As a young woman, I really appreciate all the Biblical wisdom you provide on topics that are so relevant and important. It is a shame that so many in our day and age have no understanding of what a "Covenant" truly is, and instead have replaced this with fleeting emotions that have no responsibility attached. May the Lord open the eyes of many to see His order, His design, and His desire since the beginning of time.
Dear Uncle Doug, Praise God for your talent/ability to explain the complex in accessable language, ie; the word picture of building on afghans and throw pillows as a foundation. You sir, are a blessing. Thank you
As single, young lady your videos have been a a tremendous blessing to me!! I’ve learned a lot from you and from the other content I’ve listened to on Canon+. I hope you make a book out of the Dear Darla series as you did with Dear Dawson.
Marriage is not a simple contract between two people, it is so much more...it is not only a covenant before God, it is a covenant established BY God. So simple, but so profound in its depth, implications, and consequences. Maranatha!
Loved the precision and honesty especially about the concrete foundation, I needed to hear that! Also combining resources is a form of intimacy and trust it has "oneness" to it. How else you going to buy a home? How else are you going to live in harmony? Would you want the annoyance of always trying to split everything 50/50? Where is the spirit of sharing? This reality is only scary because we humans tend to hold our promises lightly. May God help us keep our promises!
Thanks, Doug. In trying to rebut the feminists, I had thought about it as if marriage is not a financial transaction in exchange for sex, and there may be a component of that, but this helps to not be overly shy about admitting a sexual and financial transactional aspect to marriage
Oh boy, I wonder how many older people are looking back and realize that their foundation that suppose to be poured out by their parents, grandparents, pastors or some figure in their local authority that suppose to do the job right, didn't do that job and that little child was raised by the strangers. I clearly remember when I barely learned to read in school and I was pointing out in scriptures the difference between what the scriptures says and what we were actually doing. I was immediately shut up by everyone around me multiple times. Yes I was forced to go in a way that was not good. That's what people do in authority today too. Instead of doing God's will, they force everyone around them to do their OWN will. Look around, from the two people maried all the way to the top G7 leaders and everyone in between, they are doing THEIR OWN WILL. And here comes the BIGGEST problem: if you as a living human being (both, male or female), if you are not married to God you are doing your OWN will. Yes that's right, most people think they do God's will when they marry the person of THEIR OWN CHOICE. Obviously people don't realize that each human is a living temple: some are God's temple, and some are devil's temple. If you marry devil's temple, what makes you think that all hell is not going to break lose??? The first priority for anyone considering marriage should be to gather evidence of the other person to see if the other person is indeed looking to put in practice GOD'S WILL. Just keep in mind that a man can poorly do a woman's job, and also a woman can poorly do a man's job and also don't forget that some jobs can only be done by men and some jobs are only done by women and they can't be switched around between a man and woman (the biology is just not there). Considering marriage? Consider how you can support the person you marry to accomplish God's WILL. Then everyone can focus on the SAME task: doing GOD'S WILL.
It's interesting statement sex with a prostitute isn't quite nearly enough sex or enough money ? But I'm willing to bet there's a lot of people in marriages that would argue that point ? At least statistically it's about 25% of marriages. And as is the modern world goes, I think marriage works out much better for the men than it does for the woman.
Marriage works out better for men, and divorce works out better for women, in the modern world. Have you head of divorce rape? Anyway the devil likes to pit men against women so watch out for that sort of thing.
@@Roescoe I don't know what , divorce rape is ? but it doesn't sound good. But I do believe that considering more women file for divorce then men , and usually the only reason a man files for divorce is because his having sex with some other woman other than his wife
No fault divorce benefits women. That's why women bring divorce proceedings far more often than men. Because women benefit FAR more from the legal process of divorce than do men
@@jacksonstenhouse4429 Questions is why are wives divorcing there husband ? Believe me ,there's really isn't a benefit for women to divorce , ending a marriage can launch you into painful feelings of failure, disappointment, stress, and regret, generally when people are ( women ) contemplating divorce things are pretty bad by then, usually there's Lack of communication, lack of empathy, lack of feeling supported by your spouse, and lack of emotional growth, or (infidelity from there partner ) generally distress women more than men, making women more likely to file for divorce than men.
@@sitka49 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you fvkholes are selfish, stupid garbage. Nothing will ever be your fault or your responsibility. Thankfully, more and more men seem to be realizing it.
I agree with Mr. Wilson, but I would like to add that if a couple doesn't have children and are considering divorce, they should not be having sex (temporarily) until they can deal with their marital problems. I don't think it is wise to continue having sex with someone you don't want to be with (or doesn't want to be with you) and possibly bring children into that situation. Seek help, have open, and heartfelt communication about the issues, and remember why you got married in the first place.
"A husband should love his wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it." Ephesians 5:25 Think of how much Jesus loves the church, loves you. Married couples should have the same self sacrificing love for one another. It is extremely sad that much of christendom and, indeed, true children of God have adopted the world's attitude towards marriage, i.e. nothing more than fleeting emotions or a cold transaction of sex for security. This attitude is a twisted, freakish thing that God hates.
Love has nothing to do with you. Love is selfless and sacrificial. Love serves. "Love YHWY first and foremost" Then "Love your neighbor like yourself" But understand... "Deny yourself and pick up your cross" Because "He who loves the world has no love of the Father YHWY" And "He who loves his life will lose it, but he who loses his life for my sake (Jesus Christ) will gain eternal life." Do that first, and you'll probably have a great marriage... You gotta start at the beginning to build a solid foundational understanding.
As a young woman, I really appreciate all the Biblical wisdom you provide on topics that are so relevant and important. It is a shame that so many in our day and age have no understanding of what a "Covenant" truly is, and instead have replaced this with fleeting emotions that have no responsibility attached. May the Lord open the eyes of many to see His order, His design, and His desire since the beginning of time.
Amen sister.
Amen
The thought about the '...Nebulous feeling of love...' and how it cannot be a foundation. Spot on 👍
Dear Uncle Doug,
Praise God for your talent/ability to explain the complex in accessable language, ie; the word picture of building on afghans and throw pillows as a foundation. You sir, are a blessing.
Thank you
As single, young lady your videos have been a a tremendous blessing to me!! I’ve learned a lot from you and from the other content I’ve listened to on Canon+. I hope you make a book out of the Dear Darla series as you did with Dear Dawson.
Dear Darlawson
@@cosmictreason2242 a combination of both!!!
Marriage is not a simple contract between two people, it is so much more...it is not only a covenant before God, it is a covenant established BY God. So simple, but so profound in its depth, implications, and consequences. Maranatha!
Great video! I absolutely love the analogy of the convenant being concrete and emotions/sentiment being cushions.
The image of house studs on pillows had me: 🤣🤣
As always, thanks Uncle Doug. :)
Well, WOW!!! Really enjoyed this!! Glad God has kept me single long enough to begin understanding this!! Thank you so much Doug!!
God bless you
Loved the precision and honesty especially about the concrete foundation, I needed to hear that! Also combining resources is a form of intimacy and trust it has "oneness" to it. How else you going to buy a home? How else are you going to live in harmony? Would you want the annoyance of always trying to split everything 50/50? Where is the spirit of sharing? This reality is only scary because we humans tend to hold our promises lightly. May God help us keep our promises!
Thanks, Doug. In trying to rebut the feminists, I had thought about it as if marriage is not a financial transaction in exchange for sex, and there may be a component of that, but this helps to not be overly shy about admitting a sexual and financial transactional aspect to marriage
Another ball out of the park.
Oh boy,
I wonder how many older people are looking back and realize that their foundation that suppose to be poured out by their parents, grandparents, pastors or some figure in their local authority that suppose to do the job right, didn't do that job and that little child was raised by the strangers.
I clearly remember when I barely learned to read in school and I was pointing out in scriptures the difference between what the scriptures says and what we were actually doing.
I was immediately shut up by everyone around me multiple times.
Yes I was forced to go in a way that was not good.
That's what people do in authority today too.
Instead of doing God's will, they force everyone around them to do their OWN will.
Look around, from the two people maried all the way to the top G7 leaders and everyone in between, they are doing THEIR OWN WILL.
And here comes the BIGGEST problem: if you as a living human being (both, male or female), if you are not married to God you are doing your OWN will.
Yes that's right, most people think they do God's will when they marry the person of THEIR OWN CHOICE.
Obviously people don't realize that each human is a living temple: some are God's temple, and some are devil's temple.
If you marry devil's temple, what makes you think that all hell is not going to break lose???
The first priority for anyone considering marriage should be to gather evidence of the other person to see if the other person is indeed looking to put in practice GOD'S WILL.
Just keep in mind that a man can poorly do a woman's job, and also a woman can poorly do a man's job and also don't forget that some jobs can only be done by men and some jobs are only done by women and they can't be switched around between a man and woman (the biology is just not there).
Considering marriage?
Consider how you can support the person you marry to accomplish God's WILL.
Then everyone can focus on the SAME task: doing GOD'S WILL.
Well said, I appreciate the words of wisdom.
@@KevinKake_
Don't forget to share the goodness with others.
They will appreciate it too.
Amen
where did the sweater vest go. Im worried now.
Summer
The book of Nehemiah shows how contracts work. In my opinion. If couples took contracts seriously I think divorce would not be an option
And if contract is broken? Divorce is indeed an option, a Biblical one
@@fadedspade2131 it’s very difficult to break a marriage covenant. The Bible basically says adultery and death are the only ways.
@@fujikokun don't forget abuse!!
@@fadedspade2131 what verse says abuse is a permissible reason for divorice
@@PurePuritan based on your question, can I assume your position is that divorce is not permissible for abuse of any kind?
I like that concrete foundation analogy
Wow
This is The Magnum Opus
Haha for real!
🎶 music to my ears 🎶
It's interesting statement sex with a prostitute isn't quite nearly enough sex or enough money ? But I'm willing to bet there's a lot of people in marriages that would argue that point ? At least statistically it's about 25% of marriages. And as is the modern world goes, I think marriage works out much better for the men than it does for the woman.
Marriage works out better for men, and divorce works out better for women, in the modern world. Have you head of divorce rape? Anyway the devil likes to pit men against women so watch out for that sort of thing.
@@Roescoe I don't know what , divorce rape is ? but it doesn't sound good.
But I do believe that considering more women file for divorce then men , and usually the only reason a man files for divorce is because his having sex with some other woman other than his wife
No fault divorce benefits women. That's why women bring divorce proceedings far more often than men. Because women benefit FAR more from the legal process of divorce than do men
@@jacksonstenhouse4429 Questions is why are wives divorcing there husband ?
Believe me ,there's really isn't a benefit for women to divorce , ending a marriage can launch you into painful feelings of failure, disappointment, stress, and regret, generally when people are ( women ) contemplating divorce things are pretty bad by then, usually there's Lack of communication, lack of empathy, lack of feeling supported by your spouse, and lack of emotional growth, or (infidelity from there partner ) generally distress women more than men, making women more likely to file for divorce than men.
@@sitka49 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you fvkholes are selfish, stupid garbage. Nothing will ever be your fault or your responsibility. Thankfully, more and more men seem to be realizing it.
I agree with Mr. Wilson, but I would like to add that if a couple doesn't have children and are considering divorce, they should not be having sex (temporarily) until they can deal with their marital problems. I don't think it is wise to continue having sex with someone you don't want to be with (or doesn't want to be with you) and possibly bring children into that situation. Seek help, have open, and heartfelt communication about the issues, and remember why you got married in the first place.
"A husband should love his wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it." Ephesians 5:25
Think of how much Jesus loves the church, loves you. Married couples should have the same self sacrificing love for one another. It is extremely sad that much of christendom and, indeed, true children of God have adopted the world's attitude towards marriage, i.e. nothing more than fleeting emotions or a cold transaction of sex for security. This attitude is a twisted, freakish thing that God hates.
Love has nothing to do with you. Love is selfless and sacrificial. Love serves.
"Love YHWY first and foremost"
Then
"Love your neighbor like yourself"
But understand...
"Deny yourself and pick up your cross"
Because
"He who loves the world has no love of the Father YHWY"
And
"He who loves his life will lose it, but he who loses his life for my sake (Jesus Christ) will gain eternal life."
Do that first, and you'll probably have a great marriage... You gotta start at the beginning to build a solid foundational understanding.
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Hey Uncle Doug, what’s wrong with your voice? Getting over sumthin?