a moment to realise you made someone's day multiple times from miles and miles away without knowing them or even seeing them...what a time to be alive right?😁 Thanks for being there for me when no one was
What is great in man is that he is a bridge and not a goal. Friedrich Nietzsche This man taught me how to let go of the hateful lonely creature I was and become something better. I didn't think anyone would read my comment let alone like it but I have to confess this is like magic how in this era by leaving a simple comment you can change a human's brain chemicals somewhere far far away and make them feel better❤ Well this comment and the person who wrote it both love you too
Edit: Well I thought that nobody was going to read this. As a person that lives alone I can't express how gratificating is when you are by your own and you handle yourself. When you cloathes are thorn and you sew them, when you feel hungry and make your own food, when your place is messy and you organize in your time. Living alone is harsh because it is learning time; learning our limits and ourselves. Thanks for the video. Edit: So many are reading and relating, thank you all and merry xmas.
I can't wait to live alone, but I'll still keep contact with my parents etc, but there's just so much joy in doing things on your own time and when you want to do things, such as those you mentioned in your comment. Cheers and Merry Christmas.
stop and read this for a second. if you don’t fit in, if you’re lonely, if you’re different. you aren’t in the worst spot. you’re in the best spot, being different and acknowledging you don’t fit in is simply knowing that you are a bright star in a dead galaxy. keep shining. you’re special.
I feel freer than ever after ditching my narcissistic family. For my life time I thought I had to please them to belong in the family. That was a big mistake and a waste. If it is not mutually respectful I will end it right away.
Same in the case, my family, especially my father, tell me that I useless, I won't become a successful person, and all my life, (im 16) I tried to prove myself , I learn things by the hard way, sometimes Im so mature than I should normally be. I used to feel useless, like a garbage, a mess, I was an unmotivated, undisciplined, depressed and blue person, now since I've found stoicism, I feel good, I accept the good and the bad, I don't seek anymore for acceptance.
@@stefancristian4324 My heart goes to you. I know the pain you talked about. I feel stoicism is a great way to be freed from the suffering. I am happy for you found stoicism.
@@stefancristian4324 you're 16,don't be too snowflakey... Your parents will tell you every hurtful thing, to make you stronger in the future when you start getting harsher shit from others.
You nailed it! Two days ago my sister started to get angry with me just because I left her for one day! She still mad that I wasn't next to her. Some people are just so awkwardly politically correct.
I use to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone. - Robin Williams -Happy Holidays Everyone-
I don't know much about Robin Williams, but he always struck me as someone who was desperate for attention. Always in hyper mode, talking too fast, trying to make people laugh. I get worn out by people like that. "Slow down and be real," is what I would have said to him. Not everybody wants to be entertained all the time. This comment is just based on his public persona. I have no idea what he was like on a personal level. It is unfortunate that he decided to commit suicide. (I had to look that up, as my memory is tricky sometimes.) There are people in my life who try too hard to be entertaining. I find myself not wanting to be around them as much as they seem to want me around. Being a person's reliable audience has a way of diminishing you (me). I'm not always up for that.
@@natashamudford4011 from my understanding, people like Robin are hiding their own sadness by making others happy. I'm sure those Robin truly let into his inner circle had some inkling of the depths of his sadness and depression, that he experienced everyday. Wayne Brady is a similar comedian who has come out with a similar admission of terrible depression and his only method of coping was to make others happy.
@@nantahalawildman6345 That is so sad that a person's well-being is so dependent upon the positive reactions of others... not to mention that it puts a lot of pressure on those others. It's always good to find a wide variety of coping mechanisms... and it's best to have a few that don't require other people. I mean no disrespect towards Robin Williams. His death came as a shock to many, and I expect many people miss him.
You speak so many truths. I have find that a solitary state of being is more often then not a blessing. It does help that my friends are solid gold and very supportive, all of them. And of course it helps that we have all known each other for 25-30 years, but still: I dont feel that i need a romantic relationship to be happy for example. But i do cut loose, and have cut of toxic friends in the past. As soon as I detect I soon often start to examine the behaviour of the individual in question very closely, and at the first sight of detecting that this is a presistent behaviour I let them go directly. But it took a few bad turns and crashes to learn this of course, but thats the mening of life to grow and adapt and become better at the same time. In my book you win, or you learn. Both are victories.
I became unwell from interactions with toxic emotional vampires. I am beginning to ground in my self through focused self care, structure, routine. I am manifesting miracles in my life all since embracing solitaryness. My health is restoring, and my soul shouts " welcome home my precious one" I use the time to journal, grow by watching inspiring utube, my darling cat, a clean home, cook and bake. Art. A peace is emerging and l am more resilient, emotionally stronger. My self respect is coming back. Dependent on externals will weaken you. Be the hero you are seeking. You will never be lonely again. Love and light fellow foot soldiers. Ireland
I don't make enough money to donate for your channel, but I don't skip ads and hit the like button thinking it would help you earn money through RUclips. I watch your videos every morning while eating my breakfast. I live alone, and your videos help me all the time; your videos are one of the reasons why I'm still alive. Thank you so much for your help.
The pain of being alone is a lot less than being with someone and wishing you were alone. I read that on the back of a bus ticket when I was Young. Rings true too me now that I am an Old Man.
I'm not some incredibly smart or intelligent philosopher or even really a very inspiring person. But I really enjoy your videos and you've helped me grasp concepts I never would have understood without your amazing and well made videos. Thank you Einzelgänger
I thought this video might annoy me as I am feeling a little sad about being alone today. Instead, I found it full of useful reminders and truths. Thank you.
The sound of silence made me go crazy, I always let my mind to come up with something to escape from the silence but it always ended up in depression ( yes I had suicidal thoughts), my reasoning was that there is no one to fill the silence, no one would text me no one would talk to me no one cared about me but you made me realize one thing. I can fill that silence and if someone else would do it, it would be only temporary. Now ever time I’m starting to feel lonely I get up and go do something that makes me feel accomplishment, I go and learn a new interesting or useful skill, I go and I further perfect something I’m already good at or I go and just simply work out to clean my head and if the silence still kicks in I just enjoy some music to send it away. This is a short and pretty simple video and it doesn’t give people some insane realization or easy trick to help them it gives them something else, something way more important..... a reminder Thank you
“To be free of all authority, of your own and that of another, is to die to everything of yesterday, so that your mind is always fresh, always young, innocent, full of vigour and passion. It is only in that state that one learns and observes. And for this, a great deal of awareness is required, actual awareness of what is going on inside yourself, without correcting it or telling it what it should or should not be, because the moment you correct it you have established another authority, a censor.” ― Jiddu Krishnamurti
It's weird when you spend almost an entire lifetime feeling comfortable alone, and suddenly something just clicks and you start feeling dependant on others to feel complete...If someone is feeling lonely when alone - hope you find all the answers you need within
It's so true. I was hanging out with a couple of friends almost everyday eventhough I never really felt like I was being myself around them. I always felt kinda bad around them and now I stopped hanging out with them and it hurts to be alone but I'd say I'm doing better without them.
I have a close friend who thinks highly of himself. I'm usually at peace with myself, content with the little achievements I make everyday, I don't speak about them because they're my personal accomplishments. Even so, everytime I'm near my close friend, he only talks about himself and all the accomplishments and opportunities he has. He's one year younger than me and has done and met more people than me, he speaks so eloquently that I can't help but feel so small and insignificant next to him. I hate feeling like this because I know that I am enough, I know life is not a race, I know that we're both equal yet I can't help but feel like I'm left behind... Thanks so much for this video, I really needed this reminder.
I really needed this today. I love my family but I feel lonely around them. I lived alone before and i remember not feeling lonely. I loved it. This gave me the answer I need in order to make the next move in my life. Thanks!
Home alone on Christmas due to a cold. I didn't want to infect others. Its difficult to build bonds these days in my opinion which make this time of yr stressful and lonely for many. When gathering w extended family some find that they dont fit in. Its ok. Stoicism teaches that its part of the experience and a chance to make the best of the awkward situation. This vid is spot on. Thank you.
That's why I don't speak to my family anymore and I feel better. Don't be afraid to stay alone because anyway you are not. Your own presence is enough. Why hearing something we don't want to ? Are we masochistic ? No ! Why letting people belittle us ? Are we masochistic ? No ! It's time to stand aside from the herd of cattle. Just staying connected to our presence in a consistent alignment.
@@JohnDoe-vi1im That's right sir,i do agree. But our very existence is because of our families, things may go horribly wrong for some ,but at the end of the day , that's where we came from.Good or bad we have to work things out and make things as peaceful as possible in my opinion.
"Each man's death diminishes me, for I am involved in mankind."- John Donne. Though I'm a lover of solitude, I think most people's desire to connect with others is a biological need. The trick for me is to keep those connections few and nontoxic. I'm sorry you are estranged from your family. I'm sure you have your reasons, but it's still sad.
I learned this the hard way... unconditional love is a by product of finding contentment in yourself. Accepting myself caused me to be more accepting towards others making me more pleasant to be with(myself or others). I have more joy in the present and I feel I’m actually living. To fall in love is codependency to be attatched to someone so that your literal heartbeats are in sync and you both regulate each others biochemistry (your well-being depends on them). Such a relationship can be hell (like and addiction to a drug).A true test of a relationship is wether or not they dump ya if ya deny their conditions.(conditional vs unconditional)...
Joe Sawyer read the book attatched the science of adult attatchment. To fall in literal love with someone is to be addicted to a person and to have each others wellbeing synced, we are wired for this. Wether the relationship is steady or a rollercoaster, healthy/unhealthy attachment (synchronization of 2 bodies) is the same.
Aloneness made me aware of how the system manipulates people to make them dependent of someone else, instead of being self sufficients. All this to keep feeding the mediocrity in the world. Walk your own path and be free!
Same here, I noticed that there is more risk trying to integrate with the system of society than being alone. If you work for someone you may still get fired because there is either someone better or there is no longer a need from you... (Machines) Many years before only a small amount of people had a diploma, now more people have it, thus it lost it's value.. The circumstances are changing, but people don't want to consider changing themselves to go with the times... Don't want to put a wall of text, thus I leave it at that.
I am an individual who spends a majority of my time in solitude. I tend to write and read frequently, and I’ll play video games occasionally. It’s a rather peculiar feeling to transition from the silence of your bedroom and into a world that has become so loud, even obnoxious, that it fails to listen to others when they’re saying to slow down and be quiet for a moment. There’s no need to rush anything or seek out a continuous source of strong stimuli, because you’d only tire yourself out and feel empty afterwards. Take the time to sit and re-evaluate yourself and your relationships, and remember that the greatest company in the world is yourself.
As I get older, I have to really appreciate my personal time & solitude. Love spending time with my daughter, wife or good friends but only in moderate doses. It's healthy & natural to be alone or to have moderate social interaction with others. Just find that balance that works for you but never forget that time spent alone, with your own thoughts in silence, is a positive thing. There's no logical reason to not look inwards to find your own validation & happiness. Thanks for sharing this video, I always find your channel very uplifting & inspirational!
So short, so concise and yet SO TRUE. Accepting myself is such a struggle, yet others see me different, in a much higher place. I wish I could see myself the way others see me. Change my life 2020.
I spent my entire life alone. No family, no friends, no children, never even had a girlfriend. Being alone is just... me. I am used to it, I would not know how to behave, what to say if there were people in my immediate vicinity.
I had everything you didn't have. Today I am happy that I no longer have all of this. I can assure you, you haven't missed anything in life and you have been spared the pain I had.
@@tubegor I have a woman who is being codependent of me. She wants me to move in with her and marry her. Thing is like Niko I'm more used to being on my own and don't find anything attractive about a needy woman who doesn't feel she needs to reciprocate.
@@mango7966 there is compatibility. We are alike in many ways, like a lot of the same things, share similar values etc Just don't want her depending on me too much.
I will listen to this on lonely days to reel myself back in, remembering my choice to leave a toxic marriage and a few family members, and reminding me of my strengths and growth in the process. Thanks to all those who post these amazing videos that help us to cope and figure things out, giving us hope and healing. You are a lifeline to a better us! ♡
Great video, love that you're touching on this topic. Most of us don't even know why we do this or that codependency is so deeply rooted from feelings of not being enough. Thank you for your channel and for posting such great content.
As of late Ive been having a battle with myself. I was looking at the wrongs things for validation, to fill me, or to conform never thinking I wasn't enough for even myself. Crazy how sometimes we put these energies out in the universe and you get a confirmation that says otherwise. I made a conscious effort starting today that I would abstain from social media. As much as I like to follow those I admire in the spiritual community seeing the same posts over and over is not as gratifying let alone how much time we scroll and scroll when we could be doing much more important things like being in the present moment, giving our energy and time to things that matter, and at best...having the time to check-in with yourself. Thank you for posting this. It was meant for me and for all of us in here. Sending love and light from California!
I just wanna ask you to make the sequel of this video as the negative sides to total solitude. I have been alone for like 2 years straight coz I felt alone with my so called friends so I rarely showed up in classes and I thought my friends will gravitate towards me. First year I was so sad and disappointed as my experiment towards them showed results that I didn't wished. I was with them for like grade 1 and they were just some another people that just moved on with new friends. This year I accepted and moved forward but on my way it was so hard I just wished I could talk to someone who asked me what's going on, are you happy, are you sad, This leads in the activation of my weak point of opening up too much to strangers who just happen to ask simple questions. I just want to make account that to much solitude without someone who understands you is very painful and sad. And how to overcome this.
It is not good and healthy to be alone all the time. And yes, it IS tough to do most things by yourself, especially at first when you are not used to it. There needs to be a balance when it comes to sulitude like many other things in life. Humans are social beings after all. But you don't need hundreds of friends, it's ok if you only have a small circle of people you love and trust, even if it's “only“ your family. First of all, learn to love yourself in your entirety. That also means loving yourself with your flaws aswell. Accept yourself and understand why you are as you are. Even if you have a part which you dislike, love yourself regardless and use potential frustrations or even anger to improve yourself. Not because you MUST, but because out of love towards yourself. Once you learned that, many bad people will get sorted out by you, even when it comes to relationships. You won't feel forced to need to open up to complete strangers, especially bad people. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes - but at the same time, motivate yourself to be the best you can possibly be. Most of the time it is not as bad as it seems and it cannot be undone anymore anyway. Look in the past to do things better in the future. You want love? Learn to be loving. You want someone to ask you how you are or how their day has been? Ask others how they are then and what they did. You want to be smiled at? Smile at others. Whatever you wish to have, be willing to give it and you will get it in return aswell. It's hard in general nowadays to bond with others, so it's not completely your fault. Many people are alone like you, they walk along the street and wish someone could talk to them or just greet them with a smile. Even many women are lonely or even divorced nowadays and wish that more men would come, smile at them and greet them. Will it be easy? No, it won't. For some it may be easier of course, for some it will be more difficult. But, it is something you yourself can control and decide to improve on. This is a decision YOU can make. And since you wrote you were alone for 2 years let me tell you, it's ok if you mess up. Don't think too deeply about it, you probably won't be used to actively go towards people I imagine. Even if you messed up 10, 20 or even 50 times or more after that, it's fine. Think about what you could do better next time, if you messed up. You probably won't see most people in life again and they won't think about it anyway ;-) That was directly out of my mind, hope it is helpful. :-)
@@lazalantin5305 It was super amazing that you spare your time to write this big reply. Yes in my first year I was really hard I used to watch anime whole day and it was something where I thought I'm connecting to people who don't betray me and I see myself in most of the MC of anime. I'm in 12th grade and I opted for a non attending school after my 10th to know the power of solitude and also whether I was important to my so called friends as it turned out I was totally alone.. Yes I'm with my family and all but they don't understand me. Also I don't like to go and tell everyone how I felt. It's like trying to get on their soft side intentionally. Since no one understood me I didn't got the privilege of being asked questions even by family. By the end of first year my 11th grade my father was diagnosed with cancer and had to go with my mom to Mumbai for getting medical attention I was with my grandparents and lil sister and got more alone than ever. It was at that time I started loving my solitude and determined to help other my opting psychology as my major and also I would like to know more about my situation my mental condition but eagerly very deep inside I was hoping to Tell everything to my friend who is still close to me but he also didn't have much attention to me that time so I skipped. I went one this year with the same attitude but I started suck in my studies as of my father situation and my growing lack of interest in my subjects. It's almost like everyone hate me. Until recently when my friend out of blue recommend this channel and we started chatting over his videos and our ideology. I opened to to a person who asked how I felt it was amazing I felt so light and Happy. Then I think to go to a counsellor and talked her. And this month when my cousin came she asked me too it was a series of good people. And I felt amazing and as I sucked in studies I recently started giving it time. I have to go out of this lack of understanding people situation and move outside my town and I would love to help others after majoring in psychology. Thanks for reading and I hope you advise me on things I left unnoticed along the way of solitude.
@@ZEKS007 I seeked acceptance around me and I ended up losing loving myself but as others I too wear a mask in front of the ignorant people who just go on and force their views to others nowadays. But I didn't changed my attitude towards others as always I always asked what's going on and are they doing ok in their life. It is tough to seek people so I quit seeking and accepted my situation. And in return I got people who asked me about situation and I was super happy that there are people who are good. I just started studying on my peak because it is the only way I can get out this ignorant society.
After giving up my dreams, Ive learned to have a positive attitude and start appreciating what I have in life, its a hard step but I promise that self-love is stronger than any love you could ever receive from someone else.
Such a perfect timing. I need this exact content at this very moment. This is around 2am at night now in Indonesia and my insomnia creeps out again, along with my anxious thought of me lacking human connection. Thanks for always posting these "soothing" videos.
Hey man From what i know is that your thoughts are creeping you out right why then you dont journal just right down any thoughts that annoying you throughout the day . Just get them down then think about why is it bugging you and does it actually affect you or its chating in your head
Yes, thank you for this. I am a people pleaser, and I can’t stop it very easily. I recently learned that it is better to do you things alone then to “enjoy” The presence of toxic people. So I am alone quite a bit. And it is much better this way. I can support myself, and address my own needs so well.
Your channel is amazing. I have yet to find a video that I don't enjoy watching in some way. It is unbelievable that you don't have more subscribers; you definitely deserve more recognition for your amazing talent.
What you are searching for is WHERE you are searching from. Its like knocking the door from inside , while you are already in. Search for fulfilment and happiness is an internal job.
The natural scenery in Holland seems very serene. I feel calmer looking at it. Nature is the cure for everything and if we let it back into our lives we would be in paradise.
Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus.
first people judged me to death and burnt my passion inside my heart so that i can become mediocre like them and now i look at the ashes of my burnt passion and they dont let me be mediocre either..its worst than being alone
Yo wanderer, what is it that your surrounding killed? Your dream, or your passion as it peaked? Don't let time fool you that you lost your innerfire! Hold on and eject yourself into those thoughts that once people or standards tried to remove from your template. You held onto them till now, its never too late. Good luck fella Sorry for my english
ubuntuber wow that sounds like me experience 🤭so sorry. People are threatened by others who have a great light and passion. You can get it back. Try fasting and prayer: Epsom salt baths
People can make it seem like they are the ones who get to dictate what you should be. But don't be fooled: in the end all people are not you except you yourself. Only you can be you. There will inevitably be people to like you for your passions as there will be people who would judge you for it. If something can truly make you happy, it might be worth more than their negativity.
This year I got suddenly dumped out of a toxic 4 year relationship by my ex gf with narcissistic and avoidant traits. In the beginning I felt like I was physically dying and I was emotionally broken and I turned to youtube channels like this one for self therapy and understanding of what happened and what I could have done to stop it. 7 months later I've learned so much from a whole world I never knew existed - self improvement. I've never felt this free before mentally or physically, I've gained so much knowledge, motivation and understanding about the importance of focusing on myself, discovering myself and staying true to MYSELF in life. I've learned about stoicism, fasting, simple living and I've quit bad habits and routines and picked up interesting hobbies and activities. Lifes never been better and all because I focused on myself for 7 months straight, learning what I needed to do as an individual and learning who I am as a person without rushing into seeking relationships or friendships. Its been difficult some days but I've grown so much, I don't regret it at all. This video really spoke to me and this channel makes me feel like I'm not alone in my self discovery and growth. Thanks for putting out great content and have a happy New Year everyone. Heres to 2020 in our journey called life
I've learned a while back I don't need anyone I've got me and I like to be alone I enjoy my own company!! But dang some times I just want to be held, I miss that!!! 💚
I enjoy being by myself. I find myself sitting back and watching the chaos. I have goals everyday that I achieve, I work, exercise, read, and learn sign language just to name a few.If I had a boyfriend, he would just be in my way. I can't achieve my greatness if he is in the way! I also go out by myself and meet up with friends sometimes at our favorite bar. We dance the night away, I love it! But I love coming home by myself. I guess that I am socially selective. I have a few friends but that is perfectly fine with me. I have been in toxic relationships and chose to walk away gracefully. I guess now that I am 50 something I feel that my life is "complete", I have 4 grown children and 6 grand kids who are my whole world. Thank you for this video to validate that I am OK just being me.
If you have faith in who you are, then you will even be able to face the world alone........and showing your pain and weakness at times doesn't mean that you are a weak person and even if you are weak and insecure, don't worry. The pain you experience even when you are alone will make you stronger.....to anyone who's reading this, have a nice day.....
Excellent!! This former co-dependent agrees 100 percent!! Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all recovering co-dependents worldwide! Thanks, much appreciated!
I just joined you around 3 months ago recommend by my friend who is going on good in his life after seeing your videos. I had a keen interest in psychology and im gonna persue it after my 12th grade this year. I really like how your videos developed a philosophical approach to psychology in me. I really like the stoicism that you introduced us with. Love from India ❤️
I can only offer my thanks. These videos that you have given so freely to the world have done so much for me. You have become a part of my therapy, a part of my daily dose of some certain something that we all need like vitamins and minerals. I think I feel my heart slowly, very slowly, but finally healing. Thank you, JTI
“We are empty because we want to be filled. But by embracing our emptiness, we eradicate the need to be filled and, therefore, become full”. That’s gonna take me a while to absorb! How can I balance the message by your video with the famous notion that “happiness is only real when shared”? Been struggling with these ideas...
Perhaps sharing happiness with oneself through awareness of the positive could be one way to solve their apparent discrepancy We tend to forget that there is always at least one person with us. And they are valuable too
As always thank you for the video, always find your content shines a light on the things I struggle to remain conscious of and helps me find my way back. I couldn't ask for a better gift over the holidays. Thank you so much, Merry Christmas Einzelgänger.
Wow, this is everything i believe as I have experienced this for years as I’m am single yet have not felt alone, the opposite, nothing but contentment, however I couldn’t articulate as you have so profoundly, a heartfelt thank you 🙏
everope if you can’t accept yourself you can’t be accepted by others but it’s not true that you can’t accept yourself the true is you can but you don’t want to and the moment you will you won’t even need anyone else to accept you
Once I let myself be happy about my little victories in life, the micro accomplishments, I started to like myself a lot more, and to be more motivated to try to improve myself
When you understand that everyone is same at the core no matter what they project on the outside. When you truly understand it, you'll accept yourself.
Your videos are enough to clear the mental for we have. It's like a daily dose that we need every day to remember that we have greater purpose in this earth
I am grateful to have found this channel. I've been wasting years of my life clinging to someone who moved on a long time ago. I'm starting to see that I can be enough if I live in the present.
Desire will bring suffering, it is when we live in the present moment and allow ourselves to just be that all reveals itself. It is the ego that needs....
As someone who just spent Christmas alone after separating from a toxic family and then toxic friends, thank you for this. It was lonely, but better than being with bullies.
Think of it as a gift. Once you have excised the cancer from your life, you can start to live. Move abroad. Start a new life, and focus on yourself.
Best wishes for 2020.
p.s. I was in your position in 2015.
@@threethrushes I live somewhere I love already. And my life is better at any other time. It's just the whole Christmas season I find difficult, which I think is understandable.
Sending you good wishes for the next year too!
I feel exactly the same. I found being alone today tough, but I am glad I am not surrounded by people who make me feel terrible. The few friends I have are incredible, and I am so grateful for them. Besides, a lot of people I spoke to about Christmas were quite envious of my day alone, sitting my my PJs, watching films and playing videogames. There are worst things.
@@jase1976 Absolutely, it's such a stressful day in general. Celebrations really shouldn't be thay stressful. It does feel good to seperate from it.
I'm currently spending Christmas alone too. Unfortunately, I am separated from people that made me felt like I belong (ex's family). I know, they were never mine to begin with so I'm trying to be content with it.
Something impactful my therapist asked me: "Why do you keep going to a well that will always be dry?" That brought resolution. ❤️
Love that saying. Thank you Kesha.
Duuuuude
Woah, that was pretty good! Will try to remember it.
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Mine (after divorce) asked me why I wasn't treating myself with the same kindness and foregiveness I showed to others. 🤔 It was a life-altering question!
"we feel a need to be liked by those that aren't good for us"
i should note that somewhere
Sintexte 👍
Und das haben unsere Eltern uns beigebracht!
our greatest ideas come with solitude
LifeVersity nikola tesla
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@@migueladrianvalevelazquez8703The first thing that strike me after reading this was about Nikola Tesla
Forbidden Souls - Being alone.
Whatever you're looking for is within yourself, not outside. Hope you realize that. Also, face loneliness. Fear of being alone can bring you suffering, so better face it and get rid of it.
I don't know how to gets rid of it
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 It often starts with naming and addressing the issue (i.e. "I feel lonely."), then untangling why you have the issue (i.e. "I feel unwanted," or "I haven't socialized for a while). Once you whittle your "why" down to something you can do something about, you can start giving yourself the care you need. Or at least throw some ideas against the wall until something sticks; I dunno. Do want you think would work best for you, I guess.
100% Orpheus
@@savvivixen8490
Been working at socializing by going to night market by myself. I screw up a lots in socializing, I think it takes years for me to not even have a fear of going out. I'm just afraid I will gives up before I could progressed more.
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 That's amazing that you took such initiative on your own, despite your fears! Great job! You don't have to constantly force yourself to do that all the time, but working outside your comfort zone is healthy. You've already acknowledged that you made progress just by doing what you do. Progress isn't always a straight line, but a journey. Know that I am also rooting for you on your journey, and that failiure is just a gateway to getting better at being better!
I remember the last line of the movie 'Stand By Me'; 'You never have friends again like you had when you were 12'. It seems the older one gets the less trustworthy and relatable people are. Maybe we all just get too much baggage as the years go by. I now enjoy other people in small doses, and I keep in mind what a pain-in-the-ass other people can be when I start to feel lonely. Solitude does have many rewards.
Wise words.
Amen !
In life if you have one or two true friends you are lucky,
Spot on!
Please a take a moment to realise you made someone's day multiple times from miles and miles away without knowing them or even seeing them...what a time to be alive right?😁
Thanks for being there for me when no one was
I needed this. Was missing my gf but you made me realize that. Thanks
Hugs to you, internet stranger ✌️
Love Peace and Hugs to all here!!
Not all families are good for our Soul growth.
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What is great in man is that he is a bridge and not a goal.
Friedrich Nietzsche
This man taught me how to let go of the hateful lonely creature I was and become something better.
I didn't think anyone would read my comment let alone like it but I have to confess this is like magic how in this era by leaving a simple comment you can change a human's brain chemicals somewhere far far away and make them feel better❤
Well this comment and the person who wrote it both love you too
@@Emiliapocalypse thanks man I really appreciate the hugs I needed them so much
Edit: Well I thought that nobody was going to read this.
As a person that lives alone I can't express how gratificating is when you are by your own and you handle yourself. When you cloathes are thorn and you sew them, when you feel hungry and make your own food, when your place is messy and you organize in your time.
Living alone is harsh because it is learning time; learning our limits and ourselves. Thanks for the video.
Edit: So many are reading and relating, thank you all and merry xmas.
I read this just spite you. Haha
Thank YOU SO MUCH.
Don’t worry I read it..
I must be nobody... cuz I read it. Next time start your comment with, "only the beautiful people will read this..."
I can't wait to live alone, but I'll still keep contact with my parents etc, but there's just so much joy in doing things on your own time and when you want to do things, such as those you mentioned in your comment.
Cheers and Merry Christmas.
stop and read this for a second.
if you don’t fit in, if you’re lonely, if you’re different.
you aren’t in the worst spot. you’re in the best spot, being different and acknowledging you don’t fit in is simply knowing that you are a bright star in a dead galaxy. keep shining. you’re special.
This video couldn't have come at a better time.
Connor Kenway you are dead my dude
@@INBCPC1994
You too
Have your ships sank, mate?
I feel freer than ever after ditching my narcissistic family. For my life time I thought I had to please them to belong in the family. That was a big mistake and a waste. If it is not mutually respectful I will end it right away.
Same in the case, my family, especially my father, tell me that I useless, I won't become a successful person, and all my life, (im 16) I tried to prove myself , I learn things by the hard way, sometimes Im so mature than I should normally be. I used to feel useless, like a garbage, a mess, I was an unmotivated, undisciplined, depressed and blue person, now since I've found stoicism, I feel good, I accept the good and the bad, I don't seek anymore for acceptance.
@@stefancristian4324 My heart goes to you.
I know the pain you talked about. I feel stoicism is a great way to be freed from the suffering. I am happy for you found stoicism.
@@stefancristian4324 you're 16,don't be too snowflakey... Your parents will tell you every hurtful thing, to make you stronger in the future when you start getting harsher shit from others.
You nailed it! Two days ago my sister started to get angry with me just because I left her for one day! She still mad that I wasn't next to her. Some people are just so awkwardly politically correct.
"By embracing our emptiness, you eradicate this need to be filled." So true and so easily overlooked. Thank you for reminding me!
I use to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone. - Robin Williams -Happy Holidays Everyone-
I don't know much about Robin Williams, but he always struck me as someone who was desperate for attention. Always in hyper mode, talking too fast, trying to make people laugh. I get worn out by people like that. "Slow down and be real," is what I would have said to him. Not everybody wants to be entertained all the time.
This comment is just based on his public persona. I have no idea what he was like on a personal level. It is unfortunate that he decided to commit suicide. (I had to look that up, as my memory is tricky sometimes.)
There are people in my life who try too hard to be entertaining. I find myself not wanting to be around them as much as they seem to want me around. Being a person's reliable audience has a way of diminishing you (me). I'm not always up for that.
@@natashamudford4011 from my understanding, people like Robin are hiding their own sadness by making others happy. I'm sure those Robin truly let into his inner circle had some inkling of the depths of his sadness and depression, that he experienced everyday. Wayne Brady is a similar comedian who has come out with a similar admission of terrible depression and his only method of coping was to make others happy.
@@nantahalawildman6345
That is so sad that a person's well-being is so dependent upon the positive reactions of others... not to mention that it puts a lot of pressure on those others. It's always good to find a wide variety of coping mechanisms... and it's best to have a few that don't require other people. I mean no disrespect towards Robin Williams. His death came as a shock to many, and I expect many people miss him.
MERRY CHRISTMAS
"If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up someplace else."
This video was the perfect Christmas gift for anyone in the world. ♥️🎄❄️
Achinth Murali yup. shared to the World. Facebook😂🤣👍🎄🙋♀️❤️🙏🙇♀️☮️🌈
You speak so many truths. I have find that a solitary state of being is more often then not a blessing. It does help that my friends are solid gold and very supportive, all of them. And of course it helps that we have all known each other for 25-30 years, but still: I dont feel that i need a romantic relationship to be happy for example. But i do cut loose, and have cut of toxic friends in the past. As soon as I detect I soon often start to examine the behaviour of the individual in question very closely, and at the first sight of detecting that this is a presistent behaviour I let them go directly. But it took a few bad turns and crashes to learn this of course, but thats the mening of life to grow and adapt and become better at the same time. In my book you win, or you learn. Both are victories.
*so chilling that the opening quote is from Robin Williams*
*may he rest in peace*
I became unwell from interactions with toxic emotional vampires. I am beginning to ground in my self through focused self care, structure, routine. I am manifesting miracles in my life all since embracing solitaryness. My health is restoring, and my soul shouts " welcome home my precious one" I use the time to journal, grow by watching inspiring utube, my darling cat, a clean home, cook and bake. Art. A peace is emerging and l am more resilient, emotionally stronger. My self respect is coming back. Dependent on externals will weaken you. Be the hero you are seeking. You will never be lonely again. Love and light fellow foot soldiers. Ireland
I don't make enough money to donate for your channel, but I don't skip ads and hit the like button thinking it would help you earn money through RUclips. I watch your videos every morning while eating my breakfast. I live alone, and your videos help me all the time; your videos are one of the reasons why I'm still alive. Thank you so much for your help.
You have no idea how much I needed this video today, dude.
Merry Christmas.
Random Centurion Awww. Good, pumpkin.
@@nicholasdavis6295 Heh Heh. Can't say I've ever been called pumpkin before. Thanks.
Merry Christmas, dude.
This is a powerful one…I’ve been binge watching all of your videos and all that I can say is wowwww thank you!
There is a time for socializing.
There is a time for solitude.
Become confident in both and nothing will sway you.
The pain of being alone is a lot less than being with someone and wishing you were alone. I read that on the back of a bus ticket when I was Young.
Rings true too me now that I am an Old Man.
” when you pray, you speak to the universe… When you meditate, you listen for the answer.” 😁✌🏻
I'm not some incredibly smart or intelligent philosopher or even really a very inspiring person. But I really enjoy your videos and you've helped me grasp concepts I never would have understood without your amazing and well made videos. Thank you Einzelgänger
I thought this video might annoy me as I am feeling a little sad about being alone today. Instead, I found it full of useful reminders and truths. Thank you.
The sound of silence made me go crazy, I always let my mind to come up with something to escape from the silence but it always ended up in depression ( yes I had suicidal thoughts), my reasoning was that there is no one to fill the silence, no one would text me no one would talk to me no one cared about me but you made me realize one thing. I can fill that silence and if someone else would do it, it would be only temporary. Now ever time I’m starting to feel lonely I get up and go do something that makes me feel accomplishment, I go and learn a new interesting or useful skill, I go and I further perfect something I’m already good at or I go and just simply work out to clean my head and if the silence still kicks in I just enjoy some music to send it away. This is a short and pretty simple video and it doesn’t give people some insane realization or easy trick to help them it gives them something else, something way more important..... a reminder
Thank you
I can relate! Good for you. Be blessed.
“To be free of all authority, of your own and that of another, is to die to everything of yesterday, so that your mind is always fresh, always young, innocent, full of vigour and passion. It is only in that state that one learns and observes. And for this, a great deal of awareness is required, actual awareness of what is going on inside yourself, without correcting it or telling it what it should or should not be, because the moment you correct it you have established another authority, a censor.”
― Jiddu Krishnamurti
Well said
yep solitude is heavenly if you do not censor yourself
Thank you for your committed, selfless, humanistic contribution to our self-awareness and growth. Merry Christmas and good luck in your future work!
Their presence can prevent you from manifesting who you really are - this is actually where I am. Thank you for this video.
It's weird when you spend almost an entire lifetime feeling comfortable alone, and suddenly something just clicks and you start feeling dependant on others to feel complete...If someone is feeling lonely when alone - hope you find all the answers you need within
It's so true. I was hanging out with a couple of friends almost everyday eventhough I never really felt like I was being myself around them. I always felt kinda bad around them and now I stopped hanging out with them and it hurts to be alone but I'd say I'm doing better without them.
I have a close friend who thinks highly of himself. I'm usually at peace with myself, content with the little achievements I make everyday, I don't speak about them because they're my personal accomplishments. Even so, everytime I'm near my close friend, he only talks about himself and all the accomplishments and opportunities he has. He's one year younger than me and has done and met more people than me, he speaks so eloquently that I can't help but feel so small and insignificant next to him. I hate feeling like this because I know that I am enough, I know life is not a race, I know that we're both equal yet I can't help but feel like I'm left behind... Thanks so much for this video, I really needed this reminder.
You probably are behind and you have some catching up to do. Life is a race, but first and foremost with yourself.
I really needed this today. I love my family but I feel lonely around them. I lived alone before and i remember not feeling lonely. I loved it. This gave me the answer I need in order to make the next move in my life. Thanks!
do it
Home alone on Christmas due to a cold. I didn't want to infect others. Its difficult to build bonds these days in my opinion which make this time of yr stressful and lonely for many. When gathering w extended family some find that they dont fit in. Its ok. Stoicism teaches that its part of the experience and a chance to make the best of the awkward situation. This vid is spot on. Thank you.
@kronic Believe me; I've wondered if it wasn't covid.
That's why I don't speak to my family anymore and I feel better. Don't be afraid to stay alone because anyway you are not. Your own presence is enough. Why hearing something we don't want to ? Are we masochistic ? No ! Why letting people belittle us ? Are we masochistic ? No ! It's time to stand aside from the herd of cattle. Just staying connected to our presence in a consistent alignment.
@Eric Coming Palm You have everything you need within you. You are the sovereign of your own realm
Dude Family is the only thing you should hold on to! The best things in Life are Free, The next best is very expensive
@@gouthamkumar521 Unfortunately this isn't true for every family.
@@JohnDoe-vi1im That's right sir,i do agree. But our very existence is because of our families, things may go horribly wrong for some ,but at the end of the day , that's where we came from.Good or bad we have to work things out and make things as peaceful as possible in my opinion.
"Each man's death diminishes me, for I am involved in mankind."- John Donne. Though I'm a lover of solitude, I think most people's desire to connect with others is a biological need. The trick for me is to keep those connections few and nontoxic. I'm sorry you are estranged from your family. I'm sure you have your reasons, but it's still sad.
I learned this the hard way... unconditional love is a by product of finding contentment in yourself. Accepting myself caused me to be more accepting towards others making me more pleasant to be with(myself or others). I have more joy in the present and I feel I’m actually living. To fall in love is codependency to be attatched to someone so that your literal heartbeats are in sync and you both regulate each others biochemistry (your well-being depends on them). Such a relationship can be hell (like and addiction to a drug).A true test of a relationship is wether or not they dump ya if ya deny their conditions.(conditional vs unconditional)...
sofia luv 🙏🙋♀️🌹🙏🙋♀️
Joe Sawyer read the book attatched the science of adult attatchment. To fall in literal love with someone is to be addicted to a person and to have each others wellbeing synced, we are wired for this. Wether the relationship is steady or a rollercoaster, healthy/unhealthy attachment (synchronization of 2 bodies) is the same.
We are all enough. Just as we are. Merry Christmas 💚❤️💚❤️💚❤️
Merry CHRISTmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, and Happy New Year's Einzelgänger and everyone! 😇🌎💞
This is a pretty powerful gift to give today. I thank you for it!
Aloneness made me aware of how the system manipulates people to make them dependent of someone else, instead of being self sufficients. All this to keep feeding the mediocrity in the world. Walk your own path and be free!
Same here, I noticed that there is more risk trying to integrate with the system of society than being alone.
If you work for someone you may still get fired because there is either someone better or there is no longer a need from you... (Machines)
Many years before only a small amount of people had a diploma, now more people have it, thus it lost it's value..
The circumstances are changing, but people don't want to consider changing themselves to go with the times...
Don't want to put a wall of text, thus I leave it at that.
@Imperial Watch gone are those days when things you said happened but now in relationship either one person enjoys everything or both end up messed
Merry Christmas ❤💚
Merry Christmas to you Lisa,,,❤️
Merry Christmas❤️
Being alone is the greatest power next to silence..Thank you.
This RUclips channel has saved my life I don't know who you are what your name is but thank you for everything ♥️ merry Christmas.
I am an individual who spends a majority of my time in solitude. I tend to write and read frequently, and I’ll play video games occasionally. It’s a rather peculiar feeling to transition from the silence of your bedroom and into a world that has become so loud, even obnoxious, that it fails to listen to others when they’re saying to slow down and be quiet for a moment. There’s no need to rush anything or seek out a continuous source of strong stimuli, because you’d only tire yourself out and feel empty afterwards. Take the time to sit and re-evaluate yourself and your relationships, and remember that the greatest company in the world is yourself.
As I get older, I have to really appreciate my personal time & solitude.
Love spending time with my daughter, wife or good friends but only in moderate doses.
It's healthy & natural to be alone or to have moderate social interaction with others. Just find that balance that works for you but never forget that time spent alone, with your own thoughts in silence, is a positive thing. There's no logical reason to not look inwards to find your own validation & happiness.
Thanks for sharing this video, I always find your channel very uplifting & inspirational!
very good and very true too 😍
So short, so concise and yet SO TRUE.
Accepting myself is such a struggle, yet others see me different, in a much higher place.
I wish I could see myself the way others see me.
Change my life 2020.
I spent my entire life alone. No family, no friends, no children, never even had a girlfriend. Being alone is just... me. I am used to it, I would not know how to behave, what to say if there were people in my immediate vicinity.
I had everything you didn't have. Today I am happy that I no longer have all of this. I can assure you, you haven't missed anything in life and you have been spared the pain I had.
@@David_Sikalo Ma moze, samo se iskljucis i zivis po nekom automatizmu. Kad nemas izbora na sve se naviknes.
@@tubegor I have a woman who is being codependent of me. She wants me to move in with her and marry her. Thing is like Niko I'm more used to being on my own and don't find anything attractive about a needy woman who doesn't feel she needs to reciprocate.
StephenWestSyd break up with her if you’re not compatible. Otherwise you’re both wasting your time
@@mango7966 there is compatibility. We are alike in many ways, like a lot of the same things, share similar values etc Just don't want her depending on me too much.
I will listen to this on lonely days to reel myself back in, remembering my choice to leave a toxic marriage and a few family members, and reminding me of my strengths and growth in the process.
Thanks to all those who post these amazing videos that help us to cope and figure things out, giving us hope and healing.
You are a lifeline to a better us! ♡
Being alone is better than being with people who antagonize you. Being with a kindred spirit is the best
Great video, love that you're touching on this topic. Most of us don't even know why we do this or that codependency is so deeply rooted from feelings of not being enough. Thank you for your channel and for posting such great content.
As of late Ive been having a battle with myself. I was looking at the wrongs things for validation, to fill me, or to conform never thinking I wasn't enough for even myself. Crazy how sometimes we put these energies out in the universe and you get a confirmation that says otherwise. I made a conscious effort starting today that I would abstain from social media. As much as I like to follow those I admire in the spiritual community seeing the same posts over and over is not as gratifying let alone how much time we scroll and scroll when we could be doing much more important things like being in the present moment, giving our energy and time to things that matter, and at best...having the time to check-in with yourself. Thank you for posting this. It was meant for me and for all of us in here. Sending love and light from California!
I just wanna ask you to make the sequel of this video as the negative sides to total solitude.
I have been alone for like 2 years straight coz I felt alone with my so called friends so I rarely showed up in classes and I thought my friends will gravitate towards me.
First year I was so sad and disappointed as my experiment towards them showed results that I didn't wished. I was with them for like grade 1 and they were just some another people that just moved on with new friends.
This year I accepted and moved forward but on my way it was so hard I just wished I could talk to someone who asked me what's going on, are you happy, are you sad,
This leads in the activation of my weak point of opening up too much to strangers who just happen to ask simple questions.
I just want to make account that to much solitude without someone who understands you is very painful and sad.
And how to overcome this.
It is not good and healthy to be alone all the time. And yes, it IS tough to do most things by yourself, especially at first when you are not used to it. There needs to be a balance when it comes to sulitude like many other things in life. Humans are social beings after all. But you don't need hundreds of friends, it's ok if you only have a small circle of people you love and trust, even if it's “only“ your family.
First of all, learn to love yourself in your entirety. That also means loving yourself with your flaws aswell. Accept yourself and understand why you are as you are. Even if you have a part which you dislike, love yourself regardless and use potential frustrations or even anger to improve yourself. Not because you MUST, but because out of love towards yourself. Once you learned that, many bad people will get sorted out by you, even when it comes to relationships. You won't feel forced to need to open up to complete strangers, especially bad people.
Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes - but at the same time, motivate yourself to be the best you can possibly be. Most of the time it is not as bad as it seems and it cannot be undone anymore anyway. Look in the past to do things better in the future.
You want love? Learn to be loving.
You want someone to ask you how you are or how their day has been? Ask others how they are then and what they did.
You want to be smiled at? Smile at others. Whatever you wish to have, be willing to give it and you will get it in return aswell.
It's hard in general nowadays to bond with others, so it's not completely your fault. Many people are alone like you, they walk along the street and wish someone could talk to them or just greet them with a smile. Even many women are lonely or even divorced nowadays and wish that more men would come, smile at them and greet them.
Will it be easy? No, it won't. For some it may be easier of course, for some it will be more difficult. But, it is something you yourself can control and decide to improve on. This is a decision YOU can make. And since you wrote you were alone for 2 years let me tell you, it's ok if you mess up. Don't think too deeply about it, you probably won't be used to actively go towards people I imagine. Even if you messed up 10, 20 or even 50 times or more after that, it's fine. Think about what you could do better next time, if you messed up. You probably won't see most people in life again and they won't think about it anyway ;-)
That was directly out of my mind, hope it is helpful. :-)
@@lazalantin5305 It was super amazing that you spare your time to write this big reply.
Yes in my first year I was really hard I used to watch anime whole day and it was something where I thought I'm connecting to people who don't betray me and I see myself in most of the MC of anime.
I'm in 12th grade and I opted for a non attending school after my 10th to know the power of solitude and also whether I was important to my so called friends as it turned out I was totally alone..
Yes I'm with my family and all but they don't understand me. Also I don't like to go and tell everyone how I felt. It's like trying to get on their soft side intentionally.
Since no one understood me I didn't got the privilege of being asked questions even by family.
By the end of first year my 11th grade my father was diagnosed with cancer and had to go with my mom to Mumbai for getting medical attention I was with my grandparents and lil sister and got more alone than ever.
It was at that time I started loving my solitude and determined to help other my opting psychology as my major and also I would like to know more about my situation my mental condition but eagerly very deep inside I was hoping to Tell everything to my friend who is still close to me but he also didn't have much attention to me that time so I skipped.
I went one this year with the same attitude but I started suck in my studies as of my father situation and my growing lack of interest in my subjects.
It's almost like everyone hate me.
Until recently when my friend out of blue recommend this channel and we started chatting over his videos and our ideology.
I opened to to a person who asked how I felt it was amazing I felt so light and Happy.
Then I think to go to a counsellor and talked her. And this month when my cousin came she asked me too it was a series of good people.
And I felt amazing and as I sucked in studies I recently started giving it time. I have to go out of this lack of understanding people situation and move outside my town and I would love to help others after majoring in psychology.
Thanks for reading and I hope you advise me on things I left unnoticed along the way of solitude.
@@ZEKS007 I seeked acceptance around me and I ended up losing loving myself but as others I too wear a mask in front of the ignorant people who just go on and force their views to others nowadays. But I didn't changed my attitude towards others as always I always asked what's going on and are they doing ok in their life.
It is tough to seek people so I quit seeking and accepted my situation. And in return I got people who asked me about situation and I was super happy that there are people who are good.
I just started studying on my peak because it is the only way I can get out this ignorant society.
After giving up my dreams, Ive learned to have a positive attitude and start appreciating what I have in life, its a hard step but I promise that self-love is stronger than any love you could ever receive from someone else.
Such a perfect timing. I need this exact content at this very moment.
This is around 2am at night now in Indonesia and my insomnia creeps out again, along with my anxious thought of me lacking human connection. Thanks for always posting these "soothing" videos.
Fadhil Asyrafi hey my Indonesia friend I’m here for you
I listened, realize this is the truth, but find it very difficult to accept I will stay single for the rest of my life.
Man look for something that will help with your anxiaty,nobady deserv that shit
Hey man
From what i know is that your thoughts are creeping you out right why then you dont journal just right down any thoughts that annoying you throughout the day . Just get them down then think about why is it bugging you and does it actually affect you or its chating in your head
@@ajfourie6493 hey Einzelgänger isn't saying that you will be always alone but he is talking about the feeling lonely . There is difference my friend.
Yes, thank you for this. I am a people pleaser, and I can’t stop it very easily. I recently learned that it is better to do you things alone then to “enjoy” The presence of toxic people. So I am alone quite a bit. And it is much better this way. I can support myself, and address my own needs so well.
Your channel is amazing. I have yet to find a video that I don't enjoy watching in some way. It is unbelievable that you don't have more subscribers; you definitely deserve more recognition for your amazing talent.
What you are searching for is WHERE you are searching from. Its like knocking the door from inside , while you are already in. Search for fulfilment and happiness is an internal job.
On the right time , I'm thankful , embracing it ❤️
The natural scenery in Holland seems very serene. I feel calmer looking at it. Nature is the cure for everything and if we let it back into our lives we would be in paradise.
I am like a hole in the earth. I keep digging, frantically looking for completeness and acceptance. But the more I look the more empty I become.
You are fine as you are, you dont have to change in order to "fit in"
Same :/
Comrade Cameron : I'm like a dog chasing cars . I wouldn't know what to do if I caught one .
Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by
knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus.
Einzelganger, thank you for making my year ❤
Thank you. Embrace emptiness and become full. Beautiful words and deep wisdom as always.
first people judged me to death and burnt my passion inside my heart so that i can become mediocre like them and now i look at the ashes of my burnt passion and they dont let me be mediocre either..its worst than being alone
Yo wanderer, what is it that your surrounding killed? Your dream, or your passion as it peaked? Don't let time fool you that you lost your innerfire! Hold on and eject yourself into those thoughts that once people or standards tried to remove from your template. You held onto them till now, its never too late. Good luck fella
Sorry for my english
ubuntuber
Well, then let’s see that phoenix!
ubuntuber wow that sounds like me experience 🤭so sorry. People are threatened by others who have a great light and passion. You can get it back. Try fasting and prayer: Epsom salt baths
@@tawnteens or we can do web series showing india from a totally new perspective.
People can make it seem like they are the ones who get to dictate what you should be. But don't be fooled: in the end all people are not you except you yourself. Only you can be you. There will inevitably be people to like you for your passions as there will be people who would judge you for it. If something can truly make you happy, it might be worth more than their negativity.
This is a wonderful reminder about life. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thanks my friend for your videos, you're really changing my perspective on life, for the better. Thanks a lot !
Islands are nice to visit, they are hell to be stranded on
This is the best thing which I needed today.
Contentment is the rarest feeling in this world. Once you find it, being enough follows.
I am enough. I am. I am.
This year I got suddenly dumped out of a toxic 4 year relationship by my ex gf with narcissistic and avoidant traits. In the beginning I felt like I was physically dying and I was emotionally broken and I turned to youtube channels like this one for self therapy and understanding of what happened and what I could have done to stop it.
7 months later I've learned so much from a whole world I never knew existed - self improvement. I've never felt this free before mentally or physically, I've gained so much knowledge, motivation and understanding about the importance of focusing on myself, discovering myself and staying true to MYSELF in life. I've learned about stoicism, fasting, simple living and I've quit bad habits and routines and picked up interesting hobbies and activities.
Lifes never been better and all because I focused on myself for 7 months straight, learning what I needed to do as an individual and learning who I am as a person without rushing into seeking relationships or friendships. Its been difficult some days but I've grown so much, I don't regret it at all.
This video really spoke to me and this channel makes me feel like I'm not alone in my self discovery and growth. Thanks for putting out great content and have a happy New Year everyone. Heres to 2020 in our journey called life
You have no idea how much i needed to hear this.. thank you
I will never be alone because i have myself, with all my own pain, grief, loneliness but this is ok. It's enough.
I've learned a while back I don't need anyone I've got me and I like to be alone I enjoy my own company!! But dang some times I just want to be held, I miss that!!! 💚
I enjoy being by myself. I find myself sitting back and watching the chaos. I have goals everyday that I achieve, I work, exercise, read, and learn sign language just to name a few.If I had a boyfriend, he would just be in my way. I can't achieve my greatness if he is in the way! I also go out by myself and meet up with friends sometimes at our favorite bar. We dance the night away, I love it! But I love coming home by myself. I guess that I am socially selective. I have a few friends but that is perfectly fine with me. I have been in toxic relationships and chose to walk away gracefully. I guess now that I am 50 something I feel that my life is "complete", I have 4 grown children and 6 grand kids who are my whole world. Thank you for this video to validate that I am OK just being me.
Worth turning on the notifications!!
Thank you for existing.
If you have faith in who you are, then you will even be able to face the world alone........and showing your pain and weakness at times doesn't mean that you are a weak person and even if you are weak and insecure, don't worry. The pain you experience even when you are alone will make you stronger.....to anyone who's reading this, have a nice day.....
I just did Xmas eve alone 👍😆 loved it -
Excellent!! This former co-dependent agrees 100 percent!! Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all recovering co-dependents worldwide! Thanks, much appreciated!
Just wow.
We need people to grow. But also being alone. its about balance
Me: *Sad for being alone in Christmas*
Enzelganger: I have a video for you.
Well, why don't you meet your relatives or friends in Christmas ? Instead of being alone 👍⚘
All this years, I realized I AM the source of my own HAPPINESS.
I just joined you around 3 months ago recommend by my friend who is going on good in his life after seeing your videos.
I had a keen interest in psychology and im gonna persue it after my 12th grade this year.
I really like how your videos developed a philosophical approach to psychology in me.
I really like the stoicism that you introduced us with.
Love from India ❤️
I can only offer my thanks. These videos that you have given so freely to the world have done so much for me. You have become a part of my therapy, a part of my daily dose of some certain something that we all need like vitamins and minerals. I think I feel my heart slowly, very slowly, but finally healing.
Thank you,
JTI
“We are empty because we want to be filled. But by embracing our emptiness, we eradicate the need to be filled and, therefore, become full”. That’s gonna take me a while to absorb! How can I balance the message by your video with the famous notion that “happiness is only real when shared”? Been struggling with these ideas...
Perhaps sharing happiness with oneself through awareness of the positive could be one way to solve their apparent discrepancy
We tend to forget that there is always at least one person with us. And they are valuable too
Focus on one thing and thats yourself. Theres steps. You come first. It might take months or years to fully embrace the empty but its worth it.
That sounds false, happiness needing to be shared. I'm certainly no expert but I finally realise happiness comes from within, shared or not!
thats a quote off of "into the wild" lol i believe theres many saying "chris mcandless" was misrepresented in that film
You can only share something you already have. So you have to be happy first before you share your happiness with others.
As always, thank you. Your wisdom is a breath of fresh air in a world that could be perceived as toxic.
As always thank you for the video, always find your content shines a light on the things I struggle to remain conscious of and helps me find my way back. I couldn't ask for a better gift over the holidays. Thank you so much, Merry Christmas Einzelgänger.
Wow, this is everything i believe as I have experienced this for years as I’m am single yet have not felt alone, the opposite, nothing but contentment, however I couldn’t articulate as you have so profoundly, a heartfelt thank you 🙏
I don't care about acceptance from others, but I can't accept myself either.
story of my fucking life
everope if you can’t accept yourself you can’t be accepted by others but it’s not true that you can’t accept yourself the true is you can but you don’t want to and the moment you will you won’t even need anyone else to accept you
Once I let myself be happy about my little victories in life, the micro accomplishments, I started to like myself a lot more, and to be more motivated to try to improve myself
Accept the non acceptance:)
When you understand that everyone is same at the core no matter what they project on the outside. When you truly understand it, you'll accept yourself.
Your videos are enough to clear the mental for we have. It's like a daily dose that we need every day to remember that we have greater purpose in this earth
I'm Spending Christmas alone. This video helped a lot. thanks.
I am grateful to have found this channel. I've been wasting years of my life clinging to someone who moved on a long time ago.
I'm starting to see that I can be enough if I live in the present.
Beautiful message 🌞
Good people around us always try to ensure that we stand on our own feet, without needing them to prop us up now and then.
The good thing of beeing introvertive is that I don't need anyone
exactly!!!
Desire will bring suffering, it is when we live in the present moment and allow ourselves to just be that all reveals itself. It is the ego that needs....
You posted this exactly when i needed it ❤️much love
Thank you Sir. Your videos make me feel so much better. Always.