My best friend isn’t considered the career “successful” people. But he’s always satisfied and happy and has incredible ability to flush out negativity the next day. In this aspect he’s the most “successful” person I’ve ever known
I'm genuinely glad a person like you is voluntarily giving help to people who are suffering from anxiety and unable to get professional help due to their circumstances. Your wisdom is our bulwark to our personal hardships. Thank you for this. ☺️
Many crimes also happen because people are not feeling good about themselves. I felt the same as you did. So many people can understand their own self/emotions and walk towards resolving their self image issues.
Same, I'm so thankful for her videos. I do have a GREAT therapist who actually has told me all of the things that are mentioned in these videos, but it's so hard to remember everything that she says. Sometimes we'll talk about what to do in certain scenarios, but those scenarios don't occur until 2 months or 2 years later. By then, I already 100% forgot what she said to do haha. It's nice to have these videos so that I can refer back to them when I need it.
1. You judge emotions as good and bad. Check 2. You’re stuffing. Check 3. You’re negotiating. Check 4. You’re shaming yourself. Check 5. You’re catastrophizing. Check 6. You’re checking. Check (didn’t see that one coming) 7. You’re distracting. Check Therapy was amazing to get out of rock bottom, but these videos? These videos are teaching me to fish for a lifetime. Thank you.
Ugh fucking thank you for this. 9 minutes in and she still hasn't started talking about why I clicked on the freaking video and I GAVE UP. Cause guess what? One of the most common causes of emotional dysregulation? ***ADHD***
I teared up when you said people who have anxiety and depression are not lazy, they've tried everything they could to stop themselves from being pulled off of the cliff. It's just that the struggling is exhausting. It is.
I’ve actually found a method that has helped my anxiety. Of course, no method is perfect. Sometimes, no matter what I do, I can’t shake my anxiety, but this method has helped me more than any other. As much as possible, I try to focus on the present moment. I try to appreciate the simple pleasures in life, such as the gentle breezes of wind on my face, the smell of freshly baked cookies, or the relaxing sound of dripping water. When I fixate on the uncertainty of the future, that’s when my anxiety creeps in, but at the same time, when I reflect on the trauma of the past, my anxiety also starts to flourish. By focusing on the present moment, I alleviate my worries.
@@kirtiseth5614 keep bringing yourself back to the present moment. eventually you'll realise your attention is not your thoughts. when you know this you can 'observe' your thoughts and remain in the present and it feels like you're dragging along your ego kicking and screaming but it passes. the worst thing you can do is fight and engage with the thoughts, just keep on coming back to the present. good luck
This ideal is what transformed my anxiety. I used to have major panic attacks, was caught in a cycle of avoidance and being miserable. When i learned to sit with it, to stop running away, to stop believing that my feelings will overcome me or would hurt me. Once you actually allow yourself to sit with it and let it do whatever it wants knowing it will release itself and that it’s just uncomfortable energy, it’s absolutely transforms it. That’s how i came out of it. I hope this gives hope to some people. It’s possible❤️
@@miax9988 yes. Shortness of breath, racing heart etc. But that's usually because I fester on the anxiety and it just gets worse. I was always in fear of fear. When I realized that fear was just a feeling and it couldn't really hurt me, my anxiety got a lot better. I wasn't on guard all the time and constantly "checking in".
@@beatrixbrennan1545 i was feeling the same symptoms too and i’m managing by trying not to dwell on the fear. it’s a continuous process and it symptoms are getting minimal. are there any supplements you’re taking that helped you?
I love that you understand how much effort those with anxiety and depression are putting in each day just to function. I think outsiders might see me as lazy but I'm actually exhausted from trying to handle the anxiety. Going to follow your tips. I'm excited I found your videos. Thank you so much.
Right. Many facing this problem are usually blamed as they do not understand our condition. We struggle and try to live as normal a life as possible. A lot of haters who say all kinds of nasty things which contribute to make it worse. Thank God for friends who really care though some do not really understand what we go through they are there to pray and support.
Yes!!! Doesn't this world think about us ever, beyond punishing us so unfairly after setting impossible standards that we will never be able to achieve because of our conditions?! Hey corporatism, don't you think I want to be as successful as you, but after your incoherency has already crippled me like this in near all aspects of my life, I can't even easily get up out of bed to do things any bigger than basic life functioning needs? So when every ignorant prick parrots out "stop crying about your life situation, we alllll have it ruff, you just gotta get out there and work your butt off!!" I get feelings as if I'm staring death in the face. And a hollow emptiness of inevitability, knowing I will never be able to do this thing I always dreamed I would be able to, just to support myself. And don't you think that I'm only trying to do the least amount of work but still be paid really well because I know that all I can start doing is the barest minimum just to keep my body and mind health steady while I attempt to navigate a life challenge I've never done proper before? Because maybe the last thing I want to is to end up straining myself in some sort of bad way over time, inevitably causing a cascade effect that would jeapordize my standing or pay amount or actually hospitalize me? Hey boomers, I'm so exhausted I'm nearly dead. Do you know what dead means? I need life support. Shut up and keep me alive, or you just die for me instead. Fuck. Oh no, I wished death on boomers, how r00d!!! I won't be polite about survival, and I won't allow unfoundable excuses for anyone to use against the human mandatory requirement of survival. Make it happen or get out of my way, and I don't wanna hear a peep out of you or I'll give you something to really complain about. Everyone else reading this, be sure to credit and quote me if you want to spread my message. Go right ahead, make sure they see it. I want them all to know.
Overthinking anxiety made me have anxiety about anxiety. Now it's a loop. Trying to be indifferent and not give it attention in Hope's that it will be forgotten.
I'm also in a loop of being anxious about anxiety. For me it manifests as being scared of leaving the house for fear of an anxiety attack that would cause me to gag. So that leads to me thinking all the time about gagging and how I don't want to be anxious, which of course makes me feel anxious all the time....
@@nitochi3 It is all in the mind. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Just because emotion is uncomfortable doesn't mean it's bad. Among mindfulness characteristics a judgemental attitude towards one's thoughts and feelings is the strongest predictor of both depression and anxiety.
I'm so glad you mentioned catastrophizing of anxiety symptoms. I can totally relate to that as I suffer from health anxiety for more than a year now. Every pain and ache is a symptom of cancer to me and I have no idea how many times I have diagnosed myself. Thank you so much for all the tips and reminders. I have always returned to your videos for the calm energy and you won't know how much they have helped🙏🙏
The pandemic has very much exacerbated this in many many people, myself included. Since I've been in therapy before it did not get as bad as I've once had it before, but it did get worse during this time. Something that helps also is learning about black & white thinking from DBT coping skills. One major thing I did to stop it, the first time I noticed health anxiety getting really bad, was to tell myself I refuse to focus on the symptom I am worried about. Let's say at on point it was my skin, freckles moles red spots colors etc. I would look at it, examine it, worry about it, think it's not normal. Then when I decided I was going to stop, I told myself I am no longer allowed to inspect my skin. At all. Not even think about it! After that moment, whenever I found myself starting to worry about my skin, or start looking at my skin, I would say to myself NO!! And immediately FORCE myself to change my thoughts, change the topic of thought in my head, to anything else. It was a really big struggle, and at first the thoughts keep coming back because you're trying to push them away, but it doesn't matter. Just distract yourself, keep distracting, DO NOT GIVE IN to thinking about the symptom. Over time, this gets easier to do. Eventually, you forget about that symptom. I would say maybe takes a month to fully forget the symptom. The first few days are hardest, after the first week it's a little better, after second week it gets easier/less often. If you try this let me know!
I heath anxiety and convinced am dying every day , think everything I have wrong is the C word any ache or pain or anything I notice I think it’s C, I can’t even bring myself to say it, please say It gets better…. 😢
The severity of your anxiety attack makes me re evaluete my mental health, I thought that it could only be an anxiety attack if you are sobbing out of control, unable to breathe or walk.... Now I realize I had a constant anxiety attack for 2 months feeling sick all the time... Thank you for sharing your experiences.
That's because you may have generalized anxiety disorder. That means that the anxiety remains in time and you always feel frightened or worried. You can have panic attacks as well, or not. Go to a therapist or psychologist if you can. ❤
I often watch this video when I'm experiencing recurring panic attacks (like right now) and just listening to your voice (as well as relating to the content you talk about) really helps me ground myself and calm down. Thank you, Emma -- I mean it.
@Johnathan Taylor I’ve never had an acute panic attack, but GAD for a long time. Here’s a simple way to divert- At the first sign of repetitive negative thoughts, ask yourself If the outcome of whatever is bothering you will be positive if the looping thoughts continue. It won’t. The result will be the same whether you worry or not. The only thing the anxiety will do is make you extremely uncomfortable. Every time.
The firsts time my psychologist gracefully mentioned how much I am focused on my mental illnesses I was almost angry, and baffled for sure. And yet, I am still seeing her and now I understand what she meant much better. I still struggle with finding an equilibrium between not ignoring my emotions and not being so obsessed with my mental health. Very useful video!
I would love to share my best friend's story with you to help you understand where real peace and comfort can be found. God bless you. Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
I was having an anxiety stricken night last night, trying to sleep to no avail. Your video brought me to a place of peace and helped soothe me into sleep ❤️
I would love to share my best friend's story with you to help you understand where real peace and comfort can be found. God bless you. Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
We suffer from generational anxiety and panic in our family with all of the unprocessed feelings and trauma. So to hear you speak of them with such respect is a godsend. Thank you...
Lol. It’s almost as if you were diagnosing me personally, Emma! Emma, you are an Angel. What really, really has helped me, in watching your videos, is you sharing your own stories of anxiety. I really feel your sincerity and concern for all those you are reaching out to in your videos. The fact alone that you are providing this information, at no charge, on a platform we all have access to says volumes about you Emma. Thank you. I appreciate you and God’s blessings upon you and your family.
10 years ago, I worked in a school that had a lot of problem kids, and I was stressed out. It was my first job, and I felt I had to prove myself. I was overwhelmed, and I made a lot of mistakes tryiing to figure out what to do. I sometimes had nightmares about going to work. In the end, I lost the job, and felt disappointed in myself. Even though, now I can see better. I realized I didn't know what I didn't know. It was the best I could do at the t time. I forgive myself and the people who made my life miserable at that time. I felt like that police officer that has to see horrible things over and over, year after year. You have to remain calm, but deep down inside, you are truely hurt by the situations you have to witness. You want to do more, but you sometimes are helpless.
I struggled with anxiety for about 3 years and thanks to Allah I get cured on last Ramadhan. Psycholog therapy helps me somehow indirectly. I just found your account today and it is good to watch your video. keep it up.
I think I got so used to having “good days” in terms of little to no anxiety (like 3/10) That I forgot to stop struggling. Mr Anxiety is so funny. I was starting to get anxious that I was anxious fixating on perfection rather than progression. We got this. Just let the anxiety be there. Do not wait for it to leave. Change your reaction to “no reaction” this slowly breaks that fight/flight cycle. Good luck guys 🤍
Avoidance tactics, all of the above. Constant struggle but after a while it catches up to you. Exhausted, feeling worthless you are left wondering if you are actually making the problems worse. Self doubt ,feeling empty , wondering why and if it is even worth it to keep trying. This was spot on. Always enjoy your videos.
This was very helpful advice. I've been struggling with chronic pain all over my body for over a year due to stress, anxiety, and unwanted intrusive thoughts and I haven't figure out a way to truly deal with them but fighting against the pain and trying to plead with God to make the pain go away isn't going to make things much better. As a Christian I've been praying to make this pain go away but it really doesn't help. The thing I should be praying for is to have the courage and strength to process the pain as opposed to getting rid of it completely.
would love to share my best friend's story with you to help you understand where real peace and comfort can be found. God bless you. Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
Yes, ALL of those. And I work hard to educate myself and make it better. It works, I relax, it's going quite well for a while. Then there is hope and I almost allow myself to be excited and joyful. One day, a scent, the wind blows on a beautiful day, a dog barking, an almost forgotten person walks by are all reminders and my throat closes. I brace myself to be flooded with anxiety. Unpredictable, but once I perceive uncertainty about a situation that triggers me off the cliff I go. Isolation brings the most relief, I don't recognize myself. I can't remember the last time I felt true joy, that feeling to breathe openly and no tension in my body
I like this lady and her calm delivery. Very helpful to many I’m sure. But there are lots of therapists out there telling us how best to manage our anxiety disorders when the vast majority have never lived with one. I cringe a bit when therapists tell of how they once got highly anxious in a certain situation. Because unless they’ve been the victim of an anxiety disorder and can somehow explain how they managed to shake it off, they will never truly understand us and we will struggle to take them seriously, or believe in them. To all you sufferers out there, you’re not alone, stay strong!
❤your non-judgmental tone completely transformed the way I should be looking at my anxiety. Thank you for your vulnerability by sharing your own experience in Argentina. You’re truly God-sent!
Although I do not with anxiety attacks on anyone, it is comforting and reassuring to know that you know hat its like. I've asked some therapists in the past "have you ever had a panic attack" or "have you ever been clinically depressed", and when the answer is "No" (or "Not Yet") it kinda has me feeling we cannot totally relate, no matter how good they may be.
I have to admit that for most of my life I have been the ultimate procrastinator. I have made every excuse in the book to wait until the last minute to accomplish tasks. After my daily meditation this morning, I began to realize just how much I have been putting off. I quickly became overwhelmed in my thoughts and began to catastrophize. Sounds funny that one would begin to catastrophize the completion of tasks, but I did. Anyhoo, I immediately thought to create a list of any outstanding tasks that need to be accomplished, and commit myself to accomplishing one small task a day. Thankfully I created a small list this morning and tackled a few of the tasks that I had written down. Then, I found this video on RUclips. I never really thought of myself as an avoider before, but it all makes perfect sense. I’ve been so comfortable avoiding important things for so long that I have refused to deal with them. In refusing to deal with them, I am only fueling the fires of anxiety. I so look forward to viewing your other videos to gather tools necessary for healing. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and your desire to assist people on their healing journeys.
Jennifer, you rock. You were talking for so many people that suffer this continual issue & the negative results. Thanks 😊 for sharing it also helps so many to feel better about the situation & seeing how to pursue healing, healthy, real, consistent changes 😀 & good results from dealing with the reality of procrastination & aniexty. Happy holidays &❤❤God bless you!!!!❤
@@amarieneal7233 Thank you for all of the inspiring and healing work that you do. Happiest of holidays to you as well and may God ALWAYS have His hands upon you and your loved ones!
I had an emdr session to overcome an adult traumatic event and it went great! Then later that day I had a panic attack that I was no longer panicked! It was gone within 7 minutes. I just said okay, nervous system go ahead and feel it. I do allow myself to go through it safely sitting in a chair with deep breaths.
What do you mean overcome? Did it do something to your brain or did you learn to think of it differently? Did it help you remember the details and have the memory and not bother you?
You are the CEO of your brain, what you pay attention to tells your brain what’s most important to you and what you pay attention to is what you get more of.
Re: running away from the monster/letting the monster catch you. When I heard you say that, I was reminded of this verse from Elton John's epic 1970 classic song "Indian Sunset" where the protagonist in the story decides to stop running and face his pursuers, even though it was essentially a hopeless situation. This beautiful song has always been extremely powerful and emotional for me - and hearing your advice on "letting the monster catch you" -- and my brain immediately connecting it to Bernie Taupin's lyric -- viscerally resonated within me. "Now there seems no reason why I should carry on In this land that once was my land I can't find a home It's lonely and it's quiet and the horse soldiers are coming And I think it's time I strung my bow and ceased my senseless running"
I am amazed at how many of your videos on anxiety coincide with the videos I have been listening to regarding dealing with chronic pain and sensations. Your videos have been extremely valuable to me. Thank you so much!
Your speech has an calm tone that is nice. It really helps when understanding what could help us in a way. And I can definitely say that fight your emotions is hard. I kept trying to ignore what I feeling. There are a lot of people who goes though this. At some point of there life. But I now understand that shaming myself was the cause of this. Saying what I am doing is not good enough. But if you change your mindset of your doing get. You are enough, then you will start to see that your being easier on yourself and others. I am grateful that you uploaded this.
I’ve never had problems with anxiety until 2020. Between everyone walking around in fear of each other, forced mask wearing that makes me feel like I’m going to suffocate, all the political unrest, and having disrespectful noisy neighbors, it all got too much for me. I’ve been sick since this pandemic started a year ago, have come down with burning mouth syndrome, clinching teeth, sore neck muscles, migraines, I’ve been miserable. I want relief so badly and everything to go back to how it was. I don’t even feel life is worth living in this new normal. I’m going to try relaxation methods and taking this advice.
I got a panic disorder 6 months ago. Currently have anxiety attacks twice a day. Waking up and falling asleep. It's been a life changer. And this week I have food poisoning on top of it. Needless to say, I'm not having fun. But these videos are helping.
I've had chronic pain for 9 years. After signing up to Rick Olderman's physio course I learned that the pain in my hips, pelvis, spine and neck were NOT as a result of a prolonged violent sexual assault 9 years ago. The pain was from all the emotions and stress I was holding in my body. I'm still learning how to deal/process emotions as I pushed EVERYTHING down after the assault, including the memory of the event itself. I was shocked and amazed that all my pain was from that. I had literally knocked my spine and pelvis out of place with everything I was holding onto. I just found your channel and I will be making good use of your playlist. Thank you so much for making this information so readily available. Appreciated more than you know x
I absolutely love what you are doing for people. Thank you! I am someone who requires help in this area and your videos bring me a sense of relief and make me feel normal. They also give me a lot of hope.
Transactional Analysis 25 years ago helped me so much to understand when I was adopting either the parent (judge) position or child (victim) position. Now I choose adult (assertive) position. It has helped me so very much, and no anxiety or depression for 25 years. At age 74 now I take no pills or drugs. People ask me how I stay so positive and happy and I reply that I have a shield around me .... and anyhow I have two choices to be miserable or calm and confident, in control of my reactions. To me there’s only one choice... stay positive. Nutshell lady, you are great
I definitely do this whenever I have a headache or sharp pains in my head I worry it might be another stroke. I have alerted my doctor and he said there's no reason to worry right now. Your videos have been very helpful.
This is great. i am literally obsessed with my anxiety. I have been trying different methods trying overcome it but the more I try the more I get depressed.
You are my favorite therapist! You hit on things no one wants to talk about. I really needed this validation on my emotions. I look forward to the next video. Thank you!!
It took everything in me to sit still and not keep moving to concentrate on this but I’m so glad I did because the intense panic I was feeling actually subsided! Omg thankyou thankyou thankyou !
So glad you discuss physical symptoms. I have almost recovered from Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue, tinnitus, and many more symptoms with mindbody work and lots of emotional processing. It has taken a few years to get out of this overactive, maladaptive stress response but doable and I wish everyone understood that this is how these debilitating illness resolve.
@@lunaqui4128 Take medication of the lowest dosage so that it does not become habit forming and without major side effects. Avoid Benzos--SSRI's are better. Follow your physicians advice. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I struggled alot for 2 years had almost gotten over it just to fall back into it again with just one panic attack :( .. now recovering feels a big task ahead
I'm due to get blood work done for a CFS diagnosis. I have PTSD, and interstitial cystitis. All chronic illnesses with a root cause of anxiety and depression / mental illness.
This video let me face my emotions and actually cry and acknowledge my fear and anxiety about everything, and stop running for just a second for the first time in months. Thank you.
Thank you for making these series! As someone who cannot afford much I'm so grateful that you put the time and effort into making these videos so I ( and other people) can learn from it and hopefully we can recover from whatever pain is keeping us down. I cannot wait until the next video(s).
“Avoidance” sounds like it’s being used to make someone feel guilty? What else can you do when others don’t own up to their bad behavior but learn to let it go?
.. ' This is like running away from an imaginary monster'.. ... ' You think you have to keep running so that it doesnt catch you, but i promise, if you sit and you let it catch you, you'll find that you can handle it, . . That it's better than running all the time. . . ' Cristal clear!
I finally found the therapy I needed. I've been suffering stress, strong emotion, and anxiety for years. And recetly, I've experienced heartbreak that made it worse. I'm still trying to function well, but I couldn't help breaking down at some time.. 😢
My husband died a couple of months ago and I thought I was doing so well. Now I feel like I am slipping into a depression and it is scary as hell. I have two kids to raise by myself. How can I keep going?? Thank you for this video.
Are you in therapy? Losing your spouse and having to single parent two children who have just lost their father is a lot to cope with you. You probably could use the support of a therapist while you get your bearings. And it might take more time to get your bearings. You've suffered a strong blow. My condolences on your loss and best wishes for the future.
We have the same worries. I have a son to take care too. My husband passed away for 6 years and so i am so alone. And now i have this anxiety or panic attacks for almost a year. Doctor said it's vertigo. Had medications but it still persist everyday. I am thinking it's anxiety already coz i panic when cold sweat starts. I don't really know what's happening
@@almacastanos3245 I'll recommend that you take l theanine. Then do mindful exercises whether your focus on breath and the present, forgetting about past and future.
I was once told "quite fighting yourself." And it made sense, an ah ha moment, an understanding of my internal struggles. Hearing it from someone else is far more impactful than telling yourself. Strange.
I've had an anxiety disorder with agoraphobia for over 25 years now and one of the things I struggle with the most is what I call "stage fright anxiety". Just thinking about going to the store before I actually go out will put me into a state of anxiety. I remember about the times I've had anxiety while out and it slowly builds up. But a large portion of the time because I push myself once I get to the store I come to terms that I'm not going to have an anxiety attack and start to calm down. Most of the time I have more anxiety thinking about a situation that could cause me anxiety then when I'm actually in that situation.
Yep..one the most debilitating emotions ever. I think a lot of this type of thing is brought on or manifests through whether your happy or not ,and a good distraction in your life is a available at the time. Example:if met a new love and was totally absorbed by it..you will forget and rest the anxiety..most likely over come it ,until you were to say break up with the love in your life that helped distract you. It’s about good distraction that helps..if you don’t get none,your stuck with it for quite some awhile
Anxious from large groups but also being alone. Avoidant things I do is keep busy ( many time cleaning) also physically not going to places or staying away from “triggers”. Things I try to do is resolve, prayer, mantra (accept and let it pass), breathing. At the start of it is racing thoughts normally checking my current status.
I have suffered for years with social anxiety plus fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. It has created a perfect storm for struggling to be normal. I have tried many therapies and techniques but I am excited to watch all your videos. I like your presentations and your insights. . Thank you
Thank you. I beat myself up yesterday terribly for having a PTSD trigger event when in reality this has been building up for months. So goodbye to the guilt, it’s not serving any purpose. Onward in processing, and above all, forgiving myself.
When practiced regularly relaxation techniques such as mindfulness meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, and deep breathing can reduce anxiety symptoms and increase feelings of relaxation and emotional well-being. Exercise regularly. Exercise is a natural stress buster and anxiety reliever.
Exercise makes me feel unwell. I’m nit sure why but perhaps due to raised body stress / cortisol levels. Walking helps but anything that gets my heart rate up for a while makes me unwell for days.
@@mundomagico7787 It is all about the mind. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@Angel-lu3lm Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Some people get worse with exercise. When you're anxious, body is releasing adrenaline. Exercise adds more adrenaline, which in turn can make some people feel even more anxious and worse. People like that can't reliably use exercise to cope with and come down from anxiety or panic. Mindfulness meditation, gentle stretching, may work better for people like this. Meditation is a practice so do it on days you don't feel anxious and days you do, so that you get used to doing it and it comes naturally to you, that will help you reap the benefits of it better
Great video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Thank you ❤ you are amazing ! I don’t know how to explain this but I’m so drawn to you and find so much comfort hearing and watching you wishing I could just have a one on one with you trying to help cope and control my anxiety ..I’ve been with a few psychologists/counselors and just didn’t feel that connection. I felt all that wanted to do was point me to meds and when I tried a few I felt robotic almost and just not I guess “free” is the word I can think of . I guess I want to say THANK YOU ❤
You are a wonderful soul and I am so grateful for your time and free content. Your channel is one of the few that have genuinely been helping me in my anxiety and depression recovery. I’m suffering some setbacks and it’s difficult. But people like you keep me focused on the realities and the hope
Good explanation of what is meant by “accepting” those “negative” feelings. Most of my life I treated everything that wasn’t joy or peace or happiness s as some kind of personal defect. I still struggle with this but I’m grateful resources like this are available.
Brenda, Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
In this video, you talk about when you focus on your anxiety it makes it worse and then the waves come.. I want you to know that you’ve become my second point coping mechanism when I hit the repeat cycle. When I go dig my second hole and realize the cycle is repeating.. I jump to you, and you always make me happy again because I get to learn a new thing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being here to escape to. I always come back feeling stronger and ready to either take on my problem or I realize that the problem isn’t worth the energy and it ends. No therapist that I have ever been to has ever done what you do through your teachings.. you make us better people for having you and that is human goals! Huge love.
Someone who has anxiety, went to a psychiatrist and they said if you're feeling this way, would you give this to a loved one or friend? NO. Because it's cruel and unfair. I'm beginning to realize different thoughts maybe the key to this struggle, and that makes a LOT of sense.
You lived in Argentina and had anxiety attack! Not a surprise! I born there and this place does that! Also thanks a lot for all these videos! You are very generous.
I cried. This is not just me with my anxiety, but me with my insomnia, a 3-year old problem now. My life has been about it. All I talk about and think about is how poorly I've slept and how bad my anxiety is. I do everything to cure it. I've tried all the supplements on the shelf, done all sorts of treatment, spent so much money. A friend has often told me this- what you focus on, you get more of, and I didn't want to believe it.
@@TherapyinaNutshell Dear Emma, I don't know if you will see this reply, but I've been battling with this question for nearly two years now, and I've been writing this in my head for days. I am familiar with CBTi. I have very mixed feelings about it. 5 years ago I read Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker. I know this book is demonized among some CBTi therapists, but it's a very scientific book, and at the time, it changed my life. I adopted lots of healthy habits. I gave up caffeine, started turning off my phone and all devices from 8 am-8 pm, and was fascinated to learn about what happens when we sleep and what happens when we don't, a new science. I preached the book to all my family and friends. I felt empowered by this new knowledge, felt like I wanted to be part of the mission to spread the word and to have sleep education be part of the training of teachers, parents, nurses, musicians, athletes, and all doctors. But like many other people who read the book, when I actually developed insomnia (which started after my Covid-19 infection in 2020), all that knowledge turned against me. The anxiety about sleep skyrocketed, and it was only last year that I finally came to acknowledge that this anxiety itself not only exacerbated but maybe even caused chronic insomnia. Being a scientifically-minded person, I dug into sleep medicine textbooks. CBTi is older than most of the new discoveries about sleep. CBTi always says that the most important thing to communicate to patients, and I quote from the Principles and Practice of Sleep Medicine (Kryger, Roth, 6th ed), is to "not give too much importance to sleep. (...) Do not catastrophize after a poor night’s sleep. Insomnia is very unpleasant, but it is not necessarily dangerous to health, at least not in the short term." Other books on CBTi say insomnia is unpleasant because it causes "daytime sleepiness", that this is its major consequence. (Which is actually not true in my experience: people with insomnia are tired and sleep-deprived but hyperalert, and napping is very difficult). CBTi coaches all over the internet say that you must "educate yourself" that "insomnia is not bad for you". I'm sorry, but I don't believe this. The findings about sleep in the last 20 years all contradict this. Some of those therapists say very important things, very useful things, but as soon as I see a video "debunking Matthew Walker", I am turned off and I cannot come back. I read some of those debunking articles, and they are so unscientific and so full of spite that there is no comparison to me. But modern sleep science, and Walker's book, on the other hand, completely ignore the factor of anxiety, how destructive and powerful anxiety about sleep can be and how impossible it can make sleep. It has zero empathy for people with actual insomnia because, in my experience, people with insomnia are precisely those who value sleep, who know its value, who are extremely sensitive to the effects of sleep on their mind, body, mood. All those studies conducted to show how sleep affects every aspect of our health and what actually happens when we sleep less, all of them are things that insomniacs already know- the slower memory and reactions, the deepening lines on the face, the headache, the bad temper, the need to cry, the carb cravings, the suppression of one's prefrontal cortex. As a musician, I immediately notice that my ability to sight-read music (and to enjoy myself while doing it) is drastically affected after just one hour of less sleep. It is not "blaming it all on lack of sleep", it is what lack of sleep actually does. Some people need to be scared enough into sleeping, but some of us cannot handle more anxiety. How does one acknowledge and deal with anxiety about sleep without necessarily disregarding and belittling the science? Can there be a CBTi that acknowledges the science rather than ironically contradict it but still makes it possible to deal with one's fears and expectations and how they get in the way? CBTi still uses the same methods and same lines of communication that were created in the 80s or even earlier, while the science of sleep has seen revolutions in findings in the last 15-20 years alone. Will CBTi catch up, and how? How can I trust SRT after all that I've read about the effects of sleeping less? Are there actual MRI studies that show that it consolidates sleep in the long run? I need to know it does so I can trust it, because two weeks into SRT, I couldn't handle how much worse my headaches became, how much more dysfunctional I became during the day. Is my longer time in bed actually fragmenting my sleep? Are there studies that actually show this? Is this just a theory? Is it really healthy and really right, after all that we've learned about sleep and circadian rhythm, to tell someone whose bedtime is 9:30 to delay it till midnight? I don't remember what it's like to get a good night's sleep. I've had insomnia for 2.5 years, chronic anxiety and nightly anxiety attacks (from other triggers) for a year, and I know that I NEED to think differently. But I also don't want to lie to myself. I don't want to be told to lie to myself. I don't want to be taught not to care, unless not caring actually makes that which you care about get better. If this is really the case, I want someone who will say that, not that sleep is not important. I want a therapist I can scientifically trust, who can find a way to marry the reality of science with the reality of the power of the mind and of our thoughts. I want someone who will acknowledge the science but still convince me that this or that technique are worth it in the long run, because in the long run, my sleep will be better. But maybe I'm the loser in the end, because I've been struggling for over three years, maybe because of my refusal to bend. I know I need help. I need help. I need help. I need help I can trust. If you've read all the way, thank you so much. I really appreciate you and felt like I could address this question to you.
@@labemolmineur Hey, how are you, Have you tried following spirituality ? Because I was devasted with anxiety as well but lot has changed since then. Hope to get reply from you soon.
In my early 20s to my early 30s I was in an abusive marriage, I then got away from the marriage but ended up going to prison for 4 years… I realized that I am still dealing with the ptsd of that relationship and prison and how it changed my brain and rewired it into this neverending loop of anxiety and trauma responses. Then when my current boyfriend became verbally and emotionally abusive it triggered these trauma responses and coping mechanisms . I was doing avoidance anxiety and I thought that I was “dealing” with my anxiety. It was actually making it worse. The way you explain what anxiety is on a primitive level and what it is doing in your brain has helped me like nothing ever has before. I seeked out therapy but it was basically talk therapy and has helped me nowhere near your videos. Thank you for this and thank you for caring about people over money.
Ways to tell you're making your emotions (anxiety, depression, etc.) worse: 1. You judge emotions as good and bad 2. You're stuffing (your emotions down) 3. You're negotiating (with the universe, e.g. "why me?") 4. You're shaming yourself 5. You're catastrophizing 6. You're checking (which tells your brain to amp up your emotions) 7. You're distracting
I am working to overcome rumination. I started thinking of "the thoughts" as synthetic properties that automatically filter out of my thought processes. I am learning to incorporate organic thoughts, acts of kindness, healthy living, and putting those thoughts into goals and actuating tasks to complete those goals. If I summarize thoughts of myself, should I think of someone else that way? Am I being a good neighbor to other people and would I want it done to me? I would not mistreat myself, so I should not treat others that way and I will make every effort not to. I will make every effort to be kind and decent to myself and to others and to dodge the drama where necessary. Some people get offended by everything thing big or small, but in-reality the offense is in the eye of the beholder leaving the offended at fault by default. Everyone chooses how to think, react, behave, and when or when not to be offended. I have learned to let things go, synthetic process: translate that into organic processes. Re-align positive goals and complete those tasks. I stopped feeling sorry for others because everyone in life makes their own choices. When someone’s life is in turmoil, I lend a helping hand.
Emma, I want to sincerely thank you for your videos. You've described exactly what I am going through. I was just at the peak of my anxiety a few minutes ago and watching your videos, hearing to you speak, calmed me down so much, you've no idea. 😭❤❤ you are a gem
Emma McAdam love everything about your therapy style. You are very calming and interesting to listen to at the same time. Thanks for sharing your helpful vidoes with us.
Going to adopt the attitude of rewatching some of these videos to let things incrementally sink in and accept that there will be a few things I miss. Otherwise I will ironically try to fix it all at once and give up
I thank you so much! Recently for some reasons I got anxiety attack and it affected my sleep badly! At times I just couldn’t sleep at all for whole night! But your videos had helped me quite a bit! I’m still learning but I trust that I’ll be better than better! Thank you
i was so sick of my anxiety to the point that whenever it comes to me. I just told myself “i don’t even give a crap about you” and carry on with whatever i was doing. I found that eventually, it doesn’t bother me as much and it stops visiting me as often😂
You are truly amazing! I can listen to you all day with your helpful strategies & techniques. Thank you so much for dedicating your time to help so many like myself. You are my go to!
I've had several panick attacks after letting go of fighting my feelings. Confirming to my brain that feelings are Dangerous. You say we can handle it, but some people can't. So a big step like , just feel it and stop distracting etc, can be a too big a step. I needed to learn to regulate first!
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Acutely You all having anxiety who speak against me and blindness too
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I have harm ocd this is cureable or not pls tell me
My best friend isn’t considered the career “successful” people. But he’s always satisfied and happy and has incredible ability to flush out negativity the next day. In this aspect he’s the most “successful” person I’ve ever known
Yesssss.
INNER PEACE IS PRICELESS.
Yes. To be self aware is biggest empowerment.
Who says you have to be someone specific anyways? It's best to just enjoy life and ignore others.
This is wisdom :-) I'm happy for you both and I hope to develop that same skill.
Probably had loving parents
I'm genuinely glad a person like you is voluntarily giving help to people who are suffering from anxiety and unable to get professional help due to their circumstances. Your wisdom is our bulwark to our personal hardships. Thank you for this. ☺️
Many crimes also happen because people are not feeling good about themselves. I felt the same as you did. So many people can understand their own self/emotions and walk towards resolving their self image issues.
Same, I'm so thankful for her videos. I do have a GREAT therapist who actually has told me all of the things that are mentioned in these videos, but it's so hard to remember everything that she says. Sometimes we'll talk about what to do in certain scenarios, but those scenarios don't occur until 2 months or 2 years later. By then, I already 100% forgot what she said to do haha. It's nice to have these videos so that I can refer back to them when I need it.
These things should be taught in school. It’s so so important
This video especially means so much to me. I’m so grateful for her
@@kky.x YES!! I could not agree with you more.
1. You judge emotions as good and bad. Check
2. You’re stuffing. Check
3. You’re negotiating. Check
4. You’re shaming yourself. Check
5. You’re catastrophizing. Check
6. You’re checking. Check (didn’t see that one coming)
7. You’re distracting. Check
Therapy was amazing to get out of rock bottom, but these videos? These videos are teaching me to fish for a lifetime. Thank you.
Thank you for this.💛
I agree. Therapy helps sort. These are tools to move forward
Ugh fucking thank you for this. 9 minutes in and she still hasn't started talking about why I clicked on the freaking video and I GAVE UP.
Cause guess what? One of the most common causes of emotional dysregulation?
***ADHD***
I agree! Give strategies already!! I have to fast forward til the end
@@mirandy1014 jeez. she works so hard to enlighten us - for free. if you don’t like it, don’t click on the video! Ridiculous
I teared up when you said people who have anxiety and depression are not lazy, they've tried everything they could to stop themselves from being pulled off of the cliff. It's just that the struggling is exhausting. It is.
And time consuming.
It Truly is!
please tell this to my husband..
This is so true - I think there's so many that suffer who would relate to this.
Yes!
I’ve actually found a method that has helped my anxiety. Of course, no method is perfect. Sometimes, no matter what I do, I can’t shake my anxiety, but this method has helped me more than any other. As much as possible, I try to focus on the present moment. I try to appreciate the simple pleasures in life, such as the gentle breezes of wind on my face, the smell of freshly baked cookies, or the relaxing sound of dripping water. When I fixate on the uncertainty of the future, that’s when my anxiety creeps in, but at the same time, when I reflect on the trauma of the past, my anxiety also starts to flourish. By focusing on the present moment, I alleviate my worries.
Nice 👍
This is mindfulness
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I tried this. It didn't sustain for long for me. Being aware of my feelings and get empowered to act helps me.
@@kirtiseth5614 keep bringing yourself back to the present moment. eventually you'll realise your attention is not your thoughts. when you know this you can 'observe' your thoughts and remain in the present and it feels like you're dragging along your ego kicking and screaming but it passes. the worst thing you can do is fight and engage with the thoughts, just keep on coming back to the present. good luck
This ideal is what transformed my anxiety. I used to have major panic attacks, was caught in a cycle of avoidance and being miserable. When i learned to sit with it, to stop running away, to stop believing that my feelings will overcome me or would hurt me. Once you actually allow yourself to sit with it and let it do whatever it wants knowing it will release itself and that it’s just uncomfortable energy, it’s absolutely transforms it. That’s how i came out of it. I hope this gives hope to some people. It’s possible❤️
how are you now?
When I realized that the feeling couldn't actually hurt me, my anxiety got a lot better
@@beatrixbrennan1545 do you also experience physical symptoms of anxiety like palpitations, shortness of breath, etc.?
@@miax9988 yes. Shortness of breath, racing heart etc. But that's usually because I fester on the anxiety and it just gets worse. I was always in fear of fear. When I realized that fear was just a feeling and it couldn't really hurt me, my anxiety got a lot better. I wasn't on guard all the time and constantly "checking in".
@@beatrixbrennan1545 i was feeling the same symptoms too and i’m managing by trying not to dwell on the fear. it’s a continuous process and it symptoms are getting minimal. are there any supplements you’re taking that helped you?
I love that you understand how much effort those with anxiety and depression are putting in each day just to function. I think outsiders might see me as lazy but I'm actually exhausted from trying to handle the anxiety. Going to follow your tips. I'm excited I found your videos. Thank you so much.
I totally relate on this.
Right. Many facing this problem are usually blamed as they do not understand our condition. We struggle and try to live as normal a life as possible. A lot of haters who say all kinds of nasty things which contribute to make it worse. Thank God for friends who really care though some do not really understand what we go through they are there to pray and support.
Being kind and gentle with myself and giving my self a break has worked wonders..Hope you're well🙏
Yes!!! Doesn't this world think about us ever, beyond punishing us so unfairly after setting impossible standards that we will never be able to achieve because of our conditions?! Hey corporatism, don't you think I want to be as successful as you, but after your incoherency has already crippled me like this in near all aspects of my life, I can't even easily get up out of bed to do things any bigger than basic life functioning needs? So when every ignorant prick parrots out "stop crying about your life situation, we alllll have it ruff, you just gotta get out there and work your butt off!!" I get feelings as if I'm staring death in the face. And a hollow emptiness of inevitability, knowing I will never be able to do this thing I always dreamed I would be able to, just to support myself. And don't you think that I'm only trying to do the least amount of work but still be paid really well because I know that all I can start doing is the barest minimum just to keep my body and mind health steady while I attempt to navigate a life challenge I've never done proper before? Because maybe the last thing I want to is to end up straining myself in some sort of bad way over time, inevitably causing a cascade effect that would jeapordize my standing or pay amount or actually hospitalize me? Hey boomers, I'm so exhausted I'm nearly dead. Do you know what dead means? I need life support. Shut up and keep me alive, or you just die for me instead. Fuck. Oh no, I wished death on boomers, how r00d!!! I won't be polite about survival, and I won't allow unfoundable excuses for anyone to use against the human mandatory requirement of survival. Make it happen or get out of my way, and I don't wanna hear a peep out of you or I'll give you something to really complain about. Everyone else reading this, be sure to credit and quote me if you want to spread my message. Go right ahead, make sure they see it. I want them all to know.
Same. I can't work bc of my anxiety, but I'm not on disability. I'm the hardest worker but my stomach is ruled by my anxiety.
Overthinking anxiety made me have anxiety about anxiety. Now it's a loop. Trying to be indifferent and not give it attention in Hope's that it will be forgotten.
I'm also in a loop of being anxious about anxiety. For me it manifests as being scared of leaving the house for fear of an anxiety attack that would cause me to gag. So that leads to me thinking all the time about gagging and how I don't want to be anxious, which of course makes me feel anxious all the time....
@@instant_minttry going out for a walk just little one and do it everyday and see
@@puffymuffin9064 thank you ❤️
Same😭
I'm struggling with this at the moment first thing in a morning
"What you pay attention to you get more of" Wow! Thank you, Emma.
I was reading your comment at the time she said it lol
@@nitochi3 It is all in the mind. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Right love it ☺️
It is written
As a man thinks so is he- bible
Proverbs
God has His own psychology
TRUTH!!!
Its who He IS💖
@@mandycote5662 Absolutely. Thanks for that reminder of scripture. So true!
I am not lazy. I am simply putting all of my effort and energy into things that are counter productive.
That meant a lot. Thank you for saying that!
Just because emotion is uncomfortable doesn't mean it's bad. Among mindfulness characteristics a judgemental attitude towards one's thoughts and feelings is the strongest predictor of both depression and anxiety.
I'm so glad you mentioned catastrophizing of anxiety symptoms. I can totally relate to that as I suffer from health anxiety for more than a year now. Every pain and ache is a symptom of cancer to me and I have no idea how many times I have diagnosed myself. Thank you so much for all the tips and reminders. I have always returned to your videos for the calm energy and you won't know how much they have helped🙏🙏
I'm bad for doing this to it destroys yur life
The pandemic has very much exacerbated this in many many people, myself included. Since I've been in therapy before it did not get as bad as I've once had it before, but it did get worse during this time. Something that helps also is learning about black & white thinking from DBT coping skills.
One major thing I did to stop it, the first time I noticed health anxiety getting really bad, was to tell myself I refuse to focus on the symptom I am worried about. Let's say at on point it was my skin, freckles moles red spots colors etc. I would look at it, examine it, worry about it, think it's not normal. Then when I decided I was going to stop, I told myself I am no longer allowed to inspect my skin. At all. Not even think about it! After that moment, whenever I found myself starting to worry about my skin, or start looking at my skin, I would say to myself NO!! And immediately FORCE myself to change my thoughts, change the topic of thought in my head, to anything else. It was a really big struggle, and at first the thoughts keep coming back because you're trying to push them away, but it doesn't matter. Just distract yourself, keep distracting, DO NOT GIVE IN to thinking about the symptom. Over time, this gets easier to do. Eventually, you forget about that symptom. I would say maybe takes a month to fully forget the symptom. The first few days are hardest, after the first week it's a little better, after second week it gets easier/less often.
If you try this let me know!
I understand exactly how you feel. I'm right there with you.
I heath anxiety and convinced am dying every day , think everything I have wrong is the C word any ache or pain or anything I notice I think it’s C, I can’t even bring myself to say it, please say It gets better…. 😢
The severity of your anxiety attack makes me re evaluete my mental health, I thought that it could only be an anxiety attack if you are sobbing out of control, unable to breathe or walk.... Now I realize I had a constant anxiety attack for 2 months feeling sick all the time... Thank you for sharing your experiences.
That's because you may have generalized anxiety disorder. That means that the anxiety remains in time and you always feel frightened or worried. You can have panic attacks as well, or not. Go to a therapist or psychologist if you can. ❤
@@estefanialopez32 thank you, yes I'm with therapy rn but not for long. But it has helped me way too much more than I could ever imagine
I've been like this for a year and metal health just pass you from one person to another 😥😥😥
Wow my symptoms also! Nausea, gagging, very weak legs, lightheadedness, crazy to hear of someone with these symptoms. I’m not alone! Ty💞
@@awsomeguy1278 Me too! It's so hard to work with these physical systems.
I often watch this video when I'm experiencing recurring panic attacks (like right now) and just listening to your voice (as well as relating to the content you talk about) really helps me ground myself and calm down. Thank you, Emma -- I mean it.
Glad it’s helpful Jonathan
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@Johnathan Taylor I’ve never had an acute panic attack, but GAD for a long time. Here’s a simple way to divert- At the first sign of repetitive negative thoughts, ask yourself If the outcome of whatever is bothering you will be positive if the looping thoughts continue. It won’t. The result will be the same whether you worry or not. The only thing the anxiety will do is make you extremely uncomfortable. Every time.
I hope everyone is having a GREAT, anxious-free day! 🙂
I hope everyone is having the TOOLS to feel anxiety the right way* ;)
I hope y’all are having a day full of varying emotions
I’m not having an anxious free evening
@@boorob100 I'm sorry to hear that. Hope it passed, nonetheless! :)
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You are one of the rare Therapists I truly like, nice Person, calm, kind and not threatening or evil. Very good.
The firsts time my psychologist gracefully mentioned how much I am focused on my mental illnesses I was almost angry, and baffled for sure.
And yet, I am still seeing her and now I understand what she meant much better. I still struggle with finding an equilibrium between not ignoring my emotions and not being so obsessed with my mental health.
Very useful video!
I relate to this. We’re you able to focus less on your mental health? If so , any tips you’d like to share?
I would love to share my best friend's story with you to help you understand where real peace and comfort can be found. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
I was having an anxiety stricken night last night, trying to sleep to no avail. Your video brought me to a place of peace and helped soothe me into sleep ❤️
I would love to share my best friend's story with you to help you understand where real peace and comfort can be found. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
We suffer from generational anxiety and panic in our family with all of the unprocessed feelings and trauma. So to hear you speak of them with such respect is a godsend. Thank you...
Lol. It’s almost as if you were diagnosing me personally, Emma! Emma, you are an Angel. What really, really has helped me, in watching your videos, is you sharing your own stories of anxiety. I really feel your sincerity and concern for all those you are reaching out to in your videos. The fact alone that you are providing this information, at no charge, on a platform we all have access to says volumes about you Emma. Thank you. I appreciate you and God’s blessings upon you and your family.
10 years ago, I worked in a school that had a lot of problem kids, and I was stressed out. It was my first job, and I felt I had to prove myself. I was overwhelmed, and I made a lot of mistakes tryiing to figure out what to do. I sometimes had nightmares about going to work. In the end, I lost the job, and felt disappointed in myself. Even though, now I can see better. I realized I didn't know what I didn't know. It was the best I could do at the t time. I forgive myself and the people who made my life miserable at that time. I felt like that police officer that has to see horrible things over and over, year after year. You have to remain calm, but deep down inside, you are truely hurt by the situations you have to witness. You want to do more, but you sometimes are helpless.
I struggled with anxiety for about 3 years and thanks to Allah I get cured on last Ramadhan. Psycholog therapy helps me somehow indirectly. I just found your account today and it is good to watch your video. keep it up.
I think I got so used to having “good days” in terms of little to no anxiety (like 3/10)
That I forgot to stop struggling. Mr Anxiety is so funny. I was starting to get anxious that I was anxious fixating on perfection rather than progression.
We got this. Just let the anxiety be there. Do not wait for it to leave. Change your reaction to “no reaction” this slowly breaks that fight/flight cycle.
Good luck guys 🤍
Avoidance tactics, all of the above. Constant struggle but after a while it catches up to you. Exhausted, feeling worthless you are left wondering if you are actually making the problems worse. Self doubt ,feeling empty , wondering why and if it is even worth it to keep trying. This was spot on. Always enjoy your videos.
I agree...sounds like me. I need a new therapist.
This was very helpful advice. I've been struggling with chronic pain all over my body for over a year due to stress, anxiety, and unwanted intrusive thoughts and I haven't figure out a way to truly deal with them but fighting against the pain and trying to plead with God to make the pain go away isn't going to make things much better. As a Christian I've been praying to make this pain go away but it really doesn't help. The thing I should be praying for is to have the courage and strength to process the pain as opposed to getting rid of it completely.
would love to share my best friend's story with you to help you understand where real peace and comfort can be found. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
God bless.
I’ve been watching your videos for about a year and a half and you literally saved my life
Never in my entire struggle have I had anyone explain it like this. You’re a gift to this world. Thank you!
Yes, ALL of those. And I work hard to educate myself and make it better. It works, I relax, it's going quite well for a while. Then there is hope and I almost allow myself to be excited and joyful. One day, a scent, the wind blows on a beautiful day, a dog barking, an almost forgotten person walks by are all reminders and my throat closes. I brace myself to be flooded with anxiety. Unpredictable, but once I perceive uncertainty about a situation that triggers me off the cliff I go. Isolation brings the most relief, I don't recognize myself. I can't remember the last time I felt true joy, that feeling to breathe openly and no tension in my body
"What you pay attention to, you get more of" That is SOOOOO well put...and so true!
I like this lady and her calm delivery. Very helpful to many I’m sure. But there are lots of therapists out there telling us how best to manage our anxiety disorders when the vast majority have never lived with one. I cringe a bit when therapists tell of how they once got highly anxious in a certain situation. Because unless they’ve been the victim of an anxiety disorder and can somehow explain how they managed to shake it off, they will never truly understand us and we will struggle to take them seriously, or believe in them. To all you sufferers out there, you’re not alone, stay strong!
Chill. You're taking her help in bad faith. Her empathy is apparent. She means no offense.
❤your non-judgmental tone completely transformed the way I should be looking at my anxiety. Thank you for your vulnerability by sharing your own experience in Argentina. You’re truly God-sent!
Prayer & Exercise are a great one two punch for mental health.
Although I do not with anxiety attacks on anyone, it is comforting and reassuring to know that you know hat its like. I've asked some therapists in the past "have you ever had a panic attack" or "have you ever been clinically depressed", and when the answer is "No" (or "Not Yet") it kinda has me feeling we cannot totally relate, no matter how good they may be.
I have to admit that for most of my life I have been the ultimate procrastinator. I have made every excuse in the book to wait until the last minute to accomplish tasks. After my daily meditation this morning, I began to realize just how much I have been putting off. I quickly became overwhelmed in my thoughts and began to catastrophize. Sounds funny that one would begin to catastrophize the completion of tasks, but I did. Anyhoo, I immediately thought to create a list of any outstanding tasks that need to be accomplished, and commit myself to accomplishing one small task a day. Thankfully I created a small list this morning and tackled a few of the tasks that I had written down. Then, I found this video on RUclips. I never really thought of myself as an avoider before, but it all makes perfect sense. I’ve been so comfortable avoiding important things for so long that I have refused to deal with them. In refusing to deal with them, I am only fueling the fires of anxiety. I so look forward to viewing your other videos to gather tools necessary for healing. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and your desire to assist people on their healing journeys.
Jennifer, you rock.
You were talking for so many people that suffer this continual issue & the negative results.
Thanks 😊 for sharing it also helps so many to feel better about the situation & seeing how to pursue healing, healthy, real, consistent changes 😀 & good results from dealing with the reality of procrastination & aniexty.
Happy holidays &❤❤God bless you!!!!❤
@@amarieneal7233 Thank you for all of the inspiring and healing work that you do.
Happiest of holidays to you as well and may God ALWAYS have His hands upon you and your loved ones!
I had an emdr session to overcome an adult traumatic event and it went great! Then later that day I had a panic attack that I was no longer panicked! It was gone within 7 minutes. I just said okay, nervous system go ahead and feel it. I do allow myself to go through it safely sitting in a chair with deep breaths.
What do you mean overcome? Did it do something to your brain or did you learn to think of it differently? Did it help you remember the details and have the memory and not bother you?
I love reading comments like! 🎉
imagine you can completely remove those symptoms with real therapies. sad talk therapies keep people sick to make money
You are the CEO of your brain, what you pay attention to tells your brain what’s most important to you and what you pay attention to is what you get more of.
Re: running away from the monster/letting the monster catch you. When I heard you say that, I was reminded of this verse from Elton John's epic 1970 classic song "Indian Sunset" where the protagonist in the story decides to stop running and face his pursuers, even though it was essentially a hopeless situation. This beautiful song has always been extremely powerful and emotional for me - and hearing your advice on "letting the monster catch you" -- and my brain immediately connecting it to Bernie Taupin's lyric -- viscerally resonated within me.
"Now there seems no reason why I should carry on
In this land that once was my land I can't find a home
It's lonely and it's quiet and the horse soldiers are coming
And I think it's time I strung my bow and ceased my senseless running"
I am amazed at how many of your videos on anxiety coincide with the videos I have been listening to regarding dealing with chronic pain and sensations. Your videos have been extremely valuable to me. Thank you so much!
Your speech has an calm tone that is nice. It really helps when understanding what could help us in a way. And I can definitely say that fight your emotions is hard. I kept trying to ignore what I feeling. There are a lot of people who goes though this. At some point of there life. But I now understand that shaming myself was the cause of this. Saying what I am doing is not good enough. But if you change your mindset of your doing get. You are enough, then you will start to see that your being easier on yourself and others. I am grateful that you uploaded this.
You are awesome! I recently had memory loss and watching these has been a huge reminder of a lot of the therapy I had twenty years ago. Thanks
I’ve never had problems with anxiety until 2020. Between everyone walking around in fear of each other, forced mask wearing that makes me feel like I’m going to suffocate, all the political unrest, and having disrespectful noisy neighbors, it all got too much for me. I’ve been sick since this pandemic started a year ago, have come down with burning mouth syndrome, clinching teeth, sore neck muscles, migraines, I’ve been miserable.
I want relief so badly and everything to go back to how it was. I don’t even feel life is worth living in this new normal.
I’m going to try relaxation methods and taking this advice.
It will pass. Sending courage. I know how it feels and it’s exhausting 🙂
It will pass. Sending courage. I know how it feels and it’s exhausting 🙂
Politicians caused so much damage during these covid years.. they don‘t even have an idea how many people they made mentally sick
I got a panic disorder 6 months ago. Currently have anxiety attacks twice a day. Waking up and falling asleep. It's been a life changer. And this week I have food poisoning on top of it. Needless to say, I'm not having fun. But these videos are helping.
Really liked when you mentioned how we often think that happiness is the only "acceptable emotion"!
I've had chronic pain for 9 years. After signing up to Rick Olderman's physio course I learned that the pain in my hips, pelvis, spine and neck were NOT as a result of a prolonged violent sexual assault 9 years ago. The pain was from all the emotions and stress I was holding in my body. I'm still learning how to deal/process emotions as I pushed EVERYTHING down after the assault, including the memory of the event itself. I was shocked and amazed that all my pain was from that. I had literally knocked my spine and pelvis out of place with everything I was holding onto. I just found your channel and I will be making good use of your playlist. Thank you so much for making this information so readily available. Appreciated more than you know x
I absolutely love what you are doing for people. Thank you! I am someone who requires help in this area and your videos bring me a sense of relief and make me feel normal. They also give me a lot of hope.
you are really a great help me suffering from morning anxiety and GAD. GOD BLESS
Transactional Analysis 25 years ago helped me so much to understand when I was adopting either the parent (judge) position or child (victim) position. Now I choose adult (assertive) position. It has helped me so very much, and no anxiety or depression for 25 years. At age 74 now I take no pills or drugs. People ask me how I stay so positive and happy and I reply that I have a shield around me .... and anyhow I have two choices to be miserable or calm and confident, in control of my reactions. To me there’s only one choice... stay positive. Nutshell lady, you are great
I definitely do this whenever I have a headache or sharp pains in my head I worry it might be another stroke. I have alerted my doctor and he said there's no reason to worry right now. Your videos have been very helpful.
This is great. i am literally obsessed with my anxiety. I have been trying different methods trying overcome it but the more I try the more I get depressed.
You are my favorite therapist! You hit on things no one wants to talk about. I really needed this validation on my emotions. I look forward to the next video. Thank you!!
It took everything in me to sit still and not keep moving to concentrate on this but I’m so glad I did because the intense panic I was feeling actually subsided! Omg thankyou thankyou thankyou !
So glad you discuss physical symptoms. I have almost recovered from Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue, tinnitus, and many more symptoms with mindbody work and lots of emotional processing. It has taken a few years to get out of this overactive, maladaptive stress response but doable and I wish everyone understood that this is how these debilitating illness resolve.
I feel the same! I'm from argentina! I started to take medication and it's helping
@@lunaqui4128 Take medication of the lowest dosage so that it does not become habit forming and without major side effects. Avoid Benzos--SSRI's are better. Follow your physicians advice. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I struggled alot for 2 years had almost gotten over it just to fall back into it again with just one panic attack :( .. now recovering feels a big task ahead
I'm due to get blood work done for a CFS diagnosis. I have PTSD, and interstitial cystitis. All chronic illnesses with a root cause of anxiety and depression / mental illness.
This video let me face my emotions and actually cry and acknowledge my fear and anxiety about everything, and stop running for just a second for the first time in months. Thank you.
Thank you for making these series! As someone who cannot afford much I'm so grateful that you put the time and effort into making these videos so I ( and other people) can learn from it and hopefully we can recover from whatever pain is keeping us down. I cannot wait until the next video(s).
“Avoidance” sounds like it’s being used to make someone feel guilty? What else can you do when others don’t own up to their bad behavior but learn to let it go?
.. ' This is like running away from an imaginary monster'..
... ' You think you have to keep running so that it doesnt catch you, but i promise, if you sit and you let it catch you, you'll find that you can handle it, . . That it's better than running all the time. . . '
Cristal clear!
My family agrees what we focus on expands. Focus on positives. Your advice is amazing. You help so much!
I finally found the therapy I needed. I've been suffering stress, strong emotion, and anxiety for years. And recetly, I've experienced heartbreak that made it worse. I'm still trying to function well, but I couldn't help breaking down at some time.. 😢
My husband died a couple of months ago and I thought I was doing so well. Now I feel like I am slipping into a depression and it is scary as hell. I have two kids to raise by myself. How can I keep going?? Thank you for this video.
One day at a time take care
You have to articulate what's worrying you and then discard those feelings.
Are you in therapy? Losing your spouse and having to single parent two children who have just lost their father is a lot to cope with you. You probably could use the support of a therapist while you get your bearings. And it might take more time to get your bearings. You've suffered a strong blow. My condolences on your loss and best wishes for the future.
We have the same worries. I have a son to take care too. My husband passed away for 6 years and so i am so alone. And now i have this anxiety or panic attacks for almost a year. Doctor said it's vertigo. Had medications but it still persist everyday. I am thinking it's anxiety already coz i panic when cold sweat starts. I don't really know what's happening
@@almacastanos3245 I'll recommend that you take l theanine. Then do mindful exercises whether your focus on breath and the present, forgetting about past and future.
I was once told "quite fighting yourself." And it made sense, an ah ha moment, an understanding of my internal struggles. Hearing it from someone else is far more impactful than telling yourself. Strange.
I've had an anxiety disorder with agoraphobia for over 25 years now and one of the things I struggle with the most is what I call "stage fright anxiety". Just thinking about going to the store before I actually go out will put me into a state of anxiety. I remember about the times I've had anxiety while out and it slowly builds up. But a large portion of the time because I push myself once I get to the store I come to terms that I'm not going to have an anxiety attack and start to calm down. Most of the time I have more anxiety thinking about a situation that could cause me anxiety then when I'm actually in that situation.
This is a normal response! Anticipatory anxiety is often worse than doing the thing
Same here!
Yep..one the most debilitating emotions ever.
I think a lot of this type of thing is brought on or manifests through whether your happy or not ,and a good distraction in your life is a available at the time.
Example:if met a new love and was totally absorbed by it..you will forget and rest the anxiety..most likely over come it ,until you were to say break up with the love in your life that helped distract you.
It’s about good distraction that helps..if you don’t get none,your stuck with it for quite some awhile
@@avamiller2325 same i am age 64.. this has been most all my Life!
I get it
A true servant giving free advice… unheard of!❤
God bless you Emma. You're really doing something important to improve people's quality of life. Cheers.
I think this lady is so relaxing just to listen to - she has God given healing I feel. Thank you she helps so much.
Anxious from large groups but also being alone. Avoidant things I do is keep busy ( many time cleaning) also physically not going to places or staying away from “triggers”. Things I try to do is resolve, prayer, mantra (accept and let it pass), breathing. At the start of it is racing thoughts normally checking my current status.
I have suffered for years with social anxiety plus fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. It has created a perfect storm for struggling to be normal. I have tried many therapies and techniques but I am excited to watch all your videos. I like your presentations and your insights. . Thank you
Sounds a lots like myself.. Jo Ann Age 64..North Fla. , lake city,Fla
Girl, can you just be my therapist? 🤧 you’re literally the best. 💕
Thank you. I beat myself up yesterday terribly for having a PTSD trigger event when in reality this has been building up for months. So goodbye to the guilt, it’s not serving any purpose. Onward in processing, and above all, forgiving myself.
When practiced regularly relaxation techniques such as mindfulness meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, and deep breathing can reduce anxiety symptoms and increase feelings of relaxation and emotional well-being. Exercise regularly. Exercise is a natural stress buster and anxiety reliever.
Exercise makes me feel unwell. I’m nit sure why but perhaps due to raised body stress / cortisol levels. Walking helps but anything that gets my heart rate up for a while makes me unwell for days.
@@mundomagico7787 Yes I have felt like that before. I love walking, its the best kind of exercise especially in nature.
@@mundomagico7787 It is all about the mind. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@Angel-lu3lm Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Some people get worse with exercise. When you're anxious, body is releasing adrenaline. Exercise adds more adrenaline, which in turn can make some people feel even more anxious and worse. People like that can't reliably use exercise to cope with and come down from anxiety or panic. Mindfulness meditation, gentle stretching, may work better for people like this. Meditation is a practice so do it on days you don't feel anxious and days you do, so that you get used to doing it and it comes naturally to you, that will help you reap the benefits of it better
Great video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Thank you ❤ you are amazing ! I don’t know how to explain this but I’m so drawn to you and find so much comfort hearing and watching you wishing I could just have a one on one with you trying to help cope and control my anxiety ..I’ve been with a few psychologists/counselors and just didn’t feel that connection. I felt all that wanted to do was point me to meds and when I tried a few I felt robotic almost and just not I guess “free” is the word I can think of . I guess I want to say THANK YOU ❤
God bless this woman.
You are a wonderful soul and I am so grateful for your time and free content. Your channel is one of the few that have genuinely been helping me in my anxiety and depression recovery. I’m suffering some setbacks and it’s difficult. But people like you keep me focused on the realities and the hope
Good explanation of what is meant by “accepting” those “negative” feelings. Most of my life I treated everything that wasn’t joy or peace or happiness s as some kind of personal defect.
I still struggle with this but I’m grateful resources like this are available.
Im about to go out in a while, as an agoraphic i really needed this😬 tysm
I hope you're doing ok. Agoraphobia here too. 🥴
Brenda, Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Meditation is such a good way for me to process anxiety. It doesn’t work 100% of the time but for the most part it does.
In this video, you talk about when you focus on your anxiety it makes it worse and then the waves come..
I want you to know that you’ve become my second point coping mechanism when I hit the repeat cycle. When I go dig my second hole and realize the cycle is repeating.. I jump to you, and you always make me happy again because I get to learn a new thing.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being here to escape to. I always come back feeling stronger and ready to either take on my problem or I realize that the problem isn’t worth the energy and it ends. No therapist that I have ever been to has ever done what you do through your teachings.. you make us better people for having you and that is human goals!
Huge love.
Someone who has anxiety, went to a psychiatrist and they said if you're feeling this way, would you give this to a loved one or friend? NO. Because it's cruel and unfair. I'm beginning to realize different thoughts maybe the key to this struggle, and that makes a LOT of sense.
You lived in Argentina and had anxiety attack! Not a surprise! I born there and this place does that!
Also thanks a lot for all these videos! You are very generous.
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What about Argentina makes ppl anxious?
@@zali8132 everything,
@@lunaqui4128 lol
I cried. This is not just me with my anxiety, but me with my insomnia, a 3-year old problem now. My life has been about it. All I talk about and think about is how poorly I've slept and how bad my anxiety is. I do everything to cure it. I've tried all the supplements on the shelf, done all sorts of treatment, spent so much money. A friend has often told me this- what you focus on, you get more of, and I didn't want to believe it.
Look up CBT for insomnia or try the CBT I coach app
@@TherapyinaNutshell Dear Emma, I don't know if you will see this reply, but I've been battling with this question for nearly two years now, and I've been writing this in my head for days. I am familiar with CBTi. I have very mixed feelings about it. 5 years ago I read Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker. I know this book is demonized among some CBTi therapists, but it's a very scientific book, and at the time, it changed my life. I adopted lots of healthy habits. I gave up caffeine, started turning off my phone and all devices from 8 am-8 pm, and was fascinated to learn about what happens when we sleep and what happens when we don't, a new science. I preached the book to all my family and friends. I felt empowered by this new knowledge, felt like I wanted to be part of the mission to spread the word and to have sleep education be part of the training of teachers, parents, nurses, musicians, athletes, and all doctors. But like many other people who read the book, when I actually developed insomnia (which started after my Covid-19 infection in 2020), all that knowledge turned against me. The anxiety about sleep skyrocketed, and it was only last year that I finally came to acknowledge that this anxiety itself not only exacerbated but maybe even caused chronic insomnia. Being a scientifically-minded person, I dug into sleep medicine textbooks. CBTi is older than most of the new discoveries about sleep. CBTi always says that the most important thing to communicate to patients, and I quote from the Principles and Practice of Sleep Medicine (Kryger, Roth, 6th ed), is to "not give too much importance to sleep. (...) Do not catastrophize after a poor night’s sleep. Insomnia is very unpleasant, but it is not necessarily dangerous to health, at least not in the short term." Other books on CBTi say insomnia is unpleasant because it causes "daytime sleepiness", that this is its major consequence. (Which is actually not true in my experience: people with insomnia are tired and sleep-deprived but hyperalert, and napping is very difficult). CBTi coaches all over the internet say that you must "educate yourself" that "insomnia is not bad for you". I'm sorry, but I don't believe this. The findings about sleep in the last 20 years all contradict this. Some of those therapists say very important things, very useful things, but as soon as I see a video "debunking Matthew Walker", I am turned off and I cannot come back. I read some of those debunking articles, and they are so unscientific and so full of spite that there is no comparison to me. But modern sleep science, and Walker's book, on the other hand, completely ignore the factor of anxiety, how destructive and powerful anxiety about sleep can be and how impossible it can make sleep. It has zero empathy for people with actual insomnia because, in my experience, people with insomnia are precisely those who value sleep, who know its value, who are extremely sensitive to the effects of sleep on their mind, body, mood. All those studies conducted to show how sleep affects every aspect of our health and what actually happens when we sleep less, all of them are things that insomniacs already know- the slower memory and reactions, the deepening lines on the face, the headache, the bad temper, the need to cry, the carb cravings, the suppression of one's prefrontal cortex. As a musician, I immediately notice that my ability to sight-read music (and to enjoy myself while doing it) is drastically affected after just one hour of less sleep. It is not "blaming it all on lack of sleep", it is what lack of sleep actually does. Some people need to be scared enough into sleeping, but some of us cannot handle more anxiety. How does one acknowledge and deal with anxiety about sleep without necessarily disregarding and belittling the science? Can there be a CBTi that acknowledges the science rather than ironically contradict it but still makes it possible to deal with one's fears and expectations and how they get in the way? CBTi still uses the same methods and same lines of communication that were created in the 80s or even earlier, while the science of sleep has seen revolutions in findings in the last 15-20 years alone. Will CBTi catch up, and how? How can I trust SRT after all that I've read about the effects of sleeping less? Are there actual MRI studies that show that it consolidates sleep in the long run? I need to know it does so I can trust it, because two weeks into SRT, I couldn't handle how much worse my headaches became, how much more dysfunctional I became during the day. Is my longer time in bed actually fragmenting my sleep? Are there studies that actually show this? Is this just a theory? Is it really healthy and really right, after all that we've learned about sleep and circadian rhythm, to tell someone whose bedtime is 9:30 to delay it till midnight? I don't remember what it's like to get a good night's sleep. I've had insomnia for 2.5 years, chronic anxiety and nightly anxiety attacks (from other triggers) for a year, and I know that I NEED to think differently. But I also don't want to lie to myself. I don't want to be told to lie to myself. I don't want to be taught not to care, unless not caring actually makes that which you care about get better. If this is really the case, I want someone who will say that, not that sleep is not important. I want a therapist I can scientifically trust, who can find a way to marry the reality of science with the reality of the power of the mind and of our thoughts. I want someone who will acknowledge the science but still convince me that this or that technique are worth it in the long run, because in the long run, my sleep will be better.
But maybe I'm the loser in the end, because I've been struggling for over three years, maybe because of my refusal to bend. I know I need help. I need help. I need help. I need help I can trust.
If you've read all the way, thank you so much. I really appreciate you and felt like I could address this question to you.
@@labemolmineur Hey, how are you, Have you tried following spirituality ?
Because I was devasted with anxiety as well but lot has changed since then. Hope to get reply from you soon.
Don't fight the flow, let it pass over you.
Sometimes it's possible lol
but what if it's constsntly
In my early 20s to my early 30s I was in an abusive marriage, I then got away from the marriage but ended up going to prison for 4 years… I realized that I am still dealing with the ptsd of that relationship and prison and how it changed my brain and rewired it into this neverending loop of anxiety and trauma responses. Then when my current boyfriend became verbally and emotionally abusive it triggered these trauma responses and coping mechanisms . I was doing avoidance anxiety and I thought that I was “dealing” with my anxiety. It was actually making it worse. The way you explain what anxiety is on a primitive level and what it is doing in your brain has helped me like nothing ever has before. I seeked out therapy but it was basically talk therapy and has helped me nowhere near your videos. Thank you for this and thank you for caring about people over money.
Oh my god! I absolutely ADORE Michelle B! She’s one of my absolute favourite channels!
This needs to reach a lot of people. Love from India 🇮🇳♥
Ways to tell you're making your emotions (anxiety, depression, etc.) worse:
1. You judge emotions as good and bad
2. You're stuffing (your emotions down)
3. You're negotiating (with the universe, e.g. "why me?")
4. You're shaming yourself
5. You're catastrophizing
6. You're checking (which tells your brain to amp up your emotions)
7. You're distracting
Going through this now because of a bad habit of self-sabotage out of fear as I go through an existential crisis...
@@Mari-hb5do same. I hope u are better now.
Please what do you mean by distracting?
@@kikikiki3216 i think she means you're distracting yourself from dealing with your emotions
6 points
The world is so lucky to have you.
Please make this a podcast! I would love to listen to this series while doing other stuff and especially before sleep.
God bless you, you’re helping me get through one of the worst days of my life
I am working to overcome rumination. I started thinking of "the thoughts" as synthetic properties that automatically filter out of my thought processes. I am learning to incorporate organic thoughts, acts of kindness, healthy living, and putting those thoughts into goals and actuating tasks to complete those goals. If I summarize thoughts of myself, should I think of someone else that way? Am I being a good neighbor to other people and would I want it done to me? I would not mistreat myself, so I should not treat others that way and I will make every effort not to. I will make every effort to be kind and decent to myself and to others and to dodge the drama where necessary. Some people get offended by everything thing big or small, but in-reality the offense is in the eye of the beholder leaving the offended at fault by default. Everyone chooses how to think, react, behave, and when or when not to be offended. I have learned to let things go, synthetic process: translate that into organic processes. Re-align positive goals and complete those tasks. I stopped feeling sorry for others because everyone in life makes their own choices. When someone’s life is in turmoil, I lend a helping hand.
Emma, I want to sincerely thank you for your videos. You've described exactly what I am going through. I was just at the peak of my anxiety a few minutes ago and watching your videos, hearing to you speak, calmed me down so much, you've no idea. 😭❤❤ you are a gem
Emma McAdam love everything about your therapy style. You are very calming and interesting to listen to at the same time. Thanks for sharing your helpful vidoes with us.
They way you speak and explain is so soothing and helps me understand so much better.
Going to adopt the attitude of rewatching some of these videos to let things incrementally sink in and accept that there will be a few things I miss. Otherwise I will ironically try to fix it all at once and give up
I thank you so much! Recently for some reasons I got anxiety attack and it affected my sleep badly! At times I just couldn’t sleep at all for whole night! But your videos had helped me quite a bit! I’m still learning but I trust that I’ll be better than better! Thank you
Tired of struggling😖. Thank you so much for these videos💝🙏🏻
i was so sick of my anxiety to the point that whenever it comes to me. I just told myself “i don’t even give a crap about you” and carry on with whatever i was doing. I found that eventually, it doesn’t bother me as much and it stops visiting me as often😂
Nothing can make a person feel more prone to anxiety than not being able to take a deep breath.
More blessing to the creator of this channel it helps me a lot it save my life to become crazy..
You are truly amazing! I can listen to you all day with your helpful strategies & techniques. Thank you so much for dedicating your time to help so many like myself. You are my go to!
I've had several panick attacks after letting go of fighting my feelings. Confirming to my brain that feelings are Dangerous. You say we can handle it, but some people can't. So a big step like , just feel it and stop distracting etc, can be a too big a step. I needed to learn to regulate first!
She's my Female Jordan Peterson, he's helped me so much, now I found her. I love the way she talks 🤗 Thank you!
For real, the way she says things... You just KNOW she's filled with compassion.
Psychologists saving the world one video at a time.