And that is your true enemy... Yourselves! Why can't you be honest with yourselves? Because you guys, live pending what others will say. So, you live pretending to be someone you are not and your internal emptiness grows until it becomes a black hole, which turns you into abusive, vulgar and bitter men. Do you think women want someone like that in our lives? We also deal with our emotional issues!, have you ever thought about that? Or is life just and exclusively about you?
@@IraSol37 You sound like the bitter one here and you need psychological sanitation. I only said it takes courage to be vulnerable that's all,God bless you
I just wanted to say this video is not cringe or depressing. It's incredibly brave of you to come forward and admit all this out loud. You're not alone at all.
Everyone starts off exactly where you are. Everyone starts off unable to do a thing before deciding they are going to do whatever it takes to accomplish what they're reaching for. Right now sucks but it will be this moment that you look back at and eventually will fuel the happiness you feel in the future.
I think being in love is a crucial aspect of a high quality and fulfilling life. I have a friend who has a highly paid job and rich family, but he never had a girlfriend. His self destruction came to the point where he uses benzos with alcohol, although benzos are his prescribed medication.
@@user-lx7kq5ci5l Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons. John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind. What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.” KJV Bible says; Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
Its not cringe Its scary, and if he wants a girlfriend he should take it down because it gives major incel vibes. Im not saying he cant talk about his experience, but he should do it when he’s more calm and accepting of his situation. There is a female youtuber who went viral for talking about her lack of pretty privilege and she came across much better because she had a sense of humor about her crappy encounters with men.
@@disneytoysr4fun975 Not every woman is an insecure emotional wreck. Some are actually confident and caring people. I know they're not on the internet but they make up most of the world.
I am a 51 year old retired police officer, never married, and never had kids. My longest relationship was nine years, and it was the worst time of my life. She was a toxic human being. I finally ended that in 2009. Since then, my dating has been sporadic, nothing real serious. Dating is a royal pain in the ass, and women can be cold, self centered, and mean spirited. Believe in yourself and don’t rush into anything. You’ve got a lot of good people in your corner. Stay strong.
I don't try to insult you but have you consider taht maybe you are gay, asexual or something? Sounds wreird to me that you try to date but dont enjoyed at all and have that image of a women. I wrote this with my best intentions.
would have been much MUCH worse if you married her. and the time spent being not married was her imposing her frustration on you because all of her stupid friends are married and shes singled out feeling lesser. women have these thoughts already before you meet them
@@simpletim8186 yea like if this video wasn’t made that closes the door to learn from this man’s problems and for him to learn from ours there’s so many people that want to help and all it takes is one asshole to ruin that especially online
Also, never regret telling a girl you like her. Much more regret comes from inaction than action, trust me Edit: I should've said "Never regret shooting your shot." I would never actually tell a girl "I like you." I would subtly make her WONDER if I like her, which will increase her interest. And then when you ask her out, she will be excited because you've just validated her wonders, and she'll be more likely to say yes. Pardon my misspeaking. I wrote a book on this and it's what my channel is about, so I should know better lol. But my main point remains: It's better to take action than not.
I always say to make your intentions CLEAR AS DAY to the girl straight away, this gets rid of the hassle and confusion later down the line. you can clearly see this guy didn't do that... and as a result, he had the dreaded phrase "I love you, just not like that teehee" ...aka the friend-zone. may you all learn from this.
In passing sometimes I will straight up tell a girl I think she looks good (or something to that effect) and ask for her number. But when I know I'll be interacting with her for a while, I like to keep her wondering if I like her or not. That way, when I actually try to advance with her, she's happy to say yes. Funny, speaking of the friendzone, I have tons of videos asking girls about escaping the friendzone 😂@@DanteLikesRock
You do realize that women have more options than men, right? A woman can literally pick and choose who to go on dates with. From using dating apps, social media, etc. You cant compare yourself to what this man is going through. Life is easy for a woman in the date scene. We men have to deal with all the BS that comes with chasing women. Have a good day.
Hey brodie, be me: a 27 year old that has never had a girlfriend. I did the thing and downloaded tinder, something I feared. Putting myself out there, rejection, etc. I legitimately met the love of my life, that was 2 years ago. We have a life together and are building it everyday. You've gotta take a plunge, and you have to say yes to things that make you uncomfortable. Good luck brother, as it definitely is luck. But I believe in you.
Shame on you for endorsing that evil money pit of a site. You should watch some videos on the evils of tinder & dating apps. If they worked they'd go out of business
Is sad that everyone call me a idiot,stupid,dumb and moron being asperger syndrome at age 28 no friends and girlfriend really sad . I feel like a loser but I always try my best and I feel bad for this guy too . People shouldn’t call people idiot
@@BreakingJJC Learn to ignore them bro youre not stupid you have a mental disorder its not your fault. focus on what you can control not what you cant.
@@BreakingJJCdamn bro you ever try weed? You can go out and meet lots of people or even hemp shit like that smoke some joints meet people in public if that’s for you it helps
You just did something which so many other men in the world are unable or afraid to do…express yourself on camera to the world. You have serious courage man
@@willwhite6110it's because ur not used to people authentically documentating their inner thought process and maybe cuz Elliot Rodger did similar vlogs so you associate it with him
@@merit7344 possibly, but he's really pushy on forcing women to like him. You see these patterns with almost all (how do I say this...) "victims" in journals and blogs/vlogs before they do something to hurt others....His story is sad...and he's even tried to hurt himself admittedly. He should seek therapy. My advice would be for him to work on himself and have a better love for himself before seeking it from others... Hit they gym 5-6 days a week, volunteer, learn a new skill on the side...because the path he is on, seems like its only a matter of time before it turns dangerous.
@@willwhite6110 There are guys that do all of it and women still act as if they don't exist. And I don't see what part of his vlog suggested he was pushy, it seems like he just did the normal basic interactions most people do and still got less results compared to others which possibly has to do with his face looks
@merit7344 but why should anyone need or want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't have self care. Low credit score, doesn't go to the gym, doesn't make enough money to support a family, and emotionally damaged. Why should anyone want that. He needs self love definitely before trying to love someone else. Most women and men who truly care for themselves would want and need to have self care and improvement. After that you can focus on if you want to include someone else in your self journey
I was still a virgin at 47. Lonely and miserable for most of my life. I was under constant torment. I was a LOT like you are now. Now at 60, I look back and realize that my problem had nothing to do with my looks, just like your problem has nothing to do with your looks. You are not bad looking! Your problem is that you are too focused on yourself. You need to get OUTSIDE of yourself. When I finally learned how to do that things started to change for me. At 47 I met my future wife who was 34 at the time, never married and BEAUTIFUL! Three years later I was married with two awesome kids. I am still happily married today, and am loving every minute of fatherhood. Forget yourself and start taking a genuine interest in others. And remember, desperation is a turn off! So, have NO expectations and things will start to happen for you. Good luck and God’s blessings to you!
Wow man really 41 and never dated too? I am a guy who turned 23 over a month ago(on 22nd December) and I never had a girlfriend before. I did go on my first ever date 4-5 months ago at the age of 22 and she was 19(turned 20 few weeks ago) and had my first ever hug too (she turned out to be toxic to me 2 weeks after the date and blocked me everywhere) and also 3 months ago went out with a female friend who is also 23 where we go for classes for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 6-7 months ago and planning to study MBA next. We had lunch in a big restaurant(but idk whether to count it as a date as we are just friends). I also had been crushing on this another girl(lets call her A) in that same class where I go now and she also turned 23 over 2 weeks ago and I even gave her a chocolate last week and she too knew I had a crush on her and has called me cute before too but things changed as last week I got a new crush on this another girl(lets call her B) in the same institute but different classrooms. She is within 21-23 age range and one of the prettiest girl I have ever seen and I was too shy to approach her but 5 days ago, with the help of my friends and one of her classmate I was finally able to talk to her a bit and I was feeling butterflies and today I again met her and told her Hi first with a smile and she too smiled back at me and said me Hi back but she was going to her classroom so we couldn't have a conversation today. Everyone including that girl A came to know about it and she isn't really trying to talk to me and said that I am not loyal enough so she won't talk to me(idk whether she was joking or not). 3 days ago, was chocolate day and one of my friend jokingly said me to give chocolate to A again but she said she doesn't want a chocolate from me. I am afraid that B is probably out of my league as she is very pretty almost model like and I am just average I guess and plus I was too nervous that day while talking with her in person so idk how it will go. I am such a mess that I like another girl(lets call her S) with whom I had been chatting on Instagram for the past 7 months. She is 19 now(turning 20 in April) and we used to be in the same school but didn't knew each other in school days and now she is in a different college. We send each other virtual hugs daily and we will meet up this month too to eat somewhere as we are both foodies and she has no idea about these 2 girls A and B. But after getting crush newly on this girl B, I am mostly thinking about her and not giving much attention to A and S whom I have known longer than B. Idk what to do. If B rejects me, then I won't have chance with A as she probably have a negative perception about me now for getting multiple crushes.
It honestly saddens me how men's mental health isn't taken as seriously as others. Its almost unprecedented. Us men are bred to be cold, emotionless creatures, slaving away to provide for those who only laugh at our hardships. Times like these, we need a brotherhood. We need to encourage eachother to do better when noone else does. Learn to be happy for who we are. Become financially stable, get into better health. Theres nothing wrong with you. Don't ever allow someone to tell you differently, you got this brother. 💪
I see no lies men are mocked when they are at their low points of life and display any emotion that isn’t stoic. Men have been taught to shut this down, but women have also been taught to expect this even though it’s not natural to suppress emotions they need to be released and dealt with to move on. This judgement prevents men from growing and expressing how they’re truly feel about life.
how about eating better foods??? this is such an underrated thing that NOBODY TALKS ABOUT, but if you see the toxic chemicals they put into chips, sweets, processed foods, you'll understand why many of our mental health suffers. we are literally what we eat. this is such an obvious fact yet everyone overlooks it. if you eat junk, expect your thoughts and mental state to reflect JUNK.
I love this philosophy. Reflecting what you want to become in all that you do. How about how you talk to your parents?; what about how you spend your free time? Although we cannot control what people say to surpress who you are within, you ultimately must receive the consequences of your actions! All praises to the most High @@DanteLikesRock ✝
I am 21 so I am a decade younger than you and I never had a gf either and didn't even get my first kiss yet. I am too shy in real life so I try dating apps but I don't even get matches. I feel too sad that I still didn't find the love of my life yet.
@@manosijthehero3686 still got time at 21 because a 21 year old isn't as expected to have everything straightened out. I'm 39 and still a dateless virgin so hopefully you won't be like me
29 Going on 30 pretty soon doesn’t help I am 5’5 and still look like a teenager at 29. Still haven’t got my first kiss, but this video really open my eyes. I thought i I was alone in this, and I realize I’m not the only one. first time in my life I want to improve myself and mental heath health, since I’m tired of being alone. not only from having a GF from having actual friends. I’m not just be bitter and pushing everyone away. I want to live life not just exist.
It will pay off one day my friend. By the time you’re 40 and you don’t look like all the other 40 year olds, you will pull 25 year old females. Give it time. I wish you the best.
You know what. I love your tenacity. In life’s struggles, the strong do what you do, and the weak turn bitter. You are wonderful and capable of so much. Your imagination restricts all. You could walk outside in a banana suit tomorrow and scream at the top of your lungs. People will laugh for a moment and guess what? They will look back at their phones and delve back into their own problems. Because nobody fucking cares. Take the shot! Ask her/him out! Fucking do it! You live once and your biggest regret will be never even trying. Try. What’s the worst that can happen? Promise me you will get out there, meditate, try cognitive behavioural therapy if you must. Just don’t give up! Peace and love brother,
You’re the man and you’re worth it. Life is a playing field. Experiment. Everyone is in their own world anyway and you’re merely a character in it. Write your own story, your own world. Nobody will lose sleep on your lost achievements. They are yours. Don’t forget what I tell you. I don’t say this from blind ignorance of obvious constraints being 5’5. But again, your loss will be not trying. There is someone out there for you.. many infact. Just search, take the first step, don’t be afraid all will be okay. Just don’t fucking stop or turn back.
I’m currently 26 years old, and I’ve never even been on a date. Your story of getting kicked out of the bar reminds me of the time I asked the cashier out on a date. We chatted a bunch of times. And she seemed really nice, so I just gave her a card I made myself saying “They say there are plenty of fish in the sea, would you be interested in going out on a date to the fisherman’s market with me?” And it had my phone number. I remember I started a conversation with her, we were both going to Las Vegas at almost the same time, I told her I got her a card, and her face completely lit up, she was smiling and blushing. She read it, and just seemed mesmerized by it. She told me she’d text me, and she never did. And the next time I went to the store, she would intentionally avoid me. Like she was ringing people up, and soon as it was my turn, she would yell at her coworkers and say it was her break. This went on 5 times. Then I didn’t even see her at all after that. I hate that they just assume that I’m not gonna take no for an answer and play these stupid ass games with me. I would way rather hear No than sit and wonder when you’re going to respond, then avoid me like I have the emotional regulation skills of an 8 year old. I bet if she asked a guy out, and he said no, he wouldn’t just start avoiding her. It made me so mad. Thanks for sharing that man. There’s a lot more single lonely guys especially after the rise of social media apps. There’s no longer a sense of community, dating apps are horrible, and promote hookup culture. Your brain isn’t fucked up, these are really tough times we live in. We have all the food and resources that our grandparents didn’t have, but we lack the strong communities that they had to keep them fighting. Life has been a real tough journey for me. I’ve experienced a lot of ups and downs, I’ve accomplished a lot of things, but being a part of the community is a huge part of my life that’s missing. No wife, no girlfriend, no family, and no real long term friends. I literally have my parents and siblings and that’s it, after that, I ain’t got no one else.
I am 21, never had a girlfriend and still a virgin myself. I know exactly how you feel. You start asking yourself crazy questions, mentally you start beating yourself up. I’ve already accepted this loneliness. But besides all of this, just know i am here for you. And anyone who’s living in this position.
God puts people through suffering and hardships to show them how much He cares about them. "Embrace and be grateful for everything you have, good and bad". Scriptures.
Bro i'm 27 and i got no money, no social life, no friends, no gf and makes u feel bad but at the end the only one who can save you is yourself, good luck brother and don't give up.
You're not alone bro ❤ from what I've seen in my 32 years of life is that youll find someone in circles of a passion of yours. Make sure you arent being shallow yourself.
I'm 25, virgin, and I am struggling with severe depression. Ur not the only one who goes through this. Someday you will find the right person in life, 👍 stay strong
Everything that society is comprised of are just ideas and concepts, they are not rooted in anyrthing. As soon as you realise that the social conditioning will go away. You dont actually want what you think you need, you already have everything.
I'm 25 and I don't even think I could even handle a relationship due to social issues , sexual issues, and the emotional devastation of knowing I screwed something up somehow. But my uncle is, for all I know, a lifelong single person, and he lives a fulfilling life and career, so I could look up to him if worse comes to worse.
What do you mean by social and sexual issues? And have you ever asked your uncle about reasons behind his loneliness, are they logical or emotional, maybe he was traumatised by really close person to him he decided to stay single forever, something similar to Keanu Reeves story?
Hey man, you are super courageous to share your deepest vulnerability with the world. You're not cringe or weird to never have had a girlfriend or dated. Shit does happen and you are just as human and valuable as partnered people. Don't feel less than. Your timeline isn't the same as others. Comparison is the biggest thief o of your joy and inner peace. Keep putting yourself out there in the dating world and you may get lucky and find yourself the woman of your dreams. I'm rooting for you. You are worthy of happiness.
I'm a 22-year-old man who deals with high-functioning autism, and I've never slept with anyone. I'm so touch-starved it hurts. Here's hoping the best for you, brother.
@@StarFyodperor Nope, and that's not funny. Don't compare me to a felon, please and thank you. Also, Chris Chan has low-functioning autism and explicitly hates aspies.
@@AppleOfThineEye Chris Chan is Highly Functioning... What are you talking about... Look how far his imagination went... He is in overdrive in that department...
@@StarFyodperor Do you think adding multiple elipses makes you sound more credible? Anyway, no. If you were actually in-the-know, you might have been aware we have access to a psychiatric report that indeed marked him as low-functioning. And I quote, "He knows just enough to know he doesn't know."
No he probably was acting weird. Listen to how he interacts with this girl he’s “in love” with, he obviously stalkers her and she avoids him at all costs, because he thinks this is how to interact with women.
I want to try the 5k silicon super models. Just have to save up some money. Those dolls are nice. Turd Flinging Monkeys really happy with Celestina. I think real girls are too much of a burden.
Just watched both videos for the first time and I wanted to congratulate you on how far you've come and how brave you were to share your most personal and vulnerable thoughts. I wanted to offer another perspective, although I also have diagnosed depression and have gone through a lot of the same situations and thought processes (then again, I'm almost a decade older than you, but when I was your age I pretty much thought the same way). However today I'm either on step 3, gone crazy, woken up, got broken beyond repair or hit my head too hard. In my current mindset, I can't imagine caring what someone else thinks, even though my depression makes it almost impossible to have a good opinion of myself (even though I'm aware it's at least partially skewed, and my entire ability to be what I could be is handicapped, but still, that's what it leaves me with). In fact it makes it almost impossible to love myself or accept that someone might like me. I just laugh at the thought, sabotage any relationships and abandon first in order to not be abandoned, because I don't believe it can end any other way. And that's all standard for what you're going through. But years of this have left me to wonder why I even wanted a relationship. I have no more interest in it. I'm no longer addicted or indoctrinated that this is something I have to do, or even want to do. Sure, it has its moments. I've been in some relationships over the years (not in the last decade though). Some of them actually weren't terrible - though they didn't work out of course. But today I wouldn't pursue, or even accept them (not related to anyone specific and nothing personal). I was so focused on what I thought I wanted, because... Well, everyone does, and the drugs (hormones) make you feel artificially good when you're in love, or having sex, so... It made sense, it was the status quo, why would you ever even question it? Everyone tells you that, your own mind tells you that... Like the famous quote: "so preoccupied with whether or not you could, that you didn't stop to think if you should". But when you start listening to yourself instead of society, and when you get through the withdrawal you realize that what you wanted isn't even worth it. Don't get me wrong - for people less jaded, cynical and realistic than me, it can surely be a great feeling and a worthwhile goal. I'm not gonna tell you how to live your life or whatever. If that's what makes you happy, work on it. Enjoy it, find happiness. All I see is a brain playing tricks to get its next fix of those drugs that get released when you do it. When you strip off the paint, the only thing you get for being "more" than friends, is that high. And it will make you do stupid things to keep it going. You will sacrifice your freedom, you will have to make compromises, worry about keeping the flame alive (and work to do it), it will eat into your free time, your energy, maybe even your finances, and just so monkey can get another banana even though he will be hungry again tomorrow. And so I sat down with myself and realized, that through the years I've always felt something wrong with this feeling, with the yearning for somebody (in general), or with falling for somebody (specific). And I've fallen for dozens, head over heels, and never got with most of them. But I realized that when I got it, it wasn't what I had wanted. I felt attracted and later attached to someone, but it was just the mystery, the challenge, the hunt or my glorification. Sure, love feels good, but I can love a friend, or a pet, I don't need a relationship for that. I miss sex somewhat, but obviously not enough to attempt anything for like a decade. It's really not anything to write home about, and the drugs... Well, they get released just fine in single player (though I do miss kissing, a lot, but not willing to kill the entire pig for a bite of meat). I realized that everything I think and feel at that point is just manipulation; it's just the brain hyping up the prospect for that sweet, sweet hormonal release it would bring. It makes everything you don't have seem so perfect (grass is always greener, right?). It makes you feel bad when you don't get it, and blame yourself until you do (the push for progress; being complacent leads to never improving, while feeling shitty is a motivation to do better in order to feel less shitty). For me though, I can't even believe that illusion anymore even if I wanted to. I wish I was 37 and never had a girlfriend, because the ones I had don't matter (they aren't here anymore), and I wouldn't know what I was theoretically missing (at least my damn brain wouldn't know the candy it COULD be getting; although mythologizing might be worse). None of that benefitted me in any way, my body craves those things today just like it did when I was a virgin, or 10 years ago, or 10 years down the line. However my mind tells me not to play stupid games anymore, because play stupid games, win stupid prizes. It never lives up to the hype. And even if it does, it doesn't last forever. I'm so glad I stopped chasing cars, because honestly, even today I wouldn't know what to do with one even if I caught it. There was always that feeling of "ok, now what?" somewhere in my mind, creeping more and more to the surface as the years went by. Today the whole thing is so alien to me that the whole idea of (cognitively or decisively) wanting, pursuing, or even accepting any kind of intimate arrangement is just laughable. I imagine that's what Neo felt like, looking at those poor dopes still wired to the Matrix and even defending it. That crap is not for me. It doesn't align with my goals. It will try to make me feel like shit, and my depression will crank it up to 11, but through the struggles brother, I can only offer you one piece of advice: don't let anyone but yourself judge your value, or your opinion of yourself. They don't decide how you should or will feel. They don't have to live with the consequences of that judgement - but you do. And you know yourself better than anyone else. Also, most people don't genuinely care either way if you're happy or sad, alive or dead. Feeling bad if someone doesn't like you, unless it's for the purpose of being motivation to improve yourself some way, is fucking crazy. Just because I'm attracted to someone doesn't make them an authority on what's valuable, and it doesn't place importance on their subjective tastes and opinions any more than yours.
But you've already figured that out, and congratulations to you for that. You've been through shit, and you're strong. Just don't let life break you like it broke me, and do what truly makes you happy. I used to think getting a girl was so cool and would make me so happy, or whatever. So each time I got disappointed or it went south, I just wrote it off as a fluke, cause next time I would strike gold. Yeah, right. Eventually you realize that what you want and what you've been chasing, doesn't even exist.
I just want to let you know that Jesus Christ takes any form of social anxiety, pain and any addiction away. Christ isn’t about religion, in fact He hated religion. It’s about having a relationship with God through Jesus. He loves you but hates sin. Seek Christ and you will 100% be transformed and find genuine peace. It’s a life long transformation journey until Jesus completes you. Jesus died for you, was buried and rose again, to also conquer all evil, sin, the devil and most importantly to reconcile us back to God after Adam and Eve sinned, which ultimately separated us from Him. We have to really follow Him daily and even when we mess up, we gotta repent and He will be there to forgive us. We gotta forgive other people who have done us wrong, for Him to forgive us but He will help us with that. I love you enough to not say anything. God Bless❤️
I fucking respect you for this. If you would be real and bold like this all the time, there would be girls who would absolutely love you. In this video you absolutely owned who you are like a man!
HAHAHA. Try telling a woman that you've never had a girlfriend or a relationship at 27. You'll be laughed at called a creep, a loser, etc. In a woman's mind, thats a RED FLAG. Please don't tell men how to attractive women, when you've never needed to attract a WOMAN. K thanks bye bb.
I'm 27, legally blind and never had a GF, I beleive the reason why I don't have one is because of my disability on top of being socially akward. I've longed to have a GF and it's frustrating that everyone rubs relationships and sex in your face all day while you can't have those things because of your looks, make enough money, aren't abled bodied or have a sparkling personality. I'm very sorry all of that happened to you, no one cares about male loneliness and when we try to speak about it it's treated as a joke, something that we created and it's our job to fix it.
@@Everything_TV123 Legally blind means very visually impaired, you can still see but it's so bad it can barely be used. That's where the term comes from.
You are a very valuable person and alot of people care about you. Dont feel bad for being alone, happiness comes from inside not ouside. I wish you the best!
It made me so emotional brother,just wanna hug you tight & say you did well in life,you are not a failure,noones a failure,its just society's ways of dividing us,actually life is pointless,so you have to find a purpose & you did with your guitar playing,so no matter the love life,you are a success brother & whoever rejected you,its their loss,not yours,& always put your self respect above everything cause you got a pure heart & I can feel it through the screen & dont let people take advantage of your kindness.You deserve the world,brother,lots of love,god bless.....
One of my biggest regrets before I had a gf was not having one. After I had one and was engaged then separated, my biggest regret was having a gf. We always want what we don't have and sometimes life gives it to you so you can see how overrated it really was. Regret nothing. Master the art of loving yourself before focusing on loving another.
I was more damaged by being in a relationship than I ever was being out of one. Your brain doesn't need temporary fake intimacy, it needs peace of mind and tranquility.
My brother was a virgin until he was 26, this shocked me when he told me as my brother is a very good looking and squared away man. Marine, carries himself as a Marine, stands at 6'2 a lean hard 190, and has a face that makes women jealous and men insecure. I asked him when he got married and told me one night we were drinking, I know for a fact he had numerous women chasing him. He never gave any of them the time of the day (which made them want him even more) he waited until he found the right one. She took his virginly after marriage and they have been married for nearly 10 years now and I have no doubt those two will grow old together. Love is out there bro. Stay strong.
This is completely different from MrGamingGuitarist's situation. Your brother did well, but most men don't have the same opportunities as him, so no, love is not "out there".
It happens alot more than people think, I'm 28 and I've only had 2 girlfriends, but I never lost my v-card, recently I had some opportunities but I'm not young and dumb where I need it to happen, Trust me it really matters who you're with
I respect you dude. Also I can tell all it’ll take is a couple small physical tweaks and quite a few mindset changes and you’ll be getting women in no time. I help my friend break out his funk with tough love and pure love as well as leading by example
I stumbled upon this video and listened all the way through. There’s a lot to unpack here, and I applaud you for having the courage to talk about your struggles openly with people. You are not alone. Men, especially, have been conditioned in our culture to “be strong” and to “man up” and hide their emotions. First and foremost, I would highly recommend you get with a therapist to help you navigate these thoughts and feelings. Group therapy can really be helpful too as you’ll often find other individuals going through similar situations. I would recommend you start journaling. It’s another way to release your emotions but in a safer space. The internet isn’t always a safe haven for empathy and understanding. Be careful as you read through the comments because some people are absolutely cruel and will not have your best interest at heart. Not being in a relationship or having a girlfriend is a secondary concern. The first concern is understanding where these ideas came from with regard to the “should” statements. “I should have a girlfriend” or “I shouldn’t be a virgin” are punitive and judgmental statements. Maybe start asking yourself why should you do/be anything? Maybe ask yourself who told you that you should do anything? You are entitled to live life at your own pace and there is no deadline to reach milestones in life. It sounds like there is a lot of self-hate and shame and that’s the first place to start. If one of your best friends came up to you with the same scenario of being alone and single, you wouldn’t shame them or belittle them. It serves no purpose to crucify yourself. If therapy isn’t available or affordable in your area, I would suggest finding a meet up group. Find a group of other individuals who have similar interests. Start meeting people and making new friends. The best partners start off as being friends. Try to focus on one day at a time. It can feel so overwhelming projecting into the future and trying to see “this is when I’m going to have a date” or “have sex” or “get married.” It will happen when the time is right. Just focus on one day at a time. Thinking too far into the future is going to catapult you into a very anxious and depressing mental state. And remember, you’re probably not going to find “the one” in a bar. There’s a good chance a lot of the people you meet in bars are self medicating with alcohol and are dealing with some serious emotions too. And when you look at that scar where you attempted to end it all, I invite you to reframe that scar as not being a symbol of failure, but a symbol that you are worthy of being alive and worthy of happiness and success. If the universe didn’t want you here, you wouldn’t have been born. And while you may still feel like a failure, you probably saved someone’s life who watched your video with the intent of self harm because they saw that there was someone else struggling in life. You are worthy of love and compassion. But it starts from within. Take care and please keep up posted. 🙏🏻
@@tennenyt5311 uhhh he’s definitely below average looking. Looking “fine” isn’t exactly a compliment. It’s like saying “you’re not a bad looking guy”, like what does that even mean? It means “you’re not good looking by any means but you’re not repulsive to look at.” If you’re not good looking you might as well be ugly
@@beeftestosterone4840 BTW can you tell me do I look average or above average or below average by seeing my RUclips videos. I am 21 and never had a gf and I am too shy and trying my luck on dating apps but no matches so far.
You're not alone, brother. I don't think it's your fault. I have a feeling It's a societal consequence of the digital age separating all of us into bubbles. You're creating. You're adding to this world more than you realize. And you're providing a place for thousands of people to talk about this issue. Thank you for that.
It 100% is his own fault. Not to sound elitist or anything, but the level of attraction to other people is based mainly off of how you present yourself. Portray depressivness because you have never kissed a girl, people are going to pic up on the desperation. or you could be confident in your own skin, and get better results. it all rests on how you feel, and how you display yourself. Saying it isn't your fault is severely counterproductive.
"It's a societal consequence of the digital age separating all of us into bubbles." These are my thoughts EXACTLY. Losing oneself in the internet and video games and fantasies destroys your sense of self-worth and social skills and indeed your perception of reality. The internet was a mistake. It's taken me so long to finally acknowledge this and I think it's happened too late...
this is becoming a norm for many young men to be struggling with this insane dating market, Im a 25 year old virgin, its really tough out here man, i know how you feel. it hurts.
Turning 30 in about 2.5 months. Guess I'll just be a wizard and do spells instead, heh. 😂 Edit [25.07.2023.] I'm a wizard now. So far, the only spell I can do, is the spell of existential dread, and it only works on myself. But at least I can now wear socks with sandals, so that's good, I guess...
@@jordon2608stop feeding your peers this bs. I’m a girl and Idc if they have money or they go to the gym, you’re just giving them false hope lmao. How about you start by being a decent fucking person
I am already 32. I never experienced the slightest amount of love in my life. Not because I dont want to. In fact I tried several things to find a partner: approach ing women, signing up on dating applications, joining new groups. Nothing worked. Every women rejected me. That a woman once found me attractive, never happend. I am completely alone. I never had a hug, a kiss or something like a realationship. Hell not even a date. Like most humen I crave romantic intimacy. Since I have been so long left without any, I became increasingly sick. I am suffering from insomnia, depression and panic attacks.
I feel you man, I'm 26, I tried when I was teen but never succeeded, then I gave up, I started hating talkin to people and i became depressed and anxious
Thank you my brother. Im only 25 but in the same position. Its nice to see that im not the only one. One thing i started to do is reading or anything just to have hobbies. Focus on yourself my brother, im rooting for you!
This is very brave of you man, and I applaud you big time. I struggled with girls for 20+ years (and still do a bit) but I have made tremendous progress by just improving on the things that I can control. Get your haircut, start working out, buy some good-fitting clothes, find a good community (gym, church, martial arts, barber shop, etc.), learn some skills, and put yourself out there. Another key is forming your own philosophy and living by it. The confidence you'll gain from living by your values and having deep self respect for doing so will do wonders for you. Early on in the dating process, don't get super invested, don't fantasize about marrying the girl and how she might be the one for you just yet. Take it slow and just be in the present. Women want a masculine man that can protect her and provide for her, hence why they often fall into the trap of falling for guys who treat them wrong. These guys often have the traditional masculine traits of confidence, fearlessness, taking risks, wittiness, etc. but are missing the essential ones that truly make them a good man. It has been this way since the beginning of man. Don't give up brother, I can tell you are a great guy with a big heart. We need more guys like you in this world. You are not alone in this struggle, it is not easy to be a man. However, you were created to be just that for a reason. God (a creator or whoever you believe in) saw you fit to be a man when He created you. There is a woman out there for you, but in the meantime, do what you can to become the man that she is looking for. Rather than look for the best potential partner for you, work on becoming the best potential partner for someone else.
I'm 23 and in the same camp. I'm physically handicapped and have been insecure about it my whole life. On top of that I have struggled with depression and ideas of suicide since I was 14. The last 3 years, after I left university early I have been sitting on my ass playing video games. I barely see my friends anymore, they don't really feel much like friends at all. Life sucks. Currently I'm looking into going to the gym to atleast grow some feeling of self-worth. Anyway, if this resonates with anyone somewhat, know you are not alone.
Bro. I’m in the same boat. I’m 24. I got a disability and I’ve been insecure the same. It came to the point where any social interaction with people in general I just shut down and go home. I have had chances with women and all but the anxiety of my disability would stress me out. So yeah you ain’t alone
Stay strong my bro you'll get past it .Just try to look at the current positives in your life right now no matter how small or big . Everyday you wake up is another day to be grateful . Bless ❤
I’m kind of in a similar situation but the opposite. I used to go to the gym and was in pretty great shape. I just started developing medical issues with my man parts unfortunately and it’s taken me out of gym for the most part and I have too much anxiety and pain related to it to go after a girl again. It’s been depressing as fuck and I don’t even know if my problems can be cured. Hopefully we all figure our lives out eventually.
Keep going bro, you got this. People can be extremely cruel sometimes but just know it is because they too are insecure. I know it can be difficult, but don't let them drag you down. Adversity will build you up to be a stronger person than they could ever be if you push yourself!
Hi, I was in the same boat man, 25 and a wheelchair user. Things have started to get a lot better for me socially since joining a Toastmasters club, highly recommend finding one in your local area :) stay strong
This is my absolutely favorite type of videos, no editing, no memes, no obnoxious sound effects, no music, just a random guy like us spitting truth and venting. I don't relate to any sigma or "literally me" character, this is the guy I relate to.
The person that I was in this video filmed when I was very depressed. Feel free to look at my more recent videos and live streams to see what the real me is like!
@@MrGamingGuitaristthis video reminded me of a friend I used to know , he used to video call me and talk to me about his life and his ambitions, his family problems , and how the people around him sucked , I only wished I was more supportive and present , more knowledgeable and reliable for him. I suspect he Took his own life but I am hopeful that he is still alive , living way better than before. this video motivates me to take action and to be grateful for mindset j have, the future is uncertain , my future is uncertain but I can chsnge the direction while I still have leverage over it. Thank you
@@MrGamingGuitarist Just take a time to think about this... relationships are unresolved karma from previous lives and that's why children are born. What if when we lack such karmas to resolve we just end up virgin? Like a repellant to relationships? Its beyond this physical reality... It's a spiritual issue we have. Most people sttuggle with putting unwanted children onto the world, not the other way around! The other way around is just too unfathomably uncommon, but it happens anyways, right?! Take some research on reality cocreation and how to manifest by using the mentality that you already have what you want instead of saying to yourself that you will have that onthe future, because the future does not exist, only the present and only by talking on your mind on the present terms that the Universe will hear you. If you say "I will have that" the Universe hears "You don't have that" and it will only hear that you have thay when your mind thinks "I already have that" then the Universe hears "You indeed have that".
Oh and by the way on the bar... The problem is that women want to be treated like disposable semen depository intakes instead of like a human being... It's innate in the female genetics. Rare ia a girl that wants to be treated like a human being.
I don't think this is normal, but I'm happy that I'm not the only dude in this planet who is soon 30 and he has never had any intimacy with the opposite sex.
Honestly I wish people didn't find this sort of stuff embarrassing. It's more common than we think for people in their lates 20s, 30s, so on to just not have any form of intimate connection simply because of factors out of their control. Anything from social anxiety, certain disabilities, or just living in a place that doesn't have many people is what often stops others from finding love or connecting with a social circle. This especially seemed to have increased due to Covid and the internet era, where we've been so isolated and don't know what to do. Stay strong man, don't feel ashamed.
The main reason for the large number of sexless men today is the extremely high standards modern women in the west have nowadays, which is caused by dating apps and social media. The huge amount of attention women get from guys on there inflates there perceived value and makes them pick only the top 10-20% of men. This is a huge problem, because without intimacy men become miserable and angry, they won't do any work anymore which is what kept our society functioning. So that will probably lead to a collapse of society, therefore this shouldn't be normalized. It's just really about shame, men crave sex and intimate relationships and feel miserable if they can't get that, regardless of what society thinks about that.
@@alexanderkroboth3310 I disagree with this entirely. You are putting the blame on women when we need to understand that this isn't just common amongst men. This happens to women as well. Sex is not a fundamental part of a man's happiness and that is why we need to normalize letting men know that it's not necessary to seek it. As a matter of fact, normalizing that men need sex leads to even greater problems- rape, objectification, incels, bad etiquette, etc. The reason many men struggle to find romantic partners can be for the following: religion, social anxiety, isolation, working too much, living in a small town, and the list goes on. Blaming it on just women alone or simply narrowing it down to sex is a very uneducated take. Men need love, men need support, men need to know compassion and empathy and most importantly, we need to know that our life has other factors that can contribute to our happiness. If you are struggling to find a relationship, it's important to learn why it may be that you can't find one. Sometimes we need to remember that we can be the problem, too. And no, it will not be the collapse of society. There are far worse things that could lead to a societal collapse, and single men in their late 20s and 30s will absolutely not be the cause of that lmfao
@@zeltheclown7720 Of course there is more to a mens life then sex, but I still think sex is an essential part. The whole reason a men strives to advance in his career and earn more money so that he can have a wife that he can provide for, have children with and who satisfies his needs for sex and intimacy. This strive is what built our civilisation, and women raise the next generation in this civilisation, both roles are equally important. But if a men can't get a women he loses all motivation for doing any of that. You see that with men who stay in their parents home and don't even try get a job, or they do the bare minimum to survive. In Japan they are also known as hikikomori. And I'm not just blaming women, our society at large created these problems. Modern society is quite hostile towards men and blames them for everything, and women are told they always deserve better. Just watch street interviews where they ask women what their requirments for a men are, they commonly say at least 6ft tall, over 100k salary and give you a 30 items long list of requirments.
@@alexanderkroboth3310 I think you also need to understand that you can't always expect a woman to like you. Street interviews don't show the true majority of women nor do they count for all of what women think. Sometimes we as men need to realize that we need to find women that are right for us, and not expect women to come to us. It takes confidence to find the right woman and it takes time. Other things may slow us down but it doesn't mean we can't change it. And this can count for gay men too, or for men who have different personal issues that make it harder for them to find love. Like I said, if you struggle to find a relationship, chances are you might need to fix your own problems first. Your health is more important than a relationship. When you find that help, you are ready to look for someone who is willing to date you. Don't listen to what society says about men. Everyone has different standards and there will always be someone for you as long as you're not basing your opinions off of things you see online, like street interviews for example. Go outside and see the real world, talk to women and find someone who is interested. I guarantee you they're not all like what you see or hear online.
really ... same stories and same pains... You don't look bad bro, as me. Hope your life bounced and gone right. My life is starting going well because i accepted my situation and my being.
@@322Mermaid What a worthless reply. Do you really think it's that simple? If you're so much better than the rest of us, what are you doing on this video?
You shouldn't be down on yourself for acting sincerely. I was 29 and my workplace crush actually laughed when I asker her out, not realising I was being serious at first. Her laugh played on a loop in my head for a YEAR. I don't regret it though, there are women in my life who I never asked out and I still have that "I wonder if..." part of my brain with them. Keep your head up, brother.
Like a year or 2 ago when i was 15 im 16 now i was made fun of constantly because there were a few girls in my school i thought were cute i tried to be nice to them and always tried to help them and boost their sef esteem but only to be made fun of for it i tried to play it off like i didnt care but deep down it made me so mad im not even a bad looking guy lots of girls think im cute and what not but it still hurt it sucks when you care for someone and they just laugh in your face
You’re the guy that people would give anything to meet in person. Cause the honesty and transparency you have a humble meek realist soul goes a long ways then those putting on a show too be liked for somebody they not.I agree with you as a single man myself never been married 38 years old. Life has taught me once you graduate high school college you gotta get married have kids but not telling the truth not everyone is meant for marriage that was a hard thing for me too take in. I found out life is more than just getting married with kids. Yeah I see those couples holding hands I’m like wish I couple experience that but what looks like heaven in public can be hell behind closed doors not saying with everybody. Yeah in your 20’s it’s hard as hell too be single I was there myself I hated too hear love songs like I run to you I’m like who do single folks run to when shit hit the fan? I learned as I gotten older the pull isn’t powerful as it was in my 20’s. You get to the point if ever get married that’ll be great if not I’ll still enjoy life. I gotta pick if I’m meant too be married finding a girlfriend hope I find her before I get any older lol
@@asgoritolinasgoritolino7708 no they aren't, and you're being sexist. Some are. Arguably many. Some would go so far as to say most, but I'd disagree. But it's not an inherent property of women to be superficial. treating it as a given is sexism. yes, plenty are superficial. some aren't. don't generalise - instead call out the subset of women who are a tad superficial. ideally, consider the flipside of men, and whether they're as superficial. imo, men and women both exercise pretty privilege a fair bit. this is what it means to have a nuanced opinion - its not us vs them, and generalisations can only be so accurate. i know this is an over the top reply, but i need my point to be heard tbh
This is the same advice people give and it doesn't do anything. How come most people doesn't need to do any of these things and are in a relationship? You're assuming he's not doing anything to improve
I feel you, man. Sometimes, life well not get simple for relationships. For me, I never had relationships in my life (include my school year) which it helps me to stay on track for myself to become better dependent and motivation. I’m always here for you, mate.
This video popped up on my feed, so I guess it’s meant for me to say something. I’m not gonna say that I’m having the same problems as you but I have my struggles too. When I have these conversations with women, I always bring up the guys in your situation because the men that dont have trouble with women will never acknowledge a guy like you. Women don’t either because they don’t even know you guys exist. The men that women are interested in is the average man to them and I always make sure that I acknowledge that most guys are struggling with women. I say, just keep your head up and work on yourself. I’m glad you’re able to have a space where you can speak your story because the social media world doesnt care about men struggles. Just know that I understand because I pay attention to you guys and not just popular sh!t people talk about everyday. Keep pushing forward man 💯💯
He ain’t no warrior, he’s a self loathing pussy, who, if he continues down this track, will continue to be single. Tbh with you, he’s a complete fuckin weirdo, this is school shooter type of dilusional
Facts all us guys are warriors but the way to solve this problem is to let it go and focus on other stuff in life that ur good at and get rich be married to ur money cause i am
Women will never understand male loneliness brother. Stay strong. Continue to work on yourself. Hit the gym. Work on hobbies. Join a club. Make more friends. Become a more interesting man, gain experiences. You can do this brother.
@@18yearoldcel yep, becoming a man is realizing nothing is given to you and nobody really gives a fuck about you outside of your family (if you're lucky)
You were intresting right from that day You were born. Atleast preference of intrest is just scope of human nature. Universaly in sense, You are that Intrest of Life energy to exist. There is nothing un-intresting, but only outside of scope of human preference.
What’s crazy is 27 was the worst year of my life. Then things changed for the better because I focused on myself and fought to learn to love myself. Not every journey is a sprint. You got this man! You’re a legend in my eyes just for posting a video like this that many men are also going through.
I’m 27 and yeah I thought I had rough patches before. I’m so lost tbh, lonely af, quit my job coworkers/friends talk less and less, was living alone and became reclusive, was gonna commit soduku but just dislocated my shoulder bonked my head, so I sold/gave away everything been driving around the country and stuff, was fun at first but it’s been 6 months, feel homeless/down past 2 months. Becoming socially apathetic again, Rn in a motel and feel like I’m floating no purpose, I know I should just get any job and get some roots but I feel far gone. It’s my fault I know complaining doesn’t help but damn. Realizing how much I took for granted. I will not die at 27, gotta go outside and move but I fell like Frodo at the end when he has to leave on the boat lol. Sorry just wanted to rant. You say it’s a marathon but I need to sprint and not stop. momentum. Got a truck/ tent/ a few grand, average health and alone. This will be my last self pity internet post. Get working, get solid people in my life, open up icecream dessert shops, get a girlfriend, kids, married, stay solid, grand kids, die at 97ish before dementia. I’ll be the foundation for a whole community, and a bunch of people won’t have to be alone. alone is the worst, addictions and other bad habits don’t compare honestly. TLDR 27 has been rough
I had a girlfriend when I was 21, a disastrous relationship mind you, but that was 5 years ago and I've been single ever since. Age 26 now. Trying to divert attention elsewhere. I think when the time is right, we'll all find ladies, if we truly want them and it's meant to be. I truly believe this.
39 here I won lol… relationships are a waste of time anyway. Waste of money and things are getting too complicated with potential food scarcity, Russia vs Ukraine and expensive gas to waste it on potentially failing relationships
@@EricSPizarro Yes i understand but this is apart of a normal life and its not just the money wasting its about experiencing sex love compassion and how it feels to be with a woman i will never know how that feels anyways but i guess thats the beautiful mystery 🤔
I had my first gf at 26, turned out she had schizo affective bpd. She got me fired from my job and i stayed for a year to try to help her but it was just in vain. Don’t rush into relationships, put yourself out there,date some girls,befriend them, play the field,see what you value in a person and work on whatever you need to personally. But don’t place your self worth on whether you’re in a relationship or not. The wrong relationship can drastically change your life.
@@FloppaTheBased you find ways to improve your situation…or cope. You don’t scar yourself so others see down the line and judge you rather than understand lol
I'm really glad I randomly came across this video. Bro, you're not alone. Going on 31 with never holding a single serious relationship. I used to watch 40-year-old virgin as a kid and laugh but shit foreshadowed today's day and age.
@@34NG Lmao it just never worked out. It's all good. Someone will eventually come around. But until then, we chillin fam. Single life is under appreciated 😅
I have never watched the 40 year old virgin, I can tell by the name he eventually will lose his virginity but it feels like the movie is mocking me and also foreshadowing the same way it does for u. Just another 19 years and I am that real life 40 year old virgin.
@@DillyBobThorntonTBH it's over for you. By 30 if you haven't found someone the chances of it happening are incredibly slim to none because most people in your age bracket have already gone through certain stages and your simply behind. Im not saying it to be negative but in the hopes that you understand this reality and accept it's over. This way you can try focusing your life on other things you enjoy without living in the hopes that it'll happen for you. It won't. Try to find fulfillment in other things imom
You’ve shown insane amounts of courage even recording this video, there a MILLIONS of men just like you around this planet. Please don’t give up brother, persevere, remember that things don’t happen to you, they happen for you, there’s light at the end of the tunnel, and it takes a courageous person to travel this path. Life will get better, and you will look back at this time of your life and laugh. Much love to you I hope you’re doing well, just know even though you feel alone, you’ve found a community here that understands you ! ❤
The hardest part for me is seeing my friends and even younger cousins get more action than me. Some of my former classmates are probably already married by now.
I hope you don't delete this video. Use it as a means to measure yourself in the future as a way to see your improvements overtime. I hope things do get better for you.
My whole life was hard too still is,but you gotta toughen up and stop feeding sorry for yourself. All this negative self talk is bringing you down. Your your own worst enemy!
My heart breaks for you, brother. Stay strong and don't give up. I sincerely hope you find someone who loves you in the way that you deserve to be loved.
I'm in the same position as he is. He's one of the guys who understands what's I'm going through and vice versa. I tried for years to get to know girls, and all they do is lie to me, reject me, ignore me and ghost me. Most of my family has been in relationships and marriages, except me. That's why I gave up because it's pointless and its like pulling teeth.
He failed in life, simply put. I represent every human being on Earth with my words -ask anyone else they'll agree with me. I'm every person on the planet.
I’m 21 and in the same boat. Because of my passions, I’ve befriended many older people. One of my closest friends, and my true guide in life will soon be 72. Until he was 35, he had never been in a relationship. Now he’s been married for over 35 years. We’re introverted, both struggle with depression, and philosophize too much for our own good. At the same time, his story saved my life. We all have our own paths, and it can be really hard sometimes, but know you’re not alone in this.❤
You articulate beautifully, and your strength is profound. If you do not date, you need to either discover or create a life where you feel fulfilled. My fiancée lives on the other side of the planet, as I would never date here again.
Yup. I’m 26 and I’ve give up looking for a girlfriend. After tons of delusions I’ve decided to give up and focus on myself, even if it means to stay lonely for the rest of my life. I don’t care I’m gonna carry that weight. I’m sorry for your story and I want to say that you’ve got f*cking guts that tons of men/women don’t have. Stay strong brother
it takes some damn balls to come up and admit something like that in front of a camera and post it to the whole internet to see. i respect you for that, brother.
Wow I first found this video 5 months ago before I’ve ever had a girlfriend and in that time period I both got into a relationship and out of it, and now this video came right back to me. And now, in a different way than before, it’s even more helpful
31 here and and deciding to stay single. Back when I was 27 I still had hopes to eventually find a girlfriend, a possible marriage, maybe a kid, and even met someone I thought was it. I was totally able to picture a future with them but things just never happened. After that I lost total interest in the idea of a relationship. I’m not affectionate, expressive, or romantic and struggle with mental health so I’d probably be a crappy boyfriend anyway. I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed or feel bad about.
@@Bran2Xtrem3 While this is true for many guys out there overall there will still be lots of guys who will never have a girlfriend(like some of the guys I talk to for example).
Being able to open your heart to everyone like that while being sober.... You're probably the strongest man i've ever listened to... Edit:I hope you get to keep this video in here for a day when you'll be better. And don't you worry the day will come
In high school and through my early twenties I was friends with a guy whom you remind me of. He was treated like shit a lot and I was good to him mostly but I wasn’t the best friend at times either. As time went on we got closer and I grew to really love him as a brother, he too had never had a girlfriend. But he was a deep lover and dreamed of a romantic relationship with someone. He was flawed, awkward, but acted out in maddening ways that would make us mad sometimes. But I knew who he was deep down, and I loved him for it. People like you are good people, you don’t deserve this. I hope you’re well, stay strong and trudge forward, you’re not alone in this.
@@marvin2678He would end up getting a girlfriend, but it would turn out she was awful. She isolated him from us, and then he would do some really uncool things while under her manipulation, to drive us away. Our other friends are angry at him and refuse to speak to him. It’s been seven years, I’m trying to set something up for him and I to hang out this Saturday
Fuck that. There's no point in continuously hurting yourself over half ass crushes and randoms you meet. It's unfortunate that guys end up like this, but continuous rejection is such a useless game. Something else needs to change.
I agree with both perspectives. I think that we need to be better companions to each other and stop killing each other over women, we can always use artificial wombs to create as many as we want. There's also things in the torah that might help@@erboch7124
I could see the pain in his eyes. I have that same pain. You look into his eyes and you see a man whose been through things he shouldn’t have had to go through. A good person whose been severely hurt by those around him.
Honestly, it's okay to be single. Some of us aren't built for relationships, like myself. I always struggled with worrying too much, showing my feelings and other stuff. I just learned that relationships aren't for me, I would cause more harm to the person than good in my opinion.
People say its okay but if youve been longing for something special, to experience something like love.. saying or thinking its okay not to try for that is redundant
Brother, I think the same as you. I'm 35 years old, I'm Brazilian, and here in my country many men are suffering like us. We live in an era where women are increasingly demanding and looking for the most outstanding men. In average men we need to deal with loneliness in a way that transforms this sadness and anger into an incentive to improve in other areas of life. I have always been turned down or rejected by women. I came to the same conclusion as yours: I must not be a nice enough person and I wasn't born to be someone's partner either. Unfortunately I accepted this after a painful experience I had last year where I was switched from one week to the next. It's sad, it hurts our soul. It hurts our self-esteem. But we need to focus on another path and know how to deal with it, following our path alone. A hug from Brazil to you.
you are exactly where you are supposed to be man. Dont stress it, ive felt like this before, the feeling of wanting to be loved can make you lose yourself. Its okay. Your not a bad looking guy my friend. Once you learn to just relax and build self confidence, that will reflect on other things especially with women. Just take it easy, we love you brother.
Those scratches could hopefully be concealed as a cool tattoo of your new identity to surpass your past and make your future. Like choosing to take and lift the weights and building yourself with confidence than letting trauma make and dictate us. 💯 I wish you find the girl and make the family you deserve to have.
Hey everybody! I finally got around to uploading an update to this video. Here it is: ruclips.net/video/elWZDf_Ng48/видео.html
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I’m proud of you making such progress bro, keep it up!
oh what the hell what a coincidence i only stumble across this video as you make an update to it
@@comkioxd I KNOW SAME IT SAID 5 seconds ago
@@comkioxdthe algorithm is going crazy
"Nobody dies a virgin... Life fucks us all"
-Kurt Cobain
Stay strong brother. I know exactly how you feel.
What does that quote have to do with anything
@@jeremys3951 did you watch the video? fuck head
That quote is so true! Nirvana is awesome! R.i.p kurt cobain!
@@jeremys3951 it's true to life. Do you seriously not get that? 😑
Based
Honestly i know the degree of courage it takes for a man to admit this reality in front of a camera. So many tears are hidden under our smiles
And that is your true enemy... Yourselves! Why can't you be honest with yourselves? Because you guys, live pending what others will say. So, you live pretending to be someone you are not and your internal emptiness grows until it becomes a black hole, which turns you into abusive, vulgar and bitter men. Do you think women want someone like that in our lives? We also deal with our emotional issues!, have you ever thought about that? Or is life just and exclusively about you?
@@IraSol37 Im confused... what exactly is your point?
@@IraSol37 You sound like the bitter one here and you need psychological sanitation. I only said it takes courage to be vulnerable that's all,God bless you
@@IraSol37you know nothing about people. People are vulnerable irrespective of gender but sexually it is hard for men.
Also saw this video today. Agree with you!
I just wanted to say this video is not cringe or depressing. It's incredibly brave of you to come forward and admit all this out loud. You're not alone at all.
Everyone starts off exactly where you are. Everyone starts off unable to do a thing before deciding they are going to do whatever it takes to accomplish what they're reaching for. Right now sucks but it will be this moment that you look back at and eventually will fuel the happiness you feel in the future.
I think being in love is a crucial aspect of a high quality and fulfilling life. I have a friend who has a highly paid job and rich family, but he never had a girlfriend. His self destruction came to the point where he uses benzos with alcohol, although benzos are his prescribed medication.
@@user-lx7kq5ci5l Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
KJV Bible says;
Matthew 6:31
Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
Luke 12:22
And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
Matthew 6:25
Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
Its not cringe Its scary, and if he wants a girlfriend he should take it down because it gives major incel vibes. Im not saying he cant talk about his experience, but he should do it when he’s more calm and accepting of his situation.
There is a female youtuber who went viral for talking about her lack of pretty privilege and she came across much better because she had a sense of humor about her crappy encounters with men.
@@disneytoysr4fun975 Not every woman is an insecure emotional wreck. Some are actually confident and caring people. I know they're not on the internet but they make up most of the world.
I am a 51 year old retired police officer, never married, and never had kids. My longest relationship was nine years, and it was the worst time of my life. She was a toxic human being. I finally ended that in 2009. Since then, my dating has been sporadic, nothing real serious. Dating is a royal pain in the ass, and women can be cold, self centered, and mean spirited. Believe in yourself and don’t rush into anything. You’ve got a lot of good people in your corner. Stay strong.
I don't try to insult you but have you consider taht maybe you are gay, asexual or something? Sounds wreird to me that you try to date but dont enjoyed at all and have that image of a women. I wrote this with my best intentions.
Sorry you had to go through all that...
It was a learning experience.
Same here bro.
would have been much MUCH worse if you married her. and the time spent being not married was her imposing her frustration on you because all of her stupid friends are married and shes singled out feeling lesser.
women have these thoughts already before you meet them
It’s not embarrassing or cringe. You’re human with completely valid human feelings. I can’t stand that society doesn’t believe in men’s social health
Nobody really cares about a mans social health because outta 50 percent they a creep or something
yeah we're on the same page, humanity sucks sometimes
I’m glad that grown men can talk about their problems without getting made fun of. It was a lot different not that long ago
@@cockandballtortureconnoiss2643 your take is mid, but I have no right to dislike you because your view. Especially not with a name like that
@@simpletim8186 yea like if this video wasn’t made that closes the door to learn from this man’s problems and for him to learn from ours there’s so many people that want to help and all it takes is one asshole to ruin that especially online
Also, never regret telling a girl you like her. Much more regret comes from inaction than action, trust me
Edit: I should've said "Never regret shooting your shot." I would never actually tell a girl "I like you." I would subtly make her WONDER if I like her, which will increase her interest. And then when you ask her out, she will be excited because you've just validated her wonders, and she'll be more likely to say yes. Pardon my misspeaking. I wrote a book on this and it's what my channel is about, so I should know better lol. But my main point remains: It's better to take action than not.
At least you find out real quick where you stand
Exactly@@rogerheisler2554
I always say to make your intentions CLEAR AS DAY to the girl straight away, this gets rid of the hassle and confusion later down the line. you can clearly see this guy didn't do that... and as a result, he had the dreaded phrase "I love you, just not like that teehee" ...aka the friend-zone. may you all learn from this.
In passing sometimes I will straight up tell a girl I think she looks good (or something to that effect) and ask for her number. But when I know I'll be interacting with her for a while, I like to keep her wondering if I like her or not. That way, when I actually try to advance with her, she's happy to say yes. Funny, speaking of the friendzone, I have tons of videos asking girls about escaping the friendzone 😂@@DanteLikesRock
yh, that time will pass anyway, so if u want what u want u have to use it
I’m a 20 year old virgin who’s never had a boyfriend nor a first kiss. I’m as happy as I could ever be.
You do realize that women have more options than men, right? A woman can literally pick and choose who to go on dates with. From using dating apps, social media, etc. You cant compare yourself to what this man is going through. Life is easy for a woman in the date scene. We men have to deal with all the BS that comes with chasing women. Have a good day.
Stop lying sloot
@softeuph3974 I’m the same age as you and it’s the same for me, no one believes me when I say I’m a virgin cause I’m “a guy”.
When a man is a virgin, he is seen as a loser.. Totally different from women
@@JaySmall-rr1iw trust me bro we believe you
Hey brodie, be me: a 27 year old that has never had a girlfriend. I did the thing and downloaded tinder, something I feared. Putting myself out there, rejection, etc. I legitimately met the love of my life, that was 2 years ago. We have a life together and are building it everyday. You've gotta take a plunge, and you have to say yes to things that make you uncomfortable. Good luck brother, as it definitely is luck. But I believe in you.
Shame on you for endorsing that evil money pit of a site. You should watch some videos on the evils of tinder & dating apps. If they worked they'd go out of business
I've never gotten a match on there. I uninstalled.
you're the overwhelming minority
Bro i am swiping from the last 5 years got no match till date 😂
@@namelessxdreadI can help you with that
You’re not an idiot for not turning the light on, the video started in daylight and the sun gradually set. You’re a good man bro
Is sad that everyone call me a idiot,stupid,dumb and moron being asperger syndrome at age 28 no friends and girlfriend really sad . I feel like a loser but I always try my best and I feel bad for this guy too . People shouldn’t call people idiot
@@BreakingJJC Learn to ignore them bro youre not stupid you have a mental disorder its not your fault. focus on what you can control not what you cant.
this video is genuinely cinematic holy shit
@@BreakingJJCdamn bro you ever try weed? You can go out and meet lots of people or even hemp shit like that smoke some joints meet people in public if that’s for you it helps
@@ccwarpathnah nigga it causes panic attacks
You just did something which so many other men in the world are unable or afraid to do…express yourself on camera to the world. You have serious courage man
Im sorry bro....but homie giving off shooter vibes. Like I'm listening to a villain origin story.
@@willwhite6110it's because ur not used to people authentically documentating their inner thought process and maybe cuz Elliot Rodger did similar vlogs so you associate it with him
@@merit7344 possibly, but he's really pushy on forcing women to like him. You see these patterns with almost all (how do I say this...) "victims" in journals and blogs/vlogs before they do something to hurt others....His story is sad...and he's even tried to hurt himself admittedly. He should seek therapy. My advice would be for him to work on himself and have a better love for himself before seeking it from others... Hit they gym 5-6 days a week, volunteer, learn a new skill on the side...because the path he is on, seems like its only a matter of time before it turns dangerous.
@@willwhite6110 There are guys that do all of it and women still act as if they don't exist. And I don't see what part of his vlog suggested he was pushy, it seems like he just did the normal basic interactions most people do and still got less results compared to others which possibly has to do with his face looks
@merit7344 but why should anyone need or want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't have self care. Low credit score, doesn't go to the gym, doesn't make enough money to support a family, and emotionally damaged. Why should anyone want that. He needs self love definitely before trying to love someone else. Most women and men who truly care for themselves would want and need to have self care and improvement. After that you can focus on if you want to include someone else in your self journey
I was still a virgin at 47. Lonely and miserable for most of my life. I was under constant torment. I was a LOT like you are now.
Now at 60, I look back and realize that my problem had nothing to do with my looks, just like your problem has nothing to do with your looks. You are not bad looking!
Your problem is that you are too focused on yourself. You need to get OUTSIDE of yourself. When I finally learned how to do that things started to change for me.
At 47 I met my future wife who was 34 at the time, never married and BEAUTIFUL! Three years later I was married with two awesome kids. I am still happily married today, and am loving every minute of fatherhood. Forget yourself and start taking a genuine interest in others. And remember, desperation is a turn off! So, have NO expectations and things will start to happen for you. Good luck and God’s blessings to you!
Damn how do you feel about not having had sex until a late age
you're lying. He is bad looking for women. You just can't say otherwise when you're kicked out of the bar for saying 1 sentence to a girl.
I dont believe what i'm writing, but i believe that kind of thinking will steal happiness from you.
@@nobodysperfect06
You became a beta buxxer for a used up roastie. She had her fun while you suffered for 47 years. Brutal.
@@nobodysperfect06 sex is overrated
41 and never had a girlfriend or dated. At the end of the day your inner peace is the most important thing.
Wow man really 41 and never dated too? I am a guy who turned 23 over a month ago(on 22nd December) and I never had a girlfriend before. I did go on my first ever date 4-5 months ago at the age of 22 and she was 19(turned 20 few weeks ago) and had my first ever hug too (she turned out to be toxic to me 2 weeks after the date and blocked me everywhere) and also 3 months ago went out with a female friend who is also 23 where we go for classes for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 6-7 months ago and planning to study MBA next. We had lunch in a big restaurant(but idk whether to count it as a date as we are just friends). I also had been crushing on this another girl(lets call her A) in that same class where I go now and she also turned 23 over 2 weeks ago and I even gave her a chocolate last week and she too knew I had a crush on her and has called me cute before too but things changed as last week I got a new crush on this another girl(lets call her B) in the same institute but different classrooms. She is within 21-23 age range and one of the prettiest girl I have ever seen and I was too shy to approach her but 5 days ago, with the help of my friends and one of her classmate I was finally able to talk to her a bit and I was feeling butterflies and today I again met her and told her Hi first with a smile and she too smiled back at me and said me Hi back but she was going to her classroom so we couldn't have a conversation today. Everyone including that girl A came to know about it and she isn't really trying to talk to me and said that I am not loyal enough so she won't talk to me(idk whether she was joking or not). 3 days ago, was chocolate day and one of my friend jokingly said me to give chocolate to A again but she said she doesn't want a chocolate from me. I am afraid that B is probably out of my league as she is very pretty almost model like and I am just average I guess and plus I was too nervous that day while talking with her in person so idk how it will go. I am such a mess that I like another girl(lets call her S) with whom I had been chatting on Instagram for the past 7 months. She is 19 now(turning 20 in April) and we used to be in the same school but didn't knew each other in school days and now she is in a different college. We send each other virtual hugs daily and we will meet up this month too to eat somewhere as we are both foodies and she has no idea about these 2 girls A and B. But after getting crush newly on this girl B, I am mostly thinking about her and not giving much attention to A and S whom I have known longer than B. Idk what to do. If B rejects me, then I won't have chance with A as she probably have a negative perception about me now for getting multiple crushes.
@@manosijroy8282why you keep posting this same shit over and over? Nobody cares
Dang. Have you ever tried meeting girls?
Wtf dude go outside and touch the grass come on go overseas good lord
@@user-wi6bl4pb3r😂😂 right I was like wtf
It honestly saddens me how men's mental health isn't taken as seriously as others. Its almost unprecedented. Us men are bred to be cold, emotionless creatures, slaving away to provide for those who only laugh at our hardships. Times like these, we need a brotherhood. We need to encourage eachother to do better when noone else does. Learn to be happy for who we are. Become financially stable, get into better health. Theres nothing wrong with you. Don't ever allow someone to tell you differently, you got this brother. 💪
Women don't give a fuck about men's mental health, they have no idea what men endure
I see no lies men are mocked when they are at their low points of life and display any emotion that isn’t stoic. Men have been taught to shut this down, but women have also been taught to expect this even though it’s not natural to suppress emotions they need to be released and dealt with to move on. This judgement prevents men from growing and expressing how they’re truly feel about life.
how about eating better foods??? this is such an underrated thing that NOBODY TALKS ABOUT, but if you see the toxic chemicals they put into chips, sweets, processed foods, you'll understand why many of our mental health suffers. we are literally what we eat. this is such an obvious fact yet everyone overlooks it. if you eat junk, expect your thoughts and mental state to reflect JUNK.
I love this philosophy. Reflecting what you want to become in all that you do. How about how you talk to your parents?; what about how you spend your free time? Although we cannot control what people say to surpress who you are within, you ultimately must receive the consequences of your actions! All praises to the most High @@DanteLikesRock ✝
Nice fantasy bro but not happening in your lifetime
I’m 31, turning 32 and never had a gf or been on a date/had a girl tell me she liked me. I feel for you bro. Stay strong ❤️🙏🏼💪👑
I am 21 so I am a decade younger than you and I never had a gf either and didn't even get my first kiss yet. I am too shy in real life so I try dating apps but I don't even get matches. I feel too sad that I still didn't find the love of my life yet.
i assume losing your virginity to an escort or sex worker is out of the question for you
@@manosijthehero3686 still got time at 21 because a 21 year old isn't as expected to have everything straightened out. I'm 39 and still a dateless virgin so hopefully you won't be like me
@@manosijthehero3686 same man I just turned 18 🥺
@@manosijthehero3686 just di the matches you and you will get one
29 Going on 30 pretty soon doesn’t help I am 5’5 and still look like a teenager at 29. Still haven’t got my first kiss, but this video really open my eyes. I thought i I was alone in this, and I realize I’m not the only one. first time in my life I want to improve myself and mental heath health, since I’m tired of being alone. not only from having a GF from having actual friends. I’m not just be bitter and pushing everyone away. I want to live life not just exist.
It will pay off one day my friend. By the time you’re 40 and you don’t look like all the other 40 year olds, you will pull 25 year old females. Give it time. I wish you the best.
that's kind of delusional. 5'5 is kinda short. Unless he works out and has a good looking face, his chances are slim at best@@retard6477
@@retard6477damn it took so long for him then😂
You know what. I love your tenacity. In life’s struggles, the strong do what you do, and the weak turn bitter. You are wonderful and capable of so much. Your imagination restricts all. You could walk outside in a banana suit tomorrow and scream at the top of your lungs. People will laugh for a moment and guess what? They will look back at their phones and delve back into their own problems. Because nobody fucking cares. Take the shot! Ask her/him out! Fucking do it! You live once and your biggest regret will be never even trying. Try. What’s the worst that can happen? Promise me you will get out there, meditate, try cognitive behavioural therapy if you must. Just don’t give up! Peace and love brother,
You’re the man and you’re worth it. Life is a playing field. Experiment. Everyone is in their own world anyway and you’re merely a character in it. Write your own story, your own world. Nobody will lose sleep on your lost achievements. They are yours. Don’t forget what I tell you. I don’t say this from blind ignorance of obvious constraints being 5’5. But again, your loss will be not trying. There is someone out there for you.. many infact. Just search, take the first step, don’t be afraid all will be okay. Just don’t fucking stop or turn back.
I’m currently 26 years old, and I’ve never even been on a date. Your story of getting kicked out of the bar reminds me of the time I asked the cashier out on a date. We chatted a bunch of times. And she seemed really nice, so I just gave her a card I made myself saying “They say there are plenty of fish in the sea, would you be interested in going out on a date to the fisherman’s market with me?” And it had my phone number. I remember I started a conversation with her, we were both going to Las Vegas at almost the same time, I told her I got her a card, and her face completely lit up, she was smiling and blushing. She read it, and just seemed mesmerized by it. She told me she’d text me, and she never did. And the next time I went to the store, she would intentionally avoid me. Like she was ringing people up, and soon as it was my turn, she would yell at her coworkers and say it was her break. This went on 5 times. Then I didn’t even see her at all after that. I hate that they just assume that I’m not gonna take no for an answer and play these stupid ass games with me. I would way rather hear No than sit and wonder when you’re going to respond, then avoid me like I have the emotional regulation skills of an 8 year old. I bet if she asked a guy out, and he said no, he wouldn’t just start avoiding her. It made me so mad. Thanks for sharing that man. There’s a lot more single lonely guys especially after the rise of social media apps. There’s no longer a sense of community, dating apps are horrible, and promote hookup culture. Your brain isn’t fucked up, these are really tough times we live in. We have all the food and resources that our grandparents didn’t have, but we lack the strong communities that they had to keep them fighting. Life has been a real tough journey for me. I’ve experienced a lot of ups and downs, I’ve accomplished a lot of things, but being a part of the community is a huge part of my life that’s missing. No wife, no girlfriend, no family, and no real long term friends. I literally have my parents and siblings and that’s it, after that, I ain’t got no one else.
I am 21, never had a girlfriend and still a virgin myself. I know exactly how you feel. You start asking yourself crazy questions, mentally you start beating yourself up. I’ve already accepted this loneliness. But besides all of this, just know i am here for you. And anyone who’s living in this position.
Same bro I'm 19 same situation
@@patrickgoldenbridge1891 yall sum loser go get sum pussy
Same boat but i don’t feel depressed about it or anything.
God puts people through suffering and hardships to show them how much He cares about them. "Embrace and be grateful for everything you have, good and bad". Scriptures.
@BlueSkyCountry God doesn't exist dipshit, stop using religion as a way to give people false hope.
Bro i'm 27 and i got no money, no social life, no friends, no gf and makes u feel bad but at the end the only one who can save you is yourself, good luck brother and don't give up.
I'm 24 jobless as fuck
@@carymnuhgibrilsamadalnasud1222my man 😣💪🏻
having money is not gonna change anything unless you want to spend it all to impress women which I believe is a losing strategy anyway
Same here specially for the poverty part.
i'm 35 and never had a gf
You're not alone bro ❤ from what I've seen in my 32 years of life is that youll find someone in circles of a passion of yours. Make sure you arent being shallow yourself.
you had the courage to speak for all of us all brother, you have a heart of gold and you are a great man.
Sorry about your girl man. And your eye. Pretty rough
I'm 25, virgin, and I am struggling with severe depression. Ur not the only one who goes through this. Someday you will find the right person in life, 👍 stay strong
I hope you find the right person as well.
exact same...
Everything that society is comprised of are just ideas and concepts, they are not rooted in anyrthing. As soon as you realise that the social conditioning will go away. You dont actually want what you think you need, you already have everything.
Keeping you in my prayers
26 and dealing with this exact same issue too
I'm 25 and I don't even think I could even handle a relationship due to social issues , sexual issues, and the emotional devastation of knowing I screwed something up somehow. But my uncle is, for all I know, a lifelong single person, and he lives a fulfilling life and career, so I could look up to him if worse comes to worse.
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@@PodcastFusionOfficialbro 😭
What do you mean by social and sexual issues? And have you ever asked your uncle about reasons behind his loneliness, are they logical or emotional, maybe he was traumatised by really close person to him he decided to stay single forever, something similar to Keanu Reeves story?
Ask God to restore you.
@@tigey8743 I’m autistic and arguably asexual and no I haven’t asked him we’re not that close
Just listening to you rant is therapy for us who share your frustrations. Thank you.
Hey man, you are super courageous to share your deepest vulnerability with the world. You're not cringe or weird to never have had a girlfriend or dated. Shit does happen and you are just as human and valuable as partnered people. Don't feel less than. Your timeline isn't the same as others. Comparison is the biggest thief o of your joy and inner peace. Keep putting yourself out there in the dating world and you may get lucky and find yourself the woman of your dreams. I'm rooting for you. You are worthy of happiness.
I'm a 22-year-old man who deals with high-functioning autism, and I've never slept with anyone. I'm so touch-starved it hurts.
Here's hoping the best for you, brother.
22 with aspergers. Ive been in some great relationships, but theyve all happened at bad timing :( sometimes prefer i never found out about love
Chris Chan... Is that you... ???
@@StarFyodperor Nope, and that's not funny. Don't compare me to a felon, please and thank you.
Also, Chris Chan has low-functioning autism and explicitly hates aspies.
@@AppleOfThineEye Chris Chan is Highly Functioning... What are you talking about... Look how far his imagination went... He is in overdrive in that department...
@@StarFyodperor Do you think adding multiple elipses makes you sound more credible?
Anyway, no. If you were actually in-the-know, you might have been aware we have access to a psychiatric report that indeed marked him as low-functioning.
And I quote,
"He knows just enough to know he doesn't know."
That woman at the bar is CRAZY. Also dude you're not fucked up, lonliness is a monster.
No he probably was acting weird. Listen to how he interacts with this girl he’s “in love” with, he obviously stalkers her and she avoids him at all costs, because he thinks this is how to interact with women.
Bruh he said he fought the guy she was with and said the guy was only gonna use her for pleasure lol
@@nathanaelhart8487yea staring not walking up to them does this
I want to try the 5k silicon super models. Just have to save up some money. Those dolls are nice. Turd Flinging Monkeys really happy with Celestina. I think real girls are too much of a burden.
@@greenflamingoentertainment8613 normies need to take the TFMpill, makes life so much more simple
Just watched both videos for the first time and I wanted to congratulate you on how far you've come and how brave you were to share your most personal and vulnerable thoughts. I wanted to offer another perspective, although I also have diagnosed depression and have gone through a lot of the same situations and thought processes (then again, I'm almost a decade older than you, but when I was your age I pretty much thought the same way).
However today I'm either on step 3, gone crazy, woken up, got broken beyond repair or hit my head too hard.
In my current mindset, I can't imagine caring what someone else thinks, even though my depression makes it almost impossible to have a good opinion of myself (even though I'm aware it's at least partially skewed, and my entire ability to be what I could be is handicapped, but still, that's what it leaves me with). In fact it makes it almost impossible to love myself or accept that someone might like me. I just laugh at the thought, sabotage any relationships and abandon first in order to not be abandoned, because I don't believe it can end any other way.
And that's all standard for what you're going through. But years of this have left me to wonder why I even wanted a relationship. I have no more interest in it. I'm no longer addicted or indoctrinated that this is something I have to do, or even want to do. Sure, it has its moments. I've been in some relationships over the years (not in the last decade though). Some of them actually weren't terrible - though they didn't work out of course. But today I wouldn't pursue, or even accept them (not related to anyone specific and nothing personal). I was so focused on what I thought I wanted, because... Well, everyone does, and the drugs (hormones) make you feel artificially good when you're in love, or having sex, so... It made sense, it was the status quo, why would you ever even question it? Everyone tells you that, your own mind tells you that... Like the famous quote: "so preoccupied with whether or not you could, that you didn't stop to think if you should". But when you start listening to yourself instead of society, and when you get through the withdrawal you realize that what you wanted isn't even worth it.
Don't get me wrong - for people less jaded, cynical and realistic than me, it can surely be a great feeling and a worthwhile goal. I'm not gonna tell you how to live your life or whatever. If that's what makes you happy, work on it. Enjoy it, find happiness. All I see is a brain playing tricks to get its next fix of those drugs that get released when you do it. When you strip off the paint, the only thing you get for being "more" than friends, is that high. And it will make you do stupid things to keep it going. You will sacrifice your freedom, you will have to make compromises, worry about keeping the flame alive (and work to do it), it will eat into your free time, your energy, maybe even your finances, and just so monkey can get another banana even though he will be hungry again tomorrow.
And so I sat down with myself and realized, that through the years I've always felt something wrong with this feeling, with the yearning for somebody (in general), or with falling for somebody (specific). And I've fallen for dozens, head over heels, and never got with most of them. But I realized that when I got it, it wasn't what I had wanted. I felt attracted and later attached to someone, but it was just the mystery, the challenge, the hunt or my glorification. Sure, love feels good, but I can love a friend, or a pet, I don't need a relationship for that. I miss sex somewhat, but obviously not enough to attempt anything for like a decade. It's really not anything to write home about, and the drugs... Well, they get released just fine in single player (though I do miss kissing, a lot, but not willing to kill the entire pig for a bite of meat).
I realized that everything I think and feel at that point is just manipulation; it's just the brain hyping up the prospect for that sweet, sweet hormonal release it would bring. It makes everything you don't have seem so perfect (grass is always greener, right?). It makes you feel bad when you don't get it, and blame yourself until you do (the push for progress; being complacent leads to never improving, while feeling shitty is a motivation to do better in order to feel less shitty). For me though, I can't even believe that illusion anymore even if I wanted to. I wish I was 37 and never had a girlfriend, because the ones I had don't matter (they aren't here anymore), and I wouldn't know what I was theoretically missing (at least my damn brain wouldn't know the candy it COULD be getting; although mythologizing might be worse). None of that benefitted me in any way, my body craves those things today just like it did when I was a virgin, or 10 years ago, or 10 years down the line. However my mind tells me not to play stupid games anymore, because play stupid games, win stupid prizes. It never lives up to the hype. And even if it does, it doesn't last forever. I'm so glad I stopped chasing cars, because honestly, even today I wouldn't know what to do with one even if I caught it. There was always that feeling of "ok, now what?" somewhere in my mind, creeping more and more to the surface as the years went by.
Today the whole thing is so alien to me that the whole idea of (cognitively or decisively) wanting, pursuing, or even accepting any kind of intimate arrangement is just laughable. I imagine that's what Neo felt like, looking at those poor dopes still wired to the Matrix and even defending it. That crap is not for me. It doesn't align with my goals. It will try to make me feel like shit, and my depression will crank it up to 11, but through the struggles brother, I can only offer you one piece of advice: don't let anyone but yourself judge your value, or your opinion of yourself. They don't decide how you should or will feel. They don't have to live with the consequences of that judgement - but you do. And you know yourself better than anyone else. Also, most people don't genuinely care either way if you're happy or sad, alive or dead. Feeling bad if someone doesn't like you, unless it's for the purpose of being motivation to improve yourself some way, is fucking crazy. Just because I'm attracted to someone doesn't make them an authority on what's valuable, and it doesn't place importance on their subjective tastes and opinions any more than yours.
But you've already figured that out, and congratulations to you for that. You've been through shit, and you're strong. Just don't let life break you like it broke me, and do what truly makes you happy. I used to think getting a girl was so cool and would make me so happy, or whatever. So each time I got disappointed or it went south, I just wrote it off as a fluke, cause next time I would strike gold. Yeah, right. Eventually you realize that what you want and what you've been chasing, doesn't even exist.
I just want to let you know that Jesus Christ takes any form of social anxiety, pain and any addiction away. Christ isn’t about religion, in fact He hated religion. It’s about having a relationship with God through Jesus. He loves you but hates sin. Seek Christ and you will 100% be transformed and find genuine peace. It’s a life long transformation journey until Jesus completes you. Jesus died for you, was buried and rose again, to also conquer all evil, sin, the devil and most importantly to reconcile us back to God after Adam and Eve sinned, which ultimately separated us from Him. We have to really follow Him daily and even when we mess up, we gotta repent and He will be there to forgive us. We gotta forgive other people who have done us wrong, for Him to forgive us but He will help us with that. I love you enough to not say anything. God Bless❤️
I fucking respect you for this. If you would be real and bold like this all the time, there would be girls who would absolutely love you. In this video you absolutely owned who you are like a man!
HAHAHA. Try telling a woman that you've never had a girlfriend or a relationship at 27. You'll be laughed at called a creep, a loser, etc. In a woman's mind, thats a RED FLAG. Please don't tell men how to attractive women, when you've never needed to attract a WOMAN. K thanks bye bb.
i feel so bad for this guy ur not alone bro this world has gotten weird.
Yeah the world is a cruel place indeed.
I think he gay tho lo
Truly..
@@NicholasDunigan626 No.
@@NicholasDunigan626Has de ser el alma de la fiesta.
I'm 27, legally blind and never had a GF, I beleive the reason why I don't have one is because of my disability on top of being socially akward. I've longed to have a GF and it's frustrating that everyone rubs relationships and sex in your face all day while you can't have those things because of your looks, make enough money, aren't abled bodied or have a sparkling personality.
I'm very sorry all of that happened to you, no one cares about male loneliness and when we try to speak about it it's treated as a joke, something that we created and it's our job to fix it.
What does legally blind mean how can you be illegally blind
@@Everything_TV123 Legally blind means very visually impaired, you can still see but it's so bad it can barely be used. That's where the term comes from.
god bless u bro , i hope u find her u deserve it
how you type all of this if you blind..
@@acrocheezefpv There are text to speech programs designed for the blind, I'm using one on my Chromebook.
You are a very valuable person and alot of people care about you. Dont feel bad for being alone, happiness comes from inside not ouside. I wish you the best!
It made me so emotional brother,just wanna hug you tight & say you did well in life,you are not a failure,noones a failure,its just society's ways of dividing us,actually life is pointless,so you have to find a purpose & you did with your guitar playing,so no matter the love life,you are a success brother & whoever rejected you,its their loss,not yours,& always put your self respect above everything cause you got a pure heart & I can feel it through the screen & dont let people take advantage of your kindness.You deserve the world,brother,lots of love,god bless.....
One of my biggest regrets before I had a gf was not having one.
After I had one and was engaged then separated, my biggest regret was having a gf.
We always want what we don't have and sometimes life gives it to you so you can see how overrated it really was.
Regret nothing. Master the art of loving yourself before focusing on loving another.
I loved a sermon where when asked if he was happily married the pastor said sometimes sometimes happy sometimes not
@@maxgill6738true but relationships are not all they are cracked up to be
I was more damaged by being in a relationship than I ever was being out of one. Your brain doesn't need temporary fake intimacy, it needs peace of mind and tranquility.
@@maxgill6738 Yep, so true, and without any of that(intimacy) we end up with videos like this.
@@maxgill6738 Evidence, shmevidence. Not everyone is the same.
My brother was a virgin until he was 26, this shocked me when he told me as my brother is a very good looking and squared away man. Marine, carries himself as a Marine, stands at 6'2 a lean hard 190, and has a face that makes women jealous and men insecure. I asked him when he got married and told me one night we were drinking, I know for a fact he had numerous women chasing him. He never gave any of them the time of the day (which made them want him even more) he waited until he found the right one. She took his virginly after marriage and they have been married for nearly 10 years now and I have no doubt those two will grow old together. Love is out there bro. Stay strong.
God bless, way to go my brothers! Never sell your love
This is completely different from MrGamingGuitarist's situation. Your brother did well, but most men don't have the same opportunities as him, so no, love is not "out there".
It happens alot more than people think, I'm 28 and I've only had 2 girlfriends, but I never lost my v-card, recently I had some opportunities but
I'm not young and dumb where I need it to happen,
Trust me it really matters who you're with
So he married a whore in the end. Brutal.
Nice story but completely different scenarios like wtf did you even read this?
I respect you dude. Also I can tell all it’ll take is a couple small physical tweaks and quite a few mindset changes and you’ll be getting women in no time. I help my friend break out his funk with tough love and pure love as well as leading by example
I stumbled upon this video and listened all the way through. There’s a lot to unpack here, and I applaud you for having the courage to talk about your struggles openly with people. You are not alone. Men, especially, have been conditioned in our culture to “be strong” and to “man up” and hide their emotions. First and foremost, I would highly recommend you get with a therapist to help you navigate these thoughts and feelings. Group therapy can really be helpful too as you’ll often find other individuals going through similar situations.
I would recommend you start journaling. It’s another way to release your emotions but in a safer space. The internet isn’t always a safe haven for empathy and understanding. Be careful as you read through the comments because some people are absolutely cruel and will not have your best interest at heart.
Not being in a relationship or having a girlfriend is a secondary concern. The first concern is understanding where these ideas came from with regard to the “should” statements. “I should have a girlfriend” or “I shouldn’t be a virgin” are punitive and judgmental statements. Maybe start asking yourself why should you do/be anything? Maybe ask yourself who told you that you should do anything? You are entitled to live life at your own pace and there is no deadline to reach milestones in life.
It sounds like there is a lot of self-hate and shame and that’s the first place to start. If one of your best friends came up to you with the same scenario of being alone and single, you wouldn’t shame them or belittle them. It serves no purpose to crucify yourself.
If therapy isn’t available or affordable in your area, I would suggest finding a meet up group. Find a group of other individuals who have similar interests. Start meeting people and making new friends. The best partners start off as being friends. Try to focus on one day at a time. It can feel so overwhelming projecting into the future and trying to see “this is when I’m going to have a date” or “have sex” or “get married.” It will happen when the time is right. Just focus on one day at a time. Thinking too far into the future is going to catapult you into a very anxious and depressing mental state. And remember, you’re probably not going to find “the one” in a bar. There’s a good chance a lot of the people you meet in bars are self medicating with alcohol and are dealing with some serious emotions too.
And when you look at that scar where you attempted to end it all, I invite you to reframe that scar as not being a symbol of failure, but a symbol that you are worthy of being alive and worthy of happiness and success. If the universe didn’t want you here, you wouldn’t have been born. And while you may still feel like a failure, you probably saved someone’s life who watched your video with the intent of self harm because they saw that there was someone else struggling in life.
You are worthy of love and compassion. But it starts from within. Take care and please keep up posted. 🙏🏻
❤
Well said! 👍🏻 100% agree.
Nice list of copes bro therapy is a scam btw
No therapy for his unattractive face and physique
No one understands what it’s like to be ugly or weird looking unless they are.
But this guy isn't ugly or weird looking, he looks fine to me
@@tennenyt5311 uhhh he’s definitely below average looking. Looking “fine” isn’t exactly a compliment. It’s like saying “you’re not a bad looking guy”, like what does that even mean? It means “you’re not good looking by any means but you’re not repulsive to look at.”
If you’re not good looking you might as well be ugly
@@beeftestosterone4840 I mean I feel like most people are average looking, that's why it's average?
@@beeftestosterone4840 BTW can you tell me do I look average or above average or below average by seeing my RUclips videos. I am 21 and never had a gf and I am too shy and trying my luck on dating apps but no matches so far.
@@tennenyt5311 exactly, he doesnt even look "ugly". However he can definitely groom and dress better.
You're not alone, brother.
I don't think it's your fault. I have a feeling It's a societal consequence of the digital age separating all of us into bubbles.
You're creating. You're adding to this world more than you realize. And you're providing a place for thousands of people to talk about this issue. Thank you for that.
Very true. Social media has destroyed relationships in America.
That and the fact that America really seems to hate men.
It 100% is his own fault. Not to sound elitist or anything, but the level of attraction to other people is based mainly off of how you present yourself. Portray depressivness because you have never kissed a girl, people are going to pic up on the desperation. or you could be confident in your own skin, and get better results. it all rests on how you feel, and how you display yourself. Saying it isn't your fault is severely counterproductive.
its not to hard to make freinds buddy just get a life
"It's a societal consequence of the digital age separating all of us into bubbles."
These are my thoughts EXACTLY. Losing oneself in the internet and video games and fantasies destroys your sense of self-worth and social skills and indeed your perception of reality. The internet was a mistake. It's taken me so long to finally acknowledge this and I think it's happened too late...
Bro you’re the bravest person I’ve ever watched on yt, apreciate you so much
Thank you for having the courage to share this online. I've never seen anyone brave enough to just put it all out there . Hang in there Jer.
this is becoming a norm for many young men to be struggling with this insane dating market, Im a 25 year old virgin, its really tough out here man, i know how you feel. it hurts.
Turning 30 in about 2.5 months. Guess I'll just be a wizard and do spells instead, heh. 😂
Edit [25.07.2023.] I'm a wizard now. So far, the only spell I can do, is the spell of existential dread, and it only works on myself. But at least I can now wear socks with sandals, so that's good, I guess...
20 years old and a virgin in college I feel this pain it hurts
Gym and get money women will come eventually bro
@@jordon2608 i have money and im fit
@@jordon2608stop feeding your peers this bs. I’m a girl and Idc if they have money or they go to the gym, you’re just giving them false hope lmao. How about you start by being a decent fucking person
I am already 32. I never experienced the slightest amount of love in my life.
Not because I dont want to. In fact I tried several things to find a partner: approach ing women, signing up on dating applications, joining new groups. Nothing worked. Every women rejected me. That a woman once found me attractive, never happend.
I am completely alone. I never had a hug, a kiss or something like a realationship. Hell not even a date. Like most humen I crave romantic intimacy. Since I have been so long left without any, I became increasingly sick. I am suffering from insomnia, depression and panic attacks.
Have u tried escorts?
Yeah bro I understand you very well, maybe it's all this so that you have time for something else that also matters
I'm the same. Had like 3 girls say I'm "cute" but never once kissed or had sex with one.
So reletable
I feel you man, I'm 26, I tried when I was teen but never succeeded, then I gave up, I started hating talkin to people and i became depressed and anxious
Thank you my brother. Im only 25 but in the same position. Its nice to see that im not the only one. One thing i started to do is reading or anything just to have hobbies. Focus on yourself my brother, im rooting for you!
This is very brave of you man, and I applaud you big time. I struggled with girls for 20+ years (and still do a bit) but I have made tremendous progress by just improving on the things that I can control.
Get your haircut, start working out, buy some good-fitting clothes, find a good community (gym, church, martial arts, barber shop, etc.), learn some skills, and put yourself out there. Another key is forming your own philosophy and living by it. The confidence you'll gain from living by your values and having deep self respect for doing so will do wonders for you.
Early on in the dating process, don't get super invested, don't fantasize about marrying the girl and how she might be the one for you just yet. Take it slow and just be in the present.
Women want a masculine man that can protect her and provide for her, hence why they often fall into the trap of falling for guys who treat them wrong. These guys often have the traditional masculine traits of confidence, fearlessness, taking risks, wittiness, etc. but are missing the essential ones that truly make them a good man. It has been this way since the beginning of man.
Don't give up brother, I can tell you are a great guy with a big heart. We need more guys like you in this world. You are not alone in this struggle, it is not easy to be a man. However, you were created to be just that for a reason. God (a creator or whoever you believe in) saw you fit to be a man when He created you.
There is a woman out there for you, but in the meantime, do what you can to become the man that she is looking for. Rather than look for the best potential partner for you, work on becoming the best potential partner for someone else.
I'm 23 and in the same camp. I'm physically handicapped and have been insecure about it my whole life. On top of that I have struggled with depression and ideas of suicide since I was 14. The last 3 years, after I left university early I have been sitting on my ass playing video games. I barely see my friends anymore, they don't really feel much like friends at all. Life sucks. Currently I'm looking into going to the gym to atleast grow some feeling of self-worth. Anyway, if this resonates with anyone somewhat, know you are not alone.
Bro. I’m in the same boat. I’m 24. I got a disability and I’ve been insecure the same. It came to the point where any social interaction with people in general I just shut down and go home. I have had chances with women and all but the anxiety of my disability would stress me out. So yeah you ain’t alone
Stay strong my bro you'll get past it .Just try to look at the current positives in your life right now no matter how small or big . Everyday you wake up is another day to be grateful . Bless ❤
I’m kind of in a similar situation but the opposite. I used to go to the gym and was in pretty great shape. I just started developing medical issues with my man parts unfortunately and it’s taken me out of gym for the most part and I have too much anxiety and pain related to it to go after a girl again. It’s been depressing as fuck and I don’t even know if my problems can be cured. Hopefully we all figure our lives out eventually.
Keep going bro, you got this. People can be extremely cruel sometimes but just know it is because they too are insecure. I know it can be difficult, but don't let them drag you down. Adversity will build you up to be a stronger person than they could ever be if you push yourself!
Hi, I was in the same boat man, 25 and a wheelchair user. Things have started to get a lot better for me socially since joining a Toastmasters club, highly recommend finding one in your local area :) stay strong
This is my absolutely favorite type of videos, no editing, no memes, no obnoxious sound effects, no music, just a random guy like us spitting truth and venting. I don't relate to any sigma or "literally me" character, this is the guy I relate to.
The person that I was in this video filmed when I was very depressed. Feel free to look at my more recent videos and live streams to see what the real me is like!
@@MrGamingGuitaristgood to hear you’re doing better bro.
@@MrGamingGuitaristthis video reminded me of a friend I used to know , he used to video call me and talk to me about his life and his ambitions, his family problems , and how the people around him sucked , I only wished I was more supportive and present , more knowledgeable and reliable for him. I suspect he Took his own life but I am hopeful that he is still alive , living way better than before. this video motivates me to take action and to be grateful for mindset j have, the future is uncertain , my future is uncertain but I can chsnge the direction while I still have leverage over it. Thank you
@@MrGamingGuitarist Just take a time to think about this... relationships are unresolved karma from previous lives and that's why children are born. What if when we lack such karmas to resolve we just end up virgin? Like a repellant to relationships? Its beyond this physical reality... It's a spiritual issue we have.
Most people sttuggle with putting unwanted children onto the world, not the other way around! The other way around is just too unfathomably uncommon, but it happens anyways, right?! Take some research on reality cocreation and how to manifest by using the mentality that you already have what you want instead of saying to yourself that you will have that onthe future, because the future does not exist, only the present and only by talking on your mind on the present terms that the Universe will hear you. If you say "I will have that" the Universe hears "You don't have that" and it will only hear that you have thay when your mind thinks "I already have that" then the Universe hears "You indeed have that".
Oh and by the way on the bar... The problem is that women want to be treated like disposable semen depository intakes instead of like a human being... It's innate in the female genetics. Rare ia a girl that wants to be treated like a human being.
Thank you for sharing this brother god bless your strong soul and will! You’ll find the one! 💯
You look so normal I don't understand why. I hope things are better. Choose being stoic F every thing else
I don't think this is normal, but I'm happy that I'm not the only dude in this planet who is soon 30 and he has never had any intimacy with the opposite sex.
It's never too late dude you never know if you don't try It's better to get rejected than to regret never asking I believe in you bro
sure its not to late at his age he should have a kid and be married its not that late haha
@@TudorasH92 literally no one says that. Plenty of people still have no kids at 30
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Misery loves company
Honestly I wish people didn't find this sort of stuff embarrassing. It's more common than we think for people in their lates 20s, 30s, so on to just not have any form of intimate connection simply because of factors out of their control. Anything from social anxiety, certain disabilities, or just living in a place that doesn't have many people is what often stops others from finding love or connecting with a social circle. This especially seemed to have increased due to Covid and the internet era, where we've been so isolated and don't know what to do. Stay strong man, don't feel ashamed.
We gotta talk it out with our brothers sometimes
The main reason for the large number of sexless men today is the extremely high standards modern women in the west have nowadays, which is caused by dating apps and social media. The huge amount of attention women get from guys on there inflates there perceived value and makes them pick only the top 10-20% of men. This is a huge problem, because without intimacy men become miserable and angry, they won't do any work anymore which is what kept our society functioning. So that will probably lead to a collapse of society, therefore this shouldn't be normalized. It's just really about shame, men crave sex and intimate relationships and feel miserable if they can't get that, regardless of what society thinks about that.
@@alexanderkroboth3310 I disagree with this entirely. You are putting the blame on women when we need to understand that this isn't just common amongst men. This happens to women as well. Sex is not a fundamental part of a man's happiness and that is why we need to normalize letting men know that it's not necessary to seek it. As a matter of fact, normalizing that men need sex leads to even greater problems- rape, objectification, incels, bad etiquette, etc. The reason many men struggle to find romantic partners can be for the following: religion, social anxiety, isolation, working too much, living in a small town, and the list goes on. Blaming it on just women alone or simply narrowing it down to sex is a very uneducated take. Men need love, men need support, men need to know compassion and empathy and most importantly, we need to know that our life has other factors that can contribute to our happiness. If you are struggling to find a relationship, it's important to learn why it may be that you can't find one. Sometimes we need to remember that we can be the problem, too. And no, it will not be the collapse of society. There are far worse things that could lead to a societal collapse, and single men in their late 20s and 30s will absolutely not be the cause of that lmfao
@@zeltheclown7720 Of course there is more to a mens life then sex, but I still think sex is an essential part. The whole reason a men strives to advance in his career and earn more money so that he can have a wife that he can provide for, have children with and who satisfies his needs for sex and intimacy. This strive is what built our civilisation, and women raise the next generation in this civilisation, both roles are equally important. But if a men can't get a women he loses all motivation for doing any of that. You see that with men who stay in their parents home and don't even try get a job, or they do the bare minimum to survive. In Japan they are also known as hikikomori. And I'm not just blaming women, our society at large created these problems. Modern society is quite hostile towards men and blames them for everything, and women are told they always deserve better. Just watch street interviews where they ask women what their requirments for a men are, they commonly say at least 6ft tall, over 100k salary and give you a 30 items long list of requirments.
@@alexanderkroboth3310 I think you also need to understand that you can't always expect a woman to like you. Street interviews don't show the true majority of women nor do they count for all of what women think. Sometimes we as men need to realize that we need to find women that are right for us, and not expect women to come to us. It takes confidence to find the right woman and it takes time. Other things may slow us down but it doesn't mean we can't change it. And this can count for gay men too, or for men who have different personal issues that make it harder for them to find love. Like I said, if you struggle to find a relationship, chances are you might need to fix your own problems first. Your health is more important than a relationship. When you find that help, you are ready to look for someone who is willing to date you. Don't listen to what society says about men. Everyone has different standards and there will always be someone for you as long as you're not basing your opinions off of things you see online, like street interviews for example. Go outside and see the real world, talk to women and find someone who is interested. I guarantee you they're not all like what you see or hear online.
Hey man you got this I know life can suck but be strong !! God will have something waiting for you
really ... same stories and same pains... You don't look bad bro, as me. Hope your life bounced and gone right. My life is starting going well because i accepted my situation and my being.
He is speaking for many guys out there. We don't know how many because most are silent about these issues.
Then speak up 😂 omg
@@322Mermaid What a worthless reply. Do you really think it's that simple? If you're so much better than the rest of us, what are you doing on this video?
Easier said than done@@322Mermaid
@@322MermaidWe do. And you people just keep shitting on us for it.
@@322Mermaid Yeah maybe stop shaming us for it when we do.
You shouldn't be down on yourself for acting sincerely.
I was 29 and my workplace crush actually laughed when I asker her out, not realising I was being serious at first. Her laugh played on a loop in my head for a YEAR. I don't regret it though, there are women in my life who I never asked out and I still have that "I wonder if..." part of my brain with them.
Keep your head up, brother.
Like a year or 2 ago when i was 15 im 16 now i was made fun of constantly because there were a few girls in my school i thought were cute i tried to be nice to them and always tried to help them and boost their sef esteem but only to be made fun of for it i tried to play it off like i didnt care but deep down it made me so mad im not even a bad looking guy lots of girls think im cute and what not but it still hurt it sucks when you care for someone and they just laugh in your face
@@nebulavortex3531stuff like this îs why i dont talk to Any women irl
@@Rose_so2 honestly i feel the same i try to avoid those interactions now so i dont make a fool of myself again
I am so sorry! :(
@@nebulavortex3531Damn I’m so sorry to hear that man. Keep your head up and never stop being nice to girls. You are too young to give up!
You’re the guy that people would give anything to meet in person. Cause the honesty and transparency you have a humble meek realist soul goes a long ways then those putting on a show too be liked for somebody they not.I agree with you as a single man myself never been married 38 years old. Life has taught me once you graduate high school college you gotta get married have kids but not telling the truth not everyone is meant for marriage that was a hard thing for me too take in. I found out life is more than just getting married with kids. Yeah I see those couples holding hands I’m like wish I couple experience that but what looks like heaven in public can be hell behind closed doors not saying with everybody. Yeah in your 20’s it’s hard as hell too be single I was there myself I hated too hear love songs like I run to you I’m like who do single folks run to when shit hit the fan? I learned as I gotten older the pull isn’t powerful as it was in my 20’s. You get to the point if ever get married that’ll be great if not I’ll still enjoy life. I gotta pick if I’m meant too be married finding a girlfriend hope I find her before I get any older lol
Trust me brother, get yo money up. You ain’t missin out on nothing but potential headaches. The right one will come eventually.
Remember guys...
"Attractive" = flirting
"Ugly" = harrassment
Yeah its not quite as simple - to assume so would be to imply that women are as simple, which is slightly sexist.
But yes pretty privilege is real.
@@roscosimmons-shorts8050 this, i cant stand the fact that this is how the world is. i dont even want to play its retarded game.
Lmao stay down
Making someone feel good about themselves = flirting
Wanting something out of someone = harassment
@@fahrenheit2101 Woman are literally like that. Sometimes they are the ones who insult themselves.
@@asgoritolinasgoritolino7708 no they aren't, and you're being sexist. Some are. Arguably many. Some would go so far as to say most, but I'd disagree. But it's not an inherent property of women to be superficial. treating it as a given is sexism.
yes, plenty are superficial. some aren't. don't generalise - instead call out the subset of women who are a tad superficial.
ideally, consider the flipside of men, and whether they're as superficial. imo, men and women both exercise pretty privilege a fair bit.
this is what it means to have a nuanced opinion - its not us vs them, and generalisations can only be so accurate.
i know this is an over the top reply, but i need my point to be heard tbh
You're not a bad looking dude. Work on your social skills, get into meditation, find your purpose, and you'll be fine.
And hitting the gym.
Basically just work on yourself first
Teeeheheheheheeheheheh
Nah at 27 u prob don’t even want to put the effort in finding someone. These dudes b getting mad they have no gf but the real problem is themselves
This is the same advice people give and it doesn't do anything. How come most people doesn't need to do any of these things and are in a relationship?
You're assuming he's not doing anything to improve
I feel you, man. Sometimes, life well not get simple for relationships. For me, I never had relationships in my life (include my school year) which it helps me to stay on track for myself to become better dependent and motivation. I’m always here for you, mate.
This video popped up on my feed, so I guess it’s meant for me to say something.
I’m not gonna say that I’m having the same problems as you but I have my struggles too. When I have these conversations with women, I always bring up the guys in your situation because the men that dont have trouble with women will never acknowledge a guy like you. Women don’t either because they don’t even know you guys exist. The men that women are interested in is the average man to them and I always make sure that I acknowledge that most guys are struggling with women.
I say, just keep your head up and work on yourself. I’m glad you’re able to have a space where you can speak your story because the social media world doesnt care about men struggles. Just know that I understand because I pay attention to you guys and not just popular sh!t people talk about everyday. Keep pushing forward man 💯💯
You're a warrior man, you're still alive and we hope that you find a solution to your problems. Keep going!
He ain’t no warrior, he’s a self loathing pussy, who, if he continues down this track, will continue to be single. Tbh with you, he’s a complete fuckin weirdo, this is school shooter type of dilusional
Facts all us guys are warriors but the way to solve this problem is to let it go and focus on other stuff in life that ur good at and get rich be married to ur money cause i am
Why should I keep going
@@lamefuqq6985 you shouldn’t lmao
@@truthshallsetufree1295 how much do u make?
Women will never understand male loneliness brother. Stay strong.
Continue to work on yourself. Hit the gym. Work on hobbies. Join a club. Make more friends. Become a more interesting man, gain experiences. You can do this brother.
First sentence is true asf
And men will never understand the female pain of being used for their sexual pleasures.
@@18yearoldcel yep, becoming a man is realizing nothing is given to you and nobody really gives a fuck about you outside of your family (if you're lucky)
^THIS
Best advice. Changed my life for sure
You were intresting right from that day You were born.
Atleast preference of intrest is just scope of human nature.
Universaly in sense, You are that Intrest of Life energy to exist.
There is nothing un-intresting, but only outside of scope of human preference.
Keep making more of these, you really lift my spirits up m8
I wish you the best finding your soulmate. I think everyone deserves a chance, I'm your friend and I know how it feels man.
What’s crazy is 27 was the worst year of my life. Then things changed for the better because I focused on myself and fought to learn to love myself. Not every journey is a sprint. You got this man! You’re a legend in my eyes just for posting a video like this that many men are also going through.
I’m 27 and yeah I thought I had rough patches before. I’m so lost tbh, lonely af, quit my job coworkers/friends talk less and less, was living alone and became reclusive, was gonna commit soduku but just dislocated my shoulder bonked my head, so I sold/gave away everything been driving around the country and stuff, was fun at first but it’s been 6 months, feel homeless/down past 2 months. Becoming socially apathetic again,
Rn in a motel and feel like I’m floating no purpose, I know I should just get any job and get some roots but I feel far gone.
It’s my fault I know complaining doesn’t help but damn. Realizing how much I took for granted. I will not die at 27, gotta go outside and move but I fell like Frodo at the end when he has to leave on the boat lol.
Sorry just wanted to rant. You say it’s a marathon but I need to sprint and not stop. momentum. Got a truck/ tent/ a few grand, average health and alone. This will be my last self pity internet post. Get working, get solid people in my life, open up icecream dessert shops, get a girlfriend, kids, married, stay solid, grand kids, die at 97ish before dementia.
I’ll be the foundation for a whole community, and a bunch of people won’t have to be alone. alone is the worst, addictions and other bad habits don’t compare honestly.
TLDR
27 has been rough
@@horse433 I believe in you, you got this.
@@mateopribyl9218 Ty
@@izayaraya6161 I do thanks!
I’m 28, about to turn 29… never had a gf either.
Yo I never had a girlfriend either. Not even female friends
I had a girlfriend when I was 21, a disastrous relationship mind you, but that was 5 years ago and I've been single ever since. Age 26 now. Trying to divert attention elsewhere. I think when the time is right, we'll all find ladies, if we truly want them and it's meant to be. I truly believe this.
Im 27 and still a virgin due to woman not wanting me so i already gave up idc anymore
39 here I won lol… relationships are a waste of time anyway. Waste of money and things are getting too complicated with potential food scarcity, Russia vs Ukraine and expensive gas to waste it on potentially failing relationships
@@EricSPizarro
Yes i understand but this is apart of a normal life and its not just the money wasting its about experiencing sex love compassion and how it feels to be with a woman i will never know how that feels anyways but i guess thats the beautiful mystery 🤔
I had my first gf at 26, turned out she had schizo affective bpd. She got me fired from my job and i stayed for a year to try to help her but it was just in vain. Don’t rush into relationships, put yourself out there,date some girls,befriend them, play the field,see what you value in a person and work on whatever you need to personally. But don’t place your self worth on whether you’re in a relationship or not. The wrong relationship can drastically change your life.
"just date some girls bro" wow what a profound thought
"If u can't get girls,just get girls"-Hamza@FloppaTheBased
@@FloppaTheBasedthe thing is, it's really that simple. You just have to put yourself out there and figure it out...bro
You are a sweet and beautiful man, don't give up. You have so much value ❤
You're not the only guy out there man. I know all too well what you feel.
@N.imantha de silva you should, you look like ass
never harm yourself.
it's not worth it bro.
you're not alone, many men go through this bullshit.
It is not worth it. Added regret compounds pain as well…
wdym it's not worth it lol. Living a life like that is not worth it either
@@FloppaTheBased you find ways to improve your situation…or cope. You don’t scar yourself so others see down the line and judge you rather than understand lol
Unaliving is a personal matter for the individual. What you think does not matter
Brother❤ don't let a world full of crazy ppl make YOU feel lesser! I hope u read this!
Always be strong. God be with you always.❤️🙏
I'm really glad I randomly came across this video. Bro, you're not alone. Going on 31 with never holding a single serious relationship. I used to watch 40-year-old virgin as a kid and laugh but shit foreshadowed today's day and age.
nah its over for bro 😭😭😭
@@34NG Lmao it just never worked out. It's all good. Someone will eventually come around. But until then, we chillin fam. Single life is under appreciated 😅
I have never watched the 40 year old virgin, I can tell by the name he eventually will lose his virginity but it feels like the movie is mocking me and also foreshadowing the same way it does for u. Just another 19 years and I am that real life 40 year old virgin.
@@DillyBobThorntonTBH it's over for you. By 30 if you haven't found someone the chances of it happening are incredibly slim to none because most people in your age bracket have already gone through certain stages and your simply behind. Im not saying it to be negative but in the hopes that you understand this reality and accept it's over. This way you can try focusing your life on other things you enjoy without living in the hopes that it'll happen for you. It won't. Try to find fulfillment in other things imom
@@loverofhumanity Sounded overly fatalistic. 30 isn't 60
You’ve shown insane amounts of courage even recording this video, there a MILLIONS of men just like you around this planet. Please don’t give up brother, persevere, remember that things don’t happen to you, they happen for you, there’s light at the end of the tunnel, and it takes a courageous person to travel this path. Life will get better, and you will look back at this time of your life and laugh. Much love to you I hope you’re doing well, just know even though you feel alone, you’ve found a community here that understands you ! ❤
Such a great man
I love u so much. You deserve happiness before anything else
I love you man youre so much stronger than a lot of us im telling you
Dude you're telling the story of my fucking life
Fax’s
Some
The hardest part for me is seeing my friends and even younger cousins get more action than me. Some of my former classmates are probably already married by now.
Same
@@ChrissGriffin2000me too wtf. Isn’t that weird? Like how does that happen? It keeps you thinking, “is there something wrong with me?”
I hope you don't delete this video. Use it as a means to measure yourself in the future as a way to see your improvements overtime. I hope things do get better for you.
I agree
My whole life was hard too still is,but you gotta toughen up and stop feeding sorry for yourself. All this negative self talk is bringing you down. Your your own worst enemy!
You are one of a kind and you show courage
My heart breaks for you, brother. Stay strong and don't give up.
I sincerely hope you find someone who loves you in the way that you deserve to be loved.
I'm in the same position as he is. He's one of the guys who understands what's I'm going through and vice versa. I tried for years to get to know girls, and all they do is lie to me, reject me, ignore me and ghost me. Most of my family has been in relationships and marriages, except me. That's why I gave up because it's pointless and its like pulling teeth.
He failed in life, simply put. I represent every human being on Earth with my words -ask anyone else they'll agree with me. I'm every person on the planet.
@@linuxtuxvolds5917 Nah, you're just a troll.
@@AppleOfThineEye Nah bro I represent every human being on earth bro. Ask any other human being off the internet and they would agree with me
@@linuxtuxvolds5917but you’re talking to people on the internet who disagree 💀
I’m 21 and in the same boat. Because of my passions, I’ve befriended many older people. One of my closest friends, and my true guide in life will soon be 72. Until he was 35, he had never been in a relationship. Now he’s been married for over 35 years. We’re introverted, both struggle with depression, and philosophize too much for our own good. At the same time, his story saved my life. We all have our own paths, and it can be really hard sometimes, but know you’re not alone in this.❤
You articulate beautifully, and your strength is profound. If you do not date, you need to either discover or create a life where you feel fulfilled. My fiancée lives on the other side of the planet, as I would never date here again.
Yup. I’m 26 and I’ve give up looking for a girlfriend. After tons of delusions I’ve decided to give up and focus on myself, even if it means to stay lonely for the rest of my life. I don’t care I’m gonna carry that weight. I’m sorry for your story and I want to say that you’ve got f*cking guts that tons of men/women don’t have. Stay strong brother
26 also many we might find that one until then I'm living cozy in my one bedroom apartment
Self improvement is important, but don’t do it long term, it’s not good for your mental health to always be alone.
25 years
Same
Watch Hamza and David goggins
it takes some damn balls to come up and admit something like that in front of a camera and post it to the whole internet to see.
i respect you for that, brother.
Wow I first found this video 5 months ago before I’ve ever had a girlfriend and in that time period I both got into a relationship and out of it, and now this video came right back to me. And now, in a different way than before, it’s even more helpful
Dont worry about it.
You will meet someone when you least expect it.
Stay positive bro.
💯
31 here and and deciding to stay single. Back when I was 27 I still had hopes to eventually find a girlfriend, a possible marriage, maybe a kid, and even met someone I thought was it. I was totally able to picture a future with them but things just never happened. After that I lost total interest in the idea of a relationship. I’m not affectionate, expressive, or romantic and struggle with mental health so I’d probably be a crappy boyfriend anyway. I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed or feel bad about.
C'mon man, there's someone out there for everyone don't shoot yourself down like that bra.
Never give up homie, never give up.
@@Bran2Xtrem3 While this is true for many guys out there overall there will still be lots of guys who will never have a girlfriend(like some of the guys I talk to for example).
We are the same. I am done with it all.
@@Sal-tw4cd Well said man, I agree with this as not every guy will get a GF due to just how life works.
Being able to open your heart to everyone like that while being sober....
You're probably the strongest man i've ever listened to...
Edit:I hope you get to keep this video in here for a day when you'll be better.
And don't you worry the day will come
You guys are all fine man. Truly truly your not missing out on anything at all.
Lmao
Yall are really good people for supporting this guy
In high school and through my early twenties I was friends with a guy whom you remind me of. He was treated like shit a lot and I was good to him mostly but I wasn’t the best friend at times either. As time went on we got closer and I grew to really love him as a brother, he too had never had a girlfriend. But he was a deep lover and dreamed of a romantic relationship with someone. He was flawed, awkward, but acted out in maddening ways that would make us mad sometimes. But I knew who he was deep down, and I loved him for it. People like you are good people, you don’t deserve this. I hope you’re well, stay strong and trudge forward, you’re not alone in this.
why did you leave him ?
@@marvin2678He would end up getting a girlfriend, but it would turn out she was awful. She isolated him from us, and then he would do some really uncool things while under her manipulation, to drive us away. Our other friends are angry at him and refuse to speak to him. It’s been seven years, I’m trying to set something up for him and I to hang out this Saturday
@marvin2678 I don't think he left him. I think the guy offed himself. At least that's what I'm taking from this.
@@jasonporter6324sounds like it since he uses his name with past tenses. Hopefully we are wrong though…
@@jasonporter6324 Not to worry. He lives.
Always remember - rejection is better than regret.
This single sentence changed my life forever
Well i experienced both at the same time and let me tell you it is worse
Fuck that. There's no point in continuously hurting yourself over half ass crushes and randoms you meet. It's unfortunate that guys end up like this, but continuous rejection is such a useless game. Something else needs to change.
I agree with both perspectives. I think that we need to be better companions to each other and stop killing each other over women, we can always use artificial wombs to create as many as we want. There's also things in the torah that might help@@erboch7124
Continuous rejection is great.
@@AndreyVillamil-be8nx For masochists maybe
Just know that you're doing the right thing by talking about this. But I feel for you and I hope that you find the right person for you❤❤
Keep your head up 🙏🏼 there is someone for everyone.
I can hear the genuine pain in your voice, your also fairly articulate. This hit close to home.
The guy is just a loser. Can't sympathize with such beings.
Don't feel pity for this loser, he brought it on himself.
I could see the pain in his eyes. I have that same pain. You look into his eyes and you see a man whose been through things he shouldn’t have had to go through. A good person whose been severely hurt by those around him.
Honestly, it's okay to be single. Some of us aren't built for relationships, like myself. I always struggled with worrying too much, showing my feelings and other stuff. I just learned that relationships aren't for me, I would cause more harm to the person than good in my opinion.
People say its okay but if youve been longing for something special, to experience something like love.. saying or thinking its okay not to try for that is redundant
Have you been in a relationship before?
Brother, I think the same as you. I'm 35 years old, I'm Brazilian, and here in my country many men are suffering like us. We live in an era where women are increasingly demanding and looking for the most outstanding men.
In average men we need to deal with loneliness in a way that transforms this sadness and anger into an incentive to improve in other areas of life. I have always been turned down or rejected by women. I came to the same conclusion as yours: I must not be a nice enough person and I wasn't born to be someone's partner either. Unfortunately I accepted this after a painful experience I had last year where I was switched from one week to the next.
It's sad, it hurts our soul. It hurts our self-esteem. But we need to focus on another path and know how to deal with it, following our path alone.
A hug from Brazil to you.
you are exactly where you are supposed to be man. Dont stress it, ive felt like this before, the feeling of wanting to be loved can make you lose yourself. Its okay. Your not a bad looking guy my friend. Once you learn to just relax and build self confidence, that will reflect on other things especially with women. Just take it easy, we love you brother.
Those scratches could hopefully be concealed as a cool tattoo of your new identity to surpass your past and make your future. Like choosing to take and lift the weights and building yourself with confidence than letting trauma make and dictate us. 💯 I wish you find the girl and make the family you deserve to have.