Women who are put off by a man who wants to protect, provide & lead are as disordered as men who don’t want to do those things. Such a loss for both. What an awful con our worldly culture has played on our children. Lord, PLEASE bring our children back into submission to you, by whatever means necessary🙏
Men were made to lead. All men understand it, and all women understand it even more. But many men and women CHOOSE to deny it. Lord may we all turn to you again.
How do you square this with all the nations that are lead by women? Currently and historically there’ve been many female world-leaders? Elected by both men and women to lead all different kinds of nations!
I am angry. When I was a young Christian fresh out of paganism ( non Christian Australian background) I believed my older maturer Christian leaders. And they said that it was wrong to have expectations about future spouse other than that they were Christian. And that’s what happened in my marriage. Still married but it is uncooperative. I feel lied too by my former leaders, who thought they knew best.
Let me encourage you brother. My wife of 29 years is many times uncooperative. Many times the problem isn’t you. It’s an issue between your wife and the Lord. You play your game. Your responsibility is to love your wife above yourself like Christ loved the church. In his wisdom, you are her man. Resist the bitter root.
Bro I’m sorry to hear that. I’ve felt lied to and mistreated by my Christian leaders many times, but never with consequences like that. I feel for you. I wish I could bear this burden with you in some way. Christ calls us to deny ourselves and follow Him. He promises us his grace which means 1) he forgives our sins, of which we are just as guilty as anybody; your wife and your old teachers included, and 2) a new heart with new desires - He can and does actually make you want to forgive and serve people who have wronged you and you will genuinely want to do it!🙏 no greater love is there than this. Jesus created all of our desires and the things that fulfil them. He will give you the strength to persevere to the end and he will tell you “well done good and faithful servant!” Eternity in His Glory awaits us brother!!!
Another great video, and I deeply appreciate your statement with regards to not putting my wife down by the use of self-deprecating humor. After all, praise the Lord, she is a remarkable woman!
I think Doug read the feedback on the "manosphere" video. Feels good. I don't 100% agree with your advice here, especially the notion that hypergamy is ever acceptable. Women make themselves so unhappy by being too picky, it should not be encouraged. Women should date up when they are given the opportunity, but they shouldn't ever feel entitled to it. But the bit about love vs. respect was spot-on. We want women's love, but we don't need it the way we need respect. Anyways, it feels good to see that there's one Christian minister trying, albeit with some lingering misguided ideas, to actually do something about the plight of young men, the plight of marriage, the plight of family- which is ultimately the root cause of all of our social problems. You're the only one. If you keep listening to the people who are hurting, you'll do much more than just give a few people good advice. Misguided ideas: the notion the young woman has a good relationship with her father. Ha! Find me one of those, please! So many men and women these days had no father, or had poor fathers. They need help. They need a rope to climb up. Someone has to rescue them. So it isn't always practical to tell Christians to look for godly partners... Because we're all so broken. What we need is a way to pair broken people who are not unequally yoked, and shepherd them into God-honoring relationships that build them up. The man who didn't have the father needs a father in the church. He learns responsibility. The woman who didn't have a father needs the same - she should learn to respect herself. It's our responsibility to train them up into godliness. But it takes so long to repair the damage of the broken homes we grew up in. It takes a lot of work to repair the damage pornography has done. If people wait until they're "ready" I don't think they'll be young enough to have children by the time they finally do marry. There has to be a middle ground for people who have a lifetime of sin behind them, who have inherited the consequences of their parent's sin, who can't rise to the standard right away. They're gonna look for love. We have to be there for them, so they don't give up on God's way and choose Tinder instead. And if you make the burden heavy, they'll choose Tinder instead. So I think your advice is very good if it is seen as an ideal. But it has to be matched to the level of the individual believer. It isn't always wise to be open to a relationship, of course, but the Bible never once tells us that marriage is only for mature believers. Rather, it tells us how to be mature believers whatever situation we are in. It is the church's responsibility to help lead people to that ideal, whatever circumstances there may be at the time. I think there's a very great opportunity to love and build up the body of Christ in this way. If we as Christians can build healthy families, then we will also become a blessing to the world around us.
Yeah, basically, it boils down to: can she submit to him? Guy should be asking himself that about the girl, and the girl should be asking herself that about the guy. If, for whatever reason, she cannot bring herself to *trust, respect, and obey* the man she's considering, then she's not ready for marriage. If it's impossible for her to grow out of any immaturity that could be the cause of this, and it simply persists as a permanent condition, then the two are not a match.
Respectfully disagree... with all appropriate caveats. For the vast majority of human history, the vast majority of men and women, had very little choice of whom they would marry; and the New Testament is written to those people whose spouses were chosen by their parents (often when they were very young, too young to have any decision making ability at all), often for financial, rather than personality reasons. Yet, every promise is held out to these people, that they can have a successful, rewarding marriage that glorifies God. Even after that time, most people had a very limited choice of potential marriage partners being restricted to the small number of eligible who lived within a few miles of them. Yet, they made good marriages, raised godly children and glorified God. Granted the Puritans asked their children about possible matches that THEY had searched out "Do you think you could love this person?" but even so, the choice was limited to the best available. However, everything else, especially the emphasis on honor and love are well taken and appreciated. But any two Christians committed to glorifying God can make a marriage work; it's just that some are going to be much harder than others. Gnat straining, Camel swallowing mode off...
I fell in love with my fiancé because he has very strong values, honesty, hardworking, dependable and puts family first and I am blessed with him and believe with all my heart that god brought him to me because he knew I would need someone to lean on
Every. Single. Christian single woman, young and old should be required to watch this video. A godly man does not necessarily mean they are the ones we should be considering for marriage. Marry someone you can respect. Thank you Doug!!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼
Uncle Doug... we know that the situation is far graver than that. These women have priced themselves out to only the highest bidders. And the auction speeds up quite quickly in almost all cases. Most of the guys have already been left behind when it comes to dating, so this has to be backtracked to courtship. And let's pray that this can be reversed by the Lord before the devastating end results REALLY arrive.
No one’s been left behind, that’s just red pill rage propaganda, trying to self validate through a self fulfilling prophecy. Good women don’t price themselves out of the market, so why do you care about being rejected by bad women unless that’s who your trying to go for? That’s just silly
Rollo like many others in his sphere get certain observations right, but others wrong, and the advice they give is almost always in error, as a result of not coming from a Biblical worldview.
@@cosmictreason2242 Yet it must be asked why Christian men have had to depend on the Rollos to clarify what is going on rather than being rightly directed by their Christian leaders.
@@JonJaeden that said, I agree that local pastors should wise up to this as well, but to that end, they need encouragement, because they too don’t necessarily understand masculinity, at least in a way they can articulate
@@cosmictreason2242 no you’re right. He’s only studied the sexual social dynamic for most of his life and wrote 5 books on the topic. What could he possibly know about human nature.
@@BrokTheLoneWolf Hi, it seems you're new to Christianity. If you're saved, you'll eventually learn that the works of the church are superior to the christless culture in every respect. And if you're not saved, that explains your confusion.
You’re attempting to correct a LITERAL scholar and philosopher who can fluently speak ancient Latin and ancient Greek - the origin of the English language - and whose every word is chosen with precision. Even I, an atheistic book writer with an undergraduate degree in English literature will give Wilson the benefit of the doubt. Given his pronunciation, it is quite likely our culture that has screwed up the pronunciation, not him. Maybe he’s wrong. But his pronunciation isn’t from error. It’s deliberate. A smart man would recognize the education of the speaker, and at the very least wonder whether a scholar of philosophy and theology has a good reason. You’re not a smart man. You heard something that’s discordant with your experience and, ignoring the speaker’s erudition and SUBSTANTIAL education, assumed he gaffed. Like a child who hears a parent say something all the children disagree with…and assumes the parent is ignorant. You really think it’s the scholar who successfully founded two schools who doesn’t care to understand pronunciation?
Do you pronounce it "high-purr" ? Because Doug is using the more ancient way of pronunciation. Yes, it is colloquially common to change the pronunciation of the first syllable when we extend the word, but that is not actually how the ancients did in their original languages. So Doug, while unusual in this behavior, is not technically wrong.
Titus 2:4 ("...so train the young women to love their husbands...") doe snot teach women are to love their husbands? That is a bizarre understanding of philandros in this verse. Does Wilson have any scholarly support for such an interpretation?
With all due respect to Pastor Dpug for all the great content he freely shares, this video is quite off base. There is no Biblical command to respect everyone! The word respect is used exclusively with regard to positions of power and authority in scripture (you can do a word study to confirm this). Men should not respect their wives. People should not respect "everyone". This is equivalent to saying everyone can do what is right in their own eyes.
Michael, you're quibbling about the usage of a term whose translation has shifted semantically since the first time it was written. Respect simply does not, in English, carry with it any exclusive sense of only being rendered to authorities.
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Women who are put off by a man who wants to protect, provide & lead are as disordered as men who don’t want to do those things.
Such a loss for both.
What an awful con our worldly culture has played on our children.
Lord, PLEASE bring our children back into submission to you, by whatever means necessary🙏
Men were made to lead. All men understand it, and all women understand it even more. But many men and women CHOOSE to deny it. Lord may we all turn to you again.
If men were made the lead, then women were made to follow. The second part gets ignored a lot more often than the first.
How do you square this with all the nations that are lead by women? Currently and historically there’ve been many female world-leaders? Elected by both men and women to lead all different kinds of nations!
Young women also confuse pity for love. They're not the same.
I am angry. When I was a young Christian fresh out of paganism ( non Christian Australian background) I believed my older maturer Christian leaders. And they said that it was wrong to have expectations about future spouse other than that they were Christian. And that’s what happened in my marriage. Still married but it is uncooperative. I feel lied too by my former leaders, who thought they knew best.
Let me encourage you brother. My wife of 29 years is many times uncooperative. Many times the problem isn’t you. It’s an issue between your wife and the Lord. You play your game. Your responsibility is to love your wife above yourself like Christ loved the church. In his wisdom, you are her man. Resist the bitter root.
Bro I’m sorry to hear that. I’ve felt lied to and mistreated by my Christian leaders many times, but never with consequences like that. I feel for you. I wish I could bear this burden with you in some way.
Christ calls us to deny ourselves and follow Him. He promises us his grace which means 1) he forgives our sins, of which we are just as guilty as anybody; your wife and your old teachers included, and 2) a new heart with new desires - He can and does actually make you want to forgive and serve people who have wronged you and you will genuinely want to do it!🙏 no greater love is there than this. Jesus created all of our desires and the things that fulfil them. He will give you the strength to persevere to the end and he will tell you “well done good and faithful servant!” Eternity in His Glory awaits us brother!!!
Another great video, and I deeply appreciate your statement with regards to not putting my wife down by the use of self-deprecating humor. After all, praise the Lord, she is a remarkable woman!
6:14 Douglas has somehow surpassed the one rule of comedy; explaining the joke shouldn't be that funny. 😂
Dear Doug,
it's hy-perr-gamy
The accents fall in the same spots as polygamy.
Your uncle, Daniel
*
This is another gif or gif situation. I pronounce it hyper-gamy.
@@ReformedSooner24 will it be Gif or Jif?
I'm a Skippy fan myself... ;)
I think Doug read the feedback on the "manosphere" video. Feels good. I don't 100% agree with your advice here, especially the notion that hypergamy is ever acceptable. Women make themselves so unhappy by being too picky, it should not be encouraged. Women should date up when they are given the opportunity, but they shouldn't ever feel entitled to it. But the bit about love vs. respect was spot-on. We want women's love, but we don't need it the way we need respect.
Anyways, it feels good to see that there's one Christian minister trying, albeit with some lingering misguided ideas, to actually do something about the plight of young men, the plight of marriage, the plight of family- which is ultimately the root cause of all of our social problems. You're the only one. If you keep listening to the people who are hurting, you'll do much more than just give a few people good advice.
Misguided ideas: the notion the young woman has a good relationship with her father. Ha! Find me one of those, please!
So many men and women these days had no father, or had poor fathers. They need help. They need a rope to climb up. Someone has to rescue them. So it isn't always practical to tell Christians to look for godly partners... Because we're all so broken. What we need is a way to pair broken people who are not unequally yoked, and shepherd them into God-honoring relationships that build them up. The man who didn't have the father needs a father in the church. He learns responsibility. The woman who didn't have a father needs the same - she should learn to respect herself. It's our responsibility to train them up into godliness. But it takes so long to repair the damage of the broken homes we grew up in. It takes a lot of work to repair the damage pornography has done. If people wait until they're "ready" I don't think they'll be young enough to have children by the time they finally do marry. There has to be a middle ground for people who have a lifetime of sin behind them, who have inherited the consequences of their parent's sin, who can't rise to the standard right away. They're gonna look for love. We have to be there for them, so they don't give up on God's way and choose Tinder instead. And if you make the burden heavy, they'll choose Tinder instead. So I think your advice is very good if it is seen as an ideal. But it has to be matched to the level of the individual believer. It isn't always wise to be open to a relationship, of course, but the Bible never once tells us that marriage is only for mature believers. Rather, it tells us how to be mature believers whatever situation we are in. It is the church's responsibility to help lead people to that ideal, whatever circumstances there may be at the time.
I think there's a very great opportunity to love and build up the body of Christ in this way. If we as Christians can build healthy families, then we will also become a blessing to the world around us.
Great point about the self deprecating humor actually being insulting to the spouse.
Yeah, basically, it boils down to: can she submit to him? Guy should be asking himself that about the girl, and the girl should be asking herself that about the guy. If, for whatever reason, she cannot bring herself to *trust, respect, and obey* the man she's considering, then she's not ready for marriage. If it's impossible for her to grow out of any immaturity that could be the cause of this, and it simply persists as a permanent condition, then the two are not a match.
There are no women that submit… they don’t even like men… much less respect or love in any way. At best, you can be friends with a woman.
Respectfully disagree... with all appropriate caveats. For the vast majority of human history, the vast majority of men and women, had very little choice of whom they would marry; and the New Testament is written to those people whose spouses were chosen by their parents (often when they were very young, too young to have any decision making ability at all), often for financial, rather than personality reasons. Yet, every promise is held out to these people, that they can have a successful, rewarding marriage that glorifies God. Even after that time, most people had a very limited choice of potential marriage partners being restricted to the small number of eligible who lived within a few miles of them. Yet, they made good marriages, raised godly children and glorified God. Granted the Puritans asked their children about possible matches that THEY had searched out "Do you think you could love this person?" but even so, the choice was limited to the best available. However, everything else, especially the emphasis on honor and love are well taken and appreciated. But any two Christians committed to glorifying God can make a marriage work; it's just that some are going to be much harder than others. Gnat straining, Camel swallowing mode off...
I fell in love with my fiancé because he has very strong values, honesty, hardworking, dependable and puts family first and I am blessed with him and believe with all my heart that god brought him to me because he knew I would need someone to lean on
Every. Single. Christian single woman, young and old should be required to watch this video. A godly man does not necessarily mean they are the ones we should be considering for marriage. Marry someone you can respect. Thank you Doug!!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼
Does his pickup truck have the horsepower to pull your trailer
Sensible chuckle dot jay pee gee
Epic thumbnail!
Uncle Doug... we know that the situation is far graver than that.
These women have priced themselves out to only the highest bidders. And the auction speeds up quite quickly in almost all cases.
Most of the guys have already been left behind when it comes to dating, so this has to be backtracked to courtship. And let's pray that this can be reversed by the Lord before the devastating end results REALLY arrive.
Cat auntpocalypse
No one’s been left behind, that’s just red pill rage propaganda, trying to self validate through a self fulfilling prophecy. Good women don’t price themselves out of the market, so why do you care about being rejected by bad women unless that’s who your trying to go for? That’s just silly
going to the greek to define respect made me roll my eyes
"Shit like this brings the movement down
Everyone's a feminist until there is a spider around"
-Bo Burnham
Preach!🔥
I know he disregarded the red pill on the very first episode, but much of what he says I've seen before on Rollo Tomassi
Rollo like many others in his sphere get certain observations right, but others wrong, and the advice they give is almost always in error, as a result of not coming from a Biblical worldview.
@@cosmictreason2242 Yet it must be asked why Christian men have had to depend on the Rollos to clarify what is going on rather than being rightly directed by their Christian leaders.
@@JonJaeden that said, I agree that local pastors should wise up to this as well, but to that end, they need encouragement, because they too don’t necessarily understand masculinity, at least in a way they can articulate
redpill + christian truth, been waiting for this.
I’d be interested in a discussion with Rollo Tomissi and you. It seems like you might have read some of his content.
He doesn’t have anything to offer
@@cosmictreason2242 no you’re right. He’s only studied the sexual social dynamic for most of his life and wrote 5 books on the topic. What could he possibly know about human nature.
@@BrokTheLoneWolf Hi, it seems you're new to Christianity. If you're saved, you'll eventually learn that the works of the church are superior to the christless culture in every respect. And if you're not saved, that explains your confusion.
Extra points for the Eagles reference!
Hypergamy is:
hi-per-guh-me
Not:
hyper-gammie
And hypergamous is:
hi-per-guh-miss
Not:
hyper-gammis
Love you, Doug :)
Yeah, it was one time I felt smarter than Wilson.
You’re attempting to correct a LITERAL scholar and philosopher who can fluently speak ancient Latin and ancient Greek - the origin of the English language - and whose every word is chosen with precision. Even I, an atheistic book writer with an undergraduate degree in English literature will give Wilson the benefit of the doubt. Given his pronunciation, it is quite likely our culture that has screwed up the pronunciation, not him.
Maybe he’s wrong. But his pronunciation isn’t from error. It’s deliberate. A smart man would recognize the education of the speaker, and at the very least wonder whether a scholar of philosophy and theology has a good reason. You’re not a smart man. You heard something that’s discordant with your experience and, ignoring the speaker’s erudition and SUBSTANTIAL education, assumed he gaffed. Like a child who hears a parent say something all the children disagree with…and assumes the parent is ignorant. You really think it’s the scholar who successfully founded two schools who doesn’t care to understand pronunciation?
Do you pronounce it "high-purr" ? Because Doug is using the more ancient way of pronunciation. Yes, it is colloquially common to change the pronunciation of the first syllable when we extend the word, but that is not actually how the ancients did in their original languages. So Doug, while unusual in this behavior, is not technically wrong.
@@winstonsol8713 "An atheistic book writer with an undergraduate degree in English literature" What a crock. Thanks for the laugh.
@@winstonsol8713 I’m sure he isn’t offended
A big number of women simply do not want a family. They want to ride the carousel and have their HR jobs.
Titus 2:4 ("...so train the young women to love their husbands...") doe snot teach women are to love their husbands?
That is a bizarre understanding of philandros in this verse. Does Wilson have any scholarly support for such an interpretation?
For the algorithm
Bill Baehr incoming in 3...2...1...
With all due respect to Pastor Dpug for all the great content he freely shares, this video is quite off base. There is no Biblical command to respect everyone! The word respect is used exclusively with regard to positions of power and authority in scripture (you can do a word study to confirm this). Men should not respect their wives. People should not respect "everyone". This is equivalent to saying everyone can do what is right in their own eyes.
Michael, you're quibbling about the usage of a term whose translation has shifted semantically since the first time it was written. Respect simply does not, in English, carry with it any exclusive sense of only being rendered to authorities.
Men should not respect their wives!?!
@@ellisonbrotherssports6608 his argument is that respect is only possible to give to someone in authority. Please read my earlier comment next
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