Shallon, I got some video suggestions for ya! - how to stop obsessing about your boyfriend's ex - how to let go of resentment in a relationship (i said i love you first to my boyfriend. It's been over a year and he said it back a few months after I said it, but I'm still pissy about it) - how to convince your parents to approve of your relationship if they're super conservative - how to actually enjoy being single - what to do if you fall out of love? How can you fall back in love with your partner? - boyfriend tag??? I think we'd all love to meet your bf :) Love ya :)
If you’re obsessing over a boyfriends ex to me that’s indicative of a major problem. Because it means he’s still talking to his ex as a “friend” or otherwise, which could breed insecurity and paranoia on your part, or he’s not adoring you in a way that feels like he did with previous girlfriends. I’ve never once worried about my boyfriends ex’s and that’s because he made it clear how superior I was to them and that they broke up for a reason. He also continually told me how amazing I was, on a nearly daily basis, and it was very clear how much he loved me and wanted to be with me, hoe much he valued me.
1. Jealousy 2. Not having goals/interests 3. Being insecure, or obsessed with body image 4. Limiting your sexual experiences/activities 5. Having an agenda (or expectations, like moving in, getting married etc etc)
I like how Shallon talks about living in the present. Society has set up a checklist for us and our lives. We cannot live this way, it doesn't work anymore. I want to live freely. Same goes for a relationship.
Part of me likes the drama too, i think i have been jealous in my previous realtionships due to the fact i mimicked what i saw my parents doing . You really helpful and intelligent shallon .Never stop what you doing
You're already a step ahead though, because you're able to identify that they're toxic. That's huge, and hopefully, it'll prevent you from repeating the cycle with your next partner. The mom thing is tough, I go through the same with my mom and it's so DRAINING. You've got this girl, keep your head up and stay strong ❤❤❤
Thanks for such good advise Shallon! Your videos always come at the right time for me and they are always so informative since you use your own experience!
Would you say that it is a mistake to open up too much emotionally or possibly over-sharing information? I am a very honest person and pretty much an open book, but I fear that I may be sharing too much and that it ruins the dynamic of things.
I can answer that one for you - YES I am the same way and it pretty much killed my relationship. Only some people you can trust with that information, other people will use it against you at random times, usually fights. It really sucks.
Truly depends on the person you’re with. You need to understand humans in general, not just your man. A lot of people get used as therapists and feel drained when all you do is share your emotions all the time. You just have to be receptive to the person but as he is your man, you need to expect a level of consideration for your feelings from him and to create an environment where he also feels safe and okay to be honest and vulnerable with you.
A girl my boyfriend used to date was SUPER jealous, my dad used to tease him, our conversations were fairly boring, I always got scared he would break up with me, I’ve been having a bad day and I get home to see a text from him saying, “I’m very sorry but I think we should break up and just stay friends” I have interesting things to talk about, but not with him because we had nothing in common.
Hi depends on the guy with a few of your suggestions. An anxious guy will dump you if you play being too busy. An avoidant personality type or narcissist...ok play these games and suffer on. My suggestion is the following assuming he is a good guy and not a psycho: Be interested in him, be present when you are with him not on your phone, engage in conversation, be sure to be over you exes and keep them in the past, be open about what you want and what you love about him, have sex and communicate about sex and kink, be kind to him and don't put him down. And if you know you are just settling because you are tired of bad boys not committing please let him go because he is not what your really want; he deserves better.
Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear. I just came across your channel and I am about to kick back and have a marathon of your vids. Thanks for the great advice and sharing your personal experiences ☺️
We don't look for flaws and If we see them we don't obsess on them. I've noticed girl do the opposite , if they don't like something their eye will fell there , it's noticeable when you speak.
Ashley Moulton It’s good to have high standards, as long as you’re not expecting more than you can also give back or offer to balance the relationship.
Shallon, about being interesting and doing interesting things, what if you're busy with work and has no time to hang out with friends? What should one do?
I know this question is old, but sneaking in small interesting things into your day would be my first tip - like watching a medieval documentary in the evening to gain interesting knowledge, go running at night or really early in the morning and have that nature experience, on the way to work listen to interesting audio books, do at least one fun, interesting activity on the weekends (doesn't have to take all that long)... And second, make your work interesting. Gather stories or special knowledge that your conversation partner can profit from. Be it funny occurances or cases from work, insider knowledge or connecting a conversation about history or politics or finances or whatever with knowledge from your job.
My ex of 3 months was toxic... i dropped him at the airport and he turned around never called me when he got there after everything seemed fine turned around and said he was gonna go date my best friend. I died honestly. 💔💔💔💔😭 I still want him even though he hurt me...why 😭😪 he put me down and discredited me all the time he laughed at me.... then he sweet talked me and turned around and tells me im crazy when he invited me over 3 times a week and kept asking me for favours and im like what happened😧
You said "being alone -- being single -- is not as bad as society tells us" There's no social stigma anymore for being alone. It's more rare to find someone in a long term relationship (LTR) due to declining marriage rate. We all spend the first 12yrs of life alone, single, quite ably. Puberty/sex drive comes along and we think we need a LTR (going steady etc) Most mammal species (we're mammals too) are such that males and females LIVE APART except during mating season. NUMBERS - average marriage lasts 8 years - over 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife Women hate LTR more than men. WHY? Because it's NOT NORMAL for mammals to have LTRs. The mundane daily routine KILLS the romance eventually. I hated being married after awhile - no variety in the bedroom, felt stuck. Humans need variety. So you're right, "being alone -- being single -- is not as bad as society tells us". IT'S ACTUALLY *NORMAL* for mammals. The one thing I like about Feminism and MGTOW is they are driving us back to normal mammal lifestyles -- living apart except for sex or mating. It's much better being single. Most people in my age range are, no one is getting married, it is a huge mistake and a dead end, and it never feels natural because it isn't.
Greg Chase you're right, but women know that. They just marry to get your money. Why do you think they are 70+% of divorces? Just date them and then ghost them when they no longer meet your needs.
Typical mgtow. No, it doesn't. Just making excuses to cheat or to be a bad person. It is natural. How do you know that about women? ARE YOU ONE? No, you are not. Selfish. You don't need variety. Find ways to deal with it then.
@@Ferien7 You have issues with women to work on and work on being a better man/person!! They don't marry just to get your money. They divorce because HE CHEATED!! OR DIDN'T RESPECT HER!! You are a terrible person, you don't ghost!! SO DISRESPECTFUL! That is why you have problems with women, you DIDN'T RESPECT THEM!! RESPECT WOMEN AND YOU WON'T HAVE PROBLEMS!! You were selfish. Look at yourself.
I don't think the point about "getting weird in bed" is good advice. Sex is definitely not free and has some of the most life long altering consequences, from getting pregnant when you shouldn't, to getting basic STDs that are correlated with infertility and cancer risk and finally to horrible STDs that are barely manageable with fast diagnostic, but if let undiscovered they become aggressive fast and also epidemic. A woman with only one partner can get cervix cancer/throat cancer (BJ) if her partner had multiple partners. Men's sexual promiscuity is just killing women and encouraging it in women will only make matters worse and give more "free meat" to dudes. I would encourage a lot of limiting regarding sex, like always using condoms and refraining from giving unprotected orals. That is if you value health over questionable sexual gratification.
I'm a guy, I don't mind jealous girls as long as they aren't hypocritical. If she gets jealous if some girl talks to me, that's cool but she better not go talking to some guy either.
I feel like I must chime in and elaborate from a guy's point of view as to why these 6 things kinda kill our soul. 1. Jealousy? It is definitely the control freak aspect that irks us and also we are too polite to say this but yes, women can be creeps too and when women are too jealous they start acting creepy. As in, invading our privacy, collecting intimate information on us, keeping tabs etc. Imagine the biggest creep and just flip the gender, THAT is what a Jealous girl looks like from a guy's point of view. A creep with control issues. Side note: Drama. Men are mortally allergic to women's drama. You bring it and it's over just like that. Drama is to a man's life as Cyanide is to your health. It kills us, and fast! 2. No Goals. A woman that has no goals is basically lifeless, we might as well get a sex doll. We are attracted to women who exert some energy into whatever girlie or quirky little thing she is into even if we hate it or aren't interested in it. Just seeing her put out energy into something is both hot and cute and we like watching girls do that the same way a cat likes watching a hamster on it's wheel. 3. Obsessing about body flaws. Look this is simple: If we don't care neither should you! Flat chested, thigh gap (yes some girls are self conscious about this for some unfathomable reason) big head, kinda chunky, thin hair, too much hair etc. If I got the hots for you it means I don't give a fweck about whatever imperfections you think you have or I might actually be attracted to them! In high school there was this dorky-ish looking girl with the stereotypical thick glasses and she walked around always in a hurry with a weird little hunch and for some reason I thought she was cute as hell. To me she just seemed shy and feminine and like she had her own little world going on and I just wanted to hedge hog my way into her life and explore. But any time I got near her or talked to her she became so self conscious and timid it actually broke my damned heart to see her like that! I had never felt that before and I was like WTF? My interest in her somehow made her sad or uncomfortable so I wanted to comfort her and I had no clue how since it was hard enough to just talk to her and she kept putting up barriers. I felt like an asshole making her feel that way and I was sure she probably became sad or something latter when she went home and I know it was because she was feeling like an ugly duckling; I just wanted to tell her how cute she was to me or at least let her know she is not as ugly as she thought she was. That whole experience made me sad though, also made me feel like wanting to protect her and comfort her even if I had to do it from a distance. So please trust me when I said this: If a man doesn't care about the imperfections you think you have then neither should you! Because chances are he doesn't even see them! 4. Limiting your sexual activities. We are Men. We live for the Sekx! Telling a man that he can only go so far sexually is like telling a hog he can only wallow in soapy water. The hog is not going to have any idea what you just said and will proceed with determination to the mud and happily slosh and splash himself all up in it. And if you retaliate by cutting off his muddy good fun guess what hogs do? They turn pig headed, they will squeal and snort in revolt until you give him what he wants or he will go off to find themselves a nice little puddle to play with somewhere else when you're not looking. I'm sorry girls but this is just the reality of being a Man, we are horny and we wonts it. If you ain't giving it we'll find it somewhere else. By the way, if a girl is being weird sexually that is what we call winning the lottery. Get as weird as you want, we will help you. (◔౪◔) 5. Having an agenda for the relationship. That's on the same territory as jealousy. Men are like cats we HATE being controlled. We will do what we want and we will go out the window the moment you try to "train" us into being your house pet. 6. Agreeable. Actually being a little agreeable is hot, that's your feminine submissive side and we like it, at least I like it. But not too much to the point where you are back to #2 with having no goals in life. Being agreeable is hot only when you are setting your life side for me. It's a gesture of submission to me, you are relinquishing power to me and that does two things in my brain: it turns me on, and it heightens my awareness and sense of alertness because now I am responsible for you. Your are putting your life in my hands basically - at least in that moment - I have to step up and make good on the trust you've put in me. I have power over you and I can use it to show you how much I care bu wielding it lovingly. It also means I get to play with you like a cat with a ball of yarn :-3 (I don't know what the hell is up with all these cat references I have today).
its the opposite actually. its men who chase women and women pretty much have the choice to cherry pick. Now from my obsevation feminism, disney and hollywood has brainwashed you to subconsciously belive that all women are princesses and you derserve everything you want because you are perfect in every way while men are not. Murican dating sites revealed that women see 80% of men as below average . So your version of average/decent might be in the top 20% of males. Men are more realistic in this case as They find 50% of women as average ,25% avobe average and the bottom 25% as bellow average. Maybe thats why the so called fuckboys you describe can get many girls because they fall in that top 20% in some way. Now dont come at me i just said what i observed
I can't use instantgo😔 I'm a teenager so I don't have my own credit card and I'm not allowed to date so I can't exactly say that I need money for advice on boys... also I have an Android 😭😭
Yeah chances are if they only see things and blame it on one gender. It means there not even happy with themselves. I've seen really attractive guys, end up with jealous women that cause problems at the super market. What's that about? I'm glad I found a guy friend though that was willing to be different , and not get married. It wasn't just my choice, because i'm the one that volunteered to move into my own apartment sense we are only friends now. He's one of those older guys, still sexy in his age, but still in need of a friend or aid, because he has a hard time functioning. But he was cool with it when I told him my plan, of moving out but not totally deserting him because this way if I have anybody over in the future, it won't be awkward. Because I will live by myself. The only person that really wasn't agreeing with it was my landlord because she didn't have a one bedroom open yet, but she would get back with me when one opens up.
Hey shallon I was going to message you on Instago but the message I wanted to send was kinda long and it said it would cost almost $20 to send it is their any other was to message you
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07:35 Lots of good advice, but not on this program. We've all heard that a person makes lotss of time for those they want to see. If a girl is too busy (even legitimately busy) I lose interest quickly. Couple of reschedules is enough to go into 'block' zone on Whatsapp.....
You contradicted yourself. You said that its exhausting to be chasing after a guy, but then said guys will be stimulated chasing you. Its all the same. If it takes too much work to spend time with someone I'll find someone that values the relationship a little more.
Not having a date to prom haha that's funny I didn't have a date to prom I went anyways with Friends forgive me for making comments it's late I have sleep apnea and you are right about the whole there's eight billion guys out there in the world and that he is not the only guy but what if the guy makes you feel that he is and that you can't get anybody else that he is all that you get because I've been well at first I have been chasing him for three and a half years and he never wanted me one day I had a little bit of pocket cash and wanted to go see the new Frozen 2 yes I'm a child at heart haha funnyall of a sudden I decided I want to go with me I could pay you for my own ticket and stuff well I don't like split our payments for the movie I pay for my ticket he pays for the food you know all of a sudden out of nowhere he's like it's a date after three-and-a-half years Avene chasing him and wanting him I decided to finally stopped after three and a half year mark six months later I come by during Thanksgiving away from my father just to come talk to you so I can hang out with you and be friends because I thought that's what we are now all of a sudden you want to take me out on a date while you're screwing other women which personally I don't give a s*** do you but truth be told and then before the date which I disregarded it he's told me if I lost more weight more guys would be attracted to me with jobs and carsI told her friend of mine that has both of these things and he hasn't really good job and a really nice car he told me that is not trueand then after the date he called me a hoe and thats when I walked away silent circle k at the most dangerous part of town which is funny to me because I don't give a s***and then he text me 30 minutes and to me waiting for my own cab asking me would you like me to pick you up I told him why so you can be mean to me more and bully me no I got my own cab it's good sadly I only had 40 bucks in my wallet at the time that's all I have the rest of what I had I was going to use for My puppy sadly some of it had to go to acab home and my puppy had to go a little bit withoutwhat should I do in those situations where a guy makes you feel like he is all you can get
Shallon, I got some video suggestions for ya!
- how to stop obsessing about your boyfriend's ex
- how to let go of resentment in a relationship (i said i love you first to my boyfriend. It's been over a year and he said it back a few months after I said it, but I'm still pissy about it)
- how to convince your parents to approve of your relationship if they're super conservative
- how to actually enjoy being single
- what to do if you fall out of love? How can you fall back in love with your partner?
- boyfriend tag??? I think we'd all love to meet your bf :)
Love ya :)
Freya Chandra I love the first one!
If you’re obsessing over a boyfriends ex to me that’s indicative of a major problem. Because it means he’s still talking to his ex as a “friend” or otherwise, which could breed insecurity and paranoia on your part, or he’s not adoring you in a way that feels like he did with previous girlfriends.
I’ve never once worried about my boyfriends ex’s and that’s because he made it clear how superior I was to them and that they broke up for a reason. He also continually told me how amazing I was, on a nearly daily basis, and it was very clear how much he loved me and wanted to be with me, hoe much he valued me.
Freya Chandra the resentment one. yes.
You’re parent usually know best and you figure that out way later than you should in my experience
1. Jealousy
2. Not having goals/interests
3. Being insecure, or obsessed with body image
4. Limiting your sexual experiences/activities
5. Having an agenda (or expectations, like moving in, getting married etc etc)
I like how Shallon talks about living in the present. Society has set up a checklist for us and our lives. We cannot live this way, it doesn't work anymore. I want to live freely. Same goes for a relationship.
Pure knowledge. Everything Shallon says I find brilliant!
WE ARE SHALLONERS, YOU EVEN SAID THAT AT THE END GURRL
Part of me likes the drama too, i think i have been jealous in my previous realtionships due to the fact i mimicked what i saw my parents doing . You really helpful and intelligent shallon .Never stop what you doing
I like how you said differences create conversation, you say some very quotable things 💕
Wauw, Just left my toxic baby daddy. We have 2 kids :( And now Im dealing with my toxic mom.... and absent father. Happy me hihi
Dutchy Toys you’ll get thru it!! I did ❤️
Lots of love and strength to you all ✌💛
You're already a step ahead though, because you're able to identify that they're toxic. That's huge, and hopefully, it'll prevent you from repeating the cycle with your next partner. The mom thing is tough, I go through the same with my mom and it's so DRAINING.
You've got this girl, keep your head up and stay strong ❤❤❤
You're not alone ❤️ try your best girl
Thanks for such good advise Shallon! Your videos always come at the right time for me and they are always so informative since you use your own experience!
Would you say that it is a mistake to open up too much emotionally or possibly over-sharing information? I am a very honest person and pretty much an open book, but I fear that I may be sharing too much and that it ruins the dynamic of things.
I can answer that one for you - YES
I am the same way and it pretty much killed my relationship. Only some people you can trust with that information, other people will use it against you at random times, usually fights. It really sucks.
Don’t say everything you think ppl are sensitive
Truly depends on the person you’re with. You need to understand humans in general, not just your man. A lot of people get used as therapists and feel drained when all you do is share your emotions all the time. You just have to be receptive to the person but as he is your man, you need to expect a level of consideration for your feelings from him and to create an environment where he also feels safe and okay to be honest and vulnerable with you.
Shallon: the mom I never had
I'm a man and this video changed my whole outlook and in retrospect is totally true.
You talk to my soul! Your passion showing so strong and i love it!!!
A girl my boyfriend used to date was SUPER jealous, my dad used to tease him, our conversations were fairly boring, I always got scared he would break up with me, I’ve been having a bad day and I get home to see a text from him saying, “I’m very sorry but I think we should break up and just stay friends” I have interesting things to talk about, but not with him because we had nothing in common.
Hi depends on the guy with a few of your suggestions. An anxious guy will dump you if you play being too busy. An avoidant personality type or narcissist...ok play these games and suffer on. My suggestion is the following assuming he is a good guy and not a psycho: Be interested in him, be present when you are with him not on your phone, engage in conversation, be sure to be over you exes and keep them in the past, be open about what you want and what you love about him, have sex and communicate about sex and kink, be kind to him and don't put him down. And if you know you are just settling because you are tired of bad boys not committing please let him go because he is not what your really want; he deserves better.
I miss this Shallon.
queeeeeen. pls do a new video on long distance relationships focussing more on people in their 20’s. bless us with your wisdom 😩❤️
This is the realist talk that I needed to hear. Thank you ❤
people who have social life are more attractive.....
good advice....👍
and express your sexuality without feeling ashamed of it...
I love you Shallon! I love your videos, I learn a lot, I started to realize so much, Thank you for sharing
Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear. I just came across your channel and I am about to kick back and have a marathon of your vids. Thanks for the great advice and sharing your personal experiences ☺️
I wish I can just keep pressing the “like” button like Periscope!!! Keep it up girlie! I’m a fan!
Being all about my bf was the biggest mistake I made I did not care for me at all and now I’m rebuilding myself with everything it’s sad
Thanks! Shallon :) Im listening from Thailand. You save my relationship :)
WOW YOU ARE AMAZING!!!!!!!! Binging on your videos. Thank you for your light
wow okay. first video ive watched from you, and this was genuinely so helpful, clear and really funny!! thank you so much
Awesome points. Just discovered this channel, you are amazing
I love how this is not only RS advice but also life lessons in general. Keep on going Shallon you rock! :)
Really great advice and helpful tips ! Thanks.
We don't look for flaws and If we see them we don't obsess on them.
I've noticed girl do the opposite , if they don't like something their eye will fell there , it's noticeable when you speak.
personally I love being single omg I think I might just be a little picky tho😉
Ashley Moulton It’s good to have high standards, as long as you’re not expecting more than you can also give back or offer to balance the relationship.
This sounds like a lot better advice than that 7 deadly sin cheating video. Good job.
“A hair that you don’t want there” 😂😂😂
I really don’t wanna date someone like my dad
lol!
What you resist persist
Goals for me but none for the relationship got it
Damn. I just discovered your channel. its awesome.
I like when you call us Shalloners
Girl i love your videos and your talk! Thumbs up!
Love this topic! I'm listening.
I found this very helpful I found that I could relate to this especially in one of my past relationships
Ey, Shallon, I would LOVE to add Spanish subtitles to your videos💜
Fantastic video! 💟💟💟🙏🏻 Thank you!
Pretty lipstick color!
Omg lmao your videos are always on time 😩😂❤️
Worst Thing A woman did to me finding out she was married.
Shallon, about being interesting and doing interesting things, what if you're busy with work and has no time to hang out with friends? What should one do?
I know this question is old, but sneaking in small interesting things into your day would be my first tip - like watching a medieval documentary in the evening to gain interesting knowledge, go running at night or really early in the morning and have that nature experience, on the way to work listen to interesting audio books, do at least one fun, interesting activity on the weekends (doesn't have to take all that long)...
And second, make your work interesting. Gather stories or special knowledge that your conversation partner can profit from.
Be it funny occurances or cases from work, insider knowledge or connecting a conversation about history or politics or finances or whatever with knowledge from your job.
@@Nina-cd6uw Thank you.
Video on gigis subtle man stealing situation first zayn and Perry and Tyler and hanna.
My ex of 3 months was toxic... i dropped him at the airport and he turned around never called me when he got there after everything seemed fine turned around and said he was gonna go date my best friend. I died honestly. 💔💔💔💔😭 I still want him even though he hurt me...why 😭😪 he put me down and discredited me all the time he laughed at me.... then he sweet talked me and turned around and tells me im crazy when he invited me over 3 times a week and kept asking me for favours and im like what happened😧
Just because you are paranoid and jealous does not mean he is not messing around on you. Ya lose em how ya got em.
You said "being alone -- being single -- is not as bad as society tells us"
There's no social stigma anymore for being alone. It's more rare to find someone in a long term relationship (LTR) due to declining marriage rate.
We all spend the first 12yrs of life alone, single, quite ably. Puberty/sex drive comes along and we think we need a LTR (going steady etc)
Most mammal species (we're mammals too) are such that males and females LIVE APART except during mating season.
NUMBERS
- average marriage lasts 8 years
- over 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife
Women hate LTR more than men. WHY? Because it's NOT NORMAL for mammals to have LTRs.
The mundane daily routine KILLS the romance eventually. I hated being married after awhile - no variety in the bedroom, felt stuck. Humans need variety.
So you're right, "being alone -- being single -- is not as bad as society tells us". IT'S ACTUALLY *NORMAL* for mammals.
The one thing I like about Feminism and MGTOW is they are driving us back to normal mammal lifestyles -- living apart except for sex or mating.
It's much better being single. Most people in my age range are, no one is getting married, it is a huge mistake and a dead end, and it never feels natural because it isn't.
Greg Chase you're right, but women know that. They just marry to get your money. Why do you think they are 70+% of divorces? Just date them and then ghost them when they no longer meet your needs.
Typical mgtow. No, it doesn't. Just making excuses to cheat or to be a bad person. It is natural. How do you know that about women? ARE YOU ONE? No, you are not. Selfish. You don't need variety. Find ways to deal with it then.
@@Ferien7 You have issues with women to work on and work on being a better man/person!! They don't marry just to get your money. They divorce because HE CHEATED!! OR DIDN'T RESPECT HER!! You are a terrible person, you don't ghost!! SO DISRESPECTFUL! That is why you have problems with women, you DIDN'T RESPECT THEM!! RESPECT WOMEN AND YOU WON'T HAVE PROBLEMS!! You were selfish. Look at yourself.
@@roseh9621 See her latest video about 3 reason to break up
Thiw guy is telling truth
Withholding sex and being emotionally unavailable very good to hook dudes as well.
You're the best! 👏🏽💜
Shallon make a video about LDR please!!
I can tell you my experience, it can ruin your relationship if it is long distance for too long
I'm so late to this comment but I thought I'd have found the earliest person to suggest a Lana del Rey video
i got a question what bout like my boyfriend got a best friend and she doesn’t like him but i’m scared he’ll like her..?
Amazing Shallon!!!!
Well how do you differentiate a jealous girl and a player. Is it her fault or his?
butterfflyess usually both people have some part in the blame
@@Katspearl More him then her though.
Don't be with the f*boy!
His fault that different because there’s a reason for her feeling this way
Really good points 👍
Thanks you’re video helped me a lot ❤️
I don't think the point about "getting weird in bed" is good advice. Sex is definitely not free and has some of the most life long altering consequences, from getting pregnant when you shouldn't, to getting basic STDs that are correlated with infertility and cancer risk and finally to horrible STDs that are barely manageable with fast diagnostic, but if let undiscovered they become aggressive fast and also epidemic.
A woman with only one partner can get cervix cancer/throat cancer (BJ) if her partner had multiple partners. Men's sexual promiscuity is just killing women and encouraging it in women will only make matters worse and give more "free meat" to dudes.
I would encourage a lot of limiting regarding sex, like always using condoms and refraining from giving unprotected orals. That is if you value health over questionable sexual gratification.
me literally : sitting on my cabinet drinking my soup and listening to your video and pep talking myself :)
I'm a guy, I don't mind jealous girls as long as they aren't hypocritical. If she gets jealous if some girl talks to me, that's cool but she better not go talking to some guy either.
hahah I LOVE YOU!!!! You are the best! "cool! naked girl - this is the best" hahah just can't stop laughing
What about not releasing your ex’s
Hi Shallon! I'm wondering if you can make a video on dating abusive narcissistic men? 😇💪🕶
You are a goddess. As always...brilliant
You’re a gem 💎😊💯
Why do I feel like we're BFF's? lol Hugs Boo
I know this is 12 months old but you look beautiful here
You look so pretty here!!
I feel like I must chime in and elaborate from a guy's point of view as to why these 6 things kinda kill our soul.
1. Jealousy? It is definitely the control freak aspect that irks us and also we are too polite to say this but yes, women can be creeps too and when women are too jealous they start acting creepy. As in, invading our privacy, collecting intimate information on us, keeping tabs etc. Imagine the biggest creep and just flip the gender, THAT is what a Jealous girl looks like from a guy's point of view. A creep with control issues.
Side note: Drama. Men are mortally allergic to women's drama. You bring it and it's over just like that. Drama is to a man's life as Cyanide is to your health. It kills us, and fast!
2. No Goals. A woman that has no goals is basically lifeless, we might as well get a sex doll. We are attracted to women who exert some energy into whatever girlie or quirky little thing she is into even if we hate it or aren't interested in it. Just seeing her put out energy into something is both hot and cute and we like watching girls do that the same way a cat likes watching a hamster on it's wheel.
3. Obsessing about body flaws. Look this is simple: If we don't care neither should you! Flat chested, thigh gap (yes some girls are self conscious about this for some unfathomable reason) big head, kinda chunky, thin hair, too much hair etc. If I got the hots for you it means I don't give a fweck about whatever imperfections you think you have or I might actually be attracted to them! In high school there was this dorky-ish looking girl with the stereotypical thick glasses and she walked around always in a hurry with a weird little hunch and for some reason I thought she was cute as hell. To me she just seemed shy and feminine and like she had her own little world going on and I just wanted to hedge hog my way into her life and explore. But any time I got near her or talked to her she became so self conscious and timid it actually broke my damned heart to see her like that! I had never felt that before and I was like WTF? My interest in her somehow made her sad or uncomfortable so I wanted to comfort her and I had no clue how since it was hard enough to just talk to her and she kept putting up barriers. I felt like an asshole making her feel that way and I was sure she probably became sad or something latter when she went home and I know it was because she was feeling like an ugly duckling; I just wanted to tell her how cute she was to me or at least let her know she is not as ugly as she thought she was. That whole experience made me sad though, also made me feel like wanting to protect her and comfort her even if I had to do it from a distance. So please trust me when I said this: If a man doesn't care about the imperfections you think you have then neither should you! Because chances are he doesn't even see them!
4. Limiting your sexual activities. We are Men. We live for the Sekx! Telling a man that he can only go so far sexually is like telling a hog he can only wallow in soapy water. The hog is not going to have any idea what you just said and will proceed with determination to the mud and happily slosh and splash himself all up in it. And if you retaliate by cutting off his muddy good fun guess what hogs do? They turn pig headed, they will squeal and snort in revolt until you give him what he wants or he will go off to find themselves a nice little puddle to play with somewhere else when you're not looking. I'm sorry girls but this is just the reality of being a Man, we are horny and we wonts it. If you ain't giving it we'll find it somewhere else. By the way, if a girl is being weird sexually that is what we call winning the lottery. Get as weird as you want, we will help you. (◔౪◔)
5. Having an agenda for the relationship. That's on the same territory as jealousy. Men are like cats we HATE being controlled. We will do what we want and we will go out the window the moment you try to "train" us into being your house pet.
6. Agreeable. Actually being a little agreeable is hot, that's your feminine submissive side and we like it, at least I like it. But not too much to the point where you are back to #2 with having no goals in life. Being agreeable is hot only when you are setting your life side for me. It's a gesture of submission to me, you are relinquishing power to me and that does two things in my brain: it turns me on, and it heightens my awareness and sense of alertness because now I am responsible for you. Your are putting your life in my hands basically - at least in that moment - I have to step up and make good on the trust you've put in me. I have power over you and I can use it to show you how much I care bu wielding it lovingly. It also means I get to play with you like a cat with a ball of yarn :-3 (I don't know what the hell is up with all these cat references I have today).
Never heard so much truth
ROTC? you go girl!
Women today have to be a full package in order to get half decent man. It’s sad.
its the opposite actually. its men who chase women and women pretty much have the choice to cherry pick. Now from my obsevation feminism, disney and hollywood has brainwashed you to subconsciously belive that all women are princesses and you derserve everything you want because you are perfect in every way while men are not. Murican dating sites revealed that women see 80% of men as below average . So your version of average/decent might be in the top 20% of males. Men are more realistic in this case as They find 50% of women as average ,25% avobe average and the bottom 25% as bellow average. Maybe thats why the so called fuckboys you describe can get many girls because they fall in that top 20% in some way. Now dont come at me i just said what i observed
I can't use instantgo😔 I'm a teenager so I don't have my own credit card and I'm not allowed to date so I can't exactly say that I need money for advice on boys... also I have an Android 😭😭
Damn! You do that shit?!
Loved you too
**yas crying**
FELLOW BI QUEEN YES🙏🏼🙏🏼
Shes Not bi tho. She hooked Up with a Girl in a threesome and she only dates guys
Yeah chances are if they only see things and blame it on one gender. It means there not even happy with themselves. I've seen really
attractive guys, end up with jealous women that cause problems at the super market. What's that about? I'm glad I found a guy friend
though that was willing to be different , and not get married. It wasn't just my choice, because i'm the one that volunteered to move
into my own apartment sense we are only friends now. He's one of those older guys, still sexy in his age, but still in need of a friend
or aid, because he has a hard time functioning. But he was cool with it when I told him my plan, of moving out but not totally
deserting him because this way if I have anybody over in the future, it won't be awkward. Because I will live by myself. The only
person that really wasn't agreeing with it was my landlord because she didn't have a one bedroom open yet, but she would get
back with me when one opens up.
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Hail austin thats sucks :( I cant even message her I'm waiting for my country to be allowed
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well why does a girl Try To ruin The relationship When They dont like the dude? Its so messed up🥲 I Love my life🥲....
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
Whxapp the helper of me
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How can I get a player that used to be in a relationship with me have interest in me again
07:35 Lots of good advice, but not on this program. We've all heard that a person makes lotss of time for those they want to see. If a girl is too busy (even legitimately busy) I lose interest quickly. Couple of reschedules is enough to go into 'block' zone on Whatsapp.....
Jeffrey D one should be enough
I just wanna eat the food!!
Good
I wanna meet you, your fan all the way from South Africa
Videos of being on the other side of a man thief situation.
U r fucking great ! Fellow New Yorker ( now in Park City. Visit me !
Love you beautiful
i do all of this fuckkk
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look at that thin arm
You contradicted yourself. You said that its exhausting to be chasing after a guy, but then said guys will be stimulated chasing you. Its all the same. If it takes too much work to spend time with someone I'll find someone that values the relationship a little more.
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Not having a date to prom haha that's funny I didn't have a date to prom I went anyways with Friends forgive me for making comments it's late I have sleep apnea and you are right about the whole there's eight billion guys out there in the world and that he is not the only guy but what if the guy makes you feel that he is and that you can't get anybody else that he is all that you get because I've been well at first I have been chasing him for three and a half years and he never wanted me one day I had a little bit of pocket cash and wanted to go see the new Frozen 2 yes I'm a child at heart haha funnyall of a sudden I decided I want to go with me I could pay you for my own ticket and stuff well I don't like split our payments for the movie I pay for my ticket he pays for the food you know all of a sudden out of nowhere he's like it's a date after three-and-a-half years Avene chasing him and wanting him I decided to finally stopped after three and a half year mark six months later I come by during Thanksgiving away from my father just to come talk to you so I can hang out with you and be friends because I thought that's what we are now all of a sudden you want to take me out on a date while you're screwing other women which personally I don't give a s*** do you but truth be told and then before the date which I disregarded it he's told me if I lost more weight more guys would be attracted to me with jobs and carsI told her friend of mine that has both of these things and he hasn't really good job and a really nice car he told me that is not trueand then after the date he called me a hoe and thats when I walked away silent circle k at the most dangerous part of town which is funny to me because I don't give a s***and then he text me 30 minutes and to me waiting for my own cab asking me would you like me to pick you up I told him why so you can be mean to me more and bully me no I got my own cab it's good sadly I only had 40 bucks in my wallet at the time that's all I have the rest of what I had I was going to use for My puppy sadly some of it had to go to acab home and my puppy had to go a little bit withoutwhat should I do in those situations where a guy makes you feel like he is all you can get
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