I love this 💛. This is SO good. I REALLY wanted to marry a good black man but the Christian ones in my vicinity were either interested in women of other races or they would show interest and not pursue. I wasn’t down for games and wanted to walk in purity while dating. Long story short, the man that pursued me was an attractive white/Japanese man who was a virgin with a heart on fire for God and supported my desires to be a homemaker. I said yes when he asked me out and now I’m a happily married homeschooling homemaker with our 3rd child on the way. Pray for God’s guidance, honor Him in dating, don’t settle, and He will send the right man 😊💛.
I love this! This is so encouraging. I actually do not have a specific preference in color. I feel that the Lord knows what I need. You sharing your story really encourages me.
@@jamilawhite3044 Aww glad it was helpful! Yes, He certainly does! God also led me to pray that He prepare me to be a wife to my husband and for his specific needs 🙏🏾.
@@jamilawhite3044 I’m sorry, I know waiting is tough. Your time will come, especially since God has given you this desire. I’ll be praying for you and that your husband gets ready for you as well 🙏🏾.
This woman is the reason why, as a man, I believe that beauty is deeper than looks. She is stunningly pretty, but what really strikes harder is what comes from her mouth. It shows her essence and any sensible man wouldn't think twice before snatching her out of the dating market. I did the same with my wife and honestly, life is A LOT more easier when you marry an honorable woman.
Why are you calling another woman other than your wife “stunningly pretty” ??! Matthew 5:28 King James Version 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. REPENT!!
@@madelinehopeyasharal what a pathetic comment. How exactly are you sure that I looked at her with last? For saying that she is pretty? I’ve said the same thing to my mum, my sisters and I tell my 4 year old daughter that she’s stunningly beautiful almost every day. I guess I have to repent for that too?
I met my husband 7-years ago, whose a White man. We have 5 beautiful children and I'm a stay at home mother. When I was younger, I dated based on qualifications not his race. I made the right choice. Thanks for this video.
I am a BW. I also made the active choice to date based on qualifications and not race. I have been married 17 years. We have a great family and are very happy. I did loose a few friends along the way because my husband is a WM. Someone I went to college with told me I could not be for Black people and marry a WM.
They ARE out here… I’m a black woman with a black man… and I am a homemaker at home with our 2 boys…. And if I didn’t find him I most definitely would have changed brands.. cause I wouldn’t go home with paper towels! Love this! ❤️
Bindi is delusional. Yes if u can't find the black man u want then consider dating men on other races, but shes misleading you by making it seem likes it as easy as going to the store and buying TP😳 Most non-black men are NOT interested in BW beyond just sleeping with you once to check a box off their bucket list. The non-black men who date BW usually just use them as practice and then go marry a white woman 🤷♂️
I am so glad that you are addressing this. As a woman of faith, I always wanted a man who was a believer. It was not until I joined a Campus Ministry when I fist started dating men of other cultures. I found that having a bond based in Christ superceeded all other things. Men from ALL OVER THE WORLD are praying for a wife who loves God. Place you faith in God and make all kinds of friends. My husband and I have been together over 20 years.
@Mocha Mommy…you are spot on. Being a Christian comes before everything. If you meet a stable mature man that loves and serves the Lord everything else should fall into place.
Bindi is delusional. Yes if u can't find the black man u want then consider dating men on other races, but shes misleading you by making it seem likes it as easy as going to the store and buying TP😳 Most non-black men are NOT interested in BW beyond just sleeping with you once to check a box off their bucket list. The non-black men who date BW usually just use them as practice and then go marry a white woman 🤷♂️
I’m a 22 y/o stay at home mother of 2. My husband is a carpenter’s apprentice. You can do the math and see that his income isn’t what most would consider “financial stability” but we are still incredibly blessed and fruitful. God will open the door for you if you align yourself with Him. And if you’re in poverty in America’s standards, you are still richer than 3/4 of the entire world.
Ayla, I just want to say that present income is not the determining factor, character is. Your husband may not have a great income now, but if he is a hard worker and of good character, his income will improve. There are some men who based on the type of men they are (their lack of work ethic and character) will never be able to earn enough to care for a family. Those are the types of men to avoid. I married my husband in my early twenties and he did not have a great income either at the time - but he was the best man I knew with great integrity and work ethic. After a few years I was able to be a stay at home mother to our son. I now have three boys, one is an adult and the other two are almost adults, and I am in my late forties, and we are fine financially. This message is not about marrying wealthy men, or that a man cannot come from humble beginnings, it is about marrying a man of good character who will rise up and be able to take care of his family, not a man who you know is lazy and unproductive, and cannot hold down a job. For reference, I am black and my husband is from Puerto Rico.
This is absolutely true @Ayla. When you Step out on that faith, and sow with good intents, you reap good benefits. So glad to hear how this is working for the both of you, and best of all, your children will appreciate it in the long run! Good families make the world go round.
@@angorachic I love your response. Many women still don't look for character in a man. They hear that they need to be house wife and think it's a luxury for those who are able to marry someone rich. Finding a rich man is not important. What is important is finding a godly man who works diligently who is caring and looks out for his wife and family first and is responsible with money. Usually a man with those qualities will do well in life. He will be blessed from God and also make more money compared to others, or at the very least be able to provide so his wife can be a homemaker. My husband had a tough beginning. He lived in Ukraine and didn't at 21 have a GED or driving licence. He got those right away and started an eBay business, and side jobs of yard work, dog watching, and home renovations before we were married. Then he became a life guard, then worked in a camping store, while keeping his side jobs. He eventually became supervisor and was able to put that on his Resume and apply for a government job. He now is supervisor at his government job and working up towards 60+ a year. He managed this without a degree but is working on that now so he is eligible for the manager position. He takes side classes and goes to company meetings and workshops to learn more. He had nothing when he came to the states, just one suitcase and no GED. It has allowed me to study swing trading and make money from home and start my own translation business. So his hard work has helped both of us find ways to be financially secure. Trading takes very little time and I could easily do that and homeschool children one day. All that to say, I didn't choose a rich man, I chose a godly man who was honourable and hard working and I knew it would be fine. I wasn't wrong.
Amen!!!! My man is a different brand lol. He is Mexican American. He is truly a man of God. I’m so blessed and grateful to be marrying him in 11 Days! 🤍
You speak the truth! I have been married for almost 7 years so I haven’t been in the marriage market in a while. However when I was looking for a husband, race was not an issue. I did end up marrying a black man from the Caribbean (like me), but I didn’t limit myself. My husband was/is a nerd!!! So many women are unwilling to date/marry men who aren’t extroverted, aren’t a certain skin color! My own mother didn’t like my husband at the time because he is “too dark”!!! What nonsense is this?!! I was adamant to not listen to my mother because of her poor choices of who she married! She married a “light skinned man” and I chose to marry a loving, Jesus loving, provider who told me from day one I don’t need to work! He is an amazing father who supports my wanting a big family (we have 3 so far). Thank you Bindi! I know too many black women who are still single, with ridiculous standards and complaining or worst yet, saying they want someone like my husband….honey, you wouldn’t marry someone like my husband because of your ridiculous standards that have nothing to do with his character, his ability to provide, his love of God. Instead, you focus on how he dresses, his complexion, his race, whether he’s an extrovert. Anyway, I’ll stop here! This needs to be said! Young women, who you marry determines what kind of life you will have. Choose carefully!
Oh and to add to this: my mother loves my husband so much now! My sister married a “light skinned” man and she doesn’t care too much for him! She calls my husband her son and always talks to him and laughs with him. It’s amazing what happens when we don’t limit ourselves! Also I loved the analogy with the toilet paper/ paper towel! That made me laugh!
I agree...I also want to note that I believe many men can actually be providers, but we as Americans tend to be heavy consumers that have to have the big house and nice car. If you lower your expectations on material things in life, and compromise for a more simpler life, a one income household is indeed doable on a fairly average income. I'm living proof of that
I’m due to be married in the next few months and I chose the best man for me. I will be a housewife/homemaker once we are married. He just happens to be white and Jewish. Choose the best man in spite of physical characteristics. Character and godliness is the most important thing.
I 100% agree with you. While it would be nice to have someone within my race I’m not going to block my blessings if God chooses to send me an eligible marriage partner of a different race/color. Which is exactly what happened after I turned 35. Through much prayer asking God to send me my future husband I finally met someone who is a Christian, stable financially/ emotionally, and wanting to have children. He proposed in 7 months time, and I couldn’t be happier to finally start the next chapter in my life. If I would just recommend one thing to single ladies it is to pray and ask God to help reveal your husband to you, make it clear, and ask for peace as you go through this process.
I just met a man a few weeks ago whom if this were a few years ago, I would not have considered dating nor marrying. He’s a black man (an attorney) with a lighter complexion than i would prefer but he’s l loves God and he’s really really smart. He also went to theology school. We actually have a lot in common. He mentioned that he would like his wife to be a homemaker and that when he would mention this fact on a date, most women would disagree. I’ve learned over the years that sticking with “types” doesn’t always work so when he walked up and introduced himself to me in the middle of court (I work in the court system), I decided to give him a chance. He’s been showing up ever since! Yesterday, he drove 45 minutes just to bring my fav food. Keep me in ya prayers ladies.
So glad to have found this channel. I am a a wife, homemaker, homeschooling and homesteading mother. I also wanted to find a good black man. But I could not find him. I did give up a bit. Because the black men that pursued me were not ready for marriage at all or did not want to be married. However, God had other plans. He sent me a good man who loves the Lord, me, and our children. He happens to be a white man and we have been married for over 11 years now. I’m still learning a lot because I was brought up in a community of single mothers or marriages that were horrible. I thank God for where I am at today. I totally agree with you on this. Blessings!
I understand the Lord helping you find a mate. I drove to church as an 18 year old. I was crying because one of the boys I knew all throughout high school had invited me to a party that evening. I liked him so much, in fact I loved him in many ways because we were very good friends. But his lifestyle was a total wreck. He partied non-stop and did drugs. I was also attracted to some of the other boys and all throughout high school had wanted to date people, but had resisted, consistently saying I wasn't ready. It was hard, but I just kept thinking, "But one mistake could impact the rest of my life... Either listen to God or you may have many regrets." I made the conscious decision that night: there are two choices before me -go and party and possibly date that one boy or many different boys OR go to church and keep waiting even though it's "out of fashion," and let it be in God's hands. So while in the car, thinking like only an 18 year old can, that I'd probably be a spinster; crying over how I wanted to listen to God but was sad that maybe I'd be lonely because there were few friends around that had the same Christian values I loved - even within the church! And I said to God on the way to church, "Okay. I choose You. I'm not going back to those partying friends. But please, my God, please can you give me one. Just one true friend so I won't be alone forever." At church that night, I saw my future husband on the stage. I saw him and he was good and genuine and had the sweetest, kindest eyes. And it was like I heard, "Here, daughter. Here is your friend." I went home that night and told my mother, "I'm going to marry him!" We married when I was 19. He's the best friend I could've ever asked for. I have no regrets.
Yes love this! I myself am a black Christian wife and mom of 2 who homeschools and is also in an interracial marriage. We NEED more channels like yours giving wisdom that’s Godly and uplifting to women in the right way! Being a woman is a GIFT! We are the very last created being and society is determined to take that away from us. So I applaud channels like yours. New Subscriber here and I will be sharing your content…stay blessed and keep lifting the standard💕
this is an interesting topic. in response to the comment that black women or black families can't afford to have a stay at home wife/mom i think that is not true. often black ppl dont know how to manage financially so they must have 2 incomes. for example, i have seen white couples that have a stay at home wives and their husbands arent ballin. they just have a normal homes, regular cars, and make wise choices. on the other hand, I have known of black couples that have good paying jobs but tons of debt, luxury cars, expensive vacations, and renting an apartment. but say that they cant afford for the wife to stay home. we must make better financial choices and change our values.
I think it’s fine to have a luxury lifestyle so long as your not going into mounds of debt and both partners don’t mind the wife working. Also home buying is not for everyone. If it’s about leaving something to children, it’s better to invest your income, multiply it and leave money. I guarantee they prefer the money.
Agree, people tend to live above their means instead of at or better yet below their means. Let the finances dictate the lifestyle not that particular lifestyle no matter what
No matter what one’s skin color may be, staying out of debt (before & during marriage) is HUGE in terms of giving the family more options for how the husband & wife decide to do things.
I think you stated nothing but facts. I love the toilet paper analogy. I don't have a desire to be a homemaker or have kids but do have a desire to be married. Its nice to see black women living the life they want to live.
Not a black woman but as a native woman I wanted to marry a native man, mostly out of familiarity and also I was treated differently because I’m part white and I didn’t want that for my kids but after getting my heart broke (my fault for allowing that) by a native Christian man, I realized it’s already hard enough finding a Good man in general to limit my options by ethnicity was foolish. Now I’m married to a strong Christian man who’s white. And All those preferences in the past are out the window, my attraction has shifted and his features that are distinctly different than my old preferences are part of why I’m so attracted to him now. Not that native men are less attractive I’m just so enamored with my husband he’s now my standard of attractiveness.
I have black men telling me that "am too white for a black woman", "too emotional & too open"... I am a Princess in my tribe & I have hidden my title for years to avoid being treated differently. However, being royalty is not something I can hide. I love being supported & spoiled as a woman, but the black men never did that for me. So, am looking into other races.... Am a woman of faith, but am willing to explore and trust GOD as well..... Thanks for the video.
Thank you for shedding light on this topic. I’m white and hadn’t thought much about this but I am glad to have learned about the struggles that black women face. I think you are doing such a noble thing and setting a wonderful example. Once I was married, I realized I had not learned many things I should perhaps had growing up in terms of taking care of house and husband. In fact I saw an abusive co-dependent relationship as my example. I am learning so much from you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your sister in Christ.
So good! I’m a fellow homemaker/SAHM and I love seeing us occupy this space. I believe this is the way God intended our families to operate. Keep it up!
Awesome metaphor! I completely agree. Black women need to be willing to broaden their horizons by selecting men of different races of who may not fit the “criteria” or check all boxes on the list of looks. We sell ourselves short when we do that. I also want to add that as it pertains to what can be afforded, a couple needs to learn to live off one income. Single moms make it work on one income so it’s not impossible. We have to reprogram our thinking if we want to have certain opportunities.
I really really really strongly desire to be married to a black man. HOWEVER, God does what he wants and his decisions in my life have always turned out 100 times better than my own so... do ya Thang God
I feel you, once I put my priorities in line the Lord showed me the husband that He made for me. Interesting enough I had to be ready for whatever and I was surprised at how I actually got what I was praying for but wouldn’t have seen it initially because I was looking for what I wanted or needed.
Key word is "desire." I think I heard the word "need" in the young lady's analogy. May God give you the desires of your heart in the best possible presentation. 🙏🏽
If your desire is stronger than you wanting God's will for your life, you're gonna end up with what you want, not with what He wants. Keep in mind your preference have a preference
Ladies a word of encouragement! I know it's tough out here, But God provides. My husband and I are low income and don't live in a lap of luxury but we still have all the necessities. Not many people would like to live how we live and we do get looked down upon but this life is fleeting. All of this can be gone in a blink of an eye, so give it all to God. If you find yourself wanting more you need to get into some prayer. Where are you storing up your treasures? Here or Heaven? God Bless!
This was a phenomenal video on speaking about BW having a scarcity mindset when it comes to marriage/dating/love! I'm AA (26), and I've been happily married for 2 years to my husband (29) who is a black Haitian man (intercultural marriage). We dated for 2.5 years, and knew each other since we were 18 and 20. He courted me in the way a gentleman should, and I want for nothing. I've dated every race of man before marriage, and I made a decision not to limit myself. I opened up my options to any man who could get the job done as a providing, protecting, godly husband; and my husband proved to be that man. We mix our cultures to make our love richer, and anything we don't understand about the other ones culture, we politely inquire and discuss. There are a multitude of scare tactics put in place by the black community that makes BW believe we aren't desired, deserving, worthy, or good enough to be married to a quality spouse and sadly, many BW fall into the trap. Like you said in another one of your videos, God already validated us as worthy when we came into existence. I am worthy of my husband's love, protection, provision, and prayer as a beautiful black wife, and I pray that more BW start to feel the same about themselves! 🙂❤️
Congratulations to you!!! I’m AA and am married to a Jamaican man and I am a stay-at home mother! Something I didn’t think would be our case but it has happened and I think god placed us in these roles as a couple for a reason! I love being home with my child, and my husband allows me to pursue my dreams. But I believe it definitely depends on mindset not only race but just what you value before marriage or babies! When we met as teenagers five years ago he always told me, he’d work while I finish school. I didn’t believe him, but it’s happening. Lol
I agree 1000%!! I wanted to marry a black man (my father specifically said he would disown me if I didn’t). God brought me a white German and it was BEST decision I ever made in regards to marriage. He loves me deeply and I am a happy homemaker with 2 children and wanting more!
I just found your channel recently and am loving it! I know this was addressing a specific part topic, mainly interracial relationships, but I think there is a secondary thing that may be helpful for any woman to consider. Yes, you need to vet your husband for the ability to care for your family. Women also have a right to choose "high value" men. However, there are men who don't make tons of money who can be a leader and provider. We as women may just need to accept living a more modest life. Live on a tighter budget. Have less possessions. Not have the newest things. I have friends who have said they can't be a homemaker because their husband's don't make enough when in reality, they do if only they decided to live a bit more simply. In those instances it's just about what you value more.
My husband and I were discussing this exact thing last night. I agree completely with you. And also add that avoiding debt at all cost even if it includes paying a little bit more for a service later is worth it. Staying out of debt helps you to have the means of staying home.
Truth. I am so thankful for all the years I have been a stay at home even though we have been on a shoestring budget. ❤ 15 years of marriage later, we are in a much better place and able to enjoy things like vacations, eating out occasionally and owning our own home. Most of those years, that was not a possibility. But all the frugality and hard work was worth it. I got to manage the home and homeschool my children...still am 😃 . A few years ago, a friend had her second baby and was lamenting to all of us about having to go back to work and how hard it would be to leave her little ones. Those of us who were stay at home moms encouraged her that she could do it, she might have to tighten the budget and forgo things like eating out, but she could do it! Her husband had a good job! She answered that she didnt want to give up her favorite restaurants. Sad ....
Someone in the comments said this already, but it is worth stating again: a lot of people also live above their means, and because they do this, they "can't afford to be a wife that stays at home." And while it's maybe not the biggest problem women face in their marriages (number one being choosing a man that was never going to be the kind of husband you needed), it is a very close second. My husband and I both work because we are trying to save for a home, and while we can afford all the things we buy, we sure have not put away any money for our future home, which was the whole point of me working too. This is a failure on our part to keep our long term goal in mind and to make our spending reflective of that. Is my husband not an effective or good husband? Did I choose incorrectly? No. We jointly make decisions that set us back in the long-term and we think we can't afford for me not to work. But when I look at our spending for the past couple of years, I see that if we hadn't purchased lots of expensive and unnecessary things, we'd likely already have the money saved up or have already purchased the home. I know many people who live outside their means trying to emulate celebrities or influencers who can actually afford to live the lavish lifestyle they lead, thinking that if they don't live like them they are failures. I certainly always thought that as well and I believe my husband also thought that. We're trying to Keep up with the Kardashians, forgetting that we don't have Kardashian money and then are surprised when we have to work ourselves to death to keep that standard. I also think we like to avoid taking responsibility for those poor financial decisions and instead blame our husbands for not being more wealthy, when in reality, we'd probably be/ feel more wealthy if we were more frugal even if our husbands didn't find higher paying work. We live in a time where everything is someone else's fault, forgetting that we are not without fault.
I am a white woman and have listened to several of your videos and I can tell you the holy spirit don't care what our skin colors are but if we will take teaching and correction and obey what God has shown us, our life our life will be changed and we will produce Good Fruit. Thank you for being willing to share in a positive way what God has shown you .your message is going to more women than you know
Nothing but facts 💯 I never discriminated on race or ethnicity and I'm married to the love of my life now. He is black but not an American man and I'm glad I listened to God. He loves me for me and adores my natural hair too. We have a baby girl and I am currently a sahm. As a black woman, there are way more important things to consider besides race or ethnicity. Praying for other women struggling in this area that God brings them a mate and that she doesn't miss him 🙏🏾 btw, love love your locs they are so classy and elegant 😍
The most important thing for me when I asked God to find the man for me to be with was that he needed to have a heart reflecting Christ’s heart, who can love, cherish and keep me just as Christ does with His church, His bride. I’m a black one, and this said man is white; and I love him inside and out because God gave me the one who’s character was that of what reminds me of Jesus, it does not have anything to do with skin color. If we stop looking on the surface, such as color tone or ethnicity even, and start looking out toward God and His standards, since He looks at the HEART, and seek out a man with a Godly character, I believe many women will be so much more satisfied… Plus, if a man was made to be the husband, father and main breadwinner, as we, the woman, is to be his helpmeet. A man is a man, does not matter is he’s chocolate or caramel skin toned. 😅 a man’s much more attractive if he can do the things that he is made to do…all ethnicities are beautiful, do not get me wrong, but a man with a heart after the LORD is much more valuable than gold and silver. ❤️
Very good topic! I grew up feeling ashamed about who I was attracted to because it was a rare thing for a black girl to like white guys. My family really had most of the jokes but going to school didn’t help. It made me feel bad for not being attracted to black guys. I didn’t hate them. I just simply wasn’t attracted to them and I started criticizing myself because as a black woman I should be attracted to black men. That’s what I felt after being teased, but now I don’t care😂😂 I want to marry someone who loves Jesus, who obeys Him, and seeks Him for everything. I’m happy I watched this video. Good confirmation that the requirements for a Godly spouse & marriage should be biblical.
This is good. I'm about to marry in a couple months. He is a great, godly Black man. We're planning for me to be a stay at home mom/ wife. I didn't know he is what I needed but God knew.
So glad I found your channel, I’m really enjoying the content. My husband is Biracial (black/white) and I’m of Mexican descent. He pursued me for two years but I kept ignoring him because after years of dating all different types of ethnicities (Not Godly men) I had made up my mind to marry someone from my cultural/ethnic group. I thought that would make me happy; having someone that understood me in that way. Fast forward I was entertaining the idea of going out with my now husband when I heard our pastor preach a sermon that included Revelation 7:9. It was in that moment that realized that Gods design was ultimately for a diverse church and that the most important criteria for me should be marrying a Christian not the color/culture of the person. The truth was that my husband had all the qualities that I desired in a partner but I was too blind by my ideal to see it. I’m glad I listened when God spoke to me that day. We now have a family and I’m grateful to be able to be a SAHM and raise our daughter. Sometimes we can get in the way of our own happiness.
I really appreciate your videos! I’m a white American, and my husband is half Danish and half Japanese. He actually never stepped foot in America until we started dating. I knew I wanted to have a family and be married. I had that strong desire from a young age. Even though we were from different countries and cultures, we wanted the same things. We got married and now he is in the US military so we can have the lifestyle we want, and that includes me being a housewife. We don’t make a lot of money. I don’t get to go on vacations and I don’t get to buy new clothes whenever I want. However, through the struggle, we are ultimately happy. We have faith in Jesus and are so thankful to Him for providing a way. P.S.. I never understood why people only want to date a certain “color” or “culture.” People are so afraid of different, but sometimes different can be good! My husband and I poke fun of each others home cultures that we don’t understand. We also learn from each other. Be open minded and loving. We are all made by God, no matter the color! ❤️
You have wisdom beyond your years. It baffles me when I hear women say they can’t afford to stay home with their kids. I live in one of the most expensive states, I’m a single mom of two boys, I have two remote jobs, and I homeschool my kids. The Lord is my strength and it is possible, ladies!!
I know you market yourself towards black women, but you are really helping me, and I’m really grateful to that. I cohabited with my husband, and we are walking through a lot and I feel God brought me to your channel to learn what a Godly wife is.
I am SO very blessed to have found an AMAZING BLACK man! I am one of those women who would have stayed unmarried if I wasn't able to choose a black man. My purpose in life, part of it was to marry a black man. We make really good money together. We are entrepreneurs. He and I agree at least one parent should be home. We believe in traditional roles. The balance is perfect. I felt the need to respond because I know so many black women have a hard time finding good black men. They are out there. We will be celebrating 10 years of marriage in Sept. Love your videos!
You find you an unicorn. Great! But your advice doesn't apply to the majority of Black women. Black women outnumbered Black males by 2:1. So it's mathematically impossible for every Black woman to partner with Black males. To suggest otherwise is ignorant...and cruel. Then you add the fact that 1 in 3 Black males will have a criminal felony record in their lifetime....so now the pool of viable, marriagable Black males is even smaller. About half of Black males will NEVER marry. Again...you finding that unicorn is great!!! But the probability of other Black women finding a unicorn...is not great. It's horrible!
I am an African-American woman. I was raised in a Christian household. Both my parents, grandparents and great grandparents (that's as far back as I can go with complete certainty) were all raised in two-parents, Christian holdholds. None of my foremothers were maids to another household; they were all homemakers and wives. God has been good to my family''s genereations. I so appreciate you making these videos. My 28 year old son (highly accomplished) is now praying for his wife and the mother of his future children, and I pray she has your mind set (of course, he's not going to yoke up with anyone who does not share his values and faith). Many blessings to you and your family.
I am very happy that you decided to do a video on why this is obtainable for black women. I am in an interracial and cultural relationship as well and I believe if we are looking at the things that will bring us peace and happiness versus how things will look to other people or how we want them to look then it is definitely a obtainable goal to be a stay-at-home mom as a black woman.
Bindi, thank you SO MUCH for making these videos. I am part of the target audience you desire to reach (Christian, black, wife, mother), and your content is so appreciated. I am a stay at home wife and mom because of the goodness of God (I was not informed enough to ask the right questions before marriage, but I trusted God that my husband was the man I was meant to marry). Your videos are teaching me about how to see myself, master my own desires, create a haven for the entire family, support my husband, and how to prepare our children for their future relationships. I remember hearing you mention that you don’t agree with everything in the book, Fascinating Womanhood. I am interested in reading the book because you’ve discussed some great points from it, but would you please share in a video what point(s) you disagree with and why? I eagerly await all of your future videos. ❤️
💓💓💓 I am soooh GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS on being a Godly wife, mother and homemaker. My husband said you have wisdom beyond your years! I am white and my closest friend is black. We are just so appreciative for solid real Godly advice in these areas. I have been married with many children for years and have hungered for such good godly wisdom all that time, Black and white people alike are suffering from the assault on God's excellent design for marriage and family. God bless you!!!! PLEASE CONTINUE TO SHARE AS OUR LORD JESUS LEADS, as it is setting women free, including myself. 🙏💓💓💓
I have no idea how your content came up, but I honestly say it is so exhausting the way dating is, I also wish our culture supported finding a spouse as a (Christian)community goal. In the same breath I have to admit In my 20s I had more than a few Chances to marry and I did not believe I was ready. Now I am going to be 40 this year and feel like I missed that boat. Trying not be be discouraged. Thanks 😊 for sharing this.
Love your content. As a stay at home house wife of almost 5 years now with our 3rd child on the the way I fully agree with your view point. I also agree with another commenter in the aspect that if you aren't living a lavish lifestyle and make wise financial decisions you could live off the husband pay.
I value this. Even though I'm not Christian and don't want to stop working, I do feel there are lessons here that could make me a better wife when the day comes, a better partner, a more compassionate lover. This has become a healthy place to seek knowledge in that regard. Funny coz I subscribed back when this was primarily a loc page 😂😂 small digression, you were one of my major hair inspos when I first started my journey. Love this set and loved the last one. I started watching when I still had a fro. My locs are at the middle of my back now!
You are just hitting this hard🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I sent this to two other girlfriends, I pray they watch. We are in the season where we need a lot of wisdom to choose wisely. I appreciate this so much,🇿🇦🇿🇦🔥🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🥰
You are truly lovely! Thank you for making your videos. I am not black but I am Middle Eastern and very much appreciate a minority's perspective on all of these topics. Thank you for all the inspiration!!
Thank you Jesus for your goodness, mercy, and thank you for my husband. We are both of Afro Caribbean decent, and our parents share majority of the same cultural practices and traditions. Bindi, your message will reach those it needs to reach. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your growth and experiences. Have a wonderful day.
@@purplelove3666 my dear sister, please be aware that Yeshayah (Jesus) IS The Word of God made flesh, and Our God Ahayah IS His word as It is eternal and the essence of Him and His will. Yeshayah is begotten of God as His Word and therefore is the One who built all of existence, because it was God's WORDS that brought forth all of creation. Yeshayah is no so called prophet, but God Himself in the form of flesh. It is important that we know this so that we do not deny the Son and are ourselves denied in the presence of the Father. I know it can seem confusing at face value, but please pray on it and continue to study the Bible 🤎
I know that my purpose as a Christian black wife and mom is to first take care of my family and home. I do work outside of our home, I am also a RUclips content creator and I am in the process of starting my in home Christian daycare. I aspire to be a homemaker and know that having my own business will allow me to be that. I feel that my purpose in life is to first take care of our home and pour into our children, but, I also know and understand that God has a purpose and a specific plan for me in the area of business and ministry. I really love and enjoy your content, it really just speaks to my soul in such an aspiring way. My husband is a strong, black Christian man that provides for our family and take care of his household, but its what you are attracted to I feel. I wanted to marry a Christian man that loves Jesus, me and would be a great father and husband etc. him happening to be a black man was great, but I feel like a man after Gods heart whether black, white or whatever is great as long as he loves and lives for God, loves and honor, respect you and are also submissive to you and can take care of you and family by hearing from God. It's all a choice. Tfs
You put everything I think and feel into words so eloquently. As long he is chosen by our heavenly father as my husband and he is a man after Gods heart I will be extremely content. Thank you so much Bindi as a single woman I truly value these videos. God bless you and your family always ❤❤
This analogy about brands is spot on because even though you are using it as a metaphor for the dating market. It speaks volumes about a lot of us in the black community and the chokehold that "brands" have on some of us as a consumer. lol Some of us, if it is not namw brand, or a popular brand we do not want it. A lot of the time is because we care about what others in our community will think/say about us.
As someone who married a different brand of toilet paper lol (I’m not serious, my husband is my everything) I couldn’t agree more! I think one other thing to point out though is that we are not only choosing men, but they are choosing us too. So, if I’m looking for a husband/provider, I better be on my game and present myself as a wife/supporter. But maybe that is another video. Thank you for sharing this message, its important!
This was such a good message. I found the analogies used in the video to be really helpful. Not going to lie, I found myself getting defensive at first, but I relaxed and really listened to the ideas you were expressing and I am glad that I did. I think you are speaking to the boundaries that we as women (particularly black women) set for ourselves but then end up compromising on for the sake of appearances. That is a tough pill to swallow...
Thank you for being transparent and hearing me out. *May I ask, what was said that initially made you feel defensive?* (I find that kind of feedback invaluable as I do aim to share things as gently as possible.)
wow! I had to stop the video when you started talking about paper towel because Bindi you are speaking FACTTTTTSSSSSS!!! I am really hoping that the single women out there who are bound in these thoughts get set free because I'm not sure they even know that they CAN do that. I am a married woman but I am so thankful for people like you who have minds that can really speak to the heart.And do it with grace and not from a judgemental place. Thank you!!!
Excellent analogy! When I was single my only criteria was that a man love God, be a provider, be intelligent and competent (how can you lead without intellect?), have a career (not job) that affords us a home in a safe community with a good school system, and not have a criminal record or multiple children. Color was not a factor 🤷🏾♀️
I remember seeing older black women who were homemakers. They raised their sons to be the providers. That was over 20 years ago. Yes times have changed but I STILL see these types of couples(young too). These couples usually associate with people with similar taste/values. Consider the company you keep. Ask yourself if they are looking for this lifestyle...
Facts. I'm one of them. My husband and I raise our 9 children while he works and I stay home and tend to the family. I also work part-time from home as a life coach. My best friend, also a black mama of 9, stay at home mom, married to a strong black man. Her family made international news for the academic success of her children who were homeschooled then graduated from college by the age of 16.
@@realashandaatlarge Wow.Just.Wow. This is great to hear. I've heard that home schooled children do better on average than externally schooled children.
Bottom line is a good husband or wife can be of any color. True, find a partner who can fulfill the role fully that you want. A good homemaker saves a lot of money too.
THANK you for addressing this topic I think that most BW do this because they so desperately want a black man. They tend to end up with a BM that does not make good husbands or fathers. I decided not to make that choice, I decided to shop in a store that had the inventory of a lot of men that checked my boxes. I am very well educated and with that I ended up with a white husband because there is so many more of them to choose from. I was able to find many more that are marriage minded and family oriented. I live very well and my husband provides a very nice lifestyle for me and my children.
I really think you came at this discussion from a very simplistic way when it deserves a much more in-depth explanation. Men cannot be compared to toilet paper in any shape, fashion, or form. This is not about "complexion," but about bloodline. As a stay-at-home black mom, married to my black husband, I appreciate that you are addressing that black homes tend to be neglected however this is not an issue in which we should decide to just "skip" out on our men because we don't like it. What we can do marry, pray, decide to work together and parent our children to succeed where we have failed. Parenting our male children to be strong and godly, good providers, and to love their black wives is what we should impart. Teaching our daughters to pray for and look for godly qualities in black men they consider to be suiters is absolutely necessary. I am a mother of 5 sons and 4 young daughters. Although my husband and I didn't start out with the keys to a healthy home, having both come from divorced homes, we have, by the grace of Yah Almighty, cultivated a nucleus that will break generational strongholds and curses dealt to our ancestors. Has it been easy, far from it! Am I an advocate for strong black families, nonetheless? Absolutely. I realize the plan of the enemy is to exterminate the strong black nucleus altogether, because of who we are by blood beyond complexion. The Bible makes it clear in the book of Deuteronomy 28:15-68 who we are and how we got in the position we collectively are in. But it is the blood of Yahusha shed for our sins and the breaker of strongholds and curses which will turn the black family around. Divesting to another blood, people, or culture, especially of those whose ancestors have broken the backs of strong black families for the last 400 years, is not in our best interests. It puts us in a place of weakness and every other people group, be they Asian, Arab, Caucasian, or other understands this but somehow, we think jumping ship because our men are lacking in the financial department (which is by systematic design) is the answer to building a strong home. Sorry, my young sister, I'm not with you on this one and I say this as someone who has black women in my life who have divested. I say this as a strong advocate and proponent for healthy black families.
I made the same comment ironically(Not sure if it’s been erased , because she disagrees or what, but I no longer see it)… well , WELL said , especially the jump ship part 👌🏾!!
How many of your husband's friends or family fit this criteria? I mean, are willing to have a sahw, who is not disrespected, starved of feminine needs and wants, and aren't abusive? I had an aunt who was given $50/month. I had another aunt who was given nothing. Both had Christian husbands. I guess it depends on what you're willing to sacrifice. I get your point, and hers.
Thank you sooo much! I really needed this! Your whole channel is a blessing to women like me. I look up to you as the Titus 2 women I have been needing as an example. May God continue to bless you and your family 🙏🏾❤️
You are right. A good man who is a good man no matter what his skin color. Stop waiting for this “Black” man who doesn’t want you or is not of good character and would not marriage material. Wake up my young sister open your hearts and eyes for a Biblical man period!!!
I have to admit that I avoided watching this video for months because I thought it would be one of those videos condemning black women for dating outside of their race. Not only did I love the video but I wish more black women would see it. I was in a small group meeting with a group of black women from my church and they got on the topic of dating and relationships. Out of everyone there, only myself and one other lady were married. None of them knew that I was married to a white Latino man. They spoke so flippantly their preferences for dating within their race, and about how they don't understand how any black person could date outside of their race. Meanwhile, when I told them about my husband ( I purposely left out his race) they would say things like "you've got a good one" or "they don't make them like him anymore". When I finally revealed his race, the look on their faces was one I wish I could have captured on camera. Their tune changed so quickly and they even asked if he had any single friends. I told them that the friends weren't black and some said that "they didn't care." The irony of it all.
I just found you on RUclips. 🙏✝️🙏 Praise GOD for you. I’m old enough to be your Grandmother I’m so pleased to see Women like you doing things GODS WAY. I will share with Young Women that I know 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hi, Bandi! I never heard it put as you spoke, but I so agree with your metaphor, while respecting the personal decisions of others. I think some may not ever considered or even knew that they could simply change the brand, but felt hopelessly at a dead end road, thinking "...there's not any left..." Ohhh, this was sooo enlightening! I shared this with my daughter.
The way I found this Channel is divine appointment. God bless you. I am completely relating to everything said as I am at a point of choosing between a career and homemaking and my whole heart wants to be a home maker that explores her entrepreneurial spirit in the side ❤🎉
Now when I go to buy toilet paper, I will be thinking about marriage and interracial relationships lol. I like black men, however, I do not discriminate. I see beauty in other ethnicities. As long as the man does not see me as a fetish, I am fine with marrying a man outside of my ethnicity. I am mixed myself. At the end of the day, I desire a man of God first.
Fetish?!! Do you understand the word?!! I hope you're holding bm feet to the same fire, cause their the ones that's mainly sticking bastard kids to bw out of other races of men.
@@Bindi_Marc no disrespect, but all of this talk about a man who loves the Lord, but really it only applies if he is making enough money to support a certain lifestyle. People disregard certain scriptures in the Bible that deal with contentment. If that man provides food,clothing shelter, life insurance, health and dental then his family is good. People don't have true faith anymore. They have Jeannie faith. Women stayed at home more 60 years ago because they valued their children over material gain. All of this talk about safe neighborhoods. You move out the hood to a gated community and then put in the most expensive alarm system ever, while the people in the hood don't have an alarm and never get burglarized or they do but no one gets hurt. Believe me, I know. I thought the purpose was to move to a safer environment, so why get an alarm. Evidently people get burglarized in the so called affluent neighborhoods too. SMH
I love how you put this. I went to a small college composed mostly of international students from all across the world. It was a Christian college that was only for ministry leaders. As a result ,everybody there shared the same God and same core values but extremely different cultures and expectations on how to live out Christian marriage. The majority of students there married people not only of a different race but of a different culture and even country than themselves. It was always surprising to see how their families and friends back home reacted. Somewhere supportive, some were genuinely disgusted, and some had legitimate concerns about the effect it would have on their children. For all the races and we talked about in the United States, it was mostly the American students whose families had no problems because America is a melting pot already. I've been out of school for about 7 years now. And I can honestly say all of the marriages are happy and now have biracial bicultural kids who are thriving. The majority the in-laws have learned to love each other and it has only made her friend group closer despite the fact that we all live scattered around the world. Also, not to be totally practical, but it's significantly healthier genetically to have children with somebody with extremely different genes than you. God designed us that way. It takes work and compromise to understand each other's cultural norms but it's totally worth it to expand our horizons as women in the marriage market.
Another issue I see seeping its way into the mentality of Black Christian women (single, married or mother) is that whole ''Beyoncé-girls-run-the-world'' spiel! There is this weird pride of being a ''strong black woman'' aka, independent career woman that doesn't need a man to take care of her even in marriage or not willing to let that Beyoncé-mindset go once marriage talks comes along. I attend a predominantly white, non-denominational church and what I have noticed from my white sisters in Christ is that while they are single and career-driven, they actively pursue and aspire to a future homemaking life the moment they date all the way to when they get married (even before kids come into the picture). I have noticed that they actively date men that intentionally want and can financially afford a stay-at-home wife/mother and kid(s). I have noticed that the moment they get into a serious relationship that has a clear trajectory of a biblical marriage, they let go of that ''career-driven'' attitude (they also tend to not boast about their careers, accomplishments or degrees). I also noticed that they tend to date-up, aka, never settling for just one brand of toilet paper or making it work with paper towel! Essentially, they know their worth and seek men that are as much men of valor in the Lord's sight as they are men of financial status. I think as black women, we often don't know our worth in Christ so we tend to find cheap worldly substitute to define us (e.g. ''Black Girls Rock'', ''Black Girl Magic'' or whatever trendy black spiel /gimmick is thrown at us)! I have talked to countless single overeducated, career-driven black Christian women, young and old, who want a great future marriage but do not want to let go of that feminist attitude to instead embrace their godly call to femininity and biblical womanhood. It is something I am constantly working on myself. What I see around me is not necessarily Black Christian women not willing to date outside their race (I am Canadian/Caribbean in Toronto, ON), but I do see majority of them being too attached to that feminist non-submissive black girl magic worldview! I also do not see encouragement from older Black Christian women (or just older black women in general) to aspire to become a homemaker. There is definitely this mentality that you need to have your own career/money to bring to the table in order for a man to want to marry you. I think that is definitely the type of propaganda that is uniformly taught to black girls/women. A train of thought that teaches us that compared to sisters in Christ of other nationalities, us black single Christian women, need to show that we are great work horses (e.g. career-driven, financial means and education) in order for a man to even look our way and be viable options to men. That mentality has to shift within our community because I believe it is part of the reason why lots of black women do not even aspire to homemaking, especially for those that won't even date outside of their race. I have always been an equal opportunity type of woman when it comes to dating !!! Great video and I am a new subscriber who saw the link to this video from @Gwenvo channel. :)
Thank you for so eloquently stating your thoughts. Everything that you mentioned is the reason i produce homemaking, marriage, and femininity content. To help re-educate our sisters who were not given these lessons. Thank you for watching and adding your thoughts.
@@Bindi_Marc No thank you for creating this platform. It is 💯% needed and I am glad I discovered your channel. I always knew I could not be the only black Christian woman out there aspiring to one day be married and a homemaker 💯🥰🙏🏾
Amen! Agreed. I also think that a large number of Black women grew up without strong fathers in the home. Fathers give identity. Without this, being raised by single (often scorned) Mothers, they just have no other way of knowing their own worth and value as young girls, let alone adult women. They grow up feeling rejected by men (starting with having no father around). That is a huge blow to a child’s sense of self-worth and confidence. Especially when they go to places like parks, churches, doctors visits, and see fathers of other races there with their wives and children. They grow up believing that something is wrong with them. To compensate for this bitter root, things like career and achievements are used to fill in the gap of that aching wound. However, they never truly satisfy because Scripture teaches that the “woman was made for the man” and “the head of every woman is the man”. So our identity can not fully be realized absent of a man. Biblical order definitely needs to be restored back to the black family in America. We know that the current state of affairs has its roots in the systematic dismantling of the black family in this country. However, I believe that this is the time period in which God wants to “restore the hearts of the fathers to the children” again. I do believe that restoration to the Black American family is coming on a large scale.
Its so cool to see videos that I can relate to lifestyle wise. I am 30, black, christian, married interracial, traditional world views, stay at home mom, and homemaker. I used to stress about what i was "going to be when i grew up" but honestly Ive been training for this role my whole life it seems.. maybe since around 7 years old
Thank you for making this video. I am not a homemaker but I would like to transition to being one. My husband is Filipino and his mother was a homemaker so he grew up with this mindset. I grew up with a single mother so this is all new to me. My husband and i spoke about it recently and he’s open to the idea and that in itself is a blessing. I’ve been watching your videos to gain knowledge about the responsibilities of a Christian wife but also so that I can teach my daughter these things as well.
This was fire 🔥. A Christian should first and foremost be a child of God and must have Christ mindset, not culture mindset. As Romans 12: 2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God”..shalom 🌻
I so love your content and thank you for addressing this. I think a lot of BW listen to noise and feel obligated to compromise on standards just for the sake of being in a relationship with a particular race of men. It's almost as if some BW do the very converse of what some of the men typically do: reducing their chosen partners to their color or ethnicity and assigning value to said color (in the case of BW they remove value from a man for not being of a certain color). Hopefully this crippling trend gets better with future generations of BW and girls.
A legacy of wisdom, discernment, knowledge and understanding ...WHEW!!!!!! Now I have the word for what it is I truly want to give my daughters. THANK YOU!!!!!
Sis much respect the community definitely needs this sort of content. Keep going on with this content it is a great contrast to the toxicity that’s out here.
As a single 53 Year Afro American male who has never been married nor have children this is refreshing to here a fellow Christian Married and Homemaker Mom,who speaks Christian and Godly Wisdom I am so proud of you for Choosing God's way instead of Worldly/Secular ways.Prayers for you, your,family and people who are lost Spiritually, God bless!
I love and appreciate this. I have a mother who was in a healthy marriage but had my sister who is 10 years older with a deadbeat man. My mother did not impart any knowledge into me about marriage (due to jealousy issues, selfishness and being a narcissist). I ended up becoming a single mom and trying to figure life out on my own. I am repeating the pattens my mother (not on purpose but maybe it is Gods purpose). You are God sent.
Check out Tony Gaskins, he helps a lot of women get their life on track in terms of love, personal, and even business. You can break those patterns, might be heard, but with God anything is possible. Believing in you sis ✊🏾.
This was well done and the analogy was wonderful. I am a mother of 5 little girls (age 6 and under). Will have this conversation with them at the appropriate time, should the Lord tarry. I enjoy your videos and your insight. Be blessed.
As a white/middle eastern woman, the reason why culture matters so much to me is because I take into consideration how my family will interact with my spouse and his family. Let’s say if I were to marry another Armenian: perfect! Both families can talk to each other in the same language and know what foods they like, it feels like home! Let’s say my spouse is Russian, Arabic, Jewish, Persian, or Greek: nice!!! Not the same exact culture, but quite similar! It is fun to enjoy the similarities and discover new things! (Greeks, Arabs, and Persians are just as extra as we are too lol party time) If my spouse were of an entirely different race, I personally do not know how I would be able to interact with family without feeling like I do not belong. That being said, if God’s will is for me to be with someone who is of a different ethnicity then the Lord will know how to make a way through the discomfort.
I heard it put very well that we have a grace for the man God has for us. If you meet someone and there's a grace there with his family and he's of a different race yet you don't feel like an outsider then that could work! I agree with the extended family dynamic because children would/could feel the effects or they can be the bridge.
I married a man from a different continent haha, our cultures are different and he speaks another language along with English. It’s different, but I find ways to connect with his family and I’m having fun learning his native language. It’s fun for my family to learn about his culture as well. There’s differences, but it is what you make it. You’ll never know how it’ll work out unless you try. I think if you have an open mind you can find a great guy of a different race/culture as long as you have the same core values. We aren’t as different as we think haha.
hi, bindi.i am a white, 64 yr old wife of a white, very good man .i happened accross your videos and am impressed that someone so young (and beautiful) has such wisdom and caring for others, not to mention faith and obeying God. you seem to have humility and genuine compassion for others.i have been married 40 years and can still benefit from a god fearing christian such as yourself. god bless you !!
It also depends where you live. If you live in Armenia/Russia/Greece/Israel/Iran etc then there are plenty of men from "acceptable" cultures for you. But if you lived in Scandinavia for eg, you would find it a bit more difficult.
Thank you for this video 💗the analogy that you used makes total sense. As a woman who desires a relationship leading to marriage with a God fearing man that can provide and who will make me a homemaker, this advice is of paramount importance. It should be the gold standard! 🙋🏿♀️❤️
Hello Bindi, I found your channel today, I believe it is from the Lord, I was talking to a young lady last night who wants to be married, someone is pursuing her and meets everything on her list but she is not attracted to him. Your example of the toilet paper was great, they are both Christians . I am also a Christian but I am 83 years old and have not been married for a long time. I am going to share your channel with her. God bless you!!
Hi. When I first met my husband I was in registered nurse and I worked for the majority of our marriage. I retired early and I'm still a homeschooling mom. I homeschool my children while I worked on the weekend and my husband works during the week. Now I am completely at home and so is he and we enjoy each other tremendously. I wish we had the financial means for me to stay home in the beginning, but that's not the way it worked out. I'm very thankful for being a homemaker and get to enjoy my boys and my granddaughter.
I never truly knew how to feel about this topic without feeling like I was offending my own. This is an honest way to think about it. Quiet refreshing actually.
I love this 💛. This is SO good. I REALLY wanted to marry a good black man but the Christian ones in my vicinity were either interested in women of other races or they would show interest and not pursue. I wasn’t down for games and wanted to walk in purity while dating. Long story short, the man that pursued me was an attractive white/Japanese man who was a virgin with a heart on fire for God and supported my desires to be a homemaker. I said yes when he asked me out and now I’m a happily married homeschooling homemaker with our 3rd child on the way. Pray for God’s guidance, honor Him in dating, don’t settle, and He will send the right man 😊💛.
I love this! This is so encouraging. I actually do not have a specific preference in color. I feel that the Lord knows what I need. You sharing your story really encourages me.
@@jamilawhite3044 Aww glad it was helpful! Yes, He certainly does! God also led me to pray that He prepare me to be a wife to my husband and for his specific needs 🙏🏾.
@@dlittle3623 yeah, I have been doing that for a long time now. It's getting depressing. I want to be a homemaker and quit my job.
@@jamilawhite3044 I’m sorry, I know waiting is tough. Your time will come, especially since God has given you this desire. I’ll be praying for you and that your husband gets ready for you as well 🙏🏾.
@@dlittle3623 Thank you so much! My one desire is to be a wife, homemaker, and mother.
This woman is the reason why, as a man, I believe that beauty is deeper than looks. She is stunningly pretty, but what really strikes harder is what comes from her mouth. It shows her essence and any sensible man wouldn't think twice before snatching her out of the dating market. I did the same with my wife and honestly, life is A LOT more easier when you marry an honorable woman.
Amen Amen
That's cool 😎
Why are you calling another woman other than your wife “stunningly pretty” ??!
Matthew 5:28
King James Version
28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
REPENT!!
@@madelinehopeyasharal what a pathetic comment. How exactly are you sure that I looked at her with last? For saying that she is pretty? I’ve said the same thing to my mum, my sisters and I tell my 4 year old daughter that she’s stunningly beautiful almost every day. I guess I have to repent for that too?
@@madelinehopeyasharal ??
I met my husband 7-years ago, whose a White man. We have 5 beautiful children and I'm a stay at home mother. When I was younger, I dated based on qualifications not his race. I made the right choice. Thanks for this video.
Damn 7 years 5 kids lol how y'all met??
@@kobe8034, we met at a Christian singles event. 💕
I am a BW. I also made the active choice to date based on qualifications and not race. I have been married 17 years. We have a great family and are very happy. I did loose a few friends along the way because my husband is a WM. Someone I went to college with told me I could not be for Black people and marry a WM.
@@aviissac2628 yeah right.. you're married for 17 years alright.
@@MexIndio1 K. that's good... I mean u it easier for him to get you oppose to other men right?!?!?
They ARE out here… I’m a black woman with a black man… and I am a homemaker at home with our 2 boys…. And if I didn’t find him I most definitely would have changed brands.. cause I wouldn’t go home with paper towels! Love this! ❤️
No one congratulated you so here is me doing it: congrats sis!!!
There's not enough unicorns for every Black woman.
So I don't know how you can truthfully say that.
Bindi is delusional. Yes if u can't find the black man u want then consider dating men on other races, but shes misleading you by making it seem likes it as easy as going to the store and buying TP😳
Most non-black men are NOT interested in BW beyond just sleeping with you once to check a box off their bucket list. The non-black men who date BW usually just use them as practice and then go marry a white woman 🤷♂️
👏😂🙏💪☝👍
Congratulations & many blessings to your beautiful family 🙏🏾
I am so glad that you are addressing this. As a woman of faith, I always wanted a man who was a believer. It was not until I joined a Campus Ministry when I fist started dating men of other cultures. I found that having a bond based in Christ superceeded all other things. Men from ALL OVER THE WORLD are praying for a wife who loves God. Place you faith in God and make all kinds of friends. My husband and I have been together over 20 years.
@Mocha Mommy…you are spot on. Being a Christian comes before everything. If you meet a stable mature man that loves and serves the Lord everything else should fall into place.
Is he good ,I am scared
Bindi is delusional. Yes if u can't find the black man u want then consider dating men on other races, but shes misleading you by making it seem likes it as easy as going to the store and buying TP😳
Most non-black men are NOT interested in BW beyond just sleeping with you once to check a box off their bucket list. The non-black men who date BW usually just use them as practice and then go marry a white woman 🤷♂️
I hope one day I meet mine smh
I’m a 22 y/o stay at home mother of 2. My husband is a carpenter’s apprentice. You can do the math and see that his income isn’t what most would consider “financial stability” but we are still incredibly blessed and fruitful. God will open the door for you if you align yourself with Him. And if you’re in poverty in America’s standards, you are still richer than 3/4 of the entire world.
Amen
Ayla, I just want to say that present income is not the determining factor, character is. Your husband may not have a great income now, but if he is a hard worker and of good character, his income will improve. There are some men who based on the type of men they are (their lack of work ethic and character) will never be able to earn enough to care for a family. Those are the types of men to avoid. I married my husband in my early twenties and he did not have a great income either at the time - but he was the best man I knew with great integrity and work ethic. After a few years I was able to be a stay at home mother to our son. I now have three boys, one is an adult and the other two are almost adults, and I am in my late forties, and we are fine financially. This message is not about marrying wealthy men, or that a man cannot come from humble beginnings, it is about marrying a man of good character who will rise up and be able to take care of his family, not a man who you know is lazy and unproductive, and cannot hold down a job. For reference, I am black and my husband is from Puerto Rico.
This is absolutely true @Ayla. When you Step out on that faith, and sow with good intents, you reap good benefits. So glad to hear how this is working for the both of you, and best of all, your children will appreciate it in the long run! Good families make the world go round.
@@angorachic I love your response. Many women still don't look for character in a man. They hear that they need to be house wife and think it's a luxury for those who are able to marry someone rich. Finding a rich man is not important. What is important is finding a godly man who works diligently who is caring and looks out for his wife and family first and is responsible with money. Usually a man with those qualities will do well in life. He will be blessed from God and also make more money compared to others, or at the very least be able to provide so his wife can be a homemaker. My husband had a tough beginning. He lived in Ukraine and didn't at 21 have a GED or driving licence. He got those right away and started an eBay business, and side jobs of yard work, dog watching, and home renovations before we were married. Then he became a life guard, then worked in a camping store, while keeping his side jobs. He eventually became supervisor and was able to put that on his Resume and apply for a government job. He now is supervisor at his government job and working up towards 60+ a year. He managed this without a degree but is working on that now so he is eligible for the manager position. He takes side classes and goes to company meetings and workshops to learn more. He had nothing when he came to the states, just one suitcase and no GED. It has allowed me to study swing trading and make money from home and start my own translation business. So his hard work has helped both of us find ways to be financially secure. Trading takes very little time and I could easily do that and homeschool children one day. All that to say, I didn't choose a rich man, I chose a godly man who was honourable and hard working and I knew it would be fine. I wasn't wrong.
@@hannahhooper6048 This is beautiful Hannah! Character is the most important thing to look for in a husband. God bless all of you!
Amen!!!! My man is a different brand lol. He is Mexican American. He is truly a man of God. I’m so blessed and grateful to be marrying him in 11 Days! 🤍
Congratulations 🥳🥳🎉!!
Congratulations!
Congratulations. May God bless you!!!
Best wishes for a happy marriage & wonderful life!💜
@@karenmartin4221 thank you so much! 🥰🥰🥰
You speak the truth! I have been married for almost 7 years so I haven’t been in the marriage market in a while. However when I was looking for a husband, race was not an issue. I did end up marrying a black man from the Caribbean (like me), but I didn’t limit myself.
My husband was/is a nerd!!! So many women are unwilling to date/marry men who aren’t extroverted, aren’t a certain skin color! My own mother didn’t like my husband at the time because he is “too dark”!!! What nonsense is this?!! I was adamant to not listen to my mother because of her poor choices of who she married! She married a “light skinned man” and I chose to marry a loving, Jesus loving, provider who told me from day one I don’t need to work! He is an amazing father who supports my wanting a big family (we have 3 so far).
Thank you Bindi! I know too many black women who are still single, with ridiculous standards and complaining or worst yet, saying they want someone like my husband….honey, you wouldn’t marry someone like my husband because of your ridiculous standards that have nothing to do with his character, his ability to provide, his love of God. Instead, you focus on how he dresses, his complexion, his race, whether he’s an extrovert. Anyway, I’ll stop here! This needs to be said! Young women, who you marry determines what kind of life you will have. Choose carefully!
Oh and to add to this: my mother loves my husband so much now! My sister married a “light skinned” man and she doesn’t care too much for him! She calls my husband her son and always talks to him and laughs with him. It’s amazing what happens when we don’t limit ourselves! Also I loved the analogy with the toilet paper/ paper towel! That made me laugh!
As long as he has character, is a man of God and you are personally attracted to him that’s all that matters
Preach! I love your testimony!
It's all about race a lot y'all will see soon
I agree...I also want to note that I believe many men can actually be providers, but we as Americans tend to be heavy consumers that have to have the big house and nice car. If you lower your expectations on material things in life, and compromise for a more simpler life, a one income household is indeed doable on a fairly average income. I'm living proof of that
Absolutely…I love this comment.
Yes! Also single moms are living on one income and many of them thrive on average incomes!
Facts.
@@elenarewd9299 Exactly!!!
I’m due to be married in the next few months and I chose the best man for me. I will be a housewife/homemaker once we are married. He just happens to be white and Jewish. Choose the best man in spite of physical characteristics. Character and godliness is the most important thing.
Girl you are so pretty❤
@@TaureanDreams wow! Thank you!
Powerful comment!!
I hope you mean Jewish background and not religion. Believing in Christ is super important
@@SarahR2D2 there are Jews that believe in Jesus (messianic Jews).
I 100% agree with you. While it would be nice to have someone within my race I’m not going to block my blessings if God chooses to send me an eligible marriage partner of a different race/color. Which is exactly what happened after I turned 35. Through much prayer asking God to send me my future husband I finally met someone who is a Christian, stable financially/ emotionally, and wanting to have children. He proposed in 7 months time, and I couldn’t be happier to finally start the next chapter in my life. If I would just recommend one thing to single ladies it is to pray and ask God to help reveal your husband to you, make it clear, and ask for peace as you go through this process.
amen and amen. Thank you for sharing.
How did you end up meeting him?
Hi there. We met a church. I was serving with children and he decided to introduce himself and talk to me
Why do yall want these men so much in the first place when they don't want yall?
I just met a man a few weeks ago whom if this were a few years ago, I would not have considered dating nor marrying. He’s a black man (an attorney) with a lighter complexion than i would prefer but he’s l loves God and he’s really really smart. He also went to theology school. We actually have a lot in common. He mentioned that he would like his wife to be a homemaker and that when he would mention this fact on a date, most women would disagree. I’ve learned over the years that sticking with “types” doesn’t always work so when he walked up and introduced himself to me in the middle of court (I work in the court system), I decided to give him a chance. He’s been showing up ever since! Yesterday, he drove 45 minutes just to bring my fav food. Keep me in ya prayers ladies.
how’s it going now??
So glad to have found this channel. I am a a wife, homemaker, homeschooling and homesteading mother. I also wanted to find a good black man. But I could not find him. I did give up a bit. Because the black men that pursued me were not ready for marriage at all or did not want to be married. However, God had other plans. He sent me a good man who loves the Lord, me, and our children. He happens to be a white man and we have been married for over 11 years now. I’m still learning a lot because I was brought up in a community of single mothers or marriages that were horrible. I thank God for where I am at today. I totally agree with you on this. Blessings!
I understand the Lord helping you find a mate. I drove to church as an 18 year old. I was crying because one of the boys I knew all throughout high school had invited me to a party that evening. I liked him so much, in fact I loved him in many ways because we were very good friends. But his lifestyle was a total wreck. He partied non-stop and did drugs. I was also attracted to some of the other boys and all throughout high school had wanted to date people, but had resisted, consistently saying I wasn't ready. It was hard, but I just kept thinking, "But one mistake could impact the rest of my life... Either listen to God or you may have many regrets."
I made the conscious decision that night: there are two choices before me -go and party and possibly date that one boy or many different boys OR go to church and keep waiting even though it's "out of fashion," and let it be in God's hands.
So while in the car, thinking like only an 18 year old can, that I'd probably be a spinster; crying over how I wanted to listen to God but was sad that maybe I'd be lonely because there were few friends around that had the same Christian values I loved - even within the church!
And I said to God on the way to church, "Okay. I choose You. I'm not going back to those partying friends. But please, my God, please can you give me one. Just one true friend so I won't be alone forever."
At church that night, I saw my future husband on the stage. I saw him and he was good and genuine and had the sweetest, kindest eyes. And it was like I heard, "Here, daughter. Here is your friend."
I went home that night and told my mother, "I'm going to marry him!"
We married when I was 19. He's the best friend I could've ever asked for. I have no regrets.
Yes love this! I myself am a black Christian wife and mom of 2 who homeschools and is also in an interracial marriage. We NEED more channels like yours giving wisdom that’s Godly and uplifting to women in the right way! Being a woman is a GIFT! We are the very last created being and society is determined to take that away from us. So I applaud channels like yours. New Subscriber here and I will be sharing your content…stay blessed and keep lifting the standard💕
this is an interesting topic. in response to the comment that black women or black families can't afford to have a stay at home wife/mom i think that is not true. often black ppl dont know how to manage financially so they must have 2 incomes. for example, i have seen white couples that have a stay at home wives and their husbands arent ballin. they just have a normal homes, regular cars, and make wise choices. on the other hand, I have known of black couples that have good paying jobs but tons of debt, luxury cars, expensive vacations, and renting an apartment. but say that they cant afford for the wife to stay home. we must make better financial choices and change our values.
I think it’s fine to have a luxury lifestyle so long as your not going into mounds of debt and both partners don’t mind the wife working. Also home buying is not for everyone. If it’s about leaving something to children, it’s better to invest your income, multiply it and leave money. I guarantee they prefer the money.
Agree, people tend to live above their means instead of at or better yet below their means. Let the finances dictate the lifestyle not that particular lifestyle no matter what
No matter what one’s skin color may be, staying out of debt (before & during marriage) is HUGE in terms of giving the family more options for how the husband & wife decide to do things.
I think you stated nothing but facts. I love the toilet paper analogy. I don't have a desire to be a homemaker or have kids but do have a desire to be married. Its nice to see black women living the life they want to live.
As a blk man, I don't see a problem with what you want. You just need to find a man that doesn't want kids
Not a black woman but as a native woman I wanted to marry a native man, mostly out of familiarity and also I was treated differently because I’m part white and I didn’t want that for my kids but after getting my heart broke (my fault for allowing that) by a native Christian man, I realized it’s already hard enough finding a Good man in general to limit my options by ethnicity was foolish. Now I’m married to a strong Christian man who’s white. And All those preferences in the past are out the window, my attraction has shifted and his features that are distinctly different than my old preferences are part of why I’m so attracted to him now. Not that native men are less attractive I’m just so enamored with my husband he’s now my standard of attractiveness.
I have black men telling me that "am too white for a black woman", "too emotional & too open"... I am a Princess in my tribe & I have hidden my title for years to avoid being treated differently. However, being royalty is not something I can hide. I love being supported & spoiled as a woman, but the black men never did that for me. So, am looking into other races.... Am a woman of faith, but am willing to explore and trust GOD as well..... Thanks for the video.
❤❤I feel the same way as you do
Thank you for shedding light on this topic. I’m white and hadn’t thought much about this but I am glad to have learned about the struggles that black women face. I think you are doing such a noble thing and setting a wonderful example. Once I was married, I realized I had not learned many things I should perhaps had growing up in terms of taking care of house and husband. In fact I saw an abusive co-dependent relationship as my example. I am learning so much from you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your sister in Christ.
That's great!!💕
So good! I’m a fellow homemaker/SAHM and I love seeing us occupy this space. I believe this is the way God intended our families to operate. Keep it up!
Awesome metaphor! I completely agree. Black women need to be willing to broaden their horizons by selecting men of different races of who may not fit the “criteria” or check all boxes on the list of looks. We sell ourselves short when we do that. I also want to add that as it pertains to what can be afforded, a couple needs to learn to live off one income. Single moms make it work on one income so it’s not impossible. We have to reprogram our thinking if we want to have certain opportunities.
I really really really strongly desire to be married to a black man. HOWEVER, God does what he wants and his decisions in my life have always turned out 100 times better than my own so... do ya Thang God
Amen, praying God works it out wonderfully 🙏🏾
I feel you, once I put my priorities in line the Lord showed me the husband that He made for me. Interesting enough I had to be ready for whatever and I was surprised at how I actually got what I was praying for but wouldn’t have seen it initially because I was looking for what I wanted or needed.
Key word is "desire." I think I heard the word "need" in the young lady's analogy. May God give you the desires of your heart in the best possible presentation. 🙏🏽
@@lotsofcurls1000 amen I receive that!
If your desire is stronger than you wanting God's will for your life, you're gonna end up with what you want, not with what He wants. Keep in mind your preference have a preference
Ladies a word of encouragement!
I know it's tough out here, But God provides. My husband and I are low income and don't live in a lap of luxury but we still have all the necessities. Not many people would like to live how we live and we do get looked down upon but this life is fleeting. All of this can be gone in a blink of an eye, so give it all to God. If you find yourself wanting more you need to get into some prayer. Where are you storing up your treasures? Here or Heaven? God Bless!
This was a phenomenal video on speaking about BW having a scarcity mindset when it comes to marriage/dating/love! I'm AA (26), and I've been happily married for 2 years to my husband (29) who is a black Haitian man (intercultural marriage). We dated for 2.5 years, and knew each other since we were 18 and 20. He courted me in the way a gentleman should, and I want for nothing. I've dated every race of man before marriage, and I made a decision not to limit myself. I opened up my options to any man who could get the job done as a providing, protecting, godly husband; and my husband proved to be that man. We mix our cultures to make our love richer, and anything we don't understand about the other ones culture, we politely inquire and discuss.
There are a multitude of scare tactics put in place by the black community that makes BW believe we aren't desired, deserving, worthy, or good enough to be married to a quality spouse and sadly, many BW fall into the trap. Like you said in another one of your videos, God already validated us as worthy when we came into existence. I am worthy of my husband's love, protection, provision, and prayer as a beautiful black wife, and I pray that more BW start to feel the same about themselves! 🙂❤️
Amen.. May God bless you and your marriage!
@@kamalaallen7814 Thank you!❤️🙏🏿
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Congratulations to you!!! I’m AA and am married to a Jamaican man and I am a stay-at home mother! Something I didn’t think would be our case but it has happened and I think god placed us in these roles as a couple for a reason! I love being home with my child, and my husband allows me to pursue my dreams. But I believe it definitely depends on mindset not only race but just what you value before marriage or babies! When we met as teenagers five years ago he always told me, he’d work while I finish school. I didn’t believe him, but it’s happening. Lol
Hello, I love your story I am about to be 19 and I want to know what were some of the things you looked for in a man
I agree 1000%!!
I wanted to marry a black man (my father specifically said he would disown me if I didn’t). God brought me a white German and it was BEST decision I ever made in regards to marriage. He loves me deeply and I am a happy homemaker with 2 children and wanting more!
Interesting story. If you want to, please share how your dad reacted to you wanting to spend your life with a white guy.
@@eyethumfazwe Unfortunately my father died before I met my husband 🤷🏾♀️.
@@SaraKiene949 I'm sorry about this. I'm sure he would have been proud of you for choosing someone who makes you happy.
The most high didn't have nothing to do with that
I just found your channel recently and am loving it! I know this was addressing a specific part topic, mainly interracial relationships, but I think there is a secondary thing that may be helpful for any woman to consider. Yes, you need to vet your husband for the ability to care for your family. Women also have a right to choose "high value" men. However, there are men who don't make tons of money who can be a leader and provider. We as women may just need to accept living a more modest life. Live on a tighter budget. Have less possessions. Not have the newest things. I have friends who have said they can't be a homemaker because their husband's don't make enough when in reality, they do if only they decided to live a bit more simply. In those instances it's just about what you value more.
Facts👏
Really good stuff
Agreed
My husband and I were discussing this exact thing last night. I agree completely with you. And also add that avoiding debt at all cost even if it includes paying a little bit more for a service later is worth it. Staying out of debt helps you to have the means of staying home.
Truth. I am so thankful for all the years I have been a stay at home even though we have been on a shoestring budget. ❤ 15 years of marriage later, we are in a much better place and able to enjoy things like vacations, eating out occasionally and owning our own home. Most of those years, that was not a possibility. But all the frugality and hard work was worth it. I got to manage the home and homeschool my children...still am 😃 . A few years ago, a friend had her second baby and was lamenting to all of us about having to go back to work and how hard it would be to leave her little ones. Those of us who were stay at home moms encouraged her that she could do it, she might have to tighten the budget and forgo things like eating out, but she could do it! Her husband had a good job! She answered that she didnt want to give up her favorite restaurants. Sad ....
Someone in the comments said this already, but it is worth stating again: a lot of people also live above their means, and because they do this, they "can't afford to be a wife that stays at home." And while it's maybe not the biggest problem women face in their marriages (number one being choosing a man that was never going to be the kind of husband you needed), it is a very close second. My husband and I both work because we are trying to save for a home, and while we can afford all the things we buy, we sure have not put away any money for our future home, which was the whole point of me working too. This is a failure on our part to keep our long term goal in mind and to make our spending reflective of that. Is my husband not an effective or good husband? Did I choose incorrectly? No. We jointly make decisions that set us back in the long-term and we think we can't afford for me not to work. But when I look at our spending for the past couple of years, I see that if we hadn't purchased lots of expensive and unnecessary things, we'd likely already have the money saved up or have already purchased the home. I know many people who live outside their means trying to emulate celebrities or influencers who can actually afford to live the lavish lifestyle they lead, thinking that if they don't live like them they are failures. I certainly always thought that as well and I believe my husband also thought that. We're trying to Keep up with the Kardashians, forgetting that we don't have Kardashian money and then are surprised when we have to work ourselves to death to keep that standard. I also think we like to avoid taking responsibility for those poor financial decisions and instead blame our husbands for not being more wealthy, when in reality, we'd probably be/ feel more wealthy if we were more frugal even if our husbands didn't find higher paying work. We live in a time where everything is someone else's fault, forgetting that we are not without fault.
Thank you, sis. I am not yet married but I needed to hear this.
Beautifully said👏🏽
I am a white woman and have listened to several of your videos and I can tell you the holy spirit don't care what our skin colors are but if we will take teaching and correction and obey what God has shown us, our life our life will be changed and we will produce Good Fruit. Thank you for being willing to share in a positive way what God has shown you .your message is going to more women than you know
Nothing but facts 💯 I never discriminated on race or ethnicity and I'm married to the love of my life now. He is black but not an American man and I'm glad I listened to God. He loves me for me and adores my natural hair too. We have a baby girl and I am currently a sahm. As a black woman, there are way more important things to consider besides race or ethnicity. Praying for other women struggling in this area that God brings them a mate and that she doesn't miss him 🙏🏾 btw, love love your locs they are so classy and elegant 😍
The most important thing for me when I asked God to find the man for me to be with was that he needed to have a heart reflecting Christ’s heart, who can love, cherish and keep me just as Christ does with His church, His bride. I’m a black one, and this said man is white; and I love him inside and out because God gave me the one who’s character was that of what reminds me of Jesus, it does not have anything to do with skin color. If we stop looking on the surface, such as color tone or ethnicity even, and start looking out toward God and His standards, since He looks at the HEART, and seek out a man with a Godly character, I believe many women will be so much more satisfied…
Plus, if a man was made to be the husband, father and main breadwinner, as we, the woman, is to be his helpmeet. A man is a man, does not matter is he’s chocolate or caramel skin toned. 😅 a man’s much more attractive if he can do the things that he is made to do…all ethnicities are beautiful, do not get me wrong, but a man with a heart after the LORD is much more valuable than gold and silver. ❤️
Very good topic! I grew up feeling ashamed about who I was attracted to because it was a rare thing for a black girl to like white guys. My family really had most of the jokes but going to school didn’t help. It made me feel bad for not being attracted to black guys. I didn’t hate them. I just simply wasn’t attracted to them and I started criticizing myself because as a black woman I should be attracted to black men. That’s what I felt after being teased, but now I don’t care😂😂 I want to marry someone who loves Jesus, who obeys Him, and seeks Him for everything.
I’m happy I watched this video. Good confirmation that the requirements for a Godly spouse & marriage should be biblical.
This is good. I'm about to marry in a couple months. He is a great, godly Black man. We're planning for me to be a stay at home mom/ wife. I didn't know he is what I needed but God knew.
So glad I found your channel, I’m really enjoying the content. My husband is Biracial (black/white) and I’m of Mexican descent. He pursued me for two years but I kept ignoring him because after years of dating all different types of ethnicities (Not Godly men) I had made up my mind to marry someone from my cultural/ethnic group. I thought that would make me happy; having someone that understood me in that way.
Fast forward I was entertaining the idea of going out with my now husband when I heard our pastor preach a sermon that included Revelation 7:9. It was in that moment that realized that Gods design was ultimately for a diverse church and that the most important criteria for me should be marrying a Christian not the color/culture of the person. The truth was that my husband had all the qualities that I desired in a partner but I was too blind by my ideal to see it. I’m glad I listened when God spoke to me that day. We now have a family and I’m grateful to be able to be a SAHM and raise our daughter.
Sometimes we can get in the way of our own happiness.
As a Blk Man, The way I see it, a man shouldn't be getting married if he can't afford to make his wife a housewife.
I really appreciate your videos! I’m a white American, and my husband is half Danish and half Japanese. He actually never stepped foot in America until we started dating. I knew I wanted to have a family and be married. I had that strong desire from a young age. Even though we were from different countries and cultures, we wanted the same things. We got married and now he is in the US military so we can have the lifestyle we want, and that includes me being a housewife. We don’t make a lot of money. I don’t get to go on vacations and I don’t get to buy new clothes whenever I want. However, through the struggle, we are ultimately happy. We have faith in Jesus and are so thankful to Him for providing a way.
P.S.. I never understood why people only want to date a certain “color” or “culture.” People are so afraid of different, but sometimes different can be good! My husband and I poke fun of each others home cultures that we don’t understand. We also learn from each other. Be open minded and loving. We are all made by God, no matter the color! ❤️
You have wisdom beyond your years. It baffles me when I hear women say they can’t afford to stay home with their kids. I live in one of the most expensive states, I’m a single mom of two boys, I have two remote jobs, and I homeschool my kids. The Lord is my strength and it is possible, ladies!!
I know you market yourself towards black women, but you are really helping me, and I’m really grateful to that. I cohabited with my husband, and we are walking through a lot and I feel God brought me to your channel to learn what a Godly wife is.
I am SO very blessed to have found an AMAZING BLACK man! I am one of those women who would have stayed unmarried if I wasn't able to choose a black man. My purpose in life, part of it was to marry a black man. We make really good money together. We are entrepreneurs. He and I agree at least one parent should be home. We believe in traditional roles. The balance is perfect. I felt the need to respond because I know so many black women have a hard time finding good black men. They are out there. We will be celebrating 10 years of marriage in Sept.
Love your videos!
You find you an unicorn. Great!
But your advice doesn't apply to the majority of Black women.
Black women outnumbered Black males by 2:1.
So it's mathematically impossible for every Black woman to partner with Black males. To suggest otherwise is ignorant...and cruel.
Then you add the fact that 1 in 3 Black males will have a criminal felony record in their lifetime....so now the pool of viable, marriagable Black males is even smaller.
About half of Black males will NEVER marry.
Again...you finding that unicorn is great!!!
But the probability of other Black women finding a unicorn...is not great. It's horrible!
I am an African-American woman. I was raised in a Christian household. Both my parents, grandparents and great grandparents (that's as far back as I can go with complete certainty) were all raised in two-parents, Christian holdholds. None of my foremothers were maids to another household; they were all homemakers and wives. God has been good to my family''s genereations. I so appreciate you making these videos. My 28 year old son (highly accomplished) is now praying for his wife and the mother of his future children, and I pray she has your mind set (of course, he's not going to yoke up with anyone who does not share his values and faith). Many blessings to you and your family.
I am very happy that you decided to do a video on why this is obtainable for black women. I am in an interracial and cultural relationship as well and I believe if we are looking at the things that will bring us peace and happiness versus how things will look to other people or how we want them to look then it is definitely a obtainable goal to be a stay-at-home mom as a black woman.
"A wise woman would just choose a different toilet paper brand", loved this!
Bindi, thank you SO MUCH for making these videos. I am part of the target audience you desire to reach (Christian, black, wife, mother), and your content is so appreciated. I am a stay at home wife and mom because of the goodness of God (I was not informed enough to ask the right questions before marriage, but I trusted God that my husband was the man I was meant to marry). Your videos are teaching me about how to see myself, master my own desires, create a haven for the entire family, support my husband, and how to prepare our children for their future relationships.
I remember hearing you mention that you don’t agree with everything in the book, Fascinating Womanhood. I am interested in reading the book because you’ve discussed some great points from it, but would you please share in a video what point(s) you disagree with and why? I eagerly await all of your future videos. ❤️
I’m a white woman and this was actually really helpful to me! You are very wise
💓💓💓 I am soooh GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS on being a Godly wife, mother and homemaker. My husband said you have wisdom beyond your years! I am white and my closest friend is black. We are just so appreciative for solid real Godly advice in these areas. I have been married with many children for years and have hungered for such good godly wisdom all that time, Black and white people alike are suffering from the assault on God's excellent design for marriage and family. God bless you!!!! PLEASE CONTINUE TO SHARE AS OUR LORD JESUS LEADS, as it is setting women free, including myself. 🙏💓💓💓
I have no idea how your content came up, but I honestly say it is so exhausting the way dating is, I also wish our culture supported finding a spouse as a (Christian)community goal. In the same breath I have to admit In my 20s I had more than a few
Chances to marry and I did not believe I was ready. Now I am going to be 40 this year and feel like I missed that boat. Trying not be be discouraged. Thanks 😊 for sharing this.
Love your content. As a stay at home house wife of almost 5 years now with our 3rd child on the the way I fully agree with your view point. I also agree with another commenter in the aspect that if you aren't living a lavish lifestyle and make wise financial decisions you could live off the husband pay.
I value this. Even though I'm not Christian and don't want to stop working, I do feel there are lessons here that could make me a better wife when the day comes, a better partner, a more compassionate lover. This has become a healthy place to seek knowledge in that regard. Funny coz I subscribed back when this was primarily a loc page 😂😂 small digression, you were one of my major hair inspos when I first started my journey. Love this set and loved the last one. I started watching when I still had a fro. My locs are at the middle of my back now!
Hmmm. Thats true.Check out a lady called Salkis Re💜💜
You are just hitting this hard🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I sent this to two other girlfriends, I pray they watch. We are in the season where we need a lot of wisdom to choose wisely. I appreciate this so much,🇿🇦🇿🇦🔥🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🥰
You are truly lovely! Thank you for making your videos. I am not black but I am Middle Eastern and very much appreciate a minority's perspective on all of these topics. Thank you for all the inspiration!!
Thank you Jesus for your goodness, mercy, and thank you for my husband. We are both of Afro Caribbean decent, and our parents share majority of the same cultural practices and traditions.
Bindi, your message will reach those it needs to reach. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your growth and experiences. Have a wonderful day.
You should be Thanking God,not Jesue(As), Jesus is a prophet and has no power to make things happen for you,Only God does.
@@purplelove3666 You should go and read the Bible. Be blessed, in Jesus's name, Amen❤
@@purplelove3666 my dear sister, please be aware that Yeshayah (Jesus) IS The Word of God made flesh, and Our God Ahayah IS His word as It is eternal and the essence of Him and His will. Yeshayah is begotten of God as His Word and therefore is the One who built all of existence, because it was God's WORDS that brought forth all of creation. Yeshayah is no so called prophet, but God Himself in the form of flesh. It is important that we know this so that we do not deny the Son and are ourselves denied in the presence of the Father. I know it can seem confusing at face value, but please pray on it and continue to study the Bible 🤎
I know that my purpose as a Christian black wife and mom is to first take care of my family and home. I do work outside of our home, I am also a RUclips content creator and I am in the process of starting my in home Christian daycare. I aspire to be a homemaker and know that having my own business will allow me to be that. I feel that my purpose in life is to first take care of our home and pour into our children, but, I also know and understand that God has a purpose and a specific plan for me in the area of business and ministry. I really love and enjoy your content, it really just speaks to my soul in such an aspiring way. My husband is a strong, black Christian man that provides for our family and take care of his household, but its what you are attracted to I feel. I wanted to marry a Christian man that loves Jesus, me and would be a great father and husband etc. him happening to be a black man was great, but I feel like a man after Gods heart whether black, white or whatever is great as long as he loves and lives for God, loves and honor, respect you and are also submissive to you and can take care of you and family by hearing from God. It's all a choice. Tfs
You put everything I think and feel into words so eloquently. As long he is chosen by our heavenly father as my husband and he is a man after Gods heart I will be extremely content. Thank you so much Bindi as a single woman I truly value these videos. God bless you and your family always ❤❤
Your father is on earth not in heaven.God is not a father but the creator
@@purplelove3666 the bible also said he is our father.
This analogy about brands is spot on because even though you are using it as a metaphor for the dating market. It speaks volumes about a lot of us in the black community and the chokehold that "brands" have on some of us as a consumer. lol Some of us, if it is not namw brand, or a popular brand we do not want it. A lot of the time is because we care about what others in our community will think/say about us.
As someone who married a different brand of toilet paper lol (I’m not serious, my husband is my everything) I couldn’t agree more! I think one other thing to point out though is that we are not only choosing men, but they are choosing us too. So, if I’m looking for a husband/provider, I better be on my game and present myself as a wife/supporter. But maybe that is another video. Thank you for sharing this message, its important!
This was such a good message. I found the analogies used in the video to be really helpful. Not going to lie, I found myself getting defensive at first, but I relaxed and really listened to the ideas you were expressing and I am glad that I did. I think you are speaking to the boundaries that we as women (particularly black women) set for ourselves but then end up compromising on for the sake of appearances. That is a tough pill to swallow...
Thank you for being transparent and hearing me out. *May I ask, what was said that initially made you feel defensive?* (I find that kind of feedback invaluable as I do aim to share things as gently as possible.)
wow! I had to stop the video when you started talking about paper towel because Bindi you are speaking FACTTTTTSSSSSS!!! I am really hoping that the single women out there who are bound in these thoughts get set free because I'm not sure they even know that they CAN do that. I am a married woman but I am so thankful for people like you who have minds that can really speak to the heart.And do it with grace and not from a judgemental place. Thank you!!!
You are so beautiful. Not just physically but there is an inner beauty in you as well. God bless x
Excellent analogy! When I was single my only criteria was that a man love God, be a provider, be intelligent and competent (how can you lead without intellect?), have a career (not job) that affords us a home in a safe community with a good school system, and not have a criminal record or multiple children. Color was not a factor 🤷🏾♀️
You’re a wise woman. Thank you for being the representation that so many young Black women need.
I remember seeing older black women who were homemakers. They raised their sons to be the providers. That was over 20 years ago. Yes times have changed but I STILL see these types of couples(young too). These couples usually associate with people with similar taste/values. Consider the company you keep. Ask yourself if they are looking for this lifestyle...
That’s true what you said. I work part time, 4 hours a day and work from home. I found friends among stay at home moms
Facts. I'm one of them. My husband and I raise our 9 children while he works and I stay home and tend to the family. I also work part-time from home as a life coach. My best friend, also a black mama of 9, stay at home mom, married to a strong black man. Her family made international news for the academic success of her children who were homeschooled then graduated from college by the age of 16.
@@realashandaatlarge how awesome. I love this!
@@realashandaatlarge Wow.Just.Wow. This is great to hear. I've heard that home schooled children do better on average than externally schooled children.
Bottom line is a good husband or wife can be of any color. True, find a partner who can fulfill
the role fully that you want. A good homemaker saves a lot of money too.
THANK you for addressing this topic I think that most BW do this because they so desperately want a black man. They tend to end up with a BM that does not make good husbands or fathers. I decided not to make that choice, I decided to shop in a store that had the inventory of a lot of men that checked my boxes. I am very well educated and with that I ended up with a white husband because there is so many more of them to choose from. I was able to find many more that are marriage minded and family oriented. I live very well and my husband provides a very nice lifestyle for me and my children.
I really think you came at this discussion from a very simplistic way when it deserves a much more in-depth explanation. Men cannot be compared to toilet paper in any shape, fashion, or form. This is not about "complexion," but about bloodline. As a stay-at-home black mom, married to my black husband, I appreciate that you are addressing that black homes tend to be neglected however this is not an issue in which we should decide to just "skip" out on our men because we don't like it. What we can do marry, pray, decide to work together and parent our children to succeed where we have failed. Parenting our male children to be strong and godly, good providers, and to love their black wives is what we should impart. Teaching our daughters to pray for and look for godly qualities in black men they consider to be suiters is absolutely necessary.
I am a mother of 5 sons and 4 young daughters. Although my husband and I didn't start out with the keys to a healthy home, having both come from divorced homes, we have, by the grace of Yah Almighty, cultivated a nucleus that will break generational strongholds and curses dealt to our ancestors. Has it been easy, far from it! Am I an advocate for strong black families, nonetheless? Absolutely. I realize the plan of the enemy is to exterminate the strong black nucleus altogether, because of who we are by blood beyond complexion. The Bible makes it clear in the book of Deuteronomy 28:15-68 who we are and how we got in the position we collectively are in. But it is the blood of Yahusha shed for our sins and the breaker of strongholds and curses which will turn the black family around.
Divesting to another blood, people, or culture, especially of those whose ancestors have broken the backs of strong black families for the last 400 years, is not in our best interests. It puts us in a place of weakness and every other people group, be they Asian, Arab, Caucasian, or other understands this but somehow, we think jumping ship because our men are lacking in the financial department (which is by systematic design) is the answer to building a strong home. Sorry, my young sister, I'm not with you on this one and I say this as someone who has black women in my life who have divested. I say this as a strong advocate and proponent for healthy black families.
I made the same comment ironically(Not sure if it’s been erased , because she disagrees or what, but I no longer see it)… well , WELL said , especially the jump ship part 👌🏾!!
How many of your husband's friends or family fit this criteria? I mean, are willing to have a sahw, who is not disrespected, starved of feminine needs and wants, and aren't abusive? I had an aunt who was given $50/month. I had another aunt who was given nothing. Both had Christian husbands. I guess it depends on what you're willing to sacrifice. I get your point, and hers.
OMG Thank👏You👏 someone finally said it!😊
Praise God! This was an amazing video. Very well put together.
Thank you sooo much! I really needed this! Your whole channel is a blessing to women like me. I look up to you as the Titus 2 women I have been needing as an example. May God continue to bless you and your family 🙏🏾❤️
I agree! Don’t focus too much on the “brand” it’s the content/ingredients that count! Well put 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You are right. A good man who is a good man no matter what his skin color. Stop waiting for this “Black” man who doesn’t want you or is not of good character and would not marriage material. Wake up my young sister open your hearts and eyes for a Biblical man period!!!
I have to admit that I avoided watching this video for months because I thought it would be one of those videos condemning black women for dating outside of their race.
Not only did I love the video but I wish more black women would see it. I was in a small group meeting with a group of black women from my church and they got on the topic of dating and relationships. Out of everyone there, only myself and one other lady were married. None of them knew that I was married to a white Latino man. They spoke so flippantly their preferences for dating within their race, and about how they don't understand how any black person could date outside of their race. Meanwhile, when I told them about my husband ( I purposely left out his race) they would say things like "you've got a good one" or "they don't make them like him anymore".
When I finally revealed his race, the look on their faces was one I wish I could have captured on camera. Their tune changed so quickly and they even asked if he had any single friends. I told them that the friends weren't black and some said that "they didn't care."
The irony of it all.
I just found you on RUclips. 🙏✝️🙏 Praise GOD for you.
I’m old enough to be your Grandmother
I’m so pleased to see Women like you doing things GODS WAY.
I will share with Young Women that I know 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hi, Bandi! I never heard it put as you spoke, but I so agree with your metaphor, while respecting the personal decisions of others. I think some may not ever considered or even knew that they could simply change the brand, but felt hopelessly at a dead end road, thinking "...there's not any left..." Ohhh, this was sooo enlightening! I shared this with my daughter.
The way I found this Channel is divine appointment. God bless you. I am completely relating to everything said as I am at a point of choosing between a career and homemaking and my whole heart wants to be a home maker that explores her entrepreneurial spirit in the side ❤🎉
Now when I go to buy toilet paper, I will be thinking about marriage and interracial relationships lol. I like black men, however, I do not discriminate. I see beauty in other ethnicities. As long as the man does not see me as a fetish, I am fine with marrying a man outside of my ethnicity. I am mixed myself. At the end of the day, I desire a man of God first.
You will not go wrong with a man who loves the Lord more than he loves anything. May the Lord set aside the right man for you.
Fetish?!! Do you understand the word?!! I hope you're holding bm feet to the same fire, cause their the ones that's mainly sticking bastard kids to bw out of other races of men.
@@Bindi_Marc no disrespect, but all of this talk about a man who loves the Lord, but really it only applies if he is making enough money to support a certain lifestyle. People disregard certain scriptures in the Bible that deal with contentment. If that man provides food,clothing shelter, life insurance, health and dental then his family is good. People don't have true faith anymore. They have Jeannie faith. Women stayed at home more 60 years ago because they valued their children over material gain. All of this talk about safe neighborhoods. You move out the hood to a gated community and then put in the most expensive alarm system ever, while the people in the hood don't have an alarm and never get burglarized or they do but no one gets hurt. Believe me, I know. I thought the purpose was to move to a safer environment, so why get an alarm. Evidently people get burglarized in the so called affluent neighborhoods too. SMH
I love how you put this. I went to a small college composed mostly of international students from all across the world. It was a Christian college that was only for ministry leaders. As a result ,everybody there shared the same God and same core values but extremely different cultures and expectations on how to live out Christian marriage. The majority of students there married people not only of a different race but of a different culture and even country than themselves. It was always surprising to see how their families and friends back home reacted. Somewhere supportive, some were genuinely disgusted, and some had legitimate concerns about the effect it would have on their children. For all the races and we talked about in the United States, it was mostly the American students whose families had no problems because America is a melting pot already. I've been out of school for about 7 years now. And I can honestly say all of the marriages are happy and now have biracial bicultural kids who are thriving. The majority the in-laws have learned to love each other and it has only made her friend group closer despite the fact that we all live scattered around the world. Also, not to be totally practical, but it's significantly healthier genetically to have children with somebody with extremely different genes than you. God designed us that way. It takes work and compromise to understand each other's cultural norms but it's totally worth it to expand our horizons as women in the marriage market.
I’m not a black woman and I dont love in the USA, but I’m a Christian and a homemaker and I love your channel so much. Thank you for your videos!
Thank you for this. So many people need to see this message
Another issue I see seeping its way into the mentality of Black Christian women (single, married or mother) is that whole ''Beyoncé-girls-run-the-world'' spiel! There is this weird pride of being a ''strong black woman'' aka, independent career woman that doesn't need a man to take care of her even in marriage or not willing to let that Beyoncé-mindset go once marriage talks comes along. I attend a predominantly white, non-denominational church and what I have noticed from my white sisters in Christ is that while they are single and career-driven, they actively pursue and aspire to a future homemaking life the moment they date all the way to when they get married (even before kids come into the picture). I have noticed that they actively date men that intentionally want and can financially afford a stay-at-home wife/mother and kid(s). I have noticed that the moment they get into a serious relationship that has a clear trajectory of a biblical marriage, they let go of that ''career-driven'' attitude (they also tend to not boast about their careers, accomplishments or degrees). I also noticed that they tend to date-up, aka, never settling for just one brand of toilet paper or making it work with paper towel! Essentially, they know their worth and seek men that are as much men of valor in the Lord's sight as they are men of financial status. I think as black women, we often don't know our worth in Christ so we tend to find cheap worldly substitute to define us (e.g. ''Black Girls Rock'', ''Black Girl Magic'' or whatever trendy black spiel /gimmick is thrown at us)! I have talked to countless single overeducated, career-driven black Christian women, young and old, who want a great future marriage but do not want to let go of that feminist attitude to instead embrace their godly call to femininity and biblical womanhood. It is something I am constantly working on myself. What I see around me is not necessarily Black Christian women not willing to date outside their race (I am Canadian/Caribbean in Toronto, ON), but I do see majority of them being too attached to that feminist non-submissive black girl magic worldview! I also do not see encouragement from older Black Christian women (or just older black women in general) to aspire to become a homemaker. There is definitely this mentality that you need to have your own career/money to bring to the table in order for a man to want to marry you. I think that is definitely the type of propaganda that is uniformly taught to black girls/women. A train of thought that teaches us that compared to sisters in Christ of other nationalities, us black single Christian women, need to show that we are great work horses (e.g. career-driven, financial means and education) in order for a man to even look our way and be viable options to men. That mentality has to shift within our community because I believe it is part of the reason why lots of black women do not even aspire to homemaking, especially for those that won't even date outside of their race. I have always been an equal opportunity type of woman when it comes to dating !!! Great video and I am a new subscriber who saw the link to this video from @Gwenvo channel. :)
Thank you for so eloquently stating your thoughts. Everything that you mentioned is the reason i produce homemaking, marriage, and femininity content. To help re-educate our sisters who were not given these lessons. Thank you for watching and adding your thoughts.
@@Bindi_Marc No thank you for creating this platform. It is 💯% needed and I am glad I discovered your channel. I always knew I could not be the only black Christian woman out there aspiring to one day be married and a homemaker 💯🥰🙏🏾
Amen! Agreed. I also think that a large number of Black women grew up without strong fathers in the home. Fathers give identity. Without this, being raised by single (often scorned) Mothers, they just have no other way of knowing their own worth and value as young girls, let alone adult women. They grow up feeling rejected by men (starting with having no father around). That is a huge blow to a child’s sense of self-worth and confidence. Especially when they go to places like parks, churches, doctors visits, and see fathers of other races there with their wives and children. They grow up believing that something is wrong with them. To compensate for this bitter root, things like career and achievements are used to fill in the gap of that aching wound. However, they never truly satisfy because Scripture teaches that the “woman was made for the man” and “the head of every woman is the man”. So our identity can not fully be realized absent of a man. Biblical order definitely needs to be restored back to the black family in America. We know that the current state of affairs has its roots in the systematic dismantling of the black family in this country. However, I believe that this is the time period in which God wants to “restore the hearts of the fathers to the children” again. I do believe that restoration to the Black American family is coming on a large scale.
@@c.walk.6823 I wholeheartedly agree with you on every single point 🙏🏾💯
@@c.walk.6823 feminism, desegregation, welfare destroyed the black families, took the man out of the home..
Its so cool to see videos that I can relate to lifestyle wise. I am 30, black, christian, married interracial, traditional world views, stay at home mom, and homemaker.
I used to stress about what i was "going to be when i grew up" but honestly Ive been training for this role my whole life it seems.. maybe since around 7 years old
Thank you for making this video. I am not a homemaker but I would like to transition to being one. My husband is Filipino and his mother was a homemaker so he grew up with this mindset. I grew up with a single mother so this is all new to me. My husband and i spoke about it recently and he’s open to the idea and that in itself is a blessing. I’ve been watching your videos to gain knowledge about the responsibilities of a Christian wife but also so that I can teach my daughter these things as well.
This was fire 🔥. A Christian should first and foremost be a child of God and must have Christ mindset, not culture mindset. As Romans 12: 2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God”..shalom 🌻
Love that scripture, Shalom 💕💕
Thank you so much for making this video! It needed to be said and was communicated eloquently! 🙂
I so love your content and thank you for addressing this. I think a lot of BW listen to noise and feel obligated to compromise on standards just for the sake of being in a relationship with a particular race of men. It's almost as if some BW do the very converse of what some of the men typically do: reducing their chosen partners to their color or ethnicity and assigning value to said color (in the case of BW they remove value from a man for not being of a certain color). Hopefully this crippling trend gets better with future generations of BW and girls.
A legacy of wisdom, discernment, knowledge and understanding ...WHEW!!!!!! Now I have the word for what it is I truly want to give my daughters. THANK YOU!!!!!
Sis much respect the community definitely needs this sort of content. Keep going on with this content it is a great contrast to the toxicity that’s out here.
I'm an ELA teacher and the metaphors are on point!! I Will be sharing with my sisters
Thank you I really needed to hear this .May God continue to bless you and your family
You’re absolutely right. Great points. Beautifully and plainly stated.
As a single 53 Year Afro American male who has never been married nor have children this is refreshing to here a fellow Christian Married and Homemaker Mom,who speaks Christian and Godly Wisdom I am so proud of you for Choosing God's way instead of Worldly/Secular ways.Prayers for you, your,family and people who are lost Spiritually, God bless!
I love and appreciate this. I have a mother who was in a healthy marriage but had my sister who is 10 years older with a deadbeat man. My mother did not impart any knowledge into me about marriage (due to jealousy issues, selfishness and being a narcissist). I ended up becoming a single mom and trying to figure life out on my own. I am repeating the pattens my mother (not on purpose but maybe it is Gods purpose). You are God sent.
Check out Tony Gaskins, he helps a lot of women get their life on track in terms of love, personal, and even business. You can break those patterns, might be heard, but with God anything is possible. Believing in you sis ✊🏾.
This was well done and the analogy was wonderful. I am a mother of 5 little girls (age 6 and under). Will have this conversation with them at the appropriate time, should the Lord tarry. I enjoy your videos and your insight. Be blessed.
5 little girls!!!! This is such a blessing ❤
God blessed you! It must be such a joy as a woman having so many beautiful daughters!
@@MEAJJEKL I am grateful
As a white/middle eastern woman, the reason why culture matters so much to me is because I take into consideration how my family will interact with my spouse and his family.
Let’s say if I were to marry another Armenian: perfect! Both families can talk to each other in the same language and know what foods they like, it feels like home!
Let’s say my spouse is Russian, Arabic, Jewish, Persian, or Greek: nice!!! Not the same exact culture, but quite similar! It is fun to enjoy the similarities and discover new things! (Greeks, Arabs, and Persians are just as extra as we are too lol party time)
If my spouse were of an entirely different race, I personally do not know how I would be able to interact with family without feeling like I do not belong.
That being said, if God’s will is for me to be with someone who is of a different ethnicity then the Lord will know how to make a way through the discomfort.
I heard it put very well that we have a grace for the man God has for us. If you meet someone and there's a grace there with his family and he's of a different race yet you don't feel like an outsider then that could work! I agree with the extended family dynamic because children would/could feel the effects or they can be the bridge.
I married a man from a different continent haha, our cultures are different and he speaks another language along with English. It’s different, but I find ways to connect with his family and I’m having fun learning his native language. It’s fun for my family to learn about his culture as well. There’s differences, but it is what you make it. You’ll never know how it’ll work out unless you try. I think if you have an open mind you can find a great guy of a different race/culture as long as you have the same core values. We aren’t as different as we think haha.
hi, bindi.i am a white, 64 yr old wife of a white, very good man .i happened accross your videos and am impressed that someone so young (and beautiful) has such wisdom and caring for others, not to mention faith and obeying God. you seem to have humility and genuine compassion for others.i have been married 40 years and can still benefit from a god fearing christian such as yourself. god bless you !!
It also depends where you live. If you live in Armenia/Russia/Greece/Israel/Iran etc then there are plenty of men from "acceptable" cultures for you. But if you lived in Scandinavia for eg, you would find it a bit more difficult.
You make some good points about shared cultures.
Thank you for this video 💗the analogy that you used makes total sense. As a woman who desires a relationship leading to marriage with a God fearing man that can provide and who will make me a homemaker, this advice is of paramount importance. It should be the gold standard! 🙋🏿♀️❤️
Love your videos
They are so needed
Most men are told they can’t have any expectations of their wives
Thx for keeping it real and biblical
Well I’m not a Christian, but I find a lot of value in your channel and the topics you talk about.
Hello Bindi, I found your channel today, I believe it is from the Lord, I was talking to a young lady last night who wants to be married, someone is pursuing her and meets everything on her list but she is not attracted to him. Your example of the toilet paper was great, they are both Christians . I am also a Christian but I am 83 years old and have not been married for a long time. I am going to share your channel with her. God bless you!!
no lies were spoken in this video. I needed this reinforcement of already developed ideas of mine... thank you so much, Bindi!
Thank you Bindi for this video. I am single and desire to be a homemaker. This is so helpful.
Hi. When I first met my husband I was in registered nurse and I worked for the majority of our marriage. I retired early and I'm still a homeschooling mom. I homeschool my children while I worked on the weekend and my husband works during the week. Now I am completely at home and so is he and we enjoy each other tremendously. I wish we had the financial means for me to stay home in the beginning, but that's not the way it worked out. I'm very thankful for being a homemaker and get to enjoy my boys and my granddaughter.
I never truly knew how to feel about this topic without feeling like I was offending my own. This is an honest way to think about it. Quiet refreshing actually.
Bindi you are a true light and speaking so much wisdom.