Summer Tips for Trans Guys
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1:10 - Sweating & hygiene
4:50 - Binding
6:19 - Tank tops + binders
7:33 - Swimwear
8:24 - Explaining your top surgery scars
9:10 - Shorts
11:06 - To shave or not shave your legs
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"I'm a timelord who had heart surgery" should be the standard response when people ask rude questions about top surgery scars.
Someone make it official
What if it was like an inside joke that all transpeople knew and it became code and then we just all spotted each other
"How I got them? I had heart surgery.."
Other person: "Oh you're a time lord too?"
@@BOOitsCASPER mate yess just yess
Ha lol I can say that because I actually had heart surgery when I was a baby
yesss!
As a goth trans man that binds beneath my many layers of black, I can confirm that we know all the cool spots 👌🏻
Andrew Reel I second this!
Please show me some, I'm dying in my black......everything
Bruh, why are there so many trans goths named Andrew? No joke I know two
@@tartagliussy529 why are are all the humans names Oliver seriously I know 2
Wow that's a hell of a duo, both trans and goth
being trans and goth is a hot mess
precisely one tomato Same
mood
precisely one tomato Thank u for yr service
precisely one tomato as a gender questioning emo, I CAN RELATE
👏👏👏
trans goth tip for staying cool: shave the side of your head
nerdyvampireloveslemons omg yes! I can vouch its so much easyier and cooler
Luc Laurent I'm screwed for these short hair tips, lol... I used to get a high-and-tight but since going off HRT short hair just makes me feel so much worse. Rather deal a sweaty mop top
I just shaved both sides and the back. Then dyed my hair blue/black. Y'know, like an idiot.
Luc Laurent i did it, I agree
Or both sides like me. (-;
Hawaiian shirts and other short sleeved button ups are life savers! They can help hide your chest and hips all while keeping you cool, plus they’re pretty masculine.
Yeah, you rock that BBQ Dad aesthetic! :)
I agree, they are a life saver
Patterned shirts are great for hiding your chest, they are my go-to.
Oh my god button ups are a trans guy lifesaver.
@@ravensilverleaf specifically if the pattern is randomly done
That way any change via chest lumps isn't weird
"And then after the aliens beamed me back down I had heart surgery"
"On both sides?"
"I'm... A Time Lord?"
😂😂
I got this and I died XD
tips from a trans guy
wet hair. just like randomly spill water all over yourself
1 it is v manly and cool
2 youll cool down and be hydrated af
3 wet hair always makes me (my experience) look better
always carry water with you
have one of the masculine flasks or a bottle with a carabiner to go on your belt (that will also push your shirt up in a masculine way aka make your hips less wide)
whenever you get the chance to fill up, drink as much as you can and then fill it up again
short hair like buzzcuts is 10/10
in summer, every one looks sweaty and uncomfortable, use that and experiment with your style. Yes you might be wearing a 20s style school boys uniform and look like a wannabe navy seal but josh came to work in swim trunks so whatever
all good summer activities happen at night
simsamtimtam these are amazing
well I did go to school in swim trunks
thank you so much dude
this is an underrated comment lol
Thankyou so much!
"what omg how did those get there" lmaoooooo
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"This? You should see the other guy" lol
As a goth trans guy from South Florida where it's already 100 degrees out, I laughed. I work one week each summer in Texas, and I am that one guy in black skinny jeans, black shirt, and combat boots whole it's 115 out. Definitely make friends with us goths. We have sunblock, umbrellas, water, folding fans, and shade. :) Another tip: there are little packets of face sanitizing cooling wipes. Sanitizing your sweaty face helps with potential acne, and cools you down.
Bucky Greyson i was the guy who wore a bright orange snowboarding jacket and black sweatpants XD
Yup! Same here! You never know what all us goths have in our pockets!
The sanitizing wipes sound great! I'm acne prone and sweaty, thank you
South Florida you say? Stay safe, my brother, & keep on being awesome.
I remember a certain conversation with my mom earlier actually-
her: why don't you shave your legs?
me: i did once- remember when my legs wouldn't stop bleeding?
her: yeah-
me:
her: ok but you're gonna be made fun of
me: people notice when your legs are all scarred up- nOT leg hair-
well now i have both but ehh it's fine
my dad tried for a few months to get on me about not shaving, but i told him that the only one making a big deal about it is him. my mom and aunt also had my back. he never bothers me about it anymore lol
I have scars all over my right leg 😂
I was told too many times to shave my legs to the point where my mom's ex took the liberty of not only being creepy but also shaving my legs for me because I refused to I'm disturbed by that memory and glad he's not in my life anymore
@@Menhera_Clown wtf
@@Menhera_Clown wtaf was that man thinking
On the tank top thing: smaller trans guys like myself may want to look at the boys section. The necklines tend to be higher (plus they're cheaper!)
Even if you're not weirdly small you may want to look at children's clothing. I'm adult's medium typically but I saw a shirt I liked but it was children's. I got XXL which is actually too big but it's just baggy so its fine.
You'll want to hold it up to you though so you know what the size is as child sixes are not the same as adult sizes.
For nonbinary buddies swimming: I have swim trunks, and use a black sports bra. I just think of it as a black censor bar, not a bra. It helps, idk lol, im just glad to be wearing swim trunks. I got really nice black and red ones that make me happy. :) Still looking for something better, maybe I'll get a swim binder eventually.
OMG THINKING OF IT AS A CENSOR BAR IS SO SMART-
I considered those swim/surf shirts or sum
I have a swim top (getting out of the water doesn’t feel good, but I haven’t figured that out yet) but I got swimming shorts and it feels so good!
I swim in a sports bra or my binder & swim trunks, I also just bought a swim shirt to go over my binder that I haven't gotten to use yet
GC2B binders are swimmable, thats what I have, but they do recommend to swim in a size bigger than u are, which i don't but I agree that you should
I think a friend of mine also has a compression swim shirt, so it does all of the work for him without needing a binder
This one does cost some money, but try suggesting movies as an activity. Summer block busters are a thing and there is AC in the theatre and also, it's dark! I always felt my least dysphoric in movie theatres because no one is looking at you but you're still fully participating in the group activity and you can just fully lose yourself in the story for a couple hours.
lyadmilo cool idea
Does not work well for a dude who gets major headaches at the theater
You can also just stay home most of the time and keep your ac on like a hermit such as me :)
If you're binding, when you take your breaks, make sure to dry your chest off as much as possible, maybe carry some baby powder with you, cause otherwise you can get some nasty skin infections.
Gender neutral phrase for "manscaping": "personal grooming". I think most people understand that that means trimming, shaping, shaving, etc of armpit hair and, em, hair lower down.
I love that all of us seem to buy those same shirts at Old Navy. That octopus shirt is my favourite shirt XD
I have it too 😂
Christopher Casey was gonna get it, but I found a hoodie I really wanted and got that instead.
I feel called out lmao
LMAO
*I'M A TIME LORD?!?!?*
Erin H. Yes
+
That was awesome!
I'm definitly going to use that.
H&M has some very short men’s swim trunks that don’t look too suspicious (cispicious lmao) if you’re not out, they’re about as long as normal women’s athletic shorts. I got a swim top from outplay that I love (but it doesn’t bind all that well, so don’t expect it to) and a few sports bras I plan to wear as swim tops.
Drew G. Cispicious, I love it!!!!! 😆😆😆
Find a place with AC and refuse to leave, cause the backsweat is real. I've been sitting 12 hours a day at my public library this summer to study cause they have free wifi, free AC and in my case, gender neutral bathrooms.
andrineslife love libraries I use to spend all my time there .
Yay for gender neutral bathrooms!
a library with gender neutral bathrooms sounds like a heavenly palce to be. do they have coffee too?
I basically stay at home with 50 fans blowing on me while watching Netflix because I fear the backsweat
oh my god, gender neutral bathrooms? I love my local library but there aren't any gender neutral bathrooms :( Thank god for libraries and their AC tho
Binding safely cannot be emphasized enough. I overestimated my abilities while binding, at the museum I volunteer at, and had a minor tear in my rib cartilage. Now I cant bind or excercise. Stay safe friends!
Cis-lady checking in on not shaving. I haven't shaved (legs or underarms) in about 7 years. I just stopped one winter and hardcore didn't feel like it in the spring. It is pretty much not noticed across the board. I've gotten one (super awkward) compliment on it, but mostly when its discussed it's because I bring it up. I say that I like saving time, and that we have body hair for a reason, to wick away sweat, and that there are many cultures where body hair is normal, and I don't want to cave to the social pressures of what a woman is supposed to be.
Obviously, not all of these will apply to people not wanting to shave as a trans guy, but just wanted to encourage that it doesn't have to be a THING to not shave and still be female presenting. Sincerest apologies of I'm stepping on any toes here, just noticing how long this comment got.
^this! yeah literally nobody ever notices, and when they do it's never a big deal
Yeah, but when it's the winter and you have flannel sheets...the hair pokes against your skin and it's just meeh.
I'm nb and only have mild-moderate chest dysphoria, so this won't apply to everyone, but: summer is a great time for short-sleeve, woven fabric, button down shirts. That kind of material is really good at not clinging the shape of your body. Woven cotton doesn't cling. Linen, if you can get it, clings even less. If you have a small chest you can wear a woven shirt a size larger than your normal size, and nobody will be able to see your chest. You will look flat, and feel cool, and it will be great.
thank uuuu
NB with a mild chest dysphoria as well and these shirts literally saved me last summer! + the fact that they are wide, flowy and button at the front, if you leave a few buttons unbutton they'll automatically make you look flatter as an optical illusion and bonus points they'll keep you cooler
I like wearing these unbuttoned over my more feminine shirts to deemphasize how tight they are in the chest.
Yeees
If you can, shorter haircuts are a lifesaver during summer.
Also I'm going to be getting top surgery part way through this summer and I'm so excited for never living through another summer of binding!
Frankie Quinn congratulations man! You go!
congrats!!
So how're u doing boy?
Congrats!
congrats dude
Isn't gynocomastia breast tissue in cis men? you can just say that fancy word and most people will go "ah" and stop asking
Yes it is! That's actually the condition that Underworks was originally made for. And GC2B's parent company as well.
I almost passed out in a botanical garden because it was 99+ degrees, I was in a binder, and I was sick and I didn't have water so my mom split a poweraid with me and I had to take off my binder in the car so I wouldn't pass out
Binder hack for having breaks. Cut down the side of one side to the arm hole sew Velcro to each side and then you have an easy quick release way to get it off.
Sam Oh, yeah! I heard this somewhere, it was another trans guy summer tips video, but I don't remember who posted it...
most likely Jamie (jammidodger) ? I think I've seen him make that suggestion in multiple videos
spiceandmice You're right. That's where I saw it.
I would recommend getting the sides of your hair cut shorter for the summer because 1) you (maybe) will pass better and 2) you wont get so hot. Hats are a life saver, i wear them all the time because they make my neck look wider and my face look more symmetrical i guess. Sunglasses can help too if youre dysphoric about your eyebrows not being thick enough. Another tip is make sure your body language is very confident and in control like you dont care what people think. Eventually after doing it over and over again it will feel more natural and youll become more confident. I have social anxiety and i know its hard to look confident sometimes, but it just takes practice. Happy summer to everyone reading this, i hope you have a nice day!! 😊
I find that tapered or skinny-cut shorts aren’t really great for trans AFAB people, hip-wise, straight-cut shorts usually work out best. Best of luck to everyone!
VERY good tip. Nix skinny-cut if you want your hips to look smaller, not larger.
Thanks!
If a tank top falls too low in the front and in the sides you can try hemming the straps (making them shorter) it will move all of the fabric up.
Yes! I do this and forgot to mention it.
YOOO super short trans dude here (5'2") so as far as board shorts go, try buying like a large or XLarge boy's size if you can because they tend to actually be short enough for me, while accommodating to my CURVY hourglass bod. (ALSO rolled up shorts are in style so for jean-style shorts roll them up a bit! no sewing required)
Boy's section is a great hack! My hips are too big for boy's section pants/shorts usually, though :(
Shorts issues:
Women's section; "So are these actual shorts or denim underwear with holes?"
Men's section; "Okay so legit how tall are humans expected to be. Also how much pocket space do people need?!"
Katie Bartlett Shorts are weird
Pocket space answer: yes
Something that I'm struggling with is leg hair. I came out to my mum (she's still processing it) but not my dad and I've got very dark hair and pale skin. They both pressure me a lot to shave. However! I've got pretty sensitive and also weirdly thick skin so when it grown back after shaving I can't exfoliate but I get a lot of painful rashes where the hair is growing back in. If you don't want to shave and think bringing up patriarchy with your parents won't fly (it certainly wouldn't with my dad) you could say you've been experiencing rashes when the hair grows back in and want to avoid it.
That won't work for my parents if I went in public with unshaved legs, but it's kept them from harassing me about it around the house.
As far as the leg hair remark, I tell people that leg hair is honestly the most natural thing and I'm comfortable not shaving.
My sister thinks it's disgusting and reminds me of that fairly often, so I'm used to it now.
But I don't like shaving, never have, and once it grows to a certain point it stops. It's not like it's never ending and I'm "going to braid it", as has been so eloquently commented to me before.
It's very natural and has become more common for women to not shave.
Anyone who has an issue can get over it.
Yep, I don't understand why girls shave their hair. It's hair, it's natural and not disgusting...
I've found that American Eagle shorts work fine for me in terms of length (I'm 5'4), and their Flex line is great for transmasculine people with bigger hips who have trouble finding men's shorts and pants that fit in the hips and aren't super baggy everywhere else.
I just order my first binder yesterday I’m so happy 😁 but in 2 weeks and a half it’s summer so crap
I got gc2b I’m trans I just started to come out to people my parents are so sportive I feel lucky I’ve seen the videos
Los hermanos I Know if you mix peppermint oil and water or alcohol that can help with heat. Peppermint oil gives a really nice cooling effect
windy_boi Thanks man
Los hermanos you go friend! You’re really awesome!
Los hermanos also, do you know whether or not gc2b sends binders in discreet packages? I really need to know
Congratulations!
For anyone in Nova Scotia that needs a binder, you can contact the youth project. They give binders to trans people who need them. They also have gaffs. I don't know what they are, but they have them. I hope this helps someone.
Before I came out recently me and my whole family went to the beach. I was debating whether to shave my legs or not, and I ended up not shaving them. I wore basketball shorts the whole day and no one asked me about it. So don't worry too much over it because I doubt people will just randomly come up to you and say "why aren't you shaving your legs?" So don't stress about it too much :)
Random tip; wash clothes in peppermint essential oil. It'll have a nice Cooling effect.
Regarding not shaving / shaving your legs when you're not out : i don't tend to get any stupid comments on it (I'm 26 and adults are thankfully.. Well... Adults.. At least the majority of the time) but if I do I'll say:
- well you don't shave your legs do you? Why should I as a woman (internal cringe but hey.. I'm not out) have to shave? (if it's someone with leg hair (most often cis guys))
- "it started as a body image experiment and now I've grown too lazy to shave" or "body standards are just temporal and it's not a fixed forever rule" (if it's someone that follows the "shave your legs convention" or a person that will likely understand this pov)
But tbh if I was in a school where there are a lot of mean kids I wouldn't have the guts to do this and it's okay if you can't do it yet.. There will be times when people care less and/or you don't have to give a fuck. ❤️
Ps: if you're an indecisive / easily influenced person, I'd suggest to start growing out your leg hair in the winter.. Because then the emotional costs of loosing all your beautiful grown hair will be too high and it'll help you stick through some stupid comments 😁😎
what you said about living life to the fullest and missing opportunities because of dysphoria just hit me in the feels. I am a closeted nonbinary transfeminine amab person and ever since 7th grade (I just finished 11th grade) I've made the chose to stop using public restroom. This chose has made me scared of how long ill be away from home but also has made me super sad and lonly about staying inside and not progressing as a person.
I go to thrift stores to buy shirts to cut instead of new ones, it just sends up looking grungy and saves money. I'm lucky enough to go to theater camp all summer where everyone is really accepting. Eventually I just stopped caring about showing my binder under tank tops and sometimes swimming in a sports bra (under a shirt. Somehow I was able to do all this without being out to my parents, I've just been really lucky I guess.
Being trans ftm in 2020
person: Why do you need a binder? You're not going outside!!
me: Yeah hon, if my dysphoria agreed with that.
I’m a closeted trans guy so I mostly have to wear my feminine clothes during the summer and it sucks so I’m glad I have friends who nonchalantly give or let me borrow masculine and or androgynous looking shirts so that’s good 😂🤙🏼
i was literally just moping about summer and binding cause i wanna go swimming, and then you posted this video 👌
i dunno if i'm gonna wear a sports bra, my binder, or an in-between swimming binder thing
i think generally it's a good idea to wear a looser binder or swimming binder, so if your regular binder is tight then i'd avoid it. swimming is one of those more crucial breathing times :'-0 and if you're going for proper swims i'd treat that like any exercise
I bought a swimming binder off of amazon, and it is safe compression. It's black and looks like just a normal swim t-shirt
i just go with a shirt. no binder no sports bra. i used to see tons of guys who went swimming with shirts on when i was younger so it just makes sense to me.
Hayden Adams Glad that works for you but uhhh not applicable here I'm afraid
I wear a more used looser binder for swimming. I recommended that if you swim in a binder you use one that's a size up.
HYDRATE HYDRATE HYDRATE!!! As someone that lives in Australia I can confirm a lot of people drink about half the amount of water they are meant to, over the summer's (& just every other part of the year because Australia is just all summer) I've seen way too many people (& friends) get heatstroke/sunstroke. So make sure you are drinking several litres of water a day! (Especially if you're going outside)
"I had heart surgery."
"On both sides?"
"I'm a... Time Lord?"
😂😂😂
"What?!?! OMG, how did those get there?!?!"
God my mom is being so difficult. I’m not out to her yet but I am to a lot of others and she’s forcing me to shave. This was a really helpful video!!!
Ethan Smith Yeah, guys on my football team do this. I thought it was a little strange at first, mostly because I would never shave my legs, but it makes sense. That would be a good excuse, if you have definition, that is. I don't have any definition...
"Put on a baseball hat and... grunt alot."
Also, for binders, if at all possible, you should try to find a tank top binder. Basically, standard binder, but it’s sewn so it’s attached to a nice tank top (and this way it’s always with the tank top, so there’s no drifting) I have one that I got from a friend (he bought it online but it didn’t quite fit him) and I LIVE by it. Can’t remember the brand name, but I know I’ve seen some similar ones around, so see if you can find one. Seriously. They’re great.
American Eagle has actually really updated their style with the generation they target. They barely sell and graphic tees anymore and they have a ton of really well fitting clothes. The "prep" length shorts are a perfect length for me. I find their clothes to fit really well usually!
Now I want stef sanjati to do one for amab people
You should leave her a comment or tweet her your recommendation. I bet she would!
Ok I’ll try thank you 🙏🏼
Tips I've found helpful for staying cool while you can't dress as lightly as others:
Several safe binder companies have mesh binders for hot weather. They’re generally a slightly less tight bind. The Shapeshifters one has three layers of mesh in front and only one in back.
As someone with heat intolerance and sensory processing disorder, some tips for dealing with hot weather:
* Personal misters and personal fans that have a built in mister. They’re usually pretty darn cheap, something like $6-15 US.
* Cooling towels and bandannas. They are often marketed to construction workers and other occupations that work hard in the sun in hot weather, and athletes. They work through evaporation. You soak them in water - even room temperature water - and they stay cool for quite a while, depending on how long you’re in direct sun. They work best when humidity is lower. You can find them in print (especially traditional bandanna print), or a few different solid colors.
* Cooling hats. Most work on the same principle as the bandannas. Some have wide brims to also shade you, or neck shades. They are also available as beanies, baseball caps, cooling hoods, and gaiters.
* Cooling vests. There are versions to wear over or under your clothing, and various degrees of cooling. There are big beefy ones with mega-cooling for people doing hard physical work in the sun, and more discreet versions for people who want to hide them under their clothes. Expensive ones have water circulation cooling, while there are cheaper ones that use the same technology as the towels by holding water which evaporates slowly for hours, or with reusable cold pack pockets which you can freeze in your freezer.
Almost all of these are gender neutral in design, though there are some prints and styles that may be read as more masculine or feminine.
The cooling vests can be worn over a binder! (Some should actually not be worn directly against the skin. Check each one’s instructions.)
Some brands of cooling towels, hats, and vests I’m familiar with:
Occunomix
Polar Products
Mission
Wear loose, natural fiber, light-colored clothing over your binder, even if you have to wear long sleeves/shorts.
If you're especially susceptible to heat stroke like I am, don't go places in the heat alone. Have a buddy with you. Because confusion is one of the symptoms, which can lead to being unable to help yourself out (such as by getting out of the sun or finding a place with AC).
Damn, Jackson, I've rarely seen such a smooth advertisement
New excuse for not shaving legs: “I’m just very bad at it”
Never Had a life or, "oh, I forgot"
I have a tip that may work. My thighs rub together and that's especially not fun in the summer because chafing is painful. I use Glide, which has no scent, and a powder and not only does it prevent chafing but also find that I sweat less with the products on. I use the Glide to keep the powder in place otherwise it will stay on for like, two minutes. So, maybe some of y'all want to try it because it is effective for me. Cheaper than that, I've also heard people using deodorant. So really, don't limit that to just your armpit.
What is glide?
I have a weird response to the scars question.
"I was hungry."
Am non binary
When they say it’s gonna be really hot and unbearable, but you’ve been training your whole life by wearing black hoodies all summer.
This is my second summer since starting T and my last summer for Binding !!!!
I was thinking about the hairy legs say that shaving causing you to get a rash .
I wish I could wear a tank top at the gym but till I have my top surgery I can’t .
If you're not out yet, you might be able to convince your parents to let you wear more masculine swimwear (such as rashguards and swim trunks) by saying that you want to cover more of your body to avoid sunburn. If they're adamant about not buying you anything from the men's section like my parents are, you could probably find non-cotton shorts that work just as well. Added bonus: you will get less sunburn. Hope this helps someone! (:
re: tank tops, i bought a regular one which went too low to hide my binder, then cut the straps and sewed them back together to make them shorter! (well technically my mum did most of it ahaha) and it worked really well
yo i’m pre-t but i’m literally so hairy thanks to my dad’s genes, i’ve had lots of arm hair and leg hair and and general body hair literally since about 2nd or 3rd grade and i started growing facial hair around like 5th grade and like
i’ve always been hairy and before when everyone thought i was a girl i was constantly told to shave and wax and tweeze and like
i just didn’t because i was lazy but also because shaving makes me dysphoric oops
like literally i’m p sure my body knows i’m supposed to be a boy lol
i relate
Hi there! AFAB genderfluid twentysomething here :) I, funnily enough, get much more comfortable in my own feminine body during the summer, because I live in a relatively cooler country, so summer means I can wear big flowy trousers and dresses and I get to see so many of my sweet loving friends, that summer is the absolute best time to be (during the schoolyear I'm surrounded by strangers)
But swimwear is something I struggle with. I love wearing very flashy outfits, so same goes for swimwear. However, I have never been comfortable with my chest in bikinis, so last year I found some more covering tops: a bandeau or haltertop for example. The bikinibottoms are the most difficult, because a) I have a very bodacious bod and b) many are very small, slinky, and aim to make your body more curvy. I like the idea of high waisted bottoms, but then half of my butt falls out. So what I have started to do is just wear 'normal underwear' as bikini bottoms: a hipster model or skintight shorts. They don't make my body more curvy, but still show my strong broad legs.
On dysphoric days (not synonymous with masculine days) I have a sporty bathingsuit that I wear with the skintight shorts. This is much more of a pro swimmer outfit, but I feel much more comfortable, because I feel like feminine beauty is often very sexualized and that makes me uncomfortable. So the unsexy nature of the outfit makes me more comfy -\o/-
Hey there fellow genderfluid buddy! I personally enjoy long sleeve one pieces, because they're rather snug at the chest, meaning that they do bind a little but not alot. They also come in lots of fun patterns and colors! But I may give what you talked about a shot! Hope you didn't mind my ramble! ❤️💜💙🖤
Jackson?!? That’s my name!! And I’m a trans guy too!! This is so exciting!!
Holy crow, thank you so much for this!! I realized I’m not cis and slowly have been coming to terms with the fact that I’m a trans dude over the last few months and this is just relieving so much anxiety over how I’m going to manage when summer rolls around in 4 months. Needless to say I’m not excited, but at least I’m better prepared
I wanted to mention that even using 'official' binders CAN still cause permanent longterm damage. I've been binding for a decade now, and it's done a number on my skin elasticity - which means when I get top surgery, it will need to be double incision, and the lack of elasticity may also affect my surgery results. It's also given me chronic back pain. Binding 'safely' doesn't guarantee it won't cause problems down the line.
With the safe binding disclaimer, I'm gonna share a little story here. For those that don't care, move right along, but for those that don't believe safe binding is important, please read through this.
I was curious, that was all, I wanted to see how important safe binding actually was, and how dangerous it was if I disregarded it. So, I took the bandages I got from my doctor for a knee problem I have, wrapped them around my chest tight enough to act even better than the binder I had, and I smiled at my image in the mirror and thought 'I could get used to wearing this'
I felt so proud of myself for finding something that worked better, when I made the awful mistake of taking a deep breath, and it was only a little uncomfortable, so I did it again. On the third breath, I felt something sharp in my sides, but idiot me breathed in again, and that breath caught in my throat halfway from how much it hurt. I took the bandages off as fast as I could, but every movement of my shoulders sent shooting pain down my sides, and I was regretting all of my decisions of that night.
I laid down on my back, and it felt a little better, but I could barely move when I woke up that morning. For five days after that, I could only take half a breath, and even that felt as sore as a bruise throughout my entire chest. For two more days after the initial five, I could take a full breath as the extent of pain I could handle. The next day, it began to subside, and after a week and a half, I could breathe again without it being too painful, but it still gets uncomfortable to breath deeply, and I get sharp pains off and on from laughing or breathing heavily for too long, even a gasp can make my chest ache.
So please, for any Trans guys or nonbinaries that bind, don't use bandages. I only used them for three minutes or less and needed a week and a half to recover and breathe again, imagine what a whole day of wearing that could do to you.
Keep yourself safe, and bind safely.
sending best regards to the he's and theys of the internet, bind safely my men and friends, checking out.
I'm not sure how I got here, I'm a very "feminine" cis lady, but I stayed, and I have to say, those lines about surgery scars were great. I don't think I've ever asked anyone about any scar or other injuries but I would appreciate all of those responses.
a tip for trans guys. most cis people dont know what a binder is so if youre confident enough just go out in your binder and a regular old tank top
As a trans person with a larger chest where half binders often let some stuff accidentally slip out, I suggest putting cornstarch based baby powder on your chest and binder to avoid chafing and heat rash. This also works extremely well when you are still damp after a shower but need to throw your binder on, as it gets rid of the excess moisture
If someone asks you for your unshaved legs, just grunt "I'M A F*CKING BEAR" and roar. They'll understand
In May of this year I came out as mtf transgender, a tip for somone who hasn't had surgery and also doesn't like or hasn't learned how to tuck but want's to swim or wear cute swim clothes at the beach would be to wear a one piece bathing suit and a flowy swim skirt over top to help hide the bulge.
My tip is that they make binders that have the top half with binding material and the the rest just a loose tank top. Invest in one of those and then you only have to wear one layer.
Kinda first summer on T--I started in August last year, but I started on such a low dose that I wouldn't really count that. :D
Aaaaaand last summer binding...I'm having top surgery August 15! I am a little worried though...my surgeon doesn't want people binding for four to six weeks before surgery. I don't have the paperwork in front of me to be able to give the exact reasoning, but I remember him saying something about skin irritation and better scarring. Haven't heard of that from any other surgeon, but all of my friends that have used him have had good outcomes, so hopefully it comes out okay! So on one hand, only six weeks left in a binder (until post-op)! But on the other, not looking forward to spending July and August in Southern California without one.
Great video, Jackson!
How are things now?
I am a year late, but for anyone reading this, I just came back from holidays and the first week I missed so much fun because of dysphoria, I cried 30 minutes straight one time, because I didn't like the way my body looked in my swimwear and I was just like I don't care if people stare! I just wanna have fun, I went swimming a lot and even went canyoning for a few hours! I made a lot of supportive friends and one of them even lives in the same city as me! I don't own a binder yet, I sometimes just wear so many layers that my mum doesn't allow me to leave the house in my clothing because it's to warm, but just try to enjoy your summer kiddos! We're all in this together!
I live in Hawaii, so it's like a perpetual summer here. This is extremely helpful- thank you so much.
I've been wearing a tank top undershirt under my binder so I can go longer between washing it. The material helps with chest sweat, so less dysphoria for me.
Firstly, I feel as though it is important to say that I just bought that exact same shirt. Also, thank you so much for this video! It's my first summer with a binder (and first one being completely out) so I really needed the tips. But some things I picked up from my transmasc friends are that short sleeved button downs are a lifesaver, because they box out your shape, but keep you cool, as well as usually not being too costly, if you hve long hair, tucking it up into a baseball cap, and (this is less of a tip, more of a heads up) but gc2b binders all double as swim binders! You can wear them in the water, just make sure you give it a good wash afterwards.Thanks so much again for making this video!
(wowee i really overdid it on the commas and exclamation points)
nobody:
my gf: *jeans and a wool sweater in rural NC where it's currently 97 degrees*
me, a trans man: *sweating half my body weight in a tank top and shorts*
wtfff its not fair
It's my last week wearing a binder. My top surgery is next week on monday. I think I was never ever so hyped about summer 😄
Omg I’ve been meaning to sign up for dollar shave club, so this sponsorship is the perfect reminder!
Also the sweat struggle is real. I’ve always been pretty sweaty but T is making it worse/smellier and I’m still on a low dose 😩 Finding a deodorant that works for me has been toughhh
*WEAR DENIM* it helps so much in the heat. it’s light and it keeps you cool and is all around fantastic. i’d stay away from skinny jeans and the like, but a nice light jean jacket can work wonders in the summer
As a cis female watching this I feel sort of the same as I do when I watch make-up tutorials as a person who never wears make-up haha.
Side-note: I always love watching your videos Jack because you remind me weirdly a lot of my older brother
I just got top surgery in feb! Perfect timing for summer. Yesterday was my last day wearing the scar tape! So glad I dont have to bind this summer 💜😋💜
Hydrated or dydrate
Thank you so much I’m going to Wisconsin tomorrow in the summer as a teen who came out about two years ago. I was absolutely terrified about going. I feel a little better now. Going with family members who are very awkward in general so super scared. Thanks
Thank you for the call out to any AFAB folks who wanna be more masculine! I really appreciate it (as AFAB NB)!
I cannot wait to get top surgery and get to use the timelord explanation at every possible chance, thank you for this Gift
THANK YOU!! This was extremely helpful. I needed this for the upcoming summer. As a trans man, your helpful and insightful videos never disappoint
I just recently got my binder and realized that i couldn't wear it with tank tops and it killed me. Thanks so much for this video, it was really informative! I tried to tell my mom why my legs weren't shaved by saying other girls don't shave them but she told me I looked like I didn't have good hygiene and now I have to shave them.
Your sense of humor is great 💚
Something I like to do is wear a skin time binder and overalls. It looks cool and feels nice. It feels masculine to wear just overalls so if you do that people might read you as such
Y'all, I recommend long sleeve one pieces if you're not out to anyone! They're rather snug around the chest, so they do bind a little, and they're available in alot of designs. Also, long sleeves. Can't get any better than that.
This is great, wish there were these types of videos 10yrs ago! Keep up sharing the knowledge!
If you swim in the ocean, GC2B binders can come apart in the salt water so keep that in mind!!
Great video since this is by first summer being out to my family! Side note your eyebrows are really nice
just wanted to say that I personally think your voice is very enjoyable to listen to.
Yes. Those safer friend bubbles and lifelines despite dysphoria! Really helps to know who got your extra sweaty back.
I love this video so much. from some personal experience, I would not suggest wearing underworks during the summer as the material isn't very breathable and I notice (I'm on T so it's worse) that I get VERY hot and am constantly sweating under the binder. GC2B, while not my favorite brand as a larger chested guy, is made of very cool and breathable fabric, I wore a gc2b binder in Florida during one of the hotest weeks in the year and totally forgot I was even binding so definitely opt for a non-underworks binder for those really hot days otherwise you run the risk of over heating and underboob sweat can cause rashes
Hey Jackson! I’ve just discovered your channel and really enjoy your videos. You seem smart and kind and well-informed and generally all kinds of wonderful. 👍🏻🥰