There are only 2 things that make a woman unhappy: 1) Getting what she wants. 2) Not getting what she wants. If after knowing this, you still proceed then it's on you....
Thrice dated women needing "stimulation" all the time and it was the most god awful, exhausting, distracting, stress inducing, annoying as hell experiences of my life. No thanks. A man has better and more important things to do than constantly have to perform upkeep on and keep entertained another grown-ass adult whose loyalty and commitment to our shared relationship is only as strong as my acting and entertainment chops.
it's actually because many guys do this that those women start to expect all guys to be clowns for their own entertainment it's kinda same when guys hand with their pales, you find yourself wasting your money on beer an time staying late with a bunch of losers while you could have use that money and time to make your life better women at least provide more entertainement and pleasure than those loser pales, but if they are losers too, then it;s nothing different
@@zazugee oh I dont know. I have spent time with my loser pals and i have spent time with women and I gotta say, you women are not nearly as fun or entertaining as you think you are.
Yes, read the online dating "About" sections on these dating apps and these women want to ski, mountain climb, do all the water sports, run marathons, and on and on and on...Good luck to them, I like to relax when I'm not exercising, working, spending time with my child etc..They're on the dating sites for a reason.
If you want to know how much women's "love" is really just shopping for their own needs, wait till something earth shattering happens like losing a parent or pet or a job and you break down even momentarily. Life has been a very harsh teacher to us, but I now think truth actually loves us better than any woman could.
True story. When my dad passed away and it clearly significantly bothered me my wife no shit said "yeah well, we all lose loved ones". That was the moment I knew.
@@kiwia8271 Unfortunately that’s untrue. I’ve been in relationships with 3 women who truly loved me and would do anything for me. But they’re weren’t the ones for me, I’ve witnessed their distress and despair, but I wasn’t happy so had to move on.
@@YourWingmam you welcome , I recently found your channel , just started to watch your videos . I am learning a lot , Keep up the great work . I appreciate you and your hard work
You get what you pay for. Rule 1: If she's attracted to bright shiny things, she is attracted to bright shiny things. Rule 2: If you find yourself questioning their character, drop'm like a hot potato. Rule 3: Determine who you are and don't settle for less. Life is a journey, if you have to constantly stop to do maintenance, your journey won't go far. Find another honest traveler and see where the journey goes.
@@YourWingmamShe monkey branched...I fell asleep at the wheel. But then, that doesn't mean it's ok to cheat. Then walk on away from our lives together. I'm better off, like you said. She was a ten, but not high value. She was very high maintenance.
Saying "hypergamy is natural" is essentially true, but it's still BS to say it and just leave it hang there as if it justified something. Saying that hypergamy is natural as a justification for hurting someone else or lying as if the observation justified the behavior deprives women of moral agency, of their humanity. It renders them animals. When we claim hypergamy is natural, well, so is the human propensity to predation, but if you prey upon other human beings you are behaving immorally, criminally, anti-socially, and most importantly: self-destructively. Saying that the underlying drive is "natural" does not excuse acting on that drive in ways that are destructive. Our drives are natural; how we respond to our drives is what distinguishes what kind of human being we are.
@@explosivetwist That's because we live in societies now which are unnatural in terms of evolution. In older societies, even and average run of the mill man would be of significant value to women. Whereas in westernized nations the governments have taken over men's major roles and men are not useful to women accept for extremely selective looks (6'3 chad) or significant boost in comfort of living (for example a waitress dating a doctor). The only guys that are below average i see with women are families from third world countries where all men are valued by women because they offer strength, protection, and higher status in society.
The truth is women get bored with the same stimulation they received at the beginning of their relationship anyhow....they're always seeking something from a "different energy" or man. Different dress, shoes, meal, holiday etc, etc.. never content. Insatiable beings. It's a no win situation for the man. Been there done that STAY SINGLE.
A woman’s love is a feeling she gets when countless conditions have been met, when those conditions change the feeling vanishes and she’s looking elsewhere for a man that can meet those conditions. Matt was right, it’s not you that they care about, it’s the just a feeling that they’re addicted to, like an emotional junkie.
1 fact debunks all of this video: Women are perfectly ok with sharing a man they actually want. All the rules and restrictions are there for the guys they merely tolerate. The guys these women want can do what ever they want with zero negative reactions from the women themselves .
Not really, she will consider the other woman as a threat to her safety or even her kids' if she have any so that willingness will end sooner than you think :)
My experience tells me Matt is correct. Women are attracted to the lifestyle the man can provide. Not the man himself. The woman continues to raise the bar to the point of failure.
Right!!! and they will fail and fall if they do not make a self adjustment in their attitude and behavior. I already have told women that they will not win!!! Because, men choose who they marry if they choose to.
Yup, notice how she kept putting blame on the man, even nagging and weaponized sex. So, this is why we don’t listen to women. They don’t communicate effectively. Truth hurts.
I met a divorced woman. Her ex-husband travelled a lot and had many different women. She told him its either them or me. He said they are many. You are just one.
@@SlyPsycho men are brainwashed into marriage since early childhood, but they wisen up by the moment the marriage contract is signed, and the beautiful girl he married turns into something completely different.
@@SlyPsycho it’s a good look for society and your reputation (all about appearances) But as we all know what’s going on behind closed doors 🚪 can be a completely different story
@@YourWingmam aaa so you pretended to burst into laughter to bait a comment like mine? Deception at its finest:D is that reverse psychology gaslighting or what? 😆
Seems like a lot of work and drama. I think when 2 people are ideal, compatible and attracted to each other, it's not so complicated. People try to force what is not going to work. We should all just be the best versions of ourselves so we attract the partner that likes who we are, (granted that our best version is a healthy, responsible, moral and giving person)
And even when you are the best version of yourself with all the criteria you listed, it also requires finding someone who is emotionally available and not into mind games......a rarity amongst the women I've dated, unfortunately
I wish I could find women who make ME feel safe with THEIR financial lifestyles, as opposed to most of the ones I meet who are barely getting by and living above their means with a ton of debt and little to no retirement savings and investments, lol
@@MatthewGalpin89 yes, he also earned my respect. Remember bro, Love and God exist within person not outside, its just attraction and don't call it love , it changes time to time, the only difference is, women are free in life, have no responsibilities, so they can make drama and can easily while men can't do that because of short of time.
It's practically pointless to crave for a stable relationship or marraige in this day and age..some women do care but yes they are a rare breed..or shall I say a dying breed..so why exhaust yourself to search for that one woman all your life..instead focusing on yourself and learning to stay alone is a wiser move IMO.
I have to say, the cutest part of my separation was when she called me one day and was asking me where something was at in the house, her house cause I had moved out. She told me she didn’t realize how much I did around the house and for her business that’s at the house. That made me feel really good. She seen that she was taking me for granted. I feel like I’m better off.
@@YourWingmam she regretted letting me go? She also asked me if she got put in jail would I come pay her bond? She had never been in trouble before, so I asked, are you in jail? She said no. Would you come pay my bond? I said, yes. She quit texting.
Excitement, stimulation, attention, gifts etc. - you can’t expect getting the same amount of everything as you were in the beginning of the relationship. It’s your responsibility, both men and women to find all that within yourself. It’s not your partner’s duty to constantly stimulate you, excite you etc. Good content as usual 👍
Never said constant stimulation, but when you offer a product (you) make sure the warranty doesn't run out (what was offered). Both should make an effort. The relationships that succeed (are happy) are ones where both make an effort. And yes, everyone is also responsible for their own happiness! :)
Remember men and women have different concepts of love. It doesn't matter if it's my mother or my daughters or the woman I'm trying to date. If they show concern about your well-being there is always a transactional component attached. Women in general are opportunistic lovers. I have learned to deal with this unflattering aspect of female nature and I'm happier because of it. I just wish society would catch up to these red pill truths.
I would agree with the mothers love. There has been multiple times i have bashed my mom and hurt her but she loves me no matter what and majority of the moms do except some toxic its sad that you had a bad mom growing up. My condolenses to you.
No matter how much you invest in a relationship as a man, at a certain point its value becomes zero. There's no way around that, not even with unicorns. Strictly from an investment perspective, one of the worst possible choices. Smart men've already figured this out, so it's gonna be way harder for the ladies to lock down a worthwhile man than ever before.
The longer you talk, the more I realize my choice of dog was immeasurably better than trying to please any other woman again, ever. Absolutely not worth it.
With respect, I'd like to get your husband's opinion on this issue. Just as I do not trust a skinny chef, I am skeptical of an unmarried relationship counselor. Show me you can ride a horse before you start giving me tips on how to handle one. Yes, men stop pursuing after a while. This is normal. There is no reason a guy should have to maintain the level of pursuit shown in early dating 10-20 years into a relationship. Women have sold themselves an unrealistic romantic fantasy. If you have to keep buying her trinkets & deluging her with compliments, she is being unrealistic. Yes, women need more stimulation. Like an infant, you have to keep jangling the keys in front of her eyes to keep her attention. Simply not worth it. While the video says we should accept a woman's nature and keep providing dopamine hits for her validation addiction, there is never any commentary that women should also accept a man's nature and realize it isn't going to stay at the hot & heavy beginner level forever. Sort of like how we assume a woman cheats because a man has failed to provide something. A man who cheats is told he is selfish & immature, a pig. A woman who cheats should be told she is selfish and immature, a sow. Women who are 30+ or even 40+ or 50+ still expect to be chased just as much as a young hottie. See above section regarding unrealistic fantasies.
"there is never any commentary that women should also accept a man's nature and realize it isn't going to stay at the hot & heavy beginner level forever" - yea, but that is not going to happen, so you can either accept it or not have a woman.
@@gondor532 Agreed. I guess I'll cry myself to sleep on the money I'm not wasting. Women want to be equals until they realize that means they might need to come to the negotiating table and not get everything they want. Life is too short to feed into that level of delusion.
Not only 8s 9s and 10s are seeking validation through social media. There's also plenty of 3s 4s and 5s who THINK they are 8s 9s and 10s who now became entitled, demanding, and think they are the bomb. The world owes them everything.
Yes, women suffer from a vicarious perception of SMV. They might get railed by an 8 or a 9 and suddenly think they're 9s themselves. Some call it the "Alpha Widow" syndrome.
Honest question: if alpha men should go after their own goals and success and can have their pick of the best women...why would they want to commit and settle for one woman rather than sleep with all the beautiful women? What's the value for them in commitment to one women? As you say, you can't stop a bee being a bee. Why stop men sleeping with all the women? Doesn't it work both ways?
I guess it depends on what that mans goals are. If his goal is to bed a lot of women, then he shouldn't commit to one girl. If he found a great girl who fits his life style and he fits hers then they can become a team. Did I answer right?
@@64maxpower You're right too but Neil's comments imply that men's nature is to bed most women possible. And the video argues that if women's nature is being like a bee so let them be. So why there are so many complaints about men nature? If you apply the same logic both sides two sides are correct.
Several months ago, My GF and I had a conversation about what's the most important thing in our lives. My answer, my business. (I'm self employed). She never really gave me an answer but I'm pretty sure its her kids. Anyway, moving forward, she got mad at me about a week ago, told me to leave, as in breaking up, so, I started packing my things to leave, without any discussion. She kept closing the bedroom door and wanted to talk to me, preventing me from putting my stuff in my Jeep. After about two hours of this, she finally confessed that she doesn't like the fact that my business is the most important thing to me and wanted me to make "her" the most important thing in my life. I neither agreed nor disagreed and only said that I understood what she was saying. She told me she wanted me to stay because she feels safe with me. Reluctantly, I stayed. I'm 110% sure, she will get mad at me again, tell me to leave and try to convince me to stay, but I'm done. Honestly, there is no benefit at all for me to stay in this relationship.
Just a question..did she accused you of cheating? If yes, run brother she is cheating on you.. I noticed this pattern from my previous relationship.. they red flag is "they start picking up fights with you for no reason, accuse you of cheating.. they complain that they feel less important in ur eyes etc..."
@@xodeproductio8339 No, she did not accuse me of cheating. She's hopelessly dependent on me, but in a good kinda way. We've had several deep conversations since then. I make sure her actions coincide with here words. So far, so good. She knows I'll walk away in a millisecond if the status quo changes. I'm the only one that has something to loose.
I agree with you that there are a "few" good women, but they are indeed rare. After experiencing the pain of being betrayed by self centered women, I feel it is safer, less work and more peaceful to fly alone or at my age, (65) remain open to a relationship with a widow that was a good wife.
News for you. family friend wife died when she was 60. They had built a life raising the kids paying off the house. Lonely and 5 yrs on at 65 he met and married someone. They lived together for 7 yrs or so until one day she wasn't happy. In his 70s she divorced him. She was awarded a large sum and also alimony. So he sold the house to pay her from that. He paid her from his modest pension a monthly sum as well. Now in his 90s he lives in an expensive apartment in Vancouver hand to mouth just scraping by. And where is ex? Shacked up with another man but not married because she would lose the alimony. So there you have it. They only see you as an end to a means. You're a paycheck nothing more. Be very careful
@@stevenpower1804 Ive been seeing this young woman on and off for 4 yrs. (Never trusted her) She sat in my living room drunk a month ago and threatened to call the cops. Make a false claim of domestic abuse. We had been arguing because she smashed my car. I hadn't been drinking. I watched her show me what life would be like if she lived with me. She falsely accused me of physical abuse. And she also threatened to state that I had been driving. At time she wrecked the vehicle. I video all of it. When she finally realized I had her incriminating herself she then attacked me trying to get the cell phone from me. I learned my lesson back in the 80s with them. Over the yrs I never let them in fully. Distrusted them forevermore
Ana, after my wife died in 2018 and I finally started thinking about leaving the house last year, your vids were a boost. I didn't listen closely enough, though, and fell-in with Real Bad Choice. I just got out, and briefly fell-into a rather mysogynistic rabbit hole. I kinda needed to be angry for a bit, but revisiting your channel, and this vid, has reminded me the reality is a little more subtle than the "all women are" (or aren't). You've reminded me that my wife of 25 years, while certainly not perfect nor immune to her "bee nature", was true, usually fair, and the biggest asset in my life -- besides myself. They're out there, gents, it's true...but man are they rare. I now wonder whether it's even possible to find another good one in my age group, considering all we both will have been through; Neither of us will be college kids like when my wife and I met. But I'm coming-around to almost believing it's worth a shot. Thanks for coaxing me out of the rabbit hole. :)
It sounds like heavy burden. So much effort and stress in order to find a girl, make impression and finally get her... And it's never over. I disagree that this is what it always takes. My parents are example. Yes, it's a constant effort, but when they love eachother they care about eachother and never consider moving somewhere else. Even if they are unhappy they would rather die. It is still an effort, but it's not that hard because they LOVE eachother. That's the real stimulation. And it's a powerful one. When there is trouble (like when someone in my family died or when my father lost his job) they stick together. It's a rare thing. And that's the promise people make when they get married. The problems is that nowadays people don't know what love actually is and they don't commit fully. There is always an escape route. Btw I want to say that your channel is one of the bests if not THE best out there. The other RUclipsrs are usually angry men seeking revenge or dishonest women afraid to admit their nature. You are honest and fair and you do understand men. That's rare and it's helpful. And it helps me understand women better. Thank you!
You spoke my own thoughts and feelings quite well. Also, it's important to keep in mind that the millions (possibly billion+) of people in rewarding long-term relationships aren't on the internet complaining about their plight. We mostly see just the bad examples. It's curious how virtually all communication about relationships are approached in terms of the "problem identification" instead of how to actually DEVELOP successful unions. One might possibly argue that it takes that identification. Whereas, the vast majority of people that are successful in ANYTHING as a lifestyle always focus on a foundation of what is successful by learning from other success. It's so much more than "10 tips and tricks to getting the guy/girl" or pop culture "Alpha/Beta" terminology(based on wolf pack structure proven to be utter nonsense -in fact, the very scientist that coined the labels regrets it completely). Many animals demonstrate far more integrity and actual LOVE than most humans. That's sad. It is simply far easier to get a divorce nowadays, for virtually any reason, than it was 30 years ago. That's a cultural result. Marriage isn't actually valued by the majority in the United States anymore beyond a means to legally bind assets. Vows are vastly meaningless . That holds demonstrably true despite all of the rhetoric and sentimentality. It's similar in MINDSET to modern Western economic practices. Over my lifetime it certainly seems our value of true relationship has degraded more towards that of cheap convenience in many ways - to be disposed of the moment we sense it might need some repair. We are taught that relationships are some form of mechanical and transactional interaction to be learned with methods. Love is NOT a method. Love is NOT transactional. Love knows NOTHING as a sacrifice. Love is NOT a warm fuzzy feeling all the time. Ask any good parent. Most of us literally see one another as nothing but ideas and images and are only really reacting to our own imaginations, calling it the "other". There's not a sense of deeper connection for so many of us that wins over even the most petty of issues. There is less and less love resulting in a growing cancer of despair and loneliness in many of our cultures. Over the years I have learned to see relationship isn't some preconceived set of conditions. I always started new ones from a foundation of seeking security in some form through the other's perceived traits and temporary life situation. Turns out the types of security I sought were a means to compensate for my own insecurities. Essentially, my relationship qualities were defined in large part by insecurities. Its also they same situation for the other person involved. That dynamic constantly playing out. Nowadays, my relationships with everyone are much more fruitful and satisfying. I worked diligently in myself to approach them without so many intentions of specific outcomes and finally began to FEEL that security and sense of love I always chased after. At work. Friendships. Family. That secure, loving feeling is naturally a BYPRODUCT of any healthy relationship - produced but can't actually be acquired through effort because the EFFORT to find it IS some form of insecurity itself.
You know, it's a bit funny, because I was just thinking about this kind of stuff before I see your answer. And I've completely forgot my comment even exist.
I do believe that the only woman who will ever have truly cared about you as a man is your mother. That's what I will be passing on to my son so he doesn't hold any silly fantasies about love that will only hurt him I'm the long run like it did me.
If it takes all this, unrelenting, perpetual vigilance and effort to keep a woman's interest it's not worth it. A man will just end up worn out both physically and mentally. In my own experience: no, women do not care - they're only after what a man can provide and when provisions dwindle, so do the women, and when the provisions come back, so do the women. I've been through it and I've seen my friends go through it. They get nothing from me anymore - I have more important work to do.
True that. It takes so much focus and effort. As soon as you have some shit going on (low energy, depression, carreer issues and such) and start on focusing some energy on that these women will bail and go see elsewhere.
I'm 68 and so glad I'm not 28 anymore and should be looking for a relationship. The image I get from many videos is that the capitalist free market system has also entered into relationship land. Looking at people in terms of high values, financially, socially, and appearance makes people into products that you trade in like you would a car, washing machine, or refrigerator when it no longer performs as well or when there is a newer, better model.
Yes, be glad. The dating market is a dumpster fire these days. Social media enhances this problem. Everyone markets themselves as brands to be purchased. I'm 47, and was with one person for 20+ years. Sticking my toe in the modern dating scene made me back away in horror & embrace being a modern-day monk. It used to be you had to compete with the guys in your neighborhood. Now you have to compete on a much wider scale, which doesn't favor the average man or woman. Women are pricing themselves out of the market, which is unfortunate both for them & for society. It used to be average guys gets average girl. Now, even the average girls want to pick guys from the top shelf. Not sure it is a capitalism issue, though. If so, bring back dowries. That way a guy can invest that money to pay her off when she cashes out down the line.
@@Mr._Anderpson Social media and dating apps ensure that there is an almost inexhaustible choice of partners and this is partly why people wonder if they have made the right choice for a partner and there may be a better choice somewhere. There's a Ted Talk about and an article "the tyranny of choice" Psychologist Barry Schwartz takes aim at a central tenet of western societies: freedom of choice. In Schwartz's estimation, choice has made us not freer but more paralyzed, not happier but more dissatisfied. What strikes me is that Friedman's economic thinking, "that growth is best and standing still leads to decay" is so reflected in the personal and dating world. People should always strive to become more, better, more handsome, more evolved. It creates a world in which people are never good enough and everyone wants to be in 1st place and then they are unhappy if they don't succeed. Infinite growth suffers so far in the history of mankind, to the end of civilizations, countries and people.
My take is the government has taken over most of the the necessity for men in every day life, so women only view men as an optional added luxury. Socialism would probably just make it even worse and completely ruin women's s3x drive.
Good stuff mam. And the hidden gem is that when a man learns how women operate he doesn't need to marry any of them. Enjoy the menu gentleman. But sampler's only. No entrees....
What remains unclear is why would a honest, hard working man want to need to entertain his woman by providing stimulation and chase after her attention AFTER their relationship has been established? No woman does that for her man! On the contrary! They provide challenges and difficulties all along the relationship!
Male in animal world are happiest male in every species, in humans they are bound to family structures and due to highly social structures we forget our own natural nature, we really don't worry about where our money goes and who waste it or use it, we just worry about our leadership , and peace in surroundings. And I think that's the reason why saints said, if you want to happy, stay away from women. Because it's theri responsibility to raise kids in every species male are only biologically involved while in humans, it's just opposite, here female is just biologically involved and male are raising kids, in animals, female goes and bring food and in humans, male goes ans bring food. Total stupidity
Yes but people are not animals unless you believe your a animal because you base your existence on Darwin's imagination theory.I don't I know the Christian God Jesus Christ created everything in existence.
Anna, let me get this straight. Women don't want to settle down in their 20s when men want them. They don't want to settle down until they are in their 30s and men don't want them anymore.
Actually, a few young women have figured out that cutting a good deal early is the best thing they can do. By 30, most women have lost 90% of their eggs. Deciding to "settle down" after 30, after they have been hosed by the whole circle, well, these women will not bond well...that carousel ruins her bonding ability.
When they reach 30 above, they desperately need a man no matter what age if he is younger or older they need a husband and children because they know the reality when they reach 30 or above.
One of my good friends just had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital…he survived…but when it initially happens…he quickly rose out of bed, and urgently yelled “I’m having a heart attack” …….his wife rolled out of bed went to the next room, and went back to sleep on the couch…my poor friend had to drive himself to the ER….he could have Fkn died…
Justincater8037 That's terrible.What a uncaring monster she is!I hope your friend is doing better.He deserves better than that.I will pray for him.✝️🙏🏻👍
"A key that opens a lot of locks is a valuable key"? Doesn't that depend on what's behind the door? If there's nothing worth having behind the doors it opens it's not really worth much, is it?
Even if women do care, they will force themselves to stop if it's good for themselves in some way. Its fine. Men should do that too! Leave her! Women don't say that they're willing to stop loving him/would leave for her own interests, because they need men to care about them even when its not in his best interest! If HIS survival or emotional/physical safety is threatened, she wants him to stay anyways. And guys do?! Men need to leave, more often. Men should do what's best for themselves and find a woman who's taking care of herself fully, who doesn't need you and you shouldn't need her. Women don't want to have to do anything to be valuable. Men copy this behavior from women and women hate it. Men don't have to ask for what they want anymore than women do. Just prepare for a life alone and then date freely. If she wants to leave, close the door. If she has a wandering eye, she'll always have a wandering eye. If she doesn't want to be a benefit to your life, there's no reason to be a benefit to her. Just make yourself happy. She can come and go, and it shouldn't change your day. What a cute memory she'll be. Bye!
Men also "need to feel safe" re a woman's faithfulness and gratitude but those aren't priorities in women's acculturation and no institutions dare call them on it
I agree. I'll call them on it right here. Step up ladies! It's not a one way (your way) street! p.s. I wrote a 30 point article for women on what they need to do to step up, you can find the full manifesto here: wingmam.com/women/2020/05/05/how-to-be-more-beautiful-30-tips/ Please feel free to share if you dare!
I kind of disagree with the stimulation part. Because I never stopped giving her the same stimulation that I did in the beginning. She still lost interest. So I would say giving her too much stimulation is also a bad thing. Sometimes you have to pull back so she can crave that stimulation again
So what's in it for men? When do we get our constant source of stimulation. What about my needs? Life isn't a movie or a fairy tail. There is a lot of hard work that needs to be done everyday that is boring. How about growing up and taking care of yourself instead of looking for some man to do the heavy lifting? How about talking about your needs first instead of jumping in bed with the next source of stimulation?
I thought there would be a compelling defense. A sort of, "No, women are NOT monsters!" But there wasn't. There wasn't at all. I'm completely floored right now.
It is very apparent that people can't help but to conflate issues, and become so lost in the sauce they can't figure out WHAT is right or accurate. It doesn't matter if woman really care about you, or have the ability to love you. What matters is the critical path issue, that woman are driven by their emotions, and that makes them unreliable, whether they care about you or not.
Good vid! Most chickens I dated didn't give a damn about me. No matter how much I spent or time or even they crying on my shoulder. Single now n loving it! No stress....😄😍 Wheeee!
Thank you, you have shown in your video what I have found out about fee-males in my 64 years. Fee-males aren't worth the time, trouble and the he11 they put men through. Went my own way 18 years ago, and I'm so much better off without a fee-male in my life. And without a single benefit for a man to marry or cohabitate, and the high chance(up to 90%) he will either be financially graped, or falsely accused of a crime(or both), makes any LTR a lose lose situation for him. The only winning move is not to play.
So basically when you stop providing her with those heightened emotions she'll look to another man for those. So she cant be loyal. And that's ok I'll just treat her like garbage and eventually she'll leave anyway.
They kinda don’t They don’t wanna hurt my feelings But they couldn’t wait to step over me and find a new guy, 2 girls I was involved with, we shared our deepest secrets, laughed so hard all the time, never lived together but done everything else, and now when I talk to them, I feel like a stranger, and they can’t wait to get away from me,but I can tell they don’t wanna hurt my feelings, what a waste of my time, don’t lead a guy on if you just keeps him around til ur stud comes along Just buy a vibrator and be by urself
Don't chase her..... Never let her know where she stands with you..... Now, you don't have to be a jerk or anything..... but once you give that BF vibe, its all she wrote.
Never. I’ll repeat it. Never tell a women a innermost anything. Never apologize, never complain that you are hurt. Never talk about your financial situation. Never show any signs of weakness. Never get married, and never have anything to do with a woman with children at home.
Men and women are not made for long term romantic relationships. The "work" to keep her stimulated is just a proof of that. Nature , through evolution, made men and women fall in love, and attract each other just enough time so that they can procreate - that's about the proverbial 3 years that the love lasts. After that, when the high goes, gooooodluck keeping a woman entertained and also provide for a family.
Agreed, although evolutionarily it could be beneficial to have many kids with the same partner so you'd think more women would sustain attraction but i guess not.
I'm a married man. I'm trying to recover from mistakes I've made and trying to find a way to reignite her passion for me. She still loves me but more of a friend now.
relationships is supposed to be uplifting and the strong love they truly share for one another as best friends and as lovers it should not be about money nor is it about being high maintenance it's love i mean real love for one another, a person who truly loves you will always stay by you're side and you would not have to worry about them cheating on you ether , if you have to work that hard to keep a woman happy just for her to stay with you, just get rid of her she not for you because if she truly loves you she is going to stay by you're side period, she would also be happy to just chill and go out for coffee she should be you're best friend and uplifting not high maintenance
The last point you made was about the value people bring into each others lives- Well what kind of value does a 30+ woman who can't cook, has no knowledge of raising children, 0 femininity, and has been around the "carousel" more than a few times, what does bring to the table for the proverbial "good man" ? Close to nothing, and you essentially admit that earlier in the video when you say 20-something's don't want to settle down because they have options. They have options, because they are 20-something. The moment they lose those "options" they start to seek out a "good man." It's like you're on the tip of honesty but can't go that last metaphorical mile to finish the journey.
It's as if men are the only one's that have to change and be responsible for everything in these videos. Apparently women aren't capable of changing or being responsible for anything. But somehow they're supposed to be the catch. Don't think so ladies! Time to grow up!
@@tommygun5038 She's dodging the truth and I can't blame her, it would take major self-analysis of her own nature, as well as destroying her businesses / career if she instead pointed out the truth to men- Women today are damaged, broken beyond repair.
@@tommygun5038 like the setter in a volleyball game.. the setter touches the ball on every play, gives it to the hitter and the hitter gets all the attention... dammit..
Fellas, 2 minutes and 11 seconds into this post Mat is spot on correct!! Now do you remember all the life experiences that confirmed what Matt has said??? Yeah, I do as well. I’m going with what Matt is teaching!! Thank You Matt !!!
Good decent men are just disappointed, disgusted and fed up with nearly all women these days. Finding a good woman with old fashioned traditional family values, who is loyal and committed to our relationship, is like finding life on Mars. Zero, nothing, nada. Stay single my brothers , you live longer
@@danielsalazar6211 you live a lot longer...PS: midlife crisis is myth perpetuated by the same women after the have ridden the CC till their broken ( not even figuratively 🤮🤮🤮). They hate that men at the same age can still have fun...enjoy your life Fellas even into your 40's and 50's. And yes Disgust is a great way to describe the feeling brother... The Wall is undefeated!!!
When I was in college I was known as the nice guy; and yes! you are 100% right, we finish last. After many years that part changed drastically for the better, I realized that most men and women have little understanding in how different they are. Learning a woman's wants and needs are critical, and! how they think, once both parties reach that level it increases the chance of a successful relationship. However, as you pointed out the relationship must be stimulated in a variety of ways in order to keep the sparkle alive. Dating is a exciting time until couples move into together, "and that is when the real test begins".
I’m enough. Caring, as an expectation of it, is important and needs to be authentic and non-toxic. It is not an absolute. If free, it is powerful and a healer.
In this day and age, women are the last thing I'm concerned about... Freedom. Nothing you do will ever be enough... I have three women chasing me.. all of witch have boyfriends. And a fourth who is married .. Really!! Really!! Nothing personal but no thanks!!
Your story reminds me of the Eagles song Take It Easy. Well, I'm running down the road Tryin' to loosen my load I've got seven women on my mind Four that wanna own me Two that wanna stone me One says she's a friend of mine Take it easy Take it easy Don't let the sound of your own wheels Drive you crazy
If the woman gets bored, she will either dump the man or have the desire to do so. If a man gets bored, it's unlikely he will do the same. Matt's right.
Are women THAT uncaring? Yes and No. As long as you’re her child, attractive, or relevant to her success, then she (generally) cares much for you. Women move on fast; Men learn slowly. It’s an Unforgiving harmony.
@@YourWingmam the sexes are pressed to even agree on the definition of the word “love”. Can women love in their own way? Absolutely. Can women love up to the standards that they have set? Arguably not. Everyone flocks to these videos to ask if a female *can* love, but very few are asking if a woman *should* .
@@arnoldjohnson3317if the average woman, finds the average man to be an inappropriate mate, then why bother? An advantage that us men have is that loneliness can often be cured with Dogs and personal fulfillment.
When women get bored and unfaithful, that's just the way the bee is and we shouldn't get mad or try to change it. But when men finish the hunt and grow complacent, we need to fix ourselves and man up.
So you'd rather for for a bad one? Why not hold out for a good one. Even an average woman can love a man. You just have to watch out for the low value throwbacks!
@@YourWingmam HOW does a woman "Love a man??? You never seem to answer this...EVER. dont tell me about what he has to maintain this and do that. HOW does.she love him??? how? How does her love her like? Abscent of him being the perfect stud alpha...how does she love him.??? Crickets and tumbleweeds
Yes, that’s the other thing I relaxed. We had been together 20 years. at about 15 years I relaxed, Mistake. never relax. Always realize you have to do different things to keep them interested. They’re not like we are, they don’t enjoy peace they enjoy drama, constant change, constant excitement.
i've watched this video multiple times now. Each time i do, it makes me less and less interested in women. i'm not a toy or trinket to be traded away. No thanks, ladies.
Anna: "Survival is instinctive." False. The drive to avoid death and satisfy the requirements of life may be instinctive or reflex-driven, but HOW we answer those drives is a matter of conscious thought, and there is no escape from that.
Take the persuasive word out of common sense (good woman) every time when people run out of argument bring abstract words as , love, good, etc. I think Matt is quite real in his observation.😉
It's not a man's place to entertain and always keep her stimulated. Is it A Woman's Place do the same for a man no. You cannot make the other person the source of your happiness. You have to find your own happiness within yourself.
Now I know why she went to him. They are both musicians and singers, and he plays with more people than her. I didn’t know I could sing until the last two years and by then our relationship was pretty much over with. She got me into singing, and she got me into singing lessons. She got me up on stage and have me sing a song with her. I love it so now I sing karaoke and I’m learning to play the guitar and I really enjoy music. Whole new adventure for me. I’m not doing it for her. I’m doing it for me. I love the excitement of getting up on stage and singing, and letting people hear my voice, I’ve had many women come up to me and tell me they love my voice. Some actually very young compared to me.
I watched until 9:38 and lost my patience because of 2 reasons: 1. "I have a good argument/example but I'll reveal it later hihi" No, if you have an argument say it right away, make your point. It feels like you are manipulating. 2. The constant blue pill BS of blaming the men for setting too high expectations in the start and not following through later on. This is ridiculous because we all know in today's world most women won't take a second to look at a guy if he's not up to certain high standards. Either his social status, or money, or looks or power or all together(depends what a specific woman likes most). So we are not suppose to set high expectations right? it should be like: "Hey, I'm an average looking modest guy and I offer you a modest life, nothing special and exciting about me, come be my girl." This could hypothetically work in some perfect world where all men would make a consensus to behave like that, but in our world full of competition no way, guy presenting himself as modest will just be ignored by most girls. Just take dating apps for example, guys who are average and bellow average get 0 interest from women.
Ema and Anava can't read or something, but I hear ya, because I know what you talk about. Women have no idea what goes into dating from the "man's side", because they don't care.
Widower, married 54 years, Men are task-oriented. We've completed the task, won fair maiden, done! Not so, Men, courting NEVER ends. If you're not courting this wonderful creature, she may start questioning the why she's with you.
@@YourWingmam just read the fluffy empty article NO woman will ever read...so surface and trying so hard to go easy on women. Ma'am I think you should consider reacting to RedPill content
I was married for 20 years and we had 4 children. I did try to go out with her once a week, the reality is that the finances were limited, time was limited. I was overwhelmed. Needless to say I am divorced. I will stay single.
N bat shit cray cray isn't new guys or gals, and age doesn't matter either if one of you wants out , or to not pursue it , #MeToo , ladies attach and the cray you gotta wade thru 😜 if your not ready for real relationship tell them up front before you go out you just want sex with them , this also cuts out the girls who your not ever going to be interested in once you marry them
Either she wasn't a keeper or you acted too attached and needy. A woman needs to see a man looking for another job. Big hug, thanks for watching my videos!
Thanks for all the time and effort you put into preparing and making these videos. Great content and advice that is heard and willingly implemented into life. You are appreciated! Thanks!
You will know when you find the right one she will just want to be with you, just don't be a simp,if she's interested in you she will give you her time and do things with you, just listen to your intuition and take your time.
I think finding a good woman.... or in the women's case a good man .... nowadays is like searching for a needle in a haystack....There are a lot of hurt and stuck in the past people with lots of issues, walking around in life.. You have all the chances to meet one of those people most of the time. So good luck in dating, friends.
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There are only 2 things that make a woman unhappy:
1) Getting what she wants.
2) Not getting what she wants.
If after knowing this, you still proceed then it's on you....
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
priceless😄🤣
And it's your fault she's like that.
Hypergamy. 101....guys
So true
Thrice dated women needing "stimulation" all the time and it was the most god awful, exhausting, distracting, stress inducing, annoying as hell experiences of my life. No thanks. A man has better and more important things to do than constantly have to perform upkeep on and keep entertained another grown-ass adult whose loyalty and commitment to our shared relationship is only as strong as my acting and entertainment chops.
Here here! Well said!
💯facts.
it's actually because many guys do this that those women start to expect all guys to be clowns for their own entertainment
it's kinda same when guys hand with their pales, you find yourself wasting your money on beer an time staying late with a bunch of losers
while you could have use that money and time to make your life better
women at least provide more entertainement and pleasure than those loser pales, but if they are losers too, then it;s nothing different
@@zazugee oh I dont know. I have spent time with my loser pals and i have spent time with women and I gotta say, you women are not nearly as fun or entertaining as you think you are.
Yes, read the online dating "About" sections on these dating apps and these women want to ski, mountain climb, do all the water sports, run marathons, and on and on and on...Good luck to them, I like to relax when I'm not exercising, working, spending time with my child etc..They're on the dating sites for a reason.
If you want to know how much women's "love" is really just shopping for their own needs, wait till something earth shattering happens like losing a parent or pet or a job and you break down even momentarily. Life has been a very harsh teacher to us, but I now think truth actually loves us better than any woman could.
There is not a woman who was ever born, that has EVER, loved a man, and never will, it's all about what you can give them.
That's why there's a saying that a woman's love for a man is "conditional".
The boss I use to work for told me a saying I will always remember. "When poverty comes to the door, love goes out the window"
True story. When my dad passed away and it clearly significantly bothered me my wife no shit said "yeah well, we all lose loved ones". That was the moment I knew.
@@kiwia8271 Unfortunately that’s untrue. I’ve been in relationships with 3 women who truly loved me and would do anything for me. But they’re weren’t the ones for me, I’ve witnessed their distress and despair, but I wasn’t happy so had to move on.
She could hardly hold in the smile when she said do women really care about you.She knows the real answer to that.
I was probably thinking about comments like yours lol Here's another video: Can she love you? ruclips.net/video/3M1DDmTuPrI/видео.html
You are right.
Pretending to be kind , loving , caring to get a Gucci bag , to get diamonds .
I don’t think women care , I agree with Matt 100%
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
@@YourWingmam
you welcome , I recently found your channel , just started to watch your videos .
I am learning a lot , Keep up the great work .
I appreciate you and your hard work
You get what you pay for. Rule 1: If she's attracted to bright shiny things, she is attracted to bright shiny things. Rule 2: If you find yourself questioning their character, drop'm like a hot potato. Rule 3: Determine who you are and don't settle for less. Life is a journey, if you have to constantly stop to do maintenance, your journey won't go far. Find another honest traveler and see where the journey goes.
Brilliant point: "Life is a journey, if you have to constantly stop to do maintenance, your journey won't go far. "
Excellent post.
Tom Leykis on the radio decades ago:
So many of his make call ins were guys clinging desperately to really awful women!
Absolutely, sir!
agreed...best advice ever...
And that's why I've been single the majority of my dating life the past 30 years
I wish I knew these facts when I was 12 years old. I could have saved myself a lifetime of hurt, disappointment and grief. I should have gotten a dog.
Well, if you decide to try again, you'll know when to hold 'em and when to walk away. Big hug
Me too I've been to hell and back trying to please women. Now occasional sex nothing else.
😭 i feel you man. i feel you.
@@YourWingmamShe monkey branched...I fell asleep at the wheel. But then, that doesn't mean it's ok to cheat. Then walk on away from our lives together. I'm better off, like you said. She was a ten, but not high value. She was very high maintenance.
@@YourWingmam Sure, he'll still be single...only with an unhealthy dose of hope, as in, "maybe the next one."
Saying "hypergamy is natural" is essentially true, but it's still BS to say it and just leave it hang there as if it justified something. Saying that hypergamy is natural as a justification for hurting someone else or lying as if the observation justified the behavior deprives women of moral agency, of their humanity. It renders them animals. When we claim hypergamy is natural, well, so is the human propensity to predation, but if you prey upon other human beings you are behaving immorally, criminally, anti-socially, and most importantly: self-destructively. Saying that the underlying drive is "natural" does not excuse acting on that drive in ways that are destructive. Our drives are natural; how we respond to our drives is what distinguishes what kind of human being we are.
This is a fair critique. If all men can be classified as predators then it is fair to classify all women as opportunists. Can't pick and choose.
I agree
Men aren't predators. But women are naturally hypergamous. Societies had rules to control this biological drive in women.
@@explosivetwist That's because we live in societies now which are unnatural in terms of evolution. In older societies, even and average run of the mill man would be of significant value to women. Whereas in westernized nations the governments have taken over men's major roles and men are not useful to women accept for extremely selective looks (6'3 chad) or significant boost in comfort of living (for example a waitress dating a doctor). The only guys that are below average i see with women are families from third world countries where all men are valued by women because they offer strength, protection, and higher status in society.
Don't understand your comment. What is wrong with hypergamy. How is it immoral? Having high standards is a good thing.
When it comes to women actions speak louder than words it really doesn't matter what she says
WISH I HAD READ THIS A YEAR AGO.
When a woman says she is supportive of you and she can’t be found anywhere nearby when you’re down, that’s the support you’ll get from her.
Been single the last 10 years and having the time of my life and never had more peace . Highly recommend it
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Mark... I'm going thru divorce now, and I haven't had this much peace in almost 25 years.
"Hypergamy" is just another word for "Gold Digger & Social Climber".
Then earn more
@@pm8401 Or look for someone who doesn't tell you to earn more
@@lunarmystic9896 Yup
Hypergamy = Hyper-Gamer
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The truth is women get bored with the same stimulation they received at the beginning of their relationship anyhow....they're always seeking something from a "different energy" or man. Different dress, shoes, meal, holiday etc, etc.. never content. Insatiable beings. It's a no win situation for the man. Been there done that STAY SINGLE.
"Relationships require ongoing effort."
From the man.
All she has to do is spread....
A woman’s love is a feeling she gets when countless conditions have been met, when those conditions change the feeling vanishes and she’s looking elsewhere for a man that can meet those conditions. Matt was right, it’s not you that they care about, it’s the just a feeling that they’re addicted to, like an emotional junkie.
False False...
True love is a warm and happy feeling that comes from being loved and living in someone else's heart
1 fact debunks all of this video: Women are perfectly ok with sharing a man they actually want. All the rules and restrictions are there for the guys they merely tolerate. The guys these women want can do what ever they want with zero negative reactions from the women themselves .
There's a shelf life on her being ok with sharing ;) unless she's damaged goods
All people are damaged goods
@@YourWingmam Yes, the shelf life corresponds roughly to around the time the eggs are ready to be tossed out, if I'm not mistaken.
💯facts
Not really, she will consider the other woman as a threat to her safety or even her kids' if she have any so that willingness will end sooner than you think :)
My experience tells me Matt is correct. Women are attracted to the lifestyle the man can provide. Not the man himself. The woman continues to raise the bar to the point of failure.
Right!!! and they will fail and fall if they do not make a self adjustment in their attitude and behavior. I already have told women that they will not win!!! Because, men choose who they marry if they choose to.
True, they want equality in everything except they wanna keep the traditional perks of being a woman.
It's only skanks who are attracted to the lifestyle a man can provide for them,
Because women live life on easy mode
Yup, notice how she kept putting blame on the man, even nagging and weaponized sex. So, this is why we don’t listen to women. They don’t communicate effectively. Truth hurts.
I met a divorced woman. Her ex-husband travelled a lot and had many different women. She told him its either them or me. He said they are many. You are just one.
hahaha savagery at its best.
LOL why would a man like that get married in the 1st place.. Seems counterintuitive 🤔
@@SlyPsycho men are brainwashed into marriage since early childhood, but they wisen up by the moment the marriage contract is signed, and the beautiful girl he married turns into something completely different.
@@SlyPsycho it’s a good look for society and your reputation (all about appearances)
But as we all know what’s going on behind closed doors 🚪 can be a completely different story
@@kevinboss55 Good thing we now live in an era in which it's normal to be single, and we are no longer expected to "go through the motions".
"Set your expectations low, that way you'll never be disappointed" - Homer Simpson
If better is possible is good good enough?
Yep, sometimes it is! ;) ~ me lol
Guess that’s why Homer filed for divorce. He had low expectations of his wife but he wasn’t disappointed.
@@64maxpower Ugly is likely to show great loyalty.
Not sure if you're familiar with Redd Foxx the comedian. In his act he says " marry an ugly woman so when she leaves you, you'll be happy"
@@kennyb9058 I know a rich guy that married the ugliest woman he could find. She divorced him walked away with 4 million.
Well, after several decades of life experience, I agree with Bill Burr, who once said: "Do you know what makes women happy? - Nothing!" 😂
Notice how when she says women really don't care about you? She is almost about to burst into laughter 😆 chameleon alert
No, it's because I knew I'd get comments like yours lol Can she love you? ruclips.net/video/3M1DDmTuPrI/видео.html
No she's not. She's telling the truth.
@@YourWingmam aaa so you pretended to burst into laughter to bait a comment like mine? Deception at its finest:D is that reverse psychology gaslighting or what? 😆
@@ernohorvath2594 my sentiment exactly
@@ernohorvath2594 she just wants you to watch more of her vids lol. she aint shit like the rest of them
Seems like a lot of work and drama. I think when 2 people are ideal, compatible and attracted to each other, it's not so complicated. People try to force what is not going to work. We should all just be the best versions of ourselves so we attract the partner that likes who we are, (granted that our best version is a healthy, responsible, moral and giving person)
Agree. It shouldn't be such an ordeal.
And even when you are the best version of yourself with all the criteria you listed, it also requires finding someone who is emotionally available and not into mind games......a rarity amongst the women I've dated, unfortunately
Exactly! You totally understand, sir!
@@amorosogombe9650 Absolutely!
@@Lonstermash Truly! 👊👊👏👏🙏🙏
I wish I could find women who make ME feel safe with THEIR financial lifestyles, as opposed to most of the ones I meet who are barely getting by and living above their means with a ton of debt and little to no retirement savings and investments, lol
You my friend win the internet for today
@@MatthewGalpin89 yes, he also earned my respect.
Remember bro,
Love and God exist within person not outside, its just attraction and don't call it love , it changes time to time, the only difference is, women are free in life, have no responsibilities, so they can make drama and can easily while men can't do that because of short of time.
@@satyendrsingh6071 100%
Ahh my good man, that's why they want the so called high value men!!!🤙😀😅
@@katashi222 yep. And I'm like, "What do YOU bring to the table besides nice looks that will fade in 10 to 20 years?"
It's practically pointless to crave for a stable relationship or marraige in this day and age..some women do care but yes they are a rare breed..or shall I say a dying breed..so why exhaust yourself to search for that one woman all your life..instead focusing on yourself and learning to stay alone is a wiser move IMO.
I truly believe that every woman I've been with never cared about me. Even the two I married and I never understood why ☹️
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
pump and dump
I have to say, the cutest part of my separation was when she called me one day and was asking me where something was at in the house, her house cause I had moved out. She told me she didn’t realize how much I did around the house and for her business that’s at the house. That made me feel really good. She seen that she was taking me for granted. I feel like I’m better off.
She regretted letting you go
@@YourWingmam she regretted letting me go?
She also asked me if she got put in jail would I come pay her bond?
She had never been in trouble before, so I asked, are you in jail? She said no. Would you come pay my bond? I said, yes.
She quit texting.
Excitement, stimulation, attention, gifts etc. - you can’t expect getting the same amount of everything as you were in the beginning of the relationship. It’s your responsibility, both men and women to find all that within yourself. It’s not your partner’s duty to constantly stimulate you, excite you etc. Good content as usual 👍
Never said constant stimulation, but when you offer a product (you) make sure the warranty doesn't run out (what was offered). Both should make an effort. The relationships that succeed (are happy) are ones where both make an effort. And yes, everyone is also responsible for their own happiness! :)
Just read that comment sylvio1980 and it's close to my thoughts.
@@YourWingmam Love that answer. ;-)
These things were dialed back as I recognized lack of appreciation.
Absolutely!
"Women don't build, they Move in" 🙂😉🙄👍
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Not without paying or helping with rent and groceries with some intimacy they don't.
Remember men and women have different concepts of love. It doesn't matter if it's my mother or my daughters or the woman I'm trying to date. If they show concern about your well-being there is always a transactional component attached. Women in general are opportunistic lovers. I have learned to deal with this unflattering aspect of female nature and I'm happier because of it. I just wish society would catch up to these red pill truths.
Men’s love= unconditional
Woman’s love= conditional
Generalising but mostly accurate.
I would agree with the mothers love. There has been multiple times i have bashed my mom and hurt her but she loves me no matter what and majority of the moms do except some toxic its sad that you had a bad mom growing up. My condolenses to you.
Not your daughters and your mother dude...that's a stretch my friend
@@ZFosterZ bullshit
@@sirro4362Mike Tyson said Your mother loves you for your own survival, Your Wife loves you for her own survival.
No matter how much you invest in a relationship as a man, at a certain point its value becomes zero. There's no way around that, not even with unicorns.
Strictly from an investment perspective, one of the worst possible choices. Smart men've already figured this out, so it's gonna be way harder for the ladies to lock down a worthwhile man than ever before.
Amen!
Yep
The longer you talk, the more I realize my choice of dog was immeasurably better than trying to please any other woman again, ever. Absolutely not worth it.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
With respect, I'd like to get your husband's opinion on this issue.
Just as I do not trust a skinny chef, I am skeptical of an unmarried relationship counselor. Show me you can ride a horse before you start giving me tips on how to handle one.
Yes, men stop pursuing after a while. This is normal. There is no reason a guy should have to maintain the level of pursuit shown in early dating 10-20 years into a relationship. Women have sold themselves an unrealistic romantic fantasy. If you have to keep buying her trinkets & deluging her with compliments, she is being unrealistic. Yes, women need more stimulation. Like an infant, you have to keep jangling the keys in front of her eyes to keep her attention. Simply not worth it.
While the video says we should accept a woman's nature and keep providing dopamine hits for her validation addiction, there is never any commentary that women should also accept a man's nature and realize it isn't going to stay at the hot & heavy beginner level forever. Sort of like how we assume a woman cheats because a man has failed to provide something. A man who cheats is told he is selfish & immature, a pig. A woman who cheats should be told she is selfish and immature, a sow.
Women who are 30+ or even 40+ or 50+ still expect to be chased just as much as a young hottie. See above section regarding unrealistic fantasies.
"there is never any commentary that women should also accept a man's nature and realize it isn't going to stay at the hot & heavy beginner level forever" - yea, but that is not going to happen, so you can either accept it or not have a woman.
@@gondor532 Agreed. I guess I'll cry myself to sleep on the money I'm not wasting. Women want to be equals until they realize that means they might need to come to the negotiating table and not get everything they want. Life is too short to feed into that level of delusion.
WOW!!! Well spoken sir, I fully agree. I also await your other volumes of work. I await the book.📕
Shinny keys in front of an infant, good one.
Not only 8s 9s and 10s are seeking validation through social media. There's also plenty of 3s 4s and 5s who THINK they are 8s 9s and 10s who now became entitled, demanding, and think they are the bomb. The world owes them everything.
Yes, women suffer from a vicarious perception of SMV. They might get railed by an 8 or a 9 and suddenly think they're 9s themselves. Some call it the "Alpha Widow" syndrome.
@@Mr._Anderpson Yeah. Just because we bang a girl, it doesn't mean that we want to wife her up.
Not me! I owe no one anything. You get what you put in with me. You put in crap, I give you crap in return.
8, 9, & 10’s become 3, 4, & 5’s after they marry.
And there is nothing you can do about it.
And the stupid new feminist movement doesn’t help them at all
Honest question: if alpha men should go after their own goals and success and can have their pick of the best women...why would they want to commit and settle for one woman rather than sleep with all the beautiful women? What's the value for them in commitment to one women? As you say, you can't stop a bee being a bee. Why stop men sleeping with all the women? Doesn't it work both ways?
becos women eventually wake up to them and themselves
Dude you're so right
I guess it depends on what that mans goals are. If his goal is to bed a lot of women, then he shouldn't commit to one girl. If he found a great girl who fits his life style and he fits hers then they can become a team. Did I answer right?
@@64maxpower You're right too but Neil's comments imply that men's nature is to bed most women possible. And the video argues that if women's nature is being like a bee so let them be. So why there are so many complaints about men nature? If you apply the same logic both sides two sides are correct.
Relationships aren't just about Sex for one...
Several months ago, My GF and I had a conversation about what's the most important thing in our lives. My answer, my business. (I'm self employed). She never really gave me an answer but I'm pretty sure its her kids. Anyway, moving forward, she got mad at me about a week ago, told me to leave, as in breaking up, so, I started packing my things to leave, without any discussion. She kept closing the bedroom door and wanted to talk to me, preventing me from putting my stuff in my Jeep. After about two hours of this, she finally confessed that she doesn't like the fact that my business is the most important thing to me and wanted me to make "her" the most important thing in my life. I neither agreed nor disagreed and only said that I understood what she was saying. She told me she wanted me to stay because she feels safe with me. Reluctantly, I stayed. I'm 110% sure, she will get mad at me again, tell me to leave and try to convince me to stay, but I'm done. Honestly, there is no benefit at all for me to stay in this relationship.
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Dude it was a shit test and you passed don’t worry
@@tranformersaddiction Not worried, I'm living with her for free and the intimacy is great.
Just a question..did she accused you of cheating? If yes, run brother she is cheating on you.. I noticed this pattern from my previous relationship.. they red flag is "they start picking up fights with you for no reason, accuse you of cheating.. they complain that they feel less important in ur eyes etc..."
@@xodeproductio8339 No, she did not accuse me of cheating. She's hopelessly dependent on me, but in a good kinda way. We've had several deep conversations since then. I make sure her actions coincide with here words. So far, so good. She knows I'll walk away in a millisecond if the status quo changes. I'm the only one that has something to loose.
Plz review Matt's "Why you should never take advice from a woman"
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I agree with you that there are a "few" good women, but they are indeed rare. After experiencing the pain of being betrayed by self centered women, I feel it is safer, less work and more peaceful to fly alone or at my age, (65) remain open to a relationship with a widow that was a good wife.
News for you. family friend wife died when she was 60. They had built a life raising the kids paying off the house. Lonely and 5 yrs on at 65 he met and married someone. They lived together for 7 yrs or so until one day she wasn't happy. In his 70s she divorced him.
She was awarded a large sum and also alimony. So he sold the house to pay her from that. He paid her from his modest pension a monthly sum as well.
Now in his 90s he lives in an expensive apartment in Vancouver hand to mouth just scraping by.
And where is ex? Shacked up with another man but not married because she would lose the alimony. So there you have it.
They only see you as an end to a means. You're a paycheck nothing more.
Be very careful
@@logisticstransfer2475
Spot on. They swordfish method is best. Always practice Catch and Release gents!. Great post thanks for sharing!
Women gets really bored with you when Chad is showing her some interest!
@@stevenpower1804
Ive been seeing this young woman on and off for 4 yrs. (Never trusted her)
She sat in my living room drunk a month ago and threatened to call the cops. Make a false claim of domestic abuse. We had been arguing because she smashed my car. I hadn't been drinking. I watched her show me what life would be like if she lived with me.
She falsely accused me of physical abuse. And she also threatened to state that I had been driving. At time she wrecked the vehicle.
I video all of it. When she finally realized I had her incriminating herself she then attacked me trying to get the cell phone from me.
I learned my lesson back in the 80s with them. Over the yrs I never let them in fully. Distrusted them forevermore
@@logisticstransfer2475 I think it's a business decision. Get a prenup and postnup.
Ana, after my wife died in 2018 and I finally started thinking about leaving the house last year, your vids were a boost. I didn't listen closely enough, though, and fell-in with Real Bad Choice. I just got out, and briefly fell-into a rather mysogynistic rabbit hole. I kinda needed to be angry for a bit, but revisiting your channel, and this vid, has reminded me the reality is a little more subtle than the "all women are" (or aren't). You've reminded me that my wife of 25 years, while certainly not perfect nor immune to her "bee nature", was true, usually fair, and the biggest asset in my life -- besides myself. They're out there, gents, it's true...but man are they rare. I now wonder whether it's even possible to find another good one in my age group, considering all we both will have been through; Neither of us will be college kids like when my wife and I met. But I'm coming-around to almost believing it's worth a shot. Thanks for coaxing me out of the rabbit hole. :)
Philipines
It sounds like heavy burden. So much effort and stress in order to find a girl, make impression and finally get her... And it's never over. I disagree that this is what it always takes. My parents are example. Yes, it's a constant effort, but when they love eachother they care about eachother and never consider moving somewhere else. Even if they are unhappy they would rather die. It is still an effort, but it's not that hard because they LOVE eachother. That's the real stimulation. And it's a powerful one. When there is trouble (like when someone in my family died or when my father lost his job) they stick together. It's a rare thing. And that's the promise people make when they get married.
The problems is that nowadays people don't know what love actually is and they don't commit fully. There is always an escape route.
Btw I want to say that your channel is one of the bests if not THE best out there. The other RUclipsrs are usually angry men seeking revenge or dishonest women afraid to admit their nature.
You are honest and fair and you do understand men. That's rare and it's helpful. And it helps me understand women better. Thank you!
Well Said!!!💯🤙
You spoke my own thoughts and feelings quite well. Also, it's important to keep in mind that the millions (possibly billion+) of people in rewarding long-term relationships aren't on the internet complaining about their plight. We mostly see just the bad examples. It's curious how virtually all communication about relationships are approached in terms of the "problem identification" instead of how to actually DEVELOP successful unions. One might possibly argue that it takes that identification. Whereas, the vast majority of people that are successful in ANYTHING as a lifestyle always focus on a foundation of what is successful by learning from other success. It's so much more than "10 tips and tricks to getting the guy/girl" or pop culture "Alpha/Beta" terminology(based on wolf pack structure proven to be utter nonsense -in fact, the very scientist that coined the labels regrets it completely). Many animals demonstrate far more integrity and actual LOVE than most humans. That's sad.
It is simply far easier to get a divorce nowadays, for virtually any reason, than it was 30 years ago. That's a cultural result. Marriage isn't actually valued by the majority in the United States anymore beyond a means to legally bind assets. Vows are vastly meaningless . That holds demonstrably true despite all of the rhetoric and sentimentality. It's similar in MINDSET to modern Western economic practices. Over my lifetime it certainly seems our value of true relationship has degraded more towards that of cheap convenience in many ways - to be disposed of the moment we sense it might need some repair. We are taught that relationships are some form of mechanical and transactional interaction to be learned with methods. Love is NOT a method. Love is NOT transactional. Love knows NOTHING as a sacrifice. Love is NOT a warm fuzzy feeling all the time. Ask any good parent. Most of us literally see one another as nothing but ideas and images and are only really reacting to our own imaginations, calling it the "other". There's not a sense of deeper connection for so many of us that wins over even the most petty of issues. There is less and less love resulting in a growing cancer of despair and loneliness in many of our cultures.
Over the years I have learned to see relationship isn't some preconceived set of conditions. I always started new ones from a foundation of seeking security in some form through the other's perceived traits and temporary life situation. Turns out the types of security I sought were a means to compensate for my own insecurities. Essentially, my relationship qualities were defined in large part by insecurities. Its also they same situation for the other person involved. That dynamic constantly playing out. Nowadays, my relationships with everyone are much more fruitful and satisfying. I worked diligently in myself to approach them without so many intentions of specific outcomes and finally began to FEEL that security and sense of love I always chased after. At work. Friendships. Family. That secure, loving feeling is naturally a BYPRODUCT of any healthy relationship - produced but can't actually be acquired through effort because the EFFORT to find it IS some form of insecurity itself.
You know, it's a bit funny, because I was just thinking about this kind of stuff before I see your answer. And I've completely forgot my comment even exist.
When she got older no one gives a sh...t..
I do believe that the only woman who will ever have truly cared about you as a man is your mother. That's what I will be passing on to my son so he doesn't hold any silly fantasies about love that will only hurt him I'm the long run like it did me.
I do believe it's best to under promise, then if there's an over delivery it's a pleasant surprise :)
If it takes all this, unrelenting, perpetual vigilance and effort to keep a woman's interest it's not worth it. A man will just end up worn out both physically and mentally. In my own experience: no, women do not care - they're only after what a man can provide and when provisions dwindle, so do the women, and when the provisions come back, so do the women. I've been through it and I've seen my friends go through it. They get nothing from me anymore - I have more important work to do.
True that. It takes so much focus and effort. As soon as you have some shit going on (low energy, depression, carreer issues and such) and start on focusing some energy on that these women will bail and go see elsewhere.
I'm 68 and so glad I'm not 28 anymore and should be looking for a relationship. The image I get from many videos is that the capitalist free market system has also entered into relationship land. Looking at people in terms of high values, financially, socially, and appearance makes people into products that you trade in like you would a car, washing machine, or refrigerator when it no longer performs as well or when there is a newer, better model.
Yes, be glad. The dating market is a dumpster fire these days. Social media enhances this problem. Everyone markets themselves as brands to be purchased. I'm 47, and was with one person for 20+ years. Sticking my toe in the modern dating scene made me back away in horror & embrace being a modern-day monk. It used to be you had to compete with the guys in your neighborhood. Now you have to compete on a much wider scale, which doesn't favor the average man or woman.
Women are pricing themselves out of the market, which is unfortunate both for them & for society. It used to be average guys gets average girl. Now, even the average girls want to pick guys from the top shelf. Not sure it is a capitalism issue, though. If so, bring back dowries. That way a guy can invest that money to pay her off when she cashes out down the line.
@@Mr._Anderpson Social media and dating apps ensure that there is an almost inexhaustible choice of partners and this is partly why people wonder if they have made the right choice for a partner and there may be a better choice somewhere. There's a Ted Talk about and an article "the tyranny of choice" Psychologist Barry Schwartz takes aim at a central tenet of western societies: freedom of choice. In Schwartz's estimation, choice has made us not freer but more paralyzed, not happier but more dissatisfied.
What strikes me is that Friedman's economic thinking, "that growth is best and standing still leads to decay" is so reflected in the personal and dating world. People should always strive to become more, better, more handsome, more evolved. It creates a world in which people are never good enough and everyone wants to be in 1st place and then they are unhappy if they don't succeed. Infinite growth suffers so far in the history of mankind, to the end of civilizations, countries and people.
I´m 30 and I consired myself retired from the dating-market, there are a very few women that are wife-material
Well said!
My take is the government has taken over most of the the necessity for men in every day life, so women only view men as an optional added luxury. Socialism would probably just make it even worse and completely ruin women's s3x drive.
Good stuff mam. And the hidden gem is that when a man learns how women operate he doesn't need to marry any of them. Enjoy the menu gentleman. But sampler's only. No entrees....
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What remains unclear is why would a honest, hard working man want to need to entertain his woman by providing stimulation and chase after her attention AFTER their relationship has been established?
No woman does that for her man! On the contrary! They provide challenges and difficulties all along the relationship!
Male in animal world are happiest male in every species, in humans they are bound to family structures and due to highly social structures we forget our own natural nature, we really don't worry about where our money goes and who waste it or use it, we just worry about our leadership , and peace in surroundings.
And I think that's the reason why saints said, if you want to happy, stay away from women.
Because it's theri responsibility to raise kids in every species male are only biologically involved while in humans, it's just opposite, here female is just biologically involved and male are raising kids, in animals, female goes and bring food and in humans, male goes ans bring food.
Total stupidity
Facts
Yes but people are not animals unless you believe your a animal because you base your existence on Darwin's imagination theory.I don't I know the Christian God Jesus Christ created everything in existence.
People are unique and different than animals.people are made by a creator God.
This woman is telling every average man it's best to just not bother
Without actually saying it directly. Yes, she's only talking about top shelf men. She always does.
Well... she's saying the truth. Below average women nowadays shall demand top 10% men.
Absolutely
Its her opinion, its doesnt make it true
@@xdaydreamerx inductive reasoning makes it true
Anna, let me get this straight. Women don't want to settle down in their 20s when men want them. They don't want to settle down until they are in their 30s and men don't want them anymore.
Most definitely!
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish.
Actually, a few young women have figured out that cutting a good deal early is the best thing they can do. By 30, most women have lost 90% of their eggs. Deciding to "settle down" after 30, after they have been hosed by the whole circle, well, these women will not bond well...that carousel ruins her bonding ability.
Sounds like you're saying you can't make a housewife out of a garden tool. Agreed.
Very true in my experience
When they reach 30 above, they desperately need a man no matter what age if he is younger or older they need a husband and children because they know the reality when they reach 30 or above.
thank you for helping me with my no marriage decision
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Relationships require ongoing effort. True. Ongoing effort by MEN of course. Got it.
Wingman bullshit.....effort on our part.....and laziness on theirs....
One of my good friends just had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital…he survived…but when it initially happens…he quickly rose out of bed, and urgently yelled “I’m having a heart attack” …….his wife rolled out of bed went to the next room, and went back to sleep on the couch…my poor friend had to drive himself to the ER….he could have Fkn died…
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@@oldrandonthat's not funny!
Justincater8037 That's terrible.What a uncaring monster she is!I hope your friend is doing better.He deserves better than that.I will pray for him.✝️🙏🏻👍
... you know what they say: [a key that opens a lot of locks is a valuable key...however a lock that can open to any key is labeled a $h!tty lock]. 🤷
Key point! Be the key. Check.
@@YourWingmam 🙂
"A key that opens a lot of locks is a valuable key"? Doesn't that depend on what's behind the door? If there's nothing worth having behind the doors it opens it's not really worth much, is it?
@@charlesbull6463 it was worth checking out though.
@@charlesbull6463 you sure live up to your name; don't ya?
Even if women do care, they will force themselves to stop if it's good for themselves in some way. Its fine. Men should do that too! Leave her! Women don't say that they're willing to stop loving him/would leave for her own interests, because they need men to care about them even when its not in his best interest! If HIS survival or emotional/physical safety is threatened, she wants him to stay anyways. And guys do?! Men need to leave, more often. Men should do what's best for themselves and find a woman who's taking care of herself fully, who doesn't need you and you shouldn't need her. Women don't want to have to do anything to be valuable. Men copy this behavior from women and women hate it. Men don't have to ask for what they want anymore than women do. Just prepare for a life alone and then date freely. If she wants to leave, close the door. If she has a wandering eye, she'll always have a wandering eye. If she doesn't want to be a benefit to your life, there's no reason to be a benefit to her. Just make yourself happy. She can come and go, and it shouldn't change your day. What a cute memory she'll be. Bye!
Quid pro quo!
Men also
"need to feel safe"
re a woman's faithfulness
and gratitude but
those aren't priorities
in women's acculturation
and no institutions dare
call them on it
I agree. I'll call them on it right here. Step up ladies! It's not a one way (your way) street!
p.s. I wrote a 30 point article for women on what they need to do to step up, you can find the full manifesto here: wingmam.com/women/2020/05/05/how-to-be-more-beautiful-30-tips/
Please feel free to share if you dare!
@@YourWingmam You are a woman with true value.
@@hankrogacki8356 so why isn't she married. Stop simping man damn!!!
@@hankrogacki8356 what says this woman has value she is cute yes so what? She has has a lot of partners yes so what. There she is cute and single
@@hankrogacki8356 please STOP simping you are killing us men here!!!
I kind of disagree with the stimulation part. Because I never stopped giving her the same stimulation that I did in the beginning. She still lost interest. So I would say giving her too much stimulation is also a bad thing. Sometimes you have to pull back so she can crave that stimulation again
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
So what's in it for men? When do we get our constant source of stimulation. What about my needs? Life isn't a movie or a fairy tail. There is a lot of hard work that needs to be done everyday that is boring. How about growing up and taking care of yourself instead of looking for some man to do the heavy lifting? How about talking about your needs first instead of jumping in bed with the next source of stimulation?
I thought there would be a compelling defense. A sort of, "No, women are NOT monsters!" But there wasn't. There wasn't at all. I'm completely floored right now.
You’re going to be shocked when your parents tell you Santa clause doesn’t exist.
It is very apparent that people can't help but to conflate issues, and become so lost in the sauce they can't figure out WHAT is right or accurate. It doesn't matter if woman really care about you, or have the ability to love you. What matters is the critical path issue, that woman are driven by their emotions, and that makes them unreliable, whether they care about you or not.
Good vid! Most chickens I dated didn't give a damn about me. No matter how much I spent or time or even they crying on my shoulder. Single now n loving it! No stress....😄😍 Wheeee!
There are benefits to being single... ruclips.net/video/GKE9sKwjH_g/видео.html
Thank you, you have shown in your video what I have found out about fee-males in my 64 years.
Fee-males aren't worth the time, trouble and the he11 they put men through. Went my own way 18 years ago, and I'm so much better off without a fee-male in my life.
And without a single benefit for a man to marry or cohabitate, and the high chance(up to 90%) he will either be financially graped, or falsely accused of a crime(or both), makes any LTR a lose lose situation for him.
The only winning move is not to play.
So basically when you stop providing her with those heightened emotions she'll look to another man for those. So she cant be loyal. And that's ok I'll just treat her like garbage and eventually she'll leave anyway.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Matt have said it: There are very few woman thst cares about you. The vast majority: HELL NO.
They kinda don’t
They don’t wanna hurt my feelings
But they couldn’t wait to step over me and find a new guy, 2 girls I was involved with, we shared our deepest secrets, laughed so hard all the time, never lived together but done everything else, and now when I talk to them, I feel like a stranger, and they can’t wait to get away from me,but I can tell they don’t wanna hurt my feelings, what a waste of my time, don’t lead a guy on if you just keeps him around til ur stud comes along
Just buy a vibrator and be by urself
I hope you find some value in this video! :)
Because you pursued her. Gotta let them come to u
Don't chase her..... Never let her know where she stands with you..... Now, you don't have to be a jerk or anything..... but once you give that BF vibe, its all she wrote.
Never. I’ll repeat it. Never tell a women a innermost anything. Never apologize, never complain that you are hurt. Never talk about your financial situation.
Never show any signs of weakness.
Never get married, and never have anything to do with a woman with children at home.
@@drmachinewerke1 So basically there is no need for any relationship with a woman at all.
Men and women are not made for long term romantic relationships. The "work" to keep her stimulated is just a proof of that. Nature , through evolution, made men and women fall in love, and attract each other just enough time so that they can procreate - that's about the proverbial 3 years that the love lasts. After that, when the high goes, gooooodluck keeping a woman entertained and also provide for a family.
Agreed, although evolutionarily it could be beneficial to have many kids with the same partner so you'd think more women would sustain attraction but i guess not.
Applause!!
I can't believe you guys base your existence on Charles Darwin's imagination 🤡
It's not only about women, people in general don't care about you. You gotta care about yourself.
I'm a married man. I'm trying to recover from mistakes I've made and trying to find a way to reignite her passion for me. She still loves me but more of a friend now.
relationships is supposed to be uplifting and the strong love they truly share for one another as best friends and as lovers it should not be about money nor is it about being high maintenance it's love i mean real love for one another, a person who truly loves you will always stay by you're side and you would not have to worry about them cheating on you ether , if you have to work that hard to keep a woman happy just for her to stay with you, just get rid of her she not for you because if she truly loves you she is going to stay by you're side period, she would also be happy to just chill and go out for coffee she should be you're best friend and uplifting not high maintenance
The last point you made was about the value people bring into each others lives- Well what kind of value does a 30+ woman who can't cook, has no knowledge of raising children, 0 femininity, and has been around the "carousel" more than a few times, what does bring to the table for the proverbial "good man" ? Close to nothing, and you essentially admit that earlier in the video when you say 20-something's don't want to settle down because they have options. They have options, because they are 20-something. The moment they lose those "options" they start to seek out a "good man." It's like you're on the tip of honesty but can't go that last metaphorical mile to finish the journey.
It's as if men are the only one's that have to change and be responsible for everything in these videos. Apparently women aren't capable of changing or being responsible for anything. But somehow they're supposed to be the catch. Don't think so ladies! Time to grow up!
@@tommygun5038 She's dodging the truth and I can't blame her, it would take major self-analysis of her own nature, as well as destroying her businesses / career if she instead pointed out the truth to men- Women today are damaged, broken beyond repair.
Mendelsonmmlll
@@paulauspitzthegreatestsong7785 ....yes?
@@tommygun5038 like the setter in a volleyball game.. the setter touches the ball on every play, gives it to the hitter and the hitter gets all the attention... dammit..
"Safety" is an illusion. Life is a gamble. No one is safe. Forget about safety. Learn to deal with life as it is.
Fellas,
2 minutes and 11 seconds into this post Mat is spot on correct!! Now do you remember all the life experiences that confirmed what Matt has said??? Yeah, I do as well. I’m going with what Matt is teaching!! Thank You Matt !!!
If nothing else, watch the last 5 minutes or so :)
@@YourWingmam horrible...sounds like an empty vessel. Only a few good women.. that's horrible. How many good men are there??? Many more than women
Good decent men are just disappointed, disgusted and fed up with nearly all women these days. Finding a good woman with old fashioned traditional family values, who is loyal and committed to our relationship, is like finding life on Mars. Zero, nothing, nada.
Stay single my brothers , you live longer
@@danielsalazar6211 you live a lot longer...PS: midlife crisis is myth perpetuated by the same women after the have ridden the CC till their broken ( not even figuratively 🤮🤮🤮). They hate that men at the same age can still have fun...enjoy your life Fellas even into your 40's and 50's. And yes Disgust is a great way to describe the feeling brother...
The Wall is undefeated!!!
Better yet, go with your own experiences and just connect the dots.
I’m glad my wife doesn’t think like this. Our love is not conditional for one another and we don’t look to each other to find our own happiness.
When I was in college I was known as the nice guy; and yes! you are 100% right, we finish last. After many years that part changed drastically for the better, I realized that most men and women have little understanding in how different they are. Learning a woman's wants and needs are critical, and! how they think, once both parties reach that level it increases the chance of a successful relationship. However, as you pointed out the relationship must be stimulated in a variety of ways in order to keep the sparkle alive. Dating is a exciting time until couples move into together, "and that is when the real test begins".
True story! Relationships need to come with business plans lol
I’m enough. Caring, as an expectation of it, is important and needs to be authentic and non-toxic. It is not an absolute. If free, it is powerful and a healer.
You are enough! Never forget that. :)
In this day and age, women are the last thing I'm concerned about...
Freedom. Nothing you do will ever be enough...
I have three women chasing me.. all of witch have boyfriends.
And a fourth who is married ..
Really!! Really!!
Nothing personal but no thanks!!
Your story reminds me of the Eagles song Take It Easy.
Well, I'm running down the road
Tryin' to loosen my load
I've got seven women on my mind
Four that wanna own me
Two that wanna stone me
One says she's a friend of mine
Take it easy
Take it easy
Don't let the sound of your own wheels
Drive you crazy
If the woman gets bored, she will either dump the man or have the desire to do so. If a man gets bored, it's unlikely he will do the same. Matt's right.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Prevent her from having a wondering eye. Totally unacceptable. Horrible
Are women THAT uncaring? Yes and No. As long as you’re her child, attractive, or relevant to her success, then she (generally) cares much for you.
Women move on fast; Men learn slowly. It’s an Unforgiving harmony.
Can she really love you? ruclips.net/video/3M1DDmTuPrI/видео.html
@@YourWingmam the sexes are pressed to even agree on the definition of the word “love”. Can women love in their own way? Absolutely.
Can women love up to the standards that they have set? Arguably not. Everyone flocks to these videos to ask if a female *can* love, but very few are asking if a woman *should* .
@@jonnygraham2372 There are many obvious reasons why she should.
@@arnoldjohnson3317if the average woman, finds the average man to be an inappropriate mate, then why bother? An advantage that us men have is that loneliness can often be cured with
Dogs and personal fulfillment.
When women get bored and unfaithful, that's just the way the bee is and we shouldn't get mad or try to change it. But when men finish the hunt and grow complacent, we need to fix ourselves and man up.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
lol
So it all comes down to "Good women" which is 0.00001 % so basically Matt's true.
So you'd rather for for a bad one? Why not hold out for a good one. Even an average woman can love a man. You just have to watch out for the low value throwbacks!
@@YourWingmam True
@@YourWingmam HOW does a woman "Love a man??? You never seem to answer this...EVER. dont tell me about what he has to maintain this and do that. HOW does.she love him??? how? How does her love her like? Abscent of him being the perfect stud alpha...how does she love him.??? Crickets and tumbleweeds
Yes, that’s the other thing I relaxed. We had been together 20 years. at about 15 years I relaxed,
Mistake. never relax. Always realize you have to do different things to keep them interested. They’re not like we are, they don’t enjoy peace they enjoy drama, constant change, constant excitement.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
i've watched this video multiple times now. Each time i do, it makes me less and less interested in women. i'm not a toy or trinket to be traded away. No thanks, ladies.
Anna: "Survival is instinctive." False. The drive to avoid death and satisfy the requirements of life may be instinctive or reflex-driven, but HOW we answer those drives is a matter of conscious thought, and there is no escape from that.
Then it's not false, but conscience laden
@@craigcottrell1172 Yes. Conscience is that understanding that a moral code and living according to it, are what enable us to survive and thrive.
Take the persuasive word out of common sense (good woman) every time when people run out of argument bring abstract words as , love, good, etc. I think Matt is quite real in his observation.😉
It's not a man's place to entertain and always keep her stimulated. Is it A Woman's Place do the same for a man no. You cannot make the other person the source of your happiness. You have to find your own happiness within yourself.
Now I know why she went to him. They are both musicians and singers, and he plays with more people than her. I didn’t know I could sing until the last two years and by then our relationship was pretty much over with. She got me into singing, and she got me into singing lessons. She got me up on stage and have me sing a song with her. I love it so now I sing karaoke and I’m learning to play the guitar and I really enjoy music. Whole new adventure for me. I’m not doing it for her. I’m doing it for me. I love the excitement of getting up on stage and singing, and letting people hear my voice, I’ve had many women come up to me and tell me they love my voice. Some actually very young compared to me.
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They care about what you can do for them. Point blank period.
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I watched until 9:38 and lost my patience because of 2 reasons: 1. "I have a good argument/example but I'll reveal it later hihi" No, if you have an argument say it right away, make your point. It feels like you are manipulating.
2. The constant blue pill BS of blaming the men for setting too high expectations in the start and not following through later on. This is ridiculous because we all know in today's world most women won't take a second to look at a guy if he's not up to certain high standards. Either his social status, or money, or looks or power or all together(depends what a specific woman likes most). So we are not suppose to set high expectations right? it should be like: "Hey, I'm an average looking modest guy and I offer you a modest life, nothing special and exciting about me, come be my girl." This could hypothetically work in some perfect world where all men would make a consensus to behave like that, but in our world full of competition no way, guy presenting himself as modest will just be ignored by most girls. Just take dating apps for example, guys who are average and bellow average get 0 interest from women.
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Summary please tl:dr
Ema and Anava can't read or something, but I hear ya, because I know what you talk about. Women have no idea what goes into dating from the "man's side", because they don't care.
Widower, married 54 years, Men are task-oriented. We've completed the task, won fair maiden, done! Not so, Men, courting NEVER ends. If you're not courting this wonderful creature, she may start questioning the why she's with you.
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Nothing about the effort needed by women. She’s Capping 💯
My channel is for men. But you’ll want to share this: wingmam.com/women/2020/05/05/how-to-be-more-beautiful-30-tips/
@@YourWingmam just read the fluffy empty article NO woman will ever read...so surface and trying so hard to go easy on women. Ma'am I think you should consider reacting to RedPill content
I was married for 20 years and we had 4 children. I did try to go out with her once a week, the reality is that the finances were limited, time was limited. I was overwhelmed. Needless to say I am divorced. I will stay single.
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Another magnificent video, lots of interesting information
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Half the women dont give a f%$#.
That’s why i have, since 2015, have had NOOO shame or regrets!!!!
Way more than half *
@@bryonwatkins1432 most women will like what you can do for them. Nothing else
Only half for you?! ...lucky.
I’ll be curious what you think of my take!
When there is no love we just grow old and die alone. Such a lonely cold world.
N bat shit cray cray isn't new guys or gals, and age doesn't matter either if one of you wants out , or to not pursue it , #MeToo , ladies attach and the cray you gotta wade thru 😜 if your not ready for real relationship tell them up front before you go out you just want sex with them , this also cuts out the girls who your not ever going to be interested in once you marry them
It happens yes
Geez dude
Some of us are happy living by ourselves.
I’ve never heard a father say go get married.
Yes it is
My gf at that time gone cold. Aloof. And eventually broke up after I lost my job and show too much affection
Either she wasn't a keeper or you acted too attached and needy. A woman needs to see a man looking for another job. Big hug, thanks for watching my videos!
Thanks for all the time and effort you put into preparing and making these videos. Great content and advice that is heard and willingly implemented into life. You are appreciated! Thanks!
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Anna,,,, It's called "What you do to get 'em is what you gotta do to keep 'em".
So guys,,,,, don't do to to much to get 'em. 😄😉
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You will know when you find the right one she will just want to be with you, just don't be a simp,if she's interested in you she will give you her time and do things with you, just listen to your intuition and take your time.
Just a tip: I'd like to see an interview between Anna and Matt... although I've never seen him do one.
I think finding a good woman.... or in the women's case a good man .... nowadays is like searching for a needle in a haystack....There are a lot of hurt and stuck in the past people with lots of issues, walking around in life.. You have all the chances to meet one of those people most of the time. So good luck in dating, friends.
Wow, Wingmam on Matt! A treat!
“gotta be the ripple in your pond 7:34 nice line. can’t hate the pond for its nature.. you gotta bond.. with her. yeshh
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