It's amazing to me how the narrcisist is so adept at telling a story so compelling that those who hear it have absolutely no interest in hearing your response. So many seem content in accepting half a story. Being alienated from such people is actually being done a favor.
Narcissists are a lot like these people I've seen here in California and other places along the beaches, who will spend a million dollars to build a dream home right on the sandy cliffs, supported by telephone poles. Then one day, like any other day, that big wave comes in like a tsunami, and wiped out that big beautiful dream of a home in one fell swoop. Later they cry to the county codes enforcement, and try to sue the building contractor, for building a dangerous structure. Never fails. That's why God tells us not to build your home upon the sand where it can be swept away, but upon the rock. (Build your faith upon the solid rock of the Holy Spirit in all truth)
Yes! Mine severed ties with his family, his biological minor child, he ababdoned his dog by giving him to a friend. I kicked him finally out, he abandoned me and my kids earlier this year. Came back, left us again, came back a couple days later. He stayed in touch with what I called his "harem" or "toys assortment " and after finding a very expensive gift ( not for me) I had enough of it. I'm not a Christian, but I believe in God. And all the evidence I've been presented with, was something I wasn't looking for. I found this particular gift because he asked me to help him find something he lost. I opened a drawer abd there it was. A lot of non sensical lies followed , but I was done. Finally!!!🎉
Mine kept his dog for supply. With his cheating and abuse that's the only thing he has in his pathetic life. His ex wife left him and he stopped seeing his son right after. If you don't love your son, you could never love me. He lied for almost 2 years about everything. Accused me of cheating while he was sleeping with Ursula from the Little Mermaid 😂
@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 yes, can you believe it? He had the nerve yo ask me if I was single 🙄 like I'm so desperate that I would get back with him 🤣
They have a lack of "Boundary recognition" and only see you as an "Inanimate object" to use. To quote Dave...they are empty meatsuits. They just have NOTHING about them. They are fake and they are cheap and nasty. @@hindwidad2723
If this happened to me in the 70's, 80's or 90's with no channels like this, my healing process would have been so much slower and worse. Without support from you and the comments I would be in a dark room looking at a wall today. Information and education are so powerful! God Bless!
I was born into this dynamic in the 70s. It is a miracle I am still alive, but I don't care about life anymore with the constant and systematically destruction of everything I build. They take over your life and they keep preying despite of no contact. It goes on and on and on.
I heard it loud and clear ; after pouring my heart out in desperation ; Who doesn't want a Savior ? I was observing things I didn't want to believe ! I ended up saying ok Lord , you win , I surrender , do what you got to do , I am getting out of your way , acknowledgement, acceptance , surrender !
It's just like you said.. She liked a photo- that's how I learned she unblocked me. I knew about hoovers, I should have blocked her right then and there. A week later she asked about the dogs. Another week later she tried to call me through FB. I didn't answer. She messaged me "send photos of the dogs" it wasn't even a request, it was demand. I responded, "You already have photos of the dogs. Look at those." Then I blocked her. It's bee a year now.
It was easy for me cause I was only with mine for 8 months. I didnt get to know that many of the people in his life and all the people in his life had big mental health issues😳 I guess my narsisist was powerful cause he now looks even younger than beeing with me so I guess a spiritual narsisist is even more dangerous and can get even more supply. This man needs to stay far away from me. He is a ho! He called me a whore but he is. I was not unfaithful he was. I was not lying, he was
I removed everyone, even years long friends, they were toxic and worshipped him like dogs. It’s pathetic and they’re stuck there hindering their growth, but not me. I refuse to let anyone stunt my growth.
1 of the hardest things for the Recovering Empath to learn and grasp and HOLD on to is... Narcissists have the uncanny ability to project the image to the Empath that they're coming up against a single-component opponent like in Boxing, in Tennis, or in Golf. But in reality they're actually coming up against an entire team of monsters like a Pittsburgh Steelers type of hierarchy. The "Steel Curtain" of the 1970s is still to this day known as a....."Dynasty."
This is true. They plan their discard way in advance. I realize now... when my dad had his first stroke in 1996.... my mother told me not to come home. Gave me this horror story about one of my dad's classmates who got run over by a truck, and they didn't tell his daughter so she would stay at her university and finish out the semester. WHO TELLS THEIR DAUGHTER THAT KIND OF STORY??? Well, I didn't go back home, and felt horrible about it. I understand now, my mother wanted to control the finances if my dad died. Well he didn't die. He lived over 25 more years. When he got diagnosed with terminal cancer last year, my mom did it AGAIN!!!! She triangulated my dad against me. This time I could see what she was doing! It was insane. To realize your mother was using you as an anchor baby for your father's narcissistic financial supply. It creeped me out to my core. I went no-contact with her after my dad's death. She kept trying to hoover me back with "inheritance." Um... I found a holographic (handwritten) will by my dad, written in 2018, willing everything to me. Turns out... my mother transferred all those IRA funds to a different account, with her the only beneficiary. Vicious woman. It's fine. She'll need it all for her memory care. Matthew 19:29-30 is all I needed to know.
Oh my God!! I'm having a bit of an amazing moment right now. I've had to leave my religeous circle because of the narcissist and haven't been anywhere since (3 months) and God was speaking to me this morning, saying a similar thing.
I understand fully but what they do is put the blame game on you. We admit accountability and try to work things out. But there comes a point when you wake up and realize it's not you.
I blocked the flying monkey, i'm a mrs A! The narc ex's sister emailed me a tester hoover and i blocked her! Hopefully he'll get the message and leave me alone forever. 9 months no contact! Thanks for your video Dave, new subscriber here! 😊
You ARE “Spot On” about the “PAINFUL DISCARD” of the entire Family/Group. It is a VERY LONELY Feeling, and very UNHEALTHY. Thank you, for these timely videos, Dave!
Thanks Dave, I went to take a bite of cereal and you said “ here’s the blind deaf dog that pees in one spot” I spit up all the milk through my nose 😂🤣🤣
You will lose your self respect period - you will walk away with nothing - I still struggle but I am getting there - never again - ty Dave - thank you for your teachings - NARCS NO MORE
These videos helped me break a vicious trauma bond that had me enslaved for close to 2 years before and during the pandemic. I see the person now and feel nothing! Wonderful feeling of freedom. No anger, no attachment, no yearning, no nothing. Only q feeling of intense relief. The discard nearly broke me but now I see it was a blessing from The Lord! This person no longer has control of my heart, feelings, confidence, walk with God, anything! This is how you know you are healed. Part of me knows I couldn't have done it without God and these videos. I feel like I escaped a very strong demonic force in my life when I broke that trauma bond. Today a flying monkey told me this person was asking about me. No thank you! I'm free. Thank you Dave for being there to guide us away from this darkness that is narcissism. Great pour, by the way. 🙂☕I will continue to watch these videos to protect me from other narcissists in my life in relationships, at work, in society, etc.
This is such a great story to read. I can relate. Same story. We are very lucky to escape the evil trauma of it all. Thank God for people like Dave and his channel. He is doing Gods work for sure 🙏
When you really think about all the damage these narcissits do to normal happy people I just think it's tragic cuz they make a mess outta our lives leaving some needing therapy and some are probably never able to trust again, depending on how many we have met in life but God heals ❤ Thanks Dave
So true..I had a couple good laughs. Father healed me... Praise the peace and understanding he gave to me. Over 2 years now and still so happy to be alone...So much gratitude...Blessed.
'And now will you follow me?' - Yes! I had to go through this in order to wake up. Thank you for bringing us the deeper spiritual reason behind narcissism.
At 02:21 in this video ...Dave, it is a HUGE 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 you are dealing with a Narcissist ... When they can not stand being alone ... They always have a mobile phone glued to their face getting "Supply" .... Also, watch for the Narcissist engaging in lengthy mobile phone conversations when they have company, Instead of saying to the person on the phone.... "I have company..Can you call me back later" .... The Narcissist is like a bottomless pit... They are NEVER satisfied Thank you for this video and indeed this channel
The lying is a HUGE red flag..... They tell lies when they have the option to tell the truth.... I would love to know who they THINK they are fooling. @@Ice_Ba
Spot on Dave! My ex Narc texted me three days ago from an unsaved number saying verbatim “Hey, I hope you're doing okay. I had a strong edge about you this past couple of days. No hard feelings. Be safe. Happy Holidays”.. And just a week before, his friend texted me asking me “how are you?”.. Same playbook.
I think he lied to the flying monkeys for a long while and then was embarrassed of the lies he conjured about me. All evil lies.. I take comfort because God knows the truth. He knows the kind person that I am...
Iv fallen off the planet he will never see my face again. with help and getting educated makes you stronger. The good thing that helps me is i called him out on everything i found out about him. after 10 years of marriage to this devil. He only pops into my head now and again which im glad. what i do is shift my focus on the lord when this happens. Hes tried hoovers but there comes a time when you know your done your definitely done. Enjoying my freedom found myself. stay strong Thanks lv ya💙
I had the narc telling me he loved and missed me and wanted to see me one last time ..one last time ? Before he got his Apt? Then he went ghost so I called him to see how the Apt was going and he told Me “we have roaches “ we?? Yes him and his Gf ..I was shocked !! Then got another shock to find out it’s a transgender !! Iv never spoke to him since then he’s blocked on everything and doesn’t show the new supply on social media for certain reasons im sure …I’m still getting over the shock of it all but I’m getting better day by day. At least I have peace and quiet now around me.
Black holes are never full. As is true of the narcissist. Ignoring them and being brutal in your honesty towards there BS worked wonders for me. Great upload. Hope you have a lovely safe Christmas. 🤶 🤶
I am so terrified I was the narc but I got discarded after 8 yrs. He subtly controlled me, and when I started to call him out on his behavior, he blew up, would walk out, called me abusive. My discard was totally planned. 😢 He was a total coward, threw me out of our home and changed the locks. Im being tested..getting likes from his friend who didn't want to actually talk to me and be honest either. 😂'hurricane Narcissist"..so true! I now realize God took him out of my life for a reason which I didn't understand. But Im seeing he was protecting me from many things.
Perfect timing. Found my ex unblocked me today, and the flying monkey HAD blocked me. I immediately blocked my ex. I bid adieu to the flying monkey. The FM swears she and my ex are besties…yet my ex talked trash about her for years. Mr. A All Day here.
There truly is nothing worse than being forced to go no contact with a person you love for your own well being. I don’t think I will get hoovered because I discarded her. The week leading up to that was her telling me I let down her son, dog, rabbit, and family, amongst other things when I called her bluff to end it. I identified with her son because of similarities in our childhood. He called me daddy. Not getting to explain to him why I wasn’t going to be coming to see him again is bringing me to tears writing this. In her eyes I don’t think she can forgive me for this. Part of me thinks she has a combo of BPD and NPD, but I’ll never know. I am certainly convinced that me leaving like I did has painted me black forever.
I understand how you feel so deeply. I was madly in love with him when I left. His ex wife left him and she was always the crazy ex who was the cause of their divorce. He checks every box for NPD and I know he had other supply but refused to let me go. You can't see it now but you will start to feel better everyday you are gone. I pray that you can heal soon and please take this time to do things that you couldn't do with the narcissist.
Hi Dave, and everyone. My ex narc didn't have any friends at all, therefore there were no flying monkeys. Also, I had no idea what a narcissist was until after I left him. I was alone with him in his car, but we were in a well lit shopping center. I told him I couldn't stand him, and that I just want to get rid of you. He just looked at me SHOCKED. I jumped in my car and took off. OMG! I cried my eyes out for nearly 2 years, and went into Therapy. Thank God I didn't get hurt. I haven't seen him in 12.9 years. He won't be around.
I had the same with my stepson. We became very close. His dad would not let me see him. How awful. Forty my step son contacted me, anyone with my name across the US ( not many) He calls me mom. You know in your heart the position you were in. No you are not forever dark. GOD BLESS. Sincerely
Dave, I so appreciate you and your faith in Jesus Christ. Thanks to these videos of awareness I’m now Mrs A! I’m living abuse free and with the Holy Spirit!
Wow, this video really resonated with me. The is exactly how it went down for me… the Uncles’ and brother in laws, showed up with the moving trucks and started loading everything up. Like things were planned out… They were just trying to get things done quick and didn’t want to talk about anything. Looking back, I have learned so much since all this as I have been divorced almost 3 years now. I love your stories because they are so wildly similar to my past experiences. Thanks for your videos Dave, you are helping people!
No contact. Too much bad things has happened. Thanks, it is actually really serious, because we are peaceful people, they are creators of misery. Door locked, closed, actually changing the locks. It is scary. I discovered this channel years ago. I found it again. Now every day to remind there are bad people.thank you. It is to be taken seriously, because they have nothing to lose, he even went after my children, it wad right from the beginning, it is absolutely awful meat suit. You are helping, i listen to you now every day. I found this channel years ago, before last narc appeared, 3 years was awful, absolutely vile. My father, who. I lived with 25,was the same. I do not know something else than abuse from father, trauma bond. It is not a parent, child relationship. I have been abused for almost alm of my life. No more. Not ever. They drove us grazy. I was in a mental ward for a month. This last narc did not care if i suffered so much. They drink a lot also. This last narc, if i see him again, i think i want to pepperspray him for being fake😀for a punishment. But i can not do that, than i think i will be disabled or dead.
I just stumbled on this video and so glad I did. My narc son and sister-in-law who hate each other are using my grown Grandchildren as flying monkeys. Not sure if they realize it or not. When I became aware of it I made myself scarce for the holidays going on vacation. They then didn't have the satisfaction of excluding me and I had a wonderful Christmas with people who I love and love me in return. Life is too short to play into the Gotcha Games with these evil minded, narcissistic, pitiful individual s. Just be done with it and seek peace with caring, loving, kind people whether family or not.
I love you Dave ! You said Uncle Fester will relay the bad discard news! I don't know if it's intentional but I love how you always inject a little humor into this dark dark subject. Thanks for everything 😊 Love u! Keep up the good work. Thank you for helping me fight the good fight!
Amen!!! God doesn’t want us ruminating on the narc. He wants us focused on Him, trusting Him fully, believing the Bible and following what it says about how to treat others. Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh. Is anything too difficult for me?”
@@joycefiore2721 Try… singing a hymn or praise song whenever Satan temps you… or your mind wanders to problems . A devotional video I’ve watched on RUclips several times… says… “Don’t focus on your problems, focus on Jesus”. So whenever the slightest narc problem triggers a thought, I tell myself… not problems… Jesus! Then I remind myself that Jesus saved me, He will protect me, He is with me, He loves me & cares about my every need… He hears my prayers, and intercedes on my behalf before the Father’s throne! Call upon the LORD to help. Read Matthew ch 5&6… Jesus teaching The Sermon on the Mount. Interrupt those thoughts that rob us of our joy!
the narc cult is very unnerving. . I love how you call out the followers as the camp and peanut gallery. Ha ha. You described it all to a T and this video can be used with many scenarios. Such a good explanation of how sick and twisted they are..
You guys are not alone I’m hopefully only a few weeks away from the final divorce. Oh my God this is 100% correct it’s almost like he was sitting next to me it is 100% correct
They straight up cut and run if you don’t first. That’s how I had to handle my last one. I discarded. lol. They have been trying Hoovers for months now. Every 4 weeks on the day.
I love your content. You're voice and energy is such a calming experience for me that oftentimes I fall asleep. Don't worry, I always come back and finish from where I dozed off. Please take this as a compliment. It's been a LONG time since I've felt comforted. You do this for me, and it gives me rest....Body, mind, and spirit. Thank you, and be blessed 🙌 ❤
I have watched you from the beginning. You were so calm and reassuring. I appreciate you and your information. You helped me understand these demons. I didn't know about them. I have watched you to evolve and grow along with helping all of us to do the same. God bless you Dave.
It’s truly amazing how many narcs I built my life around. This take sounds exactly like the relationship I had before the super narc and also the one before that. That’s 3 in 13 years. I’ve been under attack by the enemy for so long. This knowledge is the only thing u need in life besides God. I don’t care who believes my story, because some really don’t understand how bad it all was. They all play by the same playbook. I’m still in shock by a lot of it. I’m truly happy to Just be alive at this point. The stress was overwhelming. My health has been so bad but I think is on the mend. Thank you for all you do Dave.
Good evening Dave and survivors cheers got my water no tea 😊it's been quiet I haven't heard from the narcissist in months, I'm not in contact with any of his family I doubt if they would contact me I value the peace and quiet thank God ☺🙏🙏🙏
Humanity must learn vanished before make sure decision TO LET IT GO! no one fault what right or wrong!! Breath move on give yourself grounded lover you instead be the BAIT… Love&light ❤
I’ve been watching your channel every day& night! I laugh and I learn! Your wisdom is awesome Dave! Now I’m going to Gods throne more! Please keep these most important videos coming! They are like oxygen to me! You bring laughter into Christianity while you stay true to the topic of narcissism abuse! May God bless you! Keep em coming Dave! I can relate to everything you are saying on these videos! You are genuine& so funny& a wise godly man! THANKYOU again!❤️💚😀😀🙏🙏
This is 100% truth my ex narcissist every holiday had to be with his enabling mother and his children not my family or my granddaughter and when the devaluing came it also came from his enabling family it only took me too short years to learn in another. Year to be completely free of it I pity the next fool
My X friend called a few days ago and invited me out for drinks if I needed someone to talk to. I told him it’s weird that he reached out months after the narc ghosted. Why now? He said he wanted to help. I’m thinking why would two middle aged people need a friend to help them talk? Is this high school? I told him to offer his help to his friend.
My discard was planned I found a folder on her iPad and it had a pro and cons list along with a number of a guy who’s married with 2 kids it’s been 96 days no contact hope she happy
This is exactly where I am. This is a prophetic revelation of where I am. My wife moved out this past Saturday. We’ve been married 9 years. She said she wanted to separate until I get help. She said that she was still going to keep her marriage vows, whatever that means. I have gone no contact with her. I never seen it coming. She didn’t say what needed help for….interesting.
I got an hoover by email. She said it wasn't God's will for us to divorce and it contained a praise song. I wonder what God does to people who use him in a hoover ?
And they live in a very bad area of town with roaches ! Not bad karma ..lol If I was to ever see them out, which I go to different stores now, I don’t know them people..nope keep walking ..
Yes they sleep around with almost anyone.. without them telling you and they would lie in your face that they aren’t doing it.. 😢 but your intuition is signaling you that there’s something not quite right..
My soon to be ex husband told me several times he’s just there to raise our kids. He was suppose to get a place with his best friend and I ruined that. Wish I took it for what it was.
I had a recent encounter with another of these fiendish predators. I've been desperate to get out of my "living" situation for some time. This guy had a nice apartment, previous roommate moved out. Red flags out the gate, but I tried to get along for about 5 weeks. He tried everything for control but I would not have sex with him (he's 15 years younger). He's a bottomless money-sucking pit, wound up not having his share of the expenses because he's using something. I was already looking for a chance to exit - he rarely leaves the house. I had not given up my other room. Then he threw a big winger because I went to my nephew's for 🦃. Started hounding me at 5:57 am Friday, I slept at my other room. Wrong thing to do - I went up there with a Deputy to get my TV & a few things. Surprise, surprise! He is the worst one I've ever seen.
So true with the dust before the hoover! The 60 year old coward would have his 80 year old mother contact me to get a temperature read on me before he would hoover. It was so obvious that his mother was testing the water for him. Narcs are so fragile inside and won't attempt the hoover if they are catching any whiff that they may be rejected.
It has been 15 months and no hoover. I believe it is God's protection as a response to prayers. God is not going to allow him to return. I believe God will use my experience to help others. I have been a nurse for over 20 years and have a desire to specialize in psychiatric nursing/psychotherapy. I see a great need in the mental health field at this time. I hope to help people experiencing narcissistic abuse, but agree with you Dave that there is no one better to help than God and going to His throne.
My Norcissist bf took money from me to buy a beautiful house for our future in his own country, I didn’t know he took the money for his marriage with a new supply in his own country. They got married and spent all my money buying Gold, Dimond jewelry and beautiful clothes for him self and for the new supply and his wedding was in 5 star hotel, he cheated two women in the same time. The new supply she thinking he is a millionaire she doesn’t know he getting social security benefit.
Any negative people get blocked and don't even let them like my post. Especially the narc. I'm sure they look at my profile when they use their uncles phone. It's too bad he's blocked now as well! Lmao!
Yeah Dave I know its all true and you know it,and we knew it even before the end,you know what's funny is now I'm at the point where I've fully accepted the complete end of the relationship with the narcissist, cause I did unblock her and let her back she was still talking about love and marriage but I knew that she's still a narcissist, and when I began to confront her about when she exhibited selfish qualities and narcissism it was once again the beginning of the end cause she tried flipping out and causing a scene,and I was angry at first but walked away from the argument,what a nightmare again,I'm just sorry man that you went through what you did,that I and many others have also,all I know is I've had enough and I feel like I've finally learned,and that I was meant to go through it most likely to become more resolute as a person,thanks to God as you said my friend,thanks again sorry for such a long message.
Dave its real simple - dr Ramani says Antagonistc either extroverted or introverted they’re a narcissist… introverted and antagonistic they’re a covert narcissist and antagonistic and extraverted they are a grandiiose or malignant narcissist
In reality narcissists teach others how to be self sufficient, and internally validated. I actually welcome their tower moments as they come apart in the face of truth. They know not what they do. Kind of like when a dog craps on the floor, or a child steals something. Precious fools they are. Internal locus of control FTW!
It's amazing to me how the narrcisist is so adept at telling a story so compelling that those who hear it have absolutely no interest in hearing your response. So many seem content in accepting half a story.
Being alienated from such people is actually being done a favor.
Yes. Imagine what God feels like.
truly
That's how I see it.
Yes
Preach! Crazy, the whole lot of em indoctrinated & cult-like.
That blind deaf dog 🐕 will show you more love ❤ and loyalty
Narcissists are a lot like these people I've seen here in California and other places along the beaches, who will spend a million dollars to build a dream home right on the sandy cliffs, supported by telephone poles.
Then one day, like any other day, that big wave comes in like a tsunami, and wiped out that big beautiful dream of a home in one fell swoop.
Later they cry to the county codes enforcement, and try to sue the building contractor, for building a dangerous structure.
Never fails. That's why God tells us not to build your home upon the sand where it can be swept away, but upon the rock. (Build your faith upon the solid rock of the Holy Spirit in all truth)
You're so right! They'll abandon you, children, pets...they don't give a damn!!!
Mine tried to steal the dog a few weeks later. Didn’t want visitation. Hue dog is a chick magnet.
Yes! Mine severed ties with his family, his biological minor child, he ababdoned his dog by giving him to a friend. I kicked him finally out, he abandoned me and my kids earlier this year. Came back, left us again, came back a couple days later.
He stayed in touch with what I called his "harem" or "toys assortment " and after finding a very expensive gift ( not for me) I had enough of it. I'm not a Christian, but I believe in God. And all the evidence I've been presented with, was something I wasn't looking for. I found this particular gift because he asked me to help him find something he lost. I opened a drawer abd there it was. A lot of non sensical lies followed , but I was done. Finally!!!🎉
Omg, they leave you with their family dog. Yes!!! That's exactly how it went. I made him take care of his dog, he gave it to his friend.
Mine kept his dog for supply. With his cheating and abuse that's the only thing he has in his pathetic life. His ex wife left him and he stopped seeing his son right after. If you don't love your son, you could never love me. He lied for almost 2 years about everything. Accused me of cheating while he was sleeping with Ursula from the Little Mermaid 😂
I got a hoover a couple days ago from a narc I dated 13 years ago! 😅 The audacity to think I'll ever get back with him after how he treated me 😅
@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 yes, can you believe it? He had the nerve yo ask me if I was single 🙄 like I'm so desperate that I would get back with him 🤣
Your still watching narcissist vids after 13yrs though I’m convinced some of y’all just losers I’m sorry shit crazy
The "Hoover" can come DECADES later... This is common...
@briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206 He still has some nerve though 😂
They have a lack of "Boundary recognition" and only see you as an "Inanimate object" to use.
To quote Dave...they are empty meatsuits. They just have NOTHING about them. They are fake and they are cheap and nasty. @@hindwidad2723
The discard is inevitable, they have it planned while they groom you.
If this happened to me in the 70's, 80's or 90's with no channels like this, my healing process would have been so much slower and worse. Without support from you and the comments I would be in a dark room looking at a wall today. Information and education are so powerful! God Bless!
I was born into this dynamic in the 70s. It is a miracle I am still alive, but I don't care about life anymore with the constant and systematically destruction of everything I build. They take over your life and they keep preying despite of no contact. It goes on and on and on.
I heard it loud and clear ; after pouring my heart out in desperation ; Who doesn't want a Savior ? I was observing things I didn't want to believe ! I ended up saying ok Lord , you win , I surrender , do what you got to do , I am getting out of your way , acknowledgement, acceptance , surrender !
It's just like you said.. She liked a photo- that's how I learned she unblocked me. I knew about hoovers, I should have blocked her right then and there. A week later she asked about the dogs. Another week later she tried to call me through FB. I didn't answer. She messaged me "send photos of the dogs" it wasn't even a request, it was demand. I responded, "You already have photos of the dogs. Look at those." Then I blocked her. It's bee a year now.
Unfortunately, after the discard you must remove yourself from anyone associated with the narcissist. It’s such a sad life
It was easy for me cause I was only with mine for 8 months. I didnt get to know that many of the people in his life and all the people in his life had big mental health issues😳 I guess my narsisist was powerful cause he now looks even younger than beeing with me so I guess a spiritual narsisist is even more dangerous and can get even more supply. This man needs to stay far away from me. He is a ho! He called me a whore but he is. I was not unfaithful he was. I was not lying, he was
You must do it. You can meet new people who are not corrupted by the narc.
I removed everyone, even years long friends, they were toxic and worshipped him like dogs. It’s pathetic and they’re stuck there hindering their growth, but not me. I refuse to let anyone stunt my growth.
It feels way better after the 4 month mourn period, I’m completely unbothered now.
@@tuoctran43 way to move on!!
“you grab some coffee or tea” or tequila to be able to handle all of this narcissistic abuse
1 of the hardest things for the Recovering Empath to learn and grasp and HOLD on to is... Narcissists have the uncanny ability to project the image to the Empath that they're coming up against a single-component opponent like in Boxing, in Tennis, or in Golf. But in reality they're actually coming up against an entire team of monsters like a Pittsburgh Steelers type of hierarchy. The "Steel Curtain" of the 1970s is still to this day known as a....."Dynasty."
This is true. They plan their discard way in advance. I realize now... when my dad had his first stroke in 1996.... my mother told me not to come home. Gave me this horror story about one of my dad's classmates who got run over by a truck, and they didn't tell his daughter so she would stay at her university and finish out the semester. WHO TELLS THEIR DAUGHTER THAT KIND OF STORY??? Well, I didn't go back home, and felt horrible about it. I understand now, my mother wanted to control the finances if my dad died. Well he didn't die. He lived over 25 more years. When he got diagnosed with terminal cancer last year, my mom did it AGAIN!!!! She triangulated my dad against me. This time I could see what she was doing! It was insane. To realize your mother was using you as an anchor baby for your father's narcissistic financial supply. It creeped me out to my core. I went no-contact with her after my dad's death. She kept trying to hoover me back with "inheritance." Um... I found a holographic (handwritten) will by my dad, written in 2018, willing everything to me. Turns out... my mother transferred all those IRA funds to a different account, with her the only beneficiary. Vicious woman. It's fine. She'll need it all for her memory care. Matthew 19:29-30 is all I needed to know.
Oh my God!! I'm having a bit of an amazing moment right now. I've had to leave my religeous circle because of the narcissist and haven't been anywhere since (3 months) and God was speaking to me this morning, saying a similar thing.
It hurts.. when you do the right thing and give them abundant love they wreck u
I understand fully but what they do is put the blame game on you.
We admit accountability and try to work things out.
But there comes a point when you wake up and realize it's not you.
I’ve been left in the dust too and had no clue that inner circle was two faced. I had to reinvent my life
Yup, introverts are the only sane ones in this sick society. Cult of personality is devil world.
I blocked the flying monkey, i'm a mrs A! The narc ex's sister emailed me a tester hoover and i blocked her! Hopefully he'll get the message and leave me alone forever. 9 months no contact! Thanks for your video Dave, new subscriber here! 😊
Good job amen the same happened to me recently..they are relentlessly stupid
You ARE “Spot On” about the “PAINFUL DISCARD” of the entire Family/Group. It is a VERY LONELY Feeling, and very UNHEALTHY.
Thank you, for these timely videos, Dave!
Thanks Dave, I went to take a bite of cereal and you said “ here’s the blind deaf dog that pees in one spot” I spit up all the milk through my nose 😂🤣🤣
You will lose your self respect period - you will walk away with nothing - I still struggle but I am getting there - never again - ty Dave - thank you for your teachings - NARCS NO MORE
These videos helped me break a vicious trauma bond that had me enslaved for close to 2 years before and during the pandemic. I see the person now and feel nothing! Wonderful feeling of freedom. No anger, no attachment, no yearning, no nothing. Only q feeling of intense relief. The discard nearly broke me but now I see it was a blessing from The Lord! This person no longer has control of my heart, feelings, confidence, walk with God, anything! This is how you know you are healed. Part of me knows I couldn't have done it without God and these videos. I feel like I escaped a very strong demonic force in my life when I broke that trauma bond.
Today a flying monkey told me this person was asking about me. No thank you! I'm free.
Thank you Dave for being there to guide us away from this darkness that is narcissism. Great pour, by the way. 🙂☕I will continue to watch these videos to protect me from other narcissists in my life in relationships, at work, in society, etc.
This is such a great story to read. I can relate. Same story. We are very lucky to escape the evil trauma of it all. Thank God for people like Dave and his channel. He is doing Gods work for sure 🙏
When you really think about all the damage these narcissits do to normal happy people I just think it's tragic cuz they make a mess outta our lives leaving some needing therapy and some are probably never able to trust again, depending on how many we have met in life but God heals ❤ Thanks Dave
So true..I had a couple good laughs. Father healed me...
Praise the peace and understanding he gave to me. Over 2 years now and still so happy to be alone...So much gratitude...Blessed.
'And now will you follow me?' - Yes! I had to go through this in order to wake up. Thank you for bringing us the deeper spiritual reason behind narcissism.
At 02:21 in this video ...Dave, it is a HUGE 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 you are dealing with a Narcissist ... When they can not stand being alone ... They always have a mobile phone glued to their face getting "Supply" ....
Also, watch for the Narcissist engaging in lengthy mobile phone conversations when they have company, Instead of saying to the person on the phone.... "I have company..Can you call me back later" .... The Narcissist is like a bottomless pit... They are NEVER satisfied
Thank you for this video and indeed this channel
Yup,mine was occupied with his phone. Always secretive, always hiding and lying, the constant lying.
The lying is a HUGE red flag..... They tell lies when they have the option to tell the truth.... I would love to know who they THINK they are fooling. @@Ice_Ba
I’m on my cell a lot at home.
I felt Holy Ghost while watching this 🙏🏾
This is Truth, I experienced this, knowing about narcissist and knowing God is the most important 🙏 and powerful 🙏 thing to be close to
Thank you for the videos. I am almost through narcissistic abuse. My divorce is final. I’m not looking back. Ms. A forever. Thank you.
Definitely was out to hurt me when I only gave love!
Spot on Dave! My ex Narc texted me three days ago from an unsaved number saying verbatim “Hey, I hope you're doing okay. I had a strong edge about you this past couple of days. No hard feelings. Be safe. Happy Holidays”.. And just a week before, his friend texted me asking me “how are you?”.. Same playbook.
Yep!
I think he lied to the flying monkeys for a long while and then was embarrassed of the lies he conjured about me. All evil lies.. I take comfort because God knows the truth. He knows the kind person that I am...
Wow this guy is spot on
Iv fallen off the planet he will never see my face again. with help and getting educated makes you stronger. The good thing that helps me is i called him out on everything i found out about him. after 10 years of marriage to this devil. He only pops into my head now and again which im glad. what i do is shift my focus on the lord when this happens. Hes tried hoovers but there comes a time when you know your done your definitely done. Enjoying my freedom found myself. stay strong Thanks lv ya💙
Thus just happened to me this week and I felt it! Exactly how you said it!
Uncle Fester .. haha 😹. Alien dog? 😂
jeezas, that's a HUGE cup. love your words bro.
Appreciate it!
I had the narc telling me he loved and missed me and wanted to see me one last time ..one last time ? Before he got his Apt? Then he went ghost so I called him to see how the Apt was going and he told Me “we have roaches “ we?? Yes him and his Gf ..I was shocked !! Then got another shock to find out it’s a transgender !! Iv never spoke to him since then he’s blocked on everything and doesn’t show the new supply on social media for certain reasons im sure …I’m still getting over the shock of it all but I’m getting better day by day. At least I have peace and quiet now around me.
you deserve better than that
Sick people 🤦♂️
This dude has some intense eyes and some good points.
LOL so true! They truly are worse than three year olds. 😂
I really do appreciate you adding/involving God into having experiencing a narcissist. 💜🙏
I appreciate that
Thanks Dave. Your'e truly helpng me get through this
Black holes are never full. As is true of the narcissist. Ignoring them and being brutal in your honesty towards there BS worked wonders for me.
Great upload. Hope you have a lovely safe Christmas. 🤶 🤶
I am so terrified I was the narc but I got discarded after 8 yrs. He subtly controlled me, and when I started to call him out on his behavior, he blew up, would walk out, called me abusive. My discard was totally planned. 😢 He was a total coward, threw me out of our home and changed the locks. Im being tested..getting likes from his friend who didn't want to actually talk to me and be honest either. 😂'hurricane Narcissist"..so true! I now realize God took him out of my life for a reason which I didn't understand. But Im seeing he was protecting me from many things.
Perfect timing. Found my ex unblocked me today, and the flying monkey HAD blocked me. I immediately blocked my ex. I bid adieu to the flying monkey. The FM swears she and my ex are besties…yet my ex talked trash about her for years.
Mr. A All Day here.
" on the phone with the flying monkeys". The peanut gallery must be blocked!
There truly is nothing worse than being forced to go no contact with a person you love for your own well being.
I don’t think I will get hoovered because I discarded her. The week leading up to that was her telling me I let down her son, dog, rabbit, and family, amongst other things when I called her bluff to end it. I identified with her son because of similarities in our childhood. He called me daddy. Not getting to explain to him why I wasn’t going to be coming to see him again is bringing me to tears writing this.
In her eyes I don’t think she can forgive me for this. Part of me thinks she has a combo of BPD and NPD, but I’ll never know. I am certainly convinced that me leaving like I did has painted me black forever.
I understand how you feel so deeply. I was madly in love with him when I left. His ex wife left him and she was always the crazy ex who was the cause of their divorce. He checks every box for NPD and I know he had other supply but refused to let me go. You can't see it now but you will start to feel better everyday you are gone. I pray that you can heal soon and please take this time to do things that you couldn't do with the narcissist.
Hi Dave, and everyone. My ex narc didn't have any friends at all, therefore there were no flying monkeys.
Also, I had no idea what a narcissist was until after I left him. I was alone with him in his car, but we were in a well lit shopping center. I told him I couldn't stand him, and that I just want to get rid of you. He just looked at me SHOCKED. I jumped in my car and took off. OMG! I cried my eyes out for nearly 2 years, and went into Therapy.
Thank God I didn't get hurt. I haven't seen him in 12.9 years. He won't be around.
I went through the same thing man . Just want to say you'll get through this and you're not alone!welcome to the club!
NO CONTACT FOREVER. SHE'LL BE BACK. Do you like merry-go-rounds? That's what it will be with you. BOARD UP YOUR HOUSE. THEY'RE PREDATORS.
I had the same with my stepson. We became very close. His dad would not let me see him. How awful. Forty my step son contacted me, anyone with my name across the US ( not many)
He calls me mom. You know in your heart the position you were in.
No you are not forever dark.
GOD BLESS.
Sincerely
Dave, I so appreciate you and your faith in Jesus Christ. Thanks to these videos of awareness I’m now Mrs A! I’m living abuse free and with the Holy Spirit!
I loved this video. It’s accurate and I laughed at how accurate it really was. .
13:13 that's so amazing and beautiful brother! Hallelujah! God is good and He's a Living God❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wow, this video really resonated with me. The is exactly how it went down for me… the Uncles’ and brother in laws, showed up with the moving trucks and started loading everything up. Like things were planned out… They were just trying to get things done quick and didn’t want to talk about anything. Looking back, I have learned so much since all this as I have been divorced almost 3 years now. I love your stories because they are so wildly similar to my past experiences. Thanks for your videos Dave, you are helping people!
Silly hoover try especially after the way they treated us. Don't waste one moment once they are gone. Freedom.
No contact. Too much bad things has happened. Thanks, it is actually really serious, because we are peaceful people, they are creators of misery. Door locked, closed, actually changing the locks. It is scary. I discovered this channel years ago. I found it again. Now every day to remind there are bad people.thank you. It is to be taken seriously, because they have nothing to lose, he even went after my children, it wad right from the beginning, it is absolutely awful meat suit. You are helping, i listen to you now every day. I found this channel years ago, before last narc appeared, 3 years was awful, absolutely vile. My father, who. I lived with 25,was the same. I do not know something else than abuse from father, trauma bond. It is not a parent, child relationship. I have been abused for almost alm of my life. No more. Not ever. They drove us grazy. I was in a mental ward for a month. This last narc did not care if i suffered so much. They drink a lot also. This last narc, if i see him again, i think i want to pepperspray him for being fake😀for a punishment. But i can not do that, than i think i will be disabled or dead.
I just stumbled on this video and so glad I did. My narc son and sister-in-law who hate each other are using my grown Grandchildren as flying monkeys. Not sure if they realize it or not. When I became aware of it I made myself scarce for the holidays going on vacation. They then didn't have the satisfaction of excluding me and I had a wonderful Christmas with people who I love and love me in return. Life is too short to play into the Gotcha Games with these evil minded, narcissistic, pitiful individual s. Just be done with it and seek peace with caring, loving, kind people whether family or not.
I love you Dave ! You said Uncle Fester will relay the bad discard news! I don't know if it's intentional but I love how you always inject a little humor into this dark dark subject. Thanks for everything 😊 Love u! Keep up the good work. Thank you for helping me fight the good fight!
Amen!!! God doesn’t want us ruminating on the narc. He wants us focused on Him, trusting Him fully, believing the Bible and following what it says about how to treat others. Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh. Is anything too difficult for me?”
I agree ..i wish i could stop ruminating...24 days demon free
@@joycefiore2721 Try… singing a hymn or praise song whenever Satan temps you… or your mind wanders to problems .
A devotional video I’ve watched on RUclips several times… says… “Don’t focus on your problems, focus on Jesus”. So whenever the slightest narc problem triggers a thought, I tell myself… not problems… Jesus! Then I remind myself that Jesus saved me, He will protect me, He is with me, He loves me & cares about my every need… He hears my prayers, and intercedes on my behalf before the Father’s throne! Call upon the LORD to help. Read Matthew ch 5&6… Jesus teaching The Sermon on the Mount. Interrupt those thoughts that rob us of our joy!
@@joycefiore2721 It'll happen. Slowly but surely. x
@@jogriffiths5766 thank you! 160 days free! Ruminating... He has hoovered a bunch of times.
@@georgiehughes4858thank you so much! Just saw your comment! Still ruminating. 160 days demon free.. blocked everyway but still hoovers.
the narc cult is very unnerving. . I love how you call out the followers as the camp and peanut gallery. Ha ha. You described it all to a T and this video can be used with many scenarios. Such a good explanation of how sick and twisted they are..
You guys are not alone I’m hopefully only a few weeks away from the final divorce. Oh my God this is 100% correct it’s almost like he was sitting next to me it is 100% correct
Ohhh soo very true
Thank you for this video Dave. I shared that I was the scapegoat to a second cousin and it was crickets after that.
They straight up cut and run if you don’t first. That’s how I had to handle my last one. I discarded. lol. They have been trying Hoovers for months now. Every 4 weeks on the day.
I love your content. You're voice and energy is such a calming experience for me that oftentimes I fall asleep. Don't worry, I always come back and finish from where I dozed off. Please take this as a compliment. It's been a LONG time since I've felt comforted. You do this for me, and it gives me rest....Body, mind, and spirit. Thank you, and be blessed 🙌 ❤
I have watched you from the beginning. You were so calm and reassuring. I appreciate you and your information. You helped me understand these demons. I didn't know about them. I have watched you to evolve and grow along with helping all of us to do the same. God bless you Dave.
You’re so real Dave, I’ve been watching you for years
You literally described what happened to me...its fascinating how alike all these people are..sad but still fascinating!
It’s truly amazing how many narcs I built my life around. This take sounds exactly like the relationship I had before the super narc and also the one before that. That’s 3 in 13 years. I’ve been under attack by the enemy for so long. This knowledge is the only thing u need in life besides God. I don’t care who believes my story, because some really don’t understand how bad it all was. They all play by the same playbook. I’m still in shock by a lot of it. I’m truly happy to Just be alive at this point. The stress was overwhelming. My health has been so bad but I think is on the mend. Thank you for all you do Dave.
Great name 👍🏻💪🏻🌹
I relate to your story so much. You are on your way now and don’t ever look back. I wish you peace, health & happiness 🙏
Good evening Dave and survivors cheers got my water no tea 😊it's been quiet I haven't heard from the narcissist in months, I'm not in contact with any of his family I doubt if they would contact me I value the peace and quiet thank God ☺🙏🙏🙏
Humanity must learn vanished before make sure decision TO LET IT GO!
no one fault what right or wrong!!
Breath move on give yourself grounded lover you instead be the BAIT…
Love&light ❤
I was garbage too. We have no mutual friends. He's an aging narc.
Good Bless You
You are really saving life's.
❤From Texas ❤❤❤
God bless you!
God Dave, I heard " you will never be here again." So clear I couldn't deny it. My Moses moment. Ty 🥰
I was discarded for two months and then he came back the other day, but I didn't answer the door. I'm through!
Narc plans my fall it's so embarrassing.
I’ve been watching your channel every day& night!
I laugh and I learn!
Your wisdom is awesome Dave!
Now I’m going to Gods throne more!
Please keep these most important videos coming!
They are like oxygen to me!
You bring laughter into Christianity while you stay true to the topic of narcissism abuse!
May God bless you!
Keep em coming Dave!
I can relate to everything you are saying on these videos!
You are genuine& so funny& a wise godly man!
THANKYOU again!❤️💚😀😀🙏🙏
This is 100% truth my ex narcissist every holiday had to be with his enabling mother and his children not my family or my granddaughter and when the devaluing came it also came from his enabling family it only took me too short years to learn in another. Year to be completely free of it I pity the next fool
You removing this emfermos mentales from my kids phones !!!!!
I love your sense of humour - very dark subject… ❤️🙏💪🌻
I got Hoover's at the beginning,then his father died he got inheritance then crickets .
My X friend called a few days ago and invited me out for drinks if I needed someone to talk to. I told him it’s weird that he reached out months after the narc ghosted. Why now? He said he wanted to help. I’m thinking why would two middle aged people need a friend to help them talk? Is this high school? I told him to offer his help to his friend.
Testing the waters to see if the narc can come out to play and b.s. some more.
My discard was planned I found a folder on her iPad and it had a pro and cons list along with a number of a guy who’s married with 2 kids it’s been 96 days no contact hope she happy
Exactly....I NEEDED this...THANK YOU‼️. The holidays are DIFFICULT ‼️
Don't worry, you ar helping us ,your on the right tracks
This is exactly where I am. This is a prophetic revelation of where I am. My wife moved out this past Saturday. We’ve been married 9 years. She said she wanted to separate until I get help. She said that she was still going to keep her marriage vows, whatever that means. I have gone no contact with her. I never seen it coming. She didn’t say what needed help for….interesting.
Change all your passwords to your financial account
@@sophiamcleod1841 Already separated all accounts. Thank you.
I got an hoover by email. She said it wasn't God's will for us to divorce and it contained a praise song. I wonder what God does to people who use him in a hoover ?
And they live in a very bad area of town with roaches ! Not bad karma ..lol If I was to ever see them out, which I go to different stores now, I don’t know them people..nope keep walking ..
Thanks Dave 🙂
Yes they sleep around with almost anyone.. without them telling you and they would lie in your face that they aren’t doing it.. 😢 but your intuition is signaling you that there’s something not quite right..
My soon to be ex husband told me several times he’s just there to raise our kids. He was suppose to get a place with his best friend and I ruined that. Wish I took it for what it was.
I had a recent encounter with another of these fiendish predators. I've been desperate to get out of my "living" situation for some time. This guy had a nice apartment, previous roommate moved out. Red flags out the gate, but I tried to get along for about 5 weeks. He tried everything for control but I would not have sex with him (he's 15 years younger). He's a bottomless money-sucking pit, wound up not having his share of the expenses because he's using something. I was already looking for a chance to exit - he rarely leaves the house. I had not given up my other room. Then he threw a big winger because I went to my nephew's for 🦃. Started hounding me at 5:57 am Friday, I slept at my other room. Wrong thing to do - I went up there with a Deputy to get my TV & a few things. Surprise, surprise! He is the worst one I've ever seen.
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So true with the dust before the hoover! The 60 year old coward would have his 80 year old mother contact me to get a temperature read on me before he would hoover. It was so obvious that his mother was testing the water for him. Narcs are so fragile inside and won't attempt the hoover if they are catching any whiff that they may be rejected.
Thank you.
Welcome!
No return ❤ nothing like when you divorce them
It has been 15 months and no hoover. I believe it is God's protection as a response to prayers. God is not going to allow him to return. I believe God will use my experience to help others. I have been a nurse for over 20 years and have a desire to specialize in psychiatric nursing/psychotherapy. I see a great need in the mental health field at this time. I hope to help people experiencing narcissistic abuse, but agree with you Dave that there is no one better to help than God and going to His throne.
My Norcissist bf took money from me to buy a beautiful house for our future in his own country, I didn’t know he took the money for his marriage with a new supply in his own country. They got married and spent all my money buying Gold, Dimond jewelry and beautiful clothes for him self and for the new supply and his wedding was in 5 star hotel, he cheated two women in the same time. The new supply she thinking he is a millionaire she doesn’t know he getting social security benefit.
Any negative people get blocked and don't even let them like my post. Especially the narc. I'm sure they look at my profile when they use their uncles phone. It's too bad he's blocked now as well! Lmao!
Yes....this is what happened to me ....PAIN😢
The narcissist family members are placating the discard. They see you as not playing The Game The way they told you so you have to be put on time out.
Yeah Dave I know its all true and you know it,and we knew it even before the end,you know what's funny is now I'm at the point where I've fully accepted the complete end of the relationship with the narcissist, cause I did unblock her and let her back she was still talking about love and marriage but I knew that she's still a narcissist, and when I began to confront her about when she exhibited selfish qualities and narcissism it was once again the beginning of the end cause she tried flipping out and causing a scene,and I was angry at first but walked away from the argument,what a nightmare again,I'm just sorry man that you went through what you did,that I and many others have also,all I know is I've had enough and I feel like I've finally learned,and that I was meant to go through it most likely to become more resolute as a person,thanks to God as you said my friend,thanks again sorry for such a long message.
Good word via Holy Spirit 🕊️
Dave its real simple - dr Ramani says Antagonistc either extroverted or introverted they’re a narcissist… introverted and antagonistic they’re a covert narcissist and antagonistic and extraverted they are a grandiiose or malignant narcissist
In reality narcissists teach others how to be self sufficient, and internally validated. I actually welcome their tower moments as they come apart in the face of truth. They know not what they do. Kind of like when a dog craps on the floor, or a child steals something. Precious fools they are. Internal locus of control FTW!