Why be lonely? I want you to meet my father, Christ. He will fill your emptiness. Women will only.lie, cheat and steal. They aren't good company. Men are far more loyal and interesting. Also, sex with women gets boring. They aren't very romantic at all.
I like your videos because they’re straight up old school RUclips. Just a regular guy sitting around giving his thoughts, no ads and no patreon crap. And as an old school RUclipsr, I appreciate that!
New to the channel brother, but I do believe it's time to realise are W@hm3n are 304s. It's good to assume that as well. Would you take your risk when the odds are against you and the stacks are high? Also, redpill started out as an analogy of how reality is. It went to dating and was a good analogy to reveal the true nature of W@hm3n. That's all. Game, modern "redpill" advices are all fake because it's not the real RedPill. Also I have a theory - I think the next phase of RedPill will be politics. Because RedPill in order to survive as popular as it is needs to get bigger and what better way than politics. Though it is in its essence to reveal the truth but in the hands of these modern so called "redpill' gurus it will dilute itself. But I would say that is also a good thing - Because we have all these gurus and all, the natural selection of ideas will bring out the best and weed out the weak ones.
Same here. Basic videos are the best. Real talk. Genuine. No fancy bells and whistles and graphics and music and excessive editing. Just a guy and a camera (or phone) spreading positive talk! I support this!
It doesn't matter how long it takes. One step at the time and you will get there just don't give and stay consistent That is they key to everything in live.
"Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do" this sentence makes a lot more sense each year you grow up. Helping people w/o expectations is, in fact, the best social advice you can think of.
@@AZrakoon Exactly. Not a big deal at all if you stop to think that our only real mission here is to make the best of us in the situation we are, while we can't do better...
I wish you luck and love in your life. I completely understand you. Thank you for sharing your perspective. You are a pure soul. People are judgemental, you just have to proof them wrong. You may feel lonely but you are never alone. There is a reason you are faced with this challenge, transform your sadness and anger and use it as motivation to create something beautiful, like you already did with your video. Become the most happy, condifent, kind and healthy version of yourself and help men in your position to feel better aswell.
Great vid.I am 58 and been taunted or looked down upon for most of my life,especially last few years.I admit i am not the most talented and hard working individual out there,but have always reached out to people to show concern or lend a hand where i can.Now i tend to go to places where i feel welcome
This is one of the best pieces of advice. I would add "Stay away from ALL toxic people. Make zero exceptions. Shared DNA doesn't obligate you to break this rule."
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Never watched any of your videos and just saw this one randomly but man I wish you nothing but positivity and joy in your life. Keep conquering the negative thoughts. We're all in this together and also thank you for speaking up. Thats a service not too many do anymore in this internet world. Love you man
Thank you so much, I dont feel alone with all the support. I'm here to help, the internet has become to cold and cruel and we can all play a part to be positive.
I'm genuinely impressed with your thought processes on this. Sometimes in falling into loneliness, then despair about it, we can become bitter and hate others...but you seem to know to stay on the positive and beneficial side of things. It is true that many men are lonely these days. I'm not sure I have a good solution to suggest, since I'm basically the same - no real friends, just have my own little family. I've heard that men gain friends "shoulder to shoulder" and women gain them "face to face", or in other words, men bond by doing things together, less so than chatting. So it might help to find more things to do, whether in career or as hobbies, where there are people with common goals. Also, I will finally say that I think exercise is super important not just for our physical health, but especially for our mental health. People don't exercise enough in our culture. We are supposed to be getting 4-5 days a week of 45 minutes of nearly out of breath activity, along with resistance training. I never felt better than when I was regularly lifting barbells, doing the Stronglifts 5x5 program at the gym. It helps to see continual progress made, and have a plan for when progress stalls. Becoming stronger, metaphorically makes us stronger in every other way. By having good physical and mental health, then we're more "magnetic" or people are more "attracted" to how we seem, and things go more smoothly with them.
Thank you for your courage in speaking out. You are far from alone....This is a dominant concern for, may I say, the majority of people today!! Yes, I am another one. Your suggestion to give unconditionally helps a lot....volunteering to help others where ever you are.
There's no greater feeling that you helped someone. Especially the elderly, sometimes their family isn't around, and their always someone's family too.
Lots of people are lonely,including me. it's the way our world is today. I am listening to you and you have the right mindset. I'm 67 and put my last dog to sleep. She helped me get out and walk. It gets circulation up to your head and you'll feel so much better. I follow the health tips I find here on RUclips. I Improved my physical health and the rest is becoming easier.
You are such a light. You are making the world a better place through simply sharing your voice and wisdom. And, you are calling in your community even now, by being you... Maybe you are a bear, but a different kind: a protector of the vulnerable and the lonely, a voice for those who *feel* but remain unexpressed.
hello my friend. i am argentinian so i barely understand, but i really comprehend your feelings because all my life i've been alone and unloved, people just ignore or laugh about me. I'll keep the frase "the opinion that matter is my opinion and nobody else's"
Thanks for the kind words. I'm sorry you're going through this, better days will come. Ningun problema hablo español tambien. Es un mundo muy frio y cruel, pero siempre se majors las cosas. Tengo fe en Dios!
doing good things and not expecting some in return is soo based, i like ur speech and i feel like ur actually a great guy i hope u find all the happyness man ur truly a good soul❤️
Hey, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! Definitely something that people should be aware of. It helps if everyone could be more accepting, kind and open to all.
Liked and subbed. What you said about helping people for its own sake without expecting anything in return is very valid. People need to stop being so self centered, and they would be happier!! Lots of common sense in your video, keep them coming! This is doing something very helpful for others, God bless you for it.
You sound so sweet and genuine ❤❤, it's unfortunate that sometimes we feel this way but I must tell you that you will meet those people who gonna love ur company and even if it's taking time thn nature is always there for you trees plants animals sky, mother nature is always here for her sons and daughters, no one is alone ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m so glad you have the courage and are willing to speak about this issue. I’ve felt the same way but you are the first person that I feel I really resonates with how I feel and it’s honestly inspiration to see you willing to take that step and just share how you feel. I’m working to get to that point, much love
@@AZrakoon I agree, some of the most important moments in my life were because I allowed myself to share how I felt with others. Glad we can be on this journey together my friend!
That's a really helpful video to everyone watching it. I so love how you talk for people, motivate them, and give your best to lift them up. Thank you for your kind words and thoughts, and keep up the amazing work you've been doing. Keep shining, best of luck, and I really appreciate your work!
The world now days need you , you are honest , have a kind heart and stand for your manners i need a friend like you who can lift me when i fall thank you brother ❤ subscribe to your channel
You seem like a really sweet/good guy. I want you to know that you're not the only one who feels this way. It's a good idea to reach out to any support system you have and try to become the best version of yourself. Keep up the positivity and love!
Hey man, glad I stumbled across your channel lol! I too felt loneliness (not as a man but yk) many friends left me but what really held me up was finding a friendship in Jesus man! It isn't a religion but a relationship with Him, and He truly made me feel seen and heard and yes, like a human being and less lonely. Idk what you believe man, but I really encourage you! I know what it is being lonely! Sending love and prayers! Have a great day
Im sorry you have friends that have left you. Loneliness definitely effects women too. The bible always gives good advice that is also soothing and gives us hope. Jesus christ left us a guide for us to treat our fellow humans.
Thank you for sharing your wise messages. Keep up with your positive thoughts and remember that you're not alone and one day the right people will come to you. God bless people like you.
Always the ones who give the best advice who struggle in silence. I feel you. You deserve only the best. I hope you'll find the right people who cherish you as much as you would cherish them, someday. You deserve no less.
You are so relatable. I sometimes feel ‘broken’ as a person with Asperger’s and cPTSD and I isolate a lot. This year I want to do something outside of my comfort zone
This is calm, collected, old schoolish, and you get the point across correctly. Its really refreshing. Keep these supportive vids coming!! Bros out here helping lives!! 🔥🤘
I’m sorry that you’re lonely. 😢 you’re a beautiful person inside and out. You deserve to have love and someone special. I admire your wisdom and your willingness to help others 😌
I just felt love for you by first sight..Your aura is so beautiful❤ And listening to your words..-know that YOU are a treasure and a gem, and so brave -and funny too😊❣ Those who has/get you as a friend are LUCKY!! And a girlfriend would be so lucky too to have you!! BUT they better deserve you!!🙏❤ Hugs from Norway.
Oh wow! Thanks 😊 definitely give compliments like this to the men in your life. They won't forget. And yes, I will make sure that special lady has earned me!
New to the channel, you got yourself a friend. I am an Asian and immediatley when I am noticed they make the Asian accents to make fun of me. Tell me that I smell and I sh!t on the streets. One thing that gave me room to build myself was humour. Humour is so good, not only it deflects anything but makes you not take things seriously. This gave me enough room to develop my hobbies, think and enjoy my solitude. For example, when people say - You are smelly. I reply - Yeah, I am getting my Glutes bigger. But I'd like to end with what you mentioned tiwards the end about good people around. This got me by suprise but despite my nihilistic outlook, I met many pepople who helped me and did not ask anything back. You are correct, there are lot more good people around than we think there are. Anyhow, take care man. Love to see more content from you. Keep it real player.
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it. I'm sorry you deal with people who are prejudice. Its unacceptable to treat another human being terribly. Humor makes the blow not hurt as much. There is good and bad people everywhere, pray to God to help you find good people.
Be strong enough to be gentle with yourself.... one small action will make a difference for you. Any amount of small progress will be enough to help you. You deserve happiness, relaxation, and a peaceful mind. I wish you well.
What other people think doesn't matter, what I think of myself is what makes me. So, man, be proud of yourself, you got a sensible soul, sweet personality and genuine nature. Wish I were there with you and be your friend
I've been surrounded by humans my entire life and have always felt alone. I too like to help people, it makes me feel better. The only people I find comfort in now is my 2 children and wife, which is a blessing. Before that I was a mess. Now, I have more than I need, and I'm grateful every day.
You're not alone, man, although roots of our problems are different. One day i decided to be in solitude and stay away from "distractions" such as going out somewhere. In order to succeed in my chosen craft (now i see it all as a toxic success grind kind of thing). Eventually i found myself here - poor communication skills, inability to interact with people, and so on. When i felt desperate urges for emotions and connection with somebody - i just watched movies, hundreds of them. And hilarious thing is that i didn't succeed in my craft after 3 years of such a miserable life :) I understood how bad the situation is yesterday. A random lady with kids asked me for direction. I told her, and i left with a big smile. If such a minor thing, little interaction can uplift me now..
Sometimes we think our life's goal is to seek a job that gives us a comfortable living. In the process, we might lose ourselves. Solitude is a good tool to make you think and heal.
Though this is from a complete stranger thank you Mr AZrakoon. This helped me a lot today and my way of thinking and i appreciate you being here to make this video. I hope life goes amazing for you dude. Godspeed
True, that as an introvert, I prefer being alone...though I'm more of an omnivert now after 40 years of soul healing and development, though I still prefer my lone wolf lifestyle. However, being alone is not the same as feeling lonely, as I never feel lonely when alone, and, I enjoy all the relationships I had and the minimal ones I now have. My point is, I have a robust relationship with myself, thus why I never feel lonely. I had multiple mental and emotional issues since childhood...all wonderously fully resolved at the young age of 48...but as I reminisce while typing, I never suffered from soul crushing lonliness. I may have experienced small moments of mild loneliness, so I supose I know what loneliness is. What I learnt, as I slowly resolved my inner hell, is, the best friend you can have, is yourself. Having friends and relationships are now bonuses, not necessities..I enjoy them, but I can easily live a fulfilling life without them. “Know thyself” - inscribed on the forecourt of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in ancient Greece. "Know first who you are, and then adorn yourself accordingly." - Epictetus "Resolve to be thyself and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery." - Matthew Arnold "Look well into thyself; there is a source which will always spring up if thou wilt always search here." - Marcus Aurelius "He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened." - Lao Tzu "There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." - Carl Jung "Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens." - Carl Jung "If you want to follow me to freedom, be prepared to swim upstream, against the river of conditioning. Be prepared to grapple continuously with the fierce flow of negative mental currents. In time our strokes will become effortless and our sense of purpose irresistible." - Buddha "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha "No man is free who is not master of himself." - Epictetus What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself. - Abraham Maslow "Eventually, meditation (Mindfulness) will make our mind calm, clear, and as concentrated as a laser which we can focus at will. This capacity of one-pointed attention is the essence of genius. When we have this mastery over attention in everything we do, we have a genius for life itself: unshakable security, clear judgment, and deep personal relationships." - Eknath Easwaran "Mindfulness refers to keeping one's consciousness alive to the present reality. It is the miracle by which we master and restore ourselves." - Thich Nhat Hanh
I use to volunteer with an NGO called "Serve the city"...helping arojnd the community one saturday a month! And at those volunteer sessions I met some very kind people! Maybe you could look into that! Or. Join a church group...😊...You seem like a lovely person. Look after yourself! A hug from across the waters!
I also feel like this sometimes . Honestly loneliness absolutely kills. I try to satisfy my social hunger by going online and trying to talk about my daily problems and life stuff to people but if you burden your friends soon you won`t have any. I just try to face it head on. Sometimes I have really dark thoughts about life such as we could be dead in an instant and people would just forget about you in 2 generations. You could die and people would not notice or don`t care . Just try to stay positive is my advice.
You can't isolate yourself for too long. I try to spend time with a friend at least once a month. Perhaps send a text once a week. I naturally get exhausted if I hang out with people every weekend. I had a professor that always said I could get hit by a truck, but I'd tell him why give that any thought. Good advice!
I do see news reports and hear peoples' stories concerning evil men, and as a young girl I may worry about that sometimes. But I don't wish to treat men differently/ rudely because of this. And like you said it's not just men, you know.. there are many people who choose to do evil in this world - both men and women- people who have fallen away from God. Truly though we have all sinned and fallen short of God's glory. Many continue to reject God and continue evil but few turn to God and strive to live for Him. We gotta trust God with our lives and treat ALL people with love and kindness and equality. It can definitely be hard to do this.. but with God all things are possible. Something to remember is how much more God's opinion of you matters than a human's! And God LOVES you! We shouldn't be trying to please others, we should be trying to please God. This is hard and I often struggle with this but we should remember this and keep working to follow God and live like Jesus. So sorry for the ramble! God bless you brother. If there's anything here that I have wrong or you would like to talk about please let me know! I am still learning
That's good advice. I remember there was bracelets that had "WWJD" Jesus showed us how to treat others, he didn't give us tons of rules like the pharisees of his time. I try to keep in mind how Jesus lived every day.
@@AZrakoon Amen. It's so important to remember what Jesus would do. This helps us in life to do things like making decisions, loving others, and living for God. And of course living like Jesus. I know you don't know me but I'm here for you. If you ever want to talk or need help I'm here. Remember God is always there. God bless you!! Thanks for your kindness.
I used to look for connections with people. I did get some and it felt great until i realised i was just fooling myself. Connections turned into competition, like always. So i remembered that when i was a young kid i was looking for nothing at all. Thats what i do now, and it feels great. Socialising is great when you expect nothing in return.
I feel so much compassion for you man. I'm 23 years old at the moment I go through roughly the same. Keep going man, don't ever, EVER, give up. Ever. P.S. If you were a bear for real, then women probably would appreciate you more so to speak. Yes, that was supposed to be a bad joke.
@@AZrakoon They supposedly chose the bear over and over thow ;) Relax my man, when war breaks out, when they're in desperate need of help and assist, they better off call the bear ;)
i used to think I failed to connect with people because of my looks and lack of social skills, so I developed them, and became more confident, and better looking (over time obviously, this isn't a 90s' romcom) - and the result was that everyone 'likes' me but that's about it. they'll compliment the way I look, or laugh at the joke I make, or tell me "you're so interesting", "you're so smart", "you're so different" but at the end of the day they're all standing off to the side in their little groups and i'm alone again. i have all the attributes of a social person but i still can't form meaningful connections w/ people! isn't that wild it hurts even more because i look at the people they *do* choose to surround themselves with and they're all half as interesting, or smart, or talented as I am, and yet they're still the ones with the friends. And I know I am coming across as egotistical but that's not true because I genuinely believe I lack something fundamental that makes people want to stay around, something all the others have, and I'm genuinely at my wits' end because I cannot for the life of me figure out what it is. Having this sort of outward persona is just painful. I keep thinking of that one quote that's like "Depression can look like the funniest person in the room." I hope things get better for all of us.
You seem to be a deep thinker, and you might be misunderstood. However, a lot of people are hungry to have conversations that you offer. As Patrick Bet david says "the future looks bright."
i saw this vid on my fyp and i was confused untill i watched it and i realised that you have a calming voice for the topic your talking about, Its all gonna work out in the end dont worry
Wow! ❤ I gotta admit the title stopped my scrolling and your authentic and great points really kept me watching. I too feel lonely and I want to help heal the world like MJ Sang about! Caring for others is easier the better care we take of ourselves and improve to empower ourselves! I like your vulnerability! I am too shy to say anything in the lost internet of RUclips space 👽🚀haha 🤣
I have felt very lonely when I was in the process of cutting off toxic people. The difficulty is not being bitter. Its so easy to get bitter and feel like EVERYONE must be a toxic pyscho, there are no good people. But you cant do that, because then you'll just be lonelier and lonelier. When people have been treated poorly, they treat everyone like a threat. I do. You have to remember that it isnt you. It is me. It is them. It is their body memories, it is their neurological system. All the hits you've taken live in the present. So you cant take that personally, either. It IS tiring to go out of your way to make people feel safe. But it is the only right thing to do as a rational human. Your trauma lives in you, too. But you are doing right to reject the negative thinking, and you are doing right to remember it is them and not you. Not only is it better for your mental health, it is just also true. The discourse around toxic masculinity is valid. It is fair. Its is important to talk about. It is also important to remember that women are not all hateful whackos. They are rational, just hurt. Same for you! And its nice to see. Gotta push that bitterness away. It wont be the first time we try. It wont be the second time. But, eventually, someday the light filters back in.
People no doubt see everyone as a threat, once they have been hurt. There are good people, despite running into bad ones. Although feelings are valid, they can betray us, it's best to take a deep breath and take a step back and think what the next step will be. Thanks so much for your good comment!
@@AZrakoon my story is that my ex was an addict, and my family was toxic. One day I realized people who didn't respect me were never going to, even though they ought to. Even though they should. I had to cut off everything. I had to get rid of all the toxicity. That place in the middle, where you are learning a new way to think, where the old people are gone but the groundwork is not there yet for new, healthy relationships.... Loneliest place in the world. You wonder if nothing good exists. You wonder if maybe you are somehow born broken. It takes so much effort to reshuffle the cards and gradually replace it all. Exhausting! Idk if you've read The Body Keeps The Score. But that book was so helpful to me. To remember that it's all part of it. It took me so long to get a smattering of good friends, but I did. I don't know if I'll ever be all the way through the weeds. I think healing is probably a lifelong process. But, yes. You are so right. We do not have to belong to toxic ways of thinking. We belong to a world where we decide if we want to keep disrespectful people around us or not, and where we decide to be the respectful people with boundaries. It's hard when you feel like you are building the road before you just one step before you walk on it. But the only other way is to turn back and steep in the toxicity. Hey. No way!
I'm also really lonely. I live in Johannesburg, South Africa and I have no friends. My work plays a huge role that I don't have a social life. I work nightshift 6 days a week. I've decided to focus on my health this year, I'm going to the gym. I also booked myself a firearms course (female group) in hopes to make some friends. I really liked your messaging in this video. Decided to follow you, you have that old school RUclips vibe that is really missed these days.
You work very hard. I learned during this pandemic, to not take for granted the people you treasure, you can lose it from one day to another. Thank you so much for the encouragement!
I love being alone. You have to love yourself in order to love being alone. So start working on yourself and ignore what others say and think about you! Escape the matrix! I love you and keep your head up king. We are all a brain with wires under our eyes. Always help people when they asked. I love that man, that's how you build a good society. I bet nobody sees you as a bear dude hahaha.
What you said in this video is completely true bro, a lesson in life in to learn not to care about what others think and love yourself.Sounds easy on paper,but it can be challenging.Hope you have a good rest of your day
Been feeling so unseen lately, like no one truly knows me like im invisible. found this video and subscribed right after. But i dont know how to have hope for the future, whats the point of living if you cant share it with anyone?
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BROTHER WHAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT STAY ON WHAT IS YOUT PASSION AND FOCUS ON YOURSELF PEOPLE WILL DO THAT BECAUSE ITS DEEPER THAN THEM TREATING YOU A CERTAIN WAY PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY WANT THAT IS TO BE BETTER THAN WHAT THEY ARE IN MONEY,FAME OR AND TO SURROUND THEMSELVES WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE BETTER THAN THEM NOBODY SEES THE LITTLE GUY TALKING FROM EXPEIRIENCE PAST AND CURRENT BUT NOW I AM LEARNING TO GET OUT OF MY MIND AND SETTING MY SELF UP FOR GREATNESS BECAUSE AS I AM LEARNING TO HEAL FROM MY PAINS AND DISSAPOINTMENTS IN CHRIST BECAUSE GOD IS NOT MEN HE NEVER LIES
hey you can always get in touch with me.. same goes to anyone needing friendship in this world.. I'd be glad to hear from good hearted people i understand what you mean.. I'm a tall guy and i love to walk out in the countryside and it is so horrible when people get hostile or let their dogs be aggressive to me when I'm walking the opposite direction.. I've actually risked my life protecting women when they were being attacked in cities outside my apartment by muggers etc but i keep having women letting their dogs be really aggressive to me when I'm out walking to see the wildlife here and they think it's ok to let their dog be really aggressive to me because THEY are scared of some guy walking past but it is so horrible to be treated like that when i would give my life to save a woman who was being attacked i wish people treated us big guys with a bit of love sometimes, most of us would be the first to try to protect people in the world from harm.. please know this people Best wishes from Rolland in Scotland
Wow! I had the good fortune and only get ugly looks from people, i never had someone have thei dog intimidate me. I also dont blame women for feeling unsafe with so many wackos that are in the world. Fortunately, there is a lot of good people that will treat you with kindness.
I think far more people are lonely than ever before in our extremely divided world. It's now just me and my husband who has dementia. There's literally no one left. Talk about brutal. It's not just men who are lonely, friend. Sending a hug your way.
This world is so divided and cold, and many people think about their short-term pleasures instead of serving others. Im sorry you and your husband are going through hard times. He sounds like he has always been a good husband. Thanks. I'm sending you a hug back:)
Same, I'm always lonely, I go to work in a room on my own and live alone in an apartment, I go for walks alone, watch movies alone, I do everything alone. My family live far away. Not for lack of trying to fit in or go on dates. Sometimes I can go almost a month without speaking to anyone at all, then even when I do it's just something about work.
You look like a nice person and you are slowly working things out. If you respect yourself and love yourself then that's all you can do Stand in your own power as a person but be open to talking to people.
Loneliness kills, one of the worst experiences in a person's life, it hurts a lot.
Yes, loneliness is a big problem today.
Why be lonely? I want you to meet my father, Christ.
He will fill your emptiness.
Women will only.lie, cheat and steal. They aren't good company.
Men are far more loyal and interesting.
Also, sex with women gets boring. They aren't very romantic at all.
i thought it was brendan fraser
@@AZrakoon i hope you meet people who love you
I like your videos because they’re straight up old school RUclips. Just a regular guy sitting around giving his thoughts, no ads and no patreon crap. And as an old school RUclipsr, I appreciate that!
Thanks man! It's more important to me to help. You have too many red pill guys giving incorrect info to young men, that think all women are 304s.
New to the channel brother, but I do believe it's time to realise are W@hm3n are 304s. It's good to assume that as well.
Would you take your risk when the odds are against you and the stacks are high?
Also, redpill started out as an analogy of how reality is. It went to dating and was a good analogy to reveal the true nature of W@hm3n. That's all.
Game, modern "redpill" advices are all fake because it's not the real RedPill.
Also I have a theory - I think the next phase of RedPill will be politics. Because RedPill in order to survive as popular as it is needs to get bigger and what better way than politics.
Though it is in its essence to reveal the truth but in the hands of these modern so called "redpill' gurus it will dilute itself.
But I would say that is also a good thing - Because we have all these gurus and all, the natural selection of ideas will bring out the best and weed out the weak ones.
i thought it was brendan fraser
Same here. Basic videos are the best. Real talk. Genuine. No fancy bells and whistles and graphics and music and excessive editing. Just a guy and a camera (or phone) spreading positive talk!
I support this!
Long term loneliness saps the confidence and you become so socially paralised that little or no change can be made...
True. It takes so long to get back up again, it not easy. It takes a lot of work.
Man I felt that
i thought it was brendan fraser
It doesn't matter how long it takes. One step at the time and you will get there just don't give and stay consistent That is they key to everything in live.
my life ty
"Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do" this sentence makes a lot more sense each year you grow up. Helping people w/o expectations is, in fact, the best social advice you can think of.
For sure, having expectations is what gets you hurt, once they are not met.
@@AZrakoon Exactly. Not a big deal at all if you stop to think that our only real mission here is to make the best of us in the situation we are, while we can't do better...
also think about that sentence a lot and how it really well describes this world whose against pure joy without even realizing it
Father knew what he was doing. He gifted the ones he loved and left the others to rot and suffer.
@@hainouzgaya7590 Your father must be satan himself.
Keep shining, loving, and being genuine and transparent. The world needs people like you. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.
Thank you! You too!
I wish you luck and love in your life. I completely understand you. Thank you for sharing your perspective. You are a pure soul. People are judgemental, you just have to proof them wrong. You may feel lonely but you are never alone. There is a reason you are faced with this challenge, transform your sadness and anger and use it as motivation to create something beautiful, like you already did with your video. Become the most happy, condifent, kind and healthy version of yourself and help men in your position to feel better aswell.
Thanks for your kind words. I appreciate the encouragement:)
i can see in your eyes, you are one of the last beautiful souls left in this world, you are beautiful ❤
Thanks for the compliment!
Seems like a nice guy. I hope he finds happiness and enjoys his life
Thanks! I already do:)
Great vid.I am 58 and been taunted or looked down upon for most of my life,especially last few years.I admit i am not the most talented and hard working individual out there,but have always reached out to people to show concern or lend a hand where i can.Now i tend to go to places where i feel welcome
Well said! Life is too short to be around people that don't see your value.
Amen❤
I learned stay away from toxic people. I'm 78, a widow, and NOT lonely. I was in my 20s. I have a dog. They are great company.
I was never intrested in pets. Once I got a dog, I understood why people love them.
This is one of the best pieces of advice. I would add "Stay away from ALL toxic people. Make zero exceptions. Shared DNA doesn't obligate you to break this rule."
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@@MrCPPG seeing dogs as an sufficient replacment for humans as an magus opum argument is so toxic, you cant even put it on a scale.
I think you'll like this tune - My Dog Jesus - ruclips.net/video/YyFNTT_hfJk/видео.html
Never watched any of your videos and just saw this one randomly but man I wish you nothing but positivity and joy in your life. Keep conquering the negative thoughts. We're all in this together and also thank you for speaking up. Thats a service not too many do anymore in this internet world. Love you man
Thank you so much, I dont feel alone with all the support. I'm here to help, the internet has become to cold and cruel and we can all play a part to be positive.
I'm genuinely impressed with your thought processes on this. Sometimes in falling into loneliness, then despair about it, we can become bitter and hate others...but you seem to know to stay on the positive and beneficial side of things. It is true that many men are lonely these days. I'm not sure I have a good solution to suggest, since I'm basically the same - no real friends, just have my own little family. I've heard that men gain friends "shoulder to shoulder" and women gain them "face to face", or in other words, men bond by doing things together, less so than chatting. So it might help to find more things to do, whether in career or as hobbies, where there are people with common goals. Also, I will finally say that I think exercise is super important not just for our physical health, but especially for our mental health. People don't exercise enough in our culture. We are supposed to be getting 4-5 days a week of 45 minutes of nearly out of breath activity, along with resistance training. I never felt better than when I was regularly lifting barbells, doing the Stronglifts 5x5 program at the gym. It helps to see continual progress made, and have a plan for when progress stalls. Becoming stronger, metaphorically makes us stronger in every other way. By having good physical and mental health, then we're more "magnetic" or people are more "attracted" to how we seem, and things go more smoothly with them.
Thanks, it's hard to develop a positive mindset. However, its possible. It takes a lot of work, but the peace of mind makes it worth it.
Thank you for your courage in speaking out. You are far from alone....This is a dominant concern for, may I say, the majority of people today!! Yes, I am another one. Your suggestion to give unconditionally helps a lot....volunteering to help others where ever you are.
There's no greater feeling that you helped someone. Especially the elderly, sometimes their family isn't around, and their always someone's family too.
You seem like you'd be a great friend! Best wishes to you.
You seem very kind and your optimism inspires me. Remember there are millions of us who have the same issue with loneliness. You are not alone.
Thanks, I'm glad I could inspire others. Makes me motivated to keep making videos.
The world needs more people like you
Awww, thanks! I'm flattered.
Lots of people are lonely,including me. it's the way our world is today. I am listening to you and you have the right mindset. I'm 67 and put my last dog to sleep. She helped me get out and walk. It gets circulation up to your head and you'll feel so much better. I follow the health tips I find here on RUclips. I Improved my physical health and the rest is becoming easier.
I'm sorry about the pets you have lost, I know it's painful. RUclips has been a helpful tool for me too, if I don't know something, I just look it up.
These tough times will be over I wish you the best from Iran.
Thanks man, God bless you!
You are such a light. You are making the world a better place through simply sharing your voice and wisdom. And, you are calling in your community even now, by being you... Maybe you are a bear, but a different kind: a protector of the vulnerable and the lonely, a voice for those who *feel* but remain unexpressed.
I hope to help anyone I can. There's too many people who are feeling down, and they all need the help. Thanks for the kind words.
hello my friend. i am argentinian so i barely understand, but i really comprehend your feelings because all my life i've been alone and unloved, people just ignore or laugh about me. I'll keep the frase "the opinion that matter is my opinion and nobody else's"
Thanks for the kind words. I'm sorry you're going through this, better days will come. Ningun problema hablo español tambien. Es un mundo muy frio y cruel, pero siempre se majors las cosas. Tengo fe en Dios!
doing good things and not expecting some in return is soo based, i like ur speech and i feel like ur actually a great guy i hope u find all the happyness man ur truly a good soul❤️
Thanks, I appreciate the kind words!
@@AZrakoon always man just stating fax
thank you for saying words that some may need to hear and for spreading love 🫶✨✨
Thanks for the kind words:)
Hey, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! Definitely something that people should be aware of. It helps if everyone could be more accepting, kind and open to all.
Thanks:) I totally agree!
Liked and subbed. What you said about helping people for its own sake without expecting anything in return is very valid. People need to stop being so self centered, and they would be happier!! Lots of common sense in your video, keep them coming! This is doing something very helpful for others, God bless you for it.
I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way and as someone who is going through similar things, I hope you get through it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks, I hope your situation gets better too:)
You sound so sweet and genuine ❤❤, it's unfortunate that sometimes we feel this way but I must tell you that you will meet those people who gonna love ur company and even if it's taking time thn nature is always there for you trees plants animals sky, mother nature is always here for her sons and daughters, no one is alone ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for the encouragement!
I’m so glad you have the courage and are willing to speak about this issue. I’ve felt the same way but you are the first person that I feel I really resonates with how I feel and it’s honestly inspiration to see you willing to take that step and just share how you feel. I’m working to get to that point, much love
There's good people out there that will understand you. Dont give up on having the courage to be vocal about your feelings.
@@AZrakoon I agree, some of the most important moments in my life were because I allowed myself to share how I felt with others. Glad we can be on this journey together my friend!
That's a really helpful video to everyone watching it. I so love how you talk for people, motivate them, and give your best to lift them up. Thank you for your kind words and thoughts, and keep up the amazing work you've been doing. Keep shining, best of luck, and I really appreciate your work!
That's my goal to motivate others, and let them know they can achieve their goals. There is hope, no situation is hopeless.
The world now days need you , you are honest , have a kind heart and stand for your manners i need a friend like you who can lift me when i fall thank you brother ❤ subscribe to your channel
Thanks and welcome! I'm very appreciative of time and opinions of others, I can learn something from everyone.
You seem like a really sweet/good guy. I want you to know that you're not the only one who feels this way. It's a good idea to reach out to any support system you have and try to become the best version of yourself. Keep up the positivity and love!
I appreciate that, thanks for understanding!
Hey man, glad I stumbled across your channel lol! I too felt loneliness (not as a man but yk) many friends left me but what really held me up was finding a friendship in Jesus man! It isn't a religion but a relationship with Him, and He truly made me feel seen and heard and yes, like a human being and less lonely. Idk what you believe man, but I really encourage you! I know what it is being lonely! Sending love and prayers! Have a great day
Im sorry you have friends that have left you. Loneliness definitely effects women too. The bible always gives good advice that is also soothing and gives us hope. Jesus christ left us a guide for us to treat our fellow humans.
Thank you for sharing your wise messages. Keep up with your positive thoughts and remember that you're not alone and one day the right people will come to you. God bless people like you.
Yes, you attract what you are. Thanks for your kind words!
Hey Buddy, I've always struggled with this, don't ever feel alone, don't isolate yourself and keep smiling, you seem like a kind soul :)
Thank you, I will. It's so natural to isolate yourself, when you're feeling down. Good advice 👍
i feel the same way bro and i feel you. i hope all the better things will find you. much love from Turkiye ❤
Thanks. Peace and blessings to you as well!
if you're a bear, you must be the cuddliest and sweetest one yet. and you look like a gentle giant
Awww! Thanks, I'm glad this bear could spread some positivity to you:)
Yeah, keep being yourself. Keep the good energy man. You're on the right track
thank you man. You're the best💞.
Thanks for the kind words!
Your too pure for this world bro much love from Ireland 💙
Appreciate that, thanks!
Always the ones who give the best advice who struggle in silence. I feel you. You deserve only the best. I hope you'll find the right people who cherish you as much as you would cherish them, someday. You deserve no less.
I appreciate that!
such a lovely person from what ive seen so far very wise keep pursuing what you do man (:
Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it!
Just stumbled across your video. Just be you and the right people will show up. Always think positive. God bless
Very true, good people will come in time. Always trust God.
Theres always the light after the dark and even if not in current life it is in the afterlife, much love borther
You are not alone big bro🙏🏻❤️God bless you💯
Thanks man!
Keep your head up bro! It can be so easy to get into your head. Talk good to yourself and learn to love yourself. You can do it 💯
You're so right, your thoughts can really destroy you. Definitely watch how you talk to yourself.
You are so relatable. I sometimes feel ‘broken’ as a person with Asperger’s and cPTSD and I isolate a lot. This year I want to do something outside of my comfort zone
Thanks for being supportive! Go for it, you have all to gain and nothing to lose.
God is always with you man, even in the toughest times
Thanks man! God is good:)
This is calm, collected, old schoolish, and you get the point across correctly. Its really refreshing. Keep these supportive vids coming!! Bros out here helping lives!! 🔥🤘
Will do! Thanks for your time. I only believe in keeping it real!
I’m sorry that you’re lonely. 😢 you’re a beautiful person inside and out. You deserve to have love and someone special. I admire your wisdom and your willingness to help others 😌
Thanks for your comment!
@@AZrakoon of course, handsome 🙏🏽😌
I just felt love for you by first sight..Your aura is so beautiful❤ And listening to your words..-know that YOU are a treasure and a gem, and so brave -and funny too😊❣ Those who has/get you as a friend are LUCKY!! And a girlfriend would be so lucky too to have you!! BUT they better deserve you!!🙏❤ Hugs from Norway.
Oh wow! Thanks 😊 definitely give compliments like this to the men in your life. They won't forget. And yes, I will make sure that special lady has earned me!
I hope you're able to continue building a community of people who can be there for each other like this video.
Of course, and the bonds also grow stronger in time too.
sorry to hear your going this, i am also going through this loneliness phase lets hope every single of us makes it out of it. 😊
Thanks, I hope all of us feel better. I'm hopeful we will too:)
New to the channel, you got yourself a friend.
I am an Asian and immediatley when I am noticed they make the Asian accents to make fun of me. Tell me that I smell and I sh!t on the streets.
One thing that gave me room to build myself was humour. Humour is so good, not only it deflects anything but makes you not take things seriously. This gave me enough room to develop my hobbies, think and enjoy my solitude.
For example, when people say - You are smelly. I reply - Yeah, I am getting my Glutes bigger.
But I'd like to end with what you mentioned tiwards the end about good people around. This got me by suprise but despite my nihilistic outlook, I met many pepople who helped me and did not ask anything back. You are correct, there are lot more good people around than we think there are.
Anyhow, take care man. Love to see more content from you. Keep it real player.
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it. I'm sorry you deal with people who are prejudice. Its unacceptable to treat another human being terribly. Humor makes the blow not hurt as much. There is good and bad people everywhere, pray to God to help you find good people.
@@AZrakoon Hey I just met you, funny as it may seem. God bless you more brother.
Stay strong bro. But sometimes you can enjoy loneliness and focus on yourself instead of other people.
Be strong enough to be gentle with yourself.... one small action will make a difference for you. Any amount of small progress will be enough to help you. You deserve happiness, relaxation, and a peaceful mind. I wish you well.
It's definitely one small action after another. Everyone is hoping for something big to happen, but all the small stuff everyday is the unsung hero.
What other people think doesn't matter, what I think of myself is what makes me. So, man, be proud of yourself, you got a sensible soul, sweet personality and genuine nature. Wish I were there with you and be your friend
Thanks. God bless you.
I've been surrounded by humans my entire life and have always felt alone. I too like to help people, it makes me feel better. The only people I find comfort in now is my 2 children and wife, which is a blessing. Before that I was a mess. Now, I have more than I need, and I'm grateful every day.
That's wonderful, having a spouse and children are a blessing. I've never was the kind to be around many people.
I appreciate your wonderful advice, I needed it today
All my love to you 💗
You're not alone, man, although roots of our problems are different. One day i decided to be in solitude and stay away from "distractions" such as going out somewhere. In order to succeed in my chosen craft (now i see it all as a toxic success grind kind of thing). Eventually i found myself here - poor communication skills, inability to interact with people, and so on. When i felt desperate urges for emotions and connection with somebody - i just watched movies, hundreds of them. And hilarious thing is that i didn't succeed in my craft after 3 years of such a miserable life :)
I understood how bad the situation is yesterday. A random lady with kids asked me for direction. I told her, and i left with a big smile. If such a minor thing, little interaction can uplift me now..
Sometimes we think our life's goal is to seek a job that gives us a comfortable living. In the process, we might lose ourselves. Solitude is a good tool to make you think and heal.
Though this is from a complete stranger thank you Mr AZrakoon. This helped me a lot today and my way of thinking and i appreciate you being here to make this video. I hope life goes amazing for you dude. Godspeed
You got this, keep your head up!
True, that as an introvert, I prefer being alone...though I'm more of an omnivert now after 40 years of soul healing and development, though I still prefer my lone wolf lifestyle.
However, being alone is not the same as feeling lonely, as I never feel lonely when alone, and, I enjoy all the relationships I had and the minimal ones I now have.
My point is, I have a robust relationship with myself, thus why I never feel lonely. I had multiple mental and emotional issues since childhood...all wonderously fully resolved at the young age of 48...but as I reminisce while typing, I never suffered from soul crushing lonliness. I may have experienced small moments of mild loneliness, so I supose I know what loneliness is.
What I learnt, as I slowly resolved my inner hell, is, the best friend you can have, is yourself. Having friends and relationships are now bonuses, not necessities..I enjoy them, but I can easily live a fulfilling life without them.
“Know thyself” - inscribed on the forecourt of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in ancient Greece.
"Know first who you are, and then adorn yourself accordingly." - Epictetus
"Resolve to be thyself and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery." - Matthew Arnold
"Look well into thyself; there is a source which will always spring up if thou wilt always search here." - Marcus Aurelius
"He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened." - Lao Tzu
"There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." - Carl Jung
"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens." - Carl Jung
"If you want to follow me to freedom, be prepared to swim upstream, against the river of conditioning. Be prepared to grapple continuously with the fierce flow of negative mental currents. In time our strokes will become effortless and our sense of purpose irresistible." - Buddha
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha
"No man is free who is not master of himself." - Epictetus
What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself. - Abraham Maslow
"Eventually, meditation (Mindfulness) will make our mind calm, clear, and as concentrated as a laser which we can focus at will. This capacity of one-pointed attention is the essence of genius. When we have this mastery over attention in everything we do, we have a genius for life itself: unshakable security, clear judgment, and deep personal relationships." - Eknath Easwaran
"Mindfulness refers to keeping one's consciousness alive to the present reality. It is the miracle by which we master and restore ourselves." - Thich Nhat Hanh
You have to learn to be happy being with yourself, before anything else. The person that could cheer you up the best, is going to be you.
You’re a lovely person. It shines out of you. Keep on shining
Thank you! You too!
Your spirit shines in this video. Thank you for sharing your insights.
I try my best to stay positive. Thanks!
Never seen you before this video. I appreciate your honest feedback and helpful guidance! Already earned a subscriber. Keep up the good work! :)
Thanks for the encouragement! Welcome aboard:)
I use to volunteer with an NGO called "Serve the city"...helping arojnd the community one saturday a month! And at those volunteer sessions I met some very kind people! Maybe you could look into that! Or. Join a church group...😊...You seem like a lovely person. Look after yourself! A hug from across the waters!
Helping others is a good way to help yourself, in terms of mental health. Hugs from across the water!
I also feel like this sometimes . Honestly loneliness absolutely kills. I try to satisfy my social hunger by going online and trying to talk about my daily problems and life stuff to people but if you burden your friends soon you won`t have any. I just try to face it head on. Sometimes I have really dark thoughts about life such as we could be dead in an instant and people would just forget about you in 2 generations. You could die and people would not notice or don`t care . Just try to stay positive is my advice.
You can't isolate yourself for too long. I try to spend time with a friend at least once a month. Perhaps send a text once a week. I naturally get exhausted if I hang out with people every weekend. I had a professor that always said I could get hit by a truck, but I'd tell him why give that any thought. Good advice!
@@AZrakoon np bro. We guys got to stick together.
I do see news reports and hear peoples' stories concerning evil men, and as a young girl I may worry about that sometimes. But I don't wish to treat men differently/ rudely because of this. And like you said it's not just men, you know.. there are many people who choose to do evil in this world - both men and women- people who have fallen away from God. Truly though we have all sinned and fallen short of God's glory. Many continue to reject God and continue evil but few turn to God and strive to live for Him.
We gotta trust God with our lives and treat ALL people with love and kindness and equality. It can definitely be hard to do this.. but with God all things are possible.
Something to remember is how much more God's opinion of you matters than a human's! And God LOVES you! We shouldn't be trying to please others, we should be trying to please God. This is hard and I often struggle with this but we should remember this and keep working to follow God and live like Jesus.
So sorry for the ramble! God bless you brother. If there's anything here that I have wrong or you would like to talk about please let me know! I am still learning
That's good advice. I remember there was bracelets that had "WWJD" Jesus showed us how to treat others, he didn't give us tons of rules like the pharisees of his time. I try to keep in mind how Jesus lived every day.
@@AZrakoon Amen. It's so important to remember what Jesus would do. This helps us in life to do things like making decisions, loving others, and living for God. And of course living like Jesus.
I know you don't know me but I'm here for you. If you ever want to talk or need help I'm here. Remember God is always there. God bless you!! Thanks for your kindness.
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I am sorry to hear that man. I wish you all the best in life.
Thanks man! I wish you the best!
I used to look for connections with people. I did get some and it felt great until i realised i was just fooling myself. Connections turned into competition, like always. So i remembered that when i was a young kid i was looking for nothing at all. Thats what i do now, and it feels great. Socialising is great when you expect nothing in return.
Low expectations is a good way to avoid disappointment.
I feel so much compassion for you man. I'm 23 years old at the moment I go through roughly the same. Keep going man, don't ever, EVER, give up. Ever.
P.S. If you were a bear for real, then women probably would appreciate you more so to speak. Yes, that was supposed to be a bad joke.
Thanks, you too! I'm the bear, that's unwanted at the picnic. No hamburger or hot dog for me.....lol
@@AZrakoon They supposedly chose the bear over and over thow ;) Relax my man, when war breaks out, when they're in desperate need of help and assist, they better off call the bear ;)
i used to think I failed to connect with people because of my looks and lack of social skills, so I developed them, and became more confident, and better looking (over time obviously, this isn't a 90s' romcom) - and the result was that everyone 'likes' me but that's about it. they'll compliment the way I look, or laugh at the joke I make, or tell me "you're so interesting", "you're so smart", "you're so different" but at the end of the day they're all standing off to the side in their little groups and i'm alone again. i have all the attributes of a social person but i still can't form meaningful connections w/ people! isn't that wild
it hurts even more because i look at the people they *do* choose to surround themselves with and they're all half as interesting, or smart, or talented as I am, and yet they're still the ones with the friends. And I know I am coming across as egotistical but that's not true because I genuinely believe I lack something fundamental that makes people want to stay around, something all the others have, and I'm genuinely at my wits' end because I cannot for the life of me figure out what it is.
Having this sort of outward persona is just painful. I keep thinking of that one quote that's like "Depression can look like the funniest person in the room."
I hope things get better for all of us.
You seem to be a deep thinker, and you might be misunderstood. However, a lot of people are hungry to have conversations that you offer. As Patrick Bet david says "the future looks bright."
@@AZrakoon :) thank you
i saw this vid on my fyp and i was confused untill i watched it and i realised that you have a calming voice for the topic your talking about, Its all gonna work out in the end dont worry
Thanks, I appreciate it! Be cool as a cucumber.
Wow! ❤ I gotta admit the title stopped my scrolling and your authentic and great points really kept me watching. I too feel lonely and I want to help heal the world like MJ Sang about! Caring for others is easier the better care we take of ourselves and improve to empower ourselves! I like your vulnerability! I am too shy to say anything in the lost internet of RUclips space 👽🚀haha 🤣
Thanks for the kind words. We need to stand up against negative mindsets that hurt us.
Praying for you, Sir.
One step at a time and one day at a time.
🙏🙏🙏
Thanks, and God bless you too.
I hope you're doing well right now, I really hope everything in the end works out for you man.
I am, thanks for asking. Thanks for your thoughts
You are such a beautiful human being!
Thanks, you as well:)
I have been lonely back in 2007 I still alone in 2024 I had so many bad girl friends I like being alone
It's OK to take a break and be picky with who your friends are. You mental health comes first
You posted this a while ago, but I am hoping things are looking up for you now. You matter, you’re important, and you’re awesome.
Thanks! Im doing fine, ive been doing well. You're awesome, too:)
Thanks for sharing❤
Thanks for watching!
I have felt very lonely when I was in the process of cutting off toxic people. The difficulty is not being bitter. Its so easy to get bitter and feel like EVERYONE must be a toxic pyscho, there are no good people. But you cant do that, because then you'll just be lonelier and lonelier.
When people have been treated poorly, they treat everyone like a threat. I do. You have to remember that it isnt you. It is me. It is them. It is their body memories, it is their neurological system. All the hits you've taken live in the present. So you cant take that personally, either. It IS tiring to go out of your way to make people feel safe. But it is the only right thing to do as a rational human.
Your trauma lives in you, too. But you are doing right to reject the negative thinking, and you are doing right to remember it is them and not you. Not only is it better for your mental health, it is just also true.
The discourse around toxic masculinity is valid. It is fair. Its is important to talk about. It is also important to remember that women are not all hateful whackos. They are rational, just hurt.
Same for you! And its nice to see. Gotta push that bitterness away. It wont be the first time we try. It wont be the second time. But, eventually, someday the light filters back in.
People no doubt see everyone as a threat, once they have been hurt. There are good people, despite running into bad ones. Although feelings are valid, they can betray us, it's best to take a deep breath and take a step back and think what the next step will be. Thanks so much for your good comment!
@@AZrakoon my story is that my ex was an addict, and my family was toxic. One day I realized people who didn't respect me were never going to, even though they ought to. Even though they should. I had to cut off everything. I had to get rid of all the toxicity. That place in the middle, where you are learning a new way to think, where the old people are gone but the groundwork is not there yet for new, healthy relationships.... Loneliest place in the world. You wonder if nothing good exists. You wonder if maybe you are somehow born broken. It takes so much effort to reshuffle the cards and gradually replace it all. Exhausting! Idk if you've read The Body Keeps The Score. But that book was so helpful to me. To remember that it's all part of it.
It took me so long to get a smattering of good friends, but I did. I don't know if I'll ever be all the way through the weeds. I think healing is probably a lifelong process. But, yes. You are so right. We do not have to belong to toxic ways of thinking.
We belong to a world where we decide if we want to keep disrespectful people around us or not, and where we decide to be the respectful people with boundaries.
It's hard when you feel like you are building the road before you just one step before you walk on it. But the only other way is to turn back and steep in the toxicity.
Hey. No way!
I'm also really lonely. I live in Johannesburg, South Africa and I have no friends. My work plays a huge role that I don't have a social life. I work nightshift 6 days a week. I've decided to focus on my health this year, I'm going to the gym. I also booked myself a firearms course (female group) in hopes to make some friends.
I really liked your messaging in this video. Decided to follow you, you have that old school RUclips vibe that is really missed these days.
You work very hard. I learned during this pandemic, to not take for granted the people you treasure, you can lose it from one day to another. Thank you so much for the encouragement!
Stay strong brother. You've got this 🙏
Thanks man!
I love being alone. You have to love yourself in order to love being alone. So start working on yourself and ignore what others say and think about you! Escape the matrix! I love you and keep your head up king. We are all a brain with wires under our eyes.
Always help people when they asked. I love that man, that's how you build a good society.
I bet nobody sees you as a bear dude hahaha.
Thanks man! You can't care too much what people think. I'm a raccoon, I took the last piece of chicken at KFC.
What you said in this video is completely true bro, a lesson in life in to learn not to care about what others think and love yourself.Sounds easy on paper,but it can be challenging.Hope you have a good rest of your day
It is harder to put in practice, but you have to protect your sanity. Once you are at peace and clarity, it's so addicting.
Ignorance is bliss and not considered abusive so that's miserable or lonely.
What ever suits me best.
Stress kills so the women live longer and laugh about it. It's a trap.
Ha stumbled upon your video. Good words. Cheers.
Awesome, thank you!
Been feeling so unseen lately, like no one truly knows me like im invisible. found this video and subscribed right after.
But i dont know how to have hope for the future, whats the point of living if you cant share it with anyone?
I understand, its hard. There will be a special someone to share it with. Good things are coming.
Hope u make it thru it man I understand I feel the same way
Thanks for the encouragement!
@@AZrakoon no problem bro stay blessed 🍾❤️🩹
Brave for posting, give yourself unconditional love and support
Thanks man! I appreciate the kind words.
RED HOT WHITE BURNING HOMICIDAL RAGE AND SUICIDAL DESPAIR
The four indicators of relationships that are DOOMED:
criticism, defensiveness, withdrawal, contempt.
Once you’ve got contempt, it’s pretty much over.
I know it's hard and things seem hopeless. Things will be OK, if you're in a stressful spot, take a step back. Take care of yourself!
Stay on the path bro you'll get it. God bless 🙏
Thanks man! God bless you
Hey mate I am lonely, sad, depressed and broken too
There's nothing in my life that I enjoy anymore
I am a soul that is lost forever
It's ok, to feel like you're not ok. In time, you will heal, just show your self some love!
It’ll be ok it’s just a phase don’t worry
Plus I’d Ike to talk to you so feel free to write back
@@AmiriFahzah yeah man we can talk for a while where can I find you?
BROTHER WHAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT STAY ON WHAT IS YOUT PASSION AND FOCUS ON YOURSELF PEOPLE WILL DO THAT BECAUSE ITS DEEPER THAN THEM TREATING YOU A CERTAIN WAY PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY WANT THAT IS TO BE BETTER THAN WHAT THEY ARE IN MONEY,FAME OR AND TO SURROUND THEMSELVES WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE BETTER THAN THEM NOBODY SEES THE LITTLE GUY TALKING FROM EXPEIRIENCE PAST AND CURRENT BUT NOW I AM LEARNING TO GET OUT OF MY MIND AND SETTING MY SELF UP FOR GREATNESS BECAUSE AS I AM LEARNING TO HEAL FROM MY PAINS AND DISSAPOINTMENTS IN CHRIST BECAUSE GOD IS NOT MEN HE NEVER LIES
God is good, he is ready to help us all.
hey, i feel you bro. we've all been there. hope you're in a better place now. You seem like a cool dude.
Appreciate the support, I'm trying my best to improve!
hey you can always get in touch with me.. same goes to anyone needing friendship in this world.. I'd be glad to hear from good hearted people
i understand what you mean.. I'm a tall guy and i love to walk out in the countryside and it is so horrible when people get hostile or let their dogs be aggressive to me when I'm walking the opposite direction.. I've actually risked my life protecting women when they were being attacked in cities outside my apartment by muggers etc but i keep having women letting their dogs be really aggressive to me when I'm out walking to see the wildlife here and they think it's ok to let their dog be really aggressive to me because THEY are scared of some guy walking past but it is so horrible to be treated like that when i would give my life to save a woman who was being attacked
i wish people treated us big guys with a bit of love sometimes, most of us would be the first to try to protect people in the world from harm.. please know this people
Best wishes from Rolland
in Scotland
Wow! I had the good fortune and only get ugly looks from people, i never had someone have thei dog intimidate me. I also dont blame women for feeling unsafe with so many wackos that are in the world. Fortunately, there is a lot of good people that will treat you with kindness.
I just subscribed so i hhope to see more videos from you.
Welcome! Thanks so much. I'm definitely going to keep making them:)
thanks, bro.
Appreciate you watching, thanks
I think far more people are lonely than ever before in our extremely divided world. It's now just me and my husband who has dementia. There's literally no one left. Talk about brutal. It's not just men who are lonely, friend. Sending a hug your way.
This world is so divided and cold, and many people think about their short-term pleasures instead of serving others. Im sorry you and your husband are going through hard times. He sounds like he has always been a good husband. Thanks. I'm sending you a hug back:)
Same, I'm always lonely, I go to work in a room on my own and live alone in an apartment, I go for walks alone, watch movies alone, I do everything alone.
My family live far away.
Not for lack of trying to fit in or go on dates.
Sometimes I can go almost a month without speaking to anyone at all, then even when I do it's just something about work.
There's nothing wrong with that lifestyle. I'm the same, but I do occasionally hang out with people sometimes.
loneliness is not nice. i m currently going thru it nd its not something easy to talk abt. kudos to u.
I know, it's hard to talk about. However, the majority of people feel the same way. And sharing how you feel will help others too.
You look like a nice person and you are slowly working things out.
If you respect yourself and love yourself then that's all you can do
Stand in your own power as a person but be open to talking to people.
Thanks man! Self love is definitely key, to keep your sanity. Talking to everyone is beneficial, you can learn something from everyone.
im sorry dawg, i hope you feel better
Thanks man, I appreciate it!