FEAR of HURTING OTHERS
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- Опубликовано: 23 июн 2021
- This week's love video is for those who are in constant fear of hurting others. You care about people's feelings so much that you would sacrifice your own needs to accommodate people around you. You have done this so much that you feel that you are losing part of yourself in the process. In this video, I share the 4 keys to free you from this "not so fun" place of being. Here are the 4 keys:
1- Accept that you are a caring, thoughtful, and considerate human being/high sensitive/empath. This fear is the shadow side of those traits.
2- Ask yourself: What would be the worst-case scenario if you are truthful to others of your needs? Then you can shine the light on that fear head-on.
3- Take a stand for your needs and understand that your feelings belong to you and others' feelings belong to them.
4- Give space to others to take a stand for their own needs. It is not your responsibility to shield them from their own pain, processing, and growth.
Be kind and considerate and thoughtful to yourself as you are to others. You deserve that! When you come from a place of love, in the end, people will know. The rest of the work is to close the gap of your good intention to the outcomes you desire. It is important to let others do the work as much you are doing it yourself.
I love your point about accepting that you care for others, that you might be an empath or highly sensitive person. Accepting yourself is such a great first step to learning to set better boundaries and to let go of the fear of hurting others
Yes to all of it 👐. Thank you for sharing that, Hannah❣️
I fear hurting someone’s feelings because it just makes me think how dumb and thoughtless I was. I can’t help it. I’ll get angry if I feel someone is taking advantage or trying to making a fool out of me.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. That is understandable how you are feeling. Even though it feels like you can't help it at the moment, you can help yourself by choosing to show up at the moment differently, even though it may feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar. You've got this!
Thank you!❤️🤗
Hi thank you so much for this video I struggle to move on from past situations or relationships where I felt like I hurt people . I’m still a teenager but the shame and guilt can be overwhelming sometimes. I have a big fear of being misunderstood or making people uncomfortable. I hope to learn from my mistakes and be my authentic self in the future .Thank you so much ❤
hi I have this fear of hurtng my friends so when they say Im hurting them I starting to loose my breath, crying and my chest started to get heavy so I am very thankful to see or hear this video
Thank you. I feel like I can be myself now that I realize my fear of being authentic comes from the fear of hurting others which only comes from an area of love and care for others, and that makes me feel better about my personality and all the imperfections that come with it! :)
Thanks a lot Miss🥰 ,I have lost many friends because of my fear of hurting them and myself....I also have been denying I am a high sensitive person....trying to show myself as a rude person , I always described myself as a stone ,as a piece of ice without feelings but that was not correct as I am realising now...
Markus: thank you for sharing your thoughts. As you are stepping into your authentic self, new friends will come into your life that aligns with who you are. Trust yourself! You've got this
I wish you the best, it looks like you have already came a long way to realise all this
Take care :)
Finding myself
Thank you, I needed this
Thank you so much for explaining this!! I am
Probably an empath and never felt understood. I was always told to not be that sensitive when i didn’t want to watch something like horror movies.
Marie: I can't imagine the pain of not feeling understood. By having a deeper understanding of yourself will definitely help minimize that pain. I appreciate your share 😍🙏 sending you a virtual hug from Oahu
I feel blessed that i found your video. Your knowledge is just what i was looking for.
I've been with my bf for 7 years since I was 17. Because of this i never got to know anything else, but i want to live. I love him, but more as a friend and I feel like i'd rather hurt myself than hurt him. At the same time im robbing him of his happiness. Im so stuck in this aweful situation and i cant seem to choose
gratitude for the relief bringing counsel 🙏💛
Some life circumstances make it harder for empathy like ccptsd
madam, you're speaking facts! now that you mentioned those things, it's like you were describing my whole being even though we don't know each other personally. thanks a lot! god bless you
Keep your beautiful heart open, Ian! Thank you for sharing your thoughts :-)
Thank you for this video🙏
Thank you so much for this video
Gratitude 🙏🏾
Thank you! That's helpful. Space management awareness into a yoga of allowing. For Love to breath
Thank you.
Thank you. This has been very helpful to understand myself a little better.
That is great to hear Linda! Understanding oneself is quite a task. Keep up the innerwork!
Thank you
Thank you Woman of God’s!
Great Video! So Positive and True! A+
Thank you for your kind words 😇🙏
You helped me a lot with ur content . thank u so much ❤
You are welcome! Please feel free to let me know what topic you would like me to share with you on :-)
Thank you for this, because I’ve been scared dating anyone because I used to have anger problems. I’m sure this helped.
Reeeee: allow your fears to pass and connect to your heart 🙂
When you got to stick up for yourself, don't think about being nice and how your words or your actions hurts people, don't be a coward as I used to be.
Thks ❤🎉😊
You are so beautiful, thank you so much for sharing! xo
😍🙏 appreciate your kind words
This is very helpful.
btw your channel could just be named Hanging with Mrs Hang or just Hanging with hang. it would make more sense this way
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Very helpful, thank you. Does this also relate to our fear of saying NO to ourself and others?
Absolutely! I invite you to explore that further within yourself and experience how true is that for you?!
Please may I have answers. I've been through alot growing up and even now. I feel like I've lost emotions and empathy and sympathy. I'm so afraid I may hurt someone because eof this. I scare myself with how blank and plain I feel. I dunno what to do.
Thank you for sharing. I hope by now, you feel more grounded and centered within yourself. It is okay to feel and experience emotions as you are being human. Give yourself the gift of being with uncomfortable emotions. It is okay! It will pass. It doesn't stay unless you make it so. You've got this!
Yes, I am a general manager and empath so when I try to coach or hit them with reality then I feel bad and comfort them. It does no good for both and I want to stop....any tips?
I feel like I can break up with her now, I'm not ready for what she wants
One of my biggest insecurities: I am scared I hurt someone. And that I should stay away. The more steps i make towards people, the more steps they take back. I also dont get up and leave. That's what my old family did. Why would I do this to you? I wanted to you give you and others some space... and I was scared I did sth wrong again. Simple... Just ask me next time... dont assume such things please... i dont withhold love.
Thank you for sharing that, Son! Continue to take one step at a time and break the old pattern. 🙂🙏
Every time on pe and I hurt someone with out knowing like on floor ball I just go in another changeing room and then I just feel bad and think im stupid dum bad person and then I think that they always call me samething bad and
People will probably think i’m overreacting or insane when I say this, but I fear hanging out with couples cause either it’s a 3sum or you always end up dying especially if they get into an argument. They always feel hurt at the end but it’s like have common sense 😒
What mbti type are you?
Hlo mam,mam I have a fear of hurting someone as I am a student right now I have a fear that if I will come first in exam the other might feel bad, who wants it to. This fear takes place in different situation but Because of this fear my studies are hampering.
Must needed one for me thank you hang 💙
I am glad you found the video is helpful. You've got this!
fear of hurting people?? How come the people in my life dont have this :(??
Because they are not you! You focus on yourself and let people be them.
I can't relate to this one unfortunately
It is okay. Not everything is for everyone. Enjoy the season you are in. Perhaps you can forward it to those who can relate to it at this time in their life.
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Thank you