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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - My family who hated me to the point of excommunication contacted out of the blue what should I do
r/AITA - AITA for "being disrespectful" and telling my parents "good luck with that" when they tried to ground me?
r/AITA - AITA for banning my parents from a family event because they don’t like my brother’s wife?
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OKOP okay op okay storytime ok storytime
I was disowned for standing up against my abuse for the first time, so yeah. I had only just started making my own choices instead of going with theirs. It's been 6+ years, my dad passed away and no apology from my mom. She continues to double down on her stingy remarks.
I’m so sorry this happened to you!❤️ I hope you’re able to move on and put your family behind you 🥺 I wish you all the best in your life ❤️ You deserve nothing but the best!🥰
Yeah, same here. It's hard to buy stay strong
Hope you are more and more better now , send you love.
Same thing happened to me. It floors me that so called friends and family took the side of my abuser. The trash takes itself out.
I'm so sorry. My mom was told she was the reason my dad hit her and that she probably deserved it, by her own mother. But of course my mom gave as good as she got and certainly wasn't a wall flower. Love her to bits and am happy she met my step dad after leaving my dad. Still see my dad (kinda its been like 5 years or so maybe 10) occasionally but we are not close. They divorced and after I was 12 and didn't immediately choose to live with him it was like I was no longer his kid. He kept up appearances but that's about it. Noone should be disrespected and im sorry that happened to you. I hope your in a great place now. ❤
I’m an Asian female who got dragged out of my house by my hair on my 16th birthday by my dad. I was kicked out for months because I was upset/mad that he refused to say happy birthday
I'm so sorry that happened to you... how's your relationship w your father now? If it's too personal, just don't reply... that's just so crazy to me...I cld never treat my children that cruelly... you definitely didn't deserve it❤
Dont just miss the part that is against you... What was the reason for which he refused to wish you happy birthday
@@whatever2069 we can guess many things, refusing to marry the dad's friend maybe ? wanted to got to Art school instead to go to bank school ?
@@mathilde1212 yeah lol you can guess however your mind desires to... what matters is the whole , real truth ...
@whatever2069 I've known a few Asian families growing up and they're usually super strict...I watched my friend get her ass beat because she was 1 min late coming home...craziest shit I had ever seen... I'm not surprised to hear how her father treated her...
It’s because they knew gong gong was going to give her the company. The family is trying to get her company!
Gong gong is the maternal grandfather, the one that excommunicated OP is the paternal grandfather tho.
Feels like maternal grandfather wanting to give the company over was news the paternal side of OPs family found out. It was definitely a connection they wanted and THAT is why they want her back. They want to control and be connected with the person who will take charge of the maternal side's company.
About to comment this
@@ayantikalahiri1208 Good theory
Probably :(
Yes. We never heard in any part of the story about the MATERNAL side
This young lady was treated like crap …the sister getting 12 things while she only gets 6 or less cause she’s older .The sister getting 12% of a company while she works hard to earn something and gets nothing . The father told her to leave so she left and now wants her to return .What a bunch of hypocrites. Don’t give them the satisfaction by returning as much as it hurts .Never come back to the foolishness of their favoritism.
Not to mention her mother basically wished her dead because she was unwanted and not a boy. Her farther assaulted her and made her homeless. And now they want a happy family. All that because of a birth year which can be planned is insane.
Hearing sam speak Mandarin was not on my 2024 bingo card 😂 lived and currently living a very interesting life
Riley's organs are def not ok with all those energy drinks 😂
My parents started charging me rent at 16. When I moved out at 18 my parents handed me back all the rent I had paid then to help with moving and first time furnishing costs.
My cousin’s parents did this except they didn’t start charging rent until they were 18. Then when they were done school and moving out, they gave them all the money back and they had enough to put down payment for their houses.
If I end up having kids I’ll probably do something similar.
Did the same with my kids
@@ashlingadams4092 sounds like a good idea. I'm not sure if I would charge them rent but perhaps force them to put money in a savings account or they can move out
I saw a reddit story with this same thing, and OP grew resentful of their parents, because they had to work in all their free time so they could pay rent to their parents, and ddint have time to be a kid and party and do college activities
My uncle/godfather disowned me when I was 18 and pregnant. It’s been 8 years I haven’t talked to him since. At family gatherings he used to treat my daughter very rudely until his wife yelled at him. He now ignores my family.
Story 1, we will DEFINITELY need to get some updates when they come out.
You know, I was skeptical on whether or not the first story is true. Because if OP and her siblings were born in China between 1980 and 2016 that would mean that their parents violated the one child policy. And they would lose everything that the family accumulated.
However, I just learned that Hong Kong was the exception to the rule, which allowed families to have more than one kid even if they originally lived outside of Hong Kong. If they were born in a hospital in Hong Kong, they can move back outside of Hong Kong with multiple kids.
So if you were wondering the same thing, I was here’s the answer to it. 😂
I think it didn’t apply to rich people 😭cause they have more power
Rich and powerful families could have more children as they were powerful and the government tend to look the other side lol, there is one famous case of a film director that broke that rule and had to make a public apology but still wasnt really apologetic.
Sometimes they even gave birth in another country or spend the pregnancy time overseas so the government couldnt say anything.
During the one child policy, wealthy families could pay a government penalty to have an additional child. These people have enough money to afford that.
Laws rarely apply to the rich or they have the money to get through it. That's like life bruh
I went to college with Chinese twins. They said when their parents found out they were having twin girls they decided to keep them, but had to pay an extra fee.
I was very nearly disowned by my family, but was disowned by the community i had grown up in and my friendgroups after coming out about being assaulted as a child.
My family made it clear they valued their friendship with people who supported the man that assaulted me more than having a relationship with me.
i was told it was my fault i got assaulted as a child, and overheard my father saying i ruin everyones life i touch.
despite still living with them after needing to leave school after getting assaulted AGAIN, i have them blocked on most social media so the man who molested me and the people who support him arent able to get to my social media through my family. its hell.
I am so sorry this happened to you. 😢
I'm a victim of childhood sa. It's been over 40 years and it still affects me. I'm so sorry that you didn't get the support that you deserved from your family. It truly dishonors you not just as a daughter but as a person whose life is valuable. I hope things are going well with a support system, or that's what I'd like for you.
Gonggong could be the other grandfather, notvthe one that gave the sister 12%
That's exactly the case. GongGong is maternal grandfather and the one that treated Emma so much better and is the paternal grandfather
What changed is she left and never spoke to them and never ever reached out. She was also successful in moving abroad and establishing herself. This had potential to being shame to the family for not keeping her in the family.
So they may have been genuinely sad but there would also have been traditional pressures.
Na they were toxic af they will definitely screw her over.
On the story of the guy with a company at 16. You guys just assumed that the guy was just a jerk cuz he was doing well and had attitude. But didn’t consider how his parents treated him which could cause animosity and resentment.
And Idk if I even saw an attitude. It’s just that how are you going to make rules for someone you decided to treat as an adult for 4 yrs?
It’s a consistent I see with them, sadly if someone has money they automatically downplay whatever they’re dealing with. They seem to be of the opinion that simply having money means you’ll never experience problems
I'd go back, but pay for myself, stay in a hotel, and be ready to leave early. That way they cant keep u hostage. It honestly sounds like what they were upset about is her growing and being successful without them
I wouldn't go back to people who wish her dead and love her less because of a damn birth year and China has a problem with girls being born. Not to mention her dad hit her. Not a family worth keeping. Op deserves better.
43:16 i don’t even see cocky. He’s an adult and they declared him “adult like” at 16, which he found fair, but they also want to give him restrictions.
that Sam backstory is wild lol.
I'm glad he was smart about it and saw all the negative dangerous things that could happen.
Sam is totally right when it comes to rich kids from China. I live in SoCal and my family used to host kids from China in a cultural exchange, and these kids had MONEY. They had fat cash in their wallets all the time and we had to tell them to leave the majority of it back at the house in fear they could be robbed. One kid already had a nice Iphone and asked us to drive them to the Apple store to buy another one. Why? I dont know. But he called his father and he approved so we took him and he paid it off in cash 🤷♀️ A funny story i remember though, is these kids LOVED my moms spaghetti and wanted it all the time. While they were very wealthy, they were very respectful and wanted to blend in with American teenagers and go to Target and the mall.
1st story my conspiracy is that emma needed an organ and op was the only match. They basically told op that they never wanted her and always thought of her as an extra child who was a burden.
Why go back? If they treated her poorly and then disowned her, is it really worth it to go back. If there's a specific person she still wants a relationship with then she should reach out to that person only
I feel like this is definitely the way to go. It seems like the family has alterior motives for reaching out all of a sudden. Something is happening here.
Anyone demanding an invitation to an event is automatically the A-hole. The only exception is if you are being excluded and are the one that paid for everything.
I wonder also.. how long ago was this story posted?
TBH recently China has been trying to bring back their young talent to china due to economic difficulties. They might be benefiting from bringing her back to china.
That’s what I was thinking. They have been cutting up passports lately, so those people cannot leave the country after they are there.
@@nousernamesarevalid there was that whole “operation fox-hunt” or something like that where there were spies blackmailing Chinese Americans into going back to China… I guess dwindling population could also be a possibility? I think the operation also forced some Chinese nationals to become spies meant to steal vital top secret information from American government agencies or something? 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Not when their elders can sue you for all your money
@@VillainaessMC can you elaborate a little more? I was thinking more of from a country aspect and perhaps the benefits the country might give her family if they were to have their children back in china. Their population has been reduced to 1/4 of what it was when the one child policy was in effect. Making it approximately 6 children born for every 1000 people around 2022.
China pretty screwed right now with their own stupidity. It's actually shocking to see.
Riley being lucky being born in dragon is the funniest thing! Also 2024 is the year of the dragon... Coincidence? I think not!
Has she been promised in marriage to another family and company?
I totally understand the suspicions behind the first story because:
1. Why was she disowned? Seems pretty extreme.
2. Why hadn't they reached out in 2 years?
3. Is it just me but are the siblings awfully quiet in her story-telling? They may not be responsible for what went down but you do expect some sort of exchange. Maybe they're hiding something that OP doesn't know?
They're toxic rich family. Op should stay away and keep living her best life. She deserves better.
Toxic rich family formed with outdated traditions deeply routed. Siblings prob dont even get a say or any minor stepping out of line. They wouldnt risk reaching out to op because that would be seen as defiance
In stories like the first one, my mind always goes to the scapegoat is not the dad’s kid. I HIGHLY doubt that in this case, but it’s where my mind goes.
Wonder if the company performance decreased when OP left the company and tgey realized Emma wasn't as lucky as they thought she is.
You have lived such a full and interesting life, Sam!!! You almost lived in China???? That's so cool!!
As the oldest daughter, and the middle child, I can tell you what most likely happened. When she left the family finally realized how much whole she left in their lives. I was basically the glue holding my family together up to the time I moved out 5 years ago. It's very common for the middle child (especially if your a girl) to be put in the "working child" position. Everyone always asking us to do stuff, and we do it. Because we need to in order to get any attention
I'm pretty sure Gong Gong is from her mom's side of the family and Grandfather that participated in the banishment is from the dad's side of the family. So Gong Gong has a different company than the first mentioned company (and many companies) which would be owned by father's side.
Nah bro, the grandpa pressured the rest of the family into reconciliating and everyone agreed as soon as he made OP into the heir of his company.
Old story in asian families.
i think op's parents are making him be more of an ah than he really is. They seem to have the your our son and do as we say but he's way too old for that. They should be proud and have a freaking talk to their adult son who's doing well. Edited to add - they made him an adult when they asked for rent $$ in my opinion. They messed with the dynamic they had with him when they implemented that
They really told their adult kid “how dare you make your own plans without talking to us you’re grounded!” If my parents tried to ground me for making plans I’d laugh on their face too that’s an insane thing to tell an adult who is either not living with you or paying rent
Listening to the responses to the first story you guys sound so jaded :( too much reddit guys lol as a mom i cant see myself disowning a kid but if stuff did blow up i could never let it go on forever. I would miss them too much. Maybe OPs family realized they made a big mistake and really do regret it
I would just write back that I will not, seeing as I've been disowned. I have no business with them or the family requesting me to come spend new year with them.
Unless they explain "Why" younger sib got everything, going back to no communication with them cause once again...disowned for speaking up.
Younger sb got everything because year of the dragon which they call luck. But you're pregnant roughly 9 months they can literally plan a baby to be born that year. Its crazy.
Family want her back because now she has full control over everything.
12:29 I had to guess is my first one was the affair and the second guess that I have is that the sister got more control of the companies and completely fucked something up. Now they want be responsible daughter to bail them out.
I hope op from first story got her citizenship in whatever country she moved to so that she can have some protections from the Chinese government. A Chinese citizen alone wouldn't have any protection from the government
What a roller coaster 🎢 of a story. I hope OP gets to the bottom of the change heart ♥️ of her family.
I feel like you guys didn’t even read the story about the guy who started his own business. How is he disrespectful for not associating with his parents who are trying to control what an adult is allowed to do with his free time. They literally want to ground him because he made plans to be away from the family… which is normal for an adult. If my parents tried to ground me for making plans without them I’d laugh in their face too.
My son is a tiger and my daughter will be a dragon. Just like the sisters in the story. We won’t be pitting them against each other like this. That’s wild.
13:13 NEVER TALK TO THEM AGAIN PLS
Not the sudden Persona 5 soundtrack 😭 It feels so nostalgic now, I kinda miss those earlier edits!
I think Gonggong made them bring her back
Did I just see Chinese Jesus? 😂 y'all crack me up
Gong gong is the maternal grandpa
For inviting the parents to the party, the disinvite was warranted. You guys forge that parents are most entitled towards their children
I was disowned for getting a tattoo on the back of my neck under my LONG hair. Literally no one knew it was there and I was disowned regardless.
I’m hooked with this story! Will we have a follow up on this story when there are enough update for a separate video?
44:04 not even just pay rent, but saying adult money, adult responsibilities.
48:00 how is OP acting though? It seems like OP is just living life.
Cool back story Sam!
I loved when John and Sam said that they've been blessed with Riley. Even if it was as a joke because of the story, I still consider that to be true to them 💓
They should make a 'Riley blessings' or 'Big Protein blessings' animation
Riley i was also born the year of the dragon however I seem to have been overlooked in the luck department associated with the year of the dragon. I've been pretty unlucky my whole life....hopefully it improves. As for op although i'm happy that she's happier i also believe that the change of behavior of her family is downright fishy. Either she's a fall guy or they are cozying up to her because her gong gong is giving her the main control over the companies.
Edit: @okop story 2: respect goes both ways and i'm fairly certain (from what op says and my own experience) that op's parents didn't respect him even with his achievements (his company)my family is similar in demanding respect but not giving respect in return.
Story 3 the parents are being A-holes and are just upset that the younger brother eloped. Op is nta, the parents are acting like children that are having a tantrum
This is a Dragon year, so I hope that it is going well for you!
I'm born in the year of the dragon too. But I am double Rileys age this year.
I’m a Dragon too and a Leo! Roar!! 🐉🦁
You can’t cut a kidney in half but you can donate part of your liver
21:35 omg Sam looks just like Gilligan ❤😂
Ded azz😂
In NC it is legal to work at 14, but with limited hours, I think the most you are allowed to work a week is 12 hours with 4 hour shifts and no heavy machinery(I used to work with someone like that at an ice cream shop I worked at)
2nd story: OP's parents messed up by making them pay rent. They should've instead told OP that they needed to give $300 to be put into a college and house savings account. Parents saw it as a way to give them responsibility, but it came out as OP feeling independent. At 20 there is no way to ask anything as parents from OP.
Man... I am ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that the favorite kid knows and sees and is very much aware of the favoritism. Always. They may not be aware of every situation that it happens in, but they are very much aware that it happens. It just depends on the favorite as to how they manage all the weight and emotion from that, if they care at all or if they're evil/purposely obtuse about it.
Gung gung is grandpa. Paupau is grandma.
son's matter more, not daughters.
I don't think anyone should get Reddit advice for a cultural issues haha
It wasn’t a son vs daughter issue both OP and favorite child are woman
We never charged our kids rent until they were over the age of 18 and had a job for 6 months. And we only charged them a percentage of their monthly average, similar to the percentage of housing in the area we lived in. When they reached the level of moving out, nearly every penny we charged them rent for - was given back to them as a down deposit on their own place. I say nearly bc when we would buy them bedding, towels, or needed the extra money for food - it was used. And when they moved out, they had their own bedding, towels/washcloths, and i always sent w them a few boxes of food. But outside of telling them i didn't want ppl i didn't know in my own, no smoking, and to keep my doors locked and chores done (do your own dishes, shared bathroom chores) - i never told them what they could or couldn't do. My rules were rules of respect for others in our home, more then rules for them individually. And it worked out well.
If they're tryna make her the "fall guy" for past actions it won't work. It won't hold up in an investigation since they'll easily be able to find when she took control of the shares of the company. She won't be the fall guy of any of the past illegal issues, but if she agrees to assume control going forward she could be held responsible for any future illegal actions. But since she will assume control she will have the power to find/stop/report anything shady or illegal. Once in control anything illegal going on under her watch is her problem but since she'd be in charge, she'd have the power to stop it too and run a clean ship. Nothing prior would stick to her given the public info of the transfer date, as well as the easy to prove fact OP was cut off and out of country for 2 years
I think Gong Gong is about to Die and wants to get into HEAVEN
Different states Different ages. My first nonbabysitting job was @14yrs
My son is a dragon, who is the son of a dragon, who is the son of a dragon. This triple blessing opens doors and indulgence everywhere.
It's just a year. And family used that as an excuse to mistreat their kid
Read the room dude
19:15 they definitely went to a shaman. They are that superstitious
Year of the Dragon here🎉🎉🎉 !! Which is this year but its apparently not a good year for us. Check it up Riley !
Dragon here too!
The company probably went down hill after she left and being superstitious they thought it was a curse
This comment is before you finished the first story: I’m guessing they had major disappointment for the first child being a girl and didn’t care so much about the second.
I get that dragon is "lucky," but I'd go with the tiger as the ideal business leader. Not that I would actually do that cuz it's pretty messed up lol.
Your guys’ parenting takes lmao
Charging rent is not a parental thing to do- UNLESS like another commenter said, it’s secretly just to help the child save up for moving out
Fire, Riley!!!! 💥🙌
I was thinking what john was thinking
There is only so much BS you can take... You have to sometimes just put your foot down!!! And who more than you knows how your family is going to react?! If it's a straight up band then so be it!! And Im sorry what you need to explain to your parents they are the adult/parent for a reason!!
I feel that the grand pa wanted her back and realized how hurt she was and put pressure on the family to make things right, But also the family knew that the grand pa would give her something but not that big. It’s one thing to have her back in the family and another thing to get use to the shift in the dynamics of relationship changing.
3:00 that’s more than chicken money, that’s like Cornish hen money. Golden goose money even lol
18:05 forgive but never forget. just because i want to see ur family doesn't mean u can forget what they did to you. even if u want to forget.
My little sister is the golden child and I am the black sheep
My conspiracy for the first story is that the mother's family threatened to disinherit their daughter and other grandchildren if they didn't mend the relationship with OP. If she's close with her maternal family, it would make sense.
I've been watching too many Asian dramas...K dramas specifically. I too was thinking the worst. Like the family wanted her back long enough to scapegoat her or trap her to steal her organ...for the more loved daughter. I hope things improved for her for real but this life has jaded me and I see all kinds of RL stories. I am glad that her Gong-Gong was more decent and loving however she should not let down her guard!!!!
My dad told me to get eloped and said he wished he had done so and just spent more money on the honeymoon. I don’t see what’s wrong with someone deciding they want to elope 🤷🏻♀️ (my mom did run from the other room yelling “what did you just tell her!” Which was funny lol)
Wow, Sam was on fire with his insights for this episode
He isn’t still in high school, he’s in his final year of university. That’s how he started out the story.
My god, you guys can’t just read the story and comprehend it.
48:46 you don’t have to be scared if you raise them well… a lot of kids when they do well for themselves they want to spend a little on their family especially their parents.. however, that’s usually only the case if the parents were emotionally supportive to that child
John, just so you know the Chinese zodiac animal order was based off of a race among those 12 animals and the rat came in first place! Dragon was 4th place if I remember that correctly
37:04 this explains why sam could pronounce a lot of the words in that story holy shiiiit
51:30 - I agree with Riley for sure lol speaking as a 30 yr old female😅😝
OPs family would love my dad then. He’s born in the year of the dragon as well.
I would of responded: Sorry, do I know you? Last time checked I was removed from your lives, remember? I was banned for ever setting foot in your mansion, homes, and business. You can't just summon me to come back to your life like I'm a peasant or a maid. Matter of fact, if you didn't worry about my well being for the past two years, why now? Is your conscious making you feel bad for how horrible you were. I made a life for myself now and did it without any family. From my understanding you only have one favorite daughter. You don't need another one. So don't ever contact me again. I dont need narcistic and evil people in my life. Best wishes for you and your family. 😊
Gong-gong is the *maternal* grandfather….. not the grandfather that treated her poorly- that was the paternal grandfather.
49:15 I feel like if you let a kid believe that they can pay their way out of doing the hard work is gonna be Hell and Highwater for them to find a partner in life
The company is going under and they don't want the humiliation so they are making her take it. Along with any illegal punishments.
In NJ you can work at 14 too
45:14 omfg stop 😂
Conspiracy theory: they want her because they need one of her organs for the grandfather or Emma. I would not have gone back
For the first story I honestly wonder if the younger sister was really pretty. Asian cultures value beauty so much, I wonder if that’s why the younger sister was the golden child.
Sam is a man of many talents ✨
Would love a update whenever it comes out 31:20
Dang Riley good job calling that one