POPULARITY ADVICE: 5 Ways To Stop Caring What People Think & Stand Up For Yourself | Shallon Lester
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- Опубликовано: 4 сен 2024
- Need some popularity advice? It can be hard to stop caring what people think about you and actually have your own opinion. But I'll give you the tips and tricks you need to stand up for yourself and become popular!
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WOW. Your advice is so different and fresh from all these other channels.
Exactly and she’s so raw and real!
I loved this video! I'n almost 22 and I've never been into drinking, casual sex, parties, and I hate wearing makeup. People used to tell me I was a "loser" who would regret "not having fun" when I'm young. I've had friends try to bully me into wearing makeup because "I would look so much better." But guess what? I love myself! I'm so happy! Instead of partying, I'd rather network and get internships in order to get an awesome career. And you know what? That's exactly what I did :)
Good for you! I kinda wanna be someone who does it all. Wear makeup, go out clubbing while networking and working. No reason not to have the best of both worlds
@@pandawan4 preach!
What’re the differences between focusing on yourself vs. being selfish? Growing up whenever I would do something for me my mom would tell me “you’re being selfish” or “you’re only thinking about yourself.” That kind of paved my behavior for being a people pleaser.
Ive been watching you since i was in middle school and now that im almost 21, i just want to say thank you, Shallon! :)
I needed this video, when i think of all the bad things I've done it has come to me being a people pleaser and trying to not hurt someone elses feelings and as you said it made me miserable for such a long time and made it hard to forgive myself. I think i'm going to do what you said and write in my journal about all the things i did in order to please other people, talk about how it made me feel and make sure it doesn't happen again, the older i get the more i realise being liked is overrated and just not worth it when you have to sacrifice your character. Thank you Shallon, i always find your advice so helpful
The tired thing is so true. I’ve notice whenever I’m under the weather, or I’ve been up too long or something, I do stop caring and overthinking. I’m oddly much more relaxed when I’m sick or tired and I have more fun around other people cuz I’m not really worried about them anymore. Or my body is just too tired to be anxious.
You gave me one of the best advice I’ve ever was given because I’ve been a people pleaser for too long especially when people close to me influence my decisions and I become complacent with it. I know that I want to stop caring about what other people think and your video came just in time! Thank you so much Shallon!!!!
SAME. I'm so tired of pleasing everyone around me. I wanna be more honest and authentic to others and myself
Man, Shallon... this is the answer I've been searching for. I've been struggling with cognitive dissonance and trying to catch myself when I go against my integrity because I couldn't stand how bad it would make me feel. Its like i was missing this one piece the answer on how to get it under control. Thank you so much for your videos, you're helping me become a better me and have a healthier mind.
As usual you're spot on Shallon. When you sacrifice your happiness or comfort for someone who'd more than likely not do the same for you.. it is thee most stomach churning thing. Laying in bed at night regretting not speaking up or saying no.. don't do it to yourself. 👄💙💛💚💋
This advice is so useful to me and I’m sure so many others. There’s nothing more freeing than being yourself, and I’ve wanted freedom my whole life. Also, I’ve been watching your videos for a long time, and they’ve helped me through my awkward teenage years & I told my friend, who has been going through hard times about u & they help her too. Honestly, don’t know what I would’ve done without these videos. Thank you ❤️
Best advice channel on RUclips
I love you beautiful , thank you for everything :) you've helped me a lot ❤
One of your best videos. You're the best, Shallon. PLUS I looove your hair!
I know you're a grown ass woman and I'm a grown ass (relatively straight) woman but that giggle you do makes me MELT omggg
I needed this! Thank you so much. I love your videos. Keep up the great work! ❤️
Man i Love you! You got me there! I regret doing things because others found it ok...and I’m still feeling bad about this stuff...I need to stick up for myself
this is just the video I needed to see
fantastic video!!! KEEEP IT UP!
Love this shallon. So true 💛
I love your advice. Thank you ❤
Great video. Really enjoyed this one.
Love you shallon I needed this ❤️
Only this can backfire sometimes because if you be yourself and the crowd around you (who you're stuck with/can't get away from) doesn't like that you're no longer affected by them, they can and often do, attack. First verbally, but then physically too. And bully as a group, which just worsens over time. And once you're out of school, this kind of behavior continues, only, no one is around to help you.
Soo helpful😍
Hi Shallon! Amazing video! I have a serious boundaries problem. I fooled around with a ghetto douchebag last night. We just had oral sex, but I wasn't ready for it. I'm mad at myself for not standing up for myself and saying I only have sex when I'm in a serious relationship. My low self-esteem has ruined my whole love life! Now I'm angry and humiliated by a loser! I've given up on finding a good man. I'm never going to find a high value man like this. He was not very attractive and kinda short and low-class. He's kinda like Squiggy but his name is Bobby. Now I feel stupid like I let that loser use me. I hope I don't ever let a guy get close to me again! They're just time wasters! Much hugs and love! 🐰💝💪😉🌉🗽🌃🌄🌅🎃🐬💜❤💐💝🌃🐬💜❤
This is by far one of my favorite videos Shallon! Bravo girlfriend 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻♥️💗♥️💗♥️💗
Love your videos! Thank you, Shallon! ❤️
Such a great video
i NEEDED THIS
You're so awesome 😍
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you are my queen
Shallon you're amazing, I really needed this wow thank you!! I love your non dating videos