Here is me predicting the end of this movie - you're going to achieve great things for the ADHD community. Thank you for helping us understand ourselves better 🙏
Thank you so much for this video, you have come far with this and I am glad that it works. Keep on going Nic with your research and helping people. God bless 🙏✝️
I don't know if this counts as predicting the plot since it was a real event. In 1994, either the first or second day after Susan Smith claimed an African-American man stole her car with her two children in it, the guy I was dating and I were at the gym watching one of the police briefings. Out of the blue, I just knew and said, 'she killed them. Chris looked at me like I was crazy. Sadly, I was right.
Repetitive listening to same song on repeat, disliking afternoon appointments, competitiveness, hoarding for memories, not throwing away old items. Yip.
Love your video! Another "secret" symptom is having multiple types drinks on hand. I didn't realize others with ADHD did this until I saw a meme about. "One for caffeine, one for flavor, one for hydration." is often the standard.
Perfectionism can also contribute to what looks like hoarding (but isn't). "I don't know where this will ultimately go, so I'm going to leave it here as a visual reminder. Yes, I know I'll become blind to it after a few days to weeks... I never said it was a GOOD system!"
Growing up in poverty will also do that. If something is useful, you save it; because you don't trust that you'll be able to obtain it when you do need it.
I really appreciate you repeating the point at the end of describing each one. Most creators don't do that, and it's easy for me to forget what it was.
I actually thought he was introducing the topic again, as if the last minutes had been just a preview. Took me a couple of those to realize he was repeating them to *finish* the topic.
I actually prefer afternoon appointments over morning ones because revenge bedtime procrastination causes me to sleep at late hours in the morning… or more so evening appointments are best. 😊
I have been like this. So I have a second school of thought. The second one is getting stuff done and forcing myself over the week to fight against the grain. At night I won't contemplate, it is a so-called law that I am getting up at said time to get a to-do list going before work. If I can block out time to get something done, I'll schedule an appointment. Okay so maybe I'm just nuts. I'll look at it like a marathon, I'll coast easily through stuff, I will mentally have a tight event schedule where I loop on the map from home to work and back home, block out time (say that I will do something and if I only pickup one thing or move something, then good and if more is done good, but when time is up then I move on. I will go over, I will rush through a shower, and I will end up speeding to work. However in this I will "enjoy" the task more and find it acceptable with hansei/kaizen in mind), etc. it's whatever the day calls for in the idea of what fits best in my mind. Idk why I'm sharing... Edit*- i like the scrolling comments feature on mobile, but it took forever to find this one and i had to stop and answer more while forgetting what i started searching for. Thankfully i compensate by knowing the..."mist" or "aura" of what i am searching for, and some slight photographic memory. It just blurs out the words and i can see the outline of what was said like a fingerprint. "Okay, two lines, second line was halfway filled, started with the word actually in the first part or something"
Or projects...I have found using a few apps help. Tower defender and a tanks app from io. Good strong hits and frequently to get the daily and weekly tasks done and then listen to Simon or Markiplier and group on RUclips. May sub out to Neil degrasse. It depends. Super yes.
Revenge bedtime procrastination. RUclips is my addiction because formulaic movie scripts have gotten too predictable and boring. I never knew this was an ADHD thing. I just can't force myself to go to bed until I literally can no longer stay awake. Consequently afternoon appointments are the only appointments I can have because I can't get up in the morning.
My mind is completely blown right now. As a 50+yr old woman who only realized recently (while struggling w perimenopause) that I’ve probably been ADHD my whole life,, this video explained even more behaviors I’ve always had & thought they were character deficits. Equally crazy is I am 20 years into mothering a boy with ADHD and only in the last year or two realize that I suffer from it as well because it looks so different in me.
The unique sense of justice and even WITHDRAWING from people that don't act like us was what blew my mind in this video plus the wanting everyone to BE accountable for their own actions. Now I understand that ADHD has helped me be self-aware and stop playing blame games faster than MANY neurotypicals:))) Also, as a Gen Z'er Crazy Frog Axel F is SOO nostalgic, I have been MEANING to find the title of that bam dum duh duh song for SO long and who knew that this is WHERE I will find the answer LITT video Nik, tysmm
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporees I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
My middle child used to guess the murderer in the Mysteries I used to watch like Poirot. He was right every single time. He has ADHD. He also learns languages really easily thru comprehensible input. He can just make connections easily. 😊
@@makichandes I once watched a CSI episode with friends who had seen the episode before. I called out the murderer in the teaser, hadn't even hit the opening theme song yet. Before the episode was done I said where a vital piece of evidence would be.
@@vladimiradoshev5310me, too! The pronunciation part is easy b/c I was in speech therapy for 6.5 years, starting in grade school. I’m so glad it was available.
40 years ago I predicted a major plot twist in a British soap opera (Brookside) many months before it happened - a character about to marry the man of her dreams pranged her car due to being so stressed by her wedding preparations, I turned to my flatmates and said 'She'll ditch her fiance and marry the driver of the car she just pranged'. My flatmates thought I was crazy, I thought they were sooooo slow for not seeing what was as clear as day, none of us had even heard of ADHD. I wish I'd placed money on it, but their disbelief as the plot began to unfold months later was priceless.
lol my friend was showing my downton abbey and 15 minuets in I was like oh, so that character is gay and in a secret relationship with that character. She paused the show and to gape at me and asked who told me. I thought it was obvious.
I get frustrated with others who hav no concept of predictive logic & forseeable outcomes_ is this an ADHD trait ? I've always assumed it's my Virgo brain & a reasonable understanding of Maths, re: cause to effect, & percentages of probability _ but l don't understand how I can grasp those concepts but b absolutely clueless about other things_ 🦘
Living in a country that do not recognise ADHD in adults makes it difficult to get a diagnosis and treatment. this is why these videos are immensely useful and educational thank you sm
That must be incredibly difficult to deal with. In the USA it’s a known thing but stigma and a full grasp on it in adults still makes it difficult to feel seen and validated even with an official diagnosis. I wish you the best in your journey and you are not alone.
@JingYuans_sparrow I'm so sorry! here in the USA, even though it's much talked about in school and medical settings, it's still something the average person isn't really familiar with in detail. I don't share with just anyone. It's easy to get diagnosed and treated here but..for many many years it was considered a behavior of young kids- especially boys. I wish you all the best my friend. There are so many good videos here on RUclips to help you. It's never too late. I suffered my entire life and found out I had ADHD at age 59! ❤ 8:04
Thank you for sharing this! I feel understood, finally after 30 years of living with adhd, I took the steps to see a psychiatrist and got “formally diagnosed”. Having ADHD is frustrating I get annoyed when I forget the simplest things or walking towards whatever I need to grab and on my way there, I forget what I need to grab. Thank you for all of your videos. I’m not alone.
That's my thing. I answer the questions as "no" but that is because it makes sense to answer no. I compensate like an iceberg. So the answer is true, but the reality is yes. Like if I go back to college, the first year will be absurdly easy. Second year I'll fall on my face. Comp one. Easy. Comp two...understand it, but pliers to my own healthy teeth. It's hard to stay in the mindset though. Super hard.
Just took the test and CGI gave me a mid range score. I'm 67 and I know I would have scored much higher 20 years ago. I had an abusive childhood; violence, incest and more. I did a lot of work on myself for 25 years when I was younger and then went back to therapy for a couple more years to brush up. I'm pleased that I have overcome so much of the trauma and can function normally but it never entirely goes away. I appreciate your content and you I felt a bit anxious by the speed of your delivery. Mostly because I talk too fast. Thank you
The last point broke me... I've been having a really bad time and struggling bc I have been trying to declutter my house for years and I didn't knew why I would keep so many things even "declutter" after "declutter", and yes, my greatest fear is to forget all those moments in my life.
Maybe check out Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean. ? (It was supposed to be her ‘practice blog’ while she figured out how to manage her house in a way that worked with the way her brain works, then she was going to write about stuff she loved & was actually good at! ) I’ve found her very helpful- and very funny!
Yup same. It’s why I have started to be extra particular about what new things I bring into my house because I know I have such a hard time getting rid of things. One thing I started to do to help me “declutter” is stop labeling the things I care about as clutter. That removes a lot of stigma and shame in my head around the decision to keep it or not. Then I start grouping together the things that remind me of the same memories (I usually have a pile of things that remind me of the same thing). I then choose 1 or 2 items that bring the most powerful memories and kind of tie the other things to those so now I can hold 1 thing and remember all the other things. Example: I had a cousin who passed away that I was close to, one year out of the blue she gave me a stuffed bear, she would give me other toys and such but that bear always reminded me of her the most. So now I still have the bear but some of the other toys that didn’t evoke the same warmth and strength of memories were given away to make someone else happy. I do keep anything written though. Any card given to me with handwriting or notes on them I keep. I even started getting pretty boxes to keep them in so they are treated or look like clutter. I am still trying to think of a way to display them but displaying cards is hard in my brain because I want to be able to open them!
What about taking photos of some of the stuff. Have a memory album on your device or even when you have a lot of photos go get it printed out as an album/book and with meaningful comments by the pictures. Just an idea. I am trying to make physical photo album of my kids for years to no avail😂 So easier said than done 😅
It's not so much the keeping of stuff, it's keeping EVERYthing right in front of me. I've learned to try to sort into 'HOT' storage (at hand), and 'COLD' storage (in a box in the closet). I still have it, but less visual clutter.
I have Autism and ADHD. Some people are autistic and think it's only Autistic symptoms but it's also ADHD. Definitely worth learning about Autistic symptoms. Guarantee many will seek further diagnosis
It took me a long time to realize having both has made my brain just CONSTANTLY argue with itself and somehow be understimulated in some ways while being overstimulated in others. People want me on meds for it, but I don’t like how empty and uncreative they made me, so I choose to manage my symptoms through different ways. But yeah, I didn’t know that most people don’t physically argue inside their head with their id, ego, and superego. I like the company and hate being alone. What can I say? 😂
Yeah same. I only recently realized how odd it is that I like to watch the same movies over and over. Like after 30 years it finally occurred to me I was the only person I know who does this
Mmmmm super simple process. (I am a comedian) One thing I have found that helps me with the hoarding is taking a photo or video of the object. Then I can save the memory, but not have to store the object.
I like to touch and hold items I have kept for memories. You can't touch a video or picture and feel the material it's made from, the coolness or warmth of it, the softness or hardness. It's just not the same.
Spot on. All of a sudden EVERYTHING makes sense. Greetings from a German "Psychologischer Psychotherapeut" turned Coach (with ADHD) living in Australia. Cheers!
I also love predicting events in real life, in daily life, politics, business, etc. I like to think I'm pretty good at it, and it's satisfying to be right, but also so thrilling to be wrong and be surprised, too.
Me too. I feel like I’m ahead on trends, like society cues are easy to read where trends are headed. Wish I could make this into a job somehow. I think this is why I also really enjoy the stock market
OMG, and thank you. I have been dealing with ADHD since I was 9, diagnosed in 1993 and still struggle with it at age 67. This is the first and only video that describes my ADHD brain so precociously and accurately that it is scary. Overly sensitive to rejection-check. Seeing and experiencing the world differently-check. Predicting story plots early-check. Fast processing and pattern recognition- double check. Thank you ADHDVision for finally giving me the words to explain to people that its is not just me.
I have a tip I’ll share based on your favorite song data. I created a playlist called “my rhythm” of songs that make me feel calm and I never skip when they come on. It’s only about 10, and I listen to the playlist when I’m anxious. It’s like comfort food for my ears. (Diagnosed ADHD)
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@@AnaSolano190 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
I replay songs until I memorize every note and word so I can play and sing it inside my head. And sometimes out loud. And yes, singing shuts off my creativity and the voices in my head so that I can perform repetitive physical tasks at the highest level possible for me. Adderall has the same effect, but I cannot get it prescribed.
This video made me cry. Not because i realized that i have untreated ADHD, but because i know i have a severe case of untreated ADHD that is making my everyday living hell, and i can barely leave the house because of it. I haven't been able to do anything about it for 15 years now, a combination of child trauma, untreated severe ADHD since 7 yo, and addictions have fried my brain. I feel like my brain is programmed for a very slow self-destruction, and i don't see a way out..
That is a powerful statement. Addiction is an often un-acknowledged symptom of ADHD, like we are trying to self treat our symptoms and sometimes choose the worst way to do so. My parents are good examples in that they found out they were truly different from their friends because when they did speed they calmed down and were able to function. It’s one key reason why I hate that some doctors don’t want to treat ADHD because they don’t acknowledge or understand all the costs associated with not treating it. You can do something, you are not powerless (but you feeling that way is valid, your brain can be a tricky enemy sometimes). Google ADHD specialist in your area or online and see if you can get a diagnosis at least (an official diagnosis can help open a lot of doors) or an appointment (online or in person). It will probably take time and feel hopeless, but the sooner you start the sooner it will happen (choose your favorite dopamine rush as a reward or as a pre-game, e.g. I live coffee so I will study at a cafe so I can grab my favorite drink whenever I start loosing concentration). Don’t be afraid to tell the person scheduling that you need help ASAP or that you want to be put on the cancellation list (when someone else can’t make an appointment, they give it to you). I really hope that you can find a way out or if you can’t, you have the strength to ask someone for help. And even if your brain was “fried” by addiction, that doesn’t mean it’s over or that you can’t do anything. You may struggle to do what you used to find easy, but that isn’t a moral failing, you just may need to adjust :-) like any muscle or organ, the brain can recover to an extent with exercise:-)
So I just wrote a novel that then got deleted.... but I just want to encourage you to at least set a goal to get out of your house for 5-10 minutes. I have been dealing with severe emotional dysregulation due to my ADHD, and my therapist basically made me promise to leave my house for a 5-10 minute walk to just get some endorphins going in my brain. At the time I didn't think it helped, but a week later, I can tell you that it definitely got the ball rolling on being able to at least do the basics to keep myself going. I also don't know what country you are in so not sure of the healthcare options, but even imperfect online therapy options sound like they would be a good start for you. Don't let the "all or nothing" aspect of ADHD get you - it is not going to be perfect or fixed overnight or even quickly, so acknowledge and accept that, then look into at least making a telehealth therapy appointment with someone, if they have any experience with ADHD, that would be helpful but not necessary to at least get started. But just getting that first appointment allowed me to live with myself a little easier because I could remind myself that I was doing SOMETHING to try to make it better, which helped me to cope with the difficulty keeping going. I also have found that thinking of your brain as separate from YOU is helpful with coping with negative self talk, but that may just be me. Overall, please know that you are not alone. I also often feel that I am doomed to slowly deteriorate until I just can't take it anymore, but that is not true. There are things that CAN help. I sincerely wish you the best, and I believe that you can do it because you already seem to be very self aware, which is a good first step to finding things to help alleviate your symptoms. YOU CAN DO IT!
@@akashajones6079 No, human beings need vitamin D from the sun for health. Five to ten minutes in sunlight in the morning is healthy. Sunscreen blocks vitamin D absorption.
Another one relates to challenges and my "all or nothing" nature. Even if someone initiates it as a challenge, if I think or have had experience of doing something and not doing it to the highest degree, or in the best way it can be done, I won't do it. This has caused me to stop playing competitive online games and board games etc.
I want to cry 😭😭😭 this is so me 😢 It makes me aggressive when people don't take responsibility for their actions, I definitely have justice and rejection sensitivity, I practice revenge bedtime procrastination for decades, I am always afraid they will find out I am a late person, I create competition situations all the time and I keep all possible things so that I don't forget my past 😭😭😭
This is seriously the most relatable video I've ever watched. Literally 2 days ago I discovered that the key to getting my work done in a timely manner was to listen to lofi and lyric-less music because it gave me the necessary dopamine to keep going. I also find myself staying up really late playing video games (even thought I dont want to and know I should go to bed) and spoiling movies I've never watched.
I’m in the middle of selling everything and moving overseas- it’s been brutal to dig through it all and sell it and go down the memory lane packed with all types of emotions associated with stuff I forgot I even had 😅 - let alone to just stay focused on the task itself 😢 - I knew this would be the hardest part - devil’s in the details and sorting through stuff is like a mini version of hell for my brain
I have been working on saving the things my children would want and important papers and so they can just toss the rest how they please. When I give certain things away … I think about someone that cannot afford it and how much they’ll appreciate getting the things they need for a hobby. Or how someone else will appreciate the clothes for a job interview or just being able to purchase decent clothes at a reasonable price. I try not to get down on myself for having xyz that I didn’t use … it’s not beneficial. Movement forward is …
It's so hard for me because there's a rush of emotion, anxiety, executive questioning to say the least, and boy it makes saying no to even doing it an easy answer. I have a storage unit I must go through, but I am not able. What are some things you have found helpful? I'll have to bring the wife and it is across town. But other than that, I loathe the heat mostly. Just an fyi, if it helps to know.
I just did this a year ago. What a process…ultimately, though, it’s been rewarding and I’m grateful I did it! Don’t give up, keep going. It’s worth it.
Same. I donated or trashed 80% of my belongings before moving and it was hell. If I had been more organized, I likely could have sold a lot of things, but I was in a time crunch. Now I have to do the same with all of my hoarder mom's stuff and I just can't motivate myself to start. I've been paying $170/mo for a storage unit for over a year for stuff that isn't worth $17. ADHD tax. Every time I think about it, I get so angry at my mom for not doing her own Swedish death cleaning before developing dementia and needing to be placed in a nursing home. And getting everything in order for her to be put in a facility is it's own hellish debacle that I've had to muddle through alone.
Not the same song on repeat, because that's TOO repetitive. But the same playlist on repeat? Absolutely! And when I forget to turn music on, my brain will take over and play the music for me me. lol I have often gone whole days just jamming away in total silence because my mind is the DJ that day.
Even if you don’t have ADHD, you aren’t broken. You may not feel like you fit in but humans as a species are not designed to fit in, it’s just a lot of our evolutionary survival mechanisms may not be what the modern world calls for, and that is okay. There are ways to manage, and seeking a diagnosis or reason why you struggle is a great start ;-) I hope you find a way to feel good in your skin, whether it’s with an ADHD diagnosis or not! I wish you the best of luck on your journey!
Was diagnosed a few years ago. Yeah, these all check out. Spotify is filled with a graveyard playlists that I juiced for all of the dopamine the songs were worth. I diverge from this list on hating afternoon appointments. I hate morning appointments, but that's because I am an absolute zombie in the morning, and hate doing anything. I don't gain momentum in my day until the afternoon. Before that I'm grumpy, unfocused, and don't want to move.
BRO the movies one. I’ve lost count of the number of times of predicted something will happen in a tv show/movie, seemingly out of nowhere, but ended up being right. NOW I KNOW
This... actually makes me feel a lot better. I have both ASD and ADHD and have experienced all of these things. I've been hard on myself about justice in particular. The ASD makes it very hard for me to pretend that something is okay when it isn't too, which makes it worse.
I have been microdosing THC/CBD and I have found it to greatly decrease my tendency for procrastination and helps me get more exercise and get to bed on time.
Can definitely relate to accidentally ruining plot points in media. I remember an incident on a school trip, some of my classmates were talking about The Fault in Our Stars, which I had neither read nor seen. I was, however, daydreaming on the fringes of this conversation, so all i picked up was 'this girl has lung cancer, and she meets this boy in the hospital, and it's so sad.' My two brain cells whirred to life, and I piped up with 'Oh, so *he* dies?' The girl telling the story glares actual daggers at me, and tells me off for ruining it. I'm there like ??? That's it? You didn't have to confirm anything, my dumbass was just *guessing* !
"revenge bedtime procrastination" - so it's not just me?! (diagnosed Combined-type here). You got me as a subscriber just for that. I feel seen. Thanks for the video
Thanks! It’s good to be reminded of these basic behaviors- I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 52 y.o. I still have to monitor my behavior with the Normals. 😂
As a diagnosed AD(H)D person the appointment thing is so relatable! I always call it time-claustrofobia. It feels very much like claustrofobia, complete with (mild) panic when I have an appointment. My whole day is about that one thing. One of the reasons I don't do time specific courses anymore, I just can't. Best time to visit me? Make it unexpected. Better you meet me still in my underwear than me having to cross out that day because you'll drop by at 14h. I have a dinnerdate tonight, so today I expect to be a low productivity day. And that is okay, it is Saturday 😊 And predicting the movieplot... what about in real life. Knowing what is going to happen but not being able to change it. I sometimes feel like a Cassandra, yelling what you see happening in slow motion but nobody believing me. And sometimes it just takes 2 to tango. And when your dance partner isn't into it, well too bad...
I like how you put the “H” in parenthesis! I’m going to use that in the future, if you don’t mind! It succinctly explains that one has ADHD-Inattentive, or what used to be called ADD, without using a paragraph to get the point across. I was diagnosed as a teen in the 90’s, with ADD, while my youngest brother had ADHD. He was high energy all the time and impulsive. I was not. My attention and focus was incredibly bad, except when I was invested/interested and had the right amount of motivation, then I’d spend HOURS on my task and doing it to perfection, eschewing all else. I think that is one contributor to why it is hard to accomplish anything before an appointment or event. We know we can’t get into something we will get carried away with (and lose track of time) and not be able to complete it.
You are welcome! And you have a point, hyperfocus really can make the world around me disappear. I was diagnosed when I was 40, some 10 years ago. By that time I had developed so many coping mechanisms that the easiest way to test if I had A(D)HD was to try medication and see the effect on my behaviour. Well, I had to take it 8 am, and as I am not a morning person, I took it and then slept some hours more. No tendencies to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush. People not in the know commenting that I seemed to be more "in the moment", so that was clear. And then I remembered a test by a psychologist, when I was in primary school as part of a check to figure out what my best school trajectory would be. One of the lines was "her behaviour is flegmatic". That can be explained as slow, but I think I actually was a dreamer, lost in my thoughts some of the time. Would explain a lot.
Oh my goodness, the number of times I have tried to be proactive at work (or even personally) when I can see a bad thing coming from a mile away and it's best to get ahead of it, but NO ONE WILL LISTEN. And then they all conveniently forget that I tried to prevent this from happening, but they were all like "Why are you worrying about that? We're not there yet." - It's so maddening to me because it is the one time have a motivation to actually DO something and no one will get on board, and then when the bad thing happens, I end up cleaning it up and no one cares that we could've made this easier on everyone by being proactive when I first mentioned it.... sigh....
@@laurenhoover6024yep, very frustrating. Sometimes they make you feel like you're nuts, but you are not, I always call it "the canary in the cole mine". You just pick up tiny signals of the things that are going to logically come after that.
funny thing.. while i did your adhd test, i got too impatient when i got to question 100, and started just clicking 'OK' at everything, ignoring when it said some crucial detail. ..it asked for my email so that it could send me my results. this is great..
OMG! I'm totally #1,4&5! They all make so much sense to me. I get angry at the writers of most tv shows and movies for assuming their audience is stupid. I assume everyone can see the end from the beginning, suggesting that the writers are being lazy because they think the audience is stupid. Apparently, it really is just me (and my fellow neurodivergents). I totally get scrolling videos long after I should be in bed because my brain just wants relief and freedom from being locked up all day. And the appointment thing is no joke. I have all Dr and Dentist appts scheduled for 8 a.m. because I will never get anything done with that appt hanging over my head.
This is the second video of yours where I was blown away by the depth and the new information you share on the subject, most of the other RUclipsrs repeat basically the same information. Kudos!
Broooooooo revenge bedtime procrastination. Everything makes so much sense now. I’ve finally asked my husband to help me break the cycle. Ironically being well rested makes me feel less like I’m playing catch up from the time I’m waking up and less revengeful about things being out of control by the end of the day haha
Yeah i thought the same. But i guess what he says about tv shows applies to us as musicians with adhd. We can hear the plot early on, That’s why we tend to go for more exciting music. On the other hand i have a weak spot for repetitive edm as background noise.
One of the things I have noticed with that prediction thing is that I do it with trends in games and real life... and have argued with people about stuff I noticed and do to no end only for them to start doing what I was already aware of years later. I have just gotten to the point of keeping it to myself. There is just no point sharing that kind of stuff with others anymore.
In grad school, I once listened to Nights in White Satin (by The Moody Blues) on repeat for HOURS (headphones on) to put myself in the zone while I wrote a paper.
I would watch markiplier playing Mario maker on repeat to study for finals. I felt like his rage kept me fueled to keep studying. He kept trying so I would too!
04:30 When I'm working, especially if it involves writing sentences, songs with words are overly distracting, but a fast past ostinato as found in the Bourne Identity theme are magical.
Yes! I listen to instrumental music to free my brain without distracting it. It’s like my brain feels the need to fill the sound. It’s why I can’t listen to music to sleep.
I watched the Andy Griffith Show everyday for about 2 years. It’s an old show from the 60s in black and white about a small town sherif in the south. I never really thought about why I had to watch that everyday but it made me feel comforted. I never associated that with my ADHD
I've watched quite a few ADHD videos, and none of them, NONE of them, come close to describing how I think of feel like this video. This hits the nail right on the head. I can't tell you how validated I feel after watching this video more than any of the others. ❤
im gonna be honest. Im crying right now. This video described me perfectly. Day after day Im more sure i have ADHD and I finally have answers to so many things.. Feels like such a relief..
I had to watch the video twice. The first time I was watching TV while making dinner, meanwhile started watching you video and impulsively started replying on text from 5 months ago. Classic behavior 😂
@@laurencefasseur Why do our brains insist on thinking that we are capable of doing so many things at once and getting them all done within the timeframe needed? The number of times I have burnt toast because "I just need to x,y,z, might as well use the time while I'm waiting" and then duh, I can't complete a 10 minute task in 3 minutes but my brain really thinks highly of me in that moment I guess... sigh. Hope you still ate dinner! Food intake is important!
I most agree with the song one. I wake up and listen to the song that i am obsessed with at the time and as soon as school is finished i listen to the same song a couple times and i always get a feeling of relaxation out of it.
Also, when I was in college, I had some of those afternoon shift jobs. Particularly the 3 PM to 11 PM or for a while I would swingshift with a 4 PM to 8 PM part time. Those were absolutely terrible and I never knew and could never understand how to explain why. I would tell people that I didn’t feel like I had a day that the whole day was wasted, and they would just look at me like well. You know you do have most of the day before you go to work, but they never understood.I love being understood and heard❤
Omg whyyyy no one needs that long of an intro except to reach a time limit and right after is just him saying to watch to the end. SHUT UP I just stopped watching after that because I have adhd and i dont care
executive dysfunction means also a lack of fluency in the movements. Often we don"t really see it at once. But... objects are flying out from ADHD people's hands (trend) . We need more time to learn an acrobatic move, and it's very hard to do it several time exactly the same way. We are.... clumsy. I requires a huge energy to compensate it.
Yes! Very few people bring that up. It isn’t just “clumsiness” but it could be a lack of spacial acuity, like you see the desk and you think you gave yourself enough room to maneuver around it but you misjudged by an inch or so. I find that one of the most frustrating parts of when my medication wears off in the evening is my hands stop doing what I say as well as they did earlier and my frustration threshold is much lower. Once lost my temper trying to open a advil bottle late at night and smashed it with a hammer because my hands couldn’t open the child proof cap. Not my smartest move but it worked.
I agree! I had never thought about it that way, but I have always had difficulties with sports, dance, running and even singing or playing an instrument, video games with a controller... Anything that requires any kind of rhythm or coordination or being able to focus in multiple ways at once.
Yes, yes, yes. I have hated afternoon appointments since I was little and they were called “ tests”. If they were for afternoon classes my whole day was messes up.😂
Old items also greatly combines with the fact that ADHD people love to start new things but can't finish them. I just moved flats and the sheer endless line of projects i started is making this move an insanely drawn out process.
Behavior V is so me. But instead of getting stuck in waiting mode because of an appointment, I'm stuck in waiting mode because of something that I know I have to do, but can't bring myself to doing because it's so boring. So I'm basically perpetually stuck in waiting mode, waiting for myself to finish this boring task which I never get around to doing. Damn... You nailed this one. That's it for me, plus revenge bedtime procrastination on steroids. But I think the reason I procrastinate going to bed is because my brain is preventing me to go to bed too before I have done this boring task.
I’ve been crying since the beginning of this video, because you just described my entire life and this entire time I just thought I was broken and struggled so much with the things which seem to be so easy and obvious to others. I always knew that I felt different, but realizing what the actual cause is gave me so much hope, because it is not just a random set of behaviors, but there is a common root cause which means it CAN be managed! Thank you
I got diagnosed for adhd a long time ago but this video just made my whole life finally make sense and feel like im not alone seeing others can relate to me
I am extremely tidy and organised Maybe because I have ocd tendencies. My work desk is aligned and organised and I always place items in the same place … that line up neatly. My whole apartment, car etc is always very neat and in order.
lol I wish I could do that. Over the years I have gotten better because my apartment is where I can have total control, but once something is put away it is out of sight out of mind so I need to leave visual reminders. I have started designating spaces for those visual reminders so my space feels less cluttered:-) like I have a bin by my door where I set things that need to be returned or looked through.
I found a way around bedtime procrastination - working afternoon/evening shift if you can get it. I was starting at 2 and finishing at 10. This led to a 'natural' 2am bedtime, wake up 9 or 10am, have 3-4hrs to screw around (or try and get chores done) before work, 8hr shift, get home and have dinner, play games or watch netflix (currently bingeing star trek ds9 (just started season 7) while I have dinner, which I need to do after I watch this vid) for a few more hours and then bed around 1 or 2am. Aside from difficulties at work with management, which has lead to a new day shift job (ew, 7am start), it was absolutely perfect for me. Also I scored 7 out of 7, take that ya losers!! 100%!! 🤣🤣
lol for me the evening shift is really rough. It takes me hours to unwind after work and since my medication wore off before the end of my shift I fall into deep hyper focus and obsess over something I don’t care about until 4-5am and then wake up and go right to work. Maybe I just haven’t adjusted to it yet but I actually felt better with my earlier shift. Also, I may be awake at all hours but my brain is not operating well once 8-9 pm hits so the last few hours is rough.
I,m either 45min early or 15 min late, and if I have something to do in the afternoon my mind is on it all morning, then an hour before the appointment, I get into something and forget about the appointment till the last minutes
Bugging my siblings for no reason. Just because I’m bored. I’m 34 years old. Can you please touch on how ADHD makes you take on projects and not focus on what you SHOULD do but you’re completely focused on other things.
I Discovered all of this in the last year.. All make sense now. I made peace with me. Finally I understand that is nothing wrong with me. I'm not broken.. Is just ADHD😊
Most relatable: Just browsing a tv channel a second and instantly knowing what is there and what year was it made, the film style and the location. Also guessing the movie plot beforehand, I am so bored with movies and looking condtantly for novelty ideas in movies and series and there are not so many so I don’t watch a lot of tv. Also knowing beforehand the stuff that is going to happen which makes me to obsess about the future beforehand. Nobody ever understood me and because of this wonderful channel I finally understand my weirdesr quirks better.
I knew that two of my coworkers would be a problem... Now I isolted myself and I was right, I couldn't believe that my other coworkers even being annoyed tolerated their horrible behaviors.
bro that movie thing is spot on. i keep my mouth shut and don't spoil it for people though if open speculation is happening, i'll add my bit. i think that the characteristics you describe also help a LOT with being a writer. i can take a set of traits, and general feel of the psychology of a character and put them through any situation, easily knowing how someone like that would likely react, think, act, etc. and same if it's with particular people that are also a main-ish character. i just start at whatever centerpoint, character, concept, personality and spin a story around it like a spiderweb. with any new person or event that is added, a new offshoot grows and explores like a new spiderweb with that centerpoint. i was kind of surprised with my current/latest work which both got VERY long but is juggling the most characters ever. like... a main character is social, has a slew of friends. but you have to show not tell, so starting out with just a random double handful of names in a gathering/party.... eventually a lot of them ended up getting defined... initially by maybe a one liner but eventually, spiderweb. gotta be careful whose heads you allow perspective to jump into or it gets really out of control. basically none of them are to be pivotal characters in the events... not supposed to focus on them in particular so no head diving. but other people who WERE that initially... suddenly a 1st person view popped out and next thing i know a deep dive into their world/perspective/fam setup/their psychology from an internal view, etc. anyway, a common thing i hear is 1) your characters are so 3 dimensional and fleshed out. they feel real 2) i could never have anticipated how everything would go over time and the character development and situations, etc. (me neither lol. spiderweb. also, i write partly to see what happens myself, as it is largely a stream of consciousness. it's like watching a movie and it pauses when i stop. i have to write to 'see' the movie. there is some planning but a lot that isn't. and of course work of going back over it, proofing and clarifying etc. when REALLY in the zone, the movie is playing even if i am not writing and unless i sit and write, it's both a little to dim to get more than a feel of things moving, and if i don't sit and write, it will be lost. so being kept from it can be like that DON'T INTERRUPT ME rage thing some people describe, just jumping to loud frustration feels. the channel with the girl and her husband and she has split blue and black hair did a skit on that particular thing.) *tldr;* adhd is good for writing and art as well as anticipating plots. IF you have one of these as your thing you can hyperfocus on (to the exclusion of all else and what you're SUPPOSED to be doing....) it can be helpful!
My partner said he wanted to go see a movie I wouldn't be interested in but won't see it because it's complex and without me to explain the plot after 20 seconds he won't enjoy or understand it. Guilty as charged.
Just diagnosed at 56. Number 7 sucks. I have lots of stuff that is old, but my wife wants me to get rid of it. She complains I am borderline hoarding, but to me, her areas of the house look empty.
Appointments, coffee addiction, rejection sensitivity, procrastination, executive dysfunction,... Competitiveness was pronounced as a kid, less so as an adult. hoarding of some stuff (books mostly), definitely "out of sight out of mind". My son is definitely competitive, to a point that it concerns us his parents).
The afternoon appointments thing also applies to me having afternoon shifts at work, i hate having to go in in the afternoon, waiting to go in, and then when I get home, it's not till like, 11:30 at night and then the revenge bedtime procrastination kicks in. I'd much rather go into work early, get it over with, and have the rest of the day to focus on whatever else needs focusing on
Not me watching this whilst I’m trying to also catch up on work (procrastination is my super power 😆) and feeling so very seen already … and then coming to the one about a messy desk. 😮 I have enough clear space on my desk for a notebook (as in a spiral with old-school paper because writing things helps me remember them) and beyond that… so. Many. Things. Bills I need to pay. Appointments I need to make. Coupons I don’t want to forget to use before they expire. Postcards and journals and ideas for craft projects I really, really want to mail out/write in/complete… and trust it will all happen “one day” take up the rest of the space and then some.
Been diagnosed ADHD since I was 6 or 7 (I'm currently 23) and I do most of these, at least occasionally. Particularly the same songs one is so fascinating to me; as I love music, but don't branch out to new artists frequently
This is the first content of yours I watch, and I noticed one thing: you repeat the key words at the end of a segment. I've not seen this anywhere else. I like this touch.
Traditionally, education of subjects starts without presentation of what is worked towards to, only small blocks of information are fed with seemingly no coherence, everything comes together to a logical whole no earlier than at the end. This is one of the reasons why highly intelligent ADHD people may fail at school. Or the phenomenon occurs that the ADHD person appears to not understand one bit of the subject but then close to the end, when coherence is revealed, is best in class.
I spoiled so many movies and TV shows and stories on myself because how I'm so good with predicting the events and the plot. I thought this ability was developed because I'm addicted to watching and reading and listening to stories, I didn't know this ability is a actually related to my ADHD. I like how it's a game.. it gives me so much dopamine, that's why I'm addicted ❤ I actually like predicting then find later I was wrong because I love surprises and new plot twists! Loki s1 and s2 were awesome because I didn't actually know anything and kept losing against the writers 😂❤
Thank you for this video, I've been diagnosed for a few years and have learnt a lot about my adhd but these points help me understand some of my symptoms far better. I really appreciate the time and thought you put into your videos to help others. Cheers, Wendy
I'm so glad I found ur channel! I, not only have adhd and ocd, I'm also an INFJ, so what u said about movies and TV shows is spot on for me. I figure out the characters quickly, but don't always have the mental energy to watch shows I have to concentrate on. I feel the emotions of the characters too much and just need a break sometimes.
Thank the Lord you popped up in my recommendations! I’m sharing this with my husband and doctor. So absolutely spot on. You’ve also nailed the reason why my career chose me and I’m so good at it.
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Here is me predicting the end of this movie - you're going to achieve great things for the ADHD community. Thank you for helping us understand ourselves better 🙏
Thank you so much for this video, you have come far with this and I am glad that it works. Keep on going Nic with your research and helping people.
God bless 🙏✝️
@AA-tx1loi WOW! Totally your loss. This guy is brilliant 🤷
I don't know if this counts as predicting the plot since it was a real event. In 1994, either the first or second day after Susan Smith claimed an African-American man stole her car with her two children in it, the guy I was dating and I were at the gym watching one of the police briefings. Out of the blue, I just knew and said, 'she killed them. Chris looked at me like I was crazy. Sadly, I was right.
ADHD is high speed scrubbing through this video to read the section titles and accurately guessing the content
Same 😂
Same 😅😂
Why waste time?
So hard to Not do!!!
Lol
Repetitive listening to same song on repeat, disliking afternoon appointments, competitiveness, hoarding for memories, not throwing away old items. Yip.
Totally me
You just described my husband
Why u writing about me?
Now I understand why I hate afternoon appointments. Anxiety keeps me from doing chores.
You also describe me: a high masking autist... there is much overlap with both...
Love your video! Another "secret" symptom is having multiple types drinks on hand. I didn't realize others with ADHD did this until I saw a meme about. "One for caffeine, one for flavor, one for hydration." is often the standard.
OMG, I paused the vid just to reply that this is SO TRUE 🎉
Same here, just had it today: water, green tea and of course a coffee. I thought it’s normal until now 😮😂
...oh.
@@sezindurmus9749I was just about to comment the exact same thing. This is my exact combination! 😂
Have trouble carrying them all to the car sometimes 😂
Whats more frustrating is making a better ending than 90% of movies.
Got a 151
Book plots, dialogue and endings too
@@colleen9844 I've really been into Freida McFadden books lately
Yes! As well as song lyrics... 🤭
This is how about half or more of my novels and daydreams start! I get so frustrated with their endings and end up having to make a better one.
Listening on 2x speed while simultaneously reading the comments and eating and making lists of all the things I need to do today.
I feel called out
YEP...same here😅
Same
Aaaaa same 😭
Jeez this accuracy 😢
Perfectionism can also contribute to what looks like hoarding (but isn't). "I don't know where this will ultimately go, so I'm going to leave it here as a visual reminder. Yes, I know I'll become blind to it after a few days to weeks... I never said it was a GOOD system!"
So true
Me! I’m so that way! But I hyper focus too and end up with next level almost ocd creative projects
😂accurate.
Ha! This! My mess consists actually of thoughts and ideas, but it looks like papers and materials all over the place..
Growing up in poverty will also do that. If something is useful, you save it; because you don't trust that you'll be able to obtain it when you do need it.
I really appreciate you repeating the point at the end of describing each one. Most creators don't do that, and it's easy for me to forget what it was.
Trying to make these as adhd friendly as possible 😌🙏🏼
Yes!
I noticed this too and loved it! Not a whole recap to zone-out to by mistake, but the title of the topic.
I actually thought he was introducing the topic again, as if the last minutes had been just a preview. Took me a couple of those to realize he was repeating them to *finish* the topic.
He knows his audience 😂
I actually prefer afternoon appointments over morning ones because revenge bedtime procrastination causes me to sleep at late hours in the morning… or more so evening appointments are best. 😊
I have been like this. So I have a second school of thought. The second one is getting stuff done and forcing myself over the week to fight against the grain. At night I won't contemplate, it is a so-called law that I am getting up at said time to get a to-do list going before work. If I can block out time to get something done, I'll schedule an appointment. Okay so maybe I'm just nuts. I'll look at it like a marathon, I'll coast easily through stuff, I will mentally have a tight event schedule where I loop on the map from home to work and back home, block out time (say that I will do something and if I only pickup one thing or move something, then good and if more is done good, but when time is up then I move on. I will go over, I will rush through a shower, and I will end up speeding to work. However in this I will "enjoy" the task more and find it acceptable with hansei/kaizen in mind), etc. it's whatever the day calls for in the idea of what fits best in my mind. Idk why I'm sharing...
Edit*- i like the scrolling comments feature on mobile, but it took forever to find this one and i had to stop and answer more while forgetting what i started searching for. Thankfully i compensate by knowing the..."mist" or "aura" of what i am searching for, and some slight photographic memory. It just blurs out the words and i can see the outline of what was said like a fingerprint. "Okay, two lines, second line was halfway filled, started with the word actually in the first part or something"
I was just thinking about it now, and I came to the conclusion that I just fully hate appointments regardless of the time of day lol
Me too. I always try to get appointments for 2.00 pm on a Tuesday, so I am less likely to forget.
Same!
Same here. I get up around noon so afternoon appointments are very much preferred.
Revenge bedtime procrastination--yes. No TV, but watch many videos (many topics) and sometimes work on my creative writing.
Or projects...I have found using a few apps help. Tower defender and a tanks app from io. Good strong hits and frequently to get the daily and weekly tasks done and then listen to Simon or Markiplier and group on RUclips. May sub out to Neil degrasse. It depends. Super yes.
Very accurate.
Revenge bedtime procrastination is the WORST!! Yet also, the absolute best private time... 😂
@@Kelly_Ben this is the truest thing ever, having the most fun ever and then suddenly feeling bad about having that fun and the cycle continues
Revenge bedtime procrastination. RUclips is my addiction because formulaic movie scripts have gotten too predictable and boring. I never knew this was an ADHD thing. I just can't force myself to go to bed until I literally can no longer stay awake. Consequently afternoon appointments are the only appointments I can have because I can't get up in the morning.
My mind is completely blown right now. As a 50+yr old woman who only realized recently (while struggling w perimenopause) that I’ve probably been ADHD my whole life,, this video explained even more behaviors I’ve always had & thought they were character deficits. Equally crazy is I am 20 years into mothering a boy with ADHD and only in the last year or two realize that I suffer from it as well because it looks so different in me.
The unique sense of justice and even WITHDRAWING from people that don't act like us was what blew my mind in this video plus the wanting everyone to BE accountable for their own actions. Now I understand that ADHD has helped me be self-aware and stop playing blame games faster than MANY neurotypicals:)))
Also, as a Gen Z'er Crazy Frog Axel F is SOO nostalgic, I have been MEANING to find the title of that bam dum duh duh song for SO long and who knew that this is WHERE I will find the answer
LITT video Nik, tysmm
Didn't know about this until this year and it makes so much sense😅
This is me too! It winds me up that neurotypicals take so long, if ever to take accountability! I stay far away from them!
Weird I thought that Crazy Frog is nostalgic for us Millennials... 😅 And even more weird- I thought strong sense of justice is something normal... 😢
🙏🏼🙏🏼
Bro look up Beverly Hills Cop theme song, there you go! That's where the original crazy frog tune originated !
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporees I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once.
Breathe. You're strong. You got this Take it day by
day.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporees
I'm doing the revenge procrastination right now!
same
My middle child used to guess the murderer in the Mysteries I used to watch like Poirot. He was right every single time. He has ADHD. He also learns languages really easily thru comprehensible input. He can just make connections easily. 😊
i also learn languages easily, im a language freak
Your child is me 😂 I learned Japanese through binging anime and I learned Chinese as well. I’d always get the plots right for mysteries.
@@makichandes I once watched a CSI episode with friends who had seen the episode before. I called out the murderer in the teaser, hadn't even hit the opening theme song yet. Before the episode was done I said where a vital piece of evidence would be.
I have ADHD I know it. I do enjoy reading but I hate absolutely hate mysteries because I'll figure the murderer by the middle of the story so boring.
@@vladimiradoshev5310me, too! The pronunciation part is easy b/c I was in speech therapy for 6.5 years, starting in grade school. I’m so glad it was available.
40 years ago I predicted a major plot twist in a British soap opera (Brookside) many months before it happened - a character about to marry the man of her dreams pranged her car due to being so stressed by her wedding preparations, I turned to my flatmates and said 'She'll ditch her fiance and marry the driver of the car she just pranged'. My flatmates thought I was crazy, I thought they were sooooo slow for not seeing what was as clear as day, none of us had even heard of ADHD. I wish I'd placed money on it, but their disbelief as the plot began to unfold months later was priceless.
Brookside was amazing haha I watched it when I was little!
Brookie, lol
lol my friend was showing my downton abbey and 15 minuets in I was like oh, so that character is gay and in a secret relationship with that character. She paused the show and to gape at me and asked who told me. I thought it was obvious.
My husband is always correctly predicting the plot of movies
I get frustrated with others who hav no concept of predictive logic & forseeable outcomes_ is this an ADHD trait ? I've always assumed it's my Virgo brain & a reasonable understanding of Maths,
re: cause to effect, & percentages of probability _ but l don't understand how I can grasp those concepts but b absolutely clueless about other things_
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Living in a country that do not recognise ADHD in adults makes it difficult to get a diagnosis and treatment. this is why these videos are immensely useful and educational thank you sm
That must be incredibly difficult to deal with. In the USA it’s a known thing but stigma and a full grasp on it in adults still makes it difficult to feel seen and validated even with an official diagnosis. I wish you the best in your journey and you are not alone.
Same in my country
@@rebeccajesse4604 thank you so much, wish you all the best🌷🌷
@JingYuans_sparrow I'm so sorry! here in the USA, even though it's much talked about in school and medical settings, it's still something the average person isn't really familiar with in detail. I don't share with just anyone. It's easy to get diagnosed and treated here but..for many many years it was considered a behavior of young kids- especially boys. I wish you all the best my friend. There are so many good videos here on RUclips to help you. It's never too late. I suffered my entire life and found out I had ADHD at age 59! ❤ 8:04
Thank you for sharing this! I feel understood, finally after 30 years of living with adhd, I took the steps to see a psychiatrist and got “formally diagnosed”. Having ADHD is frustrating I get annoyed when I forget the simplest things or walking towards whatever I need to grab and on my way there, I forget what I need to grab. Thank you for all of your videos. I’m not alone.
That's my thing. I answer the questions as "no" but that is because it makes sense to answer no. I compensate like an iceberg. So the answer is true, but the reality is yes. Like if I go back to college, the first year will be absurdly easy. Second year I'll fall on my face. Comp one. Easy. Comp two...understand it, but pliers to my own healthy teeth. It's hard to stay in the mindset though. Super hard.
Just took the test and CGI gave me a mid range score. I'm 67 and I know I would have scored much higher 20 years ago. I had an abusive childhood; violence, incest and more. I did a lot of work on myself for 25 years when I was younger and then went back to therapy for a couple more years to brush up. I'm pleased that I have overcome so much of the trauma and can function normally but it never entirely goes away. I appreciate your content and you I felt a bit anxious by the speed of your delivery. Mostly because I talk too fast. Thank you
I'm sorry about your choldhood
The last point broke me... I've been having a really bad time and struggling bc I have been trying to declutter my house for years and I didn't knew why I would keep so many things even "declutter" after "declutter", and yes, my greatest fear is to forget all those moments in my life.
Maybe check out Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean. ? (It was supposed to be her ‘practice blog’ while she figured out how to manage her house in a way that worked with the way her brain works, then she was going to write about stuff she loved & was actually good at! ) I’ve found her very helpful- and very funny!
Yup same. It’s why I have started to be extra particular about what new things I bring into my house because I know I have such a hard time getting rid of things. One thing I started to do to help me “declutter” is stop labeling the things I care about as clutter. That removes a lot of stigma and shame in my head around the decision to keep it or not. Then I start grouping together the things that remind me of the same memories (I usually have a pile of things that remind me of the same thing). I then choose 1 or 2 items that bring the most powerful memories and kind of tie the other things to those so now I can hold 1 thing and remember all the other things. Example: I had a cousin who passed away that I was close to, one year out of the blue she gave me a stuffed bear, she would give me other toys and such but that bear always reminded me of her the most. So now I still have the bear but some of the other toys that didn’t evoke the same warmth and strength of memories were given away to make someone else happy. I do keep anything written though. Any card given to me with handwriting or notes on them I keep. I even started getting pretty boxes to keep them in so they are treated or look like clutter. I am still trying to think of a way to display them but displaying cards is hard in my brain because I want to be able to open them!
What about taking photos of some of the stuff. Have a memory album on your device or even when you have a lot of photos go get it printed out as an album/book and with meaningful comments by the pictures. Just an idea. I am trying to make physical photo album of my kids for years to no avail😂 So easier said than done 😅
It's not so much the keeping of stuff, it's keeping EVERYthing right in front of me. I've learned to try to sort into 'HOT' storage (at hand), and 'COLD' storage (in a box in the closet). I still have it, but less visual clutter.
I have Autism and ADHD. Some people are autistic and think it's only Autistic symptoms but it's also ADHD. Definitely worth learning about Autistic symptoms. Guarantee many will seek further diagnosis
It took me a long time to realize having both has made my brain just CONSTANTLY argue with itself and somehow be understimulated in some ways while being overstimulated in others.
People want me on meds for it, but I don’t like how empty and uncreative they made me, so I choose to manage my symptoms through different ways.
But yeah, I didn’t know that most people don’t physically argue inside their head with their id, ego, and superego.
I like the company and hate being alone. What can I say? 😂
I find that the listening to music on repeat crosses over into what I watch for movies too. I love rewatching movies
Movies and books. I have three book cases full of books I love to reread as well as a full bookcase of Dad's and another for Cd's.
Right now the movie I want to watch over and over is "Deadpool and Wolverine" so I bought the Soundtrack. Can't wait for the DVD to come out.
@Moonsfire62 yes books is another big one!
Yeah same. I only recently realized how odd it is that I like to watch the same movies over and over. Like after 30 years it finally occurred to me I was the only person I know who does this
Mmmmm super simple process. (I am a comedian) One thing I have found that helps me with the hoarding is taking a photo or video of the object. Then I can save the memory, but not have to store the object.
LOL and I thought I was the only one that did this 🤣
What about those boxes that might come in handy, though? 😂
@@nitsusanu Yikes. I feel this comment on a spiritual level... I've been begging myself for months now to declutter these boxes...
@@BrokenHeartedVS I feel ya! I'm at a point where I have a chair dedicated to them 😂
I like to touch and hold items I have kept for memories. You can't touch a video or picture and feel the material it's made from, the coolness or warmth of it, the softness or hardness. It's just not the same.
I'm shook, this video just broke down my whole personality, most of which I had no idea was linked to Adhd. I am recently diagnosed.
Spot on. All of a sudden EVERYTHING makes sense. Greetings from a German "Psychologischer Psychotherapeut" turned Coach (with ADHD) living in Australia. Cheers!
I also love predicting events in real life, in daily life, politics, business, etc. I like to think I'm pretty good at it, and it's satisfying to be right, but also so thrilling to be wrong and be surprised, too.
oooh yeaah
@@keithmarlowe5569 Same here!
Omg me too ! It's like you are describing me with yourself ❤
Me too. I feel like I’m ahead on trends, like society cues are easy to read where trends are headed. Wish I could make this into a job somehow. I think this is why I also really enjoy the stock market
OMG, and thank you. I have been dealing with ADHD since I was 9, diagnosed in 1993 and still struggle with it at age 67. This is the first and only video that describes my ADHD brain so precociously and accurately that it is scary. Overly sensitive to rejection-check. Seeing and experiencing the world differently-check. Predicting story plots early-check. Fast processing and pattern recognition- double check. Thank you ADHDVision for finally giving me the words to explain to people that its is not just me.
I have a tip I’ll share based on your favorite song data. I created a playlist called “my rhythm” of songs that make me feel calm and I never skip when they come on. It’s only about 10, and I listen to the playlist when I’m anxious. It’s like comfort food for my ears. (Diagnosed ADHD)
Will you share?
Total comfort food
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
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I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
@@Rogerseegren271Does he deliver to various locations?
I replay songs until I memorize every note and word so I can play and sing it inside my head. And sometimes out loud. And yes, singing shuts off my creativity and the voices in my head so that I can perform repetitive physical tasks at the highest level possible for me. Adderall has the same effect, but I cannot get it prescribed.
This video made me cry. Not because i realized that i have untreated ADHD, but because i know i have a severe case of untreated ADHD that is making my everyday living hell, and i can barely leave the house because of it. I haven't been able to do anything about it for 15 years now, a combination of child trauma, untreated severe ADHD since 7 yo, and addictions have fried my brain.
I feel like my brain is programmed for a very slow self-destruction, and i don't see a way out..
Sunbathing is very good for mood and energy. It's summertime so try it, u will feel the difference. Start with that.❤
That is a powerful statement. Addiction is an often un-acknowledged symptom of ADHD, like we are trying to self treat our symptoms and sometimes choose the worst way to do so. My parents are good examples in that they found out they were truly different from their friends because when they did speed they calmed down and were able to function. It’s one key reason why I hate that some doctors don’t want to treat ADHD because they don’t acknowledge or understand all the costs associated with not treating it. You can do something, you are not powerless (but you feeling that way is valid, your brain can be a tricky enemy sometimes). Google ADHD specialist in your area or online and see if you can get a diagnosis at least (an official diagnosis can help open a lot of doors) or an appointment (online or in person). It will probably take time and feel hopeless, but the sooner you start the sooner it will happen (choose your favorite dopamine rush as a reward or as a pre-game, e.g. I live coffee so I will study at a cafe so I can grab my favorite drink whenever I start loosing concentration). Don’t be afraid to tell the person scheduling that you need help ASAP or that you want to be put on the cancellation list (when someone else can’t make an appointment, they give it to you). I really hope that you can find a way out or if you can’t, you have the strength to ask someone for help. And even if your brain was “fried” by addiction, that doesn’t mean it’s over or that you can’t do anything. You may struggle to do what you used to find easy, but that isn’t a moral failing, you just may need to adjust :-) like any muscle or organ, the brain can recover to an extent with exercise:-)
So I just wrote a novel that then got deleted.... but I just want to encourage you to at least set a goal to get out of your house for 5-10 minutes. I have been dealing with severe emotional dysregulation due to my ADHD, and my therapist basically made me promise to leave my house for a 5-10 minute walk to just get some endorphins going in my brain. At the time I didn't think it helped, but a week later, I can tell you that it definitely got the ball rolling on being able to at least do the basics to keep myself going. I also don't know what country you are in so not sure of the healthcare options, but even imperfect online therapy options sound like they would be a good start for you. Don't let the "all or nothing" aspect of ADHD get you - it is not going to be perfect or fixed overnight or even quickly, so acknowledge and accept that, then look into at least making a telehealth therapy appointment with someone, if they have any experience with ADHD, that would be helpful but not necessary to at least get started. But just getting that first appointment allowed me to live with myself a little easier because I could remind myself that I was doing SOMETHING to try to make it better, which helped me to cope with the difficulty keeping going. I also have found that thinking of your brain as separate from YOU is helpful with coping with negative self talk, but that may just be me. Overall, please know that you are not alone. I also often feel that I am doomed to slowly deteriorate until I just can't take it anymore, but that is not true. There are things that CAN help. I sincerely wish you the best, and I believe that you can do it because you already seem to be very self aware, which is a good first step to finding things to help alleviate your symptoms. YOU CAN DO IT!
@34fb Sunbathing? You mean the thing that's terrible for ones skin health?
I hope you meant slathered in sunscreen and under shade...
@@akashajones6079 No, human beings need vitamin D from the sun for health. Five to ten minutes in sunlight in the morning is healthy. Sunscreen blocks vitamin D absorption.
Another one relates to challenges and my "all or nothing" nature. Even if someone initiates it as a challenge, if I think or have had experience of doing something and not doing it to the highest degree, or in the best way it can be done, I won't do it. This has caused me to stop playing competitive online games and board games etc.
I want to cry 😭😭😭 this is so me 😢 It makes me aggressive when people don't take responsibility for their actions, I definitely have justice and rejection sensitivity, I practice revenge bedtime procrastination for decades, I am always afraid they will find out I am a late person, I create competition situations all the time and I keep all possible things so that I don't forget my past 😭😭😭
This is seriously the most relatable video I've ever watched. Literally 2 days ago I discovered that the key to getting my work done in a timely manner was to listen to lofi and lyric-less music because it gave me the necessary dopamine to keep going. I also find myself staying up really late playing video games (even thought I dont want to and know I should go to bed) and spoiling movies I've never watched.
I’m in the middle of selling everything and moving overseas- it’s been brutal to dig through it all and sell it and go down the memory lane packed with all types of emotions associated with stuff I forgot I even had 😅 - let alone to just stay focused on the task itself 😢 - I knew this would be the hardest part - devil’s in the details and sorting through stuff is like a mini version of hell for my brain
I'm about to do this, DREADING it. Well done for achieving! 🤩
I have been working on saving the things my children would want and important papers and so they can just toss the rest how they please.
When I give certain things away … I think about someone that cannot afford it and how much they’ll appreciate getting the things they need for a hobby. Or how someone else will appreciate the clothes for a job interview or just being able to purchase decent clothes at a reasonable price.
I try not to get down on myself for having xyz that I didn’t use … it’s not beneficial. Movement forward is …
It's so hard for me because there's a rush of emotion, anxiety, executive questioning to say the least, and boy it makes saying no to even doing it an easy answer. I have a storage unit I must go through, but I am not able. What are some things you have found helpful? I'll have to bring the wife and it is across town. But other than that, I loathe the heat mostly. Just an fyi, if it helps to know.
I just did this a year ago. What a process…ultimately, though, it’s been rewarding and I’m grateful I did it! Don’t give up, keep going. It’s worth it.
Same. I donated or trashed 80% of my belongings before moving and it was hell. If I had been more organized, I likely could have sold a lot of things, but I was in a time crunch.
Now I have to do the same with all of my hoarder mom's stuff and I just can't motivate myself to start. I've been paying $170/mo for a storage unit for over a year for stuff that isn't worth $17. ADHD tax. Every time I think about it, I get so angry at my mom for not doing her own Swedish death cleaning before developing dementia and needing to be placed in a nursing home. And getting everything in order for her to be put in a facility is it's own hellish debacle that I've had to muddle through alone.
I'm an AuDHDer with a bipolar/mood and anxiety disorder ; OCD and C-PTSD. I do EVERYTHING you said. You explained it perfectly. ❤
Not the same song on repeat, because that's TOO repetitive. But the same playlist on repeat? Absolutely! And when I forget to turn music on, my brain will take over and play the music for me me. lol I have often gone whole days just jamming away in total silence because my mind is the DJ that day.
I thought I was the only one 😂😂 do u get tired at the end of the day because of it not all the time, but most of the time ?
Yeah.. some of these felt more autistic to me..
My mind is blown, you’ve just explained my whole life. Thanks a lot for that, I’m not broken, I might have ADHD
Even if you don’t have ADHD, you aren’t broken. You may not feel like you fit in but humans as a species are not designed to fit in, it’s just a lot of our evolutionary survival mechanisms may not be what the modern world calls for, and that is okay. There are ways to manage, and seeking a diagnosis or reason why you struggle is a great start ;-) I hope you find a way to feel good in your skin, whether it’s with an ADHD diagnosis or not! I wish you the best of luck on your journey!
@@rebeccajesse4604 thanks Rebecca
I need people to leave me alone and stop being abusive.
Almost scary how spot on this applies to me. (I`m diagnosed ADHD) Thanks!
Was diagnosed a few years ago. Yeah, these all check out. Spotify is filled with a graveyard playlists that I juiced for all of the dopamine the songs were worth.
I diverge from this list on hating afternoon appointments. I hate morning appointments, but that's because I am an absolute zombie in the morning, and hate doing anything. I don't gain momentum in my day until the afternoon. Before that I'm grumpy, unfocused, and don't want to move.
BRO the movies one. I’ve lost count of the number of times of predicted something will happen in a tv show/movie, seemingly out of nowhere, but ended up being right. NOW I KNOW
This... actually makes me feel a lot better. I have both ASD and ADHD and have experienced all of these things. I've been hard on myself about justice in particular. The ASD makes it very hard for me to pretend that something is okay when it isn't too, which makes it worse.
I have been microdosing THC/CBD and I have found it to greatly decrease my tendency for procrastination and helps me get more exercise and get to bed on time.
Can definitely relate to accidentally ruining plot points in media. I remember an incident on a school trip, some of my classmates were talking about The Fault in Our Stars, which I had neither read nor seen. I was, however, daydreaming on the fringes of this conversation, so all i picked up was 'this girl has lung cancer, and she meets this boy in the hospital, and it's so sad.'
My two brain cells whirred to life, and I piped up with 'Oh, so *he* dies?'
The girl telling the story glares actual daggers at me, and tells me off for ruining it. I'm there like ??? That's it? You didn't have to confirm anything, my dumbass was just *guessing* !
"revenge bedtime procrastination" - so it's not just me?! (diagnosed Combined-type here). You got me as a subscriber just for that. I feel seen. Thanks for the video
Thanks! It’s good to be reminded of these basic behaviors- I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 52 y.o. I still have to monitor my behavior with the Normals. 😂
As a diagnosed AD(H)D person the appointment thing is so relatable! I always call it time-claustrofobia. It feels very much like claustrofobia, complete with (mild) panic when I have an appointment. My whole day is about that one thing. One of the reasons I don't do time specific courses anymore, I just can't. Best time to visit me? Make it unexpected. Better you meet me still in my underwear than me having to cross out that day because you'll drop by at 14h. I have a dinnerdate tonight, so today I expect to be a low productivity day. And that is okay, it is Saturday 😊
And predicting the movieplot... what about in real life. Knowing what is going to happen but not being able to change it. I sometimes feel like a Cassandra, yelling what you see happening in slow motion but nobody believing me. And sometimes it just takes 2 to tango. And when your dance partner isn't into it, well too bad...
I like how you put the “H” in parenthesis! I’m going to use that in the future, if you don’t mind! It succinctly explains that one has ADHD-Inattentive, or what used to be called ADD, without using a paragraph to get the point across.
I was diagnosed as a teen in the 90’s, with ADD, while my youngest brother had ADHD. He was high energy all the time and impulsive. I was not. My attention and focus was incredibly bad, except when I was invested/interested and had the right amount of motivation, then I’d spend HOURS on my task and doing it to perfection, eschewing all else.
I think that is one contributor to why it is hard to accomplish anything before an appointment or event. We know we can’t get into something we will get carried away with (and lose track of time) and not be able to complete it.
You are welcome! And you have a point, hyperfocus really can make the world around me disappear.
I was diagnosed when I was 40, some 10 years ago. By that time I had developed so many coping mechanisms that the easiest way to test if I had A(D)HD was to try medication and see the effect on my behaviour. Well, I had to take it 8 am, and as I am not a morning person, I took it and then slept some hours more. No tendencies to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush. People not in the know commenting that I seemed to be more "in the moment", so that was clear.
And then I remembered a test by a psychologist, when I was in primary school as part of a check to figure out what my best school trajectory would be. One of the lines was "her behaviour is flegmatic". That can be explained as slow, but I think I actually was a dreamer, lost in my thoughts some of the time. Would explain a lot.
Oh my goodness, the number of times I have tried to be proactive at work (or even personally) when I can see a bad thing coming from a mile away and it's best to get ahead of it, but NO ONE WILL LISTEN. And then they all conveniently forget that I tried to prevent this from happening, but they were all like "Why are you worrying about that? We're not there yet." - It's so maddening to me because it is the one time have a motivation to actually DO something and no one will get on board, and then when the bad thing happens, I end up cleaning it up and no one cares that we could've made this easier on everyone by being proactive when I first mentioned it.... sigh....
@@laurenhoover6024yep, very frustrating. Sometimes they make you feel like you're nuts, but you are not, I always call it "the canary in the cole mine". You just pick up tiny signals of the things that are going to logically come after that.
funny thing.. while i did your adhd test, i got too impatient when i got to question 100, and started just clicking 'OK' at everything, ignoring when it said some crucial detail. ..it asked for my email so that it could send me my results. this is great..
OMG! I'm totally #1,4&5! They all make so much sense to me. I get angry at the writers of most tv shows and movies for assuming their audience is stupid. I assume everyone can see the end from the beginning, suggesting that the writers are being lazy because they think the audience is stupid. Apparently, it really is just me (and my fellow neurodivergents). I totally get scrolling videos long after I should be in bed because my brain just wants relief and freedom from being locked up all day. And the appointment thing is no joke. I have all Dr and Dentist appts scheduled for 8 a.m. because I will never get anything done with that appt hanging over my head.
This is the second video of yours where I was blown away by the depth and the new information you share on the subject, most of the other RUclipsrs repeat basically the same information. Kudos!
Broooooooo revenge bedtime procrastination. Everything makes so much sense now. I’ve finally asked my husband to help me break the cycle. Ironically being well rested makes me feel less like I’m playing catch up from the time I’m waking up and less revengeful about things being out of control by the end of the day haha
homestly as a musician with adhd i dont like repeating songs. it bores me knowing ik whats going to happen almost like its a plot.
"Listens to a song on repeat until I hate it"
@@daytradersanonymous9955 yeah ig except i dont repeat it unless ive had time to reset
@@daytradersanonymous9955I also listen to songs on repeat until I hate it
Yeah i thought the same. But i guess what he says about tv shows applies to us as musicians with adhd. We can hear the plot early on, That’s why we tend to go for more exciting music. On the other hand i have a weak spot for repetitive edm as background noise.
@@flyversusfly76 I don't like background noise it bothers me and exciting music is amazing
About 2 minutes before clicking on this video, I put aside my dog’s chewed up toy. So, I won’t forget her.
One of the things I have noticed with that prediction thing is that I do it with trends in games and real life... and have argued with people about stuff I noticed and do to no end only for them to start doing what I was already aware of years later. I have just gotten to the point of keeping it to myself. There is just no point sharing that kind of stuff with others anymore.
In grad school, I once listened to Nights in White Satin (by The Moody Blues) on repeat for HOURS (headphones on) to put myself in the zone while I wrote a paper.
I would watch markiplier playing Mario maker on repeat to study for finals. I felt like his rage kept me fueled to keep studying. He kept trying so I would too!
04:30 When I'm working, especially if it involves writing sentences, songs with words are overly distracting, but a fast past ostinato as found in the Bourne Identity theme are magical.
Yes! I listen to instrumental music to free my brain without distracting it. It’s like my brain feels the need to fill the sound. It’s why I can’t listen to music to sleep.
I watched the Andy Griffith Show everyday for about 2 years. It’s an old show from the 60s in black and white about a small town sherif in the south. I never really thought about why I had to watch that everyday but it made me feel comforted. I never associated that with my ADHD
I've watched quite a few ADHD videos, and none of them, NONE of them, come close to describing how I think of feel like this video. This hits the nail right on the head. I can't tell you how validated I feel after watching this video more than any of the others. ❤
im gonna be honest. Im crying right now. This video described me perfectly. Day after day Im more sure i have ADHD and I finally have answers to so many things.. Feels like such a relief..
Huge congratulations on growing your channel... your insights have made enormous sense.
The way he puts the numbers at the beginning or end of each one - love it! ❤
I had to watch the video twice. The first time I was watching TV while making dinner, meanwhile started watching you video and impulsively started replying on text from 5 months ago.
Classic behavior 😂
Ooooh and while I was writing this comment i forgot my lasagna was still in the oven. 🤦🏼♀️
@@laurencefasseur Why do our brains insist on thinking that we are capable of doing so many things at once and getting them all done within the timeframe needed? The number of times I have burnt toast because "I just need to x,y,z, might as well use the time while I'm waiting" and then duh, I can't complete a 10 minute task in 3 minutes but my brain really thinks highly of me in that moment I guess... sigh. Hope you still ate dinner! Food intake is important!
I most agree with the song one. I wake up and listen to the song that i am obsessed with at the time and as soon as school is finished i listen to the same song a couple times and i always get a feeling of relaxation out of it.
Also, when I was in college, I had some of those afternoon shift jobs. Particularly the 3 PM to 11 PM or for a while I would swingshift with a 4 PM to 8 PM part time. Those were absolutely terrible and I never knew and could never understand how to explain why. I would tell people that I didn’t feel like I had a day that the whole day was wasted, and they would just look at me like well. You know you do have most of the day before you go to work, but they never understood.I love being understood and heard❤
I need to watch a show or movie that I have seen before when I am cleaning or doing a task that’s boring.
Starts at 1:20
Omg whyyyy no one needs that long of an intro except to reach a time limit and right after is just him saying to watch to the end. SHUT UP
I just stopped watching after that because I have adhd and i dont care
Tbh, starts at 1:50
executive dysfunction means also a lack of fluency in the movements. Often we don"t really see it at once. But... objects are flying out from ADHD people's hands (trend) . We need more time to learn an acrobatic move, and it's very hard to do it several time exactly the same way. We are.... clumsy. I requires a huge energy to compensate it.
Yes! Very few people bring that up. It isn’t just “clumsiness” but it could be a lack of spacial acuity, like you see the desk and you think you gave yourself enough room to maneuver around it but you misjudged by an inch or so. I find that one of the most frustrating parts of when my medication wears off in the evening is my hands stop doing what I say as well as they did earlier and my frustration threshold is much lower. Once lost my temper trying to open a advil bottle late at night and smashed it with a hammer because my hands couldn’t open the child proof cap. Not my smartest move but it worked.
@@rebeccajesse4604 exactly that ! (some sport champion are adhd, I reallly would like to know if they are "clumsy" in their daily life....
I agree! I had never thought about it that way, but I have always had difficulties with sports, dance, running and even singing or playing an instrument, video games with a controller... Anything that requires any kind of rhythm or coordination or being able to focus in multiple ways at once.
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Yes, yes, yes. I have hated afternoon appointments since I was little and they were called “ tests”. If they were for afternoon classes my whole day was messes up.😂
Old items also greatly combines with the fact that ADHD people love to start new things but can't finish them. I just moved flats and the sheer endless line of projects i started is making this move an insanely drawn out process.
Behavior V is so me. But instead of getting stuck in waiting mode because of an appointment, I'm stuck in waiting mode because of something that I know I have to do, but can't bring myself to doing because it's so boring. So I'm basically perpetually stuck in waiting mode, waiting for myself to finish this boring task which I never get around to doing. Damn... You nailed this one. That's it for me, plus revenge bedtime procrastination on steroids. But I think the reason I procrastinate going to bed is because my brain is preventing me to go to bed too before I have done this boring task.
! ! Not allowing yourself the ‘luxury’ of going to bed hoping that will goad you into the ‘abhorrent’ task still undone
I’ve been crying since the beginning of this video, because you just described my entire life and this entire time I just thought I was broken and struggled so much with the things which seem to be so easy and obvious to others. I always knew that I felt different, but realizing what the actual cause is gave me so much hope, because it is not just a random set of behaviors, but there is a common root cause which means it CAN be managed! Thank you
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I got diagnosed for adhd a long time ago but this video just made my whole life finally make sense and feel like im not alone seeing others can relate to me
I am extremely tidy and organised Maybe because I have ocd tendencies. My work desk is aligned and organised and I always place items in the same place … that line up neatly. My whole apartment, car etc is always very neat and in order.
lol I wish I could do that. Over the years I have gotten better because my apartment is where I can have total control, but once something is put away it is out of sight out of mind so I need to leave visual reminders. I have started designating spaces for those visual reminders so my space feels less cluttered:-) like I have a bin by my door where I set things that need to be returned or looked through.
When I discovered that I had ADHD I was happy because now I know the reason why I act the way I do
I found a way around bedtime procrastination - working afternoon/evening shift if you can get it. I was starting at 2 and finishing at 10. This led to a 'natural' 2am bedtime, wake up 9 or 10am, have 3-4hrs to screw around (or try and get chores done) before work, 8hr shift, get home and have dinner, play games or watch netflix (currently bingeing star trek ds9 (just started season 7) while I have dinner, which I need to do after I watch this vid) for a few more hours and then bed around 1 or 2am. Aside from difficulties at work with management, which has lead to a new day shift job (ew, 7am start), it was absolutely perfect for me.
Also I scored 7 out of 7, take that ya losers!! 100%!! 🤣🤣
lol for me the evening shift is really rough. It takes me hours to unwind after work and since my medication wore off before the end of my shift I fall into deep hyper focus and obsess over something I don’t care about until 4-5am and then wake up and go right to work. Maybe I just haven’t adjusted to it yet but I actually felt better with my earlier shift. Also, I may be awake at all hours but my brain is not operating well once 8-9 pm hits so the last few hours is rough.
2am bedtime? There's nothing natural or good for your health a out that.
Bad advice my dude.
I,m either 45min early or 15 min late, and if I have something to do in the afternoon my mind is on it all morning, then an hour before the appointment, I get into something and forget about the appointment till the last minutes
Thanks for watching friends! What was the most relatable adhd behavior you didn't know about?
all of these are 💯% accurate
The hording thing.
Bugging my siblings for no reason. Just because I’m bored. I’m 34 years old. Can you please touch on how ADHD makes you take on projects and not focus on what you SHOULD do but you’re completely focused on other things.
I Discovered all of this in the last year.. All make sense now. I made peace with me. Finally I understand that is nothing wrong with me. I'm not broken.. Is just ADHD😊
Most relatable: Just browsing a tv channel a second and instantly knowing what is there and what year was it made, the film style and the location. Also guessing the movie plot beforehand, I am so bored with movies and looking condtantly for novelty ideas in movies and series and there are not so many so I don’t watch a lot of tv. Also knowing beforehand the stuff that is going to happen which makes me to obsess about the future beforehand. Nobody ever understood me and because of this wonderful channel I finally understand my weirdesr quirks better.
I knew that two of my coworkers would be a problem... Now I isolted myself and I was right, I couldn't believe that my other coworkers even being annoyed tolerated their horrible behaviors.
bro that movie thing is spot on. i keep my mouth shut and don't spoil it for people though if open speculation is happening, i'll add my bit. i think that the characteristics you describe also help a LOT with being a writer. i can take a set of traits, and general feel of the psychology of a character and put them through any situation, easily knowing how someone like that would likely react, think, act, etc. and same if it's with particular people that are also a main-ish character. i just start at whatever centerpoint, character, concept, personality and spin a story around it like a spiderweb. with any new person or event that is added, a new offshoot grows and explores like a new spiderweb with that centerpoint.
i was kind of surprised with my current/latest work which both got VERY long but is juggling the most characters ever. like... a main character is social, has a slew of friends. but you have to show not tell, so starting out with just a random double handful of names in a gathering/party.... eventually a lot of them ended up getting defined... initially by maybe a one liner but eventually, spiderweb. gotta be careful whose heads you allow perspective to jump into or it gets really out of control. basically none of them are to be pivotal characters in the events... not supposed to focus on them in particular so no head diving. but other people who WERE that initially... suddenly a 1st person view popped out and next thing i know a deep dive into their world/perspective/fam setup/their psychology from an internal view, etc.
anyway, a common thing i hear is 1) your characters are so 3 dimensional and fleshed out. they feel real 2) i could never have anticipated how everything would go over time and the character development and situations, etc. (me neither lol. spiderweb. also, i write partly to see what happens myself, as it is largely a stream of consciousness. it's like watching a movie and it pauses when i stop. i have to write to 'see' the movie. there is some planning but a lot that isn't. and of course work of going back over it, proofing and clarifying etc. when REALLY in the zone, the movie is playing even if i am not writing and unless i sit and write, it's both a little to dim to get more than a feel of things moving, and if i don't sit and write, it will be lost. so being kept from it can be like that DON'T INTERRUPT ME rage thing some people describe, just jumping to loud frustration feels. the channel with the girl and her husband and she has split blue and black hair did a skit on that particular thing.)
*tldr;*
adhd is good for writing and art as well as anticipating plots. IF you have one of these as your thing you can hyperfocus on (to the exclusion of all else and what you're SUPPOSED to be doing....) it can be helpful!
My partner said he wanted to go see a movie I wouldn't be interested in but won't see it because it's complex and without me to explain the plot after 20 seconds he won't enjoy or understand it. Guilty as charged.
Just diagnosed at 56. Number 7 sucks. I have lots of stuff that is old, but my wife wants me to get rid of it. She complains I am borderline hoarding, but to me, her areas of the house look empty.
Appointments, coffee addiction, rejection sensitivity, procrastination, executive dysfunction,...
Competitiveness was pronounced as a kid, less so as an adult. hoarding of some stuff (books mostly), definitely "out of sight out of mind". My son is definitely competitive, to a point that it concerns us his parents).
The afternoon appointments thing also applies to me having afternoon shifts at work, i hate having to go in in the afternoon, waiting to go in, and then when I get home, it's not till like, 11:30 at night and then the revenge bedtime procrastination kicks in. I'd much rather go into work early, get it over with, and have the rest of the day to focus on whatever else needs focusing on
ADHD makes me notice how certain demographics dont take accountablitiy for their actions :D
like what
@@cozycasasmr4510 Don't get him started; it won't be pretty.
Not me watching this whilst I’m trying to also catch up on work (procrastination is my super power 😆) and feeling so very seen already … and then coming to the one about a messy desk. 😮 I have enough clear space on my desk for a notebook (as in a spiral with old-school paper because writing things helps me remember them) and beyond that… so. Many. Things.
Bills I need to pay. Appointments I need to make. Coupons I don’t want to forget to use before they expire. Postcards and journals and ideas for craft projects I really, really want to mail out/write in/complete… and trust it will all happen “one day” take up the rest of the space and then some.
No offence but you need to forget your intro and get to the point sooner.
Bro needs to get that 10 minutes watch time 😉
Been diagnosed ADHD since I was 6 or 7 (I'm currently 23) and I do most of these, at least occasionally. Particularly the same songs one is so fascinating to me; as I love music, but don't branch out to new artists frequently
This is the first content of yours I watch, and I noticed one thing: you repeat the key words at the end of a segment. I've not seen this anywhere else. I like this touch.
I love when a plot twist is a surprise to me! It doesn’t happen that often.
Traditionally, education of subjects starts without presentation of what is worked towards to, only small blocks of information are fed with seemingly no coherence, everything comes together to a logical whole no earlier than at the end. This is one of the reasons why highly intelligent ADHD people may fail at school. Or the phenomenon occurs that the ADHD person appears to not understand one bit of the subject but then close to the end, when coherence is revealed, is best in class.
I spoiled so many movies and TV shows and stories on myself because how I'm so good with predicting the events and the plot.
I thought this ability was developed because I'm addicted to watching and reading and listening to stories, I didn't know this ability is a actually related to my ADHD.
I like how it's a game.. it gives me so much dopamine, that's why I'm addicted ❤
I actually like predicting then find later I was wrong because I love surprises and new plot twists! Loki s1 and s2 were awesome because I didn't actually know anything and kept losing against the writers 😂❤
Thank you for this video, I've been diagnosed for a few years and have learnt a lot about my adhd but these points help me understand some of my symptoms far better. I really appreciate the time and thought you put into your videos to help others. Cheers, Wendy
I'm so glad I found ur channel! I, not only have adhd and ocd, I'm also an INFJ, so what u said about movies and TV shows is spot on for me. I figure out the characters quickly, but don't always have the mental energy to watch shows I have to concentrate on. I feel the emotions of the characters too much and just need a break sometimes.
Bro, your videos have always been good quality, but this is next level now. Great job! And thanks for all your help too :)
Watching you gives me hope for my daughter. Thank you
It's so fascinating how you can describe me so perfectly without even knowing I exist.
I used to think that im weird because Im different from others. The more i watch your videos, the more i get to know myself. Thank you..
Thank the Lord you popped up in my recommendations! I’m sharing this with my husband and doctor. So absolutely spot on. You’ve also nailed the reason why my career chose me and I’m so good at it.