Why I No Longer Fight With Women & What To Do Instead
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- Women are ruled by emotions, so there really is no point in arguing with them, I've done it, and this is what I do instead now.
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"I've consulted with LOADS and LOADS of guys"
Unless this is some sort of dog whistle to the soap-shoppers I wouldn't use that word when talking about encounters with men, Rich
😂 😂 😂
Thank you Rich, finally in my thirties I now realize I need a physical calendar for my pad😂😂🎉
Women are on their best behavior, WHEN YOU DONT COMMIT TO THEM.
What kinda car is that?
I'd only point out you provided some truly stup|d advice at 6:00 when considering long-term relationship... if the *man* leaves the domicile he can legally be accused of abandonment, and the woman can claim the property even if she's not paying the rent.
She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Once she starts disrespecting you, your turn is over.
Simple...easy to remember...I like it.....I'll add get in the car and drive far far away....
100%, brother. the moment a woman starts disrespecting you, walk away.
- it won't get better
- sadly, women are next level below children.
- children do learn. women don't.
- fellas, walk away.
- you have nothing to lose that you won't lose anyway.
I completely agree with you...Check this out. My Father actually told me something really interesting when his wife was going skitzo on him. My Father always walks away like i do. He then looks for me and goes to my liquor cabinet😂 but any way-after he kicks back a few glasses of whiskey--he told me that the second She has a headache is the second the relationship is over. Lol
Once she disrespects you……HER TURN is over trying to compete to earn THE MAN’S Last name
Grow tf up
"Never argue with morons. They will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience." ~Mark Twain
Wow 😯
Affirmative !!!!!!! GODSPEED !!!!!!!
Morons can’t beat anyone.
They simply make up delusions in their head to try to convince themselves that they are correct when reality says otherwise
"Never argue with women, they will bring you down to their level and beat you with their emotions." - Me 😉
That’s toxic in general the toxic part for me is never “argue with moron” like don’t you see that just creates more “moron” irony is it make you look like one in my opinion but maybe I’m the moron lol
They hate when you stay silent because it's the sign of someone reevaluating their options.
By reevaluating your options, you'll make them more attracted to you, because they are broken creatures and want what they can't fully conquer.
@@Luke_MoonWalker by getting back with her, she realizes you are weak and the cycle continues
@@BadThrusher 📠
@@BadThrusher The keeper is the one who doesn't play the games.
Good observation. I never thought of it like that.
I think it is very true that a disrespectful woman is showing you that she doesn't believe you to be her best option.
That is a good point. If she thought you were the best she could do, she would build you up not tear you down while waiting for someone better.
@@randyindvik1171 this statement feels so real to my experiences.
Be blunt and unapologetic, and don't show any emotions. If that doesn't work walk away and never look back.
It works 100% of the time.
Perfect answer
lol, they hate it when you do this. It means the p___y is not working to achieve the desired results.
hahaha this video is so perfect literially my gf was arguing with me just now she was like you dont care for me you weren't their for me when i needed proper venting at me i just said when calm down and want to talk i am here if not then you continue to argue! women!!!
Dump Her. Stop getting into serious relationships.
Couldn't have said it any better. Shrug shoulders, do an about-face, and walk away.
I'm no psychic, but, I'm pretty sure that simply saying "yellow card" is gonna make most women flip their shit.
Let alone go 2 steps further with marking it in the calendar. When that relationship ends, I promise that calendar is going to be a campfire.
I think so too.
Record it.
No woman is going to be ok with you saying yellow card in her face 😅😅.
This dude is loaded. Women are good at figuring out what they can and cannot get away with. They know he is worth putting up with because of the lifestyle she gets to live while she's with him. But I agree, this wouldn't work with an average dude.
I inadvertently stumbled upon this strategy with my wife about a year ago. I got fed up with all the petty little arguments and negative comments so I just started leaving the room whenever she tried to engage with me in that manner. I didn't say anything; I didn't acknowledge the behavior in any way - I simply turned and left the room, either going to my office and closing the door or going somewhere else where she was not able to continue to communicate. Sometimes I would turn and leave the room in the middle of a sentence if her attitude or behavior was unacceptable, so I definitely made it noticeable. Slowly, it dawned upon her that certain behaviors would result in a complete removal of attention, and I noticed a significant change in her attitude within a few weeks. An unintended side effect I noticed was that I was getting much more accomplished on certain projects with the increased office and alone time.
You trained her, like a pet. Well done!
Did she ever try to follow you? Like persistently not leave you alone?
@0ldSch00l13 An unintended side effect I noticed was that I was getting much more accomplished on certain projects with the increased office and alone time 😂
I wish I could do that. My house is like 800 square feet and there's nowhere to go.
@@hosmerhomeboy any room to make a shed out back lol. Is she the type that will follow you to another room to keep going at it?
There is truth to that, as soon as things are going good, they instantly start looking for something to complain about, EVEN IF IT HAPPENED 5 YEARS AGO. It's beyond toxic.
15 years ago
I do this already because i grew up with a VERY toxic mother, she would try and bait me into an argument and if you bit back she could play the victim and paint you as the bad person. When my mum tries to argue about something i pretend she doesn't exist, it's pointless arguing with women.
I think it's partly why i have zero patience with women, if they are naggy and argumentative i just can't be around them at all.
Yeah, i bet she harrash you in texts to illicit a response from you,then screenshot your response and tell everyone shes the victim. Standard playbook. Been there brother
My mother was the exact same way.
Your mother is definitely a red card🟥
We had the same evil mother.
Exactly the same thing happened to me.
Always remember- Never approach a Bull from the front, a horse from the back or a FOOL from any direction !!!
Never heard this before but I’m gonna remember it! 👍
Love it. Never heard it but Ill keep it
@@thatsagoodone8283 Please share.
Epic!
@@xsamitt please share and practice. Women are not horses and not bulls. What is left> lol
You never leave your own house. That is your house and you never ever relinquish that to a woman. Especially if she wants a divorce. If she's uncomfortable she can leave!!!
Been married 11 years this year and I can verify this works when said properly with little emotion. I tell her, "I'm sorry but I'm not going to engage this way". Fellas it's our duties to be good men, they just don't tell us how hard it can be sometimes.
Never educate them on this. They’ll make it harder if they are brought to think of it.
@@adammcallister9675 I actually agree and stand corrected. Respect.
@@adammcallister9675yes women tend to adapt and find new ways to bring you into emotional distress.
don't say sorry either
Perfect response except I don't apologize.
I simply say, "I won't even engage with you on that" and then walk away.
This isn't just for women; it works with all argumentative people.
Correct, women do not have a monopoly on looking for fights.
Avoid them
That’s the best
A path you can peace
welcome to postmodernity
With other men there's always thr option of trading blows to settle it. Ive never regretted introducing that option. Either the other guy accepts and we settle like that or he declines but unlike women...thats a more permanent solution.
@@RetireandGo Yes one should never have a relationship with women. When someone's digging their own grave you don't fight them for the shovel.
I have a married friend who never goes straight home after work. He either goes to a bar, gym, or golf driving range before ever going home. He knows as soon as he walks into the house, all of his wife's problems that day will be dumped on him. So he decompresses after a long day on the job by doing stuff he enjoys.
Sounds like a wonderful marriage 😬😬
Sounds like bad marriage. Nothing good is shared
Haha I love his approach. Steps to a healthy marriage with a modern broad. I swear if pussy wasn’t a thing most of them would be intitutionalized
I never met a woman more beautiful than freedom. Fuck marriage. Having a girlfriend is fine just don't get married ir cohabitat.
Sounds like it is time to sit down and tell her that he appreciates her, loves her and would do anything for her. That being said, he should tell her that next time he comes home from work he wants to hear how much she loves and appreciates the hard work he is doing for the family. If that does not happen they need to separate.
I'm learning more and more that women have a harder time letting go of resentments and trauma than men do. This makes them unable to connect with their heart. In turn, it makes them unapologetic and argumentative. If they are unable to admit when they are wrong and won't apologize, that means they have emotional baggage. I confronted my wife about this in a calm and concise matter, and things have improved DRASTICALLY. It's been night and day. If your lady still harbors resentments from past relationships or pain from past traumas, she will eventually resent you. They have to learn to forgive others and forgive themselves before they can be a functional partner.
I've conveyed this same advice to my ex/girls mom. So long as she has the past trauma with her momma she'll never be in a good place spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically. She won't be good for the next guy and that could mean issues for our girls. It use to worry me, but she's such a fkn problem that I can't even co parent with her. 16yrs of my life down the drain.
I take myself out of the situation. I have kicked women out of my home, removed myself from Facebook over it. I can only blame myself for staying in a bad situation. I had the power to fix it and I did.
A disrespectful woman is immediately abandoned. No room for negotiating nonsense.
My 2.5 year relationship , after it ended she told my friend that she would start arguments just to see how I would handle it.....yep
Shit testing
I would expect any woman to do that, simply as a way to test! Ppl tend to come right out of the woodwork during conflict! ☝🏻
@@fitlife1205They want to see how well a man can handle having more testosterone and less estrogen than a woman, often they think everyone’s the same, that men are really just women with a masculine body, that don’t have periods and cannot grow babies inside and birth them. Same sort of mentality can go both ways. 😮
I hope you find a calm woman that’s 2% of the population but good luck
@@Stevo-klo45453 sounds like a hunt for a unicorn, that's as rare as common sense in today's world
Great vid! I’ve been married 42 years. Three years ago I decided to keep a diary of the negative interactions with my wife. (The yellow and red marked on a calendar is much less work.) It’s abundantly clear that I need to get divorced. I spoke with our friend Jonathan Noble, Esq. and he pointed me in the right direction. Freedom, peace & quiet are just around the corner.
it’s hard to nail down specific predictions for the housing market is because it’s not yet clear how quickly or how much the Federal Reserve can bring down inflation and borrowing costs without tanking buyer demand for everything from homes to cars.
A lot of folks have been going on about the bull rally and said stocks that would be experiencing significant growth, any idea which stocks this may be? I just sold my home in the Boca Grande area and I’m looking to remunerate a lump sum into the stock market before stocks rebound, is this a good time to buy or no?
Such market uncertainties are the reason I don’t base my market judgements and decisions on rumours and here-says, got the best of me 2020 and had me holding worthless position in the market, I had to revamp my entire portfolio through the aid of a planner, before I started seeing any significant results happens in my portfolio, been using the same advisor and I’ve scaled up 750k within 2 years, whether a bullish or down market, both makes for good profit, it all depends on where you’re looking.
huge gains! love to stick it out on my own, but many false predictions lately.. I could really use some help, if you please share your advisr info
Doing your research will save you a lot of hassle. Monica Mary Strigle is her name and she is licensed.
Thank you for this tip. it was easy to find your coach. Did my due diligence on her before scheduling a phone call with her. She seems proficient considering her résumé.
I've done this. What they do is they eventually figure out that you aren't engaging with them because you believe they are too emotional. What then happens is they seek attention from other men and then cheat on you eventually.
There is no winning. Just be ready to ghost them when it seems like it's getting to that point.
Spot on.
Good, let some other sucker put up with her BS. Calm over chaos, any day🟨🟥
Spin those plates.
Well isn't that a win? If she needs that kind of drama to feel connected to you, and then she cheats on you from not getting the drama, it's a dodged bullet.
yes they need drama thats why you need multiple girls if one seeks the drama from someone else
I was a bouncer. The patrons never respected the hot head bouncers. They were always intimidated by emotionlessness.
Same
Facts
Agree 100%
That is a really good analogy ...
To your pig analogy at about 1:20; it reminds me of one of my favorite sayings that is similar to what you are expressing “Never teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and annoys the pig.”
As I mature I find this phrase so often fits situations where this a difference in opinion or perspective, with male or female; often it’s a waste of time and it annoys the other person when you try to convince them of your position. And, if you’re comfortable that you’re right or your opinion or perspective is accurate, if the other person disagrees, leave it alone. Move on. It’s OK to be right and not convince the other person you’re right. Hopefully they will figure it out eventually on their own; at least you planted the seed.
My parents have both told me that they got into one serious argument when they first started dating and that my father told her that if they were going to argue again that they would be over. I've not ever heard them argue and they've been married over 50 years.
I heard an old Scottish story, I'll skip the details, here's what happens... After the wedding, the groom is taking his new bride home in a horse drawn carriage. At some point, the horse gets a little wild and bounces the carriage a bit. The groom gets down, goes up and says to the horse, "That's once!" A bit later, it happens again... "That's twice!" A third time, the horse starts, jostling the carriage. The groom goes up to the horse, says "That's three times", and then he shoot the horse dead. At this, the bride goes nuts, berating him for shooting the horse. He turns to her and says, "That's once!"
If only there were a video of Sean Connery telling this story.
Great story.
Love that Scottish story
Yes, because that’s the most humane way to treat another human being.
Sean Connery did once say during an interview “sometimes a woman needs a good slap to straighten her out.” Look up Barbra Walter’s interviewing Sean Connery. Sean was definitely a man among boys. Legit
No lies detected, I stopped arguing with women last year. It’s no point to the madness
Precisely so, the best way is to refuse to engage in any form of argument with women.
Its so refreshing to see men getting together and sharing what works with women. No arguing with women from here on out. Stay strong fellas.
@Matterhorn55844Most are like that…they are horrible monsters who deserve to live a lonely life.
Once they start up and the gears start threshing around its time to walk.
Ive used this technique with all of my daughters I was so tired of them arguing about 1 more bed time story. I sent them all to foster care before they were in kindergarten.
Unfortunately many women, like my ex, will keep escalating to the point they file divorce. I do not think my ex really wanted a divorce, but that was the next level. I think the thing men have to understand is that women make very foolish decisions and there is really no training them.
You made a mistake by marrying her.
I’m a woman and I approve this message. Boundaries are important.
Stop playin…you’re a dude! Lol
We dont care for your opinion or approvement 🤡.
Woah we have one....a rare unicorn! I wondered if they existed?!
Same
Unicorn spotted!! Right on
It's difficult to not fight with women today. I know a lot of good and successful men, who are definitely willing to compromise for the right woman. The problem is that we all wind up dealing with these ran-through, medicated, entitled, manipulative, drama-filled, emotional-baggage-carrying, train wrecks. Most guys I know don't have time to deal with all of that, in return for a little company. These women think nothing of sleeping with another man the second they don't get their way, and the drama starts so quickly, you can't even get to a point where you can take them seriously. I think feminism and entitlement ultimately caused most of them to lose their minds.
They're possessed by the Jezebel spirit thanks to feminism evil. Stop bringing women to your house. She will plot to take your house!!
"Most guys I know don't have time to deal with all of that, in return for a little company." Aka, the juice isn't worth the squeeze!
You just described most women really. Even the sweeter & nicer women eventually reveal that they have baggage too: emotional, family drama, medicated etc. It just isn’t worth taking on when you can be single & spin plates.
I really like the words you use. The most accurate description I have ever heard about most of the women of today.
I wouldn't even bother getting into a relationship at all. Not worth it. Unicorns are rare. Harphies are everywhere.
It's fine to walk away if you're dating an argumentative woman. It's a bit harder when the problem woman is your mother. Like JayC below, my mother unfortunately seems to enjoy picking fights and arguments. She has developed a bad habit whereby, if we're talking and I disagree with her, she will go silent and then get up and leave the room. Then she wonders why I'm not married!
Leave the situation, be stoic all you want.
If they want your attention and are toxic & narcissist a couple of things might happen:
Escalation tactic #1) If kids are involved count on emotional blk mail.
Escalation tatic #2) Abuse of finances if ( Married,)
Escalation tatic #3) involve family members or authorities
Optional Escalation tatic: Character Assassination.
His advice is spot on, you just have to make sure you have all of your vulnerabilities locked down air tight, the slightest weakness will be exploited
Because trust & believe if its important to you they will use it as a button to push
And using children is fair game...
Stoicism is typically challenged by all sorts of vindictive behavior that can last for years.... Make sure your a zen master in Stoicism you'll need it to counter years of petty attempts of emotional pay back
And like an Elephant they never forget
It'll come up in an argument 78yrs later.
Stay stoic fellas. I bought a house and the previous couple had a young child. Evident by the playset in backyard and yellow walls in one of the bedrooms. They had left a breastpump below one of the bathroom sinks that was in all the cleaning supplies. Fast foward a few years later a girl i dated had found it and over the coarse of the next few months she thought i had Secret child and would stop harrashing me over it. It was insane.
"Why would I have a breast pump under my sink for years, untouched, think about it." Logic doesn't apply to this thought
That seems to be on you, my brother. Like the comment above me says, why would you keep a breast pump under your sink for years? Are you that lazy to get rid of it?
What was she doing going through your stuff? You also have to question why the breast pump was left there for years, ironically amongst cleaning supplies. Bit of an own goal there, mate.
I would have told her "so what"!
I had a similar situation. Bought a house that was owned by a cpl that had 2 young daughters. One of them lost a pair of glasses in the yard and the landscaper found them and I left them on a table on the front porch. A women I was seeing saw them and lost it on me. I just laughed at her. Every time she would try to trigger me I'd start giggling. She finally gave up with the triggering and went her own way. LoL I guess she needed a guy that would argue with her. I say NEXT!
I was married twice. The first one passed away suddenly after 19 years, and she was the good one. The second one I divorced in 2015. I never argued with either one. Women are just children in adult bodies. I just stopped talking, and I would leave the house if I had to and come back later. My second wife got so mad she told me to sleep on the couch, and I told her no, I'm not sleeping on the couch. I'm sleeping in this bed I paid for. The emphasis on every altercation with a woman is using the word no.
I love that, just listened to a YT story on Strong Successful Male channel about this exact thing where the wife told the guy he was sleeping on the couch over something she didn't like when he set a boundary that she didn't like and he said "No, my house I sleep in the bed, if you have an issue YOU can go sleep on the couch." and she tried to lock him out of the bedroom, he ended up kicking the door off the hinges when she wouldn't unlock it and started ignoring him. LOL, men who forget they're supposed to call the shots in the relationship and let their women lead the relationship are doomed.
@@mattfield3371 excellent advice. That’s why as a woman I remain single. What adult wants to be trapped by a penis driven man child with a bloated sense of righteous entitlement?
"Women are just children in adult bodies." See now, this is a great way to make sure people don't ever take you seriously.
@@libbybarrett1268it's true,I have a partner and two young kids,she acts like a 4 year old
@@jamesleon2770well you made a very bad choice and that’s on you.
This is THE best advice I have heard yet. I have heard the whole spectrum myself and I came to the conclusion that I was just not going to play the games anymore. I love the analogy and am going to use it. 👍🏻👍🏻
I do something similar in conversations as well. When she starts talking, I always ask that she say "I want you to listen" or "I want you to fix". I also don't engage in arguments anymore. I usually suggest some time apart (no more than 10-20) minutes for us to think on it, and then come back together. Drives them nuts, but that is a hard boundary for me, and it has worked, or they can move on.
I remember as a child my mom flipping out on my dad, it got so bad she went back in the bedroom and got his gun. She came back out flipping and pointed the gun at his head. My father said in a very calm voice..Go ahead, my problems will be over and yours just beginning. They have both passed, married till the end but I find myself at 62 feeling the same way my dad did. After 3 marriages and now with an wonderful woman, I just dont let anyone or anything raise my temper.
That sounded like a good movie line, what your dad told your mom when she pointed a gun at him. 👌🏻
Thank you for the share
It says a lot, had a woman do that to me, about 4 months later I was gone
Your dad is a legend. Rest in Peace, sir.
@@islesanctum8334 months? How about 4 minutes?
@@islesanctum833 only problem was you waited 4 months too long...
As a 64 year old single man……..agree 💯 with everything you said. 👍No response IS a response 🙂
I’m confused as to why single men are the authority on this. Wouldn’t the fact that you’re single and/or divorced mean you don’t know what you’re doing?
Lol, more like Erin Kelly.
@aaronkelley3865 it's hard to get the truth out of the married men they all want you to join their club. Who knows I'm 34 and idk if I want to get stuck with a modern female
@@shanefowler9443 I think both camps will always try to get you to join their club. I agree modern society/women make this a lot harder than it has to be.
The key is to be able to distinguish between the good apples and the bad apples. Unfortunately there’s a lot of bad apples out there thanks to modern feminism and hook-up culture.
The other BIG component here is that people in general forgot what marriage is. They don’t really know what they’re doing or WHY they’re doing it when they get married. Which is why so many fail.
Marriage is a team effort that goes both ways. Where the husband falls short, the wife picks it up; and where the wife falls short, the husband picks it up. They compliment each other. They DO NOT compete with each other. If selfishness is involved, it won’t work. You have to sacrifice some of yourself for the team. When marriage happens, two become one. A team.
I’ll give you one example. If you struggle with the idea of combining your bank accounts and all other aspects of each others finances, you’re not ready for marriage. Yet this is a concept most people today struggle to wrap there minds around. And you wonder why people can’t make it work?
If both husband and wife apply the same understandings that come from the examples above to every other aspect of their marriage, you have a lot higher chance of it being a successful and happy marriage.
@@aaronkelley3865- No. It means they have been down that road, now know how to handle it and are not taking crap off argumentative women any longer.
Sometimes, just calmly walking away does the trick
An ancient proverb reads, "it's better to live on the corner of a roof than with an antagonistic woman".
Very good and very true!
"Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it." --George Bernard Shaw
For us middle aged men…never be in a long term relationship with a woman you’re in love with. Make a sound choice based on her merits and what she brings to the partnership, not your emotions. When you know you can find a better option and would be perfectly happy without her setting boundaries and maintaining your frame will be easy.
Being “head over heels” is for the young. You’re essentially telegraphing to the world you’re emotionally compromised and she will instinctively try to take advantage of that.
Relationships are an exchange of value in the end. Maintain yours at all cost and you’ll be a happy man.
Well said. 👏
Wise words. This is what fathers should be teaching their sons. It would have saved me a lot of time and energy to hear this truth at a younger age. Fortunately I learned it through experience, although some guys have similar experiences & choose to continue on blindly (a whole other strange topic for discussion). Thanks again for sharing the wisdom.
My boyfriend is like this. I know I need to be the best he has ever had. I love taking care of him. And I have so much respect for him. I try to be as sweet and kind to him. He is the most caring, hardworking and loving person, I’d never do anything to dishonor him or make his life harder. I try not to cry around him.
I'm a retired Private Investigator that spent much time in financial matters including hidden assets in divorce cases. In every situation the client was a woman, convinced the ex was holding out.
I also worked with reputation management lawyers in part to discover who was behind the extortion of men by allegedly aggrieved parties. One case was so pernicious that the client was forced to spend upwards of $300,000.00 to cleanse the internet of weaponized defamation. Part of my job was to get between the attacker and the victim so therefore I too was attacked. We eventually got a defamation judgment against the "women", which of course will never be paid.
It was just one of the events created by these predators.
Sweet! Thanks for the advice...Gonna implement this today!
I graduated a plate to GF, exclusive for 5 years (separate homes). I noticed a decline in fitness and care over several months, while I got jacked. One evening at a group gathering she hit me with a mildly snarky comment (mild contempt). I nexted immediately. My thinking, if she even imagines contempt she no longer sees me as her best option.
Good move.
Manufacturing Indignation
She was probably envious of your superior level of fitness and wanted to cut you down. Congratulations on your escape.
Could've given her at least a warning and show her where you stand hence setting up a clear boundary. Just leaving after a single mild offence is kinda harsh.
Avoid women they are dangerous to men's overall well being.
This is why you can't redpill women especially. Don't waste your time, even if you're trying to help them see why their relationships fail. They don't actually want answers when they ask, they just want attention and empathy, which can really be annoying for a man that wants to solve problems, not dwell on them.
A hundred percent brother that’s so true…I have recent experience of exactly this.
Yes AND ,.. many of them have other new men lined up and waiting for their turn in her DMs. This gives these women an idea that they don't have to WORK at a relationship, they just drop you, and nice of to the next.
BINGO!
They want you to listen and tel them they are a good person and it is not their fault but absolutely no suggestions they do anything different or are perhaps responsible in any slight way.
Oh yeah, forget reality. The sound of silence.
Congratulations on 700k subscribers!🎉
Man. I just love how you put it,keep preaching my brother. Love from kenya.
Learned long ago never argue with any woman. If they are being disrespectful immediately tell them what your issue is with them calmly. Immediately and calmly is the key fellas. Never allow yourself to go nuclear. If they don't apologize to you or their behavior doesnt improve, that should tell you all you need to know.
Right on, calmly is key. Once you start shouting, they draw you in and it's a lose lose situation.
@@awakenedone7577 Women sometimes misinterpret calmness for weakness.
@@Danimal77Calm doesn’t mean agreeable or passive though.
@@Killersushiofficialyou sound def raise your voice, speak up tell her one time and if she continues, dismiss her
More often than not you have to let reality do the talking.
Lesson from Dale Carnegie: the best way to win an argument is to avoid it
Sometimes, an argument is necessary. In the case of someone being wronged.
@@awakenedone7577 never argue
@@awakenedone7577 Incorrect. Arguments never ever win people over
@@jasonanderson1843I wouldn’t say NEVER but i will agree it is rare. There are individuals who can have their mind changed through a rational and logically reason argument but unfortunately the human ego prevents many people from doing so
To me, the best argument, to engage in an argument, is when the other person states something for the record that is not only false, but also very detrimental to you or your position. For example, if somebody falsely states that I owe them money and furthermore states that they are taking something of mine and then walking out the door to make up for this false crime, we are going to have an argument.
Two thoughts here about these ladies. One is that North American women are heavily medicated so some of the emotional volatility could be explained by prescription drugs or alcohol. Second, I lived in Asia for ten years and saw a number of men just walk away while their wife was speaking.....at first I thought it was disrespectful but as I've gotten older, I realized what a great communication tool it was!
I love what you talked about. I dealt with a problematic woman on Monday when a group of my co-workers went out. This girl who is new to our work place went out with us and she over heard me talk about my views on the dating market and she looked at me and smiled. Later in the evening I was talking to a guy friend and she came over to me and started drama out of the gate. I shut that conversation down and walked away. She showed me her true colors very early. Now mind you I was in no way interested in this girl because I don't date people who I work with. Moving forward I am going to ignore her. I'm very selective who I let in my life. Thanks for the solid advice.
Watch out!, the new employee might report you to HR, getting you fired for creating a hostile work environment.
That is why i left that kind of environment and went to the trucking industry,machine don't talk back to you and plus i make way more money.@@TheMarcuslindberg
I hit rock bottom in my marriage - a sort of emotional turning point where out of me poured incident after incident of some of the most awful interpersonal interactions between us over the course of years where my wife treated me with disrespect, emasculation and sometimes outright contempt. My wife sat there in shocked silence... she seemed unable to respond. I could tell that these terrible behaviors she engaged in where things that were so unimportant to her that she had never given them a second thought, while I let them eat at me.
When she finally recovered from the initial shock of it all, her response was to get hurt and try to make me feel bad. It was as if she was saying, "How dare you make me feel bad for treating you like shit."
Classic
Hahahahahahahaha
Thats the classic female there,
Narcissistic behaviour
Playing the victim. They excel at that!
As a guy in his 60's it took me a long time to learn not to roll with pigs. I don't even yellow card. I just walk away and break communication. They don't deserve my time, attention or presence.
One of the best advice videos, excellent, Rich !!!
I wish my wife and I argued more. No arguments, suppression> divorce
Divorced, took SIX years to find a woman with traditional values. No arguments. Both with the same goals. Both with a growth mindset. Both very capable of open communication and honesty. Both full knowing and understanding that women can be emotional and when she is being emotional SHE pulls away. These women exist… but they’re HARD TO FIND.
Work on yourself. Go to the gym. Grind at work. Find a good group of men to surround yourself with. Make yourself a high impact male… and these women will find YOU…
Stay strong; men.
Right. You have to do the work on your end as a man & part of the work is staying 100% firm / on-point with your message. Discipline is key. Many borderline women can be course-corrected but the man has to be consistent & unwavering on how he's going to live his life.
I once had a female colleague who used to give me hard time at work and was almost making me go crazy with arguments but when I decided to keep quite, do what I have to do; she became more respectful. A no is a no and a yes is a yes and no more argument. Thank you Rich! This is a golden advice for any man worldwide. It works in relationships and professional environment.
quiet
An argument is a premise and a conclusion.
The gap is too far, you will fall if you try to jump it.
Contradicting:
Yes, I can do it, you don't know me.
I've been happily married for over twenty years now. My wife and I have had maybe three major arguments in that time where she disrespected me and got irrational. The first time I gave her an ultimatum about what she was wound up about. I haven't heard about that topic in twenty years now.
The second time I spun on my heel and walked out; she followed and immediately apologized.
Last time I walked out the door and didn't come home until the middle of the night.
Mostly she acts like an adult and talks about disagreements. I'd say for two decades our track record is pretty good.
I think it is a great idea. I will give it some try. Thanks for your awesome insight
I tolerate absolutely ZERO of their BS. it's kept me healthy, wealthy, on path to early retirement, hobbies, peace, zero debt and none of them wasting my time. You're on the program of building a great life, or not. Keep the ones that aren't as far away from what you've got going for you. (Hint: it's, easily, 99%+ of westernized ones.)
Great stuff!
Brilliant insight.
Thank you so much for sharing
Same logic can be applied to emotional men. Don’t get into any fight where the opponent is using emotion as their weapon.
Emotional driven people = chimpanzee
Facts. Figure out when your about to meet someone's feelings with logic, recognize if they will be willing to listen, if they aren't abandon the plan and do not engage.
You cannot win an argument about emotions with logic because emotions are illogical.
exactly don't engage anything emotionally.
a chick I was seeing was trying to get me to be more emotional, she said some of her exes were very expressive and emotional, and she viewed my balanced state of mind as a weakness. I asked her why would I want to get so emotional about things when I could rest contented in a balanced peaceful state of mind, neither overly excited or depressed about any particular outcome of things that I cannot control. and I also explained, I am a man, what does she expect, I asked if it was back in time and there was a dangerous animal lurking about nearby, would she want an emotional man in that situation who saw the wolf and started getting emotional and crying, or would she want someone with a balanced state of mind who could remain calm and focus on the solutions. and then said to her if you want an emotional femine guy you are free to go find him. she actually respected and understood my words and had nothing to argue back at me with. I think she appreciated the 'lesson' too because she probably never viewed it from that angle and had only heard the mainstream feminist nonsense.
My narcissistic ex complained I wasn't emotional expressive enough too during the end of our relationship. In her mind, being over-the-top emotionally about insignificant things was how "normal" people deal with stress while being emotionally stoic was "sweeping things under the rug" in her eyes.
If being expressive and emotional are what she needs, why are they her exes now? Lol
I’ve been done! We have a daughter that’s about 5 now…but it’s becoming too toxic to continue even to help with the daughter together so I’m out ASAP!
We seemingly became totally different post pregnancy or she lied from the beginning.
So she wants control so it’ll be without me around.
It’s crazy and not worth subjecting a young one to the nonsense.
You've supplied the genetic material so you're no longer valued.
This is exactly how I handled drama from my now ex wife. I just wouldn’t engage with her when she was being ridiculous. I guess that wasn’t exciting enough for her so she divorced me eventually. Blessing in disguise.
When I start getting pushback I ask,”why are you arguing with me?” She says, ”I don’t know!” I then say, “Well STOP IT”
That doesn't work, because their emotions make them believe they are allowed to argue until they no longer feel what they are feeling.
Good idea.
My woman woman wouldn't say, "I don't know". She'd say either, she's not arguing, or you're arguing with me, or ask me the same question back. She is very childish and defensive. Can take zero accountability for her actions and has zero self-awareness. She could do no wrong according to her and always turns it around on me and plays the victim.
@@Danimal77why is she your woman
I like that one.
So well put!!!
Great advice!
I like the calendar idea alot.
I used that concept during a child custody battle 20+ years ago.
I noted all the events on a calendar and after about a year, my attorney presented it to the court.
My ex had no rebuttal, other than screaming and calling me names.
I won full custody.
Rich, this is great content. When my relationship was coming to an end with my ex-wife, she would become enraged and disregulated with anger (I found out later she was trying to make me miserable so that I would be the bad guy and leave). Near the end, I told her calmly that I wasn't going to argue with her, because nothing helpful would come of it. This infuriated her. I would eventually warn her (yellow card), then I would remove myself (usually, go to work or go grab a tea). I'd come back 2-3 hours later with a hastily written out 5 page letter (put on my pillow, symbolic of the moribund intimacy) raging about me. It felt horrible to argue, and I ended it. While I was miserable, I felt pride that I was able to support myself and take control of the situation by leaving the scene. Doing FAR better as a divorced dad of two young adult daughters. Much much happier.
Rich, your book has been a great post-war read for me.
Good stuff. Respect
Very informative👏🏾👍🏾💯
Really good advice. Been in a unhealthy relationship for many years - afraid to make that decision.
After 20 years I finally did end the relationship. It's the best thing I have done, however I wasted 20 years.
Don't be afraid to get rid of trash. If you observe just a few red flags, then get rid of her immediately.
Bro I have been doing this with women forever and is why I'm single at 37 on the 28th. Broke up with my last woman July '23. We kept having arguments, she would twist my words or my words would go through her filter and she literally hear or "understand" something totally different than what I said. I understand that relationships take work but there is a point where you are likely dealing with someone who is just disagreeable or has a dominance issue. When she starts becoming a repeat offender for whatever reason it doesn't matter, I start letting her know that her time is about to be up and start giving her warnings and then there is the final warning and when she acts up again I literally just leave, no conversation. I was living at her place cause I was in the transition of moving, literally through my shit in my car and got a hotel room for the next two weeks till my place was available. She cooked, she cleaned, did my laundry, sowed up some clothes that had holes in them and were clothes that I loved, sex amazing, attractiveness amazing but nothing can make up for problematic attitudes. Sorry brothers but you got to be able to identify them and let them go. As a man we have to understand that our value naturally rises as we get older, our options honestly only get better and if you are doing the work they get even better so don't be afraid to let her go and go out on your own. I get hit on by girls in their early 20's all the time, I'm not worried, the woman should be worried. And I would actually tell them that too but didn't matter, still stuck in their ways. You can't fix them guys and you should never be living in a scarcity mindset.
If you want the very best behavior from a woman........NEVER,EVER COMMIT TO HER.
Stop bringing women to your house. She will plot to take your house!!
Twisting your words, then responding to their version of your statement is called a 'strawman argument' and it's a manipluation tactic. It's pretty common for borderlines to do.
What kind of arguments? I can't believe a woman who takes care of you that well just start arguing for the sake of just arguing. I know that women like to argue in general but are you sure you haven't caused any of them? Cuz the ones that argue for the sake of arguing don't really take care of their men that well.
@@awakenedone7577 unfortunately there are a lot of really really great women out there that are still psychologically and emotionally broken from past trauma like a broken homes. She always felt like I would leave her yet there was nothing I could ever do to make her feel secure, no amount of affection, financial security like buying groceries or if she got sick I would pay to get her what she needed, fixed her car etc. She just always had that itch and that itch would find it's way into everything. And I by no means am saying that I'm perfect but I always wanted us to meet in the middle with a solution so we could move forward. There is a lot to it and impossible for me to explain here. I have met a good couple of girls like this though beautiful women inside and out but just damaged and toxic. You can't save them from themselves. Unfortunate.
I love this!
The calendar is a good one! Great advice.
Great advice.
I had a "three strikes and you're out" rule with my ex. Though as it's fair, I always said that strikes can be removed with time if she showed good attitude in the upcoming weeks. Though it may not be the best way to operate in a relationship because some people perform terrible under pressure, it is our decision to welcome a suitable person into our lives.
First two strikes happened within six months, before the third she was already cheating. If she can't or won't make it up to you, don't try to convince yourself that she's special. No one is, but you.
Venues have dress code for a reason, don't let everyone into your life.
As Paul Elam once said " Most men are specialised in living shit with a highly negotiable policy on self respect".
If you want the very best behavior out of a woman,NEVER COMMIT TO HER,EVER. it just that simple😅😂
“Venues have a dress code for a reason. Don’t let everyone into your life.” 👏👏👏
I took a nap when my wife was trying to fan the flames of the argument she was trying to have with me. I was woken up multiple times, once being the Thanksgiving turkey i didnt get to taste being in the dupster and another being her giving the wedding ring back. She left me a year later. Lesson learned.
Any luck dating now?
Great advice. Thank you.
Amazing advice! Thank you very much!
I agree. Especially the writing it down on the calendar part. Tracking bad behavior is a powerful tool to remind you when it's time to leave that mess behind.
Tbh, this is not restricted to women. I've met extremely irrational and emotional men (including my father) and trying to reason with people like that is an utter waste because they usually have personality orders which I didn't understand at the time. Anyone who grew up by narcisstic parents can probably relate. The only problem is it's much harder to ditch family than women.
Do you mean "personality disorders", baby Mosa? I think that's what you meant.
Been there, ditched my family and relatives, done that. Life feels so good without the constant drama shit and games. Happy to have found my peace at last. Man up and be responsible for your own lives, brothers! The family you make is more important than the family you come from. I left my biological family so my future children could have a better life than I had ❤
@@user-gp2sk9rs2qi did the same when i became a dad. Not for revenge but to protect my child from that tyranny i had to go through
@@DIVISIONINCISION yeah thats what I meant. Personality orders sounds funny.
@@user-gp2sk9rs2q How did you do that ? I find life to be extremely hard without familial support.
You’re absolutely right about the manufacturing!
Thanks for the advice 😊
Married guy here. The timing of this is funny as just a few days ago my wife threw one of those bawling hissy fits that she thankfully only does every 2-3 years. They are not always about something I did but this time it certainly was. It all began when she started losing an argument where she was clearly in the wrong but refused to admit it. Once her fit peaked she left the dinner table and went and bawled in another room and I just sat there and waited. About 10 min later she came back and continued the fit but at that point it was mostly over and I stayed calm until it was out of her system. She apologized and told me why she was really upset which to be fair was something we needed to talk about. We talked further when she was calmed down and are now working on our marriage like reasonable adults. We both work good paying jobs and have no kids so hopefully we can works things out, but we'll see what future holds. I swear though, those damn hissy fits lower a guys life expectancy...
Yep. And then a man needs to ask themselves if those fits and problems are worth the value she is providing to your life
Bro if she’s shit testing you chances are she’s already planning to exit the marriage. Those arguments regardless if your stoic or not, usually (not all the time) means she wants out of the relationship.
@@Redrum9899 or she is just a woman. And women are emotionally volatile...like a child. Doesnt necessarily mean she wants out if she throws fits from time to time...that's going to be almost every woman ever who is in a long term committed relationship
That's one one of they reasons why women outlive men...
The more I hear these stories the more I'm convinced being single is the path for this guy
My dad told me my grandfather (his father-in-law) told him that if your chick keeps following you trying to prompt an argument; climb a tree.
He tried it on my mom. She was so emotional she didn’t realize she was yelling at a man sitting in a tree. And once she did, she flinched, looked around, and went inside the house.
Genius.
Man, this is hilarious
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Very good video !
Hey, really good insights from you here.
My method works like this. If my wife wants "us" to do something that I don't really want, I simply say sure honey, you make a plan and I'll fix it. Since she is completely handicapped when it comes to take any type of action, nothing gets planned and nothing gets done. No fight.
@MikeKay1978 your description of your wife as "completely handicapped when it comes to take any type of action" leaves me wondering why you'd want to be married to such an ineffective woman.
Brilliant
I watched this to see what you were going to say on the matter, as I just had an argument with mine. Happy to say I treated it all just as you described. (Without the words yellow card/red card, but same process & actions.)
Luckily we don’t live together, so to de-escalate the heat of the moment I cut communication and said that I would talk to her when she comes back to normality. I am too old and jaded to ever want horrible memories of arguing with her so I made sure we didn’t and walked away to let her cool off. At a point in my life where tolerating that behaviour is no longer in my interest. If she carries on again when we reconvene I’m happy to let her go and I will stand by that. It’s just not on anymore. Thanks for your video dude.
Really good and practical advice
This is something I’ve realized over my last 2 relationships. Gold, Jerry. GOLD!!
What do you do with a woman that doesn’t leave you alone if you walk away? Or doesn’t allow you to walk away? Thats how my 17 year marriage was. Needless to say, no longer with her.
1. Call the cops.
2. Call your lawyer.
This is GOLD
Great advice sir! 👍
I guess everyone has a reason to want a relationship. I've been single after my divorce 20 years ago and totally enjoy me life now. Drama free, nag free, do what I want when I want, enjoy my cars or bikes whenever, could never be bothered to want a relationship again.
I think that’s a damn fine lifestyle alright but what if you still have the craving for sex? or does your plan include casual girlfriends?
I kinda got myself in a ditch a couple months back. When I withdrew my attention, she would go and seek it from other men by posting provocative pics & videos on Instagram. It really messed with my head but I finally gave up on her and broke up.
I'm concerned with this, too. While it would be nice to just be free of women, the sex - and some occasional non-sexual benefits - make it so we put up with their personalities.
Don't withdraw attention and lose investment