People always tell introverts to be more talkative and get out of our comfort zones, but no one tells extroverts to stfu and make the zone comfortable.
I just enjoy being alone more than being in the company of others. I never feel alone when I am alone. I look forward to going home after work to peace and quiet.
You have a rich inner world. Of course you’re going to give more weight to your intuitive or subjective musings (which don’t necessarily require the vis-a-vis company of other people). It just makes you more independent (for one thing).
I’ve a friend,she’s nice& good but most of the time she irritates me.doesn’t listen to me,gets upset with me,is stubborn,sometimes forget the manner to talk,she pressurise me to do things which I probably don’t like& when I say no she gets upset. I’m an extreme introvert & don’t like being with her much. Recently I told her that I like to be alone with my family and don’t like to be with friends much. She’s again upset with me. Is this a good friendship or not?
we are not antisocials. We are selective. We are not shy. We select our audience. we let people in. But not just anybody. we are aware of the need to conserve our energy.
The isolation I had during the COVID pandemic was one of the most relaxing periods of my life. I was still able to enjoy all my favorite activities, since none of them require other people.
I know exactly what you mean. I loved the lockdown, even though I was still going to work everyday. The traffic was almost non-existent which was awesome. It was like the world took a vacation all at once. I love the lack of people around
@@UKGeezer It takes practice but throws people off when you get good enough. But practice responding to their questions using their exact voice but a slightly higher pitch, people will start to leave you alone, but they won't know why.
Total introvert here. I get so sick of hearing obnoxious extroverts coin introverts as loners because we refuse to fall prey to social media! In my opinion introverts are independent and leaders where as extroverts are followers and users. I’d rather hire a ton of introverts over extroverts!
I’ve been with my other half for 20 years. He’s always been loud and sociable, whilst I prefer quiet time just the two of us. He’s recently decided he doesn’t like me anymore, and has been especially cruel and nasty about the fact I’m introverted. I feel like I’m at school again being bullied for being quiet. I’ve spent 20 years forcing myself to be someone I’m not. All I’ve ever wanted is a partner who likes the simple things in life like nature, camping, animals etc, I like the odd social gathering, but I’m not into small talk crap, I prefer to talk about interesting things then make stupid random meaningless noises. Why is it that extroverts are generally regarded as more likeable when usually they’re the shallowest most uncaring of all people. They spread themselves thinly and fake their way through life by being loud and stupid most of the time. Sorry for my rant 😔
DNT feel sorry for being who you are . Maybe you DNT like large crowds of people or events . I’m a introvert , USE TO HAVE friends then they faded away because I was not always loud or attentive to hanging out . That’s the thing to spending time doing things to please others an your not even happy something I had to learn an being to open with my heart . PEOPLE WILL THEN SEE ME again an act like they cared bout me hahah . I rather be alone an unbothered . 🦁
I read this whole comment and YES!! I'm here for it!!! I can empathize, I remember being called boring by my ex..smh argue and talk about me because I wanted to stay home and read instead of going to sit at a bar and get drunk while talking loud and ignorant amongst strangers IS NOT MY IDEA OF FUN OR RELAXING!! I love love being in my room alone reading or watching videos if I'm not working or doing house work..I stay inside 30 days at a time because I work from home, sometimes I ponder being social I have a longing for socializing but I won't show up or follow thru..I refuse to waste time or innerg on anything that doesn't help loft my vibration. .that is it ,that is all..I'm not depressed or crazy ...I'm chillin
Lmaoooo w . People always think you depressed if you rock alone . I get that a lot but I mostly do me , gym I enjoy my own company to much 😂🤙🏾👌🏾 I STOP CARING . Lmao I stay in my room a lot nothin wrong with that playing video games , naps minding my business . You DNT have to be that social something I had to learn about myself . . Stop trying to comfort others .
The older I get the more I realize how being an introvert is a positive, not a negative, never was. Over a lifetime, the people and things that I wanted to know generally turned out to be unrealistic, I put people on a higher level than they deserved. Exploring, solo, has easily been my greatest reward in life, I just had to keep exploring to find what I was looking for. Hope everyone looking finds that peace as well.
I worked with this one lady who use to hate me for being too quiet and not talkative, she told my work friend to not talk to me because im "awkward". I got asked "do you talk", like yes of course I talk but I don't talk much around people who I don't feel comfortable with. Its almost like most people don't even know what being introverted is, like they just jump to introverts being "awkward". and of course I can get major social anxiety which doesn't help
@Shaolin Soldier you know, looking back after a year, I changed a lot. In this case it's all about mindset, I was definitely more awkward a year ago. Just gotta take control of your life right
In the workplace, I often noticed the extroverted people were always talking between themselves and falling behind in their work, whereas introverted people stayed quiet and just get on with the task at hand. Supervisors appreciated that. We were more productive.
As introvert, sometimes its hard to tell my family how surrounded with a lot of people drain up my energy. Yes I can go to cinema, restaurant, hiking alone and communicate with other people. No, I am not depression. I'm just enjoy my time alone at home, playing with my cats, reading my online novels and comics on my bed. No, I prefer texting instead of answering phone or video call. Nothing wrong with that
Being around strangers is fine you just don’t talk to them but being around family especially big events is draining because your related to everyone and you can’t just ignore them or even leave so your stuck. I’ve been there I can talk to my family one on one but once it’s a big crowed I just get drained. The only small relief I get is in the bathroom lol
The two conflicting desires of wanting a relationship but also wanting to be independent whenever is so true. I feel called out on a spiritual level right now-
Part of the reason I’m an introvert is because my thoughts are VERY different! I think about religion, science and solving problems around my house. People don’t believe me if I tell them what I’m thinking about, so I mostly keep my thoughts to myself.
In one episode of _Buffy the Vampire Slayer_ Buffy gain the ability to read people's minds. Cordelia has no interesting thoughts and just says everything she's thinking. Xander is worried Buffy will find out he thinks a lot about sex. Wesley tries to suppress his attraction to Cordelia. Willow is concerned that Buffy will come to know Oz better than she does. Giles is focused on finding the cause and a cure. Meanwhile Oz is considering the philosophical implications, for example that if his thoughts are the essence of his existence, and Buffy can read them, she is effectively becoming him and also everyone else around her. "We think, therefore she is."
I don't do hikes but I love the window seat on a plane. Seeing the sunset and sunrise from the prospective is so beautiful. Sometimes I'm moved to tears
This is an accurate description of me. I love being an introvert. It took me some time to understand that this is who I am, not something I do on occaision. I have fully embraced me, and gaining a better understanding through useful information took me quite a ways forward in doing so. Realizing I am NOT the only one, I am Not a freak of nature, I am Not disfunctional, I am Not wrong, has helped me accept and love myself. Thank you for this video. 👏👏👏
Always wondered what am l exactly; well now I know. I can't tell you how exhausting it is when you pick up other people's feelings; it really sucks. When you pick up someone else's bad vibes or troubled spirit we take it on &it steals our peace.
Absolutely us introverts have that ability to read energy and vibes i had to cut my friend and his wife off she was just a joy kill everytime we used to hang she would get in her feelings about something im like im good on people i rather be by myself.
Being an introvert is really easy for me. I don't mind being alone and just doing my own thing. I tried to be around people earlier in my life but it was just too much for me. I had to deal with people who used me or hurt me emotionally and that was enough to realize that I just couldn't develop relationships that were meaningful to me. I have friends that I have known for years and I have respect for them because they respected me. Overall I'm in a better place in my life because I only have to please me.
I'm very aware of my thoughts, or the actions of the people around me, but I can also zone out and be lost in thought, completely disregarding everything around me. Complete off in La La Land in my own head.
I thank god I’m a introvert i love lots of alone time. A lot of my family are extroverts . They know to leave me in peace . it took years for them to understand that I was happy reading a book while they were out and about.
I love being to myself. It's in my introvert nature. Major crowds can be draining over time, plus I'm quiet around crowds anyway. The only time I talk a lot is with those I feel comfortable with. Even then, it's good to be quiet to not feel like I'm over talking. On my weekends, I usually just stay in the comfort of my own place. Peace and solitude is important, and I feel most at peace.
I like spending time with people, but it feels like work. I have to adjust myself to be sociable and fun. I have to be willing to try new things, and compromise, and let other people get their way sometimes. When I'm by myself, none of that is there. I can be selfish. I don't have any obligations or responsibilities. I don't need to respect anyone but myself, and I don't need to push myself to do anything other than the things I personally choose to do. But that gets boring eventually, and then I want to go hang out with people. I need stimulation, emotionally and mentally and physically. It's a balancing act, and it's very important to a healthy life.
This is exactly me. I used to be very shy as a kid. I'm not nearly as shy now but still love my "me time". Definitely prefer doing most things solo usually.
I like being alone because of what I learned about human nature in my life and that is people Suck... Oh but not you..) I used to be a go out anywhere and do anything kind of person. As you get older you learn how people really are in real life and you become disapointed with people. Most people are not what they seem to be. After losing 3 of my best friends recently of 30 plus years it makes it that much harder to make new friends. So now I sit alone at home. I have become used to it and now I enjoy it. I recently had an old girlfriend contact me and wanted to get back together. Sorry not interested. I have distanced myself from all Drama. I don't like Drama so I stay at home. I prefer a drama free life thank you and like a relaxed life at home. Some say it is not healthy but if you like it then enjoy it. I know I do...
Hey that’s true , I’m an introvert I’ve always been but I’ve also had many friends and a large friend group , I was always the quiet one along w another girl I’m still close to but besides the point in a large friend group you realize everyone just talks badly about each other I had to really distance myself from that I’m still friends one the girl that was also introverted but as far as the other people in tht group I had to cut off and I’ll never regret it
Yes I'm 39 & for several years my couple of friends have been called an old woman. I laugh when they call me with their drama with others. #THEN THEY SAY, I SEE WHY YOU STAY TO MYSELF!!#LOVE MH PEACE!!
I too have let go of a few relationships recently, a couple of them were of decades, maybe they changed, maybe I did, all I know for certain is that I no longer wish to put up with certain toxic behaviors and much rather live in a drama-free zone. Totally 💯 get you!!
The main reason we introvert prefer solitude is that we don't like other people's problems jumping in line of the personal problems we already have. We think, create, stretch out and grow with less or no one around because we hate distractions and entourages offsetting our plans and ideas. We're also less likely to be narcists, braggards or showoffs.
And you also have your own cognitive functions which may or may not require the presence of other people in a vis-a-vis sense (to varying extents). A lead extraverted sensor by very virtue of the nature of that function is going to need a lot more social interaction than a lead introverted thinker or even extroverted intuitive (Ne might be technically extroverted but it’s not necessarily bubbly or outgoing in the way Se or even outgoing Si are). That’s why a lot of ENFPs (for example) seem like hardcore introverts until you get to know them better. The issue is when people who are co-dependent like so assume their way is the only normal way and that there must be something inherently wrong with everyone else. That’s when it becomes very offensive.
I'll also point out even once we fix our own problems, everyone is only ever even more interested in telling us about their problems, because they have seen how well we solved our problems. It is funny how they never seem to learn that their issue is too much talking and not enough listening, but if they were able to listen enough to learn the importance of listening, they wouldn't need to learn how to listen.
The search for isolation outside the home is a never ending quest. That’s why I did d do much time at home. It’s much more healthy, both mentally and physically, to get outside in nature from time to time, but it’s far too “peoplely” out there.
wow ! #6 is so very true and accurate with me. Having to attend parties where I know no one or very few,is a huge emotional drain on me. During my life,because of my business,I've had to go to these parties and affairs.However, I still am miserable at most of them. What a relief to be alone or with a person you love.
My family always assumed I was antisocial simply because I pretty much always wanted to be to myself, but what they failed to realized was that I made friends quite easily. I was friends with everyone and had no particular clique. That in turn made me realize that I just didn't want to be associated with just anyone. As someone who likes to continue to grow, I'm very particular about those I associate myself with. If I can't learn, grow or gain anything from being around you.....I bother to know you. Which was about reason I kept to myself.
Thank you so much for this,I'm a introvert myself I always thought I'm either shy or just not very social and thank you for that explanation and what we introverts love and understand
When people are telling you you’re crazy just because you enjoy your own company that’s going to drive an anxiety so it’s understandable you had to go through that. I’m glad you found the peace and validation you needed with this video.
Wow wow wow! These describe me so well! I wish people in my life could listen to this and understand me more. This definitely hit the nail on its head. 👌🏾
This helps explain many of my motivations and behaviors. My wife is more extroverted, but we work out and complement our differences, and tries to understand me taking long, scenic journeys on my motorcycle
If you're an Introvert but like exploring and being outside, you might look into being a long-haul truck driver. No office politics, little demand on your day other than getting there on time and pretty decent income.
When I was a little girl I used to see these truck driving school commercials on tv and think wow what a dream job, that's for me! Makes total sense now 😄
I used to be an introvert, but now I fit into the more rare category of ambivert. Still introvert dominant, of course. A hat tip to all the ambiverts out there, whether you've balanced yourself from extroversion or from introversion, you're not alone either. 💁♂🎩
This answered so many questions I had about myself and wheather or not I had some sort of personality disorder. Every point was spot on. I wish the video was longer and more detailed.
The author has done it right. I belong to the Introvert group, and I could relate to all the points in various degrees. It really helps people like me to stop feeling uncomfortable with Extroverts. Thanks!
The most jarring thing about outgoing folk is the fact that things ambiverts and introverts just expect people over a certain age to be aware of. When you’re having to tell a 32-year-old man to mind his own business and try and override his random compulsion to gossip about complete strangers they couldn’t know less about, you know there’s a problem. You wonder who these people’s mothers are.
Oh my gosh, how many times when I was younger did I make big plans with friends days or weeks in advance, only to wish I hadn't committed myself and agonize all day trying to find a way out of it. But the relief and joy when plans would simply fall through? Priceless! I count myself fortunate to like my own company 🥰
As an introvert myself, I can tell you that we may be fairly quiet in person but a lot more social online, specifically through text. Communication is a lot less stressful when you don't have to come up with an answer right away, or worry about people interrupting you and causing you to lose your train of thought. You can take your time to really think about what you want to say, instead of just blurting something out and potentially making a fool of yourself, or offending someone unintentionally.. or at least that's true of myself.
This. I'm currently taking a French class, and writing French is _so much easier_ than speaking it. I had an entire conversation in French over Discord a few weeks ago. I would not have been able to do that when speaking. (Plus, I can look up individual words that I don’t know instead of looking like a fool.)
I especially resonate with the social talking. I'm really not shy when it comes to social gatherings, I just don't feel the need to speak all the time just for the sake of talking. I'm always happy to answer questions and have no problems responding to people. But I won't just walk up to a group of people and just start rambling. I'll talk if I fell I have something meaningful to contribute
I live in a city and I usually walk a lot around it alone with headphones, I hate crowd places but it's nice to just observe everyone and I'm always so jelous of watching friends and families enjoy their time together, I want that friend(s) to do the same, only missing the mental energy for it.
“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” -Eleanor Roosevelt. Talking about people exhausts me, but about ideas and the universe ... I'm energized.
I love being alone and doing my own things in my spare time. But I'm jealous of the guys who have lots of friends and connections. No matter how good we are there're always people we can learn from in any aspect of life. But I just can't move my ass and get out!
I do not Consider / Label,,, Those in my life as Friends, ,.. I consider them acquaintance. I know more about them than there own Family. Yet the same ones, Those whom call ME there friend/ Bestfried', I have known just for a year, all the way up to my whole life, know very little about me It not that I'm hiding anything from them. I just don't volunteer or talk about myself , Education, Jobs, Places I've traveled & lived. Yep. They didn't even know I have children, until one of my children call me. Three in my life time could and enjoyed having a deep conversation every time we meet, then we both got to know each other. (To a point).🙏..
I'm a social introvert, but most of my time I spend them in solitude. Still I have lots of connections and can navigate through many social circles, most of them are acquaintances, but my true friends are just a few.
Wow, this channel hit the nail on the head for me. I never comment on RUclips, but for this one I just wanted to say thank you for the comprehension and understanding.
As an absolute introvert I can say I am not a good listener my thoughts tend to take over and I tune people out . But a few well timed nods and yeps make people think I really care.
I'm an introvert, I don't like people at all. So don't let this video fool you about introverts not liking people. Some do, some don't. It just depends on the person.
Made me laugh,the one about hoping plans get canceled. I check all the boxes,consider myself to be an extroverted introvert. Yes, quiet, not shy.Talking when there's something to say,when there's someone interested or interesting to talk to.
When i first heard the word introvert then i connected myself with this word. I always thought why i am like that but i like to spend most of time alone because first i want to discover myself and so that i can be master in my field. I always tell myself "Dear me, oneday i will make you proud" & i am working on it. I tried and i am trying to get my goal.
Life is hell when you are popular and a introvert, nobody gets it how it needs to be gotten and people always think all you need is a bit of company when the company is often the problem!
Proud to be a creative introvert though an ambivert when I was young living in NYC as a professional fashion illustrator /floral designer with all the loud noises, crowded subways and streets, starting working for corporate America at age 19! Married for 42 years, raised three kids so been there, done that! Former fitness trainer in my 40s in the 1990s. Love the peace and tranquility at age 74 now, time to read a lot i.e. a lifelong "bookaholic" and time to be even more creative painting, cooking/baking and communing with nature by the sea! It's possible to create a heaven on Earth akin to French impressionist painter Claude Monet! And as introvert American painter Georgia O'Keefe stated, "Be of the world , but not in it"!! Smart woman!
Introverts ended up stressed from absorbing and listening to other people's BS. They're sucking up our kindness to listen. And when the time we need someone to listen to us, they just didn't care.
This is probably the best video about introverts on RUclips! Thanks for posting. I'll use it as a reference when trying to explain to others what it is to be an introvert.
Stereotypically-obnoxious extraverts: ‘O.M.G., some people can spend weekends with a book and a solo bottle of wine only for company without being depressed/suicidal? Some people eat lunch alone and are okay with it? Some people are okay being the reserved, smart observer at parties who’s actually Gucci just drinking Sambuca and Budweiser in the corner? Not everyone’s gagging for round-the-clock vis-a-vis social validation? Some people actually enjoy their own company? It’s not okay to make baseless assumptions or gossip about perfect strangers (many of whom are blatantly already down and don’t need kicking) to pass the time?’ Ambiverts (including pensive, well-rounded extroverts) and introverts: ‘erm, didn’t your mum teach you all this when you were 5? How do you not know all this basic respect, personal awareness and social-propriety stuff at this your big age? Are you actually tapped in the head? How did you make it through high school, you stupid, silly, obnoxious little idiot?’
I find as an introvert I get taken advantage of quite a bit of the time, I am honest with myself and expect that is the case with those I interreact with, a lot of people see that as just another of getting something for no or little effort. Being quiet doesn't equate to having nothing to say, as I remind myself daily, it is better to say nothing and look the fool than opening your mouth and removing no doubt!
we introverts have an attention span and don't let our emotions guide us and we aren't reactive to everything, that is a big strength that we have, and it is a big difference between us and extroverts..
I love being an introvert...but i hate it how hard it is to find love and a relationship as an introvert...i don't like going out to big social events, I'm kinda shy , and I don't like talking a lot, also i have no idea how to text or approach girls. It's like a curse, i don't want to be seen as creepy or strange, but it's really hard to know if someone is into u or just simply nice
People always tell introverts to be more talkative and get out of our comfort zones, but no one tells extroverts to stfu and make the zone comfortable.
True bro
Good point
Will always love this
FORREAL THO 100%..
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I just enjoy being alone more than being in the company of others. I never feel alone when I am alone. I look forward to going home after work to peace and quiet.
You have a rich inner world. Of course you’re going to give more weight to your intuitive or subjective musings (which don’t necessarily require the vis-a-vis company of other people). It just makes you more independent (for one thing).
Same here Jack
Everything you said is me . I LOVE AND LIVE for ME time .
Alone is not the same as lonely. I love being alone. I never feel lonely. I don’t know what lonely means !
I’ve a friend,she’s nice& good but most of the time she irritates me.doesn’t listen to me,gets upset with me,is stubborn,sometimes forget the manner to talk,she pressurise me to do things which I probably don’t like& when I say no she gets upset.
I’m an extreme introvert & don’t like being with her much.
Recently I told her that I like to be alone with my family and don’t like to be with friends much. She’s again upset with me.
Is this a good friendship or not?
we are not antisocials. We are selective.
We are not shy. We select our audience.
we let people in. But not just anybody.
we are aware of the need to conserve our energy.
Yes, we are selective.
So true
Yeah extroverts think we don't like socializing. We like socializing but we like alone time more.
SO true and underrated, us introverts are misunderstood 😢
This sums it up exactly for me.
"Just because I am alone, does not mean I am lonely"
But i am
I am not lonely. All kind of things to do.
The isolation I had during the COVID pandemic was one of the most relaxing periods of my life. I was still able to enjoy all my favorite activities, since none of them require other people.
I know exactly what you mean. I loved the lockdown, even though I was still going to work everyday. The traffic was almost non-existent which was awesome. It was like the world took a vacation all at once. I love the lack of people around
I loved the concept of social distancing and was sorry to see it go away
Ow yes, that was the best time of my life .And I was thinking there was something wrong with me, everyone around me was freaking out and I loved it
I'm an Introvert and 2020 was the best year of my life.
I could work from home and go on long lonesome hikes, that was beautiful.
"Why are you quiet?"
One question common to all the introverts.
My answer:" Have nothing to say...!"
Because we are mentally hyperactive. We think more and dreams the great imaginations which are more awesome than to talk others.
😃😃
@@norbertpecheq3427 deserve more likes
Why don’t you have any emotion on your face?
"Why are you quiet?" The extroverts ask
"Why do you want to talk to me" the introverts ask
I think the saying goes, “Introverts talk because they have something to say; extroverts talk because they have to say something.”
@@Fool3SufferingFools yes so true!
Introverts don't do small talk...we just don't care you bought a new jumper or walked the dog.
@@UKGeezerfr tho
@@UKGeezer It takes practice but throws people off when you get good enough. But practice responding to their questions using their exact voice but a slightly higher pitch, people will start to leave you alone, but they won't know why.
All of my best days are spent alone-kayaking, painting, reading, woodworking, meditating, etc. Being around people is draining.
Total introvert here. I get so sick of hearing obnoxious extroverts coin introverts as loners because we refuse to fall prey to social media! In my opinion introverts are independent and leaders where as extroverts are followers and users. I’d rather hire a ton of introverts over extroverts!
Ur point of view,seeing it from every perspective,the result'll be the same: THAT'S RIGHT :))
Facts!!
That is so true
Legit tho!!
Yup. More often than not, if you don't conform to the needs and desires of an extrovert, you're alienated for it, or judged.
The more I grow old, the more I get my energy at home. I love it!
Thank you for putting us introverts out there let the people know that we have no disorder of our own we just love being quite and alone.
Quiet*
Exactly
For years I thought I was the only one and a lot of people thought something was wrong with me
Thank you! Tell them that again
Yeah and its worse when your parents think you have some mental disorder and want to send to to therapy just for being who you are😢
I’ve been with my other half for 20 years. He’s always been loud and sociable, whilst I prefer quiet time just the two of us. He’s recently decided he doesn’t like me anymore, and has been especially cruel and nasty about the fact I’m introverted. I feel like I’m at school again being bullied for being quiet.
I’ve spent 20 years forcing myself to be someone I’m not. All I’ve ever wanted is a partner who likes the simple things in life like nature, camping, animals etc,
I like the odd social gathering, but I’m not into small talk crap, I prefer to talk about interesting things then make stupid random meaningless noises.
Why is it that extroverts are generally regarded as more likeable when usually they’re the shallowest most uncaring of all people. They spread themselves thinly and fake their way through life by being loud and stupid most of the time.
Sorry for my rant 😔
DNT feel sorry for being who you are . Maybe you DNT like large crowds of people or events . I’m a introvert , USE TO HAVE friends then they faded away because I was not always loud or attentive to hanging out . That’s the thing to spending time doing things to please others an your not even happy something I had to learn an being to open with my heart .
PEOPLE WILL THEN SEE ME again an act like they cared bout me hahah . I rather be alone an unbothered . 🦁
I read this whole comment and YES!! I'm here for it!!! I can empathize, I remember being called boring by my ex..smh argue and talk about me because I wanted to stay home and read instead of going to sit at a bar and get drunk while talking loud and ignorant amongst strangers IS NOT MY IDEA OF FUN OR RELAXING!! I love love being in my room alone reading or watching videos if I'm not working or doing house work..I stay inside 30 days at a time because I work from home, sometimes I ponder being social I have a longing for socializing but I won't show up or follow thru..I refuse to waste time or innerg on anything that doesn't help loft my vibration. .that is it ,that is all..I'm not depressed or crazy ...I'm chillin
Lmaoooo w . People always think you depressed if you rock alone . I get that a lot but I mostly do me , gym I enjoy my own company to much 😂🤙🏾👌🏾 I STOP CARING . Lmao I stay in my room a lot nothin wrong with that playing video games , naps minding my business . You DNT have to be that social something I had to learn about myself . . Stop trying to comfort others .
Be a real introvert and internalize it and keep the rant to yourself. Lol 😂. Thanks Lord for your peace. Thanks Lord for your salvation.
Sarah, Great points, yet everyone's doing the best they can.
Be with someone in mutual appreciation.
Introverts have a deeper sense of self love and self knowoedge than extroverts, and they're Also probably more in touch with their emotions
That's true !☺
Because they talk to him/herself 🇮🇳
Looooool you think you're special just because you're lonely hahahahahha
We call it as self love but world call it as Selfish 😂
Just try to be a human..
0:12 - Peaceful isolation
1:02 - Solitary freedom
2:06 - Natural relief
3:30 - The power of listening
4:37 - Conflicting desires
5:36 - Happy to cancel
6:26 - Dinner for one
7:34 - Careful pacing
8:34 - Quietly confident
9:18 - The silent majority
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Thanks.
Thank you 😊
👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻 you are a real one
been there done that
no one surprises me anymore
The older I get the more I realize how being an introvert is a positive, not a negative, never was. Over a lifetime, the people and things that I wanted to know generally turned out to be unrealistic, I put people on a higher level than they deserved. Exploring, solo, has easily been my greatest reward in life, I just had to keep exploring to find what I was looking for. Hope everyone looking finds that peace as well.
I worked with this one lady who use to hate me for being too quiet and not talkative, she told my work friend to not talk to me because im "awkward". I got asked "do you talk", like yes of course I talk but I don't talk much around people who I don't feel comfortable with. Its almost like most people don't even know what being introverted is, like they just jump to introverts being "awkward". and of course I can get major social anxiety which doesn't help
I don't think you belong here Lois. 😅
@@Two_TPOT222 Got bored at quagmire's crib & started watching youtube. now we are here
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Lol 😂. That is awkward. You just see it as normal
@Shaolin Soldier you know, looking back after a year, I changed a lot. In this case it's all about mindset, I was definitely more awkward a year ago. Just gotta take control of your life right
In the workplace, I often noticed the extroverted people were always talking between themselves and falling behind in their work, whereas introverted people stayed quiet and just get on with the task at hand. Supervisors appreciated that. We were more productive.
As a result, you got other people’s work dumped on you when you’re finished with your own.
@@genxx2724 True...we are the workers.
@@littleme3597 and you don’t get promoted. If they promote you, the person who fills your spot won’t do as much work as you were doing.
Nothing like the freedom of solitude 🤗😊
Absolutely. This video’s absolutely brilliant. I bet a lot of people use it as weekend relaxation (in that cycle of RUclips playlists). I kind of do.
People in 2022 can be crazy and selfish
Personally I LOVE my times of solitude. It's a much needed daily occurrence .
I agree 110%
Introverts also are amazing pet lovers/parents. They seem to be able to connect more with their pets than other people.
true true
Our pets do not judge us. My cat appreciates the quiet. 😁
@@robintreadwell3758 exactly. Love that about them.. 😊
Yes I would sooner talk to all my animals than to people.
@@angelapietras1235 lol same
As introvert, sometimes its hard to tell my family how surrounded with a lot of people drain up my energy. Yes I can go to cinema, restaurant, hiking alone and communicate with other people. No, I am not depression. I'm just enjoy my time alone at home, playing with my cats, reading my online novels and comics on my bed. No, I prefer texting instead of answering phone or video call. Nothing wrong with that
Being around strangers is fine you just don’t talk to them but being around family especially big events is draining because your related to everyone and you can’t just ignore them or even leave so your stuck. I’ve been there I can talk to my family one on one but once it’s a big crowed I just get drained. The only small relief I get is in the bathroom lol
The two conflicting desires of wanting a relationship but also wanting to be independent whenever is so true. I feel called out on a spiritual level right now-
Me too. It's kind of ruining my life. Lol.
Doing my own thing, and staying away from people makes me happy.
Part of the reason I’m an introvert is because my thoughts are VERY different! I think about religion, science and solving problems around my house. People don’t believe me if I tell them what I’m thinking about, so I mostly keep my thoughts to myself.
In one episode of _Buffy the Vampire Slayer_ Buffy gain the ability to read people's minds. Cordelia has no interesting thoughts and just says everything she's thinking. Xander is worried Buffy will find out he thinks a lot about sex. Wesley tries to suppress his attraction to Cordelia. Willow is concerned that Buffy will come to know Oz better than she does. Giles is focused on finding the cause and a cure. Meanwhile Oz is considering the philosophical implications, for example that if his thoughts are the essence of his existence, and Buffy can read them, she is effectively becoming him and also everyone else around her. "We think, therefore she is."
As an introvert I feel like I live in 3rd person mode. I see everything around me and try to analyze it
Proud to be an INTROVERT... 😇
Same!🙌🌟✨💯
@@brittneybutler2491 😍😇
Me too, Best Wishes ❤
I don't do hikes but I love the window seat on a plane. Seeing the sunset and sunrise from the prospective is so beautiful. Sometimes I'm moved to tears
This is an accurate description of me. I love being an introvert. It took me some time to understand that this is who I am, not something I do on occaision. I have fully embraced me, and gaining a better understanding through useful information took me quite a ways forward in doing so. Realizing I am NOT the only one, I am Not a freak of nature, I am Not disfunctional, I am Not wrong, has helped me accept and love myself. Thank you for this video. 👏👏👏
👍👍👍✨️💫
Always wondered what am l exactly; well now I know. I can't tell you how exhausting it is when you pick up other people's feelings; it really sucks. When you pick up someone else's bad vibes or troubled spirit we take it on &it steals our peace.
Absolutely us introverts have that ability to read energy and vibes i had to cut my friend and his wife off she was just a joy kill everytime we used to hang she would get in her feelings about something im like im good on people i rather be by myself.
Being an introvert is really easy for me. I don't mind being alone and just doing my own thing. I tried to be around people earlier in my life but it was just too much for me. I had to deal with people who used me or hurt me emotionally and that was enough to realize that I just couldn't develop relationships that were meaningful to me. I have friends that I have known for years and I have respect for them because they respected me. Overall I'm in a better place in my life because I only have to please me.
Introverts Are More AWEAR Of Their Surroundings, then MOST PPL.
Not rly this applies for all introverts...I'm more aware of my thoughts than anything else...Outside world? I'm paralel with that 😅😎
That actually the reasion why I believe we are anti social.
I'm very aware of my thoughts, or the actions of the people around me, but I can also zone out and be lost in thought, completely disregarding everything around me. Complete off in La La Land in my own head.
Being social really is draining
In my early 20’s to 30 I was a big extrovert! Now I am 38, definitely introvert and love it
All so true. I love being an Introvert!
same
Me too snd my husband too. We match!
@@kathyg.5742I also love it *snd* my shadow self that I talk to also does.
this is me exactly. being around strangers for too long is exhausting
Extroverts suck up energy. Don't need them.
I’m so guilty of hoping an event gets canceled. I always felt bad about it.
I thank god I’m a introvert i love lots of alone time. A lot of my family are extroverts . They know to leave me in peace . it took years for them to understand that I was happy reading a book while they were out and about.
I love being to myself. It's in my introvert nature. Major crowds can be draining over time, plus I'm quiet around crowds anyway. The only time I talk a lot is with those I feel comfortable with. Even then, it's good to be quiet to not feel like I'm over talking. On my weekends, I usually just stay in the comfort of my own place. Peace and solitude is important, and I feel most at peace.
I like spending time with people, but it feels like work. I have to adjust myself to be sociable and fun. I have to be willing to try new things, and compromise, and let other people get their way sometimes.
When I'm by myself, none of that is there. I can be selfish. I don't have any obligations or responsibilities. I don't need to respect anyone but myself, and I don't need to push myself to do anything other than the things I personally choose to do.
But that gets boring eventually, and then I want to go hang out with people. I need stimulation, emotionally and mentally and physically. It's a balancing act, and it's very important to a healthy life.
I absolutely love being an introvert ❤
This is exactly me. I used to be very shy as a kid. I'm not nearly as shy now but still love my "me time". Definitely prefer doing most things solo usually.
I like being alone because of what I learned about human nature in my life and that is people Suck... Oh but not you..) I used to be a go out anywhere and do anything kind of person. As you get older you learn how people really are in real life and you become disapointed with people. Most people are not what they seem to be. After losing 3 of my best friends recently of 30 plus years it makes it that much harder to make new friends. So now I sit alone at home. I have become used to it and now I enjoy it. I recently had an old girlfriend contact me and wanted to get back together. Sorry not interested. I have distanced myself from all Drama. I don't like Drama so I stay at home. I prefer a drama free life thank you and like a relaxed life at home. Some say it is not healthy but if you like it then enjoy it. I know I do...
Hey that’s true , I’m an introvert I’ve always been but I’ve also had many friends and a large friend group , I was always the quiet one along w another girl I’m still close to but besides the point in a large friend group you realize everyone just talks badly about each other I had to really distance myself from that I’m still friends one the girl that was also introverted but as far as the other people in tht group I had to cut off and I’ll never regret it
You mean my whole life..you got it dude
Yes I'm 39 & for several years my couple of friends have been called an old woman. I laugh when they call me with their drama with others. #THEN THEY SAY, I SEE WHY YOU STAY TO MYSELF!!#LOVE MH PEACE!!
I too have let go of a few relationships recently, a couple of them were of decades, maybe they changed, maybe I did, all I know for certain is that I no longer wish to put up with certain toxic behaviors and much rather live in a drama-free zone. Totally 💯 get you!!
Legit I can relate
Most people feel I'm egoistic because I don't mix...I'm always misunderstood...it's hard being an introvert.
Thanks Lord for your salvation.
Thanks Lord for your peace.
Peace that transcends all understanding. Peace that goes with me everywhere.
The main reason we introvert prefer solitude is that we don't like other people's problems jumping in line of the personal problems we already have. We think, create, stretch out and grow with less or no one around because we hate distractions and entourages offsetting our plans and ideas. We're also less likely to be narcists, braggards or showoffs.
And you also have your own cognitive functions which may or may not require the presence of other people in a vis-a-vis sense (to varying extents). A lead extraverted sensor by very virtue of the nature of that function is going to need a lot more social interaction than a lead introverted thinker or even extroverted intuitive (Ne might be technically extroverted but it’s not necessarily bubbly or outgoing in the way Se or even outgoing Si are). That’s why a lot of ENFPs (for example) seem like hardcore introverts until you get to know them better. The issue is when people who are co-dependent like so assume their way is the only normal way and that there must be something inherently wrong with everyone else. That’s when it becomes very offensive.
I'll also point out even once we fix our own problems, everyone is only ever even more interested in telling us about their problems, because they have seen how well we solved our problems. It is funny how they never seem to learn that their issue is too much talking and not enough listening, but if they were able to listen enough to learn the importance of listening, they wouldn't need to learn how to listen.
I love being introvert. It's peaceful an I get to mediate on life an find myself.
@Prashant Kumar huh?
Meditation??
This is me--introvert and independent. I can think for myself, and find many people boring.
The search for isolation outside the home is a never ending quest. That’s why I did d do much time at home. It’s much more healthy, both mentally and physically, to get outside in nature from time to time, but it’s far too “peoplely” out there.
Thank you for this video. I'm an introvert who not only works w/ the public, but also spends too much of my free time w/ needy friends & relatives.
I’m giggling inside because every point mentioned is directly to the bone😅😂.
Yeah right..same to me as well
I was laughing 😂😂😂
wow ! #6 is so very true and accurate with me. Having to attend parties where I know no one or very few,is a huge emotional drain on me. During my life,because of my business,I've had to go to these parties and affairs.However, I still am miserable at most of them. What a relief to be alone or with a person you love.
My family always assumed I was antisocial simply because I pretty much always wanted to be to myself, but what they failed to realized was that I made friends quite easily. I was friends with everyone and had no particular clique. That in turn made me realize that I just didn't want to be associated with just anyone. As someone who likes to continue to grow, I'm very particular about those I associate myself with. If I can't learn, grow or gain anything from being around you.....I bother to know you. Which was about reason I kept to myself.
Thank you so much for this,I'm a introvert myself I always thought I'm either shy or just not very social and thank you for that explanation and what we introverts love and understand
I’m married to an adventurous extrovert. I’m outgoing but my ideal weekend is at home…I love being alone
I'm an introvert and I have got to have time alone or I get stressed tired and irritable.
Thank God they have a name for us I've been in therapy all my life and I just thought I was crazy. But this is me exactly 💯
When people are telling you you’re crazy just because you enjoy your own company that’s going to drive an anxiety so it’s understandable you had to go through that. I’m glad you found the peace and validation you needed with this video.
You should get a better therapist if they haven't already discovered you were an introvert. It isn't exactly a new concept.
Wow wow wow! These describe me so well! I wish people in my life could listen to this and understand me more. This definitely hit the nail on its head. 👌🏾
Same here!
4:42 Is literally what i've always wanted, to go away from everything but to also connect with people.
I love being an introvert! Now, you people, leave me alone. No replies or comments, please.
This helps explain many of my motivations and behaviors. My wife is more extroverted, but we work out and complement our differences, and tries to understand me taking long, scenic journeys on my motorcycle
If you're an Introvert but like exploring and being outside, you might look into being a long-haul truck driver. No office politics, little demand on your day other than getting there on time and pretty decent income.
When I was a little girl I used to see these truck driving school commercials on tv and think wow what a dream job, that's for me! Makes total sense now 😄
Extroverts need to watch this video and try to understand us introverts. Often I have extroverts calling me weird because I like spending time alone
Extroverts give me a headache.
I used to be an introvert, but now I fit into the more rare category of ambivert. Still introvert dominant, of course.
A hat tip to all the ambiverts out there, whether you've balanced yourself from extroversion or from introversion, you're not alone either. 💁♂🎩
This answered so many questions I had about myself and wheather or not I had some sort of personality disorder. Every point was spot on. I wish the video was longer and more detailed.
Me- 💯😍😍😍
The author has done it right. I belong to the Introvert group, and I could relate to all the points in various degrees. It really helps people like me to stop feeling uncomfortable with Extroverts. Thanks!
The most jarring thing about outgoing folk is the fact that things ambiverts and introverts just expect people over a certain age to be aware of. When you’re having to tell a 32-year-old man to mind his own business and try and override his random compulsion to gossip about complete strangers they couldn’t know less about, you know there’s a problem. You wonder who these people’s mothers are.
This is spot on for me. If you think you might have ADD, theres nothing wrong with you, you might just be an introvert surrounded by extroverts.
I am most definitely an introvert , and I love it !!!!
Oh my gosh, how many times when I was younger did I make big plans with friends days or weeks in advance, only to wish I hadn't committed myself and agonize all day trying to find a way out of it. But the relief and joy when plans would simply fall through? Priceless! I count myself fortunate to like my own company 🥰
I love being introverted leave me tf alone, don't talk to me, don't try and be my friend just ignore me and I'll be good
This is literally me 😂
As an introvert myself, I can tell you that we may be fairly quiet in person but a lot more social online, specifically through text. Communication is a lot less stressful when you don't have to come up with an answer right away, or worry about people interrupting you and causing you to lose your train of thought. You can take your time to really think about what you want to say, instead of just blurting something out and potentially making a fool of yourself, or offending someone unintentionally.. or at least that's true of myself.
Yes and emojis I love to use them when I don't know what to say. So I just send a emoji that fits what I want to say. 🙃🙂
I like reading books and writing stories. If I could make a living off writing as a introvert. I'd be in heaven.
This. I'm currently taking a French class, and writing French is _so much easier_ than speaking it. I had an entire conversation in French over Discord a few weeks ago. I would not have been able to do that when speaking. (Plus, I can look up individual words that I don’t know instead of looking like a fool.)
I agree and I'm Introvert as well.
So true, for me, too !!
I especially resonate with the social talking. I'm really not shy when it comes to social gatherings, I just don't feel the need to speak all the time just for the sake of talking. I'm always happy to answer questions and have no problems responding to people. But I won't just walk up to a group of people and just start rambling. I'll talk if I fell I have something meaningful to contribute
A perfect explanation as to why the best people are introverts.
I live in a city and I usually walk a lot around it alone with headphones, I hate crowd places but it's nice to just observe everyone and I'm always so jelous of watching friends and families enjoy their time together, I want that friend(s) to do the same, only missing the mental energy for it.
Conflicting desires hehe. You are not alone
“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” -Eleanor Roosevelt. Talking about people exhausts me, but about ideas and the universe ... I'm energized.
Extroverts look after they leap . Introverts look before they leap .
I thought I was a extrovert growing up because I'm a people person..but this video proves I've been a introvert my whole life
I love being alone and doing my own things in my spare time. But I'm jealous of the guys who have lots of friends and connections. No matter how good we are there're always people we can learn from in any aspect of life. But I just can't move my ass and get out!
100% AGREED
I do not
Consider / Label,,,
Those in my life as Friends, ,..
I consider them acquaintance.
I know more about them than there own Family.
Yet the same ones, Those whom call ME there friend/ Bestfried', I have known just for a year, all the way up to my whole life, know very little about me
It not that I'm hiding anything from them.
I just don't volunteer or talk about myself , Education, Jobs, Places I've traveled & lived. Yep. They didn't even know I have children, until one of my children call me.
Three in my life time could and enjoyed having a deep conversation every time we meet, then we both got to know each other. (To a point).🙏..
I'm a social introvert, but most of my time I spend them in solitude. Still I have lots of connections and can navigate through many social circles, most of them are acquaintances, but my true friends are just a few.
"WHY YOURE EATING ALONE?" extroverts ask
"EATING ALONE MAKES ME FEEL HAPPIER" introvert replied
Yea time alone up on the mountain is relaxing it re charges the whole mind body and soul, when you go home you feel rested and inspired.🤗💕💕
"Introverts are anything but unusual"!!😊
Wow, this channel hit the nail on the head for me. I never comment on RUclips, but for this one I just wanted to say thank you for the comprehension and understanding.
Solo backpacking trips really help my mental health.
As an absolute introvert I can say I am not a good listener my thoughts tend to take over and I tune people out . But a few well timed nods and yeps make people think I really care.
I'm an introvert, I don't like people at all. So don't let this video fool you about introverts not liking people. Some do, some don't. It just depends on the person.
Made me laugh,the one about hoping plans get canceled. I check all the boxes,consider myself to be an extroverted introvert. Yes, quiet, not shy.Talking when there's something to say,when there's someone interested or interesting to talk to.
I'm an extrovert but I'm reading this cause I wanna learn the introvert's perspective in life.
When i first heard the word introvert then i connected myself with this word. I always thought why i am like that but i like to spend most of time alone because first i want to discover myself and so that i can be master in my field. I always tell myself "Dear me, oneday i will make you proud" & i am working on it. I tried and i am trying to get my goal.
Life is hell when you are popular and a introvert, nobody gets it how it needs to be gotten and people always think all you need is a bit of company when the company is often the problem!
When I eat with my family, they're all discussing politics, and I quietly enjoy my meal, and maybe share my thoughts.
Proud to be a creative introvert though an ambivert when I was young living in NYC as a professional fashion illustrator /floral designer with all the loud noises, crowded subways and streets, starting working for corporate America at age 19! Married for 42 years, raised three kids so been there, done that! Former fitness trainer in my 40s in the 1990s. Love the peace and tranquility at age 74 now, time to read a lot i.e. a lifelong "bookaholic" and time to be even more creative painting, cooking/baking and communing with nature by the sea! It's possible to create a heaven on Earth akin to French impressionist painter Claude Monet! And as introvert American painter Georgia O'Keefe stated, "Be of the world , but not in it"!! Smart woman!
Deep connection with nature & Self
I’m an Introvert who enjoys being mistaken as an Extrovert. 😁
So relatable bud...Idk why they think that social people are always extroverts that's pretty insane lmao :D
I love being an introvert
Me too!!
Introverts ended up stressed from absorbing and listening to other people's BS. They're sucking up our kindness to listen. And when the time we need someone to listen to us, they just didn't care.
I`m definitely an introvert, thank god my friends understands and don`t bother me when I want to be alone!
This is probably the best video about introverts on RUclips! Thanks for posting. I'll use it as a reference when trying to explain to others what it is to be an introvert.
Stereotypically-obnoxious extraverts: ‘O.M.G., some people can spend weekends with a book and a solo bottle of wine only for company without being depressed/suicidal? Some people eat lunch alone and are okay with it? Some people are okay being the reserved, smart observer at parties who’s actually Gucci just drinking Sambuca and Budweiser in the corner? Not everyone’s gagging for round-the-clock vis-a-vis social validation? Some people actually enjoy their own company? It’s not okay to make baseless assumptions or gossip about perfect strangers (many of whom are blatantly already down and don’t need kicking) to pass the time?’
Ambiverts (including pensive, well-rounded extroverts) and introverts: ‘erm, didn’t your mum teach you all this when you were 5? How do you not know all this basic respect, personal awareness and social-propriety stuff at this your big age? Are you actually tapped in the head? How did you make it through high school, you stupid, silly, obnoxious little idiot?’
My biggest peeve as an introvert: being put in someone else's plans and making me the last to know... goodbye!
I find as an introvert I get taken advantage of quite a bit of the time, I am honest with myself and expect that is the case with those I interreact with, a lot of people see that as just another of getting something for no or little effort. Being quiet doesn't equate to having nothing to say, as I remind myself daily, it is better to say nothing and look the fool than opening your mouth and removing no doubt!
Alone time is the best quality time!
I love to be alone...and that's okay.
we introverts have an attention span and don't let our emotions guide us and we aren't reactive to everything, that is a big strength that we have, and it is a big difference between us and extroverts..
I love being an introvert...but i hate it how hard it is to find love and a relationship as an introvert...i don't like going out to big social events, I'm kinda shy , and I don't like talking a lot, also i have no idea how to text or approach girls. It's like a curse, i don't want to be seen as creepy or strange, but it's really hard to know if someone is into u or just simply nice