You two are adorable. "We love each other in part because we both are fascinated with each other's PASSION for ideas!" I predict years of mutual happiness.
As an INTJ myself I have often wondered what this relationship would look like. So healthy in how you approach your differences. You both are such positive and healthy role models for this dynamic. You are both beautiful - Gods blessings.
The agreeableness, as a INFJ i could relate to that so hard. I have also tried to lower my agreeableness and "label myself selfish" to learn to be less agreeable, be less empathetic and not give so much to other people and burning myself out, learning to prioritize myself first more. Learning to say no.
I'm an infj with an intj husband, married for decades. Only 2 or 3 years ago did I learn about Myers Brigg, and it has explained so much about our personalities and our dynamic. What you've found out in your relationship really resonates, and I really 'got' all that you were talking about. After all these years my husband has learned that emotions really are a 'thing' that is well to accept that it just is . . even though it doesn't affect his fi function. And at the same time I've learned to not be so pulled into situations by my fe compulsions of caring too much about others, because I can see his fi in action and learn from that. Anyway I think you two are really onto something😉
You should be happy that this INTJ is more human😂. I’m an INTJ and I can tell you that, INTJ smiling and able to communicate well is very rare, due to our cognitive makeup.
I can't believe this, I'm in heaven 😂😂😂 I wanted this video to happen so bad 😂 I think the biggest problem in an intj infj relationship is communication.
As a fellow INFJ woman I don't understand how someone isn't neurotic. Lol and I started laughing out loud when she hesitated before saying her number cuz we infjs already know lol y'all are so cute
As an INFJ male, I can tell you that you can't hold out for an INFJ male. First of all, there are very few of us. All of the supposed INFJ males on the internet, none of them are real. They are attracted to being an INFJ since they are so rare, especially males, since most INFJs are female. The only INFJ I know is a female. There are some females on the internet, including yourself. You have to decide what it is that you really want. The male you have is a fine male, but you will never be able to teach him about what you know or are interested in. I am aware about how to deal with INTJs, but they are incapable of dealing with your reality. INFJ males would either be a monk, not Catholic, or your Guardian. They will not be your lover. You should pursue your INFJ interests , specifically the spiritual and metaphysical parts, but I suggest you keep them your secrets, If you wish to make a life with an INTJ.
You are both right and this is what intj and infj do so well together. I'm entj so I know everything let's just clear that up real fast. Your visions as infj are like the minority report oracles where these are possibilities and highly likely gut analyses that are so fast only an infj would understand. Keep it on a sticky note and put it somewhere you want to keep record of your connections.
Katie, that was a fantastic explanation for why you might bring something up after a conflict has been “resolved” using the functions. I’m an infj and experience this but have never heard it articulated in such a clear and insightful way. Helps me understand myself better. Thank you.
Te versus Ti is likely to be a challenge, but knowing that you could make it a strength by showing each other your different perspectives. Te gives the INFJ a better grasp on reality, Ti gives the INTJ a better awareness of how the world is made. Ti deconstructs to build up again. MBTI is a great tool to resolve misunderstandings and potential conflict. It's great you 2 can do that. I wish you the best, you look like nice people. Glad to see you back on YT Katie Marie. You are very beautiful. I suspect there is great power in your combination of personality types.
I’m an INFJ and my bf is an INTJ. I’ve noticed that my Fe allows me to play with my Ni, knowing I can see patterns with the human condition, allowing my brain to sense that something is wrong and knowing that there is something wrong gives me comfort with sitting with the uncomfortableness. My bf can sense that something isn’t right but doesn’t know what it is because it’s not logical, so he is left with feeling uncomfortable and not knowing why which can be unsettling and then likely reflects that the uncomfortableness is probably his fault, problem, or in his head and can’t sit with the uncomfortableness. I see it as outside of myself (Fe), and he likely sees it inside of himself (Fi).
To answer your question about whether or not you should lean into just the intuitive part or balance it out with the Ti. My option, as a scientist and an INTJ, and someone who absolutely ADMIRES INFJ creativity! I think you should MOSTLY do your intuition of course because you're an INFJ but you gotta get that Ti in there. You will benefit more from developing your Ti to support your intuitive leaps. You HAVE Ti and you can do it!! And you will feel SO MUCH BETTER about your work if you have that aspect to it. I had to do this with my Fi and my life is so much more RICH because I did that. Your life will be so much more rich if you develop your Ti. I'm not saying you should make Ti equal to your Ni (that's not possible) but do respect the Ti and give it it's due diligence. You will respect yourself and your work more in the long run.
Nice to see a couple speak of love and understanding. Nowadays so many people forget the understanding part and just go off on each other. Understanding the other is key in any relationship especially the most valuable ones.
I just found your channel and am totally subscribing! I'm a 55-year old female INTJ and I had an INFJ for a mother so I know the INTJ/INFJ dynamic well. We LOVED having the "Why?" conversations. There was NEVER too many "Whys?". Plus I am very knowledgeable on the MBTI and cognitive functions. Will, you NEED to take some time to learn the cognitive functions. I think you'll REALLY REALLY benefit from it and it will give you and Katie a TON of interesting things to talk about as your understanding progresses. It goes super deep and complex so it's perfect for us Ni doms.
You two are adorable. "We love each other in part because we both are fascinated with each other's PASSION for ideas!" I predict years of mutual happiness.
INTJ see world as is, INFJ see world that could/should be.
As an INTJ myself I have often wondered what this relationship would look like. So healthy in how you approach your differences. You both are such positive and healthy role models for this dynamic. You are both beautiful - Gods blessings.
The agreeableness, as a INFJ i could relate to that so hard. I have also tried to lower my agreeableness and "label myself selfish" to learn to be less agreeable, be less empathetic and not give so much to other people and burning myself out, learning to prioritize myself first more. Learning to say no.
I'm an infj with an intj husband, married for decades. Only 2 or 3 years ago did I learn about Myers Brigg, and it has explained so much about our personalities and our dynamic. What you've found out in your relationship really resonates, and I really 'got' all that you were talking about. After all these years my husband has learned that emotions really are a 'thing' that is well to accept that it just is . . even though it doesn't affect his fi function. And at the same time I've learned to not be so pulled into situations by my fe compulsions of caring too much about others, because I can see his fi in action and learn from that. Anyway I think you two are really onto something😉
You should be happy that this INTJ is more human😂. I’m an INTJ and I can tell you that, INTJ smiling and able to communicate well is very rare, due to our cognitive makeup.
I can't believe this, I'm in heaven 😂😂😂 I wanted this video to happen so bad 😂 I think the biggest problem in an intj infj relationship is communication.
As a fellow INFJ woman I don't understand how someone isn't neurotic. Lol and I started laughing out loud when she hesitated before saying her number cuz we infjs already know lol y'all are so cute
As an INFJ male, I can tell you that you can't hold out for an INFJ male. First of all, there are very few of us. All of the supposed INFJ males on the internet, none of them are real. They are attracted to being an INFJ since they are so rare, especially males, since most INFJs are female. The only INFJ I know is a female. There are some females on the internet, including yourself. You have to decide what it is that you really want. The male you have is a fine male, but you will never be able to teach him about what you know or are interested in. I am aware about how to deal with INTJs, but they are incapable of dealing with your reality. INFJ males would either be a monk, not Catholic, or your Guardian. They will not be your lover. You should pursue your INFJ interests , specifically the spiritual and metaphysical parts, but I suggest you keep them your secrets, If you wish to make a life with an INTJ.
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You are both right and this is what intj and infj do so well together. I'm entj so I know everything let's just clear that up real fast. Your visions as infj are like the minority report oracles where these are possibilities and highly likely gut analyses that are so fast only an infj would understand. Keep it on a sticky note and put it somewhere you want to keep record of your connections.
INTJ-A male here.
Katie, that was a fantastic explanation for why you might bring something up after a conflict has been “resolved” using the functions. I’m an infj and experience this but have never heard it articulated in such a clear and insightful way. Helps me understand myself better. Thank you.
Te versus Ti is likely to be a challenge, but knowing that you could make it a strength by showing each other your different perspectives. Te gives the INFJ a better grasp on reality, Ti gives the INTJ a better awareness of how the world is made. Ti deconstructs to build up again. MBTI is a great tool to resolve misunderstandings and potential conflict. It's great you 2 can do that. I wish you the best, you look like nice people. Glad to see you back on YT Katie Marie. You are very beautiful. I suspect there is great power in your combination of personality types.
I’m an INFJ and my bf is an INTJ. I’ve noticed that my Fe allows me to play with my Ni, knowing I can see patterns with the human condition, allowing my brain to sense that something is wrong and knowing that there is something wrong gives me comfort with sitting with the uncomfortableness. My bf can sense that something isn’t right but doesn’t know what it is because it’s not logical, so he is left with feeling uncomfortable and not knowing why which can be unsettling and then likely reflects that the uncomfortableness is probably his fault, problem, or in his head and can’t sit with the uncomfortableness. I see it as outside of myself (Fe), and he likely sees it inside of himself (Fi).
To answer your question about whether or not you should lean into just the intuitive part or balance it out with the Ti. My option, as a scientist and an INTJ, and someone who absolutely ADMIRES INFJ creativity! I think you should MOSTLY do your intuition of course because you're an INFJ but you gotta get that Ti in there. You will benefit more from developing your Ti to support your intuitive leaps. You HAVE Ti and you can do it!! And you will feel SO MUCH BETTER about your work if you have that aspect to it. I had to do this with my Fi and my life is so much more RICH because I did that. Your life will be so much more rich if you develop your Ti. I'm not saying you should make Ti equal to your Ni (that's not possible) but do respect the Ti and give it it's due diligence. You will respect yourself and your work more in the long run.
Nice to see a couple speak of love and understanding. Nowadays so many people forget the understanding part and just go off on each other. Understanding the other is key in any relationship especially the most valuable ones.
I just found your channel and am totally subscribing! I'm a 55-year old female INTJ and I had an INFJ for a mother so I know the INTJ/INFJ dynamic well. We LOVED having the "Why?" conversations. There was NEVER too many "Whys?". Plus I am very knowledgeable on the MBTI and cognitive functions. Will, you NEED to take some time to learn the cognitive functions. I think you'll REALLY REALLY benefit from it and it will give you and Katie a TON of interesting things to talk about as your understanding progresses. It goes super deep and complex so it's perfect for us Ni doms.
Dear Katie and Will,