I'm a 33 year old woman with no life. (my advice to young women)
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- Опубликовано: 23 окт 2023
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Hello Viewers! Welcome back to my channel. Today, I'm excited to open up about a topic that's been on my mind a lot lately: being 33 and feeling like I have no clear goals or aspirations. 🌟
This video is all about sharing my journey, and I hope you can relate or find some inspiration in it. Life can throw us curveballs, and it's perfectly normal not to have it all figured out at any age. So, let's chat about it, shall we?
Join me as a talk about the ups, downs, and in-betweens of this phase of life. I'll get real about the emotions, challenges, and how I'm turning this uncertainty into a journey of rediscovery and growth. 🌱
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I'm 63 years old. I've scanned the comments and am saddened but not surprised to see so many young people hurting. I'm here with some words of hope and, if you can stand it, some words of advice that you are free to read or disregard.
First the hope: I want to let you know that I was unable to find a real lasting career until I was 40. You're still young. It can still happen for you.
Now the advice: Shut off the noise that might be getting in the way of understanding what you want. We are bombarded with noise and messages all day and all night long. Take technology breaks. Spend some time each day in silence. Spend some time each day outside. A long walk (without earbuds, without phone-in hand at least) can really free your mind to do some serious thinking. You are also better plugged-in to your surroundings. It's important to notice that good dog, that smiling toddler, that squirrel running up a tree. Life is taking place and you must notice and take part.
I know it's stuff you've all heard before, but I've found it helpful. Maybe you would too. Now, you can say, "Okay, Boomer," and get on with your day.
Thank you for this❤
I'm 43 & still no sustainable, enjoyable career. So if you found yours at 40, I must really be on the "slow-bus 🚌 🤓" track 🤦🏾♂️.
Lovely advice. Thank you. :)
We've all heard this stuff before, agreed but what we do is forget it and are in need of these kinds of reminder all the time with all the distractions floating around in the world, and I'D FIGHT ANY LOSER WHO'D CALL YOU A BOOMER, becuz strangely enough u feel like a granny I've never had.
Indeed ... the noise is distracting and comes in innumerable forms.
This is vintage RUclips. People use to use RUclips to share their stories in a real way just by talking. Definitely need more of these types of videos circulating for people 30+.
I'm 23 and I really need these types of videos, hope to see them making a comeback
This
yeah, it really is. now it’s all about becoming a youtuber and selling products. back in the days you had a person with only 1 video and really good stories/advice and that was it.
Watching this video, I was thinking, "What happened to flex content?" This is a very welcomed reunion with reality.
low IQ
I'm 27. I quit my job and decided to draw stickers and sell them 6 months ago. I now make roughly 5k+ a month inbetween in person markets, online sales, illustrating picture books and my sticker club. I decided to stop waiting for someone to give me something and so this business was my saving grace!! If you have a skill that would interest people, start a business!
I wanted to say this and glad you commented. Nothing will happen if we dont do anything ourselves. And it might be that attitude pitting employers off. Congratulations on your business 🙌🏻
This is so inspiring, I also love drawing but havent really pursued that as seriously as it needs to be. Maybe one day
Where did you get the money to grow your business..how did you start
@@theMoralesFamily_ i saved 30k of my money from my full time job after paying off my student loans and then i quit my job. it costed about 6k to start up
I love stickers, it's so cool you can make a living from them.
At 34, I left my dead end low paying career and had to move back with my parents. I was single, depressed and feeling hopeless. With the little money I had, I decided to do a little solo traveling. Changed my life. After coming back, I reconnected with someone who'd I dated very briefly in my early 20's. We're now married, 2 kids, own a home. I'm 41. Never give up on the life you want. But its necessary to get out of your comfort zone. I was able to build confidence while traveling, lost a bit of weight and started feeling hopeful again. The universe started to reward me with the energy I was putting out there. Put out into the universe what you want out of life!
Beautiful. Thank you.
I love this comment! Very insightful and positive. 💗💗
Thank you for this comment ❤️❤️❤️
so you found your beta simp, good for you!
@@Nico-lm5tl jealous?
I’m 31, no friends, haven’t made a new friend since high school, health problems, money problems, been single since I was 19, no kids, no life, depressed, but I never give up trying to make things better and I believe things will change for me.
Am sorry. I guess some of us are just lost
If you're black especially if you're from the (sub)continent, can we be friends?
You got this, it may not feel like it but things can change so quickly. As long as you don’t give up on yourself❤❤ For days you forget just remember that you’re awesome!
I've been single for decades now.
I'm perfectly okay with this. I have found peace in Jesus, so I'm really not alone.
NO close friends, but adulthood ain't a bed of roses. I need my goals now, not friends.
Be happy with you & chase your goals my friend.
@@ms.rstake_1211this is dumb. So you can only be friends with black people.
I understand that this topic is actually an issue, but don't take it out on every non-black person on the planet.
Will be turning 35 in a few months. I've had so many dead end low paid jobs in the last 10yrs. Completely unaware of the direction in life I was going. Ended 2 close friendships so literally had nobody. Never travelled anywhere. Depression & isolation was killing me. In the last 2yrs I improved my diet, started walking more, went back to school doing evening classes, found a job I enjoy with opportunities to grow, travelled to 2 countries in Europe, improved my credit score, used Bumble BFF and amazingly made 3 close friendships where I go out for meals & events. Looking back the transformation is incredible. I feel so much better. My tip is to be patient as small incremental progress compound over time. Your journey is unique and record your achievements. There will be days where you might doubt yourself, so its important to recall actual concrete evidence of progress. I'm actually looking forward to my 40s : )
Amazing testimony. Very inspiring. Keep going ❤
I literally broke down and cried the other day asking God for help. I needed a sign and then I see this video and your message. Thanks for that ❤❤❤ I don't know my purpose yet but I know I have one
I admire your strength
Thank you, I'll remember making new friends as an adult is possible
Thank you for sharing, you just reminded me that I need to go take a walk and go grocery shopping for some healthy food. I’m 36 and my life will always require a reminder to consistently practice good habits, think positively and practice gratitude, and set new goals on a regular basis. It is easier to maintain happiness and good habits than it is to pull yourself out of the spiraling slump.
Social media has a way of making you feel "left behind" or stuck, like your living a mediocre life, like everyone is living their best life, is graduating, has their dream career except you, and creating this desire to be exceptional. Leading to frustration, discontent and a dissatisfied life. I am grateful I have the low income job I have, and for the big part, I enjoy it, a place to stay, a roof over my head, food to eat, family and friends, and working towards being debt free. I am truly grateful
THIS!!!
Amazing attitude!! That’s the key
Amazing attitude!! That’s the key
yessir
This! 🎉
and 2.3 million views later. just because you decided to face your fear. you're an inspiration 💜
I'm 34, single, no job with a huge gap on my CV, living with my family, surviving with my bare minimum because I don't wanna be a burden. That's my life.
i love you
Without looking name is understood you are turkish
Same at 40, it's not exactly the money or certain lifestyle that puts the most pressure on me but the expectation, people not treating you as a human being with dignity if you don't have money and stellar carear own expensive cars, societies standard to treat you with dignity is only through how much money and goods you have, even the poorest of people treats you like garbage because you are not rich there is nothing they can extract from you expect from you financially so they have no reason to treat you with respect, then comes the total alienation from society even family because they are not different from wider society at all, I stopped going out, I have no motivation whatsoever to succeed, all success means is to impress other people I don't even like, so I just sink deeper and deeper because there is no motivation. When I look at society ppl draw their motivation from extreme hatred of humanity and to prove people they don't like that they are superior than them and have the chance to oppress other people be a top dog. I've never able to adopt this mind set. I wouldn't mind to be poor, but society is such that if you don't go with their norms they try to obliterate you.
33, living with my parents, part-time job, argentinian...
How can i contact you?
I love how vulnerable this content is. So raw, real, relatable. Society needs this.
i agree! no need to act like everything’s going just fine and only showing the good in life , this makes me feel more normal knowing i’m not the only person who struggles with these thoughts
Yes real people NEED to hear this
yeah true this is reality
Right? I feel this is what youtube used to be like. Just raw vlogs
Yessss!! I love this video .
This video was very much needed. The comment section is very inspiring, too. Even though I'm only 23, I already feel like a failure because I've never been in a relationship, my longest job was 1 month in a fast food restaurant (that I had to quit due to anxiety) I graduated last year and I've applied to HUNDREDS of field-related jobs with literally NO RESPONSE for 99% of them (and the ones that answered me, were a no) making me even question why did I chose that career and if I really wanted to study it to begin with. While all my friends found jobs and other ways to make money even years before graduating, some bought cars, others went to live alone or entered in long term relationships, while I stayed in the same place I've been since I was a teenager, broke, depending on (and living with) my parents, with a lot of mental illnesses and absolutely zero friends nor hobbies, I barely leave home and I just don't see joy in anything.
I'm happy to see I'm not alone and that other people my age have been here too, I'm kinda hopeful thinking that if I keep working for my dreams, sooner or later they'll become true, and what's most important, my life is not over because things didn't get as I planned right away and I still have a looong life to figure things out.
The Internet has made us believe that if you're not married, with a stable job and basically living your dream life before 25, you're a failure or already late in life, I'm happy to see people calling out this bs
When I read stories like these and also fear for the future of my life, I often think about grandparents. They always have such wild stories that make their lives seem so long, eventful, and shows they did a lot of diverse things. My grandparents were growing up during WWII and had economic hardships for awhile as rural Appalachians, but they still dressed their experiences with what they could. I wanted to note, though, what these wild grandparent stories teach us - life can indeed be long and you can find yourself in tons of different hats, if you allow it. I'm going to college in a big city and hope to graduate in a year, and from what I have gathered about professionals here that good careers take a lot of time, effort, and being friendly - getting to know people. People try and fail at certain jobs and find their way. Everyone has their pace.
Вы ещё очень молоды. Не опускайте руки и действуйте. Поменьше инстаграмма тикток и тд. Эти социальные сети заставляют нас неосознанно сравнивать себя с успешными людьми и делать грустные выводы о себе. Начните стараться изо дня в день и у вас всё получится ❤
Feel you just turned 23.....and I feel so overwhelming sometimes.... Let's do our best.
Wishing you all the best❤
@@user-ue6kq1bm4o Thank you!😭🩷
@user-wi4sn1kt7l Thank you! Yeah, it's a weird age. We're supposed to be adults, so everyone expects us to be independent and totally functional, yet it's so hard to find a job because of our age and lack of experience, let alone the current state of the world. It's so hard not to compare ourselves with others...
“My life has been so up and down, that I no longer know what I want….” That hit it on the nail for me.
So up n down I feel like everything is boring that there is to offer
My mother was kicked out of her PhD program, then got married at the age of 40 and gave birth to me at the age of 45, two months away from 46! Her wisdom helped me greatly! There's plenty of time for things.
I love this comment 😊
Wow that is such a powerful reminder that everything moves in divine time. My Mom had her last kid in her late 30s and me in her early 20s and we got raised by TWO different women, my Mom was much more calm and equipped for kids as she aged.
Thank you for this comment it is very inspirational.
This is inspiring on so many levels. I’m starting my masters program at 41 . Currently not married or with kids but surprisingly, I’m excited about the future🙏🏽🙏🏽🎉
No, there's not plenty of time. JHC! What are you talking about! 🤯
Girl you are telling me my life with your words.
I wanted to get married at 25 and kids by 27, own a house with an good paying job. That was me picking an easy life at 20, thinking I didn't want to be ambitious, I didn't want millions of dollars. I just wanted a simple easy life and do my hobbies.
What really happened to me, never married, lots of heart breaks, tons of debt from school/consumer debt, living in apt with room mates and working in retail. No kids or husband. I am 35.
At 30 I realized the goals I put on myself would never happen. I accepted it. I understand many of us are in the same boat. Its not my fault.
Currently I am more ambitious then I have ever been in my entire life. I am going to manifest greatness. Back in school, my debt is lowest it has been in ten years, dating a wonderful person, own a cat and I take pride in me. I even survived cancer.
Girls we got this!!! We will overcome and be success. Best on your journey xoxo Akouto
Soo happy for you
good luck to you dear!
Congrats bestie, I’m rooting for you and your kitten!
Period
Sound like me... 35, no kids, no husband, and survived breast cancer. Hoping for a change soon.
I'm 46 y/o man in the same boat. I hit massive depression 10 years ago and have been trying not to un-alive myself ever sense.
Sending prayers if you believe them 🙏
I hope you stay with you...praying for strength 💪 for you through this time.
Keep going, because WHEN you pull yourself out of the dark, you will be so grateful you did ❤ also..highly recommend 🍄 therapy;)
I'm 54 and really screwed financially and have struggled with depression my whole life, even in times of prosperity. It's terrifying to think about how on earth I'll be able to survive in retirement. The one thing that always brings me peace, if only for a while, is nature. Sit with some sunflower seeds and peanuts on your porch, in your yard, or in a park, and make friends with squirrels and birds. They will never let you down. I know a lot of people hate squirrels, but if you watch and interact with them long enough, you'll see that they're quite hilarious. Same with pigeons. (skip the bread for birds especially -- it's nutritionally inert for them) Also, the RUclips/podcast channel HealthyGamerGG is great for depression and for problem-solving. It's slightly geared towards guys, but I'm a woman and get a lot out of it. He's a psychiatrist who nearly failed out of undergrad bc of his gaming addiction. Good luck to you and to all of us.
46 years old lady here. Please keep standing-life's wirth living no matter how little and scarce the joy might be 🫂
Here some words of hope...I started the career I wanted at 35 (after years of consistent failures, pain and misery), got married at 40 (to an amazing man after years of heartbreaks and betrayals and rejections) and have my daughter at 42 (after a miscarriage). I decided to stay home until my daughter turns 5 years...that is going to be in June this year... Am currently looking for a job....I have gotten a lot of rejections (no experience, big gap, etc), but I'm still full of hope and enthusiasm. I will get a very good job (or business) at the right time, the one that is belong to me by divine right, and the one that is going to allow me to fulfill my divine expression in this world. In summary, there is HOPE....every person's journey is different in intensity, timing, and experiences. No worries and "look with wonder at that which is before you" :)
My biggest worry is not getting married. As we are growing older, we only want at least we have someone to whom we can share our stories every single day. But now I think there’s hope when I read your comment. Thank you. :)
Thanks for sharing your story and optimism ☀️ it’s very inspiring
I just want to commend you for staying home with your child till she turned 5. That is very admirable and selfless of you. Your kid is going to grow up great! It is also my plan to be a SAHM for the first few years of my child’s life ❤️
Thank you for sharing. Sometimes you just feel like you are failing, especially when all those around you seem to have everything all figured out and look happy.
@@octa2984same. I never cared much before, but seeing how much my mom wants grandchildren and I feel so sad, anxious and lost. I’m not opposed to having kids. I actually would want at least one. But I’m not a very open person and never felt a connection with any man I went out with. But now I’m more hopeful that if I keep searching I can find someone and live a fulfilling life.
30 year old in HR here (who just started making a living wage myself). My biggest piece of advice to literally anyone is to network. I know it sounds cliche, but it’s true. Even entry level positions can get hundreds of applications. Someone dropping your name sets you apart. We don’t break any rules to get someone an interview, they’ve still gotta be qualified, but it’s like having a little asterisk by your name. Use any connections that you have. Seriously. You seem like a lovely person. Get some folks to vouch for you.
This
I feel like network is number one but I literally can't network due to avpd. I've never even had a bf and I'm 30.
This is very solid advice. I felt like my wage became liveable around 30 as well.
Thank you!
Sis I am routing for you, keep creating contents, thank you for sharing this video, I am 33 yrs old and I don't feel like I have a sense of direction either
If you keep uploading, this will be your career. Do you realize how refreshing it is listening to a well-spoken, genuine person on the internet? That's why Sam Sulek blew up; why can't you?! Subbed, see you next time 🙏🏼
Thank you! I lOVE Sam's content! He's my inspo for my content! :) he seems so chill!!
You're so kind, thank you to people like you.
@@xoxoakouto Facts ! Kudos to you and it sounds like you just found a new career. Subscribed and I’m rooting for you 🎉 may 2024 look much brighter for you but please don’t change your realness we love it! 👍🏾💪🏾🙌🏾💪🏾
Keep posting esp with regards to the things you like doing e.g. window shopping, cooking, reviews on books/ give us your perspective on the reads name it
You can really rock it
100 percent agree DTMJR. Stay the course Honey. It will happen. Please dont give up.
Yes this content itself is journalism! Thank you for your work and for sharing your story, we need this on platforms like this.
I was just about to comment this! You should also look into starting your own blog. I think it would be amazing to read! :)
Your experience is 100% normal in this day and age btw. I graduated in 2012 and it was the same back then, I'm sure it's even worse now. The American dream is dead, there are too many people competing for jobs, pay is too low, cost of living is too high, on and on. You're lucky to get anything you can in this country now, of course boomers will never understand this.
yeah exactly it is dead!! and all the ppl saying to get a masters or go back to school. nah that's more debt more stress and I've seen plenty of job descriptions require master's and barely pay $2 over minimum wage for more work.
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month.
You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
I feel inspired reading the comments, I'm walking the reinventing path. Tips ?
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!
TY. I really needed to hear this, elaborate money tips ? I've not been really opportuned to have these kind of convos lately
Yess
Frugal Living, saving , investing
The biggest lie our generation was told was to go to college no matter what. College does nothing but give you debt for most creative careers. Thank you for sharing! Good luck
And stress
If you put effort into exploring what's available to you - college gives you a bunch of opportunities to develop your interests / have more knowledge to inspire your creative process, make friends you wouldn't have met otherwise, and possibly connect with creative people that can help you get job opportunities - so I gotta disagree with your comment. But, I think there's truth to your core idea, since a lot of people drop out or don't go to college in the first place because they're focused, sure of their plan for the future, and passionate in terms of their creative career.
@@MartinK-sr1vmOnly go to college if the career that you desire requires the degree. Other than that, get an entry level position in a field that you are interested in then work your way up. It's best to start early, thus you can accept lower pay.
Yes, I agree with this. Plus the "creative career" industry is usually taken up with young adults who can afford to work either for free or at an extremely low salary. Their parents are usually wealthy. This isn't discussed enough so there are tons of people like this woman making the video hoping to get jobs in an already saturated industry.
@@MartinK-sr1vm This is all true. If you have the money, college can be great. However, try to start a creative career with low (or no) pay and $100k+ in debt. It doesn't work. I quickly realized I couldn't be making near minimum wage or "interning" for free in entry level production positions and make ends meet. My loans came due, and I had to get more consistent PAID work. If I didn't have that debt, I could have made it work.
33 here. been in a mental health clinic and situation since 2021. No job. No money. I found company, the best thing I got out of all the lows. I have zero clue what to do next. But I am sure taking my time to figure things out this time round. I don't need another mental breakdown. And life is so much more than work, vacation, material and a neat credit score.
I got a chance to be brave and start doing something I love. But I am a coward, still building up to finally commit to it.
Honestly, This is one of the most heartwarming videos I've ever seen on RUclips! Keep up the fantastic work, girl! I'm cheering you on all the way.
I’m 25 with no job, no direction, depressed. It sucks so much getting rejection emails everyday. But i will never give up. Never! A lot of older folks that I spoke to told me that it’s actually pretty common for people to feel this way, especially at my age. Hope is all I have, and I’ll continue to have hope.
I hope you have hope too! I wish you well!
Male presence and leadership gives a woman her direction…
There is a reason the mainstream has taught you the opposite
@@exceptionallife4768 Many cults and religions where women are abused and opressed follow the same mindset as you. 🙃 Its not helpful to society in any way, besides to uphold men already in power. No thanks.
Find what you really love and make that your work.
Society teaches us to work and get a career but I don't want that.
I want to own my own business.
It's a lot of stuff that I have to figure out for myself. But I'm doing it because this is what I see myself doing until the end of time.
So this is for me.
For you take your time and find out what makes you happy 🩷
You need to do well in your resume!!
I remember when I was 25 feeling old and like a looser, remove that form your life!!! you will be 50 and older wishing to go back to today. Do the experiment, imagine your 50 or older and you were given the chance to go back to 25 and do it all over again, see your loved ones younger and healthier we are not here forever! Go out make friends take courses, work hard and enjoy your youth.
The amount of views and likes she received for this video speak volumes. So many people share her pain and feel the same way but suffering in silence.
😂😂 you all want to be strong and independent. You ain't seen nothing yet Bcos u all will sell 🐱 for $2
@jonesym5438clearly the woman in the video was actively looking for a job but struggling and the majority of the people in the comments are experiencing the same thing. criticizing someone for rightfully using resources from the government (unemployment) shouldn’t be frowned upon if someone is trying to do better.
Shows how sheeple and delusional people are. Sad
Because they fear online bullying 😢
I'm 34 and on disability after a permanent goodbye attempt. My mental health has been my biggest struggle my entire life. I've never been talented or good at anything. Nothing comes easy to me. I'm a slow learner with a possible learning disability. I don't feel like I belong here. I can't even figure out what I want. My heart goes out to anyone who feels this way. It's a struggle to keep going sometimes but know you're not alone
Hi! I suggest you read Medical Medium (Anthony William) books or health articles from his website. I believe following the diet he recommends can be very helpful.
On the cusp of turning 25 and so much of this is an exact description of my life. Appreciate you sharing, it can be so isolating to feel this way so to see so many people connecting to this is both sad but also makes it feel less lonely.
Wishing you and everybody else a happy life.
I’m 37 and I was in the same boat as you at 33 and here’s what I did to turn that around:
1. I went back to school (law school). You don’t need to go to law school, even if you just complete a certificate program on Udemy, learning is always a good idea.
2. I joined a sorority through the graduate chapter. This surrounded me around positive women, community events and activities.
3. I started volunteering and joined local organizations like the Urban League, Junior League, Young Professionals, etc.
4. I started taking my job more seriously. Even if it wasn’t my “passion” or a job I loved, I challenged myself to be the best at whatever I was doing. This gave me purpose everyday.
5. I started a gratitude journal. Everyday, I listed everything I was grateful for that day and why. No negativity, only gratitude.
6. I gave myself a daily self-care and skin care routine.
7. I changed my diet and took working out more seriously. Even if it was just walking on the treadmill for 30 mins, I committed myself to doing something active everyday.
8. I started to attend galas that supported causes and issues that I cared about.
9. Planned at least two trips per year and went out with friends at least once per month, at minimum.
10. Got a therapist on BetterHelp
Purpose is thinking bigger than yourself. Giving back to the community can be just as impactful and important. People need to realize that goals do not need to be big and lofty. Sometimes they are just accomplishing small tasks that you complete throughout the day. You have to give yourself credit for that. I feel like people go wrong when they compare themselves too much to others or they try to follow some idea about what they should be doing at their age. Your life’s path is unique and it should be treated as such. Although I have a child now, single and childless women NEED to understand that having a man and children should not be the only things that give you purpose in life. Marriage and motherhood are A LOT more stressful and burdensome than people tell you it is and it will not give you value and purpose if you don’t already have it. I think I’m a good mother now because I built myself into a good woman before I had my child. I had purpose before I became a mother. I do not recommend women having children and getting married before they curate a fulfilling life for themselves.
Thank you so much for this comment. Solutions 👏🏾
Yes to all of it!
Fabulous comment - so inspiring x
This was a five star comment. Thank you. 👌🏼
2 thru 7 sound good to me. Number 1 I would suggest community or online college to prevent building up further debt.
Number 8 I guess if you're not an introvert like me. Number 10 I'm not sure about. I've heard some very bad reviews on BH to be honest. Maybe just find a local therapist or use the journal to write about your troubles for free
the fact that over 1 million people have watched this video shows that this is systemic result of late stage capitalism, not a personal failure. Thank you for your vulnerable and relatable video, I am rooting for you! xo
Stop blaming capitalism.
@@MysteryExodus nah
@@KP-ec7mr move to the forest if you hate capitalism we don't need you here
its definitely culture
people decide these things who are often guided culture, its not just because effort can be translated into currency which the value of which is subject to human decisions
@@martalisabrondin9390except that it's not true. If it were true, the women's rights movement never would've happened.
I’m glad people my age are speaking out about this stuff it make me feel so much less alone ❤ your on you way 🙏🏿
I’m disability hearing aid deaf and 30 years old. I graduated from college. I never been relationship. I always thought I’m ugly but I don’t care anymore. I want to be child free. I graduated from child development, photoshop and photography. I want to find a job that I like photography or graphic design. I’m try to make my own business or become creators content. It seems hard but I’m trying. I still live with my parents. I helped them and appreciate my parents. ❤️
The fact that I keep coming across these videos for both men and women and that they are so popular is really telling of the times we’re in.
Lockdown has destroyed everything. The governments think we will forget them imprisoning us inside. But we won't ever forget the great lockdowns. Prison planet.
Mostly women
@@Escape2FreedomAsapyou’re right. mostly women have posted these type of video discussions. however, i’ve known of 3 men (through work and school) that killed themselves just in 2023 alone. you know there are more. the men are alone and not okay too. everyone is going through it. men just don’t talk about it as much.
@@tokkialy didn't even realise until now but the people I know who have ended their lives are ALL men.
@@ojs5988probably because they are not talking about it as much 😢, which is sad !
This comment section is wilde.
I don't think I've seen anything remotely similar.
Ever single comment is long, honest, people are opening up, they're going through the same thing, giving advice, showing support. wow
Just wanted to point that out.
Needless to say, I'm on the same boat.
Thank you for making this video. Proof that when you make something honest, something true to yourself, it's rewarded. It reached the intended audience.
Keep it up. Do not doubt you're doing the right thing. ♡
I feel so safe and seen here. I'm 19 w/o a license or job but I plan to change that soon
You should check out sad lofi comment sections
Yasss I was thinking the same thing! It’s very heartwarming to see everyone connect and be so vulnerable with one another. Hugs to everyone and blessings to her ❤
@@jarbincks6715 im 19 without a license too and i moved to a big city just to shut my mom up about it😭
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Finding this at 21 thank u miss💕I’m struggling too but the light for me is that I know my worth and this is happening for a reason.There is something bigger out there for me🌸
Thank you so much for posting this video! I’m still rather young (21) and yet, already, it feels like I’m going nowhere. I keep telling myself that comparison is the thief of joy, and it’s so difficult to keep going when everyone else around you seems like they’ve got it together. I’ve met many wonderful people in the same boat as you, and it really keeps me afloat (if that makes sense).
Wishing all the best for you moving forward! Your content seems so genuine, and I love that you’re prioritising yourself despite this low point in time. I’m subscribed! 😁
Omg! These comments are everything I needed. I’m 27, no kids, no bf, one friend , and no license. I have been feeling lost for months now and I needed this video. Thank you all ❤
can I smash?
With a playlist called "fuck him" 🤦♂
[Edit] @gigii6548 why did you take out the playlist 😂😂😂??
I'll be your friend 😢
@@louist7691 😳Welp, I forgot that existed. 😭
How’d you come to this conclusion on a person that you don’t know and never met 💀 wtf
It's nice to see a non-Instagram person showing how rough life can be even when you put a lot of effort into it. Most people just post their success stories and go on how "if you're not succeeding, it's your own fault, you're not working hard enough".
Exactly... and when you are not successfull, then you are lazy... OR maybe you are just not a sociopath who only cares about success and money
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@@ildikoedit9110 let’s also not hate on successful people also..🙄that just sounds jealous. It’s totally okay to care about your career or money (you can use it for good reasons) that makes you in no way a sociopath BUT that ≠ success, success can look different for everyone since we all have different POV on what success is aka what success looks like for us is totally different to the individual
If your goal in life is to open a little bakery with your best friend and you made it = that can be success for you
For other success is getting married & creating a little family while for some that’s their worst nightmare and they just want to travel and making that happen is success for them.
I am working hard and study 24/7 just so I can financially support my parent (I have older parents).. and I want to be wealthy so they don’t have to work anymore at their age and can see the world - they’ve always worked and never got to enjoy life I want them being able to travel and rest.
Crazy timing, I needed to hear this
This is so helpful! Really helped me out a depression from losing my contract job. Thank you for telling your story
37 years old, about to lose my business and my home, but still with a massive mortgage that no job will ever pay for. Lost and depressed, it's so amazing to see other vulnerable REAL human beings out there. Thank y'all for sharing, blessings for all of you🙏
Stay strong you got this. Like happiness can suddenly fade, so can misery!
What do you mean by massive mortgage?
You know the fucked up part? Nobody cares at the end of the day. It’s a cruel world with cruel people especially nowadays.
I hope your situation will get better quickly x hang in there !
I pray EVERYTHING will work out for you.
I’m 28 years old and still living with my parents.. I’ve never dated anyone and I graduated college with a useless major, thus I’m now working a remote job I really hate. Was dealing with pretty horrible health issues that held me back for about 6 years, now I’m in the process of restoring everything I lost. Some people appear to be extremely blessed at my age, while people like me seem to be “cursed.” I guess all we can do is keep grinding the best we can despite what life may throw at us
If you have health issues just know it’s not your fault
@@TRUTHHURT321 This is what I tell myself sometimes, so Thanks. Sometimes I feel like it is still my fault 😓
what degree did you get if you dont mind me asking?
@@lj9970 I did Marketing… couldn’t find anything great with it
I hope you all the best❤❤
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
Wow this video took OFF, congratulations!!! I really hope that you find something that you want to do and are happy doing. I've been struggling in the tech industry too and was a part of the massive layoffs in January. So I really appreciated you sharing your story.
I’m 40 and unmarried and childless and I rent…and it’s really nice, actually.
Everyone is on their own timeline - It’s a cliche but it’s so true.
I’m 30 and I’m the same. I’m content with my life. Maybe in the next 5 years I’ll get married and have kids.
We the same - 40, single, childless, renting
im 37 and no kids..dont want any either, working part time and a side hussle too. no real close friends either. i cut ties with one of my close ones for good reason. sometimes It gets lonely trying to make new friends.i just wanna travel more too and move out of my current city
Everyone has his/her own journey. I swear that if people would make peace with that...
@@thebookcompanion1631you should keep quiet with your wonderings. Has it ever occurred to you that there are things outside of a person's control? What is the point of being sad and depressed (as you seem to suggest) over something you cannot control? That is the real foolishness. We should learn to be content with our portion, that doesn't mean we don't want something different it's just where we are right now.
I’m 33, nurse, no children, 1 friend/boyfriend. Basically I only communicate with him and my mom. I was accused of basically not seeing my patients. Ruined my whole career. That was 2014, graduated 2013. I just got hired as a nurse again after 6 years of trying. I say all of that to say, yes people will doubt you. The worst thing you can do is doubt yourself. Sending love and positivity to all.
I’m so glad you got back into nursing. Good luck!!
you got this queen🎠🎠 im not nurse but doing my best to become a, preschool teacher . i have only 1 friend 0 boyfriend and yes also only communicate with my mom
Damn false accusations suck, not many women deal with it but there are plenty of men’s groups to support with that so maybe they have some advice
Wow!
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I appreciate you! Good luck to you, people are cheering you on!
We are going to support you girl ❤
I’m in the same boat, 32 and I live with my parents but I’m happy. I have a good job at a surgery center and I keep in good shape. I’m single but I’m not stressing it. Nothing is guaranteed in this life just make the most of everyday and appreciate the little things. Your on the right track
Yep. What many people (even those with families of their own) will never admit is that the "direction" slump can happen at any point in your life. Even with marriage, kids, a set career path-- or none of those at all... The personal "slump" happened to my parents in their early 40's. I can imagine this happening to other people at different stages, too. Don't let the status quo fool you. Life happens and nothing is indeed set in stone. And that's just life. 🤷♀️
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Respectfully, this woman said she has no family, no job and no direction. How is that the same boat? I mean no harm. This just really stood out to me as confusing
At least you have parents I live alone NO SUPPORT 😢
Why do I live with your parents if u have a good job are u rich?
you don't have to do anything or prove yourself to anyone.... "I'm a 33 year old woman with no life." No. you're a 33 year old woman just doing what you were meant to do, living.
This type of destructive "feel good" advice is exactly why people don't get further in life
@@skkrtskkrt-5210 don’t get further at what? Impressing other slaves in a society run my Monopoly money printed out of thin air? No thanks.
@@skkrtskkrt-5210period
@@skkrtskkrt-5210 exactly, so sad to see so many fellow young people fall into these hedonistic holes.
@@skkrtskkrt-5210further, where? Richer? More fulfilled? I think it actually leads more people to happiness than their own demise.
You are amazing at telling your story! Thank you for sharing xx
Thank you for this ❤I wish you the best on your journey and I’ll be subscribing to see it
I'm 39, broke, no partner, dead end job... But I'll push through, I have no other choice.
My advice would be to do anything that takes bravery to do. Just anything. You already know what can make you happy. For example if it’s art, simply practice it, build your experience and work your way from down to the top. Create a passion or a goal in life. Show your face where you normally wouldn’t and meet people that your personal path attracts towards you. Get another job if you need to, that job isn’t the only thing on the planet. You could get a job on a cruise ship and survive. You could work at a cinema and survive. You could become a local politician and survive. You could start a business or get employed at a small business and survive. You could even start working at an interesting bar. Do what’s good for your health. Spoiler alert: it’s not to continue living a life that feels empty and ‘dead end’.
you are not broke, you are still 39! and assume a healthy person.
I am 37 and a doctor, and I don't have a job too, but I'm soo happy after the end of the last job contract and slowing down this period of time taking care of myself.
this period of time when we don't have job is a time changing I swear, as long as you think and plan smartly. you heard lots of successful people having this pause in life. you can make an astonishing jump, I strongly believe in this, because I personally lived it many times in the past, it is not the first time for me where I'm jobless, but I'm a specialized doctor now and studied everywhere in the world, speak 3 languages fluently. I feel very lucky with those pauses in my life, it re-direct my path and thought to be more successful.
plus it is not important to have a partner, what is important is to have a GREAT partner. I would prefer to be with no partner than to be with a bad partner. that is not something to rush in.
I too, got partner and married late and was with no partner for a very long time, but now I have the most amazing partner who is helping, supporting, kind, generous and cooking great food.
you will do great thing, you will remember me when you become 42! but you need to plan very well how to get there in the next 3 years.
GOOD LUCK
need adhd meds.
I hope things work out for you and you end up doing very well.
Y’all do everything to yourselves. Y’all got issues but a man can’t have any himself but you expect a guy to have his shit together when his just as human as you
I just turned 24 two days ago and I already feel like I’m failing at life. Sending everyone all the encouragement. It’s hard seeing people your age or younger more successful and still feeling like you’re behind. Doesn’t make me feel good at all 😭.
24 now and feel that too
Your journey isn't someone else's. They have their failures too. Always remember that.
gurl.....its okay....its life. unlike school there is no report card. your life is your life and theirs is theirs. You can only see the good parts of their life. And guess what, not everyone deems success equally. its okay. take small steps at a time. recognize your bad habits, and try to take one step to improve them. all will be well...
24 and same
Yah honestly but I believe wen your time has come no man can interfere or stop God work just be consistent and prayerful
Thanks for sharing your story because trust me you are NOT ALONE; many of us are younger and older than you but facing the SAME ISSUE and maybe worst too. But I hope it’ll workout for us all 😢
your honesty is needed! Thanks for sharing … we all can relate
I don't know if this will inspire or depress you. I'm living your life at 63! The only difference between us is 30 years, I've never been married, I don't wear glasses, and I have multiple cats. After a decade of dedication, I was fired from my job for basically being "too old". Now I'm contemplating starting over instead of retiring. I knew I should've moved on from that job but I became comfortable so they decided for me. A job search at my age is no joke. But, actually, I'm finally free to pursue something I really want to do. I focus on the positives in my life. I have health, friends, family, experience, ideas, interests, hobbies, cats, food, shelter and clothing. I'll be fine. I, too, was thinking of starting a YT channel. I'll take this video as a sign that I should move forward with this idea. Thanks very much for sharing!
We would love to follow your journey
I'm 29 and honestly the idea of being single with many cats your age sounds like a dream. I just got my first cat. And I agree with you about reinventing yourself. I hope you find something good ❤❤❤
That’s depressing & my worse fear
Well you've definitely lived a decent amount of years n you're still kicking so there's no stopping u from moving forward. Wish u the best
I’m 59 + now just starting my journey, after having experienced many unfortunate things. But as you say, we have much to be thankful for. Start your channel!
As a 33 yr old mom of five, balancing career, kids, and a personal life, girllllll you betta get out there and TRY everything while you dont have to be responsible for anyone but yourself.
Have a experiences! Create a bucket list and thrash it. Go volunteer and help unfortunate people. Create something. Have a health routine and habits. Find some hobbies… take yourself out and around the world! Dance in the rain. Face some fears and document the whole thing!
Be free my love! ❤
God loves you. Love yourself
She can do all that but she’s not going to be happy until she finds a Partner that she loves and that Person loves her and she can do some of those things together
@@redscorpion9325your happiness should never from someone else. Happiness should always comes from within you.
@redscorpion9325 huh?
@@redscorpion9325you don’t need a partner in order to be happy.
I’ve been single for 30 years, and it’s important to learn how to be happy BEFORE you get into a relationship. No one is designed to be responsible for the other person’s happiness. We are human, so we make mistakes & WILL let others down. The one to lean on fully is God. Having humans that care/love us is a perk! Eventually we will die as a single individual & will report to God alone. Community & live is important though!
All the love and support sis
I'm 24....no home...never had one...mom left me when I was young and my dad took care of us. Finished school and passed well. Dad lost his job....couldn't afford to go to college...stayed a year at home doing nothing...
I kept praying to God to give me a job...then we had few money for food....got a retail job that paid me like E1000 which is like $100. Tried surviving off it but got chased out...
I tried doing business and it never got successful. I stayed home until now.. sad part is I don't know how long I'm gonna stay here as my dad's not working anymore and my greatest fear is being homeless. I swear I'm always looking for a job with no luck...life is hard 😭😭😭💔I just wanna die and end this pain
I’m 44. I was scammed trying to rent a home. I have not been able to get back on my feet every since that happened. I lost my apartment thinking we (I have 2 girls) were moving into another home. I have 1 friend. I do have a job, just can’t find a home. I am lost in life rn. I am in different directions. I am so happy to come across this video. Life has been a complete disaster. I pray for your journey, and everyone else in the comments. May you all find peace and get what you absolutely need right now
You got this keep your head up you aren't alone those girls need you❤
I’m praying for you and your girls ❤❤
Keep going. You're not alone fighting these sorts of problems.
You cannot be 44 😍 maybe it was a typo lol
Things will get better
So relatable. Young female millennials need to come together and build communities
this.
Millennials need to come together
What would the community do? How would it work ?
@@Fusionkichincomplain all day
'young female millennials need to come together and build communities' already sounds disastrous.
Girl your strong,
I am on a similar journey and battling with it everyday and not giving up even if I feel so alone among millions of individuals around me.
Keep loving yourself on higher volumes dearie❤
Came across this video on my home page and it’s exactly what I needed to hear. I got my bs in biology in 2019, and got an amazing internship turned 4 year contract at a government agency doing great work. My contract ended last year and I have been unemployed since. I thought with my degree and that amazing experience under my belt, it would be no problem landing an entry level lab job, but i was horribly mistaken. It took awhile for me to acknowledge the toll this took on my mental health and self esteem constantly being faced with rejection and feeling not good enough. I dug myself into a depression hole, unable to complete daily maintenance tasks and take care of my physical health. I’m only now coming to terms with it and trying to lift myself up. I can’t tell you how relieving it is to know that i’m not the only one feeling this way. Thank you for sharing your story and i hope you are able to find your path again. ❤
33 looking 20. I wouldn’t say not knowing what you want to do is a bad thing. I’m 25 in the same boat. Life is all about experience… we don’t have to have it all together. I would say that being a late bloomer is very real and may become the norm.
Our purpose is following Jesus 😁
As a late bloomer, I agree with you. I didn't feel like I was growing into an adult until 30. I'll be 39 tomorrow.
I’m am 26 and definitely a late bloomer and I’m okay with that! I am married and have one son and now starting over again trying to do nursing. I use to beat myself up about it too. But, I have to do something for me now.
@@yo9979 correction. That is YOUR purpose. Not all people are Christian. People are so wild with their statements. It's crazy.
@@ImjusthereleavemealoneI’m in nursing as well! The good thing about nursing is that there are so many different fields to chose from, and there will always be work worldwide. These were factors I looked for when it came to jobs where I’m able to serve.
As a 22 year old with no vehicle, no job, living with my parents, you sharing this was such a relief and a burden lifted. Thank you for your transparency and being vulnerable with us 💗🫶🏽
Girl you are child-free and probably debt free, your only 22, what are you talking about.
@@erikathomas5801as young adults the pressure to have everything together hits us just as bad especially with social media, and especially in our 20s. Don’t try to invalidate how she feels because she’s young.
You can do what you want. Pray to God to show you your purpose in the modern world
Take advantage of the time !! I didn't get a car until I was 26 ! You got this
As a 22 year old same here you're not alone
Thank you for sharing about times of transition. I’ve had a few of them and I’m turning 32 this year. Sometimes you know you’re going to be ok and you deep down you are ok, but the moment itself doesn’t feel good. All I can do when that happens is to find small joys right now, and as you said, remember that this isn’t forever. Some days felt like I was clawing at the walls, but now that I’m getting close to finding a job, I’m so sure of what I want and don’t want in my life. Hang in there and thank you again 🙏🏼
Omg the first half of this felt like your were narrating my exact story. I also studied journalism in college and could not find a job after I graduated AT ALL. I spent so many years working retail jobs and just couldn't break into the corporate world. About two years ago I had to leave one of those retail jobs to care of my mom and for the past few months I've been trying to get back out there. Some days I'm just scrolling linkedin and saving jobs and not even applying because sometimes its just like "man, what's the point?" There's just so many ups and downs and you run through all the motions -- I'm just hoping to turn a corner soon!
The idea that a child can plan their entire life ahead of them is one of the most toxic traits of modern society. You have a life, you're just in survival mode. As a fellow creative, my only advice is to carve your own path, don't rely on employers to fulfil your dreams. Fulfil your own dreams and build your own opportunities. The fact that your video picked up in the algorithm is a sign! Ride that wave.
I remember in middle school a huge assignment was planning every year of our life and when all the big events would happen (career, marriage, children, etc). I'm 25 now and it still gives me anxiety that I'm so far behind what my 12 year old self thought would happen. Ridiculous assignment and expectation on kids.
@@hollym4051100% unrealistic expectation on children
@@hollym4051 i had this same assingment and its what triggered my first ever existinal crisis at the age of 13, needless to say i do not want children but if i did have them i think its important to tell them its okay to not know.
They expect us to know and have vision boards and creative writing papers 10 years ahead of where will be when life doesn't work the same way.
Yeah you said it well
First off, don't forget you have already achieved two of your goals. Completing college, and marriage. Did achieving these goals guarantee the outcome you had always planned or hoped for? Not yet. You're well spoken, and professionally mannered. Why wait to be hired? This is your start. You can interview other people in your position, under similar circumstances. That could be the very premise for this channel. So many people are where you are, or have been where you are. Ask people in the comments if they would be willing to tell there story by interview. I bet your channel would be very successful, because it is so relatable. Just a thought.
you gott somee sense that most of us dont get.. 😮
Start podcast! Yes
What an amazing comment ! So true
Great idea!
Oh yes, a lot of us forget about the networking part. Even though I don't follow this as much as I should, I tell people all the time, NETWORK, NETWORK, NETWORK!! Informational interviews with people at companies or in positions you want to work in are extremely helpful.
You are so brave! I'm on a moment like that, and hearing you comforted me so much! I have a kid and no jobs for a while... started to think that my life is messed and nothing will work from now... Thanks for sharing your moment
I feel this, turning 33 this year and I feel lost as well and feeling directionless. I think your RUclips is going to blow up though.
I’m 54 and I just started my journey to becoming a nurse. I always knew that I wanted to be a nurse at an early age because I wanted to help people. Well needless to say I got off track and now I’m trying to get into a nursing program. It’s okay to start over again
As a RN of 14 years. Nursing is hard, stressful and grueling. Many nurses are getting out. Have a GREAT support system if that is really what you want.
I agree with comment below, Iam a registered nurse with 20 years experience in oncology and palliative care,it's extremely stressful, very often depressing but also meaningful and human, makes you humble and better as a person, I love my job and I wish you as a future colleague all best 😊
If you haven’t been to school in 20 plus years I would not recommend nursing school
@@twi8497 why?
Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing
The fact that this is by far your most viewed video shows how relatable your situation is
also brings her purpose. I love that she made this video. so much courage and I love the comments of those bringing their own situation and advice this is so helpful. thank you. ♡
And yet it’s so popular today to be 30 and single. It’s gonna get worse from here!
No lol this comment section it’s also filled by a bunch of misogynistic men 😭
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@@vcodyy6693 men have no business being here but getting older is totally a thing. Why do we need to pretend we dont
I'm almost 50. I'm not going to write a long drawn out speach.
Believe me I get it. Your doing the right thing putting it out there. Awareness creates positive charge and opportunities. Bringing it into the light and forefront for change . Individually and for all as a whole... You do got this !. May be Time where you may not feel it. It may not look it. You may not be confident of what is to come next.. ..throughout your entire life. So this truly is one the best ways To get through it. I think your awesome i can see your greatest and potential is so limitless.
Bless you beautiful
Keep shining
Keep Moving Forward
Just want to say thank you for sharing! Even when you DO know where you want to go, sometimes the path isn’t easy, and people will still feel like it’s not enough at times (speaking from my own esp) and support systems can be hard to come by. But I feel like you’re going through these times for a reason because you’re meant for more! I can’t wait to see how you shake up rooms and your life for the better! You have a purpose out of your comprehension rn, but it’ll manifest! Keep believing in better and taking these leaps of faith. Your story can do a LOT! Cheers to your journey and prayers for continued perseverance, peace and wellness along the way. From a fellow grown ass woman who is trying 🥂👑✨💕
I am 32 years old. I’ve been looking for videos about this exact kind of experience because I’ve been so ashamed of being unemployed and directionless. So much of that content is by 20-something year olds, who have very valid perspectives! But there’s something about being 10 years out of college and still feeling aimless that hits differently. When you’re in your 20s, people still see potential in you. If you’re older, people are very judgey about how you’ve spent your time so far.
Yeah that's what happened to my husband, a year ago he tried to pivot into tech and wasted 1 year old his life, got all the certificates and training then no one hired him into any entry level tech job and we were told there are up to 400 applicants per job. I feel like companies are more likely to give the entry level role to some 23 year old fresh grad. Oh well, he had to give up and chalk it up as a wasted year and many wasted hours studying, since we don't live with parents and can't live like an eternal student forever
Nothing you learn is a waste. You did something like learning new skills.
It will take time! trust me i was rejected left right and centre, after achieving all the requisite training and education. I qualified as a lawyer at 30. I waited for 7 years! doing various jobs no consistency but thats the way life has made me stronger!! it WILL HAPPEN FOLKS
@@fluffythebluepersian4888AFAIK, companies put more value on projects than any certifications. Has your husband done any projects that’s relevant to the job that he’s applying ?
@@fluffythebluepersian4888My friend just had a similar experience and she DOES have experience! She took a year off the help open a business with her friend and then tried to get back into tech and applied to SO many jobs. Got a few interviews here and there but it took MONTHS to get one offer. Then you just have to take it whether you want it or not. Though they say tech jobs are the most prolific?
At the age of 33 I moved to a different country and started my life from zero.Dont give up, there is a great job there. Every one has a different path and You are not obliged to achieve same goals other people before certain time frames.
I am 43. I've been trying to move to Thailand for the past three years now. But since I don't even have a job, then I can't even make the move. I live in Antigua in the Caribbean.
What country? And how is that going? I’m 32 and trying to reinvent myself and I’m struggling
@@ShanaJahsintaWalterswhy thailand ...asking from jamaica
@@brianawalker8003 If you are asking me, I am trying to move from Antigua to Thailand.
@@sunmoonrising81 I always wanted to live in Asia since I was a teenager. And these past few years, Thailand has popped up on my radar. Plus it is far cheaper to live than Antigua.
Thank you for this video! I'm not leaving comments at all, but I want to start consuming content mindfully, and that video is the one I'm beginning my way with!
I'm in my first year of university, and I feel like I have completely messed up. I don't know whether I like my major or if I have any friends (although I communicate with a great number of people). Something about this video is inspiring... I'm constantly shown successful stories in the media, and it’s hard not to start comparing. Everyone has their own way, and it's really great. Thank you for reminding it❤
This is so relatable! I have 3 degrees and I’m struggling to get a job rn. It’s either I get no response or told that I’m “overqualified.” If I knew what I knew now, I would’ve never went to college. I would’ve gotten a high paying certification in PM or something tech related to start out to achieve financial stability. And then I probably would’ve considered college later on if i felt it was needed. Also, they don’t tell you in school that it’s not about what you know, it’s WHO you know. I know of people who didn’t have a degree or much experience, but they’ve gotten great jobs and climbed the ladder just based off of their network.
You are not a loser, you are a beautiful and very intelligent woman.
you can be an intelligent and beautiful person and still have no life
@@ngndnd your life is what you make it!
you are not a loser and intelligent you've experienced rejection it hurts get tough x
My one piece of advice would be is DO NOT WAIT. If you want something do not wait for it to happen somehow start it yourself. Create you own company, find like minded people in the same position and build something together. Get out of the house and surround yourself with people who are living the life you want or have the things you want to have. Sometimes we don’t realise that we need a shift in mindset until we are around people who are doing what we want to be doing and we realise they think entirely differently to us. Being around those people will make you subconsciously step up your game. Now I say this as someone who never did any of these things because I never had any advice and was too embarrassed to ask for it. I’m in my 40s and in a similar position. Am I sad about it? Yes, a little bit I’m not mad, I’m just glad I realised now, better late than never. All those cliches sayings are cliches for a reason; they have a point "Procrastination is the thief of time" "Feel the fear and do it anyway" "better to regret something you did do than something you didn’t"
Thanks for sharing this - wish there was help out there 😢or a community for people to have someone to talk to
I’m in my early 20s, I agree with this so much. Thank you for sharing!
If you don’t know what you’re doing do not create your own company. Rest of the advice is good
thank you so much for this
Thank God for this comment
New subscriber! You have got this. Your content is so refreshing and honest. This is the reality for so many of us. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this video!!
Girl ..
I started medical school at 18 got into one of the most competitive schools in my country , it literally mentally , economically and physically destroyed me , completed my whole degree but failed one of my exams by 0.1 percent , that pushed Me into the deepest depression I ever experienced in my life , so I pretty much have to start life all over again at 27🙄, every day gets better and better , we got this❤️
Wait can u retake it or u can’t go back because it triggers ur depression?
@@ashleykay6701In some countries (I am not sure about how it looks in the USA) you can't retake certain exams. E.g. in Germany, if you fail the third attempt at a final in uni you get exmatriculated and blocked for that major in the whole country.
@@ComfyCatzWow. Crazy
Praying for you. There’s literally always a reason things don’t work the way we think they will. 18 years ago after just Knowing I was going to be an anesthesiologist- I got to my university and realized I didn’t want to be in the medical field. I was so lost… since then I’ve been blessed to have a few careers that has shaped my life for what I truly desire. All I can tell you is …. KEEP ON LIVING❤❤
@@ComfyCatzWow they need to change that. Are you able to drop courses? Many times is the teacher, the books that they pick, and lack of supplemental study aids especially if the authors are bad. For me it’s the teachers that don’t use textbooks and/or plain text ones that are the worst plus not all exams the same. I did bad in certain sciences but I can’t stand it when the exam was just two complex questions. It was a certain science for my basic GE slot. Basically explaining mRNA, DNA, and cellular transport it was decades back for two complex situations. But yeah I did bad, my thought process thinks this unfair for an intro class but yeah for pre-med majors it was too easy. It was sharing basic knowledge and drawing basic parts on paper.
« Instead of waiting for a company to tell me I am not good enough, I am going to create my own content » Now that’s how you take your power back and for that alone, I am so proud of you ❤️
Big facts
Yes! I did the same thing. When I became unemployed in April I started my own RUclips channel to pave my own way. 🙏🏾
You would say the same thing a man made a video like this ?
@@givenchie462yes
Lol power what power
Hi! I really love your takes and optimism. I'm 22 and really appreciate your advice. I think us creatives need a way to express ourselves. I'm sorry people are missing out on you. You seem like such a lovely person. Gotta work hard and stay on that grind girl! I really wish you the best and I will be watching more of your content.
I’m 31. Just went back to school for nursing after graduating from university with a stupid degree. I’m halfway done and finally feel excited about my future.
Feeling directionless is so hard, but it doesn’t have to be forever ♥️ it was certainly uncomfortable and scary to make such a huge change but it breathed new life into me
Yasss love this, congrats! I wanna go to respiratory therapist school, have been a social worker/admin office so want a shift! Any advice? I am 33
I’m a 37 year old college graduate that used to make six figures. I did everything I thought was right to secure my future. Went to the military, got out and graduated college, bought a house, fancy car, and fast forward to now, I’ve been unemployed for the past 7 months. I’m right there with you. Once I pulled myself out of the depression and self loathing, I started to understand that I’ll never have anything more than a false sense of security if I continue working for someone else. I also understand now that despite my past accomplishments, the material things that I wasted money on didn’t fulfill me, and the jobs I worked to make “good money” didn’t fulfill me either. I encourage us all to find something that we care about, something that makes us feel like we are contributing something of value to the world, even if it is volunteering while unemployed. I encourage us to working on ourselves, keep learning, keep growing, but also giving ourselves grace and patience. Please don’t believe that your life is not valuable just bc some company HR dept head doesn’t see your value or potential! We will make it through this stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Thank you for sharing your story!
Beautifully said!!! Thank you for sharing.
Jesus gives joy in all situations; He gives peace that you will not get from anything in this world. He gives you the desires of your heart and direction in life if you delight in him. If you have not received Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour, i encourage you to do so today. Jesus loves you and thinks you are worth it and that's why He died for me and you, that we have life unending.
Do you mind sharing with us what you do / how you sustain yourself working for yourself?
amen
@@buyisiwesibeko2245
I needed this
I never imagined adulting to be like this and I’m 25. I think we are living in truly unpredictable strange and weird times. The whole world has changed in such a short amount of time compared to the 90s and early/mid 2000s and not in a good way. The attitude of humans have shifted from being free to being annoyed and beyond stressed out. People have become more violent and careless because the world is really rough right now. Please don’t be hard on yourselves. Seeing all the comments it speaks volume that I and we are not alone ❤️
I am so hard on myself, thank you for this ❤
It's the end times. My only hope is Jesus. This world is bonkers.
@@purpleduck3494definitely the end times!
We're living like teenagers and not adults. Because of lack of jobs and studying being too long.
@@helloworld7818 Nobody is in the business of creating Jobs,it's the duty of all of us.We need to become the solution we're looking for.
The next generation depends on us yet we're crying....
Thank you for your vulnerability and courage to share.
Love that you’re using your skills for RUclips videos now, hopefully that becomes a good business for you!
I’m 27 years old living with my folks, no relationships, no kids, and most of my friends have their own place and family. I worked at several jobs, but either I got fired or quit due to personal reasons. I haven’t even traveled to no other countries. But I finally stepped up to pursue my graduate degree and going to therapy. All I can say, is to don’t be afraid to take risks and chase opportunities.
still better than being a single mom or someone's wife tho , slay queen
Wow same here. You hit the nail on the head with this
Correction: your friends are paying rent or mortgage. They don't "have their own place". If they miss payments they'll be kicked out
@@user-um7tw6kx4r6 yeah that’s true!! :/
please be proud of even the little things. that's important!
I needed to hear this. I’m turning 24 soon I feel old already. Failed my nurse exam four times now. I’m working just to live. I don’t have social life. Never gotta experience anything like vacation. I want to make it right. I don’t want to have big regret.
Thank you.
Keep doing this video ❤
Update : failed it again 5th time.
Keep trying, sounds like you could really use a break. I hope you’re doing well.
Same
🙄 you're a baby. stop
That sucks the time you sacrifice for nursing was for nothing because you failed those exams.
@@semekiizuio it wasn't for nothing? clearly she wanted it enough to try a couple times. So what if you fail? Certain things just take time and effort and failure is just a part of the process. I wouldn't count it as time wasted, rather, it's time to reflect and really hone in on what you can improve and specialize in. There's plenty of people in the medical field who have failed countless times in their exams, etc. and have become wonderful medical providers once they pass (even if it took them years to get there). I recommend the channel: HealthyGamerGG
Love this. Very motivational and I was just going through some things and im grateful that I've overcame those challenges.
I loved this video. I was feeling down and you uplifted me. 38 staying home and a single mother. I’m a lawyer but it’s been hard. I feel so useless…
Useless as lawyer? Definitely not.
People need more of these real life videos. Props to you for opening up.
God loves you! Repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! go to Jesus and he can give you mercy joy and peace and so much love!
These are my favorite RUclips videos. Simple, life stories. ❤
@@Rescuemaven I soooo agree with you!!!
Exactly the fact I watched to the end as well …amazing
I’m 43, a husband, two dogs, still no direction in life. We can just take it one day at a time.
Maybe u need kids 😝
When I was in my teens I knew exactly what I wanted to do and I did it with God’s help. Working after several years I knew I had to do something else career wise. I’ve been searching for years what field to go into, basically I had to reinvent myself. What I’m trying to say keep searching and you’ll get to your goal. Maybe it will help you if figure out what’s important to you guys like traveling, debt free etc…. What do you like that gives you passion etc…..
.you need help .
This is a very sad comment. To be 43 and still not have direction.
That’s not something to be proud of.
@@livurelife❤
thank you for sharing this & good luck on your journey ❤!
Let's go! Fully support you sista ❤️