10 Things Only Depressed People Will Understand
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- Опубликовано: 21 май 2024
- Depression is one of the most common mood disorders and is something that society tends to misinterpret. Depression is a mental illness that isn’t easy to deal with in fact depression is energy consuming and leaves the depressed individual very emotionally and physically exhausted. Here are a few things that only depressed people understand to remind you that you're not alone.
Is it depression or laziness? We also made a video on the signs you're depressed, not lazy: • 6 Signs You're Depress...
DISCLAIMER:
This is your friendly reminder that this video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to serve as a substitute for professional mental health advice. Please seek help from a qualified mental health professional if you are struggling.
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Tris Canimo
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
American Psychological Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders - 5th Edition. APA Publishing.
World Health Organization (2020). Fact Sheet on Depression. Retrieved 11 March 2021 from www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/depression#:~:text=Depression%20is%20a%20common%20mental,affected%20by%20depression%20than%20men.
Anxiety and Depression Association of America (2017). Understanding Anxiety and Depression. Retrieved 11 March 2021 from
www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/depression
National Alliance Against Mental Illness (2018). Mental Health by The Numbers. Retrieved from www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-By-the-Numbers
What's the most previous thing in your life, something that you can't put a price tag on?
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I have anxiety 🥴🥴
"Someone so young shouldn't be depressed." This is one I hear a lot.
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@@friskflowerfell9689 same
I had when I was 5 and I'm now 18 and I still have it.
My grandma said that to me I almost started laughing at her cause she didn’t even know I was struggling it’s funny how some people think
The worst thing is that a lot of people regard depression as 50% being sad and 50% being lazy.
Very true
I agree, very true!
I get called lazy all the time and it just makes me feel worse its so frustrating
@@londoneliot4588 people don't realise how difficult it can be to go about your daily life.
T r u e
"Depression is like painting backwards. Life starts in a beautiful way but slowly turns to blank."
My mum told me that once.
Some lives are blank from the start...
Your mom’s a poet!
@@SuperVladdrakulaand you can change that, I believe in you.
@@jujuoof174 Change _what?_ You cannot change the nature of existence, no one can, don't be ridiculous...
While you might not be able to change most things in nature, you are in control of your actions. Whatever you are capable of is up to you and if you believe you can change and do great things then you sure as hell can. @@SuperVladdrakula
“You have everything you want and need, how could you be depressed?” Is one I hear a lot
Those self-entitled morons are not worth listening to...
that’s the most annoying thing you can ever hear from your parents the dumbasses can’t understand
That was once words from my parents…After that I stop talked about my troubles and pain with them😔
@@alisi.starsun I hear it every time I try to bring up something bad that happens to me
Similar thoughts come to my mind when I want to talk about my depression to someone but don't do as those thoughts roam in my mind
when you want to talk to your parents about your depression and they just blame it on your phone
We are here and we will listen
This is the reason I hesitate to talk to my parents about something
At some point it's true , too much browsing social media can cause anxiety and depression
Istg, once when I had a mental breakdown they told me stop overreacting about small things and stop being so stubborn...after that day I've never been able to even show lil signs of sadness...ive to force myself to be happy when I want to cry and actually want someone to just be there for me and understand what I'm going thru :/
Mine don't actually do that but they do tell me to try and turn things around myself whenever I experience a problem
If I could I would've done that. There's a reason I need help
Why am I literally in tears over the fact that this person understands me way more than my parents and friends 🥺
all the depression videos make me cry everytime i see i sign and then an eye lash falls under my eyelid :sob:
Same feeling 😪 😢😢
because psych2go knows fancy psychological stuff 👍
i feel the you
I don't have any friends, and my parents don't even care how I feel. Everyday is lonely for me, especially the weekends when school is out. And it gets way worse over summer break. All I have is people like you guys in the comment section and great RUclips channels like Psych2Go that keeps me determined and hopeful. And when I succeed one day, no one will get credit for my success except myself.. I will make that VERY CLEAR when someone asks me who was behind my success. Parents think that your life is perfect because they provide you with food, water, shelter, and money. The thing that they always fail to provide is emotional support, at-least from my experience.
OH MY GOSH! I was almost in tears when you said that people with depression feel guilty of not having a good reason for being depressed. I feel depressed all the time and I keep telling myself that I need to stop feeling this way, I have no right, I don't have a good reason for being depressed. This opened my eyes. Thank you 🖤🗝😭
I thought I was the only one 😢.
Dude I literally thought I was just sad, so I kept blaming myself cus I thought I was lazy. Imagine if we actually learned about this in school.
@@sofieblicher9308how do u feel now? Have you consulted any profffesionals?
1. difficulty with communicating your emotions 0:49
2. guilty of not having a 'good reason' for being depressed 1:27
3. getting angry over constantly being told 'I understand' 1:58
4. the pain of losing your love and passion for live 2:34
5. frustation of not being able to 'just snap out of it' 3:13
6. compulsive desire to self isolate 3:46
7. people think depression = sadness 4:27
8. people don't understand that mental illness is real 4:57
9. people think depression is the same for everybody 5:28
10. learning to celebrate the little things 6:00
I hope I could help!
1 MONTH AGO!? THIS VID IS 17 SECONDS OLD!!!
@@caffeinatedarsonist7417 some videos are hidden and people have earlier access
thank you for this!!!
@@idk-vp8ip Ohhh thats cool, channel member thing im guessing? Same with the emoji?
@@caffeinatedarsonist7417 as we can see, time travels do exist
My mom told me that same thing, that "I shouldn't be depressed because there are people who have it worse than me". I tried my best to describe how I feel and time and time again she tried to invalidate my feelings...it's awful, like I'm stuck and can't leave this pit. And the people who were supposed to love me and give me the strength to live, failed to do so
same here, my mum said therapy is too expensive and threatened me saying I would have to take drugs to cure it or something. She wanted to stop putting up with my bs.
mine didn't say I shouldn't be depressed, but she did use say to not complain too much because there are people who have it worse than me, and honestly, that's on of the stupidest response someone can give to a depressed person. So like, if lose an arm or a leg, you're not allowed to complain because someone else lose all of their limbs? So if someone lose one of their family member, they shouldn't be sad because someone out there lose their entire family? Of course not, you don't need to be the most suffering person to be depressed.
it's been 2 months, but I hope you found the strength to keep going and I wish you the best luck to fight your depression
@@minegamerpro1308 Sorry to say but the opposite has happened. Granted I gave up a long time ago, but frankly I don't think I even want help anymore. I just seek the end
@@cryguy0000 Hey. If you ever need to talk, we're here for you. I know I don't fully understand, but I want to help any way I can. Unfortunately, the most I can do is let you talk to this complete stranger, but I can try, right? So please, don't give up. Just by being alive, you're doing great. Feel free to come back to this comment anytime, and I'll do my absolute best to help you. And if I say anything wrong or that triggers you, let me know and I'll try to fix it.
By the way, a little proof that you're brave: you had the courage to upload videos. I know that may not be much, but there you go. 🙂
The fact that your parents think you can be depressed is also a thing however if you are intelligent enough you should know most parents don't understand you . Your points never get across them while they feel like you don't understand anything . You should try to work on yourself and find why you are depressed . It will help however if you just sit nothing will change only time will pass .
I could remember several years ago, I suffered severe depression and mental disorder after losing my job. Started my journey on alcohol and cigarettes. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
No doubts shrooms are 100% blessings from nature. Indeed nature's little miracles
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Greece. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
As Stephen Fry once put it - "depression doesn't have to be "because" of something. Depression just is, like the weather. Some days the sun shines, other days it rains. You can't tell the weather to buck up or snap out of it."
And as someone who has been diagnosed with chronic (ie life long) depression for over30 years now, I can tell anyone going through the rough end of the experience right now that the sun will rise again. It always does. And you will be there alongside me to celebrate, I hope.
Fighting your way back from the deepest, darkest places is no picnic. I know. I've been there many times and I have no doubt I'll be visiting again at some point. So, if you reject everything else anyone says on the subject, let me assure you all, you are genuine, real life heroes. You wouldn't be here if you weren't. My hat is off, ladies and gentlemen, and my fingertips are resting on my right temple. Carry on being the heroic warriors you are. Show the rest of us how it's done. My utmost respect and humble salute to all of you.
While experiencing depression I was told “I don’t know why you feel like that you don’t have a reason to feel that way”. Thank you for bringing light to this topic.
Yeah I'm always feeling like I have to have a reson like if someone says " why are you sad" a. not sad depressed b. You wouldn't understand if I told you
we don’t need a reason
I have been keeping my depression and struggles to myself and not telling anything about it to my parents, because the reason I'm so depressed is literally them.
@@kathxx_7636 ditch that "friend". Friends and friendship themselves are fake.however me myself is feeling depressed.so im here for ya.take a virtual hug
@@AlyxTheProtogen Oh. Sorry for you 😕I lost appetite happiness and i feel lazy everyday but my mother is the cure for this shit anxiety
When she said, "Took the time to brush your hair or have a bath? Give yourself a mental pat on the back." genuinely brought a smile to my face :) Thank you
I actually burst out into tears for like ten minutes.
I'm a 28 year old, 6'4" / 300 lb man and I have no shame in admitting I just sobbed like a child. I haven't had somebody congratulate me for doing these things that are SO HARD ... ever. Getting out of bed, having a shower, brushing my teeth, shaving, and greeting the day before 9AM takes so much effort and it's never appreciated. It's just something you're supposed to do, so nobody ever thinks to say 'good job' to you for it.
@@jamespike5161 Exactly, people don't realize how hard it is for us to do such simple things. Good job, by the way. I'm proud of you 💖💖
Idk why but it made me cry
That one made me cry.
@@jamespike5161 I'm proud of you for doing all of those things. Please keep going.
I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd.
Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
Is he on instagram?
"Others have it worse" is one I heard a lot. What made it worse is that I had a front row seat to see the validation of that statement while watching my own sibling spiral on almost a daily basis, so I went decades believing there was nothing wrong with me because I was never as bad as my sibling. Meanwhile, I was manifesting my own version of depression left untreated because I didn't think it was there. Then one day, it got really bad. I couldn't physically move from my bed except to go to the bathroom a couple of times which was a miracle I could manage that. But all day, I laid in bed and drowned in my own thoughts. The next day I was feeling better enough to pull myself out of bed and make me something to eat. I settled on a bowl of plain instant rice, which wasn't very substantial when you hadn't eaten in 36 hours, but it was better than nothing. That was when I started to think, "Okay...maybe there is something wrong with me. That was a classic sign of depression yesterday." But I didn't know who I could talk to or how to start that conversation so I did the only thing my muddled, clouded brain could think of at the moment: I made a Facebook post about it and hoped the right person would come to me. I said something to the affect of, "I was depressed yesterday but I'm feeling better today," which wasn't a lie. I was feeling betTER, just not my best. The very first comment was someone reprimanding me for using the word "depressed" to describe what they called a "fleeting sadness" because "there are people out there who have actual depression." Then the comment after that was someone agreeing with the first comment. The third comment after that was my cousin reprimanding them for focusing on the language I used and not on my feelings but by then the damage was already done. I had gone right back into my thinking of, "There's nothing wrong with me." Then what followed was another five years of letting it fester and get worse before I finally revisited it and got the support system I needed to help me through it. I still struggle, but it's a lot easier to deal with now that I've gotten medication, proper coping skills that I learned in therapy, and a great support system of people that I can talk to openly and honestly about how I'm feeling, including my wonderful and supportive partner.
I suffered from clinical depression, anxiety, panic attacks, paranoia and OCD at extreme levels for six years. After years of therapy I kind of have them under control but they are always there in a back ground way and anyone could flare up at anytime. Thanks to the therapy I can usually overcome these dips but it can take a long time. Unlike many physical illnesses I don’t think a mental illness can ever be fully cured.
I don't think mental illness can be cured, either.
I remember being told by my parents to just “think about myself more positively” so the “just snap out of it” section really hit hard. Depression is like a train coming right at you, full throttle, while you’re tied to the tracks. You can’t just “stop being depressed” on command. I’m sick of people thinking that it’s a choice that someone makes. If I had the choice, I’d rather not have depression.
My Mom always says "you dont behave like a person with depression" (bc she works in a Hospital)
@@benogame_xd dang :(
The people who do this to me the most is my sister and my mom. They say that I am actually fine and I don't have depression and I need to think more positively. Sometimes, I just want to yell at them, tell them how I feel and to fck themselves
Ong if I could choose I’d choose not to be depressed
GG boy, hang in there!
I feel this on a deep level.
One thing that sucks about having depression is that you might also have anxiety (like me). One day you can be on the verge of a panic attack, the next day you wont eat, you wont work, and you dont want to continue living. It absolutely sucks.
something that helped me was finding a hobby and exercise. its very hard to get the motivation, but if you think of it like a trial or a challenge that rewards you with feeling even slightly better then its worth it.
Like, I couldn't have just had anxiety or depression, I've got to have them both?
Come on, like I didn't already have enough trouble getting a break?!
@@bugxa Doing school work or doing work for an employer? Does the difference really matter if depression can strike at just about any age? Definitely not.
@@bugxa I don't think you appreciate how much comments like that can stick with people suffering from mental illness.
If you *do* then you should be ashamed of yourself for talking like that to another human being. If you don't, then please be compassionate -- there's enough suffering in the world already without adding more to the mix.
@@bugxa school is much harder than work.
Especially when your slaving away to needy parents, as they rip your personality apart
At 12 i had depression because of my sick mother, i was a top student but started failing drastically because i feared losing her plus we spent so much for her treatment. People kept asking me "why do you look tired", "why do you have lazy eyes", "why are you not interested", "are you sick", "why don't you talk ", "you look lazy", "why do you eat too much", "why don't you get out of your room", "why do you listen to sad and depressing music", "why are you scared" I was tired of such questions because no one could understand one's self struggle and problems. One time i had a "friend" who was like "why can't you be normal like the rest of us, you act so abnormally and you should stop it" like it's not my fault i do things the way i do, it's just me. This hurt and now I'm just trying to heal mentally.
i had depression when i was 12 to, i was also an HSP at the same time, when i had depression i was so afraid and anxious that i was gonna disappoint my parents that i'm not joking i went up stairs to my room and had a breakdown for like 5 minutes
You nailed it on the isolation thing. I mostly have become a semi-hermit because being out with people who are enjoying life and are happy makes me feel worse. I have to force myself to eat because depression kills my appetite instead of stimulating it. I can't remember the last time I ate a balanced meal.
Whenever I try to talk about what I'm feeling to a family member it always ends with them getting frustrated and loud and then I only feel even worse about everything.
same
i can relate to this on so many levels
@@melodia92 same
Just stop being sad bruh go do something you like
Same...
I keep telling myself I don’t have depression, yet every time I watch one of these videos i relate to almost all the symptoms
Hate to break it to you but..
That's the thing. sometimes you may be in denial, or you just dont realise you have depression. So many people have told me "dont be so hard on yourself" but if you have it long enough to yourself it just becomes 'normal'
Same
me too
It's been a honor lads
I've been depressed for as long as I can remember but because I've had it for so long I didn't always know this was not normal. I remember trying to describe my emotional numbness to my mother at age 7 in order to try and figure out what was wrong with me and she just told me "you don't feel anything because you're evil". That obviously just made me more confused and made me believe that maybe I was a bad seed and that's why I'm like this.
I'm really sorry for you ❤ sometimes people we love are the ones who hurts us the most. How're you now ?
Awwww...😢 that's so terrible.,
You're not evil , YOU are beautiful, that's truth 🎉
It’s honestly scary how true this is. I am healing slowly but I still find all of these at least a little relatable
I had a friend that thought depression is just this thing that be happy and its gone, now he is one of the reasons im going deeper in my depression
a mental health professional once told me… “if you don't take action, you'll regret the time lost later”, it hurt me even more. It's incredible but even professionals sometimes can't understand how painful the sense of guilt can be.
just because someone has letters behind their name doesn't mean they are qualified.
sometimes a support group of others with similar struggles can help or continuing to find a therapist that really understands.
remember that how you feel in the moment doesn't mean that's how you will always feel.
I started to have clinical depression before I was 12; I'm now 57.
if you ever need someone to listen, send me an email.
Because they're not "professionals", they're "charlatans"...
As far as I am concerned, it is not possible give helpfull advice, on depression unless you have personally experienced it on a deep level.
@@robertolsen4140 The same applies to any real experience...
Even if you act, sometimes the sense of guilt it's so painful that you're gonna think you acted in the wrong way.
For me, it’s the incredible isolation I feel with other people. I can easy socialize, and easily create good relationships, but I still feel so apart from everyone around me. Which drives me insane, bc I don’t know where the loneliness is coming from when I am surrounded by great friends..
Thanks y’all, makes me feel so much better to know that I’m not alone in feeling like😭
that hit the spot, i feel exactly the same thing, you described it perfectly
I feel you bro
Oh god, exactly.
Like, i just dont understand it.
how- HOw-?! i can relate so badly, i want to die, but there are so many people that care about me, i feel like im alone and weird that they cant understand me, yet when interact i feel happy but in drowning in anxiety.
same for me. i can never believe that people care about me or like me and i always feel like my friends will hate me if i do one thing wrong
I am now 66, I was 17 when I first experienced depression. I hid it as best I could, my mother had suffered with clinical depression all my life, I had no time to be depressed, I had six siblings younger than me who needed looked after, I was still at school. It was scary, my doctor treated it with diazepam??? Thank heavens things have changed a bit. I wish I had this video back then to make sense of my life. I'm glad to have it now to remind me not to feel guilty. No one who has had depression wants to repeat the experience but for whatever reason we end up back there again. I always wonder When will it end? I want to be Me! I don't want to be on medication!
March 13th, 2020, was the end of what I consider to be my childhood. My childhood was so incredibly normal that I barely remember any of it. On March 13th of 2020, the last day of the school week, I heard from my favorite teacher that we might not be coming back to school in person. She seemed distressed, and she was never distressed. Since it was my senior year, that meant I didn't get to experience any of the finalities of high school. Graduation was barely even held in person. When all of my classes were held online, I didn't really feel like I was talking to anyone. I couldn't see people in person, and that made my mind think that there wasn't anyone there. That translated to the beginning of my college career, when I saw people in person, but they all had masks on. During the first two years of college, I had "friends", but I didn't connect with them. I didn't connect with anyone. Not my parents, not my siblings, no one. I saw these people in my house who I labelled "my family", but there wasn't anyone there. I supposedly lived a normal life, doing all the things that were expected of me. I even did fairly well in college and still am. I wasn't there to experience any of it. I wasn't even in my own head, thinking thoughts that weren't my own. I wasn't there. Nobody was there. Every room I walked into was empty, and I viewed the rooms from an outside perspective. Every room was like this. For 2 years straight, I wasn't on this planet. My identity didn't exist. My body didn't exist. My thoughts didn't exist. I didn't exist. To me, nobody else existed either. It was like a never ending nightmare. Nothing I did to bring me any sort of emotion worked. I felt like a husk of that kid who liked everybody and really enjoyed talking to people and living a "normal" life. If there was anything there, I didn't see it. Either I was blind or my perspective was reality. Whether or not I was depressed, I still don't know. I've never been diagnosed, I didn't see a reason to see a professional. In my head, nothing was wrong. Nothing was wrong because there was nothing to be wrong. The only things that existed were the rooms I supposedly walked in and out of. That's all. Nothing else. After those 2 years, when the mandate for masks was lifted, I looked around the first classroom I was brought to, and saw people. People existed again. Rooms weren't empty anymore. I saw people and they saw me. I saw myself, but didn't know who I was. Ever since, I've decided to be the person who talks to others and actually connects with them. I've decided to be the person who tries with others, and doesn't leave them behind. I've decided to be the person who cares, whether that be too much, I can't say for certain. I'm still nowhere close to the person I want to be, but I've got time. If you can, please try to connect with others. Please try to be there for people who need someone. Bring them to the place they weren't 2 seconds ago. Bring them into the present. Some people won't realize they aren't there and need someone to help them understand where they are. Some people aren't there in the same room with you, even though their body is. If you've ever been in this dark of a place, you'll understand that it isn't a place you want others to be in. Help them crawl out. Please.
I managed to brush my teeth without forcing myself to do it today. it doesnt seem like much but for someone who hasnt had the will to do something so little as brush their teeth for 2 months its a nice feeling and something I wanna keep.
I'm so happy for you :) keep going, i know you got this
Congratulations. I can't remember the last time I did that. Ily
You did well
Nice- good job, I'm getting there
Take small steps your get there
My parents: "we will be there for you when you need it."
While me dealing with my own anxiety and social anxiety all by myself because they do not see those as a big issue: "thanks I'll remember it."
Also my parents are extrovert while I'm an introvert.
@@sadia2395 the only one in my life who actually did supine was my dad, but he left before I was born, I still see him, but only once a week, and I live with my verbally abusive mother and sister who just use me as an excuse to yell at someone and had my sister strangle and claw at me hundreds of times, and i have a family who make fun of my autism and say I’m a retard, and they just keep doing it because if I actually do something about it, I’ll snap and get arrested for assault, and think I’m a complete embarrassment and which just makes me self loathe myself even more, add all that and you get a tremendously screwed up 13 year old boy who’s constantly body shamed in a family that’s 80% women
@@Scarlet-Ghost551 thats a lot to go through at any age but at 13 its just devastating.Too young to move out
@@sadia2395 it’s alright though, I read that in Georgia a 13 year old can choose which family member is his legal guardian, and I’ve put up with the abuse for about 8 years so I’m used to it
My parents also tell me that they’re there for me and they know what I’m going through. And then they have a go at me for not having the energy to tidy up my bedroom or brush my teeth when all I want to do is curl into a ball and zone out.
I’ve heard this over and over again from my parents! The two people I love are also the hardest to talk to about the hardest times early on in my life!! I’ve hated myself for a LONG time feeling like this. 😢 It’s no wonder there is no love for me, WHAT women would want me?! 🤯😭
I once heard in my life that someone had said "You're online friends will care about you more than your real life friends will." And for me that's actually true... both of my online friends have depression, the same as i do. So i have someone there to understand me... I'm really thankful to them.
True every time i talk some problems or sad things they always gave a relief atleast and they understood more than my friends irl
what i rlly hate is that when some people see depression as laziness they don't even understand what it feels like
One of the things that frustrate me the most is when people assume you are lazy . Like they think someone laying in bed all day because they are lazy is the same as laying in bed all day because you are depressed. It makes it hard to talk about your struggles,when you never know if people will just accuse you of being lazy or "never doing anything" .
Well or because your don't know why you are depressed and just feel like you don't Wana do anything and they just said yeah that's being lazy bruh
Exactly like I have trouble getting out of bed, brushing my teeth, showering just basic hygiene, meanwhile my parents are saying I’m lazy and forcing me to be around people, I get they are trying to help but it’s honestly making it worse
By that point the saying, “You’re never gonna get anywhere in life,” has a whole new meaning... And a ‘depressing’ one at that. Lol. If I’m a lazy b**** then leave me alone idiot, I’m not speaking to someone who treats ya’ll like that. That’s just rude bro. ;3
@@sashagaybright1202 This is exactly who i feel
true
I'll never comprehend how people in their 20's are out there living their best life without a care in the world my 20's so far have been an endless circle of void, sorrow, emptiness and inexplicable sadness
I hope you get better
I relate to this even being 17, without being productive, investing energy onto my goals I feel empty and then I fall into sadness
I'm 41 and the challenge and struggles are always there. we are all victims of this illness. and some times it is genetic. other times it is environmental. but one way or another it cuts and cuts deep. especially when supposedly normal people think they have all the answers when they really don't and those who are supposedly normal that seem to think they have all the answers are claimed to have all the answers and that they are right and everyone else is wrong 90% of the time have their own mental health issues themselves and they don't even know it.
I'm sorry! I also suffer from depression. I feel your pain
It's horrible some days.
@@marykeele2723 i feel nothing
"snap out of it" is something I've heard way too often, usually followed up by "your family needs you". While I get the sentiment and I want to be there for people, especially my loved ones, it isn't always that f@*king easy, Karen!!
yeah right. you need your family currently, why is that so hard to understand?
@@lelebla1714you go thru severe depression with suicidal thoughts and come back to us!
I would hate to leave my family, but I just want the suffering to end. I can’t stand this. The constant laying in bed, not getting anything done, I literally am failing my studies and have given up all my hobbies, I shower once a week, I’m struggling to take care of myself, I eat way too much, I can’t stand being told I’m lazy and to stop being sad.
" look what you're doing to all your neighbors , and your family!," and " snap out of it", and my brother said: put it behind you, and move on...?
.... T.Y. you know!
Depression is like being mentally dead but physically alive. It also triggers feelings of a dark bubble of grief and sorrow, and a lot of crying. The eyes are like rain clouds and they water up, ready to release tears of pain and distress
Even being around people doesn’t mean you aren’t alone. Just physically being with them isn’t enough
Feels like forever ago when my depression was ‘mild’
People asked if I’d ever commit suicide and I always said they didn’t need to worry because I’d “never get to that point”
Turns out I really underestimated myself. Everyday is an incredibly painful and lonely struggle. It’s too difficult to do any kind of self care. Getting out of bed is a challenge and very often I can’t even do that.
i believe in you. things WILL get more manageable in time. there’s a lot of free community help apps for mental illness. i know how you feel. in the past i was really bad and now i understand why i am like i am and it’s helped me work through a lot of stuff. regardless of this i’ve noticed progress is not linear. you’re allowed to slip every once in a while. you are an amazing beautiful being, your body is merely a capsule for the bright soul you have. i KNOW you can get through this and i know you deserve the best of life. best wishes 💖
im so sorry love :( but pls dont give up. i know its a really basic saying, but "theres light at the end of the tunnel" is actually true. ur tunnel may just be a little bigger, but pls keep walking till u reach the light. trust me its worth it. if u ever need to talk im here
@@elizabethbates6071 im proud of u!!
I see what you mean. I haven’t considered suicide, or self-harm, and I hope I’m not too far gone. I always feel like I’m not good enough and fall short of the “Average” people hold me to. They don’t understand why I am failing. It’s not because I am lazy. It’s not because I don’t care. It’s because I just can’t. They want me to just magically stand up for myself and be independent. I just can’t do that. I’m to scared of being judged, harassed or ridiculed for my fears that others see as outrageous or downright stupid. I feel like I’m being pressured and don’t know what to do. Every time I try to explain, my feelings get shoved off to the side and they just say I am lazy. Psych2Go has really been helping me, but not enough. These comments I find help me feel like I’m not the only one.
@@Hydronix139 you’re not the only one! you’re never too far gone and you’re not failing- you’re stagnant. other people have a habit of paying more attention to others rather than their own issues, everything is a projection. once you realize that you’re as much of a stranger to everyone else as they are to everyone as well, things get so easier. you don’t feel like you stand out and it’s easier to be in public. your biggest competition should be that voice in the back of your head telling you these horrible things (that i also struggle with) THAT ARE NOT TRUE. i believe in you and promise there’s sunshine and love on the other side of this. i have my ig in my bio if you ever need to talk i’m always here 💖
The worst quote I hear is when someone i barely know blurs out publicly to me "Are you ok?" I'd be minding my own business at the time and not at all feeling negative about anything really. It catches me off guard every time. How come people need to say this and always want to say it in a way everyone else in a room will turn their heads and stare? Now I feel confused, self-conscious and embarrassed for the rest of the day.
Don't worry. I get the same thing. I think you may have anxiety. That's what I'm told when when stuff like that happens and I react the way I do. Sometimes if I react in public, I get the feel people think I'm weird and a bad person. (Which, honestly, I probably am.)
You’re not a bad person
Just different
Your ans : am fine.are You ok? Do u need help with anythin?
People arent really lookim to help u when they ask u that.They are just being pretentious and trying to act smart.If they were concerned ,they would ask one to one without making a show of it.
Holly shit I thought I was the only one struggling with that. I hate when my co workers ask me that... It's like im forced to say "I'm fine" cause no other answer would feel valid...
I feel painfully connected to all signs. I used to be so emotionless throughout my whole adolescence… so sad, honestly. I missed out on way too much stuff, crying over rejection, skipping too much sleep, leaving myself so uncared for. I feel so sorry for myself, honestly. I could´ve had so much fun if I could go back with my mindset nowadays. I would´ve drawn more. I would´ve laughed more, loved more. I lost too many years being depressed… always thinking it was on me and not being able to shake that grey feeling off like others did around me, i couldnt mirror stability like i did with smiles around me. I really really really thought i was going to be a boring nobody forever. My life was wired in such a tangled way… undiagnosed autism while living with an abusive family structure, no friends, bullying, being a people pleaser… gosh i have to thank my dad so much when he fought to get me the hell outta that house. He sat me down. We talked everyday. Everyday. He practically forced a new mindset into me verbally. We read good books. We went out. He listened to me cry. We practised new inner voices. I would always come up to him with my progress, and we would correct it when i was falling into irresposible mood swings again. And me, all alone… I invented a new self for myself. I acknowledged that i could recreate myself. No need to throw it all away before i ended it all. I knew something was up with me, but no one else needed to know as long as I fought for myself.
It´s been 4 or 5 years ever since. I am my very own hero and no one or anything is going to take my lifelust away from me. I slowly started practicing the stuff I liked, and even though I struggled a lot I grasped different point of views until it worked. I wasn ´t going to let anyone take the life I wanted for myself. It was a very hard war, but my skin of scars is now bulletproof.
Seriously, to all of you still depressed: You. Can. Get. Out. Of. It. Like the popular saying: you can overcome anything. Its so fucking hard i know, been there done that. But my strongest force to all of you fighters.
We are all a shounen (or shoujo) protagonist, but the battle is with our own mind.
The worst part about depression is when u finally build courage to tell someone and they thank ur “joking” or just “playing to much”
sending a hug...
This is kind of scary to hear seeing how I recognise alot of these points and have been scared that I actually have a depression, all the joy gone, self-isolation, getting frustraties with “I understand”. Thank you for raising awareness
I can relate to this, its okay to have depression. Just know that all of the other depressed people are here for you, sometimes its even good to isolate yourself. It is scary but its just the way were created. 🙂😌
@@Aiwa0684 thanks:)
I agree with this statement and I’m starting to know why I am alone a lot
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.
I’m an introvert. So some of that compulsive self-isolation was a bit of a thing even before the depression started.
yeah I have social anxiety so I still did that, but now its worse :D
I have always been introverted too and feel that self isolation is what started my downward spiral before I had depression.
I never thought I'd have depression since from kid I was actually really rowdy, but now I'm starting to have it already- Being an introvert sucks fr. Can't even have a normal friend to talk to in real life
I feel the same. I have isolated for most of my life
I isolate my self because the last friends I ever have are all bully I only make friends with them because Im weak and I don't want to get teas and hurt
I have not been diagnosed with depression but all of these I can relate to, and I’ve been telling myself I have it because I cry so much. If only my toxic parents truly understood.
Why do you keep getting more and more relatable? It's not like i'm depressed, it's just that all the signs you mentioned that is related to depression is famillier to me
Being comfortably numb is what I feel nowdays and it gives me a little sense of relief
Same.
@@KyleEvra plus working myself to exhaustion doesn't help either lmfao
I'm almost always in a state of Meh as I call it.
this is relatable. but sometimes im confusingly numb
Numb, just uncomfortable
You spoke directly too my soul with this one. I finally feel understood. I wish people in my life would understand cause I relate to every last one of these
100% agreed
Yeah…. You said it 😔
I agree with you on that one
Preach. 😞
Yes , right
It is so exhausting having to celebrate the little things... it's like adding a "be happy about it" subpoint to the to do list... making every little task bigger... wow this sounds bad when I read it out
Its so annoying when people say "ive been through worse" it just makes me feel that my hardships are not important as theirs
Topics like this should be raised in schools and the whole education system.
I hate it when people don’t listen to people who suffer from depression and other mental illness’s
We also need to look at the impact of social media that has on people and the role that plays.
Psalm 94:18-19
When I thought, "My foot slips," Your steadfast love, O LORD, helped me up. When the cares of my heart are many, Your consolations cheer my soul.
when people say mental illness isnt real, i like to explain it to them about how the brain is an organ like your heart or your stomach, yet you still can have issues with your stomach or heart and need to get treated for it. in the same way, depression, anxiety, ptsd, and other mental illnesses are equally valid and real and deserve to get treated too
Parents think mental illnesses aren’t real
@@pakistaniboi342 im well aware of that
That's actually a really good analogy, imma use that on the next idiot who comes up to me about it
A parent of mine is diagnosed as introverted and have depression. But when she confronted me on how weird I am (as I don't try to be myself anymore), she said I had it better since I grew up with parents and she didn't, and I am a pessimist (I somewhat agree because my parents made me into that), and stop faking my introvertion as you needed a psychiatrist for that. Little did she know introvertion is hereditary, depression doesn't need for you to have a sad event to be triggered and that how I percive things is different from her (she noticed but didn't even try to understand me as she only believes her side as that is what she experienced.
During that time she cried but I don't care. I vented myself that time so I got calmer there. How she laughs at my tears, my frustration for me it feels someone is mocking you. How my younger years in school before the 2 years near high school (or middle school depending on your place) feels nothing. How she, they could only see my smiles not my feelings inside. I want to learn dancing, mom: *laughs* with that size? I want to wear this, mom: it is ugly on you don't wear it. They keep deciding my life up to this point now they keep asking me what I want. What I want is to be gone. And she got angry saying I had it better. Yes, I got it better. But it is better for you without me.
I have high functioning chronic depression and seeing that even that is alright and a 'real' (as some told me) depression. I have been called lazy so many times, it's just tiring honestly. I can relate to all of these points. I have been depressed since I can remember honestly. I don't even have a lot of fun memories from my childhood/past. Thanks for this video, it helps
Its very nice to hear someone understand the word “depression”. Its like a breath of fresh air hearing topics like this come to air and its just heartwarming to see that some people do understand these types of topics, you just dont see them often(well atleast in my part). But other than that, it is a sweet reminder that your not always alone in this world. There are many people who will look out for you and many that will understand your true feelings and what your going through. Its just hard for most people around you to understand what you are truly going through and this video is a reminder for that.(also I love the art. Its really cute and fitting for your videos)
Had to cry while watching this, because I feel like someone is out there, who understands me and the people, who suffer with the same issue. I lost so many people last year, even my closed ones, struggle with trauma, depression and anxiety and it feels devastating to go through it all alone, have to go to doctors alone, through all the medication and struggle all by myself. But I still doesn't lose hope and I'm still happy to be alive, even if I don't have much strength, I don't want to give up! To all of you, don't give up! Never give in to things or people, who just want you to give up. Just be yourself, do your best and share love, where you can, if you can. If the world can be a bit better with love, maybe darkness will go for a while❤️🌿
i didnt know that i could relate to someone on the comments section of a youtube video and still be completey diffrent -
@@semadoesstuff
caught myself crying as well, and this is something rarely happens
Same
Yesss it's so hard i am losing my closed ones . I know it's hard for them too . My depression and anxiety is at it's peak and I don't want anyone to be hurt by me. 🙂
I love how you realise how exhausting depression is. I'm not depressed at the moment thank God but this video really nails it down. I didn't want to be around anyone when I was depressed and some people really do think you can just snap out of it,
Wow ...so happy for you . ❤️ Glad you are happy now.
@@NehaSingh-ty2vk thanks Neha
May I know how does it feel like to get out of depression? Like, what's the most significant change if you don't mind 😊
@@ravenmccraig7645 you feel like this inner happiness is growing in your heart and suddenly everything starts to make sense again. The happiness and love just starts coming back to you. It’s a great feeling, a wonderful feeling and then you start to feel totally normal again. That’s how it is for me. Raven I was depressed but I got better. It does get better. If you’re struggling could I suggest vitamins and a really good diet. Oh and a walk every day. That worked for me the last time. Blessings to you friend.
@@CDash162 i completely agree with you, charlotte. everything just feels better and life is more enjoyable
Thank you so much for making this video, I believe I have depression, or a phobia called "Thanatophobia".
and this really touched me, because my parents say "Therapist are just a waste of money they only hear you out and leave with money".
But... If I told my friends they would not know what to do and just go on with their day saying "Oh im sorry, do you wanna play now?" and its just getting annoying now,
and I feel like if I told my parents they would feel bad
I know that they *fear death and losing me..*
so I don't want to hurt them even more knowing their child is going through something like this so I feel like a therapist would help me alot but we're poor now so there is no way.. We can't even pay for netflix.
*This all started basically when my cousin ( 14 THEN ) moved in and her dad died somewhere close to my moms age.*
I really can cry now as I think so much of how pitiful my reason to be depressed and when I tell someone about it 50% of the times I feel that the words I say can't describe my reason well and it ends up that the other person say that it's nothing to worry about and the other 50% the other person says he's depressed just like me , for some reason I don't want to hear that
Personally, for me it's not that much about the frustration of being told "I understand", but being told "Don't worry, it will get better."
It's nice to know that people have a positive outlook on things, but constantly being told that "this year will be better!" and then seeing it inevitably get worse as you expected, it can make you feel very frustrated.
True. also trying to get the energy to do the smallest of tasks and failing puts you two steps back, so why even bother trying at all
Same, I’m surrounded by people who have depression, so even if they’ve somehow been able to “get better” through the help of medication, therapy, etc, I know that they probably do understand, and even if they don’t it’s a nice sentiment. But people telling me “it gets better” pisses me off because NO it’s not gonna get better, not for me at least. For the past few years of my life EVERYTHING has gone downhill, mentally, physically, and situationally.
my mom always tells me that it‘ll get better one day. atleast my parents finally decided to get me therapy 🥴
I agree. Once I met a guy in a bar I worked and he told me: "Depression? Well... They won't leave you your whole live. People do not understand, that you always have to struggle. Even in therapy and if you are feeling better after some time - Depression will hit you again and again. You have to learn to live with it!" And he was so right. And somehow this words encouraged me to go on more, than any other.
Have you ever gotten "Just put eveeything in God's hands. He'll make it better."
My mom loves to repeat the phrase "Steer your ship with positivity!" It's very easy to tell when someone has never dealt with depression.
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I just wish no one ever comes to this way. And those who are already stuck here including me , all the best to you guys , just keep hanging in there.
sending a hug...
This made me cry… finally finding someone who finally understands what it is…
My sister always tells me "I understand your frustrations but try to see it as a positive thing" Like what is she on about? I mean honestly I HATE when people even my family don't understand what I am going through and they act like I am overreacted. This is why I am so closed off from others and I refuse to even open up how I feel because I get the same crummy advice that NEVER works.
get a life and keep urself busy then u wont have time to be depressed
@@jendukiexo10 SHUT UP!
My older brother has told me that I can talk to him about anything. Only the times I've tried expressing my feelings he just tells me "quit your bitching and get over it."
Would you get angry if I said I feel you ( not trying to make it seem like I understand it's just that I often get mistaken to have depression when it's social anxiety and people are like " get over it society is not scary"
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT IM GOING THROUGH, but im trying to learn how to deal with it by myself:)
I would like to share some of my experiences with depression to see if anyone can relate, because it’s very likely that your manifestation isn’t the same as everybody else's.
A few years ago when I was 19 I think is when my depression reached its highest severity. Looking back after entering med school, I’ve realised I’ve probably had depression since I was 14.
When I was 19, I thought of suicide constantly. I looked online for painless ways to die, I asked my friends what they thought of people who took their own lives, I would stay awake every night contemplating the thought of: "Maybe tonight".
I also avoided responsibilities and felt extremely guilty for it, but at the same time didn’t have the energy to get out of bed and do something about it, which in turn caused more guilt and therefore feeling more unmotivated to do anything about it. It becomes a vicious cycle.
I didn’t want to talk with friends, even though I felt lonely. I didn’t want to play music, even though it’s my favourite thing to do. Sometimes I’d feel fine, I’d complete a small task and feel proud of myself, but then my brain would say: "What are you proud of? So many people your age have achieved more than you, and you’re proud of THIS? Pathetic, worthless". It reached a point where I didn’t want to do anything because it was not "worth it", and therefore, I was not "worth it".
I didn’t tell anyone out of fear of being dismissed or laughed at. One day I was prescribed antidepressants because of an anxiety problem, which helped a bit with my depression. In fact, I could feel myself slowly getting better.
However, because of my own depression, I didn’t go get my refill, and I relapsed. This caused me to become an alcoholic to numb the pain (fortunately I'm fine now).
Eventually after getting my refill and understanding my depression and that it’s a medical condition helped me feel better. I don’t have thoughts of ending my life anymore, and I'm re-enjoying the things I liked to do. Doing RUclips has also helped me with it.
However, some days I still feel guilty or without energy to do things, and every now and then there’s that voice that wants to scream "worthless". Sometimes it wins, sometimes it doesn’t.
Sometimes I have energy, sometimes I don’t. But at least now I can sleep at night and look forward to tomorrow.
Thanks for reading, hope you have a great day today and if you’re suffering from depression, I encourage you to research and seek help at your own pace. Don’t be hasty, do it when you’re ready, but at least plan on doing it. Take your time, do it when you feel comfortable.
Have a nice rest of your day.
I thought this would have more likes or replies, but here we go again! Story time!
I can relate to the whole, ‘too tired to do crap’ thing. I’m pretty sure just last year aaa freshman, I got pretty bottomed out during our finals, I still did that of course, but I can remember (and I still have) that one drawing of me being tired of finals.
One thing to note about me is that I have two main ways to vent, singing, and drawing. Both very noticeable hobbies of mine, and things I’ve become really good at since I’ve done them for so long. Ya’ll would have no idea how many vent sketches I’ve done, heck, I even posted some to my DeviantArt. Many of my vent pieces contain some amount of blood and/or torture or abuse of characters. I don’t draw humans, but I can draw anthro dogs or cats, normal dogs, cats, foxes, wolves, etc. And basically any character from Just Shapes and Beats, or The Pink Corruption I suppose... Anyway, if you ever dared look through my drawings, you’d find a CRAP TON of drawings of different AU’s I’ve acted out in attempts to vent my deep, dark, feelings.
I always do what I call, ‘role playing’ like I act as one of the characters in my AU, something horrible happens to them, yadda, yadda, and sometimes I legitimately cry... Guess you gotta let the tears flow though.
Also, did I mention I stay up all night doing this? I’m hyperactive, straight up ADHD kid right here, also with high functioning Autism, aka Aspergers. So I’m also an Aspie, yeah... A lot of complications from my drug addict of a birth mother! Adopted by uncle and aunt. Anyway, a lot of tangents, I know, but when you wanna talk about something..
I mainly draw these vent pieces whenever I’m thinking about my AU’s, or when I’m in my ‘depressed state’. I seem to go back and fourth between ok and depressed af. But there was this one week before my period started where I just became so lethargic and overall, exhausted. I just felt like crap and that Monday was the day I cut myself with that pencil I mentioned earlier. And it didn’t get any better. I waited, and hoped, and wished, I can’t even say I dreamed cause I got basically no sleep! I was soooo tired, but I couldn’t do anything but toss and turn and cuddle my fluffy weighted blanket for warmth, (fall was turning into winter at the time, so not too long ago). Honestly, I’m sitting awake tying this at exactly midnight.
By this point I’m not sure what else to mention, but this is kinda a thing I’m dealing with in the moment, so at least I’m recognizing that I have issues now, I just don’t know how to handle them...
@@kittycatcube9361 It takes a lot of courage to vent like this, thanks for sharing, I find it interesting
I can sort of relate, even if i don't really feel like commiting suiciede, i still think about it sometimes and in a way it scares me, mainly because of the fact that my mother also has depression and she always says things like: ''if it wasn't for you, i wouldn't be here'' and that actually scares me, what i REALLY don't understand is that, if she DOES HAVE depression, WHY does she acts like nothing when i tell her that i also have depression!? i already told her this like 4 times and all she does is say: ''No, no, you don't have depression'' and then laughs a bit. I never really wanted to get mad at her for that because she knows what depression is (or that's what im thinking) but it's just starting to become too much for me (being just 14 and i have been with all of this for like 4 years) and i kinda need help, still im one of those who are afraid of saying ''i have depression'' and i don't feel like saying it a 5º time, maybe ill tell mother again (idk when) and see if something happens.Sorry if my english it's not the best, im spanish
(And by the way, I went to a psychologist a long time ago but it was to see if I had something else,ADHD, wich i have not)
I just realised i just did a story time (kinda) lmao
I have met many other individuals that are going through similar problems and I have to stay that you're one of the few that has fought the war and won it. Well it isn't really a matter about whether you overcame depression, but more of how you did it. So it took time and you endured the pain all these years without anyone else knowing of it. Don't worry, I am someone in this world that knows of you, someone extraordinary, distinctive, all-powerful in that heart of yours. Please, continue to stay as who you are and never forget that you fought your way through this not for someone else, but for yourself. And who knows? Maybe she would show up anytime soon since you're currently in med school. It's also a little somber to know that I'll forget this but if we shall meet again, let that happen. Till next time, see you again, soldier.
Whenever I try to go back on painting my parents usually say"you better study instead of doing this"and when my younger cousin send us their drawing which I and my sister taught them they say "look at their painting ,they are beautiful and then there is both of you"
Thank you so much for caring about people’s mental health. You help my mental health little by little everyday. Thank you ❤️
tbh as a person with mild depression, I relate to all of these things on such a level that it hits incredibly hard. “Are you ok?” Is more painful than saying “you suck,” something I barely even react to anymore because I’ve heard so much worse. Combined with societal pressure, misunderstanding, overeating, oversleeping, lacking some knowledge I don’t want to look up, and lacking motivation to even try physical activity really eats at you. It makes you physically weak, mentally weak, and destroys everything. At times I’ve considered it. At times I’ve felt a need for it. At times I’ve felt a desire to repel it but never wanted to achieve my goal in the end. Depression is lackluster, but stacked on so, so many levels.
Are you ok leaves you open to giving multiple repsonses.
Being depressed means your mind flies with the nuance of your response, do they really want a full answer or is this just a cursory are you ok and they truly dont care or arent even equipped to handle the repsonse.
Are you ok? You hit them with a "im fine" the day goes on.
Are you ok? I am feeling a little down. Lets them know something is not great but not serious.
Are you ok? You try to branch out to give more info. then you expose yourself to criticism or judgement which if you are feeling depressed can just make it worse.
Are you ok? You drop your whole life story and explain why you cant just function like a normal human and then they may not even understand and now you feel completely invalidated.
Someone telling you that you suck is easy to deal with because..... You just stick up the defence mechanisms and think they are a prick and go on about your day.
The mental stack needed to deal with being told you suck is so small in comparison it makes total sense.
My heart is hurt becuz I don't cry becuz someone leaves me it makes me cry cuz then I remember all of my flashbacks of me getting beat up of me almost dieing of me having no friends of me having 2 phobias and me having angxiay I spelled that wrong...😭😭😭
It still stings a little, hearing about needing a support system, because it's hard to trust others about being depressed because of all the reasons covered in this video. Especially, when you have been let down by people who've abandoned you at your lowest point, or essentially kicked you while you're already down. It takes tremendous courage to risk telling. I've only just started doing so, and I'm in my late 30's. Took me a while to even trust my therapist to not treat me like a textbook case to be diagnosed and believe that he sees me as an individual in need of help.
It's not easy to trust, knowing how much stigma there is and constantly feeling like your feelings aren't justified, or that you're not worth fighting for as much as someone else. However, I'm starting to believe it's not impossible either and that there actually are people who are genuine in their intentions to help and understand, and actually have the resolution in seeing through said intentions.
I also have trust issues because I am just a child in my teens and I am suffering from the starting of teenage.I don't know where my mind would take me as I'm trying to survive and above that I also get taunts.i think sometimes isn't this a young age where I need some love care and appreciation instead of taunts
trust is something else. Like 7 years ago (15) i thought i only need trust in myself and i will get things done. Then i try to fix everything myself and don t talk about my problems. but it s the other way around you trust other people, do it more and then gain more and more selfconfidence. If you don t start trusting you dont even know wether the other person is worth your truth. i just hope it will stay in my mind for more then the next week, cause my "adhd like" memory sucks (still in diagnosis). ❤
I agree with you on kinda on how you feel. I still am at the point where I can't eve tell my therapist, though.
Yeah definitly, it is so hard! Idk if this will help but for me it helped me so much to trust someone who also has depression, because at least they kind of understand, then it makes it easier to trust others.
Number 7 hit really hit different, my mom knows about all my depression and all that, but she didnt really take it that seriously. She saud that i would heal in a couple of weeks and that im probably just sad. And i felt guilty the whole time talking with her since even i didnt have a good reason to be depressed. But im happy that i still have friends that really understand me. And i really love your videos.❤
0:06 as a cancer survivor. I love how you have that ribbon drawn on the TV screens Thank you! 😊
A few more:
11. Depression being treated as a joke.
12. Being told "Yes, it certainly FEELS that way".
13. People using poor excuses to not help or understand you.
,,Everyone goes through that" Umm...no..
11 really sucks but whats worse is when they listen to you and pretend to care almost like they're doing this to prove they're a good person :/
or "OMG I was feeling exactly like you . so quirky lmao!!"
The “That’s not my problem.” thing is especially annoying.
I know so many people who use the term “ I want to die” as if it’s some sort of joke
as someone who has been suicidal and has a possibly of feeling that way again in the future, The feeling of wanting to erase yourself from existence is so horrible and I hope no one else feels like that ever
I feel like I need to show this video to my parents.
Maybe then they'll stop blaming me for being down all the time.
get a life and keep urself busy then u wont have time to be depressed
Same thing to me
me too. and i AM going ot show it to my mum.
Im thinking that too but if i do they'll just Yell "THATS FAKE DON'T BELIVE THOSE TYPE OF THINGS"
This doesn't change anything,they still don't understand you
i hear people say that kids can't be depressed but that's a lie anyone can be depressed if they are doing through a hard time
That last one hit pretty hard for me.
I often don't feel like doing anything every day lately, so when I finally do something like emptying the dishwasher or starting the washing machine, putting away laundry or something else, even just taking a shower, I feel a bit proud of myself for doing something.
But then when I tell my mom that did do something "today", she has often gone "That's not enough," and mainly focuses on me and my brothers rarely making dinner.
I can't speak for my brothers, but I just has no idea what we should have for dinner, I quickly forget what we had the previous days, and I feel no motivation to cook, other than a small meal for myself, like putting bread in a toaster and then putting butter and toppings on, as well as an apple, pear, banana or grapes. I just can't make myself accept cooking dinner for my family. Some rare times I do it with one of my brothers, but usually it's one of my parents doing the cooking... and my mom keeps talking about how she has cooked since she was 6 and hates it coz she does it most, but she doesn't really encourage us to cook, she just tries to guilt trip us into doing it, which doesn't seem to work on me at all, surprisingly enough. -_-;
Basically, whenever I try to "celebrate" or feel proud of myself for accomplishing something small, I keep remembering my mother's words and imagine if I say anything about what I've been doing today, she'll just dismiss it, and then I stop feeling good about what I've done, unless she actually says thanks or good job, which she does sometimes, usually she does, but those hurtful words still stick to me.
And whenever she comes home from work and ask me what I've been doing all day, I hesitate to answer because most of the time it's just "watching RUclips... and spending time with the cat."
And then she'll usually just stay silent, roll her eyes and basically slam my door. Or just walk away. I can tell she's annoyed and disappointed, but... ;_; I don't know what she expects me to do when she's at work.
And I fear if I say any of this to her, she'll just dismiss it and tell me about her bad childhood again for the hundredth time, and telling her I might have depression or anxiety, to go along with my autism and ADHD, I feel like she'll just say it's not an excuse to do nothing or something.
Having such a positive community during such a time is immensely appreciated. Thank you all. I'm 38 and having very difficult time coping or having any hope for my future. Been dealing with depression, anxiety and OCD my whole life. I'm not able to keep a job because of it. I was in a 11yr relationship that ended kinda bad and was in a mentally abusive relationship before that. I finally thought I found a job that I would hold for the rest of my career or time. I worked at petland taking care of the puppies etc. I didn't like commercial breeding but, me being there I knew they were in the best care. I got fired for being to emotional and "not listening" same as always. My work was outstanding and got along with everyone. Out of nowhere I get fired and with CV, it's 10 fold. I'm alone with my little min-pin and really burnt out. Love you all, keep caring.
I hope things get better, don't lose hope
Can relate to you were near on age and i feel so helpless and alone, losing my self confidence and only pets and my phone helps me live.
WE R WITH U💖🔥
Dont loose hope buddy
The night is the darkest just before dawn..
Hi Thomas, it takes a lot of courage to be open about this in a public forum. I am 28 years old and have been dealing with depression and anxiety for the past decade myself. Recently I have understood my illness and have learnt to deal with it quite well. The key piece into getting rid of depression has been spirituality and meditation. I would suggest doing a small course at Art of living. I think you’ll like it. Take care and god bless.
AB
My mom is a nurse. She helps me with my meds. She needs to know how I feel to tell if they work. I constantly struggle with that. She responds by yelling at me and berating me. I'm sure it doesn't need to be spelled out, but THAT makes me feel BAD.
oh no
@@Ilovecilantro77 yeah how?
Can totally relate to this, at least someone understands, at least someone sees the pain I've hidden from everyone 😢😢😢
I hope you're doing ok much. Love ❤
" you don't have anything to be depressed about so quit trying to get attention " I've heard that A LOT
Depression can happen and it’s valid. That quote is similar to saying you don’t have anything to have a fever about
I am so sorry for everyone going through that. I don’t have depression but this video showed me that we have to care more about people having it. Thank you, Psych2go. You help me and many other people to understand the importence of this topic!
Romans 8:28
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.
you made my eyes all misty, thank you for your kindness. I'll remember it
Thank you😇
@@7_333--8 Jesus gave me mental disorders and autoimmune disorders
@@DarkShard5728 God cant take us this, we need to change our habit or attitude toward the universe
That moment when you understand everything but dont think you are depressed 😬
1 month ago? Damn-
That’s me 😬
Sadness and grief fills your stomach, making you full, and you dont want to eat because you only want to cry, and eating might remind you of something making you sad
The narrator’s voice is always so soothing, and it’s like she is talking to each one of us individually. I wish these videos had been around 20 years ago. They are so well done.
This video made me cry on the inside, and I shed tears because it got me thinking back on my adolescent years and what I've gone through in the last nine years. I have been watching many Psych2Go, and this video stood out the most today.
I can relate to this video. Growing up, I had a tough childhood, and my family moved a lot due to my father’s career in the military; this resulted in me not having friends and constantly having to find new ones. I have my siblings, whom I stay in contact with mainly, besides my father. My lowest point of Depression and grieving was losing my great-grandmother in 2015 and my grandfather in 2016. My grandfather was the second supportive person in my life since a young age. We did everything together; he taught me many things and was like a mentor and losing him made me feel alone.
I have had a few friends in High School, those I consider genuine friends I no longer see or have not been in contact with since we graduated. They moved on or out of state. During my College/Undergraduate years, I chose not to make friends and did not get involved with school events or clubs. I chose to isolate myself further from everyone, even family and siblings, only seeing my family members when we ate lunch and dinner. I would constantly be in my room studying, listening to music, and watching Good Mythical Morning (GMM) in my free time, keeping me from being depressed or bored from work and school. I did not spend time on social media either. The reason was the fear of not fitting in and losing contact with people after I graduated from university. This was also when I lost my passion for the outside activities and hobbies I enjoyed and loved.
I remember a specific lesson that intrigued me to study Psychology as a Major. My professor, a professional with a Ph.D. in Multicultural and Mental Health/Counseling, gave a lecture to her PSYC 101 class about Depression & Isolation and the toll it would bring on a person if the individual does not open up to a loved one, a friend or even someone to talk to who profoundly understands this meaning of Depression. At first, I didn’t want to pay attention because it would have brought up bad memories, but after listening in on the lesson, I started to cry and hid with my hoodie and textbook so others could not see me. I thought about all the years I spent alone, isolated from everyone. After class, my professor knew something was off, the way she observed my behavior in class, and my facial expression when I turned in my project. She told me to come by during her office hours, and when I did, she asked me what was on my mind; I explained the lesson about Depression & Isolation struck me deeply to my core, and I’ve been struggling since I was 14. She understood what I had been through and the weight of trusting and opening up to people. The reason is that people always called me stupid, autistic, an outcast, and mentally disabled, all because I had difficulty comprehending information, schoolwork, and other things. It takes me more time to understand, read more than once, and I take longer on tests when most people take an hour. My professor told me how to cope with the issues of my depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
She said: “Don’t focus on the Negative Energy of other people, Don’t dwell in the Past, and Never Give Up on yourself! Focus on your future, and the positive energy people say about you. Most of all, it is hard to Let go of the Pain of losing someone, then it is Easier to Let Go of the things that Hurt you. Once you understand this and overcome it, you will become a better person”.
My professor also got me in contact with two classmates who were in the same boat as me, and through time we became trusted friends till this day. Near the end of 2021, I also found an amazing strongminded girlfriend who would become my companion and helps me when I need a shoulder to cry on, or I am feeling down, and I became hers.
This has been the most amazing comment i've ever read on RUclips. Your life could honestly be a movie. Thank you for sharing!
amazing storry
Can we give a moment of silence to the professor
This is my favorite yt comment I've ever read, and that's saying alot. I hope you are having the best life now, Blake!
bless you
I agree with your general theme.....
no one knows what is going on inside your head.
& people who don't suffer from depression should not be treating someone with.....they have no idea 💡.
Coping with my sadness is buying things and eating and all the other little things in life seem boring, but you know you have to do them.
This morning I felt really sad and mad and my dad said all of a sudden let’s get out of bed and go rummaging to rummage sales after that, I had enough energy for the day 🎉. I’m getting better and learning to enjoy the little things I’m trying to anyway. I’m actually doing a lot better with my sadness since I’ve been getting outside more. I wouldn’t even say I’m depressed anymore. I would say I deal with little bits and pieces of it.
People that are recovering from depression would probably understand this you do you learn to enjoy a little things that you never used to.
Im so sorry! I wish i knew you id try so hard to make you happy again! Id buy you all kinds of things at random and ask you if you wanted to go to all kinds of places as besties. You have the ability to brighten up someones day with your smile! So hang in there and smile more! Get well soon.
Thank you for your comment. I’m doing a lot better now.
We finally figured out the medication and now I’m doing much better now.
Thanks for all of your comments
I can relate to all of this so much:(
🙄🙄🙄🙄
How can your comment be one month ago if the vid just uploaded
Same😭
@@sussybaka5201 some people have membership so they can access to it Earlier ig... I am not sure tho.
@@listeningtomusicistalentidgaf patreon
I'm watching this to understand a friend who's having his dark days again. Even though it hurts to be ghosted, I know I shouldn't take it personally. I hope he's okay, it's hard to be 7,000 miles away from him, plus my texts are ignored.😟😭
Thank you for trying to understand and seeing it like that. A lot of people just take it personally and it's really annoying, especially when you take the time to explain things the best you can before isolating. I know it must be hard to be on your side though. But the fact that you are watching this to try to understand what your friend feels or is going through, shows how great of a friend you are. It gives me hope in people honestly. Thank you. I'm sure your friend, even though he can't answer now, can see that you care about him and that you are there. Hopefully one day he feels better enough to talk again with you. Hoping things will get better for both of you.
Thank you for trying to understand. You don't know how much many of us who suffer from this appreciate you taking a few minutes to even try. Sometimes you are so bad that you just don't have the strength to explain anymore. You are a good friend to your friend no doubt about it. I used to have a friend like that...but she moved away recently...and I miss her a lot, even if I don't say it every day 😟 . That's why it's appreciated that they don't give up on you.
That's tough for you and your friend. Have you tried giving him a call? Sometimes people prefer calls because it's a special gesture.
Just hold on and give him the space he needs. I go through this allot with friends and family too. It's so hard to reach out sometimes. I think about my friends and family constantly, not wanting to be a burdon to them with my melancholym oods.
And, it's too hard to always be "up" or "on" for people. When I'm doing well, I'm a pretty upbeat positive person. So, when I'm down and struggling people say, "oh you're not your bright bubbly self". And then it's just too hard to explain why.
About the 'ghosting' if your friend is anything like me, they might be afraid to answer because of the time that has passed, they may feel guilty for not replying and get caught in a loop. (I did.) Continue texting, maybe even ask in a text if you can call them, or they can call you. Important, let them know a time frame like 9-5 on Saturday is good for me, how about you. Thank you so much for reaching out to your friend, they are worth it, as are you.
Thank you for your knowledge,
I really needed this...
I'm not in control.
I've created dillusional happiness.
I only dwell in the good past only to see the future take so much away from me,
Leaving those i love into just memories.
People don't understand that being depressed doesn't isn't they're fault, telling them stuff like "Don't worry you'll get over it" or "Eh, i've been through worse" won't help at all. In fact alot of times friends, family, and parents can just make you feel even worse.
"You're just feeling sorry for yourself. Everyone feels a little bad sometimes."
The most painful, frustrating and sad thing people say to you without ever understanding what you are feeling
G Mansard you have no idea what your talking about.I don't feel sorry for myself and I've been sad and depressed for over 40 yrs.People like you really piss me off
@@mike-vk5cx I think you misunderstood him/her
He/she wrote what people and society tell us..
Yes I did misunderstanding I get it now.Sorry
@@mike-vk5cx yes, perhaps I should have made that a bit more clear. It's hard not to scream at people who say things like that. I have dealt with my own depression most of my life (I am 58) and lately it's gotten harder. Nothing works any more, all I get from medications are the side effects and therapy has never done anything. I thing my initial comment is hiding a good deal of sarcasm.
My therapist couldnt understand that I didn't have a underlying reason for the way I felt and thought I was better/cured at my lowest point of my life. She actually ended up making things worse tbh.
This. I felt pressured into lying my way out of therapy because I wasn't "good enough" to be depressed. Not her words, most of this was my own delusion, but she didn't help. I made myself think I was both a monster that was not normal, and someone who was perfectly fine and didn't need help.
my brothers didn't understand why i am depressed and they made me have really bad thoughts and they made it even worse
im so so sorry. do u wanna try another therapist that has better views than her?
@@Haunted_Raccoon1 im so sorry. if u wanna talk, im here
@@patricksfriendbobthesponge8256 what if u try a new therapist where u wont lie ab how ure feeling?
The last thing bring tears in my eyes , thank you ! may God bless you .
My parent always just tell me "kids cant get depression" "oh you're lying" like cool thanks for helping me out man...
From a currently depressed INTP’s perspective, the difference between with or without the disease is whether or not you can successfully mask your emotions. I pretty much look the same, especially to others, before and after my diagnosis of MDD. Except that, I start to have insomnia, and fatigue and tired during the day. I literally felt dizzy whenever I tried to read during the initial stage of my depression. But, I just want to say that, to me,, depression really seems to “just snap out of it” without notice. Now, I can feel excited when reading organic chemistry book, and have some hope for the future. Life looks even better than pre-depression days with the ability to appreciate “little things”. Believe yourself and do not let other people affect you negatively (therapy did help). You will regain the control of your own life one day!
I am so glad.
If you need to talk about something feel free to come to this comment and just talk, I can talk to you and try to help if you’d like
glad you are happy 😄
From an INFJ who is struggling with emotional trauma I'm not sure if I have depression or not. I'm just trying to hold on. I'm considering going for counseling but I haven't got round to it. Perhaps this coming month I finally will.
@@youtubecommentergal4346 hey, don’t worry, if you feel like it’s hard to keep going then go, even if it’s just to check
Being an introvert going through depression, life feels horrible.
My room doors were atleast open for my close ones. Depression made it completely closed and even locked.
My phone was atleast having one or two incoming calls per month. Now it is in airplane mode most of the time.
My table was atleast messed up with my drawings and creations. Now my paints were all dried after kept open for over a month.
My eyes were atleast filled with tears when I was sad. Now even my eyes forgot how to cry.....
I feel you I am very depressed and I want to kill myself
I hope you are okay !!! Please never give up .. take some action something postive one day at a time and celebrate small things !!
Same here. Please stay determined. I have no idea what you are going through, and am no professional, but going off this video, try one small thing a day. Try doodling randomly, or turning your phone on for a bit maybe. Just know that you matter, even if to me you are some guy in the comments section. I hope you are ok now and I hope you get better
@@Goodomen-xh8tw thank you. I will try my best
Psalm 34:4-5, 8
I sought the LORD, and He answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to Him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed. Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!
I have been depressed for quite a long time and this is so relatable and I just want to say this to anyone who might need this is that you are not alone and the fact that you clicked on this video means you are trying to help yourself or others so please remember that you are not alone and that it will get better I promise.
I was never diagnosed but the “having a good reason” hit hard
In health class today, we had one of our temporary therapists come in and talk with us. When we got to the depression and mental illness part, he asked if someone could define in their own words what depression was. He called on 5 people out of about 15. Each one had said “it’s a constant feeling of sadness.” He never called on me but as a teenager who has been diagnosed with depression, I wanted to angrily repeat what the actual definition was. When he was done with calling people, he even described it as pure sadness. I hated it. He was a cool guy but I still hated it.
cool people can still be stupid, sorry that happened.
For anyone that needs it:
I was also a person that was depressed and in a constant bad state of mind.
I wanted to end it but I didn't.
Eventually though, things got better.
Not fully but it was enough for me to see light again.
Right now I'm not fully better. I still feel sad sometimes, but things did get better.
That's my message to you.
Good luck in life my friend
Thank you for sharing. We hope you continue making positive progress no matter how small they are in your mental health journey. Please take care.
Good luck to you to, señor/señora
i hate the people that say "well we are all a bit depressed sometimes". like i have suffered with it since i was 9, they just dont get it.
Since I’m always smiling all the time and so happy you know I’m not when I tell people I’m depressed they think I’m lying