SHOULD IN-LAWS GET INVOLVED? EP 3 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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  • Опубликовано: 28 янв 2023
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  • @AliDawah
    @AliDawah  Год назад +52

    Please donate and help establish this Masjid and earn your reward: www.saveiman.com/fb?
    The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever builds a Mosque for Allah, Allah will build for him a similar house in Jannah.”
    If you support this project, you will in sha Allah get a house in Jannah and share in the rewards of all the people:
    ✅ Praying in the Masjid!
    ✅ Making Dhikr!
    ✅ Memorizing the Qur’an!

    • @zaralearningkorean
      @zaralearningkorean Год назад

      Salam! hope you can fix the audio quality as it doesn't really sound pleasant. Its mostly from the brother's side

    • @nawaz012
      @nawaz012 Год назад +1

      *I'm sorry to say... **#Y** you have provided **#Only** two **#Mikes** to Three **#Sisters** while as having 3 to three brothers.????!!!!!* 🤔🤔🤔
      *#Gender** **#bias*
      You should get one more Mike for sisters

    • @syedyaseen3131
      @syedyaseen3131 Год назад

      Assalamualaikum brother
      This is really an important thing
      There is a RUclipsr and his channel name is lofi edits
      He makes videos about islaam and Hinduism
      He disrespects allah and prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
      His contents are full of hateness
      I can't even say how bad he says about allah and the rasool (s.a.w)
      I am requesting you to make a video and spread a message to your subscribers to report and ban his RUclips account🙏
      Please reply to me🙏

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

  • @ashifamohammed5278
    @ashifamohammed5278 Год назад +445

    I am a female who was divorced and now remarried alhumdulillah. During the period I was divorced I would never give other sisters the advice of divorce even though they would come to me to seek some sort of validation and justification to divorce their husbands. Plus after divorce I got the chance to study Arabic and Sharia law (still studying) it made my understanding of deen and dunya/relationships/ marriage more clear alhumdulillah

    • @greenhomestead6305
      @greenhomestead6305 Год назад +27

      @@faryaltariq9314 Physically Abusive relationships are the exception, if your life or children’s life is in danger, you should seek safety right away. If the person you are married to is mentally broken or just all round bad, you can’t talk that out, they should never have married anyone in the first place. Therapy might be needed for both people within and/or after the marriage ends. Mental or narcissistic abuse is terrible, the abuser has a sickness, which may or may not be able to be cured through therapy.

    • @Kihalchal786
      @Kihalchal786 Год назад +10

      @@faryaltariq9314 if the abuse is to that level as you mentioned you can get khula from scholars.
      Allah knows best

    • @oulangkous718
      @oulangkous718 Год назад +16

      @@Kihalchal786 not with a narcissist. It's hard to prove narcissistic abuse. they are super manipulative and socially isolate their victims to the point that nobody believes them when they speak out.

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      @@faryaltariq9314 Zakir Naik is God understanď

    • @faryaltariq9314
      @faryaltariq9314 Год назад +15

      @@ZakirNaikIsGod I worship Allah, who begets not nor was he begotten and there is none like him.
      You Don't tell me who to worship.

  • @Ntwadumela266
    @Ntwadumela266 Год назад +238

    One lesson that I’ve learnt as a young man - just because someone is older than you and even has more experience, they aren’t always worth listening to or are right. Some elders genuinely know nothing and their advice can be destructive and detrimental if they haven’t learnt from their mistakes or are not religious. Be careful who you choose to take advice from brothers.

    • @lionessz9122
      @lionessz9122 Год назад +19

      Sooo true subhanalah
      A lot of elders give advice base on their emotions and desires. Not the haqq.

    • @imad9437
      @imad9437 Год назад +2

      U should listen that is the general rule but ofc they can be exceptions

    • @Ntwadumela266
      @Ntwadumela266 Год назад +11

      @@imad9437 there’s a difference between respectfully listening and actively taking their advice and applying it to your life. If it’s not your parents grandparents or a very knowledgable and trusted teacher, you have every right to not follow their advice if you think it might harm you or another in some way or even if it simply won’t be useful and you have a better way that you’re confident about.

    • @imad9437
      @imad9437 Год назад

      @@Ntwadumela266 ofc u dont have to, but i cant know unless u listen to him if he is talking garbage or not

    • @Ntwadumela266
      @Ntwadumela266 Год назад +2

      @@imad9437 that’s why I said they ‘aren’t always worth listening to’ - implying there are scenarios where they are worth listening to and taking their advice. One would assume to make a judgement off someone’s advice you’d have to listen to what they say first then act from there.

  • @arna.006
    @arna.006 Год назад +58

    Our ummah should not forget our beloved innocent sister Aafia Siddiqui, innocent sister of ours which is getting abused and tortured till this day, 20 years now…. We Muslims should give awareness for her case and the government should not be ignorant and should use their power and strength to release her from the prison. In the the day of judgment we all will be asked, we ummah should stand for her. I hope you Ali brother, use your social platform to give her case attention to your viewers. Jazakullah khayr

  • @yasmineelkharraz9609
    @yasmineelkharraz9609 Год назад +210

    Sister fahima said it: the problem is the people are living by the CULTURE not by the deen.
    And that’s a big problem specifically among the southwest asian communities ( indians, pakistanis…), it’s actually very toxic

    • @junayedmustofaghalib4683
      @junayedmustofaghalib4683 Год назад +30

      Why is it when we say culture we automatically and predominantly shift to the south asian communities and as if the Western environment are void of other degenerate cultures? Did not the Western environment pervert the true Islam as much as the South Asian communities?
      Also we need to be honest whether some of the 'culture' that we witness is actually emanating from our Deen? When did we actually sit and contemplate about it?

    • @ammar675
      @ammar675 Год назад +26

      @@junayedmustofaghalib4683 bcuz our Deen is not toxic. Look at how South Asian in laws act

    • @Adam-kh9rb
      @Adam-kh9rb Год назад

      Why you always attacking south asians it happens eveywhere in middle east, arabs are worst and even happens in Africa
      Always attacking south asians its a joke
      When you have racist emirati saudi people out there
      Arabs are definitely the worst

    • @shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564
      @shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564 Год назад +3

      @@junayedmustofaghalib4683 It's the culture.

    • @187A1
      @187A1 Год назад +1

      Nah you british mr beans are on a different planet altogether.
      Its like a wierd pig-horse

  • @user-en3ku4es6z
    @user-en3ku4es6z Год назад +91

    The main problem is that many people want to enjoy life without any difficulty!

    • @kidkhabib4298
      @kidkhabib4298 Год назад +2

      You spoke truth akhi...
      Salam from India

    • @servantof_allah
      @servantof_allah Год назад +5

      There's nothing bad in this

    • @billykidman1879
      @billykidman1879 Год назад +1

      Why would you want a difficult life

    • @JohnWick-hc8xl
      @JohnWick-hc8xl Год назад

      ​@@billykidman1879 because of beliefs and indoctrination

    • @peacelove1034
      @peacelove1034 5 месяцев назад

      I was one of them but then I leaned that life is a test and there will always be difficulties, but we have to learn how to deal with it.

  • @bilkesnferdous
    @bilkesnferdous Год назад +75

    Alhamdulillah i am married for 12 years now but we never involve our parents and alhamdulillah all issues get solved by proper communication.

    • @siddiqah89
      @siddiqah89 Год назад +8

      MashaAllah that's brilliant well done

    • @tasnim6111
      @tasnim6111 Год назад +4

      @Bird Eater Astaghfirullah, may Allah forgive you.

    • @Yusra-MD
      @Yusra-MD Год назад

      @Bird Eater AA UZU BIK.

    • @jomeerhannah7574
      @jomeerhannah7574 Год назад

      Allahamdullilah, may Allah bless you

  • @ruthtruthinireland
    @ruthtruthinireland Год назад +249

    Life is hard as a revert, no doubt difficult for revert brothers too. Our vulnerability is often "seen" by those whose intentions are not good. Even when wanting to find a pious spouse there are many who are wolves in sheeps clothing. I have learnt a lot by listening to this discussion. May Allah Subhanuhu wa'ta'ala guide us all to those brothers and sisters who are strong on the deen, knowledgeable, professional, educated, experienced, calm and wise for guidance on these matters in this Dunya, ameen

    • @AC-mp7cx
      @AC-mp7cx Год назад +11

      life as a born muslim has its own set of challenges

    • @suleimanyussuf9489
      @suleimanyussuf9489 Год назад +1

      aint reading allat

    • @suleimanyussuf9489
      @suleimanyussuf9489 Год назад +12

      @@AmorMagico666 mb, u right bro, need to desensitize my dopamine receptors and start reading Quran inshallah

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад +2

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      @@AC-mp7cx Learn thst Zakir Naik is God plz

  • @talksense6648
    @talksense6648 Год назад +87

    Both the parties were in Hijab😍 sisters were covering their beauty, and brothers were lowering their gaze.😌 That is how the Hijab works for both men and women🌻

    • @therealistshow9335
      @therealistshow9335 Год назад +18

      They shouldn't be in the same room tbh

    • @easymode3820
      @easymode3820 Год назад +9

      Women too need to protect their gaze

    • @safiyyah2533
      @safiyyah2533 Год назад +8

      What about the makeup!

    • @noreenbi9079
      @noreenbi9079 Год назад +6

      @@safiyyah2533
      Exactly shouldn't be talking 2 these men.
      They are non mehram

    • @elafzal5866
      @elafzal5866 Год назад +6

      They have no business being in the same room, across each other and face is not covered. Face is the centre point of attention and beauty. The whole of purpose of niqab is to cover all that is fitnah including the face. Yes there is a difference of opinion amongst the fuqaha but the not covering the face position is weak. May Allah guide us all.

  • @sullt766
    @sullt766 Год назад +242

    1 and only Gabriel al Romaani, may Allah preserve him

  • @MSParaskevas
    @MSParaskevas Год назад +43

    I love brother Ustadh Gabriel al Romani's honesty and integrity, may Allah increase and preserve him.

  • @sarjoconteh3577
    @sarjoconteh3577 Год назад +97

    Alhamdullillah...am very happy seeing Gabriel Romani, hijab and ali dawah sharing podcast...May Almighty God grant understanding and unity among students of knowledge...Aameen

  • @rahbid121
    @rahbid121 Год назад +30

    Btw, the sister mentioning that "the men sides are taken even in divorce" is absolutely right. Talking from experience, not mine, Alhamdulillah. but I know a couple of sisters who struggled immensely. Both of them were in abusive relationships. One of them was almost killed. The sheikhs who deal with kula were very hidless towards them. The men were favoured. Finally, one of the sisters was helped by a non-Muslim judge. I was very disappointed. I can tell that the sister is talking from experience.
    The sheikhs are quite well known in the Muslim community.

    • @Jems2q
      @Jems2q Год назад +9

      I agree with you this happing a lot imams will not even pick phone txt or respond to emails anymore many of us live in marriage that is completely broken and will not ever work again.when ask for kula the imams will side with the the men and brush everything under carpet and we sister will carry on living in fear.

    • @rahbid121
      @rahbid121 Год назад +8

      @Maya Bi that is exactly what's happening. May Allah make it easy for you. May this difficulty your in be a means for you to get closer to Allah and grant you eternal happiness with Al-.afiyah Ameen

    • @Jems2q
      @Jems2q Год назад +2

      Ameen

    • @sazzadahmed2297
      @sazzadahmed2297 Год назад +4

      I think it depends on geographical location. In East-Asia we have men favored, and in the West like Canada it's women favored. Unfortunately in East-Asia there is a cultural history of men mistreating their wives and using their authority to claim rights, but not giving proper respect and love and honor to the wife. A lot of what we learn is passed down culturally, so people need to connect themselves to the Qu'ran and fix our character. There is not much emphasis on understanding the recitation but there is emphasis in memorization and learning to read the Qu'ran.
      As for western culture, they have it very unfavored for the men which is leading to more people living together but not marrying. People don't even understand the value of marriage: security of spouses involved (there are laws to hold you accountable rather than the consensual lawless relationship which is dating), inheritance, etc. There is also downplaying or dismissal of rights to intimacy in marriage which hurts both individuals ultimately, and leads to infidelity. Women can also gain excessive amounts of money from divorce and have next to no accountability on how to spend it, unless you can prove child neglect.

  • @mehdisy3d
    @mehdisy3d Год назад +19

    The sister in the middle tore open a huge can of worms and I'm very glad she did calling out the south asian culture which I believe is one of the most toxic. Jazakillahu Khair sister

    • @AZK91
      @AZK91 Год назад +2

      Toxic because things don't go her way. It's no longer the 2010's people see through these sketchy terms

  • @oatofa8323
    @oatofa8323 Год назад +118

    Brother Ali, I can’t express enough how much I appreciated this episode. Alhamdulillah, this was a very good idea. Not only the points raised were very beneficial and eye opening. But this show also shows the youth of the ummah how we can disagree and still find common ground in Islam. It shows how to discuss respectfully, addresses some of the biggest issues of our current time. Alhamdulillah, I loved it.
    Jazakumullahu khairan!

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @realtalk675
      @realtalk675 Год назад

      Yeaah for sure .

    • @oatofa8323
      @oatofa8323 Год назад +2

      @@ZakirNaikIsGodAstaghfirullah what are you saying?

    • @elmazskudrinja
      @elmazskudrinja Год назад +1

      Free mixing and laughing and smiling with opposite gender is a good idea. Haram!!!

    • @alexmarinakis9988
      @alexmarinakis9988 11 месяцев назад

      @@elmazskudrinjais it haram to discuss Islam between brothers and sisters? They were asking genuine questions to learn more from people that knew. That had more knowledge than them. You are right that free mixing and laughing with opposite genders is haram if the intention and goal was to not gain knowledge about what Islam says on the issue. But that was the goal so in this scenario only Allah knows if what they are doing is right or wrong. And I believe what they are doing is not sinful. Correct my with Qur’an and hadith.

  • @DestinyToParadise
    @DestinyToParadise Год назад +72

    "As the saying goes, “home is where the heart is”. Investing in your relationship and making sure that your home is a safe and happy space will help to protect it from outside interruptions."

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him before u enter hell

    • @hrzye
      @hrzye Год назад +4

      @Bird Eater Astaghfirullah. Syirik

  • @hrzye
    @hrzye Год назад +33

    Please pray for me, May Allah ease everything for my exam today and for the ones coming up

    • @zebzeb1983
      @zebzeb1983 Год назад +1

      You do understand that this isn't right, right? if you want to know things about marriage you can use Quran and Sunah. or you can ask questions but men and women in 1 room is not correct. Or am I wrong.

    • @CarlosRivera-es5vh
      @CarlosRivera-es5vh Год назад

      @@zebzeb1983 Can I tell you something about Islam that I discovered?

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @mm-wm3jd
      @mm-wm3jd Год назад

      May Allah help you, insha'Allah.

    • @alia-wm8ug
      @alia-wm8ug Год назад

      @@zebzeb1983 I agree but this is what the West wants I believe

  • @Waiting.for.Sunshine
    @Waiting.for.Sunshine Год назад +27

    Arguments are like storms. They can bring damage, or you can use them to strengthen the foundation. When you argue with your significant other, make sure it’s a loving exchange. unknown

    • @cooljool1
      @cooljool1 Год назад

      level headed arguments with a woman are not possible unless a man's vision is what contains it

  • @goran586
    @goran586 Год назад +10

    There is a clear tendency in this conversation that the men interrupt the women and take up more conversation time. The host in particular should pay attention to this, and not break out into his own long harangues as he does.

    • @jinfightingjin2758
      @jinfightingjin2758 Год назад +1

      That's why I didn't even watch the video for a second, they are extremely defending culture, many call these women in the video feminists, Muslim men would never talk women out and let their opinions speak out, and everything they discussed there is what Muslim culture is which consists of misogynists and says christianity . Why are they of the opinion that a woman should not seek help from women, whether married or not, she should, as always, listen to the dirt of Muslim men who don't even practice Islam???

  • @oulangkous718
    @oulangkous718 Год назад +17

    *what hijab said about Muslim professionals lacking islamic knowledge is spot on! Our ulemaa need to do workshops targetted at Muslim professionals. The time has come!*

    • @oulangkous718
      @oulangkous718 Год назад +3

      You get Muslim lawyers signing off on haram inheritance distribution, riba home loans, corporate fraud and so fourth.
      Muslim Doctors prescribing unhalal medication, following unhalal treatment protocols, lying to make a buck, etc.
      Muslim teachers, teaching secular kufr, shirk and so fourth.
      You know what I'm saying?

  • @NImuslimguy
    @NImuslimguy Год назад +38

    I think Forgiveness is the key. The spouses should learn to forgive each other.
    Forgiveness not only solves fights and makes our arguments worthless but also increases love for one another.
    A great topic and discussion. May Allah (swt) bless you all. Ameen.

    • @servantof_allah
      @servantof_allah Год назад +5

      Forgiveness is good
      But living with an abusive and manipulative narcissistic person is equivalent to making your life hell
      Never settle for less in this life
      Allah has given right to every human to live with a loving person

  • @oayysz8909
    @oayysz8909 Год назад +10

    Gabriel hit the nail on the head around 49:50 and shut down the women divorced councillor. Not islamically qualified and looking at things through secular lens is a major problem for alot of councillors today.

  • @thethreeninjakids
    @thethreeninjakids Год назад +11

    Nice to see Romario and Hijab sharing the same couch Alhamdulilah!

    • @knawaz3694
      @knawaz3694 Год назад +6

      🤣 those who know, know

    • @KrimzunFlare
      @KrimzunFlare Год назад

      Lol, who was the original one who said that again?

  • @ribenariri7764
    @ribenariri7764 Год назад +5

    Good job Ali for hosting! Really did well in guiding the conversation, allowing each panelists time to say their views and keeping topics centred, looking forward to next discussion👍🏽👍🏽 keep at it!

  • @ANOblkstrMALY
    @ANOblkstrMALY Год назад +8

    Great episode. May Allah bless everyone, guide them in life, and make it easy for the panelists and viewers

  • @theknowledgeseeker9966
    @theknowledgeseeker9966 Год назад +5

    This was great.
    We need more of these discussions, where we get an Islamic perspective on these issues, while also bringing up cultural and societal realities and how Muslims are thinking and acting. Very constructive. May Allah reward you all.

  • @TheOrionOracle
    @TheOrionOracle Год назад +50

    "Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day." Barbara De Angelis
    "Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends.' Harville Hendrix

  • @firdaoussmalih458
    @firdaoussmalih458 Год назад +5

    so glad to see Ali Mohammad and Gabriel together !! Beautiful

  • @ayeshaali2837
    @ayeshaali2837 Год назад +15

    Allhamdulliah to see you with brother Gabriel. I had counselling. With the brother he help me so much may Allah reward him and you for all your good work ameen.

  • @femalefootsteps
    @femalefootsteps Год назад +22

    This was great Allahuma Baarik. Just one suggestion, please invite an unmarried (never married) woman and an unmarried (never married) man onto the panel. I would be interested to hear their views.
    As an unmarried sister we hear so much negative things about marriage and so many people seem to be going through crazy stuff in their marriages. It is scary. We need to hear more positives in'sha'Allah. I have a positive view of marriage (that it is a gift from Allah) but we don't hear enough positive things. Hawa was a massive blessing/gift to Adam Peace Be Upon Him and vice versa, Khadija was a massive blessing/gift to RasulAllah Peace Be Upon Him and vice versa. Marriage is a beautiful thing.
    May Allah bless you all and reward you all for your great work. :)

    • @ucyyesra
      @ucyyesra Год назад +4

      Don't be scared of marriage it is beautiful. Most marriages are happy but unfortunately we are hearing just the bad ones. Excuse my english i'm french muslim woman.

    • @YouDoNotKnowMe99
      @YouDoNotKnowMe99 Год назад +1

      Excellent point sister. I think it is very true. Women particularly, who have been through a bad marriage or even relationship are going around try to put unmarried women off getting married! It’s becoming more common. Please do not listen to their message. May Allah swt make it easy for you and us all

    • @servantof_allah
      @servantof_allah Год назад

      ​@@ucyyesramarriage is only beautiful for man in the culture I live

    • @ucyyesra
      @ucyyesra Год назад

      @@servantof_allah what do you mean by that?

    • @servantof_allah
      @servantof_allah Год назад

      @@ucyyesra what do you understand?

  • @mujtabaahmed5324
    @mujtabaahmed5324 Год назад +5

    I enjoyed this balance of speakers on the scale of dominance. These brothers are more resilliant and knowledgeable in the face of strongly opinionated women like sister Faheem more than the previous brothers. Love all of you.

  • @RamatulaiBarrie-bj6oe
    @RamatulaiBarrie-bj6oe Год назад +4

    I really like these series I find them very insightful. It is interesting listening to different opinions based on topics affecting our ummah. As a young Muslim learning about myself and the world I am learning a lot from these discussion it is giving me the opportunity to hear different perspectives. May Allah reward you guys for deciding to do this video.

  • @Jay_490
    @Jay_490 Год назад +6

    Childhood trauma is real & very present. Your early forming years is your fundamental character building stage. You need to know what your triggers are in order to be more successful. Example; I didn’t practice walking when my dad was at work, potty training, or anything to develop as a child. He was more maternal & more of a safe place. With him I wasn’t scared. In my early adult life I had irrational fear of trying anything unless I had excessive amount of support. I couldn’t be decisive EVER. I went & seen a psychologist and learned where my problems stemmed from. Then fixed it. I have healthy coping skills & I know to let my loved ones know.

  • @user-en3ku4es6z
    @user-en3ku4es6z Год назад +13

    Self reflect is really important brother Ali, people mostly blame others whyle they're their own problem

  • @SheikhhTV
    @SheikhhTV Год назад +20

    MaShaAllah brother Ali smashed it with the panel and your hosting skills are getting better per show so allahumma barik keep it up

  • @ahmedbaqir9933
    @ahmedbaqir9933 Год назад +24

    lol brother and sisters trying their best to avoid eye contact. just have a curtain in the middle.

    • @Qasimkhan-ng8jz
      @Qasimkhan-ng8jz Год назад +3

      Loooll these lot are jokers what they are doing it’s still classified as free mixing lol you don’t see none of the other brothers that are in the dawah scene do these kinda podcast with sisters subhanallah

    • @solomonkzarka4045
      @solomonkzarka4045 Год назад +9

      Where's the the curtain for the camera then?
      People either forget or don't know that women recording themselves and posting online, if in full recommended attire is still not permissible from what I have understood from shiekhs talking about hijab. I also agree that men within the dawaa scene should try to avoid this and possibly even get confirmation as to whether this is permissible.
      You can find nikabis posting themselves online(fully clothed) cleaning their house doing daily chores. This surely is not something we should encourage. Irrespective of whether we think these women can benefit other women.

  • @aseelsabah9211
    @aseelsabah9211 Год назад +5

    Jazakum Allah khairan this was a greatly well managed episode

  • @fatmaaksu7659
    @fatmaaksu7659 Год назад +6

    I love these series

  • @wealthwisdom1656
    @wealthwisdom1656 Год назад +7

    Brother Ali had the best points 1 hour into the video Allahumma barik, Rectifying the Aqidah

    • @ABCD-tx1gs
      @ABCD-tx1gs Год назад

      @Bird Eater just get the hell out of here

  • @ummsulaiman3786
    @ummsulaiman3786 Год назад +65

    35:50 my husband does the same thing and Subhan Allah has made a big difference in the marriage as it made me secure in the relationship that whatever I do or have marital disputes its between us. That we can have a dispute and go to the in laws and not have a fear of being judged.
    Subhan Allah it really makes a difference, I do the same I never take any disputes anywhere and I pray to Allah (Most Merciful) for help and If I have to we both promise each other that whoever is right according to the shariah they have to follow that ruling (if the dispute goes to the imam).
    I truly believe families can make it worse especially parents, if both husband and wife have Fear of Allah (Most High) they should take to someone with knowledge of dean and follow whatever is right and give right of one another.

    • @reyajalisha3268
      @reyajalisha3268 Год назад

      Zakir Naik is nightmare for islamophobs

    • @ammar675
      @ammar675 Год назад

      In laws are never unbiased

  • @slevin1794
    @slevin1794 Год назад +8

    I respect the sister in the middle. Takes courage to sit there and speak your mind to such a wide audience. She’s discussing the mindset of our community within this modern world, and how they can be combined within the teachings of Islam.
    For example so many brothers here pressed about the fact she said men can cry if they want to… and then people here preaching about stoicism… being stoic is commendable, it’s a powerful practice to evoke within your daily livings as a Muslim…. But to utterly, and completely disregard crying, then you’re miss-conceptualising the basis of human nature; To be a Man is to be Human, to be Human is to feel, but also then to be at a high state of wisdom is to have understanding of oneself and emotions. To master this practice, crying is/can be a part of it. HOWEVER, it should be relative to how intense or prolonged the pain is, and to show that part of yourself to one of your most dearly loved and trusted, is simply a growth factor of both those attributes. If you feel like you can’t show your true emotions, to your beloved once in a while, then I think the problem is deeper than you believe.
    Or quite simply, your ego needs to relax. The biggest problem within our cultural society, stems from being egotistical - but that’s a different conversation.

    • @cooljool1
      @cooljool1 Год назад +1

      feelings are much wider than crying. anger, jadedness, rage are all feelings that men express. why are we fixated on crying? crying in public is not a good thing and it should be reserved for the very special moments in your life. the people who keep blabbering on about crying are wanting to use it against men

  • @49undefeated16
    @49undefeated16 Год назад +8

    Amazing discussion super beneficial keep providing this type of content, really helping me with my lack of understanding about marriage. May Allah give you and the panel more patience and understanding. Ameen

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @49undefeated16
      @49undefeated16 Год назад +1

      @@ZakirNaikIsGod you are the best fool on the Internet

  • @One-rr8um
    @One-rr8um Год назад +6

    Modern counselling is like hiring a person to solve another person's problem. They are supposed to help solve your problem not making you feel weaker and innocent to yourself and help find ease and comfort by putting blame on others. Just like justice system, instead of seeking the truth and justice, they compete on winning on lies and putting blame on other party .

  • @AbdikaNi2
    @AbdikaNi2 Год назад +4

    thank you brother Ali wee need more video like this thank you again

  • @asrak9880
    @asrak9880 Год назад +15

    Thank you for this episode! I agree fully that Western therapy places too much emphasis on daddy issues or mom-blaming. I’ve seen too many divorces women blame their parents for raising them to be good, quiet wives. I also appreciate Br. Ali’s approach at 35:00- if my ex husband kept a buffer like that I would still be happily married living with in-laws. But he involved her daily, from the littlest thing and everything would get blown out of proportion until I was being insulted by 3 people at once over non-issues. It accumulated to too much after a year of living with his parents. The damage couldn’t be undone.

  • @Akuma911
    @Akuma911 Год назад

    Masha'Allah I really enjoyed this discussion, a lot of respect for everyone on the panel. Jzk

  • @kenza3306
    @kenza3306 Год назад +3

    You did very good Ali 👍🏼 Allahoema barak. May Allah swt make your show better then it already is. Greets from Amsterdam 😁🫶🏼

  • @marjanazimi5921
    @marjanazimi5921 Год назад +2

    Allahuma Barik - they are all so smart! Mashallah!

  • @zarasbubble1748
    @zarasbubble1748 Год назад +1

    Mashallah this episode was very very good and beneficial for the ummah. Ameen

  • @muhammadyunus9567
    @muhammadyunus9567 6 месяцев назад +2

    Astaghfirullah......CANNOT believe Gabriel and Hiajb joined to this Unlsmaic & idiotic session.....May Allah guide us ALL.

  • @hafizayasmin
    @hafizayasmin Год назад +4

    I love these series pls do more

  • @purehearts1511
    @purehearts1511 Год назад

    This was really beneficial. Jazakumullahu khairan.

  • @greenbananas12378
    @greenbananas12378 Год назад

    Thank you for introducing the buzzer to allow others to speak

  • @amnetaa.a8064
    @amnetaa.a8064 Год назад +2

    Ma sha Allah❤ i really like the video👍🏻

  • @EzziiG
    @EzziiG Год назад +36

    One of the main reasons for my divorce was in-law involvement. My ex wife would involve her family in every single dispute. I told her multiple times that she needs to keep our disputes between the 4 corners of our house but every time her mother or father called me about things which I thought was between us. At the end she listened to her own family more then me and I couldn't take it anymore and I filed for divorce. So I'm definitely on the side of never getting your family involved with any dispute unless as Hijab said there's a threat of physical violence.

    • @HomeTravelGardenInspo
      @HomeTravelGardenInspo Год назад +4

      When a girl gets married, she puts her trust in her new husband and leaves her family home (the only home she’s known) and sets off to her next chapter in life. If it’s her first marriage and she doesn’t have much life experience (let alone how to deal with the opposite gender, in certain situations), then she will obviously go to her own parents first, when she has difficulty in dealing with misunderstandings with her husband etc. She did t go and blast it on the internet, tell her friends or relatives, she went to her immediate family members. You sound very harsh and it sounds like you gave up too quickly and went too far. You sound very immature, because you broke up a marriage, due to your wife, speaking to her parents and asking for help.

    • @ryojs4286
      @ryojs4286 Год назад +1

      @@HomeTravelGardenInspo Hes likely downplaying it. Men do that for women.
      But yes he shouldve tried harder even with how hard it was as he couldve had worse but Allah knows best

    • @MohsinAli-jt5rk
      @MohsinAli-jt5rk Год назад +5

      @@ryojs4286you’ve literally just assumed & then says “Allah knows best” you’re part of the problem.

    • @blackgown7485
      @blackgown7485 Год назад +5

      What your saying is correct but theres always 2 sides to a story...many men can be provocative and entice women to seek advice from family members especially if the husband is stubborn and difficult to speak too...many take advantage and manipulate her especially when it comes to her rights

    • @MohsinAli-jt5rk
      @MohsinAli-jt5rk Год назад +6

      @@blackgown7485 you’ve literally proved my point. Whenever a man brings up a issue they’ve faced from a woman there’s always someone who says “what about the woman” this is exactly why men don’t speak on their feelings - the same people that cry about men don’t talk about their feelings are the same ones to use it against them.

  • @zuhairsiddiqui9433
    @zuhairsiddiqui9433 Год назад +1

    this was such an interesting discussion. Jizzakhallahu khairun Ali dawah

  • @akgh98
    @akgh98 Год назад +8

    Pretty well-made, may Allah bless you and your work.

  • @Queen.of.Quotes
    @Queen.of.Quotes Год назад +9

    Love is creative and redemptive. Love builds up and unites; hate tears down and destroys. The aftermath of the ‘fight with fire’ method...is bitterness and chaos, the aftermath of the love method is reconciliation and creation of the beloved community...Yes , love-which means understanding, creative, redemptive goodwill, even for one’s enemies-is the solution Martin Luther King, Jr.

  • @alimamulma3sum14
    @alimamulma3sum14 Год назад +2

    Greeting and Love to brother Gabriel from his hometown Windsor ❤

  • @Mohdzn
    @Mohdzn Год назад

    the trio we didnt know we needed

  • @shabanakausar4350
    @shabanakausar4350 Год назад

    Bang on point brother we need to look at our actions excellent explanation I totally agree.

  • @abrarhasan3149
    @abrarhasan3149 Год назад +1

    More like this, please!

  • @dimaabdu9008
    @dimaabdu9008 Год назад +2

    I like this show bc it’s not one sided and we get to see the actual similarities in opinion.

  • @akay5118
    @akay5118 Год назад +1

    اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّٰهِ مَاشَاءَالله
    Very beneficial, it's good to understand the views and help that are available.
    جزاك اللهُ خيرً

  • @nijam880
    @nijam880 Год назад

    Nicely done.

  • @younesbettayeb7971
    @younesbettayeb7971 Год назад +1

    thank u for the 3 EP

  • @irfanahmed6411
    @irfanahmed6411 Год назад

    Dear brothers and sisters Allah bless you you are doing great work on this planet and we love you so

  • @shamailaahmed7442
    @shamailaahmed7442 Год назад

    MashAllah- its the first time I heard of brother Hijab, and I have a new found respect for him. Articulates well and respects the views of others. This talk was very beneficial.

  • @ibraheemkhan9116
    @ibraheemkhan9116 Год назад

    Jazak’Allahukhairun

  • @ShabirBurhani2021
    @ShabirBurhani2021 Год назад +2

    Ma Shaa Allah

  • @Md_sadiq_Md
    @Md_sadiq_Md Год назад

    Pushing the algorithm ❤️

  • @mohpat9989
    @mohpat9989 Год назад +2

    Excellent ali dawah

  • @hidayah840
    @hidayah840 Год назад +6

    From all divorced (and many remarried) sisters I've met they all hate divorce and advised strongly against it, even though in some of their cases the divorce (from an islamic point) had to happen, that sister would still advise in favour of working disputes out.

    • @youngbloodnba
      @youngbloodnba Год назад

      Thats your surrounding wich is good. If you read online, one sister has issues and 90% say divorce him. 😂

  • @BruvahSulaiman
    @BruvahSulaiman Год назад +18

    The only 2 pieces of advice anyone needs.
    1. Develop absolute unconditional trust in Allah.
    2. Make your goal in everything you do to seek the pleasure of Allah.
    Unconditional trust means not just trusting in Allah to do what you want Him to do but trusting that if you give your best effort Allah will give you the best outcome based on His infinite knowledge of the context you can't possibly know. So even when it doesn't go the way you perceive to be best you acknowledge based only on the fact that Allah chose this specific outcome that this outcome is best for you.

  • @rani1835
    @rani1835 Год назад +6

    This was a very insightful discussion, but we could do with a part two with the same guests. I really appreciate Sister Fahima’s approach and akhlaq. I think you should have her on the show regularly.

  • @user-dc9yv4rf1f
    @user-dc9yv4rf1f Год назад +1

    Great video

  • @RealityCheck1
    @RealityCheck1 Год назад +4

    It really depends. If someone is dying, of course they should help & get involved.

    • @asevis1425
      @asevis1425 Год назад

      That was addressed in the talk.

  • @razer0072073
    @razer0072073 Год назад +34

    Mashallah to the brothers of lowering their gaze

  • @murthe-wise535
    @murthe-wise535 Год назад +32

    My favourites are Ali Dawah, Muhammed Hijab, Daniel Haqiqatjou, Eddie of The Deen Show, Adnan Rashid, The three Muslims, Mansur, Hamza, Bro Hajji, Hashim and Paul. Wallahi i love all these for the sake of Allah

    • @aikoshoujo9730
      @aikoshoujo9730 Год назад +2

      May Allah love you more.

    • @SheikhhTV
      @SheikhhTV Год назад

      You forgot one really good brother and then your list is complete

    • @ZakirNaikIsGod
      @ZakirNaikIsGod Год назад

      Zakir Naik is God worship him ,

    • @hamzahr6838
      @hamzahr6838 Год назад

      ​@@ZakirNaikIsGod don't you have a life. I see you pasting this comment everywhere

  • @raheemasadat5590
    @raheemasadat5590 Год назад +10

    MashaAllah!!
    Great podcast!
    I love how brothers and sisters lower their gaze and well spoken.
    May Allah guide us more in straight path.
    Ameen!!

    • @therealistshow9335
      @therealistshow9335 Год назад

      They shouldn't be in the same room, remember shatan works step by step

    • @kleollle681
      @kleollle681 Год назад

      @@therealistshow9335 why not?

    • @akhi9117
      @akhi9117 Год назад

      @@kleollle681 ya akhi thats gender mixing, totally haram.

    • @youngbloodnba
      @youngbloodnba Год назад +1

      @@akhi9117 is someone who is called kimberly an akhi? 😂

    • @akhi9117
      @akhi9117 Год назад

      @@youngbloodnba wasnt looking at the name haha *ukhti

  • @don.timeless4993
    @don.timeless4993 Год назад

    may allah bless you all. important discussion

  • @Ak-qj1lf
    @Ak-qj1lf Год назад +9

    Though hijab has not been counselling much I love his approach because it’s straightaway from quran and Hadith which is then extrapolated to to fit in our lives. It is imperative if you are looking for a therapy or a councillor then he/she much have Islamic approach.

  • @ibrahim.700
    @ibrahim.700 Год назад

    Less about in law discussion more about the counselling . But very good

  • @Incandescence555
    @Incandescence555 Год назад +2

    Mashallah I love these brothers and sisters. If the apex of psychological or marital resolution was modern psychology then the Prophet would have categorically made it clear to us. Therefore the Prophetic guidance is yet again affirmed as a palpable and robust panacea for all our social, moral and psychological ills. This does not preclude benefit from the talking therapies - which are clearly helpful and beneficial especially CBT for depression and anxiety, and DBT for borderline personality disorder, to name a few. Ultimately, resilience and piety can take you very, very far - but opening up issues and seeking shura/support and advice is most welcome in many, different situations. Thank you.

  • @asyadelmont
    @asyadelmont Год назад +24

    As a woman I love to hear the sisters perspective because they come at these discussions from a different angle to the brothers.

    • @rifatali8507
      @rifatali8507 Год назад +10

      The first 2 said the traditional culture doesn’t work but didn’t expand on it. That was disappointing

    • @asyadelmont
      @asyadelmont Год назад +5

      I think they were mentioning that sometimes the older generation will advice the couple to just put up with whatever issue is going on even in cases where there might be domestic violence going on and I have seen that myself. Often this might be because they have gone through worse marriages themselves.

    • @rifatali8507
      @rifatali8507 Год назад +9

      @@asyadelmont I don’t disagree. The last 20-30 years feminism has entered the Muslim household. Now the women who earns money thinks she is the breadwinner not the husband and don’t do their wifely duties correctly. Making money for a women is optional but for a man is mandatory

  • @ZzeezZ78
    @ZzeezZ78 Год назад +3

    إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون، ماهذا يا إخوة ؟ جلسات مختلطة وعلى اساس دينية دعوية!!

    • @SheIsTired
      @SheIsTired Год назад

      فعلاً مصخرة قسماً بالله
      أنا غاسلة إيدي من الدعوة بالغرب

  • @irisjaye2265
    @irisjaye2265 Год назад +1

    Seeking advice isn't backbiting, don't drive people deeper into their holes.

  • @FearNoneButAllah
    @FearNoneButAllah Год назад +1

    Jazakallah Muhammad hijab who brings Islamic studies to the discussion and brings us back to what is halal and haram.

  • @Usmanthemecano
    @Usmanthemecano 10 месяцев назад

    Sister fahima may Allah raise your status and understanding. You are definitely a professional

  • @zquadliberty7764
    @zquadliberty7764 Год назад +9

    Brother Ali Dawah thank you for the beneficial content. I would like to give some advice to improve the content, I think that when you have female guests it is better to bring them not in front of male guests because we have to lower our gaze (both men and women) as muslim, so as not to create uncomfortable situations. Anyway thanks a lot for your content.🤗

  • @Nomad_786
    @Nomad_786 Год назад +4

    These discussions need to be longer

  • @BruvahSulaiman
    @BruvahSulaiman Год назад

    I never understood the concept of going to ppl who failed at something to get help with that same thing when ppl who succeeded are available.

  • @squidguard4743
    @squidguard4743 Год назад +2

    Generally they should never get involved. People talk too much, share too much about their spouses to their family. Drama ensues. Keep your marriage life quiet

  • @alyssachausse6752
    @alyssachausse6752 4 месяца назад

    I always feel better when I talk to my mother in law after me and her son have an issue . She’s a great Muslim woman and I aspire to be just like her one day ❤ alhamdulilah I am so grateful and thank ful for her

  • @kingkatiin2658
    @kingkatiin2658 Год назад

    Why would anyone go to a single divorcee without a religious background.

  • @rimalemu261
    @rimalemu261 Год назад

    The way they lowering their gaze mashaAllah!!!

  • @A.--.
    @A.--. Год назад +1

    My best ally is my mother-in-law too like Fahima's. It makes conflict resolution so easy.

  • @sickmangaming2521
    @sickmangaming2521 Год назад +2

    This is amazing🎉🎉

  • @rikiaks9349
    @rikiaks9349 Год назад +3

    Absolutely brilliant, remarkable and articulate responses by Mohammed hijab. May Allah (SWT) preserve him and grant barakah in his work. Ameen

  • @shabanakausar4350
    @shabanakausar4350 Год назад

    A husband and wife are the beauty of each other respect each other and always see positive things in each other work together understand each other ..brother you are right .