I sought a diagnosis and the therapist was cruel and dismissive. Sadly, I have a pretty textbook collection of symptoms that's making my life almost impossible. I get a lot of people frustrated with my talking, interrupting, and lateness. I overcompensated by trying to stay silent and get places super early. It's a bummer I have to figure it all out on my own. I'm grateful for videos like this.
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. It can be so hard to find the right fit when it comes to picking a therapist. Sometimes, it can take several attempts! Don't give up :) Here's an article we published to help find a neuro-diverse affirming therapist for things like ADHD: www.choosingtherapy.com/find-a-neurodiverse-affirming-therapist/ We also have a ton of articles and resources on ADHD, we'll include it below for you: www.choosingtherapy.com/category/adhd/ Here's our ADHD playlist too, which is also a good start to researching on your own: ruclips.net/p/PLjS3iJEelRfjjzmmMGGsjrCEYphQ5lYrG&si=MvoKGChT4DSe_rr1 Hope this helps!
Please don’t give up and advocate for yourself. The psych dept dismissed me at my healthcare and I found a therapist that feels I may have it and listened to me, so I’m reaching out to my doctor again. You’re not alone.
Therapists and doctors are people just like us. Some are incredible and some just suck at their jobs. There are so many more options and resources out there for you to try. I really hope for your sake that you pursue this! Because unfortunately, if you don’t, it’s ultimately not the cruel and dismissive therapist’s fault that you are still suffering. That probably just sounded pretty dismissive itself, but it took a lot to shake me out of the mentality that things were being done TO me. Try thinking in a slightly different way, like things are happening for me not to me. Find some people who inspire you to get out of your comfort zone. Mel Robbins is an amazing woman! Listen to or watch her a few times and I think maybe things will start to change for you. Sorry I just rambled on and on there!
@@SharonCampbell-qb5wttell your granddaughter from me and all the people with adhd that I’ve met, including the adhd kids I’ve worked with for 20 years, that people with adhd are actually extra smart, and they are all very, very talented in more than one thing ❤
I am a male and have these inattentive symptoms. I have had hyperfocus since i can remember. I always was a day dreamer and my report grades at school had the phrase "needs to apply himself", "needs to be more organized and less distracted in class".
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with inattentive ADHD. This definitely needs to be talked about more! Imagine if learning was 100% tailored to an individuals needs rather than what's deemed as the norm. You're not alone in this experience! Here are some ADHD resources we've published: www.choosingtherapy.com/coping-mechanisms/ www.choosingtherapy.com/category/adhd/
Ditto 😢 but my GP is fantastic and has just referred me to a psychiatrist following a long consultation and online form. This is the NHS though and a 7-9 month wait. Better that than nothing. I'm 49.
I feel seen. I struggle so much with inattention and it’s so difficult for me to not daydream esp in meetings. I also interrupt and I used to get in trouble for talking to much when I was a child so I’ve learned to stay quiet. Other kids used to describe me as an airhead because it always seemed like my mind was somewhere else, drifting. Time management is hard but I regularly set alarms and check the clock constantly. The poor emotional regulation, the rejection sensitivity in dating, etc I truly believe I need to see someone to get properly diagnosed.
Thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on ADHD in women that you might find helpful. There are resources within the articlr: www.choosingtherapy.com/adhd-in-women/ Hope this helps!
I liked a lot of the things that you mention in this video, but I just had to address something, and I am saying this with respect, as I always appreciate people creating awareness around ADHD. But ADHD is absolutely not a mental health disorder like you say. ADHD is a neurodevelopemental disorder, or a neurodevelopemental difference as I prefer to call it. It is scientifically proven to be caused by a difference in brain developement compared to non-adhd people. Calling it a mental health disorder makes it seem like something one can recover from, which is not true. ADHD is something one is born with, and it does not go away., but it can be managed with accomodations and for some people medicine like you mention. And again, I am not saying this to be disespectful, but as a person with ADHD I react strongly when it is called something it is not.
Thank you for the feedback! You are correct, ADHD is a neurological condition and reflects in the article we published on ADHD in women: www.choosingtherapy.com/adhd-in-women/
@@choosingtherapy I appreciate your response. I read through the article and it was very well written and very informative! Thank you for creating more awareness surrounding adhd in women :)
Didn’t realize women are often misdiagnosed with depression instead of ADHD… How can women make sure that doesn’t happen to them? How do you bring this up with a doctor/therapist?
One of the most important things you can do is find a therapist who specializes in ADHD and advocate for yourself. Making a list of your symptoms is a good first place to start and asking your therapist to explore an ADHD diagnosis.
I had to keep rewinding this video because I kept losing attention, zoning out! When I listened to it all the way through (which took almost twice the time of the length of the video), I discovered that most, if not all of it applied to me! I am in chaos. I live in chaos. And things are getting worse each year.
Practically EVERYTHING you listed fits me. You mentioned time blindness and problems with timekeeping. I have Dyscalculia so I just put my number problems down to that. But now I read into things, perhaps my Dyscalculia has been covering up me possibly having ADHD all along. I say this because the older I’m getting and the more my hormones are changing (especially after being taken off birth control), the more symptoms I’m getting of ADHD that are completely wrecking my tactics I learned to cope with my Dyscalculia.
Hi there! Thanks for sharing...Here's an article we published that goes over adhd in women and how hormones come into play. www.choosingtherapy.com/inattentive-adhd-in-women/ Hope this helps!
Thank you for sharing. I could only watch part of this video because it looks like it's constantly starting and stopping as the points being explained are changing, and it was making me feel anxious and angry. I did get information though! Thank you!
Thanks for the feedback, we appreciate it! Perhaps reading the article we published would be more beneficial. You can read that here: www.choosingtherapy.com/adhd-in-women/
I'm pretty sure I have ADD, but haven't yet been diagnosed with ADD - I will soon though. I'm diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Affective Disorder and I'm curious to know how common it is to have both AD(H)D and Bipolar Disorder? And how often people with Bipolar Disorder get misdiagnosed with ADHD and vice versa? The reason for asking is that I have come to know that there are a lot of overlapping symptoms and some few distinquishing symptoms.
I sought a diagnosis and the therapist was cruel and dismissive. Sadly, I have a pretty textbook collection of symptoms that's making my life almost impossible. I get a lot of people frustrated with my talking, interrupting, and lateness. I overcompensated by trying to stay silent and get places super early. It's a bummer I have to figure it all out on my own. I'm grateful for videos like this.
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. It can be so hard to find the right fit when it comes to picking a therapist. Sometimes, it can take several attempts! Don't give up :)
Here's an article we published to help find a neuro-diverse affirming therapist for things like ADHD: www.choosingtherapy.com/find-a-neurodiverse-affirming-therapist/
We also have a ton of articles and resources on ADHD, we'll include it below for you:
www.choosingtherapy.com/category/adhd/
Here's our ADHD playlist too, which is also a good start to researching on your own: ruclips.net/p/PLjS3iJEelRfjjzmmMGGsjrCEYphQ5lYrG&si=MvoKGChT4DSe_rr1
Hope this helps!
thank you. Sometimes I want to give up and just ride around on a bicycle lol I appreciate the resources and will check them out.
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Please don’t give up and advocate for yourself. The psych dept dismissed me at my healthcare and I found a therapist that feels I may have it and listened to me, so I’m reaching out to my doctor again. You’re not alone.
Therapists and doctors are people just like us. Some are incredible and some just suck at their jobs. There are so many more options and resources out there for you to try. I really hope for your sake that you pursue this! Because unfortunately, if you don’t, it’s ultimately not the cruel and dismissive therapist’s fault that you are still suffering. That probably just sounded pretty dismissive itself, but it took a lot to shake me out of the mentality that things were being done TO me. Try thinking in a slightly different way, like things are happening for me not to me. Find some people who inspire you to get out of your comfort zone. Mel Robbins is an amazing woman! Listen to or watch her a few times and I think maybe things will start to change for you. Sorry I just rambled on and on there!
Just get a new therapist. Don’t go at it alone 😢
I have a student exhibiting these behaviors. Thank you. We’ll see if we can help her.
My grandaughter has just been diagnosed &can't handle her diagnoses she thinks it means she's stupid life is a nightmare just now x
@@SharonCampbell-qb5wttell your granddaughter from me and all the people with adhd that I’ve met, including the adhd kids I’ve worked with for 20 years, that people with adhd are actually extra smart, and they are all very, very talented in more than one thing ❤
I am a male and have these inattentive symptoms. I have had hyperfocus since i can remember. I always was a day dreamer and my report grades at school had the phrase "needs to apply himself", "needs to be more organized and less distracted in class".
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with inattentive ADHD. This definitely needs to be talked about more! Imagine if learning was 100% tailored to an individuals needs rather than what's deemed as the norm. You're not alone in this experience!
Here are some ADHD resources we've published: www.choosingtherapy.com/coping-mechanisms/
www.choosingtherapy.com/category/adhd/
Ditto 😢 but my GP is fantastic and has just referred me to a psychiatrist following a long consultation and online form. This is the NHS though and a 7-9 month wait. Better that than nothing. I'm 49.
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Can't finish Books. Novels might take forever. Distraction all the Time. Procrastination, Bulleyes.
I feel seen. I struggle so much with inattention and it’s so difficult for me to not daydream esp in meetings. I also interrupt and I used to get in trouble for talking to much when I was a child so I’ve learned to stay quiet. Other kids used to describe me as an airhead because it always seemed like my mind was somewhere else, drifting. Time management is hard but I regularly set alarms and check the clock constantly. The poor emotional regulation, the rejection sensitivity in dating, etc I truly believe I need to see someone to get properly diagnosed.
Thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on ADHD in women that you might find helpful. There are resources within the articlr: www.choosingtherapy.com/adhd-in-women/
Hope this helps!
I liked a lot of the things that you mention in this video, but I just had to address something, and I am saying this with respect, as I always appreciate people creating awareness around ADHD. But ADHD is absolutely not a mental health disorder like you say. ADHD is a neurodevelopemental disorder, or a neurodevelopemental difference as I prefer to call it. It is scientifically proven to be caused by a difference in brain developement compared to non-adhd people. Calling it a mental health disorder makes it seem like something one can recover from, which is not true. ADHD is something one is born with, and it does not go away., but it can be managed with accomodations and for some people medicine like you mention. And again, I am not saying this to be disespectful, but as a person with ADHD I react strongly when it is called something it is not.
Thank you for the feedback! You are correct, ADHD is a neurological condition and reflects in the article we published on ADHD in women: www.choosingtherapy.com/adhd-in-women/
@@choosingtherapy I appreciate your response. I read through the article and it was very well written and very informative! Thank you for creating more awareness surrounding adhd in women :)
Wow this video really hit home for me. I didn’t know woman and men experience ADHD in different ways. Thank you!
Hey there! Thanks for the feedback ❤️
Didn’t realize women are often misdiagnosed with depression instead of ADHD… How can women make sure that doesn’t happen to them? How do you bring this up with a doctor/therapist?
One of the most important things you can do is find a therapist who specializes in ADHD and advocate for yourself. Making a list of your symptoms is a good first place to start and asking your therapist to explore an ADHD diagnosis.
Absolutely I was originally I have a dual diagnosis of Asperger’s and Combined ADHD with complex mathematics disabilities
I had to keep rewinding this video because I kept losing attention, zoning out!
When I listened to it all the way through (which took almost twice the time of the length of the video), I discovered that most, if not all of it applied to me!
I am in chaos. I live in chaos. And things are getting worse each year.
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Here I am having trouble focusing on what she is saying.
Practically EVERYTHING you listed fits me.
You mentioned time blindness and problems with timekeeping. I have Dyscalculia so I just put my number problems down to that. But now I read into things, perhaps my Dyscalculia has been covering up me possibly having ADHD all along.
I say this because the older I’m getting and the more my hormones are changing (especially after being taken off birth control), the more symptoms I’m getting of ADHD that are completely wrecking my tactics I learned to cope with my Dyscalculia.
I’m a guy, yet identify with many of these things. I also have Dyscalculia which I put down to terrible math skills. How have you managed with these?
Hi there! Thanks for sharing...Here's an article we published that goes over adhd in women and how hormones come into play. www.choosingtherapy.com/inattentive-adhd-in-women/
Hope this helps!
Homeopathy is a great alternative to Ritalin and Adderal.
I think I’ll restart talk therapy. I don’t need it per se but it helps me organize my thoughts. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. Best of luck to you =)
Thank you for sharing. I could only watch part of this video because it looks like it's constantly starting and stopping as the points being explained are changing, and it was making me feel anxious and angry. I did get information though! Thank you!
Thanks for the feedback, we appreciate it! Perhaps reading the article we published would be more beneficial. You can read that here: www.choosingtherapy.com/adhd-in-women/
I'm pretty sure I have ADD, but haven't yet been diagnosed with ADD - I will soon though. I'm diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Affective Disorder and I'm curious to know how common it is to have both AD(H)D and Bipolar Disorder? And how often people with Bipolar Disorder get misdiagnosed with ADHD and vice versa?
The reason for asking is that I have come to know that there are a lot of overlapping symptoms and some few distinquishing symptoms.
I have a private student and I'm suspecting ADHD. Shes super intelligent but messed up her A levels. How can i suggest it?
Ughhh I have all of these, sometimes I feel crazy