The holidays have always been really hard for me. I don’t have a happy family to get together with. I get really depressed. This time of year I start planning how to deal with it and get through. I like arts and crafts, so doing holiday crafts are one way I can participate and get a little enjoyment. I also like to cook and bake, so I usually make extra to share. I love the idea of doing something nice for someone else. I need to do more of that. Thank you for your kindness!
Mam i have hurt somebody's feeling and i wanted to say sorry to her but she is not listening to me what should I do to say sorry to her? By the way love from India
In 2015 at the age of 38, I came out as transgender to my parents. Since then, they will only show any type of affection or cameraderie to me if I am not dressed as my true self (hint: I am not able to be out at work, and they help care for my young handicapped son after school a few days a week). Everyone in my family be refuses to acknowledge the real me. So, there's that. Almost two years ago, Mom had a heart attack and had open heart surgery over the weekend. She responded great, but she was going to be in no shape to be able to watch my son. I called Dad and hashed out the details. I did not want to have that conversation, but we had had enough instances of miscommunication about this issue that I stopped taking anything for granted. He was calm about it and understood why I called (even though our relationship was still strained). So, the next night, my older sister came to my house, sat in my living room, and proceeded to berate me about it for over an hour. It was not the first time she acted that way toward me, but it will be the last. She and I have not spoken much since then. Oh, there were two occasions when I took Mom to the emergency room. The first time was on a Sunday afternoon and she specifically asked me to, and which turned out to be not that big a deal, thankfully. More recently, I got an early AM call that she fell and hit her head. When I got there she was pretty loopy, so off we went...out of an abundance of safety. What if Mom had a concussion and I put her back in bed and left her??? Thankfully, this also had a happy ending and was not that serious. But, wouldn't you know it, both times my older sister found a reason to criticize me and dump on me. She wonders why it is I want nothing to do with her. So, that brings us to next week. The oldest sister (there are four of us, and I am #3) has moved in with my older sister, and she has insisted I need to come to their house for Thanksgiving. I agreed to do it only because Mom is having more issues and we are getting to the point of, "How many more of these does she have left?" My spouse and children stayed home last year and had a decent time without the rest of my family. We went to sis's house on Christmas Eve and it was... awkward. Hoping this year is better, but reserving any expectations.
The holidays have always been really hard for me. I don’t have a happy family to get together with. I get really depressed. This time of year I start planning how to deal with it and get through. I like arts and crafts, so doing holiday crafts are one way I can participate and get a little enjoyment. I also like to cook and bake, so I usually make extra to share. I love the idea of doing something nice for someone else. I need to do more of that. Thank you for your kindness!
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Wait...people don't like CHRISTMAS??? Wow.
Mam i have hurt somebody's feeling and i wanted to say sorry to her but she is not listening to me what should I do to say sorry to her?
By the way love from India
In 2015 at the age of 38, I came out as transgender to my parents. Since then, they will only show any type of affection or cameraderie to me if I am not dressed as my true self (hint: I am not able to be out at work, and they help care for my young handicapped son after school a few days a week). Everyone in my family be refuses to acknowledge the real me. So, there's that.
Almost two years ago, Mom had a heart attack and had open heart surgery over the weekend. She responded great, but she was going to be in no shape to be able to watch my son. I called Dad and hashed out the details. I did not want to have that conversation, but we had had enough instances of miscommunication about this issue that I stopped taking anything for granted. He was calm about it and understood why I called (even though our relationship was still strained). So, the next night, my older sister came to my house, sat in my living room, and proceeded to berate me about it for over an hour. It was not the first time she acted that way toward me, but it will be the last. She and I have not spoken much since then. Oh, there were two occasions when I took Mom to the emergency room. The first time was on a Sunday afternoon and she specifically asked me to, and which turned out to be not that big a deal, thankfully. More recently, I got an early AM call that she fell and hit her head. When I got there she was pretty loopy, so off we went...out of an abundance of safety. What if Mom had a concussion and I put her back in bed and left her??? Thankfully, this also had a happy ending and was not that serious. But, wouldn't you know it, both times my older sister found a reason to criticize me and dump on me. She wonders why it is I want nothing to do with her.
So, that brings us to next week. The oldest sister (there are four of us, and I am #3) has moved in with my older sister, and she has insisted I need to come to their house for Thanksgiving. I agreed to do it only because Mom is having more issues and we are getting to the point of, "How many more of these does she have left?" My spouse and children stayed home last year and had a decent time without the rest of my family. We went to sis's house on Christmas Eve and it was... awkward. Hoping this year is better, but reserving any expectations.