Realizing That Your Friend is the Problem
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- Опубликовано: 17 фев 2023
- Featuring Patrick Quinn ( / plastic_quinn ) and @KevinYellow
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I’m so glad he finally realized Joel was the real problem
nice, made me laugh hella with this comment
@@CjKillinit I dont get it
Joel hasn't been the same since that landmine.
Never seen Joel play such a complete jerk before - not even when he punched Ryan without warning and tried to tell him he was "Groundhog Daying." What a range! Just give this man an Oscar already!
I bet that Joel guy is a real serial killer.
Man, the defeated look at the end, coming to acknowledge that the dude you're hanging out with is an asshole. A universal experience, I'd imagine.
And then there are those of us who know WE are the assholes, and are grateful that our friends seem to have a taste for assholes
@@jschnei3 Oooh, that could be the name of your autobiography: "A Taste for Assholes"
@@kennobodywith a foreword by Brian Buttmuncher.
@@jschnei3 often times it’s pity, cause they have always been there
I'm sure i have been the receiving end of those looks
To me, this reads as the "deeply insecure person who doesn't want his friends to like each other, because maybe they will like each other better and abandon him" situation.
Not gonna lie this video actually kinda made me sad, reminded me of every shitty friend I've had in my life.
It is so painful when you got to ditch friends when you have so few of them and making new ones is so difficult...
Friends come and go. It's life. People grow together and apart. Just remember the good times when they go and don't fight the change.
Like the others said, don’t worry about it. We all have a Brian in our life. Sometimes we have to let go and find friends that deserve our time.
that's like half the joel haver videos tbh
Yeah my friends/family just keep weeding themselves out lately... It's lonely but gotta stay strong and do better
Something about Joel standing directly in the middle of the stairs, limp-armed at 1:15 sent me into an uncontrollable fit of laughter.
That shot had a Wes Anderson vibe to it
its such a nuetral, unassuming posture. and thats whats so powerful about it.
I like the part where he was playing the small piano in the corner of the room.
now he is going to see this comment and not know what to do with his hands.
@@Backonos I'm pretty sure its intentional, he's very good with awkward body humor
Nah Joel's in my diary because this literally happened to me last week. When you have a 'friend' that constantly rags on other people, just know they're probably doing it behind your back too.
Yep! When someone seems to be badmouthing everyone else to me (but is nice to their faces) my walls immediately go up and I start asking myself what they might be saying about me to those same people.
The only solution is to disguise yourself.
i used to be friends with a couple that would do that, stopped hanging out with them and found out from a 3rd party they split so i'm glad i bounced when i did
Right? Brian didn’t even do it in this video but you can just tell he would eventually.
It's either that or they're talking smack about someone who's actually bad and you start thinking they think the same about you.
the color symbolism of joel's socks matching brian's pants to show their subtle alignment of values 💯
I thought that it would end with Brian looking down and saying, “Hey, I didn’t notice before when I came in, but your socks totally match my pants. Pretty cool coincidence, huh?”
Teachers while reading a book be like
Wow! The land of make believe!
@@geroni211 shieet dis do be lik dat tho fr fr
Brian's just wearing moistcr1tikal merch
As a quiet, inoffensive person and a good listener, I’ve found out multiple times that the person I’ve been hanging out with is kind of an ass, and spent so much time around me because I was one of the only people left in their life willing to put up with their BS. They’d always treat me well (to my face anyway, as far as I know) but were sometimes just horrible to other people.
It’s usually because of insecurity-rooted narcissism.
I tell people outright that's why I'm hanging out with them. I'm a big personality. It sucks, and it's obviously a thing people don't like. Most of the nice inoffensive people don't mind, though.
@@amilueur to quote joel indirectly, perhaps actions taken have been those of a “big personality” and not of Ami, it’s clear you have self awareness & a degree of empathy so you’re nowhere near too far gone to turn that ship around and head for clear waters, identify your toxic traits, and widdle away at them like a piece of wood until one day you wake up and go “woah, i’ve actually changed alot. Huh?” and then never stop
Sounds like you might be the problem my friend.
@@amilueur Didn't mean to imply that all big personalities are bad, there are plenty of people who love to talk my ear off who aren't mean to others at all. I have a coworker I've had multiple-hour conversations with where I've probably said like a dozen sentences the whole time, and some people just need someone else to sort of bounce their own thoughts off of, and that's ok.
@@sidewayssil5348 It's my lot in life. Some of us exist if only to create contrast for others. "The light comes not without a shadow."
Hilarious how Joel's friend was talking about Brian being a serial killer, and then HE was the one clearly contemplating killing Brian
Sometimes things are really the exact opposite as they seem.
Also, shameless plug, I'm hoping some of you might like the music I make :)
Actually incredible acting
@@ovskii96 I agree! They managed to convey their characters' intentions without directly stating it
@@PaintingWinterMusic I checked out your music and it's nice. Thank you for actually commenting instead of spamming
@@woodfur00 Well thank you for listening! And yeah, I make sure to never spam anything lol, whenever I promote my stuff I just do it under my own comments.
Joel dropping another accurate representation of a situation we're all too familiar with. Hope they go bowling together though.
Next video is a series of them bowling just being good friends
He knows the spot.
"Hey Niko! Its Roman, lets go bowling" - GTA IV
@@KalebSDay repressed memory unlocked
Nate is right about researching the other side of your beliefs it's why I have beeting it to Trans porn to see it from another point of view yeh I'm woke!
I really liked the performance of Brian. Slightly awkward but lovable really made this sketch for me, especially since I could see myself in that role.
I used to be in a friend group where multiple people were like this during middle school, and now, many years later, I met one of the people from this group in a train and apparently they're all still hanging out betraying and talking shit about each other. Glad I'm not a part of that anymore...
Lmao man sometimes it's nice to have a reminder that you made the right choice about people who havent changed
Even Brian can’t ruin Joel’s vibe. He is a Legend
Man can you believe what a jerk that Brian guy was?
Did you not get the point of the video
@@Emira_75 It was to show how bad Brian is ofc
I really appreciate how Joel is willing to sacrifice himself to spend time with a complete dingus like Brian. I wouldn’t have that much patience.
You guys want to join my Anti-Brian club? We get together each week and complain about people named Brian and we don't go to concerts or stand too much.
LITERALLY I’ve started hanging out and talking with more of the quiet, friendly people in my studio that most of the popular extroverted people won’t talk to and they’re SO NICE like what was all the gossip for!! Thanks again for some great wholesome content Joel!!
Just an example of people hating things/people that are different than them
People who have social anxiety disorders unfortunately form habits like being quiet/avoiding eye contact to avoid confrontation and end up being viewed as weird- and ironically aloof by society-so I'm glad you're able to look past that/see people for who they truly are!:)
I’m a shy, socially anxious person and it makes me feel really happy when somebody reaches out like you’re doing! Making friends can be really difficult for some people and something like that can make a huge difference
Since we've started this topic, I always knew I was different and just liked myself the way I am because we're all different. I learned recently that I'm autistic; and as I've learned more about it, my childhood and teenage behavior and even recent stuff makes a lot more sense now.
I guess the difference is now there's a label for it. And I wasn't as self centered as some people made me think I am.
Studio? I don't understand the context? Like you are all communist in a studio?
Joel always seems like a pretty quiet but funny guy to me, but he seems to have 5000 friends to help him film his skits, which is such a cool thing to do. It must be a blast to hang out.
I notice that too!
I think Patrick is a pretty good guy so maybe I was the problem
What's up with Patrick??
I mean... The fact that you like going to concerts says it all.
You should get Danny Duncan in one of Joel's videos
this is some professional ass framing man, i love the creepy stare during the movie
I read this first as "professional ass-framing" and was so confused.
@@crusatyr1452 So..like where do I sign up?
@@crusatyr1452 hell yeah I just got my ass framed last week! I went for birch wood with gold leaf inlay. So fresh
@@crusatyr1452 I just had to re-read that like 4 times to see it any other way 😂
@@crusatyr1452 me too
Joel’s tiny piano chord progression was astounding work. It was so expressive and rich, I had no idea Joel was a concert pianist!
didn't you know? He played the synthesizer in grammy nominated Trent Lenkarski's album, his solo in 'Music' is a piece of work!
Once he stopped singing about Fucking Dogs, his musical abilities Really started to Blossom 🥰🥰
best tip I can give you: listen to how your friends talk about their other friends. That’s how they talk about YOU when you’re not around.
I literally had a roommate like this. All she ever did was complain about and criticize all of the friends that would hang out with her. It wasn't until much later when I realized that she was doing the same thing about me.
Dang, hope you cut off from her.
Always try to remove any toxicity from your life, that's my approach
We all talk about you when you're not around. Everyone is.
So glad the good guy realized that Joel is going to leave him for that insufferably decent other person.
I've been friends with people who I found out we're just pretending to like me before(and were probably saying the same things as Joel's problem friend in the skit), and even though the guy turned out to be a major a-hole to everyone, it always hurts to find out. This is spot on, Joel.
why people gotta be like that :(
Yeah, I'm immediately wary of anyone who talks badly about other people. Likelihood is they're doing it about you as well.
Similar situations have given me insecurities when trying to make new friends. But it also made me a better judge of character and appreciate good people more.
@@doggosuki Seems like a lot more effort than just saying "don't call me anymore". Maybe these type of people need to have a sacrificial anode to protect themselves from their own corrosive personalities.
felt, i just found that out about a friend ive had for 9 years, now i cant even talk to him anymore. people arent always who you think they are.
I got the really quiet guy at my church to join my d&d game with other guys from the parish and sure he has some work to do socially but he's low key awesome. He's quietly assembling/building a suit of armor and he doesn't tell anyone or brag about it. He's just making it piece by piece. It's so dumb to write people off so casually.
Omg I hope the armor comes together nicely, he does sound super cool
communicating through speech isnt always fun
I don’t why but I love the way Joel stands. You just see him and you think “Yep, that’s Joel. Standing.”
Thought I was the only one who noticed
Joel's videos have Alden great, in my opinion
lol this pun is totally insaneo style
@@whatsacone All these links are purple. You've clicked on all of these.
Agree
@@seanrobison8558 based profile picture
I tried to think of a funnier joke, but you did it Alden
ok but why was this so chilling. this is why its important to be wary of people who trash on others really heavily with little to no explanation :/
I had a friend like this and when I met the dude she was talking about, I realized we are practically the same person. Same hobbies and everything. Stopped talking to her and her ex told me everything she said and did behind my back. So I gained two new besties after her. Good riddance.
Wow Joel really played the part of Problematic Friend beautifully.
Really hope I don't do that to anyone. Imagine you warn your friend about a guy who's bad news, and he just ignores it. Honestly disrespectful.
Yeah well this time you got lied to by someone who tricked you into thinking their nice. The fact you got defensive makes me think you know someone like this. Or your the shit talker in your group. I mean cant you see Brian was legit a normal dude like almost everyone you'll ever meet?
@@StankFrengus it was a joke lol
@@StankFrengus so are most serial killers. I’m just saying I’d probably ask the guy complaining about Brian WHY he thinks Brian is such bad news, maybe Brian did something really bad in the past I’d probably wanna know about
The fact that 3 out of 4 commenters on Ungrave's comment thought Ungrave was serious is why this video is hilarious
@@Dr._Ghost okay nordic owl sure is this your alt account. He literally said HONESTLY DISRESPECTFUL. I took them at their word
At work I have this co-worker who is just great to work with, he has a nice pace, friendly, always has your back, just generally a great co-worker, even drinked a beer or two with him off work, but one time when I was working with a different co-worker, who was alright, but he talked so much shit about the previous co-worker I just mentioned, that he's unfriendly, annoying, doesn't do his work properly, explaining the complete opposite of how I experienced that guy, I just stayed silent and just kept it neutral, but it was so weird and awkward, are we talking about the same guy? I thought to myself, people are weird man.
People relate to ppl differently. It reminds me of when a friend discribed a teacher as an arsehole, turns out he just takes no shit from anyone.
You have to experience people for yourself really. Unless theyre a murderer or thief.
@@AlienAteIt.MyNoraTees this is so true
@@AlienAteIt.MyNoraTees That’s the funniest part about school. I nearly always rolled my eyes when a vast majority of students said they disliked a certain teacher. Sometimes, I’d have the same teacher and have zero issues. It seems like the trashy students really just had a problem with actual accountability.
And from that group, there will likely be another big chunk that will never have realized that just meant that the teacher actually cared.
This came at the perfect time for me. Tonight has been the tipping point where I realised that most of the problems I thought I had with myself are actually caused by the people I live with, and I’ve decided to reevaluate our ‘friendships’. I’m glad I’m not the only one goes through this.
Well done on such a hard realization. I hope things get better for you.
Be cautious, the mentality of "most of my problems are because of others" is a slippery slope
I think you’re misunderstanding which character you represent
Yeah? And how would you know? With such little detail, you just know? Get a grip.
@speedgrump5515 yeah that shit can be real tricky
It's strange how people project their own issues onto others. I guess it's just human nature, but it can be so corrosive. This is so well portrayed here Joel. You're a true director.
Great to see Patrick back in the shorts!
I was so excited
We all fear this day
@Don't Read My Profile Photo Thanks for the warning, i did not read it.
Have a nice day, bye.
@@Sebstrion just report it
The subtle hint that they are a good pair at 2:18 with matching sock and pant colors... The genius is astounding😤
As a fellow member of the "Brian myself to sleep at night" club, I approve of this budding friendship.
It's like the sequel to "When introducing friends goes too well" lol
I’ve actually been that guy, the insecure narcissist. I looked for things to dislike in my friends and gossiped behind their backs in order to try to feel superior. I realized that my conversations had become heavily based on criticism and complaints about others.
Its tough to realize and even a tougher habit to break.
I almost expected to see a followup scene with him talking to someone else badmouthing Joel after that exchange
Pretty cool he got Alden's number at the end there, lot's of us have been trying to get ahold of it for years
it's
2:43 Haha, that creepy realization when your "friend," who's been in your home all day, doesn't even recognize your phone number. The plot thickens!
Ja I know 0 people’s phone numbers. I don’t even know my own.
This reminds me of my “friend” who constantly said negative things about his friends like they were boring, nerdy, condescending, know-it-alls, judgmental, etc. He was good at projecting this as everyone else’s problem, and yet he was the only person I knew who didn’t like something about everyone. He acted as if he was too good for everything and he had low tolerance for talking about things he hated (which was a loong list, I always felt like I was walking through a minefield trying to avoid them). Hanging out with him was great as long as you kept it to things he liked and we had to cater to him constantly. He was the type of friend that pretended it was tough love and insisted he just “tells it like it is.” Zerik would go through these cycles of idealizing friends to devaluing them, at his worst actively hating some of his “friends” only to eventually swing back around.
I was a fool for thinking I somehow wasn’t getting the same treatment. One day I hung out with a new friend of his (Andy) and realized Zerik was treating me like the Brian of this video. It was a surreal experience realizing he was trying to set me up to look like the asshole. This was just a few weeks ago and now that I’ve noticed the pattern I will never hang out with this “friend” again. I wasted so much time feeling like I had to keep him happy but life is too short to waste on negative and toxic people.
Andy, I know you’ll never see this, but give it a few years, you’ll be getting the same treatment. Hell, you already are. You don’t deserve to have Zerik shit all over everything you like. You have good taste in music and the things you enjoy (dnd, board games, “nerd shit”, etc) are great and valid. I hope you find friends that lift you up and make you feel loved and appreciated 100% of the time, not conditionally. 💜
Oh god, I've been around people like that, like they just wake up one morning and don't like someone because of xyz thing and then it snowballs into that person being the worst person ever and then they make everyone around them hate that person too because of their constant complaining... God, I've been in a whole GROUP of people like that.
Weak-minded people orbiting around an asshole because they perceive them as "strong". That's the behavior of those with low self-esteem and who don't know themselves. All it takes is ONE person to LOUDLY stand up for themselves and everyone else and dig in once the resistance starts and that a-hole loses power.
People with borderline personality disorder do that kind of stuff a lot. You're either a saint or the devil, there's no in-between. I had to cut off a friend for behavior like that.
yea sounds like bpd as someone already pointed out
It is crazy you pegged borderline personality disorder just from what I said, it's so true, my friend was a textbook case, he checked literally every box. One time he admitted he had been diagonised when he was younger (then refused to ever talk about it again, it become one of those things we couldn't talk about). I read several books about the best way to support people with bpd. It took a ridiculous amount of effort, and in the end, he treated me like the asshole anyway.
And, in those final moments, even HE realized he was the problem.
Your videos teach me about what it would be like to actually have a social life. Thank you.
A teacher ones told me you only need one good friend and a good wife, at the time I didn’t really get it but now kinda do 😅. Soo being social could gives a lot of unnecessary drama 🤷♂️.
That was tense. The moment you see Brian you know he's bad news.
There’s a darkness in those eyes that you really shouldn’t see in a man so young 😨
Joel's really nailing these real-life, relatable skits.
A friend like that talks behind your back in the same exact way.
I want to say I can relate to this, but then I also recognize the irony of telling strangers that I have a shitty friend. I could be the problem, you could be the problem. Everyone's probably problematic to someone. lmao
Yeah exactly 👍. But wat I think is most people are wolfs in sheep clothing just a couple aren’t. And most need to come to the realisation that you don’t need to expect to much of others like being supper loyal or always there for you ect ect. And start being your own friend first. Lost/given up a lot of friends but the moments we were friends I still remember as beautiful even after all the bs 🤷♂️.
Just remember. If you are worried if you are the bad person or not.
The bad people never care to ask themselves if what they are doing is bad. They just act.
Not always. Sometimes they're so caught up in their selfishness that they justify and make excuses to themselves, then act. It really doesn't give them points for being a better person. They'll often try to defend it by talking about how whoever they're wronging has done something worse so it's OK, or how they somehow deserve it, or some other BS.
Plenty of arrogant, selfish people will stop to examine their actions, and they'll generally come to the conclusion that they're doing the right thing, just like most other people would.
Honestly the more I've seen in life, the more I realize we are all sinners.
Both y'all are right, everyone does stupid junk. But hey, there are levels of sucking. We don't have to suck as much as other people lol
@@the.seagull.35 Isn't that like page 10 of the bible or something, not meant to be a huge revelation.
Joel and Brian did such a good job of acting like creepy serial killers. This happens to me all the time lol where I just realize my friends are actually cringe weirdos who go to concerts looking for human connection 😬😂
Finally someone gets this video.
yeah Brian was acting like a real douche the whole time
Yeah, lots of people just standing there facing the same direction, who does that??
What is cringe or weird about wanting human connection (and signing off to do so?)
I hope this is more new-age sarcasm that I never seem to grasp because I hope your friends stop being friends with you, if you're coming to us-strangers on the internet- and calling them weird and cringe for seeking the very thing that is in our nature. Whether we like to admit it or not.
@@jessicamiddleton4744 The commenter wants to talk bad about their friends but doesn't want to feel the shame or guilt of actually putting a name or face to them.
brian waits until the second encounter to unleash havoc
Joel just got Alden's Number, and posted video proof - what a legend.
He's the first one to prove its existence.
Damn
Love how uncomfortably close they are waiting to leave at 2:12 That perfect feeling of anxious to have some leave your house even though you just had a great time with them
I feel like I've seen this situation unfold I'm real life. Skits funny but it's oddly poetic and more deep than I expected.
Oh my god I used to be this person. I was afraid they would like the friend more than me this hits hard. I also felt like Brian in every situation that people are just allowing me to be around.
Patrick’s one of my all time favorite Joel actors
Loved that you guys were watching “Bowfinger!” Such a great movie!
100% noticed that immediately. such a great movie.
Now do one from the friend perspective. Through multiple experiences he slowly comes to the realisation that he's the problem. It'd be interesting to see see a Joel Haver take on this.
Man the shot on the couch was just awesome. Great perspectives. Always love the mixture or humor and art. Great acting all around too, of course.
Good thing I don’t have any friends
Is it your personality?
@@Jim-vq9yg well their whole mentality on life seems out of wack. Nothing like this has ever happened to me or anyone I know. It probably won't ever happen. To never have friends because youre worried something might be bad is a lacking life to lead. Or maybe they don't like people which is fine lol. Misanthropes are real and its not their fault. I assumed a lot in this comment but I think I used sound reasoning and I wasn't mean I dont think.
Seen this exact thing play out where an asshole brings a cool dude round to a house, and only the cool dude was kept around. When they were leaving he got took aside and told "come back, just not with that guy".
i love the way you portray the beauty in actual friendship as the quiet mundane moments. where brian and joel connecting are the simple times laughing on the couch together, or small talk about how your days have gone. i just love the grounded and authentic tone you have woven into the foundation of a lot of your work. good stuff! ❤️
I knew Joel and Brian would be fast friends as soon as I saw Joel's socks matched Brian's pants
PATRICK QUINN!! Great to see him again!
sometimes what's worse is when they act fine around their ''friend'' and don't overdo it with comments and meaningful glances in front of them but when the person leaves they start shit talking them unbelievably and you're just sitting there thinking that your friend is a huge a hole
I had a friend like that growing up. Even know nobody talks to him anymore, I hear that he still thinks he's right. Toxic people usually grow up in a toxic family. We didn't share any interest but instead faked like he enjoyed what we did..
The storytelling is so good. Love the subtle glances during the tv scene.
God that awkward shot of you in front of the stair well just stuck with me for some reason
It's not me, it's you.
patrick is such a good actor, he relaxes into his roles so well.
honestly love when you guys do skits, Patricks a freakin awesome actor
Man, I am glad I saw this. I was going to be friends with Patrick Quinn, but now I have seen this I am going to give his birthday present to an orphan or a kid or whatever. You are a legend for humoring him like this.
I just want to say when I initially subscribed for the animated skits I thought it was the only thing I’d be subbed for, but after you mentioned ages back that you’re more proud of your IRL skits I decided to check em out.
It’s been a long while since the adventure awaits skits and honestly Joel you ALWAYS make me laugh in every single one of your videos, keep it up man!
Awesome to see Patrick again. He's got real screen presence.
What a great concept!
This was genuinely good! More than like a skit, it felt like a low budget slice of life short film. Super cool, keep it up!
I can't believe Joel got Alden's Number.
Damn why are Joel's videos AND comment sections such peaceful, funny and fun bits for retrospection? Such a chill and lovely channel
3:05 damn my boy has bars
Maybe I just haven’t noticed it with your other videos but man you had fun with the shots in this sketch! The lighting was great and the placements of your shots were really well-framed.
3:11 his face
love the direction of this, deeper and less silly but just as funny! beautiful film angles as well. these are getting super pro.
I really like the shot of Joel standing there at the bottom of the stairs at 1:16, and I just cannot articulate why. It vexes me so.
Patrick's back!
Damn, this made me question myself if I'm like that to my friends...
ur probably fine! who knows tho
Rule of thumb, if you wouldn't say something in front of a person, don't say it behind their back.
If you have to ask yourself that question, chances are you are like that.
@@Auso572 yeah. probably, I feel sorry for that
You're allowed to have gripes and get irritated, and you're allowed to blow off steam and complain. As long as you don't just hate someone for no reason and then use that to prejudice your other friends towards them, you're fine. Everyone dislikes someone for no reason sometime. It happens. If you really just cannot help but tell your friends how you feel about this person, just be like "I dunno I just don't vibe with them and I don't know why. Maybe you'll connect better with them".
when you dont talk and take a step back people start to show their true self.
It's the very straightforward sketches that make the twist one's even better. Well done
Brian seems like an ok guy.
Man, I know the character is a bit over the top but I've known people who puts down others and those others are just so chill and cool to hang out. Fuck those toxic ppl.
Solid human dialogue. “Have you ever gone to a concert?”
This is amazingly done! I am thankful to be a witness to this amazing piece of art. May you be blessed 🙏
2:10 you can tell bryan and joel are gonna be friends because his pants match his socks 💙💜
this is what Narcissitic Personality Disorder looks like. I had a step mom that was like this that i was around from age 5 to 25. she constantly sh*t on her own family. someone was always doing something wrong in her eyes. I remember I never felt I could do anything right. She made me insecure about just using the bathroom at times and making it smell too bad (like we could do anything about). No matter what you did for her, you'd end up incurring her wrath. I had to listen to her many times talk badly about family members on my dad's side and then smile in their face while they were there and then would comment badky about them when they left. which was a horrible awkward feeling like joel expresses in this short.
She was a vindictive hateful person. And you wanna know the best part?? she could be super charming and nice when you're not on her bad side. the thing is her niceness towards me would sometimes be used to discreetly harm someone else psychologically. she did it to try hit me mentally too which made me more cognisent of it at times. There was a constant nagging feeling throughout my life that something wasnt right about how she would act and even her own family and my dad felt similarly
I'm 29 now and I'm jacked up. I took too long to figure out what I was dealing with and still figuring out how specifically it effected me.
To me this is like a PSA to not contend with people like this for real. People throw around "Narcissist" willy nilly but everyone displays a narcissistic trait at some point. NPD is an illness that is very patternistic and defineable. Most people like this have wounds theyre never going to heal and it really is a fruitless endeavor to try reasoning with them. My dad tried talking to my step mom at one point about therapy or something to that effect and she went off the deep end and it did not go over well. she percieved it as him calling her crazy.
She is approaching her 80s now and has dementia.
Anyway this was a great short! Joel you have such a way with presenting real situations in a funny way.
Hey dude, don't say you took too long to figure it out! Sure it sucks that you didn't realize sooner, but you can't really blame yourself for not knowing until you did, that's just how life goes sometimes. No point wasting time ragging on yourself for not realizing sooner when you can just put that energy towards making your future better! I suggest trying therapy if you can afford it (and/or try looking up techniques and stuff if you can't afford it). Anyway, best of luck in recovering and moving forward with your life and I wish you a happy, healthy future! :)
Youre throwing "NPD" around all willy nilly and refuse to see the irony.
@@LaVerdad65 I don't think he's throwing "willy nilly" anything.. xD That being said, being around people with NPD or BPD is hell, and you often don't realise it until much later. Judging by his story, I think either might very well fit his step mom's personality. But then again, you and I don't really know all the context now do we? Kinda strange how u willy nilly throw around that judgment. ;)
Oh hey, we have the same step mom it would appear.
I remember her getting a new couch and a week later were at American Furniture Warehouse and she wants a new table. She didn't work and my dad said "We just got new furniture last week" and guess what she does ? She starts screaming, yelling and crying saying my dad is awful and doesn't love her. We left with a new table.
She would treat me like shit, ground me for no reason and not pay me my allowance so my mom would send me money and she would steal it. She screwed with me mentally and even choked me on a couple occasions when I said no to her.
Everybody thought she was so great... Until they really got to know her and she would stab them in the back.
@@LaVerdad65they were saying it because it reminded them of a personal life experience. They weren't throwing it around willy nilly, it showed behavior akin to someone with that disorder
Kev is such as sweetheart. Who wouldn't wanna hangout with him?
Thank you for bringing light to this problem! 🙏
You can actually say you know Alden's number!
This gave me such a knot in my stomach! 🤣🤣🤣 Expertly done! As always!
Relatable. So many times in my life people talking down about someone just to realize that people are making assumptions about that person. I get to know the guy/gal and they end up being legit cool. Makes me think. People do be, sometimes.
This perfectly captures that feeling, wow
Brian and Joel seem to be the perfect awkward friends who hang out and just talk about everything and nothing. Love it