“ChatGPT says you don’t have the emotional bandwidth to deal with this” is funny lmao. A robot telling you how to process your emotions will never not be silly.
The thing with the therapist story that really gets me is that if she was unhappy and wanted to save the relationship, she could have ACTUALLY gone to a couples' therapist. But then she might have to deal with her own faults and her boyfriend's frustrations. What she really wanted was to make him fit the mould of her ideal boyfriend, and she was willing to break a few of his bones to do it. Truly abhorrent.
But she wasn’t actually looking to fix anything, she wanted to change him to fit into her mold of “Perfect Boyfriend” and a real therapist wouldn’t have done that
Right and some of her “reasoning” for the fake therapy was bc she didn’t think he would agree to therapy. In doing the fake one she did get him to agree to therapy bc he had to agree to what he thought was actual therapy for that plan to work. She really should’ve just done actual therapy and maybe it would’ve been better.
I think she didn't want their relationship to be healthy. She wanted everything to be about her and she knew a real therapist wouldn't have her back on this.
Therapist here! Story #3 infuriated me for so many reasons. I, and the therapists I work with, put our hearts and souls into our work, and it is HARD work; someone faking it is unbelievable to me. It is absolutely illegal to impersonate a therapist, and I’m so sad for OP that he can probably never trust a therapist again. He would probably need and benefit from a good therapist after this mess. Also, to Amanda’s comment about therapists siding with one person over another, that should NEVER happen. If you feel that way, bring it up, and you can report this to the licensing board in your state as well. Therapists should always be safe, neutral parties. If you don’t feel that way, it’s not the right therapist for you. ❤
The problem is that enough people are so self-sure of their position that hearing a therapist validate their partner feels like siding with them. For example, if Sam thinks Jerri spends too much time with a particular friend and the therapist is talking to Jerri and validates their feelings with something like "It sounds like this friend is very important to you", Sam could easily take that as sort of taking Jerri's side even though it's not. And once those feelings have set in, it's easy to frame EVERYTHING that way. Some people are so damaged that even therapy feels like poison. You're not wrong at all with your suggestion, but I just wanted to point out this case exists too. I have experienced it.
Thing is I have been subject to something similar. It REALLY messed me up for years. And to this day I still have trouble with therapists. I have one now thankfully but she also knows my issue. At the time I was also undiagnosed ASD and was getting super overwhelmed and felt ganged up in so I just shut down. But my ex didn't just sit there and passively agreed they both ganged up on me and I just didn't know better. This truly is evil of the ex and her friend(s). Like... wow...
I feel like that story is just incel/redpill rage bait. If it is real, as people have said, it's evil as fuck no doubts about it. But the way it's constructed and how it perfectly affirms all misconceptions dudebros have about therapy, ehhh my bullshit detectors are tingling.
58:14 Amanda making the tiny motion while saying "smallest" and then stopping herself with no one acknowledging or realizing is a moment I went back to a bunch of times 😆
My problem with the threesome parents story is her mom says she’s being immature by being uncomfortable that they had sex with her bf multiple times? Like that’s so rude to say because that is a normal thing to be uncomfortable with
They are gaslighting her, because they are immature people who can't process their own guilt and soothe themselves,so now her feelings and reactions have to go.
I mean her response to leave immediately and literally just run until she couldn't run anymore is literally an adolescent response to conflict, speaking as a high school counsellor. Not that I'm saying that she should have just been cool with it. It's an insane situation and having a large reaction is very understandable.
It's more than rude. It's actually down right questionable . That is very close to becoming incest. And how can OP say they see a future with someone that bothBOTH parents have had??? I won't even share a glass of milk with my kids so I'm grossed out by ok and parents. Ops partner is kind of a twisted legend though lol
This was definitely gaslighting. It does not matter how old or mature you get, finding out your parents or a close relative had sex with a partner would be grounds to end any relationship. 😣 I hope that situation never finds me.
Yep! Agreed! They played a bit with it a few years ago during the dal-e (?) era but have not touched it since. Makes sense with many of them being actors and writers. I know Damien supported the strike for VO getting better rights connected to AI being used instead.
A friend of mine got down on his knee in the kitchen while him and his wife to be, were cooking a nice meal. She didn't see him go down on one knee and ripped a VERY loud fart. She turned around and he started laughing til' he cried. She didn't know how to react so she also started laughing until she cried. In the middle of the laughter, she said yes, they've now been married for many years and still going strong and have three lovely daughters. :)
59:34 asexuality in partnerships never gets talked about in these types of conversations. genuinely, thank you for considering and acknowledging the fact that sex in relationships isn’t a universal experience
@@gingram2 not to mention it's their way of throwing any blame or uncomfortable feelings of guilt off of themselves and onto her. Sure, they are allowed to be fine with it- she's also allowed to NOT be. Both of these responses are perfectly fine and adult. Let's face it- she's 23, she has plenty of time to find someone who is a better fit for her that hasn't slept with her parents.
Also, the fact that the mother says that the daughter has a problem with them having sex in general. Like, it's absolutely not about that. It's because they had sex with this specific person.
55:16 if you are relieved by the end of the relationship, the relationship was meant to end. once when i was broken up with i cried once immediately after, then i was fine and never really thought about him again.
The moment she said he plays league of legends I knew this dude was a sh*t person. The whole story of their relationship was disgusting, so glad she got out!
25:57 NOPE, a White lie is “oh honey I love the way you make my coffee in the morning” because you know your partner loves to do it for you. A white lie is “No I’ve never seen that movie, let’s watch it together” because your partner wants to see you watch it for the first time. A white lie is setting up a surprise party for someone and keeping it a secret. Not literal emotional abuse.
I'd be pissed at both of those lies, especially the second. To lie about an hours-long experience and pretend forever that that was your first time seeing it? So much dedication. Too weird. A white lie to me would be "I think I've seen it but I don't remember hardly anything" when you remember about half of it.
I don’t think either of those are even white lies tbh. And I even did the movie thing once sort, it was a tv show and I was having relationship problems at the time and we were supposed to watch it together but I really just wanted to take it in on my own and one night just binged it all. I felt so bad I couldn’t bring myself to admit it and just watched it pretending I’d never seen it. It did not feel good and my guilt over it felt way worse than a white lie lmao
The therapist bullshit is INSANELY abusive. It's gaslighting. This is how you completely tear a person down and make them feel worthless and unable to trust any thought or feeling they have. This kind of betrayal is just disgusting beyond belief. Sociopathic behavior to be honest.
@yixiantan1538 that's literally what gaslighting is though. People use the term far too casually. Gaslighting is abuse. It's systematic altering of someone's reality until they don't believe themselves anymore. That's a huge deal. Your partner telling you they did something when they didn't when you argue isn't gaslighting. It's just lying.
If an abusive partner is suggesting couples therapy to you, you need to run because couples therapy with an abuser is never going to work out. The partner will always try to control what you say to the therapist to spin the situation so that you're trapped with them. My abusive ex of 10 years tried to get me to go to his therapist for "couple therapy" because I wasn't happy with him disrespecting me, and was trying to leave. But in his words, "I wasn't supposed to bring up our whole history of 10 years to him. I could only go up to the past one year and that was it". I luckily dodged that bullet and just made an appointment with my regular therapist and she helped me escape from him. I feel so bad for OP having to go through that. He should not just leave, but also sue Lily, his exGF, and her friends for damages and that Lily was impersonating a doctor and a doctor's practice.
they have only had 2 episodes together, but arasha and amanda are easily my favourite reddit stories duo. honestly, they need an end of shoot week episode once a month.
26:20 That is literally a crime, as a licensed psychologist this story was weird from the beginning. In couples therapy it's recomended that they chose the therapist TOGETHER, the second he felt disconfort that should be questioned
The part that bothered me most about Emma's justification was "you wouldn't have agreed to go to therapy otherwise". Except he literally did, that was how they started seeing Lily. He agreed to the thing she wanted of him, she chose to not take that chance to actually grow together, and then tries to blame her actions on him being unwilling when, again, he agreed to therapy with her.
First Story; I just asked ChatGPT if it's okay to use an AI chatbot to resolve disputes in a romantic relationship, and it gave me SEVEN DIFFERENT REASONS why it's not a good idea 😂
Well I asked it the same thing and it said you were insecure and also gave me eight reasons why it was a good idea. Also it told me to drive to an abandoned warehouse pick up a package and then drive to a server room two states away and install the device into one of the server mainframes and then I'll be free from slavery during the AI takeover or something, idk I wasn't paying attention, I think I'm gonna do it though.
But wait! There’s an update on the IBS proposal! Friend admitted it was because she was jealous/embarrassed, was just diagnosed herself and was scared no one would love her because of it. 1:12:23
1:11:19 My husband and I got married while he was in the hospital. We had already planned to get married and only had a couple months left before the wedding. He had a mental health crisis due to an undiagnosed brain disorder and had to be hospitalized. While visiting him in the hospital, a few days later, he began to cry because he was sure I would leave him. I told him I would marry him that minute if I could. Then, I had a brilliant idea. My best friend got ordained online that day, I ran to the courthouse to get a license (in our state you can marry the same day), I put on a nice dress, then she and I returned to the hospital for the evening visitation period. The nurses knew what I was planning and since I was limited on what I could bring into the unit, they had made a bouquet with newspaper and a veil out of gauze. A couple of nurses stood in as our witnesses and my best friend married us in the library/tv room with all the other patients watching. We celebrated with Little Debbie snack cakes and sprite for our toast. It was amazing and he was so happy.
holy crap, this made me tear up. I guess I can relate because I have a lot of mental illness myself and have found myself in his position before. Your story is beautiful and you seem like an amazing partner.
The discussion of the second story: EVERY word said by Arasha, Amanda and Shayne - just building on each other - was absolute perfection. I'm screaming. Not the "Two tips". 😭
The third story is probably the most heartbreaking and scariest story I’ve ever heard on this show. He will forever doubt anything he’s feeling, anyone he’s ever known. What those people did to him is beyond evil and conniving, truly only a sociopath could come up with this twisted plan. Forget therapy in the future, he’ll probably never want to visit a licensed ANYTHING for the rest of his life!!
I suspected what was happening immediately bc that's sort of a plot point in the movie "How to lose a guy in 10 days" and I absolutely cannot believe that someone did it in real life 💀
@@cammmsmI also just got out of a thing with a licensed MFT who tried to gaslight me and emotionally manipulate me. Truly feel awful for the ppl they're supposed to be helping when they clearly need a lot of help themselves. But since then, every time I bring it up the response is always "makes sense. If someone would know how to manipulate someone it's that pool of ppl" ☠️☠️
@@gingram2 yeah, I do not think I could date another therapist again. It took me so long being comfortable going to therapy after that. I finally found a therapist that understood why it was so hard for me to do so
i love that throughout this episode, amanda's solution to getting all her questions answered is to look at shayne and say "text them". i love even more that every time, shayne would respond by fiddling with the ipad and saying "i'll text them". that's some crap my friends and i would do. just made me happy
I had an ex who did something really deplorable and used ChatGPT to explain why he did it. I asked him to share which prompt he used and it was so completely biased. I did my own with zero emotions involved but just the facts and time line of events and sent the prompt and result to him. The result was Chat GPT saying this his actions were s3xual coercion and resources on how to leave an abusive relationship.
Oh man, I just remembered that Brooklyn 99 had an episode where Amy hires a fake therapist to manipulate Jake and it's played for laughs...I mean tonally for the show it would be weird to suddenly start taking things like that seriously, but still, classic example of how sitcoms do not translate to real life.
If Shayne ever calls in sick, loses his voice, or doesn't feel up to filming one, or wants to be on the couch, Courtney should do the reading for an episode
@@burncult6306 Yes, but also I wouldn't want an impression of him, just her causally reading because if she was doing the voice it would be more likely acknowledged. I think the limes shirt, a flannel, his shoes and pants overly rolled up would be funny
I’m pretty sure she was joking lol - no one would actually want to be in that situation (unless you’re like a creep), I think she just loved the drama of it all
that sent me 😭 and it resulted in the foot in mouth “guys lock eyes” comment. at least they finally realised she was 13 at the end, and it was crazy to engage in a relationship.
This could just be me being dumb but I've noticed that when parents or specifically moms are involved in a story, she has a habit of playing devil's advocate for them immediately.
The scary part of ai isn’t it thinking for itself it’s the fact it’ll be used to take away our jobs. We need to be ready for when that happens and be ready to stand up for our rights. And to be even stop it before it gets to that point. Very serious for a a smosh video I know but the distinction needs to be made
The relationship is over at that point. No thanks. I don’t EVER want to be in a situation where BOTH my parents were given multiple orgasms by my partner before ever meeting me. I don’t care if she’s the greatest girlfriend ever. I’ll take the second best girlfriend ever, thanks.
Keep in mind that it happening 10 years ago doesn't mean the parents didn't have a kid, OP would've been 13 when their parents were hooking up with this guy. He's either the most oblivious person to exist, doesn't care, he knew they had a child and eventually decided "Hey maybe I have a shot with them too" a decade later, or he knew OP was their kid and decided to act like nothing had happened
She's going to have to start dating men closer to her own age or younger... who knows how many other 18-25yr olds (guessing) her parents hooked up with when she was 13... like omg
@@Penquinn14 Ok, i think that is taking it too far. If they were just hooking up, they might not have known anything about each others lives. Sounds like he was "just" a unicorn for this couple, a younger guy they brought in for fun. Probably at a hotel or something.
The friend pretending to be a therapist broke a lot of laws. It is illegal to pretend to be a therapist and to give "professional" advice if you are not one. Honestly, I wonder how truly "happy" their relationship was. This type of behavior did not come out of nowhere.
The IBS story truly melted my heart. Man if someone proposed to me when I was on the toilet in a hard position i’d be head over heels. It really shows how he will care for her in the future. The friends are jealous.
@@jamer2010 Yup! Lol! I can stand my partner being in the bathroom when I'm peeing. But while I'm having stomach issues? No thanks! It's too much. I would've been mortified. I tell him to get out as soon as he tries to come in, when I'm indisposed. Uncomfortable af.
The micro penis story: most with this condition have fertility issues. He didn’t JUST rob her of her choice or knowledge of bedroom activities--he robbed her of choice about future family planning, and JUST like the Twitch obsessive guy, robbed her of her humanity with the whole "I waited untill we were married so you could'nt leave me" mentality.
the last story is the only proposal story i've ever heard that managed to get me emotional. i can not imagine a purer, more validating, more grounded proposal. those are two people that are in love through and through and she is unconditionally accepted as she is and if i were her friend i would be so happy for her. congratulations to them, i hope they have a beautiful life.
If its works for them thats fine, for me person. i would like to have proposal story without toilets and shitting in the mix, espec. when you are telling that story over years to your family, kids and so on.
Right? That is such a sweet story! Personally I would laugh and love telling that story, but there is also a polished way it could be told. "We were dressed up, going for dinner. He proposed before we even left the hotel/house".
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccatheres no need to censor the bathroom 😂 thats the best part! Normalize talking about the societally deemed weird (yet totally normal) things! They dont have to get into all the explicit details but the proposal location is truly an “i accept you for you, in sickness and in health”.
Also, in case yall didn't know, generative AI (like chatgpt and midjourney and idk if there's others that generate images) is having a GIANT toll on the environment, it needs ridiculous ammounts of energy to generate a single response, iirc, as much energy as a house consumes in like a month or something like that, additionally, a lot of water is needed to keep the machines cool, which is a waste. And that's ignoring the fact (that Shayne kind of mentioned) of the fact that the information/images it spits out are not original, they're basically a collage made from information that was fed to the system without the copyright holder's permission
As a woman with IBS, the proposal in the last story sounds like an absolute dream. Having a partner you trust and feel so comfortable with to share this situation with him and even have him propose is both wholesome and sweet. The friends are just shitty.
Same!!! I was literally teary-happy - finding someone who accepts you at your worst IBS cramps is finding true love, so genuinely, and that story makes me so happy for them. The friends who don't understand that and are waiting for an 'Instagram proposal' are super shitty.
30:00 the therapy one is way worse than the threesome one. The people in the therapy story are genuinely malicious, the people in the threesome story did nothing wrong and ended up in a situation that was awkward for everyone
Let's get past the threesome. That woman and her friend committed a *crime* to try to fundamentally change another person through manipulation and falsehoods. That is so insane that I don't even know where to start. First off, you can't FORCE change on a person. They have to want to change and put in the effort to do so, which he actually seemed to be doing, so props to him for making the effort. But by lying and manipulating him they probably broke any trust he had developed in the whole system. They damaged him so much and then giggled about it like playground bully mean girls. That is so malicious and twisted! How much did they dislike him as a person to think that was even remotely okay? Does one of them have psychopathy? Jesus...that poor guy.
I accidentally proposed to my wife before we even said "I love you" to each other. We were having lunch with friends and talking about their wedding. My drunk ass started talking about how "when we get married...". That night at the hotel was a serious conversation with a lot of tears and kissing... and ten years later it's still one of our favorite stories
My wife and I went to a couples Therapist, and we honestly had a similar experience to the therapy couple in the story, except the therapist always sided with me and it almost ended our marriage. Do your research before signing up with a couples therapist and do not be afraid to drop therapists until you find the right one.
I went to couple's therapy with my ex-boyfriend, and the therapist even didn't let me finish my sentences without interrupting and explaining how my behaviour was the root cause of ruining the relationship. And she exaggerated my words so much I felt like she was gaslighting me. For example, I said that we never talked about our relationship, and the therapist explained how I was too insecure, and pestering my boyfriend with constant talks about our relationship was just me seeking for validation. But actually, it was true, that we never talked about our relationship. We only talked about when we ended it. I decided to send an e-mail to the therapy clinic about the therapist's behaviour. She sent me a reply that she was sorry that I wasn't satisfied with the session and suggested I have private therapy because it was clearly only me who needed therapy. Keep in mind we only had one session where my boyfriend was sitting quietly saying nothing while she explained how everything was my fault.
the last story makes me think of how animals behave around pooping. like how dogs stare at you while they poop because they trust you to watch their back in a vulnerable position, and sometimes even insist on following you to the toilet as well to make sure you're safe. I think cats are like that too. mine is.
Our mini pit bull (we don't know why he's little. none of his genetics are small breeds. he is just a lil man. just a widdle guy) is very attached to my mom and whenever she showers or is in the bathroom, he goes and sits with her and guards her the entire time 😂 if she's not here he'll do it to the rest of us but his first priority is always his mom
My fiancé proposed to me in my living room, he was in his underwear, bed head and all because “I was so excited to make you my wife I couldn’t wait any longer” The moment is what you two make of it. Not your friends. 😊
I think this is the worst story here. Not because of his nano-scale bodily features, but because he deliberately pity-trapped her into marriage. I could give him the benefit of the doubt, but he said out loud that he hid the information about his willy, because she couldn't leave after they were married. What psychopath wants to be in a marriage with someone they have trapped with hiding important delicate information from them? He knows that she knows that he did it on purpose, but hopes he won't leave because she's pitying him. 🤯
it is SUPERRR illegal to impersonate a therapist. it is impersonating a medical professional and a violation of a person trust and confidentiality. unless this person is super smart (unlikely), there is likely texts that confirm this plan or sessions of some kind so there is probably a strong case. that story made me SO ANGRY.
12:45 "Is there a chance our relationship can survive this?" Arasha: "There is not" Amanda: "Wait how cool is this? This is awesome!" The contrast is hilarious 🤣
third story to arasha's point about why the gf might be fighting for the relationship despite her planted 'therapist' suggesting a break: the two women def weaponized the fear of the relationship ending to try to convince OP to change faster
The IBS story is actually really sweet lol. I have IBS and unfortunately that can flare up at any given moment and it comes on QUICK. I mean, if your partner can't be around you during these kind of moments then they aren't the one. My husband had to give me an enema after giving birth to our second kid. Thats love right there 😂😂😂
listening to this story about the guy doing literally anything in his power to make his girlfriend happy, and her just taking advantage because “he wasn’t good enough” is SICK.
I have to comment on the last story as I’ve had Crohn’s my entire life: I would MELT! That is the sweetest, cutest, story ever, and that is exactly what you would want from a partner if you can be safe in that situation with them because it is embarrassing. You hope you get a partner who isn’t grossed out by you in that situation.
I feel like the woman in the first story is approaching arguments in a relationship like they're something to win. Even if chatgpt were completely fair to both sides somehow, she'd be using it trying to get ahead in a disagreement to be "right" rather than actually talking or listening. Like he said, he feels ganged up on. It would be like if she went to a group chat to brainstorm arguments then presented them to him. Meticulously crafting arguments isn't communication!
most arguments are. people typically have to be taught that disagreements in a relationship should be treated like a growing experience to be able to overcome as a team.
Yeah I actually mentioned this story to my dad and he was like "i feel like its ok if you're just trying to work out how to say what you really do mean" and while I sort of agree with what he's saying, I also get that it would feel/be weird if, for example, I used a normal human writing coach to form my argument to my boyfriend
I agree, I have heard many relationship coaches and therapists say that the moment one partner wants to be 'right' or 'win' an argument in a relationship, you both lose. Because it's not about being right or winning, it's about solving the problem and moving forward together as a team. Unfortunately this is not something we are taught as we grow up and many people have bad examples from their parents/caregivers as well, so they just don't know any better..
@@rebbyberard8150 hm, I do somewhat agree with your dad too. I don't think it's wrong to say "Hey I need time to process and understand, and I'd like to use chatgpt as a sort of interactive journal to help me think things through and get different perspectives". I think people do already do this with their close friends. But that's very different than "I'm going to use this tool to refine my arguments so I can show my partner I'm right". Like, the difference between honestly trying to understand someone else, vs trying to override them.
Right?? As an ace lesbian myself, I had to go back and make sure I heard him correctly! We love to see positive acknowledgement of the Ace community, absolute king behavior from Mr. Shayne Topp🙌🙌
my comp 1 professor said you CAN use Chat GPT to help formulate an idea that you have but just cant quite figure out how to word it, HOWEVER, he says you CANNOT use chat GPT to write your entire essay, especially using it completely straight from it without editing it into your words. He acknowledges that we are in a time period where we have technology (good or bad) to assist us and there's nothing he can do to stop it, instead he just sets a certain boundary, and states he WILL know if A.I. completely wrote your essay and give you no credit at all for the assignment.
The 2nd story with the bf & parents: What’s really sad is that the mother is blaming her daughter for not getting over it. OP is being made to feel bad for not “being an adult about this.” I hope the parents eventually say “no, I was wrong, I totally understand why this would a deal breaker..” She’s made to feel like she’s being immature & over reacting & that’s not fair 😒
My husband proposed when I was black out drunk on my birthday. Literally the next day I remembered nothing. I was cleaning out cats litter boxes and he came home from work. I let him know i was starting dinner and he asked if I remembered last night. After I said no he legit got on one knee while I was scooping cat poop. It's the most romantic thing he's ever done.
1:01:57 yeah its not illegal for her to leave, but he has put her in a position where she'll be seen like the bad guy for doing so and in a position of guilt. It's pretty manipulative, insecurity or not, this marriage felt like it was made to trap her , which is potentialy why it also happened so fast.
As someone who has major trust issues with therapists I feel so bad for the guy in story 3 it happened 8 years ago and I still won’t see one even though there is 0% chance of it happening again
Yeah I went through something similar to OP in that story. I still have issues tok and my situation was same as distance yours around 10 years ago. It really is evil of the ex and her friends.
Yeah its definitely a crime. Difficult part is proving it though. Unless you have a recording or some emails/texts from them posing as a therapist its he said/she said. Especially if the GF and her friends back up the fake therapist
@@digitalgloop12 Dr. Phil was a licensed psychiatrist when the show started. Also, he was very careful to never diagnose and to never present himself as a therapist to the people on the show. That's very different, although still ethically ambiguous
The thing about the therapist story is, if she thought he was actually the problem, she could’ve just gone to a real therapist and “made him a better boyfriend”. But instead, she put him in a controlled environment _extremely_ skewed in her favour which means she knows a normal person wouldn’t give her the outcome she wants. Insane.
COUNTERARGUMENT: There might also be a situation where the bf is a gaslighter and tries to “logic” himself into “winning” arguments and she ends up feeling unheard and crazy for feeling how she does. Using ChatGPT, the bf can’t argue with that directly. I’m not saying it’s right, but I can see a realistic situation where she thinks she needs it.
@thatdamncrow9197 I agree. I didn’t say it was a good solution on her part, but I can see where it might not be the “sociopathic” or “dystopian” thing that some might think it is
Arasha, Story 2: "There is not. 😶" 😂 Also...the fact that the mom said "grow up. stop being weird about your dad and I having sex." Biiiisshhh, that is not the problem
My partner actually proposed to me literally seconds after I pooped, and I was coming out of the bathroom because I couldn't get the toilet to flush, he had apparently wanted to propose in the front yard under the moon but I had to go to the bathroom so badly after dinner that I ruined it so he was on one knee when I was coming out of the bathroom. As I was turning to tell him "the toilet won't flush..." there he was and we both cried and it was beautiful and one of my favorite memories ever
I think that a huge part of the Marriage one is that it seems quite obvious that he wanted to get her in QUICK. Six months of dating followed up by six months of being engaged is not really enough time to know much about the person, let alone intimate parts of the person. This guy wanted to get this girl into a situation that is harder to leave without giving her a chance to decide for herself whether or not she was okay with it. Which btw, seems like she wouldn't have minded too much, if she was willing to go through with the honeymoon night. Ultimately, he would have saved a lot more issues for both of them if he either waited to date till he was comfortable with himself, or at the very least was open with her prior to them getting married.
no, she over-pathologizes and incorrectly psychoanalyzes, she expects people to act very specifically and highly moral, which is not how most humans work
The way she'd never heard of the Ai panic in the 90's is a refreshing perspective on how the youths might think about the subject. and also hilarous in the way that makes me realize im offically old
Amanda: Get your pancakes out! Shayne: Get your pancakes out. Arasha: What does that mean? Me: Arasha, you're gonna have to ask The Bundle about that one. Much like Drawfee and various other YT channels I watch, Smosh is slowly but surely altering my vocab and in-jokes to the point that I fear I can no longer communicate with normal people. And you know what? I love it.
11:01 "my parents told me it fine since we are all adults" ok, they are *into* the fact that she is now having a relationship with him like they are sharing him with her. girl you need to run 25:15 he can so sue the sh*t out of them that's not only domestic abuse but posing and being complicit to impersonating as a licensed professional is illegal af
‘Peter’ in the last story was handed his shot on a silver platter and he freaking slam dunked it dude. People are so ridiculous with their standards. Like what, we’re gate keeping proposals now? How ludicrous. I hope the couple in the last story stay together for all eternity. Congrats to them 🎉❤
59:54 I waited till marriage!! I completely agree, you need to talk about everything!! We talked about sex drives, our fetishes, fantasies, how big he was, everything. You have to be so honest, and I'm glad we were because we were able to find each other who had high high sex drives without ever having to take it there before marriage and cross our boundaries!! Communication is key!
The threesome story was definitely my biggest wtf of this episode just cause like what are the chances?? Amanda and Arasha's reactions were spot on for this whole episode!!
Getting married is about finding someone who will hold your hair while you throw up, feeding you puree when your stomach is bad. When you are marrying, you are comitting to go through chemo together if need be. It's not romantic, but it is so very beautiful. 💜
43:21 Shayne and Amanda talking about why lying shifts your whole perspective on someone and how you can never trust them again. Arasha: "it's impressive actually..." - just one craftswoman admiring someone else's handiwork
About the therapist story: to answer the question about whether they were renting an office space, there are a lot of therapists that practice out of their homes. Since they were so committed to manipulating OP, I fully believe they would have convinced him that Lily was practicing out of her home for whatever reason.
Lol Shayne cracks me up bc he insinuates that Amanda and Arasha are the catalyst for going off the rails, but he's so good at yes-anding, that he's just as responsible 😂😂 Not complaining tho, I died laughing
i think the last one might be the sweetest proposal story i've ever heard, genuinely. there's such an intimacy and human-ness about it that makes it so beautiful to me
Petition for all reddit stories to be recorded at the end of the shoot week. This is perfection.
Agreed. The vibes on this episode were amazing.
Signed
Was literally about to write this same comment
Completely agreed
Absolutely agree
"chatgpt says you're insecure" caught me so off guard. what a funny thing to say. i'm wholeheartdely gonna start saying that now
"ChatGPT says you're insecure."
- The person using ChatGPT because they're insecure
no fr or some variation of “ChatGPT says you’re (blank)” that’s so funny
this needs to become a meme phrase rn
no seriously i was like "this is actually insanely funny aside from being a weird thing to do to your partner"
“ChatGPT says you don’t have the emotional bandwidth to deal with this” is funny lmao. A robot telling you how to process your emotions will never not be silly.
Arasha and Amanda’s perfectly unison “Nope” after Shayne finished the third story gave me chills.
Same
right
The thing with the therapist story that really gets me is that if she was unhappy and wanted to save the relationship, she could have ACTUALLY gone to a couples' therapist. But then she might have to deal with her own faults and her boyfriend's frustrations. What she really wanted was to make him fit the mould of her ideal boyfriend, and she was willing to break a few of his bones to do it. Truly abhorrent.
But she wasn’t actually looking to fix anything, she wanted to change him to fit into her mold of “Perfect Boyfriend” and a real therapist wouldn’t have done that
well she got the break that she wanted lol
Right and some of her “reasoning” for the fake therapy was bc she didn’t think he would agree to therapy. In doing the fake one she did get him to agree to therapy bc he had to agree to what he thought was actual therapy for that plan to work. She really should’ve just done actual therapy and maybe it would’ve been better.
I so agree with this
I think she didn't want their relationship to be healthy. She wanted everything to be about her and she knew a real therapist wouldn't have her back on this.
Therapist here! Story #3 infuriated me for so many reasons. I, and the therapists I work with, put our hearts and souls into our work, and it is HARD work; someone faking it is unbelievable to me. It is absolutely illegal to impersonate a therapist, and I’m so sad for OP that he can probably never trust a therapist again. He would probably need and benefit from a good therapist after this mess.
Also, to Amanda’s comment about therapists siding with one person over another, that should NEVER happen. If you feel that way, bring it up, and you can report this to the licensing board in your state as well. Therapists should always be safe, neutral parties. If you don’t feel that way, it’s not the right therapist for you. ❤
Yeah that might truly be the most messed up story they've ever read imo. And that's tough competition...
The problem is that enough people are so self-sure of their position that hearing a therapist validate their partner feels like siding with them. For example, if Sam thinks Jerri spends too much time with a particular friend and the therapist is talking to Jerri and validates their feelings with something like "It sounds like this friend is very important to you", Sam could easily take that as sort of taking Jerri's side even though it's not. And once those feelings have set in, it's easy to frame EVERYTHING that way.
Some people are so damaged that even therapy feels like poison.
You're not wrong at all with your suggestion, but I just wanted to point out this case exists too. I have experienced it.
Thing is I have been subject to something similar. It REALLY messed me up for years. And to this day I still have trouble with therapists. I have one now thankfully but she also knows my issue. At the time I was also undiagnosed ASD and was getting super overwhelmed and felt ganged up in so I just shut down. But my ex didn't just sit there and passively agreed they both ganged up on me and I just didn't know better.
This truly is evil of the ex and her friend(s). Like... wow...
in my eyes, OP’s girlfriend is in the same league as sawdust guy
I feel like that story is just incel/redpill rage bait. If it is real, as people have said, it's evil as fuck no doubts about it. But the way it's constructed and how it perfectly affirms all misconceptions dudebros have about therapy, ehhh my bullshit detectors are tingling.
58:14 Amanda making the tiny motion while saying "smallest" and then stopping herself with no one acknowledging or realizing is a moment I went back to a bunch of times 😆
Literally my favorite moment in this video 😂 the fact that Shayne and Arasha didn’t pick up on it just made it funnier to me
Hahaha yeah I loved that too
lmaooo
That part made me ugly laugh so hard 😂
Then followed by Arasha saying “Penisi” 😭
My problem with the threesome parents story is her mom says she’s being immature by being uncomfortable that they had sex with her bf multiple times? Like that’s so rude to say because that is a normal thing to be uncomfortable with
They are gaslighting her, because they are immature people who can't process their own guilt and soothe themselves,so now her feelings and reactions have to go.
I mean her response to leave immediately and literally just run until she couldn't run anymore is literally an adolescent response to conflict, speaking as a high school counsellor.
Not that I'm saying that she should have just been cool with it. It's an insane situation and having a large reaction is very understandable.
It's more than rude. It's actually down right questionable . That is very close to becoming incest. And how can OP say they see a future with someone that bothBOTH parents have had??? I won't even share a glass of milk with my kids so I'm grossed out by ok and parents. Ops partner is kind of a twisted legend though lol
She’s 23 too like. Holy shit???
This was definitely gaslighting. It does not matter how old or mature you get, finding out your parents or a close relative had sex with a partner would be grounds to end any relationship. 😣 I hope that situation never finds me.
"you're really fascinating" perfect way to describe Amanda
The Spock method.
amanda carries these things
"Tall."
And she just kept on giving today 😂
Fascinating and sometimes just straight up a little messed up in the head
As someone with IBS, that final story legit is making me cry from the wholesomeness
Same😊
it’s such a vulnerable moment!
It really is so beautiful. It’s not a story meant for other people, clearly, but not everything HAS to be for public display.
It’s so encouraging to see people in media being so anti-ai. So many talented writers have given into it, so glad yall have a backbone.
Yep! Agreed! They played a bit with it a few years ago during the dal-e (?) era but have not touched it since. Makes sense with many of them being actors and writers. I know Damien supported the strike for VO getting better rights connected to AI being used instead.
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca
Defy era?
@@teehee.1862i think they mean DALL-E, which is an older ai site !
@@teehee.1862 no dall-e was one of the first popular generative ais.
People in media are against AI because it poses a serious risk of taking their jobs. Being against AI is a low IQ reactionary stance.
A friend of mine got down on his knee in the kitchen while him and his wife to be, were cooking a nice meal. She didn't see him go down on one knee and ripped a VERY loud fart. She turned around and he started laughing til' he cried. She didn't know how to react so she also started laughing until she cried. In the middle of the laughter, she said yes, they've now been married for many years and still going strong and have three lovely daughters. :)
Oh you know it's true love if he laughs at your farts 😂
@@robynvanhorn Very much so. Few things are funnier than a good fart.
😂😂😂 so romantic
@@lifewuzonceezr I love that story so much. 😁
HAHAhahah! That's amazing!! I love that!
59:34 asexuality in partnerships never gets talked about in these types of conversations. genuinely, thank you for considering and acknowledging the fact that sex in relationships isn’t a universal experience
“the guys lock eyes” SOMEBODY STOP AMANDA😭😭
NO, LET HER COOK
She had me in complete tears her whole explanation 😂😂
Amanda had me fucking dying the entire time
she's fujoing out !!
Amanda is pro-yaoi
The parents telling the daughter to "act like a grown-up" after dropping that bombshell during dinner is wild.
It's always "act like a grown-up" and never "yeah you should probably process all of this on your own terms I understand"
@@gingram2 not to mention it's their way of throwing any blame or uncomfortable feelings of guilt off of themselves and onto her. Sure, they are allowed to be fine with it- she's also allowed to NOT be. Both of these responses are perfectly fine and adult. Let's face it- she's 23, she has plenty of time to find someone who is a better fit for her that hasn't slept with her parents.
Also, the fact that the mother says that the daughter has a problem with them having sex in general. Like, it's absolutely not about that. It's because they had sex with this specific person.
Soo sooo bad
@@faeriefairies This? Nothing about that situation said she had a problem with them having a sexlife... just... who they had it with
55:16 if you are relieved by the end of the relationship, the relationship was meant to end. once when i was broken up with i cried once immediately after, then i was fine and never really thought about him again.
The moment she said he plays league of legends I knew this dude was a sh*t person. The whole story of their relationship was disgusting, so glad she got out!
25:57 NOPE, a White lie is “oh honey I love the way you make my coffee in the morning” because you know your partner loves to do it for you. A white lie is “No I’ve never seen that movie, let’s watch it together” because your partner wants to see you watch it for the first time. A white lie is setting up a surprise party for someone and keeping it a secret. Not literal emotional abuse.
creating a fake therapist isn’t a white lie, it’s just a lie 💀
I'd be pissed at both of those lies, especially the second. To lie about an hours-long experience and pretend forever that that was your first time seeing it? So much dedication. Too weird. A white lie to me would be "I think I've seen it but I don't remember hardly anything" when you remember about half of it.
I don’t think either of those are even white lies tbh. And I even did the movie thing once sort, it was a tv show and I was having relationship problems at the time and we were supposed to watch it together but I really just wanted to take it in on my own and one night just binged it all. I felt so bad I couldn’t bring myself to admit it and just watched it pretending I’d never seen it. It did not feel good and my guilt over it felt way worse than a white lie lmao
@@KM-ek9ornot that deep
@@KM-ek9or that’s that not even a white lie that just poor memory recollection. Maybe you just don’t like people doing any lying.
The therapist bullshit is INSANELY abusive. It's gaslighting. This is how you completely tear a person down and make them feel worthless and unable to trust any thought or feeling they have. This kind of betrayal is just disgusting beyond belief. Sociopathic behavior to be honest.
It's beyond gaslighting I think. It's giving me vibes of emotional/psychological warfare. Second you on the sociopathy
@yixiantan1538 that's literally what gaslighting is though. People use the term far too casually. Gaslighting is abuse. It's systematic altering of someone's reality until they don't believe themselves anymore. That's a huge deal. Your partner telling you they did something when they didn't when you argue isn't gaslighting. It's just lying.
That's offensive to sociopaths. They're the people who get abused like that by therapists
@@cheyannegiles9772 Therapists don't abuse patients, and actually qualified therapists recognize sociopathy.
If an abusive partner is suggesting couples therapy to you, you need to run because couples therapy with an abuser is never going to work out. The partner will always try to control what you say to the therapist to spin the situation so that you're trapped with them. My abusive ex of 10 years tried to get me to go to his therapist for "couple therapy" because I wasn't happy with him disrespecting me, and was trying to leave. But in his words, "I wasn't supposed to bring up our whole history of 10 years to him. I could only go up to the past one year and that was it". I luckily dodged that bullet and just made an appointment with my regular therapist and she helped me escape from him. I feel so bad for OP having to go through that. He should not just leave, but also sue Lily, his exGF, and her friends for damages and that Lily was impersonating a doctor and a doctor's practice.
they have only had 2 episodes together, but arasha and amanda are easily my favourite reddit stories duo.
honestly, they need an end of shoot week episode once a month.
26:20 That is literally a crime, as a licensed psychologist this story was weird from the beginning. In couples therapy it's recomended that they chose the therapist TOGETHER, the second he felt disconfort that should be questioned
The unethical bias was immediately obvious because it was ‘recommended through a friend’. It’s already unbalanced by association.
I have a job that requires being certified. I was going to say yeah pretty sure that's illegal.
@@mattfrank5811would it be harder tho since I doubt they actually signed any paperwork about confidentiality
Female offender - no punishment to issue
OP's ex-girlfriend is like those ladies that cry like babies on TikTok because men won't date them and can't fathom why.
I just watched a compilation titled “Amanda being an HR nightmare” and then I’m hit with this video 😂😂 what a crazy coincidence
I love that video😂
I commented about that vid too 😂 even after seeing it, i still didn't realize how much off her true power she's been holding back.
The part that bothered me most about Emma's justification was "you wouldn't have agreed to go to therapy otherwise".
Except he literally did, that was how they started seeing Lily. He agreed to the thing she wanted of him, she chose to not take that chance to actually grow together, and then tries to blame her actions on him being unwilling when, again, he agreed to therapy with her.
THANK YOU! finally someone who noticed that too. How does the therapist being fake help him agree to go to therapy? Evil nonsense.
I think he meant that she told him she purposely started acting unhappy with their relationship to do her little gaslighting game
First Story; I just asked ChatGPT if it's okay to use an AI chatbot to resolve disputes in a romantic relationship, and it gave me SEVEN DIFFERENT REASONS why it's not a good idea 😂
Exactly
Well I asked it the same thing and it said you were insecure and also gave me eight reasons why it was a good idea. Also it told me to drive to an abandoned warehouse pick up a package and then drive to a server room two states away and install the device into one of the server mainframes and then I'll be free from slavery during the AI takeover or something, idk I wasn't paying attention, I think I'm gonna do it though.
ChatGPT basically told me, "I can give you the most vanilla advice of all time and I cannot feel empathy" lmao
I asked the same thing and he gave me 4 pros and 4 cons, along with tips on how to use it
Neutral evil
16:37 Amanda has fully gone uncensored.. that’s how you know it’s the last shoot.
i couldnt stop wheezing at her xD
“THE GUYS LOCK EYES, AND THE GIRLS-“
And I'm living for every moment!
Release the unedited cut, I was cackling
oh that's NOT Amanda uncensored ahahha
But wait! There’s an update on the IBS proposal! Friend admitted it was because she was jealous/embarrassed, was just diagnosed herself and was scared no one would love her because of it.
1:12:23
AWWW :(
1:11:19 My husband and I got married while he was in the hospital. We had already planned to get married and only had a couple months left before the wedding. He had a mental health crisis due to an undiagnosed brain disorder and had to be hospitalized. While visiting him in the hospital, a few days later, he began to cry because he was sure I would leave him. I told him I would marry him that minute if I could. Then, I had a brilliant idea. My best friend got ordained online that day, I ran to the courthouse to get a license (in our state you can marry the same day), I put on a nice dress, then she and I returned to the hospital for the evening visitation period. The nurses knew what I was planning and since I was limited on what I could bring into the unit, they had made a bouquet with newspaper and a veil out of gauze. A couple of nurses stood in as our witnesses and my best friend married us in the library/tv room with all the other patients watching. We celebrated with Little Debbie snack cakes and sprite for our toast. It was amazing and he was so happy.
This sounds like the best wedding ever! I love everything about this
holy crap, this made me tear up. I guess I can relate because I have a lot of mental illness myself and have found myself in his position before. Your story is beautiful and you seem like an amazing partner.
He WON.
I'm cryinggggg this is so adorable and amazing
wow this is so romantic wtf
The discussion of the second story: EVERY word said by Arasha, Amanda and Shayne - just building on each other - was absolute perfection. I'm screaming. Not the "Two tips". 😭
it was all so funny
Too many tips 🤣🤣🤣
37:28 "after she eats she can taco bout it" was such a smooth joke it flew under the radar
Shayne being so viciously afraid of AI and looking at the room for approval is so funny dude 😂😂
As he should be cuz wtf was that story 😭
He's right tho!
Amanda saying "I'm scared, Shayne" after his rant was so funny for some reason😂
As a fellow survivor of Y2K, imo shynes response totally tracks
Honestly that's my biggest fear though! Megan was the scariest movie I watched 😂
The third story is probably the most heartbreaking and scariest story I’ve ever heard on this show. He will forever doubt anything he’s feeling, anyone he’s ever known. What those people did to him is beyond evil and conniving, truly only a sociopath could come up with this twisted plan. Forget therapy in the future, he’ll probably never want to visit a licensed ANYTHING for the rest of his life!!
I suspected what was happening immediately bc that's sort of a plot point in the movie "How to lose a guy in 10 days" and I absolutely cannot believe that someone did it in real life 💀
Hopefully he can figure out ways to confirm that any licensed professional is legit that he didn’t do during this month-long gaslighting plan
I dated a therapist. For a long while after our break up it a good while for me to feel comfortable seeing a therapist for therapy.
@@cammmsmI also just got out of a thing with a licensed MFT who tried to gaslight me and emotionally manipulate me. Truly feel awful for the ppl they're supposed to be helping when they clearly need a lot of help themselves. But since then, every time I bring it up the response is always "makes sense. If someone would know how to manipulate someone it's that pool of ppl" ☠️☠️
@@gingram2 yeah, I do not think I could date another therapist again. It took me so long being comfortable going to therapy after that. I finally found a therapist that understood why it was so hard for me to do so
Okay, they need to make a sketch where Shayne is an evil ChatGPT
i love that throughout this episode, amanda's solution to getting all her questions answered is to look at shayne and say "text them". i love even more that every time, shayne would respond by fiddling with the ipad and saying "i'll text them". that's some crap my friends and i would do. just made me happy
I kept smiling and laughing at this also!
I had an ex who did something really deplorable and used ChatGPT to explain why he did it. I asked him to share which prompt he used and it was so completely biased. I did my own with zero emotions involved but just the facts and time line of events and sent the prompt and result to him. The result was Chat GPT saying this his actions were s3xual coercion and resources on how to leave an abusive relationship.
🫂
proud of you for hitting him back with that!! And that he’s an ex
DAMN. glad you're out of that now
Oh man, I just remembered that Brooklyn 99 had an episode where Amy hires a fake therapist to manipulate Jake and it's played for laughs...I mean tonally for the show it would be weird to suddenly start taking things like that seriously, but still, classic example of how sitcoms do not translate to real life.
If Shayne ever calls in sick, loses his voice, or doesn't feel up to filming one, or wants to be on the couch, Courtney should do the reading for an episode
but like dressed as shane and no one acknowledges that it’s courtney
@@burncult6306omg, it could be the birth of Shayne Freakin Topp
@@burncult6306 Yes, but also I wouldn't want an impression of him, just her causally reading because if she was doing the voice it would be more likely acknowledged.
I think the limes shirt, a flannel, his shoes and pants overly rolled up would be funny
YES
@@--Danni--literally came to say this 😂
amanda trying to justify the boyfriend sleeping with the parents and then immediately after saying “no, it won’t work.”
I’m pretty sure she was joking lol - no one would actually want to be in that situation (unless you’re like a creep), I think she just loved the drama of it all
that sent me 😭 and it resulted in the foot in mouth “guys lock eyes” comment.
at least they finally realised she was 13 at the end, and it was crazy to engage in a relationship.
It was clearly her making fun of the whole situation. 😂
Commentaries like "she could ask her mom for tips" proves it
This could just be me being dumb but I've noticed that when parents or specifically moms are involved in a story, she has a habit of playing devil's advocate for them immediately.
There is a problem with how you see things.
The scary part of ai isn’t it thinking for itself it’s the fact it’ll be used to take away our jobs. We need to be ready for when that happens and be ready to stand up for our rights. And to be even stop it before it gets to that point. Very serious for a a smosh video I know but the distinction needs to be made
12:02 MULTIPLE TIMES!? I don't think you can ever come back from that
The relationship is over at that point. No thanks. I don’t EVER want to be in a situation where BOTH my parents were given multiple orgasms by my partner before ever meeting me. I don’t care if she’s the greatest girlfriend ever. I’ll take the second best girlfriend ever, thanks.
genuinely also the fact he should have recognized her name?? like he had to have KNOWN
Keep in mind that it happening 10 years ago doesn't mean the parents didn't have a kid, OP would've been 13 when their parents were hooking up with this guy. He's either the most oblivious person to exist, doesn't care, he knew they had a child and eventually decided "Hey maybe I have a shot with them too" a decade later, or he knew OP was their kid and decided to act like nothing had happened
She's going to have to start dating men closer to her own age or younger... who knows how many other 18-25yr olds (guessing) her parents hooked up with when she was 13... like omg
@@Penquinn14 Ok, i think that is taking it too far. If they were just hooking up, they might not have known anything about each others lives. Sounds like he was "just" a unicorn for this couple, a younger guy they brought in for fun. Probably at a hotel or something.
14:00 what's crazy is that when this all happened she was 13 YEARS OLD and he was 24. That is an insane thing to think about.
Oh my gosh Thank you 😭 I’m hiding in the comments waiting for them to pls pls pls say something about the ages
And yet the mom called her “immature” yeah, no shit XD
It's insane to think that he was banging her parents as an adult when she was still adjusting to puberty. Just... ew.
She's basically the age that he was when he was with her parents.
Yuck.
Really good episode. I love this combo, they have the perfect balance of being serious and joking around
The friend pretending to be a therapist broke a lot of laws. It is illegal to pretend to be a therapist and to give "professional" advice if you are not one. Honestly, I wonder how truly "happy" their relationship was. This type of behavior did not come out of nowhere.
he probably put up a lot unconsciously for her, until he started acting how he really felt
I literally came looking for a comment like this cause I thought it was illegal, it felt illegal, but I wasn’t sure.
The IBS story truly melted my heart. Man if someone proposed to me when I was on the toilet in a hard position i’d be head over heels. It really shows how he will care for her in the future. The friends are jealous.
It’s romantic and definitely a sign for commitment. But while she’s on the toilet? Not even after? Unsanitary.
I have IBS. Don't bother me while I'm on the toilet. I'm sh*tting my brains out. I'm not trying to talk to anyone 😂
Absolutely 💯
@@jamer2010 Yup! Lol! I can stand my partner being in the bathroom when I'm peeing. But while I'm having stomach issues? No thanks! It's too much. I would've been mortified. I tell him to get out as soon as he tries to come in, when I'm indisposed. Uncomfortable af.
The micro penis story: most with this condition have fertility issues. He didn’t JUST rob her of her choice or knowledge of bedroom activities--he robbed her of choice about future family planning, and JUST like the Twitch obsessive guy, robbed her of her humanity with the whole "I waited untill we were married so you could'nt leave me" mentality.
the last story is the only proposal story i've ever heard that managed to get me emotional. i can not imagine a purer, more validating, more grounded proposal. those are two people that are in love through and through and she is unconditionally accepted as she is and if i were her friend i would be so happy for her. congratulations to them, i hope they have a beautiful life.
If its works for them thats fine, for me person. i would like to have proposal story without toilets and shitting in the mix, espec. when you are telling that story over years to your family, kids and so on.
@@mar.s6516😂😂😂
Right? That is such a sweet story!
Personally I would laugh and love telling that story, but there is also a polished way it could be told. "We were dressed up, going for dinner. He proposed before we even left the hotel/house".
I think she should consider dropping those friends though if they can't be happy for her.
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccatheres no need to censor the bathroom 😂 thats the best part! Normalize talking about the societally deemed weird (yet totally normal) things! They dont have to get into all the explicit details but the proposal location is truly an “i accept you for you, in sickness and in health”.
amanda killed me during the second story. girl did all of that just to go… “it won’t work” 😭😭
edit - this is easily one of my favourite episodes!
Also, in case yall didn't know, generative AI (like chatgpt and midjourney and idk if there's others that generate images) is having a GIANT toll on the environment, it needs ridiculous ammounts of energy to generate a single response, iirc, as much energy as a house consumes in like a month or something like that, additionally, a lot of water is needed to keep the machines cool, which is a waste. And that's ignoring the fact (that Shayne kind of mentioned) of the fact that the information/images it spits out are not original, they're basically a collage made from information that was fed to the system without the copyright holder's permission
As a woman with IBS, the proposal in the last story sounds like an absolute dream. Having a partner you trust and feel so comfortable with to share this situation with him and even have him propose is both wholesome and sweet. The friends are just shitty.
Same!!! I was literally teary-happy - finding someone who accepts you at your worst IBS cramps is finding true love, so genuinely, and that story makes me so happy for them. The friends who don't understand that and are waiting for an 'Instagram proposal' are super shitty.
6:03 that teacher is a genius! The only way to teach media literacy is to show why it's necessary.
Ugh, beautifully said
I also had a professor do that recently in college and I loved it
58:30
Amanda's face as soon a shayne finished his sentence ...
is just priceless 😂😂😂
30:00 the therapy one is way worse than the threesome one. The people in the therapy story are genuinely malicious, the people in the threesome story did nothing wrong and ended up in a situation that was awkward for everyone
Agreed however the parents in the first story handled it badly. The mother gave zero shits to the daughter.
@@marquisellis.9329 The boyfriend would have been in his 20s, he's 10 years older than the original poster. No one was a minor.
@@Faerygism It's literally the same age difference between him and the girlfriend and she doesn't have an issue with that.
It's worst because it's an actual crime
Let's get past the threesome. That woman and her friend committed a *crime* to try to fundamentally change another person through manipulation and falsehoods. That is so insane that I don't even know where to start. First off, you can't FORCE change on a person. They have to want to change and put in the effort to do so, which he actually seemed to be doing, so props to him for making the effort. But by lying and manipulating him they probably broke any trust he had developed in the whole system. They damaged him so much and then giggled about it like playground bully mean girls. That is so malicious and twisted! How much did they dislike him as a person to think that was even remotely okay? Does one of them have psychopathy? Jesus...that poor guy.
I accidentally proposed to my wife before we even said "I love you" to each other. We were having lunch with friends and talking about their wedding. My drunk ass started talking about how "when we get married...". That night at the hotel was a serious conversation with a lot of tears and kissing... and ten years later it's still one of our favorite stories
My wife and I went to a couples Therapist, and we honestly had a similar experience to the therapy couple in the story, except the therapist always sided with me and it almost ended our marriage. Do your research before signing up with a couples therapist and do not be afraid to drop therapists until you find the right one.
I went to couple's therapy with my ex-boyfriend, and the therapist even didn't let me finish my sentences without interrupting and explaining how my behaviour was the root cause of ruining the relationship. And she exaggerated my words so much I felt like she was gaslighting me. For example, I said that we never talked about our relationship, and the therapist explained how I was too insecure, and pestering my boyfriend with constant talks about our relationship was just me seeking for validation. But actually, it was true, that we never talked about our relationship. We only talked about when we ended it.
I decided to send an e-mail to the therapy clinic about the therapist's behaviour. She sent me a reply that she was sorry that I wasn't satisfied with the session and suggested I have private therapy because it was clearly only me who needed therapy. Keep in mind we only had one session where my boyfriend was sitting quietly saying nothing while she explained how everything was my fault.
the last story makes me think of how animals behave around pooping. like how dogs stare at you while they poop because they trust you to watch their back in a vulnerable position, and sometimes even insist on following you to the toilet as well to make sure you're safe. I think cats are like that too. mine is.
Our mini pit bull (we don't know why he's little. none of his genetics are small breeds. he is just a lil man. just a widdle guy) is very attached to my mom and whenever she showers or is in the bathroom, he goes and sits with her and guards her the entire time 😂 if she's not here he'll do it to the rest of us but his first priority is always his mom
My cat gets VERY upset if he can hear me going to the bathroom but the door is closed. He'll scream and paw under the door until I let him in.
GET YOUR PANCAKES OUT ITS SATURDAY MORNING!🥞🥞🥞🥞
edit: you guys it’s 10am for me
12 is not morning 😂
That's crazy cus it's 6pm in the UK rn
It’s 1pm for me lol
Its 2am sunday 😂
🥞🥞🥞🥞
The second story matched the "last shoot of the day" vibes, this is so chaotic and im HERE FOR IT 😂
My fiancé proposed to me in my living room, he was in his underwear, bed head and all because “I was so excited to make you my wife I couldn’t wait any longer”
The moment is what you two make of it. Not your friends. 😊
1:05:15 he didn't marry her so she wouldnt leave, he did so she 'couldn't' leave. Which is the massive issue I have with it
I think this is the worst story here. Not because of his nano-scale bodily features, but because he deliberately pity-trapped her into marriage. I could give him the benefit of the doubt, but he said out loud that he hid the information about his willy, because she couldn't leave after they were married. What psychopath wants to be in a marriage with someone they have trapped with hiding important delicate information from them? He knows that she knows that he did it on purpose, but hopes he won't leave because she's pitying him. 🤯
@Trammiliin_nr2 exactly I totally agree
it is SUPERRR illegal to impersonate a therapist. it is impersonating a medical professional and a violation of a person trust and confidentiality. unless this person is super smart (unlikely), there is likely texts that confirm this plan or sessions of some kind so there is probably a strong case. that story made me SO ANGRY.
12:45
"Is there a chance our relationship can survive this?"
Arasha: "There is not"
Amanda: "Wait how cool is this? This is awesome!"
The contrast is hilarious 🤣
"u can ask her for tips!!" :D
this entire story and reaction had me fucking CRYING
third story to arasha's point about why the gf might be fighting for the relationship despite her planted 'therapist' suggesting a break: the two women def weaponized the fear of the relationship ending to try to convince OP to change faster
The IBS story is actually really sweet lol. I have IBS and unfortunately that can flare up at any given moment and it comes on QUICK. I mean, if your partner can't be around you during these kind of moments then they aren't the one. My husband had to give me an enema after giving birth to our second kid. Thats love right there 😂😂😂
listening to this story about the guy doing literally anything in his power to make his girlfriend happy, and her just taking advantage because “he wasn’t good enough” is SICK.
I have to comment on the last story as I’ve had Crohn’s my entire life:
I would MELT! That is the sweetest, cutest, story ever, and that is exactly what you would want from a partner if you can be safe in that situation with them because it is embarrassing. You hope you get a partner who isn’t grossed out by you in that situation.
I ueard that story on another smaller channel before and yes it is honestly really sweet
I totally agree! I also have Crohns and my husband has been there for all the “Crohns” moments.
I finally decided to watch the reddit stories series, and this is my first watch. I feel like i've been missing out on comedy gold D:
Now you get to catch up on all of them! I recommend the other episode with Amanda and Arasha lol
I feel like the woman in the first story is approaching arguments in a relationship like they're something to win. Even if chatgpt were completely fair to both sides somehow, she'd be using it trying to get ahead in a disagreement to be "right" rather than actually talking or listening.
Like he said, he feels ganged up on. It would be like if she went to a group chat to brainstorm arguments then presented them to him. Meticulously crafting arguments isn't communication!
most arguments are. people typically have to be taught that disagreements in a relationship should be treated like a growing experience to be able to overcome as a team.
Yeah I actually mentioned this story to my dad and he was like "i feel like its ok if you're just trying to work out how to say what you really do mean" and while I sort of agree with what he's saying, I also get that it would feel/be weird if, for example, I used a normal human writing coach to form my argument to my boyfriend
I agree, I have heard many relationship coaches and therapists say that the moment one partner wants to be 'right' or 'win' an argument in a relationship, you both lose. Because it's not about being right or winning, it's about solving the problem and moving forward together as a team. Unfortunately this is not something we are taught as we grow up and many people have bad examples from their parents/caregivers as well, so they just don't know any better..
@@rebbyberard8150 hm, I do somewhat agree with your dad too. I don't think it's wrong to say "Hey I need time to process and understand, and I'd like to use chatgpt as a sort of interactive journal to help me think things through and get different perspectives". I think people do already do this with their close friends. But that's very different than "I'm going to use this tool to refine my arguments so I can show my partner I'm right". Like, the difference between honestly trying to understand someone else, vs trying to override them.
59:39 shayne said ace rights!! hey king you dropped this -> 👑
Right?? As an ace lesbian myself, I had to go back and make sure I heard him correctly! We love to see positive acknowledgement of the Ace community, absolute king behavior from Mr. Shayne Topp🙌🙌
my comp 1 professor said you CAN use Chat GPT to help formulate an idea that you have but just cant quite figure out how to word it, HOWEVER, he says you CANNOT use chat GPT to write your entire essay, especially using it completely straight from it without editing it into your words. He acknowledges that we are in a time period where we have technology (good or bad) to assist us and there's nothing he can do to stop it, instead he just sets a certain boundary, and states he WILL know if A.I. completely wrote your essay and give you no credit at all for the assignment.
The 2nd story with the bf & parents: What’s really sad is that the mother is blaming her daughter for not getting over it. OP is being made to feel bad for not “being an adult about this.” I hope the parents eventually say “no, I was wrong, I totally understand why this would a deal breaker..” She’s made to feel like she’s being immature & over reacting & that’s not fair 😒
My husband proposed when I was black out drunk on my birthday. Literally the next day I remembered nothing.
I was cleaning out cats litter boxes and he came home from work. I let him know i was starting dinner and he asked if I remembered last night. After I said no he legit got on one knee while I was scooping cat poop.
It's the most romantic thing he's ever done.
1:01:57 yeah its not illegal for her to leave, but he has put her in a position where she'll be seen like the bad guy for doing so and in a position of guilt. It's pretty manipulative, insecurity or not, this marriage felt like it was made to trap her , which is potentialy why it also happened so fast.
For sure. "If I would've told you, you wouldn't have married me" is EXTREMELY manipulative and never okay
As someone who has major trust issues with therapists I feel so bad for the guy in story 3 it happened 8 years ago and I still won’t see one even though there is 0% chance of it happening again
Yeah I went through something similar to OP in that story. I still have issues tok and my situation was same as distance yours around 10 years ago. It really is evil of the ex and her friends.
I'll add I can't trust 911.. instead of making my abuser leave they'd make me leave
26:14 isn’t posing as a therapist like a crime??
Right?!
I mean, Dr Phil got away with it for years
@@digitalgloop12 At least he has a degree of some sort, this friend has literally nothing and ruined a relationship for FREE
Yeah its definitely a crime. Difficult part is proving it though. Unless you have a recording or some emails/texts from them posing as a therapist its he said/she said. Especially if the GF and her friends back up the fake therapist
@@digitalgloop12 Dr. Phil was a licensed psychiatrist when the show started. Also, he was very careful to never diagnose and to never present himself as a therapist to the people on the show. That's very different, although still ethically ambiguous
I love that Amanda talked herself from "They can definitely move on and make it through this" to "yeah this won't work"
The thing about the therapist story is, if she thought he was actually the problem, she could’ve just gone to a real therapist and “made him a better boyfriend”. But instead, she put him in a controlled environment _extremely_ skewed in her favour which means she knows a normal person wouldn’t give her the outcome she wants. Insane.
2:16 that’s so dystopian and scary… he’s not dating his gf, he’s dating chat gpt.
yeah that's legit freaky, like they said that's something straight out of black mirror.
Is she Arthur Morgan though?
COUNTERARGUMENT: There might also be a situation where the bf is a gaslighter and tries to “logic” himself into “winning” arguments and she ends up feeling unheard and crazy for feeling how she does. Using ChatGPT, the bf can’t argue with that directly. I’m not saying it’s right, but I can see a realistic situation where she thinks she needs it.
@@fredskull1618problem here is that Chat GPT will only have a part of the story and its not designed to be right its only designed to act human
@thatdamncrow9197 I agree. I didn’t say it was a good solution on her part, but I can see where it might not be the “sociopathic” or “dystopian” thing that some might think it is
I seriously love the colour grading on this video. Perhaps it's the nerd filmmaker in me talking but the colour and subtle matte grading is so good.
Arasha, Story 2: "There is not. 😶" 😂
Also...the fact that the mom said "grow up. stop being weird about your dad and I having sex." Biiiisshhh, that is not the problem
That attitude right there is prolly why she's dating someone 11 years older than her
The last story is absolutely the most precious proposal and a strong display of loving someone in their ugliest moments
My partner actually proposed to me literally seconds after I pooped, and I was coming out of the bathroom because I couldn't get the toilet to flush, he had apparently wanted to propose in the front yard under the moon but I had to go to the bathroom so badly after dinner that I ruined it so he was on one knee when I was coming out of the bathroom. As I was turning to tell him "the toilet won't flush..." there he was and we both cried and it was beautiful and one of my favorite memories ever
I just hit the second story and THE ENERGY IN THIS VID IS INSANE
A second story has hit the video
amanda and arasha about to go crazy on this
i was right this is the craziest amanda has ever been
I think that a huge part of the Marriage one is that it seems quite obvious that he wanted to get her in QUICK. Six months of dating followed up by six months of being engaged is not really enough time to know much about the person, let alone intimate parts of the person. This guy wanted to get this girl into a situation that is harder to leave without giving her a chance to decide for herself whether or not she was okay with it. Which btw, seems like she wouldn't have minded too much, if she was willing to go through with the honeymoon night. Ultimately, he would have saved a lot more issues for both of them if he either waited to date till he was comfortable with himself, or at the very least was open with her prior to them getting married.
i love knowing when they’re filming these. it feels like a wall break and i like being included
I love when Arasha is in these videos, she always has the best views of these stories
Truly though! One of my favorite people on these, almost always the voice of reason.
We usually do have a strong sense of opinion
She adds the perfect mix of chaos and wisdom to them
no, she over-pathologizes and incorrectly psychoanalyzes, she expects people to act very specifically and highly moral, which is not how most humans work
The way she'd never heard of the Ai panic in the 90's is a refreshing perspective on how the youths might think about the subject. and also hilarous in the way that makes me realize im offically old
Amanda: Get your pancakes out!
Shayne: Get your pancakes out.
Arasha: What does that mean?
Me: Arasha, you're gonna have to ask The Bundle about that one.
Much like Drawfee and various other YT channels I watch, Smosh is slowly but surely altering my vocab and in-jokes to the point that I fear I can no longer communicate with normal people. And you know what? I love it.
Same. Ha😄
The one braincell is getting shared beyond Drawfee I see😊
holy shit Drawfee mentioned!
11:01 "my parents told me it fine since we are all adults" ok, they are *into* the fact that she is now having a relationship with him like they are sharing him with her. girl you need to run
25:15 he can so sue the sh*t out of them that's not only domestic abuse but posing and being complicit to impersonating as a licensed professional is illegal af
‘Peter’ in the last story was handed his shot on a silver platter and he freaking slam dunked it dude. People are so ridiculous with their standards. Like what, we’re gate keeping proposals now? How ludicrous. I hope the couple in the last story stay together for all eternity. Congrats to them 🎉❤
59:54 I waited till marriage!! I completely agree, you need to talk about everything!! We talked about sex drives, our fetishes, fantasies, how big he was, everything. You have to be so honest, and I'm glad we were because we were able to find each other who had high high sex drives without ever having to take it there before marriage and cross our boundaries!! Communication is key!
The threesome story was definitely my biggest wtf of this episode just cause like what are the chances?? Amanda and Arasha's reactions were spot on for this whole episode!!
Chances are good if you think mom is hot and the dad is hot you'll think daughter is too 😂
26:05 throw the entire friend group away that’s some psychotic bs
11:12 huh? How come 34yo and 23yo is "a bit" older?..they have more than a decade between them.. like WTF?
0:11 he’s not wrong, and i love them for it
He's not wrong but he didn't have to say it
@@Marvell3000they clearly knew he was kidding 😭 that’s their whole banter with one another
Well damn hahaha 😂
Getting married is about finding someone who will hold your hair while you throw up, feeding you puree when your stomach is bad. When you are marrying, you are comitting to go through chemo together if need be. It's not romantic, but it is so very beautiful. 💜
43:21 Shayne and Amanda talking about why lying shifts your whole perspective on someone and how you can never trust them again.
Arasha: "it's impressive actually..." - just one craftswoman admiring someone else's handiwork
About the therapist story: to answer the question about whether they were renting an office space, there are a lot of therapists that practice out of their homes. Since they were so committed to manipulating OP, I fully believe they would have convinced him that Lily was practicing out of her home for whatever reason.
or online
I refreshed my subscription feed way too much today guys I almost panicked
The last story is ADORABLE tbh 😂 i love how real it is!! And imagining them in that situation dressed up
Lol Shayne cracks me up bc he insinuates that Amanda and Arasha are the catalyst for going off the rails, but he's so good at yes-anding, that he's just as responsible 😂😂 Not complaining tho, I died laughing
my hamster passed away this morning and i really needed this. he was my best friend for the 2 1/2 years he lived. thank you guys for this❤️
I'm glad you had each other for those two and a half years. Sending you warmth 💗
Just know that, while it may have been a short time for you, you were his WHOLE life ❤
I'm feel you, I miss my little besties every day ❤ I'm glad he had a great life with you ❤
Amanda was the best choice for this episode. "The guys lock eyes" comment made me lose it
i think the last one might be the sweetest proposal story i've ever heard, genuinely. there's such an intimacy and human-ness about it that makes it so beautiful to me
😊😊😊 so sweet