I clicked the link above here and got to your video BUT BUT BUT how long is it. I only have 20 minutes before I leave the house. I can't invest an unknown length of time and part watch your video - forgetting to come back. It does not fit how I need to handle my life. Does that make sense to you?
Yes, pleaseeeeee I love your short videos too, but longer videos like this make it possible for you to explain things with more detail. And that is soooo rich ❤ thank u
That is the main thing of ADHD. You need action, you need danger, then you are best version of you. I loved army and succeed there, because it was never boring, always was something going on. There was so many peoples in small spaces in the barracks/tents we lived in the wintery forests and so many things to laught, that brain stimulation was 24/7, and i got to drive a heavy battle tank :D Good times! Greeting From Finland to all of You Fellow Squirrels out there 🐿
I dont know if i have adhd but this comment resonates with me. Now im out of the navy and I feel bored and directionless. Im used to moving all the time and constantly doing interesting stuff. And suddenly thats gone. Ive even thought about moving cities again or doing extended travel for something new and exciting again. @@OvoirxDeegyz00
Literally sitting here dealing with this right now trying to explain to my husband that even I don't understand why I am happy some weeks and then sad for weeks. The roller coaster is so absolutely exhausting.
That's me too, and that feeling that you're never relaxed and content well for a moment, like I might be in the park, listening to the birds with the sun shining and it's all bliss but then i come out of that and it's like I am in and out of work, what's exciting now? And then I wasted hours just chatting on social media because I felt alone and wanted dopamine but even when you're with someone it's not the answer as I still feel like I am not in control
@@deanslife1 I can relate completely. I'm my relationship I feel I at least have an equal amount of control, but even then it's so lonely if youre not truly connected. I wish I knew who I really was when I got married. We were both in full fledged addiction and so disfunction al back then. Thank God we're both over 5 yrs sober, but we're absolutely nothing alike and have nothing in common but the love for our son. Wow didn't expect to go on that rant lol. I do believe in miracles though so I am still holding out for one for our marriage. Best of luck to you 🍀
@@sherileyva5908 go for it, it's good to let it out to others who can understand. All ill say is you don't always need to share lots of the same interests as what's important is sharing that connection with one and another. Good luck to you too x
The husband is the head. The woman is the neck that turns it. Or something like that. Craft a way to make him think it was his idea. Or is that just a movie myth? Men love to be persuaded, in my opinion. I'm a 61 year old adhd aspy gentleman. Men, it's pride. What are they proud of? We're still boys. Adhd is a wild ride. I like the tips. They really make sense. Healthy dopamine. 👍
I do that too but sadly my two 🐶🐶 passed away in my arms within 3 months 😢 one was 15 & was slowing down more everyday so it was expected. The other was misdiagnosed which I learned afterwards. Anyway I had no idea doing this dancing released dopamine! I just knew all 4 (1 😻) were having fun. I just found this fella here looking forward ADHD help. Just from this video he has helped!He’s so calming & gives so much hope to me. Can’t wait to listen to him more 😊
You did the best thing for both sides. You can't keep up with the friendship and they would feel hurt from being ignored so it's better to move on. Even without ADHD, friends and relationships come and go. Learn to be kinder and forgive yourself.
Someone with ADHD can also build a major multi-billion airline company :) (jet blue :) and there are sooo many examples. Find the Adhd advantages / strengths video on this channel :)
My favourite way of getting somewhat healthy dopamine is getting into a hyperfocus state. I can easily trigger it with studying whatever is interesting for me at the moment. It's great, I feel really good, I get insights, but - I can barely do anything about what's not interesting to me,including work, unfortunately.
@@JakeRichardsong Well it sorta works since when I'm pumped up with what interests me, I can get distractred with the actual work and do some of it. Apparently it's good enough, since I got a raise recently. But not good enough for me, I'd rather have a better solution. On the other hand if I just push myself to do boring work, I just get miserable, zero progress and also get guilty for not being able to do anything. So that works worse.
Hyperfocus is common amongst people with ADHD. It is one the problems they have to deal with, because most often the hyperfocus is not on the things they need to do.
@@mr_lemma I just watched a woman say that you should do things that are enjoyable before doing the hard work, as it raises the dopamine to get the difficult task done.
Was diagnosed with ADHD 10 months ago now, I’m39 and struggled with motivation, depression for most of my life. 6 years ago I got into surfing with a mate of mine and since then my whole life has changed drastically. I surf about 2-3 times a week, go to the gym most other days, now living my best life!
I sure hope that "living properly in the formative years of ones first four decades of life" isn't important, otherwise people like us are screwed unless we're talented enough to immediately transform into sustainable gods as soon as adhd is minimized.
Bravo.Mëndja jote është e artë🙏Vazhdo të kesh një motiv kur ngrihesh në mëngjes dhe do të jesh e lumtur.Jeta është bërë monotone gjithë natën zgjuar me telefon në dorë gjithë ditën gjumë për shumë të rinj😮Ruajna o Zot 🙏
@@Thalanox It's important, but not necessary. Neuroplasticity exists, and exercise helps make new neurons. You can become a different person at any age if that's the goal.
You will have ups and downs, but i can tell you from personal experience, (more than 10years clean, I don't remember how long anymore and don't care😊) the more time that passes the more your body will normalize until it will be nothing more than a bad memory that you have moved past. But use it to remind yourself how prone you are to addictions. Stay with it, It's the best thing you have ever done for yourself! God bless.
Wow. This is a good video. I'm 54 and have "achieved nothing" but I am on one level relieved (and proud?) of myself for not being in debt, not addicted to anything, not overweight. My job is really boring and going to a pilates class at lunch time helps me tolerate it. Geez yeh I have ghosted a friend, but she wasn't out of my mind. I do get that leaving it too long thing. I am friendly with a lot of people buy I don't really have a close circle. I have gone through phases of being really inactive, messy, solitary. Right now I am feeling capable and energised. I will subscribe.
64 year old male, and can relate to just about everything you say, especially the achieved nothing bit, ironically I can get really good at just about anything I enjoy and focus on. Best wishes to you.
Putting my feet down onto a cold floor, drinking some cold Kefir, standing outside in the early morning, cup of coffee, feed my cats - this is how I get moving.
Music and a lot of media overwhelms me most of the time. I’m a mood sponge. My son is more like you. He would study with music on. He said it slowed his brain down.
running is the best source of dopamine for me, if i get up and go running in the morning, no matter how bad my day is, i can always seem to muscle through it.
@@DANYRD6666 then find something for you that gives you that dopamine hit, cold shower, waking up earlier and watching the sun rise, it doesn't really matter as long as you get that dopamine
I haven't been diagnosed with adhd but I have discovered I am an infp personality type and its crazy how similar the two are. I get low energy quick and overstimulated and overwhelmed by people and the environment. I'm needing breaks whenever I start to feel irritated or flustered or completely depleted. So videos like this are beneficial even though I haven't actually been diagnosed with adhd. 😊
Omg I'm an infp too and think I have adhd too. I get torn between spending time with my best friend on the weekend and just staying home and doing nothing
INFP here too and am noticing that although I've shared so many of these qualities and problems all my life, perimenopause has drastically increased them. I never thought of myself as possibly having adhd before but now I feel like I check all the boxes!
It dawn on me about 2 years ago and I just turned 54, it has helped me, it's given new less shaming context to a lot of past failures. Now I re frame them and feel compassion for myself trying again and again and again, to a cacophony of "you just need to apply yourself"
Playing my flute and piano gives me great joy and I could play for hours nonstop. My church has fabulous acoustics and it’s heavenly what the acoustics do to my sound! I am often struck by feelings of dysphoria, but never while playing music. I can be working on some other hobby like sewing, gardening,etc and all of a sudden (and it is literally like hitting a wall) and I have to immediately quit and retreat. But never with music. I thank God for my gift of musical talent and LOVE for it! Finding your videos has changed my life. I thought that I was just a freak before and now I know there are lots more like me. Thank you.
Sitting in bed trying to get up to go to work watching this. I’ve been beating myself up trying to figure out why I can’t get up. Ghosted all friends and family. Extremely successful until 3 years ago. I’m 56 and decided to get the ADHD test after watching this. Thank you! PS I need to find my keys and my backup keys lost a few days ago.
A wave of emotion and tears came rolling down with the whole explanation! I have been pin pointing the routines I keep falling into and this just helped me with the missing pieces I needed to “control” the low lows I keep having
Wow! This is such great content! I was officially diagnosed with ADHD when I was 50, and I cry for the child and teenager I once was. Always thinking there was something "wrong" with me. Why did my Mom shout at me at a lot? In school, why couldn't I complete any homework until it was due the next day? I was told I "talked to much". *was interruptive *Annoying *"should learn to focus better" *Apply myself *study more ... "STUDY MORE"? WE'RE THEY JOKING? I COULDN'T EVEN LIFT MY PENCIL FOR HOMEWORK UNTIL THE NIGHT BEFORE IT WAS DUE! (no matter how long or involved it was) I sure wish the Internet had been invented at the time-- then I would have been aware that I wasn't the person that teachers and peers thought I was. I'm still learning how to cope with my brain and always looking for tips--your videos are fantastic! ❤
I ghost as it helps me lose toxic relationships, i focus, so I am super competitive at work, and I can meditate (and develop faster) for hours. I've used my adhd productively and travelled, lived and worked around the world. Keep well all use your brain to get the most out of life.
What job you guys do? I still struggle to focus and find a meaningful job that pays well and give me enough freedom to be able to travel and do other things around.
I'm called the Block Queen 😅, had no idea why not why waste time on bad relationships when you can focus time and energy on people who really value you
This stuff is really helping me as I’ve felt in a constant battle with myself whereby I mainly lose. Like there are two ‘me’s’, the me that wants to do things and be productive and the ‘me’ that seems to sabotage it by making it virtually impossible to do simple, ordinary everyday tasks. I thought I was losing my mind until finding this and the low dopamine thing makes so much sense 😊
I was surfing every day for almost 30 years and it kept my ADHD in check , now I’ve moved to a landlocked state and I’m finding it very difficult to find new ways to manage it.
Lawn care for me gets my dopamine going. It’s something I can do at my own pace with no outside pressure. N it slowly gets better so even on the days I don’t get to mow I notice the lawn improving n that is dope boost to. N it’s just zen bein in the yard!
I'm 47, been struggling bad for years. Even though I have a home and a wife and 5 kids. This video explains everything exactly. This is my brain for sure. I only accepted the fact that I have ADHD once my oldest daughter started talking about it and got diagnosed. And she's almost a genius at school etc. Subbed!!
I fought the diagnosis for a long time (I was a ritalin kid - before ADHD it was "hyperactive") and then accepted it around 40. I've tried stims off and on for several years and have finally decided I will not medicate my way into a life I want so am exploring how my fellow ADHDers are "coping" and thriving. Love this channel so far! Thank you.
My favorite dopamine is foraging. The rush I get from finding free food. Especially something I haven't found before. When I found a lion's mane mushroom oh my Gosh.
I started watching this channel to help my son with his adhd, and came to a realization that maybe i have it too . I know it's not a good idea to diagnose yourself, but why i relate with almost everything he's saying...
I had a vision after a remark by a friend who told me that : "If you don't want to lose yours stuff, it's just a question of Will and habits". After stopping crying, I thought : "Really ? ". So I went to my doctor who advise me to see a specialist. I'm at the beginning of my journey of diagnostic and understanding of the mechanism of my brain and yours videos confort me in my process. It was such a relief, because for the first time, I didn't feel alone and guilty of my misses, and also see the beauty of my brain. So thank you.
Did your friend mean well when she said that? Because "it's a question of will and habits" would feel very cruel to me. I virtually cannot form habits, and will has nothing to do with it. How can you will yourself to do or not do something you did. even notice or register in the first place? Wishing you success in your journey.
@@normabaker5837 I think it's more an remark without thinking. It's a Guy who fought for what he has so it's difficult sometimes for him to understand that for some people it's not so obvious.
It's not that it's not obvious to you, if you have ADHD it might be that it's not useable advice for you. If you have executive dysfunction then /adding more will/ won't help.
By far, one of the best (and encouraging) videos I have watched on the topic. The one bit about accepting that my brain is different/works differently and not beating myself up is huge! Massive thanks!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Dancing By Myself to favourite music (with uplifting truth lyrics) does it for me. Moving my body in a very present way affects...I don't know... EVERYTHING
I am a huge Lord of the Rings fan. When Nik was talking about taking advantage of mental sprints, I immediately thought: "...I'm wasted on cross country.... we dwarves are natural sprinters! Very dangerous across short distances!" P.S. I call boredom my "nemesis", so it was extremely validating to hear boredom described as an allergy 👏👏
This video is very relatable. It makes me feel as if I can finally describe how I feel. ADHD has affected my life poorly for many years but I believe I can change it. I have lost a lot because of this and do not want to lose anymore.
I won't go into why but this video may have saved my life. Touching on dopamine, you explained certain concepts in a way even my doctor never could and I needed to hear it. Thank you.
Dear Nick, you are the goat. I'm tired of all the psychologists who don't have any experience are real knowledge about adhd. You are a blessing, because you overcame the challenges and help other people. you dove deep into the topic. those academic and unaffected people don't know much about the topic and more importantly how to adress the cause, because they are trained to only dim the symptom. You are more valuable than any doctor, prescribing light heartedly prescription drugs. This topic is so loaded for me -.- :(
Think this is my first time seeing your videos. Literally relate to everything you’ve mentioned here. Really great video, well paced to keep us interested too!
The insight you have shared has given me so many A-Ha moments. Throughout this video ( and many of your others), I kept saying to myself " That's why that happens. Now I get it." I am very appreciative of your posts. I discover something new about myself every time I view them.
This is one of the best videos Ive watched on ADHD. You seem to have effortlessly explained traits of ADHD people that most people wouldnt know was associated to ADHD (like ghosting). Then you went on to explain what can be done about it. Awesome stuff.
I watched that video and it explains everything. It explains the last minimum 20 years and i started immediately to cry because i've lost so much in my life just because of this and i never took care about because i never was aware of this or i was even able to do. Sitting here and finding yourself in that big hole of feeling worthless, unloved and not being able to achieve even to tidy your flat is one of the hurtful feelings in live. Losing my last partner just for being unresponsive and forgot about conversations wants me literally to jump out of the window. It hurts that you were able to do something but you were not able to do something at the same time.
That’s really great, Nick. I taught myself a very similar program. The novelty, traveling changing work places is very effektive. Also you have to have a tool box of constantly attractive hobbies/side hustles
4:14 Thank you ❤ This realization has literally brought me to tears due to the guilt I've been carrying for my difficult-to-explain behavior. I genuinely care about the people I know, but it's extremely hard for me to stay in touch if they don't initiate contact.
Thank you so much for this video, it's incredibly inspiring. I'm a new YT subscriber but I've been a TikTok follower for years. Your videos (and others) made me seek an ADHD diagnosis at age 52. When perimenopause started for me, all my ADHD symptoms got so much worse but thankfully, becoming self aware has helped tremendously. It makes me sad that it happened so late but then I remind myself, it could have never happened and that would be a true tragedy. Thank you for your content.
Started working Sunday morning on a project with very soon deadline, worked until monday evening. I took one single break Sunday night taking cold shower. Working process was super productive, progress was super satisfying, but this phase was absolutly insane for sleeping phases - work was done to tuesday morning, results are great - worth it. I love my brain
Today is a very hot day inside my appartment. When you mentioned the cold showers, I stopped the video and rushed to the bathroom. I gotta say this was amazing! Relieved my bad mood and circulation problems instantly! I want to do this regulary now. 😊 Thank you.
Asking people with adhd to sign up for an online event that's at some future point is like asking an adhder to sign up for an online event that's at some point in the future. Bro even if I sign up, I'm going to forget about it in an hour and I'll forget to check my emails so there's really no point. No disrespect btw. I have adhd,as most of us here do, and I'm guessing most of here are watching these videos now and a probably going to consume a whole lot more of adhd videos for a couple of days and then we'll see you again in a couple of months when the itch comes back around. I would suggest that you the stuff you want us to sign up for,just make content out of it and upload it here. Also,i appreciate the work you do and the education you bring us all, thanks 🤙🏼
I am so grateful for you!!! I’m adhd and dyslexic , I have struggled for 57 years. I do cold showers and dance it out every morning. The afternoon comes and I’m just done; going to try your suggestion of cold showers in the afternoon. The biggest ah-ha for me was the “friends piece”This video was very helpful❤️
Im going through a diagnosis right now at nearly 48 i think ive always known it,playing my guitar and singing really helps me,watching your videos has really helped me thanks i spoke to my mum for the first time in 2 years it was such a realease thanks again,🙏❤ adhd vision
"Your brain is literally allergic to boredom". It is as if you are inside of my mind. Thanks for making this channel. I am learning a lot about myself through your efforts.
I’m 62 and have struggled with ADHD my whole life. I recently retired so I have to stay busy or I will die of boredom. Gym in the morning, lifelong learning/self-improvement/growth oriented activities, volunteering, helping elderly parents, socializing with friends and family. I also started taking Wellbutrin because I had depression related to my ADHD. Seems to help.
Here’s to a Good day today! Thank you for mentioning Wellbutrin & your experience with it. I had first discussion with Dr about it yesterday and have been so hesitant but I think it’s worth a try. Wishing you all the best! -Terri
@@rnovotny645: No, not for me at least. Some people do have them. I had to switch to slow release when I started taking it, (150 mg), because I did feel a little amped up but once I did that I was good.
Putting this video on repeat. Managing my ADHD has gotten better, but still overdo it trying to attain more and more dopamine - then the unexpected crash. Am returning to basics trying to mimic my behaviors during childhood by having entire days blocked off for self-care, alone time, and VIDEO GAMES! 😁
Yes. Straight out of bed and after a short visit to the bathroom I go outside to jog, do pushups pullups, anything I come across where I run. After I'm back home I reward myself with a few berries (strawberries, blueberries, etc) which, yes it's sugar, but it's natural sugar and has very high amounts of vitamins. After that I prepare my breakfast, I only eat natural organic foods, no refined sugar whatsoever. And I switched to low carb recently, which also made a huge difference. I quit rice and pasta, mostly I just eat fish, meat, eggs, nuts, and TONS of vegetables. Also, caffeine/coffee are a no-go.
@@FreeReign-k1e No meds, but many years ago I did used to always have a redbull /some large caffeinated soda, and a banana before going to the gym (first thing in the morning too). I guess the habit just stuck. I would mostly wake up at 3-4 AM since gyms are nice and empty. So I always did it like this... Now I just dropped the caffeine and the sugar. Also in my case this works well because once i have food in my belly I get slow and sluggish lol. It probably takes some getting used to but honestly I can't imagine it doing it any different way. Get a workout in, and the rest of the day is yours, and you retain that good feeling that you "already achieved something today". I'd definitely recommend trying it!
@@FreeReign-k1e If you think about it, "working out" fasted is how humans have operated for hundreds of thousands of years until there was agriculture. If in 20,000 BC you wanted food, you had to go hunt, or find some berries. The only way to have "breakfast" after waking up (best case) is if you'd set a trap/snare some days before and it actually caught something. But even so, you would have to walk over there to get it, prepare the meat, etc. What really clicked for me was when I found a documentary on the Hadza hunter gatherer people (it's here on YT). I have been trying to change my lifestyle to theirs - despite living in a Western country. And the results really are great. I used to have stomach issues (IBS syndrome) which went away, I feel more energized. Sleep improved. And no, this is without any medications.
@@FreeReign-k1e Many years ago I was absolutely addicted to huge amounts of sugar AND caffeine, which caused lots of damage. I always used to work out after waking up though, I guess the habit just stuck. And if you think about it this is the most natural way. "working out" fasted is how humans have operated for hundreds of thousands of years until there was agriculture. If in 20,000 BC you wanted food, you had to go hunt, or find some berries FIRST. I saw a documentary about the Hadza hunter-gatherer people and that changed everything. the more I change my lifestyle to theirs, the more my lifestyle improves. My stomach issues (IBS) caused by my lifelong sugar addiction finally went away, I feel more energized, sleep improved. Honestly I would just try it and see what happens.
I sat in on the supposedly “live” webinar which in fact was not live at all. Basically a 2 hour prerecorded video to warm you up to buying a product at the end. I don’t mind if people try to sell something but when there are lies involved, I’M OUT.
He’s a scammer, he’s blowing his own trumpet for 1 hour straight. His comments and views are paid for. I’m starting to think he’s not neurodivergent at all. Just milking it by trapping poor adhd people.
I deliberately scrolled to look for a review of the webinar! Thank you for saving me 2 hours of my life!!! The couple minutes that I watched were so stiff (and obviously not live which is fine, but why not call it what it is?) What was he trying to sell? What was the "answer"? He really hooked me at the end of the RUclips video. I'm falling behind in my business because of struggling to focus and be motivated and I'm scared!
Yes this is SCAM. The bonus SPRINT technique link is 2 HOURS of FAKE LIVE event where he spends most time promising to reveal something if you stick to the end. Typical marketing funnel. Stay away from this charlatan.
I also think it's a scam. I gave up after 20 minutes. The first 15 minutes was filled with testimonials. Then after that he says he'll dive into the method, but then starts telling his life story. And yes, it's definitely not live, but he pretends that it is. Even though he keeps saying there are free bonuses at the end, it's quite obvious that he's going to try and sell you something at some point.
Although I appreciate the work you do, I was diagnosed myself, but I never listened to them over the years. I found out there’s 3 very important things that we must consider. Did we learn how to prioritize? when we were little kids and what was our diet and also did we learn how to focus or to calm our mind? the answer in my case is absolutely not. My house was full of sugary stuff, and my parents didn’t give a lick teaching me to prioritize or focus. I taught myself these things and now I can say no physician can diagnose me with ADHD. ❤
@@spiralsun1 Only 2 kinds ?? My life and appt are so filled with notes (post it and otherwise) that they are also overwhelming. If my place ever catches on fire...all my paper notes will no doubt make it go quickly. I hope the smoke gets me first. I hate being an ADHD.
Brilliant. Excellent. Yes long content is good. Your summary was good, overviews and structure left me wanting more. I did obviously listen at 1.5 speed but I've now got time for another half video before more procrastination and guilt.
Right, I am 44 and I think it has been the worst it has ever been for me, it's causing me some real problems now... maybe I didn't care so much when I was younger, I am not sure but it's really getting in my way recently.
I genuinely dont think you are getting worse, I do believe its (atleast for the most part) because almost EVERY company spend billions in reasurge of HOW to use this to sell products.... Its just more and more sciense about how companies can USE the human normal function to make you buy more, eat more, spend more time online, because thats jow they earn $. EVERYONE, EVERYWHERE, try to use as much mind tricks on you to get your focus "there"... like ads for example is EVERYWVERE, like 20 years ago you had to actively open a newspaper to see one, now they are EVERYWHERE, trying to get your focus from what you are doing to them. (Also I have heard bad food can increase this too, and the food companies do everything they can to make you eat more of it .
@@DavidBennell Me three...when I hit my mid-forties my adhd got more pronounced. Personally i think the reason is i am not as motivated because well.. i did everything i wanted to already. So nothing gives me dopamine...i hae no goals so i have no drive lol. WOmen used to be a major motivation..and drugs/parties...but i quit them all.
Thank you so much for doing this channel. Obviously there are so many of us who need to learn and understand ourselves to be kinder to ourselves and more patient.
My latest healthy dopamine fix is gardening. I spent most of the day in the garden pulling up weeds and triangulating where to plant vegetables. It's taken half a year to motivate myself to start, but now I'm loving it. My others are playing guitar and spicy food
@adhdvision my guy thank you, it’s a 2 week cycle, this type of real content, it’s a lifeline for the neurodivergent, add a dash of perfectionism that really spices things up… keep up the good work
I'm in tears. Thank you so much for helping me understand my partner ❤️. I know he is adhd, but understanding how it manifests in his life and therefore in our relationship is amazingly valuable. So happy to find you!!
Excellent! My natural dopamine at the moment is dancing to three songs in the morning right after I wake up. Now I understand why I love it so much, and after this video I think I will also try walking in the morning and singing more often during the day.
This describes my entire life from not knowing why I suffered, discovering and being diagnosed ADHD, experiencing Medicated life, and battling & fighting to quit the meds and create my own solution with physical, mental and emotional work beyond what I ever did before to force myself to gain control of things like the creation of a morning routine, a new reality of life via intense daily exercise, Muay Thai training, food intake correction, acceptance of (and NEED for) appropriate recovery days, and overall mental diligence to do it again and again over and over, every single day f day without fail. Motivation channels on RUclips ie Motiversity especially compilations, have helped immensely to focus and push myself harder.
Nik, your style of delivery and your passion for helping us ADHDers is much appreciated. YES! YES please continue. I'm gaining a sense of hope for my future. (Diagnosed at 62, and I'm very familiar with paralysis, guilt, shame over ghosting and more). Thank you.
Yes please! Sometimes if I only listen to short form I can get very agitated. Sometimes if there’s VERY long form content (like Gabor Mate close to 2 hour long lectures) I either wander away from the device, or fall asleep, or pick up a different device and start another activity. Multiple options help. Today the VERY Reason I chose to watch your video instead of the one I came to watch was specifically because I saw the length of the video and thought that has a good amount of time for me today right now. I love your stuff thank you!
I have been obsessed about ADHD as a topic (the irony) for years, I have read, watched listened to a lot of content and got lots of valuable insights and strategies to make my daily life better. Yet you managed to hold my attention and teach me a whole lot of new things + summarize the stuff I knew in a great way. Sometimes you need to hear things more than once before they really stick to your brain...
Really loved the video. Already been incorporating the cold showers first thing in the morning and natural light. One additional is delaying caffeine intake for 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up. I have been taking antidepressants for years to ward off anxiety and depression, but this last year they stopped being affective. Took me over a year to pivot to a new thought that I may be ADHD. So lowered my Wellbutrin and removed Anafranil and added a 10MG of adderall. I’ve seen drastic improvement which I would like to say is the adder-all, but the physical changes, routine and new workouts consistently are likely a bigger factor in my recovery.
As to long form videos: 1. Considering some of us have ADHD, 10 minutes is a lllooonnnggg ttttiiiimmmmeeee 2. Slow your speech, just a little, and pause for a beat or two to let your points “sink in” 3. Use the format you use in this video: an outline of 3 or 5 points, examples, action steps to change, measures of success. Something like OODA Loops works for me some. You are doing great work here. Thanks for your help.
I've used an Apollo Neuro wearable for over a year now. It sends vibrations to : give energy, help focus, socialise, de-stress, unwind, go to sleep etc and has been a game changer for me. I did cold water showers for years But the regular suffering aspect would make me avoid it, despite how incredible I feel after. Great, energetic and varied music most days is as essential as my wearable. I vary my headphone output to comedy podcasts, deep conversations and intriguing topics like Jungian psychology etc too. That new drink Neutonic is incredible too. Been a regular customer since it first launched. Non jittery focus and a bunch of focus encouraging supplements all in one.
This video literally made me cry.... this is everything I have ever struggled with in my life! I have always felt broken 🥲 Wow 🤯 thank you for making this... 💜
You remind me so much of my grandson who my daughter turned against me 😢 He is 29 yrs old and has dealt with ADHD all his life. I have shared your videos with him and hope he follows you ❤
Post it notes...they fall onto the floor, disappear, etc. So I have a plan of dry erase boards in every room..well not the bathroom. But my ex would yell at me for forgetting, yet he never reminded me, and not having a notebook with me everywhere....the bathroom, in bed, eating, etc
🎯 Watch My Free Video On How To Erase Procrastination and Unlock Instant Focus: ruclips.net/video/UajOKPiv4Uo/видео.html
I clicked the link above here and got to your video BUT BUT BUT how long is it. I only have 20 minutes before I leave the house. I can't invest an unknown length of time and part watch your video - forgetting to come back. It does not fit how I need to handle my life. Does that make sense to you?
bro it takes so long to get to it
Yes, great content
Do you still take the drugs or just natural ? cause drugs would cancel out all these things ?
Yes, pleaseeeeee
I love your short videos too, but longer videos like this make it possible for you to explain things with more detail. And that is soooo rich ❤ thank u
“Your brain is allergic to boredom” - I hadn’t thought of it that way… I like it!
That is the main thing of ADHD. You need action, you need danger, then you are best version of you. I loved army and succeed there, because it was never boring, always was something going on. There was so many peoples in small spaces in the barracks/tents we lived in the wintery forests and so many things to laught, that brain stimulation was 24/7, and i got to drive a heavy battle tank :D Good times! Greeting From Finland to all of You Fellow Squirrels out there 🐿
I saw that and went, "Oh. Oh, my. That makes so much sense."
I dont know if i have adhd but this comment resonates with me. Now im out of the navy and I feel bored and directionless. Im used to moving all the time and constantly doing interesting stuff. And suddenly thats gone. Ive even thought about moving cities again or doing extended travel for something new and exciting again. @@OvoirxDeegyz00
ADHD sounds like whole lot of interesting people
@@OvoirxDeegyz00 I think I would of joined if I wouldnt of injured lower disc in High school dead lifting, 500 ways or #s to screw up your life at 14.
Friends! Should I upload more long form content like this?
Yes pls! And thank you! 🙏🏽
👍 yes
Any content from you is great!
Definitely helps a lot thank you
Yes please!
Literally sitting here dealing with this right now trying to explain to my husband that even I don't understand why I am happy some weeks and then sad for weeks. The roller coaster is so absolutely exhausting.
That's me too, and that feeling that you're never relaxed and content well for a moment, like I might be in the park, listening to the birds with the sun shining and it's all bliss but then i come out of that and it's like I am in and out of work, what's exciting now? And then I wasted hours just chatting on social media because I felt alone and wanted dopamine but even when you're with someone it's not the answer as I still feel like I am not in control
@@deanslife1 I can relate completely. I'm my relationship I feel I at least have an equal amount of control, but even then it's so lonely if youre not truly connected. I wish I knew who I really was when I got married. We were both in full fledged addiction and so disfunction al back then. Thank God we're both over 5 yrs sober, but we're absolutely nothing alike and have nothing in common but the love for our son. Wow didn't expect to go on that rant lol. I do believe in miracles though so I am still holding out for one for our marriage. Best of luck to you 🍀
@@sherileyva5908 go for it, it's good to let it out to others who can understand. All ill say is you don't always need to share lots of the same interests as what's important is sharing that connection with one and another. Good luck to you too x
I know… same. I feel like a crazy person
The husband is the head. The woman is the neck that turns it.
Or something like that.
Craft a way to make him think it was his idea.
Or is that just a movie myth?
Men love to be persuaded, in my opinion. I'm a 61 year old adhd aspy gentleman.
Men, it's pride. What are they proud of? We're still boys.
Adhd is a wild ride. I like the tips. They really make sense.
Healthy dopamine. 👍
The best way for me to get natural Dopanine , is dancing around in my home with happy music and the interactions with my two dogs and two cats... 😊
🎶😺😺😊
I compose.
Happiness creates dopamine, do something that makes you happy and the dopamine will happen simultaneously, and that will keep neuroscientists happy.
I do that too but sadly my two 🐶🐶 passed away in my arms within 3 months 😢 one was 15 & was slowing down more everyday so it was expected. The other was misdiagnosed which I learned afterwards. Anyway I had no idea doing this dancing released dopamine! I just knew all 4 (1 😻) were having fun. I just found this fella here looking forward ADHD help. Just from this video he has helped!He’s so calming & gives so much hope to me. Can’t wait to listen to him more 😊
Love this!! Thank you!!
I’m a ghoster. I’ve let many friendships go across my lifetime and I have so much guilt and shame and sadness. 😢
I also use to remove those friends who leave me on read
You did the best thing for both sides. You can't keep up with the friendship and they would feel hurt from being ignored so it's better to move on. Even without ADHD, friends and relationships come and go. Learn to be kinder and forgive yourself.
@@amilee7580 thanks for your kind and wise words xx
I'm more of a squirter myself
Didn't even know i needed to hear this thank you!!!!! ❤@amilee7580
if someone with adhd can produce a video this high quality than life still can be good for me ❤
Actually most highly successful people you see have it.
he is NOT producing this ALONE. He pays for a team who does editing, refinements etc.
Some of the most productive people on the planet have mental disorders.
🙏
Someone with ADHD can also build a major multi-billion airline company :) (jet blue :) and there are sooo many examples. Find the Adhd advantages / strengths video on this channel :)
My favourite way of getting somewhat healthy dopamine is getting into a hyperfocus state. I can easily trigger it with studying whatever is interesting for me at the moment. It's great, I feel really good, I get insights, but - I can barely do anything about what's not interesting to me,including work, unfortunately.
Feelings are not facts. If it interferes with work, that sounds like it does not work.
@@JakeRichardsong Well it sorta works since when I'm pumped up with what interests me, I can get distractred with the actual work and do some of it. Apparently it's good enough, since I got a raise recently. But not good enough for me, I'd rather have a better solution.
On the other hand if I just push myself to do boring work, I just get miserable, zero progress and also get guilty for not being able to do anything. So that works worse.
Hyperfocus is common amongst people with ADHD. It is one the problems they have to deal with, because most often the hyperfocus is not on the things they need to do.
@@loganmedia1142 correct
@@mr_lemma I just watched a woman say that you should do things that are enjoyable before doing the hard work, as it raises the dopamine to get the difficult task done.
Was diagnosed with ADHD 10 months ago now, I’m39 and struggled with motivation, depression for most of my life. 6 years ago I got into surfing with a mate of mine and since then my whole life has changed drastically. I surf about 2-3 times a week, go to the gym most other days, now living my best life!
Awesome!! 🤙🏾
that is awesome, good on you !
I sure hope that "living properly in the formative years of ones first four decades of life" isn't important, otherwise people like us are screwed unless we're talented enough to immediately transform into sustainable gods as soon as adhd is minimized.
Bravo.Mëndja jote është e artë🙏Vazhdo të kesh një motiv kur ngrihesh në mëngjes dhe do të jesh e lumtur.Jeta është bërë monotone gjithë natën zgjuar me telefon në dorë gjithë ditën gjumë për shumë të rinj😮Ruajna o Zot 🙏
@@Thalanox It's important, but not necessary. Neuroplasticity exists, and exercise helps make new neurons. You can become a different person at any age if that's the goal.
Very interesting, explains why I've struggled with drug addiction for 20 years H is the only thing that slows my mind down ,8 months clean btw 😊
congrats brother!
Look in that mirror everyday and say out loud how proud you are to be so strong, so brave, so wonderful!
Congrats that's huge!!
You will have ups and downs, but i can tell you from personal experience, (more than 10years clean, I don't remember how long anymore and don't care😊) the more time that passes the more your body will normalize until it will be nothing more than a bad memory that you have moved past. But use it to remind yourself how prone you are to addictions. Stay with it, It's the best thing you have ever done for yourself! God bless.
That’s awesome!👏👏👏 for me it was alcohol, then coffee…. I still have this addictive personality but now it’s lemon juice…… wish it was working out😂
Wow. This is a good video. I'm 54 and have "achieved nothing" but I am on one level relieved (and proud?) of myself for not being in debt, not addicted to anything, not overweight. My job is really boring and going to a pilates class at lunch time helps me tolerate it.
Geez yeh I have ghosted a friend, but she wasn't out of my mind. I do get that leaving it too long thing. I am friendly with a lot of people buy I don't really have a close circle. I have gone through phases of being really inactive, messy, solitary. Right now I am feeling capable and energised. I will subscribe.
64 year old male, and can relate to just about everything you say, especially the achieved nothing bit, ironically I can get really good at just about anything I enjoy and focus on. Best wishes to you.
My ways of getting healthy dopamine: cleaning my space, doing yoga, following schedule
are you still suffering with adhd
Following a schedule? I wish I could.
Putting my feet down onto a cold floor, drinking some cold Kefir, standing outside in the early morning, cup of coffee, feed my cats - this is how I get moving.
Why the cold floor? I do it too. Our marble entrance is always cold and always feels good.
The cold floor levels out the cortisol release from fight/flight/ freeze [stress, maybe hot flashes).
@@lynnparadis954 that is really interesting thank you
coffee is a heavily addicting drug that scams you ruclips.net/video/SBaX0jEYsjU/видео.html
I love Kerfir 😅
Music is my dopamine. And I love to dance with it!
Music and a lot of media overwhelms me most of the time. I’m a mood sponge. My son is more like you. He would study with music on. He said it slowed his brain down.
running is the best source of dopamine for me, if i get up and go running in the morning, no matter how bad my day is, i can always seem to muscle through it.
My issue is I wanna do all that but just not able to do it
@@DANYRD6666 then find something for you that gives you that dopamine hit, cold shower, waking up earlier and watching the sun rise, it doesn't really matter as long as you get that dopamine
Scrolling through comments and replaying the video again is the most common symptom of ADHD😂
Haaaaa!!!! Truth!
I go straight to the comments and like it before I’ve watched it 😅
Damn..caught 😂
35 seconds in and I’m already in the comments. Now I’m further along in the video and I have no clue what he’s saying 😂
Haha! So true.
I haven't been diagnosed with adhd but I have discovered I am an infp personality type and its crazy how similar the two are. I get low energy quick and overstimulated and overwhelmed by people and the environment. I'm needing breaks whenever I start to feel irritated or flustered or completely depleted. So videos like this are beneficial even though I haven't actually been diagnosed with adhd. 😊
Omg I'm an infp too and think I have adhd too. I get torn between spending time with my best friend on the weekend and just staying home and doing nothing
I am an INFP too and I agree. The personality traits feel so similar.
INFP here too and am noticing that although I've shared so many of these qualities and problems all my life, perimenopause has drastically increased them. I never thought of myself as possibly having adhd before but now I feel like I check all the boxes!
@@annas.770menopause get us over the top, everything increases 100%, unfortunately.
As an INFP with ADD and ASD - I can understand!
I'm 62 years old and just found out recently that I'm ADHD. Your content has opened my eyes, wow I wish I was told sooner. 😢
💙🙏🏼
I’m 63 and just realized!
It dawn on me about 2 years ago and I just turned 54, it has helped me, it's given new less shaming context to a lot of past failures. Now I re frame them and feel compassion for myself trying again and again and again, to a cacophony of "you just need to apply yourself"
So did you start meds?
Same. I'm 58 and am just discovered what ADHD is. It explains my life exactly.
Playing my flute and piano gives me great joy and I could play for hours nonstop. My church has fabulous acoustics and it’s heavenly what the acoustics do to my sound! I am often struck by feelings of dysphoria, but never while playing music. I can be working on some other hobby like sewing, gardening,etc and all of a sudden (and it is literally like hitting a wall) and I have to immediately quit and retreat. But never with music. I thank God for my gift of musical talent and LOVE for it! Finding your videos has changed my life. I thought that I was just a freak before and now I know there are lots more like me. Thank you.
Sitting in bed trying to get up to go to work watching this. I’ve been beating myself up trying to figure out why I can’t get up. Ghosted all friends and family. Extremely successful until 3 years ago. I’m 56 and decided to get the ADHD test after watching this. Thank you!
PS I need to find my keys and my backup keys lost a few days ago.
A wave of emotion and tears came rolling down with the whole explanation! I have been pin pointing the routines I keep falling into and this just helped me with the missing pieces I needed to “control” the low lows I keep having
Gardening..washing my truck.. going to the gym..
And driving.
You are teaching me so much
Wow! This is such great content! I was officially diagnosed with ADHD when I was 50, and I cry for the child and teenager I once was. Always thinking there was something "wrong" with me. Why did my Mom shout at me at a lot? In school, why couldn't I complete any homework until it was due the next day?
I was told I "talked to much".
*was interruptive
*Annoying
*"should learn to focus better"
*Apply myself
*study more
... "STUDY MORE"? WE'RE THEY JOKING?
I COULDN'T EVEN LIFT MY PENCIL FOR HOMEWORK UNTIL THE NIGHT BEFORE IT WAS DUE! (no matter how long or involved it was)
I sure wish the Internet had been invented at the time-- then I would have been aware that I wasn't the person that teachers and peers thought I was.
I'm still learning how to cope with my brain and always looking for tips--your videos are fantastic! ❤
I ghost as it helps me lose toxic relationships, i focus, so I am super competitive at work, and I can meditate (and develop faster) for hours. I've used my adhd productively and travelled, lived and worked around the world. Keep well all use your brain to get the most out of life.
What job you guys do? I still struggle to focus and find a meaningful job that pays well and give me enough freedom to be able to travel and do other things around.
@@jillmariaplatteaux6083Project Manager
I'm called the Block Queen 😅, had no idea why not why waste time on bad relationships when you can focus time and energy on people who really value you
This stuff is really helping me
as I’ve felt in a constant battle with myself whereby I mainly lose. Like there are two ‘me’s’, the me that wants to do things and be productive and the ‘me’ that seems to sabotage it by making it virtually impossible to do simple, ordinary everyday tasks. I thought I was losing my mind until finding this and the low dopamine thing makes so much sense 😊
I was surfing every day for almost 30 years and it kept my ADHD in check , now I’ve moved to a landlocked state and I’m finding it very difficult to find new ways to manage it.
Get a skateboard 🛹🛹🛹
@@mikedavidson1970 been skating , and have an amazing park , but it’s AZ , so a few months of the year are difficult
Meditation for at least 30mins a day is an absolute game changer!!!
@@jamesshepard4743hiking bro, I’m in Tucson and hike at least twice a week
Nothing replaced the sea, the sand and the waves. Try to move back where you can surf again
Lawn care for me gets my dopamine going. It’s something I can do at my own pace with no outside pressure. N it slowly gets better so even on the days I don’t get to mow I notice the lawn improving n that is dope boost to. N it’s just zen bein in the yard!
I'm 47, been struggling bad for years. Even though I have a home and a wife and 5 kids. This video explains everything exactly. This is my brain for sure. I only accepted the fact that I have ADHD once my oldest daughter started talking about it and got diagnosed.
And she's almost a genius at school etc.
Subbed!!
I fought the diagnosis for a long time (I was a ritalin kid - before ADHD it was "hyperactive") and then accepted it around 40.
I've tried stims off and on for several years and have finally decided I will not medicate my way into a life I want so am exploring how my fellow ADHDers are "coping" and thriving.
Love this channel so far! Thank you.
My favorite dopamine is foraging. The rush I get from finding free food. Especially something I haven't found before. When I found a lion's mane mushroom oh my Gosh.
I forage lots of things. Clothes on promotion.
Best value for money purchases. Wild herbs.
If I enter a market in Asia I'm in there for hours.
I started watching this channel to help my son with his adhd, and came to a realization that maybe i have it too .
I know it's not a good idea to diagnose yourself, but why i relate with almost everything he's saying...
I had a vision after a remark by a friend who told me that : "If you don't want to lose yours stuff, it's just a question of Will and habits". After stopping crying, I thought : "Really ? ". So I went to my doctor who advise me to see a specialist.
I'm at the beginning of my journey of diagnostic and understanding of the mechanism of my brain and yours videos confort me in my process. It was such a relief, because for the first time, I didn't feel alone and guilty of my misses, and also see the beauty of my brain. So thank you.
Yes I like the long form info and can use all the information ICan get!
Did your friend mean well when she said that? Because "it's a question of will and habits" would feel very cruel to me. I virtually cannot form habits, and will has nothing to do with it. How can you will yourself to do or not do something you did. even notice or register in the first place? Wishing you success in your journey.
@@normabaker5837 I think it's more an remark without thinking. It's a Guy who fought for what he has so it's difficult sometimes for him to understand that for some people it's not so obvious.
It's not that it's not obvious to you, if you have ADHD it might be that it's not useable advice for you. If you have executive dysfunction then /adding more will/ won't help.
By far, one of the best (and encouraging) videos I have watched on the topic. The one bit about accepting that my brain is different/works differently and not beating myself up is huge! Massive thanks!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Can Dr. sporessss send to me in UK?
They are still illegal here. 😥
Dancing By Myself to favourite music (with uplifting truth lyrics) does it for me. Moving my body in a very present way affects...I don't know... EVERYTHING
Me too, I learned that not too long ago.
I am a huge Lord of the Rings fan. When Nik was talking about taking advantage of mental sprints, I immediately thought: "...I'm wasted on cross country.... we dwarves are natural sprinters! Very dangerous across short distances!"
P.S. I call boredom my "nemesis", so it was extremely validating to hear boredom described as an allergy 👏👏
There are many benefits to boredom.
It's the opposite for me. Boredom is my power. Once I remove all distractions and reach boredom, that's when my projects get done.
Boromir
This video is very relatable. It makes me feel as if I can finally describe how I feel. ADHD has affected my life poorly for many years but I believe I can change it. I have lost a lot because of this and do not want to lose anymore.
I won't go into why but this video may have saved my life. Touching on dopamine, you explained certain concepts in a way even my doctor never could and I needed to hear it. Thank you.
Dear Nick, you are the goat. I'm tired of all the psychologists who don't have any experience are real knowledge about adhd.
You are a blessing, because you overcame the challenges and help other people. you dove deep into the topic. those academic and unaffected people don't know much about the topic and more importantly how to adress the cause, because they are trained to only dim the symptom. You are more valuable than any doctor, prescribing light heartedly prescription drugs. This topic is so loaded for me -.- :(
I recommend to you the channel “How to ADHD”.
Think this is my first time seeing your videos. Literally relate to everything you’ve mentioned here. Really great video, well paced to keep us interested too!
The insight you have shared has given me so many A-Ha moments. Throughout this video ( and many of your others), I kept saying to myself " That's why that happens. Now I get it." I am very appreciative of your posts. I discover something new about myself every time I view them.
This is one of the best videos Ive watched on ADHD. You seem to have effortlessly explained traits of ADHD people that most people wouldnt know was associated to ADHD (like ghosting). Then you went on to explain what can be done about it. Awesome stuff.
I recommend to you the channel “How to ADHD”.
I watched that video and it explains everything. It explains the last minimum 20 years and i started immediately to cry because i've lost so much in my life just because of this and i never took care about because i never was aware of this or i was even able to do. Sitting here and finding yourself in that big hole of feeling worthless, unloved and not being able to achieve even to tidy your flat is one of the hurtful feelings in live. Losing my last partner just for being unresponsive and forgot about conversations wants me literally to jump out of the window. It hurts that you were able to do something but you were not able to do something at the same time.
What you said at the end is absolute key. We are best at sprints not marathons! Excellent video.
I swear you are the best, I have not been clinically diagnosed, but the videos I have watched so far are literally changing my life instantly.😢
Cutting out sugar and adding saffron to my diet has reduced my depression.
Saffron ?
Yup, look it up - it’s a biggie…
the sugar thing is so conflicting, it's either people encourages you to leverage it for dopamine or tell you to avoid it
@@kamote192 Processed sugar causes significant inflammation
I have saffron, how much you take?
That’s really great, Nick. I taught myself a very similar program. The novelty, traveling changing work places is very effektive. Also you have to have a tool box of constantly attractive hobbies/side hustles
Hi adhd vision, i am watching this now , after the 38 seconds you post this, warm love from Indonesia & from me the same adhder
Thank you for watching!
Thanks
You just summarised 32 years of my life.
What to do is still not clear
Same for me, I've been switching jobs not reaching anywhere, high time I need help
4:14 Thank you ❤ This realization has literally brought me to tears due to the guilt I've been carrying for my difficult-to-explain behavior. I genuinely care about the people I know, but it's extremely hard for me to stay in touch if they don't initiate contact.
I love the last Lesson a lot!!
Glad you liked it!!
@@adhdvision
I just realized this is your first video after 10 months. Is everything alright?
Watching your videos has been an absolute life saver for me Nik. Thank you
Thank you so much for this video, it's incredibly inspiring. I'm a new YT subscriber but I've been a TikTok follower for years. Your videos (and others) made me seek an ADHD diagnosis at age 52. When perimenopause started for me, all my ADHD symptoms got so much worse but thankfully, becoming self aware has helped tremendously. It makes me sad that it happened so late but then I remind myself, it could have never happened and that would be a true tragedy. Thank you for your content.
This is the FIRST video on YT that is actually helpful for me regarding ADHD - thank you - that`s it exactly
Started working Sunday morning on a project with very soon deadline, worked until monday evening. I took one single break Sunday night taking cold shower. Working process was super productive, progress was super satisfying, but this phase was absolutly insane for sleeping phases - work was done to tuesday morning, results are great - worth it. I love my brain
Today is a very hot day inside my appartment. When you mentioned the cold showers, I stopped the video and rushed to the bathroom. I gotta say this was amazing! Relieved my bad mood and circulation problems instantly! I want to do this regulary now. 😊 Thank you.
Asking people with adhd to sign up for an online event that's at some future point is like asking an adhder to sign up for an online event that's at some point in the future. Bro even if I sign up, I'm going to forget about it in an hour and I'll forget to check my emails so there's really no point. No disrespect btw.
I have adhd,as most of us here do, and I'm guessing most of here are watching these videos now and a probably going to consume a whole lot more of adhd videos for a couple of days and then we'll see you again in a couple of months when the itch comes back around.
I would suggest that you the stuff you want us to sign up for,just make content out of it and upload it here.
Also,i appreciate the work you do and the education you bring us all, thanks 🤙🏼
I am so grateful for you!!! I’m adhd and dyslexic , I have struggled for 57 years. I do cold showers and dance it out every morning. The afternoon comes and I’m just done; going to try your suggestion of cold showers in the afternoon. The biggest ah-ha for me was the “friends piece”This video was very helpful❤️
Im going through a diagnosis right now at nearly 48 i think ive always known it,playing my guitar and singing really helps me,watching your videos has really helped me thanks i spoke to my mum for the first time in 2 years it was such a realease thanks again,🙏❤ adhd vision
💙 that’s amazing
"Your brain is literally allergic to boredom". It is as if you are inside of my mind.
Thanks for making this channel. I am learning a lot about myself through your efforts.
Had to watch this three times. Got distracted
1+
That's funny. Me, too
Typical us 😂
I'm literally commenting while watching, and I'm not sure what I've missed. It's fine, I'm used to it by now.
I had to rewind, as a always do :/. I’m will do investoagstion now, I’m 28 but almost certain I have it. It would not suprise me.
Thanks!
I’m 62 and have struggled with ADHD my whole life. I recently retired so I have to stay busy or I will die of boredom. Gym in the morning, lifelong learning/self-improvement/growth oriented activities, volunteering, helping elderly parents, socializing with friends and family. I also started taking Wellbutrin because I had depression related to my ADHD. Seems to help.
I would love to get to know you. You sound just like me including the wellbutrin. I'm in Utah
Does Wellbutrin help, I have been thinking about taking medication for ADHD? Any weird side effects?
Here’s to a Good day today! Thank you for mentioning Wellbutrin & your experience with it. I had first discussion with Dr about it yesterday and have been so hesitant but I think it’s worth a try. Wishing you all the best! -Terri
@@444brandy: I’m in Michigan. How are things in Utah?
@@rnovotny645: No, not for me at least. Some people do have them. I had to switch to slow release when I started taking it, (150 mg), because I did feel a little amped up but once I did that I was good.
Putting this video on repeat. Managing my ADHD has gotten better, but still overdo it trying to attain more and more dopamine - then the unexpected crash. Am returning to basics trying to mimic my behaviors during childhood by having entire days blocked off for self-care, alone time, and VIDEO GAMES! 😁
Weight lifting / cardio first thing in the morning!
Yes. Straight out of bed and after a short visit to the bathroom I go outside to jog, do pushups pullups, anything I come across where I run. After I'm back home I reward myself with a few berries (strawberries, blueberries, etc) which, yes it's sugar, but it's natural sugar and has very high amounts of vitamins. After that I prepare my breakfast, I only eat natural organic foods, no refined sugar whatsoever. And I switched to low carb recently, which also made a huge difference. I quit rice and pasta, mostly I just eat fish, meat, eggs, nuts, and TONS of vegetables. Also, caffeine/coffee are a no-go.
@@gaynzz6841 Are you medicated by chance? How tf can you workout fasted without any caffeine? T-T
@@FreeReign-k1e No meds, but many years ago I did used to always have a redbull /some large caffeinated soda, and a banana before going to the gym (first thing in the morning too). I guess the habit just stuck. I would mostly wake up at 3-4 AM since gyms are nice and empty. So I always did it like this... Now I just dropped the caffeine and the sugar. Also in my case this works well because once i have food in my belly I get slow and sluggish lol. It probably takes some getting used to but honestly I can't imagine it doing it any different way. Get a workout in, and the rest of the day is yours, and you retain that good feeling that you "already achieved something today". I'd definitely recommend trying it!
@@FreeReign-k1e If you think about it, "working out" fasted is how humans have operated for hundreds of thousands of years until there was agriculture. If in 20,000 BC you wanted food, you had to go hunt, or find some berries. The only way to have "breakfast" after waking up (best case) is if you'd set a trap/snare some days before and it actually caught something. But even so, you would have to walk over there to get it, prepare the meat, etc. What really clicked for me was when I found a documentary on the Hadza hunter gatherer people (it's here on YT). I have been trying to change my lifestyle to theirs - despite living in a Western country. And the results really are great. I used to have stomach issues (IBS syndrome) which went away, I feel more energized. Sleep improved. And no, this is without any medications.
@@FreeReign-k1e Many years ago I was absolutely addicted to huge amounts of sugar AND caffeine, which caused lots of damage. I always used to work out after waking up though, I guess the habit just stuck. And if you think about it this is the most natural way. "working out" fasted is how humans have operated for hundreds of thousands of years until there was agriculture. If in 20,000 BC you wanted food, you had to go hunt, or find some berries FIRST. I saw a documentary about the Hadza hunter-gatherer people and that changed everything. the more I change my lifestyle to theirs, the more my lifestyle improves. My stomach issues (IBS) caused by my lifelong sugar addiction finally went away, I feel more energized, sleep improved. Honestly I would just try it and see what happens.
i have no idea why
but i bursted out crying
when u said about ghosting friends and family and out of sight out of mind
I sat in on the supposedly “live” webinar which in fact was not live at all. Basically a 2 hour prerecorded video to warm you up to buying a product at the end. I don’t mind if people try to sell something but when there are lies involved, I’M OUT.
Same here. Seems like a scam model. Also not answering to mails an questions about the payment method… be careful
He’s a scammer, he’s blowing his own trumpet for 1 hour straight. His comments and views are paid for. I’m starting to think he’s not neurodivergent at all. Just milking it by trapping poor adhd people.
I deliberately scrolled to look for a review of the webinar! Thank you for saving me 2 hours of my life!!! The couple minutes that I watched were so stiff (and obviously not live which is fine, but why not call it what it is?) What was he trying to sell? What was the "answer"? He really hooked me at the end of the RUclips video. I'm falling behind in my business because of struggling to focus and be motivated and I'm scared!
Yes this is SCAM. The bonus SPRINT technique link is 2 HOURS of FAKE LIVE event where he spends most time promising to reveal something if you stick to the end. Typical marketing funnel. Stay away from this charlatan.
I also think it's a scam. I gave up after 20 minutes. The first 15 minutes was filled with testimonials. Then after that he says he'll dive into the method, but then starts telling his life story. And yes, it's definitely not live, but he pretends that it is. Even though he keeps saying there are free bonuses at the end, it's quite obvious that he's going to try and sell you something at some point.
So nice to have your working behaviours described to you so actually
Although I appreciate the work you do, I was diagnosed myself, but I never listened to them over the years. I found out there’s 3 very important things that we must consider. Did we learn how to prioritize? when we were little kids and what was our diet and also did we learn how to focus or to calm our mind? the answer in my case is absolutely not. My house was full of sugary stuff, and my parents didn’t give a lick teaching me to prioritize or focus. I taught myself these things and now I can say no physician can diagnose me with ADHD. ❤
I’m 73, and still have a hard time prioritizing.
I have tried at least 10 years to prioritize and still struggle. I guess I have adhd and you don't.
This is by far the most resonating, insightful and action oriented video that I have seen.
I loved how you used the term going “off-grid.” I explain to friends by saying I’m going off-line, but i like your phrasing better.
Lmaoooo the post-it notes *everywhere* IS LITERALLY ME I feel exposed 😭😭😭
I work in a paperless office and I don't care how many screens I have, I want to write to details of a case down on one page.
I’m sitting here with post-it notes, 2 kinds. 😂❤
@@spiralsun1 Only 2 kinds ?? My life and appt are so filled with notes (post it and otherwise) that they are also overwhelming. If my place ever catches on fire...all my paper notes will no doubt make it go quickly. I hope the smoke gets me first. I hate being an ADHD.
Brilliant. Excellent. Yes long content is good. Your summary was good, overviews and structure left me wanting more. I did obviously listen at 1.5 speed but I've now got time for another half video before more procrastination and guilt.
Holy!!! The older I get, the more ADHD takes over my life! I lived a normal life and when I get my 50's all hell broke loose. This is all me!
Right, I am 44 and I think it has been the worst it has ever been for me, it's causing me some real problems now... maybe I didn't care so much when I was younger, I am not sure but it's really getting in my way recently.
I genuinely dont think you are getting worse, I do believe its (atleast for the most part) because almost EVERY company spend billions in reasurge of HOW to use this to sell products.... Its just more and more sciense about how companies can USE the human normal function to make you buy more, eat more, spend more time online, because thats jow they earn $. EVERYONE, EVERYWHERE, try to use as much mind tricks on you to get your focus "there"... like ads for example is EVERYWVERE, like 20 years ago you had to actively open a newspaper to see one, now they are EVERYWHERE, trying to get your focus from what you are doing to them. (Also I have heard bad food can increase this too, and the food companies do everything they can to make you eat more of it .
I'm assuming from your username that you are female. Menopause messes up your dopamine levels even more
@@DavidBennell Me three...when I hit my mid-forties my adhd got more pronounced. Personally i think the reason is i am not as motivated because well.. i did everything i wanted to already. So nothing gives me dopamine...i hae no goals so i have no drive lol. WOmen used to be a major motivation..and drugs/parties...but i quit them all.
Wuaaaaaao,,, me too.! I know what you mean...
Thank you so much for doing this channel. Obviously there are so many of us who need to learn and understand ourselves to be kinder to ourselves and more patient.
My latest healthy dopamine fix is gardening. I spent most of the day in the garden pulling up weeds and triangulating where to plant vegetables. It's taken half a year to motivate myself to start, but now I'm loving it. My others are playing guitar and spicy food
@adhdvision my guy thank you, it’s a 2 week cycle, this type of real content, it’s a lifeline for the neurodivergent, add a dash of perfectionism that really spices things up… keep up the good work
Dancing is my favorite way to increase dopamine! I feel so alive, full, and connected :D
Please post more for this! This is incalculable in value for someone like me.
You’re back! Love your content thanks for making it
💙🫡
This is describes my brain exactly. Thank you for your content… definitely needed this.
I'm in tears. Thank you so much for helping me understand my partner ❤️. I know he is adhd, but understanding how it manifests in his life and therefore in our relationship is amazingly valuable. So happy to find you!!
Excellent! My natural dopamine at the moment is dancing to three songs in the morning right after I wake up. Now I understand why I love it so much, and after this video I think I will also try walking in the morning and singing more often during the day.
This describes my entire life from not knowing why I suffered, discovering and being diagnosed ADHD, experiencing Medicated life, and battling & fighting to quit the meds and create my own solution with physical, mental and emotional work beyond what I ever did before to force myself to gain control of things like the creation of a morning routine, a new reality of life via intense daily exercise, Muay Thai training, food intake correction, acceptance of (and NEED for) appropriate recovery days, and overall mental diligence to do it again and again over and over, every single day f day without fail. Motivation channels on RUclips ie Motiversity especially compilations, have helped immensely to focus and push myself harder.
Nik, your style of delivery and your passion for helping us ADHDers is much appreciated. YES! YES please continue. I'm gaining a sense of hope for my future. (Diagnosed at 62, and I'm very familiar with paralysis, guilt, shame over ghosting and more). Thank you.
Yes please! Sometimes if I only listen to short form I can get very agitated. Sometimes if there’s VERY long form content (like Gabor Mate close to 2 hour long lectures) I either wander away from the device, or fall asleep, or pick up a different device and start another activity. Multiple options help. Today the VERY Reason I chose to watch your video instead of the one I came to watch was specifically because I saw the length of the video and thought that has a good amount of time for me today right now. I love your stuff thank you!
I agree, Mel Robinson has some videos about adhd and procrastination, and I've watched the first 9 minutes of all of them 😂
I have been obsessed about ADHD as a topic (the irony) for years, I have read, watched listened to a lot of content and got lots of valuable insights and strategies to make my daily life better. Yet you managed to hold my attention and teach me a whole lot of new things + summarize the stuff I knew in a great way. Sometimes you need to hear things more than once before they really stick to your brain...
My man going all in with this video 💪
You already know!
Really loved the video. Already been incorporating the cold showers first thing in the morning and natural light. One additional is delaying caffeine intake for 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up. I have been taking antidepressants for years to ward off anxiety and depression, but this last year they stopped being affective. Took me over a year to pivot to a new thought that I may be ADHD. So lowered my Wellbutrin and removed Anafranil and added a 10MG of adderall. I’ve seen drastic improvement which I would like to say is the adder-all, but the physical changes, routine and new workouts consistently are likely a bigger factor in my recovery.
Gives me hope that my son will live a better life... thx
Thank you for the concise RUclips, you covered a lot of ground very well and in chunks I could stay with right to the end.
🤝
As to long form videos:
1. Considering some of us have ADHD, 10 minutes is a lllooonnnggg ttttiiiimmmmeeee
2. Slow your speech, just a little, and pause for a beat or two to let your points “sink in”
3. Use the format you use in this video: an outline of 3 or 5 points, examples, action steps to change, measures of success. Something like OODA Loops works for me some.
You are doing great work here. Thanks for your help.
Just play it on a faster speed. 😂
Hahaha loooonnngggg timmmee
Thanks for sharing. You are an effective communicator both in the info you convey and the sincerity and vulnerability you show.
I've used an Apollo Neuro wearable for over a year now. It sends vibrations to : give energy, help focus, socialise, de-stress, unwind, go to sleep etc and has been a game changer for me. I did cold water showers for years But the regular suffering aspect would make me avoid it, despite how incredible I feel after. Great, energetic and varied music most days is as essential as my wearable. I vary my headphone output to comedy podcasts, deep conversations and intriguing topics like Jungian psychology etc too. That new drink Neutonic is incredible too. Been a regular customer since it first launched. Non jittery focus and a bunch of focus encouraging supplements all in one.
This video literally made me cry.... this is everything I have ever struggled with in my life! I have always felt broken 🥲 Wow 🤯 thank you for making this... 💜
You remind me so much of my grandson who my daughter turned against me 😢
He is 29 yrs old and has dealt with ADHD all his life. I have shared your videos with him and hope he follows you ❤
Yes please, and more on routines really helps to copy something that works
Post it notes...they fall onto the floor, disappear, etc. So I have a plan of dry erase boards in every room..well not the bathroom. But my ex would yell at me for forgetting, yet he never reminded me, and not having a notebook with me everywhere....the bathroom, in bed, eating, etc
I have a lot of alarms on my phone problem is my brain tunes them out.
Damn it, this one really cut deep. It basically described most of my internal struggles around shame and self doubt to a tee.