7 Signs You Hate Yourself
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- Опубликовано: 17 май 2024
- A lot of us feel like we don’t deserve to have our dreams come true or have good things happen to us, and sometimes, no matter how far we’ve made it or how much we’ve already accomplished, we still don’t feel content. Why is that?
The answer isn’t an easy one. Most likely, it’s when we grapple with feelings of self-loathing or self-hatred. Self-loathing is defined as a hatred for oneself that often manifests as anger, self-sabotage, a negative view of oneself, and low self-esteem.
If you relate to this video and you're struggling with self-hatred, we have a video on the things to remember when you think you're not good enough: • 7 Things To Remember W...
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Credits
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Rida Batool & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Naphia
RUclips manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Brown, R. P., &Bosson, J. K. (2001). Narcissus Meets Sisyphus: Self-Love, Self-Loathing, and the Never-Ending Pursuit of Self-Worth. Psychological Inquiry, 12 (4), 210-213.
O’Moore, M., & Kirkham, C. (2001). Self-Esteem and its Relationship to Bullying Behaviour. Aggressive Behavior, 27 (4), p269-283.
Noormega, R. (2017). Signs You Hate Yourself And Don’t Even Realize It. Retrieved from www.thoughtcatalog.com/rayi-n...
National Alliance Against Mental Illness (2018). Mental Health by The Numbers. Retrieved from www.nami.org/Learn-More/Menta...
Hi everyone! Do you unintentionally hate yourself or know someone who does? We to all some extent lack a bit of self love, so that's why this video is made to help us recognize times when we may not be doing ourselves a service. If you resonate with any of these signs, know that you are not alone. We can only grow when we are self aware.
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Nice
I hate myself but not unintentionally
I still can't tell I'm wondering if I'm in denial or not
I hate myself and any version of myself after oct 20th
@@mariomaster101official what happened on October 20th
Me: “Huh, I guess I hate myself now”
Also me: “Don’t worry I hate you too”
I don't know what to say lol
My subconscious: I guess that makes 3
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Lol.
Me: clearly knows I hate myself
Me again: **clicks video just in case**
omg that's me lol
Bts annoys me so no thanks (no offense to bts just not my thing)
@@btsbutter2405 I love them but unfortunately still hate myself
@@shuoyt3 It’s ok as long as you respect them:) And I hope you have a nice day thank you☺️
@@charlottedekievit3874 Try digging deeper into their message and try understanding them more.
You're not comfortable letting other people help as you believe your troubles are yours alone and you deserve them" That one hit deep 😢
I agree 😢
It does 😢
I hate myself so much that I feel like people gaslight me when they compliment me
Fr. It doesn’t seem real or genuine, I have huge trust issues so I feel like it’s a cruel joke that they are pulling on me.
Fr same, plus I know who I really am, sometimes when people try to compliment me I feel guilty and sad because that doesnt sound so much like me like thew view me differently as I view myself, I feel like if I was too honest everyone will not like me anymore and think of me as dumb, crazy or mean.
I do too All the time
Very true for me. I always think it’s a joke, or they are just saying that to be nice. Compliments have been hard since elementary school. SMH I hardly ever know when they are genuine. It seems (in my mind) that only about 10-20% may be genuine…. I don’t know if I’m right about that or not.
i legit feel disgusted and lied to when people compliment me.
Okay, RUclips, it’s starting to get personal now.
Incredibly personal
too personal 😭
Agreed, but I don’t mind lol
unbelievably personal, youtube.
So its true that you all got on recommended?
I *know* I hate myself, I'm just fact-checking at this point
Lol same
same
Same
same
same....🥺💔
I'm in my 40's but the voices of the 5year old bullies are still in my mind everyday ! I can't escape them.
I hope u get through it...
Hi ....your living in the past. Let it go ! Time has moved on and U should too !
It's normal.
They were not better than you not were you worst than them. We all are together in having, imperfections, flaws and weaknesses, it's shared humanity.
Not even in how you felt are you different to the rest.
You are not special nor are they.
You are just unique and that uniqueness is what your anger tries to protect plus you feel guilty because you didn't meant to hurt or harm no one.
Hope any of that helps.
@@joelhc9703 Thank you for your reply. Its not something I think about consciously. I came from another culture and in Australia in the early 80's I was in an Anglo culture. Of course I was strange to the other children. But as a child I couldn't understand. I don't think about it everyday but it affected my confidence. But it has given me empathy for those who feel isolated and are suffering. Life is hard but time gives you perspective and I am grateful that I am healthy and have a great family. Thank you for your reply. You are very wise and perceptive.
this is why anti bullying is so important. shit like that sticks with you for years, or forever. they can quite literally shape who you are and how you see yourself. the people who don't realize this never experienced it
What’s sad is that when I opened up to my friends, they all laughed and thought I was joking. The only person who understood that I wasn’t joking was my best friend, and he told me that “all of us will probably make fun of you. Stop opening up. It makes us feel wrong and awkward.” I never opened up to anyone again.
I'm a nobody on the internet, but I'm so sorry that happened. You deserved to be listened to and heard genuinely and loved for who you are.
Sometimes I feel like I'm someone who complains or used about something (I feel like I'm only talking to friends when they need help with something, or they only ask for help).
So yeah, I feel the same way.
I also feel like everyone at my school is judging of what I am accomplishing or doing in life. What can I do I wonder to stop those thoughts/ feelings.
With best friends like that who needs enemies? They sound like a living disease of a human being.
@@ferretgirl9 Its so deep in my subconscious I dont know how to undo the years of early childhood bullying and neglect no matter what I do.. best I can do is withdraw and stay apathetic of everyone
Whenever someone compliments me, I feel like they're lying
they may be right in some aspect
I am wary of compliments not for that reason but because i think its only a matter of time before they start to hate me or become disappointed in me.
When ever someone compliments me I feel really awkward and I tell them if they are serious,then they reply with yes and then I feel depressed cause I know they're lying
What’s that
Y’all are getting complimented?
it all start from clicking this video
Bruh 1 minute ago
Your nick is what i use usually lmao
bruh 6 days ago
btw legend sy verified people never reply to people in they reply to they comment
uhh
I know I hate myself. I don’t know why i’m just watching this. I just want to feel okay again
Hi ....even if u don't know why? Doesn't mean U should keep doing it ! Feel better ! It's ok.
i feel the same. your not alone kid..
Same here.
Same 😢
@@Nezukoscat Ima here for you
Oh boy do I love going down rabbit holes that make me feel terrible
Hi .....stop going down them ...
I just want to say that you are loved and it isn't a lie. I promise.
@@liana_splashyi feel like u are saying that just to make me feel better
@@lslc17 I know. I feel the same way when people say things like this to me. 😢🩷
But God really does unconditionally love you (don't worry, it's not romantic) whether you feel like that or not. Neither you nor I would ever be able to understand His love because of how great He is. I'm only beginning to scratch the surface of His reality.
A song I really want to show you is Pieces by Steffany Gretzinger...LOL it's literally playing RIGHT NOW on RUclips Music (I did not plan this, I promise!). I had a vision while watching it (there are pictures in the lyric video of pots that are broken into pieces and put back together) of the pots being the lives and beings of people (who they are, their stories, what they care about, emotions, etc) in the brokenness of life (I--not visually--saw
unique issues that each person faced and
worries that we often have...one was of a person worrying about his child and when he or she was going to come back home. With this, I saw how very similar all humans are) and brought back together--BY LOVE (which is who God is)-- into the loving hands of God where they are safe and whole.
I pray that God will show you His love in general.
If you want to know more, I made a video of His love and am currently working on a video of the Gospel...which I wrote out in the video's comment section.
If you want proof, I recommend watching a video by Jesus Image. They don't filter anything. It's all real...and caught on camera.
God bless 🩷😢
"You don't sleep well"
Me watching this at 2am : this is fine
me watching this at 4 AM: 🙂
5:33 AM here..
@@putthatjellyinmybelly9698 it's 9 AM now and I didnt sleep all night :)
i stayed up until 3 watching stuff, then i let my adhd take control, and danced until morning. beautiful.
Its 2:30 here
It’s not a coincidence that this was recommended to me.
indeed.
@@Psych2go 😂😂
Yep
Here before this comment gets 1K likes
I just got the notification
Video had me crying at work. I always knew I had some issues with myself and I’m aware of how worse I used to be- but to find out I still have this hatred for myself buried deep down, and to act like it’s not there all this time….its just scary to me. 🤦🏾♂️ I know nobody asked, but I wish us all the best of luck on the journey of self-love. We deserve love. We to accept ourselves before we accept anyone else.
After a year in therapy, I really feel like I am healing from all this. It hasn't been easy, but it has been an amazing journey of self-discovery. Whoever recognises themselves in this video, I wholeheartedly recommend therapy, or self-help, that is so easily available online. ❤❤❤
Me throughout this whole video: “I feel like everyone does that... right?”
Same F
Yes but apparently no
Same.. i hate myself :/
I mean it's pretty normal in our generation but it's not supposed to be
@@chibikenma that’s true. A lot of people (not all) do feel these ways because of things like school or work
“You isolate from others”
It’s not that I hate myself, I just hate people
Honestly tho 😂
Haha this deserves more likes
Or love. You know. XD Bc Corona.
Very true, very true
Psychologists are stuck trying to take any action to protect yourself from society as a flaw in yourself, not the society that is perverse.
I’ve never been able to take a compliment . Every time someone compliments me or my work, It weirds me out and makes me think that I don’t deserve it.
Whole video is like someone has been following me taking notes about my life
7 Signs you hate yourself.
This video is recommended to you.
Yep
RUclips needs to do a better job!
@@Psych2go yeAh-
😂😭
@@Psych2go I've learned a lot. Thank you
When I get confident about myself, it disgusts me that I felt like that.
Same. I feel like I shouldn't. But sometimes I wish it to be like that everytime, so that I can be true to myself
@Phoenix Wolf ikr? And then talk about why we hate ourselves then help each other out
I get that all the time or more so that i feel my problems are insignificant in the larger scheme of things.
Who doe QwQ I'm very confident and Happyyyyy UvU
I hate sadness I would murder that emotion if I seen it . I actually wouldn't murder the emotion sadness I like it cuz well in Anime it's so dramatic and in movies it's also dramatic :))
I mean there's group therapy, meeting random people on the Internet is probably gonna get someone killed like it or not
This is 3 years ago, i know.. but this might actually help me so much.. i mean i feel like i *can* Improve. I feel like i have a chance! That it’s still not time to give up.. i get it that alot of things happen in life, and this is a part of life! But life doesn’t always have to be good all the time or bad all the time-this is also a message for you to learn to love yourself, not survive! But live.
This blown me away
With all my symptoms being the same things is terrible for me but incredible on how you described them and try to relate with others. Well done 👏
"You put on a facade because you hate the real you"
I feel called out.
same 💀
me too 🥲
Yeah, it stings.
its at69 likes let me ruin it
Same
1. You tear yourself down
2. You compare yourself to others
3. You neglect your self care
4. You don’t let yourself be happy
5. You isolate yourself from others
6. You put on a facade for others
7. You’re afraid of dream big
The only thing I don't do is comparing my self with others, The rest I do them all.
Wait- everyone doesn't do this already!? Wait I though it was normal?
💀
@@peculiarduckmaster1778 oh yeah it's normal don't worry people are just a bit more depressed since covid-19 like you so don't worry about being different
oh no ; ;
I think i don't do 6. Well it depends of your definition of a facade. My friends know that I hate myself and/or I am depressed but when I'm around them I'm trying to go along with everyone's mood and not embarass everyone with my state of mind does this count as a facade ?
Man these videos are explaining my depression and self hatred
This is genuinely one of the most relatable videos on all of RUclips
to summarize:
7 signs you may be suffering from self-loathing
1. you tear yourself down
2. you feel insecure around others
3. you neglect your self-care
4. you don’t let yourself be happy
5. you isolate yourself from others
6. you put on a facade for others
7. you’re afraid to dream big
Thank you
Thank you
o shizz 5/7 definite yes's. At least on auto mode
3, 4, & 5. I don't trust people.
Lol how’d you know what’s on my resume
the worst part is that I am 100% self-aware of all these things, yet I still do nothing about it.
And I will get annoyed when someone tells me that I may have a problem or even gives me suggestions on how to get better. And I am 100% aware that this reaction makes absolutely no sense. Maybe thats just another symptom we have.
It's like you hate yourself so much you don't feel like you deserve to get better, so you don't try to get better. But at the same time, you feel awful and want to get better, but you did this to yourself anyway so you deserve the suffering, and on and on and on goes the never ending cycle of hell
@@harper6032 jajaj yes, that's exactly the whole problem!
Same story Bro😶😶
Same, like it says in the video I feel like I don't deserve happiness sooooo
This video made me cry so much. I can relate to this so much... I hate being like this because I know it tares down everyone around me, but I just can't. I'm trying, but it isn't enough
Hi ....Be Positive ! Things will change in time.
Watching this was actually sad, but also a sort of relief.. Because I know I used to relate to many of these, but now I relate to less of them.. It gives me hope to know that I have improved, although, not completely. Thank you!!
1) You tear yourself down. ✅
2) You feel insecure about others. ✅
3) You neglect your self-care. ✅
4) You don’t let yourself be happy. ✅
5) You isolate yourself from others. ✅
6) You put on a facade for others. ✅
7) You’re afraid to dream big. ✅
The test result are ready. You were right.
Same here! :) I just don't think I'm important or good enough XD I'm just wearing a mask hiding me
Yeah same..
Same lol but can anyone tell me how to fix this ? XD
Heck
Hey! It's my personality!
I didn’t need a sign that I hate myself. This is just the cherry on top
same lol........*crys*
You already know what's going on. Learning to love yourself can be a project, but it's worth it, hope you can find some good advice here on RUclips.
Ahahaha can relate
@•Honey Potter• thx lol
@•Honey Potter• Nagitoe but actually •Honey Potter•.. I like it.
3:57 that picture described my life to perfection
All of this could go away but my body chooses to be the loser I hate instead of improving when I ask and provide for it
“She hates her life, not because it was bad but because when you hate your mind and your body it’s hard to enjoy the rest” :/
euphoria😭❤️
The fact that this is so true-
@@sarau2034 i didnt expect that lmao
But you can change how you think about yourself you can learn to love yourself . Dont compare yourself to others thinking I wish I looked or behaved etc like them .learn to accept yourself that you're ok as you are and start with little steps towards positive change ...
You are beautiful
It's really sad how we can be really supportive with everyone, but harsh with ourselves.
I agree with you like no one knows that from the outside I may smile or look happy but inside I'm crying and just want to die
@@lenie447 so true
i couldn't agree more
@@lenie447 this is such facts. And I'm scared to tell my mom
Yeah, I just put on a smile and try and make everyone else happy. I don't want them to feel the kind of internal pain I do...
i love these videos because a lot of the time they actually discourage me, because it shows i actually don't hate myself, i just am ugly and stupid. love the videos though, keep up the great work!
Most of these I have in common
.always takes note of mistakes even if it’s small
.takes bad compliments for real
.thinks others have better lives
.hides emotions with “happiness” “joy”
.hates body shape
. Etc
Finally a test even I can get full marks on!
God, this actually made me laugh a little through the tears. I'm glad people with humor like you exist. Thank you.
😂. Thanks I needed that.
Heads up to the both you above this, shit'll get better for all of us, eventually ♥
@@kohji_y I made the sad mistake to give up hope and it led me down a dark path. I'm still slowly working on myself and piecing things together. I don't have all the answers, but at least with the internet; it's up, it's up forever. There will be that mark for everyone to see we tried. We can slowly become the majority of true empaths and see a world where no one will be misunderstood.
Even if I fade into obscurity afterward, I can rest knowing I either helped ignite the spark of change; or I died trying.
@@mitchellbarton7915 pathetic
Me: Knowingly hates myself
Me: watches this video anyway
Me: still hates myself
Exactly
yup.
same
ikr lmao
Yup
All of this describes me. I'm subscribing cause I feel like this channel understands what I'm feeling.
I don't have any signs of most videos made by this channel and I don't feel anything close to having mental issues, but the character, voice and the animation is so good I have to watch it
1. You tear yourself down - ✔
2. You feel insecure around others - ✔
3. You neglect your self-care - ✔
4. You don't let yourself be happy - ✔
5. You isolate yourself from others - ✔
6. You put on a facade for others - ✔
7. You're afraid to dream big - ✔
Damn, first thing I got perfect score from.
Oh damn bro
honestly its the same for me too
fr 😭
🖐 high five
Savage self-burn - ✅
you know sometimes i wonder how does it feel to be someone who loves themselves and or like genuinely happy
Me too
It's a mystery, ain't it?
Pfft. It's about a big a mystery to me, as what's beyond death is to science..
Oml, same-
Seen that kinda person tho... They're like a different specie...
I used to hate myself and put my self down and just put me down but now i love myself is happy doesn't put myself does some selfcare feels good about my self ❤
When I was younger I ended up losing contact with basically everyone who mattered to me in the past. I felt depressed, lonely, and because I never appreciated who I had, I gained a serious case of self hatred. In order to cope, I ended up in an addiction and that just made it worse.
I couldn't handle compliments, I thought that every part of me looked horrible and it kept me from moving on, I wasn't able to form new relationships with others. It's been a few years, I'm still trying to improve. To anyone reading this, nobody is perfect, love yourself for who you are - even for your mistakes. You're beautiful and one of a kind ♥
i'm not even joking when I say that this video has literally summed up my whole life
mine too
Same
Amen
Dang
I think A LOT of people feel the same way. Hell, ALMOST EVERYBODY, if we were to truly admit it. That's why life is such a challenge my friend.
*Me who watches it anyway despite fully knowing how much I hate myself:*
Just making sure-
(Edit: I never realized I resonated with so many people, lol. I hope you're all doing well to do better and wish you good luck. Be nice to people and, well, live laugh love.)
i hope you're better now!
i wish life would get better for us!
@@nowie4007 we all wish that 🥶 but it gets better!
Same lol, and there is literally no way to overcome this because it's a paradoxical situation where it's impossible to not want to hate yourself when you already hate yourself.
@@asvuksi42 yea
As someone who confidently does relate to some of these, i hope you all get better and i wish you all grow to love yourselves
This whole video was 💯 accurate on every point of how I feel and see myself 💔
This entire video really said: “this you?”
My response is: yes.
What's the name of your profile
Everything except the 7th
@@darkfame1499 it’s “hxneyoats” the hxney part means honey. so just read it as honeyoats. I just thought it would look better with an x. I hope that made sense lol😭
Who dis
i’m straight up embarrassed to around anyone bc i feel like i’m too ugly. i hate when people say nice things ab me bc i feel like they are lying but if someone says something bad about me it lingers with me constantly.
Same! This girl says I'm cute when I blush and think she's just saying that to tease me. But when someone jokes about my face, I think about it for MONTHS.
I had this friend I've never fought with, but once I made a joke that made her uncomfortable and for the first time in my life I heard her raise her voice, and I was the only person she yelled at. A part of me knows she is still my friend, but another part is always eating away at me because I did something to make her yell at me when she had never yelled at anybody. A part of me can't stop but think I don't deserve her friendship.
Fr everytime I go outside I get so uncomfortable, nervous and very insecure to the point I cant focus and almost got ran over. I appreciate people saying kind things to me but I feel like their only saying this in pity because they feel bad for how bad I am lol.
Same...
@@iamagirl9938 i bet your friend forgot about that lol we are always so critical on ourselves. sometimes if you think of yourself as a friend you’d be like “oh I would forgive them”. like we are really our own enemies
Thank you for this video. I'm listening to this at 5:00 in the morning because I can't sleep because I'm just tossing and turning. Trying to think of a reason to stop worrying. Hopefully listening to this 100 more times. We'll finally sink through my head a bit. So many things I need to change. But I guess the first step is admitting it and listening to good advice❤
same here at 06.25
i hope you feel better
This video was a punch in the gut. This described exactly how I've been feeling lately...
I knew I hated myself, but I didn’t know I hated myself to the point where I relate to absolutely every point in this video
Absolutely "hate" myself but I can just cover it up with "Every person might differ from each other but at the end the grave is all we get"
I relate to this video by 80% i hate myself alot :/ but i dont isolate myself
Same bro.. Ahahahhaah- sobbing
Same 😗🤚
relatable
me, watches "7 Signs You Hate Yourself" already knowing i do:
me, after finishing the whole thing: wow, i didnt know i hated myself. i must say, i am surprised.
bro same
You must be young? When I was a teenager or in my 20’s I was in denial. When I turned 30 I accepted the fact I deeply hate myself so now I am open about it. It takes time but at some point you accept the truth.
Me too
Same
Honestly many of these r true for me and I didn't notice and IVe been doing self luv everyday but I guess it'll be a while till I finally luv me
I've been watching a lot of your videos and a lot of the negative stuff really explains why I've been feeling this way this one is basically everything Ive been feeling and doing for years now
Wow this absolutely answered the years of wondering what’s wrong with me..
Me to my friends: I hate myself
Them : oh no you need to love yourself
"Well why didn't i think of that"
you mean you don't have a lightswitch on your skull where you can just flip it and become an entirely different person instantly? oh that's right, no one has that. People love to give simplistic advice for things they have never experienced.
@@lestranged Tell me about it!!
@@lestranged out of all these languages, this dude choose to speak "facts"
@@user-wt9ti2yn7d and you chose to speak “copy”
ok
“What’s going on?”
“I’m in this photo and I don’t like it”
Same thing with me,i deleted all of my pics of me on my moms old phone that she gave me
Litteraly me
no, I hate it. Its not just not liking
Same I don't have photos of my self on my camara roll because I always think I look ugly😊
When I first read this I saw, "I'm a potato and I don't like it" lol
This made me realize how far I've come. I've had these behaviors since I was little, it's how I'd survive my parents' way of raising me. I'm trying to get better and (I suppose ironically) I feel like I'm never making progress. This video made me go "I used to do that" but a lot of it I don't do anymore. I explore opportunities, feel accomplished after finishing an artwork, and don't compare myself to others. I'm glad I'm getting better, and I hope others start to feel better too at their own pace.
This video perfectly describes how I feel everyday... I relate to all of these
The weird thing is I get so happy seeing others being confident about themselves and will always go the extra mile to hype people up but I’d never do that for myself
And hello my clone 🤣
same
Yeah that's me right there!
Same
I hated myself. I never wanted to be happy. And I would never change that till I die. I never want to care about myself *FOREVER!*
Anyone else feel tooo damn tired for life? Like even maintaining a small thing as a discussion with someone is draining for me
Yes I'm tired of the same routine everyday..
Ive cutted myself too many times,and when i was doing it,i thought i was a attention seeker.
I haven’t cried in so long but I really need to and I am tired life and just want it to end
Come speak to me if you have discord. Chickenmaster#4237
@@murtza_6640 thank you , you kind soul i dont have discord thugh
I am crying while watching this.
This video made me cry and actually realize I have been suffering from self loathing.I have been doing this for a while now I don’t even know how I feel anymore I tell myself everyday “you can’t do this” “you can try but I won’t believe in you”. I don’t like positive energy or thoughts because I think of how many times I felt discouraged or sadness or even just hating myself to the point where I cry
Is this my FBI agent concerned about me by recommending this to me-
Lmaooooo
Lol
Nothing says "protect and serve" like covert surveillance amirite
lucky i had to serch it up
Yup
Everything said is so accurate I feel nauseous
Yup
The faith makes us still believe, and the mind helps differ it from hate
It’s like what they always say: “you can’t kill what’s already dead”
FNaF Afton family vibes..
"You can't kill me, I'm already dead inside"
Aka, my self-esteem
You can kill a zombie though
yep
Whenever I talked to my friends about my problems, I instantly regretted it, because I knew it was uncomfortable for them and I was putting too much pressure on them to help me. I know I'm not good at lifting someone up with my words, so I feel awful for not being able to help them in return.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
I didn't read all of it but it sounds more to me like you need to rethink who your Friends are if your friends care they care and they want to listen they want to be there to help
@@alexdaniel5641 Some problems aren’t temporary my guy
@@kennethmeyer3961 True
Well , I understand that and it's really sad . There r many people out here who support u . If it gets 2 overwhelming, feel free to talk about any of ur problens on these comments 😁
Point number 5. “You isolate yourself from others”. I have never really had any friends, I’m not outgoing enough to talk to others, so I just stay alone. But when someone finally starts talking to me, and we have a lot in common. And we end up becoming the best of friends. I start to withdraw; I self sabotage the relationship because I hate myself. Which then makes me hate myself even more because I know I’ve hurt this person. I’ve done this to so many people and I can’t forgive myself for it. I want to apologize, but I don’t want to force myself back into their lives again and bother them. Idk why I’m writing this, I just really hate myself, and I don’t want to get better cause I don’t think that I deserve it. The best I can do is help others in whatever ways I can. I really appreciate Psych’s videos, they’ve made me realize that I’m not the only one that goes through stuff like this.
when I am alone I show little to no emotion but with people around I show to much
I'm a weird mix of absolutely hating myself and being totally chill with who I am. It's really freaking weird
I'm learning self love but I haven't unlearned self hatred. Maybe it's like that?
@@thevilemac8743 I hadn't thought of that. Thank you!!
It is man I have bad deeds I've done and regret I can't ever sleep but I accept what I've don't and try to move on but yet I still feel guilty
Same. I do my own thing and I'm very different for a female in many ways and I like many things about me. I think the occasional self loathing is due to childhood conditioning and not achieving certain societal expectations. It's confusing 🥴
Yah like I tell people this how I am I'm proud and ashamed at the same time wtf
Crying while watching this I honestly don't wanna be here anymore but that one comment that said "RUclips its kinda getting personal now" made me cheer up
Same
Its going to get better God loves you and will never leave you trust me ❤️❤️❤️
@@janblau4839 its going to get better trust me my friend God loves you and Will not leave me or you or anyone ❤️❤️❤️
Hope your feeling better. 🤗hugs
I love how it’s the comment above you lol
You know i fit in these all points very well
I am crying right now
Well, I hated myself before cuz the people around me described me in these qualities but now i'm learning to love myself and have made a great progress. I love myself and I'm my first priority.😊
FOR THE PEOPLE WHO JUST WANT THE LIST
1. You tear yourself down - quick to blame yourself, don’t commend yourself, too hard on yourself
2. You feel insecure when around others - you’re constantly comparing yourself to them
3. You neglect your self care
4. You don’t let yourself feel happy - you take others’ criticism to heart but don’t really take compliments
5. You isolate yourself from others - struggle to make friends because you don’t consider yourself good enough to receive love, you believe that your presence is holding them back
6. You put on a face for others - You hate who you are, you wish you were someone else
7. You’re afraid to dream big - it scares you, you think you’ll never be able to achieve them so what’s the point
You've described me to the T ! Thanks very much !
3, 5, 6 that describes me well, and as for 2 I could say half and half
Yes to all of the above
_Inwardly harsh, outwardly forgiving_
All of those Match with me!🐻
You know my favorite quote," Nobody can hate you more than you hate youself."
Yeah
Hitler
Seriously do I need to say more
@@tammid8423 no ya dont lol
@@tammid8423 😂
thanks dora
I know i kinda hate myself but something that worrys me a little is that i dont wanna improve, like i love hating myself more and more...
guilt is the worst for me, i try to please every one and nobody wins. you are not alone, no matter what your brain says.
I hate the fact that I hate myself but I can't do anything about it because I feel like I deserve it.
I feel this comment. I hate myself but feel bad that I hate myself, especially if I mention it because I feel like I'm doing it for attention and that I'm not worth worrying about.
@@pluto3194 this is why I don't tell anyone about anything about myself
I hate myself and I feel sorry bcs I feel like I’m being unfair to myself. But I think I deserve it. So yeah
@@solux902 Yeah, I feel good about my hatred for myself too...I know that’s bad but who honestly gives a crap?
Hating myself has became so much of a habit it feels normal at this point
I do it because everyone has worse and I deserve it
Everyone else is more popular than me because they aren't overrated unlike me
Everyone else is more talented than me
Etc
"7 signs I hate myself?" Yea... don't need a vid to tell myself that but imma still watch
doing it for her soothing voice
Life isnt bad, maybe your just going through bad times, dw it will all go just stay strong, be patient god loves you and remember that:
"Fight the storm to see the rainbow"..
@@nouranelewa1747 Easy to say, hard to do. I don't know how many days I'm gonna survive with my narcissistic mom. Life is sick being with her
@@nouranelewa1747 Life IS bad when you live in Brazil like me, with a maniac as president, and you don't have a job anymore due to covid 19 pandemic, plus without have any perspective of change, i'm actually going to sleep everyday without being sure that i'm going to eat tomorrow. It's hard to follow your philosophy when after the storm, another storm comes unstoppable at you
My exact thought as I clicked on the video. "Well I know I already hate myself, but let's see if I'm like the video so I can tell myself I'm trying to fake it for attention or if I'm nothing like the video and can tell myself I'm faking it for attention."
I often process compliments and care, as if they're insults. I feel like people are lying to me, and that insults my intelligence, so I INSTANTLY start resenting them for being fake and seeing me as pitiful. It's really bad. I've put in a shitload of work to not act on this, but it really is powerful, and extremely toxic.
Thank you for this video.
I literally don’t remember what it feels like to love myself and I’m genuinely curious how people do it
just realized i never have
…every time i tried someone called me cocky and made me feel like shit
It feels okay. Loving yourself makes you more intrested to have great sex and love some other people. I dont blame my body for anything, when nothing is my body fault and I dont blame myself also, when to hard situation in life to get was not my fault, when others screamed over me to tell how their always 100% right, so I never myself felt guilty in anything, when I had not any annoying childish prideful personality that made me do something to feel guilty.
same, like how do you not notice all the flaws in your body or personality and just ignore them- i dont think thats possible
I feel constantly feel like a doormat for everyone’s emotional need. I used to love myself but I don’t know anymore. I just sometimes have strong urge to just die so I don’t have to feel so much all the time
maybe start by complimenting yourself everyday when looking in a mirror. do it even if it feels weird or too egotistical.
I've never been so offended by something I completely agree with. This was honestly touching.
It is.
Yeah I had to cry smh
It is offensive to watch if this is the result of psychological warfare, abuse or trauma. I'm seriously trying to understand how many people just naturally hate themselves without anything from external people causing it. It's against survival to hate one's self. I think this is the narcissistic narrative of self hate. Imo.
Same lmfao
Well said
I know this video is around 3 years old as of writing this. But after watching this video it made me realize that I "hate myself". I have always been aware of myself doing these things but just disregarded it as something else other than hating myself. I have had people tell me to stop being so hard on myself, but I've always felt I'm not being hard enough on myself. I have always put myself down for the littlest of mistakes, or have told myself I'm not working hard enough when I see others doing better than me. I'm never around people and try to avoid them thinking that my presence is a burden to others. I put on a face when talking to others hoping that will help. i have a terrible relationship with my parents because i feel like they hate being around me and think I'm a burden. I am always doing stuff around the house thinking that that might help them like me and\or make up for my short comings. Every time i get a complement about my hair or intelligence or anything, I think people are lying or mocking me. whenever I receive criticism it only re-enforces the fact that I'm not trying or doing good enough. I don't think I deserve to receive gifts even for Christmas or my birthday. I feel like I don't do enough in life to deserve anything. I always feel like I'm not good enough for others and myself. I've always had this attitude of "whatever get over it, its part of being a man.". I've learned that it has taken a heavy mental toll on me, but haven't realized it until after I've watched a dozen of your guy's videos.
i feel like because how the wrld view men as either u have money or nothing, people start to feel like they're behind on life. u r doin just fine bro, just focus on urself and ur own life and keep those in ur life who do things like compliment u. they're are real friends, because fake friends only come around for the good times and not when it really does matter to ur own mental health. stay safe bro 💜💜
"You don't sleep well"
Me in 3 AM remembering this:
I'm fine
Its 3am rn for me lmao
3 am? How about 6am
You all sleep?
3am HAH PITYFULL 6AM WITH ME
It’s 3:13 for me 😄
"I'm a blackbelt when I'm beating up on myself, but I'm an expert at giving love to somebody else."
This song actually gets me out of my negative mindset. Especially when she says “all the times I went and fucked it up, I wonder if I love me was enough?” It’s so true though! I feel like I self sabotage and tear myself down before I even try but I give everyone my love and support. It’s like “why can’t I take my own advice already??!!”😂😂😂
@@awsomepeep i know right! i feel like i always give advice, but never use that advice upon myself! 😂😂
i love that song, and i love demi :)
No kidding I listened to that song the entirety of Quarantine cuz I related so much lol.
My friends tell me that I'm great at giving advice and even if that's true, I suck at taking it.
I truly wonder when I love me is enough 😂
This is an amazing quote
@@RosheenQuynh ahaha it's a song lyric from demi levato's song "i love me"!
Tis is the season too where, for some, everything in this clip can seem amplified..... Here's hoping we all make it into the new year 👍🏽
i don't like how much i'm being called out right now😭
like i am actually starting to tear up rn halfway through the vid cus of how personal these are getting-
definitely not a coincidence that youtube recommended me this-
"you're a pessimist who's quick at finding the negative aspect in every situation."
wow.
way to call me out.
strongly agreed
She’s just trying to help..
Hey it's not our fault this world has sucked since the beginning of time lol
Ikr
i searched for it
“They looked at me werid” “I’m so ugly”
"she said that she thinks her thighs are fat, imagine what she thinks about yours.."
‘They looked at you, they probably think you are a looser and reject’
"I am 17/20 in my quiz...what will my parents think about me or say to me..."
"You're so fat, look at your clothes, you're gonna get bigger and bigger, you're a mistake"
"I haven't achieved anything in my life. I probably will never get married. "
no, question is what is right n wrong for life
I grew up with parents who loved my sister more and thought I was always fine and they wouldn’t let me feel good about myself. I’m not saying they always said I shouldn’t feel good about myself but more they wouldn’t let me do a lot of the things that made me happy. I wanted to wear makeup for me not other people but they said no. I wanted to close my door for privacy they questioned me whenever I did. This lead to me hating myself since I was 6.
Hi ....I'm sorry to hear that. But that's the past ! You have put it behind you. Your not that little girl anymore.
"You think they're better off without you."
I related to the full list, but this hit the hardest. Like you get a strong feeling that they would be happier and more free if they didn't have to worry about you.
Yup, pretty much. People always let me down & then get mad at me if I point it out. That's when I know I have no true friends & people would rather I be gone.
And they will.
My whole life in a nutshell, I am a waste of space and I know it. My only option is to slowly withdrawal so I don't disturb their, "peace."
Same.
Well I cried when I watched the video because I relate and I don't want to relate, but then I cried when I read this too Unscather, ur comment hits so hard