If she gets cold, get busy working and giving myself some me time. If she is still cold as ice, I'll look to warmer options. As I get older, my value goes up. So the one who plays the hot/cold game foolishly will result in her being rejected.
@@admirbarucija2018 I had the same problem back in 2006 with a girl that I really liked a lot . She turned out to be a psychopath and narcissist. Running hot and cold all the time
@@admirbarucija2018 it took me a year to recover fully . Very nasty bitch and I,know another one like this .both are friends no surprise. These kind of people are seriously sick 😷 yet most people won't recognize it
The moment I see the Hot Cold game being played for too long, I immediately stop playing all together, and that’s usually when they start to get desperate for your attention again and begin to do a lot of goofy stunts to try getting it back.
Any woman plays hot/cold with me 20 seconds, gets kicked into touch. It means that they’re nuts & they don’t appreciate what they’ve got in you. Or they do it as a validation for their own inadequacies. Which women have got plenty of - far more than us men. Ron Burgundy said it - women have got small brains - don’t blame us, it’s science.
God created garages for men to escape to until a woman recovers from the "I'm hot, I'm cold" cycle!...that may not be what you meant but I am sure many will agree! LOL
Good that you think you don't tolerate drama. But when you get tested how do you react? I'm sure you don't even notice women's subtle drama. Some drama is ususlly subtle, but your main problem is your fear of not being able to Deal with women. As soon as you fix that good women will start to come into your life, ok maybe not immideatly, but after 30-90 days, (neuroplasticity).
When they get the hot / cold game it reminds me of we have options to just walk away, and stay on our path and purpose, and if she comes around, so be it. I myself don't tolerate games, major red flag.👍 up Anna.
You should get laid more often then. It's funny because it's true. There are many reasons for a man to seek female companionship. But none are as compelling as sex. There's sex, and then there's all the other stuff. If you get that mixed up, all you get is less sex. Let everything fall in place behind instinct. If you try to rationalize men/women relationships as to "why?" beyond sex, the whole thing falls apart pretty quickly. Of course I say all that a bit tongue and cheek...or did I?
Absolutely spot on. I have seen this first hand and it's a very long haul to unravel and get rid of the issues that are in a womans mind. Especially if they don't want to heal themselves. It's as if they are on an irreversible path to self destruction.
If she is not willing to recognize and address her negative emotions, be it fear, blame, guilt, etc, then you shouldn't either...don't be an enabler and get off the roller coaster ride
@@mypov4343 or enabling them. And seeing other people who are enabling too. Not just a female thing, but I'll be damned if it isn't prevalent. I think it could have something to do with childlessness and infantilism of young adults. There's some who is dependent on you and you have to put yourself second. Maybe it's symptomatic or maybe it's codependent.
@@YourWingmam If a man tolerates breadcrumbing, he better get ready for more. This is a primary leverage point of the unimaginative. She used you as a quick solution to her need for narcissistic sex, services, and supply but the 'Snapshot' she carries in her head of her ideal man is too different from the reality of you. Get over it, there is inadequate chemistry to maintain a relationship longterm. Offer her fuckbuddy status until you or she find somebody who is hot enough for them to go full devote. One needs a partner.
Yes but as the leader you should be able to open her up and make her feel SAFE to express her fears. This is more applicable when you’re going steady or in a relationship. Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. If communication doesn’t fix things, then she needs to heal her insecurities.
You literally described my ex. According to her I was the best thing that happened to her. She had a lot of bad experiences with men in the past. Then she met me and I was the exact opposite. I was kind, respectful, loving and caring. In her words I was amazing. Then she went cold in a split second and dumped me. I have no idea what I did wrong. But yup she just disappeared. Oh well I’m probably better of without her anyway. She had many issues within herself. I tried to help and support, but apparently that made her scared. I guess.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️ and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
Same thing is happening with me, we are together since 5months, I am same like you were, she says I pamper her, and spoil her with my live and care, but she sometimes says things like- she doesn't feel like talking to anyone- even with me, was busy, feeing tired, and all. Yesterday she told me she doesn't feel like she can commit in future, and says the problem is herself and not me, in relationship she says she still feels there's a gap between us.
@@dishanjohn3119 hi there. Thanks for sharing. Mine have actually contacted me again and explained how much she misses me etc etc. I’m using a different tactic now. I’m playing it cool. I don’t jump straight in to her arms. I remain calm. I don’t pamper for her anymore. And so far it seems to work. Her interest level increases each day. She becomes more and more chatty, flirty and warm... So here is my personal advice and I hope it helps. If she starts to pull back. Then you pull back. Without being disrespectful ofc. Stay calm and cool. Don’t give in and become soft like I did in the beginning... Sure there is nothing wrong in showing comfort if something tragic to her happened. But don’t convince her that you will drop everything and come whenever she barks. Show her that you are there for her is she needs it, but at the same time also show her that you can just as easily do without. Again in a respectful and kind way. So far this has worked on me, and much much better. My ex has dismissive avoidant attachment style. So I have figured out thanks to this channel, that every time I act clingy or too soft then she pulls away... You know like dogs and cats. If the dog is excited and chases the cat it will crawl up a tree. But if the dog acts like it don’t care super much the cat will crawl back down and actually come and sleep next to the dog, if you catch my metaphor. Men = dog and women, you know what I mean. I hope this helps my dear brother. Also sorry for my English, I’m danish 😅
Happened to me. I gave a Woman unconditional love and attention......It's like to her it couldn't be real. I didn't play games. Well she dumped me and made me Jaded.
I’m dating a wonderful woman. We’ve known each other for a month- we pray together and share so deeply - but she recently turned a bit cold for whatever reason and I just persevered with it because from the moment I met her, everything within me screamed YOU ARE WORTH IT. We share many of the same wounds and it almost feels like she was made for me. She’s beginning to turn around from being cold and she told me she’s missing me now and she’s initiating a lot more. I can’t be sure of it, but she was probably testing me. Your advice has been so helpful to me, and I LOVE that you are open about your faith. You’re honestly the best dating coach I know. Your input has immensely helped my relationship. Be assured of my prayers for you and your work!
Riley I'm going through same thing as you with a Scorpio girl. I'm worried about the distance and being cold. She dissapeared. I'm worried. We got along really well too. I think she's testing me.
Your identification and assessment of the hot and cold conditions are very accurate. As I've said before, determining the root causes of the behavior is very important. Good communication is very important. You may only allay fears and create safety if you know what the fears and unsafe feelings are. Often times fears and feeling unsafe are irrational. Working through those fears and unsafe feelings usually resolves the behavior. The other thing to know is that women deal with fear and unsafe feelings differently than men. They really take them in and hold them closely. So what might seem like a small thing to a man is a big thing to a woman. A man must be prepared to view what she feels about something as a big thing, because it's a big thing to her.
The more I listen to your videos (2X divorced), the more I realize that the emotional gap between men and women is so vast that it’s not worth trying to form a cohesive relationship with women. I will remain single.
Give me a break..... it's real simple...she does NOT have GBD ( GENUINE BURNING DESIRE) ... make up all the bull shit you want. Jonathan Noble Esquire (this can also be for relationships too) said it best: If there is any doubt that you are not her first choice: DO NOT MARRY. It will never work out and you will end up in my office. If a woman truly desires you, she will crawl under barbed wire, in a blizzard, climb up the fire escape and through your bedroom window, with your favorite hot meal (in an insulated tote bag), and then proceed to rip your clothes off just to be with you. If she doesn’t or won’t, forget her and move on. Do NOT ever be someone’s second choice or backup plan.
Great video. Some very solid insight into the female psyche. You didn't draw the distinction between crazy "cat lady" and "crazy cat" lady. You're the latter; Stuffy is mischievous. Good acts triggering the woman: the mantra of many women of this generation ("my past doesn't matter") magnifies this problem. As you point out, you may not be dating her family, but you are dating the product of her family. The past matters incredibly for everyone -- male and female. We had sooooo many family artifacts to manage in both of our personalities, but my wife had some serious baggage from a really lousy home situation. Thankfully, she was cognizant of many of them, but it still took plenty of work to get through them -- and some were still an uphill battle even after decades of us being together. Again, a very good treatment of a really complex subject. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/Looks like we're in a race to see who will trash their room quicker: Stuffy or PJ. PJ is finally discovering that my senior dog Tyson can be a great wrestling partner, while Stuffy is clearly all over the place! ;)
A great example of how even knowing where our baggage comes from doesn't make it automatically go away. But awareness is the first step to change. I'm glad PJ has a buddy to play with! ... p.s. given enough time I may be both #catlady ;) God bless!
This is so spot on! I'm going through the hot and cold phase myself. But unlike others, I recognize the signs as they manifest. How I react is a combonation of mimcry and calmly yet politely ignore. Then she subconsciously copies my actions, reactions, and demeanor. If I ignore her, she'll find a way to ignore me. If I'm randomly polite, kind, and sarcastic, she responds the same way. If she does something different with body motions, I'll mimic her to show her, "Heyyyy I'm here and still interested!" It would be so much easier to just get everything out and proceed from there.
Agree here. Catch it early as it manifests, give her (in order) chocolate, p in the vajay, make sure you finish in her, then give the reassurances...silent bonding....thing.....
I just discovered this channel and the content is great. I was raised with three sisters and they are all good girls. None of the BS. I find that the vast majority of modern women like to play games that you have to play along with. I do not play games. I don't chase. I'm probably going to die single. Whatever. At least my dog is a straight up guy. Lol. Keep up the good work.
100%! Awesome video! I thoroughly believe in direct and honest communication. It lingers, but you have to belive in what you are saying. Also you need to act up upon what you say. Women always talk - Men never listen. Nowadays I don't feel good unless I've spoken my mind and I don't mind doing it first. In a mature way. Honesty and Integrity are my values. She/he didn't pull away because of no reason. You triggered his/her Fear response.
This is why you never try to fix broken women. They will then see themselves as better than you because you loved them when they were broken and thus must have something wrong with you.
Very insightful! Even if there are baggage issues, what makes a huge difference is if they have resolved them successfully. Otherwise, there will be destructive patterns that will continue to repeat themselves over and over again.
I have a very strong hunch that the hot/cold thing has a lot to do with other men showing up after you go out with the chick. They see that she has made a move with bloke 'A' and bloke 'B' figures he may move in. She then has to park bloke A, so she can explore bloke b.
Sometimes, but bloke B only has a chance if bloke A messes up or wasn't her real first choice, anyway. No loss there. Also, the stuff I said in the video lol
@Nic777 Not surprised at all. They are hard wired genetically to choose the one most likely to produce the best offspring regardless of her own genotype.
I get the hot/cold treatment from a woman at work. She is married and has two kids and I know shes had a crush on me for some time. Instead of trying to work out what she wants I just keep things polite and professional. I have no intention of being the "other man".
One of the biggest frustrations us men have is not only women going hot & cold in the first place, but that a lot of modern women (you know the type) have values that cause them to go hot & cold in a seemingly more inconsistent manner than other women. For myself, I just subtract my time from them and go about my life when they do this. The key, however, is in understanding the problem -- both in a general manner and more personal manner to yourself -- and understanding how to respond (not react) accordingly.
There is also a tendency to over think and analyse every little thing you do, that in itself contributes to the hot and cold moods. Very annoying and at times soul destroying, from experience I just cease contact and let them over think to their hearts content, they either come back or they don't. I've got familiar to the weak text messages when they dump me, I no longer pander to their ridiculous poor me poor me attitude. They are either worth keeping or not, too much drama and it's a good time to bail out, Hot and cold is just insecurity issues, women unfortunately need to overcome insecurities before they date again. I'm just a pretty straight forward chap, sure, I'm not perfect, none of us are, however I certainly do not put up with pathetic rubbish anymore. I try my best in new relationships, there's one hell of a lot of damaged insecure low confidence women out there. Such is life in the 21st century!
Dear Stunning Catlady: Found the cat immediately, good hiding place though. On today's topic. You could write a book on this. Every single thing you pointed out could be a chapter; there is definitely plenty of material there. You can do it Anna; you got this. I definitely have experienced the hot and cold gals, and I hate to admit I am sure I screwed it up. I can definitely say that left to some arguments where I used one or five of the phrases you talked about last week. Well, at least something has come of my failed relationships; I found an excellent coach in you Anna Maria. I hope your week is good, Anna. How are you doing over there in Canada? I hope all is well. I have to tell you your eyes looked amazing today. Hug and a peck on each cheek. You are gorgeous, Anna. See you next week.
Thank you so much! You may have contributed to a few fallen relationships but remember it takes two. I'm good, Canada is cold, autumn is upon us! lol :))
I recently saw a woman who I’d not seen for 8 years. We ended not on a bad note but rather we just petered out. She claimed not to be interested and wanted to be just friends. However, recently I saw her for the first time in 8 years and she was totally different as she was warm and friendly. I realized there was enough blame to go around as I too was different 8 years ago. We both enjoyed seeing each other. Where this goes from here remains to be seen but what I do know is having an open mind and trying to be nonjudgmental is helpful.
Well stated, well reasoned video. Slightly off topic, but it is common wisdom is that long distance relationships never succeed. This depends, however, on the definition of success. Brief periods of high quality “relationship” followed by weeks or months of peace and quiet isn’t horrible, especially for the guy who is on his mission and having fun. It cuts through a lot of BS. If either party wanders, that would have happened anyway. It seems one actual solution to Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity dilemma.
One of the best judges of a woman that I have found is to look at her Father. What was their relationship like? What did he look like? How did he act? I have found that my woman wants me to be like her Father, but I am nothing like her Father. This has caused endless disconnects.
Excellent point! Many people (not just women) unconscious use relationships to fix the unresolved issues with one of their primary parents / care givers
Brilliant analysis. Yes, if there has been trauma in the past we will often try and recreate the trauma to try and fix what wasn't fixed in the past. So, she may cheat on you or accuse you of cheating (sound familiar?) to try and recreate trauma from her past to try and fix it now. And, as Anna said, if you are a "Mr. Fix It" you will either live in a miserable relationship that you cannot fix, or she will leave you after she is fixed, because she does not need a Mr. Fit It, if she is fixed. Or you might lose interest in her, if she no longer has anything that needs fixing. Anna also had a great analysis that people tend to become frightened when they begin to fall in love, because they feel more vulnerable. In "Love Actually" the PM has a discussion with Natalie about her boyfriend dropping her and calling her the dreaded f-word. Obviously, her boyfriend was falling in love with her and felt frightened by that. Anyway, excellent analysis on all levels.
They go from not even looking at me and keeping a distance to stalking mode. And these moods can switch despite not having even interacted. I can only guess that I have a evil twin. Or having two X chromosomes causes mental instability.
Some people just have poor communication skills/want you to be a mind reader, or don't know what they want, but want you to know what they want. It's tough.
OMG I could tell you some story's, at 64 I've been through a lot, it started with my mother!!! your cats playing with the light, hope he/ she doesn't get electrocuted. anyway good one anna, hope you are well, all the best john. nighty night.
Youre totally correct about a partner leaving once they become healthy (or healthier). Ive been working on myself for about a year and a half and all the while she has stayed the same. Im leaving because im certain that i cant become healthy and stay healthy while living in an unhealthy situation. I tried to get her to help herself but she find anything wrong with herself. Now that i know what healthy is, its my number one goal
There's a lot of bipolar women out there who run hot and cold. Stay away is my advice. When they're medicated they don't seem to be able to get close or even want to. They're so happy just not to hallucinate anymore.
I'm watching this alone looking at a beautiful Calif sunset from my car , On the beach below is a couple holding each other near the waters edge watching the same sunset....
Here's a tip: She could act cold because of her mood swings from her Period time. Don't get mad at her if she is cold to you, have a little patience and see how she acts after she feels better.
I think men confuse themselves too much! They are confusing themselves with a hook up, and a relationship, and the environment where they get either! If you want a hook up, you are in the game of playing or being played - get used to it! You are way less likely to find a soul mate here. You want a relationship? Find a quality woman - you won’t find her in a hook up venue! To find a quality woman - get a hobby, build your kingdom - in those two scenarios your environment changes and your exposure to quality woman increases. Don’t try play the game in this environment, women will flee!
Great Vid. Love your analysis, structure and explanations. Us guys need this. It's taken me over 50 years to figure out a lot of this stuff on my own, I wish I had your videos when I was younger. ❤😊
It beats me why any man can be bothered with these women !!!! I used to dump them as soon as they started with this sort of stuff. Eventually I gave up even bothering to talk to them at all !!!! And I've never been happier !!!! Now I'm 67yrs, still single with no children, and 2 dogs and my own place and a life of peace and tranquility. All my married male friends are just used as doormats by their wives and none of them are allowed to sleep with their wives !!!! I am so pleased that I am not weak like them !!!!!
@@YourWingmam Thanks !!! I`ve had a lot of female friends but never wanted to marry any of them !!!! I always found out things for myself and never followed the Crowd !!!! I have never lost my house in a divorce court so I`m lucky !!!! I always seem to dodge all the Bullets in Life !!!!
I wanted to tell you how much i have enjoyed you video and advice, i also wanted to tell you how cute you are i still love the freckles. I'm happy to see you looking well rested and posting again
I always look forward to tuesdays, when Anna Maria, drops her witty, funny, and politically incorrect dating advice...The world is better because of women like her :-)
Another good video Wingmam, although, I was momentarily distracted by the chesterfield behind you. The pillows make it look inviting to take a nap on. May I come over and try it out?
I know you've done tons of work on yourself and have grown to be the best AJ ever. But did you always have magic X-ray glasses to see inside and understand how and why people do what they do? Or did you climb a mountain in Tibet and ask a smart Guru what's up with people?
Thank you for the compliment! I climbed a large mountain within my own psyche based on my own relationship mishaps. Though I've always been keenly aware of and interested in psychology. ;) p.s. I also hiked the Himalayas and chatted with a monk but that was after I understood what I know now. (Still learning, always learning.)
The one i *should* have caught at the time was "I'd have cheated on **** with you if you'd have made a move". It felt like a compliment at the time, but lookin back... HUGE red flag!
You COULD say it was a bit of both! When you know a woman with a high SMV has chosen you out of a plethora of choices, that means your SMV is high too! But yes, the obvious red flags if you hope for a LTR with stability! If she can justify it with you, she can justify it with chad when dating you! Would be fun to play '100' questions to see how she rationalizes it and see how far through the questions you get before that lil lightbulb comes on! LOL
Thank you for encouraging men to 'Gaslight' women into believing that 'male subjugation to Monogamy and Queenie status for a starch and sugar stuffer' instead of dealing with the reality of upholding her end of the attraction dichotomy.
Hey thank you for your knowledge... I met a woman and she totally blew my mind... First time butterflies and rainbows in over 10 years. She did the hot cold game on me and now that I know why she is doing it.... I feel a little guitlty for playing her back. I realise that she is extremly afraid to stand there all alone because thats what her father did to her mother for some time when she was younger. We are both married to other partners and both habe children nearly the same ages. She told me she is unhappy because her new husband who is only father of the second kid doesnt treat her first son whos father is dead equally. When she saw me with my children she was warmer than ever. I think next time she does hot and cold to me i really can keep calm because it seems that she is afraid of the good things that finally could.come into her life.
My most recent ex talked to her friends & family about us after 2 years together to figure out if she should move forward with us. She wanted to move forward so bad, but she felt I was a risky investment for some reason. They completely sabotaged the relationship by filling her head with a bunch of BS about me. None of it was true! They only met me twice. Apparently that was enough to begin the slow fade & that really stung.
Once you’re in a relationship with your girlfriend etc.for awhile you should already be aware of what her; tendencies-reactions are before she begins to behave hot or cold and what makes her ticks. You have deal with it like it’s a test.
@@YourWingmam I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling a woman either; that you love her or that you’re falling in love with her. You even said yourself in one of your past videos; you alluded to something like “We might not be alive very long in this world” 🌎 and “we all don’t really know how much time we have left to live.”
I'm a woman and am completely confused and puzzled by these complicated explanation. If a woman goes cold she either isn't into you or she feels you are not sufficiently into her. That's probably enough clues for you to communicate with her to find out what's going on.
If she's worthy of the queen title that means you're worthy of the king title. Few women are worth of such but none who are would take advantage of that position ;)
Your hair & makeup look fantastic! It's about time you Glammed it up a little. Keep it up & go for more. 😁 Can't count how many of your videos I've seen. Best & prettiest wingman ever!! 😎
If there were more chicks like AJ, she wouldn't be so unique and special. It would be like if every truck sold was Ford Raptor. You would be as happy that you worked hard to have a truck that most others don't have. I'm happy with one AJ who shares her friendship with all of us
Your podcast is brilliant! You selflessly share experiences, everything is deeply psychologically informed. You actually have a male mind in a female body. You really are the best of all coaching! Thank you for sharing this knowledge about the female mind with us. I can think how valuable you are to all your partners, and as much as you can choose, I believe that you always have Mr. Ideal by your side. All the best in life, God bless you for bridging the gap between the two genders. You are a diamond!
Yes...women can be so frustrating at times....just when you think shes backing away and youre ready to move on...they run hot again and drag you back in...!
Red aka the Wingmam always gives out true advice. I don't watch many of these types of channels but like Anna's channel. 😊😊. I think she's intelligent and beautiful ❤️🥰🔥💯🙏👋👋 if I ran across this Woman I'd definitely strike up a conversation. I'm an extrovert for sure. 👍💪💯
Even though you explained all of this, I still don’t see why women go so deep into this shit. Men also have similar thoughts on this topic as you described Anna, but men don’t typically start acting hot and cold towards the woman because of it. Men just go with it and hope the the best and the outcome is what it is and we worry about it then. Women seem to kill themselves over the concept of “what if” instead of just going with the flow!
You are the only woman who actually gives valid and logical relationship advice about women.
Wonderful compliment, thank you for appreciating my advice!
SORRY MONOGAMY IS NOT A DELUSION IN THIS WORLD AND THAT IS NOT LOGICAL OR VALID RELATIIONSHIP ADVICE
GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST
Logic + Woman = ??? 😅
If she gets cold, get busy working and giving myself some me time. If she is still cold as ice, I'll look to warmer options. As I get older, my value goes up. So the one who plays the hot/cold game foolishly will result in her being rejected.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
a women who goes hot and cold pull away, she can go lol red flag danger so funny immature women are off the menu,
I went through this once before with a woman i really liked, cut it off because I got tired of the inconsistency!
You probably did yourself a big favour!
@@YourWingmam Definitely, I couldn’t deal with her mood swings anymore haha!
@@admirbarucija2018 I had the same problem back in 2006 with a girl that I really liked a lot . She turned out to be a psychopath and narcissist. Running hot and cold all the time
@@kirilmihaylov1934 I’m sorry to hear that, glad you got out of that situation though!
@@admirbarucija2018 it took me a year to recover fully . Very nasty bitch and I,know another one like this .both are friends no surprise. These kind of people are seriously sick 😷 yet most people won't recognize it
The moment I see the Hot Cold game being played for too long, I immediately stop playing all together, and that’s usually when they start to get desperate for your attention again and begin to do a lot of goofy stunts to try getting it back.
Yes and some are even worse than that . They try to manipulate and cheat on the person they are with
Aggravating how that can happen. Women who need to play games aren't worth it, no loss :)
@@YourWingmam why do they do it though ? It looks it is far more common than most people think it is
@@kirilmihaylov1934 crickets are of no good from professional lady.
Any woman plays hot/cold with me 20 seconds, gets kicked into touch.
It means that they’re nuts & they don’t appreciate what they’ve got in you.
Or they do it as a validation for their own inadequacies.
Which women have got plenty of - far more than us men.
Ron Burgundy said it - women have got small brains - don’t blame us, it’s science.
The idea of coming into a relationship to fix somebody and hope that they will stay with you is a lost cause. Never ever do that gentlemen.
Well said.
So frustrating.. I just want to love someone genuinely without having to solve calculus every time.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Lol
Amen bro
Me too! But sadly that's impossible. Once I go cold I stay cold that part of me dies.
@@michaelblack9253as cold as a cistern in Winter....I'm there.
I never thought I'd take dating advice from a woman, but I like you. You're openly honest about female mindsets.
me to i am staring to get worried if i am getting beta
And she is such a cute little thing
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
@@YourWingmam love the robo response 🤖
You like her because she’s attractive and presents as available and achievable.
God created garages for men to escape to until a woman recovers from the "I'm hot, I'm cold" cycle!...that may not be what you meant but I am sure many will agree! LOL
Just hit them with the same toxic bullshit they love it
@@Xenlacasa45 best comment yet
They treat people like the way they want to be treated
Like crap
The "man cave" is an essential space in a relationship! lol ;)
@@YourWingmam isn't that the truth!!!
This is why I stay single. No attachments and no commitments. I don't go for drama.
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Good that you think you don't tolerate drama. But when you get tested how do you react? I'm sure you don't even notice women's subtle drama. Some drama is ususlly subtle, but your main problem is your fear of not being able to Deal with women. As soon as you fix that good women will start to come into your life, ok maybe not immideatly, but after 30-90 days, (neuroplasticity).
When they get the hot / cold game it reminds me of we have options to just walk away, and stay on our path and purpose, and if she comes around, so be it. I myself don't tolerate games, major red flag.👍 up Anna.
That's absolutely true
Exactly. Games are for Gameboy
@@YourWingmam she plays games because she is toxic
lol, the more I learn about women, the less I want one in my life.
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@@kirilmihaylov1934 that's why I love being single...books and movies are my best friends....
Trust me it's to much bother.
You should get laid more often then. It's funny because it's true. There are many reasons for a man to seek female companionship. But none are as compelling as sex. There's sex, and then there's all the other stuff. If you get that mixed up, all you get is less sex. Let everything fall in place behind instinct. If you try to rationalize men/women relationships as to "why?" beyond sex, the whole thing falls apart pretty quickly.
Of course I say all that a bit tongue and cheek...or did I?
@@x-man5056 that's the truth
Absolutely spot on. I have seen this first hand and it's a very long haul to unravel and get rid of the issues that are in a womans mind.
Especially if they don't want to heal themselves. It's as if they are on an irreversible path to self destruction.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
If she is not willing to recognize and address her negative emotions, be it fear, blame, guilt, etc, then you shouldn't either...don't be an enabler and get off the roller coaster ride
True story. That's why it's so important to recognize when you're contributing and when it really is just about her disfunction
@@YourWingmam yup and have the courage to look at what you are attracting.
@@mypov4343 or enabling them. And seeing other people who are enabling too. Not just a female thing, but I'll be damned if it isn't prevalent.
I think it could have something to do with childlessness and infantilism of young adults. There's some who is dependent on you and you have to put yourself second. Maybe it's symptomatic or maybe it's codependent.
@@YourWingmam If a man tolerates breadcrumbing, he better get ready for more. This is a primary leverage point of the unimaginative. She used you as a quick solution to her need for narcissistic sex, services, and supply but the 'Snapshot' she carries in her head of her ideal man is too different from the reality of you. Get over it, there is inadequate chemistry to maintain a relationship longterm. Offer her fuckbuddy status until you or she find somebody who is hot enough for them to go full devote. One needs a partner.
Yes but as the leader you should be able to open her up and make her feel SAFE to express her fears. This is more applicable when you’re going steady or in a relationship. Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. If communication doesn’t fix things, then she needs to heal her insecurities.
You literally described my ex. According to her I was the best thing that happened to her. She had a lot of bad experiences with men in the past. Then she met me and I was the exact opposite. I was kind, respectful, loving and caring. In her words I was amazing.
Then she went cold in a split second and dumped me. I have no idea what I did wrong. But yup she just disappeared.
Oh well I’m probably better of without her anyway. She had many issues within herself. I tried to help and support, but apparently that made her scared. I guess.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️ and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
Same thing is happening with me, we are together since 5months, I am same like you were, she says I pamper her, and spoil her with my live and care, but she sometimes says things like- she doesn't feel like talking to anyone- even with me, was busy, feeing tired, and all. Yesterday she told me she doesn't feel like she can commit in future, and says the problem is herself and not me, in relationship she says she still feels there's a gap between us.
@@dishanjohn3119 hi there. Thanks for sharing. Mine have actually contacted me again and explained how much she misses me etc etc.
I’m using a different tactic now. I’m playing it cool. I don’t jump straight in to her arms. I remain calm. I don’t pamper for her anymore. And so far it seems to work. Her interest level increases each day. She becomes more and more chatty, flirty and warm...
So here is my personal advice and I hope it helps.
If she starts to pull back. Then you pull back. Without being disrespectful ofc. Stay calm and cool. Don’t give in and become soft like I did in the beginning... Sure there is nothing wrong in showing comfort if something tragic to her happened. But don’t convince her that you will drop everything and come whenever she barks. Show her that you are there for her is she needs it, but at the same time also show her that you can just as easily do without. Again in a respectful and kind way.
So far this has worked on me, and much much better. My ex has dismissive avoidant attachment style. So I have figured out thanks to this channel, that every time I act clingy or too soft then she pulls away... You know like dogs and cats. If the dog is excited and chases the cat it will crawl up a tree. But if the dog acts like it don’t care super much the cat will crawl back down and actually come and sleep next to the dog, if you catch my metaphor. Men = dog and women, you know what I mean.
I hope this helps my dear brother.
Also sorry for my English, I’m danish 😅
Happened to me. I gave a Woman unconditional love and attention......It's like to her it couldn't be real. I didn't play games. Well she dumped me and made me Jaded.
This sounds like a woman with avoidant attachment issues
I’m dating a wonderful woman. We’ve known each other for a month- we pray together and share so deeply - but she recently turned a bit cold for whatever reason and I just persevered with it because from the moment I met her, everything within me screamed YOU ARE WORTH IT. We share many of the same wounds and it almost feels like she was made for me.
She’s beginning to turn around from being cold and she told me she’s missing me now and she’s initiating a lot more. I can’t be sure of it, but she was probably testing me. Your advice has been so helpful to me, and I LOVE that you are open about your faith. You’re honestly the best dating coach I know. Your input has immensely helped my relationship. Be assured of my prayers for you and your work!
You're a soy boy. And that Harpie you're involved with WILL destroy you life. My advice? RUN!!!!
Are you still with her? 🤔
Riley I'm going through same thing as you with a Scorpio girl. I'm worried about the distance and being cold. She dissapeared. I'm worried. We got along really well too. I think she's testing me.
@@Melbester9 u still with her? I would've left her azz
When it comes to this channel, my fro is like a sponge that absorbs knowledge.
Top points for most original comment!
@@YourWingmam fro sure😎
Lol. This dude fucks
Your identification and assessment of the hot and cold conditions are very accurate. As I've said before, determining the root causes of the behavior is very important. Good communication is very important. You may only allay fears and create safety if you know what the fears and unsafe feelings are. Often times fears and feeling unsafe are irrational. Working through those fears and unsafe feelings usually resolves the behavior. The other thing to know is that women deal with fear and unsafe feelings differently than men. They really take them in and hold them closely. So what might seem like a small thing to a man is a big thing to a woman. A man must be prepared to view what she feels about something as a big thing, because it's a big thing to her.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
The more I listen to your videos (2X divorced), the more I realize that the emotional gap between men and women is so vast that it’s not worth trying to form a cohesive relationship with women. I will remain single.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Give me a break..... it's real simple...she does NOT have GBD ( GENUINE BURNING DESIRE) ... make up all the bull shit you want. Jonathan Noble Esquire (this can also be for relationships too) said it best:
If there is any doubt that you are not her first choice: DO NOT MARRY. It will never work out and you will end up in my office. If a woman truly desires you, she will crawl under barbed wire, in a blizzard, climb up the fire escape and through your bedroom window, with your favorite hot meal (in an insulated tote bag), and then proceed to rip your clothes off just to be with you. If she doesn’t or won’t, forget her and move on. Do NOT ever be someone’s second choice or backup plan.
Great video. Some very solid insight into the female psyche. You didn't draw the distinction between crazy "cat lady" and "crazy cat" lady. You're the latter; Stuffy is mischievous. Good acts triggering the woman: the mantra of many women of this generation ("my past doesn't matter") magnifies this problem. As you point out, you may not be dating her family, but you are dating the product of her family. The past matters incredibly for everyone -- male and female. We had sooooo many family artifacts to manage in both of our personalities, but my wife had some serious baggage from a really lousy home situation. Thankfully, she was cognizant of many of them, but it still took plenty of work to get through them -- and some were still an uphill battle even after decades of us being together. Again, a very good treatment of a really complex subject. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/Looks like we're in a race to see who will trash their room quicker: Stuffy or PJ. PJ is finally discovering that my senior dog Tyson can be a great wrestling partner, while Stuffy is clearly all over the place! ;)
A great example of how even knowing where our baggage comes from doesn't make it automatically go away. But awareness is the first step to change. I'm glad PJ has a buddy to play with! ... p.s. given enough time I may be both #catlady ;) God bless!
You know nothing about women
This is so spot on! I'm going through the hot and cold phase myself. But unlike others, I recognize the signs as they manifest.
How I react is a combonation of mimcry and calmly yet politely ignore. Then she subconsciously copies my actions, reactions, and demeanor.
If I ignore her, she'll find a way to ignore me. If I'm randomly polite, kind, and sarcastic, she responds the same way. If she does something different with body motions, I'll mimic her to show her, "Heyyyy I'm here and still interested!"
It would be so much easier to just get everything out and proceed from there.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Agree here. Catch it early as it manifests, give her (in order) chocolate, p in the vajay, make sure you finish in her, then give the reassurances...silent bonding....thing.....
I just discovered this channel and the content is great. I was raised with three sisters and they are all good girls. None of the BS. I find that the vast majority of modern women like to play games that you have to play along with. I do not play games. I don't chase. I'm probably going to die single. Whatever. At least my dog is a straight up guy. Lol. Keep up the good work.
That's why dogs are man's best friend. :)
I read your comment and was reminded of my little dog. He's a Fiest.
He don't bitch,I don't bite him.
I have to tell you it really feels like you're in my corner. Thank you and God-bless you
I'm so glad you feel that way! :)
100%! Awesome video! I thoroughly believe in direct and honest communication. It lingers, but you have to belive in what you are saying. Also you need to act up upon what you say. Women always talk - Men never listen. Nowadays I don't feel good unless I've spoken my mind and I don't mind doing it first. In a mature way. Honesty and Integrity are my values. She/he didn't pull away because of no reason. You triggered his/her Fear response.
This is why you never try to fix broken women. They will then see themselves as better than you because you loved them when they were broken and thus must have something wrong with you.
Very insightful! Even if there are baggage issues, what makes a huge difference is if they have resolved them successfully. Otherwise, there will be destructive patterns that will continue to repeat themselves over and over again.
Most definitely!
I have a very strong hunch that the hot/cold thing has a lot to do with other men showing up after you go out with the chick. They see that she has made a move with bloke 'A' and bloke 'B' figures he may move in. She then has to park bloke A, so she can explore bloke b.
Sometimes, but bloke B only has a chance if bloke A messes up or wasn't her real first choice, anyway. No loss there. Also, the stuff I said in the video lol
@Nic777 Not surprised at all. They are hard wired genetically to choose the one most likely to produce the best offspring regardless of her own genotype.
When she is cold it means she is interested in somebody else. when she is warm she might like you until something better comes along.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I get the hot/cold treatment from a woman at work. She is married and has two kids and I know shes had a crush on me for some time. Instead of trying to work out what she wants I just keep things polite and professional. I have no intention of being the "other man".
I appreciate how A.J. breaks down and translates such a confusing subject into a clear and understandable format.
❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
Really couldn’t care about the reasons - when they start this nonsense, just leave. Life’s too short.
Just dump them agree
It will.progress to 27 cats.
A true story.
Thank you again Anna, although not in a relationship, Good and informative information.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
One of the biggest frustrations us men have is not only women going hot & cold in the first place, but that a lot of modern women (you know the type) have values that cause them to go hot & cold in a seemingly more inconsistent manner than other women. For myself, I just subtract my time from them and go about my life when they do this. The key, however, is in understanding the problem -- both in a general manner and more personal manner to yourself -- and understanding how to respond (not react) accordingly.
I talk more about this in next week's video (ignoring a woman)! :))
You is doing good
I agree with many comments here, this is truly the only logical explanation I got for hot and cold behaviour! Well done Your Wingmam!
There is also a tendency to over think and analyse every little thing you do, that in itself contributes to the hot and cold moods. Very annoying and at times soul destroying, from experience I just cease contact and let them over think to their hearts content, they either come back or they don't. I've got familiar to the weak text messages when they dump me, I no longer pander to their ridiculous poor me poor me attitude. They are either worth keeping or not, too much drama and it's a good time to bail out, Hot and cold is just insecurity issues, women unfortunately need to overcome insecurities before they date again. I'm just a pretty straight forward chap, sure, I'm not perfect, none of us are, however I certainly do not put up with pathetic rubbish anymore. I try my best in new relationships, there's one hell of a lot of damaged insecure low confidence women out there. Such is life in the 21st century!
Dear Stunning Catlady:
Found the cat immediately, good hiding place though.
On today's topic. You could write a book on this. Every single thing you pointed out could be a chapter; there is definitely plenty of material there. You can do it Anna; you got this.
I definitely have experienced the hot and cold gals, and I hate to admit I am sure I screwed it up. I can definitely say that left to some arguments where I used one or five of the phrases you talked about last week. Well, at least something has come of my failed relationships; I found an excellent coach in you Anna Maria.
I hope your week is good, Anna. How are you doing over there in Canada? I hope all is well. I have to tell you your eyes looked amazing today. Hug and a peck on each cheek. You are gorgeous, Anna. See you next week.
Thank you so much! You may have contributed to a few fallen relationships but remember it takes two. I'm good, Canada is cold, autumn is upon us! lol :))
@@YourWingmam Canada is very cold
I recently saw a woman who I’d not seen for 8 years. We ended not on a bad note but rather we just petered out. She claimed not to be interested and wanted to be just friends. However, recently I saw her for the first time in 8 years and she was totally different as she was warm and friendly. I realized there was enough blame to go around as I too was different 8 years ago. We both enjoyed seeing each other. Where this goes from here remains to be seen but what I do know is having an open mind and trying to be nonjudgmental is helpful.
Excellent self-awareness right there and so true! :))
Tod, as I once heard from a wise man, if u are walking in a forest and find the same tree twice, then, You are lost...
Well stated, well reasoned video.
Slightly off topic, but it is common wisdom is that long distance relationships never succeed. This depends, however, on the definition of success. Brief periods of high quality “relationship” followed by weeks or months of peace and quiet isn’t horrible, especially for the guy who is on his mission and having fun. It cuts through a lot of BS. If either party wanders, that would have happened anyway. It seems one actual solution to Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity dilemma.
Really love your calm objective explanation on these topics 😊 but laughing harder at your awekward / nerdy humor! 😂
Every video I see of yours, I learn so much about myself, women and life. I'm damaged goods, yet you give me hope and a feeling of self worth. 🎈
You're worth it, king 👑
One of the best judges of a woman that I have found is to look at her Father. What was their relationship like? What did he look like? How did he act? I have found that my woman wants me to be like her Father, but I am nothing like her Father. This has caused endless disconnects.
Excellent point! Many people (not just women) unconscious use relationships to fix the unresolved issues with one of their primary parents / care givers
I had a gf who was very feminine but hated her dad.
When I mimicid him, she immediately turned off.
It was fascinating 🧐. I laughed AT her...
You do a very good job explaining relationships and some aspects of human nature. Keep up the good work.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Lol I still haven't found a single girl that ACTUALLY believes in monogamy and that her actions prove it.
Where are you shopping??
Brilliant analysis. Yes, if there has been trauma in the past we will often try and recreate the trauma to try and fix what wasn't fixed in the past. So, she may cheat on you or accuse you of cheating (sound familiar?) to try and recreate trauma from her past to try and fix it now. And, as Anna said, if you are a "Mr. Fix It" you will either live in a miserable relationship that you cannot fix, or she will leave you after she is fixed, because she does not need a Mr. Fit It, if she is fixed. Or you might lose interest in her, if she no longer has anything that needs fixing. Anna also had a great analysis that people tend to become frightened when they begin to fall in love, because they feel more vulnerable. In "Love Actually" the PM has a discussion with Natalie about her boyfriend dropping her and calling her the dreaded f-word. Obviously, her boyfriend was falling in love with her and felt frightened by that. Anyway, excellent analysis on all levels.
They go from not even looking at me and keeping a distance to stalking mode.
And these moods can switch despite not having even interacted.
I can only guess that I have a evil twin.
Or having two X chromosomes causes mental instability.
All potentially accurate answers lol plus, the answers in the video ;)
Well went from making love with my wife daily to nope, no way I’m not in the mood, so now it’s just cold and no hot !
@@YourWingmam I felt special, then noticed that everyone got a heart.
You are soo unfaithful Anna.
@@ralphquinney2337 She could be entertaining a new man or you did something to piss her off and she wants you to figure it out or hasn’t told you yet.
Some people just have poor communication skills/want you to be a mind reader, or don't know what they want, but want you to know what they want. It's tough.
Great , comprehensive explanation . Your videos actually become better in time , which is rare on this forum . Well done Master Jorgensen.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
OMG I could tell you some story's, at 64 I've been through a lot, it started with my mother!!! your cats playing with the light, hope he/ she doesn't get electrocuted. anyway good one anna, hope you are well, all the best john. nighty night.
It usually does start with one, the other or both of our parents. I will keep mischievous cat safe ;)
What to do about it? Walk away…Nobody’s got time for that.
Youre totally correct about a partner leaving once they become healthy (or healthier). Ive been working on myself for about a year and a half and all the while she has stayed the same. Im leaving because im certain that i cant become healthy and stay healthy while living in an unhealthy situation.
I tried to get her to help herself but she find anything wrong with herself.
Now that i know what healthy is, its my number one goal
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Don't play the game , that's where your power is. Men it is time take back your psychological health.
❤ 🙏
You are wise beyond your years! Thank you for sharing it.
There's a lot of bipolar women out there who run hot and cold. Stay away is my advice. When they're medicated they don't seem to be able to get close or even want to. They're so happy just not to hallucinate anymore.
beautiflee explained Anna, such a big help, many thanks
Glad I could help 🙏
Enjoy the moment and base your situation on the reality. Basing you emotions on the fear of consequences is no way to live.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I'm watching this alone looking at a beautiful Calif sunset from my car , On the beach below is a couple holding each other near the waters edge watching the same sunset....
🙂 ❤
Here's a tip:
She could act cold because of her mood swings from her Period time.
Don't get mad at her if she is cold to you, have a little patience and see how she acts after she feels better.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
For Women, POWER is their ultimate
Aphrodisiac.
Women love teasing and taunting men ....seeing a man dance to her
Tune is gratifying.
I think men confuse themselves too much! They are confusing themselves with a hook up, and a relationship, and the environment where they get either!
If you want a hook up, you are in the game of playing or being played - get used to it! You are way less likely to find a soul mate here.
You want a relationship? Find a quality woman - you won’t find her in a hook up venue!
To find a quality woman - get a hobby, build your kingdom - in those two scenarios your environment changes and your exposure to quality woman increases. Don’t try play the game in this environment, women will flee!
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂god bless your partner. He is gonna need it.
Great Vid. Love your analysis, structure and explanations. Us guys need this. It's taken me over 50 years to figure out a lot of this stuff on my own, I wish I had your videos when I was younger. ❤😊
Glad this was helpful!
It beats me why any man can be bothered with these women !!!! I used to dump them as soon as they started with this sort of stuff. Eventually I gave up even bothering to talk to them at all !!!! And I've never been happier !!!! Now I'm 67yrs, still single with no children, and 2 dogs and my own place and a life of peace and tranquility. All my married male friends are just used as doormats by their wives and none of them are allowed to sleep with their wives !!!! I am so pleased that I am not weak like them !!!!!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@YourWingmam Thanks !!! I`ve had a lot of female friends but never wanted to marry any of them !!!! I always found out things for myself and never followed the Crowd !!!! I have never lost my house in a divorce court so I`m lucky !!!! I always seem to dodge all the Bullets in Life !!!!
I wanted to tell you how much i have enjoyed you video and advice, i also wanted to tell you
how cute you are i still love the freckles. I'm happy to see you looking well rested and posting again
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I always look forward to tuesdays, when Anna Maria, drops her witty, funny, and politically incorrect dating advice...The world is better because of women like her :-)
I love you CATLADY! Oh boy what I laughed! Your humor is great. I love it/you xD !
Glad you enjoyed!
I always end up having dates with hot n cold mocktails 😅
I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has for you 🙏
Another good video Wingmam, although, I was momentarily distracted by the chesterfield behind you. The pillows make it look inviting to take a nap on. May I come over and try it out?
Extra point for boldness: check! ;)
That’s not a Chesterfield, dude.
@@nimmichagger165 It might be a divan. Chesterfield is kind of a Canadian joke.
@@visaman
Apologies Dude, I’m British so don’t get the Canadian reference. Best wishes from London!
I know you've done tons of work on yourself and have grown to be the best AJ ever. But did you always have magic X-ray glasses to see inside and understand how and why people do what they do? Or did you climb a mountain in Tibet and ask a smart Guru what's up with people?
Thank you for the compliment! I climbed a large mountain within my own psyche based on my own relationship mishaps. Though I've always been keenly aware of and interested in psychology. ;) p.s. I also hiked the Himalayas and chatted with a monk but that was after I understood what I know now. (Still learning, always learning.)
@@YourWingmam very very very interesting and impressed.
So much value in your videos, and your presentation is cleanly aligned with the male brain.
I appreciate that!
The one i *should* have caught at the time was "I'd have cheated on **** with you if you'd have made a move". It felt like a compliment at the time, but lookin back... HUGE red flag!
Yep, it sure was!
You COULD say it was a bit of both! When you know a woman with a high SMV has chosen you out of a plethora of choices, that means your SMV is high too! But yes, the obvious red flags if you hope for a LTR with stability! If she can justify it with you, she can justify it with chad when dating you! Would be fun to play '100' questions to see how she rationalizes it and see how far through the questions you get before that lil lightbulb comes on! LOL
@@YourWingmam check your hashtag. It says wingman.
I love when you say “but Anna…” it makes me laugh every time.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response ❤ 🙂
Thank you for encouraging men to 'Gaslight' women into believing that 'male subjugation to Monogamy and Queenie status for a starch and sugar stuffer' instead of dealing with the reality of upholding her end of the attraction dichotomy.
This explains a lot 🙏🏽 thank you
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I’d rather attend the Running of the Bulls in Spain.Sounds a lot less stressful,but the underlying rule still exists though…Run!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Hey thank you for your knowledge... I met a woman and she totally blew my mind... First time butterflies and rainbows in over 10 years.
She did the hot cold game on me and now that I know why she is doing it.... I feel a little guitlty for playing her back.
I realise that she is extremly afraid to stand there all alone because thats what her father did to her mother for some time when she was younger.
We are both married to other partners and both habe children nearly the same ages. She told me she is unhappy because her new husband who is only father of the second kid doesnt treat her first son whos father is dead equally.
When she saw me with my children she was warmer than ever.
I think next time she does hot and cold to me i really can keep calm because it seems that she is afraid of the good things that finally could.come into her life.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
the current gal i'm chatting with is hot/cold.. one moment she wants to talk for hours, another she's well.. not here lol.
Mirror her do the same back to her.
Patience, my friend.
Hopefully this video will unravel some of that mystery! Let me know what you think!
Thank you for the clarity!
My pleasure ❤️
My most recent ex talked to her friends & family about us after 2 years together to figure out if she should move forward with us. She wanted to move forward so bad, but she felt I was a risky investment for some reason. They completely sabotaged the relationship by filling her head with a bunch of BS about me. None of it was true! They only met me twice. Apparently that was enough to begin the slow fade & that really stung.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Wonderful advice thanks Anna
My pleasure ❤️
Once you’re in a relationship with your girlfriend etc.for awhile you should already be aware of what her; tendencies-reactions are before she begins to behave hot or cold and what makes her ticks. You have deal with it like it’s a test.
Exactly. That's why I've got a whole playlist on shit tests! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkFVeRMpvW3s3SC3Vgu7I1d
After a while her bullshit just isn't worth it it gets tiresome real quick.
@@YourWingmam I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling a woman either; that you love her or that you’re falling in love with her. You even said yourself in one of your past videos; you alluded to something like “We might not be alive very long in this world” 🌎 and “we all don’t really know how much time we have left to live.”
Whoa...this really helped me to think bout myself and someone i really care about.Thank you.
Glad I could help! If you're in a relevant situation, you may want to watch again -- good luck! :)
@@YourWingmam yes..I shall do just that when I'm home for lunch.Thanks again
"She believes in monogamy" 😂😂😂😂😂 yeah sure
I agree with every word you said. Also every word you said show relationships are a very one sided affair and not worth the effort.
Thats not what it shows at all... it shows relationship are work and require effort.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Because she is crazy
you have an amazing channel and you consistently hit the nail on the head.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Sounds like women complicate things beyond repair. I've seen this far too often. Complete waste of time.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
This happened to me recently. Thank god that it only went on for a couple of weeks before the relationship ended.
I'm a woman and am completely confused and puzzled by these complicated explanation. If a woman goes cold she either isn't into you or she feels you are not sufficiently into her. That's probably enough clues for you to communicate with her to find out what's going on.
I followed your channel for a long time.
For the new people, realize that women are just people. There's no trick or rules.
I hope you found some value in the videos you watched at that time! 🙏🥰
"treat you like the queen you are" ... you're insane
If she's worthy of the queen title that means you're worthy of the king title. Few women are worth of such but none who are would take advantage of that position ;)
You are SO entertaining! Great content and great channel! Godspeed my friend
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much!
Oh my gosh!...so complicated. I think I'll go workout instead, Peace, Sal
Your hair & makeup look fantastic! It's about time you Glammed it up a little. Keep it up & go for more. 😁
Can't count how many of your videos I've seen. Best & prettiest wingman ever!! 😎
Why can't there be more women like you!? Enjoyed ur vid Anna!!
Thank you, lovely compliment! There are some good ones out there, just tough to find! :)
If there were more chicks like AJ, she wouldn't be so unique and special. It would be like if every truck sold was Ford Raptor. You would be as happy that you worked hard to have a truck that most others don't have. I'm happy with one AJ who shares her friendship with all of us
Thanks Anna, very informative.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
@@YourWingmam your very welcome Anna.
Honestly I'd love to rank to you because this situation I'm dealing with is maddening and frustrating and I want to walk the hell away today 😠
I feel like this today too.
Your podcast is brilliant!
You selflessly share experiences, everything is deeply psychologically informed.
You actually have a male mind in a female body. You really are the best of all coaching!
Thank you for sharing this knowledge about the female mind with us. I can think how valuable you are to all your partners, and as much as you can choose, I believe that you always have Mr. Ideal by your side.
All the best in life, God bless you for bridging the gap between the two genders.
You are a diamond!
Wow, what a thoughtful and complimentary comment, thank you so much! Glad to help! 🙏
Yes...women can be so frustrating at times....just when you think shes backing away and youre ready to move on...they run hot again and drag you back in...!
So then be brave, man up, and enjoy the adventure of it all. We are all a little broken.
Red aka the Wingmam always gives out true advice. I don't watch many of these types of channels but like Anna's channel. 😊😊. I think she's intelligent and beautiful ❤️🥰🔥💯🙏👋👋 if I ran across this Woman I'd definitely strike up a conversation. I'm an extrovert for sure. 👍💪💯
That point about it all possibly being for nothing was heavy!!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Even though you explained all of this, I still don’t see why women go so deep into this shit. Men also have similar thoughts on this topic as you described Anna, but men don’t typically start acting hot and cold towards the woman because of it. Men just go with it and hope the the best and the outcome is what it is and we worry about it then. Women seem to kill themselves over the concept of “what if” instead of just going with the flow!
It really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing!
@@YourWingmam I have a specific question though if you wouldn’t mind responding