Like you can’t really help your gut feeling to something but you can help how you react to it afterwards and your actions. Realizing your initial feeling towards something is unreasonable is okay and a mature thing to do.
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccayou know, i thought of that but would an open relationship account for saying youre in love with another person? Like- beyond having sex with someone else, actually saying that you are IN LOVE with someone else. Idk my jaw dropped when she said that. Absolutely crazy
the biggest aspect of the first story that they kinda overlooked was that she said she uses food as a way to connect with others. if he’s unwilling to take part in that ritual then they really are just completely incompatible.
also him calling it shallow, when food is "only" one of the major things humanity in general has used to bond. food is inherently social. it could not be further from shallow. not only is dude boring as hell, but also a dick, especially when hes even making remarks as to what other are eating, like wat does he expect?
Lol yeah, my husband is super picky due to an eating disorder but he cooks dinner every night bc he grew up helping his dad cook and he likes connecting with people through cooking even if his body doesn’t like eating.
@@samuraibeluga3749 Yes. It’s his lack of respect for foods he doesn’t like. Cuz it’s one thing to be a picky eater, and it’s another thing to be a picky eater with no decorum. Also him calling their food differences “trivial” is just ignorance on his part cuz to so many people, especially given their cultural background, food is very important to who they are or what they enjoy.
As an adult with ARFID, the guy in the first story absolutely sounds like he has it and maybe just doesn’t know what it is. However, his behavior and comments about what others are eating were completely disrespectful and not okay.
agree, dude was an ass but I thought it was weird that OP diagnosed them as not having ARFID then described avoidant & restrictive eating behavior. Also sad that no-one, OP or otherwise, gave him the benefit of the doubt that his social boneheaded-ness could result from a history of not being able to connect over food.
I was guessing autism. Plain foods like pasta with butter or a plain cheeseburger sound right up the wheelhouse of a lot of my fellow autists who have sensory issues with taste or textures and might be very hesitant with trying new things. I didn't know what ARFID was but I just looked up a brief description and it also sounds very possible yeah.
Same, adult with ARFID. It super sounds like he has it, and I think that generally people aren’t well-informed about the condition and the fact that it’s more than picky eating and definitely not a choice. BUT his behavior is so rude! Making comments about her colleagues’ dishes (I frequently say - and mean - that a dish looks or smells wonderful but unfortunately i can’t eat it, or I just… don’t say anything), pestering her for a week after she ended things, “interrogating the waiter” (i’m not sure how severe this actually was- could have been skewed from her perspective)… all red flags, and it’s clear that he doesn’t respect her or her profession.
@@CaptainJellyBS maybe it’s just a pet peeve of mine but idk why someone who has known another person for less than a month and is not in the medical field would think they know about a persons conditions or lack thereof
Someone please warn Arasha that best of Reddit updates does not mean a happy ending. Some of the most traumatic shit I've read online has been on that subreddit
@@CheekieCharlieI was having a great day until you reminded me about that one 🙃 It’s fucking awful that my sorrow for that little girl and her mother are so incredibly overshadowed by the overwhelmingly burning rage I have towards the grandmother. She literally murdered her granddaughter because she couldn’t accept that she couldn’t put coconut oil in the girl’s hair, and she will never acknowledge that SHE is responsible for KILLING HER GRANDDAUGHTER because of her own selfish whims.
I'm dying they're all matching colors and looking really good. The first story... The guy isn't just picky he's actively being an asshole to everyone involved. Her, her friends, the waiter.
If the guy really cared for OP, he would be willing to make adjustments unless he has a health condition that forces him to eat limited food choices. Being picky isn't the problem because everyone has specific preferences when it comes to food, how you express it will determine if you're on the level of ASSHOLE or RESPECTFUL.
reminds me of the person who went to a fancy polish-hungarian restaurant and threw a tantrum because they didn't have ranch dressing, and then said their date was rude for being embarrassed of them
Needing to know the ingredients in a food is something I do because I’m autistic. I don’t think it’s being an asshole to ask questions about it, even very specific ones.
Every week Shayne gets closer and closer to fulfilling his psychiatrist aesthetic. I expect to see more bookshelves and degrees lining the background walls from now on.
@@gemar77710 Honestly, he would NEVER. He's very intentional with never presenting himself as an expert of any kind, which is kinda important. He's not a therapist or psychologist. He has done a psychology degree. I respect how intentional and aware he is of not misrepresenting or overselling what he's saying. Very responsible.
I was pulled into the reddit rabbit hole after that woman who was like " my husband won't let me have a painting my dead sister made cause he's her widower" I saw it on Twitter and my jaw hit the floor. You married your dead sister's husband and the painting is what you're worrying about. I've forgotten how many years it's been since but I haven't looked back.
Honestly, this doesn't surprise me... Reminds me of a post how a guy wasn't okay with his dad dating his aunt, considering the fact his aunt was his dead mom's sister...🫤😕🙁
Arasha is my favorite person to have on Reddit Stories. She is always so composed and eloquently expresses her opinions with the highest empathy. You can tell she is someone who has high emotional intelligence.
Seriously! I don’t know if it’s something she thought of or read/heard somewhere but the simile about relationships being like an A or an H was profound
You must not be paying attention because there's been like 30 different instances of clear bias and even more of emotion based opinion without any influence of reality
@@ocarinafrek Uhm... they're humans... We're all gonna come with emotions and biases built in. Anyone who think they don't make me weary. What IS important is being able to listen to and consider other viewpoints after your initial gut reaction and she's great at that. Sometimes to a fault!
I was honestly kind of shocked to hear that Karlach was the point of contention in the second story and not Astarion. The number of relationships that man has destroyed is staggering
Lmao that's what I was thinking too. I'm surprised for once it wasn't Astarion breaking a couple up, that vampire elf causes irrational jealousy in men to a degree I have never seen before in my life.
Shayne, you gotta start saying, “I submitted this story… for our show.” 😅 Every time you just say the first part, everyone thinks it’s your story. Arasha was so shocked for a second! 😂
I lowkey relate to that tho. I don’t know what it is about my communication style, but I’ll still have close friends (whom I’ve known for *years*) be caught off guard by some basic facts about my life/personality. It just be like that sometimes. But yeah, they are also just coworkers lol.
@@stuFF625 Arasha's very organized and sometimes being very organized throws people off of their intuition so when you ask something personal they go for more of what feels like your sense of humor.
OK that group of friends convincing the girl to break up with her boyfriend was insane and vile. Jesus christ that was awful. That was honestly one of the worst stories I've heard
that whole story has romcom written all over it, especially with the update. actually, now i want to see that romcom... although i think i've seen a romcom where "alex" is somehow the good guy, and i don't need that at all ever to happen in my life
@@david-jonballinger6638 there was one where the woman's sorority sisters/college friend group all lied and said her long term boyfriend was a cheater. Broke up the family friendship and the ex was nearly disowned. She finds out that they lied because he was too boring. Her ex is happily married with kids and when she tries to reconnect he declines but accepts her apology.
@@david-jonballinger6638 they had a similar story before but that one happened in uni and years (i think 10??) later op found out but the ex already moved on with a whole family. op was trying to ask if theres any chance of getting back together lol
For the first story, imagine if she pushed past this and continued to date him. She never gets to go try new restaurants with him. He is always going to be the one picking meals or they would be cooking separate meals. It isn't even about the pickiness but the disrespect towards everyone else trying foods he doesn't like. I love that they noted that early on in dating, it doesn't have to be a big reason to stop dating them. You could just not be feeling it anymore and that's okay!
I think for someone who is autistic (which it seems he might be without knowing it, having what clearly seems like undiagnosed ARFID and the like), getting no solid answer on something is not acceptable. We typically don’t settle for nonanswers, requiring something that makes sense to move on. Flashbacks for every autistic kid to “because I said so.”
@@KittyKatAspen I don’t even think that’s just an autistic thing. I‘d hope people all across the board agree that being truthful to someone you don’t intend to speak to again anyway is more helpful than just leading them on. What a cowardly way of ending things.
@@levischorpioen how is anyone supposed to learn how to have better and long lasting relationships without feedback. I just think OP is unreliable, it seems like she just doesn’t understand things that are genuinely not obvious to someone who isn’t around these things. I just felt really shitty after that first story because it felt like everyone blindly agreeing with a biased OP. I just kinda understood and felt bad for the guy in the story. It felt like he was driven to a far worse point than he should’ve and chastised for it.
@@KittyKatAspenFrankly no one owes anyone they’re not married to an answer if they want to break up. Early dating is a test period and even if he wasn’t a picky eater she’d be valid to break up for any reason. Your comment seems a bit short sided or perhaps even manipulative
@@KittyKatAspenThat's what it seems like to me too. I still think he's ta more for handling it poorly. I also cam understand that poor handling from personal experience. Especially bc of the environment I grew up, no one taught me better. Still, at some point it's important to learn not to harrass people and leave it be. I agree with top comment that its not even about the food but how he handled things.
I kinda had that happen, it was devastating. Turned out one of the friend group is actually super manipulative and narcissistic and that was rubbing off on everyone else. We all cut contact with that person over time and have slowly trying to build trust up with each other again
as someone with ARFID. that guy was totally going too far with his. I personally don't understand people who are adventurous with their food choices, but that doesn't mean it's alright to act disgusted about it or call it weird. Good for her for calling it off. Even without the fact that they have different values, he just seems like a disrespectful prick.
My problem with the first guy is he's coming at everything with a negative "weird, I don't trust things with to many ingredients" instead of a positive "interesting, I've never seen that before" you can be picky without being hateful
As a picky eater (I've gotten WAY better over the past few years), I understand that my picky eating can be super inconvenient and strange to others. I would NEVER complain or make rude comments about the food that's being provided! If it's legit stuff that I really will not eat (like anything with onions, for example, I will not be adventurous with), I will just make an excuse like I already ate. No big deal!
Hey! Someone with arfid here. I'd like to clarify that my disorder hasn't stopped me from adding various foods from other cultures as long as it was on my safe foods list, especially mainly Korean food, Middle Eastern food, etc. It depends for every person but I'm always down to try a little bit of foods I haven't eaten yet and evaluate if I can add to my safe foods list or not. Anyways, the first story was very insightful as despite my disorder food is a huge connecting factor for me. Edit: Every person with arfid* and a lot of Mexican food would be on my safe food list too omg
As someone with autoimmune diseases and a tonne of allergies im fairly restricted in what i can eat! The first story wound me up because ppl act like if you had a condition that somehow that behaviour is more understandable or acceptable: incorrect. Food is a huge deal, perhaps even more so if you are restricted for any reason, and having the highest respect and love and care for someone in your life around food is a huge connecting or disconnecting experience. If i dated someone where food was a big deal (& i have) it can be a beautiful way for us to spend time and effort around food for us to enjoy it safely together and with love, rather than it being a problem or somewhere for disrespect or resentment to grow.
Having a "safe foods" list when it's not for allergy / health reasons just sounds so ridiculous and childish. I get arfid is a disorder of sorts, but I can't help thinking Jeeez just grow up. I can appreciate how insensitive this must sound to arfid sufferers, I'm sorry. I've never said any of this outloud and I never will - but I'm judging hard, internally 😅
@@joleneonyoutubeYep! My feelings about that were initially on the "why make such a big deal out of someone not being comfortable eating things?" until he kept pestering her and handled things very poorly. I'd say he's the ahole here. I also wish more people wouldnt make a big deal out of food, for whatever reason. Medical or not, if someone is uncomfortable with new foods or certain foods or whatever, there's a simple solution in letting them bring a safe food in the first place. Everyone gets fed that way. As for wanting to share the love of various foods, that I can see as being a dealbreaker for a relationship. I'd just say be careful to not be judgemental about that difference.
For the first story as a picky eater myself I at least push myself to try a dish when someone asks because that’s the kind thing to do, my boyfriend still loves cooking and i will occasionally try food if he makes it, Arusha made such a key point with the pickiness he made it a them thing rather than a him thing. As a picky eater I try really hard to not burden other with it and go to resturants even if there’s not necessarily an entree to eat I’ll nibble on a couple things
True true. Unless you're allergic to something, give certain foods a chance. You never know what you might like? I never would have had a wide food palette if I was willing to taste them before giving my thoughts.
i appreciate how in the first story OP clarified that the guy didn’t have ARFID or anything. I’ve struggled with ARFID my whole life and often times people just think it’s “extreme picky eating” and i was worried my feelings were gonna get hurt lol
Honestly I don’t think you’d be that person anyway because it would be fine if they were just incompatible, but he seems very judgemental which I hope you can’t relate to!
Not sure how much they hung out together outside of the dates. His behavior (being judgmental and rude) would manifest in other aspects of his daily life. It's ok to ask restaurant staff about their food but if it's a recurring behavior, I imagine the average person would take it upon themselves to look into the place ahead of time. Being rude to service providers (waiter's in this case) is just a red flag.
ARFID can manifest in so many ways, but whatever people’s opinion on how yours manifests, how you feel about it is valid and you’re not being difficult! ❤️
how was it gaslighting? genuinely asking, I just thought it's about making someone question their sanity. I guess the friends made her doubt her judgement of the bf but I would hesitate to call it gaslighting. what makes you so certain?
He wanted the real reason and decided he didn’t like the reason. Even if I was siding with him at any point, that’s the deal breaker. Don’t ask for honesty when you can’t handle it
Last story almost had me in tears. I've had a situation similar where someone lied about me, friend group believed it, and I was pushed out. I'm glad they had a happy ending.
Only one story in, I love the silly episodes but I also deeply love when the three people in these videos can have mature productive conversations about the stories. Great line up this week.
Hi! Someone who is a picky eater and has sensory issues here! The OP is NOT the asshole! As someone who sticks with what they know, AND struggles eating certain textures, I still try my best to try new food! And would NEVER talk about how gross your food looks or other food looks unless you were an incredibly close friend that knew i was joking. What Jake did was incredibly rude and embarrassing. AND he also DOESN'T get the right to be all rude and talk about how gross the food is and then get MAD at her for that being a reason she doesn't want to date him.. jesus..
Right on, Shayne! I’ve seen so many bad relationships where one person set the bar too low because they were afraid to be alone. Desperation makes for bad choices.
I’ve never seen anyone put my stance on my picky eating into words, but Arasha just said it so easily! I will apologize preemptively for my picky eating and feel bad about not being more open minded about food. It’s just a barrier that I can’t seem to overcome in my mind.
Growing up, I was pretty picky. I don’t think I’m too picky now to a point of limiting my personal menu. But I definitely still have staple meals. My piece of advice, if you want it. Try your best to accept a taste of someone else’s meal if they offer. For example, when I eat with my dad, he often offers me a bite unless we got the same thing. If the opportunity presents itself, take advantage of it! And if you don’t like it, that’s okay. Make a small joke like “yeah I’m just gonna leave that one to you.” (Unless it’s someone’s cooking then maybe don’t lol. That joke is more suited for restaurant eating) But overall, if trying new foods is stressful, don’t force yourself and potentially make it worse. You’re loved and accepted by those that care about you, whether you’re a picky eater or not! ❤️
going to a restaurant with friends is so embarassing as a picky eater. i will never ask a waiter about a dish either because i don't want anybody to know. arasha hit the nail on the head for me lol
I’m planning on asking a girl out on Tuesday, but I’ve been stressing about it a bunch since I’ve never asked anyone out before. Basically, you guys posted this video at the perfect time for me.
Be confident! Youve got this! If they say no remember it’s not the end of the world, and were proud of you for trying and putting yourself out there!!!
The worst that can happen is rejection, and even then that isn’t a bad thing! It just means you aren’t their match, and when you find yours it’s like a spark inside you. You can do this and I wish you luck!
arasha dancing professionally around the word boner and then trevor coming in with "I think the level of stiffness has something to do with it" hahahahahah
The 1st story hit me hard bc I also left a first date early bc of someone’s picky eating. In context we went to go get Bao which was delicious, when we brought it back he said that it looked weird and didn’t even try it and said he’ll just give it to his family to eat. As a foodie that ended it right there bc not even trying something and just ordering it just to please me was not something I’d like to continue.
I'm a picky eater cause i have the texture issues autism, but i like trying new foods at least lol the exception is if there's certain ingredients that i know i don't like and it's a strong enough flavour that i know i wouldn't be able to enjoy a dish like i can't eat cilantro, i have the "cilantro tastes like soap" gene and it ruins my eating experience. and with a peanut allergy that also eliminates an entire culture of food and that makes me sad. but even i wouldn't be able to date anyone who's so picky they refuse to even TRY something new like, A BITE, please?? 😂
I'm super picky cause of ARFID, but even i tried bao the other day! I was very skeptical but i use the three bite rule. If i still dont like it after three bites, then i feel safe in saying i wont eat it.
I’m a picky eater, but I’ll at least try things first before editing them off. Especially if it clearly matters to the other person I’m with. Though sometimes I can just look at something & tell I won’t like it
@@flarebear5346 To be honest, wouldn't try it either if I knew there was something I didn't like in a food. I wouln't say the food is weird or anything but but I wouldn't eat because I vomit easily. I think it's weird to force someone to try something past saying "please try it" once. If they're ready to eat it, then they will. I also would understand if someone broke up with me because of my picky eating.
I was thinking that as well. Not first date, probably. But I've seen people in the comments say they watch it with their partner or parents or even teenage kids. I particularly love the idea of someone watching it with their teens like that. What a great way to broach topics you otherwise might never stumble upon! Mixed in with basically some verbal reality tv!
My thoughts on the first story: There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a “picky eater” or only eating what you consider “safe foods”. My concern is how he comments on other people’s food choices and “doesn’t trust recipes with too many ingredients in it”. What does that mean? In my mind I’m worried this is diet culture, restrictive eating, or a full blown eating disorder. I was similar at the height of my ED and it is incredibly hard to unlearn commenting on other people’s food choices, especially when you were commented on yours your entire life. I hope that gets figured out for his sake, since negatively commenting on someone’s food choices isn’t going to just be a deal breaker in this relationship, but likely any relationship.
Its crazy to hear shayne was nervous about dating cause hes both very good looking and exceptional at talking to people, learning about people, and keeping conversations interesting. Hearing he had similar anxieties as me just makes me love him more
He has talked about it a lot in the past on the podcast and the older show he did with Ccourtney (HAH!) called Why we're bad at dating. Very solid and relatable stuff
that analogy Arasha said about A vs. H & co-dependency... blew my mind. Arasha is such a gem on these Reddit stories, would love her & Damien on together, would just be the most reasonable takes the whole episode
videos like this one show why i love arasha. she's a very active listener and her responses are well spoken and thoughtful. pair that with shayne's hosting skills and psychology background and trevor's humor and perspective and you've got a great combo for this series. one of my favorite reddit stories videos by far from smosh.
I’ve gotten a “hey girl” text, but it was because my boyfriend at the time was commenting on girl’s posts & leaving hateful remarks towards their bodies. The one that sticks with me the most is a girl had bigger legs, like thick thighs & stretch marks & he called her some nasty names, body shape-wise I looked just like her at the time. I’m grateful for the girls that send “hey girl” texts.
On the last story I was so hoping there would be an update, I was gonna be so sad if there wasn’t. There was still like 10 min left and I was thinking there’s gotta be an update…and then Shayne said, “update” and I literally yelled, “YESSS!” 😂 It’s honestly devastating sometimes when a juicy story doesn’t have an update lol.
About the third story, I listened to smth on a podcast that really stayed with me and it’s similar to what one of the comments said. You set these boundaries, you would do yourself a dishonor if you look past it. Forget about him, you would be disrespecting yourself if you continued the relationship. You only have yourself at the end of the day, if you can’t reinforce your values and boundaries, then what do you have left? Also I can’t stress enough how much I love Aisha. I love how everyone expresses in these videos, but there’s just something about the way she carries herself, the comments she makes and the way she makes them that I absolutely adore.
story #1 i hardly had to listen to before it was clear op was not the asshole. my uncle is an EXTREMELY picky eater and he married a filipino woman. its honestly a talking point in the family. my boyfriend is a little picky, but nowhere near my uncle. pretty much the same way as the guy in the story. we go out to eat at a viet place and he asks if they have burgers. family gatherings his wife has to make a salad. it becomes dictatorial, and if food is important to you and an important love style for you, this relationship isnt going to work out
Being in a very similar situation to the last story, hearing it end so beautifully makes me feel so warm and happy. My situation didn’t end as well, and we’ve gone separate ways permanently, however to know when it’s real it’ll always be real makes me so incredibly happy for OP ❤️❤️
I'm glad the 2nd story had a happy ending. While I understand her being upset it's refreshing to see people hear their partners wants and needs and to accommodate and compromise with them
I have very mild ARFID and I would NEVER comment on someone's food choice. People like us tend to be jealous of adventurous eaters! Like I wish I could like all these foods! That guy is not only a picky eater, but he wants everyone else to be too. As if adventurous eating is an inconvenience to him somehow. I like how OP specified that this dude doesn't have ARFID, most of use would never act like this dude.
Simple dating tip; don't go on one if you're not prepared for the chance that it might not work out. If it does and goes into the romantic stage, make sure that that the date shares similar core values with you, otherwise there will be future conflict.
“You havent communicated your needs so I don’t know” I disagree solely because we don’t know if it has been a conversation between them before. It’s said she is more reserved and that might mean she isn’t as comfortable being touchy and affirming and he knows that and didn’t bring it up at all. However, it is entirely possible that they talked about it and dosent bring it up/compromised on the issue.
There is nothing wrong with the guy being a picky eater, its his annoying behaviors regarding food. Hes rude to waiters knowing dang well hes not going to get something different. Also, being rude about cultural food is an automatic red flag.
I feel like Jake the picky eater guy is also so disrespectful about food! 1) food can be kinda touchy because of disordered eating and shaming anyone for what their eating or making faces at their food is a bad idea. 2) food is so tied with culture, like Trevor said. Making faces at food just because it’s “different” is awful. What’s normal for you is weird for other people (even within a culture - I’m looking at your entirely plain burger, Jake) And disrespecting that is uncalled for. Yes, you may not like the food. Yes, you may stop for fries on the way home. But you don’t need to leave early (unless you’re really hungry in which case you need more than fries probs) and you don’t need to make faces and say mean things about the food. Just be there and talk to people. Not that hard.
Whoa, Tommy's looking great. He did a great job as a host in this! (No but seriously, Shayne looks great, but i did confused him with Tommy for 5 seconds before I put on my glasses😂)
I think the thing I love most about Reddit Stories is the amount of healthy insight Shayne and the others provide. I love hearing where they have learned stuff or books they have read.
re: the last story - my college roommate freshman year turned all the girls in our friend group against me with absolute lies. They're all still friends, a decade later, and it's so frustrating that they all believed her without even asking me about anything. It's a shame to lose your group of friends, but I could tell the girl in the last story that you'll find the right friends with time :)
If they choose to believe just one side without even giving you a chance to give your side, then none of them deserved to be in your friend group. I know it hurts. I've been there, too. But you are the lucky one to be rid of them.
One thing I gotta say for the last story... Josh could've prevented everything if he asked OP the right questions. "If they've seen the picture, can they describe it accurately?". "If I got into detail about our sex life, can they repeat those details?". Honestly, the fact that neither OP or Josh thought to ask this is kinda weird, but I do have the benefit of not being emotional or shocked.
@@faeb.9618there’s also a high likelihood that one of her ‘friends’ knew her phones password. I know at least one of mine does. And they snooped through her phone for stuff she sent him.
as someone with ARFID, I was so glad that the person in the first story mentioned it. I feel like so many people on reddit (and in general) judge people based on eating habits when they don’t know the whole story. We need more people to have ED awareness :)
When Shayne said "we are playing Beopardy right now." and Arasha responded "That is the scariest thing you have ever said." was the first time in a while I literally laughed out loud. Felt good.
I love Arasha's Dr. Phil-ah commentary. It always comes off genuine and in good faith, so better than Phil and more relatable. Always a pleasure seeing her and Trevor
I'm a very adventurous eater. I could not date someone who won't even try something new. It does affect your relationship. You will always have to worry about what your partner would want to eat and it would inevitably restrict what she can get.
That's so understandable. At that point, it's also a hobby. I'm a picky eater and don't like cooking much (it stresses me out). As long as it's not judgmental, to me it just seems a clean cut case of not being compatible. No-ones fault, just doesn't line up!
first story: I have ARFID and I eat VERY few foods (it took me until middle school to eat chocolate 😅) but that’s absolutely a me problem and I know it! There is almost always SOMETHING safe enough in any kind of meal to eat enough to be respectful to whoever made it
I appreciate the fact Arasha is willing to try new things. My biggest pet peeve is someone not being willing to even try new things. I had a friend who was absolutely terrified of new foods. I made a HUGE FEAST roast beef and roast chicken , mashed potatoes, gravy, roast Brussels sprouts, carrots and cakes and pies and cookies. And she walked in my house and crinkled her face and said it smells weird. And she stood around talking to the other guests. I gave the warning that food would be ready in 5 minutes. And she excused herself saying she would be right back. She came back in carrying a bag of Hawaiian rolls, a package of ham sandwich meat and jar of nacho cheese dip. EVERYONE just stood there staring at her. Finally my bestie walked up to her and grabbed her by the arm and escorted her out. The next day she said she wanted to try new stuff but she couldn’t do it.
I loveee the joke Trevor made about the dates because immediately after Shayne's "it was posted yesterday" you can see "8 days ago" on the screenshot 😭
as an extremely picky eater myself, she made the right call. if food is that important for her, then she shouldn’t be with someone who can’t eat with her. and even if she was willing to do that, and deal with his pickiness, him commenting on HER meals and pulling faces? bro, he needs to grow up and respect other people’s food choices.
The last story boiled my blood, I'm glad it worked out. I pictured it as if it was a movie with a scene where she is reading the Email while his car is just accelerating. It cuts back & forth several times then the tires screech as they try & stop. The doorbell rings she thinks "Oh, my package" which she ordered earlier in the movie. But it turns out it's Josh, they have their back & forth. Then a montage of the day plays interwoven with similar scenes from the past where they were happy. The movie ends with "Ya know, most people don't get their Happily ever after... But I think that we will, I just feel it... A miracle happened, tears were shed, prayers were answered, Dreams do come true" something along those lines...
This is a video that I kind of want my young teen children to watch. It’s not too heavy on physical side of relationships. It also emphasizes the importance of trust, knowing your boundaries, respecting other’s boundaries, communication, and generally trying to be a good human being.
Anyone getting flashbacks from the last story to the Mac and Jackie episode, where a woman's best friends also tricked her into breaking up? This is truly the happy ending that story never got. I'm so glad she was able to find out a year later, and not decades.
“Feelings are always valid, but not always reasonable” honestly great comment by Arasha
Like you can’t really help your gut feeling to something but you can help how you react to it afterwards and your actions. Realizing your initial feeling towards something is unreasonable is okay and a mature thing to do.
Tbh I need this on a t-shirt 😂
90% of her opinions are based on her emotions in the moment, so she's a hypocrite
The version I heard in a managing depression course was "feelings are always valid, but that doesn't make them true". Helped me a lot
That hit me too
Marrying someone after you found out they drunk texted an ex the day before they proposed to you is crazy
Honestly... lets hope they are open and just didn't share that...
Someone did this to an old friend of mine too.
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccayou know, i thought of that but would an open relationship account for saying youre in love with another person? Like- beyond having sex with someone else, actually saying that you are IN LOVE with someone else. Idk my jaw dropped when she said that. Absolutely crazy
@@peggyharala886 good point. Usually not
the biggest aspect of the first story that they kinda overlooked was that she said she uses food as a way to connect with others. if he’s unwilling to take part in that ritual then they really are just completely incompatible.
Oh yeah definitely
also him calling it shallow, when food is "only" one of the major things humanity in general has used to bond. food is inherently social. it could not be further from shallow. not only is dude boring as hell, but also a dick, especially when hes even making remarks as to what other are eating, like wat does he expect?
@@samuraibeluga3749he's got to be such a generic white guy
Lol yeah, my husband is super picky due to an eating disorder but he cooks dinner every night bc he grew up helping his dad cook and he likes connecting with people through cooking even if his body doesn’t like eating.
@@samuraibeluga3749 Yes. It’s his lack of respect for foods he doesn’t like. Cuz it’s one thing to be a picky eater, and it’s another thing to be a picky eater with no decorum. Also him calling their food differences “trivial” is just ignorance on his part cuz to so many people, especially given their cultural background, food is very important to who they are or what they enjoy.
As an adult with ARFID, the guy in the first story absolutely sounds like he has it and maybe just doesn’t know what it is. However, his behavior and comments about what others are eating were completely disrespectful and not okay.
completely agree
agree, dude was an ass but I thought it was weird that OP diagnosed them as not having ARFID then described avoidant & restrictive eating behavior. Also sad that no-one, OP or otherwise, gave him the benefit of the doubt that his social boneheaded-ness could result from a history of not being able to connect over food.
I was guessing autism. Plain foods like pasta with butter or a plain cheeseburger sound right up the wheelhouse of a lot of my fellow autists who have sensory issues with taste or textures and might be very hesitant with trying new things. I didn't know what ARFID was but I just looked up a brief description and it also sounds very possible yeah.
Same, adult with ARFID. It super sounds like he has it, and I think that generally people aren’t well-informed about the condition and the fact that it’s more than picky eating and definitely not a choice. BUT his behavior is so rude! Making comments about her colleagues’ dishes (I frequently say - and mean - that a dish looks or smells wonderful but unfortunately i can’t eat it, or I just… don’t say anything), pestering her for a week after she ended things, “interrogating the waiter” (i’m not sure how severe this actually was- could have been skewed from her perspective)… all red flags, and it’s clear that he doesn’t respect her or her profession.
@@CaptainJellyBS maybe it’s just a pet peeve of mine but idk why someone who has known another person for less than a month and is not in the medical field would think they know about a persons conditions or lack thereof
Shayne looks completely different every few episodes and I kind of love it 😂
He’s giving Tommy in this I feel like haha
the hair, facial hair and glasses combo are eatinggg today
@@Biologistemmyhe stole his hair!
I feel like a year from now a video will come out like "Each Smosh member dresses Shayne for one day." Lol
i was gonna say this too omg!
Someone please warn Arasha that best of Reddit updates does not mean a happy ending. Some of the most traumatic shit I've read online has been on that subreddit
The little girl with the coconut oil 😭😭😭
That story hurt my heart @@CheekieCharlie
@@CheekieCharlieI was having a great day until you reminded me about that one 🙃
It’s fucking awful that my sorrow for that little girl and her mother are so incredibly overshadowed by the overwhelmingly burning rage I have towards the grandmother. She literally murdered her granddaughter because she couldn’t accept that she couldn’t put coconut oil in the girl’s hair, and she will never acknowledge that SHE is responsible for KILLING HER GRANDDAUGHTER because of her own selfish whims.
It's not always about the iranian yogurt 😢 sometimes it's about the iranian yogurt 😢
The update on the CSA survivor yesterday broke my heart
I'm dying they're all matching colors and looking really good.
The first story... The guy isn't just picky he's actively being an asshole to everyone involved. Her, her friends, the waiter.
If the guy really cared for OP, he would be willing to make adjustments unless he has a health condition that forces him to eat limited food choices.
Being picky isn't the problem because everyone has specific preferences when it comes to food, how you express it will determine if you're on the level of ASSHOLE or RESPECTFUL.
And you can so clearly visualise the "face" hes making
What a goddamn child.
reminds me of the person who went to a fancy polish-hungarian restaurant and threw a tantrum because they didn't have ranch dressing, and then said their date was rude for being embarrassed of them
Asking questions about food isn't interrogation.
Needing to know the ingredients in a food is something I do because I’m autistic. I don’t think it’s being an asshole to ask questions about it, even very specific ones.
“Hey girl” is also a common opener from MLM scammers. Equally dreaded. 😂
They are kinda on the opposite ends of the spectrum as well. One is giving you facts to make sure you're not taken advantage of, while the other......
That is what I expected, too 😂😂😂
No, MLM scammers open with 'hey girlie!' Which is arguably worse
I've always gotten "hey dear" LOL
Or boss babe! @@AletheiaNyx
Every week Shayne gets closer and closer to fulfilling his psychiatrist aesthetic. I expect to see more bookshelves and degrees lining the background walls from now on.
He literally resembles a RUclipsr psychiatrist I watch 😂
omg can we please make his degree part of the set?
Modern psychiatrists have an iPad instead of a clipboard 😭
They should honestly framed his psch degree behind him, that way he’s using it and especially in a comedic way!
@@gemar77710 Honestly, he would NEVER. He's very intentional with never presenting himself as an expert of any kind, which is kinda important. He's not a therapist or psychologist. He has done a psychology degree. I respect how intentional and aware he is of not misrepresenting or overselling what he's saying. Very responsible.
casting a chef and a picky eater and right out the gate a story about a picky eater and a chef? great casting emily
And Shayne is in the between.
Not a chef, but more adventurous food-wise than Shayne is.
Trevor and Arashas color coordinated outfits ate💅🏼
beige single mother realness
right? lol
I was thinking the same thing
lol legit the "we are on a date" landed because everyone matched. like shayne is the third they're dating 😂 they just all look nice, its not weird!
everyone's just wearing white lol whatt
Arasha’s analogy (I hope that’s the correct word lol) about relationships being like an “A” and “H” it’s so good🥹, she’s so wise!
I loved that so much too!!!
I was pulled into the reddit rabbit hole after that woman who was like " my husband won't let me have a painting my dead sister made cause he's her widower" I saw it on Twitter and my jaw hit the floor. You married your dead sister's husband and the painting is what you're worrying about. I've forgotten how many years it's been since but I haven't looked back.
Whaaaat
Thats crazy 😳
@@daisyd3w3491 look it up I wish I was lying
???😯😯😯
Honestly, this doesn't surprise me... Reminds me of a post how a guy wasn't okay with his dad dating his aunt, considering the fact his aunt was his dead mom's sister...🫤😕🙁
Arasha is my favorite person to have on Reddit Stories. She is always so composed and eloquently expresses her opinions with the highest empathy. You can tell she is someone who has high emotional intelligence.
Seriously! I don’t know if it’s something she thought of or read/heard somewhere but the simile about relationships being like an A or an H was profound
You must not be paying attention because there's been like 30 different instances of clear bias and even more of emotion based opinion without any influence of reality
@@ocarinafrek Uhm... they're humans... We're all gonna come with emotions and biases built in. Anyone who think they don't make me weary. What IS important is being able to listen to and consider other viewpoints after your initial gut reaction and she's great at that. Sometimes to a fault!
Yes! Even when I disagree with her, I always understand where she’s coming from because she’s so measured and thoughtful in her responses!
If you like Arasha a lot you should check out her podcast spitball
Having your best friend as your partner is a breath of fresh air. My best friend and I are getting married next year.
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Congratulations! ❤️
Congratssss❤ I hope this will be and my bf
I was honestly kind of shocked to hear that Karlach was the point of contention in the second story and not Astarion. The number of relationships that man has destroyed is staggering
There's an oversaturation of vampire twinks in media to the point that it's almost a trope. Not enough Demonic muscle mommies. This must be corrected.
@JCWM2
FACTSS
Lmao that's what I was thinking too. I'm surprised for once it wasn't Astarion breaking a couple up, that vampire elf causes irrational jealousy in men to a degree I have never seen before in my life.
wow shayne is speeding towards the tommy cut
@@mexican-salsa-yes the transformation is almost complete ✨
That’s what happens when you listen to brat.
Bi wife energy
That’s what happens when u have a bi wife, ur taste becomes immaculate
He looks like Julien now.
Maybe Courtney can replace Jenna… Not that anyone could. But they’d come so close. ❤
Shayne, you gotta start saying, “I submitted this story… for our show.” 😅 Every time you just say the first part, everyone thinks it’s your story. Arasha was so shocked for a second! 😂
Saaaaaame! I always first hear it as "I wrote this and sent it in", even though I know by now that he doesn't mean that!
Arasha "Im a very picky eater"
Shayne :" I dont think i knew that"
PTSD Flashbacks to the Arasha What would arasha do video
Arasha’s going to start reading her character bio to all her “friends” after that
@@andrewt329 Brother they're coworkers calm down
I lowkey relate to that tho. I don’t know what it is about my communication style, but I’ll still have close friends (whom I’ve known for *years*) be caught off guard by some basic facts about my life/personality. It just be like that sometimes. But yeah, they are also just coworkers lol.
@@stuFF625 Arasha's very organized and sometimes being very organized throws people off of their intuition so when you ask something personal they go for more of what feels like your sense of humor.
OK that group of friends convincing the girl to break up with her boyfriend was insane and vile. Jesus christ that was awful. That was honestly one of the worst stories I've heard
I swear I’ve heard that story on one of these videos before
@@david-jonballinger6638 I think it is doing the rounds currently on multiple podcasts, I heard it first on Two Hot Takes
that whole story has romcom written all over it, especially with the update. actually, now i want to see that romcom... although i think i've seen a romcom where "alex" is somehow the good guy, and i don't need that at all ever to happen in my life
@@david-jonballinger6638 there was one where the woman's sorority sisters/college friend group all lied and said her long term boyfriend was a cheater. Broke up the family friendship and the ex was nearly disowned. She finds out that they lied because he was too boring. Her ex is happily married with kids and when she tries to reconnect he declines but accepts her apology.
@@david-jonballinger6638 they had a similar story before but that one happened in uni and years (i think 10??) later op found out but the ex already moved on with a whole family. op was trying to ask if theres any chance of getting back together lol
For the first story, imagine if she pushed past this and continued to date him. She never gets to go try new restaurants with him. He is always going to be the one picking meals or they would be cooking separate meals. It isn't even about the pickiness but the disrespect towards everyone else trying foods he doesn't like. I love that they noted that early on in dating, it doesn't have to be a big reason to stop dating them. You could just not be feeling it anymore and that's okay!
I think for someone who is autistic (which it seems he might be without knowing it, having what clearly seems like undiagnosed ARFID and the like), getting no solid answer on something is not acceptable. We typically don’t settle for nonanswers, requiring something that makes sense to move on. Flashbacks for every autistic kid to “because I said so.”
@@KittyKatAspen I don’t even think that’s just an autistic thing. I‘d hope people all across the board agree that being truthful to someone you don’t intend to speak to again anyway is more helpful than just leading them on. What a cowardly way of ending things.
@@levischorpioen how is anyone supposed to learn how to have better and long lasting relationships without feedback. I just think OP is unreliable, it seems like she just doesn’t understand things that are genuinely not obvious to someone who isn’t around these things. I just felt really shitty after that first story because it felt like everyone blindly agreeing with a biased OP. I just kinda understood and felt bad for the guy in the story. It felt like he was driven to a far worse point than he should’ve and chastised for it.
@@KittyKatAspenFrankly no one owes anyone they’re not married to an answer if they want to break up. Early dating is a test period and even if he wasn’t a picky eater she’d be valid to break up for any reason. Your comment seems a bit short sided or perhaps even manipulative
@@KittyKatAspenThat's what it seems like to me too. I still think he's ta more for handling it poorly. I also cam understand that poor handling from personal experience. Especially bc of the environment I grew up, no one taught me better. Still, at some point it's important to learn not to harrass people and leave it be. I agree with top comment that its not even about the food but how he handled things.
imagine all of ur trusted friends lying to u like that jesus christ wtf that would destroy me mentally dude so glad they had a happy ending
I kinda had that happen, it was devastating. Turned out one of the friend group is actually super manipulative and narcissistic and that was rubbing off on everyone else. We all cut contact with that person over time and have slowly trying to build trust up with each other again
Awwhh, I love how happy Shayne looks when speaking about Courtney and getting to call them his wife
Yessss it's so cute, i love them
2:20 😍
is Courtney non binary?
@@cloroxholic 😂😂😂
@@cloroxholic they are but she has stated and said that they don’t mind being called his ‘wife’ and they are fine with that.
as someone with ARFID. that guy was totally going too far with his. I personally don't understand people who are adventurous with their food choices, but that doesn't mean it's alright to act disgusted about it or call it weird. Good for her for calling it off. Even without the fact that they have different values, he just seems like a disrespectful prick.
Exactly. They were incompatible, but even if they weren't, he was just ruuude!
yeah saying food you’re unfamiliar with looks weird needs to stop after elementary school 😅 a 30 year old man?! i mean… he’s got a lot to work on 😭
hearing Shayne talk about how much he disliked dating reminds me of the video where he puts on his date persona and freaks Courtney out
Which video is this?
Which video is that? I need to see this
@GracieGorbo I think it was the first Why We're Bad At Dating
@@ibpersonit was definitely one of the videos in that series, i think you’re right that it’s the first but i can’t remember exactly
Just be careful guys, those were older videos so please forgive them if they day something that upsets you 😣 just be on guard and enjoy 😁
My problem with the first guy is he's coming at everything with a negative "weird, I don't trust things with to many ingredients" instead of a positive "interesting, I've never seen that before" you can be picky without being hateful
As a picky eater (I've gotten WAY better over the past few years), I understand that my picky eating can be super inconvenient and strange to others. I would NEVER complain or make rude comments about the food that's being provided! If it's legit stuff that I really will not eat (like anything with onions, for example, I will not be adventurous with), I will just make an excuse like I already ate. No big deal!
Hey! Someone with arfid here. I'd like to clarify that my disorder hasn't stopped me from adding various foods from other cultures as long as it was on my safe foods list, especially mainly Korean food, Middle Eastern food, etc. It depends for every person but I'm always down to try a little bit of foods I haven't eaten yet and evaluate if I can add to my safe foods list or not. Anyways, the first story was very insightful as despite my disorder food is a huge connecting factor for me.
Edit: Every person with arfid* and a lot of Mexican food would be on my safe food list too omg
As someone with autoimmune diseases and a tonne of allergies im fairly restricted in what i can eat! The first story wound me up because ppl act like if you had a condition that somehow that behaviour is more understandable or acceptable: incorrect. Food is a huge deal, perhaps even more so if you are restricted for any reason, and having the highest respect and love and care for someone in your life around food is a huge connecting or disconnecting experience. If i dated someone where food was a big deal (& i have) it can be a beautiful way for us to spend time and effort around food for us to enjoy it safely together and with love, rather than it being a problem or somewhere for disrespect or resentment to grow.
@@joleneonyoutube you made some really good points. I agree
@@joleneonyoutube I’m begging of you, please don’t take my man.
(I have the urge every time I see or hear the name 😂😭)
Having a "safe foods" list when it's not for allergy / health reasons just sounds so ridiculous and childish. I get arfid is a disorder of sorts, but I can't help thinking Jeeez just grow up. I can appreciate how insensitive this must sound to arfid sufferers, I'm sorry. I've never said any of this outloud and I never will - but I'm judging hard, internally 😅
@@joleneonyoutubeYep! My feelings about that were initially on the "why make such a big deal out of someone not being comfortable eating things?" until he kept pestering her and handled things very poorly. I'd say he's the ahole here. I also wish more people wouldnt make a big deal out of food, for whatever reason. Medical or not, if someone is uncomfortable with new foods or certain foods or whatever, there's a simple solution in letting them bring a safe food in the first place. Everyone gets fed that way. As for wanting to share the love of various foods, that I can see as being a dealbreaker for a relationship. I'd just say be careful to not be judgemental about that difference.
For the first story as a picky eater myself I at least push myself to try a dish when someone asks because that’s the kind thing to do, my boyfriend still loves cooking and i will occasionally try food if he makes it, Arusha made such a key point with the pickiness he made it a them thing rather than a him thing. As a picky eater I try really hard to not burden other with it and go to resturants even if there’s not necessarily an entree to eat I’ll nibble on a couple things
True true. Unless you're allergic to something, give certain foods a chance. You never know what you might like? I never would have had a wide food palette if I was willing to taste them before giving my thoughts.
i appreciate how in the first story OP clarified that the guy didn’t have ARFID or anything. I’ve struggled with ARFID my whole life and often times people just think it’s “extreme picky eating” and i was worried my feelings were gonna get hurt lol
Honestly I don’t think you’d be that person anyway because it would be fine if they were just incompatible, but he seems very judgemental which I hope you can’t relate to!
Not sure how much they hung out together outside of the dates. His behavior (being judgmental and rude) would manifest in other aspects of his daily life. It's ok to ask restaurant staff about their food but if it's a recurring behavior, I imagine the average person would take it upon themselves to look into the place ahead of time. Being rude to service providers (waiter's in this case) is just a red flag.
@@tanvirrahman7339 yeah i always look at a menu in advance when i go somewhere so i know if they have safe foods of mine
ARFID can manifest in so many ways, but whatever people’s opinion on how yours manifests, how you feel about it is valid and you’re not being difficult! ❤️
@@itsbethlol_ you are so sweet thank you 😭
GET YOUR PANCAKES OUTTT (I burnt mine 😅)
its 20 oclock
You can have some of mine, I prepared extra for such an occasion 🤲🥞
9/11/2011
@@unsolved86 thank you, you fine gentlewoman/gentleman/gentlethem o7 🥞
@@YourUnrulyServant it's 19 for me but it's never the wrong time for pancakesss
‘Gaslighting’ is often misused these days, but the “lying boyfriend” story was ABSOLUTELY GASLIGHTING
how was it gaslighting? genuinely asking, I just thought it's about making someone question their sanity. I guess the friends made her doubt her judgement of the bf but I would hesitate to call it gaslighting. what makes you so certain?
He wanted the real reason and decided he didn’t like the reason. Even if I was siding with him at any point, that’s the deal breaker. Don’t ask for honesty when you can’t handle it
Last story almost had me in tears. I've had a situation similar where someone lied about me, friend group believed it, and I was pushed out. I'm glad they had a happy ending.
Only one story in, I love the silly episodes but I also deeply love when the three people in these videos can have mature productive conversations about the stories.
Great line up this week.
Arasha always brings this open minded energy and sparks such interesting conversations she’s my favorite person to be on the couch for these
Arasha is a paragon of empathy, she always breaks down the situations so well
Honestly im so glad shayne talks about his anxiety towards dating (and in general) because i have the same problems and it makes me feel less anxious
Idk how you even date.
Hi! Someone who is a picky eater and has sensory issues here! The OP is NOT the asshole! As someone who sticks with what they know, AND struggles eating certain textures, I still try my best to try new food! And would NEVER talk about how gross your food looks or other food looks unless you were an incredibly close friend that knew i was joking. What Jake did was incredibly rude and embarrassing. AND he also DOESN'T get the right to be all rude and talk about how gross the food is and then get MAD at her for that being a reason she doesn't want to date him.. jesus..
Happy to be here. Thank you for having me.
thanks man it was my choice 🎉
Love the show, you guys do great work
Was great having you, Leo! Your opinions on these stories were very respectable
I just think what you guys do here is great.
loved you on this episode
Right on, Shayne! I’ve seen so many bad relationships where one person set the bar too low because they were afraid to be alone. Desperation makes for bad choices.
Arasha is so insanely good on these reddit episodes. She is just so down-to-earth and insightful
I’ve never seen anyone put my stance on my picky eating into words, but Arasha just said it so easily! I will apologize preemptively for my picky eating and feel bad about not being more open minded about food. It’s just a barrier that I can’t seem to overcome in my mind.
It's perfectly fine to be a picky eater, you just have to not be an asshole about it.
Growing up, I was pretty picky. I don’t think I’m too picky now to a point of limiting my personal menu. But I definitely still have staple meals.
My piece of advice, if you want it. Try your best to accept a taste of someone else’s meal if they offer. For example, when I eat with my dad, he often offers me a bite unless we got the same thing. If the opportunity presents itself, take advantage of it! And if you don’t like it, that’s okay. Make a small joke like “yeah I’m just gonna leave that one to you.” (Unless it’s someone’s cooking then maybe don’t lol. That joke is more suited for restaurant eating)
But overall, if trying new foods is stressful, don’t force yourself and potentially make it worse. You’re loved and accepted by those that care about you, whether you’re a picky eater or not! ❤️
going to a restaurant with friends is so embarassing as a picky eater. i will never ask a waiter about a dish either because i don't want anybody to know. arasha hit the nail on the head for me lol
@@Montaq_exactly this!
@@trademarkt It's a bit embarrassing to ask for a burger with nothing but ketchup on it in front of others : )
The version I heard in a managing depression course was "feelings are always valid, but that doesn't make them true". Helped me a lot
Do NOT date a picky eater if you love food. It will just cause resentment on both sides. Not worth it.
I’m planning on asking a girl out on Tuesday, but I’ve been stressing about it a bunch since I’ve never asked anyone out before. Basically, you guys posted this video at the perfect time for me.
Be confident! Youve got this! If they say no remember it’s not the end of the world, and were proud of you for trying and putting yourself out there!!!
You got this :) I’m sure it’ll be great. And if it doesn’t work out, that’s ok too
Good luck I believe in you, hun!
The worst that can happen is rejection, and even then that isn’t a bad thing! It just means you aren’t their match, and when you find yours it’s like a spark inside you. You can do this and I wish you luck!
Best of luck! Hope it goes well!
arasha dancing professionally around the word boner and then trevor coming in with "I think the level of stiffness has something to do with it" hahahahahah
The 1st story hit me hard bc I also left a first date early bc of someone’s picky eating. In context we went to go get Bao which was delicious, when we brought it back he said that it looked weird and didn’t even try it and said he’ll just give it to his family to eat. As a foodie that ended it right there bc not even trying something and just ordering it just to please me was not something I’d like to continue.
I'm a picky eater cause i have the texture issues autism, but i like trying new foods at least lol
the exception is if there's certain ingredients that i know i don't like and it's a strong enough flavour that i know i wouldn't be able to enjoy a dish like i can't eat cilantro, i have the "cilantro tastes like soap" gene and it ruins my eating experience. and with a peanut allergy that also eliminates an entire culture of food and that makes me sad.
but even i wouldn't be able to date anyone who's so picky they refuse to even TRY something new like, A BITE, please?? 😂
It's so weird not even trying it. Like at least try it once, what if it's the best thing ever? I can't not know if it's good
I'm super picky cause of ARFID, but even i tried bao the other day! I was very skeptical but i use the three bite rule. If i still dont like it after three bites, then i feel safe in saying i wont eat it.
I’m a picky eater, but I’ll at least try things first before editing them off. Especially if it clearly matters to the other person I’m with. Though sometimes I can just look at something & tell I won’t like it
@@flarebear5346 To be honest, wouldn't try it either if I knew there was something I didn't like in a food. I wouln't say the food is weird or anything but but I wouldn't eat because I vomit easily. I think it's weird to force someone to try something past saying "please try it" once. If they're ready to eat it, then they will.
I also would understand if someone broke up with me because of my picky eating.
Trevor accurately foreshadowing the 2nd story was INSANE 💀
Reading Reddit stories actually could be a good date idea to see how differently you would both handle situations
I was thinking that as well. Not first date, probably. But I've seen people in the comments say they watch it with their partner or parents or even teenage kids. I particularly love the idea of someone watching it with their teens like that. What a great way to broach topics you otherwise might never stumble upon! Mixed in with basically some verbal reality tv!
10 minutes in the video and I can't focus cuz Arasha's hair is so GORGEOUS...
I love how comfortable arasha and Trevor are together 😭
Me too! I think it's because they're similar ages :D
My thoughts on the first story:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a “picky eater” or only eating what you consider “safe foods”. My concern is how he comments on other people’s food choices and “doesn’t trust recipes with too many ingredients in it”. What does that mean? In my mind I’m worried this is diet culture, restrictive eating, or a full blown eating disorder. I was similar at the height of my ED and it is incredibly hard to unlearn commenting on other people’s food choices, especially when you were commented on yours your entire life. I hope that gets figured out for his sake, since negatively commenting on someone’s food choices isn’t going to just be a deal breaker in this relationship, but likely any relationship.
for the first story You weren’t being petty. Different values lead to relationship friction-better to nip it early. You did the right thing!
Its crazy to hear shayne was nervous about dating cause hes both very good looking and exceptional at talking to people, learning about people, and keeping conversations interesting. Hearing he had similar anxieties as me just makes me love him more
He has talked about it a lot in the past on the podcast and the older show he did with Ccourtney (HAH!) called Why we're bad at dating. Very solid and relatable stuff
He short so it evens out . If he was tall it woulda been too much power and it woulda went to his head 😂
that analogy Arasha said about A vs. H & co-dependency... blew my mind. Arasha is such a gem on these Reddit stories, would love her & Damien on together, would just be the most reasonable takes the whole episode
videos like this one show why i love arasha. she's a very active listener and her responses are well spoken and thoughtful. pair that with shayne's hosting skills and psychology background and trevor's humor and perspective and you've got a great combo for this series. one of my favorite reddit stories videos by far from smosh.
Trevor loves raven so much it’s so cute
I saw a ring on his left ring finger. I wondered if they're married!
@jennifervaughn2466 same here!!!
You know how in Smash Bros, Kirby can inhale people and then takes on aspects of that person’s appearance? I feel like Shayne did that to Tommy lol
not even 20 seconds into the episode and shayne nearly had a nervous breakdown. we’re in for a treat today
loveee arasha and trevor on reddit stories, their comments always come across so well worded and thoughtful while still being entertaining as hell
I’ve gotten a “hey girl” text, but it was because my boyfriend at the time was commenting on girl’s posts & leaving hateful remarks towards their bodies. The one that sticks with me the most is a girl had bigger legs, like thick thighs & stretch marks & he called her some nasty names, body shape-wise I looked just like her at the time. I’m grateful for the girls that send “hey girl” texts.
I did a hey girl text and then hit another from the guy saying she just punched him in the face 🙈
On the last story I was so hoping there would be an update, I was gonna be so sad if there wasn’t. There was still like 10 min left and I was thinking there’s gotta be an update…and then Shayne said, “update” and I literally yelled, “YESSS!” 😂
It’s honestly devastating sometimes when a juicy story doesn’t have an update lol.
Arasha with the "A" versus "H" analogy with relationship comparisons was really amazing!
About the third story, I listened to smth on a podcast that really stayed with me and it’s similar to what one of the comments said. You set these boundaries, you would do yourself a dishonor if you look past it. Forget about him, you would be disrespecting yourself if you continued the relationship. You only have yourself at the end of the day, if you can’t reinforce your values and boundaries, then what do you have left?
Also I can’t stress enough how much I love Aisha. I love how everyone expresses in these videos, but there’s just something about the way she carries herself, the comments she makes and the way she makes them that I absolutely adore.
you know this about to be lit when the guests are Trevor and Arasha
story #1 i hardly had to listen to before it was clear op was not the asshole. my uncle is an EXTREMELY picky eater and he married a filipino woman. its honestly a talking point in the family. my boyfriend is a little picky, but nowhere near my uncle. pretty much the same way as the guy in the story. we go out to eat at a viet place and he asks if they have burgers. family gatherings his wife has to make a salad. it becomes dictatorial, and if food is important to you and an important love style for you, this relationship isnt going to work out
Gotta love how everyone color coordinated their outfits❤
Being in a very similar situation to the last story, hearing it end so beautifully makes me feel so warm and happy. My situation didn’t end as well, and we’ve gone separate ways permanently, however to know when it’s real it’ll always be real makes me so incredibly happy for OP ❤️❤️
I'm glad the 2nd story had a happy ending. While I understand her being upset it's refreshing to see people hear their partners wants and needs and to accommodate and compromise with them
As someone with severe arfid ty op for mentioning it in the first story❤
I also have arfid! I was worried about shaming untill OP knew about Arfid.
I have very mild ARFID and I would NEVER comment on someone's food choice. People like us tend to be jealous of adventurous eaters! Like I wish I could like all these foods! That guy is not only a picky eater, but he wants everyone else to be too. As if adventurous eating is an inconvenience to him somehow. I like how OP specified that this dude doesn't have ARFID, most of use would never act like this dude.
Simple dating tip; don't go on one if you're not prepared for the chance that it might not work out. If it does and goes into the romantic stage, make sure that that the date shares similar core values with you, otherwise there will be future conflict.
I love how they release these at 1am in my country, it really helps with my insomnia. Literally my perfect bedtime stories
"Feelings are always valid but not always reasonable" top Arasha quotes of all time
“You havent communicated your needs so I don’t know”
I disagree solely because we don’t know if it has been a conversation between them before. It’s said she is more reserved and that might mean she isn’t as comfortable being touchy and affirming and he knows that and didn’t bring it up at all.
However, it is entirely possible that they talked about it and dosent bring it up/compromised on the issue.
I love how they’re all matching outfits it looks cool
There is nothing wrong with the guy being a picky eater, its his annoying behaviors regarding food. Hes rude to waiters knowing dang well hes not going to get something different. Also, being rude about cultural food is an automatic red flag.
You know its gonna be a good Saturday when Smosh Pit uploads another reddit episode
at first I read this without "good" hah, it would've been true though too
I feel like Jake the picky eater guy is also so disrespectful about food! 1) food can be kinda touchy because of disordered eating and shaming anyone for what their eating or making faces at their food is a bad idea.
2) food is so tied with culture, like Trevor said. Making faces at food just because it’s “different” is awful. What’s normal for you is weird for other people (even within a culture - I’m looking at your entirely plain burger, Jake)
And disrespecting that is uncalled for. Yes, you may not like the food. Yes, you may stop for fries on the way home. But you don’t need to leave early (unless you’re really hungry in which case you need more than fries probs) and you don’t need to make faces and say mean things about the food. Just be there and talk to people. Not that hard.
Whoa, Tommy's looking great. He did a great job as a host in this!
(No but seriously, Shayne looks great, but i did confused him with Tommy for 5 seconds before I put on my glasses😂)
His transformation into BBNO$ is a few phases shy of completion.
I think the thing I love most about Reddit Stories is the amount of healthy insight Shayne and the others provide. I love hearing where they have learned stuff or books they have read.
re: the last story - my college roommate freshman year turned all the girls in our friend group against me with absolute lies. They're all still friends, a decade later, and it's so frustrating that they all believed her without even asking me about anything. It's a shame to lose your group of friends, but I could tell the girl in the last story that you'll find the right friends with time :)
If they choose to believe just one side without even giving you a chance to give your side, then none of them deserved to be in your friend group.
I know it hurts. I've been there, too.
But you are the lucky one to be rid of them.
One thing I gotta say for the last story... Josh could've prevented everything if he asked OP the right questions. "If they've seen the picture, can they describe it accurately?". "If I got into detail about our sex life, can they repeat those details?". Honestly, the fact that neither OP or Josh thought to ask this is kinda weird, but I do have the benefit of not being emotional or shocked.
honestly i have to wonder if any of them snooped through his phone for any details to make it more believable
@@faeb.9618there’s also a high likelihood that one of her ‘friends’ knew her phones password. I know at least one of mine does. And they snooped through her phone for stuff she sent him.
as someone with ARFID, I was so glad that the person in the first story mentioned it.
I feel like so many people on reddit (and in general) judge people based on eating habits when they don’t know the whole story.
We need more people to have ED awareness :)
that being said, that guy was definitely kind of an asshole
When Shayne said "we are playing Beopardy right now." and Arasha responded "That is the scariest thing you have ever said." was the first time in a while I literally laughed out loud. Felt good.
I love Arasha's Dr. Phil-ah commentary. It always comes off genuine and in good faith, so better than Phil and more relatable. Always a pleasure seeing her and Trevor
I'm a very adventurous eater. I could not date someone who won't even try something new. It does affect your relationship. You will always have to worry about what your partner would want to eat and it would inevitably restrict what she can get.
That's so understandable. At that point, it's also a hobby. I'm a picky eater and don't like cooking much (it stresses me out). As long as it's not judgmental, to me it just seems a clean cut case of not being compatible. No-ones fault, just doesn't line up!
first story: I have ARFID and I eat VERY few foods (it took me until middle school to eat chocolate 😅) but that’s absolutely a me problem and I know it! There is almost always SOMETHING safe enough in any kind of meal to eat enough to be respectful to whoever made it
Not me watching this DURING work and my boss saying “oh well if it’s Smosh”
I appreciate the fact Arasha is willing to try new things. My biggest pet peeve is someone not being willing to even try new things. I had a friend who was absolutely terrified of new foods. I made a HUGE FEAST roast beef and roast chicken , mashed potatoes, gravy, roast Brussels sprouts, carrots and cakes and pies and cookies. And she walked in my house and crinkled her face and said it smells weird. And she stood around talking to the other guests. I gave the warning that food would be ready in 5 minutes. And she excused herself saying she would be right back. She came back in carrying a bag of Hawaiian rolls, a package of ham sandwich meat and jar of nacho cheese dip. EVERYONE just stood there staring at her. Finally my bestie walked up to her and grabbed her by the arm and escorted her out. The next day she said she wanted to try new stuff but she couldn’t do it.
i wish reddit stories were 2 hours long i love this series soooo much
I completely understand the first story, one of the things that attracted me to my current partner is their love for trying new food.
I loveee the joke Trevor made about the dates because immediately after Shayne's "it was posted yesterday" you can see "8 days ago" on the screenshot 😭
as an extremely picky eater myself, she made the right call. if food is that important for her, then she shouldn’t be with someone who can’t eat with her. and even if she was willing to do that, and deal with his pickiness, him commenting on HER meals and pulling faces? bro, he needs to grow up and respect other people’s food choices.
The last story boiled my blood, I'm glad it worked out. I pictured it as if it was a movie with a scene where she is reading the Email while his car is just accelerating. It cuts back & forth several times then the tires screech as they try & stop. The doorbell rings she thinks "Oh, my package" which she ordered earlier in the movie. But it turns out it's Josh, they have their back & forth. Then a montage of the day plays interwoven with similar scenes from the past where they were happy. The movie ends with "Ya know, most people don't get their Happily ever after... But I think that we will, I just feel it... A miracle happened, tears were shed, prayers were answered, Dreams do come true" something along those lines...
This is a video that I kind of want my young teen children to watch. It’s not too heavy on physical side of relationships. It also emphasizes the importance of trust, knowing your boundaries, respecting other’s boundaries, communication, and generally trying to be a good human being.
Digging shane's new look but now I have to see a skit where he is short straight tommy from another universe
I work weddings and every Saturday I get off of work and I look forward to this so much. I love smosh with all my heart ❤
Anyone getting flashbacks from the last story to the Mac and Jackie episode, where a woman's best friends also tricked her into breaking up? This is truly the happy ending that story never got. I'm so glad she was able to find out a year later, and not decades.
Shayne’s new Tommy-Cut looks fierce 💅