Bs. Its a huge video of yapping you can't skip through and doesn't even offer a link to a PAID PRODUCT. Don't waste your time, I just let it run in the background after I realized it was preying on insecurities in an attempt to get us to buy a product. Very childlike. Sad.
Unsubscribing to this guy. Lost my trust. "In a few minutes I will tell you how..." Half an hour later still going on about he will tell you what he discovered that changed everything. Super insulting and disrespectful to ADHDers that he claims to understand. Focus Revolution is his product. Best I can tell it's an expensive doctored up version of body doubling which you can get for about $7/month at Focusmate. Thought I'd save others time by coming here to share what his push of a button life changing thing is that "he will reveal in the next few minutes ". Smh
the toxic relationships, incosistency, poor time management, lack of energy , mood swings , addiction , being a night owl..... man living with ADHD is really hard but nobody understands that.... but being aware of your problem can really help
I got diagnosed last year at age 58. Started on methylphenidate immediately. The diagnosis and meds have made a profound difference. I got diagnosed with lung cancer the same week as ADHD, the methylphenidate helped me breeze through it without the massively unhelpful thoughts associated with ADHD. The cancer has gone now, and I feel fucking amazing.
I read this comment before the video itself started, so I decided to pinpoint the specific moment, where I would think that, because I know that behaviour as well. Long story short, that thought came up literally two seconds before he said it.. jesus..
This guy knows exactly what he’s talking about. In typical ADD/ADHD fashion, I paused about 30 seconds in to write everything below, resumed the clip and, lo and behold: he basically said everything I was getting at haha! Once I dedicated myself, life started taking a much better turn for me. I’m still not perfect, but I’m in a much better place. It is possible to break free, it just takes some time and dedication. :) -- The thing is, if there’s something you need to do, something you really don’t want to do, and you just do it - no procrastinating, no nothing - it provides a massive dopamine hit and a huge sense of accomplishment. Way larger than a hit from procrastinating and rushing to finish something at the last minute and causing all kinds of chaos and making people upset in the process does. Doing this repeatedly will slowly rewire your brain to seek these greater and more positive dopamine hits over the easier but more negative ones, and you’ll start to hyperfocus on the things you need to accomplish. People with ADD/ADHD have the potential to be some of the most productive and self-sufficient people there are. Case in point: how many of you who play games will move Heaven and earth to accomplish all of the bonus objectives during a mission, do each and every side quest, seek out the most obscure loot - no matter how hard it is to get, or grind and grind and grind for hours (even days) to get your stats up (even if it’s frustrating) to give yourself an advantage? We’ll hyperfocus on some of the most minute things in order to get ahead; things that most other people would say are not worth pursuing. People with ADD/ADHD have the potential to do incredible things. They just have to dedicate themselves and break their cycle. Once it’s broken, they’re unleashed. The only thing that they need to do at that point is maintain themselves and keep that leash off of them.
Yeah but actually doing the things even things you enjoy is so so difficult that I have to continually push myself which still happens at the last minute as I get sidetracked with something else like scrolling and talking about my ADHD frustrations and going to bed late
@@deantalksfootball 1. Put down your phone and *just do* what you need to, right now. Just do it. Stop reading this until it’s done, then return. -- 2. Take this guy’s video, add it to your favorites or a playlist. Watch it whenever you feel frustrated or when you know you’re slipping. 3. Start with the small things. You know the trash is full, the dishes need to be done, your bed needs to be made, or whatever. Just get up and do it. Just do it. You’ll probably get a real nice hit and you’ll look for other small things to take care of to keep that rush going. Keep “just do it”-ing the small things each and every day and, before long, the bigger things will become easier to approach. This isn’t something that happens overnight. You just need to decide “I’m going to do this”. Do whatever it takes to help - make a daily checklist, set a reminder on your phone. Just *do it*. We have a superpower, dude. Trust me - you won’t believe what you can accomplish in life once you’ve broken your cycle, and neither will everyone else around you. They’ll be blown away by your drive.
+greghoyt4061 Honestly, I go back and forth so much from planning and non-planning. Like I'll plan things out which actually makes my life easier to some level. Example: I literally try my best *not* to grocery shop on a whim anymore unless absolutely Necessary. I will literally to each grocery store's website to compare prices to see which one is more affordable for specific products I may need, I will literally write down what I'm going to buy from each store. I go to about 3-4, occasionally 5 diff. grocery stores solely for affordability purpose. There is a huge chance I've had undiagnosed ADHD my whole life for more than 1 reason. 1.) I was tested for both ADD/ADHD when I was 7 yrs. old 2.) A lot of my childhood behaviors have transferred into my adulthood, 3.) Strong coffee literally puts me to sleep. Also, idk if this is part of ADHD or not, but I'm horrible w/phone calls and follow-ups-the reason I say I'm horrible w/phone calls is cuz I kept telling myself I'd follow up w/my doctor to get retested for it & it's already been a week and I still haven't done it. I'm someone who doesn't take action because for the longest time ever, I've allowed my own emotions to take over. I think rather than taking my challenges/weaknesses as a chance to turn into strengths-I allow my hypersensitive emotional state to take over & dwell on it. I try not to dwell on things, but sadly it happens b/c that's how my mind is until it gets angry angry depending on the situation. I've noticed now that whenever I'm upset or even annoyed in the slightest, I'll do *anything* to do my best to improve it. But there are times when I feel so exhausted by diff. things that I literally have 0 energy to do anything esp. when my mind is too focused on multiple things at 1 time. Also, I don't want to say that my mind is haywire 24/7, but it's def. haywire a lot more often than it should be. I know exactly what my passions are & would love to pursue them, but when others put me down, I end up putting myself down for it, but I'm gonna start learning how to take action mostly b/c I'm fed up w/myself and prob. with others in my life and earlier on to some level treating me like crap or downplaying my dreams rather than allowing me to do my own thing & pursue them-sorry for the lengthy-ness.
Excellent comment. To turn that corner, from avoidance-procrastination, disorganization, and chaos, to getting addicted to actual _accomplishment_ of those tasks that move your life forward. There is a lot of latent power in the ADD style, but one has to _learn_ to seek those "greater and more positive dopamine hits". The brain has to get that, somehow -- the "should do" needs to somehow become more compelling than the "want to do". And it has to become more _naturally_ compelling, otherwise one is caught forever in a shame loop.
Agree with this. Too many diagnosed people fall into excuses. It’s toxic. Even just having a very detailed daily calendar in your phone will solve a heap of issues.
Could you elaborate more? Sometimes I felt like it’s a curse but sometimes I felt like it’s a gift. I know I shouldn’t but a lot of times I just tell myself I can’t do anything and I feel depressed
@@ChanChanChan-g6u That is why we should not take them everyday as adults. Only when required. And once you have them at home...you learn when you need them..when you're better off without.
Its because police dispatcher job is practical moving job... Adhd helps in that kind of activities where we have work in motion ... Its sucks in reading writing speaking listening while you study
Sadly adhd often times comes in package with depression and anxiety, which rather leads to contraction than expansion and goals worth accomplishing usually require repeated / focus long term, which is our Kryptonite. But I get that it's possible once one finds their groove into a thing.
Yes! And add to that any other kinds of trauma to our already different brain, and it can seem impossible to move. Like we have a ball and chain around our feet, meaning we can't move towards those long-term goals very fast, and are also being distracted by little things at the same time. We might have a few days of motivation and hope , but when things don't happen fast enough, it seems impossible to bring that motivation back.Then the cycle of negative self talk and berating continues, causing a deepening of anxiety and/or depression.
@JtothePrezexactly. I have depression and anxiety because of trauma. I had adhd before trauma but It became worser, more impulsiveness, masking hyperactivity through calmness
7 minutes in and I just want to say this video is insanely well packed with useful advice. I mean, it's not like most of us don't know this already, but it somehow clicks differently when explained this well. Thank you.
To anyone struggling with ADHD, from the bottom of my heart, I urge you: don’t click away. This video will genuinely make you THINK. It’s not just another video you watch and move on from-it’s something that can truly benefit you. Trust me on this. Take a moment to reflect on what’s being shared, and you’ll see how you can shift from battling negative, intrusive thoughts to unlocking the true potential of an ADHD brain. @ADHDVision I hope you continue to make amazing videos like these in the years to come for people of all brains. It was God's grace who brought me to your channel and I cannot wait to see where your videos take me in life.
Having ADHD not only self-sabotages you but your relations with others deteriorate and also welcomes problems with other people, with work, school, and society at a daily basis. I was always unfocused, felt behind always, shun friends or people due to avoiding adding more clutter to my brain but also people sense my struggle and I am easy prey. I do not know why I am the only one having problems from nowhere at work or when I go to the store or whatever place. At work, with my ADHD I overperform but I am not recognized and when my ADHD causes me to make a stupid mistake I have the entire management team attacking me. I see other people doing nothing for years, basically getting paid to do nothing, yet I make a simple mistake, I get a warning.
Oh my God this is my life story at 58 brought up to be a nice woman helpful to everyone always coming up with answers for everyone and getting made fun of on the job overworking and yes, getting picked out the minute. Something is wrong instead of recognized for all that I do above and beyond everyone else you have my exact story. And yes, easy pray for people who like to pick on people and make fun of what the heck?
Yes! This is so similar to my life as well! I just wish I could somehow run my own company so I don't have to answer to anyone but myself. But running it myself is too burdensome. I am a fixer and I am good at reconditioning and servicing tools and some electronic repair, but it's always a little knowledge over many different things, which makes it hard to get a jon position for. I also hate to market myself and I'm too shy and too nice to demand a decent payment for my work...
Be who you seek to be: one moment, one breath, one step at a time. People visualize life progress as a straight line. My path is less like an eagle soaring and more like the path of a house fly. Thanks for this video and best wishes in each step of your journey.
My path seems to be the path of a fruit fly... I respond to the stimuli around me and hover there... until I see a new banana. 😉 Then I hover there... until I see a beautiful open container of raspberries. Then... I see a fluffy delightfully-scented peach. This is literally how I live my life... from whim to whim.
This is one of the most inspirational videos I've ever seen from you. Thank you so so much! It's so nice to feel truly seen with what we struggle with!
Financial stress yes very. But married to I think an OCD sufferer. I’m going back to school late in life, THATS pressure. The way I’m financing our life give me guilt (not illegal or immoral means) -and I also work 30 hrs a week as a waiter in a nice restaurant, but it’s still not enough because of our overhead. I must now coming to terms with the fact that my brain is different than most others and this is largely why every opportunity and relationship I’ve had has been lost or destroyed. I don’t even know what Im living for anymore. I’m toward the end stretch of my life. It’s so depressing to look back and see how many many things could have been better had my parents (one of them has severe cluster of Asperger’s, anxiety, depression, all untreated for life) - had my parents, who are both career teachers, helped me cope with adhd, anxiety, spectrum social disorders. I’m just staying alive to hopefully someday take my wife on a vacation and help my kids get through life. Damn, and then the Supreme Court immunity ruling. And trump, and the religious right, and corruption.. it’s all bad. Makes me want to take up smoking again.
7:50 "ask yourself 'what do I have to accomplish to make yourself feel more accomplished' and what has the highest likelihood of giving you that feeling everyday " is the frame-shift I needed. Thanks!
I've been a teacher for 21 years and it's the best combination of on one hand the structure and stability of the schoolyear and the unpredictability of the students. I get to be very creative with my lessons and help students solve their problems... ❤
I’m a hair stylist. So having different clients all day is really good for my adhd. New person, new challenge. I love it. And damn, this is an oh crap moment. Thanks for the video.
i’ve only recently started to look into adhd and if i have it after 4 years of being stagnant from adhd symptoms post covid. these videos have been immensely helpful, thank you for putting in the effort to better other’s lives!
Just switched jobs from a managerial position back to field service and while I have moments when I feel overwhelmed with problem solving on customer's sites I do not regret this carrer decision. Career wise it's a step back but for my mental wellbeing a massive step forward.
I'm 40 and I'm so stuck right now. I finally figured out that I have ADHD and the first 2 minutes of this video is 110% me. One of the things I do when I get bored and stuck is move to a new city. I was just about to do this again.
😂 me too!!! Or travel...I'm like a bird in a cage. I'm dying right now living in the same house for 4.5 years. My husband and I bought our first house and I have to stick it out for the kids because we have a GREAT neighborhood and location. Safe and friendly, but boring. My son was 7 mo when we moved here and my daughter was 5 (she had already been through 5 moves).
I wont lie, the production of this vid had snake-oil vibes to me so I was nearly out. I did hang in there. I have ADHD, and I resonate strongly with the core message. Interest. I can't do anything without it, but with it, I can do anything.
My problem is I dont seek problems. I just get overwhelmed at work and once i get back home im too overstimulated to work on my projects. Its a vicious cycle because i tell myself ok we need to get this project done. And then after work im too tired cant concentrate at all. Like i used up all of the concentration I had for the day and my brain is like nope sorry bye. My current job at the moment is a server in a senior living facility. Its fun and super engaging but its not my passion. (That and other coworkers coming in late or slacking off so i have to overcompensate for it) Animating is what i want to do. I just want to feel less dead inside after work.
💯 same and feeling like I’m failing at life. I never thought about it in the sense of being too overstimulated. Just thought my meds wore off too soon. Thanks!
If you can somehow set one or two nights a week to dedicate an evening or an hour to a task or goal, then you can build some level of momentum. It'll be hard, with more than a few times you'll fall on your face, but I've been able to get some benefit from trying that. Less the running a project and more regularly volunteering in various community groups to feel more engaged.
@@vanessacee4154 since there is a stimulant shortage. I was forced off my meds. Surprisingly I can sleep better now and I'm less irritable than I was on the vyvanse. But the problem is I get tired more easily now.
Dude I feel you! I need to revise for my law exams and I WANT to give it my all, my best, my time but after a days work I'm shattered. Not necessarily physically but mentally. On top of that, I need to stick to my physio and mediation but they've become chores when they're meant to be helping me. The mental exhaustion drives me to "just have a drink" in the evening. Which, I'm good at controlling (usually because I scare myself of the worst if I feel that I'm relying on it too much) BUT... the alcohol doesn't solve the problem, it just helps me FORGET about things.Which in turn.... means that I can RELAX but ONLY because I've NUMBED my thoughts! Yes it's not healthy, but this really highlights what we ADHD'ers need.... to SILENCE the MILLIONS of THOUGHTS that were either CONSCIOUSLY or SUBCONSCIOUSLY aware of Xx
Love how you put your video together. It feels so calm. The vision seems like it would work for most but what if you have severe anxiety and starting something new is actually paralyzing. Making decisions is impossible most days. Can you please make a video about how to overcome panic attacks with ADHD.
Connecting / meeting with new people is one thing I really love. Never thought about it having something to do with my adhd. It sometimes feels like I am much happier and open to that than other people and friends
I've made a lot of changes over the last 6months. I've been able to spot the negative thoughts easier, because I've focused on keeping myself grounded and calm, regulated, it took a while. I've experienced these wake up and jump out of bed periods, in the past, now I realise what they mean. I have now engaged in a new big project. It's risky, but not totally impossible. I've committed too much now to walk away. I'm already thinking of the next project, to keep me fired up. I'm not going to engage with it till I've finished this one. It's exciting, I have more energy, focus, ability to plan logical steps. It requires funding I don't have, but I know I can raise it. The next one even more so. I'm confident that I'll do it. I can look at past achievements with pride now and remember that I made it happen, against the odds. For all our failures, abuse, exploitation, he's got a point. In some areas we do have an unfair advantage.
Most videos tell me what I know. I still do listen to them because it's still what I need to hear. But you, I feel you have really taught me something new about myself. Thank you brother. Today is my birthday and I hope your video is the impetus for turning my life around. Much love, Shamees.
I’m currently in college, going for aircraft maintenance and management. My severe adhd is the reason why I love mechanics and working with my hands. Im naturally skilled and love it. My “weakness” is not a weakness to me anymore. It’s a buff. I just cant believe I actually figured it out.
This is so upsetting to watch and listen to. He is RIGHT ON THE MARK ! ! ! But at least there is great comfort in finally understanding my entire life and the fact that it's not just me and that there is a reason and I'm not just a screw up. BUT as he has also said - there were hidden blessing in with it too - ADHD gave me special abilities to excel in other ways. Hold onto the light ! ! !
I am going to become a therapist/counsellor. That is what I want to be, that is the CAREER I want. It’s so heavy on my heart and my desire implanted in me from the Lord. I don’t know how, I don’t know when, but I know I can. Dude this video sent a light through my entire mind. I have been stuck in this self destructive cycle, with depression. The only time I’m happy is when I’m learning and helping other people. You are an inspiration bro, I appreciate you so much, And I’m looking forward to learning more from you.
yes, being a therapist will definitly help you with adhd , moo swings and anxiety, I've been struggling for whole my life ,it's this year I diagnosed myself. i hope you succeed by controlling procrastination
Yes I want to help anybody that is going through mental illness get out of it. It’s horrible bro people killing themselves from this mostly everyday. And I want to make the end of that
Im on the same goal. Helping people with their problems is so fulfilling and meaningful for me, and i think i want to pursue this path. Well, im majoring in psychology right now, so im halfway there. The problem is getting through my study, which has always been hard for me. Everyday as a college student is depressing, my self esteem is under the ground now and so many bad qualities i shouldnt have acquired follow suit. But now, i want to believe i can go through it, because i want to believe everyone in this comment section can make it too. We all will be able to achieve our dreams!
@@veracious6123 yesss I’m very interested in psychology and want to study it too. I’m a senior and I don’t really know how to attend college and stuff right know I’m trying to find me the right college
@@veracious6123 yesss I’m very interested in psychology and want to study it too. I’m a senior and I don’t really know how to attend college and stuff right know I’m trying to find me the right college
I was recently diagnosed as combined, I have been watching your videos and so Much is making sense to me as to my struggles going through life. I’d like to mention, I am 53 years old and what an eye opening experience. I have been masking all these years without even know why. I will try this recommendation for sure. I need to do things that hold my attention and keep Me moving forward. Boring things are never good for me.
nah, just a few deliciously crafted food things and your inspiration might come back! like, a colourful breakfast, a finally well-made marinaded yet crispy chicken something, and some rich flavors like sunflower seeds, olive oil and a white pepper cheese cream.. yeeea, i'm hungry. but hey, i do have some blueberries for breakfast tomorrow! i just need a little cinnamon, honey and some of this neutral tasting thick white thing i forgot the name of, it's like yoghurt though. anyhow, food can be an inspiration, and i bet it will be so, even for the older people which have seen everything😊
thank you for the commenting that! I was doing something else as I was watching and then came back only to see the view from Marjan and being confused because Split was not mentioned anywhere in the bio!
One of top videos that I have ever watched and listened to relative to self improvement. At 61 years of age, you summarized the pieces of the my puzzle, and for this, I thank you.
Wow, it feels like this video was uploaded for me when I needed it the most! This is exactly the message I needed to hear now. I WAS a person who was taking risks. I loved travelling which gave me the stimulation I needed. I had to stop because of covid and have been overwhelmed with anxiety and depression ever since. The past few years I've spent mostly sitting at home and blaming myself. And just a few weeks ago I relized I might have ADHD. It would explain so much. I've starting to accept myself for who I am. And I will start looking for plane or bus tickets. I KNOW I'll feel better once I get going. Thanks for the reminder!! P.s. You are/were in Split, right? It's a special place for me as I spent some time there after a huge life change. It makes even more sense now. If I was waiting for a sign, it was this video 😁
Man. This advice about toxic relationships we seek out just to feel something even if it’s bad or negative; took me 25 years to learn the hardest of ways. Great advice man.
Honestly, yes. I am in the middle of career change after having been a self-taught web developer to now starting a tech nonprofit to help close the digital divide in rural areas of developing countries. I started this project before getting diagnosed with ADHD (very recently at the age of 34), and it has given my life more meaning and more reason to get out of bed every morning. No, not all days are great - to be honest, there are still a lot of bad brain days. But, in my general direction in life, as well as the day to day,, my seeking of "not-so-good" sorts of stimulation have gone way down since I've started this project. Starting a nonprofit is a huge undertaking and I just hope that my ADHD doesn't derail me or my work, but no two days are exactly same and that's kind of like heaven for me. I need that variety and novelty. Thanks for a great video, Nik!
I watched the video you linked on this, and the explanation made so much sense why I work best when I have someone I'm accountable to.. I worked freelance for years but felt very stuck coz I was not managed by anyone and had pretty chill bosses.. But when I transitioned to a face-to-face job wherein I had a supervisor who checked on me constantly, I worked really well and even passed my output before the deadlines.. that was a really stressful job because there were a lot to submit but I enjoyed it coz it finally worked for my brain.. I realized by now that with ADHD, I crave a system, but I cannot make and sustain one so I have to have someone build and enforce that on me. Thank you so much.
Absolutely. So irritated he was basically leading us by our insecurities to his Focus Revolution product. On top of that it's so expensive compared to Focusmate that is pennies per day.
@@lindam2884 He's made dozens of helpful videos with no product. Give the man a break. He's trying to help people and deserves to get something in return.
The procrastinating projects and negative self-talk points really resonate with me. I got diagnosed earlier this year with ADHD and still struggle to cope with it while managing PTSD and anxiety from my prior military service. Your videos have helped me a lot and I wanted to say thank you. I wonder if it would be beneficial to talk about medications too because I think it helps when combined with therapy and has helped me with this struggle.
Negative self-talk combined with high opinion of others is such a handicap. I get reminded of it constantly but I can't break free from it. For example whenever I see a person who is confident about what they are saying, I tend to believe them and I don't voice my disagreements. I think, surely someone that confident can't be wrong about this? And yet they commonly are.
Cleaning being organized and being a positive parent that is my goal that’s where I am struggling a lot as I keep looking up challenges that can work with me I see where I want and how I would feel
This post is most insightful, intelligent and relative post I have ever seen, I feel inspired to push my brain forward, unfortunately ADHD is often “soothed” by addiction, we do need stimulation! He’s Bang on in everything he says, we are not alone people, ❤
It's crazy I have adhd and I get into relationships where they are broken and unemployed I motivate them and they become a better version of them while it sucks me dry 😢 and they move on
I always knew I had ADHD, but was never diagnosed. For years I've been fighting doing what I like vs doing what's best/comfy for me. I just cried when I realized I don't wake up with excitement anymore. Very eye opening, thanks.
I loved your video short on this and it was a bit of a wake up call tbh, having a longer explanatory video (with or without music) is incredibly helpful for me. I’ve shared this with my son (also ADHD) and with a couple of other ADHD people because it’s very valuable 😊 thank you.
I was good up until the end. I think if you shared a few tidbits about your event first I would be more inclined but I'm so overwhelmed with links to sign up for things. I'll think about it. Your video did resonate with my experience 100% so it's a maybe for the moment.
I think this is one of those videos that will leave you a mark. Thank you sir, these are thoughts I have, I’m just not good at actually doing them and you have given me that motivation. Which you the best!
😢best advice than any book I've read on leveling up. Thanks for not demonizing the symptoms. It is always best to use what you already have and excel at it.
Basically, the more idle and complacent you are, the more problems your ADHD brain will create for you. But when you are doing things that matter, and when you are stimulated by a goal, you avoid the unnecessary negative energy
The music was perfect for me. Proper mix of mellow and anticipation. Your videos have helped me so much on my mental health journey! I learn more with each one. You're the best, thank you!
I appreciate your channel so much! I'd love to get your take on how to explain your ADD to someone you just started dating. I'm having trouble expressing how big a deal it is, and how it will affect all facets of my life and a potential partner's life, because I feel like ADD is not necessarily taken seriously in today's society. Then when things do cause problems, the other person seems to feel like I didn't fully express how having ADD REALLY was going to show up. Thank you!
This was an eye opener man thank you. It makes so much sense. ADHD can be a good quality to have. It drove me to get a great job and develop my gym going habit. But at this point, only the gym gives me the stimulation I need. I need to seek out what I truly want in life and pursuit it relentlessly
Thanks for this video! Had to hold my tears in, because I realize that there is hope!.. Im struggling a few years now and your channel helps me, keep getting focused and beat my negative cycles My ADHD is very heavy, no medication would help with the problems, just stimulate The only thing I can do (as I thought) is taking these meds to get me to a “normal level” But this won’t work! It’s just making it worse in the long run
Stimulation issue Cause of negative self talk Attract/chase negative problems and drama Do you have a choice? Positive problems - challenges to master Your brain needs sth to do. Make fixing sth you do New things help you stay stimulated. Connect with people you can learn sth from You brain is stimulated by things it wants to do not. By interest. Not shoulds Find interest in growth. In any form Negative problems suck energy. Positive problems charge you up Leveling up in real life. Try an experiment for 30 days. Ask, what do you need to accomplish What interesting challenges will make you earn money, Interest, good at, make money. Intersection The journery isnt supposed to be easy. What kind of problems do you want to solve. Stop chasing stimulation. Just look for stimulation through growth
For me my relieving moment was when I finally got in touch with the work as a barber. I'm starting my eduation this year and it's just perfect: relatively short term duties with fast showing results, a lot of movement throughout the day, problem solving to get what the client wants, creative output and available hyperfocus mode each and every time I got my sheers in my hand. I only got there by coincidence and I'm so fucking glad I did. So you guys I encourage you to try everything that comes to your mind finding your passion. Although it was a coincidence, it took me years to find out what I DO NOT WANT and all of that made it so easy to be confident enough to say this is what I want nearly all my life. Don't give up the path that might open up in front of you by not trying. Stay true to yourself, your desires and your values. It will help you a lot. And to be honest I'm still struggling with depression and anxiety as it is almost common cause with the experiences of an ADHDer. But this changed my life. I finally have a way to pursue fullfilment in my work life, fixing existential droughts. Thank you for reading this comment, keep your head up and live!
Your videos are such a blessing!! Yes I can relate. Ugh what a load off. I hate to say it but I beat myself up for messing up so much. Your videos make me take it easy on myself. ❤️
I was unfocused and always in a bad way but stumbled into hvac and now I'm a commercial HVAC technician and it works great for my brain but still struggle with home chores, I feel mentally exhausted after work and can't motivate myself.
Congrats. My gf has adhd in believe I might have in a a more controlled form. I'm a electrician and when I get home I don't have energy to clean either but if I do a little bit at a time I'm good . Now if a take a few shots I'm definitely cleaning the whole house and playing music😂. You have ig?
Within the first five minutes of this video, you were able to pinpoint everything I’ve been struggling with and feeling my whole life. I often ask myself, Why do I keep ruining good things for myself? A healthy relationship, yet I go searching for a toxic one. Why do I stay up at night bullying and beating myself up with thoughts like, "What is wrong with me? Why do I look this way?" After a while, it gets exhausting, doesn’t it? Like, What is wrong with you? Just get FIXED. But honestly, this video offers such a beautiful perspective-a way to learn and look at myself introspectively. A video that truly makes you THINK instead of just consuming and moving on to the next quick fix.
This is spot on, thank you, i didn't know my ADHD came back after it went away for a few years but its back in full effect at halfway through 19 years old LOL. dude ive been scrolling all day, negative self talk, basically ruined my relationship because of my drama stimulation/self sabotage i need to try and fix it and i hope i can. I can feel my life going downhill but i wont let it fall any longer.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@@WalterFair130 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
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Bs. Its a huge video of yapping you can't skip through and doesn't even offer a link to a PAID PRODUCT. Don't waste your time, I just let it run in the background after I realized it was preying on insecurities in an attempt to get us to buy a product. Very childlike. Sad.
Unsubscribing to this guy. Lost my trust. "In a few minutes I will tell you how..." Half an hour later still going on about he will tell you what he discovered that changed everything.
Super insulting and disrespectful to ADHDers that he claims to understand.
Focus Revolution is his product.
Best I can tell it's an expensive doctored up version of body doubling which you can get for about $7/month at Focusmate.
Thought I'd save others time by coming here to share what his push of a button life changing thing is that "he will reveal in the next few minutes ". Smh
It’s too boring
Would you be able to help people with the autism part of AuDHD i need a guide like this for the autistic part to.
the toxic relationships, incosistency, poor time management, lack of energy , mood swings , addiction , being a night owl..... man living with ADHD is really hard but nobody understands that.... but being aware of your problem can really help
I relate too much...
it would really be nice to find another person with adhd in your workplace/school or even at least autism or something similar
You nailed it
How do toxic relationships stem from ADHD? Would love to know a few examples 🙏
@@swhite802 dopamine seeking behavior when applied to relationships can definitely cause some issues
Stop scrolling the comments while watching
😢 caught me red handed.
Ahahahaha!!! I totally was!!!! 😂😂
Who are you to call me out like that 😂
You got me 😂
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I got diagnosed last year at age 58. Started on methylphenidate immediately. The diagnosis and meds have made a profound difference. I got diagnosed with lung cancer the same week as ADHD, the methylphenidate helped me breeze through it without the massively unhelpful thoughts associated with ADHD. The cancer has gone now, and I feel fucking amazing.
Fuck yeah brother glad you're cancer free 👍
Wow, how amazing. That’s great news.
Sadly the drop off from methylphenidate both lisdexamphetamine exacerbates my depression I daren’t take them.
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I don't know if it is worth taking medicines that can have collateral effects...
“Even if it’s painful, at least it’s not boring.” BRO. That hit too close 😅
Same.
I know right I was like who told him that 😂
Don't have any relationships to be painful 😢
And me. .
100relate to this vid, defo going to get the right help rather than continue.
Thank you for the info
But he's right though
I swear my ADHD brain was just about to click away when he said " You are just about to click away" ...anyway I didn't
Damn so true.
I read this comment before the video itself started, so I decided to pinpoint the specific moment, where I would think that, because I know that behaviour as well. Long story short, that thought came up literally two seconds before he said it.. jesus..
@@D4rkk1ll4 🤣🤝
Wow, me too
wow was it at 1:00? same here хD
This guy knows exactly what he’s talking about. In typical ADD/ADHD fashion, I paused about 30 seconds in to write everything below, resumed the clip and, lo and behold: he basically said everything I was getting at haha! Once I dedicated myself, life started taking a much better turn for me. I’m still not perfect, but I’m in a much better place. It is possible to break free, it just takes some time and dedication. :)
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The thing is, if there’s something you need to do, something you really don’t want to do, and you just do it - no procrastinating, no nothing - it provides a massive dopamine hit and a huge sense of accomplishment. Way larger than a hit from procrastinating and rushing to finish something at the last minute and causing all kinds of chaos and making people upset in the process does. Doing this repeatedly will slowly rewire your brain to seek these greater and more positive dopamine hits over the easier but more negative ones, and you’ll start to hyperfocus on the things you need to accomplish.
People with ADD/ADHD have the potential to be some of the most productive and self-sufficient people there are. Case in point: how many of you who play games will move Heaven and earth to accomplish all of the bonus objectives during a mission, do each and every side quest, seek out the most obscure loot - no matter how hard it is to get, or grind and grind and grind for hours (even days) to get your stats up (even if it’s frustrating) to give yourself an advantage? We’ll hyperfocus on some of the most minute things in order to get ahead; things that most other people would say are not worth pursuing.
People with ADD/ADHD have the potential to do incredible things. They just have to dedicate themselves and break their cycle. Once it’s broken, they’re unleashed. The only thing that they need to do at that point is maintain themselves and keep that leash off of them.
Yeah but actually doing the things even things you enjoy is so so difficult that I have to continually push myself which still happens at the last minute as I get sidetracked with something else like scrolling and talking about my ADHD frustrations and going to bed late
@@deantalksfootball 1. Put down your phone and *just do* what you need to, right now. Just do it. Stop reading this until it’s done, then return.
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2. Take this guy’s video, add it to your favorites or a playlist. Watch it whenever you feel frustrated or when you know you’re slipping.
3. Start with the small things. You know the trash is full, the dishes need to be done, your bed needs to be made, or whatever. Just get up and do it. Just do it. You’ll probably get a real nice hit and you’ll look for other small things to take care of to keep that rush going. Keep “just do it”-ing the small things each and every day and, before long, the bigger things will become easier to approach. This isn’t something that happens overnight. You just need to decide “I’m going to do this”. Do whatever it takes to help - make a daily checklist, set a reminder on your phone. Just *do it*.
We have a superpower, dude. Trust me - you won’t believe what you can accomplish in life once you’ve broken your cycle, and neither will everyone else around you. They’ll be blown away by your drive.
+greghoyt4061 Honestly, I go back and forth so much from planning and non-planning. Like I'll plan things out which actually makes my life easier to some level. Example: I literally try my best *not* to grocery shop on a whim anymore unless absolutely Necessary. I will literally to each grocery store's website to compare prices to see which one is more affordable for specific products I may need, I will literally write down what I'm going to buy from each store. I go to about 3-4, occasionally 5 diff. grocery stores solely for affordability purpose.
There is a huge chance I've had undiagnosed ADHD my whole life for more than 1 reason. 1.) I was tested for both ADD/ADHD when I was 7 yrs. old 2.) A lot of my childhood behaviors have transferred into my adulthood, 3.) Strong coffee literally puts me to sleep. Also, idk if this is part of ADHD or not, but I'm horrible w/phone calls and follow-ups-the reason I say I'm horrible w/phone calls is cuz I kept telling myself I'd follow up w/my doctor to get retested for it & it's already been a week and I still haven't done it.
I'm someone who doesn't take action because for the longest time ever, I've allowed my own emotions to take over. I think rather than taking my challenges/weaknesses as a chance to turn into strengths-I allow my hypersensitive emotional state to take over & dwell on it. I try not to dwell on things, but sadly it happens b/c that's how my mind is until it gets angry angry depending on the situation. I've noticed now that whenever I'm upset or even annoyed in the slightest, I'll do *anything* to do my best to improve it. But there are times when I feel so exhausted by diff. things that I literally have 0 energy to do anything esp. when my mind is too focused on multiple things at 1 time. Also, I don't want to say that my mind is haywire 24/7, but it's def. haywire a lot more often than it should be. I know exactly what my passions are & would love to pursue them, but when others put me down, I end up putting myself down for it, but I'm gonna start learning how to take action mostly b/c I'm fed up w/myself and prob. with others in my life and earlier on to some level treating me like crap or downplaying my dreams rather than allowing me to do my own thing & pursue them-sorry for the lengthy-ness.
Excellent comment. To turn that corner, from avoidance-procrastination, disorganization, and chaos, to getting addicted to actual _accomplishment_ of those tasks that move your life forward. There is a lot of latent power in the ADD style, but one has to _learn_ to seek those "greater and more positive dopamine hits". The brain has to get that, somehow -- the "should do" needs to somehow become more compelling than the "want to do". And it has to become more _naturally_ compelling, otherwise one is caught forever in a shame loop.
Agree with this. Too many diagnosed people fall into excuses. It’s toxic. Even just having a very detailed daily calendar in your phone will solve a heap of issues.
I literally cannot finish any video. I will always click away one or two minutes before it finishes, no matter how much I enjoyed it!
OMG! The moment you mentioned fixing. I want to fix everything- starting from broken things to people's relationships.
police dispatcher for 26 years and my ADHD totally helped me succeed in the field.
Could you elaborate more? Sometimes I felt like it’s a curse but sometimes I felt like it’s a gift. I know I shouldn’t but a lot of times I just tell myself I can’t do anything and I feel depressed
@@ChanChanChan-g6u That is why we should not take them everyday as adults. Only when required. And once you have them at home...you learn when you need them..when you're better off without.
U guys are corrupted 2
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Its because police dispatcher job is practical moving job... Adhd helps in that kind of activities where we have work in motion ... Its sucks in reading writing speaking listening while you study
Sadly adhd often times comes in package with depression and anxiety, which rather leads to contraction than expansion and goals worth accomplishing usually require repeated / focus long term, which is our Kryptonite. But I get that it's possible once one finds their groove into a thing.
Yes! And add to that any other kinds of trauma to our already different brain, and it can seem impossible to move. Like we have a ball and chain around our feet, meaning we can't move towards those long-term goals very fast, and are also being distracted by little things at the same time. We might have a few days of motivation and hope , but when things don't happen fast enough, it seems impossible to bring that motivation back.Then the cycle of negative self talk and berating continues, causing a deepening of anxiety and/or depression.
Gosh 😢
@JtothePrezexactly. I have depression and anxiety because of trauma. I had adhd before trauma but It became worser, more impulsiveness, masking hyperactivity through calmness
I have the bundle edition and it’s not fun😩
7 minutes in and I just want to say this video is insanely well packed with useful advice. I mean, it's not like most of us don't know this already, but it somehow clicks differently when explained this well. Thank you.
To anyone struggling with ADHD, from the bottom of my heart, I urge you: don’t click away. This video will genuinely make you THINK. It’s not just another video you watch and move on from-it’s something that can truly benefit you. Trust me on this. Take a moment to reflect on what’s being shared, and you’ll see how you can shift from battling negative, intrusive thoughts to unlocking the true potential of an ADHD brain.
@ADHDVision I hope you continue to make amazing videos like these in the years to come for people of all brains. It was God's grace who brought me to your channel and I cannot wait to see where your videos take me in life.
Friends! Let me know how you liked the music. Was it too distracting? Really want to optimize for the adhd experience here 😉
It's very fitting
No music or editing with those lil vids within the vid would be the best. Unnecessary imho. Only the content/advice counts. Thank you for that!
Musik klappt perfekt 💯
for me it's a bit distracting and melancholic, but the content was interesting so I was able to tune it out :)
All good ,keep up the great work ,and marry me haha
Having ADHD not only self-sabotages you but your relations with others deteriorate and also welcomes problems with other people, with work, school, and society at a daily basis. I was always unfocused, felt behind always, shun friends or people due to avoiding adding more clutter to my brain but also people sense my struggle and I am easy prey. I do not know why I am the only one having problems from nowhere at work or when I go to the store or whatever place. At work, with my ADHD I overperform but I am not recognized and when my ADHD causes me to make a stupid mistake I have the entire management team attacking me. I see other people doing nothing for years, basically getting paid to do nothing, yet I make a simple mistake, I get a warning.
Oh my God this is my life story at 58 brought up to be a nice woman helpful to everyone always coming up with answers for everyone and getting made fun of on the job overworking and yes, getting picked out the minute. Something is wrong instead of recognized for all that I do above and beyond everyone else you have my exact story.
And yes, easy pray for people who like to pick on people and make fun of what the heck?
Yes
Why is that?,
Yes! This is so similar to my life as well! I just wish I could somehow run my own company so I don't have to answer to anyone but myself. But running it myself is too burdensome. I am a fixer and I am good at reconditioning and servicing tools and some electronic repair, but it's always a little knowledge over many different things, which makes it hard to get a jon position for. I also hate to market myself and I'm too shy and too nice to demand a decent payment for my work...
Do what you paid hge rest do at home as your own salary
Be who you seek to be: one moment, one breath, one step at a time. People visualize life progress as a straight line. My path is less like an eagle soaring and more like the path of a house fly. Thanks for this video and best wishes in each step of your journey.
My path seems to be the path of a fruit fly... I respond to the stimuli around me and hover there... until I see a new banana. 😉 Then I hover there... until I see a beautiful open container of raspberries. Then... I see a fluffy delightfully-scented peach. This is literally how I live my life... from whim to whim.
It means Mindfulness. Be aware and focus on the present task.
@@pruthvisairajubalagam9156 telling that to someone with ADHD is wild lol
"not failure, just progress" wow that hit hard❤❤ so heartwarming thank you so much
This is one of the most inspirational videos I've ever seen from you. Thank you so so much! It's so nice to feel truly seen with what we struggle with!
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I agree. And concur.
Im a single parent with adhd and financial crisis and this video pop up at the time i need the most 🤧
Hey, me too! 😅 funny isn’t it?
Financial stress yes very. But married to I think an OCD sufferer. I’m going back to school late in life, THATS pressure. The way I’m financing our life give me guilt (not illegal or immoral means) -and I also work 30 hrs a week as a waiter in a nice restaurant, but it’s still not enough because of our overhead. I must now coming to terms with the fact that my brain is different than most others and this is largely why every opportunity and relationship I’ve had has been lost or destroyed. I don’t even know what Im living for anymore. I’m toward the end stretch of my life. It’s so depressing to look back and see how many many things could have been better had my parents (one of them has severe cluster of Asperger’s, anxiety, depression, all untreated for life) - had my parents, who are both career teachers, helped me cope with adhd, anxiety, spectrum social disorders. I’m just staying alive to hopefully someday take my wife on a vacation and help my kids get through life.
Damn, and then the Supreme Court immunity ruling. And trump, and the religious right, and corruption.. it’s all bad. Makes me want to take up smoking again.
Similar situation here. My child and I both have ADD.
7:50 "ask yourself 'what do I have to accomplish to make yourself feel more accomplished' and what has the highest likelihood of giving you that feeling everyday " is the frame-shift I needed. Thanks!
Sir! you just mapped out my brain here. This feels very personal....
I've been a teacher for 21 years and it's the best combination of on one hand the structure and stability of the schoolyear and the unpredictability of the students. I get to be very creative with my lessons and help students solve their problems... ❤
I’m a hair stylist. So having different clients all day is really good for my adhd. New person, new challenge. I love it. And damn, this is an oh crap moment. Thanks for the video.
i would have loved to have been a hairdresser but my mother talked me out of it. I still think of it. I'm too old now. (54)
@@SusanaXpeace2uThat’s my story too!! You should do it! I’m retired but I wish I would’ve done it ten years ago!
@@SusanaXpeace2u you're not too old to get involved in something new......you just willing to take the first step
I can't be around people. I take on their emotions.
i’ve only recently started to look into adhd and if i have it after 4 years of being stagnant from adhd symptoms post covid. these videos have been immensely helpful, thank you for putting in the effort to better other’s lives!
Just switched jobs from a managerial position back to field service and while I have moments when I feel overwhelmed with problem solving on customer's sites I do not regret this carrer decision. Career wise it's a step back but for my mental wellbeing a massive step forward.
I'm 40 and I'm so stuck right now. I finally figured out that I have ADHD and the first 2 minutes of this video is 110% me. One of the things I do when I get bored and stuck is move to a new city. I was just about to do this again.
😂 me too!!! Or travel...I'm like a bird in a cage. I'm dying right now living in the same house for 4.5 years. My husband and I bought our first house and I have to stick it out for the kids because we have a GREAT neighborhood and location. Safe and friendly, but boring. My son was 7 mo when we moved here and my daughter was 5 (she had already been through 5 moves).
@a1cwilette, that many moves for a child is not good, very unstable. You’re going to figure out how to find more variety without moving houses.
Camping. Rick climbing. Hiking. Rehab thrift store furniture. Etc@@a1cwillette
@@BarbaraM-lv7pe I loved it as a kid. My dad was military.
I wont lie, the production of this vid had snake-oil vibes to me so I was nearly out. I did hang in there. I have ADHD, and I resonate strongly with the core message. Interest. I can't do anything without it, but with it, I can do anything.
Wait till you do the webinar. Uptime snake oil
What is the snake-oil vibe?
wow, this is too accurate. I am amazed about how spot on this is, and now I know I’m not the only one
You definitely aren't. 🤝
My problem is I dont seek problems. I just get overwhelmed at work and once i get back home im too overstimulated to work on my projects. Its a vicious cycle because i tell myself ok we need to get this project done. And then after work im too tired cant concentrate at all. Like i used up all of the concentration I had for the day and my brain is like nope sorry bye.
My current job at the moment is a server in a senior living facility. Its fun and super engaging but its not my passion. (That and other coworkers coming in late or slacking off so i have to overcompensate for it) Animating is what i want to do. I just want to feel less dead inside after work.
💯 same and feeling like I’m failing at life. I never thought about it in the sense of being too overstimulated. Just thought my meds wore off too soon. Thanks!
If you can somehow set one or two nights a week to dedicate an evening or an hour to a task or goal, then you can build some level of momentum. It'll be hard, with more than a few times you'll fall on your face, but I've been able to get some benefit from trying that.
Less the running a project and more regularly volunteering in various community groups to feel more engaged.
@@vanessacee4154 since there is a stimulant shortage. I was forced off my meds. Surprisingly I can sleep better now and I'm less irritable than I was on the vyvanse. But the problem is I get tired more easily now.
That aspect of ADHD was definitely not addressed in this particular video, unfortunately.
Dude I feel you! I need to revise for my law exams and I WANT to give it my all, my best, my time but after a days work I'm shattered. Not necessarily physically but mentally.
On top of that, I need to stick to my physio and mediation but they've become chores when they're meant to be helping me.
The mental exhaustion drives me to "just have a drink" in the evening. Which, I'm good at controlling (usually because I scare myself of the worst if I feel that I'm relying on it too much) BUT... the alcohol doesn't solve the problem, it just helps me FORGET about things.Which in turn.... means that I can RELAX but ONLY because I've NUMBED my thoughts!
Yes it's not healthy, but this really highlights what we ADHD'ers need.... to SILENCE the MILLIONS of THOUGHTS that were either CONSCIOUSLY or SUBCONSCIOUSLY aware of
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For how much this Video relates to me i feel not only understood but also Not as horrible about myself, because this maked sence
The dark youtube video one is so relatable. Thank you for putting it into words so succinctly
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Thanks!
Love how you put your video together. It feels so calm. The vision seems like it would work for most but what if you have severe anxiety and starting something new is actually paralyzing. Making decisions is impossible most days. Can you please make a video about how to overcome panic attacks with ADHD.
Connecting / meeting with new people is one thing I really love. Never thought about it having something to do with my adhd. It sometimes feels like I am much happier and open to that than other people and friends
I've made a lot of changes over the last 6months. I've been able to spot the negative thoughts easier, because I've focused on keeping myself grounded and calm, regulated, it took a while. I've experienced these wake up and jump out of bed periods, in the past, now I realise what they mean. I have now engaged in a new big project. It's risky, but not totally impossible. I've committed too much now to walk away.
I'm already thinking of the next project, to keep me fired up. I'm not going to engage with it till I've finished this one. It's exciting, I have more energy, focus, ability to plan logical steps. It requires funding I don't have, but I know I can raise it. The next one even more so. I'm confident that I'll do it. I can look at past achievements with pride now and remember that I made it happen, against the odds.
For all our failures, abuse, exploitation, he's got a point. In some areas we do have an unfair advantage.
Most videos tell me what I know. I still do listen to them because it's still what I need to hear.
But you, I feel you have really taught me something new about myself. Thank you brother. Today is my birthday and I hope your video is the impetus for turning my life around. Much love, Shamees.
I’m currently in college, going for aircraft maintenance and management. My severe adhd is the reason why I love mechanics and working with my hands. Im naturally skilled and love it. My “weakness” is not a weakness to me anymore. It’s a buff. I just cant believe I actually figured it out.
i love your pfp..
Thanks
This is so upsetting to watch and listen to. He is RIGHT ON THE MARK ! ! ! But at least there is great comfort in finally understanding my entire life and the fact that it's not just me and that there is a reason and I'm not just a screw up. BUT as he has also said - there were hidden blessing in with it too - ADHD gave me special abilities to excel in other ways. Hold onto the light ! ! !
I’m in tears because how much your video speaks to me
I am going to become a therapist/counsellor.
That is what I want to be, that is the CAREER I want.
It’s so heavy on my heart and my desire implanted in me from the Lord.
I don’t know how, I don’t know when, but I know I can.
Dude this video sent a light through my entire mind.
I have been stuck in this self destructive cycle, with depression.
The only time I’m happy is when I’m learning and helping other people.
You are an inspiration bro, I appreciate you so much,
And I’m looking forward to learning more from you.
yes, being a therapist will definitly help you with adhd , moo swings and anxiety, I've been struggling for whole my life ,it's this year I diagnosed myself. i hope you succeed by controlling procrastination
Yes I want to help anybody that is going through mental illness get out of it. It’s horrible bro people killing themselves from this mostly everyday. And I want to make the end of that
Im on the same goal. Helping people with their problems is so fulfilling and meaningful for me, and i think i want to pursue this path.
Well, im majoring in psychology right now, so im halfway there. The problem is getting through my study, which has always been hard for me. Everyday as a college student is depressing, my self esteem is under the ground now and so many bad qualities i shouldnt have acquired follow suit.
But now, i want to believe i can go through it, because i want to believe everyone in this comment section can make it too. We all will be able to achieve our dreams!
@@veracious6123 yesss I’m very interested in psychology and want to study it too. I’m a senior and I don’t really know how to attend college and stuff right know I’m trying to find me the right college
@@veracious6123 yesss I’m very interested in psychology and want to study it too. I’m a senior and I don’t really know how to attend college and stuff right know I’m trying to find me the right college
I was recently diagnosed as combined, I have been watching your videos and so
Much is making sense to me as to my struggles going through life. I’d like to mention, I am 53 years old and what an eye opening experience. I have been masking all these years without even know why. I will try this recommendation for sure. I need to do things that hold my attention and keep
Me moving forward. Boring things are never good for me.
At 60yrs and multiple vocations, living different places, a 'full' life...im now burnt out and stuck for anything to spark my interest. Sigh
I'm sorry to hear that man
I sincerely hope things will improve for you! ✨💖
Good time to focus on spirituality, if it at all appeals
nah, just a few deliciously crafted food things and your inspiration might come back!
like, a colourful breakfast, a finally well-made marinaded yet crispy chicken something, and some rich flavors like sunflower seeds, olive oil and a white pepper cheese cream..
yeeea, i'm hungry.
but hey, i do have some blueberries for breakfast tomorrow! i just need a little cinnamon, honey and some of this neutral tasting thick white thing i forgot the name of, it's like yoghurt though.
anyhow, food can be an inspiration, and i bet it will be so, even for the older people which have seen everything😊
Please see a therapist and seek for professional help
Brother thanks for your effort to present ADHD from this angle. Now I understand my whole life and see my future as bright.
My Sir, you hit the nail on the head
Thanks
video from Split!!! greetings from Croatia bro and thank you so much
thank you for the commenting that! I was doing something else as I was watching and then came back only to see the view from Marjan and being confused because Split was not mentioned anywhere in the bio!
One of top videos that I have ever watched and listened to relative to self improvement. At 61 years of age, you summarized the pieces of the my puzzle, and for this, I thank you.
Wow, it feels like this video was uploaded for me when I needed it the most! This is exactly the message I needed to hear now. I WAS a person who was taking risks. I loved travelling which gave me the stimulation I needed. I had to stop because of covid and have been overwhelmed with anxiety and depression ever since. The past few years I've spent mostly sitting at home and blaming myself. And just a few weeks ago I relized I might have ADHD. It would explain so much. I've starting to accept myself for who I am. And I will start looking for plane or bus tickets. I KNOW I'll feel better once I get going. Thanks for the reminder!!
P.s. You are/were in Split, right? It's a special place for me as I spent some time there after a huge life change. It makes even more sense now. If I was waiting for a sign, it was this video 😁
What’s a split? I think that’s what is happening to me?
Lol, Split is a popular tourist destination in Croatia. 🌴🏖️🏛️
Man. This advice about toxic relationships we seek out just to feel something even if it’s bad or negative; took me 25 years to learn the hardest of ways.
Great advice man.
Honestly, yes.
I am in the middle of career change after having been a self-taught web developer to now starting a tech nonprofit to help close the digital divide in rural areas of developing countries. I started this project before getting diagnosed with ADHD (very recently at the age of 34), and it has given my life more meaning and more reason to get out of bed every morning. No, not all days are great - to be honest, there are still a lot of bad brain days. But, in my general direction in life, as well as the day to day,, my seeking of "not-so-good" sorts of stimulation have gone way down since I've started this project.
Starting a nonprofit is a huge undertaking and I just hope that my ADHD doesn't derail me or my work, but no two days are exactly same and that's kind of like heaven for me. I need that variety and novelty.
Thanks for a great video, Nik!
Starting my 30 day challenge to be positive and productive, making the right choices and sticking with them.
I watched the video you linked on this, and the explanation made so much sense why I work best when I have someone I'm accountable to.. I worked freelance for years but felt very stuck coz I was not managed by anyone and had pretty chill bosses.. But when I transitioned to a face-to-face job wherein I had a supervisor who checked on me constantly, I worked really well and even passed my output before the deadlines.. that was a really stressful job because there were a lot to submit but I enjoyed it coz it finally worked for my brain.. I realized by now that with ADHD, I crave a system, but I cannot make and sustain one so I have to have someone build and enforce that on me. Thank you so much.
This was a setup to the longest most excruciating and repetitive sales pitch I’ve ever experienced.
Pitch to what?
I understand what u mean. Hes probably on Adderall
Absolutely. So irritated he was basically leading us by our insecurities to his Focus Revolution product. On top of that it's so expensive compared to Focusmate that is pennies per day.
@@lindam2884 He's made dozens of helpful videos with no product. Give the man a break. He's trying to help people and deserves to get something in return.
dawg what was this video, i thought he was going to help us decide on what meds to choose lol
This is so true once I focused on getting better and growing life became more of a good challenge it has changed my perspective
The procrastinating projects and negative self-talk points really resonate with me. I got diagnosed earlier this year with ADHD and still struggle to cope with it while managing PTSD and anxiety from my prior military service. Your videos have helped me a lot and I wanted to say thank you. I wonder if it would be beneficial to talk about medications too because I think it helps when combined with therapy and has helped me with this struggle.
Negative self-talk combined with high opinion of others is such a handicap. I get reminded of it constantly but I can't break free from it. For example whenever I see a person who is confident about what they are saying, I tend to believe them and I don't voice my disagreements. I think, surely someone that confident can't be wrong about this? And yet they commonly are.
Cleaning being organized and being a positive parent that is my goal that’s where I am struggling a lot as I keep looking up challenges that can work with me I see where I want and how I would feel
Man I resonate with everything you're saying. I love what you're doing. Keep doing it. Love you brother
This post is most insightful, intelligent and relative post I have ever seen, I feel inspired to push my brain forward, unfortunately ADHD is often “soothed” by addiction, we do need stimulation! He’s Bang on in everything he says, we are not alone people, ❤
It's crazy I have adhd and I get into relationships where they are broken and unemployed I motivate them and they become a better version of them while it sucks me dry 😢 and they move on
Maybe becoming a psychologist would be good for you
I would not believe you until i hear the other side of the story
I always knew I had ADHD, but was never diagnosed. For years I've been fighting doing what I like vs doing what's best/comfy for me. I just cried when I realized I don't wake up with excitement anymore. Very eye opening, thanks.
I feel this from the bottom of my heart.
0:30-- THIS right here--this quantification... I HATE drama, so this part has nothing to do with me, but I'll keep watching.
Same.
I loved your video short on this and it was a bit of a wake up call tbh, having a longer explanatory video (with or without music) is incredibly helpful for me. I’ve shared this with my son (also ADHD) and with a couple of other ADHD people because it’s very valuable 😊 thank you.
I was good up until the end.
I think if you shared a few tidbits about your event first I would be more inclined but I'm so overwhelmed with links to sign up for things.
I'll think about it. Your video did resonate with my experience 100% so it's a maybe for the moment.
I think this is one of those videos that will leave you a mark. Thank you sir, these are thoughts I have, I’m just not good at actually doing them and you have given me that motivation. Which you the best!
I now understand why Ive been always drawn to programming. The act of solving problems to me has been super addicting
😢best advice than any book I've read on leveling up. Thanks for not demonizing the symptoms. It is always best to use what you already have and excel at it.
Basically, the more idle and complacent you are, the more problems your ADHD brain will create for you. But when you are doing things that matter, and when you are stimulated by a goal, you avoid the unnecessary negative energy
The music was perfect for me. Proper mix of mellow and anticipation. Your videos have helped me so much on my mental health journey! I learn more with each one. You're the best, thank you!
I appreciate your channel so much! I'd love to get your take on how to explain your ADD to someone you just started dating. I'm having trouble expressing how big a deal it is, and how it will affect all facets of my life and a potential partner's life, because I feel like ADD is not necessarily taken seriously in today's society. Then when things do cause problems, the other person seems to feel like I didn't fully express how having ADD REALLY was going to show up. Thank you!
This was an eye opener man thank you. It makes so much sense. ADHD can be a good quality to have. It drove me to get a great job and develop my gym going habit. But at this point, only the gym gives me the stimulation I need. I need to seek out what I truly want in life and pursuit it relentlessly
You got this. 🚀
Chase the growth with being content creator and music artist ❤
POV: you paused the video to scroll down and read some comments, because like y'know, whatever, why not.
Just did the same thing. 😂
Nope reading comments while video is still playing 😂
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Thanks for this video!
Had to hold my tears in, because I realize that there is hope!..
Im struggling a few years now and your channel helps me, keep getting focused and beat my negative cycles
My ADHD is very heavy, no medication would help with the problems, just stimulate
The only thing I can do (as I thought) is taking these meds to get me to a “normal level”
But this won’t work! It’s just making it worse in the long run
Stimulation issue
Cause of negative self talk
Attract/chase negative problems and drama
Do you have a choice?
Positive problems - challenges to master
Your brain needs sth to do. Make fixing sth you do
New things help you stay stimulated.
Connect with people you can learn sth from
You brain is stimulated by things it wants to do not. By interest. Not shoulds
Find interest in growth. In any form
Negative problems suck energy. Positive problems charge you up
Leveling up in real life.
Try an experiment for 30 days.
Ask, what do you need to accomplish
What interesting challenges will make you earn money,
Interest, good at, make money. Intersection
The journery isnt supposed to be easy.
What kind of problems do you want to solve.
Stop chasing stimulation. Just look for stimulation through growth
Thanks...was looking for the summary 😊
Thank you for sharing this video with us. It all makes sense to me now and I'm so ready to challenge myself and see how far I can go.
I call this approach "embracing the stimularity"
For me my relieving moment was when I finally got in touch with the work as a barber. I'm starting my eduation this year and it's just perfect: relatively short term duties with fast showing results, a lot of movement throughout the day, problem solving to get what the client wants, creative output and available hyperfocus mode each and every time I got my sheers in my hand. I only got there by coincidence and I'm so fucking glad I did. So you guys I encourage you to try everything that comes to your mind finding your passion. Although it was a coincidence, it took me years to find out what I DO NOT WANT and all of that made it so easy to be confident enough to say this is what I want nearly all my life. Don't give up the path that might open up in front of you by not trying. Stay true to yourself, your desires and your values. It will help you a lot.
And to be honest I'm still struggling with depression and anxiety as it is almost common cause with the experiences of an ADHDer. But this changed my life. I finally have a way to pursue fullfilment in my work life, fixing existential droughts. Thank you for reading this comment, keep your head up and live!
I feel like I am a high functioning ADHD. I don't like drama but yes, I love challenges! I have accomplished a lot but sometimes I get stuck...
Love, light & joy for your beautiful soul 🤍🕊
I’m inattentive adhd and have had to much drama and stress and now at 49 hate drama or stressful people with a passion
"just imagine the thrill of leveling up, but in real life" kinda clicked a switch in my brain.
Great video
I'm staying don't you worry about that
this is one of the best videos about adhd that i’ve seen, thank you sm
0:58 literally i was just about to do it😂
Me too
This video has so much work and effort behind...thank you
At 65 years old, I’m totally burnt out from trying new things. I’m done.
We need to connect
straight up no bs. thanks man this video give me a whole new perspective, love ya
Bro tried being a day trader.. what a thrill... now I'm homeless
Good luck man.
Why did this make me laugh. I'm so sorry 😂
Your videos are such a blessing!! Yes I can relate. Ugh what a load off. I hate to say it but I beat myself up for messing up so much. Your videos make me take it easy on myself. ❤️
Thank you
Okay!! This is the FIRST TIME I've ever felt inspired to "click the link" and try moving forward! I hope it's what I know I NEED TO DO! 🙂
I was unfocused and always in a bad way but stumbled into hvac and now I'm a commercial HVAC technician and it works great for my brain but still struggle with home chores, I feel mentally exhausted after work and can't motivate myself.
Congrats. My gf has adhd in believe I might have in a a more controlled form. I'm a electrician and when I get home I don't have energy to clean either but if I do a little bit at a time I'm good
. Now if a take a few shots I'm definitely cleaning the whole house and playing music😂. You have ig?
Within the first five minutes of this video, you were able to pinpoint everything I’ve been struggling with and feeling my whole life. I often ask myself, Why do I keep ruining good things for myself? A healthy relationship, yet I go searching for a toxic one. Why do I stay up at night bullying and beating myself up with thoughts like, "What is wrong with me? Why do I look this way?"
After a while, it gets exhausting, doesn’t it? Like, What is wrong with you? Just get FIXED. But honestly, this video offers such a beautiful perspective-a way to learn and look at myself introspectively.
A video that truly makes you THINK instead of just consuming and moving on to the next quick fix.
I could spend this 11:36 playing no mans sky, division 2, bloons td6 or reading sci/fi fantasy.
Broooo this channel is what I have Been searching for the past like four years
I can see why they slap a BPD diagnosis on so many ADHD women now (including myself - still fighting to have it removed from my record)
I was diagnosed with depression and refused medication for it because I knew deep down it wasn't the real problem
This is spot on, thank you, i didn't know my ADHD came back after it went away for a few years but its back in full effect at halfway through 19 years old LOL. dude ive been scrolling all day, negative self talk, basically ruined my relationship because of my drama stimulation/self sabotage i need to try and fix it and i hope i can. I can feel my life going downhill but i wont let it fall any longer.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
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I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
@@CarmenOrtiz440Does he deliver to various locations?