Bisexual men | What’s it like being a bi guy?
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- Опубликовано: 10 окт 2024
- This is the second instalment of my no-holes-barred diary of a bisexual man. It’s just me, unedited talking about my life as a big guy.
I hope that in speaking authentically about my experiences I can make others feel less alone.
Let me know if you like it and I will make more.
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Hello my friend!Well I believe I suffer from HOCD or SO OCD.I didn't know my sexuality all my teenage years, gay/bi or straight.For some reason I started having thoughts of being gay at the age of 11.At the time it sent me into a panic and caused extreme anxiety.I never thought there was such a thing as OCD. Later on I looked at every same sex person I liked I felt more attracted to the same sex and was afraid of being gay or not straight later in my mid teens I would pop up at certain intervals that I was not straight, but I wasn't terribly afraid because I was afraid that something would come out about me that I didn't want to admit to myself, I feel like I'm an internalised homophobe or biphobic I don't hate and I never hated LGBT people because I always got a feeling or a thought, I'm 19 and I've been obsessed with same-sex stuff for the last year and a half and I'm really struggling with my sexuality and OCD and I feel it but I also feel it, why I can't be the typical straight guy and it makes me angry but I feel like it's the truth I try to say that it's okay that I'm not a straight guy but I don't feel comfortable and I think it's because I'm an internalised homophobe with myself
I find myself relating to so much of what you're saying. It makes so much sense that if we have to suppress anything that major about ourselves, then the cumulative effect of that is going to show up for some people as chronic fatigue or trauma.
On a lighter note, hadn't realised you were in Ireland - you should come up and check out Belfast Pride the weekend after next!
Ah thanks so much. I’m actually so tired (from chronic fatigue hahaha) that I overdid it with prides last year and came to Belfast. It was amazing but this year it’s too much. I’m truly wishing you the most amazing time.
I didnt know about the chronic fatigue! That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing :)
Of course. Thank you for your support and understanding.
I am still on SSRI after three years because I find that whenever I stop taking them, after about a month, my obsessions and perfectionism goes into overdrive and I find myself going back to them. They haven't had any side effects for me, except some sleepiness in the beginning of taking them and also some slight issues with my liver enzymes which my doctor told me could be because of the SSRIs.
Hey thanks so much for sharing. Medication can be good I think and works for different people in different ways. It was good for me for that time.
T4T couples are the most beautiful people alive
I would have to agree
i have known for a while i find women attractive but i am more into men i feel very confused 😑
I hear you. You’re not alone.
@@notdefining thank you very kind hard figuring things out but
It is but you’re getting there. Sending so much love.
Same, for a long time I just thought I was crazy or something. Because I grew up in a heavily Christian community, I only knew straight and gay orientations existed. Many of the people who influenced me as a child were homophobic, but at least they acknowledged the existence of gay and lesbian people. It took me a long time to understand myself and how I can be equally attracted to both genders and that there is a word and a community that fit this definition. Now I'm not confused at all, I'm just me.
Suffering from HOCD for 6 months now!
bro life isn't fun anymore
Naah the word "Fun" would be wrong here, correct would be life isn't normal anymore, fun is way ahead in my life!
Never thought that disease like that also exist, i was and i am so sure about my heterosexuality, for bi's and Homo's i just knew there defination that's it
I came to know about word gay when i was 13 and i was wtf yuckk how disgusting and it limited to only knowing thier defination
Bi came even later and my reaction was wtf is wrong how can they love both and if they can love both why cant they stay on heterosexuality
Used to make fun of my other fellows in class by calling them out by these words and they also used to in return but this never struck in my mind like this!
I have masturbated for more than 1500 times looking at women and all felt very good, the only guilt in that was breaking my nofap journey!
Bro it doesnt matter how many number of logic i list in front of you proving my heterosexuality this HOCD and this heterophobic world wouldn't listen to me and just bombard me with words Like fluidity, spectrum 😔
Bro i really dont wanna be gay or bi not because of my ego but just because that i dont wanna fancy men
It disgust me to the core
I hear you and you’re not alone.
@@notdefining Please tell me that i am not bi
I am 22 and i never got any single attraction towards same sex
It is all girls
If i really was bi then i would get atleast 0.1% of hint in my teen years but no bro nothing
Even after HOCD i only feel aroused towards female body not same sex body
Pleaee reply brother
It would help me greatly
I am feeling suicidal
I really dont want to be bi or gay to any extent
I just want my old alpha straight male back
If you have not had any attraction to the same sex then you would not be considered bi or gay to any extent.
I have to ask if you are feeling suicidal, it’s okay. I’m here. What support do you have around you right now and have you made any plans to end your life?
This stuff can be monumentally hard but you’re not alone and it’s going to be okay. I’ve been there. Please don’t struggle alone.
@@notdefining neither i faced or facing any attraction towards same sex nor i have a 0.0000000000001% desire to be with men.
All i am subjected to is false attraction after HOCD
I am a man of my house of my country, i want a lovely sexy wife whom i can take care of for rest of my life
I would better sign a peace of treaty with death then becoming bi or gay or trans or any other shit!
I am not homophobic at any stretch i just dont want to fancy men i doesnt like it. It gives me disgust
I want to be with women i want a gf
@@notdefining brother please reply🙏🙏🙏🙏