This also works BACKWARDS for me, too. I have anxiety about the years I helped my elderly Mother before she passed with dementia at 96. I go over & over those times thinking maybe I should have done THIS or THAT… Now I’m learning to say WHAT IF I DID THE BEST I COULD? And, you know, I think I did, so it really helps shut that internal shaming down. THANK YOU! You are such a treasure!!! Oh, and I’ve started naming those voices, too. I have several… ‘Agnes’ is practical and I’ll listen to her. ‘Phyllis’ is pure destructive nonsense and I shut her up immediately. 😂
When I try to calm myself of past anxiety, I will say, "I did the best I could from where I was with what I had" so similar to what you do. I'm going to try yours too. Thanks for sharing!
I have lost both my parents. A Co-Worker said to me "There is no rehearsal". I found that really helpful. We are not in a play, we do not get the chance to rehearse several times before hand. We are thrown in at the deep end and are forced to get on with it. You are not a highly trained nurse. It is not until afterwards that we can look back and reflect on what went well and what didn't. The best thing is to look at what we learned and pass those nuggets onto others. My nuggets - there is no rehearsal. Also, it is not all down to you, together with the medical professionals and the rest of your family, you are part of a team helping to look after the sick person.
My husband often says "have any of the things you have ever worried about happened?"........... long pause........... no. this video is a keeper! thank you Mel!!!
My biggest takeaway was not the 6 words. What hit me hardest was when you said we cannot control what’s happening outside of us, but we can certainly control our reaction to it. I know it’s been said on several platforms, and by many persons. But today it was what I needed to hear, and what I plan to tell myself when I need to check my anxiety. ❤
You don’t know how much this episode helped me. My overthinking has been getting worse and worse this year and I reach for the worst possible outcomes, the worst possible self-thoughts, catastrophizing everything. This came just at the perfect timing!
Australian here, no doubt shes fine, also our phone reception can be real spotty as soon as you move away from the cities. She will pop up somewhere safe and sound
Mel you are not alone. I raised 2 girls and 2 boys. My whole life was worry, visualizing the worst, staying up until they got home, if they were 30 minutes late... I was already calling their friends. Yes it embarrassed them, especially the girls. Now they are grown and have children and nowww they understand because they do the same thing. And, they admit it. I believe every parent does this even if they don't say anything. And, not only did I worry for the children but my elderly parents that traveled far to visit us. And, upon their return home, If they didn't answer their phones at their home, before cell phones, I was already calling HP to look for a broken down car on the interstate. Now I worry about my grandchildren. And young adults thru their 20s, are invincible, as least they think they are. But as they get older invicibility seems to diminish and they seem to be a little more aware of being careful of surroundings it seems. I think they call this becoming a little wiser.....
Mel as someone who is big time worrier; this video is a life and mood saver 😊🖐✨️ It's true that 95% of what we worry about usually isn't as bad it seems. I also think we worry cuz we care. Those 6 magic words greatly help me so thanks so much for this.
This is so timely. I woke up with my mind racing. Wanting to catch it I took some deep breaths and went looking for a meditation to redirect the energy. I found this video first. Those 6 words helped. Thank you. I didn't worry this much until my parents died 15 months apart. My dad died suddenly in 2021. I was full-time caregiver to my mother for 2 years until her death at the end of 2022. My whole world has changed since and I worry that I am doing life wrong. So I really need these words... What if it all works out?
I wake up everyday and have about two seconds before I am short of breath and start freaking out over the fifty thousand things that I can't fix that are going to make me homeless I'm carless I'm jobless and I'm an ICU nurse who can't walk and needs help when you're jobless you can't afford insurance. When you can't afford insurance you can't get surgery. And blah blah blah
@@alicial13You could say, “Lord Jesus, come live in my heart. You died for my sins. You know my future. Lead me, and give me the strength to follow You. Amen.” I hope you will give yourself that gift! 💐🙏💐
In a way it’s comforting to know these catastrophic thoughts affect 1 in 3 people but I hate thinking anyone else is suffering like I am. I’m embarrassed to let people know the crazy places my mind goes and the distress I feel on a daily basis because I know that logically it makes no sense. Thank you for explaining how self-destructive these thought patterns are and for giving us the tools to overcome them. Love you Mel. ❤
I learned recently when dealing with ptsd and getting triggered, was that I’m always anticipating the worst possible scenario and trying to prepare myself for it. But I don’t think about or remember that good things happen too. So when really bad things did happen to me in the past it was very scary but I got through it but at the same time really wonderful things also happened. So remember that you can’t predict what terrible things will befall you but you also can’t predict the wonderful things that will happen as well. You will get through the bad stuff as just a momentary blip in your life and the good things will make your life better. And often the bad things have to happen for the good things to come into your life. Like sometimes you have to have your heartbroken by someone before you can meet the love of your life.
Much of my life was spiraling and not being able to gain "control." I learned it wasn't my fault, and that was the hardest truth to see...how childhood trauma can condition the brain to seek safety and security on overdrive, causing thoughts and anxieties to snowball. What helped me eventually was two things: 1) Learning to set boundaries (I used therapy to learn what boundaries I was lacking and how to get the self esteem to realize I am worthy of boundaries and 2) Mindfulness meditation (I used a book called 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels to learn some nice strategies for escaping the mind for a little time each day). It was a slow process, but I'm doing better.
Awe Mel my daughter travels alone all the time and went to Turkey by herself for 3 weeks and I was a mess so I feel your pain. My daughter didn’t even want me having her location .. ugh .. you are amazing and thanks for all your posts 🙌
My son travels solo all the time (he also went to Turkey) and my anxiety starts the minute he announces his plans for another trip. I pretend to be fine because he gets super annoyed.
I can SO relate to all of this. Especially about one’s children, even if they are already adults. As someone I know said, I could start a business: let me do your worrying for you.
Hiya Mel! I get where you are coming from! I am like a cat on a hot tin roof with my 2 boys who are over the age of 18yrs. I go into overdrive as I live in a built up area that is quite a rough area. I also too know a Buddhist saying a good day brings us happiness and a bad day is a lesson learned! Respect to you Angel! 🙏😇🤗🥰💖💜✨
This is by far the best episode I have ever watched on your show. I watch this episode almost every other day. It helps me a lot to quite my racing mind. Thanks Mel Love ya ❤❤❤
My mom is a massive worrier like you too. It causes her to freak out and I sent her this podcast episode but I am not too hopeful that she'll watch/listen. "What if it all works out" helped me with my worry issues. It's been a game changer for me.
Mel, I’ve only just found your videos & oh my goodness you have changed my mind programming in such a positive way. I’ve been betrayed by an ex friend recently in the worst way possible and this video & the one you did on dealing with betrayal has saved me from all the self torture. Thank you for you & your work. ✨
OMG I so get this. Over the past year, I have, in my mind, contracted cancer, rabies, lupus and parasites. All crazy. Can you imagine if I had all of these for real? i can look at the way I think and laugh at myself. What is really crazy is I deal with actual problems very well, I stay calm and realistic. Like what the heck.
Oh Mel…. My youngest son is isolating with CPTSD, no communication with me & his brother for over 9 months! So I completely understand the world of “ WORRY”!!! You are human, with human thoughts so NORMAL!!! Give yourself a BREAK!!! LOVE THE WORDS: “What if it ALL WORKS OUT”! POWERFUL & INSPIRATIONAL!!! Thanks Mel for sharing your deep feelings & being vulnerable!!! LOVE YOUR TRUTH!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻✨💝✨🎁✨💝✨🙏🏻🙏🏻
Mel you have a legitimate reason to be worried! I have a son and if he was gone to a different country and all of a sudden I didn’t hear from him I would be very concerned!
It’s NORMAL❤️❤️❤️. It reflects how much you love your child. Mothers never outgrow their mama bear instinct to protect the cub. I do the same with my son. He’s a hiker and does solo hikes. He now has to tell me where he’s hiking solo and when finished. What I do with my worry is I step back and let it go. Get busy and focus on myself.
Hiking (most of all solo) just IS risky. We need to accept that. It’s taking a risk and we need to be aware of that. Best to minimize the risk by at least constantly informing our loved ones of our whereabouts and taking all the precautions. It’s absolutely normal to worry about our dearest ones. That’s what makes us human 🥲
It seems like when we over-worry, nothing happens. When we don't expect it, it sometimes does and bad enough to bring us to our knees. . But in my wise old age, if it is uncontrollable and we can't change it then don't worry about it. If we can change a bad outcome that we are aware of and involved in, then make a difference. All my long life, I have learned that when I pray and pray, things seem to work out in the long run looking back over time, we seem to understand why it happened and we are better off...
I stated doing this a few months ago, and my life change, good things started happening . I'm creating my new good reality. Thanks for reminding me that!
OMG! I soooo relate to this episode! I do the same thing when it comes to my son! He is btw, 48 years old! its so ridiculous! Thank you for sharing and always being real!
You are the real thing! You don't know us personally and yet you're our best friend and understand what we're going through because you've been there. I hope Sawyer has the time of her life.
I love you Mel. You always speak the truth! I'm so glad my worries are just like your worries. Me feeling more "normal" or "just like Mel" helps lessen my anxiety lol😅. Btw I'm almost 70 now and have gone through many of the situations we worry about: job loss, bankruptcy, loss of my home, cancer in me and my spouse, death of my spouse! Yep I have survived them all! Of course now my brain scans the horizon for new worries: I especially worry about staying healthy as I get older, and the death of any of my kids, grandkids, all my loved ones. Worry never goes away. New ones always appear, so learning how to handle worry and anxiety is so important to keeping your sanity. Thank you Mel. I appreciate you so much!
Thanks. Was going down that road the other night too, my daughter was heading over to the gym, lives in Rotterdam, not dangerous but mom brain was gearing up. “what if it all works out “ is such a gift for ALL KINDSA stuff. W We won our ladies golf final a week ago - me: 54321’ing my way around the course… and the day before the match as I was getting all wound up, my daughter texted me” WIIAWO?” And it did. ❤. Love ya too.
“What if it all works out?”- the 6 words The challenge for me is the EMOTION. The FEAR. The sensation caused by the the thought or the concern. Maybe panic. And a need to “fix it NOW”. While it is all unrealistic, a calm thought, a rational thought from reasoning cant compete with the Reaction Sensation from fear / anxiety. Sometimes I have to lay down for hours or days while I wait for the punch gut slammed reaction to calm down so that I can think again. What works best for me at this time is to remind myself I’m not my thought or my emotion. I HAVE thought and I FEEL emotion. And the big one for me is God, the Spirit of love and life as my truth. But it’s a work in progress. Im the type thats needs to believe there is a higher power beyond my mental and emotional reaction.
Agree; words cannot reach emotions effectively. As if words could reach a broken arm. Once anxiety triggered it is as real as a broken arm. It is going to run it's course. Can only, like your example, find what works for you to mask it until end of the course reached. Sigh .. if only 6 words could cure.
@@emc6511imo one has to allow and feel the emotions (not mask, unless one has to go to a job, or show up for something regardless of how you feel, but even then acknowledge how you feel and breathe).
Im laughing so hard uncomfortably mind you because this is so me! I am so glad there are other mom’s out there who do this too! Ugh! “What if it all works out” is so good! Thanks!
Mel, thank you for being REAL!!! Glad that I found you....really!!! Love watching your podcast, my daily go to now, one podcast a day, your new and old podcast, shared some with my daughters, 22 and 20 years old. Thank you once again for making all these podcast. Cheers from Singapore 🇸🇬
This is probably the BEST thing I've seen since the inception of You Tube! When you started talking about not hearing from your daughter for 48 hours this is my thought train: She fell down broke something and bled out ---- she got bitten by a poisonous snake and died alone, scared and in agony ----- she got lost and is wandering around dehydrated and dying with no water, no phone, no way to save herself. That sentence that you use has now become a sticky note on my computer; the first thing I see on the inside cover of my daily journal and a reminder that my life, despite my worry, has been pretty damn good!!
Anxiety is feeling punches before your punched! I told a lady once (a worry warrior) That she should not worry about her son while he travels! I told her to rather imagine him having loads of fun - coming in loaded with gifts and beautiful experiences to share! Rather than worry thank God your good spirits and your sons good fortune! 🙏🏽🦋🩵😇🍀
Omg; Mel, this is happening to me Right Now!!!! My daughter is traveling alone in Paris and she’s not answering me!!! I’m thinking all of the horrible things you were thinking!!! I really needed to hear this or I wouldn’t be able to function until I heard from her. She’s 26 and travels alone all over and it’s hard for me as a parent. It is painful and listening to you really calmed me down. Thank you so much for all you do, your podcasts are amazing and I appreciate you doing them! ❤😊
I lived a similar experience with my son! A backpack journey to South America after taking his law bar exam. Few days without knowing his whereabouts. My heart was connected with my faith, but my mind was spiraling in a creepy movie of horror of what could have happened. Most of the time was he didn’t have a good reception or internet. He also needed to share his journey, so for him was a struggle not having it!! Then I thought why was I sabotaging myself??? If something is going to happen, it might as well happen in his apartment. Started living my life as usual, and added new activities to it, even meeting new people throughout social media and dating!! Never thought of doing that!! My son returned, six months later with the most amazing stories, videos, and experience of his life!! I also learned to preserve my body and mind with faith and mindset!! I also grew, and learned to live with managing worries. Wait till things happen then occupy with the resolve. And made an amazing online business meeting beautiful people along the way!! An amazing journey for both!!! Thanks for sharing, it was a flashback for me indeed!! Blessings for you and your family!!
This video just made me realize... I'm always worried about making such a huge mistake at work and getting fired (even though they've told me I'm doing good), but out of the 7+ jobs that I've had... I've only been fired ONCE, and it was indeed the best thing that could've happened to me. I couldn't have predicted that moving from one position to another that seemed like an improvement, was gonna end up badly or turn into an extremely difficult challenge. But I'm leaning so much into that first experience with my very first "contract" job, that I forgot I actually have chosen when to move forward with or away from a position. Also, physical symptoms? Yep. My legs have been achy all day long! Till I took a walk and started talking to myself about God. I was so caught up into figuring out what was wrong with me, I forgot they actually don't hurt anymore! THANK YOU, MEL!!!
Thank you so much. This is the best and most helpful video that I have ever seen. This is going to change my whole life. This is going to change my daughter’s life because she struggles with this also. Between What if this all works out AND Let Them I already feel so much lighter. I have put this up on note cards in my bathroom and office because I work from home and in my gym room so I can see it. The key is for me to take one day St a time and remember to do this u til it becomes a habit. Thank you so very much. You will never know the number of people that I help. I have a small RUclips channel and pray that one day I can help just one person as much as you have helped me. You are making a huge difference.
Thank you 😅. This is the best advise I have ever received. I have suffered from this for years. It does hurt to worry. Such a waste of time and energy.
I totally understand.. so I have trained my mind to visualise the end state of the scenario, which is me hugging my baby girl at the end of her journey and being excited.. when you asked the question.. my answer was she's fallen asleep for a bit 😴 😅 and she will msg as soon as she's well rested.. prayers from Johannesburg South Africa 🇿🇦
I watched the RUclips short with you sharing this and I've used it a few times already and it helped me SO much! I say it, it calms me as I think about what that looks like and then I say it again to calm myself!!!! Thank you for sharing!
It's perfect for me right now! Thank you ❤ my 13 years old is coming back from school alone for the first time, he is taking a subway and a bus. He doesn't has his cellphone yet. I am waiting for him to arrive home right now.
Hi Mel, I was sent a link to this episode. Great share thank you for sharing your story. I have diagnosed anxiety panic disorder. Anxiety is based on fear......usually irrational fears. You mentioned control .....thats is the "key" for me. The anxiety has taken over my ability to recognize that I do have the ability to control the anxiety and the fear that it stems from. Embracing positivity, a higher vibration along with many tools that I have implemented along my anxiety journey. I have subscribed and look forward to your next episode. Blessings
These words are so helpful! I suffer from anxiety and depression, as have a lot of your followers but by using these words I’m able to avoid the rabbit holes when there’s absolutely no reason. I’m very grateful that you do what you do and how it has helped improve my life. Love you Mel!
Mel Robbins you are my absolute hero you are so authentic kind and intelligent lady with such sound advice I have been through a hell in my life .thank you I listen to your podcasts every day. You are a remarkable positive lady.xx
Thank you for these helpful words. As a mom of an adult child who moved out at the beginning of the year under not so good circumstances, I too worry about him. I also miss talking to him and seeing him everyday. It has.not been an easy transition for me. Now my other adult child is getting married next year. Lots of changes and wow, I just have not learned yet how to be a mother of adult children instead of a toddler or a teenager. I do believe it will all work out. 🙏
I can relate...this happened to me a little over 1 yr ago. I worried almost every day until I realized that my son is a separate human being moving through this world, his choices were out of my control, and I was going to make myself sick. I started prioritizing myself and practicing self care daily. I watched videos on how to deal with adult children. My son came back a few months ago due to financial instability. Just keep believing he will be okay and check on him every now and then. I'm wishing you peace during this time. It will work out.
@@yvettebennett6170 "Live on Purpose TV" gives really good advice. I would start there. You may have to dig deep into the videos because he has a lot... or type the name of the channel+adult children so that they pop up for you.
Hi Mel. Thank you this podcast. I have been in a loop after my husband died, and just my luck, a new 😢medication I was given and abruptly stopped, caused a major depression. The truth is that we, the people who have the secondary pain, are literally alone and hurting ourselves. Self inflicted pain! CBT has been helpful. Thanks again Mel and to your audience. Your podcasts have saved my life.
BRILLIANT MEL!!! For those of us who struggle with this I would only add (from the I Ching-Taoist) "No Blame" (and No Guilt). If I still fire that 2nd arrow again and again...as you said "It's a reflex" AND it takes practice. Super job!!!
I can totally relate I worry about my son all the time he studying abroad and I keep getting these anxiety panic attacks when driving I need help really bad lord I just want this to go away. Thanks Mel I do the same exact thing.
This is what my husband has always tried to convey to me but never could get it through my head. Mel you have a way of articulating things that make sense to me. I wept with relief at applying this sentence to my spiraling:)
What does the Bible say about holding thoughts captive? Paul says we do: “We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). Do you hear some battlefield jargon in that passage -”take captive every thought,” “make it obedient to Christ”? You get the impression that we are the soldiers and the thoughts are the enemies.
Mel, I laughed when you admitted your actual thoughts.....my 24 year old daughter went to Europe 12 years ago on a five month solo trip -- before phone service readily accessible. I was a mess -- there were times that I didn't hear from her for a week at a time and IT ALL WORKED OUT! She had a great time and made some significant changes in her life because of the trip. I learned how to let go in a major way. That doesn't mean I don't have to relearn this lesson again and again. Thanks for the reminder and your honesty!!
Omg the irony of seeing this right now! 🥺 not only am I dealing with being an empty nester for the first time & not hearing from kids regularly, but I’m also dealing with a brain bleed & the worry is SOOO high😭😭 Im thankful for this video!! I just wish I had known you were in SLC cause I would have tried come!!
Thank you Mel, every episode of yours I've listened to since finding you in July has been life changing. This one I didn't realise I needed to hear, like you my children are travelling around the world for adventures and work, for which I'm bursting with pride because of their courage and belief in themselves. However do I need those 6 words from time to time. Keep up your amazing calling, I love your vulnerability and straight talking. I've cried and belly laughed with you. You are a breath of fresh air.❤💚🍀
You are not alone. Actually, I am glad I am not alone☺️ I think about dark stuff like that all the time when my daughter goes out late at night and it just in town if I don’t see her location
Oh Mel i feel ya. I had an event with my younger daughter where i realized how my worry affected my kids. My younger daughter was about 22 or 23 and was flying from San Francisco to NYC She called to tell me she was boarding the plane. Cool, my signal to start stressing over plane crashes haha. I put my phone down for about 20 minutes and when i return to it. I had 4 missed calls from a San Francisco hospital. I'm freaking, picturing terrorist attacks or something.. She's the only one I know who could possibly be close to that hospital. I call back, the first thing the ER nurse says to me is, your daughter is perfectly fine, she insisted I could only call you if I told you this first as you would have a heart attack for sure if you didn't hear that first. My kid had had a busy day with her grandma, became dehydrated and passed out while boarding. She was fine, thankfully. My point being i realized how ridiculous i was that my child's first concern was my possibly heart attack. That was just wrong. It's become a funny family story, but it did wake me up. So thank you for doing this video. Your stuff has helped me so much. ❤.
I’m going to try this. I have been worrying about a medical procedure I have to have that will be uncomfortable for a week or two. I made this huge in my mind and catastrophized it. I will use this tip.
Brilliant as always Mel Robbins & I am sure this is just our fight or flight working over time..... oh and by the way .... just saying the "team Mel" based in Australia would go full 'mumma bear' if ever you need us too ..... Love you too Barbie
As a mum of a 20 year old boy away at Uni, always off on trips, I think EXACTLY the same, Mel. 'He's been attacked, assaulted, or crashed the car'. I have to rely on self- hypnosis to keep sane!❤
That is such a great message for just about anyone to hear! I tell my various clients on a regular basis you don’t have a problem until you really have a problem. Thank you MelMel
My 25 year old daughter hikes mountains alone all the time in Australia, 5 hour hike yesterday. It is a worry but I can’t curtail her need for solitude in nature, she has climbed trees since she could walk balancing on branches, her arms stretched out. Torture to watch silently but heart still swells with pride. It’s another challenge to check my hyper vigilance.
Being an ex-girl scout, as well as a survivor of domestic abuse/neglect, an HSP, and an INFJ...im "blessed" with the ability to anticipate and circumvent possible problems. This is a sure-thing rabbit hole!
Timely as always, Mel. I'm struggling with anxiety about a major life decision, and all its intended and unintended consequences. Your podcasts have been invaluable to me (in these last few months since I've discovered them) as I'm wrestling with a decision to stand up for myself and walk away from something major. Doing so will give me peace and freedom in the long run, but will wreak catastrophe in the short run. Your Podcasts give me strength to make the right decision for myself, but they also give me anxiety because making that decision will make things infinitely worse at first. This "6 word formula" and the "do 3 things to make myself feel better right now" action plan are helping me; thank you.
Your post reminds me of how we used to pull teeth back in the day by tying a string around the tooth and then around a doorknob - then you slam the door. Thing is it didn't hurt as anticipated ❤
I am SO very happy I stumbled across you on Instagram, Mel Robbins! You and Dr. Russ have really opened my eyes! I now feel like I have a way to lean into my anxiety instead of running from it! Thank you! 💕💕
6:29 "What if it all works out" Great phrase. Stay positive.
Anxiety is just conspiracies you create about yourself in your own head. Anxiety is borrowing trouble that may never come.
I am glad that i am handling my anxiety better for months by now
Anxiety can go to “no man’s” land, in a split second, if I don’t change it quickly!!! Been there, done that.
Good way to put it thank you so much.
Yes.
Anxiety is borrowing trouble that may never come … that really hit ❤
This also works BACKWARDS for me, too. I have anxiety about the years I helped my elderly Mother before she passed with dementia at 96. I go over & over those times thinking maybe I should have done THIS or THAT… Now I’m learning to say WHAT IF I DID THE BEST I COULD? And, you know, I think I did, so it really helps shut that internal shaming down. THANK YOU! You are such a treasure!!! Oh, and I’ve started naming those voices, too. I have several… ‘Agnes’ is practical and I’ll listen to her. ‘Phyllis’ is pure destructive nonsense and I shut her up immediately. 😂
When I try to calm myself of past anxiety, I will say, "I did the best I could from where I was with what I had" so similar to what you do. I'm going to try yours too. Thanks for sharing!
I have lost both my parents. A Co-Worker said to me "There is no rehearsal". I found that really helpful. We are not in a play, we do not get the chance to rehearse several times before hand. We are thrown in at the deep end and are forced to get on with it. You are not a highly trained nurse. It is not until afterwards that we can look back and reflect on what went well and what didn't. The best thing is to look at what we learned and pass those nuggets onto others.
My nuggets - there is no rehearsal. Also, it is not all down to you, together with the medical professionals and the rest of your family, you are part of a team helping to look after the sick person.
My husband often says "have any of the things you have ever worried about happened?"........... long pause........... no. this video is a keeper! thank you Mel!!!
haha, its so true but easy to forget this. Respect to your husband! ❤
I really needed this today..thank you Mel!
My biggest takeaway was not the 6 words. What hit me hardest was when you said we cannot control what’s happening outside of us, but we can certainly control our reaction to it.
I know it’s been said on several platforms, and by many persons. But today it was what I needed to hear, and what I plan to tell myself when I need to check my anxiety. ❤
You don’t know how much this episode helped me. My overthinking has been getting worse and worse this year and I reach for the worst possible outcomes, the worst possible self-thoughts, catastrophizing everything. This came just at the perfect timing!
U got this💕
That has been me too. All the time, for big and small things.
Australian here, no doubt shes fine, also our phone reception can be real spotty as soon as you move away from the cities. She will pop up somewhere safe and sound
❤ I've adopted the saying "EVERYTHING ALWAYS WORKS OUT FOR ME" UMMM I love saying that.❤❤
That is so good! I jotted that down! ❤
Mel you are not alone. I raised 2 girls and 2 boys. My whole life was worry, visualizing the worst, staying up until they got home, if they were 30 minutes late... I was already calling their friends. Yes it embarrassed them, especially the girls. Now they are grown and have children and nowww they understand because they do the same thing. And, they admit it. I believe every parent does this even if they don't say anything. And, not only did I worry for the children but my elderly parents that traveled far to visit us. And, upon their return home, If they didn't answer their phones at their home, before cell phones, I was already calling HP to look for a broken down car on the interstate. Now I worry about my grandchildren. And young adults thru their 20s, are invincible, as least they think they are. But as they get older invicibility seems to diminish and they seem to be a little more aware of being careful of surroundings it seems. I think they call this becoming a little wiser.....
Mel as someone who is big time worrier; this video is a life and mood saver 😊🖐✨️ It's true that 95% of what we worry about usually isn't as bad it seems. I also think we worry cuz we care. Those 6 magic words greatly help me so thanks so much for this.
Thanks for helping your community in such a heartfelt way. You make a positive difference in people’s lives every day 🌞
She is my favorite
hear hear! ❤
This is so timely. I woke up with my mind racing. Wanting to catch it I took some deep breaths and went looking for a meditation to redirect the energy. I found this video first. Those 6 words helped. Thank you.
I didn't worry this much until my parents died 15 months apart. My dad died suddenly in 2021. I was full-time caregiver to my mother for 2 years until her death at the end of 2022. My whole world has changed since and I worry that I am doing life wrong. So I really need these words... What if it all works out?
I wake up everyday and have about two seconds before I am short of breath and start freaking out over the fifty thousand things that I can't fix that are going to make me homeless I'm carless I'm jobless and I'm an ICU nurse who can't walk and needs help when you're jobless you can't afford insurance. When you can't afford insurance you can't get surgery. And blah blah blah
2:23 thanks. You just added wearing about your daughter to my list😅😅😅😅😅😂
These words don't stop the spiral for me. What else can I say?
@@alicial13You could say, “Lord Jesus, come live in my heart. You died for my sins. You know my future. Lead me, and give me the strength to follow You. Amen.” I hope you will give yourself that gift! 💐🙏💐
Thank you for your honesty about your experiences, Mel. It is encouraging to know that the chaos of life is normal .
In a way it’s comforting to know these catastrophic thoughts affect 1 in 3 people but I hate thinking anyone else is suffering like I am. I’m embarrassed to let people know the crazy places my mind goes and the distress I feel on a daily basis because I know that logically it makes no sense. Thank you for explaining how self-destructive these thought patterns are and for giving us the tools to overcome them. Love you Mel. ❤
I learned recently when dealing with ptsd and getting triggered, was that I’m always anticipating the worst possible scenario and trying to prepare myself for it. But I don’t think about or remember that good things happen too. So when really bad things did happen to me in the past it was very scary but I got through it but at the same time really wonderful things also happened. So remember that you can’t predict what terrible things will befall you but you also can’t predict the wonderful things that will happen as well. You will get through the bad stuff as just a momentary blip in your life and the good things will make your life better. And often the bad things have to happen for the good things to come into your life. Like sometimes you have to have your heartbroken by someone before you can meet the love of your life.
Much of my life was spiraling and not being able to gain "control." I learned it wasn't my fault, and that was the hardest truth to see...how childhood trauma can condition the brain to seek safety and security on overdrive, causing thoughts and anxieties to snowball. What helped me eventually was two things: 1) Learning to set boundaries (I used therapy to learn what boundaries I was lacking and how to get the self esteem to realize I am worthy of boundaries and 2) Mindfulness meditation (I used a book called 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels to learn some nice strategies for escaping the mind for a little time each day). It was a slow process, but I'm doing better.
Awe Mel my daughter travels alone all the time and went to Turkey by herself for 3 weeks and I was a mess so I feel your pain. My daughter didn’t even want me having her location .. ugh .. you are amazing and thanks for all your posts 🙌
My son travels solo all the time (he also went to Turkey) and my anxiety starts the minute he announces his plans for another trip. I pretend to be fine because he gets super annoyed.
What’s so worrying about her coming to Turkey?
@@doyourbestleavetherest nothing except she was alone ! I would worry no matter where she went
God’s plan always works out ❤ Don’t worry, be happy, and trust in God’s plan. That’s all you need to know to live a happy life
I can SO relate to all of this. Especially about one’s children, even if they are already adults.
As someone I know said, I could start a business: let me do your worrying for you.
Love this.
But #1 is “Let them.”
Hugs and gratitude for you!
Good advice. Now I just need to apply it.
Hiya Mel! I get where you are coming from! I am like a cat on a hot tin roof with my 2 boys who are over the age of 18yrs. I go into overdrive as I live in a built up area that is quite a rough area. I also too know a Buddhist saying a good day brings us happiness and a bad day is a lesson learned! Respect to you Angel! 🙏😇🤗🥰💖💜✨
This is by far the best episode I have ever watched on your show. I watch this episode almost every other day. It helps me a lot to quite my racing mind. Thanks Mel Love ya ❤❤❤
My mom is a massive worrier like you too. It causes her to freak out and I sent her this podcast episode but I am not too hopeful that she'll watch/listen. "What if it all works out" helped me with my worry issues. It's been a game changer for me.
Mel, I’ve only just found your videos & oh my goodness you have changed my mind programming in such a positive way. I’ve been betrayed by an ex friend recently in the worst way possible and this video & the one you did on dealing with betrayal has saved me from all the self torture. Thank you for you & your work. ✨
LOVE THIS Mel Robbins!!! "What if it all works out?" AWESOME!! THANK YOU!!!
OMG I so get this. Over the past year, I have, in my mind, contracted cancer, rabies, lupus and parasites. All crazy. Can you imagine if I had all of these for real? i can look at the way I think and laugh at myself. What is really crazy is I deal with actual problems very well, I stay calm and realistic. Like what the heck.
Love you back Mel Robin's Thank you.X
Mel, your talking about me, my mind can go to “no man’s” land, if I don’t STOP it now!!! Thank you for always hitting home, and helping me out.
Oh Mel…. My youngest son is isolating with CPTSD, no communication with me & his brother for over 9 months!
So I completely understand the world of “ WORRY”!!!
You are human, with human thoughts so NORMAL!!! Give yourself a BREAK!!!
LOVE THE WORDS: “What if it ALL WORKS OUT”! POWERFUL & INSPIRATIONAL!!!
Thanks Mel for sharing your deep feelings & being vulnerable!!!
LOVE YOUR TRUTH!!!!
🙏🏻🙏🏻✨💝✨🎁✨💝✨🙏🏻🙏🏻
🙏find someone to pray with you for him with thanksgiving - see how you wish it to be ahead of the experience - again with thanksgiving
Mel you have a legitimate reason to be worried! I have a son and if he was gone to a different country and all of a sudden I didn’t hear from him I would be very concerned!
me too! ❤
It’s NORMAL❤️❤️❤️. It reflects how much you love your child. Mothers never outgrow their mama bear instinct to protect the cub. I do the same with my son. He’s a hiker and does solo hikes. He now has to tell me where he’s hiking solo and when finished. What I do with my worry is I step back and let it go. Get busy and focus on myself.
I agree! I have a son as well and being concerned is not a bad thing!
Hiking (most of all solo) just IS risky. We need to accept that. It’s taking a risk and we need to be aware of that. Best to minimize the risk by at least constantly informing our loved ones of our whereabouts and taking all the precautions. It’s absolutely normal to worry about our dearest ones. That’s what makes us human 🥲
It seems like when we over-worry, nothing happens. When we don't expect it, it sometimes does and bad enough to bring us to our knees. . But in my wise old age, if it is uncontrollable and we can't change it then don't worry about it. If we can change a bad outcome that we are aware of and involved in, then make a difference. All my long life, I have learned that when I pray and pray, things seem to work out in the long run looking back over time, we seem to understand why it happened and we are better off...
Mel, you're so honest.
I stated doing this a few months ago, and my life change, good things started happening . I'm creating my new good reality. Thanks for reminding me that!
OMG! I soooo relate to this episode! I do the same thing when it comes to my son! He is btw, 48 years old! its so ridiculous! Thank you for sharing and always being real!
Bless your soul beautiful lady🥰 this brought tears to my eyes thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏🏻forever grateful 🥰
You are the real thing! You don't know us personally and yet you're our best friend and understand what we're going through because you've been there. I hope Sawyer has the time of her life.
I think it's sad that people are never really alone. I'm going to be 67 in November, and people are still making me check in with them. Ffs.
I love you Mel. You always speak the truth! I'm so glad my worries are just like your worries. Me feeling more "normal" or "just like Mel" helps lessen my anxiety lol😅. Btw I'm almost 70 now and have gone through many of the situations we worry about: job loss, bankruptcy, loss of my home, cancer in me and my spouse, death of my spouse! Yep I have survived them all! Of course now my brain scans the horizon for new worries: I especially worry about staying healthy as I get older, and the death of any of my kids, grandkids, all my loved ones. Worry never goes away. New ones always appear, so learning how to handle worry and anxiety is so important to keeping your sanity. Thank you Mel. I appreciate you so much!
Thanks. Was going down that road the other night too, my daughter was heading over to the gym, lives in Rotterdam, not dangerous but mom brain was gearing up. “what if it all works out “ is such a gift for ALL KINDSA stuff. W
We won our ladies golf final a week ago - me: 54321’ing my way around the course… and the day before the match as I was getting all wound up, my daughter texted me” WIIAWO?” And it did. ❤. Love ya too.
“What if it all works out?”- the 6 words
The challenge for me is the EMOTION. The FEAR. The sensation caused by the the thought or the concern. Maybe panic. And a need to “fix it NOW”.
While it is all unrealistic, a calm thought, a rational thought from reasoning cant compete with the Reaction Sensation from fear / anxiety.
Sometimes I have to lay down for hours or days while I wait for the punch gut slammed reaction to calm down so that I can think again.
What works best for me at this time is to remind myself I’m not my thought or my emotion. I HAVE thought and I FEEL emotion. And the big one for me is God, the Spirit of love and life as my truth. But it’s a work in progress. Im the type thats needs to believe there is a higher power beyond my mental and emotional reaction.
Agree; words cannot reach emotions effectively. As if words could reach a broken arm. Once anxiety triggered it is as real as a broken arm. It is going to run it's course. Can only, like your example, find what works for you to mask it until end of the course reached. Sigh .. if only 6 words could cure.
@@emc6511imo one has to allow and feel the emotions (not mask, unless one has to go to a job, or show up for something regardless of how you feel, but even then acknowledge how you feel and breathe).
In the same situation,Mel, I’d be as worried as you…especially in this day and age…thanks for the video.
Im laughing so hard uncomfortably mind you because this is so me! I am so glad there are other mom’s out there who do this too! Ugh! “What if it all works out” is so good! Thanks!
Your words reached deep inside my serious fears, and truly helped me to calm down. Thank you for that❤
Thank you so much! ❤
Mel, thank you for being REAL!!! Glad that I found you....really!!! Love watching your podcast, my daily go to now, one podcast a day, your new and old podcast, shared some with my daughters, 22 and 20 years old. Thank you once again for making all these podcast. Cheers from Singapore 🇸🇬
Yessss!
This is probably the BEST thing I've seen since the inception of You Tube! When you started talking about not hearing from your daughter for 48 hours this is my thought train: She fell down broke something and bled out ---- she got bitten by a poisonous snake and died alone, scared and in agony ----- she got lost and is wandering around dehydrated and dying with no water, no phone, no way to save herself. That sentence that you use has now become a sticky note on my computer; the first thing I see on the inside cover of my daily journal and a reminder that my life, despite my worry, has been pretty damn good!!
Anxiety is feeling punches before your punched!
I told a lady once (a worry warrior)
That she should not worry about her son while he travels!
I told her to rather imagine him having loads of fun - coming in loaded with gifts and beautiful experiences to share!
Rather than worry thank God your good spirits
and your sons good fortune!
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Omg; Mel, this is happening to me Right Now!!!! My daughter is traveling alone in Paris and she’s not answering me!!! I’m thinking all of the horrible things you were thinking!!! I really needed to hear this or I wouldn’t be able to function until I heard from her. She’s 26 and travels alone all over and it’s hard for me as a parent. It is painful and listening to you really calmed me down. Thank you so much for all you do, your podcasts are amazing and I appreciate you doing them! ❤😊
Dont be hard on yourself that is not an easy thing. ❤
You have every reason to be concerned! Hopefully she reaches out soon!
She did, she's now on a plane back to NY!@@brittanyb5942
Please do not worry. She is fine and you will hear from her very soon.
Did she get back to you?
I lived a similar experience with my son! A backpack journey to South America after taking his law bar exam. Few days without knowing his whereabouts. My heart was connected with my faith, but my mind was spiraling in a creepy movie of horror of what could have happened. Most of the time was he didn’t have a good reception or internet. He also needed to share his journey, so for him was a struggle not having it!! Then I thought why was I sabotaging myself??? If something is going to happen, it might as well happen in his apartment. Started living my life as usual, and added new activities to it, even meeting new people throughout social media and dating!! Never thought of doing that!! My son returned, six months later with the most amazing stories, videos, and experience of his life!! I also learned to preserve my body and mind with faith and mindset!! I also grew, and learned to live with managing worries. Wait till things happen then occupy with the resolve. And made an amazing online business meeting beautiful people along the way!! An amazing journey for both!!! Thanks for sharing, it was a flashback for me indeed!! Blessings for you and your family!!
💯 my brain would have thought same thing. And yes do this constantly
"And I'm thinking...she's dead." This is literally so me. The catastrophization is real.
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scary but I have done this for sure
Thank you Mel for helping me in this difficult time in my life. ❤ Love watching your podcast!
This video just made me realize... I'm always worried about making such a huge mistake at work and getting fired (even though they've told me I'm doing good), but out of the 7+ jobs that I've had... I've only been fired ONCE, and it was indeed the best thing that could've happened to me. I couldn't have predicted that moving from one position to another that seemed like an improvement, was gonna end up badly or turn into an extremely difficult challenge. But I'm leaning so much into that first experience with my very first "contract" job, that I forgot I actually have chosen when to move forward with or away from a position.
Also, physical symptoms? Yep. My legs have been achy all day long! Till I took a walk and started talking to myself about God. I was so caught up into figuring out what was wrong with me, I forgot they actually don't hurt anymore! THANK YOU, MEL!!!
Thank you so much. This is the best and most helpful video that I have ever seen. This is going to change my whole life. This is going to change my daughter’s life because she struggles with this also. Between What if this all works out AND Let Them I already feel so much lighter. I have put this up on note cards in my bathroom and office because I work from home and in my gym room so I can see it. The key is for me to take one day St a time and remember to do this u til it becomes a habit. Thank you so very much. You will never know the number of people that I help. I have a small RUclips channel and pray that one day I can help just one person as much as you have helped me. You are making a huge difference.
I was trying to say You have no idea how many people YOU help. NOT how many people that “I” help. Sorry about that. Thank you !!’
Thank you 😅. This is the best advise I have ever received. I have suffered from this for years. It does hurt to worry. Such a waste of time and energy.
I totally understand.. so I have trained my mind to visualise the end state of the scenario, which is me hugging my baby girl at the end of her journey and being excited.. when you asked the question.. my answer was she's fallen asleep for a bit 😴 😅 and she will msg as soon as she's well rested.. prayers from Johannesburg South Africa 🇿🇦
I say to myself “Everything always works out for me!” ❤ thank you Mel
I say a variation of that one as well....it works!
Thank you Mel!!!!!! I needed this today
I watched the RUclips short with you sharing this and I've used it a few times already and it helped me SO much! I say it, it calms me as I think about what that looks like and then I say it again to calm myself!!!! Thank you for sharing!
Man Mel you always show up in my feed when I need you. What a great soul you are.
Been there, i thought all those things when my daughter went off travelling.❤️🇬🇧
Thank you Mel. We love you too ! 😊❤
It's perfect for me right now! Thank you ❤ my 13 years old is coming back from school alone for the first time, he is taking a subway and a bus. He doesn't has his cellphone yet. I am waiting for him to arrive home right now.
I’m getting anxious just listening to this!!!
Wow!! I am going to tell myself this everyday!!
Hi Mel, I was sent a link to this episode. Great share thank you for sharing your story. I have diagnosed anxiety panic disorder. Anxiety is based on fear......usually irrational fears. You mentioned control .....thats is the "key" for me. The anxiety has taken over my ability to recognize that I do have the ability to control the anxiety and the fear that it stems from. Embracing positivity, a higher vibration along with many tools that I have implemented along my anxiety journey. I have subscribed and look forward to your next episode. Blessings
🎉 love when you give feedback just over your immediate happened experience. ❤
These words are so helpful! I suffer from anxiety and depression, as have a lot of your followers but by using these words I’m able to avoid the rabbit holes when there’s absolutely no reason. I’m very grateful that you do what you do and how it has helped improve my life. Love you Mel!
That’s so similar to what I say “What if the opposite is true?”
Mel Robbins you are my absolute hero you are so authentic kind and intelligent lady with such sound advice I have been through a hell in my life .thank you I listen to your podcasts every day. You are a remarkable positive lady.xx
Thank you for these helpful words.
As a mom of an adult child who moved out at the beginning of the year under not so good circumstances, I too worry about him. I also miss talking to him and seeing him everyday. It has.not been an easy transition for me. Now my other adult child is getting married next year. Lots of changes and wow, I just have not learned yet how to be a mother of adult children instead of a toddler or a teenager.
I do believe it will all work out. 🙏
I wish you and your son all the best...Gol bless all the precious moms like you!
@@parmoa551 Thank you. Appreciate your kind words.
I can relate...this happened to me a little over 1 yr ago.
I worried almost every day until I realized that my son is a separate human being moving through this world, his choices were out of my control, and I was going to make myself sick. I started prioritizing myself and practicing self care daily. I watched videos on how to deal with adult children. My son came back a few months ago due to financial instability.
Just keep believing he will be okay and check on him every now and then.
I'm wishing you peace during this time. It will work out.
@@MT-yx5cu Thank you for your kind and helpful words. What videos on adult children do you watch?
@@yvettebennett6170 "Live on Purpose TV" gives really good advice. I would start there. You may have to dig deep into the videos because he has a lot... or type the name of the channel+adult children so that they pop up for you.
Hi Mel. Thank you this podcast. I have been in a loop after my husband died, and just my luck, a new 😢medication I was given and abruptly stopped, caused a major depression. The truth is that we, the people who have the secondary pain, are literally alone and hurting ourselves. Self inflicted pain! CBT has been helpful. Thanks again Mel and to your audience. Your podcasts have saved my life.
BRILLIANT MEL!!! For those of us who struggle with this I would only add (from the I Ching-Taoist) "No Blame" (and No Guilt). If I still fire that 2nd arrow again and again...as you said "It's a reflex" AND it takes practice. Super job!!!
I can totally relate I worry about my son all the time he studying abroad and I keep getting these anxiety panic attacks when driving I need help really bad lord I just want this to go away. Thanks Mel I do the same exact thing.
This is what my husband has always tried to convey to me but never could get it through my head. Mel you have a way of articulating things that make sense to me. I wept with relief at applying this sentence to my spiraling:)
What does the Bible say about holding thoughts captive?
Paul says we do: “We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). Do you hear some battlefield jargon in that passage -”take captive every thought,” “make it obedient to Christ”? You get the impression that we are the soldiers and the thoughts are the enemies.
‘Math anxiety’ wish I knew about that years ago. That explains a lot!
Mel, I laughed when you admitted your actual thoughts.....my 24 year old daughter went to Europe 12 years ago on a five month solo trip -- before phone service readily accessible. I was a mess -- there were times that I didn't hear from her for a week at a time and IT ALL WORKED OUT! She had a great time and made some significant changes in her life because of the trip. I learned how to let go in a major way. That doesn't mean I don't have to relearn this lesson again and again. Thanks for the reminder and your honesty!!
Omg the irony of seeing this right now! 🥺 not only am I dealing with being an empty nester for the first time & not hearing from kids regularly, but I’m also dealing with a brain bleed & the worry is SOOO high😭😭 Im thankful for this video!! I just wish I had known you were in SLC cause I would have tried come!!
Thank you Mel, every episode of yours I've listened to since finding you in July has been life changing. This one I didn't realise I needed to hear, like you my children are travelling around the world for adventures and work, for which I'm bursting with pride because of their courage and belief in themselves. However do I need those 6 words from time to time. Keep up your amazing calling, I love your vulnerability and straight talking. I've cried and belly laughed with you. You are a breath of fresh air.❤💚🍀
You are not alone. Actually, I am glad I am not alone☺️ I think about dark stuff like that all the time when my daughter goes out late at night and it just in town if I don’t see her location
Oh Mel i feel ya. I had an event with my younger daughter where i realized how my worry affected my kids.
My younger daughter was about 22 or 23 and was flying from San Francisco to NYC She called to tell me she was boarding the plane. Cool, my signal to start stressing over plane crashes haha. I put my phone down for about 20 minutes and when i return to it. I had 4 missed calls from a San Francisco hospital. I'm freaking, picturing terrorist attacks or something.. She's the only one I know who could possibly be close to that hospital. I call back, the first thing the ER nurse says to me is, your daughter is perfectly fine, she insisted I could only call you if I told you this first as you would have a heart attack for sure if you didn't hear that first. My kid had had a busy day with her grandma, became dehydrated and passed out while boarding. She was fine, thankfully.
My point being i realized how ridiculous i was that my child's first concern was my possibly heart attack. That was just wrong. It's become a funny family story, but it did wake me up. So thank you for doing this video. Your stuff has helped me so much. ❤.
Thanks Mel
I’m going to try this. I have been worrying about a medical procedure I have to have that will be uncomfortable for a week or two. I made this huge in my mind and catastrophized it. I will use this tip.
Omg!
Absolutely!
That is me Mel 100%!
Brilliant as always Mel Robbins & I am sure this is just our fight or flight working over time..... oh and by the way .... just saying the "team Mel" based in Australia would go full 'mumma bear' if ever you need us too ..... Love you too Barbie
This is one to “bookmark!” ❤❤❤
As a mum of a 20 year old boy away at Uni, always off on trips, I think EXACTLY the same, Mel. 'He's been attacked, assaulted, or crashed the car'. I have to rely on self- hypnosis to keep sane!❤
That is such a great message for just about anyone to hear! I tell my various clients on a regular basis you don’t have a problem until you really have a problem. Thank you MelMel
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Perfect timing...thank you Mel!!
Mel, you are such a joy and treasure. Live long and prosper ! 🖖
My 25 year old daughter hikes mountains alone all the time in Australia, 5 hour hike yesterday. It is a worry but I can’t curtail her need for solitude in nature, she has climbed trees since she could walk balancing on branches, her arms stretched out. Torture to watch silently but heart still swells with pride. It’s another challenge to check my hyper vigilance.
Love this life (anti-worry) hack! Thankyou
Yes, we do that too. It’s terrifying. Thank you for open up! Courage!💕💕💕
Being an ex-girl scout, as well as a survivor of domestic abuse/neglect, an HSP, and an INFJ...im "blessed" with the ability to anticipate and circumvent possible problems. This is a sure-thing rabbit hole!
ABSOLUTELY Mel, I would be thinking the SAME thing if this scenario had been taking place with my daughter!
I used to tell my mom, don't worry, PRAY! Worrying doesn't accomplish a thing, but prayer sure does!,💜✝️💜
Timely as always, Mel. I'm struggling with anxiety about a major life decision, and all its intended and unintended consequences. Your podcasts have been invaluable to me (in these last few months since I've discovered them) as I'm wrestling with a decision to stand up for myself and walk away from something major. Doing so will give me peace and freedom in the long run, but will wreak catastrophe in the short run. Your Podcasts give me strength to make the right decision for myself, but they also give me anxiety because making that decision will make things infinitely worse at first. This "6 word formula" and the "do 3 things to make myself feel better right now" action plan are helping me; thank you.
Your post reminds me of how we used to pull teeth back in the day by tying a string around the tooth and then around a doorknob - then you slam the door. Thing is it didn't hurt as anticipated ❤
I love this so much! Thank you, Mel!!
I am SO very happy I stumbled across you on Instagram, Mel Robbins! You and Dr. Russ have really opened my eyes! I now feel like I have a way to lean into my anxiety instead of running from it! Thank you! 💕💕
Wow! What a powerful statement. I didn’t realize how much I worry until I heard you this morning. You are amazing, thank you. 💖
a lot of it in on autopilot and we aren't conscious of it unti lwe finally stop to see what thought are making us worried!