How To Love Without Attachment | Buddhism In English
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 22 май 2024
- © Buddhism
Join Our TikTok Account - / theinnerguide2
Join Our Facebook page - / buddhisminenglish
Join our Instagram Account - / buddhisminenglish
#buddhism #love #happyrelationship
Mahamevnawa Bodhignana Monastery,
Hewagama, Kaduwela, Sri Lanka.
info@realbuddhism.org
Best statement i have heard "i need you to be happy and if that doesnt include me then thats ok" unconditional love lets go ❤
Nooo😢
@@llohe9826why not?
@@lean4real_11 guess I'm too immature to let go what I love
@@llohe9826not too much. It's natural. Don't sweat
Agreed personally love someone so much that let her be free as she wants to be, doesn’t mean that I don’t miss her terribly but to me that’s love!
_Nothing lasts forever. Attachments cause suffering. Everything is subject to change._ - *Lord Buddha*
This is the only true love :
John 3:16
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
Please take this to your mind this is a Buddhist channel if you want to share your idea please go and put your comments on a Christian channel if you want to listen to this speech listen carefully and we don't care abought your God we only follow the ideas of our holy teacher Buddha
@@DihasWijedoru-le9roall religious principles are same
What about commitment, marriage vows etc?
@@Raj-ne4us Nothing is permanent. Things change and eventually come to an end.
Love without attachment is the true sign of self-acceptance and self-love. It's only when we accept and love ourselves that we can love freely.
Well said !
But then how would this work when two people (man and woman) live together. Just my curiosity
True but with another you still need secure attachment
No one is permanent
Everyone is suffering on their own world
U can't control anyone
If you love someone in the way of attachment you get hurt, If you love someone without attachment you love your own life ❤🙏
If you love someone enough to let them go you love unconditionally and have that persons best interests at heart, it still gonna hurt if they choose another but you have to feel the pain heal it and let it go ❤
True words
@trinasikananu9723 it's not easy when you are connected deep at soul level and feel what they are going through, it's not easy when your souls are one
@@Angellove222 Yes however nothing is easy but you can become the best version of yourself which personally i have attained. I lost 3 friendships my literal life and it was too easy because i taught myself how to love unconditionally enough to let go like you said. I am very much okay and wishing them the best. 22 yo old me would cry myself to sleep. 25 yo me now is free happy and willing to love a hundred times💜
@trinasikananu9723 I am not sure you understand being so connected at a soul level!!! I am not sure you understand when you are woken in the night by the other person's feelings of worry and despair, so much that it effects your mood!! You can't detach from that!!!
Love: you need to be happy
Attachment: you need to make me happy
When you come from a childhood lacking security and emotional support you often end up looking for it in a partner as an adult, hence the attachment, looking for a partner to fill the role a parent should have filled. Wish I could have learned this lesson you teach today back when I was 20 years old. I do now know how to love without attachment. It frees both yourself and the other person.🙏
True
We learn through realisation and correcting our ways slowly by slowly. That's what my experience taught me. Not all of us were lucky to be born in a healthy family. But I think it's the way it is. For some of us it might occur that had this video been released much before we would have the love of our life still with us. But I quote again it is what it is. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. One cannot go back and change their childhood experience. Let's be sorry for that child ,let's pardon ourselves to carry forward those unmet needs to our partners and most importantly realise it embrace it and let's move on. This is how I healed and healing myself.
Same experience
Detachment to any thing or person will gv peace of mind and happiness .one could experience it by trying detachment .
Exactly my experience. My parents divorced when I was a baby and I never got that emotional support from my mother or anyone else. At 21 I met the woman who would change me, got attached and 36 years later she is dead and I've not been able to get over her death. Haven't heard from my children since the death so I lost wife and kids in one go.
"No one is gonna live forever" is the most beautiful phrase in my mind, Thank you, Thera.
I hurt someone because of my past and I used to think I’m in love him with completely. But I realised that I am more attached to him than in love. Right now we are in separation and because of my attachment I was trying to take control and not able to let go of the things I can’t control. This video opened my eyes. I am trying to change and be a better person. Specially when it comes to love. I want to love unconditionally and selflessly. Affirm.
Same incident I have bruh❤
' No one in this world is permanent ' .
Nothing remains permanent.
😂😂😂😂😂
@@user-kx9ez9yu6e It is the true.. The truth is bitter anyway
💕💕💕💕💕💕🌞🔱
- love is wishing other's happiness
- attachment is wishing your own happiness from others; wanting to be with someone forever and not let go; over-protecting, holding on, and controlling someone; being afraid of losing someone
- everyone lives in their own private world, everyone needs freedom
- you can control how you live in your life
- 3 truths in life on how to love and be compassionate: (1) no one is permanent (everything is subjective to change), (2) everyone is suffering in their own world, and (3) not everyone is under your control
Thx for the conclusion, :D
Well said !
In this 7 years of relationship, i never got the answer for my heart breaks......thanks for changing my life for good! It means a lot❤
Friendship love without romance works best. Thank you for a wonderful message!
l lost both my parents this year. My dad left us in April whilst my mum left us in July. Thank you Namo Buddhaya
oh so painfull i wish you strengt
🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Your parents will always be with you, just in another way. Take care
We are with you
Always God with you
I m married since 20 years and it's now through your teachings I m able to understand the true meaning of loving a person without attachment... Thank you namo buddhaya
That's really nice. How is the marriage experience?
Thank you
These are wise words. That's the holy truth. Love is freedom. Attachment is not. That's why when someone wants to control other persons, they will lose them.
People should understand this, so they won't get hurt.
Thank you so much for sharing it! 🙏
🙏🙏🙏
Nicely said 🌺
@@patsiebentley111 thank you for your appreciation. 🙏
i recently broke up with someone i loved with all my heart. when we were dating, i had the mentality of love without attachment. however, the more and more i realized we wouldnt work, i started getting attached. consciously, i didnt know it wouldnt work, but my subconscious knew. it knew as soon as the first hint came to my attention, no matter how much i tried to deny it, i knew it wouldnt work. i have known them all of my life, so its hard to let them go, but i hope that soon i can set aside my anger and wish them happiness again like i used to. they truly deserve to be happy.
You will🙏🏽
♏️💟♊️4L
I’m going through the same thing
Literally happened with me ..I always feel like I have lost a part of mine in him ..I don’t know about him but I will love him forever ..
@@riyagulati2701 Can you do a back flip?
in life.. we all pick our own battle. If you love someone, you would sacrifice, caring & take care the person who we love. If someday that person is gone because of breaking up or death then we have to learn to let it go. It is ok to attach to someone but at the same time we have to learn how to let thinngs go. Acceptance is the hardest to learn
The more you try to control someone’s life . , chances is very very high for you to loose that person . Love this 🙏
After my marriage ended at age 26, my dad told me "people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime". Your message reminded me of that. Thank you ❤️
Love without attachment is the choice to love and respects others freedom. Respecting and honoring their choices. I love this message. The brief or long moments should be cherished.
It still hurts when you love without attachment and they decide to leave, but it’s as the saying goes: ‘If you love them, let them go.’
Isn't the attachment / detachment that hurts? Love is always available. We can love someone equally whether their body is next to us or not.
It can still hurt yes but you let go much easier and are able to live them even from afar without I'll will or resentment or neediness or any other bad feelings
His smiles embody love that he is talking about.
Let people be who they are and wish the best for them. Unconditional love to everyone whom we honor to encounter in this world. A beautiful teaching!
He look so amazing and peaceful with out branded clothes and hair.
He grabs everyone's attention only with his smile on his face.
This brings calmness into my mind tonight, thank you so much 🙏
I was afraid of losing people I love and this video makes me feel much better ...Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻
It really makes sense ❤❤
Yes l get that. I have much fear of losing the few people that l love. I have a lot of difficult people around me and so l tend to hang on to those l do love. Sending peace to you and to me.
Perhaps the hardest of all is letting go of deceased loved ones (relatives, pets, friends). In order to free their Souls (and ours), we have to sever our attachments to them to break the karmic bonds that cause both you and them to continue to suffer on the Wheel, lifetime after lifetime in the earth plane. This is very hard, so repeating mantras like "I want your Soul to be free and independent" can help to let go. That is true love.
I'm in my most broken state for the past months.. and your teaching's really inspire and encourage me to move through. It helps me more understand about the reality of life. Thank you so much! 🙏♥️
Nothing lasts forever.
Attachments cause suffering.
Everything is subject to change.
One of the most compassionate things we can do is love freely, without conditions or attachments.
It is painful to think that me or my own child will have to part one day but it is so liberating to understand that this one fact makes every day spent in love and appreciation of my child, a great gift!!!
When the time comes for either of us to journey on, it would be kind to say thank you to the soul that befriended mine while we lived together!
Thank you for your beautiful lesson Bhadanta. 🙏🏽🌸🌿🕊️
Well said
I came across this snippet last week "connect with everything but attach to nothing" I love it! Sending love from South Africa
Beautiful explanation. I guess sometimes we confuse love with attachment without noticing. We wish for that person happiness, but at the same time we wish we were the source of that happiness selfishly.
Nicely said !
You're right. This is true love. And it feels good listen to you. 🙏
I love how you are smiling while saying all this. ❤
Your words always make me feel happy ...u r so pure 🙏...thank u for teaching us the real truth of life ....Namo Buddhaya🙏
Im regular viewer from Nepal ,,,and we love you ,,much more forever ,,, namobuddaya ❤🇳🇵
Heart touching❤
You made my eyes teary with your beautiful thoughts and reality of this life ....
Namo Budhaya🙏
Amazing and true statement..to love without attachment..thanks for sharing..it's respecting yourself and the other person as well..to love freely without conditions..❤
Everything is subjected to change....
Namo Buddhaaya... 🙏🙏🙏
So, the point is to let everything flow naturally, let it go.
My Fav Bhante🙏🏻✨ thank you for spreading love to the world.
Thank you, thank you so much for the love and care .
You have such a calm smile 😊
Wow... Beautifully explained..! 🥺💓
Namo Buddha🙏🏻
oh my god! i didn't know buddhism has delved into this. i have been living my life having tons of shitty times being separated from people i deeply love and care about because of whatever reasons. i only learned it the last few years that it just means i get to cherish people i currently have in my life more. to not fear separation.
I am so grateful that I've found out this video. My sincerity❤
Never listened to any videos like this and any type of religious things, but I want to say, Namo buddhaya.❤❤❤❤
At the end of his videos.. when he says NAMO BUDHHAYA With so peaceful and satisfied smile on his face..provides to much satisfaction to mind and soul ❤❤
I have no words i was suffering too much thank you so much through out the video i cried alot thank you so much for showing me the right path every single word is very relatable thank you so much ❤
You and this channel has changed my life for good. You have made me wise and a calm person. More and more to learn from you. You are the best reason and channel I found in RUclips.
This one is deep. Thank you.🙏🏼📿🙏🏼 Namo buddhaya
This video was much needed bec now i am learning what love is.. attachment is toxic and cause pain to both but love liberates..on my journey of healing 🙏🏼
thank u now i understand , i feel and live in love . we are not together but i am happy by see him in happiness
The best video I've ever watched
Answered my 100 questions and gave so much clarity.
Thank you so much. ❤
Attachment is suffering! I have gratefully learned this valuable lesson. Thank you for sharing this Truth in this video. May it reach the hearts of those who need to hear it. Love for ALL
I absolutely align to buddhist teachings! My heart feels safe and contempt
Idk why i never saw this vid before it really opened my eyes and it changed my mindset and my view about love i really appreciate this video and whoever made this people really need to watch this i really feel so good seeing this video and wanna thnk to that person or whole team who made this video
All your words and situations you told were 💯 based on my life and relate to my relationship with her... thankyou for this ❤
This is the true message of love
And peace
Thank u so much.
Going through seperation and a divorce I have come to the realization of how true and applicable buddhhism is.Bonds bring pain and change is inevitable.This channel has become life saving ❤
Your smiling face brings me also happiness......your words heals my pain ... thank you so much
this brought me so much comfort. thank you
I’m going to show this video to my son .. who is being controlled by his partner but doesn’t want to hurt her as she loves him too much .. he my son wants to run ( as much as he likes her company ) but she is talking to him like they have been together for 5 years ( it’s been 8 months ) he does not want to hurt her feelings.But my son is unhappy.This video of my lovely Buddha Monk ( who has helped me so so much in my life ) I will pass on hopefully it will help him. Thank you again for answering my sign and thoughts yet again .. peace and light x
Perfect👌🏻 just what I needed to listen to this day! Hope I can excel in my spiritual journey learning all these valuable inputs from Bhuddism and evolve as a better person each day, every passing second.! Namo Bhudaiya🙏
RUclips being the MVP recommending this to me. Beautiful message and something I needed to hear thank you ❤
needed this strictly, cried a lot by watching this, now i feel a bit relieved
I learned from this video: Restrictions vs Freedom in relationships and will be more aware of it in my life.
Thank You.
Listening to your teachings is my everyday routine ❤
Was searching the happiness in life & then your video changed my whole way of thinking ✨ Thank you so much 🤗 Now i got to know love, attachment 🥰
Thank you for this gentle support ❤
A clear explanation ❤ Namo Buddhaya...🙏
It was such a pleasure to listen to you right now! Thank you for your wisdom and peace that you share.
Thank you. My heart feels very calm after your words.
I have all those qualities and I am happy the way God has made me.. I love watching your programme.thanks for the videos of yours. God bless you.
This is beautiful, thank you. This applies to all kinds of love. It is helpful for me as a parent of adult children to let go and evolve my relationship with them, with so much love. Its been a hard transition, this is so helpful, much love 🏵️💖
After hearing this I realised what is the true meaning of love❤
This made me cry. But I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Wham!!! I'm feeling so safe n free after listening this... thank you✨
You have no idea how this video helped me understand love and attachment. Thank you for posting this video.
Thanks you the way you are explaining I’m clearly about love and attachment make me peaceful and joyful in mind 🙏🙏🙏
This is the best advice I've ever received. Its definitely hard to swallow but it will help me continue in life.
I was having an internal suffering the whole time until i start to watch this video. There were plenty of things in my mind i couldn't even figure out wht were they. I lost my love 2.5 yrs ago , i failed in my studies my family don't like me much and my mom is a bit strict and every single time i have to be a lonely fish . All i did was expecting my past lover to come back and love me again. Today i learned that lesson , this great explanation gave me the courage to let go of everything that holds me into sufferings. Every time when i'm having some problem this yt channel have a video that contains all the answers for it. It's wonderful !! I'm so happy now ❤. Thank you soo much for this great explanation 🙏. Namo buddhaya 🙏🤍.
Your one video can change someone's life.....Tqsm... For teaching our a best lessons which are not taught at school.
Your teachings always gives freshness to my soul
I got hurt and was in pain after 5 yearsofmarriagelife...
Now I got some clarity and clear mind from ur speech thanks
Namo Buddhaya.Beautiful preaching.
Thank you. All words full of truth, & compassion, & a light as bright as your smile 😊 guiding all people 2 right path. Bless you you wonderful caring person.😊
🙏🙏🙏. Pure unconditional love 🙏🙏🙏
Extraordinary... your words always make my heart feel lite ..... Thanks for the wonderful words and make me realise the reality ❤.it's so difficult to accept the separation and change in person.
You explained this so beautifully it does hurt when you love too much and then lose the people you loved I understand this now thankyou nammobudyha 😊❤️
Thank you for explaining this in a gentle and loving way.
I learned a lot.
How I wish I had explored Buddhist teachings years ago, when I looked to friends to make me happy. Thank you for these enlightening videos.
It's a wonderful blessing in disguise !
Thank you for these wonderful teachings. These are truths that I know in my heart but never acknowledge. I will try wholeheartedly to change myself from today onwards so that I can love without attachment.
Heart touching
My tears came down after getting it
Thank you so much for making our lives so easier with your words.. Absolutely grateful 🙏
Thank you Thero for your deep wisdom about love and attachment. Navigating on the spiritual path I have come to conclusion that when it comes to pure love you wish the other person to be happy even if you are not included in their life that is the definition of unconditional love but the more awaken and spiritual you become love without attachments is the way you begin to love the others.. It's hard but also there is comfort in this truth when there is impermanence... Namo Buddhaya ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Guruji you gave rebirth to my life....keep healing all who are in depression like me...loosing loved ones will shatter our life..
What a powerful talk, living among people who are attached to you is like living in a jail without bars and we should be mindful not to that to others either
Our group of friends years ago stopped calling it falling in love and instead call it Rising in Love. This helped me and your talk describes the difference thank you!
Sādhu, sādhu, sādhu 👏
Thank you, bhante, for all the work that you do as well as anyone else who helps put these videos together 🙏
I've only discovered this channel fairly recently but it helps to engage with the Dhamma on a daily basis and make sure I stay mindful of the Noble Eightfold Path in daily life, so I truly appreciate all the effort 🙏
Homage to the Buddha! Homage to the Dhamma! Homage to the saṅgha! 🙇🏻♀️
Thank you bhante, this make me realize that I have to learn not to attached especially in my current situation. Nama buddhaya
*With heartfelt thanks, we acknowledge your contribution to the world of Buddhism through this video. Your work is a true blessing. 🌷*
Most wonderful message i've ever heard ❤