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Notdefining
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Добавлен 28 фев 2021
A space for anyone who wants to understand their orientation, gender, identity, self-expression, relationships and mental health.
We provide content, community and support for those who have complex, undefined, fluid or intersectional identities.
Mark is a certified, specialist mental health and relationship coach with years of experience helping people find their best selves however they define.
He has real lived experience of living as a bi+/fluid, asexual-spectrum, non-binary person. You can hear all about Mark’s experiences on the channel.
@notdefining is a place of zero judgment and total safety. So why not come and join us, we’re excited to get to know you more…
We provide content, community and support for those who have complex, undefined, fluid or intersectional identities.
Mark is a certified, specialist mental health and relationship coach with years of experience helping people find their best selves however they define.
He has real lived experience of living as a bi+/fluid, asexual-spectrum, non-binary person. You can hear all about Mark’s experiences on the channel.
@notdefining is a place of zero judgment and total safety. So why not come and join us, we’re excited to get to know you more…
Why LGBT Trump Voters Aren’t Welcome in the LGBT Community
People seem to think that you can vote for Trump or Conservative parties and be part of the LGBTQ+ community.
Some LGBT people did vote for Trump and others around the world have voted for Conservative Parties.
This video explains why it is reasonable for LGBT people to choose to distance themselves from such people.
It also explains why it’s not intolerant to do so. This video explains the tolerance paradox and why it’s important to understand.
Disclaimer: I used the word “gays” in the title for brevity and because gay people are the overwhelming majority of LGBT Trump supporters.
Members of other sub identities voted for Trump and do vote conservative as well so I wanted to state that.
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Some LGBT people did vote for Trump and others around the world have voted for Conservative Parties.
This video explains why it is reasonable for LGBT people to choose to distance themselves from such people.
It also explains why it’s not intolerant to do so. This video explains the tolerance paradox and why it’s important to understand.
Disclaimer: I used the word “gays” in the title for brevity and because gay people are the overwhelming majority of LGBT Trump supporters.
Members of other sub identities voted for Trump and do vote conservative as well so I wanted to state that.
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How to Tell if Someone is Bisexual: Expert Advice from a Bisexual Advocate
Просмотров 2,3 тыс.14 дней назад
In this video I explain how to know if someone is bisexual or not. As an expert on bisexuality I work with bi people all the time. I felt I could provide some of my top advice for anyone who may be wondering if someone is bisexual or not. We often wonder whether someone could be bi but it’s difficult to know whether they are or not. This video explains how we can know. @notdefining is a support...
Queer Man Explains why he doesn’t want Straight Friends!
Просмотров 2,9 тыс.21 день назад
This video explains why I don’t want straight friends. It’s a hard one but I wanted to speak about it. I am not focused on meeting new straight people or cis hetero people right now and I feel I need to explains why. LGBT people have a right to have safety in their community and I think that’s okay. So I am talking about it. I find it hard to be in hetero spaces and I want to encourage other qu...
Why I Refuse to Define my Sexuality | Breaking Free From Labels
Просмотров 1,2 тыс.Месяц назад
In this video, I explore why I refuse to label or define my sexuality. As a non-defining person navigating the world of sexual identity, I challenge the pressure to fit into a single box or conform to rigid labels like “gay,” “straight,” “bisexual,” or “queer.” Join me as I share my personal story and insights on embracing fluidity and rejecting societal norms around defining sexuality. If you’...
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Просмотров 2,8 тыс.Месяц назад
Do you feel a sense of loss for the time you could have enjoyed as a queer or bisexual person when you were younger? Did it take you a long time to come out and now you look back and wonder how life could have been? In this video, specialist sexuality coach Mark Cusack explains the psychology behind queer grief / bisexual grief and offers guidance as to how to overcome it. How can we move past ...
Non-binary identity: is it just lazy? Am I a fraud?
Просмотров 1,4 тыс.Месяц назад
I am non-binary but sometimes I feel lazy! I have a lot of thoughts about it and I wanted to share them with you today. My non-binary identity feels lazy and I don't know why. I wanted to chat it out and see what people think. In this video I talk about my non-binary identity, what it means for me and also how I feel kind of lazy for not being the "proper" non-binary. I feel like I'm not the ri...
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10 things not to say to a bisexual person
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A bi ace guy explains his sexuality, (can I really be bi and asexual at the same time?)
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Lemmings, and cakeists too... absolutely braindead to have voted for them, period. You no longer are a safe person to be around.
Many gay people are under the impression that, now that same sex marriage is legal nationwide, they can sit at the Republican table and be treated equally. Despite the fact that those same Republicans refused to give them that right for decades and had to be forced to do so. They're a bunch of pick me idiots who have pulled the rug out from under their own feet out of complete hubris
Was identifying as gay up until recently…. I really think I’m bisexual…
Also a-romantic
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People who support Trump are just as immoral as he is, maybe even more so because they can better see his immorality from a more objective point of view and still refuse to acknowledge it. They're enabling his immorality. I'm not a religious person, but it's what the devil would do, isn't it?
A lot of conservative cis gay people voted for trump because they are transphobes
I’m gay and have absolutely no tolerance for MAGA’s. Gay republicans are the craziest of all republicans.
I work with a gay man who ferociously supports DT. I don’t get it.
Good riddance to the LGBTQIA2S+ community then 👋
Bolsonaro (Brazilian President) - stood on a platform of equal rights. He achieved it by removing protected status rights such as LGBTQIA+ rights, for all Brazilians, so that everyone could be treated equally as bad as each other. Looks like Trump has the same plan.
Turkeys voting for Christmas - Trump voters becoming the people Trump wants rid of.
The conservatives are being really weird, crylaughing or scoffing at the idea of other people being openly and authentically themselves and hurting no one. I can't tell apart which ones genuinely (and falsely) believe there is no discrimination/bullying/worse and which ones just enjoy it and that's why they always show up to mock us out of nowhere yet still don't get it when this kinda video comes out. Since I can't tell the difference, I'm just gonna assume it's the latter, that they just live for being a nuisance.
I mean they literally sold out everyone else thinking Trump would get rid of the T and Q. I personally don't care for people who betray me.
LGBTQ Trump suporters wanting to be included in the LGBTQ community is like NAZI's wanting to be in the French Resistance in WWII.
I am a 50-year-old Gay man and I told my cousin who is MTF who voted for Trump that he’s not good for us, I got the reply back Trump had a Gay wedding, and he said he’s for gay people. The younger gay people do not know how tough it was back in the day.
In France we have a rising part of white gay men adhering to the French far right, even if this party has always fought against their best interest and their lives, they started to try and differentiate white gays from the rest by pointing out religion and culture, sometimes trans people altogether. Which makes it almost ok for some of them to be gay AND racist/xenophobic with no cognitive dissonance. The fact that we also have a lot of white gay male politicians in every party makes LGBT topics less of a "left" issue. This validates gays who moved away from the defence of minorities now that they're more visible and the fighting is done. I remember when I was 20+, I would joke with my gay friends about he concept of a French "right-leaning gay man." A spiteful, selfish, closeted self-hating sad man. We thought they didn't exist, but here we are.
I identify as bisexual, and I am much more attracted to women than men. And the men I'm attracted to look very "feminine". But sometimes, I'm attracted to men who have a slightly more "masculine" look than I'm attracted to. And there are times when I think more about being in a relationship with a woman, there are times when I will feel this romantic attraction more towards men. And there are times when it is more evenly distributed. I have decided not to define my sexuality, although I identify as bisexual, I understand that my sexuality is more than a simple definition.
Voting for racism is a deal barker
I am a bisexual woman, and this is comfortable to hear! ☺️
I am especially sad for trans people cause their hormonal and surgical treatment will be banned by law and doctors that will try to help them will be punished. I find that really awful - dysphoria and entrapment for life :(
A majority of the LGBTQ Trump voters are usually gay people that are under the assumption that they are better than the rest of the LGBTQ community. They saw propaganda from LibsofTikTok and Gays against groomers and legit took that to heart. The only reason why those accounts exist in the first place is because the owners want revenge for making Trump lose 2020. When Trump was president it was "Trump is the most pro-LGBTQ president ever". After Biden was inaugurated, it was "Trans people touch kids". The shift was so sudden and unnatural. It's very similar to them going from "George Floyd should have complied" to "George Floyd deserved to die". The fact that certain members of the LGBTQ community think the leopards will spare them for being good little servants is comical. What do they think will happen when the right shift further to the right?
We are not treating with "leopards" here but people with different opinions than yours, what the fvck are you even talking about. Log off and interact with real people looser
I actually think my sexuality has become less strong homosexuality wise not in a sexual way but in terms of aesthetic attraction. so at 20 I feel like i have internalised homophobia and have self doubt on who I am. First step: forgive yourself and just accept where you are now
So women are bottoms now?
Thanks ❤
Probably, when we originally evolved, we just had to show our private parts, and toddlers are hardly ashamed to walk around naked- this only really intensifies during puberty!!
They sold out for less taxes?
Oh we need to be tolerant. Not suicidal. You don't tolerate a lion in your home; you remove it like the danger it is.
My first question upon meeting people is who did you vote for. Either “Trump” or “I don’t really follow politics” (a complete, intentional dodge) gets instant block, conversation over. I have the same response to anyone saying “feminism has gone too far”.
Those LGBT voted for Trump was more than likely bullied by Trumpers.
It's wild that people don't inherently understand this, amazing explanation for those that don't.
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Respect urself from repetition just walk away u dont need proof u r living walking talking thinkin proof, again its the biggots clinging onto taught hate untill it happens to them will they get it etc.
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Well spoken. Long story short, people who behave like A holes should not complain about being treated as one.
I thought it was just common sense. Tolerant of people who are who they are and just trying to live their lives without doing harm to others? Of course. Tolerant of people who support hateful bigots, liars and a rapist? Hell no.
I have mixed feelings about this. I disagree that I don't want more straight friends. I really don't care about that kind of stuff. Straight or queer, black or white, man or woman, disabled or non-disabled, I like friends in general and as long as we share a very close bond, I don't care about those other identifying factors. That said, I agree with your reasoning, I understand it, and I can somewhat relate. So, I'm autistic and lucky that most people I know in my life who are either close family, friends, or partners, are neurodivergent in some way. However, not all of them are queer, and there is obviously a closer bond and understanding with people who share more in common with you, so I understand what you mean as someone who's queer myself. As someone who felt very unloved as a child, though, my friends are my family, and to me, the more love, the better. That's why such things don't matter to me, I love the support wherever it comes from. So, I want more straight friends equally to me wanting more queer friends, but I can't deny that I feel greater connections with my queer friends. So, I get what you mean and I agree, I think I just came to a different conclusion due to a different perspective and upbringing.
I think if someone changed and regretted their choice of voting trump that they could be redeemable and should be welcomed into the community. But otherwise, I agree.
Of course. I agree completely.
Just wait for Adolf Steven Mueller, RFK, Elon and Vivek decide that they don't want the government to help pay for HIV medications. You may not have HIV, I don't either but there is a huge percentage of the gay community that is HIV positive and many of them don't have insurance or can't afford HIV medications. To think that they would never do that is just unrealistic denial. This Maga administration are a bunch of blood thirsty monsters.
If they vote for Trump it’s like cutting your own throat. I question if they have any morals at all? What is wrong with these people? They should be banned for sure
Gays that voted for Trump want nothing to do with "the community" anyway, you guys embarass us, being gay is not some kind of clique, we are not best buddies nor in anything together, most of you guys are deeply hurt covert narcissists, and the world is sick of it. Being gay is not "me vs them", you guys sound like undeveloped kids, arrested development is rampant in the gay population. No mentally healthy gay person wants anything to do with your kind, trust.
democrats voted for him too. it was a landslide
Me and husband was married in NC in 2018 we were told that it would be easy to live in Australia then America under the Trump presidency my husband is Australian we currently live in Australia but wanting to return to states to retire in the states I vote blue but now that Trump will now be president again we are scary that he will over turn gay marriage and my husband will be deported even though we've been married over 7 years that are marriage will be nog and voided our plans were to move back to the states but now our plans are on hold, could anyone give us any avice.
Social contract. You get accepted and tolerated if you do the same for others. You vote for far right bigots. You break the contract.
As a Latina transgender woman I’m glad I voted for Kamala Harris🫶🏽 The difference between Trump (Magas) and a classical John McCain Republican are: Classical Conservatives or Republicans may NOT agree with us but they are not fascist. Trump is a fascist and yes next year I do believe we will be entering a full blown right wing dictatorship like we never seen before in our country .I’m not staying here and fighting ! I’m planning to go to Canada or Mexico. Again Trump is not a conservative he is a fascist. Call it what it is. I though George Bush Jr was bad but Damm Trump is like on steroids when is comes to being bad.
I'm struggling. I'm struggling so much. I am 54 years old, barely out of the closet and just now beginning a gender awareness journey and now this. I am so tired and I feel like it will never, ever be ok to be myself in this country. And I have fought through so much to try to just simply be myself and know peace.
I’m so sorry 😢. I can relate so much! Have you been able to reach out to your local lgbtq group? Now more than ever, we need to be in community with each other in order to survive.
Genius. Thanks for this. I just subscribed, partly for the content. Partly to be able to look at you. Adorbs.
Trump voting LGBT will never be welcome in my home or my social circle. Until the day they die. They must pay for what they’ve done to the rest of us.