I'm a Black nurse. Just finished a travel assignment from hell in Knoxville. Only Black nurse on the unit. I was only there for 3 mos. It was the most challenging work assignment I've ever had. Never will i subject myself to that type of environment. I'm so happy I'm almost ready for retirement. They don't want us with anything. And they HATE when you know your stuff. Just demonic. I feel sorry for all the black women and men that have to work in these toxic, anti black environments.
@shecreates365 i am a nurse as well. i've always said nursing was designed for white women. EVERY job i've had, the higher up the ladder the lighter the complexion of the folks. it started in nursing school. white female professors HELPED white female students cheat by turning their back to the obvious cheating and plagarism.
A (new coworker) BW at my current place of employment came in saying that she only befriends WW in workspaces because BW are this and that, I just looked at her and nodded, she didn't get a vitriolic response out of me like she hoped, because I knew she'd find out on her own, no protest from me, I stayed quiet. 2 months later she was written up and escorted out. Come to find out one of those new WW "friends" cried and lied on her to HR, she got wrote up and suspended but not fired. She just got back to the office last week, so out of nowhere she came up to my desk and said, "I see why you feed these WW with a long handle spoon." I just looked at her, still didn't part my lips. Mind you I don't buddy-buddy with or talk about personal business to any of my coworkers male or female, blk or wht, when I do talk it's about neutral topics or about work related topics. I just do my work and go home I'm social with the family and friends I already have outside of these treacherous workplaces.
So, you are at a party w black people and it's time to get your line dance on. 50 folks get up feel the beat... 2 steps.to the left! 2 taps and shimmy etc.. and watch the group move together, shake together to the beat IN UNIson! Smooth Right? Absolutely. Black people and white people know that White people can't do that.. can't stay on beat can't feel the beat together can't meet that Agreement can't keep a treaty ... So know there will be disagreement sudden jerks and mis steps changes erratic moves an elbow in your side bumps and bruises ❤
This just happened to me about a week ago. A bw that I work with tried to complain to me about my ww manager being racist after she wasn’t accepted by the ww at the job. I said no no to her and let her know that I would not be having that racism conversation with her. She didn’t want to talk to me when she was dancing for their approval so don’t talk to me now.
When I was a younger woman, I was a Security Officer at a university. My supervisor was a WM. One of my coworkers was a WW who had very long hair down her back. One day, I came to the office to clock in, a normal routine before the officers went to their posts. Although I had medium-length hair, I was wearing extensions, braided into my natural hair. The braids were straight back, since I knew I had to wear a hat that was part of the uniform. The supervisor claimed that my braided hairstyle was against regulations, claiming they would prevent me from wearing the uniform hat. I put my hat on my head, proving to him that my hairstyle was no problem. Then I reminded him of the WW coworker with the vey long hair, and that I've never heard him put down the length of her hair, or threaten to suspend her, as he had done to me. He said "So help me, I'm gonna find a way to suspend you!" I replied: "Good luck with that task. As you know, I'm here everyday, and on time. The professors, office staff, and the dean at the college that's my post, don't have one bad thing to say about me because I'm good at my job. If you find some trumped up charge(s) and have my suspended or terminated , l have a pretty good lawyer, and I will sue you. And do not think it is an idle threat. I don't make threats, I make promises.
They also will feel some type of way whenever you are shy, they will say" Oh, you're so quiet". They get mad if we don't run our mouths to them or even act likes stereotypical black clown for their amusement. I swear they are truly intimidated by us.
It's not just white female, I experienced this from Mexicans and Philippinos most of them are also prejudiced towards black people. And some mexican like to talk down to you
That's how you deal with someone who's openly hostile towards you. You don't get hostile right back at them. That's why so many black women are getting into brawls with other black women. If you're not ghetto, don't act like it. Don't walk around grumbling about white people, and always glaring at them. That's how you get the reputation for being "rude, aggressive" they won't come out and call you racist, but when it's time to cut the fat? Bye, Reinesha. Female black employees I've worked with see all kinds of things that aren't there. They act like they can't stand to be around white people, yet they apply for jobs around them. Most black women having problems in the workplace are having them because of their own attitudes towards white people. They've been told by their mothers that white people are evil, white people are the cause of all their problems, etc, and they carry this chip on their shoulder their whole lives. You hate them and assume they hate you and that shapes your attitude and causes problems ion dealing with them. You're going to have this self-imposed issue until you find a job you prefer: working only around black men. Maybe become a prison guard or something.
I am a 36 yr old black man that has worked in corporate/office environments. And I can honestly say that I have never seen a group of people more difficult to work with than white women. In my past job they made it hell for me and threw me up under the bus several times. They were promoted into positions they didn’t deserve while I sat for years in the same role.
@carloszee8421 ...I have experienced the same situation, too. WW promoted into positions that they're not educated enough to perform. Also, I've seen and known them to be the BIGGEST group of leadership that practices discrimination on every level.
I'm a 35 year-old black woman. The WW at my corporate office do NOT like me.. except for 1. but she's kinda weary about liking me, she acknowledges me, but I never get to experience her fun personality she displays with people who look like her. However, a lot of the white men there do like me. I don't plan on staying at this job for 2+ years.
Yeah... they do try to interrogate you. My response is usually "why do you ask?" and I give them the same fake smile that they give me. Another thing they do (not only in the workplace) when you're a well put together and smart BW, they will compare themselves to you CONSTANTLY. Always looking to see if you have something they don't, they feel the need to one up you in everything, because in their mind, they must have SOMETHING that you cannot. To them, this validates their belief that they are above you. Their insecurities are off the wall! They want to control non-white women the way WM control them.
THIS^^^ Like the lady in that conference hall supporting MTG did to Jasmine Crockett when she kept telling her to calm down??? She didn't tell MTG to calm down or anything Lolsss>>>> They love to make us look aggressive when they're the ones who instigated the whole situation so they could say that we're going all 'Black Woman' on them!!!
I am Native American, and I see this happening on my reservation. They do this running our HR departments that are supposed to be our tribe's organization, but they hire a majority of their people than our people or people of color and start their clicks like its college... OMG This is truth to me, and I appreciate your videos. Thank you.
That sounds very on brand for them and I’m so very sorry to hear that This is happening on Reservations but not surprised. The horrors that 🖐🏻 Right America has inflicted on indigenous people on their own soil is just unfathomable. This is why my argument is that they collectively have no empathy.
Are you Navajo?? If so you ain't lying because I was telling my daughter mom who is from the Navajo how are people from India owning most of the business on the reservation and not the local natives.. it seems like some of their tribal leaders are selling out their own for money
@@RickyTricky7 Go REPENT and be healed by The Most High! You are most likely a member of the lost tribes of Israel = a descendant of transatlantic slave trade!
This is why I don’t ever engage with them in a friendly manner. When I see BW trying to be friendly with them and gain their approval it annoys me, because I know WW aren’t interested in being equals. I had a BW coworker that used to overlook a WW coworkers racism comments. Her response to the WW was to start bending over backwards and being super nice in hopes to gain her favor. She started telling in herself in front of the WW in order to gain trust from the mindset “If I tell some of my secrets, I’ll appear to be an ally and this WW will want to tell me some secrets too”. I told her repeatedly “STOP TALKING AROUND HER!” Shortly after, the WW played a large role in the BW being fired You’re are doing God’s work. Thank you for putting this knowledge out there. This topic has ruined the lives of so many BW and it needs to be discussed, because I have noticed just how oblivious a lot of Black people are when it comes to WS.
I see them even participating in degrading their people 😒 to fit in. And help degrade another bw openly. Disgusting. All they do is see them as cowards. There is no favor to gain.
I remember trying to have an honest conversation with a white woman about racism, a conversation that she initiated. When the conversation got real she started crying. I asked her “why are you crying?” The conversation shifted to her hurt feelings. I was so disgusted that I never spoke with her again.
Best not to discuss racism with them at work, especially if they initiated it, they do that on purpose to trap you, they do it to get up in your head to find out how you really feel about why.te ppl, they do it to rattle your chain, because they know blk ppl act on their emotions, and then they use it against you as ammunition later on and report you as being racist, because "you" said this and that about why.te ppl. Best not to engage. They even get on these platforms and read these comments, as a way to see how we think, feel, what we talk about, they still trying to be in control.
It's not just black and white it is also Latinos. This is a known phenomenon in the southwest US and much of the west coast where Latino populations are high. Of course not ALL Latinos are anti-black but a great deal of them are sadly. Additionally, California has the largest number of work place lawsuits against Latinos for harassment and discrimination against black workers to date.
My son lives in Vegas and he says that the Latinos are out of pocket towards Black people. They have their own infrastructure and supermarkets etc. they are highly competitive and antagonistic towards Black people and are essentially anti-Black. P.S. they provide cover for their illegal immigrant counterparts by giving them work and places to stay. They are accomplishing a slow and steady advancement while stepping over BP in the process.
That's due to the shifting power dynamic. If they reach a level of management they are not like us, they are not conditioned to not hire their own to prove they are not discriminating when it's BLATANT discrimination they will turn the entire facility into something that looks Cinco de Mayo. I remember a time my sister and I were getting coffee through a McDonald's drive thru we got to the window and it was a white boy taking our money. We looked at each other with pure joy, it was the strangest emotion, we got our coffee got out of the drive thru and fell out laughing, we couldn't stop laughing. Imagine being over the moon happy to see a white boy with a job. Believe me, it felt so strangely odd good we could have got out and did the happy dance.
I'm not at all surprised about the poll results. Everything that you said was spot on! W W approaching us at restaurants or other venues (symphonies, museums, art galleries, vineyards, etc.) asking us unwarranted bizarre questions. I was having dinner with three of my cousins last night discussing this. It has not been our imagination. This WW egregious behavior in the workplace for BW is very real and ugly. You dissected this down to the bone marrow. I and many other professional BW have studied WW (including their white adjacents) and have strategically manuvered accordingly in these workspaces/places. Until WW develop a modicum of empathy, then just maybe, they'll be human and decent. Otherwise, WW are hollow and insecure in my eyes. I will be waiting when you address the white adjacents, aka non-Black POC, in their anti-Blackness in the workplace. I thank you for bringing us much needed content.
Theyre literally a nation of narcissistic sociopath rcist. This is why they do and say bizarre things to others. Its better to observe them than to internalize what theure doing and saying.
For non person of color for me it’s always been Latino or even Ethiopian ppl. I don’t want to sound childish but I had an experience where my coworkers would talk about how beautiful they thought I was. I work in a hospital. So this is happening across all “fields”. This Ethiopian girl pulled me to the side and tried to figure out why she thought everyone thought I was beautiful as a proud extremely dark skinned African American woman who kept getting compliments and getting called beautiful. She even was shocked that I am African American and not some form of islander. Ppl of color who are not black can be just as destructive and disrespectful. I think beauty also plays a factor.
Yes about time we talk about Ethiopians. I just fled DC due to an Ethiopian male so called "manager". He fired a young black woman 6 months prior after provoking her for months. He thought we were his personal property. It was very traumatizing but I taught him a lesson right before my exit.
So, it was the old, "You're beautiful for a black woman thing!" That's so annoying! I'm sorry, you went through such harshness! I bet you're just lovely as can be!
@@CocoaBeige Foreign males regardless of color have different ideas about women which are exaggerated when dealing with African American women. Pale faced ones want to use your body in addition-to bullying. Giving “ favors” to them will not save your job!
OMG! 100% factual. If you're high performing, confident, knowledgeable, etc. please believe that they hyper-focus on your faults to throw you under the bus. I had this happen to me so many times, it's not even funny. Mind you, they have the room to make mistakes but when you're a black woman, you're not allowed to do it.
Also thank you for talking about this as an older woman as well. I’m in my mid 30s and I feel at least half or more of my parents generation including my parents are in denial about these types of issues/interactions and have often gaslighted me and tried to say I was too sensitive or needed to be more “friendly”. This is very affirming. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and verbalizing some of these universal experiences 🙏🏾
If you don't desire being liked your not as easy to control is such a good point. In addition to the informal groups they try to get you to join a ERG (employee resource group) another way to get women and minorities to participate in unpaid labor and fix problems they create. The most common way they try to control you is dangling a promotion in front of you. I've been working professionally for 19 years (I'm voluntarily underemployed because I'm a senior level individual contributor and I make enough money to retire at 55 so not interested in more money and responsibility) so they can't control me like they do other people although like everyone else I have to work.
This is my exact situation as of late! I literally just had an interview on Friday that I feel they had no intentions of hiring me, but they had me do an interview to say that they gave me a shot for the record. I have no desire in being liked, they feel challenged when I ask questions to get more details, but they are perfectly fine with me assisting other people in the department or on my team. I have double the caseload than a lot of people on my team and still get more work done than them. I've never been at a job with so many white women in leadership. I have never went for three jobs since December and not gotten one of them. ATP I'm just waiting on the next opportunity to come along, but we are in a tough job market.
You are so right about the ERGs! I have been asked to work on starting the group. I declined. They found a young lady who was all in. She contacted me about naming the group. I gave her my thoughts. DEI (diversity, equity & inclusion) is about to be dead. It's already dying.
I had a white female co-worker try to make me look bad to our administrator. However, I had all the information and facts wish proved I was doing my job. I provided my work to our administrator and the look on her face it was like ber head exploded that she could not expose me. I walked back with her and said thank goodness I had all my information and work completed. She had such upset look on her face 😂😂😂. I was at another job and a white female worker complained to the manager that a group of blackwomen were engaging with each other and not her. She said it was racially motivated. I said maybe its because they all know each other, and her reply was another blackwoman started the job and they engage with her. 😂
I’m sixty two years old and ..I was a Scan Coordinator in which 2% were black in a sea of white women, and just liked you…… I experience everything you are telling now,…you are literally telling my stories.
I don’t deal with them at all, I look right past them as they are invisible. I’ll speak only if they speak to me. I drive Tractor Trailers n work for foreigners. They are great, we all have respect for each other. I only deal with them at shippers and receivers for 10 minutes.
I wish you were available 30 years ago. I’m sure it’s worse since then. Corporate companies are evil. They hire you, and they’re ready to fight with you when you prove yourself competent. Then, they start a game to push you out of your job. You think you can go to work every day and get through it every day until you realize you are going crazy. It’s horrible to think you can retire from a company to secure your livelihood. After over thirty years, it still affects me mentally. Thank God I was always creative to style hair. I got my AS degree in Cosmetology. I’m so much happier. The sad thing is I have clients sitting in my chair and venting about their job experiences. I get so sad to hear their stories and how they are on antidepressants. It’s sad.
You just described my current situation and it is mentally draining and anxiety-causing. It’s sad bc I accepted this job to help kids learn art but not with the WW micromanaging, trying to take over and prove me to be incompetent even though I’m not, and generally making criticisms to no end. They are pushing me to quit atp and I really can’t afford to but nothing is worth your dignity or self-worth.
I can definitely believe your poll results! I have been set up by White Karens in the workplace multiple times during my 35-year career. Women period will often breed that destructive competitiveness that you mentioned but it’s mostly white women whom are always seeking to control their Black female coworkers. I have experienced this several times, bc just like you, I too didn’t show enough interest in their clicks and wouldn’t bow down to their attempts to control me. Thanks for another truthful and informative discussion!👍🏾
Jim Crow mindset is very much alive. I have had several WW and WM seek to befriend me, date me, be a housemate or roommate ... only to learn that they were anxiously jealous and intimated of me because I am kind, smart, driven, introverted with extroverted tendencies. You have to be mindful of WP seeking friendship unfortunately. There is a colonial history that says POC are not suppose to make WP feel inferior and if they feel that way towards you, their motives will be deviant. I notice they will ask questions to get access to my personal information, challenge whatever I say, create chaos to try to stress me out, be 'passive' aggressive so they can gaslight and so I can't use 'the race card' because then I will get backlash for being 'sensitive (to abuse -_-)' so they can have power and control and try to make me feel less than. Of course it is not all WP, but because this part of Wt history is not held accountable and addressed by WP it is passed down generationally just like any other cultural pattern.
One of the best books I ever read was by Dr. Jean Noble called Beautiful Also Are The Souls Of My Black Sisters, written in the early 70s. She had the pulse on white women hands down.
Hello, Ann Marie (my apologies if I misspelled your name). Stopping by to listen to your enlightening conversations. I am also a former HR professional and am now in a support role in health and safety. Thank God. I wanted to comment to share a book selection, "They Were Her Property " with you and other subscribers on this topic. The book details and reinforces your point of white woman being active participants in the system of the enslavement of African people.
I can tell you, having worked in a male dominated field, that many of the men act similarly and do see you as a threat and will try to befriend you or oppose you immediately or treat you in a manner where you’re supposed to be subordinate to them when you’re actually their superior. There are only a few that are not insecure and usually that’s only the one that hired you.
Working mostly remotely saved me. I couldnt take the toxicity anymore. These people will do anything to keep b.w or b.m at the bottom of the food chain, even the so called nice ones.
Also, white women are so surprised when your childhood equals theirs, are your childhood was better! Oh, and don't talk about your travels and hobbies! I think they think we sit at home thinking about them!!!
@rhondabryant667 Yeah, there was a somewhat shocked look on their silly looking faces whenever I would speak on my loving father living in the home. And the places he'd take us to, and the things he'd do for us. As IF we all were fatherless like they love to believe. The myth and stereotype. 🙄
These experiences are reported NATION wide for blk ppl in the workplace. So if ppl get uncomfortable, they need to deal with it so changes can be made. We have got to recognize that ww and wm operate like narcissistic sociopaths as rcist. It becomes easier to handle encounters w them when you observe them in this way.
Exactly this, narcissistic sociopaths. The behavior is exactly that, and they know it. It’s one of the reasons they claim so few people are diagnosed as such when they have an entire culture based on these behaviors.
Love your videos…this one is my favorite. I had the same problem as you when I was younger. I was direct and unapologetic too. The treatment I got was horrible.I finally left that toxic work place, and I did not realize how traumatized I was. It still shakes me to my core.
I absolutely loved ❤ this video! Thank you! 🙏🏾. I was not surprised by the poll results because of the recent TikTok where black women were asked, if they were on a new job, who would they rather walk into conference room: a white man or a white woman? Sisters overwhelmingly picked the white MAN!! And for the very same reasons you mentioned.
It's the favoritism, passive-aggressivness, being micromanaged, the fake smiles, and sexual harassment in the workplace by white men and women, and let me include a couple of gay white men who've bullied me in the workplace as well. Trust and believe I have dealt with infelicitous situations in the workplace and it's difficult trying to explain myself to the HR manager, a sista who turns a blind eye. I know this has nothing to do with the topic but I wanted to know why white women feel so comfortable asking black women for help in fixing their wardrobe malfunctions in public, and asking how much the company is paying them?. 🙄 This commentary was very informative and very true. Thank you sista. Peace, love and positive vibes. 💐
You are speaking the truth! You have put a spotlight on a situation with a couple of WW who were my coworkers. They tried so hard to boss me around but I wasn’t having it. I retired 2 years early because I didn’t want to get fired from the place I had worked for 41 years. You have opened my eyes to what was really going on. Thank you so much!!!
I've had WW 20 years older than me start ish at work. I was grateful for my WM boss at the time who put a stop to that real quick. Whenever I'd see her after that she'd turn around and act like she didn't see me. Good!
I can see eye to eye with you. Thanks for all the information. My grandfather always say to us we are not better than anyone and no one is better than us.
I agree! Most of my problematic encounters in the past 20 yrs have been with whites women; my neighbor, manager and coworkers. Two of my coworkers years ago tried to get me fired over resting my head on my desk minutes before clocking out.
I was a manicurist for 35 years and I experienced the same thing not only with my coworkers but with my clients as well. Things really did get bad when Trump took office, clients would say the craziest things to me with a smile on their face and be shocked when I tell them not to come back. lol. They are evil.. even the “liberal” ones. I closed my salon in 2023 for a more peaceful career and I am so grateful.
Most of my managers have been white women and at some point they have called me aggressive, or like the last job apart of why I wasn't able to be promoted, which has. been so hurtful to keep experiencing. It's so weird because I have often been more qualified than my managers but just younger, which I feel has made me a "target" in corporate America, instead of an asset.
@@theantihrThis System Can Not And Will Not Be Sustainable Much Longer. There Is A Debt Owed To Us! We Israelites Have No Friends! Our Brillance, And Melanin Literally Keeps The Sun From Burning Them Up!!!!! KNOW THAT!!!
Finally, a channel that not only helps in worklife and has real tangible action-oriented advice to better one's life! Thanks to remote work, I have more peace. But even then, a YT Hispanic woman always wanted to do harm or sabotage me and I didn't know her from jack. Mind you, I'm private, keep to myself and don't share personal nothing with ANYONE on jobs. Intimidation I guess. Thankfully, I'll even be transitioning out of this once my business gets up and running after my patent submission. I've learned to monetize and patent my creative acumen for true freedom. The workplace is a hostile and traumatic place for alot of Black Women.
Your not lying. I remember when I worked at this call center there. Was a white girl I use to message with on Skype and she had a thing for black dudes she would always say negative things about black woman like she was tryna impress me I immediately stop answering her messages and she got the hint
they always keep us in their mind when they like black men. Just like the Russian women going viral. Why would we care when we birth and create the black men they love so much
Excellent I wish you would talk about Black Women turning on each other. When one plays victim because she is jealous, feels interior, less educated and intimated by another BLACK sister
I'm retired now nearly 3 years I worked 45 years in many different roles but the treatment was the same on each level. I so enjoyed your take on this and could attest to a lot of it. My concern now are for those coming after me. My generation basically grinded and beared it, not so sure the next generation will do the same, thanks again for your insight on this topic 🙏🏾
@@daviscd6837 Latin X are in high numbers in the manufacturing environment where NEPOTISM is widespread!! Ive seen multiple entire families working in one facility. The majority of them are fluent in English but everyone speaks Spanish when non Spanish speaking coworkers are. present.
@@preciousaryee2901Payment of student loans, investment perks, pto, living situation, etc. That why people always say, “have the audacity of a white man”
This was so needed. I'm going to send this to my professional girlfriends. We talk about the issues of being the only or one of the few and how WW AND gay WM try to treat us. Once you check them/put them in their place, they back off & change tactics. Thank you so much!
That's definitely WHY they are so jealous of us. Your strength of who you are and those of us that will NOT play their game. Thanks for sharing, hope that all age group of so called black women can hear you!!! AWESOME!!!
I have been searching RUclips for videos in regards to black women and white women in the workplace and I’m so happy that you spoke on this. Every job I’ve ever had I always had a white woman being problematic. Especially when she aligns herself with a code switching black woman.
There were no lies detected in this video! This is the straight truth regarding most white women in the workplace. Not all, but most - like 98%. Thanks for another great video. 🙌🏼
You are preaching to my entire experience at this new job. I didn't even put my credentials in my signature of email as to not intimidate my 100% white women department
I’m dealing with workplace micro aggression as a black nurse on the job. I have the most seniority on the job, however, the white nurses and a nurse of color came together and do everything to prevent me from being in charge. They also found out my pay and began acting out. I overheard the nurse of color told the white nurse who got the charge position, now u make more money than she do. I am looking for a workplace lawyer. I have told my nurse manager and not much has been done. This is going on in Detroit, Michigan.
I wanna say ThankU. I’ve gone through so much in the workplace, simply working with them alone. This video was so well done and very informative. The sad part is almost everything/ almost every situation ya mentioned in this video, I’ve experienced in real life real time. It’s truly sad.
I am so very happy to be retired. My career was in the entertainment industry. I learned pretty early in my career that WW were insecure in their position and could not be trusted. I made it out alive!
I face this daily, I’m so tired of it!! I work for a state agency. In a department where all work from home except me and one other black female coworker.😢 we got a new worker WM to join us. Within 2 weeks he was working from home too😂😂😂😂! Why Lord! Oh why!! I’m 53 years old and I’m so tired, I’m smart, educated, intelligent and very good 😌 I just be glad when I don’t have to go through this no more!
@@shedeeforrealYou should go through the proper channels to find out why you and the other aren’t allowed to work from home. If you’re tired of it, make it a priority.
@@shedeeforrealSounds like they have you two nigras there under strict urveillance. Watching y'alls every move and listening to everything y'all talk about.
I also worked in HR too. Well one day I was putting the insurance files away, and I happened to notice that a newly hired 19 year old WW in our small group (I was the only Blk one amongst 5) who was still living at home with her parents, no children, started out making more than me, the one with the college degree! She had just graduated high school. 😒 Needless to say, I didn't stay there. I don't like being messed over and being aware of it.👎🏼
So much information. Thank you. Now I understand many difficult situations i went through. I couldnt understand why i was always having issues with w.w at work. They created issues, went and whined to their w .m or w. w supervisors and they put me through hell. I cannot understand why some people feel the need to act as if they are superiors. We are all equals.
💯 white women..i hate to say but ive only had 2 or 3 women managers black or white who ive trusted. Ive run into very few who are secure down to earth , respected my work ethic and didnt turn everything into a competition..i also have to be fair my first white woman boss did not like me at first but i did such a good job for her ( high school internship) she wrote me a letter of recommendation
Sorry that happened to you. Even with the first boss, she wasn’t being fair to you. If you were a white girl, you wouldn’t have had to prove yourself by doing a good job for her before she decided to like you.
I worked at a major Midwest bank, which was known to discriminate. I have experienced this as well. They are absolutely problematic. You have to stay on your guard. WW weaponize their fragility and privilege.
Spot on commentary! The weaponization of tears is so accurate and other non- black women sometimes try to pick up this weapon to use against black women in the workplace. However, they have lower and inconsistent success rates using this weapon compared to white women.
This channel will go viral, i knew it from day 1 there is clearly and issue in workplaces and racism that needs addressing, and it will not go away until its addressed by governments properly.
You have the gift and insight to speak on this subject matter. Glad that you’re no longer in the corporate workforce and now free and able to speak on this matter to shed some light on the pervasive problems of white supremacy that exist in America.
Thank you for this video. It popped up in my suggested videos. I’m a young BW that has experienced a lot of issues in the workplace are instigated by YTW. They won’t let us be. I’ve come to the conclusion that they are just miserable, are there to keep patriarchy and racism going in the workplace and society. Can’t wait to hear you discuss YT identified POC mirroring YT women’s behavior in the workplace. I’m a law student and appreciate your perspective it’s being added to my tool box.
I talk about this some in my videos but I am not a psychotherapist or psychologist so I don’t talk about it very much. I recommend that you check out the channel of Kimani Norrington Sands, Lifting as we Climb. She talks at length about the impact of hostile jobs on the psyche of black women - follow her. We did a joint master course together where we talked about the importance of black women saving themselves from hostile toxic work environments and taught them strategies for not only doing that but for exiting these environments with cash in hand 💰You can grab access to the replay of the course on my website and I highly recommend that you follow Kimani!
As much as we try to deal, co exist or get along with WW, we (BW) are diametrically opposed to them just with history, how we are treated in society, how we are raised and our culture.
Everything this woman is saying is 💯on point. Take note! 23:08 the constant questioning, I call an 'interrogation'. the famous cheesy fake smile the high pitched nasal voice and overly fake politeness 39:38
Great video. I’m terrified of returning to work because it’s the same as I left it 30 years ago. Unfortunately, I worked mostly with WM, so my experience is they are the worst. BUT…I’d still rather a WM than a WW. If you did a ranking poll on whom we’d rather work with, I’d be interested in seeing those results and the resultant discussion. I echo the conclusion that we cannot fix this. We can only figure out how to navigate it successfully, and know that it comes with a huge cost to our spirit and soul. Thanks for the amazing content.
It’ll likely be WM for majority. Because they are men, they behave in an aggressive way that’s typical of all men. Also, they trump WW in their own hierarchy as they are THE gatekeepers. So they don’t feel they lose anything by a BW working with them. WW are competing with BW because both are women. They hold their whiteness over you as their only shield of superiority.
WW LOVE to fire you! It really, really, makes them exceptionally happy! They are demons and enjoy delivering any form of emotional pain to any woman of color!!!
I’m sooooo happy you put this on Front St. I’ve been saying this for years and everyone thought I was crazy. WW do WS bidding. They’re way worse than WM. Both are horrible in the workplace.
What you're saying is so accurate that it's like you worked the job with me. I had to leave. My health issues got so bad due to the stress of dealing with the discrimination and belittling. I'm still healing and I left four months ago.
Good Evening The Anti-HR-HR Lady, Another spot on brilliant commentary and observation video that was truthful and insightful as always! It made me cringe and wince at the remembrance of the behavior that is always horrific. Thank you for your unapologetic candidness in a time where exposure is the new thing…truth should never be seen as novelty. Anyway thank you and I look forward to another of your videos and I hope to be able to reach out to you this week with regards to a project I’m working on. Best Wishes, NZINGHA
Excellent conversation! Truthful and informative on how We are impacted in the workplace. Your wisdom is helping many. Thank you for your time and expertise. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👏🏽
1:00:01 WM negotiate, but even if BW negotiate doesn’t mean they will be taken seriously. They want to give WM and WW money and opportunities. For BW that’s not the case, we are barely given the opportunity if they don’t have a Black quota to meet.
Watching your video was therapeutic and emotional. I have experienced everything you referenced. I was removed from my position and placed in a corner... by a white woman. I was seen as a threat and I would not schuck and jive. I am proud that I maintained respect for myself and always continued ntegrity in my work quality. This has not been easy as we went from a work force that multiple had black men and women in leadership positions to now maybe 1-3 percent in our organization. So glad that your video was suggested to me.
This is such a great video and very much appreciated. I just wish I had this video years ago when I stepped into the law firm that I currently work at. It would have helped me navigate a lot better. 😊
WOW- thank you so much for this. I held ono every word. My initial reaction is: "what are we -black women- supposed to do now?" We are still in the position to just take it. sadly. I was hoping for strategies to combat the crybabies, the gossipers, the fake, pretentiousness, that will continue to exist, since they do it to each other. I very MUCH look forward to the next videos about interactions with island immigrants and the mantra of "black women are not your enemy". Also since very few women of color reach federal govt. senior level executive positions, what can you provide as a playbook or guide to avoid landmines for black women. Both scrutinizing and investigating the: "TOP 10 Pitfalls to navigate around and/or Stay strong in leadership by listening and move strategically, without losing respect"......................I am interested!
When going into these workspaces, it's so unfortunate but BW have to be as strategic as possible while working with White folk. That's why during the interview, you have to ask who would this role report to? And after that question, I ask how long have they been with the company and describe the personality type? My prayer used to be if I have to report to a particular ethnicity, let it be a White male but NOW that has changed tremendously. No luck, with reporting to a WM, WW or BW. So, just praying that it's someone who's post Civil Rights Era, who is focused on retiring and allowing me to do my job without all the hang ups! Yep, and this election will have a tremendous impact on our workspaces!
My comment got deleted 🧐 Everything you spoke on, I experienced and actually grew because of it. The problem is that a lot of us are waiting for THEM to end W/Supremacy but the system is embedded all the way down to its social media platforms and comments we are allowed to post. I spoke on my experience as well, dealing with supremacy in the corporate world. We keep asking for equality/equality to morals beneath our own instead of demanding what we’re owed. I constantly worked with black women who were afraid to make THEM uncomfortable. We have to stop coddling their race-is-um* and start putting ourselves first. Only we can end W/Supremacy. It’s just a mater of when.
Black people cannot end white supremacy. Period point blank we do not control the system and we can’t end it. The only people who can change the system and NY supremacy is white people. If Black people could’ve changed it it would be changed already.
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I'm a Black nurse. Just finished a travel assignment from hell in Knoxville. Only Black nurse on the unit. I was only there for 3 mos. It was the most challenging work assignment I've ever had. Never will i subject myself to that type of environment. I'm so happy I'm almost ready for retirement. They don't want us with anything. And they HATE when you know your stuff. Just demonic. I feel sorry for all the black women and men that have to work in these toxic, anti black environments.
I am very sorry that they put you through this. 🙏🏾
The sad part is with black self hatred, blacks behave like this too.
'DEMONIC,' is the right choice of words because the energy can be felt spiritually
@shecreates365 i am a nurse as well. i've always said nursing was designed for white women. EVERY job i've had, the higher up the ladder the lighter the complexion of the folks. it started in nursing school. white female professors HELPED white female students cheat by turning their back to the obvious cheating and plagarism.
So sorry, sis. I went to college in Knoville in the early 90s. So sad it has not changed.
A (new coworker) BW at my current place of employment came in saying that she only befriends WW in workspaces because BW are this and that, I just looked at her and nodded, she didn't get a vitriolic response out of me like she hoped, because I knew she'd find out on her own, no protest from me, I stayed quiet. 2 months later she was written up and escorted out. Come to find out one of those new WW "friends" cried and lied on her to HR, she got wrote up and suspended but not fired. She just got back to the office last week, so out of nowhere she came up to my desk and said, "I see why you feed these WW with a long handle spoon." I just looked at her, still didn't part my lips. Mind you I don't buddy-buddy with or talk about personal business to any of my coworkers male or female, blk or wht, when I do talk it's about neutral topics or about work related topics. I just do my work and go home I'm social with the family and friends I already have outside of these treacherous workplaces.
So, you are at a party w black people and it's time to get your line dance on. 50 folks get up feel the beat... 2 steps.to the left! 2 taps and shimmy etc.. and watch the group move together, shake together to the beat IN UNIson! Smooth Right? Absolutely.
Black people and white people know that White people can't do that.. can't stay on beat can't feel the beat together can't meet that Agreement can't keep a treaty ... So know there will be disagreement sudden jerks and mis steps changes erratic moves an elbow in your side bumps and bruises ❤
This just happened to me about a week ago. A bw that I work with tried to complain to me about my ww manager being racist after she wasn’t accepted by the ww at the job. I said no no to her and let her know that I would not be having that racism conversation with her. She didn’t want to talk to me when she was dancing for their approval so don’t talk to me now.
When I was a younger woman, I was a Security Officer at a university. My supervisor was a WM. One of my coworkers was a WW who had very long hair down her back.
One day, I came to the office to clock in, a normal routine before the officers went to their posts. Although I had medium-length hair, I was wearing extensions, braided into my natural hair. The braids were straight back, since I knew I had to wear a hat that was part of the uniform.
The supervisor claimed that my braided hairstyle was against regulations, claiming they would prevent me from wearing the uniform hat. I put my hat on my head, proving to him that my hairstyle was no problem. Then I reminded him of the WW coworker with the vey long hair, and that I've never heard him put down the length of her hair, or threaten to suspend her, as he had done to me.
He said "So help me, I'm gonna find a way to suspend you!"
I replied: "Good luck with that task. As you know, I'm here everyday, and on time. The professors, office staff, and the dean at the college that's my post, don't have one bad thing to say about me because I'm good at my job.
If you find some trumped up charge(s) and have my suspended or terminated , l have a pretty good lawyer, and I will sue you. And do not think it is an idle threat. I don't make threats, I make promises.
@@lazysundays6793exactly 👊🏿
@@carmenupshur-tucker6222👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 love your story
WW tears = deadly weapon
AND THEY HAVE LEARNED THIS AT A YOUNG AGE!! THEY KNOW HOW TO WEAPONIZE THE TEARS AND THE WW/KAREN BEHAVIOR.
Why aren’t black women weaponizing their tears?
@@co_7523 exactly! Those WW tears got me in trouble. My supervisor would say " you know how she is, emotional"
They also will feel some type of way whenever you are shy, they will say" Oh, you're so quiet". They get mad if we don't run our mouths to them or even act likes stereotypical black clown for their amusement. I swear they are truly intimidated by us.
THIS!!
It's not just white female, I experienced this from Mexicans and Philippinos most of them are also prejudiced towards black people. And some mexican like to talk down to you
I hate the fake smiling
I know!!..It's nauseating
I don’t participate….. they can look weird by themselves!
@@cwht1708I just return their fake smile with a no expression face.
Drives me crazy. Fake AF
That's how you deal with someone who's openly hostile towards you. You don't get hostile right back at them. That's why so many black women are getting into brawls with other black women. If you're not ghetto, don't act like it. Don't walk around grumbling about white people, and always glaring at them. That's how you get the reputation for being "rude, aggressive" they won't come out and call you racist, but when it's time to cut the fat? Bye, Reinesha. Female black employees I've worked with see all kinds of things that aren't there. They act like they can't stand to be around white people, yet they apply for jobs around them. Most black women having problems in the workplace are having them because of their own attitudes towards white people. They've been told by their mothers that white people are evil, white people are the cause of all their problems, etc, and they carry this chip on their shoulder their whole lives. You hate them and assume they hate you and that shapes your attitude and causes problems ion dealing with them. You're going to have this self-imposed issue until you find a job you prefer: working only around black men. Maybe become a prison guard or something.
I am a 36 yr old black man that has worked in corporate/office environments. And I can honestly say that I have never seen a group of people more difficult to work with than white women. In my past job they made it hell for me and threw me up under the bus several times. They were promoted into positions they didn’t deserve while I sat for years in the same role.
Damn
@carloszee8421 ...I have experienced the same situation, too. WW promoted into positions that they're not educated enough to perform. Also, I've seen and known them to be the BIGGEST group of leadership that practices discrimination on every level.
I'm a 35 year-old black woman. The WW at my corporate office do NOT like me.. except for 1. but she's kinda weary about liking me, she acknowledges me, but I never get to experience her fun personality she displays with people who look like her. However, a lot of the white men there do like me. I don't plan on staying at this job for 2+ years.
Yeah... they do try to interrogate you. My response is usually "why do you ask?" and I give them the same fake smile that they give me. Another thing they do (not only in the workplace) when you're a well put together and smart BW, they will compare themselves to you CONSTANTLY. Always looking to see if you have something they don't, they feel the need to one up you in everything, because in their mind, they must have SOMETHING that you cannot. To them, this validates their belief that they are above you. Their insecurities are off the wall! They want to control non-white women the way WM control them.
THIS^^^ Like the lady in that conference hall supporting MTG did to Jasmine Crockett when she kept telling her to calm down??? She didn't tell MTG to calm down or anything Lolsss>>>> They love to make us look aggressive when they're the ones who instigated the whole situation so they could say that we're going all 'Black Woman' on them!!!
Very true.
I am Native American, and I see this happening on my reservation. They do this running our HR departments that are supposed to be our tribe's organization, but they hire a majority of their people than our people or people of color and start their clicks like its college... OMG This is truth to me, and I appreciate your videos. Thank you.
That sounds very on brand for them and I’m so very sorry to hear that This is happening on Reservations but not surprised. The horrors that 🖐🏻 Right America has inflicted on indigenous people on their own soil is just unfathomable. This is why my argument is that they collectively have no empathy.
@@theantihrBLK PEOPLE ARE THE INDEIGENIOUS PEOPLE SOME WERE ALREADY HERE THE RED NATIVES DID MIGRATE FROM ASIA READ UR HISTORY.
Are you Navajo?? If so you ain't lying because I was telling my daughter mom who is from the Navajo how are people from India owning most of the business on the reservation and not the local natives.. it seems like some of their tribal leaders are selling out their own for money
@theantihr Trump has did many amazing things to help us colored. VOTE 🗳 TRUMP 2024
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Go REPENT and be healed by The Most High! You are most likely a member of the lost tribes of Israel = a descendant of transatlantic slave trade!
This is why I don’t ever engage with them in a friendly manner. When I see BW trying to be friendly with them and gain their approval it annoys me, because I know WW aren’t interested in being equals.
I had a BW coworker that used to overlook a WW coworkers racism comments. Her response to the WW was to start bending over backwards and being super nice in hopes to gain her favor. She started telling in herself in front of the WW in order to gain trust from the mindset “If I tell some of my secrets, I’ll appear to be an ally and this WW will want to tell me some secrets too”.
I told her repeatedly “STOP TALKING AROUND HER!”
Shortly after, the WW played a large role in the BW being fired
You’re are doing God’s work. Thank you for putting this knowledge out there. This topic has ruined the lives of so many BW and it needs to be discussed, because I have noticed just how oblivious a lot of Black people are when it comes to WS.
I see them even participating in degrading their people 😒 to fit in. And help degrade another bw openly. Disgusting. All they do is see them as cowards. There is no favor to gain.
It is so dangerous to think these women are allies. Just insane.
Just look up the history of the suffragette movement and how the feminist movement (and honestly the civil rights as well) has left our bw !!!
I remember trying to have an honest conversation with a white woman about racism, a conversation that she initiated. When the conversation got real she started crying. I asked her “why are you crying?” The conversation shifted to her hurt feelings. I was so disgusted that I never spoke with her again.
Dr. King tried to do that during the CRM, and you see how that turned out!
@@andreabrown4541 EXACTLY!!!
Best not to discuss racism with them at work, especially if they initiated it, they do that on purpose to trap you, they do it to get up in your head to find out how you really feel about why.te ppl, they do it to rattle your chain, because they know blk ppl act on their emotions, and then they use it against you as ammunition later on and report you as being racist, because "you" said this and that about why.te ppl. Best not to engage. They even get on these platforms and read these comments, as a way to see how we think, feel, what we talk about, they still trying to be in control.
@teetime3421 ...Malcolm X, warned us. We were to busy trying to integrate.
It’s called main character syndrome. They are the center and everyone caters to them 😅
It's not just black and white it is also Latinos. This is a known phenomenon in the southwest US and much of the west coast where Latino populations are high. Of course not ALL Latinos are anti-black but a great deal of them are sadly. Additionally, California has the largest number of work place lawsuits against Latinos for harassment and discrimination against black workers to date.
@@vincentmartin3337 I understand what you're saying. Black and or Latino white supremacist are the worst and I'll never do well around them.
My son lives in Vegas and he says that the Latinos are out of pocket towards Black people. They have their own infrastructure and supermarkets etc. they are highly competitive and antagonistic towards Black people and are essentially anti-Black. P.S. they provide cover for their illegal immigrant counterparts by giving them work and places to stay. They are accomplishing a slow and steady advancement while stepping over BP in the process.
Add Asians and Arabs to that list as well. I know some who aren't bootlickers but most are.
It’s starting to happen on the east coast as well.
That's due to the shifting power dynamic. If they reach a level of management they are not like us, they are not conditioned to not hire their own to prove they are not discriminating when it's BLATANT discrimination they will turn the entire facility into something that looks Cinco de Mayo. I remember a time my sister and I were getting coffee through a McDonald's drive thru we got to the window and it was a white boy taking our money. We looked at each other with pure joy, it was the strangest emotion, we got our coffee got out of the drive thru and fell out laughing, we couldn't stop laughing. Imagine being over the moon happy to see a white boy with a job. Believe me, it felt so strangely odd good we could have got out and did the happy dance.
I'm not at all surprised about the poll results. Everything that you said was spot on! W
W approaching us at restaurants or other venues (symphonies, museums, art galleries, vineyards, etc.) asking us unwarranted bizarre questions. I was having dinner with three of my cousins last night discussing this. It has not been our imagination. This WW egregious behavior in the workplace for BW is very real and ugly. You dissected this down to the bone marrow. I and many other professional BW have studied WW (including their white adjacents) and have strategically manuvered accordingly in these workspaces/places. Until WW develop a modicum of empathy, then just maybe, they'll be human and decent. Otherwise, WW are hollow and insecure in my eyes.
I will be waiting when you address the white adjacents, aka non-Black POC, in their anti-Blackness in the workplace.
I thank you for bringing us much needed content.
Theyre literally a nation of narcissistic sociopath rcist. This is why they do and say bizarre things to others. Its better to observe them than to internalize what theure doing and saying.
I used to watch every move they made..😉
Well said! I feel the same.
Well said! I feel the same.
Well said! I feel the same.
For non person of color for me it’s always been Latino or even Ethiopian ppl. I don’t want to sound childish but I had an experience where my coworkers would talk about how beautiful they thought I was. I work in a hospital. So this is happening across all “fields”. This Ethiopian girl pulled me to the side and tried to figure out why she thought everyone thought I was beautiful as a proud extremely dark skinned African American woman who kept getting compliments and getting called beautiful. She even was shocked that I am African American and not some form of islander. Ppl of color who are not black can be just as destructive and disrespectful.
I think beauty also plays a factor.
Yes about time we talk about Ethiopians. I just fled DC due to an Ethiopian male so called "manager". He fired a young black woman 6 months prior after provoking her for months. He thought we were his personal property. It was very traumatizing but I taught him a lesson right before my exit.
@@CocoaBeigeBy the way, what was the lesson?
So, it was the old, "You're beautiful for a black woman thing!" That's so annoying! I'm sorry, you went through such harshness! I bet you're just lovely as can be!
@@CocoaBeige Foreign males regardless of color have different ideas about women which are exaggerated when dealing with African American women. Pale faced ones want to use your body in addition-to bullying. Giving “ favors” to them will not save your job!
Yep.
They love to pick out any minute error and blow it up over exaggerating
This!
That is the MO. This is true regardless of performance, but more so if your performance is a direct threat.
Some Mexicans are they way too .
Yes!
OMG! 100% factual. If you're high performing, confident, knowledgeable, etc. please believe that they hyper-focus on your faults to throw you under the bus. I had this happen to me so many times, it's not even funny. Mind you, they have the room to make mistakes but when you're a black woman, you're not allowed to do it.
As an oncology nurse that transitioned to corporate, this is spot on. I had to flee & regroup for my mental health.
FINALLY a real sister who speaks the truth and is actually out to help instead of the typical “crabs in the barrel” mentality with black culture
I experienced work bullying, trauma, and racism so severe that I had to take mental health leave for four months. My offender was a white female.
Per usual
I hope that you are well and continue taking care of YOU 😘
Always white women for me
Mine is white women and Mexican women. Think there superior...smh 🤔
I've had the worst experiences with them. They are Deceitful Narcissist. Stay away from them
Also thank you for talking about this as an older woman as well. I’m in my mid 30s and I feel at least half or more of my parents generation including my parents are in denial about these types of issues/interactions and have often gaslighted me and tried to say I was too sensitive or needed to be more “friendly”. This is very affirming. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and verbalizing some of these universal experiences 🙏🏾
If you don't desire being liked your not as easy to control is such a good point. In addition to the informal groups they try to get you to join a ERG (employee resource group) another way to get women and minorities to participate in unpaid labor and fix problems they create. The most common way they try to control you is dangling a promotion in front of you. I've been working professionally for 19 years (I'm voluntarily underemployed because I'm a senior level individual contributor and I make enough money to retire at 55 so not interested in more money and responsibility) so they can't control me like they do other people although like everyone else I have to work.
Those ERG’s are dirty work. I’m gonna talk about them in a separate video.
This is my exact situation as of late! I literally just had an interview on Friday that I feel they had no intentions of hiring me, but they had me do an interview to say that they gave me a shot for the record.
I have no desire in being liked, they feel challenged when I ask questions to get more details, but they are perfectly fine with me assisting other people in the department or on my team. I have double the caseload than a lot of people on my team and still get more work done than them. I've never been at a job with so many white women in leadership. I have never went for three jobs since December and not gotten one of them. ATP I'm just waiting on the next opportunity to come along, but we are in a tough job market.
You are so right about the ERGs! I have been asked to work on starting the group. I declined. They found a young lady who was all in. She contacted me about naming the group. I gave her my thoughts. DEI (diversity, equity & inclusion) is about to be dead. It's already dying.
@@theantihr is that the same/similar to the affinity groups?
Thank you for pointing this out, this is important!!
“There’s no crying in leadership”
You can cry in therapy and later with trusted place
White women tears hold weight, and we, out of all people should know this better than anyone.
Notice leadership is never being stalked harassed false imprisoned tortured in Guantanamo Bay.
I had a white female co-worker try to make me look bad to our administrator. However, I had all the information and facts wish proved I was doing my job. I provided my work to our administrator and the look on her face it was like ber head exploded that she could not expose me. I walked back with her and said thank goodness I had all my information and work completed. She had such upset look on her face 😂😂😂. I was at another job and a white female worker complained to the manager that a group of blackwomen were engaging with each other and not her. She said it was racially motivated. I said maybe its because they all know each other, and her reply was another blackwoman started the job and they engage with her. 😂
I’m sixty two years old and ..I was a Scan Coordinator in which 2% were black in a sea of white women, and just liked you…… I experience everything you are telling now,…you are literally telling my stories.
I don’t deal with them at all, I look right past them as they are invisible. I’ll speak only if they speak to me. I drive Tractor Trailers n work for foreigners. They are great, we all have respect for each other. I only deal with them at shippers and receivers for 10 minutes.
You're blessed
This is exactly how I am in the work place with random w women walking the office halls etc.
I wish you were available 30 years ago. I’m sure it’s worse since then. Corporate companies are evil. They hire you, and they’re ready to fight with you when you prove yourself competent. Then, they start a game to push you out of your job. You think you can go to work every day and get through it every day until you realize you are going crazy. It’s horrible to think you can retire from a company to secure your livelihood. After over thirty years, it still affects me mentally. Thank God I was always creative to style hair. I got my AS degree in Cosmetology. I’m so much happier. The sad thing is I have clients sitting in my chair and venting about their job experiences. I get so sad to hear their stories and how they are on antidepressants. It’s sad.
You just described my current situation and it is mentally draining and anxiety-causing. It’s sad bc I accepted this job to help kids learn art but not with the WW micromanaging, trying to take over and prove me to be incompetent even though I’m not, and generally making criticisms to no end. They are pushing me to quit atp and I really can’t afford to but nothing is worth your dignity or self-worth.
I can definitely believe your poll results! I have been set up by White Karens in the workplace multiple times during my 35-year career. Women period will often breed that destructive competitiveness that you mentioned but it’s mostly white women whom are always seeking to control their Black female coworkers. I have experienced this several times, bc just like you, I too didn’t show enough interest in their clicks and wouldn’t bow down to their attempts to control me. Thanks for another truthful and informative discussion!👍🏾
Jim Crow mindset is very much alive. I have had several WW and WM seek to befriend me, date me, be a housemate or roommate ... only to learn that they were anxiously jealous and intimated of me because I am kind, smart, driven, introverted with extroverted tendencies. You have to be mindful of WP seeking friendship unfortunately. There is a colonial history that says POC are not suppose to make WP feel inferior and if they feel that way towards you, their motives will be deviant. I notice they will ask questions to get access to my personal information, challenge whatever I say, create chaos to try to stress me out, be 'passive' aggressive so they can gaslight and so I can't use 'the race card' because then I will get backlash for being 'sensitive (to abuse -_-)' so they can have power and control and try to make me feel less than. Of course it is not all WP, but because this part of Wt history is not held accountable and addressed by WP it is passed down generationally just like any other cultural pattern.
Very interesting, dated someone who was envious of me and I was soooooo confused but that makes sense. I shall be aware of these wolves.
One of the best books I ever read was by Dr. Jean Noble called Beautiful Also Are The Souls Of My Black Sisters, written in the early 70s. She had the pulse on white women hands down.
That book is $5,000 on Amazon.
@@peacefreedom4930 JUST WOW!!!
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Hello, Ann Marie (my apologies if I misspelled your name). Stopping by to listen to your enlightening conversations. I am also a former HR professional and am now in a support role in health and safety. Thank God. I wanted to comment to share a book selection, "They Were Her Property " with you and other subscribers on this topic. The book details and reinforces your point of white woman being active participants in the system of the enslavement of African people.
I can tell you, having worked in a male dominated field, that many of the men act similarly and do see you as a threat and will try to befriend you or oppose you immediately or treat you in a manner where you’re supposed to be subordinate to them when you’re actually their superior. There are only a few that are not insecure and usually that’s only the one that hired you.
Yup. You get in there, and it's you and Bob. Everyone else is an enemy.
Working mostly remotely saved me. I couldnt take the toxicity anymore. These people will do anything to keep b.w or b.m at the bottom of the food chain, even the so called nice ones.
This This This
We as black people need to start getting along and have our own!!!!
Born Happy Nappy and Black 🖤
Almighty knitted me
In the Womb
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Also, white women are so surprised when your childhood equals theirs, are your childhood was better! Oh, and don't talk about your travels and hobbies! I think they think we sit at home thinking about them!!!
@rhondabryant667 Yeah, there was a somewhat shocked look on their silly looking faces whenever I would speak on my loving father living in the home. And the places he'd take us to, and the things he'd do for us. As IF we all were fatherless like they love to believe. The myth and stereotype. 🙄
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These experiences are reported NATION wide for blk ppl in the workplace. So if ppl get uncomfortable, they need to deal with it so changes can be made. We have got to recognize that ww and wm operate like narcissistic sociopaths as rcist. It becomes easier to handle encounters w them when you observe them in this way.
Most definitely
Exactly this, narcissistic sociopaths. The behavior is exactly that, and they know it. It’s one of the reasons they claim so few people are diagnosed as such when they have an entire culture based on these behaviors.
@@claricelyles8398 Well said, narcisstic sociopaths is exactly how they operate.
It's not just ww and wm. The mexican are the new whyts and they have nerve their be
discriminated against by a what person...smh
It’s a “profound neurosis” as Toni Morrison said
Love your videos…this one is my favorite. I had the same problem as you when I was younger. I was direct and unapologetic too. The treatment I got was horrible.I finally left that toxic work place, and I did not realize how traumatized I was. It still shakes me to my core.
They get a kick out of hiring you just to fire you. That isn’t supreme if you ask me.
I absolutely loved ❤ this video! Thank you! 🙏🏾. I was not surprised by the poll results because of the recent TikTok where black women were asked, if they were on a new job, who would they rather walk into conference room: a white man or a white woman? Sisters overwhelmingly picked the white MAN!! And for the very same reasons you mentioned.
It's the favoritism, passive-aggressivness, being micromanaged, the fake smiles, and sexual harassment in the workplace by white men and women, and let me include a couple of gay white men who've bullied me in the workplace as well.
Trust and believe I have dealt with infelicitous situations in the workplace and it's difficult trying to explain myself to the HR manager, a sista who turns a blind eye.
I know this has nothing to do with the topic but I wanted to know why white women feel so comfortable asking black women for help in
fixing their wardrobe malfunctions in public, and asking how much the company is paying them?. 🙄
This commentary was very informative and very true.
Thank you sista.
Peace, love and positive vibes. 💐
You are speaking the truth! You have put a spotlight on a situation with a couple of WW who were my coworkers. They tried so hard to boss me around but I wasn’t having it. I retired 2 years early because I didn’t want to get fired from the place I had worked for 41 years. You have opened my eyes to what was really going on. Thank you so much!!!
I've had WW 20 years older than me start ish at work. I was grateful for my WM boss at the time who put a stop to that real quick. Whenever I'd see her after that she'd turn around and act like she didn't see me. Good!
I can see eye to eye with you. Thanks for all the information. My grandfather always say to us we are not better than anyone and no one is better than us.
I agree! Most of my problematic encounters in the past 20 yrs have been with whites women; my neighbor, manager and coworkers. Two of my coworkers years ago tried to get me fired over resting my head on my desk minutes before clocking out.
I was a manicurist for 35 years and I experienced the same thing not only with my coworkers but with my clients as well. Things really did get bad when Trump took office, clients would say the craziest things to me with a smile on their face and be shocked when I tell them not to come back. lol. They are evil.. even the “liberal” ones. I closed my salon in 2023 for a more peaceful career and I am so grateful.
Most of my managers have been white women and at some point they have called me aggressive, or like the last job apart of why I wasn't able to be promoted, which has. been so hurtful to keep experiencing. It's so weird because I have often been more qualified than my managers but just younger, which I feel has made me a "target" in corporate America, instead of an asset.
Don’t believe them. There’s nothing wrong with your communication style or your personality. It’s not you it’s them.
@@theantihrThis System Can Not And Will Not Be Sustainable Much Longer. There Is A Debt Owed To Us! We Israelites Have No Friends! Our Brillance, And Melanin Literally Keeps The Sun From Burning Them Up!!!!! KNOW THAT!!!
@@theantihrWe Are More Than A Color In A Crayon Box !!! We Are Israelites! We Are Israelites! We Are Israelites!
They use code words to hinder you from moving forward; but I've learned to get them before they get me.
@@theantihrPlease Read The Book , They Were Her Property By Stephanie E Jones Rogers It Tells About All of The Brutuality Distributed.
Finally, a channel that not only helps in worklife and has real tangible action-oriented advice to better one's life! Thanks to remote work, I have more peace. But even then, a YT Hispanic woman always wanted to do harm or sabotage me and I didn't know her from jack. Mind you, I'm private, keep to myself and don't share personal nothing with ANYONE on jobs. Intimidation I guess. Thankfully, I'll even be transitioning out of this once my business gets up and running after my patent submission. I've learned to monetize and patent my creative acumen for true freedom. The workplace is a hostile and traumatic place for alot of Black Women.
This conversation is spot on 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Another Excellent video!
I appreciate that
These women I dealt with in the military and in the education system. They dont phase me and will never win.
Your not lying. I remember when I worked at this call center there. Was a white girl I use to message with on Skype and she had a thing for black dudes she would always say negative things about black woman like she was tryna impress me I immediately stop answering her messages and she got the hint
Thank you for doing that. BW are put down and talked about by people that don’t even know us.
She does that because it works unfortunately
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they always keep us in their mind when they like black men. Just like the Russian women going viral. Why would we care when we birth and create the black men they love so much
Because she believed or told she was the black desire, but for some reason they some of them are still jealous of black women.
Excellent
I wish you would talk about Black Women turning on each other. When one plays victim because she is jealous, feels interior, less educated and intimated by another BLACK sister
I made a whole video apparently you haven’t watched it
@@theantihr No ma'am. l am a NEW subscriber. First time watching. I will look for it.
@@theantihr going to watch - missed it.
I'm retired now nearly 3 years I worked 45 years in many different roles but the treatment was the same on each level.
I so enjoyed your take on this and could attest to a lot of it. My concern now are for those coming after me. My generation basically grinded and beared it, not so sure the next generation will do the same, thanks again for your insight on this topic 🙏🏾
Nope. I’m gen z and my peers are not sucking up and taking it 😂
we feel very uncomfortable lol and don't have to bear it.. But I know what you mean because my parents did the same.
Not only do men negotiate more money versus women, but men also negotiate for more PTO!!
Wow PTO 😮...... I have never considered negotiating that before
Other melinated groups look down on ADOS and get to be wyte at our expense. I work in healthcare in NYC. Don't get me started on Latin X.
@AdvancedNursesEdConsultant Everything is negotiable! You would be amazed what some people negotiate during the offer stage. Especially white men.
@@daviscd6837 Latin X are in high numbers in the manufacturing environment where NEPOTISM is widespread!! Ive seen multiple entire families working in one facility. The majority of them are fluent in English but everyone speaks Spanish when non Spanish speaking coworkers are. present.
@@preciousaryee2901Payment of student loans, investment perks, pto, living situation, etc. That why people always say, “have the audacity of a white man”
This was so needed. I'm going to send this to my professional girlfriends. We talk about the issues of being the only or one of the few and how WW AND gay WM try to treat us. Once you check them/put them in their place, they back off & change tactics. Thank you so much!
I'm less than twenty minutes in and when I hear this level of truth telling, I feel so empowered. Thank you so much!
This is a great video... we need to start removing ourselves and build wealth outside of corporate
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That's definitely WHY they are so jealous of us. Your strength of who you are and those of us that will NOT play their game. Thanks for sharing, hope that all age group of so called black women can hear you!!! AWESOME!!!
I have been searching RUclips for videos in regards to black women and white women in the workplace and I’m so happy that you spoke on this. Every job I’ve ever had I always had a white woman being problematic. Especially when she aligns herself with a code switching black woman.
The workforce in general and the work environment in particular is such a cesspool of wickedness…
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There were no lies detected in this video! This is the straight truth regarding most white women in the workplace. Not all, but most - like 98%. Thanks for another great video. 🙌🏼
Absolutely! You are on point! I have had that experience of the white women asking "how did you get here?" at my first college and in my work places.
You are preaching to my entire experience at this new job. I didn't even put my credentials in my signature of email as to not intimidate my 100% white women department
I used to think something was wrong with me. I could never get a long with WW.
me too.
@hopeandvictory2081 Psalm 83:4-5 We Are Israelites! We Are Salt And Light! Read Psalm 148:14 then Read Ezekiel 35:5: Too.
i thought i was the only one who felt that way. I
I’m dealing with workplace micro aggression as a black nurse on the job. I have the most seniority on the job, however, the white nurses and a nurse of color came together and do everything to prevent me from being in charge. They also found out my pay and began acting out. I overheard the nurse of color told the white nurse who got the charge position, now u make more money than she do. I am looking for a workplace lawyer. I have told my nurse manager and not much has been done. This is going on in Detroit, Michigan.
I wanna say ThankU. I’ve gone through so much in the workplace, simply working with them alone. This video was so well done and very informative. The sad part is almost everything/ almost every situation ya mentioned in this video, I’ve experienced in real life real time. It’s truly sad.
I’m very sorry about what you’ve had to experience, but I’m glad that the video was helpful in explaining it
I am so very happy to be retired. My career was in the entertainment industry. I learned pretty early in my career that WW were insecure in their position and could not be trusted. I made it out alive!
Omg I can only imagine the stories you could tell.
I face this daily, I’m so tired of it!! I work for a state agency. In a department where all work from home except me and one other black female coworker.😢 we got a new worker WM to join us. Within 2 weeks he was working from home too😂😂😂😂! Why Lord! Oh why!! I’m 53 years old and I’m so tired, I’m smart, educated, intelligent and very good 😌 I just be glad when I don’t have to go through this no more!
Ask why you and other Black lady are not working from home
@@marlomchenry1784 Not sure, the work is at a halt. They seem to just keep us sitting there. Holding a room
@@shedeeforrealYou should go through the proper channels to find out why you and the other aren’t allowed to work from home. If you’re tired of it, make it a priority.
@@shedeeforrealSounds like they have you two nigras there under strict urveillance. Watching y'alls every move and listening to everything y'all talk about.
Thank you for taking the time to film all of your amazing content. Your content has helped me move in a more informed way in the workplace. ❤❤
I’m a new subscriber, I missed the poll but I would had checked white woman.
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I also worked in HR too. Well one day I was putting the insurance files away, and I happened to notice that a newly hired 19 year old WW in our small group (I was the only Blk one amongst 5) who was still living at home with her parents, no children, started out making more than me, the one with the college degree!
She had just graduated high school. 😒 Needless to say, I didn't stay there. I don't like being messed over and being aware of it.👎🏼
Some so called black men need to hear your message!!!
That part! Many see nothing wrong with them.
So much information. Thank you. Now I understand many difficult situations i went through. I couldnt understand why i was always having issues with w.w at work. They created issues, went and whined to their w .m or w. w supervisors and they put me through hell. I cannot understand why some people feel the need to act as if they are superiors. We are all equals.
💯 white women..i hate to say but ive only had 2 or 3 women managers black or white who ive trusted. Ive run into very few who are secure down to earth , respected my work ethic and didnt turn everything into a competition..i also have to be fair my first white woman boss did not like me at first but i did such a good job for her ( high school internship) she wrote me a letter of recommendation
Sorry that happened to you. Even with the first boss, she wasn’t being fair to you. If you were a white girl, you wouldn’t have had to prove yourself by doing a good job for her before she decided to like you.
I worked at a major Midwest bank, which was known to discriminate. I have experienced this as well. They are absolutely problematic. You have to stay on your guard. WW weaponize their fragility and privilege.
Yep..they wicked with it too..🙄😉
Spot on commentary! The weaponization of tears is so accurate and other non- black women sometimes try to pick up this weapon to use against black women in the workplace. However, they have lower and inconsistent success rates using this weapon compared to white women.
This channel will go viral, i knew it from day 1 there is clearly and issue in workplaces and racism that needs addressing, and it will not go away until its addressed by governments properly.
Spot on. This validates my experiences because I thought I was being difficult
No, they project racist thoughts about what your personality is onto you and make it seem like it’s you, when it’s character assassination
You have the gift and insight to speak on this subject matter. Glad that you’re no longer in the corporate workforce and now free and able to speak on this matter to shed some light on the pervasive problems of white supremacy that exist in America.
@@jameslittlejohn4524 it's not just America it's seems to be wherever Europeans are the majority.
39:25 SAME. Our communication is a problem when we don’t bend over backwards. They make it impossible for us to “fake smile”.
Thank you for this video. It popped up in my suggested videos. I’m a young BW that has experienced a lot of issues in the workplace are instigated by YTW. They won’t let us be. I’ve come to the conclusion that they are just miserable, are there to keep patriarchy and racism going in the workplace and society. Can’t wait to hear you discuss YT identified POC
mirroring YT women’s behavior in the workplace.
I’m a law student and appreciate your perspective it’s being added to my tool box.
This is absolutely brilliant and poignant! Please also discuss the trauma and PTSD associated with this work environment.
I talk about this some in my videos but I am not a psychotherapist or psychologist so I don’t talk about it very much. I recommend that you check out the channel of Kimani Norrington Sands, Lifting as we Climb. She talks at length about the impact of hostile jobs on the psyche of black women - follow her. We did a joint master course together where we talked about the importance of black women saving themselves from hostile toxic work environments and taught them strategies for not only doing that but for exiting these environments with cash in hand 💰You can grab access to the replay of the course on my website and I highly recommend that you follow Kimani!
As much as we try to deal, co exist or get along with WW, we (BW) are diametrically opposed to them just with history, how we are treated in society, how we are raised and our culture.
Everything this woman is saying is 💯on point. Take note! 23:08 the constant questioning, I call an 'interrogation'. the famous cheesy fake smile the high pitched nasal voice and overly fake politeness 39:38
Agreed
Great video. I’m terrified of returning to work because it’s the same as I left it 30 years ago. Unfortunately, I worked mostly with WM, so my experience is they are the worst. BUT…I’d still rather a WM than a WW. If you did a ranking poll on whom we’d rather work with, I’d be interested in seeing those results and the resultant discussion.
I echo the conclusion that we cannot fix this. We can only figure out how to navigate it successfully, and know that it comes with a huge cost to our spirit and soul.
Thanks for the amazing content.
It’ll likely be WM for majority. Because they are men, they behave in an aggressive way that’s typical of all men. Also, they trump WW in their own hierarchy as they are THE gatekeepers. So they don’t feel they lose anything by a BW working with them. WW are competing with BW because both are women. They hold their whiteness over you as their only shield of superiority.
Never lasted under a White supervisor ww longer than 3 months. Only had two in my entire work career.
WW LOVE to fire you! It really, really, makes them exceptionally happy! They are demons and enjoy delivering any form of emotional pain to any woman of color!!!
I’m sooooo happy you put this on Front St. I’ve been saying this for years and everyone thought I was crazy. WW do WS bidding. They’re way worse than WM. Both are horrible in the workplace.
What you're saying is so accurate that it's like you worked the job with me. I had to leave. My health issues got so bad due to the stress of dealing with the discrimination and belittling. I'm still healing and I left four months ago.
My manager (white lady) ends our meeting with “I will talk at you later.”. This doesn’t sound like we are working as a team.
Brilliant pod cast keep them coming please ❤ just a suggestion it would be nice if you could open a panel so people can share there experiences 😊
Good Evening The Anti-HR-HR Lady,
Another spot on brilliant commentary and observation video that was truthful and insightful as always!
It made me cringe and wince at the remembrance of the behavior that is always horrific. Thank you for your unapologetic candidness in a time where exposure is the new thing…truth should never be seen as novelty.
Anyway thank you and I look forward to another of your videos and I hope to be able to reach out to you this week with regards to a project I’m working on.
Best Wishes,
NZINGHA
Thank you for the information. I'm a man, but I'm outnumbered by women in my field and this is good information to know.
Excellent conversation! Truthful and informative on how We are impacted in the workplace. Your wisdom is helping many.
Thank you for your time and expertise. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👏🏽
1:00:01 WM negotiate, but even if BW negotiate doesn’t mean they will be taken seriously. They want to give WM and WW money and opportunities. For BW that’s not the case, we are barely given the opportunity if they don’t have a Black quota to meet.
You’ll never know if they won’t give you what you want. If you don’t ask for it every time I’ve asked for more money. I have gotten it.
@@theantihr I 100% agree with you.
Watching your video was therapeutic and emotional. I have experienced everything you referenced. I was removed from my position and placed in a corner... by a white woman. I was seen as a threat and I would not schuck and jive. I am proud that I maintained respect for myself and always continued ntegrity in my work quality. This has not been easy as we went from a work force that multiple had black men and women in leadership positions to now maybe 1-3 percent in our organization. So glad that your video was suggested to me.
This is such a great video and very much appreciated. I just wish I had this video years ago when I stepped into the law firm that I currently work at. It would have helped me navigate a lot better. 😊
WOW- thank you so much for this. I held ono every word. My initial reaction is: "what are we -black women- supposed to do now?" We are still in the position to just take it. sadly. I was hoping for strategies to combat the crybabies, the gossipers, the fake, pretentiousness, that will continue to exist, since they do it to each other. I very MUCH look forward to the next videos about interactions with island immigrants and the mantra of "black women are not your enemy". Also since very few women of color reach federal govt. senior level executive positions, what can you provide as a playbook or guide to avoid landmines for black women. Both scrutinizing and investigating the: "TOP 10 Pitfalls to navigate around and/or Stay strong in leadership by listening and move strategically, without losing respect"......................I am interested!
Important topic to help neutralize workplace racism! Shared!
NB: I'd love to see your thoughts on "ex-pat" info. ♥
When going into these workspaces, it's so unfortunate but BW have to be as strategic as possible while working with White folk. That's why during the interview, you have to ask who would this role report to? And after that question, I ask how long have they been with the company and describe the personality type? My prayer used to be if I have to report to a particular ethnicity, let it be a White male but NOW that has changed tremendously. No luck, with reporting to a WM, WW or BW. So, just praying that it's someone who's post Civil Rights Era, who is focused on retiring and allowing me to do my job without all the hang ups! Yep, and this election will have a tremendous impact on our workspaces!
Thank you for this important work you're doing!!
Welcome!
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Everything you spoke on, I experienced and actually grew because of it. The problem is that a lot of us are waiting for THEM to end W/Supremacy but the system is embedded all the way down to its social media platforms and comments we are allowed to post. I spoke on my experience as well, dealing with supremacy in the corporate world. We keep asking for equality/equality to morals beneath our own instead of demanding what we’re owed. I constantly worked with black women who were afraid to make THEM uncomfortable. We have to stop coddling their race-is-um* and start putting ourselves first. Only we can end W/Supremacy. It’s just a mater of when.
Black people cannot end white supremacy. Period point blank we do not control the system and we can’t end it. The only people who can change the system and NY supremacy is white people. If Black people could’ve changed it it would be changed already.