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Shayne’s “Ian, you love COD… I enlisted you” was SO FUNNY
I definitely died at that😂
I screamed 😂
I was absolutely sent by that lol
I couldn't come up with a comment to updo the last ..... 🎂
ON THE SPOT TOO ,, so witty , i was laughing my heart out
For the natural childbirth guy; next time he’s sick don’t give him any medicine. Tell him his body will naturally fight it off. 😂🤦♀️
I was thinking he should get a vasectomy armed with only his well-researched pain management techniques 🤷🏼♀️
That story made me so furious I almost had to skip past it. Ugh what a knob.
When he has his colonoscopy, let him be fully awake and sober while MORE doctors he seems to be smarter than can bring his asshole and matching personality center stage on the monitors 😒
👏👏👏👏
Also when he's sick ignore his cries for help. It's not even a comparison but I feel like if he has to go without his soup / blankets / massages / essential oils for 3 days he'd lose his mind. Honestly I hope she left him bc now I'm seriously worried about the mother and baby. What happens if their child needs a doctor or asks for help with pain? When the baby is teething, is he gonna refuse his son Tylenol or Motrin while he's screaming at night, on the edge of a fever, not able to feed properly due to the PAIN? He'll probably just call Grandma and then diffuse lavender oil smh. What even.
I remember when my wife was pregnant with our son and the coach quarterback analogy is so stupid. For us it was much closer to my wife being every single member of the team and I was waterboy and cheerleader 😂
Honestly yeah he should be the cheerleader but with all he’s saying he might be a non-fan or fan of the opposite team, unbelievable
That's so hilarious and adorable. I love that
That's so funny but cute and accurate 😆
I absolutely love this one 😂
I can attest to water boy and cheer leader being spot on accurate.
My grandmother told my mother, regarding "natural birth", that no one is waiting on the other side with a medal. I don’t understand why someone would insist on another person going through that kind of pain when it can be so easily mitigated.
I'd like to preface this be saying I agree that OP is a total asshole. What a woman chooses to do with her body is her choice. However, whether drug assisted birth is good for the mother is a much more nuanced public health issue.
Watch "The Business of Being Born". It's a documentary put together by public health professionals that addresses the negative implications of having a hospital birth. The U.S is one of only high income countries that has more hospital birth than mid-wife births. A large factor in this is a smear campaign run on mid-wives when hospitals were first coming up. One of the largest factors that make hospital births problematic is intervention cascades. An intervention cascade is when the birthing mother receives an epidural, the drug that eases birthing pains, only to receive pitocin, a synthetic oxytocin that stimulates cramps, soon after because the birth is taking too long. Hospitals are monetarily incentivized to get mothers out of the hospital as soon as possible, thus the pitocin. Unfortunately, receiving pitocin causes more pain, since the cramps become longer and stronger. So, the mother's get more epidurals, which slow down the birth. This often continues until either the baby is born or doctor's realize the baby's blood pressure drops because the longer and stronger cramps are suffocating them and take the mother into surgery for a C-section. This is why the C-section rates in the U.S are so concerningly high. Furthermore, the use of pitocin mitigates the MASSIVE oxytocin release birth is usually associated with. Oxytocin, which is colloquially called the love drug.
Notably, doctors are not experts on birth. Even doctors that specialize in that area are often surgeons, which are experts on surgery--like a C-section.
@@Flame-zn7jp- I was surprised the OP didn’t mention some of the statistics and facts around medical childbirth. He could have made better points. I thought he was right to try to educate his wife about it. She wouldn’t be scared if she learned more and used some of the methods he mentioned. But we’re so used to seeing childbirth on TV, with the mother screaming and swearing and medical staff screaming “PUSH!!!” that it’s hard to imagine a more gentle way of having a baby. My sister had a natural home-birth and it was such a better and more profound experience than having her first child, which was natural, but in a hospital, where you have little control and way too many interruptions and staff sticking their hands inside you. Hospital births are done in the worst way possible, even if you’re doing it naturally. I wish more people understood the issues involved with pitocin and epidurals. I watched the same documentary you mentioned above and learned a lot.
Your grandmother had good sense! My parents told me trying to make birth less painful was "going against god" 🙃
@@mollyanderson9111 Funny you mention that! This reasoning was popularized because of the Christian belief that painful births were God's punishment to women for Eve's eating of the fruit. During the same era as the smear campaign ran against midwives women's rights groups flocked towards hospitals where they could have totally painless births via anesthesia. Unfortunately, the hospital advertising was incredibly deceptive and what was actually being administered was a drug that simply removed memory and not an anesthetic. This procedure was called "Twilight Sleep." Pretty gruesome stuff.
@@Flame-zn7jpinitially I was going to say your comment smelled of “vaccines are making my kid autistic” conspiracy stuff. But then I actually did some research. I’m not going to go ahead a day I fully changed my mind but defiantly learned a lot and would agree that this is not as cut and dry as I was initially thinking. My guess is that for the most part doctors are trying there best to help but the bigger US healthcare system has issues that go beyond this with regards to how it is for profit.
The soon-to-be-father is the same kind of guy that tells his wife not to scream during labor because “it’s embarrassing me!”
No,the kind of guy who tells the nurses that he’s tired too!
He seems like he's the kind of guy to fight the medial staff and his wife because he wants mommy (his) in the labor room watching his wife give birth
I remember one time I was in the ER, some random dude burst into my cubicle and yelled at me to stop vomiting so loudly, because "there are CHILDREN here!"
@@ttintagel hope that guy was kicked out,he had no right to barge in and yell that at you
Or sits there and eats subway while wife is only allowed ice chips in labor room
No way!! How'd you get Chumbawumba's #1 fan to show up?!
This comment was all I needed to know Ian was in the episode
He was down, but then he got up again
I don't remember what this is from
Where does the reference come from? I haven't been able to find it
@@matickon"Can Shayne guess our music taste?" On smosh games
The Barbie movie is also pro-men. Ken’s arc is literally trying to find his identity outside of being Barbie’s boyfriend
not really
@@Saiputera??? It’s pro-men and anti-toxic masculinity
It doesn't highlight how the women created a similarly toxic environment limiting men from have personalities or rights outside of being props for the women. Which I think is how the movie makes the parallelism to toxic masculinity.
I feel like the whole point of Ken was to make men in particular feel uncomfortable. They don't like how he and other Kens are treated, and it is supposed to spark a conversation about why.
@@AnaCastillo-nm6so yeah, it's sort of like how women in nearly every film ever serve only to further the story and character growth of the male leads. You can use the word 'women' here as a stand in for LGBTQIA+ people and people of colour btw.
As a doctor... I'm so upset with the birth story.
Also, I would love to hear some medical stories / medical horror stories from reddit. Would love to see a doctor as a guest to give his/her take on the stories. Would LOVE that.
Would be awesome to see Mama Doctor Jones!
I'd like to preface this be saying I agree that OP is a total asshole. What a woman chooses to do with her body is her choice. However, whether drug assisted birth is good for the mother is a much more nuanced public health issue.
Watch "The Business of Being Born". It's a documentary put together by public health professionals that addresses the negative implications of having a hospital birth. The U.S is one of only high income countries that has more hospital birth than mid-wife births. A large factor in this is a smear campaign run on mid-wives when hospitals were first coming up. One of the largest factors that make hospital births problematic is intervention cascades. An intervention cascade is when the birthing mother receives an epidural, the drug that eases birthing pains, only to receive pitocin, a synthetic oxytocin that stimulates cramps, soon after because the birth is taking too long. Hospitals are monetarily incentivized to get mothers out of the hospital as soon as possible, thus the pitocin. Unfortunately, receiving pitocin causes more pain, since the cramps become longer and stronger. So, the mother's get more epidurals, which slow down the birth. This often continues until either the baby is born or doctor's realize the baby's blood pressure drops because the longer and stronger cramps are suffocating them and take the mother into surgery for a C-section. This is why the C-section rates in the U.S are so concerningly high. Furthermore, the use of pitocin mitigates the MASSIVE oxytocin release birth is usually associated with. Oxytocin, which is colloquially called the love drug.
Notably, doctors are not experts on birth. Even doctors that specialize in that area are often surgeons, which are experts on surgery--like a C-section.
@@Flame-zn7jp Having your child at home is super special and happy until you get a complication and then the mother and the baby can die. I doubt you are going to have an ICU and a surgery room in your house. Women can give birth in a hospital and still do it the way they want, the important thing is to look at your options and discuss a birth plan with your doctor before going into labor. I won't say there are no problems in giving birth in a hospital, and rushing for a C-Section does happen, but other times a C-section is the only option for giving birth. Also, not sure how it works in the US, but I had 2 children born in 2 different countries, and in both the doctor works along side a mid wife all the way
@@jjcapanegra I'm not sure why you're responding with the downsides of home birth when flame didn't even mention home birth? You can do a hospital birth while still researching the pros and cons of suggested interventions and being cautious about accepting interventions that you don't see a clear necessity for. I refused epidural but agreed to induction based on researching the pros and cons of both in similar situations to mine (I had GD).
@@ettinakitten5047 what exactly is a "mid wife birth"? He is comparing that to a "hospital birth". If a mid wife birth isn't at home then I don't get why the emphasys on the term "hospital", where else are people having children? It's really useful to know every procedure, and specially important to know you can refuse them. Some doctors push for c section way to early. I had a friend where the doctor wanted to do a c section because she was taking to long, and when she refused, the doctor took off becuase it was his birthday. She ended up having a vaginal brith with the doctor on guard. Epidural is safe, there is a lot of missinformation going around about it. And oxytocin is useful when used correctly. The problem is when they are not used properly, not with the procedures themselves
Ian being both unhinged and competently well spoken is such a serve
What is the "W" word? Women?
@@sherirocco7726I’m pretty sure it’s “woke” 😭
@@theeveningcallsforfairies5246 I looked it up and UD said Whore. Maybe?
Woke is a silly term that silly people use interchangeably for empathy. They don't get that being kind isn't that hard and doesn't really take away anything from others but gives some everything.
Sounds like Ian made an anon acc to comment this 😅😂
@@sherirocco7726nah, it's "woke" ironic because manosphere manchildren use it for smosh a lot
I trust Ian’s opinions solely because he is Chumbawumba’s #1 fan
saulelly*
Chumbawumba slaps. They have an album just of peasant and working class British anti-monarchy, anti-capitalist songs.
@@NonsenseObligedefinitely going to give that a listen. Thank you
@@NonsenseOblige As a brit, an anti-monarchy album sounds so cool, gonna give it a listen
HAHAHAHA
now i'm looking back at videos with shayne and courtney and thinking "they're dating here and we didn't know it"
It changes nothing for me. It's not like people didn't have entire theories about them like they were some tv characters. I mean, I get that it's fascinating to some people because I guess they think they can tell and still didn't, feeling outright dumbfounded if they never had a clue, or alternatively feel "proven right" if they had speculated. Which, it wasn't any of our business anyway. It's just their relationship, their professional lives and work are still the same. All I really think of is all this time they weren't ever left alone from all the speculations and that must have put a lot of pressure onto them both personally and professionally. Keeping it undisclosed could have been to avoid getting their relationship and work mixed up in the eyes of the audience. So again, it changes nothing and I think they hope it won't too.
@@AammaK yeah, i mean it's just a shock to me (even though people shipped them forever) bc i personally didn't ship them at all. i really thought they were just best friends. and now watching them, it's pretty cool just seeing how they interact professionally knowing they're in a relationship.
Right?! It's just so cute!
more importantly, ian hecox is third wheeling here and he knows it
Boyfriend: "Get to know my family."
Shay: *Bonds with his father*
Boyfriend: "Wrong"
its obvious that she cheated on him with his father like bro be real how can people not see this? oh yeah asshole of a father brought food and stayed there for 2 hours and now she is taking shower? WTf MAN
@@tkokflux6322 Have you never once spent a couple hours over a meal talking with people? Enjoying the company of others? For all we know she was asking about her boyfriend the entire time - what was his childhood like, his mom, his extended family - or they got wrapped up in a common interest. I’ve lost countless hours in my family home’s kitchen because we go down a rabbit hole of personal stories and interests. My partner would absolutely talk to either of my parents for hours on end.
Insecurities like this and seeing the worst side of people who you’re supposed to trust is a massive red flag for personal issues that should be dealt with immediately.
And you know what? EVEN. IF. She cheated on him with his own father. SHE broke it off with her boyfriend literally the next day, and both her and the dad would have to live with that guilt. Boyfriend still needs therapy either way.
@@tkokflux6322it doesnt have to be that though.
If i had spent more time with my exes parents (they didnt live near us), i would have hung out with his parents if they had done stuff and my ex was doing something i definitely didnt want to do (as in something i was like 'oh fuck no thats scary', like riding horses).
Yes, his parents were together, but even if it was just his mum, or just his dad, id have spent time with them. You want the parents to like you, and you want to in a way bond with them if it is a serious relationship.
I guess its odd because the father is actually interested in his childrens partners? Many fathers are kind of stand-offish, like my dad. His thought process is 'well theyre here for you, not me' in relation to friends or partners - that means he basically doesnt even talk to them or make any effort. And it makes it very awkward, at least to me.
It makes me not want to not have myself and my partners spend time with my dad.
Maybe this OP is just annoyed that his father is more easy to talk to than he is.
only with his father tho lol but we can ignore that
@@wkxeov6128 its bad she only got to know the father? Maybe she knew some of the younger family. Maybe its more important to impress his parent than it is an extended family member because the father is more like to be involved with his sons life, and therefore more of a part of her life while shes with that guy.
The Panera Bread callback was AMAZING on Courtney's part 💀
and the dyson nards
YES!! I was like "Hey wait, I GOT THAT REFERENCE!!!" (It's the little things that give me joy, lol. )
was hilarious but made me think...did none of them try and call him or text him in the daddy issues story...like in 2 hours the father never even thought to text to confirm his son didn't get stabbed behind a bar or something. I feel like we might get an update in like 3 months that she is dating OP's dad
@@MrKteachthought the same. If they fought and he slept outside dad should have sent an email/SMS or whatever saying he was there with breakfast.
She also could have done it if she did not comment on their fight with the dad. Like, your dad is here with breakfast. I would feel uncomfortable being with someone that I recently met like the parents of my boyfriend. The anxiety would be too much.
@@MrKteach yeah I think they acknowledged the dad and his gf make a good couple but they sped on to the next story which is surprising for how hard of a left turn the story made
Shayne looks buffer and buffer with every episode. That's not an ipad, they actually gave him a tv to read off of
😂😂
True. I was the TV.
I think you're failing to consider his height. That's actually an iphone. He did evolve from ipod tho, so he's definitely getting bigger and he should be proud
@@NephiylusBaphson😭😭😭😭
Right? That shirt is WORKING for him 🔥 noticed that too
The 'exotic boyfriend' hit close to home.
I met an American girl in a mmorpg, and we hit if off pretty quick. Had been talking for long, and we were actively trying to be on call whenever possible through Discord. Turning on the webcams to just chill while we were doing our thing, be it playing or studying, was actually pretty nice. She did know I was from Spain, depending where you leave, you might have 2 mother tongues, and then with english a 3rd. I had family from Italy, so I had 4. Speaking 4 languages and learning a 5th (Japanese) was cute from her perspective - 'spanish sounds so sexy' she used to say and repeat a lot, and I was introduced as "the spanish boi" to her friends. Nothing wrong with that... so far. I explain this because she kept insisting on how cool knowing languages was to her, but BEING SPANISH was specially sexy to her. You would think "maybe she likes spanish a lot". Everytime I was introduced she would go "He's latino" and laugh a lot. You know, while being from Spain does indeed make you 'Latino', I couldn't help but think she had an wrong impression of what a Latino was. By definition, a French, an Italian or a Romanian are also Latinos... but whatever, right?
Months go by and she says she's gonna visit. I'm caught by surprise but hey, not gonna say no to that. The problem is when she learns about Spain itself; I dunno which kind of concept she had about my country, but I noticed she kept sounding more and more dissapointed as she was asking me questions about it. The one thing that sealed the deal was:
"- Wait, you're white? I thought you were spanish".
"- ????????"
And her behavior did an 180º, and she dissapeared and ignored me within a couple days.
- The End.
Yeah, it's so bizarre to me that Americans don't realize Spain is a country in *Europe* and therefore Spanish people are white. There's a big difference between someone from Spain and someone from Latin America, culturally and (usually) ethnically, because Latin Americans are usually mixed Spanish/African/Indigenous rather than just Spanish.
Actually, Spanish, French, Italian, etc having a root in Latin doesn't make the speaker of those languages "latinos". The latino label is usually given to people native to a Latin American country, or Americans born in the US that choose to steal them for themselves because their great-grandfather was Mexican or Cuban. It should have been a red flag that she thought you were latino when you're Spanish.
I'm a Puertorican-American who's white with red hair. I've spent my whole life being asked if l was adopted or switched at birth🙄. We Americans have a very narrow minded idea of skin color. Sorry that girl treated you like that.
Sorry u had to face that man. It's kinda the same thing for me as asian. Anytime I'm chatting or get a DM one of the red flags would be someone saying "I love Asians". On the surface, and for people who don't get it. It seems harsh to reject someone just coz they have a preference for Asians. And imo there's actually absolutely nothing wrong if that's what it is. But for someone to outrigjt TELL you " i love asians' as if it's a compliment. Gives the impression they don't see you. Just your skin color.
@@antobutera lol yikes so bitter sounding
41:33 the thing is, epidurals dont 'dope up' the baby nor mother. It blocks the the nerves from sending pain signals to the brain and it only blocks the pain signals from the section the epidural tube is in where the anesthesia is administered. There are a lot of types of pain management like nitrous oxide, or IV pain medication but the epidural has little to no effect on the baby where as the nitrous oxide is being breathed in and it will transfer to the baby through the oxygen exchange that happens in the placenta. Same exact thing with an IV medication, it will go directly to the baby as well because all the placenta just exchanges blood basically. But an epidural is only in the spinal column so its being administered intot he spinal fluid.
Yeah, but my guess is his mom was reacting to stories her parents told her about her own birth, and doesn't realize technology has advanced. My dad (born in 1962) has told me stuff his mother told him about her birthing experiences, and she *definitely* was doped up and out of it when she gave birth. She's likely similar age to my dad and I could totally see a woman who has grown up with stories about how much her mom was tripping on birth meds deciding to refuse all meds and encourage family members to do the same without realizing how much childbirth has changed since the 60s.
Seriously!! You're awake and still get PTSD and it's STILL scary!!
Epidurals, in no way dope you up.
The foot long needle into your spine while you're having deathlike contractions is very scary, too!!
This guy is a narcissist and he still won't admit he's wrong. The poor wife!!!!
Just shows further how well the dude “researched”
Yup! Generational misinformation smh
@@melmelbry5754 my contractions were so bad I wasn't scared of the epidural, I couldn't focus on anything else other than getting through the double contractions I was feeling, I didn't feel them put the epidural in.
"She's more the quarterback, I'm more the coach." Made me literally jump up out of my seat. Holy damn I hope this poor woman sees this and RUNS.
Seriously if the guy is anything in the football analogy he's the cheerleader with a tiny skirt and pom-poms or the fan in the stands with a foam finger
it was the "minimal damage to my wife" for me
@@phantomsearcher2.92 not even a fan of her team either. A fan of the away team lmao
I was coming to say the same thing. Bro thinks he’s the coach when he’d be lucky to be considered for the role of the water boy.
"I'm confused why you're equating pain with danger" is what got me. Like, idk, maybe because 90% of the time the sensation of pain is our bodies way of telling us "Hey, something's wrong and you should probably pay attention to it"?
If I was that pregnant woman, I’d be terrified that my husband and his family would refuse to give me a ride to the hospital so they could do things their way. I hope she’s okay.
I agree. That story is horrifying. He's not going to physically feel it but wants to dictate her pain
He's brainwashed by his family or a controlling manipulative ass
He'd probably give some bullshit reason of "oh women have been giving birth for centuries before hospitals" and make her give birth in the fucking tub, which is definitely not safe for the baby and the mother.
When Courtney said "Uh woman were burned at the stake cause we thought they were witches they should be able to handle the pain" I fucking died yo 😂😅
The birth dude is wild. I worked in a NICU for years. Many nurses and docs did L&D, NICU work for decades and they'd still come out with stories of "I've never seen that before." I'd say at least once or twice a week we'd get a surprise premie or medically delicate baby from a completely healthy, low risk pregnancy. Also, pain in childbirth can hurt mom AND baby. Baby desats during contractions all the time. If labor is intensive and strong enough, it can turn into an emergency C-section. Medication is a far better option than that. That guy is just wild. And my sister trained as a NICU nurse and then became a neonatologist at the age of 31, after 6 years of nursing experience. She was terrified at her first solo birthing of a 28weeker. "I can do it myself." Yeah, I threw up after doing CPR my first time. This guy has no grip on reality.
Thank you! I also wondered what goes through these peoples' head? What happens when complications arise at home?! It makes sweat thinking about it. I also used to work in L&D... Guy has never washed OR trays with a deceased babe laying 3 feet away.
Dude is the embodiment of the Dunning Krueger effect.
I was so mad hearing this story. Not to mention he's also wrong! He didn't want her or the baby to be "loopy" or "out of it" because of an epidural but that's not what an epidural does. An epidural doesn't numb everything, it's used for analgesic, not anesthetic (which means not impacting your consciousness at all vs knocking you out) specifically so you can be awake and aware because the doctors want you to be it's less risky ands most moms want to be aware to participate in thar moment and don't want to be knocked out. His entire argument is wrong because he's an idiot. He doesn't want his wife to have an epidural because he doesn't want her to be "out of it" but an epidural doesn't do that. He doesn't know anything and if he listened at all he would probably realize that. This would seriously be something I would consider breaking up over. If he's that controlling it's only going to get worse.
@@swimfast724 An epidural goes into the spine, specifically to avoid the blood stream to avoid passing it onto baby!
"why do you associate pain wiith danger?" BECAUSE THAT IS THE BIOLOGICAL POINT OF PAIN.
Pain in labour also increases stress. It can create a lot of problems if mismanaged. Definitely a risk factor. Too bad the OP hasn’t come across any “youtube videos” discussing it during his “research “
@@DoritoBot9000 also considering she already had a ton of anxiety no amount of “homeopathy” is going to assist with her personal fears. However trusting in the doctors (professional birth givers) advice is probably the best thing for her anxiety, especially if she is able to find a doctor she trusts, because sometimes people have anxiety of the doctors being incompetent or failing to listen to the parents.
“My body is rending apart” “Why do you associate that with danger”
@@alexia3552this comment is perfect
As a Puerto Rican in the island, I’m really thankful y’all discussed the reality of Caribbean islands. Tourist areas do NOT represent the true reality of the island. Plenty of poverty to go around, people losing their homes because gentrification… shit’s not really that good all around.
Reminds me also of how its here in the canary islands, people are losing their houses bc of tourists buying houses for vacation purposes, its really sad. I hope things will change, maybe
I’m Jamaican, and yea. It’s dirt poor there even in the tourist areas. And mad dangerous
The op of the story described it in a way we're i was instantly like "Mi pais, mi pais PUÑETA!!!"
As someone who was born and raised in the Bahamas, it's the absolute truth
As soon as he read that the guy doesn’t really like his home country and doesn’t really want to go back I INSTANTLY knew it was PR lol because I’m in that same boat. Great vacation spots but haven’t been back in like a decade knowing how progressively worse shit is getting there
For story four, Shane is correct! There were several methods of pain relief for childbirth thousands of years ago such as herbs and drinks. They didn’t have all the pain medications we do, but there was still pain relief
When my nephew was born, people were talking about how good my brother was. They were like "He's the planner. The organizer. He was giving the extended family (me and our parents, his wife's side of the family) updates on the process, offering snacks. He was so good." And I was sitting there thinking, "I love my brother. We always got along, played video games together, didn't really ever have that "sibling rivalry" but damn he is being pat on the back for fucking nothing right now."
The bar is on the ground for men, that honestly sounds like the basics
The dude who wants his wife to go through natural birth should try one of those electric shock simulators for birth
I agree
I’m just baffled that he thinks that by her being medicated would somehow put the child in danger or give them a star nerf of like -90 IQ.
like... lets see you push a 8.5lb baby out of a 10cm hole (not to mention the possibility of tearing) with no meds
@@braelincass6944my kids were between 4-6 lbs at birth and it still felt like I was being torn in two. I think I might actually pass out if my baby was a whole 8 lbs
I had a natural birth, but it was MY CHOICE. My husband and the nurses made sure I was okay the entire time! I just can’t believe you can think that you can dictate how someone gives birth..
I felt so much rage in the pregnancy story. That dude is the devil. Each pregnancy is unique, and cannot/should not be replicated exactly. That's why we have doctors to have tailor made plans for the mother and doctor to talk about. While a father may have concerns, ultimately it's all about the safety for both the mother and child
remind me of the mother from Hungry Hearts
Agreeeeeeed
Big agree. Her body her choice. Full stop
Totally agreed. I want this guy to do a contraction simulator stat. See if he still feels the same.
Also, he mentioned that she was nervous about the birth already. So, yeah, let’s go ahead and add the pressure of a non-medicated birth. And he says he’s not pressuring her but just bringing up this question, especially at 33 weeks is adding non needed pressure! He’s crazy. Wake up already man. She’s right. She doesn’t need to “compete.” Let her do her thing and go through this painful, traumatic, life changing, body changing moment the way she feels will be easiest for her. Jesus Christ. When will they learn?
The thing with the blanket is that if the blanket was sold but not their Xbox then you know how important you are to them. My friends have given me hand-made stuff that could absolutely sell on Facebook marketplace but I’ll sell my gaming systems before I even consider selling those items.
I dunno... I have a hand knitted blanket that my close family friend, practically my second mother made me when I was going through cancer. I cant imagine selling it... but also... I use my xbox daily and I have so many blankets. I cant physically go interact with my friends so playing games is whetr I get a lot of social interaction these days. If I had to sell one or the other it might just be the blanket.
First story... I dated a fella once where, upon meeting his folks, they were so kind and warm to me that it immediately drove home how much he wasnt, but how he could be if he wished. After all, the role model was right there. I think that is what happened, and every time he left her alone in a strange place it drove this home more and more and more
In addition, I almost feel like the dad knew this and was trying to fail safe his son and help him retain hia girlfriend lmao. The long conversations. The breakfast delivery. dad was scrambling to make his son look less like an ass and to make the family more appealing to her.
This is my assumption from living a similar situation.
Yeah, I was kinda thinking the same tbh. I don't think his feelings or thoughts were unjustified. And honestly, the dad being there for 2 hours was extremely suspect 😭 I mean, I get not wanting to leave her alone, but like- what??
@@to_much_of_a_fan_girl2377what you said doesn’t align with the comment it’s under at all 😂. There is nothing suspect about someone spending time with their son’s girlfriend who is extremely upset with their son. If it was a mom spending two hours with her would it be suspect?
@@jacforswear18I think there is some reason to be mildly suspicious for a few reasons. Being alone with a girl like that for 2 hours that is emotionally vulnerable can be tempting for some people. Not making any accusations but it's a possibility that can be considered. Second thing I find weird is that she was showering when he showed up. Why is she showering when the only other guy in the house is her boyfriend's dad. That is the biggest red flag for me. I figured she'd either wait until he left because being naked with only one other guy in the house is suggestive.
Can we just talk about the fact the guy in the 1st story just kind of ghosted everyone for a night and just kind of glossed over it?
I know this girl. She married my brother and cheated on him with this guy. She hides away in the basement from the family, never tries to connect with us, when we have tried so much, including me and my wife inviting them over to our place to play games etc. Then she acts like she is a perfect wife and 2nd mom on Facebook. Listening/Reading this story without knowing her, it is easy to be on her side. But knowing who she really is, it's sickening to see how many people are protecting her and attacking this guy. There are major concerns with this, and he needs to drop her.
It's okay Shayne, the cuffed jeans make you look extra father for our weekly storytime
it’s between “fatherly” and “fashionable millennial”
and every bisexual who's ever been on tumblr haha. esp with the plaid lol
@@endlesseddy7744as a bisexual cuffs and flannel or plaid is definitely how i dress formaly 😂
@@endlesseddy7744and the clear case for his iPad - we need to check his phone case
reign your daddy issues please 👀
I loved it when Ian pushed courtney off the couch, jumped on it, and screeched CHUMBA?? CHUMBAWUMBA?? Great stuff, guys
he taught her that when you get knocked down, you just get up again and I love that
49:11 is my favorite moment in this entire episode💀💀
"I rolled a d20 on birth"
That Courtney scream-Ian "Fuck off!" combo is amazing, and made me laugh so much
Edit: 39:00 for those who want to get to it.
the way that birth plan dad kept saying he felt like he could deliver the baby himself, while also believing he had as much say as his wife AND that he knew how to keep his wife safe with “minimal damage”…… i’m genuinely scared he’s going to hostage her into a homebirth
So crazy. He said things like. at least 50% which implies he thinks he has more to say. I feel so sorry for her having such a scumbag as the father of her child
Oh god that's frightening. I also can't imagine being in her place and realising he is like this, while already being pregnant of him. Because this is a valid reason to break up.
@@kimkiller462 fr if I had a guy say that bs I would leave him immediately if I was pregnant or not
On the first story; I was 100% expecting Shayne to let them talk and then say, "so there's an update, she $%#@ed the dad. "
She totally did, too sus
@@backinyerface Totally did. Yeah he just happened to come by with breakfast when he wasn't there. Suuuuuuure.
He kept bees, what was she supposed to do?
@@dandotvid He stopped by with breakfast from a diner for weirdly only 2 people as if he knew they didn't need 3 meals.
I'm glad I'm not the only one. Some things were definitely suspicious
In regards to the pregnancy one, thinking that you're having the same experience just because you're in the same room is the most guy thing ever. I say that as a guy who had to learn this in therapy.
It reminded me of that survey where an overwhelming amount of men said they could land an aircraft no problem.
As a guy..I don’t think I’m like this. But maybe for the majority of men it’s that way
Here staring at the ring on Courtney’s finger!!!!!
With the birth story: we have GOT to find the wife so we can show her this post and ALL the comments. He CANNOT be allowed in the room whilst she's giving birth and she has GOT to divorce him.
I really hope his wife sees the posts and tells him it's over.
Ayo, I got a Death Note at the bottom of my drawer. I will happily give up Heaven and Hell to send this man to the latter. 👿
Iirc this is a multiple month old story so she’s likely given birth.
Mom of three here. The drugs don’t make you loopy, they take away the pain (until the kid is coming out, there aren’t enough drugs on Earth to dull that pain). The baby doesn’t come out drugged up or loopy, they come out covered in goo and freaked out about the world. And if that poor woman needs a c-section, the guy shouldn’t be allowed in the hospital- are he and his mommy going to insist she do that drug-free too? If he can’t handle how she wants to give birth, I fear for how he’s going to react to how she wants to raise the child- she might want the child to take Tylenol should the child get hurt, and clearly his family is against pain management. He’d do well to get off his high horse, learn his place, and let this woman do what she needs to do to get that kid out.
@@amberbanuelos7053 Amen to that 🖐️😒
Hearing that man call her wife the "quarterback" in the pregnancy gave me shivers! Did you train her to birth??? Is she part of a team under your supervision??? Is your baby a match to be won??? So many questions
No, but didn't you catch it? He's STRATEGIZING. About HER BODY. He's watched SO MANY RUclips VIDEOS. He could totally do the labor himself if it weren't for that pesky fact that the fetus is in someone else's body. He's got a game plan, and all she has to do is execute it. See how totally essential he is to this process?
*headdesk*
It actually made me cringe physically i had to pause multiple times during that story
For some reason it gave me Don Tillmam vibes from the Rosie Project
Hearing "minimal damage to my wife" confirmed that she's nothing but a baby making machine to him. I hope he never sees that child.
I just... don't understand how this guy has all these "theories" about how birth works, but he's unwilling to take 5 minutes to Google what an epidural is. It's a steroid, it's not LSD.
knitting while watching this and the selling the blanket one made my heart sink immediately, i would be so distraught. i’m an animal lover though so this one is really tough
Oh man, I’m from Puerto Rico and when Shayne started reading that story, I was like “this is 100% Puerto Rico and I know EXACTLY where he took her” 😂😂 Listen, PR is beautiful and the locals will usually be friendly with you. BUT there are unsafe areas. And where he took his fiancée, yeah, you can visit as a tourist, but you definitely don’t want to antagonize the locals there. They’ll usually warn you to not take pictures in some areas and to follow their rules. If you don’t have common sense and ignore the rules…yeah, you’re in danger. There are so many beautiful places to visit on our island, you just have to have common sense as a tourist.
If I had a nickel for every time a man in one of this episode's stories tried to force "female bonding time" down the throats of the women in his life on no other basis than their gender I would have two nickels, which isn't a lot but it's weird that it happened twice
solid phineas and ferb reference
I read this in Doofenschmirtzh voice!
That’s what I was thinking! He also seems to have a weird relationship with his mom
Amazing reference
The thing is, he doesnt say how long his moms been gone but that his aunt has been the only female in his life for a long time, meaning he probably has a close sibling like relationship with his cousins and an almost paternal relationship with his aunt, so it is weird that she wouldnt spend time with them as they have a lot of importance to him, and not just his fuckable father, cause his dad must pull lol
About the "My wife won't think about her birth plan" :
My fiancé said, "alright, let's do it all natural, no epidural, but everytime she screams, someone hit him in the nuts, so they can really share the pain and all."
I love him.
With the tropical island story it’s kinda similar to situations I have been in. I grew in Hawaii but moved during middle school and I always get questions as to why I moved away from “paradise”. It was not paradise. Everything is so expensive. School is almost not real, unless it was pertaining to Hawaiian culture. My sister literally had a third grade reading level when she was in eighth grade.And everyone almost hates everyone. It’s not just the beautiful beaches and sunny everyday. You get horrendous rain almost every week. Tropical storms every year. And you get tourists stomping on sacred land for a picture.
If this man's fiance is willing to dump him over where he grew up then she's not worth being with in my opinion he dodged a HUGE MEGA BULLET
“ Facebook marketplace? 75 bucks“ 😂 that made me laugh harder than I expected
"I wasn't trying to dictate or pressure her."
Said while admitting to trying very hard to both dictate and pressure her.
Yeah, saying “you’re going to do this” and getting someone to back you up is literally that lol
He's gonna have one heck of a rude awakening about his "importance" in the delivery process cuz if he does anything to stress out his wife, the nursing staff will flat out eject him. He gets zero say in this process other than a discussion with his wife. The med team will be listening to her, not him. He already experienced how it'll be at the last appointment where everyone ignored him.
He also thinks the baby is going to be affected by epidural… which it won’t be at all. The epidural stays in the spinal cavity and none of the medicine leaves there.
@@evaquick8676 yeah, I guess all his research somehow glossed over that??
Just realized Shayne, Courtney, and Ian are all wearing flannel. Idk if this was intentionally coordinated but its makes this episode of storytime feel even cozier. 😂😊
Flannel team!!!😊😊🎉
shayne and courtney are always matching 😆
Even the pillow is flannel 😂
The Flannel Panel
00:32 Even Brennan!
So i had to show my husband this video for the pregnancy story. He said he was almost too distracted by Shaynes cuffed jeans to listen to the story 😂😂
When you guys talked about gift giving and when you get something you feel uncomfortable with/don't like, it reminds me how when I moved to the UK at age 8 we had an ethics lesson at some point with this exact topic, and all my classmates and even teacher said to put on a face and just keep it stored away, but me, a Dutch kid, was appalled and said "why didn't they keep the receipt for you to return it if you didn't like it?", because that's the standard here 😂 If people buy big gifts and are unsure, they will tell you they still have the receipt if you don't like it, so you can change it for something you do like/need hahahaha
us Brits are too polite for our own good
I loved it when Ian said "Chumbawumba!" He is just so funny! 😄
Chumbawumba's number one fan, I think Ian should become Chumbawumba's mascot
I've had two babies naturally. And after each one, I said to multiple people, "I never begrudge a woman who chooses an epidural or a planned birth. Only absolutely batshit crazy people give birth naturally." If I have a third, I'd probably go natural. But I would NEVER judge a woman who choses a different path. Also, women need husbands to be supportive. A husband bullying his wife in pregnancy is literally going to make her labor and delivery more painful. What an ass.
Same! People think I judge them because I gave birth natural and heck no- that is super personal choice and 100% believe that whatever path is chosen is the right path for the person who chose it. There are pros and cons to both. I would NEVER presume to know what is best for someone else.
You’re right. Life is way too short to judge. The main goal is a healthy baby and mom.
Courtney had so many clever and hilarious comebacks in this. Also really enjoy and value her insights to these stories. Very emotionally mature person
Ian's immediate "is this Puerto Rico?" made me feel weirdly proud of my island being recognized LMFAO also shame on that woman, the type of tourist we absolutely despise having over
the husband with the birth plan definitely seems like the type to talk over his wife in the delivery room to undermine HER decisions about HER body. he also seems like someone who isn't above making jokes about a husband stitch
"making jokes" nah, this dude's gonna be baffled if she IS'NT given one
That story makes me so mad I saw red.
I was so mad hearing this story. Not to mention he's also wrong! He didn't want her or the baby to be "loopy" or "out of it" because of an epidural but that's not what an epidural does. An epidural doesn't numb everything, it's used for analgesic, not anesthetic (which means not impacting your consciousness at all vs knocking you out) specifically so you can be awake and aware because the doctors want you to be it's less risky ands most moms want to be aware to participate in thar moment and don't want to be knocked out. His entire argument is wrong because he's an idiot. He doesn't want his wife to have an epidural because he doesn't want her to be "out of it" but an epidural doesn't do that. He doesn't know anything and if he listened at all he would probably realize that. This would seriously be something I would consider breaking up over. If he's that controlling it's only going to get worse.
“Feeling the full range of motherhood”
I feel like that would be everything AFTER the baby was born, not choosing weather or not to use painkillers during the birth.
Typical deadbeat dad in the making "the deed is done once the baby is there and alive"...after that most of the care is up to the wife...oh but you can BET he and his mom/sister will have an eye on her every move with their weird conspiracy "all natural" beliefs but never actually helping.
Also casually telling he thinks anyone who did not physically birth their child isn't a real mother. He sounds terrifying.
That guy does not grasp how much Childbirth hurts. YOU CANNOT BREATHE THAT PAIN AWAY.
Seriously, I remember that the pain during my contractions eventually got so intense that I forgot HOW to breathe. The on-call doctor who was supposed to give me the epidural didn’t answer, and I had to wait until they got another one up to the hospital. I never before imagined I would feel such gratitude for having a huge needle shoved into my spine.
First off- THANK U Courtney for bringing up and talking about Post Partum Depression!!!
I have moderate depression w/anxiety and, ended up getting PPD after giving birth to my son a little over a year ago.
The fact that the "I'm the coach" Husband thinks he has any say in her pain management is ridiculous. That his family thinks his wife can't experience all of motherhood is even more so. None of them know anything about birthing a child if they think that.
I basically said, "Give me the drugs!!!" in my birth plan and my Hubby was all for it. Especially when I had been in labor for 6 or so hours and I was in such pain. I was asked if I wanted the epidural then or wanted to wait. I said then, but My Mom said, "You think you can wait???". Then my Hubby said, "Do you hear her right now??? Let her get it and get out of this pain".
I'm so happy I had my Hubby to back me up. We still joke with how I sounded like a "Owl and screaming cat mixed together" before I got the epidural.
27:10 As a Puertorican, she really ignored the nature, *the food*, the towns, the history, the culture over the music video of Despacito????? She wanted to go to La Perla, which is known to be dangerous to tourists and even locals????? She really wanted an 'exotic' boyfriend, and when her dream was shattered by reality she decided to quit the relationship???? nah man dump her, block her. she doesnt love you
This is the only explanation, cause if I was dating someone and we went to their hometown, I'd want THEM to show me around and be my tour guide, like it's so crazy to have an expert on the place right there and just ignore everything they say
Honestly, even the name lowkey sounds like peril, like I don't want to go there-
the way that he said island and i already knew it was PR. they said music video and i fucking knew she wanted to go to la
perla. 😭😭😭
we have such rich and beautiful culture but somehow she managed to overlook that and choose to go to probably one of the most dangerous places she could. the fetishizing him is also so disgusting. that breakup is probably the best thing that happened to him.
Also as a Puerto Rican. I love Puerto Rico with all my heart but it is not the safest place. All the homes have bars on the windows and doors because of how unsafe it is there. It has it’s beautiful charms and amazing things that is no where else in the world. But it is also one of the most dangerous places to visit or to live At least attached to the states
@@Sanas_Shy_Language The name just means The Pearl. Which ironically makes it sound like a cute wholesome place. It was an old shantytown built in the 18th century by slaves who were initially brought by spaniards. They were relegated to doing so as they weren't allowed to step foot in the main town. As culture often reflects the history of the place it's not surprising they don't take well to outsiders.
It's kinda crazy that she wanted to go to a place where most of us locals usually wouldn't. Especially considering that La Perla is close to Old San Juan which is one of the most beautiful places in the entire island. All just because of a music video.
Hearing Ian rightfully saying "fck off" in response to the guy about his pregnant wife made me laugh out loud! And just makes me think, for the cynical sarcastic unhinged person he appears to be, Ian is someone with empathy :)
he's a standup guy :')
Just finished the first story; I was 100% with everyone and against this guy until the 2 hours alone together and she was showering. I don't think they fooled around or anything, but that is a HUGE red flag to me personally. I don't know what this guys relationship is with his dad or was with his now ex, but I'd be wildly uncomfortable if that were my father and girlfriend
The fiancee one is definitely from Puerto Rico, the place they went to is called La Perla and it really isn't the place for tourists.
I love whenever Ian’s around. He says the most unhinged stuff.
1st story in and can agree and it's kind of a roller-coaster 😂
It´s between him and Noah
@@JayC1719literally read that comment as Ian said "maybe she just wants to duck his dad"
when he started singing chumbawumba I lost it 😂🙌🏽
Yeah and it's so often about Chumbawamba
Birth plan guy is the type to ask the doc for a husband stitch
literally
Urgh
uuuugh I only learned about that this year and I was onestly crying from the storyies
@user-bl9hq2gf6i right? There was this wave of fear and hopelessness that hit upon finding that one out, like they're so obsessed with tightness they'll modify our bodies nonconsensually and sometimes cause extra complications for it??
I feel for my sisters who are at risk of that breach of our autonomies.
Mannnn, this is why you ask questions before getting into a relationship with folks. I can't believe he wanted his wife to have a painful labor
I'm honestly so proud of who Ian and Anthony turned out to be. They came so far from those silly teen boys.
the fact that the first guy bothered to bring up the fact that his father spent a couple hours alone with his girlfriend in the update speaks volumes.
To be clear, two things can be true at once. Boyfriend has some serious trust and control issues and needs to work on them in therapy, but also dad isnt doing son any favors when he clearly knew his son percieved the situation this way and was insecure but chose to finish breakfast with girlfriend leaving none for son, spend hours alone with her in what is effectively a hotel all without trying to contact son, and when son shows back up girlfriend is in the shower. Dad may be just being a rockstar and supporting girlfriend emotionally because his son isnt, but he is adding stress to an already doomed relationship in the process and damaging his relationship with his son in the process with how he is going about it. Girlfriend is probably just an innocent bystander in all of this and needs good friends and family supports in her life and dad is the only one stepping up at a personal cost. It is sad to me
@@holdendewit7088 i also feel similarly, if you fight due to jealousy and your partner leaves, i wouldnt be like "yeah person my partner is insecure about, enter the house, lets have some coffee". but it also could be that op thinks they spend 2 hours together, but is actually 1 hour and she in the bathroom for half that time. Somehow it all depends on information that we dont have, for example what are the past issues, what if op has cheated or has been cheated on before, or if the gf and dad tried calling him and he just didnt say.
EXACTLY. The fact he had to bring that up means he still has some issues. That was such a weird thing because it was like he couldn't NOT bring it up in the update. Good for her realizing the patterns.
He also never explains where he disappeared to, which is very sus.
I mean it do be kinda sus though
@@mariapaz6379 even if she were in the bathroom the whole time it'd be weird, like why would the dad hang out there if the gf was just showering and getting ready? In that case it'd be more normal for him to drop off the breakfast and leaave
That barbie movie story is just the "liberal girlfriend ignores conservative boyfriend's bad politics until they have to talk about it" trope
USA is such a tarded country man..damn, bless them for keeping the rest of us entertained.
Uh huh. Why don't you tell us more about that!
@Machinu5 I'm a born American with a cop/soldier father. I should be as patriotic as they get and yet I think America is also a tarded country😂 We're a fucking weird country dude
@@Svol09forreal.. I'm half Saudi half American. America is going back in time while places like Saudi Arabia are moving forward. America claims to be free yet it really isnt😂
Damn , education is very important kids
You need to study more
Just because a guy is conservative it doesn't mean he is bad
I'm a knitter and this is exactly why I've only knitted for family. My nephews' baby blankets (no pastels or blue/pink, think moss green, red, black, grey...making sure to fit my sisters' aesthetics) and dishcloths. Things that I know will be used and/or will be kept.
90% of my crochet stuff is for my daughter. Some of the things I've made she has just looked at once and ignored, though. I try not to take it personally, especially since she's a toddler.
I agree with the first verdict but it is WILD to go home after an argument to find your girlfriend in the shower and your own dad clearing up breakfast
Especially when he's been there for hours. The dad said he got breakfast for her and op but he was cleaning it up when he got there. Also also I've noticed that people who cheat get in the shower right after the act to wash away evidence and the smell. So idk.
@@thereject505ya that is suspicious as hell. I've never had to shower after breakfast.
100% that was suspicious af
As a woman who attempted an unmedicated birth, the pain got so bad I was starting to black out. I wanted to go unmedicated so bad but I also wanted to see my son born so I got an epidural. That guy is worthless. And I feel so bad for his wife. Wtf
Same friend! I tried so hard till it got to the point of blacking out
Maybe we shouldn’t judge whether a person has worth or not based on their opinions on the internet. Why feed the anger?
@@randalledwards1050 because men have zero business trying to interfere with a woman’s birthing plan. Too many men think they have a say. Period.
@@randalledwards1050because, I can rightfully assume your a male or a woman who never believes they will experience such pain, b😭t a male who advocates for his wife to go through that type of pain and potential of death or complications is worthy of any and all anger.
@@KoiSplash-wk5tm also (to support your comment) this is Reddit stories lol, where you post and are judged by strangers. And if you're here with this video it's bc you've got an opinion and wanna sip some tea amirite. Not our fault an AH posted a frightening take on Reddit lmao.
Anyone else worried that the pain management guy will refuse to bring his wife to the hospital when she goes into labor so she can't get her medication?
Same
And if something goes wrong, he will find a way to blame his wife. 😡
Yes
Hadn't thought about that, but yes, now I'm definitely worried.
I hope she calls an ambulance or a friend. I’m a bit nervous for her if it’s just on him…
Handmade gifts: You have to lay out the groundwork knowing it might not be in that person's taste. I spent 7 months on a wedding sampler for a friend. And even though I was 80% sure the couple would like it as I immediately thought of them when I saw it, there was still a chance. I told them if they didn't like it, no big deal. I asked that I get first dibs on it as the frame was actually valuable if they chose to sell it. It's in their stairwell now. Unfortunately, in our society where everything is mass produced, stuff is just stuff nowadays. 😕
This gringa went on gang territory like despacitooo and was shocked they didn’t immediately do a choreo with her LOL!
I just want to say thank you so much to Ian for pointing how Caribbean locals can be pushed out of out areas for tourists. I’m Jamaican and we are not allowed at some of our own beaches because resorts kick us out. If you ever go to a Caribbean island please be friends to locals and buy street food to support businesses ❤!
We did!
yeah i'm not allowed on private beaches either, european here
welcome to the real world where you pay for entry and dont just trespass
@@YoYo_MaI hope you had a lovely holiday !
@@Rhi876 we did. Can't wait to go back. We'll get a place with a kitchenette next time. And go to the grocery store.
the street food also tastes better than the gentrified overpriced bland shit they sell at the resorts
As a girl dating someone from another country (I'm from Oregon, he's from Japan) if you arent ready to face struggles in your partners home country, you don't belong together. I have been in Japan with him for almost 2 months now, we are staying in a small-ish (compared to the metro areas) town in the Kohaku ward, called Kikuna, and every day I walk to Kikuna station to meet him after he gets off work. When I'm not walking with him, I get death glares, I get people shoulder checking me, and sometimes I get men following me. These things, while upsetting, have never made me reconsider my relationship. I love him. I want to marry him, we are planning to buy rings while I'm here, though they won't be ready until my next visit. The way other people treat me as a tattooed foreigner has never made me consider leaving him, because HE loves me. His family treats me really well. I'm the first girl he's ever brought home to meet his family. It's not being in Japan that makes me feel special, it's not him being Japanese that makes me feel special, it's the way he loves me, the way even if his family didn't like me, I know he would still defend me. If you can't stay with a person just because their home country isn't everything you dreamed it would be, you weren't in love with that person, you were in love with a fetishized version of their culture.
Love can overcome the mountains of struggles if it's strong enough
Babe, I love all this for you but you seem staggeringly unconcerned by the fact that multiple strange men have followed you, on what I'm assuming is separate occasions, and like... maybe be a bit more paranoid please? Perhaps you don't have to wait for him at the train station? I'm sure your boyfriend would rather walk home alone if it meant you might not get into a very unsafe situation. Wish you all the best.
Congratulations on your future wedding. Sounds like you’re happy.
I love how big a fan of this show Courtney is! They spewed out banger reference after banger reference
If I was the friend who's dog needed emergency surgery, I think a discussion about the blanket would be difficult, but maybe not so shameful if it was so I could specifically explain the situation and involve OP in pricing the piece. Even though it's technically priceless, I would make that clear and explain that - because it's so valuable, it's more likely to significantly help raise money for the surgery (because it is so well done)
Jesus Christ, the birth giving story dragged me through all the emotions. I have never been so pissed off by a reddit story as I was this post. Sweet lord I hope that poor woman ran as fast as possible away from him. No doubt she would be better as a single mother than raising her child with that fucking loser. Thank God for Ian, Courtney, and Shayne's reactions to lighten the mood. I adore you guys
SAME. i had to take a break and read through some of the comments to restore my faith in humanity
Poor wife. I'm so scared OP will keep her in the house and force her to give birth with only him there. Like, I'm in general a fan of anyone giving birth wherever they want, including at home (which isn't all that dangerous, but does require someone to be there who can raise the alarm if something goes wrong), but the key part is where THEY WANT. This guy is so incredibly overbearing, and ignores his wife's wishes that I'm genuinely worried he will refuse to take her to a hospital, since he thinks he can do it himself. Which obviously he can't, if something goes wrong he will be responsible for the death/injury of his wife and/or child. His ego is apparently worth the lives of two other people.
He's dangerously underinformed about pain medication, and of course the doctor is going to ignore his ridiculous input. His level of understanding of pain medication is that of a toddler. Except with a toddler it's forgivable because they can't yet know any better, because they haven't been taught any better yet, and if you teach a toddler how it works they won't go on a rant on how they are definitely capable of delivering a baby themselves.
I reaaaaally hope that one is ragebait, it did sound like it but if it's not I hope she has a support system of her own (cause f that guy)
I have given birth to two children, and if my man would have DARED to open his mouth about my birthplans, we'd be a Dateline story (lol jk😂) Thank god he was perfect and so unbelievably supportive through both pregnancies and deliveries. He understood that I was the one going through it and all he wanted to do was hold my hand and remind me that I was a bad bitch and could do this.❤
The good ones are out there ladies, I promise you.
For the birthing story… the baby will not experience any of the epidural whatsoever if that’s what she wants. It stays in that spinal cavity and does not enter the bloodstream and you very much still feel everything. Your lower half is just somewhat numb, but the experience is still there.
I was told when I had my epidural there was a slight increased chance of me needing a c-section but I don't recall there being any stated danger to my kids
Thank you for bringing this up! The whole time they were reading that story I was wondering in the back of mind if I had ever even heard of epidural getting into the baby's bloodstream via the mother
@@TheGhostofAbigailMills it can if it’s through IV or gas mask, but not if it’s in the spinal cavity :)
Would like to mention there are 2 kinds of epidurals...the kind that youre talking about is called a walking epidural or more formally a partial epidural and is usally the most common because unless there is anything else going on most dont need more than half...a partial/walking epidural allows the woman to still be able to get up and move around as she needs and you can still feel the pressure of contractions but the pain is very much reduced; you still have some feeling so youre not confined to the bed or even the room..the second type of epidural is a full epidural and the entire lower half of your body gets zero feeling period...due to this you are not allowed to leave the bed and you cannot give birth in any other postion other than lying down legs up to chest...this also means you cannot feel even the slightest pressure of contractions, and so a nurse has to have their hand on your stomach to tell when the contractions are happening and eyes remain glued to the monitor thats hooked up that informs of when the contractions start and end as well as babies heart rate and the nurse and dr quite literally have to tell you when to start pushing and when to stop because you have no feeling and thus no idea...the full epidural has pros and cons, from my understanding it becomes a little riskier and there is more room for things to go wrong...thats not to say theres nothing that cant go wrong with a partial epidural and its zero risk but from my experience and the knowledge handed to me from my drs the full epidural is usually not the first go to option due to the risks and lack of freedom to the birthing woman...I point this out because I wonder if the OP's family is only aware of a full epidural or if a birthing experience outside of the family unit imparted some knowledge to them of only a full epidural and so its caused them to be incredibly against epidurals right out the gate...🤷♀️
I don’t know which one I got, but it sounds like the full epidural @laurathiele9591 mentions. I couldn’t feel a thing, and it actually relaxed my body so much that I was forgetting to breathe. The nurses had to come in and remind me to breathe, then they put me on oxygen.
But I seriously needed the epidural. My body would NOT relax enough for labor to progress. I was in labor, on pitocin, for hours before I finally got the epidural, and only then did things move forward.
My husband and I actually had our honeymoon in his small (very small) home town back in Mexico. It was really difficult to get a lot of his family to California for the wedding so we decided to involve them in the celebration somehow. Not the typical honeymoon, we were put to work because if you wanted to eat you had to go pick from the garden. Want to be warm? Chop some wood. But it was so enriching! I loved it!
Making gifts for friends, got a similar story. Great friends for over 40 years, gave them a crochetted blanket for their king sized bed. VERY expensive yarn from Turkey, in their colors. Then for x-mas, she asked me for another special blanket in different colors, and I got to work, as they take over 5 months each to make putting in 4-6 hours/day(put my back out so was recovering for the second blanket, and was able tp make the X-mas deadline).They were beautiful. The second one, she requested fringe, which I found odd, but managed to find the color to do so. They made the drive to pick it up and were very impressed. I wished them warm seasons greetings and gave them their second blanket as a gift. Come spring, I made the drive to their home since I was feeling physically able to 'surprise' them with a visit. Yup, they were surprised for sure, seemed very uncomfortable, shifting feet, staring at the floor....was excited to see a few of my paintings on their walls, but no blanket on their bed. or over the back of the couch. Oddly, my eyes went to the cards from over the holidays, lined up neatly across the dining room table with a note from their 40-year old, VERY wealthy daughter, thanking them for the 'most beautiful blanket she had ever seen...'WITH A PHOTO of the blanket on THEIR(her daughter and rich husband), bed!! I didn't want to ask where the other blanket went, but suspected that that blanket with the fringe went to her other daughter for a x-mas gift. Both of their kids live out of state. I was literally dumbstruck, unable to speak. I left, walked right past the both of them, to my vehicle and cried the entire hour drive home. They have not called me since then, nor come for any visits in over a year.
Regarding the birth plan story, my daughter is 4 months old, I was in labor for 42 hours. Even with the epidural I felt EVERY contraction, the pain was so bad that I had to also get 2 shots of fentanyl. I couldn’t imagine doing all that unmedicated!
They gave me a low dose epidural with no fentanyl with my four months old. It wore off by the time I started pushing. My doctor shoved his big ass banana hand into me without giving a heads up and I started screaming at the top of lungs and he told me to stop screaming because I was scaring the other patients. I was so incredibly emotional afterwards I couldn't stop crying. I had epidurals with all my kids but this last one was traumatizing.
@@chef.in.the.woods7Damn sorry to hear that, pregnant women, especially while giving birth, are still not getting their due treatment
my sister was in labour for 36 hours, got an epidural that didn’t even work and was rushed for a c-section. birth is HARD. especially if it doesn’t go to plan (which it NEVER does)
Courtney truly is Reddit Stories biggest fan. She loves using callbacks and uses them perfectly
Truly a perfect pairing with Chumbawamba’s biggest fan.
When they say that the girlfriend from the third story was only in love with the idea of his home is so real. The amount of times romantic interests switch up on me and start calling me spicy and exotic when I confirm I'm Latina with no hesitation is crazy
I will never not love Courtney’s giggle.
The natural childbirth guy sounds like the type of guy to be like "when is my wife gonna start losing weight after giving birth? It's been 2 weeks and she's still fat"
I didn’t even think of this but YES. 100%
*Crazy that Courtney’s never been on Reddit Stories with Chumbawamba’s #1 fan before*
50:12 IM LET OUT SUCH A LOUD WHEEZE 😭💀 Not “the baby has more say than you do!” HAHAHA
Courtney saying a Krispy Kreme donut would kill you killed me 🍩
The birth plan one is extra insane when you realise that aromatherapy as a way to self medicate is insanely dangerous to babies
It also doesn’t fucking work lmao
Ian’s break up advice is “if you get knocked down, get up again”
But what if you get knocked up? Get down again?
The Barbie test is so valid. My friends and I have straight up discussed how that is good a barometer
Love how everyone is matching in some kind of plaid/button down.
FATHER IS BACK! AND HE BROUGHT CHUMBAWUMBA’S BIGGEST FAN TOO!❤
The pregnancy story is absolutely insane to me. My mother didn't take the epidural because of her beliefs and tried to do everything natural, and she almost died giving birth to my sister. There is a REASON modern medicine has evolved to make pregnancy safer. If my husband did this, I'd leave him that moment.
I'm really curious why you would say that an epidural could have ensured a safer childbirth for your mother.
Childbirth is dangerous because of possible birth complications. They mostly theaten the baby but some can be deadly for the mom as well.
Eg.: baby getting stuck during delivery, mother loosing too much blood
Getting an epidural doesn't solve these problems. Modern medicine and surgery (eg.: emergency cesarean, blood transfusions) solve these problems.
Pain of birth in itself is not a complication and is not deadly. Or at least not that I have ever heard of something like this.
@@semyrastargaryen5451I think they left something out. Mom didn't want ANYTHING other than natural.
@@semyrastargaryen5451 Yeah, no epidural is very different from no medical intervention at all.
@@semyrastargaryen5451 my sister was very large, but my mother refused a C-section and wanted to do it all natural. When she was pushing, the pain from delivering such a large baby while in her forties was so unbearable that she literally couldn't get herself to breathe. Her body went into shock and even though she knew she needed to breathe, she couldn't. She couldn't push either. Had she not been at the hospital where multiple nurses and doctors were able to respond immediately, she would have died along with my sister.
And considering how many women cannot get adequate pain relief for a myriad of problems, and here she had a doctor who wanted to make things comfortable for her.
53:24 COURTNEY THIS EPISODE HAS ME ROLLING 😭😭 the way she’s saying the most out of pocket things is HILARIOUS
I had the epidural. I didn't get a down period between my contractions. They came on quickly and progressed so rapidly. Within an hour of my water breaking my contractions were a minute apart. I was death gripping the side of the hospital bed sobbing because the pain was so intense. They would peak, start coming down, and then start peaking again within a minute. I begged for the epidural. By the time they brought the anesthesiologist to give me the epidural, I was on the brink of passing out. They told me that the epidural was going to hurt the most when the liquid went in. It didn't even compare minutely to the pain of my contractions. I *barely* felt the epidural because my contractions were that much worse. Love my little guy, and he was worth every second of pain, but next time(if me and my partner decide to have another later) I will be getting the epidural again without waiting for the pain to become unbearable.
Currently pregnant, and my husband and I have been discussing how I (ME, THE ONE LABORING) will want the process to go. He told me straight up when talking about an epidural, "Don't try to be a hero. Take it!!!"
Partners are a BYSTANDER in this process. What I decide has to do with MY BODY. They no longer become the bystander once the baby exits the birth canal. My gosh, that poor woman. That man is INFURIATING!
My induction is next week and my hubby said the same thing. He was like "I've seen you in pain dude. Do the epidural"
As an anarchist, I'm so happy to see Chumbawamba's biggest fan making an appearance
Are Chumbawumba anarchists?
@@8Rincewindyes, they are or at least were (also an anti-major-label band at least at some point)
@@8Rincewind yep. That's actually what their biggest hit is about. They basically left the spotlight kind off willingly after that
For the reconsidered marrige at 27:10. My grandpa was from Guadalajara Mexico. When he emigrated to the U.S., got married and had kids, my dad said he remembers going only 3 times. There was a reason he never took me to meet my family there. It is dangerous and it is not pleasant. My now wife suggested going one day and I told her that would probably never happen because of how it was a place my grandpa left for a reason, there was a reason my dad stopped going and there was a reason I was never taken there. I would happily go to a reaort and do touristy things. Even if it was locked to a resort it would still be an experience to visit the country my family came from. But given how dangerous it could be, Guadalajara is sadly out of the question
Also about the birth plan, he’s just gonna watch her scream in pain and that’s gonna make him feel like he was really a part of this experience and made him a better father??? What kind of man are you to be seeing your wife scream in pain as something joyful!!