WOMAN GUESS WHAT MEN WANT IN A WIFE? - EP 22 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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  • @AliDawah
    @AliDawah  5 месяцев назад +37

    “It is time to take your certainty & confidence to another level!” 🏆✨
    So many world-class Muslim speakers have been through Mohammad Arshad’s life-changing training, and now it's your turn.
    You, too, can feel confident and speak with impact now by going to www.muslimmastery.com/AliDawah
    In this FREE session, you will discover:
    - The 3 biggest lies people believe about confidence and communication
    - The one foundational concept that will transform your influence and impact forever inshaAllah
    - The 3 secret tools to instantly boost your rapport and relationships
    So if you want to feel confident to inspire people, influence change and impact the world, then definitely go to: www.muslimmastery.com/AliDawah

    • @Muslim-girl..from-Yemen
      @Muslim-girl..from-Yemen 5 месяцев назад +1

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    • @GoodDay-ui1kf
      @GoodDay-ui1kf 5 месяцев назад +1

      Brother Ali I really respect you and follow you as well ,but you keep inviting this red pill guy, Mahdi . You know he is promoting in his video's ideas against Islamic teaching like not to married a divorced woman and the body count and many other ugly red pill ideologies .many people won't even like to hear his voice
      What is the point of inviting him . I am so disappointed. My kids listened to your videos, and I don't want them to be affected by Mahdi ideology, same for other Muslims kids. Please take my question into consideration

    • @taasmr4203
      @taasmr4203 5 месяцев назад

      Ali Dawah, as you might know that a man's life and struggle is all about women's buns(buttocks) and boobs(breasts), and that's what men want from a wife....lol.

    • @harry.flashman
      @harry.flashman 5 месяцев назад

      jibjab and ali a pair of cunce and include smile pdf. get out

    • @samamar4630
      @samamar4630 5 месяцев назад

      Shame on you and you represent Islam ? 😤😤😤😤😤😤😠😠

  • @Adam-fc2lf
    @Adam-fc2lf 5 месяцев назад +609

    If I were to list 100 things I'm looking for in a wife, Deen would be number 1 and "Career focused" would be number 105.

    • @YALR-nh2tv
      @YALR-nh2tv 5 месяцев назад +82

      It wouldn’t even be on the list this guy is lost

    • @mohammedmughal6715
      @mohammedmughal6715 5 месяцев назад +8

      😂😂

    • @spywalkz1
      @spywalkz1 5 месяцев назад +21

      No disrespect, but he would be the type of guy that would get angry at his future kids for Failing an exam 🤣

    • @YALR-nh2tv
      @YALR-nh2tv 5 месяцев назад +33

      @@spywalkz1 what you talking about any parent should be disappointed if there kid fails an exam what are you gonna be happy about that?

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 5 месяцев назад +23

      @@spywalkz1 who wouldn’t be angry? It’s not good to fail an exam.

  • @billikash2591
    @billikash2591 5 месяцев назад +256

    WE SHOULD FOCUS ON HOW ALLAH WANTS A WOMAN TO BEHAVE AS A WIFE, INSTEAD OF WHAT A MAN WANTS.

    • @mhussain346
      @mhussain346 5 месяцев назад +34

      Well, if u would like to marry a man then maybe being aware of what a man likes or dislikes is pretty relevant I’d say.

    • @khadijahbegum3546
      @khadijahbegum3546 5 месяцев назад +4

      Yh same for men

    • @user-fn8bs2mo1h
      @user-fn8bs2mo1h 5 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@mhussain346 by default you will get what good is written for you if you focus on Allah. If Allah didn’t write for you the women that you ‘want’ no amount of trying to attract them will work. If you focus on what Allah wants and his Sunnah, not only will he provide for you from unimaginable places and you cut out all the excess but you’ll naturally be becoming the man/woman that Allah wants AND consequently who other servants of Allah would want(e.g the Sunnah of the prophet SAW is to take care of your appearance, wear nice clothes, purify yourself often/good hygiene, men to work hard and honestly etc.) and so biithnillah you attract a similar spouse and allah says good men are for good women and vice versa and Allah is ultimately the changer of hearts so the original comment does have basis subhanallah and Allah most certainly knows best.

    • @hassanahmed7666
      @hassanahmed7666 5 месяцев назад +9

      No body is saying it has to be one or the other. What Allah has said is of course the foundation but Allah also put different type of wants and needs between male and female that are very important for a marriage to work (As long as it doesn’t go against Islam). It’s very important we learn how the opposite gender operates.

    • @user-fn8bs2mo1h
      @user-fn8bs2mo1h 5 месяцев назад

      @@hassanahmed7666 Subhanallah

  • @suadali3565
    @suadali3565 5 месяцев назад +151

    RESPECT..Am married for 16years now Alhamdulillah with 5 kids..nd RESPECT is very very important

    • @nerdrabbit16
      @nerdrabbit16 5 месяцев назад +2

      MashaAllah....Allahumma Barik❤
      May Allah bless your family,Ameen❤❤❤❤

    • @slovelyyx7718
      @slovelyyx7718 5 месяцев назад +7

      Yes of course. Once/if a woman loses respect for a man the relationship is forever doomed. A man can somewhat regain respect for a woman if it was lost but not the other way around.

    • @suadali3565
      @suadali3565 5 месяцев назад

      @@nerdrabbit16 ameen shukran..some to you too

    • @suadali3565
      @suadali3565 5 месяцев назад

      @@slovelyyx7718 exactly..

    • @raeedkamran6136
      @raeedkamran6136 5 месяцев назад +1

      Anybody with a brain would look at the thumbnail and then think that they are sinning

  • @roosworld4910
    @roosworld4910 5 месяцев назад +95

    The level of attractiveness changes. Initially he may be attracted to your looks but I believe the reason for attraction changes. After marriage I can tell my husband finds me attractive when I'm kind and caring to his family. When I stopped wearing make up, I catch him watching me and ask why he's looking at me he says I look nice (I used to always wear make up. Not wearing make up is freedom now). You really don't need anyone else to love you for your looks, if your husband loves you as you are it's very empowering. Alhamdulillah

    • @azizrampage
      @azizrampage 5 месяцев назад +4

      lol caught looking at your wife

    • @zakirchoudhury9206
      @zakirchoudhury9206 5 месяцев назад +3

      If you asked most women who are HAPPILY married, if they would still have married their husband if there was no fancy wedding, not ring, now anniversaries, no date nights and no birthdays. she would say yes because she is deep into a marriage and happy for other reasons. but going into a marriage, if you had presented that same future to the same women, she would say no. What we want going into a marriage is different form what we want whilst we are in. it's the same for Men.

    • @azizrampage
      @azizrampage 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@zakirchoudhury9206 so they demand things they won't want after anyways but won't marry you because their demands are unrealistic

    • @roosworld4910
      @roosworld4910 5 месяцев назад +1

      I would still want a nice wedding to make beautiful memories. Each stage of life holds different needs, wants and experiences. We talk about our wedding day because we put the effort in to it. I had a bridal shower, party after the nikkha, then another party to wear henna and finallya big wedding party for the send off.

    • @zakirchoudhury9206
      @zakirchoudhury9206 5 месяцев назад +3

      @@roosworld4910 Yes, and similarly, men want a beautiful wife to being with. Later on in the marriage, it wont mean as much. but It does in the beginning the same way wedding do for women. We need to stop this behavior of forcing the opposite gender to align with our view of the world in terms of wants and needs. we are raised different and will therefore want different things. the problem is only when the wants and needs reach an unhealthy extreme.

  • @AnonymousPablo
    @AnonymousPablo 5 месяцев назад +73

    1. SubhanAllah
    2. Alhamdulillah
    3. La ilaha illallah Muhammadun Rasulullah
    4. Allahu Akbar
    5. Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaih
    6. Subhanallahi Wa Bihamdihi
    7. La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah

  • @itsmoey
    @itsmoey 5 месяцев назад +234

    Mahdi has no clue what he is talking about, wants her to be shy and not talk to people but also wants her to have a career and have her own thing and not rely on him, brother is a little confused.

    • @Justme-vq8rx
      @Justme-vq8rx 5 месяцев назад +15

      What one has to do with the other u can be shy and have a deegree

    • @itsmoey
      @itsmoey 5 месяцев назад +43

      @@Justme-vq8rx no he said a side hustle. Like a business. You can't have a business without dealing with people and he doesn't want her to know people.

    • @Justme-vq8rx
      @Justme-vq8rx 5 месяцев назад +6

      @@itsmoeyI think you can, you can still have other people talk for you on your behalf or depending on the field you may not even have to meet people directly

    • @itsmoey
      @itsmoey 5 месяцев назад +22

      @@Justme-vq8rx it defeats the purpose. He wants her to stay busy so she can stay off his back. Or at least how he implied it.
      Having an educated wife is completely a different thing, it's super important as she will be raising the children but education itself doesn't make or break, you need to be people smart and you can't be if you've never dealt with people. I say this as someone who was raised by my mother while my father was overseas for work. She wasn't educated but she was intelligent and people smart.

    • @lightkira4119
      @lightkira4119 5 месяцев назад +10

      ​@@itsmoeyyou make a great point, people are trying to make excuses and explanations for something strange.
      A woman who is career focused is going to take risks and make decisions that might be not good. If she has to get a big business deal but has to deal with a toxic situation when the other person is a man who is sexist or makes her uncomfortable then she might fall to some issues.
      Women who entered the career world have so many problems, even in government departments and even the United Nations cases of Harassment and unwanted touching is happening.
      A career is the last thing a man needs his wife to have, if she is a strong woman who wants to be a doctor or lawyer that is more than okay. He is wanting a woman to be a career woman or she isn't a real partner if she wants to be a homemaker.

  • @believe-truth19
    @believe-truth19 5 месяцев назад +186

    These guys missed the most important thing
    1. Respect
    2. Obedience.
    Dont be afraid to be judged it might save someone's life.

    • @MOTHUG786
      @MOTHUG786 5 месяцев назад +9

      Salaam, I noticed this too, the women struggle with humility. I was involved in the past with not so pretty women, however, I found them attractive because they respected me, looked up to me and were loyal to me. As a man, I don't need a 10/10 playboy model, whoever she is, she has to respect, obey, be loyal and look up to her husband. It will grant them success in their relationships. As a man, I might focus on attraction, but my priority/goal is a functional family life with my wife and kids. Family life is bigger than you as an individual, be it a male or a female individual. But can you sacrifice yourself to build a family? A lot of people in the west can't.

    • @iqraali4776
      @iqraali4776 5 месяцев назад

      @@MOTHUG786 being a muslim make and involve with women and publicly telling your sin but then expect any women to show respect to you lol. you dont deserve loyalty, you have lost your purity

    • @iqraali4776
      @iqraali4776 5 месяцев назад +1

      yeah rmr to show it to your wife

    • @AbdullahIbnAbdullah-pk1kf
      @AbdullahIbnAbdullah-pk1kf 5 месяцев назад +3

      I agree but, I believe deen, then respect and obedience because if she truly have deen, then respect and obedience is a given.

    • @iqraali4776
      @iqraali4776 5 месяцев назад +4

      @@AbdullahIbnAbdullah-pk1kf its given only when somebody deserves. And how would you feel when somebody tells you that you have to obey them. it's a harsh word and it hurt the pride naturally. some thing are better not said and this is one of them. if your wife tell you to obey her, how would you feel. naturally you would feel why should I obey her. us women also feel the same. why should we obey. Listen is a better word and such a gentle word. in marriage, listen go both way, sometimes husband to wife and sometimes wife to husband. we all are human being and we all have feeling. lets not treat women like dirt and maid. one day you will have daughter too and lets see how would you feel then

  • @mind_rewritten
    @mind_rewritten 5 месяцев назад +92

    Mahdi has basically accepted the Western way. How can you have a "shy" career driven woman? I feel it's still a man's world, so for a career driven woman, she more than likely has to play in the boys club to get ahead. The degree part triggered me. As first generation, my family relied on me. I worked 60 hour weeks, pursued school and took care of my daughter/brother at 22, helped my mother with medical care and a terminally ill aunt over 20 yrs. It was a challenge to finish my degree. It hurts to know I would be "written" off as not ambitious because I don't have a degree. I felt I was doing the right thing by sacrificing my goals/dreams for the sake of my family and their needs. So, I tried to be a good Muslim woman by doing the "right" thing by my family, but will be penalized as not ambitious because I didn't finish my degree because of it. 😕Sigh I would think the actions I chose to take would reflect my loyalty, love, care, appreciation and respect for my family but that will be negated because a degree can measure my level of ambition. Got it brother.

    • @HhhNn-qj3dm
      @HhhNn-qj3dm 5 месяцев назад +7

      A good woman for a good brother with fulfilled marriage and ambitious woman for an ambitious brother. I am taking care for my sick mother and sacrificed career and yet I have plenty of options to marry good sisters that regard it as sth very high what I did.

    • @mind_rewritten
      @mind_rewritten 5 месяцев назад +8

      @HhhNn-qj3dm You're right, different compatibility for everyone. Yes, most Muslims I would think would appreciate you giving up your career to take care of your mother. You cannot replace your loved ones, you can get another job, career or degree. Alhamdulillah you were able to do that and of course YOU have options. As a Muslim women to hear that was disheartening because if I want an ambitious man, he may negate the above because I personally should have said screw my family, focus on me so I could look better in the eyes of an ambitious man? It just hurts to hear that. Everyone has their preference. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @neawarunnessa6844
      @neawarunnessa6844 5 месяцев назад +8

      46:58
      Where the brother was describing loyalty sis,this is you. Not all men actually understand what ambition entails,I know many women who only get a degree for namesake,no intention to build on it.After being married 17years ,believe me, no degree can save a marriage more than loyalty can. This is a beautiful quality that you have, sis,the selfless ability to put everyone else's needs above yours. May Allah give you a spouse that truly cherishes this trait within you. Yes men have different desires, so nowadays it's so common to speak and ask these questions prior, therefore please make sure you do. ❤

    • @mind_rewritten
      @mind_rewritten 5 месяцев назад +2

      @neawarunnessa6844 I appreciate your kind words and sharing your experience. Alhamdulillah you have been in a long lasting marriage Allah is the best planner and inshallah I will come across the right person. I so appreciate your response. Eases my heart ❤️

    • @basmaazzi4609
      @basmaazzi4609 5 месяцев назад +1

      Toute gréât on thé eyes of allah

  • @848545f
    @848545f 5 месяцев назад +41

    im 27 years old i never had a girlfriend before i never kissed a girl and im a virgin. i never smoked cigarettes shisha or drunk alcohol and im proud of my self. But thats why my future wife has to be a virgin too BUT if i wasnt my virgin my self i shouldnt and couldnt expect a virgin wife too

    • @PizzamanMC
      @PizzamanMC 5 месяцев назад +11

      May Allah preserve you bro.

    • @khairiyusoff5040
      @khairiyusoff5040 5 месяцев назад +3

      If you fear that you will not do justice to the orphans, then, marry the women you like, in twos, in threes and in fours. But, if you fear that you will not maintain equity, then (keep to) one woman, or bondwomen you own. It will be closer to abstaining from injustice.
      4:3

    • @AbdulWahhab-2024
      @AbdulWahhab-2024 4 месяца назад +1

      You can expect and want whatever you want.

    • @848545f
      @848545f 4 месяца назад +3

      @@AbdulWahhab-2024 if youe not a virgin u can still wish for a virgin wife but you shouldn’t go to that meeting with the thinking ok if shes not a virgin I don’t want her because ur not a virgin yourself

    • @AbdulWahhab-2024
      @AbdulWahhab-2024 4 месяца назад

      @@848545f I agree with the first part but you can literally have a preference even if you’re not a virgin.. there’s nothing wrong with this but.. it’s always BEST to not be shallow minded and narrow minded.
      The sister who has been previously married could be your match in every aspect especially deen, so yeah you’d be a fool to turn her down all because she’s not a virgin

  • @sarahkhalid9252
    @sarahkhalid9252 5 месяцев назад +207

    I was disappointed with some of the sisters response. I am a happily married woman for 16 years…. I agree take care of yourself but just beauty and femininity does not make a good life partner. The sisters saying that sisters compete with each other seemed shallow and the one sister mentioning it she was shut down. My dear sisters… confidence, being a good friend to your spouse, education, patience, intellect, being a good mother and having a good relationship with his family with good intent…. These qualities are beautiful.

    • @lightkira4119
      @lightkira4119 5 месяцев назад

      Women in the west compete with each other for rich men and money. They show material possessions as their goals.
      Muslim women might compete for a man who has the outward appearance of having good deen but they shouldn't care about material possessions and money.
      The sister who said we are not really in competition was right and she got shut down very fast. Most Muslim women are looking for good Muslim men period. If they want a rich man or handsome or something than that is their obsession with what society has pushed on them.
      I would be happy for any Muslim man or woman if they succeed in their quest for marriage. I am not trying to steal a woman or man from someone to try and win them. That mentality isn't even correct.

    • @RazmonTy-ht8cj
      @RazmonTy-ht8cj 5 месяцев назад

      These are insecure women n blabling about what? Feminity? Gosh

    • @ladyelegance5737
      @ladyelegance5737 5 месяцев назад +8

      I agree totally 💯

    • @HannaOne
      @HannaOne 5 месяцев назад +6

      Yes but you’re taking this personally and that insinuated you don’t look after your looks?

    • @Aaparacha909
      @Aaparacha909 5 месяцев назад +1

      💯 agree totally.

  • @yamazaki4836
    @yamazaki4836 5 месяцев назад +103

    Simple, Men need women who are
    1. Feminine/ Family oriented
    2. Respectful
    3. Obedient
    And ofcourse Deen/religious, that goes without saying

    • @mina-mina6095
      @mina-mina6095 5 месяцев назад +1

      puppy

    • @Future_B
      @Future_B 5 месяцев назад +18

      It is so stupid and funny, that know we need to add feminine in our list looking for a wife. Isnt this crazy. lol

    • @zakirchoudhury9206
      @zakirchoudhury9206 5 месяцев назад

      Theres plenty of women who have this and are overlooked because they are unattractive. All of what you said are pointless if she is ugly.

    • @mags7054
      @mags7054 5 месяцев назад +4

      Amazing how simple the list is, yet some of the sisters, especially the one in black, makes it sound so complicated.

    • @CyborganizdInc.-gc5so
      @CyborganizdInc.-gc5so 5 месяцев назад

      @Babycake. Fair point, touche. When akh's ignore and abvse wombyn and fail to honour their rights, then the pendulum swings the other way and you get f3m!n!5m as a rad response. Unfortunately it seems it may already be far too late for recovery of the Ummmah in the West, although I continue to hope isA.

  • @mikahist4155
    @mikahist4155 5 месяцев назад +15

    That was actually a beautiful episode. 🕊️

  • @Has2win
    @Has2win 5 месяцев назад +52

    The point at 7:00 about attractiveness being about effort is something I deeply agree with, because not only is that in itself attractive, but most women who do take care of their bodies do become attractive.

    • @hamzakhairi4765
      @hamzakhairi4765 4 месяца назад +1

      True they may not be a 10 or smth... but a good man will see shes trying and that will have a psychological buff for him

  • @zahraabdullahi1601
    @zahraabdullahi1601 5 месяцев назад +23

    The success of a man is not measured by his ability to attract and provide for women. It is in his ability to be a leader worth following. And no leader is successful who dismisses his followers humanity by making them not worthy of being listened to or valued.

  • @springblossom182
    @springblossom182 5 месяцев назад +18

    I have been married for 21 years and I am an average woman in looks and speaking from my experience my handsome husband loves my simplicity, loyalty, modesty and honesty AND he is very happy when he sees me caring for his mother and looking after her like as if she is my biological mother because he is a mummy's boy. I don't mind that though because I love him selflessly & because I know what to do to keep him happy the most & my mother-in-law is a lovely woman I am lucky for that.

    • @AllUKLuv
      @AllUKLuv 5 месяцев назад

      If your kids leave for Christianity you better not hit them

    • @_ph4nt0mzz_47
      @_ph4nt0mzz_47 4 месяца назад +1

      ​@@AllUKLuvwhy would they leave to a corrupted religion?

    • @AllUKLuv
      @AllUKLuv 4 месяца назад

      @@_ph4nt0mzz_47 because most will leave the satanic Islamic faith for atheism or other religion

    • @AllUKLuv
      @AllUKLuv 4 месяца назад

      @@_ph4nt0mzz_47 Islam is pagan look at its historical upbringing not the ummah but archeological evidence

  • @tazzzyyy
    @tazzzyyy 5 месяцев назад +36

    The sisters were so good! The botox comment is trueee. Most guys will look at some random women on social media and think they are "natural," but really, she has filler, botox, makeup, etc. The beauty standards are messed up, unfortunately.

    • @samwilson4597
      @samwilson4597 5 месяцев назад +6

      men don't love botox, no man I know likes botox. leave alone botox we don't even like botox.

    • @supawithdacream5626
      @supawithdacream5626 5 месяцев назад

      Women on insta look ridiculous seriously you’re terminally online if you think guys scroll insta bbl chicks from fajr to isha 🤣

    • @SetASpark
      @SetASpark 5 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@samwilson4597You missed the point. Alot of times you don't know who has had botox. It's not always as prominent as you think.

    • @AbdulWahhab-2024
      @AbdulWahhab-2024 4 месяца назад +1

      Erm no.. we can see that nonsense from a mile off and men that like it.. are a bit.. off track

    • @AbdulWahhab-2024
      @AbdulWahhab-2024 4 месяца назад +1

      @@SetASparkoh but we do

  • @AliDawah
    @AliDawah  5 месяцев назад +91

    A SPECIAL EPISODE WERE WE REACT TO SISTERS RESULTS ON WHAT THEY THINK WE LOOK FOR IN A WIFE, WANT MORE EPISODES LIKE THIS LET US KNOW. THE NORMAL EPISODES WILL STILL CONTINUE. ENJOY

    • @Muslim-girl..from-Yemen
      @Muslim-girl..from-Yemen 5 месяцев назад +1

      ندائي إلى كل مسلم ☪️☪️☪️ يِآ نآس يِآآمٌـٍة ﷴ ﷺ صِآرتٍ قلّوبگٍمٌ بلّآ رحًمٌهً ولّآشفُقهً ولّآ آنسآنيِهً گٍمٌ شگٍيِتٍ وگٍمٌ بگٍيِتٍ گٍمٌ نآديِتٍ وگٍمٌ نآشدتٍ ولّگٍن لّآ حًيِآٍة لّمٌن تٍنآديِ هًلّ يِرضيِگٍمٌ آن آخوآنيِ يِبگٍون ويِمٌوتٍون مٌن آلّجُوع وآنتٍمٌ مٌوجُودون▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎▪︎ يِعلّمٌ آلّلّهً آلّعلّيِ آلّعظَيِمٌ آننآ لّآ نمٌلّگٍ حًتٍى قيِمٌـٍة گٍيِلّو دقيِق آبيِ مٌتٍوفُيِ ﻭﺃﺧﻮﺍﻧﻲ ﺻﻐﺎﺭ ﻟﻴﺲ ﻟﻨﺎ ﺃﺣﺪ ﺃﻗﺴﻢ ﺑﺎﻟﻠﻪ ﺍﻟﻌﻈﻴﻢ ﺃﻧﻬﻢ ﻧﺎﻣﻮﺍ ﺃﻣﺲ ﺟﻮﻋﺎﻧﻴﻦ ﻭﻫﻢ ﻳﺒﻜﻮﻥ من الالم والولايات ﻳﺎﺃﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺮ ﻫﻞ ﻳﺮﺿﻴﻜﻢ ﺃﻧﻨﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺲ ﻟﺤﺪ ﺍﻵﻥ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺃﻛﻞ ﻳﺎﺃﺧﻮﺓ الأسلام يافاعلين الخير انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين انا واسرتي بيتنا ايجار الشهر ب20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد يطردنا من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرناندفعله الأجار وما يروح الئ بعدما نبكي ورجعوتكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع واذا دفعنا له حلف يمين بالله بيخرجنا إلى الشارع بدون رحمه واحنا.مشردين من بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سغار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا يقف جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه انا بنت لااستطيع ان اشتغل والله مانجد لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انابنت عيني بصيره ويدي قصيره ليس لي أب مثلك واخواتي سغار أنقذنا وساعدونا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع ﻳﺎﺃﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺮ ﺍﻟﻲ ﻋﻨﺪﻩ ﺍﻟﻘﺪﺭﻩ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺴﺎﻋﺪﺗﻨﺎ لايتاخر علينا لحظه
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    • @Yusuf_ibnazam
      @Yusuf_ibnazam 5 месяцев назад +1

      Do some more of the culture ones Akhi they were very interesting

    • @lokidedbeat1878
      @lokidedbeat1878 5 месяцев назад +1

      didnt mahdi tidjani beats his own wife. thats why she divorce him. also he not that knowledgeable in islam, has fringe opinion which will create more fitnah. like his no strings nikah which a women forfiets her rights so that the guy will not have a finiacial problem to marry her. mohammed hijab and Co explained that this will lead into more fitnah. as the guy will just abuse the system for himself i.e create loopholes. why you keep inviting him is a joke to this stupid podcast were you get majority unmarried or people with less years in a marriage. to talk about these issues.

    • @GoodDay-ui1kf
      @GoodDay-ui1kf 5 месяцев назад +10

      Brother Ali I really respect you and follow you as well ,but you keep inviting this red pill guy, Mahdi . You know he is promoting in his video's ideas against Islamic teaching like not to married a divorced woman and the body count and many other ugly red pill ideologies .many people won't even like to hear his voice
      What is the point of inviting him . I am so disappointed. My kids listened to your videos, and I don't want them to be affected by Mahdi ideology, same fie other Muslims kids. Please take my question into consideration

    • @thetruthwithproof8802
      @thetruthwithproof8802 5 месяцев назад +1

      ( 📕Sunan Ibn Majah 2342 ) Whoever harms others, Allah will harm him; and whoever causes hardship to others Allah will cause hardship to him

  • @MaimoonaSyeda-wv8hs
    @MaimoonaSyeda-wv8hs 5 месяцев назад +2

    I found this episode really insightful MashAllah. JazakAllahkhair for this podcast.

  • @abdullahahmad9300
    @abdullahahmad9300 5 месяцев назад +7

    1.Attractive
    2. Respectful
    3. Loyal
    4. Trustworthy
    5. Obedient
    6. On deen

  • @xamdiabuukar272
    @xamdiabuukar272 5 месяцев назад +28

    It's time to all of us to work out in our lives and marriage.
    By Allah this umma needs to learn that life is more important than just showing off the social media platforms.
    Ours brother and sister in palastin needs for all of us to work tight together so we can stand up for them.

    • @fatumahussein9604
      @fatumahussein9604 5 месяцев назад

      They don’t care about none of that, they Only care about Social media imitating non Muslims following society Free mixing, anything that goes against Allah and has nothing to do with Islam it’s Embarrassing and disappointing we have became exactly like the non Muslims even doing talk shows and interviews like these pathetic!

  • @user-eu6jq8ud9l
    @user-eu6jq8ud9l 5 месяцев назад +16

    Bunch of kids. If you put mature women who are married over 10-20+ years, divorced or widowed the conversation will be alot different.

    • @ImenBen12
      @ImenBen12 5 месяцев назад

      What would they say that's different?

    • @GalaxyisAmazing
      @GalaxyisAmazing 5 месяцев назад +1

      agreed

    • @sistersoul5787
      @sistersoul5787 5 месяцев назад

      You ain’t wrong !
      But some stuff would be similar like being understanding being patient .. ect
      Would like to hear what do you think différent it will bring to the conversation ?

    • @scaryjoker
      @scaryjoker 4 месяца назад +1

      5 minutes in and they haven't even mentioned cooking. Experienced women would say that straight away.

    • @aneesaawaldien4760
      @aneesaawaldien4760 2 месяца назад

      I agree with you 100 💯 percent

  • @TheThompson425
    @TheThompson425 5 месяцев назад +4

    I really love your content. I truly believe the work you are doing on this pod cast is top notch. It really helps people like me to learn about the British Muslim Community.

  • @nancyjones5971
    @nancyjones5971 5 месяцев назад +37

    1. Good Muslim
    2. Respectful
    3. Kind, caring, nurturing
    4. Attractive
    5. Good with their children, his parents, siblings

  • @gretalame676
    @gretalame676 5 месяцев назад +33

    This video just proved an important point: "some men don't know what they want". I don't mean to disrespect these brothers but forgetting to mention "respect"?? Is beauty more important than respect? Is beauty more important than the deen? Are we all forgetting that this world is temporary? She can be ugly but the way how she speaks, her piousness, her purity, her intelligence, the way she treats you, her connection to Allah may lead you to Jannah. Apparently this woman doesn't even get a chance to show her values. You fall in love with the heart, beauty goes away after some years.
    Sisters please focus on your deen, connect to Allah and put him at the center of your heart, remember that one day we will be alone in the grave, your husband is not going to be there. To all married sisters out there, thank Allah for this blessing and work hard to make the marriage work, we are living in hard times.

    • @gretalame676
      @gretalame676 5 месяцев назад +6

      @@luluah1198 I feel Muslims that live in the West have no idea anymore what it means to barely make it at the end of the month. Almost all women will spend their time in taking care of themselves, of their skin, of their style, of their body, if they HAVE MONEY. If you have a husband that works and gives you everything, of course you are going to spend your time in looking for the best clothes, perfumes and skincare. You can work on your appearance but can you work on your heart and character traits? Can you be there when your husband will get fired? Can you be there and remember to your husband that we are here to worship Allah? Can you wake him in the middle of night and pray tahajjud? No one mentioned these things, they simply ask for a woman/man on the DEEN. What does that really mean?
      I agree that attractiveness is important, I was just shocked that was hand in hand with the DEEN. Didn't our prophet alejhi selam advised us to choose the one that is on the DEEN?

    • @Rachel-yz8ty
      @Rachel-yz8ty 5 месяцев назад +1

      My favourite comment 🎉

  • @roeen.
    @roeen. 5 месяцев назад +29

    One thing I would like to comment on. The sisters were talking about makeup as if it were normal. However, wearing makeup in front on non- mahrams is Haram. It goes totally against wearing Hijab. Hijab is supposed to conceal the beauty, and Makeup does the opposite. May Allah SWT bless and guide us all. Ameen

    • @AbdulWahhab-2024
      @AbdulWahhab-2024 4 месяца назад +2

      Try tell them that..

    • @miss.ramacy
      @miss.ramacy 3 месяца назад

      You also have to understand that wearing hijab is an optional thing for women, it doesn’t mean that she’s not a good muslim if she’s not wearing it and even if a woman wears hijab that still doesn’t stop men from staring and approaching at them in such ways. Hijab or not, a beautiful woman will appears attractive in both with/without makeup. Instead of applying so much pressure and rules on women, teach the men to lower their gaze. And let everyone live and choose their lives based on their choices, Allah guides us all in different directions based on our circumstances. You have no say, but overall brother you’re making islam appear as if it’s oppressive towards women. Have a nice day.

    • @AbdulWahhab-2024
      @AbdulWahhab-2024 3 месяца назад +4

      @@miss.ramacy no it’s not.. it’s obligatory and it’s not up for debate.

    • @roeen.
      @roeen. 3 месяца назад +1

      @@miss.ramacy Sister, Hijab is not optional, it is Fardh. That's like saying drinking alcohol is optional. Of course, I understand what you are saying, men have to lower their gaze. Both have to do their part.
      May Allah SWT bless you. Ameen

    • @farjanabegum1934
      @farjanabegum1934 2 месяца назад +1

      Sister, I would like to correct you here please…The sisters were talking about makeup in front of their husbands to be good looking to their husbands

  • @sanesanity9056
    @sanesanity9056 5 месяцев назад +2

    Some good podcast right there, ما شاء الله

  • @M1911Original
    @M1911Original 5 месяцев назад +4

    What I like about this is that it gives me hope in women and that there are some women out there that are good and fear Allah out there. Something that I haven't seen due to the environment I've been brought up in.

  • @wasimmomin1128
    @wasimmomin1128 5 месяцев назад +6

    Wallahi Sister Dopamine brought all her energy into this show. She was on the top of the discussion panel.

  • @izy9911
    @izy9911 5 месяцев назад +11

    i would NEVER compete to be in polygamous horrible night mare. personally I want my man to have one wife (me) n i be married to him only at same time in this marriage

  • @Tressa-Rei-Tressa
    @Tressa-Rei-Tressa 5 месяцев назад +9

    Beauty, intimacy, respect and appreciation.

  • @hadtisanesharif9467
    @hadtisanesharif9467 5 месяцев назад +15

    Sister in the middle said it.1. conscious of Allah SWT ❤❤❤. Shout out to you, respectful n kind, gentle naturing.love's kids. respect her husband's decisions as long as its not haram,loves her parents n respect's them.❤

  • @abdifatahali4733
    @abdifatahali4733 5 месяцев назад +7

    The girl with the blue hijab is really smart! She made many great points! Masha Allah

  • @bikeboi821
    @bikeboi821 5 месяцев назад +10

    WOMEN DO KNOW WHAT WE WANT. Deen, loyalty, respect, security, stability, protection, good overall health, happiness,

    • @ImenBen12
      @ImenBen12 5 месяцев назад

      Thank you. How is a man telling us that. Yes, some women are indecisive. But many of us know exactly what we want in a man!

    • @AllUKLuv
      @AllUKLuv 5 месяцев назад

      But looks matter as well

    • @catstanbul8903
      @catstanbul8903 4 месяца назад +2

      You should not expect security and protection from a woman. A woman need that from you.

  • @rozaliaslaboiu7810
    @rozaliaslaboiu7810 4 месяца назад

    I liked the way of thinking and the way of behaving and talking about women of the person dressed in green and then immediately of the person with the red sweater. Respect!

  • @umrkhan6151
    @umrkhan6151 5 месяцев назад

    Aslm. This is a brilliant series. Allah bless you all. From South Africa

  • @arifmunshi6833
    @arifmunshi6833 5 месяцев назад +17

    Men like to be attracted by women but do not like other men sharing that attraction

    • @zamzamp2757
      @zamzamp2757 5 месяцев назад +6

      This is the problem especially when a woman is trying to get married. If she doesn’t make herself attractive then no man will even consider her, but then she will become in the habit of wearing make-up and getting outside attention, then he will judge her for letting other men see it. Men need to lower their gaze and know that feminine beauty is not in the make-up and clothing she wears but in the female body and character that Allah swt blessed that woman in hijaab with. The whole point of hijaab is to conceal the beauty. A real Muslim woman will want to dress up at home and dress down (simple) outside.

  • @sp-rz8kx
    @sp-rz8kx 5 месяцев назад +33

    A woman who knows how to maintain a relationship, maintain the home, ability to cook, have understanding towards her husbands emotional & physical needs. A good mother, a good wife & a nurturing friend.

    • @sarahnovella4971
      @sarahnovella4971 5 месяцев назад +4

      so much work lol
      but most of these qualities are something that *both* husband n wife should have, no? not only just the wife🤷

    • @iqraali4776
      @iqraali4776 5 месяцев назад +1

      you mean a man need to know all this, yes I agree, a male need to know all the list you made for women

    • @aveshdiamond6763
      @aveshdiamond6763 5 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@iqraali4776 each man is allowed there preference sister you can have your type and man can have their there is nothing wrong in wishing this kind of wife and you wishing whatever kind of husband you have
      The key is to find it before marriage not try to make them this after marriage

    • @hfizadiwan423
      @hfizadiwan423 5 месяцев назад

      😂😂​@@iqraali4776

    • @muhammadislam4640
      @muhammadislam4640 5 месяцев назад

      @@sarahnovella4971 yes but the episode is about what men want in a woman so that's why they didn't mention the other side, I assume they will do another episode doing the reverse where the men discuss what women want in a husband

  • @robynemordi8703
    @robynemordi8703 5 месяцев назад +2

    Respectful, modest, Patient, obedient, religious, attractive and interesting. These are main qualities I think women should have.

  • @shirazkhokhar3360
    @shirazkhokhar3360 5 месяцев назад

    This is a good format. Activity based. It's more fun and engaging.

  • @nazh9663
    @nazh9663 5 месяцев назад +6

    It's good you brought this discussion to the show. Some vital points were missed out like another commenter mentioned respect. And CONFIDENCE is the most attractive trait in a woman. Focusing on material facts alone will not yield a confident wife. It does come with emotional intelligence. A man wants and needs respect and a woman needs and wants love. Attractiveness flows from these traits. Of course everyone has different levels of what is attractive but personality makes one beautiful.

  • @sonyarose2982
    @sonyarose2982 5 месяцев назад +66

    While all people are jealous; isn’t it actually men who are more jealous? While a woman may have to tolerate polygny, a man could Never contain himself in such a situation. So how is it women are labeled as “jealous “? All Humans experience jealousy; it’s not gender based, it’s an emotion.

    • @digitalarslan1778
      @digitalarslan1778 5 месяцев назад +8

      Yeah because Allah made us this way. And Allah knows and we don't know

    • @juaritos2724
      @juaritos2724 5 месяцев назад +7

      First of all such situation is not allowed by Allah, so your hypothetical is void.

    • @sedameansstrong
      @sedameansstrong 5 месяцев назад +9

      Nobody can tell me that a woman who loves her husband can tolerate polygyny without throwing insane jealous fits. This is a torture for women! And by Allah- I don't think any woman would put up with it ever unless for Allah. Women who generally tolerate polygyny don't love their men (!!!), they like them "just enough" to remain in the marriage and they enjoy the part of being taken care of. Thats what polygyny was allowed for, by Allah subhanahu wa t'ala. So that more women could enjoy the protection and wealth of a man- and for men thats a win win to have more sexual options in return if they get bored.
      Most women can do that. They can fall out of love and emotionally detach from a relationship, and enjoy other benefits. Thats when they are not jealous (unless they are competitive by nature) Men on the other hand have a die hard big ego

    • @sonyarose2982
      @sonyarose2982 5 месяцев назад +6

      @@juaritos2724 I know that it is not halal; but in order to make my point, I’m providing an example. The overriding point is that men (and some women) try to sell a story that women are so jealous, when it is clear that men are even more so. Men would not sit idly by and watch their wife go to another man every other night and not throw a fit or even harm somebody. I’m just saying: women should stop being told they are “just jealous” especially by men who actually display more evidence of this in relationships.

    • @T4ffynxnja
      @T4ffynxnja 5 месяцев назад +4

      You're mis-conflating the 2. In the end, jealousy in men is actually attractive. Ghayrah. I mean, think about it, a man who is a Dayooth in concept is extremely unattractive. The Western equivalent would be a cu** - it's just that in Islam, we have higher boundaries and expectations.
      For women, we have to put their jealousy in context. If they're jealous about another woman's worldly blessings, that's a problem (and would be in mean, especially if it brewed malicious intent).
      Being jealous about a spouse (essentially ghayrah for a woman) isn't "attractive" per se. Some may call it "cute" - but it also leads to annoyance.

  • @aa-fw2pw
    @aa-fw2pw 5 месяцев назад +9

    Woman here.
    I would say the no.1 thing a man should want in a woman is deen. Other things become a byproduct of having that deen, such as respect, appreciation, compromise, femininity, reliability, loyalty etc

    • @ImenBen12
      @ImenBen12 5 месяцев назад +4

      Men are very visual ! I strongly believe beauty is No1 for them, if a woman is on her deen but not attractive to her at all, im pretty, prettyyy sure he wouldn't entertain it, most men wouldn't. But I agree deen is incredibly important and I feel is a close 2nd for them in practice.

    • @aa-fw2pw
      @aa-fw2pw 5 месяцев назад +1

      @ImenBen12 This hadith was narrated by al-Bukhari (4802) and Muslim (1466) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
      There should be chemistry between the two, but deen should be the top priority, as mentioned above.

    • @khairiyusoff5040
      @khairiyusoff5040 5 месяцев назад +1

      If you fear that you will not do justice to the orphans, then, marry the women you like, in twos, in threes and in fours. But, if you fear that you will not maintain equity, then (keep to) one woman, or bondwomen you own. It will be closer to abstaining from injustice.
      4:3

    • @fatumahussein9604
      @fatumahussein9604 5 месяцев назад

      @@ImenBen12Yes and that’s what’s honestly sad and very Disappointing that’s all they care about this world made it seem like it’s the most important thing which is why there’s all this filth, Makeup, and surgeries so much things that ruin everything all For the sake of “BEAUTY” when really all those things are not beautiful at all and there’s nothing good abo them, Muslims can’t even follow the Religion of Allah properly instead they join society and everything the world does, it’s sad its messed up the world is like this it will never be good!

    • @shazam314
      @shazam314 3 месяца назад

      @@aa-fw2pw Yes. Deen should be top priority, but it is also very important for man to marry a woman he is physically attracted. Because fulfilling his physical needs is one of the most important things in a marriage.

  • @inamulislam7141
    @inamulislam7141 5 месяцев назад +1

    Assalamualaikum warahmatullah my dear sisters. Masha Allah excellent conversation

  • @rahbid121
    @rahbid121 5 месяцев назад +11

    What are these sisters talking about? "Seeing his wife as a prize because his wife seems to be the best looking compared to other sisters, elevated amongst his peers, his ego is fed, being competitive," this is all sounding like riya, ego, arragonce. Showing off. Completely agaisnt the teachings of our beloved (saw). i swear this is cringeworthy. That sister in green scarf made some good points, but she got shut down. Allahumma baarik laha.

    • @fatumahussein9604
      @fatumahussein9604 5 месяцев назад +1

      This entire channel is cringe imitating disbelievers especially when they talk about these kinds of things and invite women, Exposing themselves like what kind of behavior do these Muslims have now a days it’s sad and embarrassing, Qiyamah is close and instead of getting closer to Allah people don’t care and keep getting attached to dunya doing haram and everything, Astagfirullah

  • @sp-rz8kx
    @sp-rz8kx 5 месяцев назад +12

    We are not supposed to dress the best in any form of competion at weddings or in public as it can attract unneccasary intention.

  • @agxec2932
    @agxec2932 5 месяцев назад +3

    Loyalty I guess is the number one thing, followed by faith, understanding, supportiveness, health, beauty and intelligence in a woman most men seek in prospective wives.
    She can be of the same faith as you are but still can be disloyal and selfish.
    She can be beautiful, attractive, fertile, youthful, wealthy, resourceful, higher similar or lower economic status, or from the same faith or not from the same faith - but if disloyalty and lying is part of her psyche and character, she's often no good.
    It's common across all religions.

  • @samirachami2209
    @samirachami2209 5 месяцев назад

    Respect and gratitude comes hand in hand.

  • @ChromeandClean
    @ChromeandClean 5 месяцев назад +38

    Here's the problem , women dont care what men want in a wife , when men state what they want , women will argue for them and try to change men's preferences and use shaming language ex: insecure, controlling , manipulative

    • @MH-bf4uu
      @MH-bf4uu 5 месяцев назад +19

      stop spending too much time on the internet

    • @khairiyusoff5040
      @khairiyusoff5040 5 месяцев назад

      That's why men are allowed to marry more than 1 (up to 4 wives)
      If you fear that you will not do justice to the orphans, then, marry the women you like, in twos, in threes and in fours. But, if you fear that you will not maintain equity, then (keep to) one woman, or bondwomen you own. It will be closer to abstaining from injustice.
      4:3

    • @supawithdacream5626
      @supawithdacream5626 5 месяцев назад

      @ulz_glc muslim women are women and muslim men are men we are still have a nafs thats repulsive and if you dont follow Quran and sunnah to the t you will reek

    • @forproject1666
      @forproject1666 5 месяцев назад +2

      Stop listening to red pill and actually look for religious woman

    • @AllUKLuv
      @AllUKLuv 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@forproject1666 na he's not wrong I've asked muslimah this and my ex fiance was same

  • @ayeshanasir9916
    @ayeshanasir9916 5 месяцев назад +6

    I used to dress up for him, respect him and follow his word, but throughout our 12 years of marriage he has been cheating on me... when i lost the will to maintain myself, n finding it hard to respect him, he blames me that he "started cheating" cz of me, but the matter of fact is he had been into other women even BEFORE we got married (i wasnt aware of this back then)
    I stood by him through veeg difficult times, was understanding of his kong working hours (n then working "late") and he has made it a habit of that... going n meeting other women, and never taking us out anywhere as a family
    How do i try to fix this?

    • @afghanistan9196
      @afghanistan9196 5 месяцев назад +1

      May Allah give you patience. You should talk with a sheikh about this. May Allah make it easier for you. Ameen

    • @AllUKLuv
      @AllUKLuv 5 месяцев назад +1

      U can't lol

    • @zeenazeena2428
      @zeenazeena2428 4 месяца назад +1

      This is so awful I’m sorry your going through this, if u want to make it work he needs to also put work in too.
      May Allah make it easy for u I’m sorry :( I will pray for u and I hope ur okay sister
      If you feel you can forgive him he needs to win back your trust if u cannot then u know
      Ur strong and beautiful it’s not that ur not it’s just his own fault for doing that to u so please don’t feel bad about yourself okay

    • @Maria_Shoaib
      @Maria_Shoaib 4 месяца назад +4

      I'm sorry sister but if after 12 freakin years, you still want to "fix" this. This ain't gonna go anywhere. You'll have to stand for yourself and exit this toxic relationship

  • @mirzabeg2274
    @mirzabeg2274 5 месяцев назад

    I really appreciate how the brothers emphasised on the term ' attraction' over ' beauty' , especially how brother Mehdi highlighted that sisters take it too far. It shows the level of maturity, which is quite reassuring 😊.

  • @oiyile1971
    @oiyile1971 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you creating separated rooms!

  • @drxamarxgan
    @drxamarxgan 5 месяцев назад +3

    1.loyalty
    2. care /nurturing
    3.humility
    in that order or chaos will ensue
    also only in the streets not in the shhhhhhhhhhhh.
    smile ikhuan it's sunnah

  • @Slymar87
    @Slymar87 5 месяцев назад +7

    The answer is, it's not one size fits all. Some men want a woman that works inside and outside the home. Some men want a woman to stay home and keep the home in immacukate order and do everything in the household. People are different. I think obviously all.men want to.have a beautiful, clean, intelligent, organized woman. People love anything close to perfection although there isn't eich a thing in this worldm but everyone wants a partner that suits their character and lifestyle.

  • @mobidick6064
    @mobidick6064 5 месяцев назад +2

    On your Birthday, the focus is on the parents. On your marriage ithe foicus is on parenting,,giving thanks both ways

  • @KingMotivat3
    @KingMotivat3 5 месяцев назад +17

    Who wants botox lips and face??? I think you need to change the kind of men you’re speaking with 🤔

    • @HannaOne
      @HannaOne 5 месяцев назад

      Lol most men are attracted to that look. They usually don’t know what women have had done

  • @kareemsvlog5590
    @kareemsvlog5590 5 месяцев назад +3

    I’m glad to see my man Mahdi on the show!!!😅

  • @abutalip9539
    @abutalip9539 5 месяцев назад

    Hey big bro Ali you always get it all together I mean when I just want to take a look at your podcast I end up watching all of it

  • @saintmte5076
    @saintmte5076 Месяц назад

    The women that 'appear' ready for the 'wife life' is the one fully covered and the one on the far right.
    Great discussion.

  • @user-yj2ug4xb1k
    @user-yj2ug4xb1k 5 месяцев назад +6

    A very important point missed is intelligence. You want to be able to have a good conversation with your wife. Otherwise you will be hearing gossip all day.
    Also being funny, laughing, playing silly games, etc. Life is too serious as it is so the home should be fun.

  • @drxdre9444
    @drxdre9444 5 месяцев назад +3

    Brother Ali, big fan of this series, me and the Mrs watch all the episodes, entertaining and educating!.. I only watched the lads bit and had some comments.
    I thought the conversation about the qualities was good, I agree with other comments that career focused is a bit of a weird sounding one to wish for but as long as there's no career obsession from husband or wife, then you got a good shot at being married!
    I've been married for 10 years alhumdulillah and hope Allah gives us many more years inshAllah.
    The brother next to brother Mahdi, all that stuff he said for the last 10minutes, I'll be honest I don't agree with this view at all. I've seen him before on this show and I remember his comments were pretty wild back then too.
    Again, I don't mean to disrespect but it strikes me as a very... Derogatory view of women. What I learnt from many years in this wonderful religion is that.. Men over the years have tried to bring in the cultural male dominance into faith. They bring it not because the prophet SAW did that or said that. They bring it from own self interest. The interest is that Pre Islam-Andrew Tate mentality. I work.. I go out. I do what I want. You stay at home. Shut up. Be grateful, be obedient. Don't be a feminist... I'll tell you how to live. You are too neurotic to decide.
    From my knowledge many women in the east especially still live under the shoe of their man like that.
    My advice to women from all the years of being happily married - know your worth. That whole thing above is there not to keep you on deen. It's to control you so that the man himself can grow up from teenager to a man...have a wife and kids.. And still... Live like they are single. Hang with the boys... Work till late...
    I know the modern western way has flipped things to the other extreme level. There are many plagues of our age and marriages are under a massive attack from the Army of Shaytaan.
    But there is a middle ground. Brother on the left touched upon it
    .
    Together. In sickness and in health. Supporting each other. Not 'I'm a man I'm this I'm that I'm smart you are less, I got deen, you are a cake and I'm gonna bake it. Seriously I do feel slightly sad for that harem. Because Allah created love for us to enjoy in this world and brothers and sisters, in my humble opinion whatever that was... Is far from it.

  • @K114LED
    @K114LED 5 месяцев назад +1

    Peace is so important to have at home!

  • @tahmidabdullah2618
    @tahmidabdullah2618 5 месяцев назад +8

    Mash Allah. It's refreshing to see such podcasts.
    Shout out to the sisters, I'm impressed that even in this modern age, they are knowledgeable enough to understand what muslim men want in general.

  • @blacksyrianiskenderunboi9388
    @blacksyrianiskenderunboi9388 5 месяцев назад +3

    38:00 my bro’s lookin at the camera like this channel’s the Inshallah App 😭😭😭😭

  • @zuhamalik7686
    @zuhamalik7686 5 месяцев назад +1

    Leaving the list for women to check the man.
    - financial stability
    - deen
    - understanding deen
    -mental capability.
    - emotional stabiltiy
    - confident in his decisions

  • @Observercom
    @Observercom 4 месяца назад

    Watched a few of these and the guy in the green is the only real
    Man on this podium. He’s grounded, mature and calm-natured, respectful, reasonable and he listens. He exudes rationality, positive confidence and sensibility which will inevitably make a good leader.

  • @hopeali
    @hopeali 5 месяцев назад +3

    You can tell when you hear the brother on the furthest to the right speak that he's very thoughtful

  • @Saliah-Begum
    @Saliah-Begum 5 месяцев назад +5

    The nakab one is wearing the most makeup then she is talking about other sister.
    From the beginning of time to now for men it’s looks, looks and looks.

  • @tyrosel2543
    @tyrosel2543 5 месяцев назад

    Brother in the cap went straight to the point with the third point, it's an important matter.

  • @susuti90
    @susuti90 5 месяцев назад +2

    Ohhhhh my godddd thats a juicy one

  • @ma_iii
    @ma_iii 5 месяцев назад +40

    The sister in the middle wearing green abaya was so right. A man that can be vulnerable is amazing.. i don’t know why other sisters had to dismiss her ..

    • @linaazmiin7479
      @linaazmiin7479 5 месяцев назад +4

      exactly I love it , but just dont show this side to other man just me , and not tooo much too like sometimes I really like , my father is vunerable to me maybe thats something I will not mind in a man

    • @lightkira4119
      @lightkira4119 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@linaazmiin7479even once in a while saying i had a rough day at work should be expected. Men should always be stoic and never complain about anything is not a man but a rock.
      He shouldn't be doing it weekly but once in a while a man should be able to express himself at home without needing to hide all his emotions because he is stoic.

    • @ma_iii
      @ma_iii 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@linaazmiin7479 Yes like obviously it should be in moderation, and we as women can know when a man is strong but going through a hard time, its so selfish to call men weak when they’re struggling with something, like I would feel so hurt if my husband felt insecure about being vulnerable with me, if he can only share happy moments but not his deeper feelings to me it just means that he can’t trust me enough to connect with me and it will just make me distant with time, I don’t know maybe its because I generally can’t stand surface level shallow relationships and when it comes to my personal relationships, I just want us to be so transparent..

    • @aveshdiamond6763
      @aveshdiamond6763 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@linaazmiin7479yea but some woman do not find it attractive like they have a image of masculine man and when he gets emotional he feels unattractive

    • @linaazmiin7479
      @linaazmiin7479 5 месяцев назад

      @@aveshdiamond6763 yea that can be true too

  • @ibrahin5479
    @ibrahin5479 5 месяцев назад +5

    mahdi needs some nasal decongestion spray, i initial thought the breathing was coming from the big guy but my suspicions were cleared when he started talking and that ghastly sound continued. im surprise no one else in the comments picked up on it considering i almost locked off the pod because of how distracting it was. otherwise interesting ep

    • @redman6790
      @redman6790 5 месяцев назад +1

      😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂

  • @Aesh004
    @Aesh004 5 месяцев назад

    Ali dawah! May you be blessed آمین 🥹

  • @sharci252
    @sharci252 5 месяцев назад

    Good conversation.

  • @peacelove1034
    @peacelove1034 5 месяцев назад +17

    Muslims should never compete with each other they should support each other.

    • @HannaOne
      @HannaOne 5 месяцев назад +1

      Yes but Human nature to compete

  • @Dianeek9
    @Dianeek9 5 месяцев назад +14

    Assalamu Alaykum.
    I am married since 4 years AlhamduliLlah and as a wife, also as a second wife, I still dont know the perfect answer to this.
    Just try to do your best, to make him happy and to ask if there is something you can do better, most importantly have faith in Allah s.w.t.

    • @goativation9506
      @goativation9506 5 месяцев назад +1

      May i ask what country you are from?

    • @Dianeek9
      @Dianeek9 5 месяцев назад

      @@goativation9506 Germany

    • @shakila5674
      @shakila5674 2 месяца назад

      Why didn’t you accept a single man. Why ruin another sister

  • @ahmedyzo
    @ahmedyzo 3 месяца назад

    BROTHERS DISCUSSION IS SENSABLE

  • @loveislam4013
    @loveislam4013 5 месяцев назад

    Ali dawah is so funny may Allah bless him. I always agree with Mahdi the most

  • @BIBZ727
    @BIBZ727 5 месяцев назад +6

    Concerning the "asking what your wife want" part, what women want is different from a woman to another woman. And the way women express themselves is different from one another.
    For you to take the example "when a woman says yes it means no", is incorrect as this expression is used to say that when a woman wants something she has her own way of expressing herself. Which means she actually knows what she want but is not necessarly going to manifest it clearly or in the right way.
    Also saying "women don't know what they want" may be true for some, and in some specific situations, but please let's not generalize. In some situation, yes, women are not experienced so they don't know until it happens and then they know. But in some other situation they actually really know what they want or what they don't want. If you don't ask you cant know anyway.
    And the "let's go out" sorry not every woman is the same. For example, me, I'm the kind of woman that would have a good time at home rather than going out, it's just MY OWN personality.
    Also for the part "don't go to deeply before marriage in trying to know the woman" (smtg like that) : trying to know the partner is only natural and necessary especiallyfor women because we don't get to divorce "easily" if things go sour. Now obviously it won't benefit anyone to be to demanding or unrealistic expectation but for example me I know there's just some things I cannot live with.
    Obviously, men should not kill themselves to satisfy unrealistic expectations of women, but sometime us women are asking the bare minimum or completely legit things. So depending on the situation, please ask us what we want.

  • @Omar-so7nd
    @Omar-so7nd 5 месяцев назад +8

    there's a whitewashed aura that i despise, it generates disappointment in me even though nobody is perfect. But its still painful to recognize such patterns in our own ummah

    • @AZK91
      @AZK91 5 месяцев назад +3

      Could you explain what you mean by the whitewashed aura?

  • @Nikkinikkilove
    @Nikkinikkilove 5 месяцев назад

    From all the men i'd choose the last one. Loyalty. Simple. Even when the spouse is bad, you will try to get over the problems in life and get better as long as you are loyal. You grow together in ups and downs. Fights but staying and rebuilding.
    Nothing is steady. But when you are loyal to your spouse you try to overcome the wave of life.

  • @AkhbarKhan-cq6gp
    @AkhbarKhan-cq6gp 5 месяцев назад

    Good show

  • @MoeedKhan1979
    @MoeedKhan1979 5 месяцев назад +1

    Yes as a married man i agree that man loves feminine in females

  • @salihasalafi1
    @salihasalafi1 5 месяцев назад +10

    The sisters with the Niqab is on point she understands!!!

  • @user-nf2gx8lp7n
    @user-nf2gx8lp7n Месяц назад

    As a man all I want from my wife
    Respect, Appreciation
    And Loyalty and Intimacy !

  • @lunarsoles
    @lunarsoles 5 месяцев назад

    1. Really good Akhlaq
    2. Humbleness, humility and critically thinks on her deen.
    3. Leng

  • @Iamamuslim3590
    @Iamamuslim3590 5 месяцев назад +45

    👍👍 Glad that men and women are sitting seperately now . Even in layman muslim house ,if friends meet each other , husbands and wives sit and talk in seperate room.

    • @AliDawah
      @AliDawah  5 месяцев назад +45

      As salam u alaikum. It’s due to this episode theme they’re sitting separate, there is nothing haram in our other episodes and I follow Islam not your opinions of Islam is. So those episode will continue.

    • @sanisalisu2340
      @sanisalisu2340 5 месяцев назад +6

      ​@@AliDawahThe gap between you guys should be more. You guys are way to close to each from our end. Perhaps it's the camera that makes us see it that way? I don't know.

    • @businessisboomin7252
      @businessisboomin7252 5 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@AliDawahyo bro, since I keep finding ppl that are radical from both sides of the spectrum, how can I learn more about the guidelines for interacting with the opposite gender

    • @sadzkay8991
      @sadzkay8991 5 месяцев назад +8

      Its not humanely possible to be completely segregated all the time.

    • @KeepMotivated-iy3mk
      @KeepMotivated-iy3mk 5 месяцев назад +6

      @@sanisalisu2340My God, why do people focus on trivial petty issues, focus on the content!instead of trying to find fault everywhere. Keep up the good work brother Ali Dawah ​

  • @user-vs5xx2gu5l
    @user-vs5xx2gu5l 5 месяцев назад +4

    Shyness Carrer driven sounds polar opposites

  • @soso-sae3702
    @soso-sae3702 5 месяцев назад +1

    Always Ali dawah says there’s no enough time left!! in the end hahaha ! May Allah give you more time 😅

  • @rafiahbegum7790
    @rafiahbegum7790 5 месяцев назад +1

    Whoever out the guys is breathing so loud into the mic is doing my head in!

  • @najlaamarkhail2931
    @najlaamarkhail2931 5 месяцев назад +3

    I say this very kindly, one of the brothers is breathing heavily into the mic. I am not sure if it is something they can control or not, but please sit further from the mic if you are not speaking. May this comment be beneficial insha'Allah.

  • @ani_814
    @ani_814 5 месяцев назад +5

    The two brothers on the left seem like good genuine family men and a good example for the younger generation. Mahdi has valid points but likes to come across as chauvinistic 🤷‍♀️ could we please have him on a show with Pierce Morgan 🤣

    • @seekfactsnotfiction9056
      @seekfactsnotfiction9056 5 месяцев назад +2

      We actually need one million of Mahdi Tidjani in our Muslim simp girly societies of today

    • @Siwahib
      @Siwahib 5 месяцев назад +4

      Hhahaha, I think Mahdi has been influnced so much by negative experiences.. ?May Allah protect us all.

    • @ani_814
      @ani_814 5 месяцев назад

      @@Siwahib Aameen

    • @JDforeveralone
      @JDforeveralone 5 месяцев назад

      Lol!!! I only imagine how that show would end up!!

  • @hopeali
    @hopeali 5 месяцев назад +1

    The one that surprised me the most was them saying peace

    • @HannaOne
      @HannaOne 5 месяцев назад +1

      Peace is essential for men -busy high achievers anyway not bums who enjoy toxic chase

    • @hopeali
      @hopeali 5 месяцев назад

      Makes sense😂 ​@@HannaOne

  • @mrironsirtajrahman8487
    @mrironsirtajrahman8487 5 месяцев назад

    One of the best episodes 🤲🏼

  • @ahmedhanif911
    @ahmedhanif911 5 месяцев назад +6

    Mahdi 2 is a G lol knows his stuff, brother in the white and cap talked sense 👍🏽

  • @Abovelaws
    @Abovelaws 5 месяцев назад +4

    Mehdi keeps exhaling from his nose like its some asmr 😂 so jarring he done this before man wait in silence 😅

    • @ImenBen12
      @ImenBen12 5 месяцев назад

      I thought I was the only one who clocked , that bothered me so much wow!! It was so loud!

  • @redman6790
    @redman6790 5 месяцев назад

    @15:50 The sister is so right. Fertility is said in the Hadith and the reason men love the body shape we like, its hardwired in us. Fertility is so important.

  • @_Kashmir_313_
    @_Kashmir_313_ 5 месяцев назад +6

    Prophet Mohammad (ﷺ) said 🗣️:
    Who Recites this dua
    And dies on the same day will enter paradise.
    Must Add This in Your Morning & Evening Supplications
    Screenshot it & remember 🥰
    Sayyidul istighfar
    اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي،
    لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ،
    خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ،
    وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ،
    أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ،
    أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَىَّ وَأَبُوءُ لَكَ بِذَنْبِي،
    فَاغْفِرْ لِي،
    فَإِنَّهُ لاَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ
    Allahumma anta Rabbi
    la ilaha illa anta,
    Khalaqtani wa ana Abduka,
    wa anaala ahdika wa wa dika mastatatu,
    Audhu bika min Sharri ma sanatu,
    abu'u Laka binimatika `alaiya,
    wa abu'u laka bidhanbi
    faghfir lee
    fa innahu la yaghfiru adhdhunuba illa anta.
    O Allah, You are my Lord, none has the right to be worshipped except You, You created me and I am Your servant, and I abide to Your covenant and promise [to honour it] as best I can, I take refuge in You from the evil of which I committed, I acknowledge Your favour upon me and I acknowledge my sin, so forgive me, for verily none
    can forgive sins except You.
    [Sahih-Bukhari 6306]
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    𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐭 𝐌𝐨𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐝 (ﷺ) 𝐒𝐚𝐢𝐝 🗣️:
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  • @rabeya.a121
    @rabeya.a121 5 месяцев назад +12

    I have a big question PLEASE ANSWER IT:
    What would you say to those women who lives with in-laws? Like how would they look attractive and beautiful when there are other people at home? Some people are shy. Like me for example I for one am a very shy person I have haya so it feels weird and uncomfortable for me to look so dressed up and makeup on at home cause then they would be like are you going somewhere? Now don't get me wrong I do wear nice clothes at home but covered up, I don't reveal my skin only my face and hands and foots show, I do brush my hair ofcourse but I tie it up because I just feel shy in general to leave my hair open and style it when there are other family members at home! If it was just me and him then well I wouldn't feel shy at all.
    So my question is Ali what would you say to those women who lives with their in-laws how to look appealing and attractive and beautiful for the husband without making it so obvious to the family members?

    • @ma_iii
      @ma_iii 5 месяцев назад +2

      Make it obvious if its only female family members why should you care. If there are males, dress up in your room and remain in your room until you can move out

    • @digitalarslan1778
      @digitalarslan1778 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@ma_iiiexactly my thoughts. But I would suggest those sister to just ask your husbands like what they find attractive and also about the part that you don't want to make it obvious to other family members so how should you do it. (Excuse my English please)

    • @asif_zmn
      @asif_zmn 5 месяцев назад +9

      Moving out is the best solution sister.

    • @Siwahib
      @Siwahib 5 месяцев назад +5

      Live with your husband in your own home.. This is your basic right from an IUslamic prespective.

    • @MOTHUG786
      @MOTHUG786 5 месяцев назад

      Awww bless you, I'm choosing to delay my marriage further because I really can't afford to mortgage a house for a wife, unless she wants to live with me and my 3 younger brothers... I just can't afford it financially, so I delay marriage. I'm quite scared of this 20 year mortgage that I'm supposed to get into for the wife. £250,000 house? You'll end up paying £400,000 by the end because of the interest you have to pay.

  • @raniyashirre2130
    @raniyashirre2130 5 месяцев назад

    Can we get the bitter truth show on apple podcasts?