ENFP here: All of you INFJ's hiding in your rooms, please come out once in a while. The parts of you that feel alienated from the world are what we ENFP's treasure and value in friends and partners. You totally rock our worlds with your insight, your ideas, your wisdom, your authenticity, your humble genius, your emotional depth, your kindness, your giving natures, and so much more.
I'm an INFJ I'm 58 years old. Katie I have watched you're other video's, I can't tell you how much you touch my heart. My eye's fill with tears listening to you, it's like watching my younger self, I just want to give you a hug. There is a meme or saying, that says : paraphrasing here: I wish you could see yourself through my eye's so that you could see how wonderful you really are. To all you younger INFJs, please know that you are enough. Don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise. I went my whole life not knowing my self worth, and that has made me very vulnerable to some very toxic people in my year's. Growing up being told by everyone I was to sensitive. Knowing from a young age that my way of thinking was different from most, and thinking that there was something wrong with me. You younger INFJs are so fortunate to have the technology and are able to know at a younger age then myself that you are not alone in your thinking, and you are just fine, with big hearts that care about the world and all that's in it / on it, in such bleak times we are living in. I hardly doubt the world would be in the state it is in if everyone had the minds and hearts of the INFJ not trying to toot my own horn, being a INFJ myself, but just knowing myself and how I feel about how unjust and the lack of empathy that seems to be taken over our world, is very heavy on my mind and heart. Stay Strong INFJs YOu are enough!! Much love from Sacramento California..❤🌟
I was just scrolling through my YT subscriptions cleani g them up a bit...when I saw your comment. I'm 58...and holding and only found out 5 years ago I was an INFJ. I so agree with your comment...I can't imagine what my life might have been had I known so much earlier and had the support from a tribe like I now. It was such a tremendous relief to know...even in middle age that I am not alone.
I am 54 years old now, also an INFJ and I agree to what you wrote Deborah. It wasn't until my early 30's (burnout) that I discovered the way I function. And I am learning everyday. It's great that young people nowadays can get a lot of information about psychology and personality types and how they relate to them. Especially for INFJ's this is very worthy. Katie and INFJ's of all ages please love yourself the way you are. Life is a wonderful journey.
Yes, yes, yes! I am 44 and have lived 43 of my years wondering what is wrong with me, why I don’t fit into this puzzle of life and thinking I must have been dropped off on the wrong planet because I just don’t really fit in anywhere and no one understands my “ language”. I have just recently found out that I am an INFJ. Since then have learned to “somewhat” accept who I am and show my true self a little. To this day I don’t truly have someone who I feel understands me and wants to listen to my ramblings. It gets kinda lonely even for a person that likes to spend alot of my time alone in my head and thoughts. Katie Marie - your videos are truly amazing. I discovered you just a couple of days ago and have watched several. It is like you are speaking from my head and heart. I get emotional watching every video. It is awesome to know I am not the only one out there! ❤️
I wouldn't recommend inviting random INFJ's from the internet to 'talk to you' in real life lol, thought that is super sweet & innocent however It's how you open up the doors to drama/danger/stalking. Also, just choose the comments you like to respond to. It's as simple as that. We all put energy into the things we like, that's how we all work. Don't worry about every single person's feelings whether you respond to them or not, they can handle their own feelings. Keep doing what you're doing!
I needed to hear this, thank you... it's that naive idealistic tendency of mine, thinking I can be friends with everyone on here. The potential for danger/stalking is real, and I haven't really considered that. I feel so much better and more clear about this already just from responses like yours! It really is a form of setting boundaries, realizing I don't have to respond to everyone and take care of them. Thank you
I agree. I have this same problem myself. In fact I did create a discord for like minded discussion. It failed badly. In fact when I look back to certain "failures" it has almost always arisen from my projected idealization into a shared experience. (ENFP)
@@katiemarie8899 Take care of yourself above all else. Be care on the internet, especially after your videos got picked up by the recommendation algorithms.
Glad to see you back! The reason you got such a positive response is because you are so authentic about what it means to be an INFJ. I have seen other "INFJ RUclipsrs" that give me the impression that they are not really INFJs, they seem to have read up on the subject and decided to make videos. You are different, as an INFJ I can see and feel that you are the real thing and I appreciate what you have to say and how you say it. If you want to have a different platform to interact with us, think about starting a Discord server. That way we can interact with each other and you can jump in whenever you feel like it. Just an idea. Take care and I hope you keep this channel going.
Well I can now say from experience that I fully understand why it's hard to find a more authentic INFJ on youtube.. I'd guess the authentic ones would feel uncomfortable as RUclipsrs and maybe even give up on it like I did. But that idea alone gives me a push to keep doing it, just so we can have more of a presence or representation on the internet!! Many people have suggested Discord, but I actually know very little about what that even is. I'm going to think on it and look into that. Thanks for your feedback, it helps a ton :)
@@katiemarie8899 Discord is a platform for gamers at the core. It was created to get a much-needed community center. Before you had TeamSpeak which was allowing you to get players of a team together. Especially used for big community events where you need to have 20 or more player. Try to download it either on your phone or your computer. This will allow you to get an idea of what you can do with it. My ID is mortouvife #1947. If you want to have a chat. Thank you for being who you are 🤗
When you stumble over words or thoughts just think to yourself, this is my tribe, we speak this way, we all stumble, thats why we type or wed be constantly ummming and arring...talk about a and b via t and r, that is related to z and p....welove that stuff, it keeps the mind running.
One of the reson most people consider us low-IQ, you can either think deep, respond with automatic shallow figures of speech or try to mix. Smooth talkers are either shallow or repeat trained concepts and don't think on spot. Reason most conversations are so worthless and superficial.
@@DeepInsideZettaiRyouiki yup, id rather talk about the conception of ism's and realistic life on other plannets then waffle on about the weather for two hours....the latter is like cruel and unusual punishment
So happy to see you back! Personally, I subscribed because of how sincere and non scripted your videos are. Felt like I was sitting on the floor with a friend talking about the things that I think about all the time with someone that actually relates. Much more personable than just another garden variety over produced channel with mad videos full of shallow content. If it's not broken, dont fix it. Anyway... that was my rant. Welcome back!
I dream of having a friend like you. One that sees unlimited depth of emotion and dives into the sadness/joy of life. My hope for such a friend is always alive. Or maybe in another lifetime, kindred sensitive souls like us can intertwine...
I'm in between an INFJ and an INTJ. You can picture me very easily smiling to myself when I hear your descriptions of being an INFJ. That's because I understand exactly what you say. Please keep making videos. They're a relief for me and for the rest to know that we're not alone despite how isolated we feel at times.
I'm 61 and never knew what an INFJ was until today. I have every trait mentioned in another video. I always thought I was just weird. I knew I was different from most people I meet, but now I think it's everybody else that is weird. I see people around me going through life with their eyes open but they can not see. I went on several vacations alone. My mother said "you're going alone?" I said "am I not supposed to go on vacation because I'm alone?" I gave up on dating almost 20 years ago. Too many damaged people out there carrying steamer trunks full of baggage. I have removed all drama from my life by withdrawing from relationships. You are a very articulate young lady and I would love to sit down and have a 2 hour cup of coffee with you but it would never happen. I'm very guarded about who I let in. If you do a Patreon I would join and support you. I want to do a series of mentoring videos for young people to see what's really going on in the world. Schools are filling their heads with garbage and they are ill prepared when they get out into the workforce. Then there is that part of me that thinks nobody cares. LOL
lol I'm an ENFP , so naturally I love INFJs. I so love scrolling through the long, perfectly written comments. You guys are wonderful. You seem to be a strange hybrid of heart and brain that exists nowhere else in nature.
Whether or not you decide to make more videos, thank you so much for the ones you have already made! There is so much value in what you have done. I can't imagine opening myself up on a public video like you have, I struggle mightily to even open up with people I'm close to. I'm so lame this is the first time I've ever been willing to post a comment on RUclips, haha, and I'll probably get nervous and delete it. In making this sacrifice of your personal privacy, you have allowed so many people with similar personalities the cathartic experience of hearing another person put into words the feelings we've experienced seemingly alone throughout our lives. I don't want you to feel like you have to force yourself to continue making more videos, I know how much that must go against your nature. Thanks so much for taking one for the team! For the record, I like the simple video setup, it seems "realer". Haha
Thank you so much!! It’s a crazy thing, I know, being more comfortable opening up to strangers on the internet than most people in your real life... I have a habit of deleting everything I post on the internet, too. I’m happy you didn’t delete this comment. You’re helping affirm the idea in my head that I’ve done something good here. You make me feel so accepted. Thank you for being you and sharing yourself in this comment :)
Lovely Katie, take a breath love..... You hurt your knee and you will be all right. It is okay to cry. You are loved and that's the most important thing in the world. Everything else will be what it is. Peace and love to all
Dear Katie, it's 4am right now in Germany (or at least it was when I started writing this yesterday 😄) and I'm here on my balcony. It's unbelievably foggy right now and you can barely see 3 meters ahead. It's not cold or warm it just is. It's amazing! No people, no sensory input, just existing in a gray sphere 😍 I recently discovered your videos after watching a lot of INFJs over the past two or so years and I think you are absolutely amazing! It is incredibly brave of you to put yourself out there while you are still healing and discovering so much about yourself 🙊 Most of the INFJ creators on RUclips are older and have "figured themselves out" already so they can give advice from another perspective than someone who is still in an early phase of their development. This can sometimes be more helpful because they can "show you the way to the goal" which they have already walked themselves but I think that your perspective is also incredibly helpful and I (24) can see so much of myself in you. We are not identical and we don't have to be but it is so refreshing and relatable to see your current struggles and how you try to overcome them. You may not be our guru but I think we can grow together and learn so much from each other and that can be far more valuable than just following the perfect already proven instructions of a mentor. That's what is really unique about you and your channel and I hope that you will continue to share your thoughts with us whenever you feel like it 🥰 I love seeing the classic "Is this making sense?" of a questioning INFJ after perfectly explaining the situation in an intuitive and analytical way because we know that soooo many people lack this thought process 😅 Also this like "gripping of the right words" from the air like we puzzle together our inner feelings and try to translate them into speech. Sadly that is where we feel that so much gets lost in the process. That is why we choose our words so carefully, write better than we speak and feel like art can describe our inner workings far better than simple words. On that note this song by Florence + The Machine: "All this and heaven too" describes this struggle nearly perfectly: "And the heart is hard to translate It has a language of its own It talks in tongues and quiet sighs And prayers and proclamations In the grand deeds of great men and the smallest of gestures And short shallow gasps [Pre-Chorus] But with all my education I can’t seem to command it And the words are all escaping, and coming back all damaged And I would put them back in poetry if I only knew how I can’t seem to understand it [Chorus] And I would give all this and heaven too I would give it all if only for a moment That I could just understand the meaning of the word you see Because I’ve been scrawling it forever but it never makes sense to me at all" You have such a cute way of running wild with examples and stories because your Ni jumps all over the place within the connections of your mental web and creates such a detailed situation in seconds 😄 I love it and it's really hard to stay on track when telling a story and your mind wants to jump to completely "unrelated" (from the outside) topics. I think a lot INFJs miss this mirroring in some form or another because it's hard to understand your abstract way of thinking from the outside (some of the times we don't even understand where our thoughts and insights are coming from, we just "know" through subconscious processing 😅) I for example was quite lucky because I have a good circle of friends where some of them are intuitive types (INTJ, INFP, INTP) and they understand different aspects of my messy mind 😂 But it's really hard to find somebody who really gets you and you realize this through small details and in the way they say the things you just thought a minute ago but kept in because it would have been "to weird and out of nowhere" for most people 😅 I also have this disconnect where I generally have a really good relationship to my parents but I never really talk to them about my struggles because their thought process is so completely different from mine. I really think the idea of a Discord could be a great start and I also understand that you don't want to be the epicenter of this. Then you would have created a community of INFJs talking to each other but you yourself would be again isolated in a way because you couldn't respond to everybody who wants to talk to you and therefore you'd rather not respond at all so that it's not "unfair". That is also a pattern I tend to fall into. Our kind of "all or nothing" mentality and being perfectionists to a fault 😅 Either I'm doing it perfect 120% or I'm not gonna start it at all because it won't be perfect 🙈😂 That is really a hard thing to work on 🙊 I think you should try to talk to the people you like and let the rest of the community interact with itself. Sadly you can't respond to thousands of people individually every time but that shouldn't stop you from making new friends and connections 😊 You definitely deserve to find new friends because you are such an awesome person 🧡 It is really sweet of you that you want to talk to us all and you are so endearing and nice Katie! Maybe the channel could develop into a kind of community channel (if you would want this) where different people can contribute parts they would like to share. That brings in new faces that you/we can talk to and takes some of the "attention/pressure" off of you. I also love your candid setup! It's nice because it feels like talking to a friend in their room on the floor and not like a perfectly stylized video. We already try to do every single thing perfect in our life so it's nice to not get that feeling of pressure if it's an "imperfect" video so this feels more relaxed and authentic. So Katie it's 4am again the next day and this time with an amazing thunderstorm (which is the best weather that exists) I hope you have an amazing new week and lots of love from Germany 😋 Martin
I just turned 51 last month and want to share wisth you how I have revisited this topic, many years after having taken a full Myers Briggs in college in an Education class. I was an INFJ then and am think that I am still one today. 💕 I wish that I had been more intentional throughout the years and in college to learn more about it so that I could develop my strengths and ovecome weaknesses, I think that I would not have allowed myself to be mistreated by certain individuals in my life. You are at SUCH a good place - we are all uniquely and wonderfully created, for a wonderful purpose. LOVE your logic, point. 💕
So glad you’re good. You were part of my motivation to upload my first video. Your raw, honest nature and calm demeanor are a gift to all of us viewers.
Don't get too deep in what every person has to say, or you will be overwhelmed. I know you want to help people and connect with them, but you need to make sure you're looked after. Understand what are self-destructive behaviours for you, and don't feel guilty for doing what's healthy for you. As an INTP, society really doesn't understand INxxs, and for INFJs, (given how people focused you are,) it's worse. Make sure you're getting YOUR answers. Figure out what you want/need. Do you need friends? Ok, what do you need them for? Make sure your relationships are giving you what you need. How's the introspection going?
Recognize too that the way RUclips is set up actively stifles genuine conversation. It caters to dumping content out and not receiving real feedback. I ran into that a couple months back making 2-3 large on topics comments on a couple channels only for the spam algorithm to trigger and suddenly anything more than a few paragraphs gets shadowbanned. I long for the old days of the internet when non-reddit message boards abounded and provided the very thing you're seeking for a decent place to have good conversation with others. Sadly the way social media has gone, that seems to be the very thing platforms do not want.
My exposure to INTPs in real life has been limited, so I really appreciate whenever I receive a comment from one. I feel like you are able to distill all of my emotional ramblings into the main point of the matter and give me the honest feedback I need. I think what you said is exactly why I had to step away from youtube, because I was trying to somehow get back in touch with what it is that I want from this channel. It's like I almost need to learn to be more "self-centered," in a sense. And your logic definitely applies to many other areas of my life. So thank you for taking the time to comment, I seriously appreciate it. I'm curious to hear- as an INTP, in what ways do you often feel misunderstood in the world?
@@katiemarie8899 Well, as an INTP, we're generally focused on finding the best system. For me, I try to find absolute certainty, which probably seems unreasonable or arrogant, but basically, I try to figure things out by finding the right perspective. Hard to tell exactly what you mean by "self-centered", but here's the thing, (and some of that weird certainty for you,) you cannot help someone you don't have the ability to help. As such, your well-being, (and success,) is integral to your ability to help others. So, stop viewing it as a choice to put yourself before the world, because it's not a choice, it's a requirement. At least if you want to reach your potential for helping others. It's not really about "feeling" misunderstood. People will respect Ti hero when it's giving them a solution that they're happy with, but paired with Ne parent, most of the time people don't understand why I spend so much time thinking about things that don't interest them. Being one of the most introverted types and being more focused on thinking, than doing, isn't something society appreciates. Even if it's to try to avoid the near infinite pitfalls of life. Either way, I mostly was just focusing on how I think INFJs probably have it the worst. The other INxxs can focus on their thoughts, feelings, or projects, but to INFJs, people are core to their thoughts, feelings, and projects. Given the poor mental health of people, for INFJs, it must be like wading through an ocean of toxicity, yet you still wish to connect to them. And, it might seem like a weird segway, but as I know you've been trying to deal with issues of being co-dependent, I just wanted to make sure you're approaching it in a healthy way. To sum up an essay, make sure you're addressing any self-destructive mindset(s) you have, such as fear and insecurities, but keep in mind your desire for closeness isn't a flaw, a weakness, or anything else that might make you wish to be harsh on yourself. (That somewhat assumed harshness is the reason why I wanted to say all this.) As someone who is extremely introverted, people 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 people. In this society that's becoming more and more self-destructive, due to trying to fill the void of loneliness, from being community-less, as a result to pursuiting of one's own "success"... Let's just say I'm glad there are people out there who naturally wish for the deep connections, that all of us need, despite how few seem to understand, or perhaps accept that. So don't hate yourself for what humanity needs. If you want/need to talk more, let me know. Though expect me to keep the focus on you, and your well-being. ;)
INFJ life is so difficult especially when they segregate you from a young age based on academics. Then you're surrounded with emotionless INTJ's and INTP's and you feel so distant yet they really like you but have no one to really share who you really are with :(. I'm only beginning to understand who I am and why I made the decisions I made in my life and I want to thank you for revealing that part of me through this video. Inspiring
I love you. Today was the day I needed to watch, Katie. Helps to know we aren't alone! You're a STAR and I am STRUCK! You opened the gates! OMG please let me in. I'm Judd.
Not gonna lie, you are exactly the kind of person I would've wanted to talk to. But as an INFJ, I completely understand. To all of you INFJs, good luck in life! And remember to not give up. We may be different, but it doesn't mean we can't be happy :)
If the thought of people’s negative / indifferent opinions or even the thought of many eyes on you seem to pressure you. You must stop caring for opinions all together. That means you must only do this as a creative “self expression” only. If you care for people’s praise then you will also care for their scrutiny. But if you do it for “self expression” then the pressure of “am I doing this right” will vanish. We live in a world of conformity where people that dare to think differently are seen as “freaks” and I think that really sucks because then you are prisoner to such people. With this being said I know personally, it’s easier said then done. -a fellow INFJ
Dont think of us as a stadium looking at you to entertain them but a stadium that smiles as you enter and nod their head as you think, vent, wonder and every statement will get at least half of us to raise our hands in agreement and the other half with hopeful suggestions to get the best from or avoid the pitfalls of form our pasts and those we have helped or failed to help.
This is the exact advice I needed to hear... but it's also the hardest pill for me to swallow. I struggle SO much with this - it's very difficult for me to do something solely for my own self expression. Even with other things.. I love to paint, but I can rarely get myself to finish a painting unless I am making it for someone else. I think working on "selfishly" making videos and tuning out the feedback, good or bad, is the only way to go about this youtube channel. I needed to hear this!! Thank you.
Venel Prince I concur, and it takes a while to really learn this, doesn’t it? You have to be willing to protect yourself enough to make this a sort of “silent contract” between you and yourself. A contract you share with no one. Therefore, no scrutiny, no judgment. And to understand that you scrutinize and judge yourself that receiving more only breaks your spirit. Some people can do this more effectively on their own, some people need others. We don’t need the feedback.
Expecting to be healed from something you did to get out of your comfort zone, isn't what healing is. Loneliness is your charging block, keep making your videos if thats what you love. Or photography:) being brave on instinctual level is where our best work is done. Your not weird, your different and thats the blessing. Cherishing yourself and knowing that your followers back you up, was your real goal. Your family and best friend is all you need:)
I completely get where you're coming from. I have a similar mindset. all or nothing, black and white. either its perfect and meaningful or incomplete and worthless. its the grey area that's scary because it feels like a compromise with mediocracy. I hold myself to an incredibly high, mostly unachievable standard and when I feel like what im doing isnt a "perfect" representation of myself and my abilities I quit. seriously props to you for doing this and if you find these vids meaningful to you keep doing them because it seems like you have a great community that really values your input
I too struggle with this. After a particularly difficult year, I'm starting to internalize the "just do it" motto, whereby I force myself to take action even in the absence of a clear direction or solid sense of meaning.
I’m glad you’re back. I’m especially glad that you have discovered you don’t have bad parts that need to be fixed. You’re great and unique just as you are. Of course, at the same time, I struggle with who/what I am. .... However you decide to go forward with your channel will be great, I’m sure. Whether you get all fancy with lights, or chill on your bed, I’ll still appreciate whatever you have to offer. As you said, there is a good amount of comfort in knowing there’s a place I can come to and see there are some many like-minded people. ..... I hope your confidence continues to be at a good spot. Take a deep breath, Katie. You’re doing a really nice and meaningful thing here.
I admit, I watch because everything about you is crazy adorable. It’s no wonder you’ve found celebrity status among INFJs. You should already know INFJs are not impressed fancy production or anything at the surface level. Just by sharing your journey, you’ve done an amazing service to the INFJ community. You’re obviously quite intelligent and kind. Peps just enjoy the intellectual exercise of your videos. First principle of InFJ is nothing to prove to anyone. Being selfish is a skill, INFJs need to learn. As long as YOU see a benefit from the channel keep up the good work. But always keep self preservation as a priority. Even INFJs will take to much if you let them. You’re in control here. Keep exploring the world, and you’ll find your place in it.
I only recently discovered your channel through your first video, and everything you expressed felt like my own thoughts being spoken back to me. I subscribed and then you posted this hours later haha. I am also an INFJ and a type 4 and I think it is important for our voices to be heard. I think a large reason that we as INFJ's and type 4's feel so isolated is because by our nature we are very hesitant to put ourselves out there without great hesitation! I am on a similar journey to you in terms of self-acceptance and resisting the urge to envy and emulate the more extroverted traits of others. I am learning to appreciate and improve myself in my own unique way. I feel as though if INFJ/type 4's shared more of their experiences and thoughts we'd increase our visibility in the world and increase the chances of reaching people who are deep within the internal struggles INFJ's/type 4's often face. This turned into an essay and I was about to apologise for that but I won't, because these were the things I wanted to say haha. Keep being you my dude, we were made for great things :)
Dear Katie, I normally don't comment on YT, I'm much too private. In fact, I believe it may be the first time I felt like I had to. The unknown depths of the YT algorithms showed my this video of yours for some reason and in short, I ended up watching all your uploads but kind of in the wrong order from last to first and still was increasingly enchanted. How you go out of your comfort zone while staying completely true to yourself, not hiding behind a fassade is generally hard but for us INFJs it's another level of courage that is needed. You have come a long way and taking time to dive deep before you continue is simply your nature as our fellow INFJs certainly know. Instead of commenting on your eerily relatable story and progressing insights, I'd like to share a story of my own with you and promise to keep it as short as I possibly can. A brief intro is inevitable so here we go. I'll turn 40 next year and especially during my teenage years and my early twenties, I felt simply out of place and constantly misunderstood, just like you despite my notable successes that (as a perfectionist) were not few and my reputation as a talented, disciplined, likeable, handsome but reserved person preceeded me soon. I would still curse myself for every mistake I made even if I was #1 in the end of an endeavor. Perfectionism can really break you and is definitely more of a burden than a blessing because it keeps you from enjoying anything besides the absolute and makes you uncomfortable dealing with any kind of compliments. Everything changed when I realized that and here is in short how it happened: During my undergrad studies in Germany I met a guy (ESFP) who was apparently everything I was not. A lighthearted, true social butterfly who made friends quickly and was able to motivate and empower even the most reserved fellow students (like me) to forget studying and just have fun or do something crazy. I admired him for that and went out of my shell to try and make friends with him. In short, that made all the difference in the coming 15 years. As an INFJ I was quickly able to mimic his behaviour in my own way at first and became a popular social butterfly myself which was great for a while and I made a lot of good friends during this time who truly appreciate me now but would likely never have noticed me otherwise. Then the friendship deepened and I got to know about all my friend's weaknesses and insecurities which, amazingly for me, did not drag him down at all and even made him more relatable/likeable to others when he openly displayed them. Wow. That's when I finally realized nobody can really connect deeply with a seemingly perfect person. To be a complete human being you need to have a history of successes and failures alike and sharing a number of these memories with others will form a relatable and likeable, trustworthy friend for most. The stories and experiences about how you f***ed up in your own special way but are still standing, are what make you unique, whereas success is often uniform. If you are confident to laugh about your failures but always get up again smiling to try one more time, being thankful for the lesson, you will inspire others without even trying and they will always enjoy your company. And let's be honest, INFJs, inspiring others in their actions as glorious but humble paragon of virtue guiding them is somehow something most of us really crave from the bottom of our hearts. Here's the news though: To do that we do not need to be perfect, in fact if we try to be perfect, we will most certainly fail. We just need to be who we are and stand our ground confidently and convincingly with a mixture of seriousness and humor that comes naturally to us. "So what's your point?" I wish I had a Euro for every time I heard that in my life :-) My point is: Yes, the MBTI helps especially INFJs to stop feeling like an alien and understand that we are not alone and somehow "broken" out there But, the truth is simply, that you cannot complete yourself alone. Find a (best) friend, a partner or even an (arch) enemy who becomes a constant in your life and while respecting you as a person, forces you to grow constantly and drag you with them. They will challenge you outside your comfort zone and that is what you need because as a rule of psychology, you will never discover your true self inside your comfort zone... and trust me, this significant other able to help you with this does NOT need to be a fellow IFNJ and rarely will be.
Hi Katie. Somewhere in this video, you are asking a question like, "People would want to come to this channel and just watch/hear me talk?" Yes! But, probably being an INFJ myself, I can understand the anxiety of not wanting to be the center of attention or for people to look to me as an "expert" on a personality type. Your voice is really calm/soothing. For some reason, I was thinking of an older TV show, "Felicity." Keri Russell seems to narrate part of the episodes with her own inner thought process. I think, in a previous video, you had mentioned completing a degree in five years. WOW! My journey (if it's appropriate to share) was much longer. In grades K-12, I guess I was considered a "good student" who kept making the honor roll. The weird part was, I didn't specialize in any one subject or feel drawn to any particular field of study. At a young age, I saw a blueprint/floor plan in a book somewhere, and I had the artistic ability to copy it pretty faithfully. That must have been sent off in a letter to relatives, some of whom reacted like, "This means you're supposed to be an architect!" At the end of high school, it was challenging to figure out how to pay for college. The only two schools in my state that offered an architecture degree were Ivy League or a technical school in a city with a high crime rate. I went to community college for a while (four semesters), still having an almost perfect GPA. They didn't offer any architecture courses. (It feels like I've gone on too long already). When I finally did transfer to the technical school in the bad neighborhood, I was so upset by seeing the razor wire or the buildings with sheets of wood over the windows that I couldn't really focus on my assignments. The instructions didn't make sense to me, and then the professor didn't teach anything. He just gave me feedback and said that my drawing was "wrong" or "too geometric" (the instructions were to only draw lines and curves). Eventually, I ended up in an online degree program that was marketed as "accelerated," or that the type A+++ students who typically enroll are able to finish in two years or less while giving birth to triplets in their spare time. I spent SEVEN FULL YEARS scratching and clawing to finish. There was a female mentor making weird requests of me. I never reported her to a supervisor. To "summarize," I'm glad there are people like you in the world. I've thought about making YT videos in the past, and I don't know if I'd be able to do it on a consistent basis or to handle all of the sudden attention. Also, wasn't sure if this question was weird to ask. Is reddish brown your natural hair color?
thank you katie -your words resonate in a very profound way-& as you say that us subscribers have influence you-the reverse is equally true. your brave vulnerability shines & gives us courage to express our own voice
Something I've noticed as an ENFP is that INFJs seem to attract emotionally/psychologically damaged people and the INFJ wants to help them...At the cost to the INFJ own soul and energy. I hope Katie, and the many other INFJs here, can find boundaries and focus on healthy people that will inspire and help YOU :)
I am now trying to work on these boundaries because I now know that a lot of my problems have been because of not having boundaries. Thank you for the comment.
I've always loved the sound of an orchestra tuning up on stage, not playing anything in particular, just getting the instruments on song and ready to jam. This felt like that in terms of expressing your ideas and feelings in your charming way, and I can't wait for the symphony proper to begin. 6,600 kindred weirdos have subscribed to the show at this point. No pressure or anything ;)
I'm glad you are okay. Be good to yourself dear lady. You gave us the comfort of knowing that there are people like ourselves in the world and it is beautiful. Thank you.
Watching you work through ideas and think over how you want to say something is almost uncanny because I express myself so similarly. Thank you for making these videos - you make me feel like the way that I think and feel isn't weird.
I'm very happy you've gotten a lot of positive changes in your life as a result of taking this really strange leap. I had a similar response, but as the listener, in that so far, I've related to 90-100% of everything you've said, and I've always got where you were coming from. And it's given me a lot of hope and helped me wake up from being stuck in my mind and not getting why no one I talked to really got what I was saying. I mean even in your INFJ/INFP friendship video, every movie you listed I really loved and was close to my heart, I didn't even believe it, seeing someone else find importance in the same stories like that. Unreal. So thank you, as you have honestly changed my life for the better. Knowing that there are actually other people out there that are like me and get me is a feeling I really needed. Thank you Katie!
You are an inspiration! So happy i have micraculously been led to your channel. Thank you for your videos - you helped me feel like less of an alien freak.
Yes mast3r3 i agree it's so hard to find similar people's like Katie Marie . that , we can relate to keep making videos Katie we understand 😊 you ❤️ we are the same type as you are we are unique 💖
Hi 👋 Katie Marie: Welcome back to your Channel i know it takes. alot Of courage for us to do certain things we have to build up.alot of courage to do somethings that's not so easy for us infjs but, once we get started we can be on the roll for awhile . Then we will take a break for awhile it's .all depends on how we feel. That's just us as an infj 😘
It's funny 'cause I just rewatched an old video of yours yesterday wondering where you were. I can understand how overwhelming it can get. Best wishes with what you choose to do next.
I hope no narc's get through! Protecting your self was the correct instinct to follow in my opinion and my first impulse was to reassure you about that.
This is a quote from Albert Einstein: "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." This quote really helped me find my own path. Since your last video, I have personally found and accepted my true self. You were instrumental in that. I know you're uncomfortable being a figurehead, but you are doing genuinely awesome. For a frame of reference here, I am a ghostwriter and I have worked on and written some incredibly high-status projects - even one that ended up becoming an international cinema hit. I've been writing professionally for years. Recently, I was asked to run a ghostwriting masterclass in the area which I am considered 'an expert'...but I turned it down? Why? Because I didn't want to be some kind of central figurehead or font of wisdom. I was like 'who am I to be telling people how to do what I do?' Remember, you are no less valid because YOU don't believe you are. The reason you got so many followers so quickly is due to your vulnerability, honesty and compassion. Energy is held eternally in videos and yours are dripping with compassion, kindness, wisdom and love. You ARE valuable, and you ARE worthy of this platform. I know the key issue is that you're not comfortable with it, but keep in mind that that is just a falsity conjured up by self-doubt. Us humans are pattern finding machines. The more we do something, the more we get used to it and the less it scares us. This is your platform to use as you see fit and ultimately, it's up to you. Just remember that the more you do something, the less scary it becomes. Who knows? You may really get into it and start selling merch and your very own digital courses where you sell common sense for $3,000 a client! 😂 On another note, you should look into self-actualization. I think it might really benefit you. Another thing that's awesome for self-exploration is looking at your natal chart. Seriously, here is a link to a free one: astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php It is to do astrology, but I swear to you, this will resonate deeply with you and you will gain a fuller and deeper understanding of yourself. Whether you think astrology is nonsense or not, just give it a go. I'm not here to convert anyone. And without sounding too 'hippy' here, EVERYTHING is cyclic and has a natural flow (as I imagine you can feel in your child-like wonder state), so why wouldn't the planetary alignments at our birth have an effect? Tree reach out to find each others roots,.pigeons can find their way home from hundreds of miles, the screen you're looking at now is not actually solid. There is a huge flow of which everything is a part of. We look below us and around us and see it in nature. We look above us and see it in the movements of the planets around stars; why are humans the exception from this flow? I'm not saying I'm right, I'm just asking you to give it a go. You never know, it might change your life 😉 For what it's worth, Carl Jung, (the originality father of typology whose worked inspired the MBTI system) was very into the exploration of astrology. He was an INFJ too 😉 Oh, also, do me a favour and DONT REPLY TO THIS COMMENT! I'm just trying to be of service in the same way that you are, (see, there is back and forth 😉) so I'm not messaging for a message back. Just want to help is all. Take care and keep on shining bright... And remember, you're a fish; STOP JUDGING YOUR ABILITY TO CLIMB A TREE ❤
Katie, you are such a beautiful woman in all your aspects of being. Keep being brave in your experiences and be true to yourself. You give such beautiful gifts to those you encounter! Remember, only love has the right to rule!!
Hi Katie Marie. i seriously started tearing up when you talked about mirroring (a lack of it) in childhood. that resonates deeply. i’m going through a breakup this week and feel dysfunctional and alone. hearing you talk about reaching a place of self acceptance in your life gives me hope that i can get there too. i’m sure it’s draining to post and respond, please take care of yourself first and foremost. thank you for helping me feel lighter. here are some melancholic songs i like Run - Vallis Alps, Mynolia - Train of Thought, Bon Iver - Re: stacks
Hi Jasmine, I'm so sorry you're going through a breakup. I went through one as well, not too long ago. Though I speak about my self acceptance on my channel, I still will have weeks or months where I feel desperately lonely and dysfunctional. So, I understand how you are feeling more than anything. I love the songs you suggested as well, I hadn't heard the first two, but Re: stacks is actually my favorite Bon Iver song (not surprised we both love it!) Here are three songs I've listened to a lot recently, Novo Amor - Seneca, S. Carey - Brassy Sun, and Sylvan Esso - Slack Jaw. They make me feel sad and hopeful at the same time. Sending you a virtual hug
Thank you so much for putting yourself out into the world. Your vulnerability/courage is so healing for me. Watching your videos is a safe place for me because I feel like you are a kindred spirit.
It is extremely hard for us INFJ to do the thing we want to do, especially when we’re considering putting ourselves “out there.” We spend so much time in our heads, thinking of the outcomes of events, intuiting responses to events, rethinking approaches, re-intuiting changes and so on, that it’s often times more fun to live in that world in our mind instead of actually doing something. When we finally commit and do - when we make the choice out of the infinite possibilities - it is euphoric. We release tension and explore our new reality and fully commit to the experience. I’m glad you were able to push through that Ni+Ti loop and make a new video! I recently had such an experience, where I could have lived in my mind, but instead forced myself to do something. I saw some random person on the internet, and my Ni+Ti started up, wondering what conversations with that person would be like. I could have shelved the idea along with a hundred other ideas that day, but something sat with me, and for whatever reason I decided to “do”. I reached out and tried to contact that person. Unfortunately, the euphoria of that decision overtook me, and I lost control of myself. This in turn made me come across in a way which I did not process with Ni+Ti to see an outcome; could not process, even, due to the chemical induced blindness. I think you’d agree though, that in the end when you look back, you’re glad you didn’t let the idea sit in your mind and pass away like all the other ideas. I applaud your courage in continuing to put yourself out there and share your experience.
I deeply appreciate your openness, authenticity, and vulnerability. Thank you. I feel seen and it seems like many others do too. Wish you the best in whatever your future holds!
Mirroring: I feel the same way about the infj community here on RUclips. In the year that I discovered it, I grew to accept and love myself more. I found healing like you did. I think we all understand the overwhelming feeling of being exposed you described in regards to your channel growing. I would feel that way too. You’re great and you remind me that I’m great too just by talking. I suspect most of us grew up misunderstood and it caused low self esteem. It’s a daily battle for me personally. Watching you reaffirms my own strengths
Your authenticity is much needed in this world, you're a beautiful example for others. Just as men lack good strong masculine role models, women lack examples of radiant feminine role models. You are an awesome example. This is probably what so many are responding to you👍
It's so crazy, even hearing the way you talk it's like listening to the voice in my own head! Its so nice to hear someone have the same sort of thought processing I do
Iv only just started to watch your videos, and I think your a wonderful young lady and I have finally found someone who I feel I totally understand you. You are a ray of sunshine cause I'm very much the same type of person. Your very brave to do RUclips videos and your so interesting to listen to. You keep on growing yourself, and you make complete sense with everything you say. Wish I had you as a friend cause i could talk to you all day about so much. Hope that doesn't make you think I'm a weirdo. Anyway your aiming high. Good for you. Keep making RUclips videos cause you have lots I am learning from you. Anyway your an inspiration to me. So keep it going and bgood. 🙂
When you said you made that example too detailed, I could relate 100% because I literally do that ALL THE TIME with examples. I do that even if I’m having a conversation with myself lmao. Anyways, I finally decided to now comment after watching a couple of your videos and getting lost in the comment sections just reading what everyone had to say. It’s nice knowing there are other people out there like me and that I’m not alone. I’m an INFP-T by the way.
I'm new to posting INFJ videos and I'm still learning and sharing my experiences.. I've been meaning to watch your videos because i didn't know if you were coming back.. so, welcome back and congrats
I have the same pausing between words as you, you think deep i like your speech, so honest and straight forward. Keep on your great inner work. Love from a 64 years old man in Denmark 💚🌹🍀
Katie, Thx for your videos. You are a wonderful person. Wish all the world could be like u. Cried seeing this one, don’t know why. Just suddenly bursted out sitting working with my stuff. Maybe just my situation. Maybe because I realize that my own INFJ journey starts now. Right now. Maybe because it hits me how many years I’ve wasted feeling alone, wrong, from another world, beeing in a very unhealthy relationship. Now I’ve just been divorced. We were together 17 years, 2 lovely children which I love deeply. Its been a nightmare. Still is. Complicated. She was as my sister pointed out a narcissist (my sister is a clinical psychologist). When I started to educate my self it all struck my like a lightning. Making sense. All of it. Its so overwhelming. Anyway seeing u Katie was like seeing someone I could understand or totally relate to. Even when u don’t make sense u do to me. Anyway take care. I wish u all the best. And also so many wonderful comments under this video. Thx all of u. Take care of u self.
It is astounding meeting fellow infjs, i thought i was just a lonely soul, didnt fit the cookie cutter kind of kid...always thinking, outside the box was my place to start..following that sherlock holmes kind of thought that whatever pain someone was having was every cause until id managed to eliminate every possible reason then what remained must be the cause of it....that a blade of grass was as interesting as a mountain view at any moment...dont worry about us being so many, we are just overjoyed to meet another genuine infj, not a wannaby, like whod want this...lol...or troll...like what trophy do you get for trolling infjs?but that 1 in a 100 person we coukd happily talk and listen to for days without stop, learning those pieces we never found to our own jigsaw minds.
It's so meaningful to hear that this small community has made a really positive difference in you. I can also appreciate this minimal production style, especially because it's less stressful to do. You're such a precious and valuable human being. Thank you for being brave and making these videos! They've helped many, myself included, have a healthier mindset and feel less lonely and isolated. All the best!! 😁
Hi Katie, it feels so refreshing hearing from you again. Thank you,. . and YES, my eyes were glimmering when you said, there are weirdos walking with you. Me too, and i feel you. It gives me hope in such a profound way beeing not alone. PS: Today in the morning, i was ask for, when we get started, as i was standing like a quirk of fate before one of my artclasses. So i then started the class with this quote: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ― Howard Thurman
RUclips is weird like that because it's often one sided and it's okay. I know us INFJs want to connect mutually and deeply. When you can't it's stressful. Please know you're loved, you have full permission to be your authentic self and know that if you feel led to make YT videos then cool, if not then cool :)
You are not alone, and in finding you I have realised I am not alone !! Thank you very much !! Something that has always got me through life is the statement "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - Jiddu Krishnamurti Being quiet, thoughtful and empathic is not wrong.. Being loud, shallow and not a nice person is not something to strive for... Keep the same and keep the videos coming please. Though take your time I am quite happy to wait :oD. FYI .. I hide in a shed, its quiet and I can work on my projects.
There are so many thoughts here that I connect with and so many times I just nodded my head along with everything you’re saying. Thank you so much for being authentic and connecting with so many people by sharing your truth
Having back and forth dialogue is definitely helpful to overthinking less and developing ideas! You're doing great, Katie! This is so cool. Keep it up! If you're ever in San Francisco you've got a friend in me! ENFP here so excuse me for the over-the-top kindness haha
You are able to speak these ideas that are so profound. I'm inspired. I wish I would have known I was an infj and what that meant when I was a teenager. Knowing that may have made my life a little less stressful.
Hi Katie Marie! I don't think I can express enough, how happy I am to have found you and your channel. You say that everybody here helped you heal and accept yourself, but think of the impact that you have had! And as a INFJ (4w5) I know that making these videos has been uncomfortable (even if liberating) for you. :) All I really wanted to say was that I really appreciate you - and that's not some dumb superficial overstatement. I really do! Everything you express goes straight to my heart, because it is so familiar and it comes from your sincere, deep eyes. It really hurts me deeply that a beautiful soul like you (and me for that matter) was made to feel like a freak and an outcast, when we are indeed needed in this world... even if it is not always easy for us being here. So, thank you for being in this world!
Please continue to come on whenever you want Katie. As INFJs we need more downtime than most and can struggle with consistency for the sake of consistency, it all has to make sense to us all throughout the process and has to be what we want to continue doing. Today you spoke briefly on how parents can affect their INFJ children and that is one of my hardest issues right now. My parents do not understand how someone they raised can have opinions that differ from most of their opinions. They are not as open minded and feel disrespected if i express my views and say they feel neglected and rejected if i keep to myself because i know my opinions will bother them. My family is traditional and my dad has called me all kinds of hurtful words like a feminist and weird because of how im unbending in my principles and how my sense of whats right and wrong and justice is applied the same to everyone. They say that when it comes to family i should not be so strict with my views and show loyalty to my family instead and for the life of me i cannot do that. I feel between authenticity and loyalty, regardless of who the person is to me, i cannot abandon being true to me and telling the truth simply because someone is family. It really does hurt when an INFJ is not understood even at home. Why did i write all this ? To tell you that i found comfort in your words. You are contributing in your own small way to validating others like you who may feel misunderstood. So Feel free to come on whenever you want and share your valuable perspectives. Sending you kindness and care.
Hi @Katie Marie I've just found your video today. I'm an INFJ to, I've always wondered why, I didn't quit fit or think like most people. It wasn't till I took the test and realised, that I was an INFJ personality and that it was rare. The personality fit me so well and finally, I could understand myself better. I'm listening to your video and everything your saying, shows me and tells me how genuine you are. As you would know, someone being genuine and honest. Really resonates to us, it's what we tend to see first in people. Hence why INtuitive is right up there with INtrovert. I hope to see more of your videos soon, it's important to share how we think as INFJ's. But, that's only if you feel, you are able too. We don't recognise how influential we can be, but if we have that gift (and I seriously think you have it). It would be great to share. If you don't do anymore video's, I'd just like to say. I wish you well and peace in life. (PS I hope you keep doing videos lol...). Take care of yourself and all those that care about you.
Please!!! Dont stop making videos.. As a young male INFJ you really inspire me to truly get to now myself better in an alien world that I can see and hear yet not touch and comprehend. Your truly Awesome! :)
you are a non physical anchor for my perceptions that brings me back to my real self in every video. I don't know if I am an INFJ or not but nobody in my environment let me be like if I just listen to you. I would be very glad if you keep it up! Your work is very powerful. Warm regards from germany
I usually don’t comment on mbti related videos but katie, you are a gem. I relate and connect to you so much. I watch your videos very often and trust me, it somehow relieves me from anxiety. Hope you are doing okay. Hope this comment finds you healthy, mentally healing and functioning.
Wow yes! I wish I had learned to embrace me when I was your age! Think captain Kirk! “I want my pain! I NEED my pain!” U wouldn’t be u without it!👏👏💪🧠🤗🙏🙏🤗
I just left 3 comments on your "peculiar traits" video and now, being the INFJ that I am, I'm worried that I'm contributing to the sense of overwhelm. HOWEVER!!!! I know this is just one of my "peculiar INFJ traits"...Something that will likely always be a "proclivity" for me...but I hit that wall of "impossiblity" many years ago and had no other option but to learn to recognize when I was "over worrying" about others....and how unsustainable it ultimately is. I'm not suggesting that there's anything "wrong" with being so sensitive to the needs of others...It's a gift, and it will likely always be with us...and is an amazing ability to be used appropriately....but I believe there comes a time when all of us INFJs hit that "wall of impossibility" where we realize we cannot single-handedly ease everyone's pain on an individual level (or in this case, to personally connect with thousands of people) People in our lives, yes...but in a platform such as this? Impossible. Once we learn to recognize "what's ours to help fix" and at what level we can sustain, we save ourselves and our sanity. We have to accept our human limits and it sounds, from this video, that you've hit that wall and are getting a good grasp on that reality. Truly, it just sounds like there's an "adjustment" needed, based on this somewhat "new RUclips reality" you've discovered...and it sounds like you've already figured that out. I'll say again, as I did in the other video, everything looks "right on track" to me. As INFJs we're always going to be pushing forward in one way or another. We NEED to. This means we will discover new territory and struggle to navigate it, initially. You do NOT need to feel bad about being overwhelmed and needing to back away. Random RUclips people don't expect you to be there for them on a personal level...even when sharing the details of their intimate/personal stories. There is so much Authenticity, Care and Truth packed in to just this one video that I'm bowled over with gratitude and just as all of the comments had a profound affect on you....YOU are profoundly affecting others just by sharing this Authenticity, Care and Truth. It's your gift and it far more than "enough". You know that realization that there are many others out there who "get you"?....and the enormous impact it had on you?....Just flip that around to know that THIS is the effect you're having on others. It's huge. I say make videos whenever you're personally (and happily) inspired to do so....and ONLY then. That's the mindset that is going to produce your best videos anyway...and will likely feel like self-love/self-support which is something all of us INFJs need to put more attention on. If it drains you, or overwhelms you, I can pretty much guarantee it's an unhealthy move.
you lovely soul. Your videos helped me in the way that you explained certain comments and interactions on here helped you; to gain more clarity and confidence in just being who you are, within an INFJ experience. I felt such a shift in me upon hearing you. Thank you.
Hi Katie Marie, your videos mean a lot to me. I often feel very alone as an INFJ/enneagram 4w5, like I don't know my place in this world. I often feel strange, and it's hard to be part of a group. I wish I could do things with ease the way more extroverted types do, but I want to learn to be okay with who I am. Maybe some day I will. I feel a close connection to others who are like me, but it's rare to find that. Your videos provide me with a sense of comfort that I am not alone. Thank you for that
I've never taken the MBPI but I've always felt very connect the the world, so I never felt the need to read philosophy and whatnot, I was already feeling so much. Watching your videos I shared so many experiences with what you said - the non linear thoughts, the over-analysis, the anxiety, the toxic personal relationships, the need to develop boundaries, the somatic therapy - so many parts I could share with. My big twist is I had a brain injury at 24 where I received six brain bleeds to my cerebral cortex. I was jumped on the street. So, while my brain did heel, I had to relearn how to function. I also had PTSD and complex PTSD. In a funny sense, the traits of being an INFJ helped me deal with so many aspects of this, of myself and my relationship to the world. Few people even knew what I was going through because of how quickly I could adapt. Anyways - the point you made in a previous video of sympathetic and parasympathetic mechanisms, and becoming reliant on sympathetic for your own survival, this is how I survived for about 3-4 years after my brain injury. It wasn't until I realized exhausted I'd become from this that I needed to let it go. I think you're great. I just caught onto your stuff lately and it's very thoughtful. Whatever you decide, thanks for what you've already done.
Really like these videos. I am definitely the only one in my family like this, so it’s super cool to see someone else who thinks along the same lines as me. Plus, I know the videos are just you thinking out what to say as your making the video, but that’s what makes them great because that’s how I would do them.
I feel like you mirror us too and your videos give us the confidence to leave our rooms lol. I also can relate to you somewhat personally.. I'm 30 and I'm just started to reconcile a lack of mirroring in my own childhood and finally understand what those implications really are. You realize how incredibly limiting it's been on your life. Listening to you talk about this stuff has been incredibly healing for me and also made me feel like I'm not just a crazy person either! We can grow and get better! We got this! Some ideas popped into my head when you talked about what kind of platform you wanted. You've probably already thought of these by now, but just in case: youtube livestreaming, and an intj and fellow youtube mbti'er Lijo just created a platform for one-on-one conversations with fans called "Snug". lol that one might be a little intense but I thought I'd mention it in case it was helpful. Anyway, you're the best! Thank you for coming back to make another video
This is the third video of yours I watched and I feel I have to write a comment... I don't know why I came across your channel, but I feel so lucky that I have! How come I feel I totally get you and literally resonate with every point you're making. It is so good to know that there are people like you on this planet!! I haven't studied mbi types in depth, so I know close to nothing about the different functions and so on, but I remember the result of a test I took years ago and it stuck with me : ENFP. Seems to be quite different, but I totally relate to your experiences! Your creativity (photography, music, even making artful video clips and feeling this is more YOU then your physical being, journaling...), your intense empathy, the deep processing of...everything.. the strong need to speak up for another human being.. jumping topics and connecting b to z, that's what I do all of the time and most people think it's unrelated and don't understand me at all and I can't tell you how many told me: you're so weird - in fact it was the first thing I remember a boy told me back in kindergarden and then I found out later that it meant he really liked me;-). When you talked about your dad and how you are able to connect with him I got a bit sad, because it reminds me.. my dad and I connected in a special way as well, we had these explorative deep long conversations.. he passed away at a young age and it's like a whole universe went away Don't know... I just wanted to let you know that I think you're beautiful inside and out, keep being yourself and thankyou for making these special videos:) I love your authenticity and personality. I even think maybe I should go and find an infj male somewhere:-D ! Have a great day to all infj's who might be reading this and heart felt greetings from Germany!
..Oh and..you don't need to answer to this:) I know you get hundreds of comments.. maybe you won't even read this..what the heck am I thinking?!;D --- well, I better stop now --> .
I never considered self acceptance until I saw this. It was always faults that should be mended and molded into something else. You are brave and very strong to be walking this path.
Hi Katie. Great to see the INFJ personality is getting some authentic exposure. Other videos have been vague at times but hearing you speak confirms how I think at times and what struggles/traits I have. I only discovered the MBTI about a year ago but it's fit nicely into my journey of self discovery along with other interests of mine. It would be good to know what other INFJs are into. I for example am into yoga/meditation/breathwork as practices. I do partake in plant medicine and psychedelics which may be controversial but honestly have been the most powerfully healing experiences I've had. Relationships have been my biggest struggle in terms of finding it very hard to trust people and open up about my own feelings. Anyways thank you for sharing your experience and helping others understand. Peace and love 🙏
Hi Katie You are the Beautiful True Manifestation of an INFJ! It Took Me 30 yrs & a Whole Lot of Mistakes & Close Calls to get to an Understanding that Being INFJ is the Greatest, Most Confusing, Most Brilliant Terrifyingly Awesome Gift the Universe has to Bestow Upon We Who Deserve It! Always Go with Your Gut Because You are the Real Deal! P.S May I Suggest.Call in with Katie & Co Group Chats or Live Stream to Share Ideas, Experiences & Stories. "Stay Brilliant"
So glad you decided to return. 🙏🏻 I've never seen anyone speak so authentically before. Your videos are truly powerful and very moving. As a fellow INFJ I relate to a lot of your thoughts and perspectives. I think your channel is the perfect hub for a community like this. I hope you continue to make videos but don't feel pressured to. I love how you ended this video with smile. Don't ever lose that, it's beautiful.
While many of us appreciate your humble, vulnerable perspectives & insights, you owe us nothing. As a fellow INFJ, the best thing you can do for us (but mostly yourself) is to keeping growing and healing. To the degree that that includes your presence here, be present (even uncomfortably). As you know already, it can be way healthier (than we fully understand in the moment) to just release junk from your head. To the degree that you actually need breaks, take them (even if you miss us). We're with you; press on ❤ God bless.
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ENFP here: All of you INFJ's hiding in your rooms, please come out once in a while. The parts of you that feel alienated from the world are what we ENFP's treasure and value in friends and partners. You totally rock our worlds with your insight, your ideas, your wisdom, your authenticity, your humble genius, your emotional depth, your kindness, your giving natures, and so much more.
Stop running away from us.
@@daniii3915 I would say we don't...But my INFJ friend has quite literally had ENFP men run away from her and out the door on dates lol.
I'm an INFJ I'm 58 years old. Katie I have watched you're other video's, I can't tell you how much you touch my heart. My eye's fill with tears listening to you, it's like watching my younger self, I just want to give you a hug. There is a meme or saying, that says : paraphrasing here: I wish you could see yourself through my eye's so that you could see how wonderful you really are. To all you younger INFJs, please know that you are enough. Don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise. I went my whole life not knowing my self worth, and that has made me very vulnerable to some very toxic people in my year's. Growing up being told by everyone I was to sensitive. Knowing from a young age that my way of thinking was different from most, and thinking that there was something wrong with me. You younger INFJs are so fortunate to have the technology and are able to know at a younger age then myself that you are not alone in your thinking, and you are just fine, with big hearts that care about the world and all that's
in it / on it, in such bleak times we are living in. I hardly doubt the world would be in the state it is in if everyone had the minds and hearts of the INFJ not trying to toot my own horn, being a INFJ myself, but just knowing myself and how I feel about how unjust and the lack of empathy that seems to be taken over our world, is very heavy on my mind and heart. Stay Strong INFJs
YOu are enough!!
Much love from Sacramento California..❤🌟
I was just scrolling through my YT subscriptions cleani g them up a bit...when I saw your comment. I'm 58...and holding and only found out 5 years ago I was an INFJ. I so agree with your comment...I can't imagine what my life might have been had I known so much earlier and had the support from a tribe like I now. It was such a tremendous relief to know...even in middle age that I am not alone.
I am 54 years old now, also an INFJ and I agree to what you wrote Deborah. It wasn't until my early 30's (burnout) that I discovered the way I function. And I am learning everyday. It's great that young people nowadays can get a lot of information about psychology and personality types and how they relate to them. Especially for INFJ's this is very worthy. Katie and INFJ's of all ages please love yourself the way you are. Life is a wonderful journey.
thank you i resonate with EVERYTHING you said Anthony INFJ-T
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Yes, yes, yes! I am 44 and have lived 43 of my years wondering what is wrong with me, why I don’t fit into this puzzle of life and thinking I must have been dropped off on the wrong planet because I just don’t really fit in anywhere and no one understands my “ language”. I have just recently found out that I am an INFJ. Since then have learned to “somewhat” accept who I am and show my true self a little. To this day I don’t truly have someone who I feel understands me and wants to listen to my ramblings. It gets kinda lonely even for a person that likes to spend alot of my time alone in my head and thoughts. Katie Marie - your videos are truly amazing. I discovered you just a couple of days ago and have watched several. It is like you are speaking from my head and heart. I get emotional watching every video. It is awesome to know I am not the only one out there! ❤️
I wouldn't recommend inviting random INFJ's from the internet to 'talk to you' in real life lol, thought that is super sweet & innocent however It's how you open up the doors to drama/danger/stalking. Also, just choose the comments you like to respond to. It's as simple as that. We all put energy into the things we like, that's how we all work. Don't worry about every single person's feelings whether you respond to them or not, they can handle their own feelings. Keep doing what you're doing!
Yeah as an INFJ gotta remember to look after your own feelings too
I needed to hear this, thank you... it's that naive idealistic tendency of mine, thinking I can be friends with everyone on here. The potential for danger/stalking is real, and I haven't really considered that. I feel so much better and more clear about this already just from responses like yours! It really is a form of setting boundaries, realizing I don't have to respond to everyone and take care of them. Thank you
I agree. I have this same problem myself. In fact I did create a discord for like minded discussion. It failed badly. In fact when I look back to certain "failures" it has almost always arisen from my projected idealization into a shared experience. (ENFP)
@@katiemarie8899 Yay, I'm happy to have been a positive influence for you!
@@katiemarie8899 Take care of yourself above all else. Be care on the internet, especially after your videos got picked up by the recommendation algorithms.
Glad to see you back! The reason you got such a positive response is because you are so authentic about what it means to be an INFJ. I have seen other "INFJ RUclipsrs" that give me the impression that they are not really INFJs, they seem to have read up on the subject and decided to make videos. You are different, as an INFJ I can see and feel that you are the real thing and I appreciate what you have to say and how you say it. If you want to have a different platform to interact with us, think about starting a Discord server. That way we can interact with each other and you can jump in whenever you feel like it. Just an idea. Take care and I hope you keep this channel going.
She's great
Yes.
Definitely a good idea for Discord!
Well I can now say from experience that I fully understand why it's hard to find a more authentic INFJ on youtube.. I'd guess the authentic ones would feel uncomfortable as RUclipsrs and maybe even give up on it like I did. But that idea alone gives me a push to keep doing it, just so we can have more of a presence or representation on the internet!! Many people have suggested Discord, but I actually know very little about what that even is. I'm going to think on it and look into that. Thanks for your feedback, it helps a ton :)
@@katiemarie8899 Discord is a platform for gamers at the core. It was created to get a much-needed community center. Before you had TeamSpeak which was allowing you to get players of a team together. Especially used for big community events where you need to have 20 or more player.
Try to download it either on your phone or your computer. This will allow you to get an idea of what you can do with it. My ID is mortouvife #1947. If you want to have a chat.
Thank you for being who you are 🤗
When you stumble over words or thoughts just think to yourself, this is my tribe, we speak this way, we all stumble, thats why we type or wed be constantly ummming and arring...talk about a and b via t and r, that is related to z and p....welove that stuff, it keeps the mind running.
One of the reson most people consider us low-IQ, you can either think deep, respond with automatic shallow figures of speech or try to mix. Smooth talkers are either shallow or repeat trained concepts and don't think on spot. Reason most conversations are so worthless and superficial.
@@DeepInsideZettaiRyouiki yup, id rather talk about the conception of ism's and realistic life on other plannets then waffle on about the weather for two hours....the latter is like cruel and unusual punishment
I can't believe there aren't a few thousand comments about how beautiful you are--you're gorgeous!
I certainly hope she knows it.
So happy to see you back! Personally, I subscribed because of how sincere and non scripted your videos are. Felt like I was sitting on the floor with a friend talking about the things that I think about all the time with someone that actually relates. Much more personable than just another garden variety over produced channel with mad videos full of shallow content. If it's not broken, dont fix it. Anyway... that was my rant. Welcome back!
We miss you Katie Marie! ❤️ Hope you are well and taking care of yourself 🌷
I dream of having a friend like you. One that sees unlimited depth of emotion and dives into the sadness/joy of life. My hope for such a friend is always alive. Or maybe in another lifetime, kindred sensitive souls like us can intertwine...
I fell the same way
I'm in between an INFJ and an INTJ. You can picture me very easily smiling to myself when I hear your descriptions of being an INFJ. That's because I understand exactly what you say.
Please keep making videos. They're a relief for me and for the rest to know that we're not alone despite how isolated we feel at times.
I'm 61 and never knew what an INFJ was until today. I have every trait mentioned in another video. I always thought I was just weird. I knew I was different from most people I meet, but now I think it's everybody else that is weird. I see people around me going through life with their eyes open but they can not see. I went on several vacations alone. My mother said "you're going alone?" I said "am I not supposed to go on vacation because I'm alone?" I gave up on dating almost 20 years ago. Too many damaged people out there carrying steamer trunks full of baggage. I have removed all drama from my life by withdrawing from relationships. You are a very articulate young lady and I would love to sit down and have a 2 hour cup of coffee with you but it would never happen. I'm very guarded about who I let in. If you do a Patreon I would join and support you. I want to do a series of mentoring videos for young people to see what's really going on in the world. Schools are filling their heads with garbage and they are ill prepared when they get out into the workforce. Then there is that part of me that thinks nobody cares. LOL
lol I'm an ENFP , so naturally I love INFJs. I so love scrolling through the long, perfectly written comments. You guys are wonderful. You seem to be a strange hybrid of heart and brain that exists nowhere else in nature.
Whether or not you decide to make more videos, thank you so much for the ones you have already made! There is so much value in what you have done. I can't imagine opening myself up on a public video like you have, I struggle mightily to even open up with people I'm close to. I'm so lame this is the first time I've ever been willing to post a comment on RUclips, haha, and I'll probably get nervous and delete it. In making this sacrifice of your personal privacy, you have allowed so many people with similar personalities the cathartic experience of hearing another person put into words the feelings we've experienced seemingly alone throughout our lives. I don't want you to feel like you have to force yourself to continue making more videos, I know how much that must go against your nature. Thanks so much for taking one for the team! For the record, I like the simple video setup, it seems "realer". Haha
Thank you so much!! It’s a crazy thing, I know, being more comfortable opening up to strangers on the internet than most people in your real life... I have a habit of deleting everything I post on the internet, too. I’m happy you didn’t delete this comment. You’re helping affirm the idea in my head that I’ve done something good here. You make me feel so accepted. Thank you for being you and sharing yourself in this comment :)
Lovely Katie, take a breath love..... You hurt your knee and you
will be all right. It is okay to cry. You are loved and that's the
most important thing in the world. Everything else will be what it
is. Peace and love to all
Dear Katie,
it's 4am right now in Germany (or at least it was when I started writing this yesterday 😄) and I'm here on my balcony. It's unbelievably foggy right now and you can barely see 3 meters ahead. It's not cold or warm it just is. It's amazing! No people, no sensory input, just existing in a gray sphere 😍 I recently discovered your videos after watching a lot of INFJs over the past two or so years and I think you are absolutely amazing! It is incredibly brave of you to put yourself out there while you are still healing and discovering so much about yourself 🙊 Most of the INFJ creators on RUclips are older and have "figured themselves out" already so they can give advice from another perspective than someone who is still in an early phase of their development. This can sometimes be more helpful because they can "show you the way to the goal" which they have already walked themselves but I think that your perspective is also incredibly helpful and I (24) can see so much of myself in you. We are not identical and we don't have to be but it is so refreshing and relatable to see your current struggles and how you try to overcome them. You may not be our guru but I think we can grow together and learn so much from each other and that can be far more valuable than just following the perfect already proven instructions of a mentor. That's what is really unique about you and your channel and I hope that you will continue to share your thoughts with us whenever you feel like it 🥰 I love seeing the classic "Is this making sense?" of a questioning INFJ after perfectly explaining the situation in an intuitive and analytical way because we know that soooo many people lack this thought process 😅 Also this like "gripping of the right words" from the air like we puzzle together our inner feelings and try to translate them into speech. Sadly that is where we feel that so much gets lost in the process. That is why we choose our words so carefully, write better than we speak and feel like art can describe our inner workings far better than simple words. On that note this song by Florence + The Machine: "All this and heaven too" describes this struggle nearly perfectly:
"And the heart is hard to translate
It has a language of its own
It talks in tongues and quiet sighs
And prayers and proclamations
In the grand deeds of great men and the smallest of gestures
And short shallow gasps
[Pre-Chorus]
But with all my education I can’t seem to command it
And the words are all escaping, and coming back all damaged
And I would put them back in poetry if I only knew how
I can’t seem to understand it
[Chorus]
And I would give all this and heaven too
I would give it all if only for a moment
That I could just understand the meaning of the word you see
Because I’ve been scrawling it forever but it never makes sense to me at all"
You have such a cute way of running wild with examples and stories because your Ni jumps all over the place within the connections of your mental web and creates such a detailed situation in seconds 😄 I love it and it's really hard to stay on track when telling a story and your mind wants to jump to completely "unrelated" (from the outside) topics.
I think a lot INFJs miss this mirroring in some form or another because it's hard to understand your abstract way of thinking from the outside (some of the times we don't even understand where our thoughts and insights are coming from, we just "know" through subconscious processing 😅)
I for example was quite lucky because I have a good circle of friends where some of them are intuitive types (INTJ, INFP, INTP) and they understand different aspects of my messy mind 😂 But it's really hard to find somebody who really gets you and you realize this through small details and in the way they say the things you just thought a minute ago but kept in because it would have been "to weird and out of nowhere" for most people 😅
I also have this disconnect where I generally have a really good relationship to my parents but I never really talk to them about my struggles because their thought process is so completely different from mine.
I really think the idea of a Discord could be a great start and I also understand that you don't want to be the epicenter of this. Then you would have created a community of INFJs talking to each other but you yourself would be again isolated in a way because you couldn't respond to everybody who wants to talk to you and therefore you'd rather not respond at all so that it's not "unfair".
That is also a pattern I tend to fall into. Our kind of "all or nothing" mentality and being perfectionists to a fault 😅 Either I'm doing it perfect 120% or I'm not gonna start it at all because it won't be perfect 🙈😂 That is really a hard thing to work on 🙊 I think you should try to talk to the people you like and let the rest of the community interact with itself. Sadly you can't respond to thousands of people individually every time but that shouldn't stop you from making new friends and connections 😊 You definitely deserve to find new friends because you are such an awesome person 🧡 It is really sweet of you that you want to talk to us all and you are so endearing and nice Katie! Maybe the channel could develop into a kind of community channel (if you would want this) where different people can contribute parts they would like to share. That brings in new faces that you/we can talk to and takes some of the "attention/pressure" off of you.
I also love your candid setup! It's nice because it feels like talking to a friend in their room on the floor and not like a perfectly stylized video. We already try to do every single thing perfect in our life so it's nice to not get that feeling of pressure if it's an "imperfect" video so this feels more relaxed and authentic.
So Katie it's 4am again the next day and this time with an amazing thunderstorm (which is the best weather that exists)
I hope you have an amazing new week and lots of love from Germany 😋
Martin
I just turned 51 last month and want to share wisth you how I have revisited this topic, many years after having taken a full Myers Briggs in college in an Education class. I was an INFJ then and am think that I am still one today. 💕 I wish that I had been more intentional throughout the years and in college to learn more about it so that I could develop my strengths and ovecome weaknesses, I think that I would not have allowed myself to be mistreated by certain individuals in my life. You are at SUCH a good place - we are all uniquely and wonderfully created, for a wonderful purpose. LOVE your logic, point. 💕
So glad you’re good. You were part of my motivation to upload my first video. Your raw, honest nature and calm demeanor are a gift to all of us viewers.
Don't get too deep in what every person has to say, or you will be overwhelmed. I know you want to help people and connect with them, but you need to make sure you're looked after.
Understand what are self-destructive behaviours for you, and don't feel guilty for doing what's healthy for you. As an INTP, society really doesn't understand INxxs, and for INFJs, (given how people focused you are,) it's worse. Make sure you're getting YOUR answers.
Figure out what you want/need. Do you need friends? Ok, what do you need them for? Make sure your relationships are giving you what you need.
How's the introspection going?
This comment gave me the kick in the pants I needed
This is so sweet :)
Recognize too that the way RUclips is set up actively stifles genuine conversation. It caters to dumping content out and not receiving real feedback.
I ran into that a couple months back making 2-3 large on topics comments on a couple channels only for the spam algorithm to trigger and suddenly anything more than a few paragraphs gets shadowbanned.
I long for the old days of the internet when non-reddit message boards abounded and provided the very thing you're seeking for a decent place to have good conversation with others. Sadly the way social media has gone, that seems to be the very thing platforms do not want.
My exposure to INTPs in real life has been limited, so I really appreciate whenever I receive a comment from one. I feel like you are able to distill all of my emotional ramblings into the main point of the matter and give me the honest feedback I need. I think what you said is exactly why I had to step away from youtube, because I was trying to somehow get back in touch with what it is that I want from this channel. It's like I almost need to learn to be more "self-centered," in a sense. And your logic definitely applies to many other areas of my life. So thank you for taking the time to comment, I seriously appreciate it.
I'm curious to hear- as an INTP, in what ways do you often feel misunderstood in the world?
@@katiemarie8899 Well, as an INTP, we're generally focused on finding the best system. For me, I try to find absolute certainty, which probably seems unreasonable or arrogant, but basically, I try to figure things out by finding the right perspective.
Hard to tell exactly what you mean by "self-centered", but here's the thing, (and some of that weird certainty for you,) you cannot help someone you don't have the ability to help. As such, your well-being, (and success,) is integral to your ability to help others. So, stop viewing it as a choice to put yourself before the world, because it's not a choice, it's a requirement. At least if you want to reach your potential for helping others.
It's not really about "feeling" misunderstood. People will respect Ti hero when it's giving them a solution that they're happy with, but paired with Ne parent, most of the time people don't understand why I spend so much time thinking about things that don't interest them. Being one of the most introverted types and being more focused on thinking, than doing, isn't something society appreciates. Even if it's to try to avoid the near infinite pitfalls of life.
Either way, I mostly was just focusing on how I think INFJs probably have it the worst. The other INxxs can focus on their thoughts, feelings, or projects, but to INFJs, people are core to their thoughts, feelings, and projects. Given the poor mental health of people, for INFJs, it must be like wading through an ocean of toxicity, yet you still wish to connect to them.
And, it might seem like a weird segway, but as I know you've been trying to deal with issues of being co-dependent, I just wanted to make sure you're approaching it in a healthy way. To sum up an essay, make sure you're addressing any self-destructive mindset(s) you have, such as fear and insecurities, but keep in mind your desire for closeness isn't a flaw, a weakness, or anything else that might make you wish to be harsh on yourself. (That somewhat assumed harshness is the reason why I wanted to say all this.) As someone who is extremely introverted, people 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 people. In this society that's becoming more and more self-destructive, due to trying to fill the void of loneliness, from being community-less, as a result to pursuiting of one's own "success"... Let's just say I'm glad there are people out there who naturally wish for the deep connections, that all of us need, despite how few seem to understand, or perhaps accept that. So don't hate yourself for what humanity needs.
If you want/need to talk more, let me know. Though expect me to keep the focus on you, and your well-being. ;)
INFJ life is so difficult especially when they segregate you from a young age based on academics. Then you're surrounded with emotionless INTJ's and INTP's and you feel so distant yet they really like you but have no one to really share who you really are with :(. I'm only beginning to understand who I am and why I made the decisions I made in my life and I want to thank you for revealing that part of me through this video. Inspiring
Funny, i was harassed and tormented for being too emotional and pretty much everything else was picked apart also
I love you. Today was the day I needed to watch, Katie. Helps to know we aren't alone! You're a STAR and I am STRUCK! You opened the gates! OMG please let me in. I'm Judd.
Not gonna lie, you are exactly the kind of person I would've wanted to talk to. But as an INFJ, I completely understand. To all of you INFJs, good luck in life! And remember to not give up. We may be different, but it doesn't mean we can't be happy :)
If the thought of people’s negative / indifferent opinions or even the thought of many eyes on you seem to pressure you. You must stop caring for opinions all together. That means you must only do this as a creative “self expression” only. If you care for people’s praise then you will also care for their scrutiny. But if you do it for “self expression” then the pressure of “am I doing this right” will vanish. We live in a world of conformity where people that dare to think differently are seen as “freaks” and I think that really sucks because then you are prisoner to such people. With this being said I know personally, it’s easier said then done.
-a fellow INFJ
Dont think of us as a stadium looking at you to entertain them but a stadium that smiles as you enter and nod their head as you think, vent, wonder and every statement will get at least half of us to raise our hands in agreement and the other half with hopeful suggestions to get the best from or avoid the pitfalls of form our pasts and those we have helped or failed to help.
This is the exact advice I needed to hear... but it's also the hardest pill for me to swallow. I struggle SO much with this - it's very difficult for me to do something solely for my own self expression. Even with other things.. I love to paint, but I can rarely get myself to finish a painting unless I am making it for someone else. I think working on "selfishly" making videos and tuning out the feedback, good or bad, is the only way to go about this youtube channel. I needed to hear this!! Thank you.
WORD BROTHER!
It is all too true. I know other NFs and we all seem to struggle around this central issue. It shows up in different ways. (ENFP)
Venel Prince I concur, and it takes a while to really learn this, doesn’t it? You have to be willing to protect yourself enough to make this a sort of “silent contract” between you and yourself. A contract you share with no one. Therefore, no scrutiny, no judgment. And to understand that you scrutinize and judge yourself that receiving more only breaks your spirit. Some people can do this more effectively on their own, some people need others. We don’t need the feedback.
Thank YOU for providing so many of us with a place to feel seen, safe and comfortable :)
Expecting to be healed from something you did to get out of your comfort zone, isn't what healing is. Loneliness is your charging block, keep making your videos if thats what you love. Or photography:) being brave on instinctual level is where our best work is done. Your not weird, your different and thats the blessing. Cherishing yourself and knowing that your followers back you up, was your real goal. Your family and best friend is all you need:)
I completely get where you're coming from. I have a similar mindset. all or nothing, black and white. either its perfect and meaningful or incomplete and worthless. its the grey area that's scary because it feels like a compromise with mediocracy. I hold myself to an incredibly high, mostly unachievable standard and when I feel like what im doing isnt a "perfect" representation of myself and my abilities I quit. seriously props to you for doing this and if you find these vids meaningful to you keep doing them because it seems like you have a great community that really values your input
I too struggle with this. After a particularly difficult year, I'm starting to internalize the "just do it" motto, whereby I force myself to take action even in the absence of a clear direction or solid sense of meaning.
You are more brave than I am. Turbulent INFJ here. I get so frustrated with not being understood. I'm glad you've found solace!
I’m glad you’re back. I’m especially glad that you have discovered you don’t have bad parts that need to be fixed. You’re great and unique just as you are. Of course, at the same time, I struggle with who/what I am. .... However you decide to go forward with your channel will be great, I’m sure. Whether you get all fancy with lights, or chill on your bed, I’ll still appreciate whatever you have to offer. As you said, there is a good amount of comfort in knowing there’s a place I can come to and see there are some many like-minded people. ..... I hope your confidence continues to be at a good spot. Take a deep breath, Katie. You’re doing a really nice and meaningful thing here.
You are special and rare. God bless you.
I admit, I watch because everything about you is crazy adorable. It’s no wonder you’ve found celebrity status among INFJs. You should already know INFJs are not impressed fancy production or anything at the surface level. Just by sharing your journey, you’ve done an amazing service to the INFJ community. You’re obviously quite intelligent and kind. Peps just enjoy the intellectual exercise of your videos. First principle of InFJ is nothing to prove to anyone. Being selfish is a skill, INFJs need to learn. As long as YOU see a benefit from the channel keep up the good work. But always keep self preservation as a priority. Even INFJs will take to much if you let them. You’re in control here. Keep exploring the world, and you’ll find your place in it.
I only recently discovered your channel through your first video, and everything you expressed felt like my own thoughts being spoken back to me. I subscribed and then you posted this hours later haha. I am also an INFJ and a type 4 and I think it is important for our voices to be heard. I think a large reason that we as INFJ's and type 4's feel so isolated is because by our nature we are very hesitant to put ourselves out there without great hesitation! I am on a similar journey to you in terms of self-acceptance and resisting the urge to envy and emulate the more extroverted traits of others. I am learning to appreciate and improve myself in my own unique way. I feel as though if INFJ/type 4's shared more of their experiences and thoughts we'd increase our visibility in the world and increase the chances of reaching people who are deep within the internal struggles INFJ's/type 4's often face. This turned into an essay and I was about to apologise for that but I won't, because these were the things I wanted to say haha. Keep being you my dude, we were made for great things :)
Dear Katie,
I normally don't comment on YT, I'm much too private. In fact, I believe it may be the first time I felt like I had to. The unknown depths of the YT algorithms showed my this video of yours for some reason and in short, I ended up watching all your uploads but kind of in the wrong order from last to first and still was increasingly enchanted. How you go out of your comfort zone while staying completely true to yourself, not hiding behind a fassade is generally hard but for us INFJs it's another level of courage that is needed. You have come a long way and taking time to dive deep before you continue is simply your nature as our fellow INFJs certainly know.
Instead of commenting on your eerily relatable story and progressing insights, I'd like to share a story of my own with you and promise to keep it as short as I possibly can.
A brief intro is inevitable so here we go. I'll turn 40 next year and especially during my teenage years and my early twenties, I felt simply out of place and constantly misunderstood, just like you despite my notable successes that (as a perfectionist) were not few and my reputation as a talented, disciplined, likeable, handsome but reserved person preceeded me soon. I would still curse myself for every mistake I made even if I was #1 in the end of an endeavor. Perfectionism can really break you and is definitely more of a burden than a blessing because it keeps you from enjoying anything besides the absolute and makes you uncomfortable dealing with any kind of compliments. Everything changed when I realized that and here is in short how it happened:
During my undergrad studies in Germany I met a guy (ESFP) who was apparently everything I was not. A lighthearted, true social butterfly who made friends quickly and was able to motivate and empower even the most reserved fellow students (like me) to forget studying and just have fun or do something crazy. I admired him for that and went out of my shell to try and make friends with him. In short, that made all the difference in the coming 15 years.
As an INFJ I was quickly able to mimic his behaviour in my own way at first and became a popular social butterfly myself which was great for a while and I made a lot of good friends during this time who truly appreciate me now but would likely never have noticed me otherwise. Then the friendship deepened and I got to know about all my friend's weaknesses and insecurities which, amazingly for me, did not drag him down at all and even made him more relatable/likeable to others when he openly displayed them.
Wow. That's when I finally realized nobody can really connect deeply with a seemingly perfect person. To be a complete human being you need to have a history of successes and failures alike and sharing a number of these memories with others will form a relatable and likeable, trustworthy friend for most. The stories and experiences about how you f***ed up in your own special way but are still standing, are what make you unique, whereas success is often uniform. If you are confident to laugh about your failures but always get up again smiling to try one more time, being thankful for the lesson, you will inspire others without even trying and they will always enjoy your company.
And let's be honest, INFJs, inspiring others in their actions as glorious but humble paragon of virtue guiding them is somehow something most of us really crave from the bottom of our hearts. Here's the news though: To do that we do not need to be perfect, in fact if we try to be perfect, we will most certainly fail. We just need to be who we are and stand our ground confidently and convincingly with a mixture of seriousness and humor that comes naturally to us.
"So what's your point?" I wish I had a Euro for every time I heard that in my life :-)
My point is: Yes, the MBTI helps especially INFJs to stop feeling like an alien and understand that we are not alone and somehow "broken" out there But, the truth is simply, that you cannot complete yourself alone. Find a (best) friend, a partner or even an (arch) enemy who becomes a constant in your life and while respecting you as a person, forces you to grow constantly and drag you with them. They will challenge you outside your comfort zone and that is what you need because as a rule of psychology, you will never discover your true self inside your comfort zone... and trust me, this significant other able to help you with this does NOT need to be a fellow IFNJ and rarely will be.
Hi Katie. Somewhere in this video, you are asking a question like, "People would want to come to this channel and just watch/hear me talk?" Yes! But, probably being an INFJ myself, I can understand the anxiety of not wanting to be the center of attention or for people to look to me as an "expert" on a personality type.
Your voice is really calm/soothing. For some reason, I was thinking of an older TV show, "Felicity." Keri Russell seems to narrate part of the episodes with her own inner thought process.
I think, in a previous video, you had mentioned completing a degree in five years. WOW! My journey (if it's appropriate to share) was much longer. In grades K-12, I guess I was considered a "good student" who kept making the honor roll. The weird part was, I didn't specialize in any one subject or feel drawn to any particular field of study. At a young age, I saw a blueprint/floor plan in a book somewhere, and I had the artistic ability to copy it pretty faithfully. That must have been sent off in a letter to relatives, some of whom reacted like, "This means you're supposed to be an architect!"
At the end of high school, it was challenging to figure out how to pay for college. The only two schools in my state that offered an architecture degree were Ivy League or a technical school in a city with a high crime rate. I went to community college for a while (four semesters), still having an almost perfect GPA. They didn't offer any architecture courses.
(It feels like I've gone on too long already). When I finally did transfer to the technical school in the bad neighborhood, I was so upset by seeing the razor wire or the buildings with sheets of wood over the windows that I couldn't really focus on my assignments. The instructions didn't make sense to me, and then the professor didn't teach anything. He just gave me feedback and said that my drawing was "wrong" or "too geometric" (the instructions were to only draw lines and curves).
Eventually, I ended up in an online degree program that was marketed as "accelerated," or that the type A+++ students who typically enroll are able to finish in two years or less while giving birth to triplets in their spare time. I spent SEVEN FULL YEARS scratching and clawing to finish. There was a female mentor making weird requests of me. I never reported her to a supervisor.
To "summarize," I'm glad there are people like you in the world. I've thought about making YT videos in the past, and I don't know if I'd be able to do it on a consistent basis or to handle all of the sudden attention.
Also, wasn't sure if this question was weird to ask. Is reddish brown your natural hair color?
thank you katie -your words resonate in a very profound way-& as you say that us subscribers have influence you-the reverse is equally true. your brave vulnerability shines & gives us courage to express our own voice
Something I've noticed as an ENFP is that INFJs seem to attract emotionally/psychologically damaged people and the INFJ wants to help them...At the cost to the INFJ own soul and energy. I hope Katie, and the many other INFJs here, can find boundaries and focus on healthy people that will inspire and help YOU :)
I am now trying to work on these boundaries because I now know that a lot of my problems have been because of not having boundaries. Thank you for the comment.
I've always loved the sound of an orchestra tuning up on stage, not playing anything in particular, just getting the instruments on song and ready to jam. This felt like that in terms of expressing your ideas and feelings in your charming way, and I can't wait for the symphony proper to begin. 6,600 kindred weirdos have subscribed to the show at this point. No pressure or anything ;)
I'm glad you are okay. Be good to yourself dear lady. You gave us the comfort of knowing that there are people like ourselves in the world and it is beautiful. Thank you.
Right here with you, walking around the world like a weirdo. 😉
I feel this, lol
Watching you work through ideas and think over how you want to say something is almost uncanny because I express myself so similarly. Thank you for making these videos - you make me feel like the way that I think and feel isn't weird.
I COMPLETELY agree!!
I'm very happy you've gotten a lot of positive changes in your life as a result of taking this really strange leap. I had a similar response, but as the listener, in that so far, I've related to 90-100% of everything you've said, and I've always got where you were coming from. And it's given me a lot of hope and helped me wake up from being stuck in my mind and not getting why no one I talked to really got what I was saying. I mean even in your INFJ/INFP friendship video, every movie you listed I really loved and was close to my heart, I didn't even believe it, seeing someone else find importance in the same stories like that. Unreal. So thank you, as you have honestly changed my life for the better. Knowing that there are actually other people out there that are like me and get me is a feeling I really needed. Thank you Katie!
You are an inspiration! So happy i have micraculously been led to your channel. Thank you for your videos - you helped me feel like less of an alien freak.
Katie please make more videos , its so hard to find similar people in life and be relatable .
Yes mast3r3
i agree it's so hard to find similar people's like Katie Marie . that , we can relate
to keep making videos Katie we understand 😊 you ❤️ we are the same type as you are we are unique 💖
Hi 👋
Katie Marie:
Welcome back to your
Channel i know it takes. alot
Of courage for us to do certain things we have to build up.alot of courage to do somethings that's not so easy for us infjs but, once we get started we can be on the roll for awhile . Then we will take a break for awhile it's .all depends on how we feel. That's just us as an infj 😘
It's funny 'cause I just rewatched an old video of yours yesterday wondering where you were. I can understand how overwhelming it can get. Best wishes with what you choose to do next.
I hope no narc's get through! Protecting your self was the correct instinct to follow in my opinion and my first impulse was to reassure you about that.
This is a quote from Albert Einstein:
"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."
This quote really helped me find my own path. Since your last video, I have personally found and accepted my true self. You were instrumental in that. I know you're uncomfortable being a figurehead, but you are doing genuinely awesome.
For a frame of reference here, I am a ghostwriter and I have worked on and written some incredibly high-status projects - even one that ended up becoming an international cinema hit. I've been writing professionally for years. Recently, I was asked to run a ghostwriting masterclass in the area which I am considered 'an expert'...but I turned it down? Why? Because I didn't want to be some kind of central figurehead or font of wisdom. I was like 'who am I to be telling people how to do what I do?'
Remember, you are no less valid because YOU don't believe you are. The reason you got so many followers so quickly is due to your vulnerability, honesty and compassion. Energy is held eternally in videos and yours are dripping with compassion, kindness, wisdom and love. You ARE valuable, and you ARE worthy of this platform. I know the key issue is that you're not comfortable with it, but keep in mind that that is just a falsity conjured up by self-doubt. Us humans are pattern finding machines. The more we do something, the more we get used to it and the less it scares us. This is your platform to use as you see fit and ultimately, it's up to you. Just remember that the more you do something, the less scary it becomes. Who knows? You may really get into it and start selling merch and your very own digital courses where you sell common sense for $3,000 a client! 😂
On another note, you should look into self-actualization. I think it might really benefit you.
Another thing that's awesome for self-exploration is looking at your natal chart. Seriously, here is a link to a free one:
astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php
It is to do astrology, but I swear to you, this will resonate deeply with you and you will gain a fuller and deeper understanding of yourself.
Whether you think astrology is nonsense or not, just give it a go. I'm not here to convert anyone. And without sounding too 'hippy' here, EVERYTHING is cyclic and has a natural flow (as I imagine you can feel in your child-like wonder state), so why wouldn't the planetary alignments at our birth have an effect? Tree reach out to find each others roots,.pigeons can find their way home from hundreds of miles, the screen you're looking at now is not actually solid. There is a huge flow of which everything is a part of. We look below us and around us and see it in nature. We look above us and see it in the movements of the planets around stars; why are humans the exception from this flow?
I'm not saying I'm right, I'm just asking you to give it a go. You never know, it might change your life 😉
For what it's worth, Carl Jung, (the originality father of typology whose worked inspired the MBTI system) was very into the exploration of astrology. He was an INFJ too 😉
Oh, also, do me a favour and DONT REPLY TO THIS COMMENT! I'm just trying to be of service in the same way that you are, (see, there is back and forth 😉) so I'm not messaging for a message back. Just want to help is all. Take care and keep on shining bright...
And remember, you're a fish; STOP JUDGING YOUR ABILITY TO CLIMB A TREE
❤
It's a sweet and valuable allegory, but Albert Einstein never said that. Thought you should know.
Katie, you are such a beautiful woman in all your aspects of being. Keep being brave in your experiences and be true to yourself. You give such beautiful gifts to those you encounter! Remember, only love has the right to rule!!
You are doing a superb job. Love your authentic and genuine insights
Hi Katie Marie. i seriously started tearing up when you talked about mirroring (a lack of it) in childhood. that resonates deeply. i’m going through a breakup this week and feel dysfunctional and alone. hearing you talk about reaching a place of self acceptance in your life gives me hope that i can get there too. i’m sure it’s draining to post and respond, please take care of yourself first and foremost. thank you for helping me feel lighter. here are some melancholic songs i like Run - Vallis Alps, Mynolia - Train of Thought, Bon Iver - Re: stacks
Hi Jasmine, I'm so sorry you're going through a breakup. I went through one as well, not too long ago. Though I speak about my self acceptance on my channel, I still will have weeks or months where I feel desperately lonely and dysfunctional. So, I understand how you are feeling more than anything. I love the songs you suggested as well, I hadn't heard the first two, but Re: stacks is actually my favorite Bon Iver song (not surprised we both love it!) Here are three songs I've listened to a lot recently, Novo Amor - Seneca, S. Carey - Brassy Sun, and Sylvan Esso - Slack Jaw. They make me feel sad and hopeful at the same time. Sending you a virtual hug
Katie Marie i love the songs, Novo Amor is on repeat
Thank you so much for putting yourself out into the world. Your vulnerability/courage is so healing for me. Watching your videos is a safe place for me because I feel like you are a kindred spirit.
So glad to hear from Katie and you and everyone else making comments it is so nice to know there are many people like myself out there.
It is extremely hard for us INFJ to do the thing we want to do, especially when we’re considering putting ourselves “out there.” We spend so much time in our heads, thinking of the outcomes of events, intuiting responses to events, rethinking approaches, re-intuiting changes and so on, that it’s often times more fun to live in that world in our mind instead of actually doing something. When we finally commit and do - when we make the choice out of the infinite possibilities - it is euphoric. We release tension and explore our new reality and fully commit to the experience. I’m glad you were able to push through that Ni+Ti loop and make a new video!
I recently had such an experience, where I could have lived in my mind, but instead forced myself to do something. I saw some random person on the internet, and my Ni+Ti started up, wondering what conversations with that person would be like. I could have shelved the idea along with a hundred other ideas that day, but something sat with me, and for whatever reason I decided to “do”. I reached out and tried to contact that person. Unfortunately, the euphoria of that decision overtook me, and I lost control of myself. This in turn made me come across in a way which I did not process with Ni+Ti to see an outcome; could not process, even, due to the chemical induced blindness. I think you’d agree though, that in the end when you look back, you’re glad you didn’t let the idea sit in your mind and pass away like all the other ideas. I applaud your courage in continuing to put yourself out there and share your experience.
I deeply appreciate your openness, authenticity, and vulnerability. Thank you. I feel seen and it seems like many others do too. Wish you the best in whatever your future holds!
No my dear sweet soul, thank YOU!!!👍🏻💖 Blessings, and stay well🙏🏻
Mirroring: I feel the same way about the infj community here on RUclips. In the year that I discovered it, I grew to accept and love myself more. I found healing like you did. I think we all understand the overwhelming feeling of being exposed you described in regards to your channel growing. I would feel that way too. You’re great and you remind me that I’m great too just by talking. I suspect most of us grew up misunderstood and it caused low self esteem. It’s a daily battle for me personally. Watching you reaffirms my own strengths
So glad to see you back, by missing you we infact miss our own thoughts and ways that you put into words!
Your authenticity is much needed in this world, you're a beautiful example for others. Just as men lack good strong masculine role models, women lack examples of radiant feminine role models. You are an awesome example. This is probably what so many are responding to you👍
It's so crazy, even hearing the way you talk it's like listening to the voice in my own head! Its so nice to hear someone have the same sort of thought processing I do
Iv only just started to watch your videos, and I think your a wonderful young lady and I have finally found someone who I feel I totally understand you. You are a ray of sunshine cause I'm very much the same type of person. Your very brave to do RUclips videos and your so interesting to listen to. You keep on growing yourself, and you make complete sense with everything you say. Wish I had you as a friend cause i could talk to you all day about so much. Hope that doesn't make you think I'm a weirdo. Anyway your aiming high. Good for you. Keep making RUclips videos cause you have lots I am learning from you. Anyway your an inspiration to me. So keep it going and bgood. 🙂
When you said you made that example too detailed, I could relate 100% because I literally do that ALL THE TIME with examples. I do that even if I’m having a conversation with myself lmao. Anyways, I finally decided to now comment after watching a couple of your videos and getting lost in the comment sections just reading what everyone had to say. It’s nice knowing there are other people out there like me and that I’m not alone. I’m an INFP-T by the way.
At the age of 51 i have never heard anyone I could relate with. Ever. Thank U....
I'm new to posting INFJ videos and I'm still learning and sharing my experiences.. I've been meaning to watch your videos because i didn't know if you were coming back.. so, welcome back and congrats
I have the same pausing between words as you, you think deep i like your speech, so honest and straight forward. Keep on your great inner work.
Love from a 64 years old man in Denmark 💚🌹🍀
Katie, Thx for your videos. You are a wonderful person. Wish all the world could be like u. Cried seeing this one, don’t know why. Just suddenly bursted out sitting working with my stuff. Maybe just my situation. Maybe because I realize that my own INFJ journey starts now. Right now. Maybe because it hits me how many years I’ve wasted feeling alone, wrong, from another world, beeing in a very unhealthy relationship. Now I’ve just been divorced. We were together 17 years, 2 lovely children which I love deeply. Its been a nightmare. Still is. Complicated. She was as my sister pointed out a narcissist (my sister is a clinical psychologist). When I started to educate my self it all struck my like a lightning. Making sense. All of it. Its so overwhelming. Anyway seeing u Katie was like seeing someone I could understand or totally relate to. Even when u don’t make sense u do to me. Anyway take care. I wish u all the best. And also so many wonderful comments under this video. Thx all of u. Take care of u self.
You’re such a lovely person. This INTP is very happy you’re back.
It is astounding meeting fellow infjs, i thought i was just a lonely soul, didnt fit the cookie cutter kind of kid...always thinking, outside the box was my place to start..following that sherlock holmes kind of thought that whatever pain someone was having was every cause until id managed to eliminate every possible reason then what remained must be the cause of it....that a blade of grass was as interesting as a mountain view at any moment...dont worry about us being so many, we are just overjoyed to meet another genuine infj, not a wannaby, like whod want this...lol...or troll...like what trophy do you get for trolling infjs?but that 1 in a 100 person we coukd happily talk and listen to for days without stop, learning those pieces we never found to our own jigsaw minds.
It's so meaningful to hear that this small community has made a really positive difference in you. I can also appreciate this minimal production style, especially because it's less stressful to do. You're such a precious and valuable human being. Thank you for being brave and making these videos! They've helped many, myself included, have a healthier mindset and feel less lonely and isolated. All the best!! 😁
Hi Katie, it feels so refreshing hearing from you again. Thank you,. . and YES, my eyes were glimmering when you said, there are weirdos walking with you. Me too, and i feel you. It gives me hope in such a profound way beeing not alone. PS: Today in the morning, i was ask for, when we get started, as i was standing like a quirk of fate before one of my artclasses. So i then started the class with this quote: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
― Howard Thurman
RUclips is weird like that because it's often one sided and it's okay. I know us INFJs want to connect mutually and deeply. When you can't it's stressful.
Please know you're loved, you have full permission to be your authentic self and know that if you feel led to make YT videos then cool, if not then cool :)
Love this comment!!
Her does not need permission. She wears a crown
You are not alone, and in finding you I have realised I am not alone !! Thank you very much !!
Something that has always got me through life is the statement "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - Jiddu Krishnamurti
Being quiet, thoughtful and empathic is not wrong.. Being loud, shallow and not a nice person is not something to strive for... Keep the same and keep the videos coming please. Though take your time I am quite happy to wait :oD.
FYI .. I hide in a shed, its quiet and I can work on my projects.
I don't know what you should do, I do not even know what I should do, but I thank you for what you have done already.
i'm so happy you're back!
There are so many thoughts here that I connect with and so many times I just nodded my head along with everything you’re saying. Thank you so much for being authentic and connecting with so many people by sharing your truth
Having back and forth dialogue is definitely helpful to overthinking less and developing ideas! You're doing great, Katie! This is so cool. Keep it up! If you're ever in San Francisco you've got a friend in me! ENFP here so excuse me for the over-the-top kindness haha
You are able to speak these ideas that are so profound. I'm inspired. I wish I would have known I was an infj and what that meant when I was a teenager. Knowing that may have made my life a little less stressful.
Hi Katie Marie!
I don't think I can express enough, how happy I am to have found you and your channel. You say that everybody here helped you heal and accept yourself, but think of the impact that you have had! And as a INFJ (4w5) I know that making these videos has been uncomfortable (even if liberating) for you. :)
All I really wanted to say was that I really appreciate you - and that's not some dumb superficial overstatement. I really do!
Everything you express goes straight to my heart, because it is so familiar and it comes from your sincere, deep eyes. It really hurts me deeply that a beautiful soul like you (and me for that matter) was made to feel like a freak and an outcast, when we are indeed needed in this world... even if it is not always easy for us being here. So, thank you for being in this world!
Please continue to come on whenever you want Katie. As INFJs we need more downtime than most and can struggle with consistency for the sake of consistency, it all has to make sense to us all throughout the process and has to be what we want to continue doing.
Today you spoke briefly on how parents can affect their INFJ children and that is one of my hardest issues right now. My parents do not understand how someone they raised can have opinions that differ from most of their opinions. They are not as open minded and feel disrespected if i express my views and say they feel neglected and rejected if i keep to myself because i know my opinions will bother them. My family is traditional and my dad has called me all kinds of hurtful words like a feminist and weird because of how im unbending in my principles and how my sense of whats right and wrong and justice is applied the same to everyone. They say that when it comes to family i should not be so strict with my views and show loyalty to my family instead and for the life of me i cannot do that. I feel between authenticity and loyalty, regardless of who the person is to me, i cannot abandon being true to me and telling the truth simply because someone is family. It really does hurt when an INFJ is not understood even at home.
Why did i write all this ? To tell you that i found comfort in your words. You are contributing in your own small way to validating others like you who may feel misunderstood. So Feel free to come on whenever you want and share your valuable perspectives. Sending you kindness and care.
Thanks again for your sincere sharing and openness. Kindred spirits love you ❤️.
Hi @Katie Marie I've just found your video today. I'm an INFJ to, I've always wondered why, I didn't quit fit or think like most people. It wasn't till I took the test and realised, that I was an INFJ personality and that it was rare. The personality fit me so well and finally, I could understand myself better.
I'm listening to your video and everything your saying, shows me and tells me how genuine you are. As you would know, someone being genuine and honest. Really resonates to us, it's what we tend to see first in people. Hence why INtuitive is right up there with INtrovert.
I hope to see more of your videos soon, it's important to share how we think as INFJ's. But, that's only if you feel, you are able too. We don't recognise how influential we can be, but if we have that gift (and I seriously think you have it). It would be great to share.
If you don't do anymore video's, I'd just like to say. I wish you well and peace in life. (PS I hope you keep doing videos lol...). Take care of yourself and all those that care about you.
Please!!! Dont stop making videos.. As a young male INFJ you really inspire me to truly get to now myself better in an alien world that I can see and hear yet not touch and comprehend. Your truly Awesome! :)
you are a non physical anchor for my perceptions that brings me back to my real self in every video. I don't know if I am an INFJ or not but nobody in my environment let me be like if I just listen to you. I would be very glad if you keep it up! Your work is very powerful.
Warm regards from germany
I usually don’t comment on mbti related videos but katie, you are a gem. I relate and connect to you so much. I watch your videos very often and trust me, it somehow relieves me from anxiety.
Hope you are doing okay. Hope this comment finds you healthy, mentally healing and functioning.
Wow yes! I wish I had learned to embrace me when I was your age!
Think captain Kirk!
“I want my pain! I NEED my pain!”
U wouldn’t be u without it!👏👏💪🧠🤗🙏🙏🤗
I just left 3 comments on your "peculiar traits" video and now, being the INFJ that I am, I'm worried that I'm contributing to the sense of overwhelm.
HOWEVER!!!! I know this is just one of my "peculiar INFJ traits"...Something that will likely always be a "proclivity" for me...but I hit that wall of "impossiblity" many years ago and had no other option but to learn to recognize when I was "over worrying" about others....and how unsustainable it ultimately is.
I'm not suggesting that there's anything "wrong" with being so sensitive to the needs of others...It's a gift, and it will likely always be with us...and is an amazing ability to be used appropriately....but I believe there comes a time when all of us INFJs hit that "wall of impossibility" where we realize we cannot single-handedly ease everyone's pain on an individual level (or in this case, to personally connect with thousands of people) People in our lives, yes...but in a platform such as this? Impossible.
Once we learn to recognize "what's ours to help fix" and at what level we can sustain, we save ourselves and our sanity. We have to accept our human limits and it sounds, from this video, that you've hit that wall and are getting a good grasp on that reality. Truly, it just sounds like there's an "adjustment" needed, based on this somewhat "new RUclips reality" you've discovered...and it sounds like you've already figured that out. I'll say again, as I did in the other video, everything looks "right on track" to me. As INFJs we're always going to be pushing forward in one way or another. We NEED to. This means we will discover new territory and struggle to navigate it, initially.
You do NOT need to feel bad about being overwhelmed and needing to back away. Random RUclips people don't expect you to be there for them on a personal level...even when sharing the details of their intimate/personal stories. There is so much Authenticity, Care and Truth packed in to just this one video that I'm bowled over with gratitude and just as all of the comments had a profound affect on you....YOU are profoundly affecting others just by sharing this Authenticity, Care and Truth. It's your gift and it far more than "enough". You know that realization that there are many others out there who "get you"?....and the enormous impact it had on you?....Just flip that around to know that THIS is the effect you're having on others. It's huge.
I say make videos whenever you're personally (and happily) inspired to do so....and ONLY then. That's the mindset that is going to produce your best videos anyway...and will likely feel like self-love/self-support which is something all of us INFJs need to put more attention on. If it drains you, or overwhelms you, I can pretty much guarantee it's an unhealthy move.
you lovely soul. Your videos helped me in the way that you explained certain comments and interactions on here helped you; to gain more clarity and confidence in just being who you are, within an INFJ experience. I felt such a shift in me upon hearing you. Thank you.
Hi Katie Marie, your videos mean a lot to me. I often feel very alone as an INFJ/enneagram 4w5, like I don't know my place in this world. I often feel strange, and it's hard to be part of a group. I wish I could do things with ease the way more extroverted types do, but I want to learn to be okay with who I am. Maybe some day I will. I feel a close connection to others who are like me, but it's rare to find that. Your videos provide me with a sense of comfort that I am not alone. Thank you for that
I've never taken the MBPI but I've always felt very connect the the world, so I never felt the need to read philosophy and whatnot, I was already feeling so much. Watching your videos I shared so many experiences with what you said - the non linear thoughts, the over-analysis, the anxiety, the toxic personal relationships, the need to develop boundaries, the somatic therapy - so many parts I could share with.
My big twist is I had a brain injury at 24 where I received six brain bleeds to my cerebral cortex. I was jumped on the street. So, while my brain did heel, I had to relearn how to function. I also had PTSD and complex PTSD. In a funny sense, the traits of being an INFJ helped me deal with so many aspects of this, of myself and my relationship to the world. Few people even knew what I was going through because of how quickly I could adapt.
Anyways - the point you made in a previous video of sympathetic and parasympathetic mechanisms, and becoming reliant on sympathetic for your own survival, this is how I survived for about 3-4 years after my brain injury. It wasn't until I realized exhausted I'd become from this that I needed to let it go.
I think you're great. I just caught onto your stuff lately and it's very thoughtful. Whatever you decide, thanks for what you've already done.
You are a treasure! Such a pure hearted person! ♥️♥️♥️
God has made each person unique :) I appreciate your honesty and the sensitivity in so many INF..'s and in other types too. Thanks for sharing
This video felt like i was listening to a good friend i hadnt seen in a long time. May the Gods bless you on your journey!
Really like these videos. I am definitely the only one in my family like this, so it’s super cool to see someone else who thinks along the same lines as me. Plus, I know the videos are just you thinking out what to say as your making the video, but that’s what makes them great because that’s how I would do them.
I feel like you mirror us too and your videos give us the confidence to leave our rooms lol. I also can relate to you somewhat personally.. I'm 30 and I'm just started to reconcile a lack of mirroring in my own childhood and finally understand what those implications really are. You realize how incredibly limiting it's been on your life. Listening to you talk about this stuff has been incredibly healing for me and also made me feel like I'm not just a crazy person either! We can grow and get better! We got this! Some ideas popped into my head when you talked about what kind of platform you wanted. You've probably already thought of these by now, but just in case: youtube livestreaming, and an intj and fellow youtube mbti'er Lijo just created a platform for one-on-one conversations with fans called "Snug". lol that one might be a little intense but I thought I'd mention it in case it was helpful. Anyway, you're the best! Thank you for coming back to make another video
This is the third video of yours I watched and I feel I have to write a comment... I don't know why I came across your channel, but I feel so lucky that I have! How come I feel I totally get you and literally resonate with every point you're making. It is so good to know that there are people like you on this planet!! I haven't studied mbi types in depth, so I know close to nothing about the different functions and so on, but I remember the result of a test I took years ago and it stuck with me : ENFP. Seems to be quite different, but I totally relate to your experiences! Your creativity (photography, music, even making artful video clips and feeling this is more YOU then your physical being, journaling...), your intense empathy, the deep processing of...everything.. the strong need to speak up for another human being.. jumping topics and connecting b to z, that's what I do all of the time and most people think it's unrelated and don't understand me at all and I can't tell you how many told me: you're so weird - in fact it was the first thing I remember a boy told me back in kindergarden and then I found out later that it meant he really liked me;-). When you talked about your dad and how you are able to connect with him I got a bit sad, because it reminds me.. my dad and I connected in a special way as well, we had these explorative deep long conversations.. he passed away at a young age and it's like a whole universe went away
Don't know... I just wanted to let you know that I think you're beautiful inside and out, keep being yourself and thankyou for making these special videos:) I love your authenticity and personality. I even think maybe I should go and find an infj male somewhere:-D !
Have a great day to all infj's who might be reading this and heart felt greetings from Germany!
..Oh and..you don't need to answer to this:) I know you get hundreds of comments.. maybe you won't even read this..what the heck am I thinking?!;D --- well, I better stop now
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I never considered self acceptance until I saw this. It was always faults that should be mended and molded into something else. You are brave and very strong to be walking this path.
I absolutely love how brave you are.to be able to put it all out there. INFJ 34 y/o ( 4w5 )... you’re amazing!
Thank You 💜for sharing,it's beautiful
Hi Katie. Great to see the INFJ personality is getting some authentic exposure. Other videos have been vague at times but hearing you speak confirms how I think at times and what struggles/traits I have. I only discovered the MBTI about a year ago but it's fit nicely into my journey of self discovery along with other interests of mine. It would be good to know what other INFJs are into. I for example am into yoga/meditation/breathwork as practices. I do partake in plant medicine and psychedelics which may be controversial but honestly have been the most powerfully healing experiences I've had. Relationships have been my biggest struggle in terms of finding it very hard to trust people and open up about my own feelings. Anyways thank you for sharing your experience and helping others understand. Peace and love 🙏
Hi Katie You are the Beautiful True Manifestation of an INFJ!
It Took Me 30 yrs & a Whole Lot of Mistakes & Close Calls to get to an Understanding that Being INFJ is the Greatest, Most Confusing, Most Brilliant Terrifyingly Awesome Gift the Universe has to Bestow Upon We Who Deserve It!
Always Go with Your Gut Because You are the Real Deal!
P.S May I Suggest.Call in with Katie & Co Group Chats or Live Stream to Share Ideas, Experiences & Stories.
"Stay Brilliant"
So glad you decided to return. 🙏🏻
I've never seen anyone speak so authentically before. Your videos are truly powerful and very moving. As a fellow INFJ I relate to a lot of your thoughts and perspectives. I think your channel is the perfect hub for a community like this. I hope you continue to make videos but don't feel pressured to. I love how you ended this video with smile. Don't ever lose that, it's beautiful.
That's right take time Katie
We can wait on you
You are worth the wait ☺️
You are obviously a very funny girl and a blast to be around for your humor and crazy personality. I'm seriously crazy about you already.
Keep talking.... Without hesitation.... Do not stop!!!!!we are listeninggggg👂
Were never prepared and I wish I could speak out like you have .. thanks
While many of us appreciate your humble, vulnerable perspectives & insights, you owe us nothing. As a fellow INFJ, the best thing you can do for us (but mostly yourself) is to keeping growing and healing. To the degree that that includes your presence here, be present (even uncomfortably). As you know already, it can be way healthier (than we fully understand in the moment) to just release junk from your head. To the degree that you actually need breaks, take them (even if you miss us). We're with you; press on ❤
God bless.