Thank you for more education. I received a text hoover last Monday after 3 yrs. Yes, 3 yrs to the exact date. I did not respond. I am still no contact as I am not going down in that pit again. I had to pray through the anxiety the hoover caused because Jesus is my strength. These npd people are ruthless. MS. A ALL THE WAY!
Thats why its so important to stay by yourself when you get away from them, so you can manage to be alone, and break the cycle of being codependent and ending up with a Narc🤔🚩🏃♀️
I agree with you and have remained alone. recently I heard someone say " there's no such thing as codependent when 2 people truly love each other.". I found it to be inspiring and almost impossible to achieve, all things considered.. 😂
@@skkkoury6156 At the beginning it's hard,and takes a bit of adjusting,but it gives you the opportunity to heal, and evolve spirituality, I found that building a Relationship with God helps, and asking God to take certain burdens from me, and asking him to restore me and allow me to take refuge in him, I knew if I didn't get comfortable in my own skin by myself then patterns of codependency can continue, instead of pouring into the Narcissist I pour into me, not in a vain way, I give the energy to me to heal ✨❤️✨
After 2.5 year marriage, raising his daughter and a $500k hit financially, I'm so done. He's already engaged to one of the 3 supplies. Bless her heart! She thinks she's won a prize. She's in for such a surprise! Narc free for life is my new motto!
I pray we all stay that way… I was thinking just to get off here n there like a slider go late wam bam thank you mam then I’m like nah I don’t wanna be lied on any more even that sht will get twisted as I can’t let goo I NEED A GOOD DISTRACTION 🤦🏾♀️
Nothing makes you lose faith faster than living with a narcissist. Watching the devils puppet get rewarded for thier evil intentions and actions while never facing accountability. All while its seems like every day you are punished and sentenced to life of suffering for having principles and pure intentions.
I know this example about homeless. Past relationship would call every homeless person a scam artist. We would pass a mentally disabled boy and she would say, he was faking! The boy would stand in the rain, 100 degrees limp top car windows for a dollar. This woman would call him a fraud! If it was fake that boy deserved an oscar!
"We mistook their need for attention as love". The brutal facts indeed 😖 I'm speechless Dave. When you say 'I'm talking to someone', it's me. It's like you followed me and my ex narc around for 10+ years. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for truly doing the Lord's work.
😂😂😂 "they temporarily went insane". I'm so glad I can laugh at this now. It's like medicine. It's ridiculous how we all fell for the narc.. the great pretender.
I received a text Hoover about a week and 1/2 ago after 1 year. She discarded me one week before my birthday. She claimed she is a whole new person because she went to therapy and asked for forgiveness. She wished me good luck and said I deserve a great person. Knock knock the light is on but nobody is home. I am Mrs. A 🙏
It's easy to pick the wrong mate when you have childhood wounds. Go to the throne to have your wounds healed. If my ex narc ever comes back I have the perfect opening line- Do I know you?
Hahaha I used the " who is this " he reintroduce himself and continued with the hoover like it didn't bother him that I didn't have his number anymore 🤷🏿
You are 100% right, as a child i was left alone alot I think that's why I was so willing to be a pleaser, I didn't think someone who tells you they love you would treat you like that,
@Terri B I feel the same way, I told my wife, I hmgave you 27 years of my life and what did I get, I got cheated on lied to, I told her I don't know who you are
I married my ex-Narc at 20 & he discarded me at 49. I’m a self-diagnosed empath and now I FINALLY get to enjoy alone time. Therefore I have yet to even have a date nearly 8 years later. I love my own company & that of my awesome pups. No Narc pooches so that’s good for me for now!! 😊
I saw enough being long distance; the lies, the word salad, the disappearing, calling at all times of the night, the triangulation, the broken promises, disappointments. You still put your trust in them, and even more because you couldn't check up on them. Their anger was still there, the blocking and unblocking. The threats, the filthy mouth. The jealousy, the blame shifting, and the false accusations. The rude comments that came from nowhere. It was pretty awful and maybe even took longer to realize their behavior is an incurable disorder, because you weren't always close. Mrs. A for 3 years next month and he still hoovers.
They can block and unblock cos i blocked them months ago and wont ever unblock. I had it with all of them and the toxic ex and new supply. All of them are poisonous people who all lie,believe lies and play games. So sick that i got sick and tired of it.
Them all day crazy because it’s not just us some of those who they talk so smack about they be right in their faces hovering keeping tabs or knowing what they have going on.. they bad mouth is saying well mine said she will never call or text again .. so many lies.. it’s crazy insane and we all tryna get off their highs withdraws 🤦🏾♀️ sucks however we gotta push threw know our worth and get what we really deserve reciprocacy no damn crumbs it’s crazy because we all be bread crumbing back and forth pushing and pull
After I lost my job she gave up & asked me to move out of our shared apt. I did. Moved right into a shelter. I said, "I've lost everything & now im homeless" she said, slow & clear, "I don't care". So I moved tf on & never looked back. So should you.
For me the narcissist came to mirror to me the poor self esteem and worthiness that I held. I'm grateful to the narcissist for waking me up to real love
I love this. This is exactly what it was. Showed me, mirrored my low-self esteem, how I felt about the way I looked, etc. The other evil mess was him trying to recruit me into coming over to his side, the meatsuit side and I wouldnt budge. Them mirroring me was the best thing that ever happened bc now being away from the narc, my self esteem is the highest its ever been, I love things about myself I didn't before and I know I deserve love, healthiness and HAPPINESS > something he KNEW he couldn't have
So I had affair with my 1st wife with a Narcassist. At the time I did not know this person was a Narcassist. Actually I didnt know what narcassist was. I ended up divorcing my 1st wife and soon later I started seeing the Narcassist really coming out. Same time I had awakening starting. Long story short, I completely my awakening and currently divorcing this Narcassist. No contact for me. Love your show brother and this saved my life. Keep up the great work, God is Great...
The narcissist operate a lot like those old Air Force people, telling the citizens of Roswell and other places: "You did not see what you say you saw" "You did not experience what you believe you experienced" etc. For me, the memories have been deeply engrained into my memory ingrams, so much so that I cannot un-learn or un-experience the things I went through EVERY TIME I fell in love with anyone. Even if I get Alzheimer's, it will be the Irish variety when it comes to the narcissist: I'll forget everything but the grudges because of what they put me through. They single handedly got rid of every vestige of the simplicity and hope of love.
I have been crying my eyes out today... Over a lot of things... I think I am just needing to grieve it all.... Mine gaslit me, too... With, " Yes, I did." " When did I do that?" and told me he said he told me he loved me but I blew him off..., that was what he had done to me...
2 years with him🙏😭Your husband that stays out all night every once in a while, but has no money to take you out. If they aren’t with you they are online with someone else or taking someone else to work with them half your age or more. Married so he can live free, take Both of my parents had past when I met the narc, he stated telling me I have mental problems because of normal waves of grief that came. He went through the garage, storage fill Ed it with crap, sold everything valuable, Left me with 12 trailers of junk in the hard storage and garage, 50 years of valuables gone, replaced with junk immovable I couldn’t see, was stealing from me, while living free, t Growing his business, affect my business
12 years with a psychopath and I gained nothing but stress and health problems. When I finally left I was relieved at first, but I had no idea he was so evil. I almost had a heart attack and he wouldn't take me to the hospital.
💯 on how he treated/looked at the homeless, but for whatever reason he "HATED" fat people with a burning hate to the point of gritting his teeth when he talked about them. But he'd be all smiles if he was interacting with one.
Great Video Dave !!....Here's my take on the "Bomb" stages. 1st came the love bomb & oh boy was she good at it. 2nd came the distant avoidant bomb, she pulled back became lazy but would demand excellence from me. 3rd came the triangulation bomb bringing back an ex of hers, only to keep me on my toes. 4th came the "leave ur azz behind" bomb by me, I left her high & dry. 5th came the rude, evil hoover bombs from her for over a year. Now she can sit, ignore & avoid all by herself !
@@princessmandy1757 Just remember they are despicable Cretins with no Empathy and no Moral Compass, and it's horrendous the low way they treat people with absolutely no regard, it takes time to heal, but we will and will be a better more enlightened version of ourselves, we all deserve better than what they're peddling, I wish that you can heal and reclaim you life, and remember your better than them, we all are.✨💜✨
About four months after my discard, I got hoovered by my ex narcs mother the other day. She was letting me know that she is cancer-free, which made me happy to hear, but... Just that small interaction also opened the wound, and sent me back into the narcissistic fog. I can only imagine how difficult it must be if you actually speak to the narc themselves. Literally nothing good can ever come from it. Much love to all of you who are going through dealing with these energy vampires❤
I think it's because they're much more common than what we're told. Even the traits can be observed in ourselves, without introspecting and maintenance it flows like water. The world system is built upon it, many different names for the attitudes and it's highly praised in all climbs of life. How can one even have a true friend these days?
No way will the narc ever be happy. Mine was not only Jekyll and Hyde but also paranoid, a pathological liar and you can probably throw in psychotic to boot. Perhaps on the spectrum as well. I can never see this person as really happy with himself, but as the narcissist ages, the last victim will wind up with him by default. Heaven help her!
Total invasion of privacy, they do not care. While on the toilet, in the shower, even after explaining how the one place, if I have the door closed in the bathroom, leave me alone. No lie they won't tell. He would pretend like my kids were his and tell sob stories to customers about struggling to put food on the table. We were servers. He did not help me with my kids and I never once asked him to. They love changing narratives and they are never at fault and always the victim. So glad to be narc free, 2 years now. Still learning, still working on my self worth, and definitely in touch with my faith. Narc no more!! I know what I will not take! I know love is patient. Thank you Dave!
Here I sit my mom is very I’ll and of course my narc husband who just left me after 25 years don’t give 2 s about my mom Dave your so right I’m taking care of my 80 year old mom alone they don’t care if anyone is sick 😢pray 🙏
Wow I had a narcissistic roommate that did this same waiting for you thing. They leave their bedroom door open, and they expect you to come in and listen to their endless stories about themselves. You are expected to sit there, usually on something uncomfortable and you have to listen to it till midnight!😩
Narc told me he cant be alone more than an hour, otherwise he will go crazy. I already knew he was a narc, but this confession sealed the deal. Solitude breads creativity, thats why narcs are mostly dumbs.
I was a darn good doormat, lol😂😊 my relationship was on again off again over a 10 year span with lots of new supplies in our off again times. He'd come back to tell me how wonderful i truly was!
Dave, thank you so much for all you do. I went through all of the narc behaviors for 10 years. When i finally had enough and kicked him out he moved in with a young girl at her pareents house 2 days later. Months later they married and are having a baby any day now. I have had a really hard time getting through it (@ 2 yrs ago) still but listening to you has helped me make sense of so much.of it. God bless you and thank you so much. Just a tid bit...ive heard from folks that they started havimg .problems 2 wks after marriage..
My Ex Brother in law would straight up ask..."what's in it for me"?...when he needed help moving I told him I require pay LoL, he didn't want to dig into his pockets , I stayed home and watched some good movies 🤣
I thank God every day for freedom and I tell God this is the day that you my Heavenly Father has made. I shall rejoice and be glad in it. Hallelujah❤🕊️
These people know the games they play, and the worst of all to make you look like the problem! That's why they can't get over you, they know how good you're.
They go with that intial connection... Your light, your spark, initial intersction. Your humanity and spirit on spec, then rhey endevour to snuff it out willfully. They are the ultimate light eaters. The shining.
It’s crazy because it was like living with the devil. He would try to portray so nice outside and with the neighbors but when you close the door and the inside, I don’t know why they’re so mean or manipulative to the people that’s close to them
It's endless torture. I'm so confused, my whole brain has been augmented and I feel like I can't believe any "joke" they say. I don't know what's going on.
I think the problem is that I don't feel worthy to find another else. It's heartbreaking. I want to die but I keep living on everyday and especially the days I can't forget about the abuse. It's pure. Evil. Pure. Evil.
I dont believe theyre happy with new supply-especially since mine tried to reach out to me last March. If they were happy, theyd forget all about us,but they dont. I thought i had him totally blocked,but he called my daughter phone looking for me
They will never be content that’s how we got in however they told me they was thru n miserable and guess what she doing telling the Otr supply she done with me don’t wanna be with me xyz of course she denies the supply came to my front door I prayed to god for a direct sign that I can’t ignore he did within 1-2 week she showed me proof the narc been in contact Chile I withdrew myself 2 days later I just can’t smh since march 2020 start of COVID until last week 6/8,9,2023 triangulation with the same girl who knows who else crazy she talked about her like a dog I’m sure she doing home the same then I’m sure she will eventually Hoover to see how I feel .. I’m straight of course I’m not but to her I damn sure will be until I’m thru this aggy emotional mental damn withdrawal of course a good distraction will help or just doing things I love with friends or otrs on a social level only I disgard all emotional sexual or mental ties for a while…. I got things to handle within and things I want n need I will not allow the oppressor to use this situation to hinder me any longer
After saying No to being used...he said he has zero intention on courting or seeking after me or my attention and that i was not interest of his...I thanked him for finally being honest with me. I wanna see how he could try to come back again... I think he is finally had enough injuries from me, i always say no and reminding him alll his behaviors
He will they talk so much trash about us and otrs then be back in their face of course with a great justification as usual Mine called me a demon cheater and that wanted to see their down tf I helped her in so many she could never help definitely leveled her up she says that about siblings exs mtr dad even strangers yet tells me it doesn’t apply to me totally damn lies I disgard her although it was already brewing why would she or I be with each other if she feeling like that after her ex of 3yrs of triangulation even after she so called proposed to me pops up and show me proof that the narc been in contact 2days later I left 💨 that’s when she called me names since I decided not to sleep at my own house in my own bed tf she more madder than me 🤷♀️ 🔁
In had a long distance relationship for 5 years and I thought I knew him and moved to his house with my daughters, married the narc. After ONE week I knew I had made a mistake. This is all so extremely cruel and sad! It took me five years to get out of the relationship. I am healing now for more than a year but I really did not want to live after the relation ended. It is so painful and I felt so stupid. And also my daughters suffered a lot!!! Thank you for this wonderful video 🙏
17:11 My wife for years said she was on her high school chess team. We decided that she would teach me to play. I won the first game. She would never again play against me. We frequently played a game called Quirkle.. I learned to let her win. She would really get upset at losing.. It's a freakin game played for fun.
I feel very strongley in that I donot want gifts from people, I work and bought what i wanted, then some family member, kept asking for this or that , till all your tools were gone. Their eyes are scaning 100% of the time. Thieves. Coveters, horders, and then they want to give it all away to their next source. They will suck the life out of you, make your own path, lean not on others, it will cost you. I still believe god gives but the wisdom he gives is a diamond in diguise
a narc does nothing out of the goodness of their heart. main reason, there is no goodness to be had from them; heart, or otherwise. the best way ive found to expose one is ask for something, anything, for free is the best. see what the outcome of your request is? you do for them, they do nothing for you.
It's only been a few months since discard, but I would be surprised if she even remembers me. I've done my part and blocked her on every single thing and I don't ask any mutual friends about her. I will respond to absolutely nothing that she tries to say or do.
I made the huge mistake of introducing someone with NPD to my friends 20 years ago without even knowing what NPD is. It prevents me from going totally no contact-I still have to be around him once or twice a year. Buy I have an annual fishing trip coming up and I have to plan strategies on what to say, what not to say, how to stay gray rock even though I want to point out how every action of his is totally devoid of empathy for other people. I know he will eventually abuse all of my friends to the point they don’t want him around, but it’s going to take awhile. They still don’t know what he is, although they have been the targets of his abuse quite often which he never apologizes for, just explains that he was drunk and leaves it at that.
I'm a retired massage therapist and my first ( lol) ex narc married me keeping several girlfriends . I was quite young and had no idea . Hence the start of my nt trusting . Yes empaths need S. P. A. C. E. 🙏❤🤗😁
I’m empathy and slightly a introvert well Ik I be needed a recharge especially after being drained if I wasn’t drain then I wouldn’t need soo much We took their need of attention for love .. wow 😅
I agree with this however my specific case he was a cheater in his past relationship right before me said he was getting help but still had ticks and like was manipulating and lied to me about other things so I didn’t trust him and would be super paranoid but I feel if they aren’t a cheater in their past or haven’t lied to you then there’s no reason to accuse someone but if they have told you they have a past with cheating and then they lie to you and don’t seem changed then yeah idk
God really is the only way. I want to die every time I think of the pain but im keeping on. Its hard. And yes, the long distance relationships never work. They say one thing and then you spiral out of control, not out of insecurity but because of desperation and needing the truth, you know you'll never get it but you hope you get some sort of semblance of the beginning. It's so tragic. I love you and I love this channel. Thank you so much for doing God's work
You would be a good 👍 family counselor or family attorney single fathers need your knowledge to help them get the tools 🔧 to deal with these narcs you get it and don't sugar coat all of these narc issues you are the man with the master narc plan 😉 😀 😄 😎 👍
Does this mean they never get over anybody? I mean I was the only person he ever married but who knows maybe he was totally hung up on somebody from like 20 years ago for all I know. Thoughts?
YES, they have the objects of all those people constantly in their head and imagination.They cant get over any fantasy, thats the disorder according textbook. But I personaly believe they do keep people/objects in grades, not everyone had same impact/ impression on them.
They collect people like they're just objects. They like to have a huge collection/variety of people. But, they never emotionally attach to anyone like a normal human being. They don't feel love, or sincere emotions for anyone. But on that same note, they can never "detach" from the people that they form a situationship/addictionship with. It's all a game of winning, and collecting for them. It's "Prizes." They collect prizes because it's nothing but a game to them. They honestly believe that they own their targeted victims. It's very sick, and twisted.
Dark angels belong to the dark triad. i have experienced after ayahuesca that my masculine side needs healing...I am not a narcissist but i have ptsd which was mirroring their own anxious style of attachment... For narcissism there is no cure i think...Vampires are existing. They are here to awaken us to our light.
That’s exhausting howeber we know the narcs are up to it due to supply gains and whatever they want a made a chef a do girl a sectarian while they give out as crumbs and we compromise with it I really got sauced 😅
The only reason I want her to come back is for closure. Im fine if we never talk again, but she robbed me of closure and anything that looks like accountability. And when she tries to come back, I'm going to grey rock until she takes accountability and seeks change. These things will likely never happen so I don't expect to hear from her. The only time I might think she'll call is because she needs a validation fix, because she has no one else. And she wont get one. I'm pretty sure she'll be back, because she already hoovered and ghosted me. But, she's completely locked out of my heart forever.
They don't give closure-only more lies, bs and excuses. They know you want closure but not giving it to you keeps you anxious and caught up in the mind f**k.
When I met my wife I was a total door Matt, she loved it, I really thought she was a special woman, until I found out 3 months after we moved in together she was cheating on me, I just didn't understand it,because we were fresh couple, sex every day, I couldn't understand why she would cheat, well turns out she was not faithful to anyone she had ever been with, of course she deny everything, once I started calling her out on her games, well she just avoided me and didn't talk to me unless I kissed her ass,27 years, if I don't come to her, we don't have a relationship, 😢 I don't know what to do
How long after the discard did you start this youtube? I feel so confused after beeing with this guy that I dont know if I actually should share so much yet….. But I just feel my sisters boyfriend is trying to come into my life again. My sister looks a bit drained so I guess her husband is running short on supply? I blocked her for several months. I guess my enemies will sneeze in the bushes eventually. They have both been awfal towards me. Both my sister and her husband but the only thing that has helped me to see my daughter more is meeting my family with love and keep my distance to them. As much as I can. I dont even text my sister any more. She has been texting me instead. So I guess she needs my energy? Its okay to answer her but I do not use my time on them anymore. Only been there on my daughters birthday or else I just pick her up at school and deliver her at school and I need only have very limited contact with my sister. (Its because child service is involved ofcourse they are because ofcourse autority needs to be involved when people are awakening spiritually… seems like it is this the way it is in this matrix, even the enteties and enemies goes into family members. Its insane and people dont even know it….😳) It has been good for me to keep my distance.
All she wanted to watch was lifetime with me. And I was excited to because it was with her. One Sunday all we did was watch lifetime movies on the couch her and I. :/
Mmmk one sided I settled for a while when I wanted to watch she wasn’t interested or critized my taste but when it was her turn I was unbothered and acted uninterested 😂 she ain’t like that a taste of her own medicine it’s like we could mainly watch it when she was in tne mood or oh the light bothered her yet felt someway when I wanted to go into the living room which one is it.. They will always need multiple supply I accept that I think 🤦🏾♀️ Ik it’s true working on the accepting part 😂
@@empress9857 about the needing multiple supplies every single time she came up to visit me an LA from San Diego we would trade off Id go to San Diego one weekend. She’ll come to LA the following weekend every. Single. Time. She would have to stay with her friend for a bit. Go have lunch with her and then come back go get her hair done come back it would be like almost every time she’d be here in LA, she just had to do whatever the hell she wanted to do. I started to really have to control her in such a way where it was harder and harder for her to do eight things. Talk about devaluation. She take on a Saturday optional unpaid speaking event the whole morning she did this on the first day that we both agreed her idea to talk to a therapist on the phone and she took on this stupid speaking event, and the therapist realize she was in the car driving to the event from San diego and asked if she would want to do it some other time since she’s driving and she says yes. I lose it. I said no we’re doing this now. I made arrangements to do this now. So we did it then. I couldn’t even tell you I’d have to really think hard as to how that session even went.
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The narcissistic person woke me up to just how evil the world really is.
The world isn’t an evil place, there are plenty more good people. But for sure demons walk amongst us.
Thank you for more education. I received a text hoover last Monday after 3 yrs. Yes, 3 yrs to the exact date. I did not respond. I am still no contact as I am not going down in that pit again. I had to pray through the anxiety the hoover caused because Jesus is my strength. These npd people are ruthless. MS. A ALL THE WAY!
SMART WOMAN TO IGNORE IT. YOU DESERVE BETTER. YES THEY ARE RUTHLESS & THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT US AT ALL.
Exact same thing happened to me after almost 3 years. May God give us strength to never open that door again 🙏🏻🙏🏻
The actually think they are that fabulous😂😂
@@lisalawtonlyons DELUSIONAL PEOPLE.
Stay strong. We are with you in spirit.
Thats why its so important to stay by yourself when you get away from them, so you can manage to be alone, and break the cycle of being codependent and ending up with a Narc🤔🚩🏃♀️
For being a codependent being alone can be lonely. It stinks
It’s was so hard being alone at first, but now I enjoy it! 😊
I agree with you and have remained alone. recently I heard someone say " there's no such thing as codependent when 2 people truly love each other.". I found it to be inspiring and almost impossible to achieve, all things considered.. 😂
Its pretty addictive being alone. 6 months no contact im loving my own space.
@@skkkoury6156 At the beginning it's hard,and takes a bit of adjusting,but it gives you the opportunity to heal, and evolve spirituality, I found that building a Relationship with God helps, and asking God to take certain burdens from me, and asking him to restore me and allow me to take refuge in him, I knew if I didn't get comfortable in my own skin by myself then patterns of codependency can continue, instead of pouring into the Narcissist I pour into me, not in a vain way, I give the energy to me to heal ✨❤️✨
After 2.5 year marriage, raising his daughter and a $500k hit financially, I'm so done. He's already engaged to one of the 3 supplies. Bless her heart! She thinks she's won a prize. She's in for such a surprise! Narc free for life is my new motto!
I pray we all stay that way… I was thinking just to get off here n there like a slider go late wam bam thank you mam then I’m like nah I don’t wanna be lied on any more even that sht will get twisted as I can’t let goo I NEED A GOOD DISTRACTION 🤦🏾♀️
Nothing makes you lose faith faster than living with a narcissist. Watching the devils puppet get rewarded for thier evil intentions and actions while never facing accountability. All while its seems like every day you are punished and sentenced to life of suffering for having principles and pure intentions.
I've lived that twice. I nearly lost my faith over it, because the ones doing the backstabbing was "Christians" or so they said.
ehhhhhhhh, you can take away good, from even bad situations. the plus side is, NOW YOU KNOW.
I know this example about homeless. Past relationship would call every homeless person a scam artist. We would pass a mentally disabled boy and she would say, he was faking! The boy would stand in the rain, 100 degrees limp top car windows for a dollar. This woman would call him a fraud! If it was fake that boy deserved an oscar!
"We mistook their need for attention as love". The brutal facts indeed 😖
I'm speechless Dave. When you say 'I'm talking to someone', it's me. It's like you followed me and my ex narc around for 10+ years.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for truly doing the Lord's work.
😂😂😂 "they temporarily went insane". I'm so glad I can laugh at this now. It's like medicine. It's ridiculous how we all fell for the narc.. the great pretender.
I received a text Hoover about a week and 1/2 ago after 1 year. She discarded me one week before my birthday. She claimed she is a whole new person because she went to therapy and asked for forgiveness. She wished me good luck and said I deserve a great person. Knock knock the light is on but nobody is home. I am Mrs. A 🙏
sounds like the nut job i was with. lol
What is Mr.A?
Their rejection is God's protection. You are precious!
better yet, you reject them permanently.
It's easy to pick the wrong mate when you have childhood wounds. Go to the throne to have your wounds healed. If my ex narc ever comes back I have the perfect opening line- Do I know you?
Hahaha I used the " who is this " he reintroduce himself and continued with the hoover like it didn't bother him that I didn't have his number anymore 🤷🏿
Sadly you don’t know him now AND you never really did. 😮😢
You are 100% right, as a child i was left alone alot I think that's why I was so willing to be a pleaser, I didn't think someone who tells you they love you would treat you like that,
@Terri B I feel the same way, I told my wife, I hmgave you 27 years of my life and what did I get, I got cheated on lied to, I told her I don't know who you are
even that would be giving them to much. give them 0.
They take everything personally.. If you are NOT praising them, then you criticize them...Exhausting
Pray for discernment! 🙏
Mrs A
Your knowledge has helped me so much. Once you're out, it is really hard to see them as being anything but the devil.
They get over you EASY! They NEVER loved you in the first place.
Boom 💥
They pretend howeber they always lying n fronting
They just come back because they’re running low on supply and they’re desperate to keep the false self going so here comes the Hoover maneuver.
When a narc becomes hospitalized, they do not get an IV bag.
They get a bag labeled "supply"
Yes, and what they give back in return, (the thing they call love) is the same thing in their ostomy bag.
lol😛
@@Narcologyunscripted yes Dave, I stole that line from you. 💪❤️
I married my ex-Narc at 20 & he discarded me at 49. I’m a self-diagnosed empath and now I FINALLY get to enjoy alone time. Therefore I have yet to even have a date nearly 8 years later. I love my own company & that of my awesome pups. No Narc pooches so that’s good for me for now!! 😊
Don’t get cats then. Born narcs - every one of them.
I saw enough being long distance; the lies, the word salad, the disappearing, calling at all times of the night, the triangulation, the broken promises, disappointments.
You still put your trust in them, and even more because you couldn't check up on them. Their anger was still there, the blocking and unblocking. The threats, the filthy mouth. The jealousy, the blame shifting, and the false accusations. The rude comments that came from nowhere. It was pretty awful and maybe even took longer to realize their behavior is an incurable disorder, because you weren't always close. Mrs. A for 3 years next month and he still hoovers.
Well done, ✨💜✨
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
They can block and unblock cos i blocked them months ago and wont ever unblock. I had it with all of them and the toxic ex and new supply. All of them are poisonous people who all lie,believe lies and play games. So sick that i got sick and tired of it.
Power to you girl 💪🌺
Them all day crazy because it’s not just us some of those who they talk so smack about they be right in their faces hovering keeping tabs or knowing what they have going on.. they bad mouth is saying well mine said she will never call or text again .. so many lies.. it’s crazy insane and we all tryna get off their highs withdraws 🤦🏾♀️ sucks however we gotta push threw know our worth and get what we really deserve reciprocacy no damn crumbs it’s crazy because we all be bread crumbing back and forth pushing and pull
After I lost my job she gave up & asked me to move out of our shared apt. I did. Moved right into a shelter. I said, "I've lost everything & now im homeless" she said, slow & clear, "I don't care". So I moved tf on & never looked back. So should you.
I'm an empath, I'm not a cheater, never was. I have trust issues though. Because past relationships
For me the narcissist came to mirror to me the poor self esteem and worthiness that I held. I'm grateful to the narcissist for waking me up to real love
I love this. This is exactly what it was. Showed me, mirrored my low-self esteem, how I felt about the way I looked, etc. The other evil mess was him trying to recruit me into coming over to his side, the meatsuit side and I wouldnt budge. Them mirroring me was the best thing that ever happened bc now being away from the narc, my self esteem is the highest its ever been, I love things about myself I didn't before and I know I deserve love, healthiness and HAPPINESS > something he KNEW he couldn't have
So I had affair with my 1st wife with a Narcassist. At the time I did not know this person was a Narcassist. Actually I didnt know what narcassist was. I ended up divorcing my 1st wife and soon later I started seeing the Narcassist really coming out. Same time I had awakening starting. Long story short, I completely my awakening and currently divorcing this Narcassist. No contact for me. Love your show brother and this saved my life. Keep up the great work, God is Great...
3 words…..They Don’t Care 😢omg Dave we just said it at same time
The narcissist operate a lot like those old Air Force people, telling the citizens of Roswell and other places: "You did not see what you say you saw" "You did not experience what you believe you experienced" etc.
For me, the memories have been deeply engrained into my memory ingrams, so much so that I cannot un-learn or un-experience the things I went through EVERY TIME I fell in love with anyone.
Even if I get Alzheimer's, it will be the Irish variety when it comes to the narcissist: I'll forget everything but the grudges because of what they put me through. They single handedly got rid of every vestige of the simplicity and hope of love.
I have been crying my eyes out today... Over a lot of things... I think I am just needing to grieve it all....
Mine gaslit me, too... With, " Yes, I did." " When did I do that?" and told me he said he told me he loved me but I blew him off..., that was what he had done to me...
2 years with him🙏😭Your husband that stays out all night every once in a while, but has no money to take you out.
If they aren’t with you they are online with someone else or taking someone else to work with them half your age or more.
Married so he can live free, take
Both of my parents had past when I met the narc, he stated telling me I have mental problems because of normal waves of grief that came.
He went through the garage, storage fill Ed it with crap, sold everything valuable,
Left me with 12 trailers of junk in the hard storage and garage, 50 years of valuables gone, replaced with junk immovable I couldn’t see, was stealing from me, while living free, t
Growing his business, affect my business
Damn 🤦🏾♀️
12 years with a psychopath and I gained nothing but stress and health problems. When I finally left I was relieved at first, but I had no idea he was so evil. I almost had a heart attack and he wouldn't take me to the hospital.
“Wouldn’t it be good if they all came with an external label?” 😂 😂 hilarious! Thank YOU!
💯 on how he treated/looked at the homeless, but for whatever reason he "HATED" fat people with a burning hate to the point of gritting his teeth when he talked about them. But he'd be all smiles if he was interacting with one.
Great Video Dave !!....Here's my take on the "Bomb" stages. 1st came the love bomb & oh boy was she good at it. 2nd came the distant avoidant bomb, she pulled back became lazy but would demand excellence from me. 3rd came the triangulation bomb bringing back an ex of hers, only to keep me on my toes. 4th came the "leave ur azz behind" bomb by me, I left her high & dry. 5th came the rude, evil hoover bombs from her for over a year. Now she can sit, ignore & avoid all by herself !
Thank You
Well put it’s a 🔁 a pattern a repeat the same roller coaster over n over..
Thank you, Dave... Needed this today. Feeling kinda down.
Yeah. Even though you know what you know…….
@@fainitesbarley2245 it just hurts... Knowing it was all for nothing... Like Ms. Pat from Pats 2 Cents said...we accept 95% pain for 5% pleasure.
@@princessmandy1757 It's so true, 💯, we get hooked on the Dopamine through Love Bombing
@@angelakeely5859 and he never cared about my feelings... He dismissed me like I was nothing.
@@princessmandy1757 Just remember they are despicable Cretins with no Empathy and no Moral Compass, and it's horrendous the low way they treat people with absolutely no regard, it takes time to heal, but we will and will be a better more enlightened version of ourselves, we all deserve better than what they're peddling, I wish that you can heal and reclaim you life, and remember your better than them, we all are.✨💜✨
About four months after my discard, I got hoovered by my ex narcs mother the other day. She was letting me know that she is cancer-free, which made me happy to hear, but... Just that small interaction also opened the wound, and sent me back into the narcissistic fog. I can only imagine how difficult it must be if you actually speak to the narc themselves. Literally nothing good can ever come from it. Much love to all of you who are going through dealing with these energy vampires❤
How can one person have so many narcs in my life-that’s where I’m at.
I think it's because they're much more common than what we're told. Even the traits can be observed in ourselves, without introspecting and maintenance it flows like water. The world system is built upon it, many different names for the attitudes and it's highly praised in all climbs of life. How can one even have a true friend these days?
No way will the narc ever be happy. Mine was not only Jekyll and Hyde but also paranoid, a pathological liar and you can probably throw in psychotic to boot. Perhaps on the spectrum as well. I can never see this person as really happy with himself, but as the narcissist ages, the last victim will wind up with him by default. Heaven help her!
Total invasion of privacy, they do not care. While on the toilet, in the shower, even after explaining how the one place, if I have the door closed in the bathroom, leave me alone. No lie they won't tell. He would pretend like my kids were his and tell sob stories to customers about struggling to put food on the table. We were servers. He did not help me with my kids and I never once asked him to. They love changing narratives and they are never at fault and always the victim. So glad to be narc free, 2 years now. Still learning, still working on my self worth, and definitely in touch with my faith. Narc no more!! I know what I will not take! I know love is patient. Thank you Dave!
The only times they aren't glued to you, is when they're gluing themselves to someone else
@@P4Eight yup, cheat and then accuse you!
Here I sit my mom is very I’ll and of course my narc husband who just left me after 25 years don’t give 2 s about my mom Dave your so right I’m taking care of my 80 year old mom alone they don’t care if anyone is sick 😢pray 🙏
Ill pray for you Denise.
Just Prayed ❤
Thanks so much Dave and Deanna ❤️🤗🙏
Wow I had a narcissistic roommate that did this same waiting for you thing. They leave their bedroom door open, and they expect you to come in and listen to their endless stories about themselves. You are expected to sit there, usually on something uncomfortable and you have to listen to it till midnight!😩
Narc told me he cant be alone more than an hour, otherwise he will go crazy. I already knew he was a narc, but this confession sealed the deal. Solitude breads creativity, thats why narcs are mostly dumbs.
I was a darn good doormat, lol😂😊 my relationship was on again off again over a 10 year span with lots of new supplies in our off again times. He'd come back to tell me how wonderful i truly was!
Same 10 years discard new supply for short periods then right back But this time I’m finally done!
Praying for God to break the soul tie and deliver you into peace, joy and happiness 🙏
The 🔁 and roller coaster 🎢 is really we like falling off a horse trying hold on too all the bs while in btwn still having good moments soo toxic
Dave, thank you so much for all you do. I went through all of the narc behaviors for 10 years. When i finally had enough and kicked him out he moved in with a young girl at her pareents house 2 days later. Months later they married and are having a baby any day now. I have had a really hard time getting through it (@ 2 yrs ago) still but listening to you has helped me make sense of so much.of it. God bless you and thank you so much. Just a tid bit...ive heard from folks that they started havimg .problems 2 wks after marriage..
My Ex Brother in law would straight up ask..."what's in it for me"?...when he needed help moving I told him I require pay LoL, he didn't want to dig into his pockets , I stayed home and watched some good movies 🤣
Too funny lol
The Danger zone will be soul ties not worth for the lust of the flesh.
Temporarily insane @17:37 😂😂😂
You don't know how true this stuff is.. it's hilarious
I thank God every day for freedom and I tell God this is the day that you my Heavenly Father has made. I shall rejoice and be glad in it. Hallelujah❤🕊️
These people know the games they play, and the worst of all to make you look like the problem!
That's why they can't get over you, they know how good you're.
Thank you Dave for this video I dumped the narc husband no contact on everything divorce is my next step
Lifetime will be in here gathering source inspiration from our comments and stories 😂😂😂😂
He would sing that sing…”I’ve been a bad bad boy!” He would give me flowers and say sorry…for what??? Screwing your supply???
Thanks for all you do each day!🎉❤
You rock Janee! Thank You so much
They go with that intial connection... Your light, your spark, initial intersction. Your humanity and spirit on spec, then rhey endevour to snuff it out willfully. They are the ultimate light eaters. The shining.
My light is infinitely it may dim however it never goes out no matter how much dirt they attempt to throw on it 😜
It’s crazy because it was like living with the devil. He would try to portray so nice outside and with the neighbors but when you close the door and the inside, I don’t know why they’re so mean or manipulative to the people that’s close to them
It's endless torture. I'm so confused, my whole brain has been augmented and I feel like I can't believe any "joke" they say. I don't know what's going on.
I think the problem is that I don't feel worthy to find another else. It's heartbreaking. I want to die but I keep living on everyday and especially the days I can't forget about the abuse. It's pure. Evil. Pure. Evil.
Get away from the narc
Go to God :)
I will never again go back. i am happy now and have peace. i ignored the hoover twice, so I'm proud of myself 🩷 thank you, dave god, bless you
Yes a lifetime movie about dangers of being with a narcissist would be amazing!!!!
I dont believe theyre happy with new supply-especially since mine tried to reach out to me last March. If they were happy, theyd forget all about us,but they dont. I thought i had him totally blocked,but he called my daughter phone looking for me
They will never be content that’s how we got in however they told me they was thru n miserable and guess what she doing telling the Otr supply she done with me don’t wanna be with me xyz of course she denies the supply came to my front door I prayed to god for a direct sign that I can’t ignore he did within 1-2 week she showed me proof the narc been in contact Chile I withdrew myself 2 days later I just can’t smh since march 2020 start of COVID until last week 6/8,9,2023 triangulation with the same girl who knows who else crazy she talked about her like a dog I’m sure she doing home the same then I’m sure she will eventually Hoover to see how I feel .. I’m straight of course I’m not but to her I damn sure will be until I’m thru this aggy emotional mental damn withdrawal of course a good distraction will help or just doing things I love with friends or otrs on a social level only I disgard all emotional sexual or mental ties for a while…. I got things to handle within and things I want n need I will not allow the oppressor to use this situation to hinder me any longer
I used to think she was clear cut in her opinion. She was either black or white, and nothing in-between. Long before I knew of narcissism
Almost 5 years AWAY from that JEZEBEL Spirit Narc, Life is AWESOME 🙌💟
After saying No to being used...he said he has zero intention on courting or seeking after me or my attention and that i was not interest of his...I thanked him for finally being honest with me.
I wanna see how he could try to come back again... I think he is finally had enough injuries from me, i always say no and reminding him alll his behaviors
He will they talk so much trash about us and otrs then be back in their face of course with a great justification as usual
Mine called me a demon cheater and that wanted to see their down tf I helped her in so many she could never help definitely leveled her up she says that about siblings exs mtr dad even strangers yet tells me it doesn’t apply to me totally damn lies I disgard her although it was already brewing why would she or I be with each other if she feeling like that after her ex of 3yrs of triangulation even after she so called proposed to me pops up and show me proof that the narc been in contact 2days later I left 💨 that’s when she called me names since I decided not to sleep at my own house in my own bed tf she more madder than me 🤷♀️ 🔁
It’s truly devastating. He was my friend first for a long time.
Dave!!!!! Where have u been, miss you tons.
Thanks Dave 🎉🎉🎉🎉happy weekend 😊
Dave 22:12 I laughed with you..Thank You 😊
" ..... they still have that double life...: yes
In had a long distance relationship for 5 years and I thought I knew him and moved to his house with my daughters, married the narc. After ONE week I knew I had made a mistake. This is all so extremely cruel and sad! It took me five years to get out of the relationship. I am healing now for more than a year but I really did not want to live after the relation ended. It is so painful and I felt so stupid. And also my daughters suffered a lot!!! Thank you for this wonderful video 🙏
17:11 My wife for years said she was on her high school chess team. We decided that she would teach me to play. I won the first game. She would never again play against me. We frequently played a game called Quirkle.. I learned to let her win. She would really get upset at losing.. It's a freakin game played for fun.
Happy Saturday Dave😇🌁🌤
Thank you 🙏 Dave!
Coffee ☕️ Cheers!
I feel very strongley in that I donot want gifts from people, I work and bought what i wanted, then some family member, kept asking for this or that , till all your tools were gone.
Their eyes are scaning 100% of the time.
Thieves. Coveters, horders, and then they want to give it all away to their next source. They will suck the life out of you, make your own path, lean not on others, it will cost you.
I still believe god gives but the wisdom he gives is a diamond in diguise
Very true,
Thanks again Dave your advice is extremely helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
a narc does nothing out of the goodness of their heart. main reason, there is no goodness to be had from them; heart, or otherwise. the best way ive found to expose one is ask for something, anything, for free is the best. see what the outcome of your request is? you do for them, they do nothing for you.
Win at all costs!!
You're the best. Thank you so much!
Different? Nooooooo, NEVER!!!
true tnks
Ahhhhh, yes.
"The guilty accuse"
(My mom.used to say that all the time about these kinds of people.)
P.S.
Thanks.
I just found you today.
Subscribed ❤
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
I like 👍 your sweat shirt 👕 you have a good wardrobe you are always looking 👌 sharp dave
Had one Hoover back 28 years later. A record?
Hi Dave, dirst of thank you for your content 🙏
If i may ask, are you in AA? Wondering how you got sober. ❤
Jesus delivered me
@@Narcologyunscripted ,Beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
It's only been a few months since discard, but I would be surprised if she even remembers me. I've done my part and blocked her on every single thing and I don't ask any mutual friends about her. I will respond to absolutely nothing that she tries to say or do.
I made the huge mistake of introducing someone with NPD to my friends 20 years ago without even knowing what NPD is. It prevents me from going totally no contact-I still have to be around him once or twice a year. Buy I have an annual fishing trip coming up and I have to plan strategies on what to say, what not to say, how to stay gray rock even though I want to point out how every action of his is totally devoid of empathy for other people. I know he will eventually abuse all of my friends to the point they don’t want him around, but it’s going to take awhile. They still don’t know what he is, although they have been the targets of his abuse quite often which he never apologizes for, just explains that he was drunk and leaves it at that.
Thank you dave your amazing ❤
You rock!
@@Narcologyunscripted so do you 😍
I'm a retired massage therapist and my first ( lol) ex narc married me keeping several girlfriends . I was quite young and had no idea . Hence the start of my nt trusting . Yes empaths need S. P. A. C. E. 🙏❤🤗😁
Thanks!
Thank You Skulpzilla!
I’m empathy and slightly a introvert well Ik I be needed a recharge especially after being drained if I wasn’t drain then I wouldn’t need soo much
We took their need of attention for love .. wow 😅
I agree with this however my specific case he was a cheater in his past relationship right before me said he was getting help but still had ticks and like was manipulating and lied to me about other things so I didn’t trust him and would be super paranoid but I feel if they aren’t a cheater in their past or haven’t lied to you then there’s no reason to accuse someone but if they have told you they have a past with cheating and then they lie to you and don’t seem changed then yeah idk
God really is the only way. I want to die every time I think of the pain but im keeping on. Its hard. And yes, the long distance relationships never work. They say one thing and then you spiral out of control, not out of insecurity but because of desperation and needing the truth, you know you'll never get it but you hope you get some sort of semblance of the beginning. It's so tragic. I love you and I love this channel. Thank you so much for doing God's work
Damn continue praying things will get better
You would be a good 👍 family counselor or family attorney single fathers need your knowledge to help them get the tools 🔧 to deal with these narcs you get it and don't sugar coat all of these narc issues you are the man with the master narc plan 😉 😀 😄 😎 👍
Does this mean they never get over anybody? I mean I was the only person he ever married but who knows maybe he was totally hung up on somebody from like 20 years ago for all I know. Thoughts?
YES, they have the objects of all those people constantly in their head and imagination.They cant get over any fantasy, thats the disorder according textbook. But I personaly believe they do keep people/objects in grades, not everyone had same impact/ impression on them.
They collect people like they're just objects. They like to have a huge collection/variety of people. But, they never emotionally attach to anyone like a normal human being. They don't feel love, or sincere emotions for anyone. But on that same note, they can never "detach" from the people that they form a situationship/addictionship with. It's all a game of winning, and collecting for them. It's "Prizes." They collect prizes because it's nothing but a game to them. They honestly believe that they own their targeted victims. It's very sick, and twisted.
Nope nobody they gonna continuously bring up all the bs victimized mentally thru the entire shituaction sht loop 🔁 😢
Dark angels belong to the dark triad. i have experienced after ayahuesca that my masculine side needs healing...I am not a narcissist but i have ptsd which was mirroring their own anxious style of attachment...
For narcissism there is no cure i think...Vampires are existing. They are here to awaken us to our light.
How can someone act, pretend and be fake for 26yrs?
That’s exhausting howeber we know the narcs are up to it due to supply gains and whatever they want a made a chef a do girl a sectarian while they give out as crumbs and we compromise with it I really got sauced 😅
After the discard I used to say to him “I even let you have a new gf and you’re still messing this up”
Oh no! Let’s fix that NS!
Maybe I do love you after the first date. lol. I did like the attention. The love bombing got me.
Amen!!!!!
The only reason I want her to come back is for closure. Im fine if we never talk again, but she robbed me of closure and anything that looks like accountability. And when she tries to come back, I'm going to grey rock until she takes accountability and seeks change. These things will likely never happen so I don't expect to hear from her. The only time I might think she'll call is because she needs a validation fix, because she has no one else. And she wont get one. I'm pretty sure she'll be back, because she already hoovered and ghosted me. But, she's completely locked out of my heart forever.
They don't give closure-only more lies, bs and excuses. They know you want closure but not giving it to you keeps you anxious and caught up in the mind f**k.
I hope this finds its way to a woman named Crissy in Georgia.
After 26 years he still try to replace me when the new supply leave he try to come back
When I met my wife I was a total door Matt, she loved it, I really thought she was a special woman, until I found out 3 months after we moved in together she was cheating on me, I just didn't understand it,because we were fresh couple, sex every day, I couldn't understand why she would cheat, well turns out she was not faithful to anyone she had ever been with, of course she deny everything, once I started calling her out on her games, well she just avoided me and didn't talk to me unless I kissed her ass,27 years, if I don't come to her, we don't have a relationship, 😢 I don't know what to do
Why do we care if they move on and get over us?
How long after the discard did you start this youtube? I feel so confused after beeing with this guy that I dont know if I actually should share so much yet….. But I just feel my sisters boyfriend is trying to come into my life again. My sister looks a bit drained so I guess her husband is running short on supply? I blocked her for several months. I guess my enemies will sneeze in the bushes eventually. They have both been awfal towards me. Both my sister and her husband but the only thing that has helped me to see my daughter more is meeting my family with love and keep my distance to them. As much as I can. I dont even text my sister any more. She has been texting me instead. So I guess she needs my energy? Its okay to answer her but I do not use my time on them anymore. Only been there on my daughters birthday or else I just pick her up at school and deliver her at school and I need only have very limited contact with my sister. (Its because child service is involved ofcourse they are because ofcourse autority needs to be involved when people are awakening spiritually… seems like it is this the way it is in this matrix, even the enteties and enemies goes into family members. Its insane and people dont even know it….😳) It has been good for me to keep my distance.
All she wanted to watch was lifetime with me. And I was excited to because it was with her. One Sunday all we did was watch lifetime movies on the couch her and I. :/
Ditto my brother
Mmmk one sided I settled for a while when I wanted to watch she wasn’t interested or critized my taste but when it was her turn I was unbothered and acted uninterested 😂 she ain’t like that a taste of her own medicine it’s like we could mainly watch it when she was in tne mood or oh the light bothered her yet felt someway when I wanted to go into the living room which one is it..
They will always need multiple supply I accept that I think 🤦🏾♀️ Ik it’s true working on the accepting part 😂
@@empress9857 about the needing multiple supplies every single time she came up to visit me an LA from San Diego we would trade off Id go to San Diego one weekend. She’ll come to LA the following weekend every. Single. Time. She would have to stay with her friend for a bit. Go have lunch with her and then come back go get her hair done come back it would be like almost every time she’d be here in LA, she just had to do whatever the hell she wanted to do. I started to really have to control her in such a way where it was harder and harder for her to do eight things. Talk about devaluation. She take on a Saturday optional unpaid speaking event the whole morning she did this on the first day that we both agreed her idea to talk to a therapist on the phone and she took on this stupid speaking event, and the therapist realize she was in the car driving to the event from San diego and asked if she would want to do it some other time since she’s driving and she says yes. I lose it. I said no we’re doing this now. I made arrangements to do this now. So we did it then. I couldn’t even tell you I’d have to really think hard as to how that session even went.