The really messed up thing is when your looks are bad and you ask why your dating life suck, everyone will say it's your personality. Family, friends, therapists will just say it's your confidence or energy. No one will just be honest with you.
Yeah, it's the uncomfortable truth that your friends, family and therapist don't want to tell you because they are trying to spare your feelings or gaslight you. My personality hasn't changed drastically from when I was overweight and bald, just my looks and it's a 1000% night and day difference. It's not your energy or confidence, it's 100% looks. I'm living proof of that.
I think your 80% right, it is mainly your looks. But personality does change from being overweight to healthy body weight. If your obese, your hormones are different, and these hormones influence your impulse control e.t.c. @@ascended266
If you're attractive and shy, you are cute. If you're unattractive and shy, you are a loser and have no confidence. If you're attractive and getting good grades, you're smart. If you're unattractive and getting good grades, you're a nerd.
makes me want to cover my entire face out in the street and only take off on the bus because of work, well duh i can´t wear in there. if i still had my instragam every picture i would cover my face. i had women who showed interest but i don´t trust ( btw it´s no about cheating) i tried dating three times, but for one reason or another it only lasted very few days. No matter what my mother tells me and truly there are decent women out there, but is possible to find their nature ( if they are indeed decent) in the first days? SCREW EVERYTHINHG SCREW IT SCREW SCREW IT!
@@mstirlz I guess he mean real friends, many people like to be around good looking and popular people, that don't mean they really like that person in particular, they're just around them for superficial reasons
And *the hardest* to be a female that males collectively consider unattractive. And before anyone contradicts me, don't bother. I don't take into consideration the opinions that think the whole world functions like America, where women are *far* more free to be overweight.
Being an ugly guy, with borderline personality disorder is quite the CRAP. Life: "Hey, wanna be in the 0.4% of the population??? GUY WITH BPD!.... AND UGLY WITH A BIGASS FOREHEAD!"
@@anyamiranda9452Yeah not going to disagree with you. Though in the USA the women in that lowest looks rating are far more likely to get guys than vise versa. For women below 50 at least. There are plenty of stats to back this up, and intuitively it makes sense because there are over 21 males for every 20 females biologically, and because of how serial monogamy works with age differences. A man aged 45 might have been married, divorced, then remarried a younger woman. Even if it's not common, the small difference in numbers has a big impact because of how the game of musical chairs works. So it's harder for older women and younger men due to the ratios of singles in their ages.
The biggest discrimination in the world goes against ugly people. You can be black, white, Asian, Latino, if you are ugly they will discriminate against you in any country. For all the victim-hood people are trying to find to protest against, you will never see anybody complaining about ugly people being treated like crap. Even worst, in general, people assume is OK to mock, ridicule and discriminate against ugly men and women, even ugly kids get the raw end of the deal.
u xpose hard words!!.....are the end is some kind of new discriminate but probably is has been some ancient bully that is lookism (your face, height, and shape weight, youth appearance, and snob wearing xpensive accesories) all of this parallel to some of the income status (witih in or hand in hand with lookism) ......this are the main issues that in reality face today the society going falling down without moral and legal indiferrenca about it... - Chads -Tyrones - Bad Ass with some kind of political power to Bully everyone - Fake cool guys or "political popular" guys who are really ready to manipulatively proceed with indifference or to betray with impunity...
Yes. Ugly kids do get the raw end of the deal. I was an ugly kid. Sometimes, strangers just made it a point to mention that you're ugly. It's prevalent in the Hispanic culture.
This is true even as a female. I’ve literally hired and trained a pretty girl at an old job and then she got promoted over me. Happened so many times! Now I work for myself so my merit stays where it should.
@@tungstenanderson5991 To be fair that IS an indicator. When a good looking person is described as having a good personality,people never actually say that. They just TREAT the good looking person like they have a good personality. And me personally,I’m actually quite funny but I’m ugly (4/10 in the face) but people say I’m funny all the time BEFORE any other kind of compliment. Funny how people are saying specific things to specific people 😒
Why are some people so unempathetic? Do they not realize the amount of emotional damage they could do someone or are they just sociopathic? Really makes me realize that at the end of the day we are nothing more than biological creatures looking out for our own skin
Nah bro i would never go out my way to disrespect someone for their looks nothing to do with human nature, if anything it's a choice to be rude. @moggman6401
Because by agreeing with the premise that looks matter, it means that they kinda have to go down the rabbit hole about a lot of other things. Women especially hate to admit this because they don't only want to be liked for mostly their looks, they have to believe that they are super interesting or that their boyfriend would still like them if they were uglier. Also means they have to admit they are shallow, which to be fair all humans are shallow, but women do not want to be considered shallow, because that lessens their social credibility.
It’s genetic brother. We are outside of their structure. This is the first time in human history that our minds are free from this cycle and ironically our looks are what set us free.
It’s like I’ve been saying for years; the more ugly you look, the more you see how rude the world is. While the more attractive you look, the more you see how shallow the world is.
bullshit, I see lots of "ugly" ppl living life to the fullest, tik tokers, influencers, youtube travellers you would consider below average looks that are simply making money and having fun.
Thank you for this vid. Most good looking guys never acknowledge the advantage their looks give them, and tend to give themselves too much credit for their personalities, confidence etc. Your perspective as someone who was unattractive, but no longer fits that description, is quite unique.
For real, for me personally I don’t think I’m ugly but at the same time I know I’m no model and that I am average. The kicker is that one of my really attractive friends keep giving me relationship advice…..that only works for him. So I just politely hear him out and then disregard what he says because I know damn well if I did what he did I’d be spending Friday/Saturday night in a squad car with my name on some list. He doesn’t understand that he can say the most diabolical shit about women to their face and yet she’s still gonna go home with him at the end of the night.
@@kiravampira1456 I appreciate your kind words but I don’t think that’s true. An average or less-than attractive woman dropping hints at a really attractive guy isn’t going to end with her spending the night in jail and put on some registry the way an average/ugly guy would. Oir sexualities works differently. A 5-6 woman is still going to get a lot of play compared to her 5-6, even 7-8 male counterpart.
@zubrifikusummuk I didn't ask you neither to evaluate my looks nor to say what you consider undesirable, especially since I didn't show any interest in you. Of course I'm not ugly. Never claimed I was.
110% facts. You have no idea how much different people treat you when you experience a glow up. The attention, respect, dialogue, and overall social interaction jumped for me when I lost 90lbs from 260. People that say only the personality matters only ever say that to save face. Even the Beast from Beauty and the Beast was drawn charismatically.
I have told this to people many times, because it is absolutely true. Put on some torn jeans, ripped shoes, scuffed t shirt and go out to a restaurant. Compare that experience to when you go the same restaurant dressed in a suit or in nicer pants, and snazzy shoes and fancy shirt. You'll be treated like royalty by comparison, regardless of your gender or ethnicity. But yet we're supposed to believe looks don't matter, right??? Ha! Please.
Attraction isn’t just about dating… Your career will suffer because you are less attractive. The “people don’t want to associate themselves with ugly people” applies to your boss as well. And if your boss has a negative attitude towards you because of your ugliness, you will not get that raise.
Absolutely true. This is why people should take work clothes and grooming seriously. Makes a huge difference in your workplace interactions and opportunities.
@@mylesgray3470no it doesn’t. If your face is a 3 or below, no matter what you wear no matter what hairstyle you have you will still will look ugly which means you still are getting builled. Why do you think ugly people with tattoos & per-icings are precived as a crackhead while the attractive person with tattoos or piercings (look 10x better)
@@Milkstoriez It’s really about showing you care about how you look and “making an effort” which shows you care about the job. People who show up in ragged misfiring clothes, unshaven and un-showered are assumed to be slackers and unsuccessful. People who don’t work directly with you will judge these things like your bosses boss, who may be deciding on promotion proposals or layoffs.
@@mylesgray3470 not true tho. I know from experience & from other people I know. If you’re ugly you can put the most cleanest neatest professional clothing on.& people don’t take you serious. What Ive learned is I get bullied more dressing nice & professional then when I dress like a white ghetto thug. Same with the hairstyle part I’ve been to hundreds of stylists & not one hair style looks good on my face not even bald looks good 😭😂 how do I know? No matter how good the cut is everyone will talk about my hair more than any other ugly part.
@@Milkstoriez9/10 employers are taking the ugly person who’s well taken care of, ie. clean haircut/beard, clean clothes with no wrinkles, physically fit, over an attractive person who puts minimal effort into their self image.
I am a sub 5. I was so cripplingly lonely. I married another sub 5. I've lost 60 pounds and want to get fit because I don't want our son to suffer the hell I did. I want his life to better.
You don't want your son to suffer? The only thing you need to give him is a sense that he's safe to try things and learn. You give him that, you can relax. You don't give him that, you'll be practicing remedial parenting for decades.
@@tusk9901 I wish I was your friend, I would show you a good time.I would make you feel happy, just remember God loves you, everything happens for a purpose good or bad.
I think it is really important to distinguish between being ugly and being overweight/obese. Ugly people that are otherwise in good shape and good health can not fix the naturally unattractive structure of their face. On the other hand their are a lot of obese people who have a naturally pretty face who are essentially choosing to be unattractive. It really is a false equivalent.
Very glad that you mentioned this. You can be in shape and still be ugly (my situation). Your face is everything. So nothing else matters if your face is ugly. You can wear the fanciest of clothing along with a good smelling cologne and still be invisible. Your hygiene can be on point and that still won’t matter. The only thing that can compensate for being ugly is being rich.
@@princessmarlena1359 It`s true. Everyone ages. No-one on this planet is gonna look youthful, young and hot forever if they ever reach old age. Even margot robbie will age. So, with that been an fact why should anyone care so much about looks seeing as they will fade over time? It`s such an shallow and pretentious superficial concept that only lasts for an limited amount of time. 95% of relationships that are build on looks are just doomed to fail, epescially when father time comes knocking
@@funkriderx-djandproducer Yeah. I don’t condone superficiality, but unfortunately it is a fact of life, just like aging. The problem I have is with people who won’t admit to it…ironically they tend to be the most guilty of it, in my experience.
@@princessmarlena1359 Yeah, sadly as you say it does exist that is unfortunate. But as long as people (whenever it be men or women) have realistic standards when it comes to the opposite sex in regards to attraction or dating, when the problem doesn't really appear much. It,s only say guys who aren't say Brad Pitt in looks for example try to pull an woman with looks like an supermodel this thing occurs. As obviously an women with supermodel looks would only (9 times out of 10) want to date "Chad" or gigachad. Though, this doesn't apply to all women. Hence why if guys try to date at their looks level, they shouldn't really be having this problem
It can be worse when you have a well meaning friend who tries to set you up with someone and invite you out and you can tell they are trying to get a female friend to take an interest in you yet the woman is standoffish and it just makes you fall even farther into humiliation because the friend had such hope it would work and even thats pressure on top of the normal pressure on a date
When i was 21y, went to a party and after trying to talk to a girl, minutes after she and her friends came to me giving some coins to get a bus and leave because i was the uglyest in there and i was ruining the party… Such a “great” experience…
@@jonnyj7417 at that time i was really sad but s*icide was never an option, i have my family and some real friends, and they dont have to suffer because of some stupid girls. I leave that college and move on. It happened because i live in Brazil, where the average IQ is lower than chimp’s lol… Now i am 34, for my own sake i didnt merry nor had children, build my house and my parents live with me in peace. We are men brother, we came here to hold on and fight with our bare hands and God beside…
This is almost 100% true as an unattractive person myself you're always treated like a side character, an npc. I have a handsome friend and I guarantee most of the girl's eyes are on him while I'm like invisible to others. This is the harsh truth.
I was attractive throughout my 20s and 30s and I remember just always being able to attract positive attention from people. I could just walk up to random females and act silly and a fun time would ensue. Now if I try that, they'll call me a creep. Women will let an attractive guy they just met take them into an unfamiliar and isolated location but they'll call an unattractive guy a creep for saying hi to them.
@@funkriderx-djandproducer Its common fucking sense. If you are unpleasant to look at then people naturally dont want to look at you and will treat you worse than if you were pleasing to look at and people enjoyed looking at you.
The worst part is that no one is honest with you. I think I was overall quite blessed genetically, being 6'2 tall, having a high IQ, good sense of humour and robust immune system. However, no matter how much I compensate for my ugliness with making others laugh and being a good man, I am friend zoned, ridiculed behind my back, rarely given the benefit of the doubt, and even repellent to children ffs. It is very hard not to be cynical and bitter about such a fate. It feels like a curse.
I swear bro I can relate to you I’m the same as you expect I’m have a fairly regular IQ and I’m a manlet 5”7 Hispanic male skinny unattractive face it’s brutal.
I have IQ 131, my height is 6'3, decent looking face, skinny (but a little bit muscular). I am 18 years old at the moment. Don't care about girls, only care about my hustle So no dating game for me too. I am a voluntary celebate
I've been rejected my whole life for my looks from family, women and people. I've given up going outside the door. No hope. Life is for the better looking.
45 year old male here. Had the same experience all my life. Now fighting that decision to be a shut in from my formative experiences with people, especially women. Hope you can find peace and a much better outcome than what you've been through.
I hope to share of my own plight with you. I am now 68-year-old retired senior and to this very day continue to receive the nastiest and regular insults even from my fellow retired senior citizens because of my appearance. There was a cover Time magazine story in the early 2010s on why parents favor one child over another and the #1 reason was looks (my own parents had nothing but loathing, neglect and disappointment for me). Wherever I go I'm regularly insulted, put down, eyes roll and faces grimace. Since COVID, I began wearing a mask and continue to do so now in all public places, including my apartment building. That way I'm not insulted or looked down upon for my looks. Sadly, I can say that in 68 years of living on this earth that I have never had a happy day in my life. With the advent of present day cosmetic surgery, I certainly would have undertaken an operation to deal with my looks. But, life has passed me by and it's too late to turn back. Minor cosmetic surgery should be considered. But for me, life has passed me by. I no longer go out in public.
@dreadpirate3159 . Tired of neurotypicals like you or Chads constantly telling people about thier experiences here on this matrix from your own biased lived experience. Pretty much gas lighting at this point. For some people, the phrase "you should improve" means fundamentally changing who they are as a person to be accepted. Specifically, changing thier looks (not appearance), personality, speech patterns, learning style, etc.) that is essential to who they are. Especially if they are neuro divergent and dont fit inside the societal hive mindset. At my age, im tired of the societal BS that seems to only work for a certain set of people. Dont want to play that game anymore, its exhausting and futile. Im halfway through my life, if im lucky. Hopefully, I get to spend the final half accepting and being happy with who i truly am, not some stupid projection of what society at large or women expect me to be.
Being fat/overweight can be associated with lack of control. Poor skin conditions can be associated with poor hygiene. Weak hair/balding can be associated with bad genes, same goes with height.
You look like a totally different person since your looks transformation. Good for you bro. Btw its easier to be funny if you are goofy looking. Good looking comedians are not that funny.
What I have experinced in my late child/early teen years (10-11yr) is that my friends were different with me when we were in a group. For example if me and my friend were doing something together and then another boy showed up on the scene, my friend would just act different and make jokes out of me etc., so it really just signalled that they were trying to prove to that other kid that they are not 'really' my friend at all, as if being seen with me was a shame. But they were always nice to me when we were alone. And this happened to all of my friends, no exceptions. That's when I decided that I don't need them because of this. I could say I had lots of friends in my child years, but I lost them all when I became a teen, and I didn't really have friends ever since. I am 31 now.
You didn’t deserve that, nobody does. I understand what you mean, I experienced some bad things as a teen for a couple years before I met my first girlfriend. From 12-14 I was in a new environment and I was treated as ugly and it was awful. Yes as soon as I grew to full height I had a lot of female interest and girlfriends ask me out, so I know both sides. It’s undeniable. Especially at 18 people are very very shallow. It’s brutal.
I was always told in school that i was ugly, and the rejection from the girls broken me emotionally for years, now i dont think about it anymore, am now married to a beautiful woman and i have 3 beautiful kids
From elementary to HS i was an ugly duckling . But one day i decided to do something about it . Got in shape removed my facial hair which gave me a youth full look Cut my long hair fix my thick eyebrows and everything change so much that i was constantly getting caught up in drama with women. So i just decided to stop dating but i met a woman one day fell in love and got married
@@davestewart2067 haha who knows but I heard there are options for hair loss. Luckily I still have hair at 47 so I'm good there. If only there was a way to make me 7 inches taller....hmm...
I’m not ugly but I have autism so cannot hold conversation with women or strangers. But listening to many of your videos I feel so bad for you and all other men in this situation
Im a pretty attractive dude and i have autism and i can speak to people and have conversations but i don’t know how to have regular conversations really like a normal person
I was ugly kid and dad didn't allowed me to go in a city for architecture high school, instead I needed to go to next village in culinary school. While younger sister, who is double prettier than me or other sisters, parent HELPED and MOTIVATED her to go in a far away city PLUS they paid for her apartment... even parents are discriminating their own children between ugly and pretty.
When i was a kid i struggled with this shit heavily, until i understood people around my age are just shallow so it wasnt me. Now im older and look better i just notice the slightests things like people smiling gets in my head. Its crazy that how you get treated in your younger years has a huge effect on how you grow.
Unattractive here. There is an advantage to it: you learn how things really are. You are not bound by 'gratitude' and other shit towards mankind. It means you can evict elderlies out of their home when they owe you money. It means you don't need to give up your seat for the weak. "Well you're weak now, but 30 years ago you were hot and you were not there for me, why should I be there for you now". It's liberating.
In high school the class did an exercise. We would talk to another student and say what we like/envy about them. The kid I talked to wished he was as tall as I am because women like tall men. I said it hadn’t helped me but he was the warm friendly guy. In the years after I did have women that were attracted to me until they got to know me. They may want to talk to the tall decent looking guy but lack of charisma won’t let the relationship go anywhere. There is more to attraction than just looks.
I was a shut in. I would just go to work, grocery store and back home. Whenever I ate out it was to-go, I never ate dining in as I was alone. Then one day while on Netflix I watched a health related show named " fat sick and nearly dead", it changed my personal outlook. I lived across the street from a nice gym. One day I stepped inside just to take a look around and have been going back every since. I'm addicted to it now and it feels great. 😅 Nothing else seems to matter anymore. 😊❤💯
People today, especially women are just plain mean, rude disrespectful, discriminating, superficial, shallow, belittling, bullying, etc. It just sickens my spirit to the core. I'm better off being alone & staying away from people altogether as much as possible. I'm short too which doesn't help my case at all.
He’s speaking facts in this video. I have been bald since I was in my early 30’s. Lol. That’s never been a problem for me in the past though because I was in shape. At some point I let myself go and got fat from partying too much and having a crap diet. I noticed getting dates was a lot harder. Got back into shape AGAIN and my dating life is smooth sailing. It’s a sad reality but looks definitely matter.
word. but that should be to no surprise... being fat is the biggest online dating killer for men. Bald is not even close. where i live, bald men are literally everywhere and just normally dating as anyone else. balding as a young man is so hard as bald men are barely represented in media. so you have no "grip" on visual culture and sex symbols. Its sad but it gets better the more you refuse social media as a whole and just focus on real life.
So I was super shy in high school and scrawny. Never got a gf, never once got laid. I actually just started focusing on my health more at 23 and I went back to my ten year highschool reunion last year. I was the best looking man there by a large margin. All of the former jocks were either bloated alcoholics or just plain morbidly obese. Pretty much all of their wives/gfs were the same girl that they broke up with and got back together with four times in high school. I had three women that night tell me they couldn’t believe I was single and how much I changed. After a few drinks I ended up sleeping with one of them that night. My point is that all of the people that bullied me in high school just ended up settling with the girls that got tossed around town like hackysacks. Going to the same bar every night, talking to the same people about the same things and never moving forward. Get out and work on your health. It’s pretty much the only thing that matters.
@@murderman8578 Nah I understand it, now he can close that chapter of his life and move on, you never know how much it hurt and bothered him to never get his way or have experiences simply just from the way he looked. He had a chance to rewrite the past and close the chapter and he did and had fun while he did it.
Congratulations on your victory. I mean it. I graduated in 2007 and I still haven't done my victory lap. I even have a mini list in my head of a girl or two I would love to reward for being nice to me in high school with my ultimate for my building now. For example two girls Samantha and kate, we're nice to me when I was at my quote-unquote worst. It would be an honor to give them my best
The “beautiful people” should be grateful that there are ugly people like us. We are the support that makes it possible for the pretty people to be seen as beautiful. If there were no negative example, no one would notice that you are one of the beautiful people.
I’ve always been really thin, and why household I grew in really destroyed any confidence I had with women. Women were interested in me until I opened my mouth and they realized how non-confident I was. I married the first woman who gave me the time of day at age 24 which was a mistake. Confidence builds slow. Keep working at it and don’t sell yourself short.
This video has so much truth in it not just about looks but what people think your social status is. So many times people have been rude to me but once they see me with people that they like then they tell me oh I misunderstood the type of person you are or they try to invite me places once they find out I'm friends with someone that can help them. They think saying a fake sorry to me means I owe them an introduction to my friend(s). Then after a few failed trys and I still tell them to leave me alone they go right back to insulting me. I didn't even know them that well or had any reason have an on going fued with them. Some people just can't see that they are being shallow /fake.
Some of the comments I'm reading are true. Im an ugly guy and I know it. People I have pursued to start a relationship with say you are a nice guy , but what they are really saying is you are unattractive. At least I don't get unwanted attention. I prefer being ugly now because I'm not interested any more in connecting with someone. I'm not lonely now. I do what I want . And I like that. The pressure is off.
I know there's a lot of black pill people here, but the moral of this story isn't that being attractive = better life. Once you become conventionally attractive those same stuck up women become like moths to a flame, and the result is that you're surrounded by the most toxic people all of the time. My friend has this issue, instead of bullies he's literally being harrassed by these hypergamous women, who demand his attention even though they have boyfriends. You know who else wants to be around attractive guys "mentally ill" guys and women. And when you say "No", or you want to spend time with your actual friends, then suddenly they yell and blame you for their problems, and threaten self harm, or even suicide if you don't give them enough attention. Yes, being lonely sucks, but the truth is there has never been a better time in life to be lonely. When people leave you the f--- alone, you can do whatever you want. But when you're attractive, it's like you don't even own your own body anymore, and this sustained harrassment has a negative impact on your mental health.
I agree with the lonely part.. being alone helps you build strength and focus on yourself..some of the most successful people in the world was alone at one point in their life
He can literally just cut contact with the toxic people and find a golden woman by approaching first instead of waiting for them to approach. Its really nowhere near the same.
You really gonna tell me with a straight face that Harvey was attractive ever in life? Because that face seems to have always been the kind only a mother could love, and in his case probably not even that.
I've experienced all this except the physical bullying in school, (they knew i would fight, if I had to) i was basically invisible in high school and basically hanged around with the rest of the unpopular kids. One point you made that hit really hard is women find something bad about you if they don't find you attractive, that's very true, they call you a creep or feel really uncomfortable around you for no real, reason, that's why a lot of women get s3xually abused or graped by guys they deem as attractive because they're so superficial that they think a guy's looks determine his character
Also people bully attractive men and women so I'm not sure what this man is talking about. People will bully you if you they are jealous of you, if they are insecure about themselves, if you are competition or you have something they want.
You’ve nailed it on the head!! I was a late bloomer.. had a major glow up .. and now aging into my 40s and lost the halo effect.. that dim checked out look in people’s eyes when I talk to people can be soul crushing..
Bro, i got called ugly by a TEACHER on my first day of high school. Mocked and judged my entire life because of my looks. Been targetted by staff at stores because i looked "dodgy" im next level
So, I went from “unattractive” to “desirable”. I’m still the same cool person and realized during my transformation from the friend zone that the Women I wanted to attract are complete ass. Then the ones that YOU reject get upset and think you’re stuck up when you’re simply not attracted to them. Real shit, now getting to be on both sides of the blade, it’s better to try and be comfortable with yourself. Being seen as a “shiny piece” of meat or “competition” instead of a person has hurt a lot more sometimes than when I’d be called the worst names in front of people. I was always the fat, funny, ugly friend so I was always outside looking in. Please work on your Mental, I can’t stress that enough. We’re in this bitch together! No one left behind!
Even if you have many features that aren't seen as desirable, it doesn't mean there is NO hope. If you're balding, its better to just cut it all off. Then you can at least have that bald/buff aesthetic going on after you hit the gym. Especially training your neck helps a lot, it makes your jaw more pronounced and makes you seem bigger overall. You can still have a good career and make good money which helps a lot. You can have a healthier lifestyle to have more energy and have a more positive attitude. But there are some things that are closer to being out of your control. Like facial deformities, severe acne, messed up teeth. Especially if you come from a poor family that can't afford things like braces when you are young to fix your teeth. For these things it is better to just ignore them. There is no point in worrying about what you can't change. Best of luck in your life :)
When youre a handsome goodlooking guy..."oh he is hot n confident and a chad" if you approach....if youre unattractive theyre gonna say " Oh he is creepy and a weirdo" ...and all the social cues they dont wanna be around you or they trynna distance themselves from you
A lot of what you're describing and what you've experienced is "looks privilege". Interestingly enough, people say it doesn't exist....but it's VERY real. Like you said, even down to your own family smh lol This is why I advise "looksmaxxing" even if you lack other intangibles because some of the worst men are never alone, because their looks don't allow it lol
I am not overweight. I am healthy and eat healthy food. Still i am short, balding and ugly at 16. I guess i did horrible things in my past lives to live a life like this.
Surrogacy brother. Find a tall blonde and you're good to go. Make some money ASAP. Make fast money if you know what I mean. You'll soon find out investing years in clean money isn't working out if ugly.
It all depends on what kind of "healthy" food you're talking about. Being vegan is considered "healthy" by a lot of "health experts" but when you look at vegan men, they look stunted. I'd recommend high quality meat like grassfed beef and lamb, pasture raised chicken, wild caught seafood etc. even though "health experts" want you to believe these are all not good for you. I have no idea what's causing your balding but it could possibly be from lack of sunlight exposure and too much masturbation, castor oil could help. Everything isn't always genetic. You're genes are expressed in response to the environment you grow up in. I just hate how incels make it out like it's over and there's nothing you can do when in reality you can improve if you put the effort in. Sure being short is something you can't change but the more masculine you look, the more serious people will take you even if you're short which is why every man should strive to increase testosterone levels.
I'm 24, 6'6, an engineer, workout regularly, but overweight. Women my age care so much about looks and body fat is a major debuf. I've been starved down and it was MUCH easier to get women. I put on some weight going through school and ive been getting rejected more often. Having it happen first hand confirmed how important looks are. I will be getting abs and becoming chad
I was super fat in college and girls didn’t want to date me. It was hella sad. When I lost massive weight, dressed well, made 6 figures, bought 3 cars and a nice home, it was easy getting dates and banging chicks. Life is good now….one can always work on improving his looks and status if the will is there. Cheers gentlemen!
Based on your 'banging chicks' comment, I'd go a step further and read books regarding emotional intelligence. Maybe look into meditation, art therapy classes, volunteer helping underserved communities-anything to destroy your inner Chad. Wealth is great but you will attract female scum if your personality is dumpster juice. Wealth, great personality and integrity are better and rare.
The halo effect is a cognitive bias that causes people to attribute positive qualities to attractive people. For example, someone might assume that an attractive person is also generous, smart, or trustworthy. The halo effect can impact people's perceptions of health and intelligence, and can also manifest in the business world. For example, a company that is doing well might be assumed to have a sound strategy, motivated employees, and a vibrant culture.
The worst part about this is that people are so clueless, they don't even know that they behave this way. I'm blessed with good introspection skills, and I absolutely recognize when I'm treating a woman better due to looks.
I agree, when I was overweight with short hair nobody cared for what I had to say and hardly get any eye contact with strangers. Now that I go to the gym a lot and lost a lot of weight and grew my hair with style, women notice me and both men and women give my eye contact now....
I have never, ever heard more honesty on a sensitive topice as expressed by you in this video. As an unattractive woman I can very much relate to what you said. It is, by the way, the same for women....
I do want to say to everyone struggling. Im a taller guy, was chubby as a kid im just thick now with a bit of a belly as an adult. Ive had women who have no business wanting me make passes at me. And ive had women who have no business rejecting me reject me...its subjective be cool , and honestly make friends with women they might have a good friend for you you never know. Dont give up tho
Confidence and energy are vitally important and unfortunately, more difficult to build up as a ‘physically’ unattractive person. The more you develop your personality, the less your looks will matter - especially in the long term. Looks are a temporary benefit and usually don’t last.
I dont believe i was ever attractive honestly. I dont know if im ugly or not, but personally i just dont care about it. Frankly, for all the crap in my life, i know I'm not living out a fake life, surrounded with the internet, plastic surgery and a million bot accounts, all telling me "yasss queen slayyyyyy". Lots of people were blessed with good genetics, and a good supportive honest family. Cant say the same, but i xan only be grateful im not living worse than other people do. Rule of life, no matter what top shXt you think you are, theres always going to be someone who has it better or worse than you. If im ugly, thats fine, i think we're all ugly in our own ways, and true, nobody's inclined to love me or be attracted to me, you cant force love. But having said that, i cant stand the patronising attitudes some people have, talking down to you like you need their pity.
This just makes you want to become super attractive to rule everything. It's true, the times I felt most attractive, I was funnier, more charming, more successful. In my 40s I have learned it is so important to maintain your looks it's crazy. I have a receding hairline and seriously considering getting a hair transplant just to see what the difference in attitude would be.
2:49 this is me at 52 lol. I have some kind of anxiety where i think people are judging my appearance in public. So i go out mainly just for groceries... usually late when foot traffic is low
Its weird as i still remember a girl from my school days telling me i couldn't get a girlfriend because i was ugly. She was arguing with me about something and it turned real spiteful. I literally felt my ego getting crushed at that moment. I still remember the her saying it now and im 42 years old now.
The black pill always wins fellas. Once you fully understand it, you will be a master of keeping your distance from folks and also your ability to read body language and I’ll be elevated to heights you’ll never realized
As a short man, i never saw being short as something that makes you unnatractive. It may not help but i think im a mega cutie and my personal experience with girls and being short seems to show that there can still be a lot going on. Of course my life doesn't mean there aren't people who struggle with height as something that doesn't help but being 4'11 and still getting decent matches and talking to girls in person and getting compliments and flirting. I never had an issue talking with girls. Idk
my dad was short (168cm) and bald and had a massive sexlife even beyond his 60s, which almost ruined our family, because he walked out on my mother more than once. she stayed. and she was taller than him and a very beautiful woman. the thing my dad had was high intelligence and high emotionality, which a lot of woman love when in direct 1o1 contact. he was an interesting guy who knew how to talk to women. not even in the joker/funny guy way. just deeply emotionally intelligent and invested while still having massive frame because he always did his thing in life with business, travel and so on.
I'm 5'3" and my height wasn't much of an issue. I've put in serious work though restoring a full head of long hair and exercise. I'm 175 lbs with a 32" waist. I've been with women between 5' to 5'7", average weight 115 lbs. Most of them with a cute girl next door look, I can't say I've been with an absolute knock out that people stop and stare at when she enters a room. I have no complaints, I'm grateful.
I remember going into a store when I was a kid and having 3 adult woman saying how ugly I was and pointing out my features... i was never so angry in my life... People can be cruel.. But you gotta make the changes to level up. Health, Fitness, Stable job and being organised and clean in home and body not to mention Dress sense and GOOD POSTURE!! If you look down and out.. You will be perceived down and out and it will snowball... There are many forms of ugly you can be.. Just be the best form of ugly you can be...
Such a powerful testimony. I could feel the emotion while you Were speaking about humiliating experiences. I Was crossed eyes from 4 y.o until 20. After surgery my left eye was less than one millimeter rectified… people behaviour toward me changed completly, for 1mm… now i feel both contempt and fascination for the concept of beauty. The way you describe it as a blind mechanism is so true and appaling but hey, the fact that you know how it works sets you as a free man. And i prefer freedom to vanity
Im short, 4'10 and people will tell me that i just suck at dating wnd go on to tell me how their friend is short too .insert a height taller than 5'5. And they found someone. If they can find someone than i can too and height isnt a factor. Women will say im perfect but refuse to date me bc of my height...they literally say it. Yet ppl will swear up and down its not my height 😂...im like dude u arent me...it also doesn't help that i look very young, im 30 but can fit in with middle schoolers(not exaggerating). My face isnt ugly i am good looking but i only appeal to lil girls...ive had school age girls try to talk to me. It just sucks to always hear im perfect but something i cant change is the only thing stopping me from finding love. So ive stopped trying tbh...havent gotten a hair cut in a couple of months...dont even clean up my facial hair...pretty much wear the same thing all the time...i barely smile anymore(and that is one of the things im known for). It even stops me from making friends. The girlfriends and friends i do get usually just fk me over and use me. I have it all but love...and the loneliness is crippling
Damn that height is brutal. I’m 5’3” and it’s not any better. Bullied my whole life. Men don’t take you seriously and women don’t have any respect for you as a man. I’m 36 now and it gets easier with age. Being alone I mean. Just find hobbies to fill your time, chase money and a career you are interested in. And friends too.
The subconscious automatically goes to “this persons look is a representation of their lifestyle” so if your ugly especially through controllable things like weights, hygiene ect.. the brain says “ok this isnt a lifestyle i want around me just look at the results”
It's a vicious cycle. If you're fat/unattractive you'll develop insecurities. You won't be able to make friends because you're insecure. You'll resort to eating/avoiding people people because they'll make fun of your insecurities. And you'll grow fatter. Something similar happened to me in high-school. I'd say my main flaws were being fat and shy. I got bullied because of it, but noone cared. This made me isolate myself from others. Because of it, I now struggle to socialize in public. If I had friends, I would have been more sociable, perhaps even lost weight and gotten a girlfriend. But noone wants to be a friend with a fat shy guy. Also, I can confirm people will treat you like you're less intelligent based on your looks. Whenever I solved a problem in class, people would act surprised or pretend the answer was obvious. They would also be shocked when they found out I can speak multiple languages and I love swimming. It's weird, but they expect you to be less capable because you're ugly. I've now graduated from college and lost my hair at the same time. I'm too scared to try any procedures. This hit me hard. But now I care less what people think of me. I want to grow muscles and practice martial arts. I want to become rich and meet a beautiful and loving woman. I want to show the middle finger to all the douchbags and their girlfriends who treated me like trash. Or at least die trying. Because DAMN IT I REFUSE to live my whole life as a loser.
I spent my whole life being bullied and rejected. In the last 2 years I've bloomed somewhat. Everything you say is true. People treat me very differently now.
@@TyWerks I'd been going to the gym for 12 years. Gained a lot of weight 2020-2022 due to pandemic bad habits. Prior to that, undiagnosed Autism Spectrum Disorder so I didn't understand why I was so socially inept.
Anyone who grew up ugly knows. It gives you a certain distaste for new people who like the finished product but you know 10 years ago they wouldn’t bat an eye.
I was deemed a very good looking man , sure the woman come with it , but I lost a few potential friends through jealousy or they didn’t want me near their partners and felt the resentment , my social confidence within male groups was diminished
This is such an accurate video on how unattractive men are treated by others. I am a 5’3 man and have been the shorter guy everywhere I go and it sucks. I was bullied throughout school in varying degrees. My self esteem has never been good. Women say tall guys are so confident. Of course they are! When you are treated well your whole life for something you had no control over. Lol
Ask anyone who started life ugly and became attractive later how their life and social dynamics changed, their stories are eye opening to say the least.
You can work on your looks. And honestly alot of mens personalities in this forum do suck. Overly negative and critical of others. "This sucks. This person sucks. This place sucks. This movie sucks" you know you all say that. I know. I've been friends with guys like that. Hence the word 'been'
Another factor that *massively* decreases a man's desirability is his blatant unwillingness to protect and provide. If he's in the 2-5 range to begin with (regardless of how many extra-points he gives himself), his new score could barely make him even a 1/10. On the brighter side, his willingness to protect and provide would just as massively increase his desirability.
When you've been rejected all of your life, spent all of your weekends without a date, and shunned in public, you have to really DIG DEEP to keep a positive mental attitude. I'm 5'7, and I found my release through exercise. I love it ! I think I'm addicted! 😅😊❤
@iveyhealth2266 In order to give you a more elaborated answer, I would have to know the specific aesthetic you go for. From my experience, when boys/men say "I can't get any dates...", what they intentionally forget to add is "... with the few women who match my specific definition of beauty, as they are the only ones I actually acknowledge". I know, I know: attraction can't be negotiated. However, I doubt that no woman has ever shown you interest. In my country, even orc-looking beggars have the nerve to be picky about women's appearance.
@@kiravampira1456Exactly! Many guys are as hypergamous as women are claimed to be. Like they say they hardly ever hit on women especially when they always got rejected when they did, but it’s most likely they always got rejected since they only hit on women who are out of their league.
I mean this in the most humble way possible. I am considered a handsome guy, I’m half Puerto Rican and half Jamaican, very fit and OCD helps with maintaining a clean appearance. With all that said, I hate the attention I get. Women are constantly flirting and trying to be seen by me. I can be standing in a checkout line and women linger around or ask rhetorical questions, a bunch of flicking hair, bending over etc! Sounds like every man’s dream but I’m being honest, it gets annoying and you want a turn off button. Women are shallow and not loyal. It’s crazy because some men envy me and I tend to envy them. (Regular guys)
No one ever talks about the constant stares you get in public. it’s so bad because you know they’re staring because they are judging you.and the thing is they don’t glance they stare for well over 10-15 seconds(if that) and they let you know they’re staring and when you look at them they don’t look away they stare back at you. Like there is no way in hell an ugly person should have your eyes hooked like that.make me don’t wanna go outside and got me thinking I’m a celebrity or something 😂
I am pretty and female but I can relate to ugly men. My family brainwashed me to think I was the ugliest person just because I'm disabled (nerve damage) or, as my brother called me, "damaged goods." They always looked at me like I was the most disgusting thing they ever saw in their life and, boy, did I absorb the disgust. I didn't flirt with boys because I assumed they'd give me that same look and so of course they ignored me and only paid attention to the popular girls and this seemed to confirm my ugliness. The crippling loneliness. I had no girl friends to tell me my family was lying to me. I was a loner. You can be a pretty person and still be a loser. If the girls don't like you - neither will the boys. I tried so hard to be nice to my dad and brothers but because my mom hated me so did they. They desperately wanted to win her approval and her approval was always conditional.
The really messed up thing is when your looks are bad and you ask why your dating life suck, everyone will say it's your personality. Family, friends, therapists will just say it's your confidence or energy. No one will just be honest with you.
Yeah, it's the uncomfortable truth that your friends, family and therapist don't want to tell you because they are trying to spare your feelings or gaslight you. My personality hasn't changed drastically from when I was overweight and bald, just my looks and it's a 1000% night and day difference. It's not your energy or confidence, it's 100% looks. I'm living proof of that.
I think your 80% right, it is mainly your looks. But personality does change from being overweight to healthy body weight. If your obese, your hormones are different, and these hormones influence your impulse control e.t.c. @@ascended266
Fr
I stopped believing the lies and just get and drunk.
Yet you can change your looks, you just need the proper guideline
If you're attractive and shy, you are cute.
If you're unattractive and shy, you are a loser and have no confidence.
If you're attractive and getting good grades, you're smart.
If you're unattractive and getting good grades, you're a nerd.
It’s over bro
@@jeffyli7507 Damned if you do and damned if you don't
If you are unattractive and approach a girl you are a creep.
makes me want to cover my entire face out in the street and only take off on the bus because of work, well duh i can´t wear in there. if i still had my instragam every picture i would cover my face. i had women who showed interest but i don´t trust ( btw it´s no about cheating) i tried dating three times, but for one reason or another it only lasted very few days.
No matter what my mother tells me and truly there are decent women out there, but is possible to find their nature ( if they are indeed decent) in the first days? SCREW EVERYTHINHG SCREW IT SCREW SCREW IT!
I definitely fit into the 2nd category
Being ugly is a double edged sword you will be lonely but you know who your real friends are
True
@realperx1102 nah a good friend of mine is about 300 ponds but he is a true freind of mine
You will be lonely but you know who your friends are? You realise what you just said?
@@mstirlz i meant lonely like in terms of a partner but your friends will stick by you
@@mstirlz I guess he mean real friends, many people like to be around good looking and popular people, that don't mean they really like that person in particular, they're just around them for superficial reasons
Being a male is hard af. Being an unattractive male, is like living life on ‘insane difficulty’.
And *the hardest* to be a female that males collectively consider unattractive. And before anyone contradicts me, don't bother. I don't take into consideration the opinions that think the whole world functions like America, where women are *far* more free to be overweight.
Yeah, it's virtually pointless
@@anyamiranda9452I was thinking the same thing. It’s probably much worse to be an unattractive female since there looks hold so much weight with men.
Being an ugly guy, with borderline personality disorder is quite the CRAP.
Life: "Hey, wanna be in the 0.4% of the population??? GUY WITH BPD!.... AND UGLY WITH A BIGASS FOREHEAD!"
@@anyamiranda9452Yeah not going to disagree with you. Though in the USA the women in that lowest looks rating are far more likely to get guys than vise versa. For women below 50 at least.
There are plenty of stats to back this up, and intuitively it makes sense because there are over 21 males for every 20 females biologically, and because of how serial monogamy works with age differences.
A man aged 45 might have been married, divorced, then remarried a younger woman. Even if it's not common, the small difference in numbers has a big impact because of how the game of musical chairs works.
So it's harder for older women and younger men due to the ratios of singles in their ages.
thats why i hate when people say looks dont matter
I agree with you, I just wanted to be a pretty boy😢
@@João-u8b I can't tell if you are joking or if you actually agree
@@jman3657 Why would I be joking?
@@João-u8b you said just you wanted to be a pretty boy and then you put an emoji so I got a little confused
Yeah, like that is supposed to make you feel better.
The biggest discrimination in the world goes against ugly people. You can be black, white, Asian, Latino, if you are ugly they will discriminate against you in any country. For all the victim-hood people are trying to find to protest against, you will never see anybody complaining about ugly people being treated like crap. Even worst, in general, people assume is OK to mock, ridicule and discriminate against ugly men and women, even ugly kids get the raw end of the deal.
u xpose hard words!!.....are the end is some kind of new discriminate but probably is has been some ancient bully that is lookism (your face, height, and shape weight, youth appearance, and snob wearing xpensive accesories) all of this parallel to some of the income status (witih in or hand in hand with lookism) ......this are the main issues that in reality face today the society going falling down without moral and legal indiferrenca about it...
- Chads
-Tyrones
- Bad Ass with some kind of political power to Bully everyone
- Fake cool guys or "political popular" guys who are really ready to manipulatively proceed with indifference or to betray with impunity...
Yes. Ugly kids do get the raw end of the deal. I was an ugly kid. Sometimes, strangers just made it a point to mention that you're ugly. It's prevalent in the Hispanic culture.
@@notursavior1861 no way....is incredible!
Yes because genetics are the real bargaining tool in this lifetime
This is true even as a female. I’ve literally hired and trained a pretty girl at an old job and then she got promoted over me. Happened so many times! Now I work for myself so my merit stays where it should.
You know you're ugly when you're told "you have a good personality"
You have a BAD personality.
👴🏻🥃 DATS WUT DAY TELLIN ME NOW.
No, you're just being believing that.
@@tungstenanderson5991 To be fair that IS an indicator. When a good looking person is described as having a good personality,people never actually say that. They just TREAT the good looking person like they have a good personality.
And me personally,I’m actually quite funny but I’m ugly (4/10 in the face) but people say I’m funny all the time BEFORE any other kind of compliment. Funny how people are saying specific things to specific people 😒
Let me ask you this?
Do you criticized overweight women or women who have children or women who are unattractive?
High school treatment definitely reveals the truth
School traumatized me
You guys are such wimps lmao
@@johngilliam6764 What's a wimp? It reveals reality
@@johngilliam6764 if you said that to me in person well go round for round , and i will get the best of you ..... lmao
@@johngilliam6764 …yet here you are making fun of people from behind the safety of your keyboard/screen.
Why are some people so unempathetic? Do they not realize the amount of emotional damage they could do someone or are they just sociopathic? Really makes me realize that at the end of the day we are nothing more than biological creatures looking out for our own skin
People are naturally self Cantered
Nah bro i would never go out my way to disrespect someone for their looks nothing to do with human nature, if anything it's a choice to be rude.
@moggman6401
🎉That we are friend, ones known as primates in fact.
Because by agreeing with the premise that looks matter, it means that they kinda have to go down the rabbit hole about a lot of other things. Women especially hate to admit this because they don't only want to be liked for mostly their looks, they have to believe that they are super interesting or that their boyfriend would still like them if they were uglier. Also means they have to admit they are shallow, which to be fair all humans are shallow, but women do not want to be considered shallow, because that lessens their social credibility.
It’s genetic brother. We are outside of their structure. This is the first time in human history that our minds are free from this cycle and ironically our looks are what set us free.
It’s like I’ve been saying for years; the more ugly you look, the more you see how rude the world is. While the more attractive you look, the more you see how shallow the world is.
bullshit, I see lots of "ugly" ppl living life to the fullest, tik tokers, influencers, youtube travellers you would consider below average looks that are simply making money and having fun.
@@humdae6738 cough bullshit
@@humdae6738that's a tiny part of society that gets to experience these kinds of benefits
@@bluefox9436VERY TINY!!!!!
Bro I looked so ugly in school that girls didn’t even wanna sit beside me
Br00tal
I'm so ugly I stood still in an elevator looking at my phone and the girl walking in jumped in fear like she saw Ted Bundy in her bathroom.
@@1whospeaksand they are the ones to say “mind your own business” when most of them wouldn’t if they see an unattractive person.
I can relate bro same with me
@@soldierofgod7412 same with me they always spitted on my shoes in school all the time
Thank you for this vid. Most good looking guys never acknowledge the advantage their looks give them, and tend to give themselves too much credit for their personalities, confidence etc. Your perspective as someone who was unattractive, but no longer fits that description, is quite unique.
For real, for me personally I don’t think I’m ugly but at the same time I know I’m no model and that I am average. The kicker is that one of my really attractive friends keep giving me relationship advice…..that only works for him. So I just politely hear him out and then disregard what he says because I know damn well if I did what he did I’d be spending Friday/Saturday night in a squad car with my name on some list. He doesn’t understand that he can say the most diabolical shit about women to their face and yet she’s still gonna go home with him at the end of the night.
Both of you wrote a great comment. Just to let you know though, it's *exactly* the same dynamic on women's side.
@@kiravampira1456i think that your problem isnt being ugly, its more like the fact that u think youre a vampire
@@kiravampira1456 I appreciate your kind words but I don’t think that’s true. An average or less-than attractive woman dropping hints at a really attractive guy isn’t going to end with her spending the night in jail and put on some registry the way an average/ugly guy would. Oir sexualities works differently. A 5-6 woman is still going to get a lot of play compared to her 5-6, even 7-8 male counterpart.
@zubrifikusummuk I didn't ask you neither to evaluate my looks nor to say what you consider undesirable, especially since I didn't show any interest in you. Of course I'm not ugly. Never claimed I was.
I’m 49 years old , never married, no children , never had a girlfriend nor the prospect of one … I’ve always been unattractive inside and out.
Sorry to hear that. Learn comedy and game.
@@evelyna_paula1747Game is bullshit, attraction can't be created.
@@evelyna_paula1747 game is bullshit
@evelyna_paula1747 🙄
@@evelyna_paula1747 nah …. I’d rather just have my throat slit.
110% facts. You have no idea how much different people treat you when you experience a glow up. The attention, respect, dialogue, and overall social interaction jumped for me when I lost 90lbs from 260.
People that say only the personality matters only ever say that to save face. Even the Beast from Beauty and the Beast was drawn charismatically.
I have told this to people many times, because it is absolutely true. Put on some torn jeans, ripped shoes, scuffed t shirt and go out to a restaurant. Compare that experience to when you go the same restaurant dressed in a suit or in nicer pants, and snazzy shoes and fancy shirt. You'll be treated like royalty by comparison, regardless of your gender or ethnicity. But yet we're supposed to believe looks don't matter, right??? Ha! Please.
Fr the beast is a chad
Attraction isn’t just about dating…
Your career will suffer because you are less attractive. The “people don’t want to associate themselves with ugly people” applies to your boss as well. And if your boss has a negative attitude towards you because of your ugliness, you will not get that raise.
Absolutely true. This is why people should take work clothes and grooming seriously. Makes a huge difference in your workplace interactions and opportunities.
@@mylesgray3470no it doesn’t. If your face is a 3 or below, no matter what you wear no matter what hairstyle you have you will still will look ugly which means you still are getting builled. Why do you think ugly people with tattoos & per-icings are precived as a crackhead while the attractive person with tattoos or piercings (look 10x better)
@@Milkstoriez It’s really about showing you care about how you look and “making an effort” which shows you care about the job. People who show up in ragged misfiring clothes, unshaven and un-showered are assumed to be slackers and unsuccessful. People who don’t work directly with you will judge these things like your bosses boss, who may be deciding on promotion proposals or layoffs.
@@mylesgray3470 not true tho. I know from experience & from other people I know. If you’re ugly you can put the most cleanest neatest professional clothing on.& people don’t take you serious. What Ive learned is I get bullied more dressing nice & professional then when I dress like a white ghetto thug. Same with the hairstyle part I’ve been to hundreds of stylists & not one hair style looks good on my face not even bald looks good 😭😂 how do I know? No matter how good the cut is everyone will talk about my hair more than any other ugly part.
@@Milkstoriez9/10 employers are taking the ugly person who’s well taken care of, ie. clean haircut/beard, clean clothes with no wrinkles, physically fit, over an attractive person who puts minimal effort into their self image.
I am a sub 5. I was so cripplingly lonely. I married another sub 5. I've lost 60 pounds and want to get fit because I don't want our son to suffer the hell I did. I want his life to better.
Don’t have a kid. Gym does nothing. My dad was a roidcel. And I’m here. If that doesn’t tell you enough I don’t know what will.
@@ernesttrosman yeah ok
That’s so fucking noble
You don't want your son to suffer? The only thing you need to give him is a sense that he's safe to try things and learn. You give him that, you can relax. You don't give him that, you'll be practicing remedial parenting for decades.
@Solitas777
If you're ugly and you're wife is ugly if you're son is already born you doomed him.
Being physically disabled made me experience the horn effect of my life during childhood
I'm really sorry, how are you now
@@ThatoRadebe-c6n Not great. I'm considering getting on antidepressants to numb myself to emotions.
@@tusk9901 I wish I could help you, I pray you get well.Dont lose hope
@@tusk9901 I wish I was your friend, I would show you a good time.I would make you feel happy, just remember God loves you, everything happens for a purpose good or bad.
@@ThatoRadebe-c6n Thanks, man. Such unexpected empathy online surprises me to be honest. How are you doing
I think it is really important to distinguish between being ugly and being overweight/obese. Ugly people that are otherwise in good shape and good health can not fix the naturally unattractive structure of their face. On the other hand their are a lot of obese people who have a naturally pretty face who are essentially choosing to be unattractive. It really is a false equivalent.
@@therealruckus5263 very true
Very glad that you mentioned this. You can be in shape and still be ugly (my situation). Your face is everything. So nothing else matters if your face is ugly. You can wear the fanciest of clothing along with a good smelling cologne and still be invisible. Your hygiene can be on point and that still won’t matter. The only thing that can compensate for being ugly is being rich.
@@jonnyj7417 I think you can work past that though if you are shredded. You just can't be fit you have to be beyond that
@@TyWerksdoesnt work like that. Face>height.
It’s human nature. I’m annoyed by people who say “I don’t care about looks!”. Yes you do, even if it’s subconsciously. Stop lying to yourself.
But looks don't last forever do they
@@funkriderx-djandproducer fair enough!
@@princessmarlena1359 It`s true. Everyone ages. No-one on this planet is gonna look youthful, young and hot forever if they ever reach old age. Even margot robbie will age. So, with that been an fact why should anyone care so much about looks seeing as they will fade over time? It`s such an shallow and pretentious superficial concept that only lasts for an limited amount of time. 95% of relationships that are build on looks are just doomed to fail, epescially when father time comes knocking
@@funkriderx-djandproducer Yeah. I don’t condone superficiality, but unfortunately it is a fact of life, just like aging. The problem I have is with people who won’t admit to it…ironically they tend to be the most guilty of it, in my experience.
@@princessmarlena1359 Yeah, sadly as you say it does exist that is unfortunate. But as long as people (whenever it be men or women) have realistic standards when it comes to the opposite sex in regards to attraction or dating, when the problem doesn't really appear much. It,s only say guys who aren't say Brad Pitt in looks for example try to pull an woman with looks like an supermodel this thing occurs. As obviously an women with supermodel looks would only (9 times out of 10) want to date "Chad" or gigachad. Though, this doesn't apply to all women. Hence why if guys try to date at their looks level, they shouldn't really be having this problem
It can be worse when you have a well meaning friend who tries to set you up with someone and invite you out and you can tell they are trying to get a female friend to take an interest in you yet the woman is standoffish and it just makes you fall even farther into humiliation because the friend had such hope it would work and even thats pressure on top of the normal pressure on a date
Yes! I've definitely been through that countless times. It's humiliating and exhausting.😢
That happened to me...horrible
That's the worst feeling, most women can't even be cordial, just outright rude
It really sucks that women seem have no compassion if you arent useful or attractive to her. They aim to be as emotionally painful as possible
When i was 21y, went to a party and after trying to talk to a girl, minutes after she and her friends came to me giving some coins to get a bus and leave because i was the uglyest in there and i was ruining the party…
Such a “great” experience…
damn bro
Those girls are sociopaths
Jesus, what the hell was wrong with them because that sounds psychotic
Damn that’s brutal. I probably would have self-deleted if that happened to me.
@@jonnyj7417 at that time i was really sad but s*icide was never an option, i have my family and some real friends, and they dont have to suffer because of some stupid girls.
I leave that college and move on.
It happened because i live in Brazil, where the average IQ is lower than chimp’s lol…
Now i am 34, for my own sake i didnt merry nor had children, build my house and my parents live with me in peace.
We are men brother, we came here to hold on and fight with our bare hands and God beside…
This is almost 100% true as an unattractive person myself you're always treated like a side character, an npc. I have a handsome friend and I guarantee most of the girl's eyes are on him while I'm like invisible to others. This is the harsh truth.
I was attractive throughout my 20s and 30s and I remember just always being able to attract positive attention from people. I could just walk up to random females and act silly and a fun time would ensue. Now if I try that, they'll call me a creep. Women will let an attractive guy they just met take them into an unfamiliar and isolated location but they'll call an unattractive guy a creep for saying hi to them.
True
Call an unattractive guy a creep for being in their field of vision.
I work in STEM. It still helps to be attractive, people pay attention to your presentations and ideas more and trust you more with their own.
Uh huh humble brag or what?
I was a late bloomer. Everything this guy says is true.
I'm glad you can resonate!
@@ascended266 Nope, it`s just incel bollocks lol.
@@funkriderx-djandproducer Because he was an incel. He's not any more.
@@funkriderx-djandproducer I mean most incel are incels because they are ugly
@@funkriderx-djandproducer Its common fucking sense. If you are unpleasant to look at then people naturally dont want to look at you and will treat you worse than if you were pleasing to look at and people enjoyed looking at you.
The worst part is that no one is honest with you. I think I was overall quite blessed genetically, being 6'2 tall, having a high IQ, good sense of humour and robust immune system. However, no matter how much I compensate for my ugliness with making others laugh and being a good man, I am friend zoned, ridiculed behind my back, rarely given the benefit of the doubt, and even repellent to children ffs. It is very hard not to be cynical and bitter about such a fate. It feels like a curse.
get plastic surgery
I swear bro I can relate to you I’m the same as you expect I’m have a fairly regular IQ and I’m a manlet 5”7 Hispanic male skinny unattractive face it’s brutal.
I have IQ 131, my height is 6'3, decent looking face, skinny (but a little bit muscular). I am 18 years old at the moment.
Don't care about girls, only care about my hustle
So no dating game for me too. I am a voluntary celebate
@@soldierofgod7412 time to become a femboy, lol jk life is unfair and cruel, such is the life of a man.
Exactly
I've been rejected my whole life for my looks from family, women and people. I've given up going outside the door. No hope. Life is for the better looking.
It's true life is a scam for people who look a certain way
Looks are really and truly only a small percent improve other areas
45 year old male here. Had the same experience all my life. Now fighting that decision to be a shut in from my formative experiences with people, especially women.
Hope you can find peace and a much better outcome than what you've been through.
I hope to share of my own plight with you.
I am now 68-year-old retired senior and to this very day continue to receive the nastiest and regular insults even from my fellow retired senior citizens because of my appearance.
There was a cover Time magazine story in the early 2010s on why parents favor one child over another and the #1 reason was looks (my own parents had nothing but loathing, neglect and disappointment for me). Wherever I go I'm regularly insulted, put down, eyes roll and faces grimace.
Since COVID, I began wearing a mask and continue to do so now in all public places, including my apartment building. That way I'm not insulted or looked down upon for my looks.
Sadly, I can say that in 68 years of living on this earth that I have never had a happy day in my life.
With the advent of present day cosmetic surgery, I certainly would have undertaken an operation to deal with my looks. But, life has passed me by and it's too late to turn back.
Minor cosmetic surgery should be considered. But for me, life has passed me by. I no longer go out in public.
@dreadpirate3159 . Tired of neurotypicals like you or Chads constantly telling people about thier experiences here on this matrix from your own biased lived experience. Pretty much gas lighting at this point. For some people, the phrase "you should improve" means fundamentally changing who they are as a person to be accepted. Specifically, changing thier looks (not appearance), personality, speech patterns, learning style, etc.) that is essential to who they are. Especially if they are neuro divergent and dont fit inside the societal hive mindset. At my age, im tired of the societal BS that seems to only work for a certain set of people. Dont want to play that game anymore, its exhausting and futile.
Im halfway through my life, if im lucky. Hopefully, I get to spend the final half accepting and being happy with who i truly am, not some stupid projection of what society at large or women expect me to be.
Those comments from high school really stick with you. I've never forgotten those moments even as an adult.
Bro same I’m so damn hurt at 21 now over comments made in 6th grade I’m a full blown alcoholic now
@@david-waynesmith6006I feel you all the way bro.🥃😢
@@douglaspaterson5269I'm 21 never had gf, I'll be graduating from college in summer 2025, any advice for me ?
@@Peter-sl6zn Get a gym membership and learn a good routine.👍
high school is not that different from adult life
Being fat/overweight can be associated with lack of control.
Poor skin conditions can be associated with poor hygiene.
Weak hair/balding can be associated with bad genes, same goes with height.
I have 2 and 3 (2 even with good hygiene)
Any skin conditions that are not related to your habits are consciously and subconsciously seen as defects.
Unfortunately it's a very basic natural selection scenario playing out. The most suited to their environment reproduce.
I work in sales and 100% sex sells.
brutal field to go into
Huh, clapping cheeks as a selling strategy. Why did I never thought of that?
What do you mean?
You look like a totally different person since your looks transformation. Good for you bro. Btw its easier to be funny if you are goofy looking. Good looking comedians are not that funny.
Thank you brother! Yeah, this is true. I've never thought Matt Rife was that funny. His improv is good though.
I don’t think that’s true
@@jeremys3951Matt Rife is a perfect example of why that person is wrong
Jim carrey is not ugly.
I thought Chevy Chase was much funnier when he had movie-star looks.
What I have experinced in my late child/early teen years (10-11yr) is that my friends were different with me when we were in a group. For example if me and my friend were doing something together and then another boy showed up on the scene, my friend would just act different and make jokes out of me etc., so it really just signalled that they were trying to prove to that other kid that they are not 'really' my friend at all, as if being seen with me was a shame. But they were always nice to me when we were alone. And this happened to all of my friends, no exceptions. That's when I decided that I don't need them because of this. I could say I had lots of friends in my child years, but I lost them all when I became a teen, and I didn't really have friends ever since. I am 31 now.
You didn’t deserve that, nobody does. I understand what you mean, I experienced some bad things as a teen for a couple years before I met my first girlfriend. From 12-14 I was in a new environment and I was treated as ugly and it was awful.
Yes as soon as I grew to full height I had a lot of female interest and girlfriends ask me out, so I know both sides. It’s undeniable.
Especially at 18 people are very very shallow.
It’s brutal.
They were never ur friends
Same
Idk guys… I think this dude used to be overweight and balding
Lmaooo
Best comment
I did not get it
@@Bozojimmythe OP is lowkey saying the guy in the vid is mentioning his balding and unattractiveness ad naseum.
U don’t say 🤔
I was always told in school that i was ugly, and the rejection from the girls broken me emotionally for years, now i dont think about it anymore, am now married to a beautiful woman and i have 3 beautiful kids
May God continue to bless you!
lol we can see your profile pic. You are not unattractive
Why is Danny DeVito on the thumbnail/video? He's peak human physicality!
Finally someone said it.
And why would you put him in the same picture as Weinstein?
Danny DeVito? More likke Daddy DeVito
From elementary to HS i was an ugly duckling . But one day i decided to do something about it . Got in shape removed my facial hair which gave me a youth full look Cut my long hair fix my thick eyebrows and everything change so much that i was constantly getting caught up in drama with women. So i just decided to stop dating but i met a woman one day fell in love and got married
Congrats buddy👏
But she didn't want your DNA in her eggs, so she got you a "dog child" so you can stop bothering her.
Yea I also had the ugly duck syndrome
We can't change our genetics but we can always improve our situation. Glad you decided to not give up and cleaned yourself up!
Is “hair club for men” still around?!?
@@davestewart2067 haha who knows but I heard there are options for hair loss. Luckily I still have hair at 47 so I'm good there. If only there was a way to make me 7 inches taller....hmm...
@@davestewart2067 nah, rogaine/minoxidil is the new thing
I’m not ugly but I have autism so cannot hold conversation with women or strangers.
But listening to many of your videos I feel so bad for you and all other men in this situation
Hmm maybe that's my issue
Seek God and his Word and his Love and Guidance and Dicipline, Jesus Loves You Very Much ❤
I think you can get therapy to help with that issue?
Me too at least I’m not they only one
Im a pretty attractive dude and i have autism and i can speak to people and have conversations but i don’t know how to have regular conversations really like a normal person
I was ugly kid and dad didn't allowed me to go in a city for architecture high school, instead I needed to go to next village in culinary school. While younger sister, who is double prettier than me or other sisters, parent HELPED and MOTIVATED her to go in a far away city PLUS they paid for her apartment... even parents are discriminating their own children between ugly and pretty.
When i was a kid i struggled with this shit heavily, until i understood people around my age are just shallow so it wasnt me.
Now im older and look better i just notice the slightests things like people smiling gets in my head. Its crazy that how you get treated in your younger years has a huge effect on how you grow.
Unattractive here.
There is an advantage to it: you learn how things really are. You are not bound by 'gratitude' and other shit towards mankind.
It means you can evict elderlies out of their home when they owe you money. It means you don't need to give up your seat for the weak. "Well you're weak now, but 30 years ago you were hot and you were not there for me, why should I be there for you now".
It's liberating.
Exactly this
Facts
How about another joke murrayyyyyyyyy
Elaborate? Im interested
@@Edrd.o he's basically saying remember how y'all avoided my existence and treated me differently now you feel what I felt.
In high school the class did an exercise. We would talk to another student and say what we like/envy about them. The kid I talked to wished he was as tall as I am because women like tall men. I said it hadn’t helped me but he was the warm friendly guy.
In the years after I did have women that were attracted to me until they got to know me. They may want to talk to the tall decent looking guy but lack of charisma won’t let the relationship go anywhere.
There is more to attraction than just looks.
Real beauty is on the inside, money can’t buy happiness and size doesn’t matter. The three biggest lies in modern society
Lmao
Copemaxxing lol
Afraid so…
I wouldn't call these LIES, but rather MISCONCEPTIONS.
The avereage person only sees skin deep
I was a shut in. I would just go to work, grocery store and back home. Whenever I ate out it was to-go, I never ate dining in as I was alone.
Then one day while on Netflix I watched a health related show named " fat sick and nearly dead", it changed my personal outlook. I lived across the street from a nice gym. One day I stepped inside just to take a look around and have been going back every since. I'm addicted to it now and it feels great. 😅
Nothing else seems to matter anymore. 😊❤💯
That documentary got me into juicing for a bit.
@@adelgado854
Me too! The weight just fell off. 😊
Sounds like you have obsessive tendencies and your root issue is still present (lack of personal relationships/connections).
When you’re high off course nothing else matters😂
Right across the way? Wow the lord really set you to glow up! 🎉
People today, especially women are just plain mean, rude disrespectful, discriminating, superficial, shallow, belittling, bullying, etc. It just sickens my spirit to the core. I'm better off being alone & staying away from people altogether as much as possible. I'm short too which doesn't help my case at all.
He’s speaking facts in this video. I have been bald since I was in my early 30’s. Lol. That’s never been a problem for me in the past though because I was in shape. At some point I let myself go and got fat from partying too much and having a crap diet. I noticed getting dates was a lot harder. Got back into shape AGAIN and my dating life is smooth sailing. It’s a sad reality but looks definitely matter.
word. but that should be to no surprise... being fat is the biggest online dating killer for men. Bald is not even close. where i live, bald men are literally everywhere and just normally dating as anyone else. balding as a young man is so hard as bald men are barely represented in media. so you have no "grip" on visual culture and sex symbols. Its sad but it gets better the more you refuse social media as a whole and just focus on real life.
So I was super shy in high school and scrawny. Never got a gf, never once got laid. I actually just started focusing on my health more at 23 and I went back to my ten year highschool reunion last year. I was the best looking man there by a large margin. All of the former jocks were either bloated alcoholics or just plain morbidly obese. Pretty much all of their wives/gfs were the same girl that they broke up with and got back together with four times in high school. I had three women that night tell me they couldn’t believe I was single and how much I changed. After a few drinks I ended up sleeping with one of them that night. My point is that all of the people that bullied me in high school just ended up settling with the girls that got tossed around town like hackysacks. Going to the same bar every night, talking to the same people about the same things and never moving forward. Get out and work on your health. It’s pretty much the only thing that matters.
You shouldn't have given a one night stand
@@murderman8578 Nah I understand it, now he can close that chapter of his life and move on, you never know how much it hurt and bothered him to never get his way or have experiences simply just from the way he looked. He had a chance to rewrite the past and close the chapter and he did and had fun while he did it.
Congratulations on your victory. I mean it. I graduated in 2007 and I still haven't done my victory lap. I even have a mini list in my head of a girl or two I would love to reward for being nice to me in high school with my ultimate for my building now.
For example two girls Samantha and kate, we're nice to me when I was at my quote-unquote worst. It would be an honor to give them my best
@@DamienHanma they dont deserve anything more than the kindness you recieved, being nice is the least you can do for your character as a human
💀💀
The “beautiful people” should be grateful that there are ugly people like us. We are the support that makes it possible for the pretty people to be seen as beautiful. If there were no negative example, no one would notice that you are one of the beautiful people.
I’ve always been really thin, and why household I grew in really destroyed any confidence I had with women. Women were interested in me until I opened my mouth and they realized how non-confident I was. I married the first woman who gave me the time of day at age 24 which was a mistake. Confidence builds slow. Keep working at it and don’t sell yourself short.
This video has so much truth in it not just about looks but what people think your social status is. So many times people have been rude to me but once they see me with people that they like then they tell me oh I misunderstood the type of person you are or they try to invite me places once they find out I'm friends with someone that can help them. They think saying a fake sorry to me means I owe them an introduction to my friend(s). Then after a few failed trys and I still tell them to leave me alone they go right back to insulting me. I didn't even know them that well or had any reason have an on going fued with them. Some people just can't see that they are being shallow /fake.
Some of the comments I'm reading are true. Im an ugly guy and I know it. People I have pursued to start a relationship with say you are a nice guy , but what they are really saying is you are unattractive. At least I don't get unwanted attention. I prefer being ugly now because I'm not interested any more in connecting with someone. I'm not lonely now. I do what I want . And I like that. The pressure is off.
You do not prefer being ugly ffs
You just don’t have a choice in the matter, so you’re coping
I know there's a lot of black pill people here, but the moral of this story isn't that being attractive = better life. Once you become conventionally attractive those same stuck up women become like moths to a flame, and the result is that you're surrounded by the most toxic people all of the time.
My friend has this issue, instead of bullies he's literally being harrassed by these hypergamous women, who demand his attention even though they have boyfriends.
You know who else wants to be around attractive guys "mentally ill" guys and women. And when you say "No", or you want to spend time with your actual friends, then suddenly they yell and blame you for their problems, and threaten self harm, or even suicide if you don't give them enough attention.
Yes, being lonely sucks, but the truth is there has never been a better time in life to be lonely.
When people leave you the f--- alone, you can do whatever you want.
But when you're attractive, it's like you don't even own your own body anymore, and this sustained harrassment has a negative impact on your mental health.
Brilliant 👏 ❤
I agree with the lonely part.. being alone helps you build strength and focus on yourself..some of the most successful people in the world was alone at one point in their life
Whole lotta cope lol
@@jpurp5916 isolation arc is good if u use it, but it should be temporary
He can literally just cut contact with the toxic people and find a golden woman by approaching first instead of waiting for them to approach. Its really nowhere near the same.
Why put 3 old men in the thumbnail. As if older guys don't naturally lose their looks
Forget the thumbnail, focus on the message
You really gonna tell me with a straight face that Harvey was attractive ever in life? Because that face seems to have always been the kind only a mother could love, and in his case probably not even that.
well if you put pictures of younger men, you run the risk of offending people
I've experienced all this except the physical bullying in school, (they knew i would fight, if I had to) i was basically invisible in high school and basically hanged around with the rest of the unpopular kids. One point you made that hit really hard is women find something bad about you if they don't find you attractive, that's very true, they call you a creep or feel really uncomfortable around you for no real, reason, that's why a lot of women get s3xually abused or graped by guys they deem as attractive because they're so superficial that they think a guy's looks determine his character
Also people bully attractive men and women so I'm not sure what this man is talking about. People will bully you if you they are jealous of you, if they are insecure about themselves, if you are competition or you have something they want.
@@9395gbUsually its unattractive people though
You’ve nailed it on the head!! I was a late bloomer.. had a major glow up .. and now aging into my 40s and lost the halo effect.. that dim checked out look in people’s eyes when I talk to people can be soul crushing..
Whenever aging started taking what looks I had, I noticed that too. And many women run from me. Or freeze, wide eyed like a scared deer.
Bro, i got called ugly by a TEACHER on my first day of high school. Mocked and judged my entire life because of my looks. Been targetted by staff at stores because i looked "dodgy" im next level
Same here. Both scenarios. And I was a girl (now woman).
@@thelostpony6678 ain't life great when you're born with this disadvantage
She was messing with ya buddy, don't take it seriously lol
So, I went from “unattractive” to “desirable”. I’m still the same cool person and realized during my transformation from the friend zone that the Women I wanted to attract are complete ass. Then the ones that YOU reject get upset and think you’re stuck up when you’re simply not attracted to them. Real shit, now getting to be on both sides of the blade, it’s better to try and be comfortable with yourself. Being seen as a “shiny piece” of meat or “competition” instead of a person has hurt a lot more sometimes than when I’d be called the worst names in front of people. I was always the fat, funny, ugly friend so I was always outside looking in. Please work on your Mental, I can’t stress that enough. We’re in this bitch together! No one left behind!
Even if you have many features that aren't seen as desirable, it doesn't mean there is NO hope. If you're balding, its better to just cut it all off. Then you can at least have that bald/buff aesthetic going on after you hit the gym. Especially training your neck helps a lot, it makes your jaw more pronounced and makes you seem bigger overall. You can still have a good career and make good money which helps a lot. You can have a healthier lifestyle to have more energy and have a more positive attitude.
But there are some things that are closer to being out of your control. Like facial deformities, severe acne, messed up teeth. Especially if you come from a poor family that can't afford things like braces when you are young to fix your teeth.
For these things it is better to just ignore them. There is no point in worrying about what you can't change. Best of luck in your life :)
Giving advice is easy tho
Did u not watch the videi
@@antonionatalvenancio6131
Facts!!! Especially when you don't have to live it.
When youre a handsome goodlooking guy..."oh he is hot n confident and a chad" if you approach....if youre unattractive theyre gonna say " Oh he is creepy and a weirdo" ...and all the social cues they dont wanna be around you or they trynna distance themselves from you
I'm a late bloomer. Ugly in my teens, now in my mid 20s and I look amazing
@@evanmcclure67aren’t we all ugly in our teens?😂 The glow up process on average starts in our early-mid 20’s
A lot of what you're describing and what you've experienced is "looks privilege". Interestingly enough, people say it doesn't exist....but it's VERY real. Like you said, even down to your own family smh lol This is why I advise "looksmaxxing" even if you lack other intangibles because some of the worst men are never alone, because their looks don't allow it lol
Looksmaxxing is gay just go to the gym and take care of yourself.
@@plasticlifee Although I said I advise looksmaxxing even if you lack other intangibles, nothing would work for you.
As a 6,4" balding guy i wouldn't say balding is the worst thing ever, gym helps, style helps, cologne helps.
It is the worse thing ever
@@blacklyfe5543 yeah I'm sure lol. Ok
@@humblewoodcutter3000 I was saying balding is not the worst card one can be dealt.
Being 6'4 also helps
What does it feel like being 6'4?
I am not overweight. I am healthy and eat healthy food. Still i am short, balding and ugly at 16. I guess i did horrible things in my past lives to live a life like this.
Surrogacy brother. Find a tall blonde and you're good to go. Make some money ASAP. Make fast money if you know what I mean. You'll soon find out investing years in clean money isn't working out if ugly.
@@xadionwc3fail. The chick will just want him for his money. Just get and drunk all day.
@@xadionwc3 Earning money won’t make them attracted. It’ll only make them PRETEND to be attracted. It’s glorified śèx wòrk.
Like robbing banks?@@xadionwc3
It all depends on what kind of "healthy" food you're talking about. Being vegan is considered "healthy" by a lot of "health experts" but when you look at vegan men, they look stunted. I'd recommend high quality meat like grassfed beef and lamb, pasture raised chicken, wild caught seafood etc. even though "health experts" want you to believe these are all not good for you. I have no idea what's causing your balding but it could possibly be from lack of sunlight exposure and too much masturbation, castor oil could help. Everything isn't always genetic. You're genes are expressed in response to the environment you grow up in. I just hate how incels make it out like it's over and there's nothing you can do when in reality you can improve if you put the effort in. Sure being short is something you can't change but the more masculine you look, the more serious people will take you even if you're short which is why every man should strive to increase testosterone levels.
I'm 24, 6'6, an engineer, workout regularly, but overweight. Women my age care so much about looks and body fat is a major debuf. I've been starved down and it was MUCH easier to get women. I put on some weight going through school and ive been getting rejected more often. Having it happen first hand confirmed how important looks are. I will be getting abs and becoming chad
What kinda engineering do u do?
Take a shot every time this guy says "overweight and balding " R.I.P 😅
Brutal
🤣🤣🤣
I mean you can fix overweight. If you are overweight with bad skin, you kind of deserved to be labeled as unattractive
Looks, btw, are objective and not so much subjective.
cope
WHY=? tell me pls@@evelyna_paula1747
Cope harder
@@evelyna_paula1747 you are coping
Bullshit quit lying
I was super fat in college and girls didn’t want to date me. It was hella sad. When I lost massive weight, dressed well, made 6 figures, bought 3 cars and a nice home, it was easy getting dates and banging chicks. Life is good now….one can always work on improving his looks and status if the will is there. Cheers gentlemen!
How do I even talk to girls when I live in the suburbs of Texas? There's no 3rd places here & most of the people living here are boomers
How did you make 6 figures?
Based on your 'banging chicks' comment, I'd go a step further and read books regarding emotional intelligence. Maybe look into meditation, art therapy classes, volunteer helping underserved communities-anything to destroy your inner Chad. Wealth is great but you will attract female scum if your personality is dumpster juice. Wealth, great personality and integrity are better and rare.
I doubt this story is true
@@sidecar7714 it isn’t lol. Unless he’s in his 50s bragging about it but I highly doubt he’s that old.
The halo effect is a cognitive bias that causes people to attribute positive qualities to attractive people. For example, someone might assume that an attractive person is also generous, smart, or trustworthy.
The halo effect can impact people's perceptions of health and intelligence, and can also manifest in the business world. For example, a company that is doing well might be assumed to have a sound strategy, motivated employees, and a vibrant culture.
The worst part about this is that people are so clueless, they don't even know that they behave this way. I'm blessed with good introspection skills, and I absolutely recognize when I'm treating a woman better due to looks.
I agree, when I was overweight with short hair nobody cared for what I had to say and hardly get any eye contact with strangers. Now that I go to the gym a lot and lost a lot of weight and grew my hair with style, women notice me and both men and women give my eye contact now....
I have never, ever heard more honesty on a sensitive topice as expressed by you in this video. As an unattractive woman I can very much relate to what you said. It is, by the way, the same for women....
Being an unattractive woman still has more access than an unattractive men.
I do want to say to everyone struggling. Im a taller guy, was chubby as a kid im just thick now with a bit of a belly as an adult. Ive had women who have no business wanting me make passes at me. And ive had women who have no business rejecting me reject me...its subjective be cool , and honestly make friends with women they might have a good friend for you you never know. Dont give up tho
this is so real
"He tried to dance with 20 women and they ALL rejected him"
But...he fucking tried! He's the man in my opinion.
How many times will you say "when I was overweight and balding" 3000? 😂
My thoughts exactly 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Just having a couple friends is enough to keep life amusing. Even if it’s gamer friends that will never see us
Confidence and energy are vitally important and unfortunately, more difficult to build up as a ‘physically’ unattractive person. The more you develop your personality, the less your looks will matter - especially in the long term. Looks are a temporary benefit and usually don’t last.
I dont believe i was ever attractive honestly.
I dont know if im ugly or not, but personally i just dont care about it. Frankly, for all the crap in my life, i know I'm not living out a fake life, surrounded with the internet, plastic surgery and a million bot accounts, all telling me "yasss queen slayyyyyy".
Lots of people were blessed with good genetics, and a good supportive honest family. Cant say the same, but i xan only be grateful im not living worse than other people do.
Rule of life, no matter what top shXt you think you are, theres always going to be someone who has it better or worse than you.
If im ugly, thats fine, i think we're all ugly in our own ways, and true, nobody's inclined to love me or be attracted to me, you cant force love.
But having said that, i cant stand the patronising attitudes some people have, talking down to you like you need their pity.
This just makes you want to become super attractive to rule everything. It's true, the times I felt most attractive, I was funnier, more charming, more successful. In my 40s I have learned it is so important to maintain your looks it's crazy. I have a receding hairline and seriously considering getting a hair transplant just to see what the difference in attitude would be.
2:49 this is me at 52 lol. I have some kind of anxiety where i think people are judging my appearance in public. So i go out mainly just for groceries... usually late when foot traffic is low
Its weird as i still remember a girl from my school days telling me i couldn't get a girlfriend because i was ugly. She was arguing with me about something and it turned real spiteful. I literally felt my ego getting crushed at that moment. I still remember the her saying it now and im 42 years old now.
The black pill always wins fellas. Once you fully understand it, you will be a master of keeping your distance from folks and also your ability to read body language and I’ll be elevated to heights you’ll never realized
As a short man, i never saw being short as something that makes you unnatractive. It may not help but i think im a mega cutie and my personal experience with girls and being short seems to show that there can still be a lot going on. Of course my life doesn't mean there aren't people who struggle with height as something that doesn't help but being 4'11 and still getting decent matches and talking to girls in person and getting compliments and flirting. I never had an issue talking with girls. Idk
lol mega cutie 😂
my dad was short (168cm) and bald and had a massive sexlife even beyond his 60s, which almost ruined our family, because he walked out on my mother more than once. she stayed. and she was taller than him and a very beautiful woman. the thing my dad had was high intelligence and high emotionality, which a lot of woman love when in direct 1o1 contact. he was an interesting guy who knew how to talk to women. not even in the joker/funny guy way. just deeply emotionally intelligent and invested while still having massive frame because he always did his thing in life with business, travel and so on.
Are the girls 5'5 355 Ib ???😮
That’s miraculous. I’d have to see it to believe it.
I'm 5'3" and my height wasn't much of an issue.
I've put in serious work though restoring a full head of long hair and exercise. I'm 175 lbs with a 32" waist.
I've been with women between 5' to 5'7", average weight 115 lbs. Most of them with a cute girl next door look, I can't say I've been with an absolute knock out that people stop and stare at when she enters a room.
I have no complaints, I'm grateful.
I’m glad I was born good looking. It made life a lot easier. My condolences.
I remember going into a store when I was a kid and having 3 adult woman saying how ugly I was and pointing out my features... i was never so angry in my life... People can be cruel.. But you gotta make the changes to level up. Health, Fitness, Stable job and being organised and clean in home and body not to mention Dress sense and GOOD POSTURE!! If you look down and out.. You will be perceived down and out and it will snowball... There are many forms of ugly you can be.. Just be the best form of ugly you can be...
Such a powerful testimony. I could feel the emotion while you Were speaking about humiliating experiences. I Was crossed eyes from 4 y.o until 20. After surgery my left eye was less than one millimeter rectified… people behaviour toward me changed completly, for 1mm… now i feel both contempt and fascination for the concept of beauty. The way you describe it as a blind mechanism is so true and appaling but hey, the fact that you know how it works sets you as a free man. And i prefer freedom to vanity
Im short, 4'10 and people will tell me that i just suck at dating wnd go on to tell me how their friend is short too .insert a height taller than 5'5. And they found someone. If they can find someone than i can too and height isnt a factor. Women will say im perfect but refuse to date me bc of my height...they literally say it. Yet ppl will swear up and down its not my height 😂...im like dude u arent me...it also doesn't help that i look very young, im 30 but can fit in with middle schoolers(not exaggerating). My face isnt ugly i am good looking but i only appeal to lil girls...ive had school age girls try to talk to me. It just sucks to always hear im perfect but something i cant change is the only thing stopping me from finding love. So ive stopped trying tbh...havent gotten a hair cut in a couple of months...dont even clean up my facial hair...pretty much wear the same thing all the time...i barely smile anymore(and that is one of the things im known for). It even stops me from making friends. The girlfriends and friends i do get usually just fk me over and use me. I have it all but love...and the loneliness is crippling
Damn that height is brutal. I’m 5’3” and it’s not any better. Bullied my whole life. Men don’t take you seriously and women don’t have any respect for you as a man. I’m 36 now and it gets easier with age. Being alone I mean. Just find hobbies to fill your time, chase money and a career you are interested in. And friends too.
4'10 and 5'3 are death sentences for men.
be trans
"ive had school age girls try to talk to me"
jailb@it slayer
It is all about finding a way to turn your loneliness into solitude!
The subconscious automatically goes to “this persons look is a representation of their lifestyle” so if your ugly especially through controllable things like weights, hygiene ect.. the brain says “ok this isnt a lifestyle i want around me just look at the results”
This makes perfect sense and has definitely changed my perspective.
Thank You 😊
It's a vicious cycle. If you're fat/unattractive you'll develop insecurities. You won't be able to make friends because you're insecure. You'll resort to eating/avoiding people people because they'll make fun of your insecurities. And you'll grow fatter.
Something similar happened to me in high-school. I'd say my main flaws were being fat and shy. I got bullied because of it, but noone cared. This made me isolate myself from others. Because of it, I now struggle to socialize in public. If I had friends, I would have been more sociable, perhaps even lost weight and gotten a girlfriend. But noone wants to be a friend with a fat shy guy.
Also, I can confirm people will treat you like you're less intelligent based on your looks. Whenever I solved a problem in class, people would act surprised or pretend the answer was obvious. They would also be shocked when they found out I can speak multiple languages and I love swimming. It's weird, but they expect you to be less capable because you're ugly.
I've now graduated from college and lost my hair at the same time. I'm too scared to try any procedures. This hit me hard.
But now I care less what people think of me. I want to grow muscles and practice martial arts. I want to become rich and meet a beautiful and loving woman. I want to show the middle finger to all the douchbags and their girlfriends who treated me like trash. Or at least die trying. Because DAMN IT I REFUSE to live my whole life as a loser.
Good for you! You can get back at those mfs! Good luck!
I spent my whole life being bullied and rejected. In the last 2 years I've bloomed somewhat. Everything you say is true. People treat me very differently now.
did you start going to the gym?
@@TyWerks I'd been going to the gym for 12 years. Gained a lot of weight 2020-2022 due to pandemic bad habits. Prior to that, undiagnosed Autism Spectrum Disorder so I didn't understand why I was so socially inept.
Anyone who grew up ugly knows. It gives you a certain distaste for new people who like the finished product but you know 10 years ago they wouldn’t bat an eye.
We shouldnt judge by looks but people should do their best to take care of themselevs and be the best version of you
Uh, but you do judge by looks. We shouldn't. But just because we said we shouldn't doesn't mean we DO.
@@eigelgregossweisse9563But that doesn't make it okay to do so.
The silver lining is more people are finding this out
I was deemed a very good looking man , sure the woman come with it , but I lost a few potential friends through jealousy or they didn’t want me near their partners and felt the resentment , my social confidence within male groups was diminished
this exactly. I'm 22 and have had the same experience
This is such an accurate video on how unattractive men are treated by others. I am a 5’3 man and have been the shorter guy everywhere I go and it sucks. I was bullied throughout school in varying degrees. My self esteem has never been good. Women say tall guys are so confident. Of course they are! When you are treated well your whole life for something you had no control over. Lol
Ask anyone who started life ugly and became attractive later how their life and social dynamics changed, their stories are eye opening to say the least.
You can work on your looks. And honestly alot of mens personalities in this forum do suck. Overly negative and critical of others. "This sucks. This person sucks. This place sucks. This movie sucks" you know you all say that. I know. I've been friends with guys like that. Hence the word 'been'
Another factor that *massively* decreases a man's desirability is his blatant unwillingness to protect and provide. If he's in the 2-5 range to begin with (regardless of how many extra-points he gives himself), his new score could barely make him even a 1/10. On the brighter side, his willingness to protect and provide would just as massively increase his desirability.
@@kiravampira1456
How do we protect and provide when we can't even get a date? There is no one to protect and provide for.
When you've been rejected all of your life, spent all of your weekends without a date, and shunned in public, you have to really DIG DEEP to keep a positive mental attitude.
I'm 5'7, and I found my release through exercise. I love it ! I think I'm addicted! 😅😊❤
@iveyhealth2266 In order to give you a more elaborated answer, I would have to know the specific aesthetic you go for. From my experience, when boys/men say "I can't get any dates...", what they intentionally forget to add is "... with the few women who match my specific definition of beauty, as they are the only ones I actually acknowledge". I know, I know: attraction can't be negotiated. However, I doubt that no woman has ever shown you interest. In my country, even orc-looking beggars have the nerve to be picky about women's appearance.
@@kiravampira1456Exactly! Many guys are as hypergamous as women are claimed to be. Like they say they hardly ever hit on women especially when they always got rejected when they did, but it’s most likely they always got rejected since they only hit on women who are out of their league.
I mean this in the most humble way possible. I am considered a handsome guy, I’m half Puerto Rican and half Jamaican, very fit and OCD helps with maintaining a clean appearance. With all that said, I hate the attention I get. Women are constantly flirting and trying to be seen by me. I can be standing in a checkout line and women linger around or ask rhetorical questions, a bunch of flicking hair, bending over etc! Sounds like every man’s dream but I’m being honest, it gets annoying and you want a turn off button. Women are shallow and not loyal. It’s crazy because some men envy me and I tend to envy them. (Regular guys)
Rrrrright
@@popeyedoyle6360 not sure if you’re being sarcastic but if you are , it’s obvious you are one of those regular guys .
Oh, what a disaster!
@@neski311 I wish I could give you just a sample! 🤣
@@gmln9ne Oh yes, that much suffering! Allow me to help you with such a tragic life
I'm commenting for the algorithm. You're speaking the truth that the normies don't want to hear.
Thank you brother! More content coming soon.
No one ever talks about the constant stares you get in public. it’s so bad because you know they’re staring because they are judging you.and the thing is they don’t glance they stare for well over 10-15 seconds(if that) and they let you know they’re staring and when you look at them they don’t look away they stare back at you. Like there is no way in hell an ugly person should have your eyes hooked like that.make me don’t wanna go outside and got me thinking I’m a celebrity or something 😂
I am pretty and female but I can relate to ugly men. My family brainwashed me to think I was the ugliest person just because I'm disabled (nerve damage) or, as my brother called me, "damaged goods." They always looked at me like I was the most disgusting thing they ever saw in their life and, boy, did I absorb the disgust. I didn't flirt with boys because I assumed they'd give me that same look and so of course they ignored me and only paid attention to the popular girls and this seemed to confirm my ugliness. The crippling loneliness. I had no girl friends to tell me my family was lying to me. I was a loner. You can be a pretty person and still be a loser. If the girls don't like you - neither will the boys. I tried so hard to be nice to my dad and brothers but because my mom hated me so did they. They desperately wanted to win her approval and her approval was always conditional.
The stock video footage used in this is ridiculously hilarious and hypnotizing