you don't have to be pretty
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
- The Hippiearab Podcast --- S1 E30
I always like to talk about how I got my grandpa's nose, the most distinctive nose in the family. Growing up, it bothered me in the way that it didn't look like the girls around me in its size and slope and shape. Today, however, I am aware of the fact that my nose is a tool for smelling, and to fixate on its curvature and way of being is to waste the precious time I have on this earth that could have been used for something much more important- like building the lego taj mahal.
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"My nose is just for smelling. Fixing my nose will not do anything for the society, will not do anything for my happiness. "
Yeah but it kinda will tho
@@JJ-jq2lhyes only in the happiness part😁but who cares
@@rightouserightouse-wh6rw having a beautiful nose instantly can make us feel happy for a while, but then we will forget about it and continue our lives as was
Shallow mind @@JJ-jq2lh
@@JJ-jq2lh why ?why woould someone not liking his own nose and be satisfied until he changes it just to fit beauty standard which doesnt make any sense ?? lets say that its okay to follow it but beauty standard wont stop in here it will continue and youd keep chasing it why wouldnt someone actually cares about something will last and more beneficial to him and others ?
I think it also comes
From how men make women feel if “they’re not pretty” and were not seen as worthy of respect, decency or kindness. So a lot of woman crave that incessant need to be pretty which in turn is the incessant need to be respected.
I feel like this is so true and so profound 😭. I never thought about it that way before but it’s true for me
Absolutely
But if you think about it the respect you get is not real human respect. It’s objectification. Real respect will never come from superficial things.
@ljubovv5610 wow i absolutely agree 👍🏻💕
True af.@@ljubovv5610
“We’re not here to be pretty”
Yes.
But i wan't to look arty in cameras😔
Well we only hear too worship Allah that's it I don't know we going for Kardashian style ❤
@@hateyalll You still can 🥰🥰🥰
You got me with "Does the sunset needs Botox and fillers" 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Does the Moon need buccal fat removal and pore retention treatment? Lol
An iconic moment in You Tube history.
So much time and energy trying to be pretty and countless hours thinking and planning on how to look better.
You said it. This is so freaking stupid. So much time and energy spent trying to be something that wouldn’t even matter in the end.
Yes
I agree 100%
But it matters for your husband, right... ?
@@daisyg8384 no
@@Artemis-Luna ?
her point about beauty showing on people is so true. When I look at my friends, to me they are so so beautiful, their smiles and their laughs are so beautiful, I could look at them forever and never tire of it. But never have I once looked at them and examined them with conventional beautiful standards, like oh, she doesn't have this nose or clear skin, she doesn't have these teeth that makes them not beautiful - no. When I see their face they are so beautiful and it's all I can see. I don't know why we don't grant ourselves that kind of attitude, that kindness.
bless you Allah gave you a sweet heart xxx
Don't lie. You've done it at least once.
@@rebeccahill6596just because you do that, doesn't mean they do.
@@theircdplayer you've never noticed something about your friends face before? Not calling them ugly or anything, but noticing their nose shape, jawline etc. I'm neurodivergent so I notice literally everything about anything. I also know that people lie very much on the internet, and paint themselves as saints while they are usually not.
Ok I get that you’re neurodivergent, and maybe this wasn’t immediately obvious to you, but I don’t think when they say that’s all they can see, that they mean it in the complete literal sense. Obviously everyone notices people’s features. If you were to never realise when your friend got a face transplant, I’d be a bit concerned (unless you were blind). But when you look at them on a day to day, and their very face brings you joy or that you think you could stare at them all day long, you don’t think about whether they’re pretty, they’re just beautiful to you. And I think that’s the concept the comment meant. It’s not the literal meaning of ‘that’s all I can see’, it’s implied coz of context that it means this in terms of not seeing their prettyness
“My nose is for smelling” on point, changing your perspective makes things easier, we complicate it to much
Dear Global Citizens,
We, the students of Bangladesh, are crying out for your support as we face a grave crisis. In our quest for fair and just quota reforms, we have been met with unimaginable brutality from the Chhatra League, a government-affiliated student organization. Our peaceful protests have turned into scenes of horror, with nearly 2500 of us injured and many of our friends and fellow students losing their lives. At least 115 students have been killed by Bangladesh police and the Chhatra League. We want justice.
The state-controlled media has turned a blind eye to our suffering, silencing our voices and hiding the truth from the world. Seeking freedom and justice has become a crime in our beloved country, and we are being punished for daring to dream of a better future.We urge you to stand with us, to share our story, and to demand justice. Let the world know the truth about our struggle. We need your voice to amplify ours, to show that we are not alone in this fight for fairness and human rights. Together, we can expose the injustice and bring about the change we so desperately need. Please, help us spread the truth and seek justice for the students of Bangladesh#SaveBangladeshistudents
please Farah, pleaseeeeeeeeeee talk about Bangladesh
And Sudan 🇸🇩 ❤️
Don't fight back the same way they do. Continue the peaceful protests, Allah promises that he will let the righteous inherit the land.
Malingsia
@@leckslopi3815 if they continue to kill us, do you think we should just die without fighting back?
Not another bot toba
a quote i heard is "accepting and loving your authentic self is an act of gratitude to god" and i try to remember that every day when i think "oh im not enough". Thank you so much.
edit: 14:57 when you said "...i feel like i can soar" i teared up a bit. I needed to hear that and remember that truth.
My new compliment will be your face is 'comfortable' to look at. This was so fresh and nice to here, thanksss
you could give compliments based on things they have control over
bro that’s weird. just dont say anything.
that’s weird bro. dont bother saying anything.
I've been sobbing about my body shape and my weight all night that I couldn't sleep and this showed up for me thank you so much
Same I hate my body but I don't hate it as much I hate my face
i have wide shoulder and I 6 ft.Most men love to insult me that I am their fellow men and I am not beautiful.
I love the holy spirit he loves me. In this manly look😂.
Farah I’m a guy revert Muslim who lives in a Latino family household. All my life I’ve felt pressured from family to flaunt beauty if we have it and hide our flaws me and my parents are considered “conventionally” attractive. (I’m the only Muslim in the family) and sometimes I’d give into it what they recommend to attract attention. Today I was about to go to the mosque trying to enhance how I look but after you saying you love how people love your character when you’re speaking. Helps me remember when I’m talking to the kids about Islam, and have the best time. My beauty didn’t help them listen but when I’m just me, they sit down and pay attention. That’s better than anything. I swapped and got my nice baggy cloths that I love wearing and about to head there now in sha Allah thanks for the reminder Farah.
Masha Allah brother, may Allah (SWT) continue blessing you and keep you steadfast!
@@illyGalSloth thank you sister
@@Ejs226 You're welcome 🌷Btw there's nothing wrong with trying to look nice, as long as you're doing to within boundaries of what is halal. Wearing perfume, nice and clean clothing, good hairstyle etc. is part of cleanliness in Islam and is also sunnah. It's recommended to take care of your appearance brother, just be careful not to become obsessive about it and overdo it, and don't do it with the intention of attracting women's attention (but if you're married, of course it's halal to want to look good for your wife). Do it for sunnah and your faith :)
Thank you for sharing. There is a lot of pressure to look a certain way. I hope to found enough strength to one day give up on trying. I know it’s such a frivolous way of thinking.
Allah cares about the state of our hearts. I hope one day I will give up on all of this
As a Muslim Latina I understand but remember Allah allows us to dress well but the best of dresses is righterousness (Al Araf)
I’m Christian and I don’t know how this appeared on my feed but I’m glad for it
It’s fine a lot of Islam content is also good for Christians like morals nd all
I also follow Christian content even tho I’m Muslim I take what I find interesting nd don’t care about differences at the end of the day what matters is that we are all believers ❤
I’m muslim and I watch Christians videos if I came across them, some I agree with and some I don’t but what I like the most is feeling that we all humans are the same despite being born in different cultures and beliefs
@@yj7108 beautiful ❤️
same I’m a Christian but I love what she’s preaching(in her own context) so far ✨
Well this video isn’t about religion, it’s about thoughts on beauty 🤔
Farah, idk if you're reading this or if you read my previous comment asking you to make a video on tabarruj. But ukthi wallah you have no idea how much of an impact your videos are having on my iman. May Allah make your akhirah and your duniya, a life filled w peace and may He swt elevate your ranks in jannah. امين يا رب
YES PLEASE
آمين
Ameen ya râbi 🤲🌺
Aameen Ya Rabbul Alameen
Ameen!
i'm a brown southeast asian and this video really hit deep in my heart. since i was a kid, i've been so insecure with my flat nose and my chubby body... this insecurity mainly comes from comparing myself to others, whenever i see photos of pretty girls on social media, or just seeing my friends who won the visual lottery. but when i started to just let it all go, and embraced who i am and what i have, i have seen just how beautiful i truly am... to everyone who may read this, your physical traits does not define who you are as a person, your soul does. be kind. ily.
🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎
"Not about fixing things that never needed fixing in the first place". Wow 😭
farah how do you exactly know what i need at the moment like. thank you girl
Right?? Like it feels like every time my iman is low or I’m in a very specific crisis, she comes up on my suggested. Like without a doubt. Alhamdulillah
Allah SWT sends you messages through people, situations, verses, videos, and many other things too! We just rarely notice it
i have the same nose and i can’t be more proud
im not even arab and i have the same nose hamdulillah
honestly i think its so beautiful wallahi 😭😭💖💖💖
Me too@@YuiceASMR
"Nose is just for smelling, nothing else"
YESS GIRLS U ARE BEAUTIFUL
I find it ironic when pretty people say it's okay not to be pretty
Farah is ironic
Objectively she's not good looking though.
Why? What's wrong with her@@uglyhindu1761
@uglyhindu1761 What if she reads this? She's human too.
@uglyhindu1761 What if she reads this? She's human too.
@uglyhindu1761 What if she reads this? She's human too.
farah assalamualaykum. i’ve quit music and k-pop because of your videos, they motivated me to start a whole new path as a muslima and i will forever remember you for helping me stay on the straight path.
wow this is so good for u !! may Allah reward you that’s so inspiring. may Allah make it easy and remember that whenever you give up something for the sake of Allah he will replace it with something better ❤
that is an amazing feat, Allahumma barik
Allahumma barik! How do you do that? I am still struggling😢
@@tihamsjdn try to replace it with nasheeds and quran and podcasts
I'm so proud of you ❤❤
Farah, your sense of humor is top tier.
I was once told, you don't love your friends and family based of their appearance; if their skinny, big, tall short, its because of their personalities- its the same for you
FARAH WHAT U TALKIN BOUT YO NOSE IS GORGEOUS
Any time you say "lets not get into this too deep" im like GET INTO ITTTT
like i wish we were friends and could have conversations not in the eye of the internet cuz i understand how that changes communication but man ..... i would love to hear your thoughts
@@philoworkno literally my ears were perked and then she pulled a “…letsss not get into it….” Like whyyy
You're literally my comfort channel. Please never stop making videos🩷
You have such a warm demeanor. Thank you for sharing this, I’ve been thinking about this concept for a while and I too have concluded that I am rejoiced by God that I look the way that I look and the way people react to me isn’t just upon looks. May God continue to bless you and your voice of wisdom.
My family would love Farah’s nose. I’m Yemeni and the aunties all love when girls have an ethnic nose. I’m not kidding
Wow that’s actually so interesting. I’ve never known that there are people like that. Thank you for sharing this
I'm half yemeni half somali and this is true. When they always compliment my looks they always bring up how I got the asal (original) arab nose 😅
I’m يمنية too
And I agree 100%
They like the big noses idk why 😭😭😭
@@hania.1827 what lmao so small nosed arabs dont have original arab features or what
same, I'm indian and everyone loves it when you have a tall, projected nose instead of the ski slope ones! they think big noses are better
"I know that some babies look questionable..." 😂😂😂
You know what I think I really needed this video I am trying my best to not care about appearance but I could not the way I view myself ruin me I'm becoming more and more insecure and it's affecting me and the way I treat my loved ones because of how anger I'm accumulating from not liking my physical appearance
TO NOT NOT TO IDK ENGLISH IS WEIRD
thank you. I mean it. Lately i've been thinking a lot about what trying to conform to society's standard prevented me to do. I don't read as much as i use to, I compare myself with my friends in awful ways, i can't talk to someone without thinking about what i look like. I miss on so much of my life. I'm not present in my life like i should. Your video made me cry. Thank you for you honesty, your tone helped me in my quest to detach myself from my physical apparence
As someone who was told you’re pretty my whole life and also was made fun of by others I have expirebced both spectrums .she’s right when she says there are downfalls of being pretty and people feeling like they own you or objectifying you is def one of them . Thank you for this video ❤❤❤
If people think youre pretty they wont take you seriously. Because if you have the looks but you also possess a brain and real charm and charisma, people immediately are intimidated by you and will have liked you better if you were stupid or shallow because its easier to get their way or get away with things.
No one takes your pain seriously cuz people see you and assume your looks must grant you everything you desire. I have experienced this but also i see it in many women like for example of a big icon- Marylin Monroe, she was beautiful but was also extremely talented intelligent charming and kind. She was too complex for people, so it was easier for them to exist with themselves if she was just a dumb blonde and to this day people are hell bent on tarnishing the true legacy of who she was.
When we go to amusement parks, fancy restaurants, or tourist streets, we do not find any sign on them saying, “Ugly people are not allowed to enter.” Therefore, we should not consider ugliness an obstacle to the enjoyment of life.
This video made me laugh and it also made me cry. I loved looking into your big eyes as you said this, it made me feel like I was spoken to directly. I'm very happy to hear your message and what a good one it is too! I want to work towards feeling beautiful just the way I was born.
i have just come from my Friday salah( a muslim 17 year old dude here), and saw this, lol, jazakallah sister. keep making these videos, may Allah (swt) bless you.
I'm ALSO A 17 dude akhi!!!!!!! I watch her videos scrolled down to the comments (To lower my gaze lol) and listen to her knowledge!!!!!
@@fishbarbeque8540 nice to know mate ❤
May Allah bless us all.
I am also:
17 a “dude” and got back from Jumah earlier today. Are we twins?! 😂
@@BRICKERFORGE Where are all from guys ?
Your humor is an excellent vehicle to deliver your wisdom. Thank you young Farah for this lovely reminder that I am much more than just my body.
thanks for this, farah. i love how you refer to your nose as from your grandpa, because that's how i refer to my jawline, from my grandpa as well. i have a square jaw, and its probably the one thing that i fixate on the most. i hate when i smile, or when im in pictures, because of my jawline, but i need to learn to love it, because its from my grandpa, who passed from covid a couple years ago
this is one of the best things to listen to for Jummah+Qaran+nasheeds
Honestly Ive discovered your channel a while back but never really watched the videos, but yesterday I re discovered you and i just wanted to say the honesty, humility, and how you centre islam in your life is just so refreshing and im so grateful that youre on the youtube scene where you feed truths instead of false hopes. Also how youre vulnerable in a way that you inspire people and make them feel less shame and more hope. I know I'm about to watch a banger of a video.( p.s im a muslim my username is an alias)
I just need to say I love the way you express yourself. You're casually funny, smart, and eloquent.
i feel like i need to watch this video again and again, ive always needed someone to tell me that i dont have to be pretty,
I teared up so many times. God. This video came to me exactly when I needed it.
Farah you have brought tears to my eyes
this videoooo was so needed i am filled with thoughts of me being ugly for almost 5 years now ,ahhh though i get compliments for being pretty it is never enough . and then u fall deeper and deeper just for the validation and u are so rue its just soo dumb just such a trivial thought that i have basically made m whole personality and i need to stop as i am influencing my younger sisters too .u can tell how important was this for me by the fact this is your first video that i watched till the end .
jazakallah
I needed this video at the most PERFECT TIME SubhanAllah
May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى bless you abundantly 🤲🏼
what I think is weird is how people think they know the character of somebody because of the look...
I felt this deeply. I was a child being told I was ugly. At the time, it really impacted my mental health and self-esteem. Self-love wasn't taught by my school and parents. Emphasis on "wanting to be pretty", I wanted to feel pretty. I hope people will soon realize that that feeling can only come from you. No amount of people telling you "you're pretty" could ever make you feel that way, you gotta love yourself as you are. I think the idea of being "beautiful" is very much worse now for children, I wish I had this video as a kid and then maybe I would've treated myself better lol, great video!!
I don’t know how others don’t see it, but that Arab elongated nose is so beautiful, I find it ideal
I like the way you're so calm and soft when you're speaking. We do focus on your words and not on your appearance. I know she won't answer because there's a lot of comments here but it's okay I just wanted to say it since I really liked your video 💫 (besides, I don't comment often)
Coming from being an indivisible nerdy girl throughout school to being special ana more popular through university then work-life i put on the hijab few months ago at 28 and feel like i am going back to my school self and it is taking a huge toll on my confidence and self esteem, I used to love traveling and shopping and standing out now i am super down ربنا يثبتني و يعطيني السلام النفسي و السعادة و الرضي يارب
There’s no problem being a shy girl. As long as you’re not compromising on your religion because of low confidence you are fine. Remember when eman increases confidence increases. Eman increases with knowledge and good deeds.
@@justanavanoobz4867 I wasn’t shy i was actually pretty sociable but not pretty i wore thick glasses and always had my hair in a bun so when i started doing mu hair i kept dying it and changing it and it gave me confidence so it is just harder for me to let go of the attention may allah give us guidance and confidence that surpasses social expectations ❤️ thank you ❤️
@@b.h3877please remember that you’re much more than pretty, you have so much qualities 🫶
Ur literally inspiring to be better, and even having my own podcast, too at least talk and release stress
I'm literally about to cry😭 this video means A LOT to me. Thank you for making me realize something so simple🌸💗
I needed to hear this message, and honestly your voice IS very calming and I can follow it very easily? I usually get distracted by other people, so dead on there.
I feel your confidence, and I think you are onto something here? If you have a gift for speaking, and others listening, use it for good and to empower people.
i love your energy and ur aura, you truly are beautiful
As a white girl with a big nose can I just politely and briefly say that big noses are also a ‘white person feature’ (because Europe is a cold place so our ancestors needed bigger noses that would warm up the air we breathe so that it wouldn’t be cold/ hurt when it hit our lungs). I love this video and everything that’s said in it and I’m not trying to take away from it at all, but hating my big nose whilst also hearing over the years things like “it’s okay not to have Eurocentric beauty standards” and “I’m proud of my ethnic nose” and, as said in this video, “fixing my nose to look like a white girl’s nose” just kind of made me feel like I had no reason to be proud of my nose because I’m just white and my nose is just big and that’s that. (I do understand that those messages are important for non-white people who struggle with appearance and try to fit in with society’s beauty standards and in that way I do definitely support them.) But these Eurocentric beauty standards are not even European, white people have very thin lips, asymmetrical faces and big noses, many white celebrities who don’t have these features have had work done. My point is, don’t anyone try to follow so- called ‘European beauty standards’ because even us Europeans don’t fit into them and if you’re a white girl with a big nose and you feel like you don’t have a reason to be proud of it, be proud of it because it’s a part of you. (I apologise if this wasn’t the time or place for this message, I understand this isn’t what the video was about necessarily, I just thought I’d comment to help anyone who had the same insecurity and experience as me and I’m not trying to take away from anyone else’s experience who is not the same as mine 💗.)
Your comment touches my heart ❤
So true there are so many white people with big noses. If you look at the portraits of the historical nobles literally all of them had big noses
Interesting that you said this.
I absolutely have "brown girl" features but there are also plenty of Pakistani women who are born with the so-called Caucasian looking nose sharp,pointy, thin etc. Defined jaw lines, high cheek bones, etc these are all Pakistani features as well but I didn't get any of those things. I was never trying to look like a white girl I was comparing myself to my fellow Pakistanis and I would question well why didn't I look like this? It's never really been about wanting to "look white" it's been wanting to have certain features that I've seen in all races which I considered pretty. I have actually always loved that I looked exotic but again I would just be a bit fixated on certain little things namely the high cheek bones that defined jaw line. I never saw certain features as belonging the only one race especially the whole nose thing
In cold places, people's noses got bigger.... i understood why black sea region is-
Okay but even your comment isn’t entirely accurate, because not every European has specific features. Slope noses, straight noses, arched noses. Thin lips, small lips, big lips. High cheekbones, low cheekbones. High brow low brow. Almond eyes wide eyes. Asymmetrical or “symmetrical”. Freckles or no freckles. These features exist in mostly all races. Maybe some have majority of one feature than other, but even the presence of a few outliers makes a difference. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT!!! We are all unique. Our features are OURS and cannot be chalked up to being in one group as so many other groups may have that feature that is attributed to one singular one. The only group our features should have are OUR UNIQUE SELVES! Not to mention, my belief is that our physical appearance is not our true self. Our projections only exist to serve the purpose of recognization. Our faces are all unique so that our brains associate each others different selves with different bodies/forms, that way we don’t associate other selves/forms/souls as others. We are unique because our experiences are different than EVERYONE else’s, no matter the similarities, we all have our differences and that is beautiful. We are literally designed to recognized the differences in others…and differences are beautiful, they are what make people PEOPLE!!! Okay I’m done 😊
Im a revert muslim and fell into the fashionistahs hijabs too.
I stopped following them the more i learned about islam and focused on my deen, i now follow the muslims that are from bangledish and malaysia, niqab wearing hijabis. ❣️
I also grew up in the west and was considered " pretty" by beauty standards, but it didnt gain me the right attention.
I enjoy being a hijabi, and covering myself anf being happy in private.
Alhamdullilah, May allah forgive us and have mercy on us and guide us, ameen 🤲🏻💕
Aameen
Alhamdulillah
assalamu alaykum farah i love your videos,as an italian revert I just want to say, these eurocentric beauty standards are extremely hard to fit into - even as white person , my nose is personally straight and I remember feeling teased for not having a curved nose (like the tiktok nose.) I even considered rhinoplasty before I realized I had an Italian nose with Irish features which are looked down upon by English people. It’s really terrible and honestly your nose is so beautiful mashallah truly, it makes me so sad that we must call them imperfect when they are perfect. Assalmualaykumwaratumallahiwabarkathu sister your videos continue to inspire
As someone said on the internet, "beauty is a depreciating asset" if we are going to put all our value in a depreciating asset then we will be at a big loss...
Farah, this and the video where you talk about health and going to the gym are THE best messages to give to someone about their well being. Thank you for putting these thoughts into coherent and funny conversation. Much needed and everyone needs to listen!
Jazaki Allah kheir Farah, I really needed this video. I've been spending too much time on Insta lately and I've noticed that almost every girl looks flawless and so pretty that I started to question myself and my beauty. For the first time in my life I put full makeup on, to keep up with those girls, I wanted to see my beauty to not feel any less. But you reminded me of the actual things we need to take care of, our soul, heart and character. This is what makes us pretty. At the end we will all eventually lose our physical beauty.
I mean there is nothing wrong with wanting to look pretty but as long as we are pleased with the way Allah swt created us and when going out and with our hijab on we know that "hijab needs to hijab", so I do not need to look pretty with it, it is defeating its purpose.
May Allah swt help us and keep us firm, aminnn
Much love sister, jazaki Allahu kheir
thank you, this really lifted me up
0:52 Yes farah this was a very intimate moment
You touched an amazing topic Farah. I think the same way, we don't have to be pretty and once I realized it, I felt like a kid again.
I find you immensely inspiring. This really is your calling. May Allah swt grant you and all your followers the highest ranks in jannah and may He swt make us neighbors, so we can be besties and talk about all the amazing things we did in this duniya
I needed this so bad.. been focusing on the wrong things recently. Thank you sincerely Farah ❤
It actually will help my happiness because it'll make me feel better about myself due to society making me feel like my pictures are ugly or actually saying that my features are ugly
On my head, I feel like I gotta be pretty. Imagine, I tried to stay away from haram relationship. No matter how pious i am or how many para I memorized, muslim men I met rejected me right after seeing my photo, one of them even said: im not interested based on the photo. 💀 but Wallahi every tahajud I always mention how grateful i am that my body or even my nose function so well. I can breathe perfectly Alhamdullilah. Allah Al Mushawir
May Allah swt gives you whatever you wishes for sister!
Ur amazing!!
I like your channel. Your philosophy and down to earth approach is refreshing.
“Why do we fall, sir? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.” - Alfred Pennyworth, Batman Begins
Farah is the Alfred to our Batman. The hero we need, but not the one we deserve.
Oh my goodness, you have the most healing voice and words and presence.
I really needed this, not cause im insecure about my self image (alhamdulilah, I was created by Allah, therefore it's not the best to call Allah's creation ugly), but because my dad believes a woman is married for her beauty first and foremost, meaning a womans beauty is more important than her imaan and adaab. so yea, its good to hear that looks dont really matter in some peoples eyes. im glad there are people out there who value a humans qualities that were created through self-work more that the features they were born with.
edit: he didnt say it out of no where, he was comparing two girls to ask for my brother for marriage(one is better looking than the other, and without looking at other factors, he chose the prettier one).
Farah, you are such a delightful soul! I appreciate you being a friend to us ladies and speaking to something that really doesn't get discussed enough with so much care and humor and nuance.
Spoken so beautifully
Farah your humour is killing me, I've come across your videos bedore but it's been a while since the last time I watched one. You have such a gift for speaking and holding people's attention. You also present ideas in a linear manner without even putting any effort in it. I really admire it when people are able to speak in a fun and articulate manner, I'm always all over the place but looking to improve that.
The past few years my confidence has really gone down. I don't like my body or my face and I constantly compare myself to all these girls around me that look effortlessly beautiful. I always felt like this but now it's to an unhealthy extent.
I can't really shake the feeling that as women we tend to appreciate beauty in a manner different from men. We pay attention to the details and love to pick and match colors, patterns, textures. There is men like that too but it's super rare in my experience at least. When beauty is about creativity and appreciation, it's so fun. In terms of fashion, I appreciate it so much when women combine elements of their culture (or even different cultures that they appreciate) and their personal style and favorite colors. It feels amazing when you (have the financial ability to) start picking your clothes to match your skin tone and characteristics instead of trying to match the style of this and that influencer. Makeup is enjoyable if you dont make it about changing your whole face with it. I kid you not, I try to find pictures for lipstick application on small lips (mine are like yours for example) and I either cant find any examples or it's overlining to the heavens. Same goes for a lot of things, you just have to do things for yourself and maybe if you want share it with other girls who are looking for the same tips.
I have wanted to start my own youtube channel where I do quiet vlogs and book reviews and maybe language learning content and I dont because every time I try to film, I hate how my face looks on camera. I dont mind it half as much in real life and I often go out "bare faced" but God when I see myself in pictures or videos I feel embarrassed.
We girls really have to stop being afraid of putting ourselves out there just because we don't look a certain way.
I reverted to Islam a year ago. Im not a hijabi and can't be cause i come from a racist christian country in the balkans but ive been thinking about starting to wear a mantilla (square headscarf) that is more acceptable culturally and won't attract as much negative attention.
always so happy to see you Farah
Ur channel is so cute
You‘re so likeable, so funny, your videos seem so effortless but not in a bad way. New subscriber
Its such a grass is greener on the other side thing bc as a girl with a less prominent, round nose your nose is beautiful to me 🤷♀️
Your videos are free therapy...thank you for these moments of peace i feel when i listen to ur vids
I;m crying .. I know my forehead is big and yet I placed my hand over my forehead once you said 4 fingers, just to confirm it is big. WWHHYYY!!
You don’t need any beauty standard’s forehead, it’s useless…
Besides it’s still a blessing brother (for example in your sajda 🙃), let’s be optimistic !
Why did I do the same thing?
Ur so wrong 4 fingers is the normal average forehead size
The small is 3 or less fingers
Nd the big is 5 fingers nd more
Mine is 5 lol
@@thatnaturalfatma omg that's so cute XD I also have a big forehead which i try to hide but now ill remember i just have more space to make sujood.
U are so unintentionally funny my girl!! I laughing out loud at midnight waking my neighbours up!
Only people who look good say beauty is not needed 😂 i am dark skinned and not beautiful objectively but am a doctor , try my best to be pious still was rejected by so many muslim men for not being beautiful 🥺 gurl beauty like every other blessing in life is important
She doesn’t know life yet. 🤗 she’s young and idealistic… beauty is ingrained in everyone. That’s why Aphrodite is the most renowned goddess even though Hera is a mother, honorable, and wise. What does Aphrodite do? Cheat on her husbands and cause problems. No morals or ethics. Yet she’s the ideal. That’s life. Beauty outweighs morals, ethics, and decency.
The way you form your massages keeps me in awe everytime
When i saw the title of the video that is so cliché but when it's from you, i know i wouldn't regret clicking, and that was the case.
May allah protect you farah, jazaki allah khayran
So well said, thanks for this. I have learned that I do still love to decorate myself after all these years of fighting with pretty but it takes a lot of mindfulness and integrity to keep pretty out of the process. Aesthetic is a joy in my life but you're absolutely right that pretty is a virus within that.
Farah actually being consistent allahumma baarik
Farah, this is a wonderful video format. It is one thing to be told by someone who has put a great deal of effort into their appearance that only what is on the inside really matters, but it is quite another to receive this same message so earnestly at 4am from someone who has made a point just to show up as they are. You are truly beautiful, and you are a gift to us all. I am a Christian in the US, and you have reminded me of how in my own community, we even have songs about coming to worship “as you are,” yet for so long the expectation has been to get cleaned up not only in appearance but also in actions and spirit before coming to church. So many people avoid church because they feel they are not good enough. This should not be the case. This is a failure of us Christians to live in accordance with Jesus’s teachings. It goes to show that even when a religion is dominant in the culture, the culture can still harmfully distract us from what we know to be true and right. When you were talking about hijabi fashionistas, I thought of how I feel pressure to make myself better conform to society’s beauty standards, though I wish I didn’t care so much. What you said about sunsets sounds a lot like something Jesus said in Matthew 6 about how we don’t need to worry, because God makes the lilies beautiful and the lilies don’t need to change their appearance, so surely we are the same way. You speak good, very old wisdom. You’re completely right that we have much more important things to do than worry about being pretty. May you go and do those things, always accompanied by confidence and contentment.
"pretty is not the rent you pay to exist in the world as a woman." 💯
"not about fixing things that never needed to fix in the first place"
damn I cried at the end of the video, thank you for saying that
Farah I love you for this video so much, really, from the bottom of my heart, because I did realise (just recently not a long time ago) that what you said in this video is absolutely true yet I found no one even mentioning it which is quite sad. Thank you again❤❤
today i held my gerbil
and I took a video
I was smiling so hard and laughing because she is so adorable
in that moment, I was imagining myself how I will look in the video while admiring her
I was thinking “I’m gonna look so good and pretty/ethereal”
it was really dumb
I watched the video back and needless to say I was reminded how terrifying my smile can look through lenses
I ended up cropping my face out because I liked the video of peanut (is her name) nonetheless
I’ve been going through struggles with how I look recently and I try to remember that it doesn’t matter how I look, the only thing that matters is how I feel
Made me laugh lots when you said “I had my slushy on my right , it was great -
did I look pretty”
just is so dumb
and I love it
I was happiest when i was 6. I was free and i felt like i was perfect
You are so eloquent and graceful.
5:00 “When was the time you were the happiest?”
Yeah the posts you see where people say that Margot Robbie is “mid” are the biggest hit of dystopia I’ve ever seen, that and plastic surgeries gone wrong when the person was perfectly fine before.
Thanks Farah, this video showed up at the right time. I was pondering on the difference between being pretty and being beautiful. Its a soul of the person that makes them beautiful. Thanks a lot ❤
Sometimes I swear you’re reading my mind and know what I need to hear before you post 😭😭❤️
Im a guy but I've always had issues with my appearance and just hating/obsessing over it this message was nice to hear
Plastic surgeons have been real quiet since this video dropped.
you look like u give the best hugs farah,just so comforting like ur voice
Masha Allah 💙 This colour of Hijab looks sooooo beautiful on you.
Thank you Farah. So many young girls need to hear this. It took me years to accept the shape of my nose. I even thought about getting lip fillers even though my lips are a perfect size. What matters more is keeping yourself clean and looking presentable
فرح ، لديها المجاملة الخاصة بها ،، وجه ناعم ومريح ،، هي صنعت المقطع للعامة ولكن اشعر وكانها خاصة لي ،، نفع الله بك الأمة وشكراً .
وجه بدون مكياج اخيرا
@@mounach7246 لم افهم ، هل تقصدينها ، نعم بلا مكياج وارتاح لها حقاً ولتعابيرها
@@raghadqoox1379 نعم اقصد ان وجهها مختلف ومريح لانه بدون تصنع
فعلا
i rly loved this video. its been ages since i sat 1x speed, hand folded and just listened. it was beautiful. thank u