I have experienced Black women coming at me fast and furious. You better not be skinnier, taller, have your own hair, I could go on and on!!! They have done me dirty.
Listen here I don't care about what color they are, remember coworkers are not your FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Remember that just get your money and go home. Do not share your personal life or secrets to your coworkers.
I think friendships can happen organically if you genuinely click with someone at work. There's nothing wrong with that. I have friends that I've known for over 10 years that I used to work with. It's not impossible and everybody's not out to stab you in the back, but I do get where you're coming from.
I can't tell you how many times I've come across Black American women in management who behave in ways that make me question how they got the job. Many Black people think they should get a pass when they don't do their jobs or are challenging to deal with interpersonally at work. We need to take a good, long look at ourselves, get into counseling/therapy (because many of us need it), and show up to work in a space of cooperation, kindness, and knowledge. We don't often show up like that.
Black people, especially Black American people are deeply traumatized thanks to white supremacy and living in a systemically racist environment. All roads lead to white supremacy! We are the not the only ones who need deep healing but we must pursue it. We need to interrogate how we deal with the racist environment we have been placed into for hundreds of years and the reality of how it impacts how we treat each other in every aspect of life.
@@theantihr ALWAYS excuses to excuse lowdown women and as a woman i fed the hell up. cut the melodramatic, 24/7 victim, zero ACCOUNTABILITY bull crap. damn. smdh
@@theantihryour life will never change in a positive direction if you continue to hold onto these beliefs. They are holding you back. I pray that God will help you to discover more. God bless
Had a situation happen where a white male top manager had a black female supervisor bring down a BW who had worked there 35 years and was in her fifties. Messed up her retirement by demoting her and then eventually making her retire with the threat if she didn’t would be fired. Messed her money all the way up as if she had never worked 35 years in government!
Is it really any wonder. Do you really think it would have went over well had that white man done it himself. Give me a break, black women are their own worst enemy it’s not a “White” problem like you blame everything else on . Get over yourself.
I sit mute most of the time in my cube because I've learned my lessons on past jobs. I'm cordial and socialize when people come to my cube, not the other way around.
Most of the hate, jealousy and backstabbing came from other black women( and men). Especially in the south it seems that there is a need to be the only one and it’s painfully obvious! We have to do better!
To be honest, at the age I am.... I don't EVER want to work for a Black woman. It is sad and hurts my heart, but the level of trauma and abuse I experienced working for Black women is mind boggling. Now, YT woman are no better.... YT can never be trusted. But Black woman seem so unnecessarily aggressive, angry and hate filled towards each other. Why be like that?
If you understand what internalized white supremacy is, and the impact of it, you would understand. Is the passive violence that white women inflict in the workplace somehow better?
@@theantihr never said YT women are better...I said that in my original comment. They evil ass hell. What I was trying to say is we all understand white supremacy, so why abuse each other? I don't feel the need to abuse another black person in the white man system.
In HR is the same thing. The Black HR women that I had to work with tried to tear me down but I had to set her straight and reported her and she never bothered me anymore. FBA❤
I suffered PTSD and trauma from the black woman Administrator in state Government. I opened an harassment compliant, with no findings by HR staff that had known me for a decade plus. The two white male directors told me the new Administrator was jealous of my abilities and performance/ connections. One month after leaving that job, one director emailed me and told me the new black administrator was administratively moved to another state department 🤔. Trust no one but God 🙏🏽 Give your best everday and TRUST NO ONE in the workplace.. Thank YOU, - The ANTI HR HR Counsultant 🌹❤
I had villainous experiences with Black, Latinos and White women, but unfortunately mainly with black women. I never understood some of the meanness and pettyness with my fellow black sisters. I worked very well with black men, though. However, I mostly always had great working relationships with Phillipinos. Some of those working relationships turned into friendships 🙂.
I've worked at my job for 24 years and for the majority of the 24 years, I worked with 4 oustanding sistahs. Two have moved on to new jobs or retired, and 2 of us are still there. The thing I believe kept us so tight and together was that we all agreed that whatever happens among us stays with us, and if we had a problem amongst our group we talked about it and we worked through it. It was great. Our goal was to never let anyone outside of our core group cause any trouble between us. I believe our manager, who was a black woman, set that tone early on, to stick together. It was and still is very effective.
Being liked is not why you were hired. You were hired to do a job , not to be liked. I don’t give a damn if you like me in the workplace, I was hired to do a job.
Unfortunately, you are wrong. It's called a personality hire. People hire and keep around people who they like. I am not saying I agree with this, but this is what I have seen. I wish is wasn't that way, because I am not normally liked nor do I like people I work with. It's the old saying "It's better to be liked, than to be right".
This is sad though that we can't just support other black women I'll be trying to support other black women and men... like I always make sure and speak because we have a stigma here in the Northwest that is the cold shoulder and people don't speak to each other but I go out of my way to make sure and acknowledge my brothers and sisters that's how my dad taught me.
What’s funny about that is nowadays in some workplaces, if they don’t like you, no matter how well you do, what you contribute, or qualified you are, you won’t get promoted or be able to pivot into other positions. They don’t got real petty 🙄😒
I just stumbled upon your channel. I have been self-employed (an accountant and business strategy coach) for 20 years (as of April) . So your content is not "necessarily" for me. However, I am so glad to see a black woman put out excellent professional advice that I I am sure would have benefited me 20 years ago in corporate. I decided I didn't want to play the game and went out on my own and never looked back. I will be launching my channel soon and have been looking for pros / black women with channels such as yours as inspiration. I'm glad I have found you. I'll pass your link on to people who need to hear what you've got to teach and who might need to work with you. All that said, I also want to know what exactly does the rest of your t-shirt say, and where can I get one? I love it! Be well! 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for your kind words. I was wearing my unemployable T-shirt in that video. I designed it myself. I will be putting it back up for sale very soon. As people are always asking me about it.
Like your catchphrase at the end...and the disclaimer. Taking a business law course and you hit all the buttons. However, one of the last classes I took "Organizational Management" I hated it, it was mostly HR topics and 2 of my peers where in HR and they were just steady defending everything...even when I said HR is not for employees. Everything they said was in defense of the company. Just venting...THANK YOU!!!!
Been villain's!!! We can sometimes be the absolute worst in the office. Not everyone should be in a leadership role. If you don't like people work from home nowadays so your negativity doesn't infect a workplace 🙄.
Honestly... I could careless who tries to make me into a villain. If there is an issue that needs to be addressed that affects ME... imma SPEAK UP & OUT ! I dont give a phuck who dont LIKE IT OR ME... DONT TOUCH ME!💯
I am British and I have had both in extreme measures. I have had a black hr lady advocate to keep me in an organisation along with the white manager and I’ve had a black woman who on purposely tried to embarrass me in front of everyone and purposely tried to distance herself even with no reason to in the beginning.
We also need to talk about how class and respectability play into this. Many black people don’t like other black people that don’t present (dress, speech, social niceties, etc.) in a way that they deem as professionally acceptable for others as it relates to black people. There can definitely be an elitism if you did not come from the right professional pipeline or choose to be more assertive or less of the “smile and work” type in the workplace. Don’t speak up or rock the boat. If you aren’t performing “acceptable blackness” (whatever that is to them) you garner their antagonism.
Girl I have a story for you it’s too much to type. But yes in the military I once had an intervention when I was only 22 years old by a group of senior military black women in their 40s. I was enjoying a regular work day (I was on limited duty for poor mental health). They literally snatched me into a side room and told me I was fat and needed to wear make up and fix my hair and look more military like. I was so devastated and embarrassed.
Yup in the military the BW stayed on me trying to harm me. Especially overweight BW. I'm thin and in shape and the men were kind to me and this overweight sgt hated me, she tried everything she could to get rid of me. Nothing worked, come to find out her personal life was in shambles. Her husband was lazy non-working, she had multiple children by multiple men, she was working multiple jobs to take care of her whole household and took her anger out everyone. It's a lot more I could type but usually those types are angry at thier own lives but they can suck azz! F them!
As a black woman in the 20th century workplace... I had to drop the motto "I am not here to be liked; i am only here to do a job" PERIOD...When i had a job with NO outside work friends; i was labeled as "Antisocial"... When i had obtained a job with outside work friends; i got black balled bc i wasn't a snich and part of the office gossipers team...I just say now; move accordingly stay very observant all while moving dudelingtly within your job title even a little more if need be..Know when your time is up at a job and don't get to comfortable just move on... Jus my opinion only
I am an Indigenous grandmother that works in a university. First days on the job got attacked by my own AND a person of another religion (they wanted to hold the only trauma narrative) because I talked about how Indigenous Peoples had their land taken and other genocide tactics. I did a webinar on Indigenous (could be any oppressed person of color) Lateral Oppression. We attack each other because we can't attack white people and their power systems. I am so sick of competition 😢
You are so correct. We attack each other because we can’t attack who we really want to attack and it’s very sad. One of the first books my mother ever gave me to read when I was about 10 years old was bury my heart at wounded knee. Every American should read this book, especially Black people because to understand the malignancy of white supremacy you have to start with the first people who this land was stolen from in the first place.
A lot of us want to engage in oppression Olympics, and it serves nobody. We are all bound by the white supremacy capitalist system in the United States and we need to unite with each other instead of fighting for the little crumbs that they leave from the table.
Oprah remind me of someone that has this mindset "wants to be the only one" that's why she screws people over that look like her. She wants to be the only one in the room and only respects others who are on her level. Smh. Totally agree about Amanda Seales, she is an acquired taste BUT I appreciate her passion she has for uplifting Black people. I respect her and what she stands for so I would never jump onto a bandwagon to stomp on someone who actually loves Black people. Its a jedi mind trick and people who do this will eventually find that their time will come. If I ever have any genuine feedback for another Black person, I do it offline without an audience. Too many people are allowing themselves to be used to harm people who look like then its truly sad.
This was a good one, 👍 why are we soooo mean to each other, I have worked in corporate America for years and this subject here is an on going theme in my book 📖, I'm a woman of color with autism, and have several horror stories dealing with black women at the job,I care not to mention because it brings tears to my eyes, I wish we would do better ❤ praying 🙏 for black people to be kind to each other and stop being envious of others success because when one of us is winning we are all winning one person at a time, and for those that are successful, don't keep rubbing it in others face day in day out, I'm happy for you but because of my disabilities I'm not able to achieve like you.🎉
Can you maybe go more in-depth about this topic.?. This is currently what I'm going through, and it's also due to my ex husband being white and me currently living in the suburbs. This BW coworker is the absolute worst.
I was very thankful to have other black women as HRs. They were the most polite, considerate and supportive HRs in my experience. Your vid however does remind me of one female black student at a nonHBU.
A lot of black women enter HR because they want to help employees and they want to do the right thing. Unfortunately, most of them don’t last very long because they eventually learn that that’s not why HR exist. Ask me how I know?
Why do you see more white women in HR roles? Why do recruiters and HR personnel tend to bounce from one company to another? Moving may be good for their pay but how does that help them understand the companies dynamics?
HR is a very stressful kind of work to do. That’s why people bounce around. Also many times early in your career you think that if you moved to another place, they will allow you to do what you really signed up for which is to help employees because you still don’t understand that that’s not what the function was designed to do. Many people try to do the right thing until they find that they can’t and they bounce around and then eventually they leave that area of work altogether. Ask me how I know?
Im a huge advocate of just not participating in their racist system by becoming entrepreneurs. When i see people like letitia james and fani willis, i see the beenfits having blk women in position of power. Do you mind sharing your take? It seems like you are okay with them being in these racist, Unappreciative environments, but make sure when they do wrong you make sure you sue. If you dont mind, id love to know overall how you advise blk women. Thanks for what you do. Im someone who left and im now 15 years self employed and happy, but open to learning how to naviagte this toxicity if they stay, because i personally did not see a way to stay and thrive
So many of these stories and believe it's not the end of them. Can we appeal to the perpetrators frpm a point of empathy to come forward, even anonymously. Im really trying to understand why these women behave in this toxic manner against other women.
Although I understand the overall spirit of this video message, this is one-sided from the perspective of the black person (particularly the black woman inbthis case) being the villanous manager. However, there needs to be a follow-up video in terms of disrespectful black subordinates when a black person is put in leadership positions. Workplaces also use these dynamics to discredit these (black) leaders while also using the results of these antics as excuses for denying them career advancement.
Insubordinate employees come in all shapes, sizes and races, and having an insubordinate employee is not an excuse for targeting people who look like you in furtherance of white supremacy and white proximity seeking.
@@theantihr I never said nor implied anything about the justifying targeting behavior. I'm simply stating that this dynamic also works in the reverse where the goal of upper management is to discredit the (black) person in charge and challenge their acuity for any type of leadership position.
Got one at my job. I got where I can’t stand this bih. She has 2 yt associates. They’re bosses. Their nickname is the mean girls. I have plenty of pto as well as holidays. Bih told me I couldn’t take my vacation.
This is a nonsensical statement. It may be your experience, but you can’t speak for everybody’s experience. I wouldn’t be where I am today without black women. They have saved me over and over again starting with my mother. So there will be no black women slander in my comments. Are some of us allowing ourselves to be used by white supremacy yes but so is everybody else? There is definitely sisterhood and I wouldn’t be where I am without it.
At my job 39 years black women mean and evil we have a meeting with big boss talk to us like we are kids I am the one will go to big boss and stand until they listen to me I don't give respect when you cross me I tell them don't look at me you are Casper don't see you tell them karma for your family I will keep you on your knees praying one thing do know the devil know how to show up and show out
My evil psychotic abusive boss was a black woman. It hurt so much worse. Complicated my judgement in terms of reporting her. If I had it to do again, I would have reported her immediately
I didn't know about the one in essence, that is upsetting, I never read that but I listen to Amanda Seals podcast. she is my tribe she's Biracial, but I have a white mom and she has a black mom ... so to me they really need to stop. Her mom and her dad is black, they need to leave her alone she's definitely 1 of us. Haven't we evolved further than this people like it's so petty come on.
Amanda Seales is not biracial. Both of her parents are black. She has said this so many times just because someone is light skin doesn’t mean they’re biracial. But whether she’s biracial or not how she was treated in this instance was very unfair.
I have experienced Black women coming at me fast and furious. You better not be skinnier, taller, have your own hair, I could go on and on!!! They have done me dirty.
Facts
Very dirty
💯
I agree.
Listen here I don't care about what color they are, remember coworkers are not your FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Remember that just get your money and go home. Do not share your personal life or secrets to your coworkers.
I think friendships can happen organically if you genuinely click with someone at work. There's nothing wrong with that. I have friends that I've known for over 10 years that I used to work with. It's not impossible and everybody's not out to stab you in the back, but I do get where you're coming from.
😢so sad
You're right. At this point, I just keep my mouth shut tight.
I call it LENA HORNING IT… ICY…… and distance
I can't tell you how many times I've come across Black American women in management who behave in ways that make me question how they got the job. Many Black people think they should get a pass when they don't do their jobs or are challenging to deal with interpersonally at work. We need to take a good, long look at ourselves, get into counseling/therapy (because many of us need it), and show up to work in a space of cooperation, kindness, and knowledge. We don't often show up like that.
Black people, especially Black American people are deeply traumatized thanks to white supremacy and living in a systemically racist environment. All roads lead to white supremacy! We are the not the only ones who need deep healing but we must pursue it. We need to interrogate how we deal with the racist environment we have been placed into for hundreds of years and the reality of how it impacts how we treat each other in every aspect of life.
@@theantihr oh my God, so true. Sending love from norway
It hurts the most when it comes from your own people too especially from Black women
@@theantihr ALWAYS excuses to excuse lowdown women and as a woman i fed the hell up. cut the melodramatic, 24/7 victim, zero ACCOUNTABILITY bull crap. damn. smdh
@@theantihryour life will never change in a positive direction if you continue to hold onto these beliefs. They are holding you back. I pray that God will help you to discover more. God bless
Had a situation happen where a white male top manager had a black female supervisor bring down a BW who had worked there 35 years and was in her fifties. Messed up her retirement by demoting her and then eventually making her retire with the threat if she didn’t would be fired. Messed her money all the way up as if she had never worked 35 years in government!
I work for government.
This is my story with the exception I have 20 years of experience. Sent a Mexican lady to mess with my retirement.
Is it really any wonder. Do you really think it would have went over well had that white man done it himself. Give me a break, black women are their own worst enemy it’s not a “White” problem like you blame everything else on . Get over yourself.
I sit mute most of the time in my cube because I've learned my lessons on past jobs. I'm cordial and socialize when people come to my cube, not the other way around.
And even when you are the quiet black woman you aren’t safe..
@@tgrant6518Not if you move in silence and be strategic.
@@tgrant6518 💯 you will be called anti-social, etc
Most of the hate, jealousy and backstabbing came from other black women( and men). Especially in the south it seems that there is a need to be the only one and it’s painfully obvious! We have to do better!
To be honest, at the age I am.... I don't EVER want to work for a Black woman. It is sad and hurts my heart, but the level of trauma and abuse I experienced working for Black women is mind boggling.
Now, YT woman are no better.... YT can never be trusted. But Black woman seem so unnecessarily aggressive, angry and hate filled towards each other. Why be like that?
If you understand what internalized white supremacy is, and the impact of it, you would understand. Is the passive violence that white women inflict in the workplace somehow better?
@@theantihr never said YT women are better...I said that in my original comment. They evil ass hell. What I was trying to say is we all understand white supremacy, so why abuse each other? I don't feel the need to abuse another black person in the white man system.
Spanish is just as terrible! I work for one now and she’s hell on earth,
In HR is the same thing. The Black HR women that I had to work with tried to tear me down but I had to set her straight and reported her and she never bothered me anymore. FBA❤
Yep!
Yep, I'm dealing with that now. The black woman I'm working with... wheww chile, I can't wait to exit stage left gracefully from her.
Facts. And it's a shame. Even when you do your job they think you trying to get or take the position they are in. I'm just here to do my job
I suffered PTSD and trauma from the black woman Administrator in state Government. I opened an harassment compliant, with no findings by HR staff that had known me for a decade plus. The two white male directors told me the new Administrator was jealous of my abilities and performance/ connections. One month after leaving that job, one director emailed me and told me the new black administrator was administratively moved to another state department 🤔. Trust no one but God 🙏🏽 Give your best everday and TRUST NO ONE in the workplace.. Thank YOU, - The ANTI HR HR Counsultant 🌹❤
I had villainous experiences with Black, Latinos and White women, but unfortunately mainly with black women. I never understood some of the meanness and pettyness with my fellow black sisters. I worked very well with black men, though. However, I mostly always had great working relationships with Phillipinos. Some of those working relationships turned into friendships 🙂.
I've worked at my job for 24 years and for the majority of the 24 years, I worked with 4 oustanding sistahs. Two have moved on to new jobs or retired, and 2 of us are still there. The thing I believe kept us so tight and together was that we all agreed that whatever happens among us stays with us, and if we had a problem amongst our group we talked about it and we worked through it. It was great. Our goal was to never let anyone outside of our core group cause any trouble between us. I believe our manager, who was a black woman, set that tone early on, to stick together. It was and still is very effective.
Any person can be a villain. Stay safe and healthy.
Being liked is not why you were hired. You were hired to do a job , not to be liked. I don’t give a damn if you like me in the workplace, I was hired to do a job.
Cmon, this comment right here!!!
Unfortunately, you are wrong. It's called a personality hire. People hire and keep around people who they like. I am not saying I agree with this, but this is what I have seen. I wish is wasn't that way, because I am not normally liked nor do I like people I work with. It's the old saying "It's better to be liked, than to be right".
Being liked is important in any team setting. Even if we are paid to work, you aren’t programmed to give your talents to ppl who don’t like you.
This is sad though that we can't just support other black women I'll be trying to support other black women and men... like I always make sure and speak because we have a stigma here in the Northwest that is the cold shoulder and people don't speak to each other but I go out of my way to make sure and acknowledge my brothers and sisters that's how my dad taught me.
What’s funny about that is nowadays in some workplaces, if they don’t like you, no matter how well you do, what you contribute, or qualified you are, you won’t get promoted or be able to pivot into other positions. They don’t got real petty 🙄😒
The damage after encountering a black women like that is too real.
True and so disappointing! Corporate managers go home and laugh about it at the dinner table with family
I appreciate you Ann-Marie. You tell it like it is. It’s like you’re talking about my experiences with Black women. Extremely sad!!!
I just stumbled upon your channel. I have been self-employed (an accountant and business strategy coach) for 20 years (as of April) . So your content is not "necessarily" for me. However, I am so glad to see a black woman put out excellent professional advice that I I am sure would have benefited me 20 years ago in corporate. I decided I didn't want to play the game and went out on my own and never looked back. I will be launching my channel soon and have been looking for pros / black women with channels such as yours as inspiration. I'm glad I have found you. I'll pass your link on to people who need to hear what you've got to teach and who might need to work with you. All that said, I also want to know what exactly does the rest of your t-shirt say, and where can I get one? I love it! Be well! 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for your kind words. I was wearing my unemployable T-shirt in that video. I designed it myself. I will be putting it back up for sale very soon. As people are always asking me about it.
@@theantihr Excellent! I look forward to purchasing one.
Like your catchphrase at the end...and the disclaimer. Taking a business law course and you hit all the buttons. However, one of the last classes I took "Organizational Management" I hated it, it was mostly HR topics and 2 of my peers where in HR and they were just steady defending everything...even when I said HR is not for employees. Everything they said was in defense of the company.
Just venting...THANK YOU!!!!
Been villain's!!! We can sometimes be the absolute worst in the office. Not everyone should be in a leadership role. If you don't like people work from home nowadays so your negativity doesn't infect a workplace 🙄.
Honestly... I could careless who tries to make me into a villain. If there is an issue that needs to be addressed that affects ME... imma SPEAK UP & OUT ! I dont give a phuck who dont LIKE IT OR ME... DONT TOUCH ME!💯
That was my experience at the New Jersey Department of Community Affairs
I had to quit
Very true. It be your own kind. Inside the office and outside.
I am British and I have had both in extreme measures. I have had a black hr lady advocate to keep me in an organisation along with the white manager and I’ve had a black woman who on purposely tried to embarrass me in front of everyone and purposely tried to distance herself even with no reason to in the beginning.
I guess I've been under a rock. I don't know what's going on with Amanda Seals.
the worst leader i ever had was a black woman and it still stings to this day.....we gotta do better
I have experienced this behavior not once, but twice. The last supervisor was disrespectful, rude and awful that i have to change jobs.
I agree, and I am also disappointed to learn that people are attacking Amanda Seals. She does not deserve the attacks!
what makes amanda seals worthy of praise or respect?
Yassss I agree! She brilliant and needed in our community ✊️
@@rodmandrake2101🙄
@@Tongam53 why can't you just answer the question?
What?
When you are working in the workplace just mind your own business
We also need to talk about how class and respectability play into this. Many black people don’t like other black people that don’t present (dress, speech, social niceties, etc.) in a way that they deem as professionally acceptable for others as it relates to black people. There can definitely be an elitism if you did not come from the right professional pipeline or choose to be more assertive or less of the “smile and work” type in the workplace. Don’t speak up or rock the boat. If you aren’t performing “acceptable blackness” (whatever that is to them) you garner their antagonism.
You can call it “respectability“ you can call it class, but at the end of the day it’s all about the pursuit of white proximity and white acceptance.
Liking is a Bonus . I don't care about that, but if I'm doing what's needed leave me alone and do your job
Who is Amanda Seals? I’ve been living under a rock !
You're funny.
Time to build our corporations, infrastructure, and communities with our own international investment platform.
Girl I have a story for you it’s too much to type. But yes in the military I once had an intervention when I was only 22 years old by a group of senior military black women in their 40s. I was enjoying a regular work day (I was on limited duty for poor mental health). They literally snatched me into a side room and told me I was fat and needed to wear make up and fix my hair and look more military like. I was so devastated and embarrassed.
Yup in the military the BW stayed on me trying to harm me. Especially overweight BW. I'm thin and in shape and the men were kind to me and this overweight sgt hated me, she tried everything she could to get rid of me. Nothing worked, come to find out her personal life was in shambles. Her husband was lazy non-working, she had multiple children by multiple men, she was working multiple jobs to take care of her whole household and took her anger out everyone. It's a lot more I could type but usually those types are angry at thier own lives but they can suck azz! F them!
As a black woman in the 20th century workplace... I had to drop the motto "I am not here to be liked; i am only here to do a job" PERIOD...When i had a job with NO outside work friends; i was labeled as "Antisocial"... When i had obtained a job with outside work friends; i got black balled bc i wasn't a snich and part of the office gossipers team...I just say now; move accordingly stay very observant all while moving dudelingtly within your job title even a little more if need be..Know when your time is up at a job and don't get to comfortable just move on... Jus my opinion only
I am an Indigenous grandmother that works in a university. First days on the job got attacked by my own AND a person of another religion (they wanted to hold the only trauma narrative) because I talked about how Indigenous Peoples had their land taken and other genocide tactics. I did a webinar on Indigenous (could be any oppressed person of color) Lateral Oppression. We attack each other because we can't attack white people and their power systems. I am so sick of competition 😢
You are so correct. We attack each other because we can’t attack who we really want to attack and it’s very sad. One of the first books my mother ever gave me to read when I was about 10 years old was bury my heart at wounded knee. Every American should read this book, especially Black people because to understand the malignancy of white supremacy you have to start with the first people who this land was stolen from in the first place.
A lot of us want to engage in oppression Olympics, and it serves nobody. We are all bound by the white supremacy capitalist system in the United States and we need to unite with each other instead of fighting for the little crumbs that they leave from the table.
@@theantihr thank God for your wise mother and for you! A true warrior, doing the work and then lifting others up🤗✊️🦅
@@theantihr So true😭 I am a truth teller. I am in here to INFILTRATE not assimilate 👏❣️
Oprah remind me of someone that has this mindset "wants to be the only one" that's why she screws people over that look like her. She wants to be the only one in the room and only respects others who are on her level. Smh. Totally agree about Amanda Seales, she is an acquired taste BUT I appreciate her passion she has for uplifting Black people. I respect her and what she stands for so I would never jump onto a bandwagon to stomp on someone who actually loves Black people. Its a jedi mind trick and people who do this will eventually find that their time will come. If I ever have any genuine feedback for another Black person, I do it offline without an audience. Too many people are allowing themselves to be used to harm people who look like then its truly sad.
YES, ITS SOOOOOOOOOO TRUEEEEEE
If black people need the likes of Amanda Seals to "lift them up" they are worst off then the world imagined.
The woman who posted this video is of this mindset. Let's just be real.
Why does everyone hate Oprah Winfrey so much?
Thank you for this video!
This was a good one, 👍 why are we soooo mean to each other, I have worked in corporate America for years and this subject here is an on going theme in my book 📖, I'm a woman of color with autism, and have several horror stories dealing with black women at the job,I care not to mention because it brings tears to my eyes, I wish we would do better ❤ praying 🙏 for black people to be kind to each other and stop being envious of others success because when one of us is winning we are all winning one person at a time, and for those that are successful, don't keep rubbing it in others face day in day out, I'm happy for you but because of my disabilities I'm not able to achieve like you.🎉
Thank you for your powerful videos 🖤🖤🖤
You are so welcome
💯 Sis is speaking facts. This is a topic that isn't talked about enough. Thank you for shedding light on it
You are so welcome
All distant cousins are not family!
Can you maybe go more in-depth about this topic.?. This is currently what I'm going through, and it's also due to my ex husband being white and me currently living in the suburbs. This BW coworker is the absolute worst.
thank you for saying this
Who didn’t know it-successful at the use of “Carrots & Stick” the negative approach!
Very true. With our history of descendants of slaves . Some of our sisters and brothers have a mind-set to survive, even against our own people.
I was very thankful to have other black women as HRs. They were the most polite, considerate and supportive HRs in my experience. Your vid however does remind me of one female black student at a nonHBU.
A lot of black women enter HR because they want to help employees and they want to do the right thing. Unfortunately, most of them don’t last very long because they eventually learn that that’s not why HR exist. Ask me how I know?
Not discrediting ur experience tho bc I've encountered something relating to this among some black women supervisors and students.
This is is gold!
Why do you see more white women in HR roles? Why do recruiters and HR personnel tend to bounce from one company to another? Moving may be good for their pay but how does that help them understand the companies dynamics?
HR is a very stressful kind of work to do. That’s why people bounce around. Also many times early in your career you think that if you moved to another place, they will allow you to do what you really signed up for which is to help employees because you still don’t understand that that’s not what the function was designed to do. Many people try to do the right thing until they find that they can’t and they bounce around and then eventually they leave that area of work altogether. Ask me how I know?
This has been happening...
She is right! A black administrator told people not to help I’d support me.
So sad but so true.
True. I've been told their the hbic in a job. She gave me hell. It messed me up mentally
House ninjas come in all different genders.
Im a huge advocate of just not participating in their racist system by becoming entrepreneurs.
When i see people like letitia james and fani willis, i see the beenfits having blk women in position of power.
Do you mind sharing your take? It seems like you are okay with them being in these racist, Unappreciative environments, but make sure when they do wrong you make sure you sue. If you dont mind, id love to know overall how you advise blk women.
Thanks for what you do. Im someone who left and im now 15 years self employed and happy, but open to learning how to naviagte this toxicity if they stay, because i personally did not see a way to stay and thrive
I don't know why I don't receive notifications about your videos. I have to search to see if you have put out a new video.
Anyway, I love your videos!
Thanks much. Make sure you hit the notification bell 🛎️ not just the subscribe button.🙂
My new f❤vorite channel
Of course they're going to glorify Caitlyn Clark...... she's the female Larry Bird; even though her team lost.
AMEN 🙏🏽
So many of these stories and believe it's not the end of them. Can we appeal to the perpetrators frpm a point of empathy to come forward, even anonymously. Im really trying to understand why these women behave in this toxic manner against other women.
Although I understand the overall spirit of this video message, this is one-sided from the perspective of the black person (particularly the black woman inbthis case) being the villanous manager. However, there needs to be a follow-up video in terms of disrespectful black subordinates when a black person is put in leadership positions. Workplaces also use these dynamics to discredit these (black) leaders while also using the results of these antics as excuses for denying them career advancement.
Insubordinate employees come in all shapes, sizes and races, and having an insubordinate employee is not an excuse for targeting people who look like you in furtherance of white supremacy and white proximity seeking.
@@theantihr I never said nor implied anything about the justifying targeting behavior. I'm simply stating that this dynamic also works in the reverse where the goal of upper management is to discredit the (black) person in charge and challenge their acuity for any type of leadership position.
@@dontez606what does that have to do with having specifically black subordinates?
Excellent, excellent!!
Many thanks!
YES!
This was my experience.
Got one at my job. I got where I can’t stand this bih. She has 2 yt associates. They’re bosses. Their nickname is the mean girls. I have plenty of pto as well as holidays. Bih told me I couldn’t take my vacation.
Katlin Clark was the great white hope
Facts! Got two right now soon as they became mgrs they switched up and turned on me and I helped one of them to stopped being used goofy ass
Greetings sis, please share Where did you get your glasses from?
Thank you for your platform.
@antiHR, what is the next step when you've tried to get an issue resolved with the Exec Director received a blow off response?
Relatable.
Think: Candice Owens
💯
becoming??? Where has she been? They have always been. Where is the sistahood?
This is a nonsensical statement. It may be your experience, but you can’t speak for everybody’s experience. I wouldn’t be where I am today without black women. They have saved me over and over again starting with my mother. So there will be no black women slander in my comments. Are some of us allowing ourselves to be used by white supremacy yes but so is everybody else? There is definitely sisterhood and I wouldn’t be where I am without it.
Frfr!
❤
At my job 39 years black women mean and evil we have a meeting with big boss talk to us like we are kids I am the one will go to big boss and stand until they listen to me I don't give respect when you cross me I tell them don't look at me you are Casper don't see you tell them karma for your family I will keep you on your knees praying one thing do know the devil know how to show up and show out
My evil psychotic abusive boss was a black woman. It hurt so much worse. Complicated my judgement in terms of reporting her. If I had it to do again, I would have reported her immediately
Get rid of the DEI BS!!
The biggest benefactors of DEI are WW
I didn't know about the one in essence, that is upsetting, I never read that but I listen to Amanda Seals podcast. she is my tribe she's Biracial, but I have a white mom and she has a black mom ... so to me they really need to stop. Her mom and her dad is black, they need to leave her alone she's definitely 1 of us. Haven't we evolved further than this people like it's so petty come on.
Amanda Seales is not biracial. Both of her parents are black. She has said this so many times just because someone is light skin doesn’t mean they’re biracial. But whether she’s biracial or not how she was treated in this instance was very unfair.
💯