Timestamps/highlights 3:39 What is 'Redpill'? 6:01 What is a 'Alpha Widow'? 11:07 What is 'Hypergamy'? 12:21 VVomen don't want to marry down 15:35 Why vvomen want a 'Superior' 22:50 Children from previous marriages 27:29 Priority 30:18 Mahdi's previous marriages 37:57 Sisters story to Mahdi 41:38 Sisters story to Mahdi pt 2 44:12 Is 'No strings nikkah' like mutah? 45:27 Importance of a Wali 54:23 'Bodycount' talk 56:13 Mahdi's Instagram post about his wifes pregnancy goes viral on Twitter 1:02:00 'Cloutchaser'/'Cloutchasing' 1:03:18 'Objectification' 1:13:13 Why Mahdi got married at 16 1:16:39 Why people jump to conclusions
@@khairt1731 this is absolutely incorrect and disrespectful to the sahabiyaat who had many husbands one after the other. Follow the sunnah, there is no such demeaning concept in Islam as 'body count'.
Problem with "no strings nikah" and selecting only the parts of a nikah that suits you is - the nikah itself is sacred. Every expectation has a right (haq) and it is not up to us to take that right away. Kids have a right (evn if you don't want to). Society has a right (even if you don't want to). This is nothing but trying to justify fulfilling only the nafs and labeling marriage to only "sex" and "mutual agreement". Marriage itself is Ibaadah and we don't get to choose based on how we feel
I understand your perspective and I also don't want it to be prevalent however it's not haraam. sauda (ra) voluntarily sacrificed some of her rights since she was getting old and the prophet agreed even though prophet didn't request her to do that. So it's halal
As a practising Muslim man myself, I can't agree fully with red-pill because of the un-Islamic ideas in it and how it talks about women, but it's right on calling out the hypocrisy of some women and feminism.
I'm pleasently surprised, to hear a Muslim man using his own brain. Sometimes red pil, tries to act like Kevin Samuels. Which is fine, if you're a non Muslim.
@Wiznsnw Qosnew For the most part, yes. But there are a minority of muslim women that love and respect muslim men. They are like gems amongst heaps of trash though...
@Wiznsnw Qosnew why should a muslim woman have to respect a non-mahram muslim man in particular? Both must have mutual respect. Special respect for any specific male is reserved for father and husband, etc. Doesn't apply to strangers, except in a general akhlaq sense.
So Mahdi was convicted of beating his first wives and children - ordered by a court to stay away from his own children - and then his third wife allows him complete disciplinary control over her kids? Gives absolute authority to a guy with known track record of abuse? This isn’t ‘submissiveness’ on her part, it’s complete stupidity. What a preposterous set up, coupled with his complete lack of self-awareness.
Exactly. I wouldn’t have done that with someone like him until I got a complete psychological evaluation back that his anger issues are gone and he’s a stable and sane person for at least some long period of time.
The proof that there's something wrong with him is in the fact that he's made a flopped career over obsessively talking about women and then trying to push a no strings attached nikah.
Muslims in the comment section are saying that "beating is halal" WOW. No wonder why two of Mahdi's wives divorced him and filed a domestic abuse case. He himself disclosed this and then removed it again.
His approach to woman is weak. No-strings attached marriage. His approach to woman is lazy. No emotional support. A relationship isn’t for you to stay stagnant it’s for you to grow. Grow up young Mahdi.
@shaistahashmi7866 Not really, he is stating what most men want. Most men if they had option would pick a young beautiful virgin over an older divorcee sister. It's preference, just like women want taller men.
When we speak of women and men were not just looking at them as sexual beings. Same as divorced women/men are not all about sex ,so aren't single moms! A single mother needs stability and security even more so because she's got kids !
@fardowza0511 the OP said single mothers need more stability with their children which would happen by marrying again. But once a divorcee marries again it becomes the right of the father that the children should live with him.
I like the way how brother Dilly interacted with Mahdi- not in an authoritative way and in a condescending manner with all the out of context cut clips like Mohammed Hijab and Gabriel did to lower him. Brothers should be like this.
Hijab and Romani have to keep their fanbase cool, which is mostly women(hijab being a friend of menk), that's why they did their utmost best in putting him down.
@Alhareth Altayib So did I. The reason he did that was to please Milahan. Plus he was in contact with women during that time. So he had to think about their feelings as well. There is something more. To lower Mahdi he made another video afterwards where he praised so high of Mohammed Hijab and was referencing Hijab vs Mahdi debate a lot. But a few days later Gabriel himself was insulted by none other than Hijab whereas Mahdi still keeps respecting Gabriel despite their disagreement. Do you see the irony?
Mohammed Hijab did not belittle him. He was listing the things Mahdi had saud in his past videos. On the other hand Gabriel Romani went overboard yes there's no denying that. Because Gabriel sees Mahdi as an influencer and thinks red pill is a ideology or philosophy that contradicts Islamic understandings.
As a white, revert Muslimah the words and ways I heard today, I have never heard before. . His guy Mahdi is absolute disgrace. He should not have any platforms but go and learn Islam.
Sister, even with us born Muslim brothers hes a disgrace who gets famous off of shock factor, nothing from Islam, just non-Islamic sources, his own perverted demented brain and vibes, May Allah guide him and ourselves
Islam is very biased towards women so better stay in your original faith. An example is The women are treated as slaves even if the man is married and have multiple wives but he can still go and sleep with other women as a sex slave. No respect for women.
So much emphasis on single mums and divorced women but majority of women are divorced & left as single mums due to men leaving them high and dry just because they can.
Totally disagree with mahdi on men leaving their wives during labor. A wife needs her husband to stay with her more than ever during labour and it wouldn't be permissible for other women to look at her while the husband is able to stay with her. Brothers, don't leave your wives when she needs you the most!
Quran 31:14 And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. Quran 30:21 And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.
yes ur right. Mehdi said we men are not good at emotional support so its better for a woman to be there to support the wife during labour. Well.......for the women going through labour the husbands mere presence is enough
In my country which is a Muslim country no way a man is allowed with her wife during labor. And it has been this way throughout the whole Muslim world since 1400 years. It's just recent western invention made by Hollywood that men go there. You will be utterly shamed for doing that in a traditional Muslim society. And that should be the way. Bro you sound like a woman. Totally unfit to be a husband. I mean for emotional support at that moment? She has whole family and midwives with her to support. You have no job being there. I can't even imagine how can a man even think of staying there?!! Sigma male. Yak...
So he drives his own people crazy, Red Pill/Alpha Male, come from Liberalism just like Feminism. Neither Muslims should adhere to, because that is akin to taking judgement from a kaafir, which Alah (SWT) condemns in the Quran. Both will lead to the fire. The prophet (s) said and beautifully so, "You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit (i.e., inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered a hole of a mastigure/lizard, you would follow them." We said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! (Do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?" He said, "Whom else?" May Allah (SWT) forgive me and those reading this. To add we should not enjoy that he angers people, not from the ideology of Islam, but from an ideology outside of Islam like Red Pill. We should have pity and mercy on those liberalism and feminists, speaking out against them with wisdom and kind advice whist wanting them to come to Islam. Allah (SWT) says in Surat An-Nahl, "Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided." To add, Liberalism ideologies like Red Pill and Feminism occur, when neither the men nor women are focused on fulfilling the roles ordained to them by Allah (SWT). Men are the leaders of the home, if the leader is corrupt all those under them become corrupt. If the leader fails all those under them do, this especially imperative in regards to the women under them, which extends beyond ones wife, to their mother, aunts, nieces and so on. Why? because women are easily influenced and more agreeable than men and as Shaykh Saleh Fawzan said, if the women is ruined, then her children are, and therefore society. And we should always seek for Allah (SWT) to have mercy on everyone who is alive, I fear the fire, and I don't want to see people burn even if I don't know them. May Allah (SWT) bless you, and forgive me and others reading this.
Isn't it actually worsening the "body count" problem if society were to accept this "no strings nikah" approach? Imagine looking for a righteous spouse only to discover later the series of the "no strings nikah's" of the candidate. Seems contradictory.
It seemed like he was trying to provide an avenue for single mothers who wanted to save themselves from zina without the responsibilities of a conventional marriage. Im assuming that it's not being presented to a young never married woman who surely wouldn't want this unideal contract in the first place.
@@mk-ld8ih yes I understand, but the issue is, will these nikah be public information? Many single brothers and some single sisters might be interested in these. So how do you distinguish between responsible and irresponsible people, which is a critical step in the selection process? Complications may arise due to these type of nikah. IMO
@@sef2202 He stated that No string Nikah is for older divorced women. I don't think it would matter if a divorced woman with kids over 30 was with 2 men before or 8. This whole idea of body count is only relevant when marrying childless younger women.
Really disappointed with Dilly, he allowed a PIMP to come to prove his escort service! Brothers, regardless of what excuse people give out there for not re- marrying but yet want to enjoy the perks of marriage, we should not promote this evil mentality. Marriage is sacred, its about encouraging those looking to marry to know what our roles and responsibilities are in Islam and its scared and understand what Allah wants of us as appose to our desires l.
The solution is never to get a ‘bad solution- for a worser problem.’ The solution is only and always islam and wholy islam. The solution is to educate the ummah - sins will happen till end of time- you can’t cancel it by introducing poison in the guise of halal
Problem with this guy is he speaks and acts like he's an expert in these matters but he has no credentials plus 2 failed marriages. Like alot of influencers speaking on subjects wer they have no real education or real experience on the subject matter.
@@osmans1694 Lol is it 10 kids including the ones he's banned from seeing because of a restraining order? because he beat his wife u so badly that the police got involved? anyone can have kids not everyone can raise them. quality over quantity
@@detox1462 Yeah some people want to play dumb and act as if their is 0% truth in what he says. I don't agree with him overall when it comes to the deen, but there is still a lot to take and learn from him regarding his life experiences. Things about men, women or relationships and gender roles about which not a single Sheikh or parent ever warned me, despite those issues being so visible in our modern days societies.
1. The step father does not have an obligation to even spend on his step children, the same way the step children do not have an obligation to the step father either. If the father decides to spend his money in the way of his step children out of kindness of his heart Islamically the children should reciprocate this act of kindness and keep relations to him, the question is, who will enforce this and encourage them to do this, this is where Islam comes in and sorts out the situation, a child who you raise with a proper Islamic values then they will most definitely want to keep ties with you especially if you are a good step father to them. With his point to do with sexual abuse, I agree with him, but the main reason for sexual abuse, is not to do with being in the same house as your wife's daughter, as Islamically her daughter becomes mahram to you, therefore a this ruling would mean a man naturally would not be attracted to his wifes daughter if he is of sound fitra. Unfortunate, nowadays, you cannot trust men, due to our hyper-sexualised environment, our godless environment and surplus of disgusting sexual deviance, It wouldn't be realistic to just trust any man getting into marriage, so his point does make sense as a safety precaution for the sisters
InshaAllah yes, I’ve met patients like Mahdi at my nursing home who’s families don’t even come to visit because of how badly he treated them and their mothers
He has a lot of valid points. Also it’s great for him to change his views when they contradict Islam. This shows sincerity. He just needs to change his choice of words and maybe his tone, then you’ll see people agreeing with his actual points.
1:10:37 is the straight clarification for those who hated on him for his labor post. His wife was never in danger. Her older daughters were available upstairs and the midwives were already on the way with the front door unlocked.
@@Ersilay you couldn't pin him down on labor issue so now you bring up another issue which is already rotten. Beating is halal btw. And some women and men deserve it. He did nothing wrong.
@@juxtapositionMS The labor issue wasn't an issue for me. His wife being in danger very much is. As for beating being halal, you probably haven't read a single word from a scholar talking on the matter...
So narrow minded. People gave him hate for it bcoz he said he finds labour gross & that it would affect his sexual pleasure with her down the road. Fine don’t look at the area where baby comes out of but at least be there for emotional support. But no it was all about him and sex not about the wife’s pain. he goes to sleep while she was in a state of near death (every woman feels that way in labour) - leaving that responsibility on her older daughters is a very selfish insensitive act. Some men can’t sit in labour cuz it hurts them to see their wife in that much pain. But Mahdi? Nah he’s too masculine for that stuff & he posted it to prove to the world how masculine he is…quite desperate. It’s a situation where if the woman dies she would become a martyr. It’s not about “leaving her in danger”
@@clearpath8794 Before the advent of western romanticism staying in the labor wasn't even a thing in the Muslim society. All those Muslims throughout 1400 years were selfish?! All the sahabas, scholars were selfish? Emotional support my feet. Too much movie makes you such a simp. Even Khabib was in the octagon fighting for championship when his wife was in the labor. What kind of soft men west has generated?! Yawck...
He is right about the words “body count” this automatically infers to illicit encounters. And discussing sexual encounters of a married women removes haya..
My beard is longer than Mahdi, I convinced my wife that feminism is wrong, I wear turbans and I'm a strict Hanafi About 10 minutes in, I don't agree with anything this guest says. Mixing Islam with Red-Pillism, and then denying that, is no different than mixing Islam with feminism and then saying "Islam is a feminist religion". Surah Kafirun should be said to the Deen of Red Pillism.
When did he go against Islam. Stop slandering Muslim without any proof. May Allah lanah be on you if you are not truthful and can’t show proof for slandering another Muslim.
My mother was a single mother with my older brother when she married my father. My own mother told me to never marry a single mother because it's too much drama and work. Even my own mother admitted this to avoid single mothers or divorcees. I always wondered why.
@@lentilsoupernothing wrong in telling childless men or women to avoid single parents. Alhamdulliah in islam we r not obliged to take care of step kids. And single parents can marry each other. And for women we hv polygyny.
you mother is an honest woman. men should always avoid older, divorced females they should seek younger females, only in rare situations when they female is and exception and has the traits of a submissive, obedient, righteous muslim should she ever be considered for marriage
I think that the point about 'bodycount' is that the same term is being used for number of instances of zina vs sex within marriage i.e. a person who has committed zina has to repent but a person has been in a marriage doesn't have to repent.
Can a person benefit from just an empty eggshell, even if on the outside it is still an ‘egg’? NO you can’t. All you can do is break it and then move onto another eggshell..etc Likewise, a person cannot benefit from a NIKKAH that is empty and has no substance. Marriage in Islam has a purpose that transcends just sex. Using the words ‘strings’ to describe long lasting commitment, responsibility, trust and security is very worrying. This is my opinion. Allahu alam.
The way Mahdi talks about not wanting to sleep with her again after seeing her in labour, just shows how he only sees women as a sexual object and doesn’t want to see her in her embarrassing moments or moments when she’s not looking her best. Rather the man should have more care and love for her when seeing her in labour and going through pain. I’m not saying a man should have to see his wife in that state as it makes more sense to have a female companion rather than her husband but a husband can still give her support too just by even holding her hands.
@@Therebelliousprince001 as only women know what it’s like to deliver a child and they can help and support the woman rather than feeling disgusted by it.
Barakallahu feekum! A topic of discussion that I would like to hear in the future is in regards to parenting and how to Islamically implement practical strategies to shape and mold the future offspring of the Ummah so that they do not repeat the mistakes of their fathers and mothers. What level of strictness is necessary to produce a disciplined mentally and emotionally healthy productive member of society?
A lot of valid points definitely and I found myself agreeing with almost all the points he was making, however the no strings attached nikkah is mutaah in disguise (I know it's not exclusively his ruling but a loophole in the shariah). Even this misyar marriage is very questionable (haram) and the scholars really need to make this issue very clear, it's just mutaah with a different name. The dangers that's associated with mutaah and misyar or no strings attached nikkah is high especially in the Muslim community living in the west, Muslims are itching for a valid or halal way to practice fulfilling the natural human desires let's be honest. I even thought about the app listening to this convo, misyar app no strings attached app even before he mentioned it. Come man dangerous, please it needs clear explanation from the Qur'an and the Sunnah.
Just because zina is happening it doesn’t give it the Green light to do mutah Nikah which is haram. This individuals mentality is concerning. It is dangerous he is being allowed to give his knowledge of Islam in a platform.
I don’t know what people are annoyed at Dilly for hosting Mahdi. I thought this was a really good discussion on topics that get too often sweep under the rug within the Muslim community. These are real issues that need to be spoken about and Dilly did a great job of not only guiding the discussion but challenging Mahdi on certain issues. Really well done 👏
I don’t think this brother knows enough about muslim women. When he generalises, he uses the examples which are so different than most muslim women. I don’t know about this topic I don’t think it’s solving any of the issues that is dominant in the muslim community.
Honestly very shallow take. When a women is given birth what guy is thinking, would I be able to sleep with her after. Is his mind not occupied with thinking about the life/safety of his child and wife. If he sees her go through the pain of labour and his child is born. They are both alive & healthy, after. Is his mind and tongue not just occupied with being greatful to Allah, Allahu Akbar. Shouldn't that increase his love for her, so why would he not want to be intimate with her after. Also as a woman I didn't need another emotional women next to me.I needed my hubz, who's calm and can see my awrah with no exception. 'They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for them" (Noble Quran 2:187)'
Exactly! I'm not married but if I was, nothing would increase my love for my wife than to see her go through labour. Because she went through that pain and suffering for our child.
Why are you speaking on behalf of men as if you know what we feel and think? What Mahdi said there was 100% truth. Maybe not all men will think that way but a lot will. Now that he I heard a woman *may* poop during childbirth know for a fact I won't be handle the sight of my future wife giving birth nor the smell of labour. That doesnt make me less of a man. We are all built differently
@@Therebelliousprince001 May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes, ameen. Alhamdulillah I've had 3 children so far , I pray Allah bless me with more . And the moment after baby is born is so special both parents are just in awe of the bounty of Allah and from my experience and knowing of other sisters their hubz are very affectionate towards them after that moment due to the increase love and respect of what she went through 2 birth his Bint/Bin.
@@satzone4241 Ameen. Alhamdulillah, glad to hear that! Yes, seeing his new born baby is enough to make any grown man cry. It's a special moment. Jazakhallah Khair.
The language that this 'brother' utilizes speaks to the character that he has. If I were looking for a partner and this is how they carried themselves I would run like my life depended on it. How are you bringing in terminology that has negative connotations and is used by non-Muslims in Muslim spaces...Him borrowing ideas from this 'red pill' ideology and so on is enough of a reason to not take this man seriously. This is also the same person who has clearly admitted online to being an abuser. Why is he being platformed?
@@googleprofile6660 not all but majority because Internet has provided women to get more attention as a result average relationship makes them bored. Their minds in that fantasy.
You disrespect women and their pain by giving people like this a platform. You should be ashamed of this post. It's really not worth it for the clout and attention, to platform someone like this no matter how great you think you are as a host.
Why are you not on his channel and warn him against slander when he literally stalks strange women, watches their content and draws conclusions out of thin air about how "miserable" they are?
@@alghurraba I will also go there if the video is uploaded. As a muslim who wants goodness for muslims. I'm reminding you and others to be careful before slandering and backbiting.
@@alghurraba If you have points against him speak against those points. Mahdi isn't necessarily a bad person. It's not like he's trying to change the deen like the compassion imams out there.
Asc dilly my mom and dad got divorced when I was 3month my stepdad raised me and I call him dad he even treated me better than his own child wallaahi never abused me physically and sexually since I got older and my parents got older I take care my parents physically and financially I love my stepdad dad as father because he never showed me that I wasn’t his daughter, but bro mahdi is always generalisation but that is far from the truth bro dilly I feel like you nailed the truth on the head
"It didnt happen to me therefore what he said is massive generalisation." Do you females ever listen to yourselves? The world doesnt revolve around you. Its always me me me my issues my plight I'm the victim me me me. Jeez!
Generalisation is wrong, i agree. But u can't define other cases using ur case or ignore other cases using ur case. Did ur mother give ur stepfather the authority of a biological father in ur life? Cuz der r single parents who will expect step parents to tk responsibility of a bioparent but stepparents have no authority n power of discipline of a biological parent. That is unfair to da stepparent if dey r childless ppl as in islam we r not obliged to take care of step kids. Also der r cases where da single parents don't give enough importance to da step parent by keeping them second in their life after da kid/kids from previous marriage. Dat is unfair too if da step parent is taking care of da stepkid like a biological parent n da stepparent was a childless person. Plus there r stepkids who r ungrateful to da stepparents too. I don't know if ur stepfather was childless or single father when he married ur mom, but for a childless person der r cons of marrying a single parent. If u marry a single father as a childless woman u may understand. Also another thing, islamically a woman loses custody of her kids unless der r exceptional situations..There is a hadith for that.
Many Muslim men nowadays don't care about protecting Muslim women or frankly have any respect for them, this podcast is a clear example of that, just a reminder for everyone Dilly decided to bring on an innovator when it comes to the deen of Allah and someone who also admitted to beating his wives and his kids💕 may Allah guide us
@@osmans1694 But that’s the point - he is using elements of Red Pill ideology & blending it with elements of the deen which then makes it appear as if he’s preaching Islam.
Women can protect and provide for themselves, after all, they asked for independence and so they got it. If I see a woman on the street being robbed or assaulted, I simply walk across and pretend like I saw nothing. It's not a man's responsibility to risk his life for a woman who does not allow the man to exercise any authority whatsoever. Giving the responsibility of providing and protecting to a man requires that you also give him the necessary authority. Women asked for this and now they're complaining.
Sister, is this a joke? Sacred marriage? This person mahdi is promoting misyar marriage, so called no string marriage, where husband and wife has no Islamic rights, and this type of marriage is discouraged by biggest scholars of Islam. Is this beautiful and sacred marriage for you?
@@alghurraba He only advises people to do it if they are involved in Zina and want to get out of it. You need to be more realistic, not every woman over 30 with kids can get permanently remarried easy. It is very difficult for some, it is a better alternative than Zina. Misyaar is still halal.
Mahdi is soooo toxic omg it’s frightening, he arrogant that it went viral but doesn’t understand how younger men may follow suit risking Muslim women lives, I fear for the future women honestly
The first wife of the Prophet PBUH was a single mother -Khadija AS. He was with her until she past away. Follow the Prophet's example and don't look elsewhere. Sorry I have to correct brother Mahdi Tidjani regarding the comment about Eve AS being created from Adam's rib AS. This statement is biblical and doesn't appear in the Quran: "It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her in love" (7:189). Meaning God SWT Has Created Adam and Eve AS from a single soul. Brother Mehdi might have good intentions but it can be problematic when one speaks without proper knowledge. We are all on a path of learning hence everyone should seek knowledge from reputable sources and not from influencers -not matter their good intentions. Women have intellect and should not be degraded as an object and this is why we have Quran and the Prophet SAW as an example. Divorced men rush off to get married again leaving behind kids from previous marriage and leaving single mothers do all the work and that's the reality.
Was really trying to work through this to hear out the dialogue and will not be afraid to admit, I found myself agreeing on some of the unspoken uncomfortable truths. But for the most part, his proofs were just all just based on experiences and analogies e.g., employee relationships, and smoking all your life but not having a cough. But the icing on the cake that finished it off for me: Married at 16, second at 25, 3rd at 28 but first 2 left and now only married to the 3rd, who is by definition; the type of woman he belittles in his videos. And it's not really your 3rd wife.. if it's the only wife you have that's stuck around with you! He know how he talks is triggering and get him views, but sounds like he thinks that works at home too lol. So it's no suprise and funny how a whole bunch of his support will come from some lonely hurt lads in their mum's basements. Leave the actual men out of this nonsense.
Exactly. Not to belittle their relationship as it might be great, but at the same time, she’s had two prior marriages, has kids from them and from him, and is older - think there’s any way she’d move on from a third marriage? She’d be finished. Meanwhile, happily married men hardly ever agree with him.
Salam... his views are also hypocritical. It is questionable if a woman has been married many many times previously before, but the same is applied to men in Islam. This is why the prophet (s) recommended men and women who never married to marry virgins, for gratification but also less complication in their lives.
On the point of getting married to single moms - doesn't the shariah require that if the woman has kids and she remarries, the kids go back to the biological dad?
Depends on the kids’ age and gender, competency of each parent and general situation. Yes that is the default, for them to return to their dad, but there are many cases where it doesn’t work out that way and they stay with the mom. So it’s not a hard and fast rule. Context matters.
@@Marwadear512 Yes of course exceptions and finer details are always there, however, I just wantetd to point out just how practical the Shariah is. One of the biggest issues brought up by this Mahdi character is resolved simply by following the Shariah rulings (except in certain circumstances of course).
@@sammu Yes. From what I see of Muslim women here in the States, the majority need to keep the kids even after divorce, and the father agrees. He’s often not in a situation to be able to take them full-time, or doesn’t want to.
@@sammu Seems to be extremely common. I’ve noticed that men born overseas seem to be more intent on keeping the kids, whereas men born here in the States seem to be more content with the mom having the kids. I’ve actually only ever known one who wanted to keep his kids as the primary caretaker.
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Red pill movement is about studying the behaviour of man and woman with respect to their relationship and sexuality. It's a completely biological and psychological subject studied via observation and experimentation. This is to understand the base nature of man and woman. Then we have Islam which dictates how we should regulate our natural needs and instincts. Red pill doesn't have a legislated regulation rather people suggest their own ideas and methods to regulate themselves. Islam presents that regulation from divine guidance while not speaking about the nature of man and woman in detail. We get very few hints about the psychology of men and women from the Ahadith, from the wives of the Prophet and from the marital cases of the Sahaba. Red pill and Islam are two different realms. By the way, this is my understanding from what I have heard from different muslim speakers commenting about Red pill. I'm personally not a Red pill movement follower.
@@Snippets635 see, you brothers who adore Tidjani, also adore those immoral ka.afirs whose whole life is immorality, sin and mistreatment of women. It always goes hand in hand, because you have sickness in your heart.
@@alghurraba islam allows women to be used as seggs sl@v3s. There also isn't a limit to the number of sl@v3s a man can have. Even muhammad had one called Mariah.
Dilly big up respect for body count issue and comparison with marriage very respectful of you and for upholding the honour of marriage in the way Islam propagates. MashAllah TabarakAllah It’s not semantics with all due respect to Mahdi - you can’t devalue sex in marriage the way it is seen outside marriage in the way Islam views the holiness of sex in marriage. Body count has a derogatory sound which I think Dilly was trying to make a point that semantics DOES MATTER HOW WE WORD things!
I would listen to this guy Mehdi but the TRUTH is after all those lectures and “expert” advice , he could not maintain marriage with his first two wives . I am telling him and you all , quite obviously his third wife is trying her best to save the marriage by being ULTRA SUBMISSIVE . Women are naturally submissive to good men , provided they are JUST and PATIENT .
Lots of thanks brother Dilly for bringing Mahdi on your podcast despite the risk of massive backlash and getting cancelled by simps and feminists. Mahdi is a brave, truthful and decent brother who helps people online and offline- not just by advice but also through material help. He has a great sense of brotherhood in Islam and is very polite and modest towards his senior brothers. Very inspiring for Muslim youth.
@@harooncaptures9826 Salty divorcees say and they never mention what his wife did to him. She took his child away and charged him for disciplining his son as if it's haram!
someone please help me, show me where it says no strings nikah is halal in the Quran and sahih bukhari and sahih Muslim? correct me if am wrong because i didn't find it anywhere?
Easy there. What part of the "No string nikah" or misyar marriage violates any of the conditions that makes a nikah valid? Giving up rights willingly is completely permissable in Islam. This is not an issue that deals with creed/‘aqidah. This means in order to say this type of marriage is haram, is that we have to bring proof that it is haram, not the other way around.
He can’t brings his statistics and compare them to a practicing Muslim family with God fearing parents and children. The family structure in a Muslim home is absolutely completely different to a family that is not Muslim. We have different values that govern all areas of our life completely.
How is discouraging Muslim men from marrying single/widowed mothers Islamic in any way? It is a sunna to marry widows. The stats are of men. As a man advising other men shouldn't Mahdi be telling them not to molest and grope girls simply because they are under their responsibility rather than telling them to not marry single/widowed mothers. It sounds too much like weak men making excuses for themselves. Instead of stepping up and controlling their lowly desires
In this case, so would it be ok to marry a divorced or a widowed woman as a second wife and thus acting upon two sunnahs in one go. Would our muslim sisters who are divorced accept being a second wife?
@@RM-kx9oh , how much of Mahdis videos have you actually watched, i am no fan of Mahdi by the way? Many divorced and widowed women carry bitterness and trauma, most men dont want do deal with that. Mahdi is quite blunt in what he says and he also explained that he does it for views and to shock the modern day feminists. I am actively looking for a second wife myself because i want more children and my wife does not and to be honest i would rather marry a 40 year old virgin below average looking, rather than a bitter, divorced, pretty woman. I much rather marry a second wife than look at the unlawful. Why do sisters give us, men, a hard time when it comes to second wives?
The widow could have been a very toxic wife with serious issues who just hadn’t been divorced yet, and the divorcee could have been an amazing wife and Muslim sister who got stuck marrying a bad apple, maybe even a man who left the Deen so by Shari’ah she had no choice but to divorce him. You don’t know.
@@Marwadear512 I agree with you , it’s just my experience, overall I hate these statics and percentages etc . We are from different cultures, different upbringings and different needs
@@reezis1619 80% of divorces amongst Muslims are led by women, when Muslim women don’t even have the right of talaq and usually struggle to have khul’a?
Wow and you accuse this brother for jumping. The reality is that he is saying the truth that society has suppressed and people are now more confident to express these views
This guy has been arrested for domestic violence and left his wife to give birth alone at home whilst he went to sleep. She waited for an Ambulance which didn't arrive in time, but he didn't have the common courtesy to wait to see if she was ok, there may have been medical complications but his sleep was more important. This guy is a danger and should not be given a platform anywhere!
Oh my God.. wth. He is the Last person to give advice on women. Why is he being entertained on a so called muslim platform? I was surprised to find this guy speaking like this about women. You never hear muslim men speak degradingly about women.
@@nadiayaqub3143 sister you should be careful about saying things in public platforms about someone’s sinful past which they repented for. This is not from the sunnah at all. I also disagree with much of what he says, but this is too much. May Allah bless you and grant you jannah ameen.
So much can go wrong with this. Any children born are then raised without a proper father. Women neglected and forced into these types of relationships without proper consent. Women going through 5/6/7 types of these marriages. Breakdown of families and society at large if it becomes the norm. Only men benefit from this and even that, for temporary pleasure before all the nevatives win out. It also seems like a lot of drama would be involved once all the feelings of all the parties involved (husband wife kids other wives and their kids, all would be affected).
@@mary.t.74729 the whole point of the misyar arrangement is she agrees to temporarily forgo whatever rights she chooses. It does not occur without consent nor without a wali.
@@66rounds im not talking about what she THINKS her rights are, or what she WANTS in that moment. Overall, Islamically women have rights that must be respected. You dont get to choose them
As someone who studied sociology women don’t categorise them selves ‘one size fits all’ feminism is a big branch of modernity that has equated to some men thinking that all women are somehow the same , please don’t use psychology , emotional vulnerability, biology with some religious context to justify answers and credibility.
All women ARE the same. Even the nicest, shyest, quietest females still desire the same traits in a man. Dominance, aggression, risk taking behaviour, keeping her on edge by making her feel like he could leave at any moment. Women don't like nice guys and women are angry that men are waking up to this fact.
@@ahmedalmahdi9254 Muslim women like Muslim men who follow the way of our Prophet SAW and the Sahaba and act in accordance to them. Whatever tf else you just stated is all bullshit pulled out of your narrow mind.
I know a divorced sister who has 3 kids and married to younger men as second wife. Kids are 11 - 17 years old and this young guy has full authority on these kids and he actually cares about their well being. How come you can reach to conclusion when you such limited data.
@@D001-q5k unfortunately if you read my comment again you will realize I did not draw conclusion rather provide an exception to his conclusion. But hey you are free to draw as many conclusion as you want 😂
the guy isn't supposed to have any authority on the kids in islam as he isnt their father, he is their mothers husband full stop, they should be respectful but he has zero authority on the kids and they dont have to obey him.
This is an alternative to fornication. Only those who care about halal and haram will consider it. Failing marriages is a lesser problem. Fornication is a major sin.
@@moonwalkerr87 and it’s a major Sin because it leads to… drumroll… broken homes and a whole heap of other societal ills. If most no strings nikah fail, and children are produced via these marriages, the goal of the shariah will still not be met with regards to maintaining solid family structures.
I think islam has all the guidance we need regarding marriage, and we should not be fooled by these so-called solutions . They are just opening the path to exploitation and the breakdown of morality .
Asalamu alaykum, has mahdi consulted any people of knowledge in regard to his "no strings nikah" if it is a valid Islamic solution to a problem in our society?
Verse 24 of surah 4 explains that a man and a woman can enter a temporary marriage-like relationship. The relationship must be agreed upon in advance, and the woman must receive financial compensation.
Yesterday my neighbour came to my home after long time. Hello said I taking "divorce" to my wife after 15 years of marriage and 4 children. Hello said he invested huge amount of money on her. Bcoz of her, he separated from his family and built a new home and bought expensive things for her including new car. Due to some legal issue he was jailed for 4 months. After that he got bail. In that four month, she made her mind that her husband will not get released from jail and she along with her mother and her family decided to take divorce. Then "Mahdi Tijani" and Andrew Tate clicked into my mind. One line for all man, "Care for your wife but don't over invest."
@@hararehaile2813 the essence / point in my comment was no body observes what he observes in general muslims. It was shock to me a muslim man can give daleel on taking knowledge outside from the religion on the matter which is completely resolved in our religion and Don't type your nonsense here!
@@Kihalchal786 Am not responsible for your thinking imfact All I can Say is You better grow up brow coz It only helps you individually to know why men or women do what they do You neither help me nor any other person to have that knowledge
Now giving his story context after promoting that he just slept. How many men have heard this and just left their wives to it, saying Mahdi’s wife did it alone!?? Dangerous man, needs to be banned from social media. Think before you speak, when you have a platform, everything is ripe for people to use and copy your words
Brother Mahdi often talks about how single mothers come with baggage, instead of stressing about taking care of someone else's children, why not educate men to not be boys and pay for maintainance of their children?
@@Therebelliousprince001 listen to the full talk brother. Brother Mahdi mentions marrying a single mother means paying for your step children. This should not be an issue if maintenance for children is paid for by biological father.
@@Theshowoffcollector I agree in most cases but what if its not possible? such as the father is a non Muslim or the father is a criminal? Even the Muslim judge will re evaluate depending on the situation
@@Theshowoffcollector also there are many cases where the father is not willing to take his kids because he knows many women won't agree to marry him if he is a single father. Sadly we have too many boys but not enough men
What is this guy’s background? is he talking from his personal experience? Because that’s what it looks like. Where is he’s data or research to back his theories. Plus does he have sufficient Islamic knowledge to see the contradictions between Islam and this nonsense red pill stuff!
This guy Majdi is bad news for Muslim communities. He is a self-styled Andrew Tate wannabe. His delivery and arguments play on Tates ideas but Islamised enough for younger audience.
I'm not saying I agree or disagree with him, firstly.Secondly, he had these beliefs and talking points (They have evolved over time) way before tate came to the scene. He's bravado style as well.
This was very embarrassing and worrying to watch. This isn’t Islam as I know it and understand it. This man is promoting the exploitation of vulnerable people by the powerful by using nikkah as its tool. Marriage in Islam is not about empty sex and then divorcing for the next empty sex and so on. It’s about having those moments with someone who is fully committed to you and will have long term responsibility towards you. It isn’t about using one another like animals. I honestly hope that this guest is not promoting this kind of marriage as the norm because it lead to so many more problems such as possible abuse and breakdown of families. If people want to have sex, they should simply get married in the traditional Islamic way which is much more fulfilling and stable. The guest also seems to have very little respect for single mothers because he talks about them in a negative/ blameworthy way. (This is how it seemed to me). I would like to say that some of the greatest Prophets of Allah had single mums (such as Jesus pbuh son of Mary pbuh and our beloved Prophet swws). Some of our greatest scholars also had single mums (such as Bukhari and Imam Shafi’i). The guest needs to talk about single mums with a little more humility and respect. Thank you. These are my personal opinions and may Allah forgive me if I am wrong about anything. Allahu alam.
Brother Dilly, please don't provide your esteemed platform to people who spread devious ideologies. This will most likely destroy the reputation of your channel.
You have to give evidence that it is dangerous ideology. Just claiming that he is dangerous doesn't make him that. What makes him dangerous please provide evidence.
So just because a woman says she would prefer a no strings attached marriage, therefore we should accomodate that? Allah knows what best so we should bring our desires to fit into Allah's solution, not make our own.
Enlightening podcast. I know understand the insta post of Mahdi and am now able to make more sense of it. But there was a particular thing I wished Dilly would’ve asked about regarding the post.
I had six children & one miscarriage and I never allowed my husband to attend the child birth because I believe in that position I don’t want my husband to see me and I was contented with the nurses and doctors to help me
Not finished watching but no strings nikah is finding loopholes like the people of the sabath? Also why talk about single mums and not single dads. Takes two to make a child. I've unsubscribed. Btw this kind of speech is considered silly/ sakheef in Algerian culture.
Agree, brother. It's clear misogyny. He can afford too talk like that about women when he is in safety of ka.afir land, protected by ka.afir laws. In Algeria he would be beaten up.
@@SIGSEGV1337 that's true, but men there have some gheera left. If anyone wants to marry someone's daughter as "one times a week meetup with no rights", he would be leaving with a black eye. Westernized fathers in UK with no gheera are more open to it, i guess... When it's happening....
The best solution with regards to divorcee women or the widowed would be what Islam brings which says that a man can marry 2,3 or 4 wives. If she doesn’t want to get in to the whole marriage institute because it’s long, why not become a second of a third wife to another man who is willing to take a second or third wife. In that way, it’s not so full on for her or burdensome (if that is how she sees a conventional marriage to be). She gets to be with him everyone now and then and he (by sharee’ah law) must protector her, provide for her . This is how she will protect her chastity and secure a nuclear family for herself and her kids (where they have a mother and a father figure). This also solves the problem with introducing another man to her older daughters. This is because the husband can stay in the house with the wife he has his biological children with and visit his other wives and kids every now and then to play that fatherly figure or guardian role. Trust me, after listening to this lecture, know without a shadow of a doubt that Allah has given us a solution in the Quran and Sunnah for everything, people! This is why the Quran is the final message to all of mankind and which will stand against the so called “modern and forward moving” society! Similarly, we find the same thing in the sunnah. The prophet married women older than him and married women who were divorcees and widowed. These women didn’t want to compete with other women, they just needed that security and the prophet showed the ummah that there is still hope for a nuclear family for divorcees and widows via polygyny.
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Timestamps/highlights
3:39 What is 'Redpill'?
6:01 What is a 'Alpha Widow'?
11:07 What is 'Hypergamy'?
12:21 VVomen don't want to marry down
15:35 Why vvomen want a 'Superior'
22:50 Children from previous marriages
27:29 Priority
30:18 Mahdi's previous marriages
37:57 Sisters story to Mahdi
41:38 Sisters story to Mahdi pt 2
44:12 Is 'No strings nikkah' like mutah?
45:27 Importance of a Wali
54:23 'Bodycount' talk
56:13 Mahdi's Instagram post about his wifes pregnancy goes viral on Twitter
1:02:00 'Cloutchaser'/'Cloutchasing'
1:03:18 'Objectification'
1:13:13 Why Mahdi got married at 16
1:16:39 Why people jump to conclusions
Thank you!
Jazakallah Khayran!
We don’t need timestamps. This video should be taken down.
@@khairt1731 this is absolutely incorrect and disrespectful to the sahabiyaat who had many husbands one after the other. Follow the sunnah, there is no such demeaning concept in Islam as 'body count'.
Why do u say vv instead of W when saying women?
Problem with "no strings nikah" and selecting only the parts of a nikah that suits you is - the nikah itself is sacred. Every expectation has a right (haq) and it is not up to us to take that right away. Kids have a right (evn if you don't want to). Society has a right (even if you don't want to). This is nothing but trying to justify fulfilling only the nafs and labeling marriage to only "sex" and "mutual agreement". Marriage itself is Ibaadah and we don't get to choose based on how we feel
100%
Don't women want sex also? After the mans responsibility upon his wife or wives what else does the women want if not sex?
I understand your perspective and I also don't want it to be prevalent however it's not haraam. sauda (ra) voluntarily sacrificed some of her rights since she was getting old and the prophet agreed even though prophet didn't request her to do that. So it's halal
Real Muslim men do not objectify women. They put Allah Swt first and foremost and keep their gaze low
As a practising Muslim man myself, I can't agree fully with red-pill because of the un-Islamic ideas in it and how it talks about women, but it's right on calling out the hypocrisy of some women and feminism.
I'm pleasently surprised, to hear a Muslim man using his own brain.
Sometimes red pil, tries to act like Kevin Samuels. Which is fine, if you're a non Muslim.
@@misbahailia3345 Did you actually read his comment?
@@misbahailia3345 And I'm unsurprised seeing a muslim women failing to use hers.
@Wiznsnw Qosnew For the most part, yes. But there are a minority of muslim women that love and respect muslim men. They are like gems amongst heaps of trash though...
@Wiznsnw Qosnew why should a muslim woman have to respect a non-mahram muslim man in particular? Both must have mutual respect.
Special respect for any specific male is reserved for father and husband, etc. Doesn't apply to strangers, except in a general akhlaq sense.
The guy should not have a platform with his current views. He needs to adhere to Islamic views, not idiotic red pill notions.
So Mahdi was convicted of beating his first wives and children - ordered by a court to stay away from his own children - and then his third wife allows him complete disciplinary control over her kids? Gives absolute authority to a guy with known track record of abuse? This isn’t ‘submissiveness’ on her part, it’s complete stupidity. What a preposterous set up, coupled with his complete lack of self-awareness.
Stockholm syndrome.
Woah convincted
Exactly. I wouldn’t have done that with someone like him until I got a complete psychological evaluation back that his anger issues are gone and he’s a stable and sane person for at least some long period of time.
The proof that there's something wrong with him is in the fact that he's made a flopped career over obsessively talking about women and then trying to push a no strings attached nikah.
Have you got evidence of this? Would be very useful if you could drop a source
I'm from Mauritania and I agree with brother Dilly about the issue of Terminology usage.
Muslims in the comment section are saying that "beating is halal" WOW.
No wonder why two of Mahdi's wives divorced him and filed a domestic abuse case. He himself disclosed this and then removed it again.
Dilly is one of the best journalists in the Muslim world with the way he approaches and puts the question forward.
@@RM-kx9oh hello feminist 🤣
Dilly Husain is probably one of the best interviewers I've seen. He's well articulated and precise with his explanations.
His approach to woman is weak. No-strings attached marriage. His approach to woman is lazy. No emotional support. A relationship isn’t for you to stay stagnant it’s for you to grow. Grow up young Mahdi.
Then find another solution for these sisters that Ummah looks down upon
@@786halo Mahdi is looking down to these sisters himself, no need to find anybody else 😂
@@shaistahashmi7866 lol cheeky haha
🐔🐔🐔 having a pic of you wearing boxing gloves dont make you a man bro. Grow up
@shaistahashmi7866 Not really, he is stating what most men want. Most men if they had option would pick a young beautiful virgin over an older divorcee sister. It's preference, just like women want taller men.
When we speak of women and men were not just looking at them as sexual beings. Same as divorced women/men are not all about sex ,so aren't single moms! A single mother needs stability and security even more so because she's got kids !
In islam the wife loses her rights to custody of the children when she marries again.
@@Bro-dd2sgwhat ?
@fardowza0511 the OP said single mothers need more stability with their children which would happen by marrying again. But once a divorcee marries again it becomes the right of the father that the children should live with him.
I like the way how brother Dilly interacted with Mahdi- not in an authoritative way and in a condescending manner with all the out of context cut clips like Mohammed Hijab and Gabriel did to lower him. Brothers should be like this.
Condescending? Authoritive?
Emotional much?
Brother dily is more professional
He doesn’t put his emotions blind him
Hijab and Romani have to keep their fanbase cool, which is mostly women(hijab being a friend of menk), that's why they did their utmost best in putting him down.
@Alhareth Altayib So did I. The reason he did that was to please Milahan. Plus he was in contact with women during that time. So he had to think about their feelings as well.
There is something more. To lower Mahdi he made another video afterwards where he praised so high of Mohammed Hijab and was referencing Hijab vs Mahdi debate a lot. But a few days later Gabriel himself was insulted by none other than Hijab whereas Mahdi still keeps respecting Gabriel despite their disagreement. Do you see the irony?
Mohammed Hijab did not belittle him. He was listing the things Mahdi had saud in his past videos. On the other hand Gabriel Romani went overboard yes there's no denying that. Because Gabriel sees Mahdi as an influencer and thinks red pill is a ideology or philosophy that contradicts Islamic understandings.
As a white, revert Muslimah the words and ways I heard today, I have never heard before. . His guy Mahdi is absolute disgrace. He should not have any platforms but go and learn Islam.
This is why half of female reverts have left Islam within 3 years of conversion.
@@louiseburke2971you’ve just made that up 🤣
You learn something new everyday sister. Just read the Quran before judging or giving your opinions.
Sister, even with us born Muslim brothers hes a disgrace who gets famous off of shock factor, nothing from Islam, just non-Islamic sources, his own perverted demented brain and vibes, May Allah guide him and ourselves
Islam is very biased towards women so better stay in your original faith. An example is The women are treated as slaves even if the man is married and have multiple wives but he can still go and sleep with other women as a sex slave. No respect for women.
So much emphasis on single mums and divorced women but majority of women are divorced & left as single mums due to men leaving them high and dry just because they can.
Women initiate 70% of the divorce’s so it women leaving the men not vice versa
Statistics show that most women initiate divorce on trivial things
Where is your evidence of this?
Men don’t leave the western family law removes dads and moms collect benefits
Then why are most divorces initiated by women?
Totally disagree with mahdi on men leaving their wives during labor.
A wife needs her husband to stay with her more than ever during labour and it wouldn't be permissible for other women to look at her while the husband is able to stay with her.
Brothers, don't leave your wives when she needs you the most!
You're right, ma shaa Allah
childbirth is a miracle of Allah, not a tragic nightmare.
Quran 31:14
And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
Quran 30:21
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.
yes ur right. Mehdi said we men are not good at emotional support so its better for a woman to be there to support the wife during labour. Well.......for the women going through labour the husbands mere presence is enough
In my country which is a Muslim country no way a man is allowed with her wife during labor. And it has been this way throughout the whole Muslim world since 1400 years. It's just recent western invention made by Hollywood that men go there. You will be utterly shamed for doing that in a traditional Muslim society. And that should be the way.
Bro you sound like a woman. Totally unfit to be a husband. I mean for emotional support at that moment? She has whole family and midwives with her to support. You have no job being there. I can't even imagine how can a man even think of staying there?!! Sigma male. Yak...
I don't agree with brother Mahdi on few things, but he's spot-on, on everything else. I enjoy how much he drives the feminists and liberals crazy.
So he drives his own people crazy, Red Pill/Alpha Male, come from Liberalism just like Feminism. Neither Muslims should adhere to, because that is akin to taking judgement from a kaafir, which Alah (SWT) condemns in the Quran. Both will lead to the fire. The prophet (s) said and beautifully so, "You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit (i.e., inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered a hole of a mastigure/lizard, you would follow them." We said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! (Do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?" He said, "Whom else?" May Allah (SWT) forgive me and those reading this. To add we should not enjoy that he angers people, not from the ideology of Islam, but from an ideology outside of Islam like Red Pill. We should have pity and mercy on those liberalism and feminists, speaking out against them with wisdom and kind advice whist wanting them to come to Islam. Allah (SWT) says in Surat An-Nahl, "Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided." To add, Liberalism ideologies like Red Pill and Feminism occur, when neither the men nor women are focused on fulfilling the roles ordained to them by Allah (SWT). Men are the leaders of the home, if the leader is corrupt all those under them become corrupt. If the leader fails all those under them do, this especially imperative in regards to the women under them, which extends beyond ones wife, to their mother, aunts, nieces and so on. Why? because women are easily influenced and more agreeable than men and as Shaykh Saleh Fawzan said, if the women is ruined, then her children are, and therefore society. And we should always seek for Allah (SWT) to have mercy on everyone who is alive, I fear the fire, and I don't want to see people burn even if I don't know them. May Allah (SWT) bless you, and forgive me and others reading this.
Is that sunnah thing to do or is that the mandalorian way?
Isn't it actually worsening the "body count" problem if society were to accept this "no strings nikah" approach? Imagine looking for a righteous spouse only to discover later the series of the "no strings nikah's" of the candidate. Seems contradictory.
Consistency is not mahdis strong point
@@Gintoki7 Sorta agree. All man made ideologies have inconsistencies and contradictions. alHamdulillah we have our Deen which is so straightforward
It seemed like he was trying to provide an avenue for single mothers who wanted to save themselves from zina without the responsibilities of a conventional marriage. Im assuming that it's not being presented to a young never married woman who surely wouldn't want this unideal contract in the first place.
@@mk-ld8ih yes I understand, but the issue is, will these nikah be public information? Many single brothers and some single sisters might be interested in these. So how do you distinguish between responsible and irresponsible people, which is a critical step in the selection process? Complications may arise due to these type of nikah. IMO
@@sef2202 He stated that No string Nikah is for older divorced women. I don't think it would matter if a divorced woman with kids over 30 was with 2 men before or 8. This whole idea of body count is only relevant when marrying childless younger women.
Really disappointed with Dilly, he allowed a PIMP to come to prove his escort service!
Brothers, regardless of what excuse people give out there for not re- marrying but yet want to enjoy the perks of marriage, we should not promote this evil mentality.
Marriage is sacred, its about encouraging those looking to marry to know what our roles and responsibilities are in Islam and its scared and understand what Allah wants of us as appose to our desires l.
The solution is never to get a ‘bad solution- for a worser problem.’ The solution is only and always islam and wholy islam. The solution is to educate the ummah - sins will happen till end of time- you can’t cancel it by introducing poison in the guise of halal
So Halal is poison now (under the cover that pple will always commit sins so why even bother)?!!! Wal iyathu billah
Problem with this guy is he speaks and acts like he's an expert in these matters but he has no credentials plus 2 failed marriages. Like alot of influencers speaking on subjects wer they have no real education or real experience on the subject matter.
@@osmans1694 Lol is it 10 kids including the ones he's banned from seeing because of a restraining order? because he beat his wife u so badly that the police got involved? anyone can have kids not everyone can raise them. quality over quantity
@@osmans1694 10 kids with 2 broken families. If that's not a failure to u then I don't know what is.
Oh that's hilarious
I'll still take the good of what he's saying and leave what I don't agree with. Everyone's ready to bash without listening.
@@detox1462 Yeah some people want to play dumb and act as if their is 0% truth in what he says.
I don't agree with him overall when it comes to the deen, but there is still a lot to take and learn from him regarding his life experiences. Things about men, women or relationships and gender roles about which not a single Sheikh or parent ever warned me, despite those issues being so visible in our modern days societies.
1. The step father does not have an obligation to even spend on his step children, the same way the step children do not have an obligation to the step father either. If the father decides to spend his money in the way of his step children out of kindness of his heart Islamically the children should reciprocate this act of kindness and keep relations to him, the question is, who will enforce this and encourage them to do this, this is where Islam comes in and sorts out the situation, a child who you raise with a proper Islamic values then they will most definitely want to keep ties with you especially if you are a good step father to them.
With his point to do with sexual abuse, I agree with him, but the main reason for sexual abuse, is not to do with being in the same house as your wife's daughter, as Islamically her daughter becomes mahram to you, therefore a this ruling would mean a man naturally would not be attracted to his wifes daughter if he is of sound fitra.
Unfortunate, nowadays, you cannot trust men, due to our hyper-sexualised environment, our godless environment and surplus of disgusting sexual deviance, It wouldn't be realistic to just trust any man getting into marriage, so his point does make sense as a safety precaution for the sisters
May Allah guide him. When he gets old and frail and his arrogance no longer serves him maybe his stance might change.
A bit harsh sis, dont you think, already wishing him ill fate?
InshaAllah yes, I’ve met patients like Mahdi at my nursing home who’s families don’t even come to visit because of how badly he treated them and their mothers
If you're still a jahil fasiq after the age of 60, then there is no hope for you, nor should anyone take mercy on you.
He has a lot of valid points. Also it’s great for him to change his views when they contradict Islam. This shows sincerity. He just needs to change his choice of words and maybe his tone, then you’ll see people agreeing with his actual points.
He won’t because he’s using his delivery as a tool to popularize himself for the sake of 💰💸🤑
@@Marwadear512did he tell you that?
1:10:37 is the straight clarification for those who hated on him for his labor post. His wife was never in danger. Her older daughters were available upstairs and the midwives were already on the way with the front door unlocked.
He literally admitted to beating his 2 ex wives... "never in danger"...
@@Ersilay you couldn't pin him down on labor issue so now you bring up another issue which is already rotten. Beating is halal btw. And some women and men deserve it. He did nothing wrong.
@@juxtapositionMS The labor issue wasn't an issue for me. His wife being in danger very much is. As for beating being halal, you probably haven't read a single word from a scholar talking on the matter...
So narrow minded. People gave him hate for it bcoz he said he finds labour gross & that it would affect his sexual pleasure with her down the road. Fine don’t look at the area where baby comes out of but at least be there for emotional support. But no it was all about him and sex not about the wife’s pain. he goes to sleep while she was in a state of near death (every woman feels that way in labour) - leaving that responsibility on her older daughters is a very selfish insensitive act. Some men can’t sit in labour cuz it hurts them to see their wife in that much pain. But Mahdi? Nah he’s too masculine for that stuff & he posted it to prove to the world how masculine he is…quite desperate. It’s a situation where if the woman dies she would become a martyr. It’s not about “leaving her in danger”
@@clearpath8794 Before the advent of western romanticism staying in the labor wasn't even a thing in the Muslim society. All those Muslims throughout 1400 years were selfish?! All the sahabas, scholars were selfish? Emotional support my feet. Too much movie makes you such a simp. Even Khabib was in the octagon fighting for championship when his wife was in the labor. What kind of soft men west has generated?! Yawck...
He is right about the words “body count” this automatically infers to illicit encounters. And discussing sexual encounters of a married women removes haya..
My beard is longer than Mahdi, I convinced my wife that feminism is wrong, I wear turbans and I'm a strict Hanafi
About 10 minutes in, I don't agree with anything this guest says. Mixing Islam with Red-Pillism, and then denying that, is no different than mixing Islam with feminism and then saying "Islam is a feminist religion".
Surah Kafirun should be said to the Deen of Red Pillism.
No one cares if your beard is longer or you got a turban 😂 what's that supposed to make you? Nor did Mahdi go against the Qur'an and sunnah.
@@YusufIslam1 yeah because no strings Nikkah is from the Sunnah, right?
Red Pillism is just liberalism rebranded.
When did he go against Islam. Stop slandering Muslim without any proof. May Allah lanah be on you if you are not truthful and can’t show proof for slandering another Muslim.
I think we have lost the value of marriage by these ideologies. One man one woman. Thank you
My mother was a single mother with my older brother when she married my father. My own mother told me to never marry a single mother because it's too much drama and work. Even my own mother admitted this to avoid single mothers or divorcees. I always wondered why.
Well, for some childless ppl marrying single parents can b hard due to the dyanamic n der r childless ppl who only want bio kids
Alhamdulillah the sahabah and the prophet didn't have the same mindset
@@lentilsoupernothing wrong in telling childless men or women to avoid single parents. Alhamdulliah in islam we r not obliged to take care of step kids. And single parents can marry each other. And for women we hv polygyny.
@@lentilsouper 100%
This particular podcast is entertaining, but our benchmark is the sunnah.
you mother is an honest woman. men should always avoid older, divorced females they should seek younger females, only in rare situations when they female is and exception and has the traits of a submissive, obedient, righteous muslim should she ever be considered for marriage
I think that the point about 'bodycount' is that the same term is being used for number of instances of zina vs sex within marriage i.e. a person who has committed zina has to repent but a person has been in a marriage doesn't have to repent.
Can a person benefit from just an empty eggshell, even if on the outside it is still an ‘egg’? NO you can’t. All you can do is break it and then move onto another eggshell..etc
Likewise, a person cannot benefit from a NIKKAH that is empty and has no substance. Marriage in Islam has a purpose that transcends just sex. Using the words ‘strings’ to describe long lasting commitment, responsibility, trust and security is very worrying. This is my opinion. Allahu alam.
The way Mahdi talks about not wanting to sleep with her again after seeing her in labour, just shows how he only sees women as a sexual object and doesn’t want to see her in her embarrassing moments or moments when she’s not looking her best. Rather the man should have more care and love for her when seeing her in labour and going through pain. I’m not saying a man should have to see his wife in that state as it makes more sense to have a female companion rather than her husband but a husband can still give her support too just by even holding her hands.
Why would it make more sense to have a female companion?
99.9% of human history women had women with them to deliver babies. This new age phenomenon for husband to be there holding hands is not from fitrah.
@@Therebelliousprince001 as only women know what it’s like to deliver a child and they can help and support the woman rather than feeling disgusted by it.
Yeah, I find that to be horrific that he has that view of a women who's literally birthing his child. It says enough for me about him.
Barakallahu feekum! A topic of discussion that I would like to hear in the future is in regards to parenting and how to Islamically implement practical strategies to shape and mold the future offspring of the Ummah so that they do not repeat the mistakes of their fathers and mothers. What level of strictness is necessary to produce a disciplined mentally and emotionally healthy productive member of society?
A lot of valid points definitely and I found myself agreeing with almost all the points he was making, however the no strings attached nikkah is mutaah in disguise (I know it's not exclusively his ruling but a loophole in the shariah). Even this misyar marriage is very questionable (haram) and the scholars really need to make this issue very clear, it's just mutaah with a different name. The dangers that's associated with mutaah and misyar or no strings attached nikkah is high especially in the Muslim community living in the west, Muslims are itching for a valid or halal way to practice fulfilling the natural human desires let's be honest. I even thought about the app listening to this convo, misyar app no strings attached app even before he mentioned it. Come man dangerous, please it needs clear explanation from the Qur'an and the Sunnah.
You shouldn’t have given him a platform, I am really disappointed you’re giving someone ignorant the spotlight
Ur a woman I guess ?
No its actually important,
Dilly actually asks him solid questions and isnt afraid to pushback. This shows how flimsy mahdi is on his beliefs.
@@helpojno string nikah is not islam . My man is all twisted
Stop hating . Be proud a brother is helping others . May Allah guide you
@@islamicreminders3090misyar is part of Islam you can keep coping
may Allah SWT guide us
if you have to twist the laws of Islam to satisfy your nafs you’re doing something wrong
Just because zina is happening it doesn’t give it the Green light to do mutah Nikah which is haram. This individuals mentality is concerning. It is dangerous he is being allowed to give his knowledge of Islam in a platform.
I don’t know what people are annoyed at Dilly for hosting Mahdi. I thought this was a really good discussion on topics that get too often sweep under the rug within the Muslim community. These are real issues that need to be spoken about and Dilly did a great job of not only guiding the discussion but challenging Mahdi on certain issues. Really well done 👏
no strings nikah is a good topic? may Allah SWT Guide us
I don’t think this brother knows enough about muslim women. When he generalises, he uses the examples which are so different than most muslim women. I don’t know about this topic I don’t think it’s solving any of the issues that is dominant in the muslim community.
Honestly very shallow take. When a women is given birth what guy is thinking, would I be able to sleep with her after. Is his mind not occupied with thinking about the life/safety of his child and wife. If he sees her go through the pain of labour and his child is born. They are both alive & healthy, after. Is his mind and tongue not just occupied with being greatful to Allah, Allahu Akbar. Shouldn't that increase his love for her, so why would he not want to be intimate with her after.
Also as a woman I didn't need another emotional women next to me.I needed my hubz, who's calm and can see my awrah with no exception.
'They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for them" (Noble Quran 2:187)'
Exactly!
I'm not married but if I was, nothing would increase my love for my wife than to see her go through labour. Because she went through that pain and suffering for our child.
Why are you speaking on behalf of men as if you know what we feel and think? What Mahdi said there was 100% truth. Maybe not all men will think that way but a lot will. Now that he I heard a woman *may* poop during childbirth
know for a fact I won't be handle the sight of my future wife giving birth nor the smell of labour. That doesnt make me less of a man. We are all built differently
@@Therebelliousprince001 May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes, ameen.
Alhamdulillah I've had 3 children so far , I pray Allah bless me with more . And the moment after baby is born is so special both parents are just in awe of the bounty of Allah and from my experience and knowing of other sisters their hubz are very affectionate towards them after that moment due to the increase love and respect of what she went through 2 birth his Bint/Bin.
@@satzone4241 Ameen. Alhamdulillah, glad to hear that!
Yes, seeing his new born baby is enough to make any grown man cry. It's a special moment.
Jazakhallah Khair.
@@Therebelliousprince001 wa iyyaka
The language that this 'brother' utilizes speaks to the character that he has. If I were looking for a partner and this is how they carried themselves I would run like my life depended on it. How are you bringing in terminology that has negative connotations and is used by non-Muslims in Muslim spaces...Him borrowing ideas from this 'red pill' ideology and so on is enough of a reason to not take this man seriously. This is also the same person who has clearly admitted online to being an abuser. Why is he being platformed?
Boring 😴
Had you done your research you would that red pill is not an ideology. Islam is his ideology
Women get bored of good men so he teaches how to be dominant in relationships.
@@muhammadmafaz8530 All women get bored of good men? How is that possible?
@@googleprofile6660 not all but majority because Internet has provided women to get more attention as a result average relationship makes them bored. Their minds in that fantasy.
It was a very nice and interesting discussion. Looking forward for part 2 of this!
Brother Dilly has done such a good job with the questions and follow up questions
You disrespect women and their pain by giving people like this a platform.
You should be ashamed of this post. It's really not worth it for the clout and attention, to platform someone like this no matter how great you think you are as a host.
I ask everyone no remind everyone to think before commenting slandering or backbiting.
You will be giving your good deeds to him.
Why are you not on his channel and warn him against slander when he literally stalks strange women, watches their content and draws conclusions out of thin air about how "miserable" they are?
@@alghurraba I will also go there if the video is uploaded. As a muslim who wants goodness for muslims. I'm reminding you and others to be careful before slandering and backbiting.
@@hassanihsan8168 it's allowed to talk against dangerous individuals. If nobody talks about his dangerous approach to women, how will people know?
@@alghurraba You said you're against feminism but you seem to really be on an edge, sister. May allah guide you...
@@alghurraba If you have points against him speak against those points. Mahdi isn't necessarily a bad person. It's not like he's trying to change the deen like the compassion imams out there.
Asc dilly my mom and dad got divorced when I was 3month my stepdad raised me and I call him dad he even treated me better than his own child wallaahi never abused me physically and sexually since I got older and my parents got older I take care my parents physically and financially I love my stepdad dad as father because he never showed me that I wasn’t his daughter, but bro mahdi is always generalisation but that is far from the truth bro dilly I feel like you nailed the truth on the head
Existence of variance doesn't disprove the existence of general rule.
"It didnt happen to me therefore what he said is massive generalisation." Do you females ever listen to yourselves? The world doesnt revolve around you. Its always me me me my issues my plight I'm the victim me me me. Jeez!
Mashaallah!
@@Therebelliousprince001
Typical of Mahdi hater. Pure devil.
Generalisation is wrong, i agree. But u can't define other cases using ur case or ignore other cases using ur case. Did ur mother give ur stepfather the authority of a biological father in ur life? Cuz der r single parents who will expect step parents to tk responsibility of a bioparent but stepparents have no authority n power of discipline of a biological parent. That is unfair to da stepparent if dey r childless ppl as in islam we r not obliged to take care of step kids.
Also der r cases where da single parents don't give enough importance to da step parent by keeping them second in their life after da kid/kids from previous marriage. Dat is unfair too if da step parent is taking care of da stepkid like a biological parent n da stepparent was a childless person. Plus there r stepkids who r ungrateful to da stepparents too. I don't know if ur stepfather was childless or single father when he married ur mom, but for a childless person der r cons of marrying a single parent. If u marry a single father as a childless woman u may understand.
Also another thing, islamically a woman loses custody of her kids unless der r exceptional situations..There is a hadith for that.
I agree with brother Dilly on the language issue. We muslims don’t have the same vocabulary as non-muslims.
Many Muslim men nowadays don't care about protecting Muslim women or frankly have any respect for them, this podcast is a clear example of that, just a reminder for everyone Dilly decided to bring on an innovator when it comes to the deen of Allah and someone who also admitted to beating his wives and his kids💕 may Allah guide us
He is not preaching deen. Just relationship dynamics and why divorce rate in Muslim community have increase to 50% in west.
@@osmans1694 relationship advice from a man who has two failed marriages and is known for beating his wives...this has to be a joke
@@osmans1694 But that’s the point - he is using elements of Red Pill ideology & blending it with elements of the deen which then makes it appear as if he’s preaching Islam.
As if modern muslim women have any respect for muslim men. Look at yourselves before criticizing men.
Women can protect and provide for themselves, after all, they asked for independence and so they got it. If I see a woman on the street being robbed or assaulted, I simply walk across and pretend like I saw nothing. It's not a man's responsibility to risk his life for a woman who does not allow the man to exercise any authority whatsoever. Giving the responsibility of providing and protecting to a man requires that you also give him the necessary authority. Women asked for this and now they're complaining.
I think this interview just made me hate him more. He can say he loves/respects/ cares for women all he likes. He does not.
I like the host, he has a whole different view on marriage which is more the right way of marriage and it is meant to be beautiful and sacred.
Sister, is this a joke? Sacred marriage? This person mahdi is promoting misyar marriage, so called no string marriage, where husband and wife has no Islamic rights, and this type of marriage is discouraged by biggest scholars of Islam. Is this beautiful and sacred marriage for you?
@@alghurraba if you read my comment I'm speaking about the host and not Mahdi. His views are different from Mahdi's
@@ghazalabi2607 sorry, my mistake. May Allah bless you and reward you, aameen
@@alghurraba use ur brain properly to read ppl's comment instead of accusing dem falsely cuz Mahdi might b living in ur head rent free
@@alghurraba He only advises people to do it if they are involved in Zina and want to get out of it. You need to be more realistic, not every woman over 30 with kids can get permanently remarried easy. It is very difficult for some, it is a better alternative than Zina. Misyaar is still halal.
That guy is tough but would the prophet pbuh approve that?
Mahdi is soooo toxic omg it’s frightening, he arrogant that it went viral but doesn’t understand how younger men may follow suit risking Muslim women lives, I fear for the future women honestly
The first wife of the Prophet PBUH was a single mother -Khadija AS. He was with her until she past away. Follow the Prophet's example and don't look elsewhere. Sorry I have to correct brother Mahdi Tidjani regarding the comment about Eve AS being created from Adam's rib AS. This statement is biblical and doesn't appear in the Quran: "It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her in love" (7:189). Meaning God SWT Has Created Adam and Eve AS from a single soul. Brother Mehdi might have good intentions but it can be problematic when one speaks without proper knowledge. We are all on a path of learning hence everyone should seek knowledge from reputable sources and not from influencers -not matter their good intentions. Women have intellect and should not be degraded as an object and this is why we have Quran and the Prophet SAW as an example. Divorced men rush off to get married again leaving behind kids from previous marriage and leaving single mothers do all the work and that's the reality.
Was really trying to work through this to hear out the dialogue and will not be afraid to admit, I found myself agreeing on some of the unspoken uncomfortable truths.
But for the most part, his proofs were just all just based on experiences and analogies e.g., employee relationships, and smoking all your life but not having a cough. But the icing on the cake that finished it off for me: Married at 16, second at 25, 3rd at 28 but first 2 left and now only married to the 3rd, who is by definition; the type of woman he belittles in his videos. And it's not really your 3rd wife.. if it's the only wife you have that's stuck around with you!
He know how he talks is triggering and get him views, but sounds like he thinks that works at home too lol. So it's no suprise and funny how a whole bunch of his support will come from some lonely hurt lads in their mum's basements. Leave the actual men out of this nonsense.
Exactly. Not to belittle their relationship as it might be great, but at the same time, she’s had two prior marriages, has kids from them and from him, and is older - think there’s any way she’d move on from a third marriage? She’d be finished.
Meanwhile, happily married men hardly ever agree with him.
@@Marwadear512 true, well said
Salam... his views are also hypocritical. It is questionable if a woman has been married many many times previously before, but the same is applied to men in Islam. This is why the prophet (s) recommended men and women who never married to marry virgins, for gratification but also less complication in their lives.
On the point of getting married to single moms - doesn't the shariah require that if the woman has kids and she remarries, the kids go back to the biological dad?
Depends on the kids’ age and gender, competency of each parent and general situation.
Yes that is the default, for them to return to their dad, but there are many cases where it doesn’t work out that way and they stay with the mom. So it’s not a hard and fast rule. Context matters.
@@Marwadear512
Yes of course exceptions and finer details are always there, however, I just wantetd to point out just how practical the Shariah is. One of the biggest issues brought up by this Mahdi character is resolved simply by following the Shariah rulings (except in certain circumstances of course).
@@sammu Yes.
From what I see of Muslim women here in the States, the majority need to keep the kids even after divorce, and the father agrees. He’s often not in a situation to be able to take them full-time, or doesn’t want to.
@@Marwadear512
That’s true. As man, not sure how any other man can be okay with that, unless they have severe limitations or something.
@@sammu Seems to be extremely common. I’ve noticed that men born overseas seem to be more intent on keeping the kids, whereas men born here in the States seem to be more content with the mom having the kids. I’ve actually only ever known one who wanted to keep his kids as the primary caretaker.
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Great guest… if only Kevin Samuels was alive, would’ve requested to get him on…
@@Snippets635 or the person he gained his wisdom from, Shahazhad Ali
Red pill movement is about studying the behaviour of man and woman with respect to their relationship and sexuality. It's a completely biological and psychological subject studied via observation and experimentation. This is to understand the base nature of man and woman. Then we have Islam which dictates how we should regulate our natural needs and instincts. Red pill doesn't have a legislated regulation rather people suggest their own ideas and methods to regulate themselves. Islam presents that regulation from divine guidance while not speaking about the nature of man and woman in detail. We get very few hints about the psychology of men and women from the Ahadith, from the wives of the Prophet and from the marital cases of the Sahaba. Red pill and Islam are two different realms.
By the way, this is my understanding from what I have heard from different muslim speakers commenting about Red pill. I'm personally not a Red pill movement follower.
@@Snippets635 see, you brothers who adore Tidjani, also adore those immoral ka.afirs whose whole life is immorality, sin and mistreatment of women. It always goes hand in hand, because you have sickness in your heart.
@@alghurraba islam allows women to be used as seggs sl@v3s. There also isn't a limit to the number of sl@v3s a man can have. Even muhammad had one called Mariah.
Dilly big up respect for body count issue and comparison with marriage very respectful of you and for upholding the honour of marriage in the way Islam propagates. MashAllah TabarakAllah
It’s not semantics with all due respect to Mahdi - you can’t devalue sex in marriage the way it is seen outside marriage in the way Islam views the holiness of sex in marriage. Body count has a derogatory sound which I think Dilly was trying to make a point that semantics DOES MATTER HOW WE WORD things!
I would listen to this guy Mehdi but the TRUTH is after all those lectures and “expert” advice , he could not maintain marriage with his first two wives . I am telling him and you all , quite obviously his third wife is trying her best to save the marriage by being ULTRA SUBMISSIVE . Women are naturally submissive to good men , provided they are JUST and PATIENT .
Allahum Barack. Let's only wish the best and success for Mahdi and his wives.
Lots of thanks brother Dilly for bringing Mahdi on your podcast despite the risk of massive backlash and getting cancelled by simps and feminists.
Mahdi is a brave, truthful and decent brother who helps people online and offline- not just by advice but also through material help. He has a great sense of brotherhood in Islam and is very polite and modest towards his senior brothers. Very inspiring for Muslim youth.
A man convicted of abusing his wives and his child is a good role model? Lol ok carry on
Bruh who keeps saying he abused his wives? He was prolly like 17 and young
@@harooncaptures9826 Salty divorcees say and they never mention what his wife did to him. She took his child away and charged him for disciplining his son as if it's haram!
@@juxtapositionMS he said it himself, not salty divorcees
@@munab3666 Beating and abuse are different things. Sometimes proper medications are required.
no string nikah is harram, it's basically zina, anybody says it's ok there watering down Islamic rulings.
Please provide evidence to substantiate your claim.
someone please help me, show me where it says no strings nikah is halal in the Quran and sahih bukhari and sahih Muslim? correct me if am wrong because i didn't find it anywhere?
Easy there. What part of the "No string nikah" or misyar marriage violates any of the conditions that makes a nikah valid? Giving up rights willingly is completely permissable in Islam.
This is not an issue that deals with creed/‘aqidah. This means in order to say this type of marriage is haram, is that we have to bring proof that it is haram, not the other way around.
He can’t brings his statistics and compare them to a practicing Muslim family with God fearing parents and children. The family structure in a Muslim home is absolutely completely different to a family that is not Muslim. We have different values that govern all areas of our life completely.
How is discouraging Muslim men from marrying single/widowed mothers Islamic in any way? It is a sunna to marry widows.
The stats are of men. As a man advising other men shouldn't Mahdi be telling them not to molest and grope girls simply because they are under their responsibility rather than telling them to not marry single/widowed mothers.
It sounds too much like weak men making excuses for themselves. Instead of stepping up and controlling their lowly desires
It is also a sunnah to practice polygyny.
@freespirit7835 yes it is, my comment never disputed that
In this case, so would it be ok to marry a divorced or a widowed woman as a second wife and thus acting upon two sunnahs in one go. Would our muslim sisters who are divorced accept being a second wife?
@freespirit7835 Once again this is nonconflicting with my initial comment. It doesn't seem you read it properly
@@RM-kx9oh , how much of Mahdis videos have you actually watched, i am no fan of Mahdi by the way? Many divorced and widowed women carry bitterness and trauma, most men dont want do deal with that. Mahdi is quite blunt in what he says and he also explained that he does it for views and to shock the modern day feminists. I am actively looking for a second wife myself because i want more children and my wife does not and to be honest i would rather marry a 40 year old virgin below average looking, rather than a bitter, divorced, pretty woman. I much rather marry a second wife than look at the unlawful. Why do sisters give us, men, a hard time when it comes to second wives?
Real talk. Salute to Mahdi taking the heat for dealing with reality.
There is a difference between a widow and a divorcee. Full stop
The widow could have been a very toxic wife with serious issues who just hadn’t been divorced yet, and the divorcee could have been an amazing wife and Muslim sister who got stuck marrying a bad apple, maybe even a man who left the Deen so by Shari’ah she had no choice but to divorce him.
You don’t know.
@@Marwadear512 I agree with you , it’s just my experience, overall I hate these statics and percentages etc . We are from different cultures, different upbringings and different needs
@@Abids Exactly! Pulling stats based upon mainstream, modern Americans and applying them to the Ummah! Astughfirullah
@@Marwadear512 The stats are similar. Look at divorce statistics in middle eastern countries among the younger generation
@@reezis1619 80% of divorces amongst Muslims are led by women, when Muslim women don’t even have the right of talaq and usually struggle to have khul’a?
He lacked alot of nurturing and love from his mother- hence now this messed up analogys against women
Typical feminazi response “oh who hurt you?”
I'm guessing his mom wasn't allowed to show her son love because of the restrictive algerian husband
Wow and you accuse this brother for jumping. The reality is that he is saying the truth that society has suppressed and people are now more confident to express these views
This guy has been arrested for domestic violence and left his wife to give birth alone at home whilst he went to sleep. She waited for an Ambulance which didn't arrive in time, but he didn't have the common courtesy to wait to see if she was ok, there may have been medical complications but his sleep was more important. This guy is a danger and should not be given a platform anywhere!
Yes and for someone who claims to be alpha, that was an absolute beta move on his part.
Oh my God.. wth. He is the Last person to give advice on women. Why is he being entertained on a so called muslim platform? I was surprised to find this guy speaking like this about women. You never hear muslim men speak degradingly about women.
Sources?
He admitted it himself. Straight from the Horses mouth!
@@nadiayaqub3143 sister you should be careful about saying things in public platforms about someone’s sinful past which they repented for. This is not from the sunnah at all.
I also disagree with much of what he says, but this is too much. May Allah bless you and grant you jannah ameen.
For those who are curios the Book he refers to at 26:58 is actually Warren Ferrell (author) NOT Will Ferrell (actor).
So much can go wrong with this. Any children born are then raised without a proper father. Women neglected and forced into these types of relationships without proper consent. Women going through 5/6/7 types of these marriages. Breakdown of families and society at large if it becomes the norm. Only men benefit from this and even that, for temporary pleasure before all the nevatives win out. It also seems like a lot of drama would be involved once all the feelings of all the parties involved (husband wife kids other wives and their kids, all would be affected).
The misyar arrangement does not abrogate the rights of the child.
@@66rounds and the rights of the women ..?
@@mary.t.74729 the whole point of the misyar arrangement is she agrees to temporarily forgo whatever rights she chooses. It does not occur without consent nor without a wali.
@@66rounds im not talking about what she THINKS her rights are, or what she WANTS in that moment. Overall, Islamically women have rights that must be respected. You dont get to choose them
Thirty minutes in. Brother Dilly should be a lawyer. Top notch.
He is a lawyer!
@@abueesa1522 Really? He is a journalist and he studied politics.
As someone who studied sociology women don’t categorise them selves ‘one size fits all’ feminism is a big branch of modernity that has equated to some men thinking that all women are somehow the same , please don’t use psychology , emotional vulnerability, biology with some religious context to justify answers and credibility.
All women ARE the same. Even the nicest, shyest, quietest females still desire the same traits in a man. Dominance, aggression, risk taking behaviour, keeping her on edge by making her feel like he could leave at any moment. Women don't like nice guys and women are angry that men are waking up to this fact.
@@ahmedalmahdi9254 Muslim women like Muslim men who follow the way of our Prophet SAW and the Sahaba and act in accordance to them. Whatever tf else you just stated is all bullshit pulled out of your narrow mind.
If any woman sees a man like this then plz RUN, RUNNNN
I know a divorced sister who has 3 kids and married to younger men as second wife. Kids are 11 - 17 years old and this young guy has full authority on these kids and he actually cares about their well being.
How come you can reach to conclusion when you such limited data.
Your last sentence is ironic seeing as you yourself have come to a conclusion with such limited data, namely a single person
@@D001-q5k unfortunately if you read my comment again you will realize I did not draw conclusion rather provide an exception to his conclusion. But hey you are free to draw as many conclusion as you want 😂
the guy isn't supposed to have any authority on the kids in islam as he isnt their father, he is their mothers husband full stop, they should be respectful but he has zero authority on the kids and they dont have to obey him.
I'm holding myself here but honestly I cannot stand that man Tijani. He gives off evil vibes!
‘No strings marriages fail’ but he promotes it 😂
Just my thoughts! What a load of rubbish!
It's a bad solution for worse zina
This is an alternative to fornication. Only those who care about halal and haram will consider it. Failing marriages is a lesser problem. Fornication is a major sin.
@@moonwalkerr87 and it’s a major Sin because it leads to… drumroll… broken homes and a whole heap of other societal ills. If most no strings nikah fail, and children are produced via these marriages, the goal of the shariah will still not be met with regards to maintaining solid family structures.
because it's a good business opportunity and money spinner
I think islam has all the guidance we need regarding marriage, and we should not be fooled by these so-called solutions .
They are just opening the path to exploitation and the breakdown of morality .
Where is the proof that islam has all the guidance we need for marriage. Please provide evidence.
Asalamu alaykum,
has mahdi consulted any people of knowledge in regard to his "no strings nikah" if it is a valid Islamic solution to a problem in our society?
Wa alaykum asalam
Wa alaykum mussalam
Verse 24 of surah 4 explains that a man and a woman can enter a temporary marriage-like relationship. The relationship must be agreed upon in advance, and the woman must receive financial compensation.
@@nahirissac5067I'm pretty sure that this is not allowed. There was a verse revealed after the above that superseded it iirc
@@robotnitchka what surah and verse are you talking about ?
Yesterday my neighbour came to my home after long time.
Hello said I taking "divorce" to my wife after 15 years of marriage and 4 children.
Hello said he invested huge amount of money on her. Bcoz of her, he separated from his family and built a new home and bought expensive things for her including new car.
Due to some legal issue he was jailed for 4 months. After that he got bail.
In that four month, she made her mind that her husband will not get released from jail and she along with her mother and her family decided to take divorce.
Then "Mahdi Tijani" and Andrew Tate clicked into my mind.
One line for all man, "Care for your wife but don't over invest."
The host is very mature MashaAllah. We need more MEN like him
Since Andrea tate has been about I swear Muslim men want to be like him soo soo bad 🤦♂️ and they forget to be like the real men of Islam… nonces
No offense, but don't know why our muslim brothers take Mr. Mahdi Christ seriously at all
i have never came across a boy which has ideology like this man i dont think he desreves a platform!
Then go to the pride parade and do something about it 😂😂
@@hararehaile2813 the essence / point in my comment was no body observes what he observes in general muslims.
It was shock to me a muslim man can give daleel on taking knowledge outside from the religion on the matter which is completely resolved in our religion and
Don't type your nonsense here!
His ideology is Islam. There are almost 2 billion Muslims and growing
@@Kihalchal786
Am not responsible for your thinking imfact
All I can Say is
You better grow up brow coz
It only helps you individually to know why men or women do what they do
You neither help me nor any other person to have that knowledge
Bring Mahdi back, podcast was too short
Now giving his story context after promoting that he just slept. How many men have heard this and just left their wives to it, saying Mahdi’s wife did it alone!?? Dangerous man, needs to be banned from social media. Think before you speak, when you have a platform, everything is ripe for people to use and copy your words
Brother Mahdi often talks about how single mothers come with baggage, instead of stressing about taking care of someone else's children, why not educate men to not be boys and pay for maintainance of their children?
What are you even on about?
Where do men not pay for their children?
@@Therebelliousprince001 listen to the full talk brother. Brother Mahdi mentions marrying a single mother means paying for your step children. This should not be an issue if maintenance for children is paid for by biological father.
In Islam if a woman remarries she should give the children back to their father
@@Theshowoffcollector I agree in most cases but what if its not possible? such as the father is a non Muslim or the father is a criminal? Even the Muslim judge will re evaluate depending on the situation
@@Theshowoffcollector also there are many cases where the father is not willing to take his kids because he knows many women won't agree to marry him if he is a single father. Sadly we have too many boys but not enough men
Great interview mashAllah!
What is this guy’s background? is he talking from his personal experience? Because that’s what it looks like. Where is he’s data or research to back his theories. Plus does he have sufficient Islamic knowledge to see the contradictions between Islam and this nonsense red pill stuff!
He is just talking about the reality of life. Issues like hypergamy is reality and it doesn't care about religion, race,country, culture etc.
This real guest
Keep hope he comes back we can benefit from him
This was an incredible Podcast !!!! We need a 2.0 with Mahdi Tidjani
Dilly is right. Mahdi makes his points like its definitive but differences exist between people
The differences are a minority.
@@abdula16 yeh because you have counted haven't you
This guy Majdi is bad news for Muslim communities. He is a self-styled Andrew Tate wannabe. His delivery and arguments play on Tates ideas but Islamised enough for younger audience.
You dont know anything about modern society. If you think a Muslim girl is going to act accordingly because she is Muslim ,your sadly mistaken .
I'm not saying I agree or disagree with him, firstly.Secondly, he had these beliefs and talking points (They have evolved over time) way before tate came to the scene. He's bravado style as well.
@@slimjym130 lol. His beliefs have “evolved” over time. He was supposedly“around before”. It’s obvious to spot a delusional fanboy.
This was very embarrassing and worrying to watch. This isn’t Islam as I know it and understand it. This man is promoting the exploitation of vulnerable people by the powerful by using nikkah as its tool. Marriage in Islam is not about empty sex and then divorcing for the next empty sex and so on. It’s about having those moments with someone who is fully committed to you and will have long term responsibility towards you. It isn’t about using one another like animals. I honestly hope that this guest is not promoting this kind of marriage as the norm because it lead to so many more problems such as possible abuse and breakdown of families. If people want to have sex, they should simply get married in the traditional Islamic way which is much more fulfilling and stable. The guest also seems to have very little respect for single mothers because he talks about them in a negative/ blameworthy way. (This is how it seemed to me). I would like to say that some of the greatest Prophets of Allah had single mums (such as Jesus pbuh son of Mary pbuh and our beloved Prophet swws). Some of our greatest scholars also had single mums (such as Bukhari and Imam Shafi’i). The guest needs to talk about single mums with a little more humility and respect. Thank you. These are my personal opinions and may Allah forgive me if I am wrong about anything. Allahu alam.
Great episode. Dilly an amazing interviewer and Mahdi charismatic as ever, Allahumma baarik
Lol! 'Charismatic'. The bar is really low.
Get better role models haseeb.
Sorry Random one, are you single?
@@Sunshine-y6t are you a woman?
Brother Dilly, please don't provide your esteemed platform to people who spread devious ideologies. This will most likely destroy the reputation of your channel.
You have to give evidence that it is dangerous ideology. Just claiming that he is dangerous doesn't make him that. What makes him dangerous please provide evidence.
If my wife gives birth I will be there because we live in a country where a man can walk in
So just because a woman says she would prefer a no strings attached marriage, therefore we should accomodate that? Allah knows what best so we should bring our desires to fit into Allah's solution, not make our own.
Enlightening podcast. I know understand the insta post of Mahdi and am now able to make more sense of it. But there was a particular thing I wished Dilly would’ve asked about regarding the post.
I had six children & one miscarriage and I never allowed my husband to attend the child birth because I believe in that position I don’t want my husband to see me and I was contented with the nurses and doctors to help me
Dilly broke down the liberalism and attention seeking behaviour that spews out of Mahdi Tidjiani in the name of Islam. Excellent job Dilly.
Not finished watching but no strings nikah is finding loopholes like the people of the sabath? Also why talk about single mums and not single dads. Takes two to make a child. I've unsubscribed. Btw this kind of speech is considered silly/ sakheef in Algerian culture.
Single dads only exist if the mother is mental or d3@d. So what sort of question is that?
@@jeffreyepstein4310 because those kids don't belong to him. She got them from the streets.
Agree, brother. It's clear misogyny. He can afford too talk like that about women when he is in safety of ka.afir land, protected by ka.afir laws. In Algeria he would be beaten up.
@@alghurraba Algeria is still occupied by the disbelievers bro
@@SIGSEGV1337 that's true, but men there have some gheera left. If anyone wants to marry someone's daughter as "one times a week meetup with no rights", he would be leaving with a black eye. Westernized fathers in UK with no gheera are more open to it, i guess... When it's happening....
The best solution with regards to divorcee women or the widowed would be what Islam brings which says that a man can marry 2,3 or 4 wives. If she doesn’t want to get in to the whole marriage institute because it’s long, why not become a second of a third wife to another man who is willing to take a second or third wife. In that way, it’s not so full on for her or burdensome (if that is how she sees a conventional marriage to be). She gets to be with him everyone now and then and he (by sharee’ah law) must protector her, provide for her . This is how she will protect her chastity and secure a nuclear family for herself and her kids (where they have a mother and a father figure). This also solves the problem with introducing another man to her older daughters. This is because the husband can stay in the house with the wife he has his biological children with and visit his other wives and kids every now and then to play that fatherly figure or guardian role.
Trust me, after listening to this lecture, know without a shadow of a doubt that Allah has given us a solution in the Quran and Sunnah for everything, people! This is why the Quran is the final message to all of mankind and which will stand against the so called “modern and forward moving” society!
Similarly, we find the same thing in the sunnah. The prophet married women older than him and married women who were divorcees and widowed. These women didn’t want to compete with other women, they just needed that security and the prophet showed the ummah that there is still hope for a nuclear family for divorcees and widows via polygyny.
most men wouldn't want divorcees for 2nd or 3rd wives either
@@cooljool1 they cant possibly want them any less then women want to share partners sexually lool.