Insecure friends are sneaky. But u can really feel that she is secretely jealous. I have a friend who is totally like this. I just distance myself from her. Protect yourself first. Thanks for this video @Shallon. Stay savage 💋
I know I’m late but I would really love if you responded.!! My 13th birthday is coming up and my only friend is extremely jealous she can have fun but sometimes she justs gets an attitude when I get something new I want her to come to my birthday Bc I don’t wanna be alone but I also don’t want her to ruin it with her negative attitude
Hello Shallon, so I recently came across conclusion that it's very hard to make friends when you are pretty girl.. I'm not being narcissistic, but it is very hard to me to make REAL friends, since I can't trust girlfriends, mostly because they are jelaous, and also I can't hang with guyfriend without getting marked as a 'potential girlfriend'... Can you give some tips on that?
I have this same problem. The only solution is to make friends with other “pretty girls” that are similar to you & have what you have to decrease the likelihood. That’s what I plan to do or otherwise remain friendless but I’m tired of girl’s bs
My legit actual problem right now in my life and I'm heartbroken. I feel so drained, men just want to take take take something from me. Women? Cold. Don't reciprocate my friendliness. Hard to trust. It genuinely makes me depressed sometimes that I don't even try anymore. All the guy friends in my life I love them, but I always have the thought in the back of my mind if they're just waiting for an opportunity.....
mimma 245 yeah, and then we go through all this bs in our youth of envious friends and men who just want sex, grow old as women and lose all value because society only pegs women as looks!
I’ve known my friend since I was 18 freshmen year and now I’m 23 her 25 and she’s stayed the same. I’ve grown as a person but she hasn’t and is still gossiping about people, sharing (irrelevant) pics from years ago on social media, still all about the drama, and puts her nose into people’s business and relationships (and over the years has sabotaged 3 of mine.). Basically still stuck in the high school/college years & all about the drama. I’m glad you mentioned that these people don’t deserve an explanation when you cut them off because it’s such the truth I even imagined confronting her & I know she would never own up to anything, she would never say sorry & would spread even more gossip and drama. These kinds of people are terrible & it’s important to spot them right away and not spend years of friendship when they already know everything about you. I’ve also stopped telling her things before cutting her off so she doesn’t come around & thinks I’m busy or something so no fuel is added to her fire. I think these people also have narcissism or Bpd.
Help she won’t let me shine!! Went out last night and she was counting the times people complimented my Halloween costume and not hers.... Jesus Christ.
Sooooo true!!!! This is why many friends end up trying to take your spouse, boyfriends or try to stifle your friendship with other people. 😕 narcissistic people.
I feel like every time I become close friends with a woman the closer I get to her the more jealous and petty she gets. This happens all the time. I genuinely want girl friends. I am confident in who I am and want to cheer on my friends. However even being nice and considerate women just don’t like me. I am not sure if I am doing something wrong. Any advice? 🙏🏼
I have a feeling that the more genuine people attract the most insecure people because they wish they had that personality trait. They see you attracting attention and gaining friends (or acquaintances) and wish they could do the same so naturally. They lady in the video is so right. It’s jealousy. If you really want to keep that friendship address it. Ask them why they treat you this way yet still want to be around you so much. Their reaction to this convo is the determining factor of if you stay friends or not.
Happened to me last year September too...I started noticing it earlier tho and to he honest I don't feel bad for cutting her off. She's always complaining about her insecurities and uses them to justify her actions, she ended up flirting with a guy that I liked...and she knew I liked him....and she says she doesn't see anything wrong with wat she did🙄
Envy exists everywhere apart from your blood family,even in so called relationships and marriages the person's envy each other of their achievements but will never admit that,let alone be friendships
your videos are always so amazing and they never disappoint! :) This is a little random of a question, but could you please tell me how to casually ask my boyfriend if he still texts/is friends with his ex? Thanks!
my friend always gets mad if I have other friends... once in a group chat my other friend said "let's text best friend" and then she texted me getting so mad and I was so scared :(
Shallon am so obsessed with your videos and i follow your advice in every situation. I've become popular and very confident until i no more want to talk to people because i don't feel like they mean something to me or they can have my intention or something. And that made me feel alone . That's right they all think that i'm the boss here but i also feel like no one wants to talk to me . Are they so shy or afraid to be rejected because i made them think i'm better than them?( i actually think i am tbh) .I don't know. Maybe they think am antisocial because i made it clear that i don't talk to anybody and i didn't find someone interesting to be friends with . Like i made other people seem like fans. But am at a point where i need to talk to people . but let's say if i give up doing what i used to do and ignoring them, i feel like am gonna lose my crown and be a normal girl easy to get and all that stuff . Do you know whah i mean ? Pleaaase help me i need youu.
I have a friend who uses the things that hurt the most to tell me... but on the other hand, she helps me a lot and she cares about me, so I don't know what to believe
Dear Shallon, could you please give some tips on how to say politely no to a guy who wants to take you out, when you're not interested or maybe interested in his friend? Thank you!! :-)
I do have a friend that always jealous of me that he pretend to be a good friend but in the end he did stab behind my back. OMG it so hurt that I questioning myself why in the hell that he must be always jealous in everything I do. He is so freaking weird and freak. Anyway tq for the advice video. Love your advice.
Shallon, I need your help in a major way. I'm almost eighteen and just came close to having my first relationship, but blew it again. My problem is guys think I'm intimidating-- I model, do mock congress, wear heels every day of my life, etc-- but I'm really not as tough as I look. I know guys like me and want to approach me, but they never do, and when I try to make it known I'm interested, I end up coming on way too strong. How can I get boys to approach me without compromising my identity as a badass woman? (essentially I'm asking you how to become Samantha Jones).
queen of ****ing everything From a man's perspective you may want to dress down a bit. What I mean by that is when you're not modeling, be a little more low key. I'm attracted to women who dress modest. The reason is because women who dress modest are the most loyal in relationships and marriages. 10 years ago I met an entrepreneur who looked good enough to be a model. Whenever she attended formal events, she would wear the sexiest attire!! But her everyday apparel consisted of a t-shirt, jeans, tennis shoes and a baseball cap. She also happens to be handy with tools!! Another reason you come across as intimidating is the men you come in contact with may see you as a gold digger. Someone who will only date and marry rich men. There's a phrase I grew up with. "Women marry up." The reason is money = security. The more money a man has, the more secure he is. Security = being able to provide for a family. It sounds to me like the men you come in contact with feel like they can't measure up to your standards because A. You're either out of their league. (That's usually due to confidence and insecurity issues on their part) B. They're either working class guys trying to make ends meet and feel they'll never measure up to your standards Or C. You're too high maintenance for them. Another thing you should realize is a lot of men are opting out of relationships due to bad experiences. They feel their lives would be better off without the opposite sex. They don't want to be screwed over by the court system who will make them pay alimony, child support, half their retirement etc. (that's for a different discussion) So keep this in mind...
I wouldn't worry about it. What I've realized is that as you grow older, guys become less intimidated by women like that and start to admire it. I would recommend smiling more (if you don't already) because that does not compromise your badass-ery ;D and it really works for approachability
Yup, she's copying everything I wear, buy and do but she puts me down. And I know this may seem petty but I have long natural nails which she always says she wish she had, one day my nail broke while I was lifting heavy books at work...I was in pain, i looked at her and she had this evil huge smile on her face. I was shook. She throws me under the bus at work but I do so much for her. I'm good to her. I have to work with her and it's uncomfortable. She just bought all the same clothes that I wear to work. It's annoying.
Dear shallon, I was wondering if I could get you opinion on this situation. I used to date the popular guy at my school but we broke up about 8 months ago. I am really concerned because I havent been able to get back into dating and the other boys I meet seem really immature and unattractive. What makes it worse is that he has already had another two girlfriends and I kinda makes me look lame and it is making my ex super cocky and arrogant. I was wondering if you had any tips on finding a potential boyfriend and how to show my ex that I am over him and better without him. I love your videos by the way xxx
Hi Shallon, I just subscribed to you lately. I love your channel and advice. I have a question but I don't want to post it publicly. How do I send it to you? Thanks
Hi Shallon, I currently have this jealous friend (she steals off me, short changes me, borrows things off me and doesn't return them and she doesn't even like any of my facebook pictures). She goes to a different university now (we used to go to the same one but she had to move because of her grades) but she still sniffs around our campus. I thought that because she left I could just ignore her, so I blocked her on facebook. Then she had a gigantic hissy fit and told all my friends and one of them had a go at me about having blocked her. I have to pretend I'm friends with her now so the rest of my friends don't hate me - i'm even helped organise a surprise birthday party for her! It cost me £12.50 and she always used to short change me! I don't know how to get rid of her out of my life, considering she's so close to the rest of my friends! Thanks x
Shallon I got a serious question I just moved high schools in the middle of the school year and my first day at school I was already thinking about boys boys that I truly didn't know I literally didn't even know their names why every time I see a half decent guy my mind goes crazy and acts like I like them when it's only lust But the crazy thing about it is I don't want a relationship I don't want a boyfriend because I don't want to invest in the relationship with my heart and not know where it lands I don't understand what's going on
What's your advice on how to deal with being the jealous person. I love my best friend and we are super close but I'm just getting even more jealous of her and I'm worried it's going to ruin our friendship and I don't want to loose her
Thank you xx problem solved!!!! one of our 'friend' shit stirred between me and my best friend so my best friend came round and we talked things through and turns out this whole time my best friend has been jealous of me! I was jealous of her because she was doing things to try and impersonate me! So after a lot of tears and hugging we're closer even than we were before!!! Thank you so so much Shallon for replying and helping me xx
Hi My friends think I stole something of theirs (a packet of cigarettes) and they accused me and want me to replace the item. I'm quite upset because it just shows there is not much trust in the friendship. I swore to them I didn't steal anything but they don't believe me. I said I'd buy the guy a new packet but where does are friendship go from here? I don't know what to do but suspect they'll probably cut me out of the group. I know in myself that I didn't do anything wrong but don't know how I can prove that to them.
I made three close female friends I was pretty sure there attitude towards me,there pretendance and alone mocking at me and spreading shit about me or sharing my secrets by inhancing more to it to the society,people kind of changed their outlook hence,I felt they are definately jealous of me and insecure so am moving away from them.But prob is hardly I can trust female friends now,but yet happy as if negative vibes went off from me😊😊
I'm in about 6th grade. So this boy that I liked knew and told me he liked me back this has gone on all year.but he's always asked someone out right when we were getting super close it's now the summer and he just asked out one of my closest friends I really want to get over him and not be attached to him but he always lures me back in I don't want my freind to get hurt especially since I know he's going to break up with her
Hey shallon so I've recently watched your tinder videos and was wondering what do I do if guys just don't know how to keep up conversation?should I just ignore them.Like for example (and this has happened with a few guys) they will message me first and then we will talk and they will be like how's your day and I'll be like good yours and they will be like Good and then I don't reply because there is nothing to say to that and then they will message me the next day with hey and it's the same ridiculous cycle all over again and the only way to make the conversation go somewhere is if I take the lead and ask the questions. It's hard to tell if they are into me or not because they still text me first but the convo is just always boring
Hi shallon, I remember you talking in your videos about running for student council president and I'm running for my high school I'm super exited but I'm also against a person with a pretty good chance at winning too so I'm a little nervous. Do you have any advice about running for student council president? Love your videos!
Dear Shallon, what you described is my old best friend. Unfortunately by the time I found out who she really was she had already destroyed my relationship with my crush. Now he wont even talk to me. I have no idea what she said but whatever it was he instantly stoped socialising with me. She has moved to another school. However, I still am not over the guy. I still have strong feelings for him and it kills me that he won't talk to me. Now one of my friends is going to ask him out for me. Which I don't want her to but she is anyways. I'm so scared and nervous. I don't know what to do!
Em R try talk the friend out of it some nice way or just say straight out that you don't want her to ask him. If she does then all you can do is apologize to the boy and question your Friend on why she did that because you clearly wouldn't want to. If she doesn't then just try and think about him less and less each day, it may sound hard but if he's in you class try not to look over, to limit the amount of time you see him or think about him. That really helped me get over a crush I had for a couple of years. Hope this helps
Elin Dickman Thanks. I believe that my friend only wants to help. Also, I have no classes this semester with him. Also I try to think less of him but it is hard when I see him through the hallway to my classes. I have liked the guy for almost two years now.
Em R I know how hard it is when he walks by, soon it will get better try to look beyond him if at all possible otherwise you will constantly want him. I'm sorry you have to go through this it's always hard
Elin Dickman Unfortunately today my friend asked him... He said "I'm not looking for a relationship right now, sorry." So yeah. Now ill have to get over rejection .
Em R Aww I'm so sorry it sucks being rejected, get some ice cream, your friends and have a movie night and try not to think about it too much, I'm sure this guy really didn't deserve you and that you are so amazing he just couldn't handle it, I hope that it doesn't hurt for too long although I know how hard it can be
Hey Shallon, so the guy I'm into has a gf but she treats him like he's her little pack mule. She's so mean to him. Does this mean the guy has bad taste or bad character secretly, or is he just naive. Please respond or better yet make a vid because i feel like this topic could be deepened and explored more for other girls out there :) love you so much !!
I know your rules for texting boys yet I went against then and sent the first text for our new convo, I sent something funny and flirty yet he hasn't responded. How do I come back from this embarrassing mistake?
this is a late comment. Good video, I've been researching jealousy. Question, what are women so jealous about? I mean what is the thing? Do women even know? Anyone can answer.
Shallon, I feel like so many of my friends do all of this and I’ve recently just cut them all off .. I think I only have one or two old friends that really have my back the rest I think just see me as competition
somehow when i get really close to a fiiend they start acting up like this. my two closest bestfriend were like that. and i never realized it until we stopped being friends. how do i get close to people without this happening?
Hey Shallon, so I have a question...Im seeing this guy for like a month now..when we go out we have so much fun and we chat everyday....but we dont see each other so often, I mean our dates are like once or maybe twice a week...and when someone calls him se says hes with me but calls me with my name...not with girlfriend, and he takes long to answer on texts( around 1-2 hours).....How do I make this guy to commit....also hes kinda narcissistic.....😕
Wat to do....If your roommates are jealous of you ...& confronting them , will only create more problems....They will disturb your studies .....And destroy your things......And I cannot shift anywhere else coz I have financial problems......And I don't have anywhere to go...... What should I do in that case.....How to deal with them ?
r chetna keep your things in lock up and study in the library or like in the staircase...don't give it too much thought...don't let it disturb your inner peace and studies
Hi Shallon, there's this guy that I think is cute and I actually saw him at a mutual friend's party a couple of weeks ago. I actually just found out today that he has the same lunch period as me and he sits by himself. I want to talk to him but I don't know how to approach him nor do I want to ruin anything. What do you think I should say , I know you made a video about how to talk to a guy with like asking for a pencil on the bus but, this is a different scenario could you help me please.
Hi Shallon ur videos r just dope they really help me to go on with my life I just wanna thank u so much for the work u're doing... also I wanted to ask u if u can help me to get over my 5 years crush, I mean he was the first boy to get my attention I tried everything to be with him but it was all in vain I even changed my school to be near him and we were in the same classes but he just friendzoned me and when I wanted to get over him I just couldn't I got into two relationships but I was still stuck on him and got my heart broken,,, I got him out of my life and social media and I rechanged mt school but I still think of him... plz I really need ur advice
Hey Shallon, I was getting rlly close with this guy and I think he was about to ask me out (I liked/still like him sooo much) my "best friend" at the time sat next to him in math and told him all these lies saying I stalked his parents and I'm obsessed with him and now he thinks I'm a crazy stalker and hates me, I have liked him for a long time and still like him but he talks to his guy friends and tells them all I'm crazy and a stalker. I'm not even that bothered about dating him anymore but I at least wanna be friends cause The more he hates me the more is spread about me and everyone hates me (cause he is the popular guy in our school) I really need help this happened a few months ago and he still hates me 😑
I was on you Instagram live but my wifi is absolutely SHIT! and I was sooooo looking forward to watch it cause I REALLY REALLY love your advice and you make me so much stronger!! So I was hoping you could answer some of my questions here..I'm a 14 year old girl and I get attracted to guys.. But it is normal if I mostly fantasise about girls and get VERY VERY sexually attracted to girls but NEVER romantically attracted to them? And if I usually just fantasise about girls., does that mean that j won't enjoy having sex with a guy, and does that make me bisexual? I have nothing against it but it's making me feel really bad for some reason and I don't know who to ask.. And also.. Is it normal to really BE IN LOVE with someone, think about them 24/7, when you've only had two conversations, and is it normal to cry and really be depressed about them for weeks (not being able to eat cry 24/7 just because they didn't give you the attention they used to give you? I used to like this guy, we used to stare at eachother aloooooooooooooot especially him!! We were making soo much eyecontact and smiling and all of that and then next time I saw him I looked really really bad!! Like really bad so I kind tried to hide myself by wearing a big jacket but making it look as if I'm not hiding from him which was soo fucking stupid and I regret it with all my heart, then i guess he noticed since he told his cousin who's in my class "why was she hiding, I don't like it when girls do that" then next time I was on fleek but everything was different., and I just found out that all of his friends used to tell him that I have a crush on him, that I'm staring at him 24:7 and that I'm crazy for him WHICH IS PISISNG ME OFF CAUSE HE WAS THE ONE WHO COULDNT KEEP HIS EYES OFF OF ME!! He was literally running after me!! I was standing in the bus stop and his friend and him were walking and they were really far away his friend turned around saw me pushed him and then both of them walked back!! And they took the same bus as me and when he went off the bus he stared and smiled!! So when I found out abt all of his friends saying that I like him and that I'm crazy for him I also found out that he told all of them that oh she's to young for me bro!! ITS PISSING ME OFF!! He used to wait for me after skl and walk behind me!! And now it feels like I've destroyed everything cause I had so many expectations and I had so many plans ( I know it sounds stupid..) but I really thought that this would lead to something big.. So yh now I'm heartbroken, depressed, can't eat or sleep properly..and I'm starting to think that I might have some sort of mental illness cause this is crazy, the only thing I had with was two conversations.. Soooooo sooooo much eyecontact and smiling and staring and yh that's it.. what the actual fuck do I do? Is there any chance to make him like me again? and if there isn't what do I do to pick myself up? The problem is, This guy is extremely extremely GOOOD looking, every single girl likes this dude!! He is really fit, really strong, nice arms, gorgeous eyes his eyes are like green hazel gray, a perfect jaw line, perfect face structure, wide chest, wide shoulders, AND he's popular AND he has soo many friends AND he's rich.. And I've this weird thing for bad boys, and ofc.. He's a bad boy, he got kicked out of soo many schools for being in too many fights which is making him more attractive and sexier!! How the fuck could you not like that!!? I've never in my life seen anyone with eyes like his!! They sparkle for FUCKSAKE and I know it's weird to call a guy beautiful but this guy is REALLY BEAUTIFUL, I've never seen anyone with such beauty, yes he is hot and cute and all of that but he is REALLY beautiful, extremely beautiful!! have you ever felt this way.. Am I normal? Another thing I was wondering about.. I haven't had my first kiss.. Or I have but with a girl but I was really young so yh, but the first time you properly kiss someone you like and the first time you hook up/ have sex with someone does it all come naturally ( the way your body moves, reacts, the sounds you make, Where you put your hands etc.,) or do u have to think about every move like "okay now I should put my hand here and do this? Are there any awkward moments? I'm so affraid of kissing someone who I really like for the first time and then accidentally fucking everything up hahaha Could you ever make a video where you talk about your self (if you don't mind) or just talk about how it was for you in school, your first boyfriend or just anything you won't mind sharing? And how do you learn all of this and where do you get all of the "information from, how can I be like you??:( and how do you deal with being "flat".. Either flat chested or having a flat butt or not being curvy.. I have boobs but I'm not curvy, I have no curves and my boobs aren't even that nice.. I try o hide it and draw more attention but it really bothers me.. And I know guys hate that in girls. Could you ever do a q and a where you answer many different questions instead of just making a video on a specific topic not everyone could relate to? Sorry if this was too much to read but sometimes I just need to let my mind "throw up" and there are some things I can't talk about with people so yh.. 🌹🌹🌹❤️
Pls help 💖 me and this guy have been talking back and fourth for quite a few days now and we've been sending a hearts and it's been kind of flirty but he's not asked me out - i don't feel like he's using me for his ego but idk? Xxx
Shallon Lester thing is we've only met in real life once but I could tell we would have got with each other but we both left early and so by me making plans would that be too random or do you think I should just go for it? Xx
“You know what sucks? Female friendships” Excuse me ma’am? An educated person like you saying a myth like that? So disappointed. This is really not i came for.
Insecure friends are sneaky. But u can really feel that she is secretely jealous. I have a friend who is totally like this. I just distance myself from her. Protect yourself first. Thanks for this video @Shallon. Stay savage 💋
Thanks Alex, your comment and the video totally enlightened me.
@@tejaswinikasinadhuni5231 you're welcome. Stay strong😊
I know I’m late but I would really love if you responded.!! My 13th birthday is coming up and my only friend is extremely jealous she can have fun but sometimes she justs gets an attitude when I get something new I want her to come to my birthday Bc I don’t wanna be alone but I also don’t want her to ruin it with her negative attitude
*If that’s what you consider a friend, then what do you consider an enemy?* I had to pause the video just to reflect on that
I realize it's pretty randomly asking but does anyone know of a good website to watch newly released tv shows online ?
@Adriel Ismael Flixportal :)
Wow... I just realized I've had many friends like this. It makes me sad.
Hello Shallon, so I recently came across conclusion that it's very hard to make friends when you are pretty girl.. I'm not being narcissistic, but it is very hard to me to make REAL friends, since I can't trust girlfriends, mostly because they are jelaous, and also I can't hang with guyfriend without getting marked as a 'potential girlfriend'... Can you give some tips on that?
I have this same problem. The only solution is to make friends with other “pretty girls” that are similar to you & have what you have to decrease the likelihood. That’s what I plan to do or otherwise remain friendless but I’m tired of girl’s bs
Are you all for real? 🤔
My legit actual problem right now in my life and I'm heartbroken. I feel so drained, men just want to take take take something from me. Women? Cold. Don't reciprocate my friendliness. Hard to trust. It genuinely makes me depressed sometimes that I don't even try anymore. All the guy friends in my life I love them, but I always have the thought in the back of my mind if they're just waiting for an opportunity.....
NJC 1 I think these are all valid stories.
mimma 245 yeah, and then we go through all this bs in our youth of envious friends and men who just want sex, grow old as women and lose all value because society only pegs women as looks!
I’ve known my friend since I was 18 freshmen year and now I’m 23 her 25 and she’s stayed the same. I’ve grown as a person but she hasn’t and is still gossiping about people, sharing (irrelevant) pics from years ago on social media, still all about the drama, and puts her nose into people’s business and relationships (and over the years has sabotaged 3 of mine.). Basically still stuck in the high school/college years & all about the drama. I’m glad you mentioned that these people don’t deserve an explanation when you cut them off because it’s such the truth I even imagined confronting her & I know she would never own up to anything, she would never say sorry & would spread even more gossip and drama. These kinds of people are terrible & it’s important to spot them right away and not spend years of friendship when they already know everything about you. I’ve also stopped telling her things before cutting her off so she doesn’t come around & thinks I’m busy or something so no fuel is added to her fire. I think these people also have narcissism or Bpd.
your videos literally have the perfect timing with my life! creepy but super helpful, love you shallon
I’m a male and have a friend like this, the most gossiping person I’ve ever met
Help she won’t let me shine!! Went out last night and she was counting the times people complimented my Halloween costume and not hers.... Jesus Christ.
Sooooo true!!!! This is why many friends end up trying to take your spouse, boyfriends or try to stifle your friendship with other people. 😕 narcissistic people.
I could have used this years ago. Thanks for the advice. Will pass it along!
Shallon knows all!! So true about haters or envious losers
I feel like every time I become close friends with a woman the closer I get to her the more jealous and petty she gets. This happens all the time. I genuinely want girl friends. I am confident in who I am and want to cheer on my friends. However even being nice and considerate women just don’t like me. I am not sure if I am doing something wrong. Any advice? 🙏🏼
I have a feeling that the more genuine people attract the most insecure people because they wish they had that personality trait. They see you attracting attention and gaining friends (or acquaintances) and wish they could do the same so naturally. They lady in the video is so right. It’s jealousy. If you really want to keep that friendship address it. Ask them why they treat you this way yet still want to be around you so much. Their reaction to this convo is the determining factor of if you stay friends or not.
Girl, I feel your pain. I am going through this. I have decided to end it silently.
I can relate to this. I walked away silently. I feel relief already.
🥺 you are so right, I came looking for videos of jealous friends because some recent events and I’m so sad I’ve been such a good friend
Am sorry
holy cow! I am so glad you made this video because this just happened to me! keep up the good work!!!
Happened to me last year September too...I started noticing it earlier tho and to he honest I don't feel bad for cutting her off. She's always complaining about her insecurities and uses them to justify her actions, she ended up flirting with a guy that I liked...and she knew I liked him....and she says she doesn't see anything wrong with wat she did🙄
omg you're like Hillary Duff's sister😊😘 this video helped me.. I'm growing away from my friend..
True, true true, a jealous friend is a dangerous enemy.
I've never had a friend like that before
I needed this. Especially today.
Thank you for everything sister Shallon 🖤
Thanks for the advice. She keeps sending me messages even though I’m ignoring her. She can tell I’m pulling away.
Envy exists everywhere apart from your blood family,even in so called relationships and marriages the person's envy each other of their achievements but will never admit that,let alone be friendships
Thanks for all your advice Shallon, there should be more people like you in the world :)
THIS IS SO FUKING REALISTIC THAT I CAN'T EVEN
How has it taken me so long to find you?! Love it love it love it.
Amazing! Watching your videos is literally the highlight of my day! xx
Wait you were married?!!!
Thank you Queen Shallon
your videos are always so amazing and they never disappoint! :) This is a little random of a question, but could you please tell me how to casually ask my boyfriend if he still texts/is friends with his ex?
Thanks!
That's literally perfect! Thanks so much! Wish me luck :)
Freya Chandra shallon is so smart
Ikr? I've been watching her videos and following her advice for over a year :)
True,,,, on your wedding day,,,,,that's sad.....😥😥😥
Your so 👯👯💁💁😱😱😊☺☺😊💁💁Beautiful💮💮.....
thanks!! that was helpful
Excellent advice, thanks!!!
my friend always gets mad if I have other friends... once in a group chat my other friend said "let's text best friend" and then she texted me getting so mad and I was so scared :(
It’s so sad honestly I really liked this “friend”
Shallon am so obsessed with your videos and i follow your advice in every situation. I've become popular and very confident until i no more want to talk to people because i don't feel like they mean something to me or they can have my intention or something. And that made me feel alone . That's right they all think that i'm the boss here but i also feel like no one wants to talk to me . Are they so shy or afraid to be rejected because i made them think i'm better than them?( i actually think i am tbh) .I don't know. Maybe they think am antisocial because i made it clear that i don't talk to anybody and i didn't find someone interesting to be friends with . Like i made other people seem like fans. But am at a point where i need to talk to people . but let's say if i give up doing what i used to do and ignoring them, i feel like am gonna lose my crown and be a normal girl easy to get and all that stuff . Do you know whah i mean ? Pleaaase help me i need youu.
I have a friend who uses the things that hurt the most to tell me... but on the other hand, she helps me a lot and she cares about me, so I don't know what to believe
Shallon Lester You are right but how to react to those mean comments?
Dear Shallon, could you please give some tips on how to say politely no to a guy who wants to take you out, when you're not interested or maybe interested in his friend? Thank you!! :-)
Thanks for your video..some very good points. And I’m sure you were a beautiful bride 💕
Im lucky to not have trusted my closest friend after noticing they were jealous, and liked gossiping. Ignoring them next week
I do have a friend that always jealous of me that he pretend to be a good friend but in the end he did stab behind my back. OMG it so hurt that I questioning myself why in the hell that he must be always jealous in everything I do. He is so freaking weird and freak. Anyway tq for the advice video. Love your advice.
LOVE your videos!!
Needed to hear :) thank you 😊 👏 😘 ❤
Girls are terrible towards each other it’s so sad. I’ve always been encouraging towards my female friends but never received the same back.
Shallon, I need your help in a major way. I'm almost eighteen and just came close to having my first relationship, but blew it again. My problem is guys think I'm intimidating-- I model, do mock congress, wear heels every day of my life, etc-- but I'm really not as tough as I look. I know guys like me and want to approach me, but they never do, and when I try to make it known I'm interested, I end up coming on way too strong. How can I get boys to approach me without compromising my identity as a badass woman? (essentially I'm asking you how to become Samantha Jones).
queen of ****ing everything From a man's perspective you may want to dress down a bit. What I mean by that is when you're not modeling, be a little more low key.
I'm attracted to women who dress modest. The reason is because women who dress modest are the most loyal in relationships and marriages.
10 years ago I met an entrepreneur who looked good enough to be a model. Whenever she attended formal events, she would wear the sexiest attire!! But her everyday apparel consisted of a t-shirt, jeans, tennis shoes and a baseball cap. She also happens to be handy with tools!!
Another reason you come across as intimidating is the men you come in contact with may see you as a gold digger. Someone who will only date and marry rich men. There's a phrase I grew up with. "Women marry up." The reason is money = security. The more money a man has, the more secure he is. Security = being able to provide for a family.
It sounds to me like the men you come in contact with feel like they can't measure up to your standards because
A. You're either out of their league. (That's usually due to confidence and insecurity issues on their part)
B. They're either working class guys trying to make ends meet and feel they'll never measure up to your standards
Or C. You're too high maintenance for them.
Another thing you should realize is a lot of men are opting out of relationships due to bad experiences. They feel their lives would be better off without the opposite sex. They don't want to be screwed over by the court system who will make them pay alimony, child support, half their retirement etc. (that's for a different discussion) So keep this in mind...
I wouldn't worry about it. What I've realized is that as you grow older, guys become less intimidated by women like that and start to admire it. I would recommend smiling more (if you don't already) because that does not compromise your badass-ery ;D and it really works for approachability
Yup, she's copying everything I wear, buy and do but she puts me down. And I know this may seem petty but I have long natural nails which she always says she wish she had, one day my nail broke while I was lifting heavy books at work...I was in pain, i looked at her and she had this evil huge smile on her face. I was shook. She throws me under the bus at work but I do so much for her. I'm good to her. I have to work with her and it's uncomfortable. She just bought all the same clothes that I wear to work. It's annoying.
I confronted a person like this, I was really assertive with her, she began to deflect and avoided me. Why is this?
At My & my now Husband’s wedding, My Envious “Friend” said ON Video, “Congratulations, humpf, but it’s about time”
You have a way with words Shallon 🥰
You look like Blair Waldorf. So beautiful. Great advice!
awesome advice!
Just got texted saying that I was cool and he had the worst life, And I don’t like having it like that.
Dear shallon, I was wondering if I could get you opinion on this situation. I used to date the popular guy at my school but we broke up about 8 months ago. I am really concerned because I havent been able to get back into dating and the other boys I meet seem really immature and unattractive. What makes it worse is that he has already had another two girlfriends and I kinda makes me look lame and it is making my ex super cocky and arrogant. I was wondering if you had any tips on finding a potential boyfriend and how to show my ex that I am over him and better without him. I love your videos by the way xxx
A “friend” that doesn’t tell you that your lipstick is all over ur teeth and you are out in public... is no friend at all.
Hi Shallon,
I just subscribed to you lately. I love your channel and advice. I have a question but I don't want to post it publicly. How do I send it to you? Thanks
the grape juice hahaha
Hi Shallon,
I currently have this jealous friend (she steals off me, short changes me, borrows things off me and doesn't return them and she doesn't even like any of my facebook pictures).
She goes to a different university now (we used to go to the same one but she had to move because of her grades) but she still sniffs around our campus. I thought that because she left I could just ignore her, so I blocked her on facebook.
Then she had a gigantic hissy fit and told all my friends and one of them had a go at me about having blocked her. I have to pretend I'm friends with her now so the rest of my friends don't hate me - i'm even helped organise a surprise birthday party for her!
It cost me £12.50 and she always used to short change me!
I don't know how to get rid of her out of my life, considering she's so close to the rest of my friends!
Thanks x
Ooooo my 🤦🏽♀️I got my type Female friendship really sucks😤😤😤😤😤
Shallon I got a serious question I just moved high schools in the middle of the school year and my first day at school I was already thinking about boys boys that I truly didn't know I literally didn't even know their names why every time I see a half decent guy my mind goes crazy and acts like I like them when it's only lust
But the crazy thing about it is I don't want a relationship I don't want a boyfriend because I don't want to invest in the relationship with my heart and not know where it lands I don't understand what's going on
Oh Shallon. . .what do I do if I'm into a boy that doesn't seem very interested in dating? Should I just move on?
Go Grey Rock on them..become so boring over time..that THEY leave YOU!
What's your advice on how to deal with being the jealous person. I love my best friend and we are super close but I'm just getting even more jealous of her and I'm worried it's going to ruin our friendship and I don't want to loose her
Thank you xx problem solved!!!! one of our 'friend' shit stirred between me and my best friend so my best friend came round and we talked things through and turns out this whole time my best friend has been jealous of me! I was jealous of her because she was doing things to try and impersonate me!
So after a lot of tears and hugging we're closer even than we were before!!! Thank you so so much Shallon for replying and helping me xx
Hi
My friends think I stole something of theirs (a packet of cigarettes) and they accused me and want me to replace the item. I'm quite upset because it just shows there is not much trust in the friendship. I swore to them I didn't steal anything but they don't believe me. I said I'd buy the guy a new packet but where does are friendship go from here? I don't know what to do but suspect they'll probably cut me out of the group. I know in myself that I didn't do anything wrong but don't know how I can prove that to them.
I made three close female friends I was pretty sure there attitude towards me,there pretendance and alone mocking at me and spreading shit about me or sharing my secrets by inhancing more to it to the society,people kind of changed their outlook hence,I felt they are definately jealous of me and insecure so am moving away from them.But prob is hardly I can trust female friends now,but yet happy as if negative vibes went off from me😊😊
I'm in about 6th grade. So this boy that I liked knew and told me he liked me back this has gone on all year.but he's always asked someone out right when we were getting super close it's now the summer and he just asked out one of my closest friends I really want to get over him and not be attached to him but he always lures me back in I don't want my freind to get hurt especially since I know he's going to break up with her
Hey shallon so I've recently watched your tinder videos and was wondering what do I do if guys just don't know how to keep up conversation?should I just ignore them.Like for example (and this has happened with a few guys) they will message me first and then we will talk and they will be like how's your day and I'll be like good yours and they will be like Good and then I don't reply because there is nothing to say to that and then they will message me the next day with hey and it's the same ridiculous cycle all over again and the only way to make the conversation go somewhere is if I take the lead and ask the questions. It's hard to tell if they are into me or not because they still text me first but the convo is just always boring
Hi shallon, I remember you talking in your videos about running for student council president and I'm running for my high school I'm super exited but I'm also against a person with a pretty good chance at winning too so I'm a little nervous. Do you have any advice about running for student council president? Love your videos!
Exactly
you seem a little down in this video :( hope everything is okay
Dear Shallon, what you described is my old best friend. Unfortunately by the time I found out who she really was she had already destroyed my relationship with my crush. Now he wont even talk to me. I have no idea what she said but whatever it was he instantly stoped socialising with me. She has moved to another school. However, I still am not over the guy. I still have strong feelings for him and it kills me that he won't talk to me. Now one of my friends is going to ask him out for me. Which I don't want her to but she is anyways. I'm so scared and nervous. I don't know what to do!
Em R try talk the friend out of it some nice way or just say straight out that you don't want her to ask him. If she does then all you can do is apologize to the boy and question your Friend on why she did that because you clearly wouldn't want to. If she doesn't then just try and think about him less and less each day, it may sound hard but if he's in you class try not to look over, to limit the amount of time you see him or think about him. That really helped me get over a crush I had for a couple of years. Hope this helps
Elin Dickman Thanks. I believe that my friend only wants to help. Also, I have no classes this semester with him. Also I try to think less of him but it is hard when I see him through the hallway to my classes. I have liked the guy for almost two years now.
Em R I know how hard it is when he walks by, soon it will get better try to look beyond him if at all possible otherwise you will constantly want him. I'm sorry you have to go through this it's always hard
Elin Dickman Unfortunately today my friend asked him... He said "I'm not looking for a relationship right now, sorry."
So yeah. Now ill have to get over rejection .
Em R Aww I'm so sorry it sucks being rejected, get some ice cream, your friends and have a movie night and try not to think about it too much, I'm sure this guy really didn't deserve you and that you are so amazing he just couldn't handle it, I hope that it doesn't hurt for too long although I know how hard it can be
Hey Shallon, so the guy I'm into has a gf but she treats him like he's her little pack mule. She's so mean to him. Does this mean the guy has bad taste or bad character secretly, or is he just naive. Please respond or better yet make a vid because i feel like this topic could be deepened and explored more for other girls out there :) love you so much !!
I know your rules for texting boys yet I went against then and sent the first text for our new convo, I sent something funny and flirty yet he hasn't responded. How do I come back from this embarrassing mistake?
this is a late comment. Good video, I've been researching jealousy. Question, what are women so jealous about? I mean what is the thing? Do women even know? Anyone can answer.
Shallon, I feel like so many of my friends do all of this and I’ve recently just cut them all off .. I think I only have one or two old friends that really have my back the rest I think just see me as competition
Same for me
somehow when i get really close to a fiiend they start acting up like this. my two closest bestfriend were like that. and i never realized it until we stopped being friends. how do i get close to people without this happening?
Hey Shallon,
so I have a question...Im seeing this guy for like a month now..when we go out we have so much fun and we chat everyday....but we dont see each other so often, I mean our dates are like once or maybe twice a week...and when someone calls him se says hes with me but calls me with my name...not with girlfriend, and he takes long to answer on texts( around 1-2 hours).....How do I make this guy to commit....also hes kinda narcissistic.....😕
Wat to do....If your roommates are jealous of you ...& confronting them , will only create more problems....They will disturb your studies .....And destroy your things......And I cannot shift anywhere else coz I have financial problems......And I don't have anywhere to go...... What should I do in that case.....How to deal with them ?
r chetna keep your things in lock up and study in the library or like in the staircase...don't give it too much thought...don't let it disturb your inner peace and studies
Hi Shallon, there's this guy that I think is cute and I actually saw him at a mutual friend's party a couple of weeks ago. I actually just found out today that he has the same lunch period as me and he sits by himself. I want to talk to him but I don't know how to approach him nor do I want to ruin anything. What do you think I should say , I know you made a video about how to talk to a guy with like asking for a pencil on the bus but, this is a different scenario could you help me please.
Hi Shallon ur videos r just dope they really help me to go on with my life I just wanna thank u so much for the work u're doing... also I wanted to ask u if u can help me to get over my 5 years crush, I mean he was the first boy to get my attention I tried everything to be with him but it was all in vain I even changed my school to be near him and we were in the same classes but he just friendzoned me and when I wanted to get over him I just couldn't I got into two relationships but I was still stuck on him and got my heart broken,,, I got him out of my life and social media and I rechanged mt school but I still think of him... plz I really need ur advice
U would look good in red hair
Hey Shallon, I was getting rlly close with this guy and I think he was about to ask me out (I liked/still like him sooo much) my "best friend" at the time sat next to him in math and told him all these lies saying I stalked his parents and I'm obsessed with him and now he thinks I'm a crazy stalker and hates me, I have liked him for a long time and still like him but he talks to his guy friends and tells them all I'm crazy and a stalker. I'm not even that bothered about dating him anymore but I at least wanna be friends cause The more he hates me the more is spread about me and everyone hates me (cause he is the popular guy in our school) I really need help this happened a few months ago and he still hates me 😑
I was on you Instagram live but my wifi is absolutely SHIT! and I was sooooo looking forward to watch it cause I REALLY REALLY love your advice and you make me so much stronger!! So I was hoping you could answer some of my questions here..I'm a 14 year old girl and I get attracted to guys.. But it is normal if I mostly fantasise about girls and get VERY VERY sexually attracted to girls but NEVER romantically attracted to them? And if I usually just fantasise about girls., does that mean that j won't enjoy having sex with a guy, and does that make me bisexual? I have nothing against it but it's making me feel really bad for some reason and I don't know who to ask.. And also.. Is it normal to really BE IN LOVE with someone, think about them 24/7, when you've only had two conversations, and is it normal to cry and really be depressed about them for weeks (not being able to eat cry 24/7 just because they didn't give you the attention they used to give you? I used to like this guy, we used to stare at eachother aloooooooooooooot especially him!! We were making soo much eyecontact and smiling and all of that and then next time I saw him I looked really really bad!! Like really bad so I kind tried to hide myself by wearing a big jacket but making it look as if I'm not hiding from him which was soo fucking stupid and I regret it with all my heart, then i guess he noticed since he told his cousin who's in my class "why was she hiding, I don't like it when girls do that" then next time I was on fleek but everything was different., and I just found out that all of his friends used to tell him that I have a crush on him, that I'm staring at him 24:7 and that I'm crazy for him WHICH IS PISISNG ME OFF CAUSE HE WAS THE ONE WHO COULDNT KEEP HIS EYES OFF OF ME!! He was literally running after me!! I was standing in the bus stop and his friend and him were walking and they were really far away his friend turned around saw me pushed him and then both of them walked back!! And they took the same bus as me and when he went off the bus he stared and smiled!! So when I found out abt all of his friends saying that I like him and that I'm crazy for him I also found out that he told all of them that oh she's to young for me bro!! ITS PISSING ME OFF!! He used to wait for me after skl and walk behind me!! And now it feels like I've destroyed everything cause I had so many expectations and I had so many plans ( I know it sounds stupid..) but I really thought that this would lead to something big.. So yh now I'm heartbroken, depressed, can't eat or sleep properly..and I'm starting to think that I might have some sort of mental illness cause this is crazy, the only thing I had with was two conversations.. Soooooo sooooo much eyecontact and smiling and staring and yh that's it.. what the actual fuck do I do? Is there any chance to make him like me again? and if there isn't what do I do to pick myself up? The problem is, This guy is extremely extremely GOOOD looking, every single girl likes this dude!! He is really fit, really strong, nice arms, gorgeous eyes his eyes are like green hazel gray, a perfect jaw line, perfect face structure, wide chest, wide shoulders, AND he's popular AND he has soo many friends AND he's rich.. And I've this weird thing for bad boys, and ofc.. He's a bad boy, he got kicked out of soo many schools for being in too many fights which is making him more attractive and sexier!! How the fuck could you not like that!!? I've never in my life seen anyone with eyes like his!! They sparkle for FUCKSAKE and I know it's weird to call a guy beautiful but this guy is REALLY BEAUTIFUL, I've never seen anyone with such beauty, yes he is hot and cute and all of that but he is REALLY beautiful, extremely beautiful!!
have you ever felt this way.. Am I normal? Another thing I was wondering about.. I haven't had my first kiss.. Or I have but with a girl but I was really young so yh, but the first time you properly kiss someone you like and the first time you hook up/ have sex with someone does it all come naturally ( the way your body moves, reacts, the sounds you make, Where you put your hands etc.,) or do u have to think about every move like "okay now I should put my hand here and do this? Are there any awkward moments? I'm so affraid of kissing someone who I really like for the first time and then accidentally fucking everything up hahaha
Could you ever make a video where you talk about your self (if you don't mind) or just talk about how it was for you in school, your first boyfriend or just anything you won't mind sharing? And how do you learn all of this and where do you get all of the "information from, how can I be like you??:( and how do you deal with being "flat".. Either flat chested or having a flat butt or not being curvy.. I have boobs but I'm not curvy, I have no curves and my boobs aren't even that nice.. I try o hide it and draw more attention but it really bothers me.. And I know guys hate that in girls.
Could you ever do a q and a where you answer many different questions instead of just making a video on a specific topic not everyone could relate to?
Sorry if this was too much to read but sometimes I just need to let my mind "throw up" and there are some things I can't talk about with people so yh..
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Well said.... "release" the fakers 👍
I don't mind most jealous people but my jealous RUclipsr "Friend" put my video link to the spam sites...
OH MY FUCKING GOD HOW COULD SHE SAY THAT TO YOU
Omg u look exactly like Hilary Duff
Yessss!
Pls help 💖 me and this guy have been talking back and fourth for quite a few days now and we've been sending a hearts and it's been kind of flirty but he's not asked me out - i don't feel like he's using me for his ego but idk? Xxx
Shallon Lester thing is we've only met in real life once but I could tell we would have got with each other but we both left early and so by me making plans would that be too random or do you think I should just go for it? Xx
Is friend even a real thing btw??
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You're so cute ily
nobody cares dude we all going through it together
can any one translate this in urdu ? plzzzzzz
Don't forget about children JEALOUS of their PARENTS
Bad advice
“You know what sucks? Female friendships” Excuse me ma’am? An educated person like you saying a myth like that? So disappointed. This is really not i came for.
What abt petty gay co-workers? Lol