It's more they gas light themselves. "It didn't happen like that, I'm a good person" Then they tell themselves this until they literally no long remember what happened
@andyp4437 Those who do not remember the past are doomed to repeat it. And those who do not atone for their sins can not be forgiven. It can even be argued that by willfully "forgetting" their bullying past, they are, in fact, continuing to bully their victims. And even if they truthfully could not remember, a decent person would apologize for any hurt or pain they caused another when reminded of it, if only to help alleviate another's suffering and help their healing journey.
No seriously, i think its actually a thing. Most people somehow dont remember their behaviour as bullying. Its just a small part of their high school experience while its way bigger for the person experiencing it sees it way bigger
On the bullying story: I once had a guy lie and say I was sexually harassing him and almost got me expelled from high school. I met him again years later and he genuinely didn’t remember me. For me it was my life almost getting ruined and for him it was just another Tuesday.
that's how it be - usually the bully doesn't remember bc it's just another day for them, but the victim is scarred for life this can happen with like stray comments that aren't intended to be offensive, or even a comment that's meant to like encourage you, in a way.
About the guy secretly "dating" the girl for a year: I guarantee you most girls listening to this story saw the coffee shop scene coming. We've all experienced men like this.
I knew IMMEDIATELY that he was gaslighting her by acting like he was her boyfriend all of a sudden. He thought he was being slick. I’m bummed she didn’t call him out right away, though, and nip it in the bud. I would’ve been like, “Did you just call me ‘babe’??” before he ever had the chance to kiss me.
Yeah my first thought was that this was a manipulation tactic on his end. There’s no way it was a genuine misunderstanding. He thought he could trick her into a relationship 😅
A similar thing happened to my recent ex (my HS sweetheart. We're still good friends/roommates despite everything.) She unfortunately didn't have the self-worth back then to turn down the misogynist/emotional abuser he (of course) turned out to be. Even after breaking it off, even after we were dating long-term, even after /moving states/ and going almost completely no contact for ~5 years he still acted like they were together despite her constant protest. Took nearly 10 years to untangle the whole mess. Was very grateful to hear OP shut it down!
Absolutely NEED you to cover this one called “i didn’t get a job because i was a bully in high school.” It’s in best of redditor updates and it is WILD.
That last story becomes so clear as soon as Shayne reads "he started sharing his opinions about women with me". That guy went from ok dude to incel in one sentence.
Which honestly makes me feel like it's maybe be fake... like you're telling out of all the time, they've hanged out not once those opinions ever came out.... not even like in an argument... it's just too perfect of a scenario...
@@nickenglehart6469it’s happened to me with some guy friends. Most immature “Andrew Tate” men know that it’s looked down upon and women don’t like it, so they’ll genuinely hide it until they get into a situation where there is tension with a woman.
@@nickenglehart6469 its happened to me before. Men like that will hide it because they KNOW the women in their life wont tolerate it, so instead of just changing their views they keep it hidden. It's crazy people behavior
@@nickenglehart6469I've been in similar situations, people are very capable of hiding opinions and sides of themselves until tension arises and their tongue slips.
@@cricketcoop2038yup. My mindset is they're all dumb for banking everything on this single thing, ESPECIALLY the ones who wouldn't graduate if they failed. Even then if you're gonna depend on the study sheet at the very lowest least SHOW UP! 20% grade for attendance is not something to just shrug off. At least show up even if you're not gonna put in effort and depend on what they were treating as basically a cheat sheet. Don't know the timeframe between the mid and final term, but that's a big chunk to just shrug off so you can go party.
The fact that everyone told this girl she "caused them" to fail is so wild. She was literally just attending the class, she's not obligated to help other people who don't even want to be associated with her.
Right. If it’s a 20/40/40 deal and you got a 75 on the mid, I’d think you’d be doing everything in your power to bump up that attendance score. Like the curve can help a bit, but really get the easy points.
The reason the brother didn't tell the family is 100% because he was afraid his sister would tell the family and thought she wouldn't say anything if they were all at dinner.
I also think he knew that if he told them her name while dating they would not approve at all. With how the parents reacted, it's almost a guarantee that he knew (even subconsciously) that if he could make it all the way to the fiancee stage that his parents would be willing to drop the issue.
Yeah he knew exactly how the sister was going to react solely on that, because what do you mean you do not tell the family who you’re dating, not even her name until you meet her AFTER she said yes to becoming his fiancée?
The last one is terrifying for so many reasons. Imagine a person you trust manipulating your life without you even knowing. That’s nightmare material and I hope OP is okay.
Misogynistic stories like the last one usually send me down a pessimistic spiral because I’ve been through some really bad gaslighting situations. But hearing these three guys talk about it in such an emotionally intelligent, caring, and mature way, helps remind me of all the good guys out there who still understand what’s right.
Yeah I think both women and men have good and bad people. It's just that we see the negativity and that's all we can think of. We might see just as much good but it gets less attention or it's not as memorable because negative emotions are so much stronger.
Agree 100%, which is also why I got really happy seeing Noah's very obvious reaction to when she said he grabbed her when she tried to leave. Men knowing right from wrong for these cases is always a relief
@@SEAkuaayeah propably isn't right of the comment above to associate gaslighting with just one gender. But I get why. The trauma my mom gave me makes me weigh my words much more carefully around women and I start having a panic attack when I have to disagree with them. Linking trauma to a gender can happen pretty easily.
@@SEAkuaayou are ignoring that men, because of society, tend to be misogynistic therefore they tend to gaslight and force women into doing stuff they don't want to do, yeah all sexes have "bad people" but at this point is more of a problem the majority of men have so that is an issue that we can't ignore, i hope you understand. Sorry for my english
yo that last story hit really hard, because I feel like a lot of women including myself eventually have that crazy mindfucky moment in high school or college when they realize that guys they thought saw them the same way they see themselves actually view them in a completely unhinged, misogynistic way and it really changes your entire worldview
My first bf was like this. His family held the same beliefs but they all kept it silent because they knew others would judge them?! Yeah, that is a big hint for them right there that maybe their beliefs are unhinged and misogynistic. The bf was unhinged, but the mom saying this stuff made my head spin and then I lost a little faith in humanity.
To be fair, this dude was exceptionally stupid. He was one youtube recommendation away from believing in flat earth theory and that the moon landing was faked, IF he doesn't already
@@highdefinition450hy do you think that? Any story anyone tells has a chance of being fake, of course, but I personally don’t see any massive leaps in the story that makes it obviously fake. The fact that a lot of people can relate to having guys in their life the underlying belief system of OPs ex-friend, it doesn’t seem so out of left field for someone to act like this in real life, especially with the advent of alpha bro podcasts that can easily nitro charge their awful beliefs. I’ve met a lot of absolutely unhinged teens, I imagine a lot of us have, and a lot of them would have easily been able to do this if alpha bro content was prevalent back then. Kids lie all the damn time to your face and behind your back, truly nothing in this story is a reach in the slightest imo
My father has frequent seizures, diagnosed by a professional, he always closes his eyes when it happens and can recall if someone was touching him during the episode. in fact when one of our family friends were riding in our car when he had an attack, the friend tried to help by hold his shoulders down (a panic induced impulse to seeing the seizure I guess). when he recovered from the attack my dad told him not to do that because when the episode is happening it becomes a very scaring feeling and being pinned down only makes it worse. We mostly just protect his head or arms from hitting anything near by, or hold his hand until it stops.
@@elreturner1227 Mate thats NOT the point. Even IF it was fake and i have strong doubts about that, kid with barely passing knowledge is NOT qualified to make that distinction. He has no right to try pass judgment ESPECIALLY during seizure - there is real possibility he can make things worse at that moment, or at least delay first aid help from teacher or qualified individual. With health you NEVER take chances like that no matter your doubts.
I’m disproportionately happy that Reddit stories has legit sponsors now. That hopefully means we’ll keep getting story time with Shayne for a long time!
couldn’t agree more, but unfortunately betterhelp has a very shady history. i recommend looking into it, as they were fined $7.8 million THIS YEAR for selling users’ private info, and there have been countless stories of people getting very unprofessional or even scammers as therapists. get that bag smosh, but please not betterhelp!
Reddit stories with therapist Shayne isn’t going anywhere. It is one of the most popular shows out of all smosh channels. Super easy to make and brings in tons of views.
I have psychogenic non epileptic stress induced seizures, and people have told people I'm faking when they have literally ruined my life. The fact that people will say people are faking their disabilities is so massively upsetting. A psychogenic seizure isn't like some make believe thing, I have literally collapsed in the street having seizures... I'm conscious during my seizures and it's SO FUN to have people arguing over my spasming body, about if I'm faking or not. Thank you Shayne, for shutting down other people implying that you should try to figure out if someone's faking their seizures.
For anybody in the comments going through something like that last story, you are NOT overreacting to share your location. that situation can become stalking or worse very fast. It is never bad to be too careful---if you feel unsafe trust your gut. Take care of yourself and stay safe.
It was also very smart of her to meet him in a public place, from my perspective if she felt that she couldn’t speak with him in private she felt threatened by him, with good reason and that post could have ended very differently. I’m glad she’s safe now.
@@bej7784 I did wonder in the beginning if he had girlfriend zoned her and just assumed they were a couple because they spent so much time together but I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt. I should have trusted my instincts. It’s sad and really scary that this happens.
That final story scared me. Scared me to the core. To think that so many men, and even women, are falling into this hateful mindset. I just hope someday, people will accept one-another.
Ik right, I totally agree with you. That story is genuinely nightmare fuel. Imagine anyone you love no matter who or in what way is secretly, well, evil pretty much is terrifying.
The men being misogynistic af, alpha etc, meet the sexist, anti man women. I like read their Facebook arguments, but I don’t wanna meet any of them irl. Lol
The scary part is that so many of these people just can't be convinced that what they believe is bad. No matter how many rational arguments you throw at them, their brain just can't comprehend actual logic and form their own opinions. They need a big muscular cigar smoking dude to tell them what to think. They can't actually use critical thinking to reason about their opinions and question if they actually make sense or not. They're like conspiracy theorists. Trying to convince a flat earther that the earth is round is almost impossible. It's one of the fears I have of making friends with people online (or even real life). You never know how insane someone is until after quite a while.
@zaytin1 I'm a white person. However, I briefly dated a Korean-American boy once when I was 21 after my bf broke up with me. Didn't consider this going anywhere serious but omfg.. He was really immature and took pride in drinking and driving.. Like you're a psychology student at Emory why would you put that in the line? And told me I needed to shower more. I didn't stink, but for some reason me not showering twice every day wasn't enough. And made some comments that were just like... wow you don't understand how women work do you? Needless to say, that was an interesting experience.
my ex boyfriend fell into that hateful mindset, its insane how manipulative he became and i actually began to believe that i was the out-of-controll one by the words he was feeding me. id never wish those experiences on anyone. they can really ruin you.
That last story was a literal psychological horror movie for me. Like imagine having a best friend for years and then he is suddenly a misogynistic piece of garbage.
It’s so crazy to me that people need to be told this, as a cis man. Like, just talk to women, please. They’re not Lying to you about what women are like; if they tell you something and it’s different for some other women, that’s just because women are people and are Not a hive mind ffs
@@undeniablySomeGuy exactly, it’s not hard to ask and you’re right, women are not hive minded, we all have our own opinions and feelings - if a man would like to know what those feelings are, he needs to ask that person. We’re all different and feel differently but the only way to know how that person feels is by asking!
And take them seriously. I’m so tired of this sigma male mindset. You have to be strong you have to assert dominance you have to be aggressive. I’m so over it. That’s not how life works. Just because you found someone to manipulate doesn’t make it true.
As a nurse, I'm so glad you guys immediately debunked the seizure/tongue issue! I can confirm you don't want to insert anything into their mouth and don't want to restrain them during a seizure. You can move things away that they might bump into and can put a pillow, balled up jacket, or slightly elevate the head so it doesn't hit the ground, and call EMS if it lasts more than 5 minutes.
The one thing I took away from being a lifeguard as a teenager was that, when it comes to seizures, I think of two things, and two things only: “Don’t constrict the movement, but protect the head.” One of those things I never thought I’d use, but lo and behold, my younger brother had a seizure in the garage in front of me not six months ago. We never knew he was epileptic before, but that phrase was the only thing in my head, and I feel like it really made a difference
My cat has seizures, so I've done some general research on epilepsy. Most of what I know is regarding cats, but the recommended reactions seem to be relatively the same.
I had a high school classmate that faked having lung cancer. She was a chronic liar so I was skeptical, but wasn’t about to assume she was lying about something so serious. It was solidified as a lie when she came to school one day and she said she was “cured” because the doctors scraped the cancer out of her over the weekend.
HOLY SHIT LOL. I love how fked up the implications are when it comes to chronic liars like that. "Oh yea, I got my cancer scraped out over the weekend... Yup, easy as that.... Nah, anyone who dies of cancer just didn't bother getting it scraped out... You can defs do that..."
Someone in my middle school pretended to have eye cancer, and when everyone found out he lied they bullied him really hard. He ended up switching schools. I always felt kinda bad for him, but at the same time karma’s a bitch.
Lmao thats such a bad lie. They cant even operate on both lungs at once, because whichever one theyre working on gets deflated and needs a few weeks to heal before they do the other one. And it cant possibly all be taken out, they can only operate on a small part of each lung at a time and only go for the biggest or easiest to get to nodules…… and honestly its usually just for diagnosis, they take some out to test exactly what type of cancer it is and then treat it with chemo/immunotherapy. Source: i work in medicine and have a family member going through lung cancer treatment right now.
33:46 DO NOT GRAB A PERSON'S TONGUE OR STICK YOUR HAND INTO THEIR MOUTH IF THEY'RE HAVING A SEIZURE. they could bite your fingers off, and they could bite their tongue off if you mess with their mouth. they can't control their muscles and could hurt you/themselves that way. generally, don't touch/move them unless you're a medical professional.
Man, when the guy in the 3rd story said, "I'M okay with cutting YOUR parents out" really gave me Farquaad "Some of you may die, but thats im willing to take" vibes
For me it was weird that the parents were to blame.. the OP's partner chose to go to a for profit private college to get a degree she should have known wasn't going to get her a job, and paid for it by agreeing to pay for it with a job that never existed. Gives me "You maybe protected but your family will suffer" vibes.
Right? Like, I get the money is a huge deal and it would be hard to come back from it, but... cutting her parents out of their life over it it so dramatic omg. Before they've even TRIED discussing it with them. Maybe they were fine with her not paying back? Maybe they were okay with some sort of payment plan over decades? Like, there's options here other than paying it all at once and not paying it at all and cutting off the family lol.
@@azarinevil the parents have WAY more life experience and would certainly know how difficult it would be to pay back. it depends on how strict the parents are being about the loan and how quickly they expect money back.
@@horizonkyun7203 They clearly aren't being unreasonable about the money, it's not like a debt collector is banging on the OP's door and nowhere was "with interest" mentioned. OP is taking out his frustrations with his significant other's bad decisions out on the people who tried to convince her not to, and still supported her bad decisions. The parents did everything right as her parents.
Depends on the university, for us you get kicked out of the university and I'm pretty sure cannot come back. So better hope you're not reported or have a back up college that will accept your credits and you don't have to move for.
Saw tons of people sell their study guides in college, especially for the massive bs courses that people tend to skip. 250 person class-sold guides for $8 and would sell like 150+ every test lol.
i cant imagine the absolute TEA to hear your friends who are dating broke up and then when you ask the friend about it she's like "we weren't even dating in the first place" like how WILD would that be
As a twin, we only ever did the "swap places" prank once and during band class in high school. I played the trumpet and he played the drums. The teacher never caught on even though neither of us knew how to play eachother's instruments and did EXTREMELY poorly--even called us out saying "wow you two just aren't doing very well today" whole class was in on it and we had a good laugh about it with the teacher after class.
Licensed Nurse here, Shayne is correct on the protocol for seizures. Don’t put anything in their mouth, like a spoon or especially a finger unless you plan to loose it. A seizure is essential neuron overload and that overload could cause their jaw to clamp shut beyond normal strength possibly biting your finger off or breaking their teeth on a spoon.😅 After getting them to the ground safely, the two big things is protecting the head from injury, laying it on your lap is fine, and airway protection including removing tight jewelry or clothing around the neck and turning them in the recover position if they start to vomit so they don’t choke. Stay with the victim and don’t hold them down, let the seizure happen. Many times seizures resolve themselves. Do be ready to orient the victim after they come too because confusion post seizure is common.
And eyes closed isn’t impossible. I had a customer have a seizure and his eyes were closed the whole time. It was absolutely real as we called ems and they took over. He was in the parking lot and I put his my tennis shoe under his head to protect him from the asphalt. It was so scary, but my basic cpr and safety training kicked in. Ems said I did a good job. I hope it never happens again, but at least I know what to do.
Note don’t move the person unless necessary (I.e vomiting, choking or unsafe environment). My sister has dislocated her shoulder because she got stuck in the couch during one, you holding them could cause the same effect
@@C0ttonEyes That is correct! The big thing people don’t realize is that a body that is fully seizing holds nothing back and doesn’t follow the normal movements of the human body because all your fine and gross motor skills go out the window. All movement is random in direction, speed, and power. If your hand is stuck or held down and you yank with only your torso at full force and your actual arm and shoulder is relaxed, it wouldn’t be that hard to dislocate your shoulder. I think many people don’t realize how violent seizures can be. I guess they want to think of it like Parkinson’s which is very different. I’m sorry to hear about your sister, I hope she’s ok!
I’ve been the first on scene to my coworker having a seizure and she had bitten her tongue so we elevated her head and put her head kinda sideways to let the blood out of her mouth
@@NateKennard I’m sorry to hear that, I hope your friend is ok! You did the right thing though. People normally get so caught up on saving the tongue that aspirating on the blood is something they don’t think about so good job prioritizing!👍
Hey, just a nursing student but as far as the seizure thing goes, DO NOT support any part of the body or hold anything down, first thing you should do is slowly get them on the ground, turn them on their side so you help them maintain their airway and they don't inhale any spit, then clear the area of anything hard that they could hurt themselves on, then put something relatively soft and flat to elevate the head off the ground, something like a pillow is ideal but in a situation where that's not possible use something like a hoodie or a jacket that's folded up, finally if they have glasses on take them off, that is all you should do if you don't have further training. Hope this helps, sorry if this has already been posted somewhere else.
Yep this, you don't need to apologize btw I'm still seeing comments from people confused, hopefully with enough likes more people can be educated on what to do, thank you for the info
As a paraveterinarian, yup exactly this. Can back this up. And I'll add: in case of animals like your pets having one: don't comfort them. They aren't concious and because they can't control their muscles they can bite if you pet their head etc. Just remove hard/pointy objects and if you can shove something under the head safely and keep the head to its side then do that. And for those who'd come at me saying shit like that's animals it aint the same.... we're all animals the major difference I'm commenting on is the fact that we see owners wanting to console their very sharp teethed and clawed pets 😂 the rest of the comment was the exact same first aid we learned so no it aint different. Hope it'll help someone at some point ❤
The bullying one absolutely got to me. I got bullied pretty bad from the age of 10-18 in high school and sixth form. And if someone from that time 'turned up' and 'forgot' that they bullied me, I would be SO angry. And the brother knows she went through that and chose to not put his sister first. So maddening.
The brother is what pisses me off the most. He remembers this girl putting his sister through hell and then forgives her and keeps dating her. What a shitty brother.
What really gets me is his gall to support his sister's bully and still act like his opinion on the situation is valid or worth anything. Like, whether or not you wanna be there for your sibling is your business; but don't act like everything's fine or they owe you their compliance just cause you trying to get hitched. It's the two-facedness.
First thing I thought of when he said that was that that's a good way to get your fingers bitten. I know you don't have to hold the head the whole time. Just pretty much make sure nothing is around for safety & get them in the recovery position & keep an eye on them
Well it's also good that they corrected him immediately but too be fair that's a very common misconception that alot of people have about how to handle someone having a seizure.
@@csi2000 agreed. I work as a nurse and i work a lot with people with epilepsy, seizures they have are terrifying, i would definetly get my fingers bitten or they would bite of their tongue if i tried to pull a stunt like that
My grandpa was a twin. When he first started dating my grandma (back in the 1950s) he jokingly asked what she would do if he ever had his twin pretend to be him on a date. Her answer was, "probably the same things I'd do with you." Grandpa never made that joke again 😂
Very glad that they immediately corrected Noah on the tongue thing. As long as the person having the seizure is in no danger, don’t touch them *at all* and if they are in danger of hitting their head, then you can support it (with a pillow or something soft, don’t just like stand there and hold it). Touching someone who is seizing risks both harming them and them accidentally hurting you
Yep. As a person with epilepsy, and who has seen people have them, I can attest. If anything (and really, you should be very cautious with this), attempt to get support under the head, especially if it happens while on a hard surface. But, yeah, definitely don't stick your hands, or anything else, in their moth, eyes, etc. That kid also angered me when he posted that they were having "fake" seizures because the pattern on the EEG wasn't "correct" for a seizure. You can have nonepileptic seizures as well. I did after having brain surgery back in May. People need to learn the facts and stop believing crap on the internet and on TV. Sorry for the rant.
Dude, no exaggeration, that last story legit terrified me even before the update reveal, during the moment I placed myself in her situation of finding out everyone of their mutuals thought they were dating. "Wrote a Love story"? Girl, you have a horror best-seller in your hands. I felt second hand anxiousness from just listening and thinking about the before and after the comfrontation. If that's all real, this girl needs to move ASAP because thats scary as hell, it almost sounds like a documentary story iykwim.
True, I'm even having a hard time with excepting that this was real. However, the best part is that her entire family is moving from there, regardless of these events that would drive everyone at least 3 states further away. This guy is a psychopath, no matter if it's another culture or another planet, that would be my nightmare.
General info: if somebody is having a seizure DO NOT restrict movement or put anything in their mouth. Put a pillow/shirt/anything soft under their head to mitigate head trauma from convulsions. If you can, try to put them on their side to prevent aspirating on vomit. If you’re there at the start, try to time the length of the seizure and tell EMS when they arrive. Remember, many times seizures look scarier than they actually are. Just do what you can and make sure emergency services are called and on their way
Epileptic here. No need to put anything under the head, just move tings away from the body. If you try to move their head to put something under it, it could do damage. Also, if the person has epilepsy, just monitor for safety, time the seizure (if it lasts longer than 5 minutes call Emergency Services), after the seizure, roll them onto the recovery position (look it up, it's a fancy way of placing them on the side), if the person has difficulty coming out of the seizure also call emergency services. As they wake up, you can ask them simple questions to help the brain make connections again. But with people you know have epilepsy, please don't call 911 for me. I'll recover fine on my own and don't want to pay for the ambulance ride and spend time going to the hospital and back just for them to say oh, you have epilepsy, so you had a seizure. I don't need an ER trip for something I know I have, unless it's one of the two things I listed above, prolonged seizure or struggling to come out of it.
@@Junksaint Who's the president has always been a good one. I had a well meaning bystander asking me what my favorite things are, like color, food, etc. When I was finally up and awake, I thanked him, but had to correct him. "Part of the questions are so you can assess if I'm making sense and aware, so those answers don't really work."
So weird to hear him say he'd pull at someone's tongue. You're gonna either harm the person seizing or they'll clamp onto your hand like a Dobermann, I've personally had very bad damage to my mouth after a seizure. I tend to also tell people it looks horrifying but I'll likely be fine, emergency services are often not even needed
@@CrashSable She obviously just doesn't want to be in front of the camera. It's not like she's inserting herself from behind the camera. She speaks when she has info to give or when talked to and laughs when something is funny. Which is normal.
33:54 don’t grab the tung because you might hurt yourself (the strength of the bite could seriously harm you). For the same reason you should not hold the head with your hands, but lay something soft beneath it if you can manage without endangering yourself.
hes on the right track tho. you're supposed to put something in their mouth (NOT your fingers) to keep then from biting through/off their tongue. i've got 2 friends who have/had seizers, so i have a background.
@@KatterTheMadHatterIs this trolling? You shouldn't force anything in their mouth. It can seriously injure someone. The best thing to do is support someone's head and let the seizure run its course. Obviously call 911 as well.
It’s so refreshing to see such emotionally mature men, in a calm and respectful environment, with compassionate and logical opinions about misogynistic issues in particular. I’m struggling quite a bit at the moment with men in my life being disrespectful and immature. Hearing their thoughts at the end of the last story genuinely made me emotional. I definitely need more people in my life with their mindsets ❤
@@drakestallworth3621unfortunately the ones who are assholes tend to be louder to make sure you can hear them above anything else and don’t understand they are being annoying 😅.. guy whose girlfriend owed her parent money is a prime example of that.
@@perlita_100%. Don’t just say “well there are good men out there, you just gotta find them” that’s not enough. If you’re truly a good man then you need to be an advocate for change and be active when you see/hear toxic male behaviors and hold other men accountable. You cannot just be a bystander to the abuse and suffering of women and still claim to be a good man. Yes, good men are out there. We know. But every single man is potentially a threat, potentially dangerous and we have no idea which ones and often they won’t show their true colors right away. We are walking in a mine field and you’re saying “well there’s some safe spots, just step on those”
I really appreciate and agree with Noah's stance on, "ASK THEM!" You don't have to guess, just ask us and we will be happy to explain it. Asking questions is a necessary part of life. We don't bite
This, a million times. If the kids in my school had had that kind of class or explanation or message the kids AND the teachers at my school might not have caused so my trauma.
as a recent high school graduate it's absolutely crazy how much cyberbullying happens now like everything is online and it's so much harder to not be made fun of
I was in middle school during the MySpace era and the cyber bullying was bad then too. People would post bulletins about you and everyone would pile on. The thing is that back then we didn’t have a name for it and parents and schools didn’t really care. We also had a top friends portion on our myspace pages and that caused a lot of drama too. But I imagine that it’s just insane these days with all the platforms
@@cosodesign8953I was literally talking to a buddy the other day about all these new features they keep adding on insta that no one is asking for and we joked about bring a top friends section back and how it would literally crumble society in this day and age 😂
I went to high school before cyberbullying was a thing, but it was such a small school in such a small town that we all knew everything about each other anyway.
@@Subsistence69 Haven't they basically done that though? There's a story feature for chosen people, right? And when it was released, it would tell that person that they were on the list... I don't think they do that anymore, but still. It feels kinda like a top friends thing lol.
The last story made me genuinely upset because I relate to the shock of finding out a man in my life was secretly a psycho misogynist. My cousin has fallen into that Tate, alpha male, podcast bullshit. He has become someone I don’t recognize in only a year. He has become cruel, violent, with deeply warped views of the word. I’ve cut him out of my life, but I hear stories from other family members still in contact with him and the things they tell me are scary. I do not know how anyone can help him out of this well he’s fallen down before he does something he can’t take back. It’s such a weird, other worldly experience to realize someone you loved is not the person you thought they were.
The only time they will know that the screw up is when they don't have what they want a girfriend to marry to make family, they are gonna be all alone and miserable thinckin that the "perfect girl" exist, those "alpha youtubers" contradict themselves all the time, one video is attacking women who watch for his career rather than being housewife's and then in another video they are attacking the women who want to make a family and want to be housewife (in the before video his "ideal women" were housewife's). The "alpha idiots" just wants to attack any prospect of women, they just want to see like "profesional migonistic imbecils"
I’ve had a similar experience where he did something that I never expected and couldn’t get over. It completely destroyed my view of him. He was the person I was closest to and now it’s like he’s a stranger. I’m really sorry you went through it as well
I imagine the guy in the last story needs therapy. Forget not having a female authority in his life. It seems he doesn’t have a positive male figure in his life, either. I find that the Top G community gets more views from people with no positive male influence.
9:28 a classmate used to do this. She used to write a study guide for every exam and before sharing it she'd ask the class to gather a certain amount of money and after paying her she send it in the group chat
As a teenager with epilepsy, who is about to move out, it’s so nice to see people know how to support someone having a seizure! I appreciate how Noah’s first instinct was to help, though he was thinking wrong, and I love how everyone jumped in to kindly correct. Wonderful episode! :)
As a mother of an epileptic teenager,when Noah said to stick his hand in the mouth ASAP I ABOUT DIED😂😂 I was like NOOO OMG NOOO 😂😂. Unfortunate as it is to have to do, you just Need to let them seize.. Make sure they aren't in danger, make sure if they are still seated that the head isn't tilted forward essentially cutting off the airway ( MY son graciously taught us that one.😢) Talk to them,tell them they are OK ect. DO NOT RESTRICT MOVEMENT. Make sure they are safe,but don't try to restrain. Epilepsy is awful.. Its so fucking scary for everyone. Now you listen here.. you had better call your mama EVERYDAY!! Make sure to take your meds on time and please let those know around you that you have Epilepsy and educate them on how to handle you in an emergency. Good luck in all your endeavors darling!! AND CALL YOUR MAMA❤❤❤
Just to add to his stupidity he said it was psychogenic and not a real seizure. Psychogenic seizures are a real thing and are real seizures. So him saying its both faked for attention and psychogenic is completely contradictory. Psychogenic seizures are also called Psychogenic Non-Eplileptic Seizures (PNES).
@@sarahwalters4428oddly enough I’ve been in situations where I’ve had to support people of the public having a seizure. One person it was from ptsd. The store I was in no body knew what to do. I took a first aid course a few years ago and it’s really come in handy
this video makes me so happy because it’s adults putting themselves in teenagers these days shoes and actually understanding high school situations instead of just making fun of it like media always does
In kindergarten or 1st grade I told a kid he smelled like pancakes. I meant it as a compliment, pancakes are the best, but he started crying. I'm pretty sure I apologized right away, but that still haunts me.
in high school I told a girl I really admired that is she had super powers her glare would turn people into stone (sixteen year old me thought this wad a compliment) and she started crying and it still haunts me to this day.
i have a habit of thinking i’m complimenting someone and they get insulted. sometimes it’s just poor wording and other times, they just don’t get what i’m trying to say and other other times, they think of what i’m complimenting as negative. ex. called my brother “wide” because his shoulder were filling out with muscles and he was looking strong. broad would have been a better word, and i was able to clarify what i meant so it was all good
And dangerous for the person having the seizure. What would it even entail to disprove this seizure? It's like that witch thing where if you live you're a witch and killed but if you die thank God you're not a witch poor corpse.
Want to just state for the record DO NOT PUT ANYTHING IN ANYONE'S MOUTH DURING A SEIZURE! the chance that they will bite off your fingers and choke on your digit is a lot higher than them choking on their own tongue.
And do not use your hands to protect a person's skull, they'll just break your hands, put a sweater or some clothing between their head and the floor, and look up the appropriate recovery protocols for Grand Mal (body shaking and convulsions) seizures.
I think because for this generation specifically, it’s “cool” now to have something wrong with you from mental illness and disorders to faking seizures and sicknesses for attention from others. So while it is kinda sh*tty to question it, it’s a highly plausible thing.
The bully story... Yes she remembers. She's embarrassed. Instead of apologizing she's pretending. She deserved what she got. If she'd changed. She'd request a meeting with carter present in order to apologize. The fact she's playing amnesia and then runs off crying. Naw she's still manipulative.
My son has seizures, here's what to do. Make sure they're in a safe position. Protect their head (don't hold it, on top of a lap or pillows is fine). And soothing words, like "hey you're having a seizure. You're a home. I'm here for you". Anything longer than 5 mins call an ambulance.
The seizure story is something . I have seizures and most definitely can hear and feel everything that happens to me , I just can’t respond when it happens. I’ve literally heard a doctor say their going to stab me with a needle to show I was faking and was on drugs . I didn’t wake . I had multiple needle stab wounds on my hand and drug test done showing no drugs . No apology was granted . Having people think you are faking a seizure is one of the most uncomfortable feelings ever.
@@thisdude9363 what makes it worst , I had seized while walking down a flight of stairs . They pulled me from the stairs mid seize and start telling me to stop acting faint .😭
@@HappyDayandLoveI don’t have seizures myself, but I assume that it would be pretty funny to throw my body down a flight of stairs and violently contort for a prank. No? That’s weird, it sounds hilarious to me.
My 16yr is an epileptic and I about died when he said that lmao. You never ever stick anything in the mouth.. Now while seizing they can absolutely bite the tongue and it'll bleed ect. My poor baby has gotten hurt so many times. He has T.C. or tonic clonic or Drop seizures. They used to be called GRAND MAL, people would always say GRANDMA lmao. Make sure they are safe and not going to hurt themselves. You can hold them but don't restrain them..if that makes sense. I'm sooo happy they told poor Noah 😂
@@sarahwalters4428 drop seizures, is that like all of a sudden, with no warning? My cousin has seizures and she knows when they’re about to happen. It was a metallic taste in her mouth. The warning would come so far before the seizures that she would be able to call the ambulance and her mom.
@fosixsix225 No hunny, Drop seizures or Tonic Clonic seizures are where the whole Body convulse's. If you're standing up, you will drop.. What your cousin? I think is what you said, has is actually called an AURA. Many ppl have them right before a seizure happens.. kinda like a warning system lol. My son screams😭. So that's extra fun.. Some people can actually tell before hand and get to safety like sitting down or out of the shower ect. Which honestly is AMAZING! My son also has absent seizures where it looks like he's just day dreaming or staring off into space but he's actually actively seizing. It's just not a whole body seizure. Also with drop seizures, It makes your body go limp.. So for instance, my sons last seizure he was sitting down and because of that his head flopped forward and cut his airway off.. He's slammed his poor face into desks and tables and he's busted his nose,he's hit his face on the bathroom sink cuz he was brushing his teeth at the time.. I TRY to not think about what if I wasn't home or in the shower or anything when my baby stopped breathing.. It happens and sometimes they person doesn't make it.. It called SUDEP. Sudden Unexpected Death from Epilepsy. Thank you for educating yourself!! Ask questions! Always! The more you know, the better prepared you can be and the safer your cousin will be!!🥰🥰
@@sarahwalters4428 Drop seizures and tonic clonic seizures are different kinds of seizures, actually. Both will make you fall down, but a tonic clonic seizure causes convulsions while a drop seizure makes you just collapse like a ragdoll.
Unfortunately I’ve been in a situation similar. My ex started introducing me as their partner to people without telling me first, and I unfortunately ended up staying with them for over a year. It’s a weird situation
@@Sam-fq8dmhi veterinarian here,if u or anyone u know come across a K-9 or Feline having a seizure never try to grab their tongues including humans it’s extremely dangerous U can get bitten really bad or hurt them just protect them from falling off anything or hurting themselves same for humans roll them on their side call for help just incase u ever come across this again 🥰
I don't have many comments about this episode as most have already been said but I will say that I do love when they reference the stories and smosh related things in the episode. I don't know why but it just always make me laugh. It probably has something to do with the fact that Shayne's laugh is so contagious.
Dude the story about the twins and swapping places gave me such a bad feeling in my stomach. I know this isn't really near the extremity of the reddit story, but a long time ago I often fell victim to a lot of scenarios where I would be having a nice long conversation over text with a friend, only to find out a different person that I didn't know had been using THEIR phone. It always left me with a strange feeling in my stomach like I almost never knew if who I was messaging was who I thought they were. Often it lead to times where I had to ask "Is this really you?" if I noticed my friend acting a little differently over text. It may appear as a silly joke to them, but having it occur more than once is pretty concerning.
I had this acquaintance in high school that I was trying to talk to I had something serious going on and he had offered support (it was a family health matter) but half way through our text conversation the person said they were another one of his female friends. It honestly made me really mad and I called her out on it and that friendship didn't go to far after that.
This has happened to me, I met a interesting friend on Facebook and either they lost their phone or account or something cuz when mentioning the name to them on the phone number message texts they didn't know what I was talking about and said I'm not that person you named.
That study guide story had me dying. I’m a STEM student so I do heavy studying all the time and I CANNOT imagine depending so heavily on one person like that. If I get the study guide that would be a massive help but I’m always gonna take my own notes and study. Failing classes is like my worst nightmare, my paranoia would never let me be that dependent lmao
As an epileptic, never ever grab someone’s tongue... Make sure they didn’t hit their head, turn them on their side, time it if possible. Also, never assume that someone is faking it. In that case they were right but seizures are different for everyone and are not like what happens on tv (at least mine aren’t)
Fun Fact: my first job out of high school required me to undergo extensive first aid/CPR training, and I did it again for my college degree. One of the main things I learned about was helping those who are having seizures. You DO NOT hold their tongue or restrain them in any way (or open their eyes). Doing so could result in severe injury to you or the patient! Instead, you help them gently to the ground and carefully turn them on their side. Make sure they have plenty of space; don’t crowd around them, and make sure there’s no furniture that they can hit their head or limbs on. Check for any sort of medical bracelet/necklace/tattoo etc. Time the seizure; they should only last a few minutes, but this varies from person to person. If it lasts too long or if you don’t know if they have a history of seizures, call for help. Shayne is right about supporting the head to make sure they don’t hit it on the floor or anything else, but like I said, don’t restrain or crowd them. Last but definitely not least, do your best to stay calm. Edit: if they’re sitting up and not falling, don’t guide them to the ground. Keep an eye on them just in case, but the main dangers are of them hitting their head if they fall or swallowing their tongue/choking on vomit if they’re on their back. Sorry for the TMI, but it’s true.
Additional info (if you’re in the US where ambulances mean debt): If you Do know that a person has a history of seizures, you don’t need to call an ambulance unless the seizure lasts too long or they have two in a short period of time.
@@prnc96 sometimes, instead of wearing a bracelet or pendant or something with a brief alert about their medical condition in case of emergency, people will get it tattooed on them. Could be because they don’t like jewelry, or they don’t want to lose something so important. I think it’s a fairly new thing, but I saw it in an Inked video once. I’ll have to read up more on it. It’s honestly not a bad idea.
Noah's reactions are always my favorite, he gets so rightfully angry/shocked/worried on the behalf of those who were wronged. I love these reddit episodes and watch every one, please keep doing them for as long as they're fun!!
The phrase of 'useless debt' by that euro dude grinds my gears, like it paid for his girlfriends education and even if it might not be in a super employable field, he's essentially saying her education and all the work she put towards her degree was useless.
I think his argument is that she could've gotten just as good an education for free. If you go into debt to get something you could've gotten for free, that *is* useless debt. Like Smosh said, I think he has a good argument but he's going about it in the most AH way possible.
Especially because there is nothing in the story about her regretting any part of her decision. She has a first job and is ready to start paying her parents back however much at time and I just see him as being out here saying "Your parents need to understand that you wasted their money pursuing your failed dreams."
If I was him I would tell her hey you pay back your debt to your parents cause I get it you made a deal but leave me out of it I'll leave and find someone I'm more compatible with and just break up with her it's that simple talk communication is key when it comes to a romantic relationship of any caliber
you'll literally get the same education for free. if the end result of two methods is the same but one costs nothing and the other costs more money than you will in decades, then you did indeed waste your money.
The Anika story makes me so angry. My mom had a bunch of friends with kids my age, and one of them hated me. He constantly pulled embarrassing pranks on me and at one point threw paving stones at me. I would be forced to be around him when Mom saw her friends and I always dreaded it. Him bullying me went on throughout elementary and middle school, and thankfully I didn't have to see him much after that. He did come to pick something up for his mom once after we had both graduated college though. He tried making small talk and asking how I had been. When he realized I refused to give him more than a one word answer he asked what my problem was. I reminded him that he bullied me for years and that I still didn't like him and he asked me why I "hadn't gotten over it yet". According to him, he was a kid and it didn't matter. BS. He wanted me to be "civil and polite" when the thought of apologizing never once crossed his mind. You do not have to get over/forgive your bullies if they refuse to even try to apologize! I'm so sorry her family doesn't understand or fully support her. If Anika really has changed, she'd be trying to make it right because she would genuinely feel bad. She isn't upset that she got "embarrassed", she's upset that her immature and awful behavior caught up to her and bit her in the butt.
i have a cousin who was an awful bully to me when i was a small child whenever we visited my paternal grandmother. we moved overseas for a time and werent able to visit my grandmother or really any family for several years. the next time i saw her, (edit, i think i was 14) she tried to make small talk and just shoot the breeze or whatever and i just stared her down and waited for her to apologize to me. she never did.
Yeah, he's a POS. I kinda come from the other direction... I had a "friend" in middle school who would bully another "friend" relentlessly, in the name of good fun. I never actively participated but was definitely an enabler, standing by the side and saying nothing, at worst sometimes laughing along. Ironically, I think the bullied kid might not remember me, but I will remember him for the rest of my life. I've really had to reckon with the fact that I've contributed, even in a small way, to this kid having social anxiety and trouble making friends. If I ever met him again, I would apologize for what I did (or didn't do) even if he didn't remember himself. I understand why some people would claim to have forgotten. Apologizing means recognizing and feeling shame for what an asshole you were, and that's hard to do. But expecting to have any kind of cordial relationship with your victim because "they should've gotten over it by now" is delusional. No dude, it's your job to apologize, so maybe you should get over it
It is really ard to get that low of a grade if you do the bare minimum, meaning showing up to class. Grade curves make or break, so lucky OP for getting an average exam grade and it being curved to a near perfect score lol. I had a similar thing happen to me in a chem class too
hey y’all despite it being a reddit episode, thank you for opening up the door of what to do in seizure emergencies! as someone with seizures, the best thing to do if u witness one is lay them on their side to prevent them from choking and then let it happen. love u noah but the last thing u want to do is grab a hold of them. making sure they don’t their hurt their head is for sure a plus! thanks for opening a conversation, even if just a small one
I feel bad for OP to have a brother who cares so little for the wellbeing of his sister. If he really loved her he would mever date her former bully, not the least without Anika sincerely apologizing and making up. I can't imagine dating someone in my siblings' circles let alone anyone who had bullied them, regardless of change or not. OP did mention that "they're made for each other" so it seems like he is indeed just as shitty as Anika.
I know I'm not the first to say this ,but I really connect with the raw emotion and sense of what is right that Noah exhibits when speaking on important issues. I'd love to see more of him in these reddit episodes.
Idk who needs to hear this, but at 34:09 ish Noah said first instinct is to grab the tongue, DO NOT PUT ANYTHING IN SOMEONE'S MOUTH WHEN SEIZING. If they are standing and go to the ground, put something soft under their head and try to get them on their side, if they are to ridged and moving to much to rotate, don't force it. If their sitting (couch, supportive chair without armrests and such) get flat surfaces away and monitor the mouth, they might make to much drool and need to be rocked to the side to drain, but getting them to the ground is fuckin hard, and needs to be two people. Also, fun fact, when something happens suddenly like a wound or life threatening event that requires an ambulance and you are the person at ground zero, if you have names that helps, but otherwise call people by their shirt colors and give tasks definitively (ie. Red shirt call 911, Jojo shirt get water and a wet cloth, blue shirt what time is it) but in an emergency your going 0 to 1000 and need all the brain power to remember what's going on and get them to a medical professional, so even if you know everyone at the party, save brain power for watching eye movement and which arms move first and hopefully how long the seizure lasted. That last one is almost impossible to get right but anything helps doctors help the person experiencing it bc they don't know jack shit. Side side note, never, and I mean NEVER mention to them that they pissed themselves or anything, they will feel it. Not feeling ashamed will help them not resent themselves in the future. You can tell a baby it's a stinky fuck for pissing themselves, but someone gaining their brain back hearing 'Brooo you like, pissed everywhere that was wild' is not ok. Anyways, that's all the fun facts I got for now, thanks for coming to my tedtalk 💕
Noah's "ask any of them, cause they all will have an answer" is like, the quote of the century honestly. so true... so sad but so true. most men don't realize just HOW common these experiences are for women. they shrug it off as like "oh well this happened to someone i guess". but no. something or another happened to ALL of us. actually, many things. as women, we quite literally all have a story to tell. it feels nice to hear it acknowledged so clearly and unequivocally.
I cannot fathom as an identical twin, why other identical twins would just switch places for s’s and g’s. Just the thought of it alone stresses me tf out.
i didn´t waited and looked it up in the link of that video, things went very smooth after it happened, the ex visits the pregnant mom every now and then
the high school bully one genuinely makes me so mad. her description of feeling physically sick when she saw her bully again was all too familiar for me (i was bullied pretty badly in 8th grade and felt sick even just hearing her name)-and what she’s describing is actually a trauma response. she went through some serious shit
I really appreciate that y'all said that high school is the hardest it's ever been right now. I'm a freshman, and even when you leave school, you don't truly leave, because online everyone is still talking about each other and school related things. Hell, that happens in middle school too. And for the people who say that you should just stop going online, your social life will die. In our modern day, it is practically impossible to properly socialize with people without using social media, texting, whatever. I personally really only use texting, RUclips, and sometimes Pinterest, and I just keep to myself and my friends. I don't really know about whatever "popular kid drama" there is, and I don't even really know who "the popular kids" are to be honest. And I'm still using social media (obviously, lol). People don't just show up at other's doors unannounced anymore. That's considered weird by most people, especially teenagers. Yes, you can have friends outside of social media and such, but you'll still be socially stunted. It's just simply not how our society works anymore. And most of our work is online now too (including our grades for our parents to see whenever!). The world has changed so much since you (the type of person that I mentioned before, not everyone) went to school, that your close minded opinion on the matter doesn't even really apply anymore. Didn't mean to rant like that, but I mean what I said.
Story about the fake seizures: I feel like everyone should have a basic CPR/first aid course every year in school (of course making it age appropriate) because the number of people in the general public who have no clue what to do if someone passes out or has a seizure is astounding. I have fainting episodes and MORE THAN ONCE I have come to with someone poorly performing CPR and I have come to with a wet face and began choking because they thought pouring water on my face would rouse me. 38:14
Not Spencer clearly making eye contact with Kiana off screen and smiling when Shayne says "one of the best things you can have as a straight man is a genuine friendship with a woman" :)
That last story broke my heart. I went through something similar during my senior year of high school. His family would straight up tell me we were dating even when I said we weren’t. He tried to unalive himself, and said the reason was because I didn’t love him.
that last story at first sounded like a fake fanfiction type story, but after that update it was just terrifying. its so scary to think that kind of thing could happen with someone you trust 😨
Totally agree and it’s insane what can go on without someone realizing it. I find it really scary to think that someone could be part of a reality-altering lie without even knowing it.
@@anotheralainatruly terrifying. i always wonder how things like this happen. did they really show no signs of a poor moral code? did they never have meaningful conversations with their bff? did they lie about their beliefs to appease the other person? if they lied, how did they converse about that and still maintain their misogynistic beliefs? how much should i give my friends the benefit of the doubt? i like to be trusting and optimistic, but i also don’t want to support an insidiously evil individual
@@skywayve7473 I was thinking the same things. How much do we really know the people in our lives? When do we stop giving a loved one the benefit of the doubt? I guess cautious optimism is the best way to handle friendships.
Don't let Noah anywhere near someone having a seizure lol. Noah, if you see someone having a seizure take two steps back and let someone else cover it.
Yeahhhh that was scary when he said you “grab their tongue” like dude… you’re gonna break someone’s jaw, actually make them choke or get your fingers bitten off. I linked a ton of seizure safety guides
If anything, catch them if they fall near you and you can react quickly enough, then IMMEDIATELY lay them on their side and put something like a pillow or folded sweater under the head to avoid choking on saliva and avoid head trauma.
The seizure "faking" story messes me up because I got accused quite a bit about faking vasovagal syncope when I was a kid. I wasn't faking it. Why would I want to pass out in the middle of my meals, or even worse the few times it happed when I was in the restroom? If she was faking it, she's the AH, but really the OP is the AH in every situation.
I totally agree. I have chronic health problems, and being accused of faking something that affects your life so deeply... really hurts. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I get vasovagal syncope as well
Same. I have psychogenic seizures like the girl in the story. They’re not a neurological misfire, but it usually takes DAYS for me to feel better after having an episode. It makes your body hurt.
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The way Shayne said “Genuine friendships with women” followed by Spencer almost certainly pointing to Kiana was the greatest highlight of this video.
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That was so cute, honestly. 🥰
I HAD TO REPLAY IT after seeing this comment!!! this was absolutely adorable
this moment made me so happy omg
It is truly amazing how many bullies apparently suffer from the medical condition of intermittent amnesia.
It's more they gas light themselves.
"It didn't happen like that, I'm a good person"
Then they tell themselves this until they literally no long remember what happened
the good old 'politician at a hearing" trick- they do not recall
@andyp4437 Those who do not remember the past are doomed to repeat it. And those who do not atone for their sins can not be forgiven. It can even be argued that by willfully "forgetting" their bullying past, they are, in fact, continuing to bully their victims. And even if they truthfully could not remember, a decent person would apologize for any hurt or pain they caused another when reminded of it, if only to help alleviate another's suffering and help their healing journey.
@@LordGertzWell Said!! ❤
No seriously, i think its actually a thing. Most people somehow dont remember their behaviour as bullying. Its just a small part of their high school experience while its way bigger for the person experiencing it sees it way bigger
On the bullying story: I once had a guy lie and say I was sexually harassing him and almost got me expelled from high school. I met him again years later and he genuinely didn’t remember me. For me it was my life almost getting ruined and for him it was just another Tuesday.
that's how it be - usually the bully doesn't remember bc it's just another day for them, but the victim is scarred for life
this can happen with like stray comments that aren't intended to be offensive, or even a comment that's meant to like encourage you, in a way.
Yeah that's how crazy some people are. They dont remember cause its so casual smh
You've got the gross flag as a pfp so you definitely made unwanted advances towards him. Nobody wants you.
I’m so sorry that happened to you, hope everything’s better now. ❤
I hope u are better now🥺❤
About the guy secretly "dating" the girl for a year: I guarantee you most girls listening to this story saw the coffee shop scene coming. We've all experienced men like this.
yep, knew what was happening before the update
I knew IMMEDIATELY that he was gaslighting her by acting like he was her boyfriend all of a sudden. He thought he was being slick. I’m bummed she didn’t call him out right away, though, and nip it in the bud. I would’ve been like, “Did you just call me ‘babe’??” before he ever had the chance to kiss me.
Yeah my first thought was that this was a manipulation tactic on his end. There’s no way it was a genuine misunderstanding. He thought he could trick her into a relationship 😅
A similar thing happened to my recent ex (my HS sweetheart. We're still good friends/roommates despite everything.) She unfortunately didn't have the self-worth back then to turn down the misogynist/emotional abuser he (of course) turned out to be. Even after breaking it off, even after we were dating long-term, even after /moving states/ and going almost completely no contact for ~5 years he still acted like they were together despite her constant protest. Took nearly 10 years to untangle the whole mess. Was very grateful to hear OP shut it down!
I'm so sorry y'all have to deal with this bullshit
Absolutely NEED you to cover this one called “i didn’t get a job because i was a bully in high school.” It’s in best of redditor updates and it is WILD.
Omg that one was incredible
Can you link it
Link?
Homie please we need the link
Please can we have a crumb of the link
Noah's reaction in the last story when the guy grabbed the girl's arm says a lot about who he is as a person. He looked angry and horrified.
Was about to comment that! :')
That part made my stomach flip
He visually represented how we all felt 🤢
hopefully how most sane humans would react
@@Vic-Valentine agreed.
It’s funny how high school bullies always seem to “not remember” bullying you
it's the old good "politician at a hearing" strategy. they don't recall.
this HAPPENED recently, i blocked them after
She does remember otherwise why run out of the room crying.
For the people being bullied, those actions were traumatic. For the bully, they were Tuesday. Why would the bullies remember it?
Luckily my HS bully remembers and regrets bullying me deeply. We're actually friends now
I cannot get over Noah’s immediate, sympathetic reaction to a woman saying she’s used to harassment 1:06:07
That last story becomes so clear as soon as Shayne reads "he started sharing his opinions about women with me". That guy went from ok dude to incel in one sentence.
Which honestly makes me feel like it's maybe be fake... like you're telling out of all the time, they've hanged out not once those opinions ever came out.... not even like in an argument... it's just too perfect of a scenario...
@@nickenglehart6469it’s happened to me with some guy friends. Most immature “Andrew Tate” men know that it’s looked down upon and women don’t like it, so they’ll genuinely hide it until they get into a situation where there is tension with a woman.
@@nickenglehart6469 its happened to me before. Men like that will hide it because they KNOW the women in their life wont tolerate it, so instead of just changing their views they keep it hidden. It's crazy people behavior
@@nickenglehart6469 its happened with me too, it takes one disagreement(that relates to women most times) and they do a 180
@@nickenglehart6469I've been in similar situations, people are very capable of hiding opinions and sides of themselves until tension arises and their tongue slips.
"They failed because of me" No. They failed because they stopped going to class, and didn't study. That's 100% on them.
didn't they also say that there were marks based on attendance
@@cricketcoop2038yup. My mindset is they're all dumb for banking everything on this single thing, ESPECIALLY the ones who wouldn't graduate if they failed. Even then if you're gonna depend on the study sheet at the very lowest least SHOW UP! 20% grade for attendance is not something to just shrug off. At least show up even if you're not gonna put in effort and depend on what they were treating as basically a cheat sheet. Don't know the timeframe between the mid and final term, but that's a big chunk to just shrug off so you can go party.
The fact that everyone told this girl she "caused them" to fail is so wild. She was literally just attending the class, she's not obligated to help other people who don't even want to be associated with her.
Right. If it’s a 20/40/40 deal and you got a 75 on the mid, I’d think you’d be doing everything in your power to bump up that attendance score. Like the curve can help a bit, but really get the easy points.
The roommate is the actual asshole here
That poor girl. My heart dropped for her realizing she’s losing her best friend.
Ikr.
Like was he always a raging misogynistic weirdo? Or was he brainwashed by those "alpha" podcasts?
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The reason the brother didn't tell the family is 100% because he was afraid his sister would tell the family and thought she wouldn't say anything if they were all at dinner.
I also think he knew that if he told them her name while dating they would not approve at all. With how the parents reacted, it's almost a guarantee that he knew (even subconsciously) that if he could make it all the way to the fiancee stage that his parents would be willing to drop the issue.
it's like that one comment said, the brother was manipulative too
Yeah he knew exactly how the sister was going to react solely on that, because what do you mean you do not tell the family who you’re dating, not even her name until you meet her AFTER she said yes to becoming his fiancée?
The last one is terrifying for so many reasons. Imagine a person you trust manipulating your life without you even knowing. That’s nightmare material and I hope OP is okay.
Making everyone accidentally gaslight you as well. Horrific.
Too many of us don't have to imagine unfortunately
Misogynistic stories like the last one usually send me down a pessimistic spiral because I’ve been through some really bad gaslighting situations. But hearing these three guys talk about it in such an emotionally intelligent, caring, and mature way, helps remind me of all the good guys out there who still understand what’s right.
Yeah I think both women and men have good and bad people. It's just that we see the negativity and that's all we can think of. We might see just as much good but it gets less attention or it's not as memorable because negative emotions are so much stronger.
This is why I watch. I mean, the stories are amazing, but the discussion is primo.
Agree 100%, which is also why I got really happy seeing Noah's very obvious reaction to when she said he grabbed her when she tried to leave. Men knowing right from wrong for these cases is always a relief
@@SEAkuaayeah propably isn't right of the comment above to associate gaslighting with just one gender. But I get why. The trauma my mom gave me makes me weigh my words much more carefully around women and I start having a panic attack when I have to disagree with them. Linking trauma to a gender can happen pretty easily.
@@SEAkuaayou are ignoring that men, because of society, tend to be misogynistic therefore they tend to gaslight and force women into doing stuff they don't want to do, yeah all sexes have "bad people" but at this point is more of a problem the majority of men have so that is an issue that we can't ignore, i hope you understand. Sorry for my english
yo that last story hit really hard, because I feel like a lot of women including myself eventually have that crazy mindfucky moment in high school or college when they realize that guys they thought saw them the same way they see themselves actually view them in a completely unhinged, misogynistic way and it really changes your entire worldview
My first bf was like this. His family held the same beliefs but they all kept it silent because they knew others would judge them?! Yeah, that is a big hint for them right there that maybe their beliefs are unhinged and misogynistic. The bf was unhinged, but the mom saying this stuff made my head spin and then I lost a little faith in humanity.
I believe that situation happens often but that specific story they read is so fuckin fake lmao
yeah it takes a while to realize men don't deserve the benefit of the doubt lol
To be fair, this dude was exceptionally stupid. He was one youtube recommendation away from believing in flat earth theory and that the moon landing was faked, IF he doesn't already
@@highdefinition450hy do you think that? Any story anyone tells has a chance of being fake, of course, but I personally don’t see any massive leaps in the story that makes it obviously fake.
The fact that a lot of people can relate to having guys in their life the underlying belief system of OPs ex-friend, it doesn’t seem so out of left field for someone to act like this in real life, especially with the advent of alpha bro podcasts that can easily nitro charge their awful beliefs.
I’ve met a lot of absolutely unhinged teens, I imagine a lot of us have, and a lot of them would have easily been able to do this if alpha bro content was prevalent back then. Kids lie all the damn time to your face and behind your back, truly nothing in this story is a reach in the slightest imo
My father has frequent seizures, diagnosed by a professional, he always closes his eyes when it happens and can recall if someone was touching him during the episode. in fact when one of our family friends were riding in our car when he had an attack, the friend tried to help by hold his shoulders down (a panic induced impulse to seeing the seizure I guess). when he recovered from the attack my dad told him not to do that because when the episode is happening it becomes a very scaring feeling and being pinned down only makes it worse.
We mostly just protect his head or arms from hitting anything near by, or hold his hand until it stops.
Ok fair but right after being told which questions you have to do is pretty suspicious
@@elreturner1227 Mate thats NOT the point. Even IF it was fake and i have strong doubts about that, kid with barely passing knowledge is NOT qualified to make that distinction. He has no right to try pass judgment ESPECIALLY during seizure - there is real possibility he can make things worse at that moment, or at least delay first aid help from teacher or qualified individual. With health you NEVER take chances like that no matter your doubts.
These are easily my favorite videos on Smosh, it's great seeing Shayne actually be able to use his degree lmao.
What is his degree on?
@@kizi180psychology I think lol
@@shabangbangg_ Correct from Arizona State
@@michs342online
@@shabangbangg_how is he using it in this tho lmao
I’m disproportionately happy that Reddit stories has legit sponsors now. That hopefully means we’ll keep getting story time with Shayne for a long time!
couldn’t agree more, but unfortunately betterhelp has a very shady history. i recommend looking into it, as they were fined $7.8 million THIS YEAR for selling users’ private info, and there have been countless stories of people getting very unprofessional or even scammers as therapists. get that bag smosh, but please not betterhelp!
Reddit stories with therapist Shayne isn’t going anywhere. It is one of the most popular shows out of all smosh channels. Super easy to make and brings in tons of views.
@@sera.tonin.why does every big sponsor end up with controversy smh
@@sera.tonin. wow that’s so sad. Definitely will look into it and hopefully a better sponsor will come through!
@@green7449 oh absolutely. I’m glad it’s getting recognition from other places now too!
This just confirmed my belief that teenagers are always unhinged, including myself when I was one.
Yeah you’re definitely right
As someone who used to be a teen,yea definitely
Part of growing up is realizing how stupid and insane you were lmao
@Angela-zp1qseveryone report the bot
As someone who is unfortunately still a teen for another 4 months, I can confirm this is the case, for the majority of people.
I have psychogenic non epileptic stress induced seizures, and people have told people I'm faking when they have literally ruined my life. The fact that people will say people are faking their disabilities is so massively upsetting. A psychogenic seizure isn't like some make believe thing, I have literally collapsed in the street having seizures... I'm conscious during my seizures and it's SO FUN to have people arguing over my spasming body, about if I'm faking or not. Thank you Shayne, for shutting down other people implying that you should try to figure out if someone's faking their seizures.
Yesss i have seizures too. Most people have seizures with eyes closed so that guy was way off
For anybody in the comments going through something like that last story, you are NOT overreacting to share your location. that situation can become stalking or worse very fast. It is never bad to be too careful---if you feel unsafe trust your gut. Take care of yourself and stay safe.
I was gonna comment the same thing!
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It was also very smart of her to meet him in a public place, from my perspective if she felt that she couldn’t speak with him in private she felt threatened by him, with good reason and that post could have ended very differently. I’m glad she’s safe now.
The fact that everyone didn’t immediately hear loud alarm bells for that one blows my mind
@@bej7784 I did wonder in the beginning if he had girlfriend zoned her and just assumed they were a couple because they spent so much time together but I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt. I should have trusted my instincts. It’s sad and really scary that this happens.
That final story scared me. Scared me to the core. To think that so many men, and even women, are falling into this hateful mindset. I just hope someday, people will accept one-another.
Ik right, I totally agree with you. That story is genuinely nightmare fuel. Imagine anyone you love no matter who or in what way is secretly, well, evil pretty much is terrifying.
The men being misogynistic af, alpha etc, meet the sexist, anti man women. I like read their Facebook arguments, but I don’t wanna meet any of them irl. Lol
The scary part is that so many of these people just can't be convinced that what they believe is bad. No matter how many rational arguments you throw at them, their brain just can't comprehend actual logic and form their own opinions. They need a big muscular cigar smoking dude to tell them what to think. They can't actually use critical thinking to reason about their opinions and question if they actually make sense or not. They're like conspiracy theorists. Trying to convince a flat earther that the earth is round is almost impossible. It's one of the fears I have of making friends with people online (or even real life). You never know how insane someone is until after quite a while.
@zaytin1 I'm a white person. However, I briefly dated a Korean-American boy once when I was 21 after my bf broke up with me. Didn't consider this going anywhere serious but omfg.. He was really immature and took pride in drinking and driving.. Like you're a psychology student at Emory why would you put that in the line?
And told me I needed to shower more. I didn't stink, but for some reason me not showering twice every day wasn't enough. And made some comments that were just like... wow you don't understand how women work do you? Needless to say, that was an interesting experience.
my ex boyfriend fell into that hateful mindset, its insane how manipulative he became and i actually began to believe that i was the out-of-controll one by the words he was feeding me. id never wish those experiences on anyone. they can really ruin you.
That last story was a literal psychological horror movie for me. Like imagine having a best friend for years and then he is suddenly a misogynistic piece of garbage.
A24 logo popped up before that story, for sure.
Sadly it happens a lot, it's super shitty
happened to me nd i was horrified
Something similar happened to me, after 10 years found out she was homophobic
Not very shocking these days with all these insufferable “alpha” men
and most str8 guys just being sucky in general
1:09:17 Spencer pointing at Kiana (I assume) when talking about a genuine friendship!! So sweet. 🥹
NOAH SPEAKING STRAIGHT TRUTH! "Ask a woman. They will have answers for you."
Right???
It’s so crazy to me that people need to be told this, as a cis man. Like, just talk to women, please. They’re not Lying to you about what women are like; if they tell you something and it’s different for some other women, that’s just because women are people and are Not a hive mind ffs
@@undeniablySomeGuy exactly, it’s not hard to ask and you’re right, women are not hive minded, we all have our own opinions and feelings - if a man would like to know what those feelings are, he needs to ask that person. We’re all different and feel differently but the only way to know how that person feels is by asking!
SERIOUSLY
And take them seriously. I’m so tired of this sigma male mindset. You have to be strong you have to assert dominance you have to be aggressive. I’m so over it. That’s not how life works. Just because you found someone to manipulate doesn’t make it true.
As a nurse, I'm so glad you guys immediately debunked the seizure/tongue issue! I can confirm you don't want to insert anything into their mouth and don't want to restrain them during a seizure. You can move things away that they might bump into and can put a pillow, balled up jacket, or slightly elevate the head so it doesn't hit the ground, and call EMS if it lasts more than 5 minutes.
You forgot to bring up getting them on their side to make sure they don’t choke on spit
The one thing I took away from being a lifeguard as a teenager was that, when it comes to seizures, I think of two things, and two things only: “Don’t constrict the movement, but protect the head.” One of those things I never thought I’d use, but lo and behold, my younger brother had a seizure in the garage in front of me not six months ago. We never knew he was epileptic before, but that phrase was the only thing in my head, and I feel like it really made a difference
Thank you. All I was thinking was "for the love of God please don't do that"
My cat has seizures, so I've done some general research on epilepsy. Most of what I know is regarding cats, but the recommended reactions seem to be relatively the same.
He’s absolutely correct about his classmate faking.
I had a high school classmate that faked having lung cancer. She was a chronic liar so I was skeptical, but wasn’t about to assume she was lying about something so serious. It was solidified as a lie when she came to school one day and she said she was “cured” because the doctors scraped the cancer out of her over the weekend.
HOLY SHIT LOL. I love how fked up the implications are when it comes to chronic liars like that. "Oh yea, I got my cancer scraped out over the weekend... Yup, easy as that.... Nah, anyone who dies of cancer just didn't bother getting it scraped out... You can defs do that..."
Ew. What goes through these peoples head?
Someone in my middle school pretended to have eye cancer, and when everyone found out he lied they bullied him really hard. He ended up switching schools.
I always felt kinda bad for him, but at the same time karma’s a bitch.
Lmao thats such a bad lie. They cant even operate on both lungs at once, because whichever one theyre working on gets deflated and needs a few weeks to heal before they do the other one. And it cant possibly all be taken out, they can only operate on a small part of each lung at a time and only go for the biggest or easiest to get to nodules…… and honestly its usually just for diagnosis, they take some out to test exactly what type of cancer it is and then treat it with chemo/immunotherapy. Source: i work in medicine and have a family member going through lung cancer treatment right now.
Had a girl say her dad died because he was shot in California. He picked her up from school a few days later.
33:46 DO NOT GRAB A PERSON'S TONGUE OR STICK YOUR HAND INTO THEIR MOUTH IF THEY'RE HAVING A SEIZURE. they could bite your fingers off, and they could bite their tongue off if you mess with their mouth. they can't control their muscles and could hurt you/themselves that way. generally, don't touch/move them unless you're a medical professional.
Man, when the guy in the 3rd story said, "I'M okay with cutting YOUR parents out" really gave me Farquaad "Some of you may die, but thats im willing to take" vibes
For me it was weird that the parents were to blame.. the OP's partner chose to go to a for profit private college to get a degree she should have known wasn't going to get her a job, and paid for it by agreeing to pay for it with a job that never existed. Gives me "You maybe protected but your family will suffer" vibes.
Right? Like, I get the money is a huge deal and it would be hard to come back from it, but... cutting her parents out of their life over it it so dramatic omg. Before they've even TRIED discussing it with them. Maybe they were fine with her not paying back? Maybe they were okay with some sort of payment plan over decades? Like, there's options here other than paying it all at once and not paying it at all and cutting off the family lol.
@@azarinevilShe was 16-17 when she made that decision. I don't agree with the op in the story but americans ARE weird when it comes to debt.
@@azarinevil the parents have WAY more life experience and would certainly know how difficult it would be to pay back. it depends on how strict the parents are being about the loan and how quickly they expect money back.
@@horizonkyun7203 They clearly aren't being unreasonable about the money, it's not like a debt collector is banging on the OP's door and nowhere was "with interest" mentioned. OP is taking out his frustrations with his significant other's bad decisions out on the people who tried to convince her not to, and still supported her bad decisions. The parents did everything right as her parents.
The fact that Noah heard the homework story and his thought was "that's a chance to make some money" is genius. W takes as always boys
I had a great prof in uni who always told us not to give our notes/study guides away for free
Depends on the university, for us you get kicked out of the university and I'm pretty sure cannot come back. So better hope you're not reported or have a back up college that will accept your credits and you don't have to move for.
@themaddiemads That’s a good professor.
Saw tons of people sell their study guides in college, especially for the massive bs courses that people tend to skip.
250 person class-sold guides for $8 and would sell like 150+ every test lol.
i cant imagine the absolute TEA to hear your friends who are dating broke up and then when you ask the friend about it she's like "we weren't even dating in the first place" like how WILD would that be
As a twin, we only ever did the "swap places" prank once and during band class in high school. I played the trumpet and he played the drums. The teacher never caught on even though neither of us knew how to play eachother's instruments and did EXTREMELY poorly--even called us out saying "wow you two just aren't doing very well today" whole class was in on it and we had a good laugh about it with the teacher after class.
Licensed Nurse here, Shayne is correct on the protocol for seizures. Don’t put anything in their mouth, like a spoon or especially a finger unless you plan to loose it. A seizure is essential neuron overload and that overload could cause their jaw to clamp shut beyond normal strength possibly biting your finger off or breaking their teeth on a spoon.😅 After getting them to the ground safely, the two big things is protecting the head from injury, laying it on your lap is fine, and airway protection including removing tight jewelry or clothing around the neck and turning them in the recover position if they start to vomit so they don’t choke. Stay with the victim and don’t hold them down, let the seizure happen. Many times seizures resolve themselves. Do be ready to orient the victim after they come too because confusion post seizure is common.
And eyes closed isn’t impossible. I had a customer have a seizure and his eyes were closed the whole time. It was absolutely real as we called ems and they took over. He was in the parking lot and I put his my tennis shoe under his head to protect him from the asphalt. It was so scary, but my basic cpr and safety training kicked in. Ems said I did a good job. I hope it never happens again, but at least I know what to do.
Note don’t move the person unless necessary (I.e vomiting, choking or unsafe environment). My sister has dislocated her shoulder because she got stuck in the couch during one, you holding them could cause the same effect
@@C0ttonEyes That is correct! The big thing people don’t realize is that a body that is fully seizing holds nothing back and doesn’t follow the normal movements of the human body because all your fine and gross motor skills go out the window. All movement is random in direction, speed, and power. If your hand is stuck or held down and you yank with only your torso at full force and your actual arm and shoulder is relaxed, it wouldn’t be that hard to dislocate your shoulder. I think many people don’t realize how violent seizures can be. I guess they want to think of it like Parkinson’s which is very different. I’m sorry to hear about your sister, I hope she’s ok!
I’ve been the first on scene to my coworker having a seizure and she had bitten her tongue so we elevated her head and put her head kinda sideways to let the blood out of her mouth
@@NateKennard I’m sorry to hear that, I hope your friend is ok! You did the right thing though. People normally get so caught up on saving the tongue that aspirating on the blood is something they don’t think about so good job prioritizing!👍
Hey, just a nursing student but as far as the seizure thing goes, DO NOT support any part of the body or hold anything down, first thing you should do is slowly get them on the ground, turn them on their side so you help them maintain their airway and they don't inhale any spit, then clear the area of anything hard that they could hurt themselves on, then put something relatively soft and flat to elevate the head off the ground, something like a pillow is ideal but in a situation where that's not possible use something like a hoodie or a jacket that's folded up, finally if they have glasses on take them off, that is all you should do if you don't have further training. Hope this helps, sorry if this has already been posted somewhere else.
Yep this, you don't need to apologize btw I'm still seeing comments from people confused, hopefully with enough likes more people can be educated on what to do, thank you for the info
So glad someone commented this!!! Why they are trying to give out medical advice is beyond me if they are 100% certain !!
@@KF-tq2dfthey weren’t trying to they said “I think you’re supposed too” unless I’m hearing wrong
As a paraveterinarian, yup exactly this. Can back this up. And I'll add: in case of animals like your pets having one: don't comfort them. They aren't concious and because they can't control their muscles they can bite if you pet their head etc. Just remove hard/pointy objects and if you can shove something under the head safely and keep the head to its side then do that. And for those who'd come at me saying shit like that's animals it aint the same.... we're all animals the major difference I'm commenting on is the fact that we see owners wanting to console their very sharp teethed and clawed pets 😂 the rest of the comment was the exact same first aid we learned so no it aint different. Hope it'll help someone at some point ❤
The bullying one absolutely got to me. I got bullied pretty bad from the age of 10-18 in high school and sixth form. And if someone from that time 'turned up' and 'forgot' that they bullied me, I would be SO angry. And the brother knows she went through that and chose to not put his sister first. So maddening.
That's what really had me boiling! He has no consideration for what she went through, which I cannot fathom. My sister's enemies are MY enemies.
I feel like the brother is the true villain here. Cause the bully might be a bitch, but he straight up betrayed her
The brother is what pisses me off the most. He remembers this girl putting his sister through hell and then forgives her and keeps dating her. What a shitty brother.
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What really gets me is his gall to support his sister's bully and still act like his opinion on the situation is valid or worth anything. Like, whether or not you wanna be there for your sibling is your business; but don't act like everything's fine or they owe you their compliance just cause you trying to get hitched. It's the two-facedness.
34:14 Epileptic person here! The proper procedure when dealing with someone having a convulsive seizure is to put them on their side :)
As someone with epileptic seizures, Noah saying he was gonna grab the tongue genuinely terrified me😅 Also thankful cast/crew knew what to do to help😊
First thing I thought of when he said that was that that's a good way to get your fingers bitten. I know you don't have to hold the head the whole time. Just pretty much make sure nothing is around for safety & get them in the recovery position & keep an eye on them
Well it's also good that they corrected him immediately but too be fair that's a very common misconception that alot of people have about how to handle someone having a seizure.
I honestly was surprised when he said that cause i never heard that. That is absolutely the worst thing you can do lmao
@@antonela7743 I've heard it before. That or to use something to hold the tongue in place. Definitely not recommend lol
@@csi2000 agreed. I work as a nurse and i work a lot with people with epilepsy, seizures they have are terrifying, i would definetly get my fingers bitten or they would bite of their tongue if i tried to pull a stunt like that
My grandpa was a twin. When he first started dating my grandma (back in the 1950s) he jokingly asked what she would do if he ever had his twin pretend to be him on a date. Her answer was, "probably the same things I'd do with you." Grandpa never made that joke again 😂
Don't ask questions that you don't want the answers to! 😂
We love a sassy grandma. 😅❤
That’s fantastic 🤣 she’s was quick with it hahah
Legendary grandma
Very glad that they immediately corrected Noah on the tongue thing. As long as the person having the seizure is in no danger, don’t touch them *at all* and if they are in danger of hitting their head, then you can support it (with a pillow or something soft, don’t just like stand there and hold it). Touching someone who is seizing risks both harming them and them accidentally hurting you
Aside from rolling someone on their side and cushioning their head with something soft, yeah, never touch someone during the seizure
Yep. As a person with epilepsy, and who has seen people have them, I can attest. If anything (and really, you should be very cautious with this), attempt to get support under the head, especially if it happens while on a hard surface. But, yeah, definitely don't stick your hands, or anything else, in their moth, eyes, etc. That kid also angered me when he posted that they were having "fake" seizures because the pattern on the EEG wasn't "correct" for a seizure. You can have nonepileptic seizures as well. I did after having brain surgery back in May. People need to learn the facts and stop believing crap on the internet and on TV. Sorry for the rant.
@@emilyferguson3718100% agree.
As someone with seizures if that girl actually faked her’s I’d be LIVID.
That got me so riled!
And that guy had NO RIGHT to touch her.
Dude, no exaggeration, that last story legit terrified me even before the update reveal, during the moment I placed myself in her situation of finding out everyone of their mutuals thought they were dating. "Wrote a Love story"? Girl, you have a horror best-seller in your hands. I felt second hand anxiousness from just listening and thinking about the before and after the comfrontation. If that's all real, this girl needs to move ASAP because thats scary as hell, it almost sounds like a documentary story iykwim.
LITERALLY, that was giving horror vibes so much
True, I'm even having a hard time with excepting that this was real. However, the best part is that her entire family is moving from there, regardless of these events that would drive everyone at least 3 states further away. This guy is a psychopath, no matter if it's another culture or another planet, that would be my nightmare.
General info: if somebody is having a seizure DO NOT restrict movement or put anything in their mouth. Put a pillow/shirt/anything soft under their head to mitigate head trauma from convulsions. If you can, try to put them on their side to prevent aspirating on vomit.
If you’re there at the start, try to time the length of the seizure and tell EMS when they arrive.
Remember, many times seizures look scarier than they actually are. Just do what you can and make sure emergency services are called and on their way
Epileptic here. No need to put anything under the head, just move tings away from the body. If you try to move their head to put something under it, it could do damage.
Also, if the person has epilepsy, just monitor for safety, time the seizure (if it lasts longer than 5 minutes call Emergency Services), after the seizure, roll them onto the recovery position (look it up, it's a fancy way of placing them on the side), if the person has difficulty coming out of the seizure also call emergency services. As they wake up, you can ask them simple questions to help the brain make connections again.
But with people you know have epilepsy, please don't call 911 for me. I'll recover fine on my own and don't want to pay for the ambulance ride and spend time going to the hospital and back just for them to say oh, you have epilepsy, so you had a seizure. I don't need an ER trip for something I know I have, unless it's one of the two things I listed above, prolonged seizure or struggling to come out of it.
@@alisaishere YES! I don't want to pay that medical bill lol
Edit: "who's the president" usually gets me to come around
@@Junksaint Who's the president has always been a good one. I had a well meaning bystander asking me what my favorite things are, like color, food, etc. When I was finally up and awake, I thanked him, but had to correct him. "Part of the questions are so you can assess if I'm making sense and aware, so those answers don't really work."
So weird to hear him say he'd pull at someone's tongue. You're gonna either harm the person seizing or they'll clamp onto your hand like a Dobermann, I've personally had very bad damage to my mouth after a seizure. I tend to also tell people it looks horrifying but I'll likely be fine, emergency services are often not even needed
Especially not your fingers, good way to get them bitten off or at least badly damaged.
" there's nothing more valuable in your life than truly genuine friendship with women "
Spencer pointing probably for Kiana and smiling 🥺
I LOVED that! Spencer is a good egg
YES!!
For someone who claims to not want to be in any videos, Kiana spends an awful lot of time making her presence known from off-camera
@@CrashSable She obviously just doesn't want to be in front of the camera. It's not like she's inserting herself from behind the camera. She speaks when she has info to give or when talked to and laughs when something is funny. Which is normal.
@@CrashSableme when I’m a hater for no reason? Lmao
33:54 don’t grab the tung because you might hurt yourself (the strength of the bite could seriously harm you). For the same reason you should not hold the head with your hands, but lay something soft beneath it if you can manage without endangering yourself.
Noah - "That's a wives tale?!"
*pause*
Noah - "I've assaulted someone."
Time stamp?
@@Vickickiikciv 34:07
hes on the right track tho. you're supposed to put something in their mouth (NOT your fingers) to keep then from biting through/off their tongue. i've got 2 friends who have/had seizers, so i have a background.
@@KatterTheMadHatterIs this trolling? You shouldn't force anything in their mouth. It can seriously injure someone. The best thing to do is support someone's head and let the seizure run its course. Obviously call 911 as well.
@@KatterTheMadHatterNO NO NO DONT DO THAT
It’s so refreshing to see such emotionally mature men, in a calm and respectful environment, with compassionate and logical opinions about misogynistic issues in particular. I’m struggling quite a bit at the moment with men in my life being disrespectful and immature. Hearing their thoughts at the end of the last story genuinely made me emotional. I definitely need more people in my life with their mindsets ❤
Yeah we aren’t all assholes. We’re out there
@@drakestallworth3621unfortunately the ones who are assholes tend to be louder to make sure you can hear them above anything else and don’t understand they are being annoying 😅.. guy whose girlfriend owed her parent money is a prime example of that.
@@drakestallworth3621 as a woman, plz dont say that. that is literally the worst response you can say about these issues. it is derailing
@@drakestallworth3621 take ur "not all men" and shove it up ur ***
@@perlita_100%. Don’t just say “well there are good men out there, you just gotta find them” that’s not enough. If you’re truly a good man then you need to be an advocate for change and be active when you see/hear toxic male behaviors and hold other men accountable. You cannot just be a bystander to the abuse and suffering of women and still claim to be a good man. Yes, good men are out there. We know. But every single man is potentially a threat, potentially dangerous and we have no idea which ones and often they won’t show their true colors right away. We are walking in a mine field and you’re saying “well there’s some safe spots, just step on those”
I really appreciate and agree with Noah's stance on, "ASK THEM!" You don't have to guess, just ask us and we will be happy to explain it. Asking questions is a necessary part of life. We don't bite
This, a million times. If the kids in my school had had that kind of class or explanation or message the kids AND the teachers at my school might not have caused so my trauma.
I totally bite.
unless we like you
as a recent high school graduate it's absolutely crazy how much cyberbullying happens now like everything is online and it's so much harder to not be made fun of
Like someone else on the internet said.
The internet just exposed how much of the population is actually dickheads.
I was in middle school during the MySpace era and the cyber bullying was bad then too. People would post bulletins about you and everyone would pile on. The thing is that back then we didn’t have a name for it and parents and schools didn’t really care.
We also had a top friends portion on our myspace pages and that caused a lot of drama too.
But I imagine that it’s just insane these days with all the platforms
@@cosodesign8953I was literally talking to a buddy the other day about all these new features they keep adding on insta that no one is asking for and we joked about bring a top friends section back and how it would literally crumble society in this day and age 😂
I went to high school before cyberbullying was a thing, but it was such a small school in such a small town that we all knew everything about each other anyway.
@@Subsistence69 Haven't they basically done that though? There's a story feature for chosen people, right? And when it was released, it would tell that person that they were on the list... I don't think they do that anymore, but still. It feels kinda like a top friends thing lol.
The last story made me genuinely upset because I relate to the shock of finding out a man in my life was secretly a psycho misogynist. My cousin has fallen into that Tate, alpha male, podcast bullshit. He has become someone I don’t recognize in only a year. He has become cruel, violent, with deeply warped views of the word. I’ve cut him out of my life, but I hear stories from other family members still in contact with him and the things they tell me are scary. I do not know how anyone can help him out of this well he’s fallen down before he does something he can’t take back. It’s such a weird, other worldly experience to realize someone you loved is not the person you thought they were.
i’m so sorry :( it’s so scary how quickly stuff like that can happen
The only time they will know that the screw up is when they don't have what they want a girfriend to marry to make family, they are gonna be all alone and miserable thinckin that the "perfect girl" exist, those "alpha youtubers" contradict themselves all the time, one video is attacking women who watch for his career rather than being housewife's and then in another video they are attacking the women who want to make a family and want to be housewife (in the before video his "ideal women" were housewife's).
The "alpha idiots" just wants to attack any prospect of women, they just want to see like "profesional migonistic imbecils"
I’ve had a similar experience where he did something that I never expected and couldn’t get over. It completely destroyed my view of him. He was the person I was closest to and now it’s like he’s a stranger. I’m really sorry you went through it as well
That's definitely fake believing the menstrual cycle is fake is just unbelievable to me
I imagine the guy in the last story needs therapy. Forget not having a female authority in his life. It seems he doesn’t have a positive male figure in his life, either. I find that the Top G community gets more views from people with no positive male influence.
That accidentally dating my best friend story was wild. It's like she woke up accidentally in the wrong reality.
That's something I've read about in a story once 😂. Never thought I'd hear about it in real life though like bruh 🤦🏾♀️ that's just wild 😮
This right here! 😮😮
I'm flabbergasted!
Honestly, this sounds like a horror movie
It HAS to be fake, too many plot holes
That’s exactly what I said too
9:28 a classmate used to do this. She used to write a study guide for every exam and before sharing it she'd ask the class to gather a certain amount of money and after paying her she send it in the group chat
As a teenager with epilepsy, who is about to move out, it’s so nice to see people know how to support someone having a seizure! I appreciate how Noah’s first instinct was to help, though he was thinking wrong, and I love how everyone jumped in to kindly correct. Wonderful episode! :)
As a mother of an epileptic teenager,when Noah said to stick his hand in the mouth ASAP I ABOUT DIED😂😂 I was like NOOO OMG NOOO 😂😂. Unfortunate as it is to have to do, you just Need to let them seize.. Make sure they aren't in danger, make sure if they are still seated that the head isn't tilted forward essentially cutting off the airway ( MY son graciously taught us that one.😢) Talk to them,tell them they are OK ect. DO NOT RESTRICT MOVEMENT. Make sure they are safe,but don't try to restrain. Epilepsy is awful.. Its so fucking scary for everyone. Now you listen here.. you had better call your mama EVERYDAY!! Make sure to take your meds on time and please let those know around you that you have Epilepsy and educate them on how to handle you in an emergency. Good luck in all your endeavors darling!! AND CALL YOUR MAMA❤❤❤
Just to add to his stupidity he said it was psychogenic and not a real seizure. Psychogenic seizures are a real thing and are real seizures. So him saying its both faked for attention and psychogenic is completely contradictory. Psychogenic seizures are also called Psychogenic Non-Eplileptic Seizures (PNES).
@@sarahwalters4428oddly enough I’ve been in situations where I’ve had to support people of the public having a seizure.
One person it was from ptsd. The store I was in no body knew what to do.
I took a first aid course a few years ago and it’s really come in handy
Sticking your hand in the mouth of someone having a seizure to grab their tongue sounds like a great way to lose a finger.
@@euryid8920Yes! I have them and they are SO real and can be crippling
this video makes me so happy because it’s adults putting themselves in teenagers these days shoes and actually understanding high school situations instead of just making fun of it like media always does
Teenagers have it so hard man... You could not pay me to go back there, no amount of money.
@@Rose-jz6sx i know right... im one 🥲
@@Rose-jz6sxadults have the tendency to believe children can not struggle the same way they do.
@@toemayetoegood luck 🫡
it gets better i promise
Noah and Spencer give really big "we would've been best friends back in Highschool" energy
Noah still looks like a high schooler tho
Lol a white dennis rodman playin high schopl basketball
@@highdefinition450yeah he still youngest cast on smosh
@@simpayshenaides Nah Arasha is 23/24 so she's the youngest now!
In kindergarten or 1st grade I told a kid he smelled like pancakes. I meant it as a compliment, pancakes are the best, but he started crying. I'm pretty sure I apologized right away, but that still haunts me.
As a 24 year old, I'd love it if someone said I smelt like pancakes
@@ChronicGoblinQueenAs a 31 year old, I concur. 😊
in high school I told a girl I really admired that is she had super powers her glare would turn people into stone (sixteen year old me thought this wad a compliment) and she started crying and it still haunts me to this day.
i have a habit of thinking i’m complimenting someone and they get insulted. sometimes it’s just poor wording and other times, they just don’t get what i’m trying to say and other other times, they think of what i’m complimenting as negative. ex. called my brother “wide” because his shoulder were filling out with muscles and he was looking strong. broad would have been a better word, and i was able to clarify what i meant so it was all good
For me that's the best compliment I could get from anyone in kindergarden. Smell of maple syrup
“Trying to debunk a seizure mid seizure? That’s insane.” Spencer only speaks truth 33:26
And dangerous for the person having the seizure. What would it even entail to disprove this seizure? It's like that witch thing where if you live you're a witch and killed but if you die thank God you're not a witch poor corpse.
Want to just state for the record DO NOT PUT ANYTHING IN ANYONE'S MOUTH DURING A SEIZURE! the chance that they will bite off your fingers and choke on your digit is a lot higher than them choking on their own tongue.
And do not use your hands to protect a person's skull, they'll just break your hands, put a sweater or some clothing between their head and the floor, and look up the appropriate recovery protocols for Grand Mal (body shaking and convulsions) seizures.
I think because for this generation specifically, it’s “cool” now to have something wrong with you from mental illness and disorders to faking seizures and sicknesses for attention from others. So while it is kinda sh*tty to question it, it’s a highly plausible thing.
Yeah, if you try to do that with the wrong person ina seizure, you can get injured pretttty badly.
The bully story...
Yes she remembers. She's embarrassed. Instead of apologizing she's pretending.
She deserved what she got. If she'd changed. She'd request a meeting with carter present in order to apologize.
The fact she's playing amnesia and then runs off crying. Naw she's still manipulative.
🙌Exactly🙌
Look, I agree with you, but please learn what a comma is
@margauxcy I understood what they meant. If you didn't, maybe that's a you problem 😂
@@Cissy777No they 100% knew just were being a prick
@@margauxcy listen, while I understand the importance of commas, no.
My son has seizures, here's what to do. Make sure they're in a safe position. Protect their head (don't hold it, on top of a lap or pillows is fine). And soothing words, like "hey you're having a seizure. You're a home. I'm here for you". Anything longer than 5 mins call an ambulance.
"I heard that high school girls were the meanest things to be ever created" as someone who grew up with five sisters this is very accurate
I thought the same and then i met adult men
As someone with 8 sisters, I concur
@@bellagrace11037 i can't imagine having 8 oh my gosh
@@Amber-yv8wq lol, I have ten siblings all together. The oldest is at 34, the youngest is less than a year!
@@bellagrace11037 duuuude your mom is a trooper cause i would never
The seizure story is something . I have seizures and most definitely can hear and feel everything that happens to me , I just can’t respond when it happens. I’ve literally heard a doctor say their going to stab me with a needle to show I was faking and was on drugs . I didn’t wake . I had multiple needle stab wounds on my hand and drug test done showing no drugs . No apology was granted . Having people think you are faking a seizure is one of the most uncomfortable feelings ever.
Did you sue? That would make an ambulance chaser DROOL.
@@thisdude9363 I wish I did ! I was alone in the ambulance and they told my parents they couldn’t come along. I was 15 at the time 😭
@@thisdude9363 what makes it worst , I had seized while walking down a flight of stairs . They pulled me from the stairs mid seize and start telling me to stop acting faint .😭
@@HappyDayandLoveI don’t have seizures myself, but I assume that it would be pretty funny to throw my body down a flight of stairs and violently contort for a prank. No? That’s weird, it sounds hilarious to me.
@@ttrouble_was_taken I’m saying !! What makes it worse is that it was found later that I had a concussion from the impact 😭
I’m glad they told Noah before someone started having a seizure, and he tried to grab their tongue.
“Noah, wtf are u doing?!?!” 😂😂
My 16yr is an epileptic and I about died when he said that lmao. You never ever stick anything in the mouth.. Now while seizing they can absolutely bite the tongue and it'll bleed ect. My poor baby has gotten hurt so many times. He has T.C. or tonic clonic or Drop seizures. They used to be called GRAND MAL, people would always say GRANDMA lmao. Make sure they are safe and not going to hurt themselves. You can hold them but don't restrain them..if that makes sense. I'm sooo happy they told poor Noah 😂
@@sarahwalters4428 drop seizures, is that like all of a sudden, with no warning? My cousin has seizures and she knows when they’re about to happen. It was a metallic taste in her mouth. The warning would come so far before the seizures that she would be able to call the ambulance and her mom.
@fosixsix225 No hunny, Drop seizures or Tonic Clonic seizures are where the whole Body convulse's. If you're standing up, you will drop.. What your cousin? I think is what you said, has is actually called an AURA. Many ppl have them right before a seizure happens.. kinda like a warning system lol. My son screams😭. So that's extra fun.. Some people can actually tell before hand and get to safety like sitting down or out of the shower ect. Which honestly is AMAZING! My son also has absent seizures where it looks like he's just day dreaming or staring off into space but he's actually actively seizing. It's just not a whole body seizure. Also with drop seizures, It makes your body go limp.. So for instance, my sons last seizure he was sitting down and because of that his head flopped forward and cut his airway off.. He's slammed his poor face into desks and tables and he's busted his nose,he's hit his face on the bathroom sink cuz he was brushing his teeth at the time.. I TRY to not think about what if I wasn't home or in the shower or anything when my baby stopped breathing.. It happens and sometimes they person doesn't make it.. It called SUDEP. Sudden Unexpected Death from Epilepsy. Thank you for educating yourself!! Ask questions! Always! The more you know, the better prepared you can be and the safer your cousin will be!!🥰🥰
As someone who’s had a seizure, maybe two I’m not to sure, Noah if I’m having a seizure around you, you can do whatever you want to me
@@sarahwalters4428 Drop seizures and tonic clonic seizures are different kinds of seizures, actually. Both will make you fall down, but a tonic clonic seizure causes convulsions while a drop seizure makes you just collapse like a ragdoll.
Unfortunately I’ve been in a situation similar. My ex started introducing me as their partner to people without telling me first, and I unfortunately ended up staying with them for over a year. It’s a weird situation
Noah freaking out as Spencer is just calmly listening, absolute gold
Exciting always to get Noah on these, because he does NOT care who he pisses off with his opinion.
exactly why the Noah and Damien episode was my favourite ‼️
@@rae5602 100% Damien and Noah are GOATED in that Devil reddit ep, man
He's right a lot!
@@Sam-fq8dmhi veterinarian here,if u or anyone u know come across a K-9 or Feline having a seizure never try to grab their tongues including humans it’s extremely dangerous U can get bitten really bad or hurt them just protect them from falling off anything or hurting themselves same for humans roll them on their side call for help just incase u ever come across this again 🥰
Shayne will never understand the public school struggle
Or the epic highs and lows of highschool football
@@clartblart3266it's what happens when you drop out in 4th grade to run drugs to support your Nana 😞
@@clartblart3266the fact that this is a real line on Riverdale is still hilarious to me
@@clartblart3266 I was literally just about to post that haha. As soon as I read the first comment that popped into my head
@Angela-zp1qsGet out of here Cybernet.
I don't have many comments about this episode as most have already been said but I will say that I do love when they reference the stories and smosh related things in the episode. I don't know why but it just always make me laugh. It probably has something to do with the fact that Shayne's laugh is so contagious.
Dude the story about the twins and swapping places gave me such a bad feeling in my stomach. I know this isn't really near the extremity of the reddit story, but a long time ago I often fell victim to a lot of scenarios where I would be having a nice long conversation over text with a friend, only to find out a different person that I didn't know had been using THEIR phone. It always left me with a strange feeling in my stomach like I almost never knew if who I was messaging was who I thought they were. Often it lead to times where I had to ask "Is this really you?" if I noticed my friend acting a little differently over text. It may appear as a silly joke to them, but having it occur more than once is pretty concerning.
I had this acquaintance in high school that I was trying to talk to I had something serious going on and he had offered support (it was a family health matter) but half way through our text conversation the person said they were another one of his female friends. It honestly made me really mad and I called her out on it and that friendship didn't go to far after that.
This has happened to me, I met a interesting friend on Facebook and either they lost their phone or account or something cuz when mentioning the name to them on the phone number message texts they didn't know what I was talking about and said I'm not that person you named.
That study guide story had me dying. I’m a STEM student so I do heavy studying all the time and I CANNOT imagine depending so heavily on one person like that. If I get the study guide that would be a massive help but I’m always gonna take my own notes and study. Failing classes is like my worst nightmare, my paranoia would never let me be that dependent lmao
10/10 truth, those ppl were coasting in a gen ed chem class? Oof, just study next time, it saves you time in the long run
@borkbork4124 no it doesn't, if they can get someone to summarize the info, that's time saved
Noah doesn’t seem to think of himself as a genuinely good guy but his reactions to these stories just show how golden he is.
As an epileptic, never ever grab someone’s tongue... Make sure they didn’t hit their head, turn them on their side, time it if possible. Also, never assume that someone is faking it. In that case they were right but seizures are different for everyone and are not like what happens on tv (at least mine aren’t)
Probably Noah’s best hairstyle imo, can’t wait to watch this
Every Noah hairstyle is his best hairstyle 🥹🧡
@Angela-zp1qs you better start shitting and Cumming too
Prolly cuz of the matching fit lol
this and the neapolitan have my heart
Fun Fact: my first job out of high school required me to undergo extensive first aid/CPR training, and I did it again for my college degree. One of the main things I learned about was helping those who are having seizures. You DO NOT hold their tongue or restrain them in any way (or open their eyes). Doing so could result in severe injury to you or the patient! Instead, you help them gently to the ground and carefully turn them on their side. Make sure they have plenty of space; don’t crowd around them, and make sure there’s no furniture that they can hit their head or limbs on. Check for any sort of medical bracelet/necklace/tattoo etc. Time the seizure; they should only last a few minutes, but this varies from person to person. If it lasts too long or if you don’t know if they have a history of seizures, call for help. Shayne is right about supporting the head to make sure they don’t hit it on the floor or anything else, but like I said, don’t restrain or crowd them. Last but definitely not least, do your best to stay calm.
Edit: if they’re sitting up and not falling, don’t guide them to the ground. Keep an eye on them just in case, but the main dangers are of them hitting their head if they fall or swallowing their tongue/choking on vomit if they’re on their back. Sorry for the TMI, but it’s true.
THIS. when I heard hold their tongue I fully stopped functioning 😳 never, Jesus. I'm so glad they immediately walked that back
Additional info (if you’re in the US where ambulances mean debt): If you Do know that a person has a history of seizures, you don’t need to call an ambulance unless the seizure lasts too long or they have two in a short period of time.
From someone who has seizures, thank you.
Medical tattoo?
@@prnc96 sometimes, instead of wearing a bracelet or pendant or something with a brief alert about their medical condition in case of emergency, people will get it tattooed on them. Could be because they don’t like jewelry, or they don’t want to lose something so important. I think it’s a fairly new thing, but I saw it in an Inked video once. I’ll have to read up more on it. It’s honestly not a bad idea.
Noah's reactions are always my favorite, he gets so rightfully angry/shocked/worried on the behalf of those who were wronged. I love these reddit episodes and watch every one, please keep doing them for as long as they're fun!!
Same, I love his reactions, and I love whenever he speaks his mind. True king sht
The phrase of 'useless debt' by that euro dude grinds my gears, like it paid for his girlfriends education and even if it might not be in a super employable field, he's essentially saying her education and all the work she put towards her degree was useless.
I think his argument is that she could've gotten just as good an education for free. If you go into debt to get something you could've gotten for free, that *is* useless debt. Like Smosh said, I think he has a good argument but he's going about it in the most AH way possible.
Especially because there is nothing in the story about her regretting any part of her decision. She has a first job and is ready to start paying her parents back however much at time and I just see him as being out here saying "Your parents need to understand that you wasted their money pursuing your failed dreams."
If I was him I would tell her hey you pay back your debt to your parents cause I get it you made a deal but leave me out of it I'll leave and find someone I'm more compatible with and just break up with her it's that simple talk communication is key when it comes to a romantic relationship of any caliber
you'll literally get the same education for free. if the end result of two methods is the same but one costs nothing and the other costs more money than you will in decades, then you did indeed waste your money.
spencer’s smile & point at kiana when shayne talked about friendships with women restored my faith in men a little i’m ngl
Exactly! Warmed my heart
The Anika story makes me so angry. My mom had a bunch of friends with kids my age, and one of them hated me. He constantly pulled embarrassing pranks on me and at one point threw paving stones at me. I would be forced to be around him when Mom saw her friends and I always dreaded it. Him bullying me went on throughout elementary and middle school, and thankfully I didn't have to see him much after that. He did come to pick something up for his mom once after we had both graduated college though. He tried making small talk and asking how I had been. When he realized I refused to give him more than a one word answer he asked what my problem was. I reminded him that he bullied me for years and that I still didn't like him and he asked me why I "hadn't gotten over it yet". According to him, he was a kid and it didn't matter. BS. He wanted me to be "civil and polite" when the thought of apologizing never once crossed his mind. You do not have to get over/forgive your bullies if they refuse to even try to apologize! I'm so sorry her family doesn't understand or fully support her. If Anika really has changed, she'd be trying to make it right because she would genuinely feel bad. She isn't upset that she got "embarrassed", she's upset that her immature and awful behavior caught up to her and bit her in the butt.
i have a cousin who was an awful bully to me when i was a small child whenever we visited my paternal grandmother. we moved overseas for a time and werent able to visit my grandmother or really any family for several years. the next time i saw her, (edit, i think i was 14) she tried to make small talk and just shoot the breeze or whatever and i just stared her down and waited for her to apologize to me. she never did.
Yeah, he's a POS. I kinda come from the other direction... I had a "friend" in middle school who would bully another "friend" relentlessly, in the name of good fun. I never actively participated but was definitely an enabler, standing by the side and saying nothing, at worst sometimes laughing along.
Ironically, I think the bullied kid might not remember me, but I will remember him for the rest of my life. I've really had to reckon with the fact that I've contributed, even in a small way, to this kid having social anxiety and trouble making friends. If I ever met him again, I would apologize for what I did (or didn't do) even if he didn't remember himself.
I understand why some people would claim to have forgotten. Apologizing means recognizing and feeling shame for what an asshole you were, and that's hard to do. But expecting to have any kind of cordial relationship with your victim because "they should've gotten over it by now" is delusional. No dude, it's your job to apologize, so maybe you should get over it
8:15 I love the double take when they realize it was an overshot of a guess! We need more and more combos of guests, they all work so well together.
@Angela-zp1qsBRO OMG! This annoying bot bommented on SMOSH's video, I'm Crying 😭 (tears of disappointment in humanity)
@meowJACK 🤣 Right tho?
It is really ard to get that low of a grade if you do the bare minimum, meaning showing up to class. Grade curves make or break, so lucky OP for getting an average exam grade and it being curved to a near perfect score lol. I had a similar thing happen to me in a chem class too
hey y’all despite it being a reddit episode, thank you for opening up the door of what to do in seizure emergencies! as someone with seizures, the best thing to do if u witness one is lay them on their side to prevent them from choking and then let it happen. love u noah but the last thing u want to do is grab a hold of them. making sure they don’t their hurt their head is for sure a plus! thanks for opening a conversation, even if just a small one
The bully 100% remembers and was hoping to manipulate the situation and escape accountability. I hope OP shows the post to her parents and brother.
I feel bad for OP to have a brother who cares so little for the wellbeing of his sister. If he really loved her he would mever date her former bully, not the least without Anika sincerely apologizing and making up. I can't imagine dating someone in my siblings' circles let alone anyone who had bullied them, regardless of change or not. OP did mention that "they're made for each other" so it seems like he is indeed just as shitty as Anika.
I know I'm not the first to say this ,but I really connect with the raw emotion and sense of what is right that Noah exhibits when speaking on important issues. I'd love to see more of him in these reddit episodes.
I agree. He’s very well spoken and you can tell it comes from the heart
The bullied sister should have also said that she does not remember speaking up over dinner and embarrassing her brother's fiancé... 😂
Killed me 😂💀
Idk who needs to hear this, but at 34:09 ish Noah said first instinct is to grab the tongue, DO NOT PUT ANYTHING IN SOMEONE'S MOUTH WHEN SEIZING. If they are standing and go to the ground, put something soft under their head and try to get them on their side, if they are to ridged and moving to much to rotate, don't force it. If their sitting (couch, supportive chair without armrests and such) get flat surfaces away and monitor the mouth, they might make to much drool and need to be rocked to the side to drain, but getting them to the ground is fuckin hard, and needs to be two people. Also, fun fact, when something happens suddenly like a wound or life threatening event that requires an ambulance and you are the person at ground zero, if you have names that helps, but otherwise call people by their shirt colors and give tasks definitively (ie. Red shirt call 911, Jojo shirt get water and a wet cloth, blue shirt what time is it) but in an emergency your going 0 to 1000 and need all the brain power to remember what's going on and get them to a medical professional, so even if you know everyone at the party, save brain power for watching eye movement and which arms move first and hopefully how long the seizure lasted. That last one is almost impossible to get right but anything helps doctors help the person experiencing it bc they don't know jack shit. Side side note, never, and I mean NEVER mention to them that they pissed themselves or anything, they will feel it. Not feeling ashamed will help them not resent themselves in the future. You can tell a baby it's a stinky fuck for pissing themselves, but someone gaining their brain back hearing 'Brooo you like, pissed everywhere that was wild' is not ok. Anyways, that's all the fun facts I got for now, thanks for coming to my tedtalk 💕
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Imagine how much funnier shayne could’ve been if he went through public school life
He’s already really funny. He could’ve not flourished more if he did go to public school. Him being like this is a canon event
Shayne is everyone's therapist, and I'm here for it 😌.
@@sailormoonsault Yes, sadly 😔
Noah's "ask any of them, cause they all will have an answer" is like, the quote of the century honestly.
so true... so sad but so true. most men don't realize just HOW common these experiences are for women. they shrug it off as like "oh well this happened to someone i guess". but no. something or another happened to ALL of us. actually, many things. as women, we quite literally all have a story to tell. it feels nice to hear it acknowledged so clearly and unequivocally.
Yep. So true. Every single woman can relate. And if she can't is because she was brain washed and gaslit about the situation 😢
I cannot fathom as an identical twin, why other identical twins would just switch places for s’s and g’s. Just the thought of it alone stresses me tf out.
This is easily my favorite Smosh segment. Still waiting to hear from the pregnant mom, who found out her husband and bff were having an affair.
Looking forward to the updates as well!
Definitely I cannot wait for that update!
Yeah, I hope she’s doing okay
We’re all so invested in it
i didn´t waited and looked it up in the link of that video, things went very smooth after it happened, the ex visits the pregnant mom every now and then
Oh my god! That last story made me want to hurl. I actually started crying for that girl. I hope she stays safe and far far away from that boy.
the high school bully one genuinely makes me so mad. her description of feeling physically sick when she saw her bully again was all too familiar for me (i was bullied pretty badly in 8th grade and felt sick even just hearing her name)-and what she’s describing is actually a trauma response. she went through some serious shit
I really appreciate that y'all said that high school is the hardest it's ever been right now. I'm a freshman, and even when you leave school, you don't truly leave, because online everyone is still talking about each other and school related things. Hell, that happens in middle school too. And for the people who say that you should just stop going online, your social life will die. In our modern day, it is practically impossible to properly socialize with people without using social media, texting, whatever. I personally really only use texting, RUclips, and sometimes Pinterest, and I just keep to myself and my friends. I don't really know about whatever "popular kid drama" there is, and I don't even really know who "the popular kids" are to be honest. And I'm still using social media (obviously, lol). People don't just show up at other's doors unannounced anymore. That's considered weird by most people, especially teenagers. Yes, you can have friends outside of social media and such, but you'll still be socially stunted. It's just simply not how our society works anymore. And most of our work is online now too (including our grades for our parents to see whenever!). The world has changed so much since you (the type of person that I mentioned before, not everyone) went to school, that your close minded opinion on the matter doesn't even really apply anymore.
Didn't mean to rant like that, but I mean what I said.
1:09:08 Spencer pointing at Kiana just warmed my heart
Story about the fake seizures: I feel like everyone should have a basic CPR/first aid course every year in school (of course making it age appropriate) because the number of people in the general public who have no clue what to do if someone passes out or has a seizure is astounding. I have fainting episodes and MORE THAN ONCE I have come to with someone poorly performing CPR and I have come to with a wet face and began choking because they thought pouring water on my face would rouse me. 38:14
I agree. Basic CPR/first aid lessons should replace the DARE program tbh
Not Spencer clearly making eye contact with Kiana off screen and smiling when Shayne says "one of the best things you can have as a straight man is a genuine friendship with a woman" :)
I noticed that too, it was super cute 🫶🏼
22:37 I already knew before that it was about someone in Germany... but with the update, I was absolutely sure 🤣
I was looking for someone to say he was German hahaha
Haha, I literally wrote "German" in the F3 window to find something like this comment. :D
That last story broke my heart. I went through something similar during my senior year of high school. His family would straight up tell me we were dating even when I said we weren’t. He tried to unalive himself, and said the reason was because I didn’t love him.
Dear lord… So sorry you had to go through that.
Jesus Christ. I hope you’re doing okay now. No one deserves to be put under that kind of pressure.
christ on a fucken bike
@@mortua_conjuga pretty much
That last story felt like a playthrough where you just try to find out what the bad dialogue options do
you put it into words!!
that last story at first sounded like a fake fanfiction type story, but after that update it was just terrifying. its so scary to think that kind of thing could happen with someone you trust 😨
its not even andrew tate level, its more. what idiot says that menstrual cycles are a myth, he had got to find that from a troll account.
Totally agree and it’s insane what can go on without someone realizing it. I find it really scary to think that someone could be part of a reality-altering lie without even knowing it.
@@anotheralainatruly terrifying. i always wonder how things like this happen. did they really show no signs of a poor moral code? did they never have meaningful conversations with their bff? did they lie about their beliefs to appease the other person? if they lied, how did they converse about that and still maintain their misogynistic beliefs?
how much should i give my friends the benefit of the doubt? i like to be trusting and optimistic, but i also don’t want to support an insidiously evil individual
@@skywayve7473 I was thinking the same things. How much do we really know the people in our lives? When do we stop giving a loved one the benefit of the doubt? I guess cautious optimism is the best way to handle friendships.
The old bullying friend becoming the fiancé is exactly like the movie “you again” it’s a good movie if you want to see how the drama plays out
Don't let Noah anywhere near someone having a seizure lol. Noah, if you see someone having a seizure take two steps back and let someone else cover it.
Yeahhhh that was scary when he said you “grab their tongue” like dude… you’re gonna break someone’s jaw, actually make them choke or get your fingers bitten off. I linked a ton of seizure safety guides
If anything, catch them if they fall near you and you can react quickly enough, then IMMEDIATELY lay them on their side and put something like a pillow or folded sweater under the head to avoid choking on saliva and avoid head trauma.
@@hunterwhitley9582 and if things are close by, get it away from them so they won't hurt themselves
@@emilyferguson3718 It's a very commonly misbelieved thing I don't think Noah is to blame here.
@@emz2969Yeah, I’m in my 30s and it was this video that taught me not to do that 😂
The seizure "faking" story messes me up because I got accused quite a bit about faking vasovagal syncope when I was a kid. I wasn't faking it. Why would I want to pass out in the middle of my meals, or even worse the few times it happed when I was in the restroom? If she was faking it, she's the AH, but really the OP is the AH in every situation.
I totally agree. I have chronic health problems, and being accused of faking something that affects your life so deeply... really hurts. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I get vasovagal syncope as well
Same. I have psychogenic seizures like the girl in the story. They’re not a neurological misfire, but it usually takes DAYS for me to feel better after having an episode. It makes your body hurt.