Bernadine: Wife to Side Chick? | Waiting to Exhale Breakdown
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
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Which character from the movie do you wanna talk about next: Savannah, Robin, or Gloria?
Can I say Tarik?
Robin because her dating choices were something else
Vikki, I like this idea!
Savannah
Gloria
My favorite lines "would it have been better if she were black? "no but it'd be better if you were black!"🤣😂🤣😂
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Definitely my favorite line!😂
I love it😅😅😅
She definitely flamed him in her anger. 😂😂
I think John wanted her to have long hair that's why she worked so hard to grow it and her cutting it off was her taking control of her life again
Yes, he idolised everything that coincides with being Caucasian… (yes Black women have hair that grow to their waistline, but to John, the long hair was closest to his ideal woman… a White woman)
@@bbygalrea9682 this is so true. I have heard of BW wearing blonde weave at the request of their husbands. Husbands who really wanted WW.
She grew it and it still wasn't good enough.
He wanted her to be white so bad...
I think she was so bitter after what her husband did she didn’t care about staying faithful anymore. I’m glad she never lost focus on being a good mom to the children
Yep I'm glad she still was a good parent to her children
My only thing with Bernie was she could have sold ALL the stuff she burned but sometimes you need to cleanse by fire🙌🏽
Micheal Beach literally became the MOST HATED BLACK MAN in movies !! He held the crown down until STEVE HARRIS in DIARY OF A MAD BLACK WOMAN came along. 😂😂😂😂 I remember seeing this in the theater. It was crazy. This and SOUL FOOD.
😂 Yeah dude from Diary of a Mad Black woman had him beat. Michael Beach was always a bad dude. He slept with Cousin Faith in Soul Food too! 😂
And beat his wife in the clip How come how long - babyface ft Stevie wonder 😊
And in soul food he cheated on his wife with her cousin. He stayed playing the cheater
@@Theglitterqueen21 had to go rewatch that video! You have a great memory!!!
I used to hate seeing his face😂so yeah he played his roles well
"They stop all of the maintenance of themselves and they just exist because that's really all that they can do" I felt that. That's definitely 1 of the affects of depression.
Yep...
Yup…🙄😔😒😒😒
Robin & Savannah were side chicks . Thats also why Robyns line in the salon over the phone about Leaving Bernie with two kids is both funny & fckd up.. Cuz she legit was beggin her Married man to leave his wife and kids for HER 🤡😭😂..
But this aint Robyn & Savannah vid. So imma leave it at that 😂😂
Hey Queen!!!! Good to see you back. I always love your comments 😂. You're right about Savannah and Robin! The thing is, most people don't talk about Bernadine being willing to be one too... Even if only temporarily. BOTH of her rebound dudes were married. IJS 😆
@@HeitCheri hey Hey ! 🙌🏾💖🙌🏾.. && Awwwwwww Thanks ! I Love that y'all influence me to have Even more to say ! 💖🌟💖..
&& FACTS!! thats why i looooooove that yall brought attention to Bernie's flawed moves.. I think alot of ppl get wrapped up in empathizing with her & forget to hold her acts of dishonoring herself accountable..
Plus i have been seeing more and more instances of Women divorcing cheating men & then becoming Side Chicks.. EVEN TO THE EX HUSBANDS THEY DIVORCED.. and its very interesting.. but i think thats what happens when you neglect your sense of self, self value & self love .. and like she said herself.. Lazy in some way.. & Society influences women , Black women esp to be so Energetic for others. But to be Lazy towards their own needs, goals, & desires(there are other words.. but its pretty raw that she used lazy.. cuz after you give all your energy away.. It makes sense for you to feel 'Lazy').. and again that goes back to Self Worth.. if you dont feel worthy.. You wont feel an urgency to pour into yourself or your own goals & such.. and being a side chick gives you a quick, & FALSE SENSE of Power & Value(esp if you are conditioned to seek validation purely/mostly from Men). And It brings to mind how necessary it is to be sure we feel value in ourself simply as We are.. & Not for who or what we are attached to.. cuz if/when you lose it/them.. What do you have left FOR YOURSELF 😭😄.. chile.. i could go on.. but imma save some for Thee Other Ladies when y'all come out with theirs..
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GIRL this part!!! >>>>> "Plus i have been seeing more and more instances of Women divorcing cheating men & then becoming Side Chicks.. EVEN TO THE EX HUSBANDS THEY DIVORCED."
You are so right, and at the core of this is flawed thinking and low self concept. In an attempt to protect their hearts, they're playing themselves. I was really on my soap box in this video, and I know some people were offended that I said Bernie was a side chick, BUT SHE WAS! If you wanna talk about it, they were all side chicks except Gloria. But, like you said, I'ma save the rest of my comments for the videos! LOL -Cheri
@@HeitCheri ‼️‼️‼️‼️🎯🎯🎯🎯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😎😎😎😎😎👑👑👑👑👑..
People Be Mad At Thee Truth, Cuz Truth forces you to Grow ! Keep Talking Your Shihh Cuz Facts Are Facts & It Needs To Be Said ! Hit Dogs Holler & Thee Universal Delusion Needs To Stop ! Asap ! 😭😂😂😭
@@HeitCheriin a way Gloria shouldn’t have been waiting to get laid every time her ex/baby daddy came to town and he confessed he was gay
It was an Okay movie, but the clip of her walking away from the burning car is iconic. One of the best scenes ever.
That car scene was good
She said he was anal for the whole eleven years and she blamed herself for not leaving him when she realized he was obnoxious and narcissistic. He asked her to not work and to stay in his shadow. He ostracized their kids from black people. Bernadine was essentially waiting for it to happen but hoped he would respect her for holding him down for 11 years
So she wasn't blindsided in the first scene
Sorry i commented too soon.. you covered everything minutes later
No worries! Comment as you watch. We love that! 😊
This is what really happens to alot of blk families. The blk female that been with the blk man through thick and thin, when they both were poor and struggling. Once the man get on his feet he leaves his wife for other race of women. It happens all the time in the celebrity world and it pisses me off
Yes this happens way more than some ppl want to admit
The real world too smh
I just noticed how Bernie slapped the mistress and John did nothing about it. True, it probably would've made the situation even worse if he had tended to her... but still. He didn't love her either.
It's wild that they made this scene of a man that's emotionally and to a certain degree, physically cheating on his dying wife into a passionate, tender scene. I always saw this scene for what it was. You said they did a good job at making you tear up but I say they did a good job at making the viewers believe this was a beautiful, heartfelt moment. 😂
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Yeah people add layers to cheating to make it feel better. No one would be saying that if it was a wife cheating on her sick husband. They only have rose colored glasses when it comes to stuff like this when women are the ones that need to get over it or take it. There aren’t millions of movies with men sitting around “waiting to exhale” from their high powered wives while they sitting at home being stay at home husbands.
Well they didn’t have seggs so it made it a sweet moment tbh ❤
My Mom played this soundtrack to death. It definitely was one of the better sound tracks of the 90s
I might have to put this one back into rotation soon! I love the song Patti sings... "
The handshake at the end was to congratulate her, but also to offer her the hand of support he wouldn't give during the marriage - which was what she needed all along. Opening the gate for her was to say he accepted defeat, no hard feelings, but it was also to show that he was in a sense freeing her from her obligations to him and "allowing" her to do her. Recall he had been stifling her from following her passions. Overall, I think he felt humbled by losing, after all that he had been doing to "win" in their life together, even if it meant hurting her and the children with the control issues, the self-hate, the affair, and his leaving. As long as he was winning from his perspective of it, he was fine, but he was brought down by all the consequences of his choices. I'll bet the business will even go from declining to failing altogether since she isn't his backbone anymore, and I'll bet he knows it. As she left, he was still in the court afterward bc symbolically his battles weren't over. And let's see how long the new relationship lasts...
LMFAO I disagree about the random "emergency broadcast" interruption being misplaced. It's actually perfect because everything went left from there... and Bernadine’s dramatic turn to face him and the curse out. It was all an EMERGENCY TEST.
Yes it is typical for some women to quit functioning correctly and get depressed after I traumatic experience like that. 11 years is a long time to build with someone just to have them leave you.
True!
Rip Tina Turner 😢speaking of Angela Bassett she’s taking it pretty hard.
Oh yes, RIP to Tina, and condolences and blessings to Angela.
Michael Beech was the 'go to' guy if they needed a cheater.😂😂😂 This and Soul Food.😅😂😂
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Also what James said in that letter is virtually impossible. He doesn’t love Bernie really. He doesn’t know her at all. He loves the idea of her in a way because he had an emotionally vulnerable and intimate moment and he had been starved of that. Also Bernie got what she needed in the divorce, and I think her ex did respect an aspect of her, because he had forgotten how much of a fighter Bernie was, she had been such an agreeable wife for him through the years, he forgot who he married. He saw a glimpse of the Bernie he loved in the beginning. She got this new haircut, she looks brand new to him. That’s why he was soft to her at the end. I don’t think he would have touched her hand, but I could see him opening the court door for her. Yall are doing a great job I can’t wait to see Savannah’s story!
All of this that is exactly what I was thinking Bernie had laid down in their marriage and her changing into a beast and fighting for her life she gained his respect
I think John, opening up the door and shaking Bernie's hand, showed her that he respects her tenacity as well it was a sign that that chapter of their lives is officially closed.
The kids were able to break something and not get in trouble because without their father they can relax. He was anal retentive. Bernadine is naturally easy going. Hence the catering company. I'm sure it was a menu of soul food, not caviar. But him a more wallstreet type of job. It's not like it was a construction company
“11 years”
I felt absolutely no ways about the scene in the hotel room. I did not cry. I did not shed a tear. I guess because I was trying to figure out how cuddling with a man whose wife has cancer (and not dead yet) is supposed to be romantic. And they fell in love in 1 night?
I watched this movie when it first came out (i was 15) and watched it again a few years ago and i still feel the same way. 🤷🏽♀️
I’m new to your channel. Great job. Thanks.
i think a part of Bernadine’s anger is that she believes she made John into who he is today. all of what he’s got is because she’s sacrificed. and then she makes a very successful man and he leaves her so that a white woman can reap all the benefits. he owed her sm. she never got any of the things she wanted. n although she has a beautiful home n kids whom she loves dearly, those were all John’s desires. john was her prize in a sense. he is the physical embodiment of her hardest work, and he has the nerve to be who she made him to be, but with someone else
So why did he even leave her in the first place? At no point did he explain what was wrong with their 11-year marriage enough for him to leave her randomly for another woman. It's no wonder she would be upset.
I like the part when Bernadine burns all of his stuff up. And goes to his job and slaps his mistress. And then have a yard sale and tagged all of his stuff for a single dollar.
I admit that I enjoyed the slapping of the side chick 😆 -Cheri
😱 omg and here I thought James was there as a gentleman in her time of need 😆 y'all just opened my eyes lol. And YES Wesley Snipes is the man he deserves his praises and flowers. Everyone is quick to call out Denzel but Wesley is great as well 👌
Chanell, yes!
After watching your Savannah video my Mum and I went back and, watched Waiting to Exhale last night
What I got with Bernadine’s character is that she was going through the five stages of grief and the movie highlights key aspects of the grieving process for example, in the club scene I don’t think she was wanting to become a side chick, she was looking for male attention, the attention that she never experienced from John in the lead up to their breakup and divorce
Great observations! I don't think this was her intention either. She was really reacting to her situation and I think we touched on that a bit in the video. Thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts! :-)
@@HeitCheri You’re welcome 😊
I totally disagree with you when you say that Bernadette is not gonna have a conscience about being a side chick anymore. Bernadette just went through a very traumatic event in her life and she’s going to get her life back on track and get herself together but right now she’s going through her hoe phase.
The soundtrack was definitely an absolute banger! 11 years!
Thanks to Babyface😊
James cheating while his dying wife was triflin. He could at least wait til she dies. Let him grieve a bit. What would've happened if the wife survived?
All this!
Right like, man......ugh.
Thy never had sex from what I understand
( 14:29 )- That psychotic line seems to be referring to the idea of him building wealth, living his everyday like nothing wasn’t going on. Like he wasn’t planning to leave… how can you live everyday, routinely plotting on and smile in my face. How are you able to live with yourself - treating those you claim to care for like stepping stone.
You have to be some weird psycho or just evil.
11years. Every time Heit's gave a man's point of view, I was "No, no, no!" 🤣🤣🤣 But I really appreciate it because he made a lot of valid points. You two are a dynamic duo❤️❤️
Lynn! Hey and thanks so much for your feedback. We appreciate you! :-)
I love Gloria, and that convo on the ride. She was silent and kinda let her talk to her self and rationalize what she was doing, and she couldn’t lol, then Gloria says “you wrong” and I felt the love lol. She said it so nice and sweet. And imagine if she had the same convo with Robin. She might feel compelled and justified in dealing w a married man.
Do savannah next. Why her mama was always setting her up with no good for nothing man? I’m sure a lot of women go through this in their point of life and I think it would be a good idea to talk more about it.
Yep, Savannah is up next!
@@HeitCheriwe're gonna always be saying he's a good man Savannah lololol. Terrible trifling advice.
Just terrible advice! 😆
Angela Bassett is beautiful as all get out but in this movie when she is pissed, her hair is done and she’s cursing that clown out she is SMOOOKIIING HOT like damn black woman💙💙💙
Wesley Snipes character was lying his ass off lol
😆 yep
In the book sequel anyway. 😂
That counting sex is so degrading I had a dude say some mess to me like that yes he's an ex now
I think he stood and shook her hand, because she stood up for herself and put up a fight.
The scene when Bernadine set the car with John's clothes on fire, it reminds me of Left Eye or Roseanne's character in She Devil.
Book came out in '92 and movie in '95 - we were still writing letters back then. Internet, Computer chat wasn't a thing, neither was email... that stuff wasn't common yet. It was non-existent to regular degulars. In '96 folks were chatting on the IRC but not lengthy convos
Hi Axiom 😊! The emergency broadcast thing is in the book! So I guess they decided to use it in the movie! There are a lot of things that are in the book that did not make it to the movie! Yes, the fire 🔥 scene is in the book!
Thanks is for clearing that up! Why do you think this was placed in this scene in the book and movie?
I feel it was placed in the book and the movie to keep the reader and movie watcher interested. Keep our attention! It got my attention! I didn’t have a problem with her burning 🔥 up his things! I think he deserved it! I’m not sure if that is something I would do myself!
The emergency broadcast in my opinion was placed there as a warning that something wicked is coming and that’s when he told her he was leaving her for a white woman and after the argument was over so was the emergency broadcast message. It’s just like the movie “The Godfather! Whenever you see an orange 🍊 in a scene it meant that someone was going to be killed. There was death in the air. There were oranges 🍊 in the scene where Vito was shot at while shopping for oranges and at the end where Vito was eating oranges and he placed a half of orange in his mouth to scare his grandson while they played in his garden. Vito died in that scene!!
Thanks for your explanation! Your point about the godfather scenes is well taken. I remember them talking about the oranges in the scenes on the directors commentary... Or something else I was watching about the trilogy.
He is a narcissist point blank. This answers a lot of questions.
I LOVE YALL for bringing up Livin Large! That was among my favorite flicks back in the day! TC Carter is among the most under appreciated black actors ever.
I am not finished with this, but I wanted to say that I absolutely like your commentary. Your channel randomly showed up on my feed, and I'm hooked. I cannot wait to binge watch y'all.
Welcome aboard! Thanks so much! :-) We have a lot more videos on our other channel, so check it out here: youtube.com/@axiomAmnesia/
Back in my day..... in the 90s..... we had phone books...... most people were listed. 😂😂😂😂😂 That's how James found Bernadine.
You might need a last name to use phone books, though.
@@HeitCheri People like James can be stalkery. Maybe he saw her ID on the night stand or rummaged through her purse when he woke up to pee lol. Some times those specifics don't need to be shown on screen. It is funny though cause watching as a 14 year old it views as romantic (they're whole dynamic) as a 41 year old you're absolutely right. Its incredibly predatory behavior and very unhealthy. I love your videos and the deep dives you guys take. I'd love to see you guys do a video on "THE INKWELL". Keep up the great work. Love you guys.
Jeremy you're so right that watching these movies years laters when we're more mature makes them hit totally differently 😂
Bernadine is a name that is not common in her area im sure I’m a Claudine not a lot of those lol
@@Deana_A that's a great thought. I totally agree.
The hotel bedroom scene between Angela and Wesley my favorite hands down !!
Aretha Franklin Hurts Like Hell❤❤
That's one helluva song! Babyface and Aretha DID THAT!!! ❤️
@@HeitCheri Yes ma'am they really did. Thank you for responding.
TC Carson (Kyle from living single) stared in living large. It was a great movie from the 90’s that I need to rewatch because it’s been years since I last saw it
It was a hilarious movie.
My little young ass needs to find the book!!! I used to watch this with my mom and now as an adult i wish she was here for me to ask how this movie didnt pisss her off even a lil bit
They probably had a joint account for the household expenses and vacations and everything else. But the one who gets to the bank accounts first wins. And then the other person have to take them to court because she is do something.
I like how when he offered the $300,000 she says your kids aren’t for sale. She doesn’t believe she should have all the money, hell she didn’t even ask for the house but that’s the first thing he offered her (he’s been had his life established elsewhere) I also love when she sells his belongings. Yes it was petty but I think it also showed her character. She live around all these rich folks she could of sold everything for $100 and up. That car was easily over $10,000. It was never just about the money to her but YES she needs money to take care of the kids. Honestly this movie makes it appear like it was a hard case to beat but it wasn’t. She put her hopes and dreams aside to help him fulfill his she wasn’t only a housewife, she was his secretary (with no pay) so a judge would easily say you have been supporting her and the kids all this time it’s not fair to take it all away “the lifestyle” especially for the kids because of the divorce. To yank those kids out of a clearly nice neighborhood and private school to low class neighborhood and public school so instantly would traumatize the kids. The judge would have to grant him a period of time he has to care for them financially until she can get on her feet since she would be essentially starting from nothing. Just my two cents. I just rewatched the movie (haven’t watched since I was a kid) and I loved it. I see it from a whole different point of view as a adult.
The side piece was in fact the late Kelly Preston, John Travolta's wife. That slap was epic. lol
I never noted that was Kelly Preston! Great observation!
I get whats being said at the end too. John didn't end his marriage in a week after meeting the new girl. He probably did tell her that he loved his wife and that he was committed to his family as well. A big tactic of cheaters is to feign being torn and act like the dutiful spouse that just cant stay away from this one special person and that in turn makes the side person feel like "Oh, they are a good person. They just cant help what they feel for me."
9:41 she went to the Circle K to get that gasoline ⛽️ 🚘 🔥
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He.ll yea😂😂😂😂😂
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I’m so happy the algorithm introduced me to this channel! Love the break downs of these movies! Slammed my thumb on the subscriber button! Lol
Welcome aboard! Thanks so much for joining us! ❤️❤️❤️
I don't want to admit how many times I played back the slap when I had the DVD
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being a wife aint all that great if your husband aint 100% committed to you! its a huge scam to get married.
So are you saying that most husbands are not 100% committed?
Facts
@@HeitCheriNot most but A Lot of them
@@HeitCheri yes!!!!
@@LuxxMa A lot of BM
Currently binging your channel (Thanks to Why did I get Married) and was surprised to see Waiting to Exhale, my mom's favorite movie. I will be watching this series but I wonder if you both will do Love and Basketball in the future.
Yes we will do that movie as well. Welcome and be sure to check out the playlist of videos from our other channel!
To me the saying with Bernadine and the drinking "a drunk man tells no lies" she was already feeling that way but the alcohol gave her the courage so to speak to actually do it
Another great breakdown 💙💯!!
11 YEARS!!
Thanks so much for watching! ❤️
I’ve watched all the why did I get married vids and didn’t even know you had a waiting exhale vid 😩yay! 🙌🏾
I also feel like Angela and Kerri's move by doing these kind of signature performances is to endear themselves to the greater audience because I didn't really fall in love with any of Angela's characters I fell in love with her through her different roles and that leads to people being like I want THAT actress in this role! It does a disservice to their craft but in terms of getting hired I'm sure it's done wonders
This movie and For colored girls have always rubbed me the wrong way. These movies picked 4 of the worst black men to put these black women thru hell.
The burning of the clothes was in the book lol
Thanks for confirming that. I don't remember after all these years!
I think she’s selling his stuff to be petty. There was a serious situation where this old lady got mad at her husband because after like 60 years she found out he’s been stepping out on her that whole time so she sold his car for a dollar after he died.
Oh the selling of his things was totally to be petty. It made for a great movie scene! 😆
Wow the micro Greshon of the firefighter I thought it was just me that saw it is that glad to hear that I wasn’t “alone this is a nice neighbourhood”
I don't cry, but I get in my feelings every time I watch.
Oooo yeah I snuck and watched the VHS of this as a kid 😂
LOL You know you weren't supposed to be watching this adult-themed stuff LOL
@@HeitCheri HAHA i didnt even understand it now i am 33 actually get the plot of the movie funny how that works.
Age and experience will show us a lot! :-)
It doesn't matter what color you are being cheated on hurts 💔
I don't think we said the color makes you feel or not feel the pain. We explained the significance of the race issue for people who may not have understood it.
It hurts more than your black husband as a black woman you are always in a secondary world tells you that you are not beautiful and if your own black man sees you as the same you can never understand that pain so yes colour does matter in this instance
Angela improvised the dialogue and the conceptualized action in the iconic fire scene
I’m loving this series ❤
Thanks! ❤️
I heard y'all mention reviewing this movie but never saw it... so glad I found it.
Knowing what James turned out to be from when I read the Getting To Happy sequel.....whew his charms and fake backstory here are so gross!!!! Anyhoo, this channel is where it's at! I meant to subscribe a long time ago but now I will. I have long been intrigued by commentary and other people's perspectives about many things. It fuels deep discussions, learning and actual life applications. Thank you Hiet and Cheri!
Thanks so much and we appreciate your kind words more than you know.
Or maybe she just got kicked out of an 11 year marriage and she needed to get laid. And maybe she just needs a man to pay her some attention so she feels better because she have been married for 11 years and her husband just left her.
They have no formal agreement so he can say that she can sell the house all day long until it’s in writing it’s just flapping Gums.And hell yeah she has some claimed that business
I can’t wait to go through these stories. I LOVED this movie. I wish Sister McMillan’s book Mama would have been made into a movie.
I think it's better to be single than be the side chick.
I’m late but I think the American broadcast test was symbolic of the crisis and explosion (literal) about to happen
11 years, great work as usual!!!
Thank you very much!❤️
She was in that hotel waiting for Hueburt & he probably didn’t show, & so she was wanting anyone to be with her-she has been w/this man for 11 yrs & not counting dating yrs so she was use to being w/a man!!! I don’t think it was cheating they didn’t do anything & his wife was dying & James could have been longing for someone to hold himself, shit all we know is his wife could have been in the hospital all this time. I think what she got was fair a house, the main house & $2M especially for 1995 wasn’t bad money plus she has a MBA so she can flip that money.
11 Years!
I thought Bernie was a hypocrite, because she was was angry that John cheated on and left her for another woman, yet she had an affair with no one, but two married men. Not once did she care about their wives feelings about being cheated on. Especially James’s wife, since she was dying.
I love Angela Bassett, but I think you’re correct in saying that Angela Bassett is the same character in every movie, at the same time, that’s what we love and respect about her.
So far I'm 20 scrolls into this comment section and your the only one holding the irony of her character accountable; ty for this, like honestly. I feel for Bernie but it's not a good character arc because who's to say that the white girl didn't go threw the same character arc and fall for her husband the same way she fell for James? 👀
11 Years. I had to come back to this one and fast forward until the end, because I got distracted the last time.
😂 okay
Cursing bother you so much because as the father, he could’ve at least gave her 3000 a month as well as taking care of all the bills that way his children have food, close school and home. That’s a triflin man and a triflin father because he wanted to get rid of the fact that he had children. That way he can start a new biracial family.
28:47 I agree with Heit here because that is kind of the idea we as women subscribe to a lot of the time. Even though she hadn't been able to and had no indication that she would soon be able to begin working on her dreams she was willing to stay in that marriage and take it for what it was because she had him and they were living fine. If he hadn't left her and continued to ignore her dreams I doubt she wouldve left him
She seen the slow changes !!! It happens in relationships.
Really glad I found your channel. Thank you for reviewing this character!
Thank you for watching!
In the book John Jr was closer to Bernie, and the Daughter was closer to the Dad.
I didn't know a book was out 😮
@@BROOK69BANKSlol yeah Terry McMillan is the author. Books for this and Stella.
@@BROOK69BANKSYes, and there’s a sequel too called “Getting to Happy.” It was really good. No movie for it though. Maybe because Whitney (Savannah) & Marvin (Gregory Hines) passed away and maybe Terry McMillan didn’t want to recast those characters. 🤔
A wise man once said "and once he's successful he shall retire you for Caucasian queen
What makes him wise? Sounds like some self hatred type statements...
@@HeitCheri But were was the lie...some men do leave their black women that helps and struggle with them and they leave for them for others.💅🏾
It was a Kanye reference. You can't tell me he's not putting out jewls in his raps. We must protect this man
Teresa, I'm not disputing the statement. I asked what makes the man wise. That was off topic though... 😆
Oh and I think they are 34-37 not in their 20s bc Bernie was married for 11 years
When Bernie says “what? You gone put me out Joe?” Is this a nod to the Jackson five movie?
I agree. Livin Large is always forgotten. I think it’s a classic
Hey 👋 imma new sub... im loving yall doing movies i grew up watching ❤
Thanks so much and welcome aboard! :-)
I've watched the movie "Living Large" more than 50 times.
Alot of soul food cast was in this🎉 Btw, Boomerang Soundtrack was amazing ❤
I remember Livin Large!! My movie❤
"If I gave him what he needed, he would give me what I needed." That line explains a lot.
Yes it does!
The part about her children being at a school full of white people got to me the most. The emotional and mental abuse was also inflicted upon her children as well. That wasn't just terrible husband duties, that was terrible fathering. Last time I checked, your roots aren't always an improper influence
That little boy in this movie is like the current Michael Rainey Jr.
Yes!
Definitely an AMAZING SONG 20:20
✨✨✨Tbh I’ve been in a situation like this and I spooned with a married man before , his wife was dying of cancer and he was crying. I felt bad for him tbh and no we never had seggs. I never considered it to be emotional cheating . 😅🖤 to be fair I was in my mid twenties 😇
At least you’re honest, to yourself and what you’ve just shared. It already happened so now you know how to handle the next similar situation if it occurs 🤗 . We’ve all been emotionally manipulated 🥴🙃
@@Jo-zi5px true ur right I know better now . I thought it was romantic bc of this movie lol 😂 but now I realize it wasn’t ❤️😇